WEBVTT - Brown Ambition After Baby 

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<v Speaker 1>Hey, hey, hey, we're black, We're back.

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<v Speaker 2>Sorry interruptive. Could you come as close to the mic

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<v Speaker 2>as you can?

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, let me put it up.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, should have asked you earlier.

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<v Speaker 3>All right, all right, all right is this better?

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<v Speaker 2>That is a little bit better? Yes, okay, all right, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>go for it.

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<v Speaker 1>Hey, Hey, hey.

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<v Speaker 3>We're black. We're back. We're brand and beauty. Hey, Mandra,

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<v Speaker 3>what's up?

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<v Speaker 2>You're really just like save those notes tonight?

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<v Speaker 1>I was I felt I was feeling very I don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>like melancholy.

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<v Speaker 2>Only it has been a dreary, dreary January. We have

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<v Speaker 2>to we have to talk about what happened with Kobe Bryant.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, that story. It is just it's crushing.

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<v Speaker 2>It just it was like blow after blow yesterday. I

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<v Speaker 2>you know, first first it's the you know, you see

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<v Speaker 2>the news, and I thought it was a hoax.

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<v Speaker 4>I like, like many people did, could not. I was like,

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<v Speaker 4>this is not true.

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<v Speaker 2>And then when that became real, and then you learn

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<v Speaker 2>additionally that it was his daughter, and then then the

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<v Speaker 2>other family.

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<v Speaker 4>On the helicopter.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, I honestly had to take a moment and

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<v Speaker 2>just stop looking at stories about it because.

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<v Speaker 3>My mommy, my new mama.

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<v Speaker 2>Nerves are too shot for this, Like I just it's

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<v Speaker 2>too It just makes you want to hug and squeeze

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<v Speaker 2>everybody and never let them get out of your sight.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't even know how to because, like you said,

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<v Speaker 1>to your point, when I first heard about it, I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, what kind of crazy joke is that? And

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<v Speaker 1>then there was like news circulating that all his daughters

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<v Speaker 1>were on the flight with him, and I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>oh my god, oh my god, oh my god.

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<v Speaker 2>You know that was sad too, just how fast people

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<v Speaker 2>wanted to cover the story. And then dissudation got out there.

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<v Speaker 1>And it was like quote unquote reputable news outlets saying

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<v Speaker 1>things that weren't true. They were saying Rick Fox was

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<v Speaker 1>on the flight and all all this stuff, and I'm

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<v Speaker 1>like what what what?

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<v Speaker 3>It just was like, you know what slowed down from

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<v Speaker 3>a moment.

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<v Speaker 1>From trying to be the first ones to say, you

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<v Speaker 1>know that I heard that the police reprimanded TMZ for

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<v Speaker 1>sharing about Kobe before his family even knew.

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<v Speaker 3>Can you imagine.

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<v Speaker 2>I when when you know, because TMZ is when he

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<v Speaker 2>first broke it, and I was like, this only happened

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<v Speaker 2>a couple hours ago. I pray to God that the

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<v Speaker 2>family knew before they saw it, like, I mean, can

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<v Speaker 2>you know?

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<v Speaker 3>And they said they didn't.

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<v Speaker 4>They did it for real, they found out.

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<v Speaker 3>Well that's what they got.

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<v Speaker 1>They said that I don't know, like maybe I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know if his wife maybe have known, but that before,

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<v Speaker 1>like the family was. The police reprimanded them because this

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<v Speaker 1>is this is not like you know, President Dump's crap

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<v Speaker 1>that you're just posting.

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<v Speaker 3>This is someone's life and death, you know.

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<v Speaker 2>And for to steal that moment from a mother to

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<v Speaker 2>sit down, to have to tell your children that news

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<v Speaker 2>is already the most I can only imagine the most traumatic,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, news ever that you're dealing with your grief

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<v Speaker 2>and you have to sit down and tell your your

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<v Speaker 2>young children that their father and their sister's gone. And

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<v Speaker 2>then to not even have that in your control, that

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<v Speaker 2>someone in the media would steal that from you and

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<v Speaker 2>they have to find out from the headlines or from

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<v Speaker 2>their social media or wherever they found out just keeps

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<v Speaker 2>getting sadder.

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<v Speaker 1>Well have you been, I know we haven't been. You

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<v Speaker 1>guys have been having a few reruns and I know.

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<v Speaker 3>You guys missed us. That's why we back.

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<v Speaker 4>We skipped it.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, it felt like a long break. We were

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<v Speaker 2>only off a week, I know, right, it felt like weeks.

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<v Speaker 4>Wasn't it just a week?

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>My time my time element is.

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<v Speaker 4>All out of whack. But yeah, we took a little bit.

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<v Speaker 2>Of an unexplained break you guys. As you know, I

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<v Speaker 2>just had a baby in November, and I know I

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<v Speaker 2>joked about it, but I really did think I would

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<v Speaker 2>be ready to come back to the show when we

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<v Speaker 2>did right after the new year. And this show means

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<v Speaker 2>a lot to me personally, and I know Tiffany as well,

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<v Speaker 2>and we love coming to you guys every week, and

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<v Speaker 2>it feels like I get very attached to that promise

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<v Speaker 2>that there will be a new show from us, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>almost every week, and there has been for four and

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<v Speaker 2>a half years now. But I really ran into some coping,

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<v Speaker 2>just some problems coping with all the changes since I

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<v Speaker 2>had the baby. Just it really got to me the

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<v Speaker 2>past couple of weeks.

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<v Speaker 4>And while I.

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<v Speaker 2>Feel like I have tons of support, I have family

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<v Speaker 2>and friends who have been really helpful to me, I

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<v Speaker 2>needed to take a little bit of a step back

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<v Speaker 2>and just focus on my own mental health and focus

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<v Speaker 2>on this highly complex, little tiny human being that I

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<v Speaker 2>have to figure out out like I'm cracking some kind

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<v Speaker 2>of cod every hour of every day, and just focus

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<v Speaker 2>on my baby and on me. And so I asked

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<v Speaker 2>Tiffany if she would be okay if we take a

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<v Speaker 2>little bit of a break, and yes, you were kind

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<v Speaker 2>enough to say yes, and.

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<v Speaker 3>I say hell no, no, of course I said no.

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<v Speaker 1>I told Mandy that, like you know, even in the

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<v Speaker 1>best of circumstances, having a baby is traumatic.

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<v Speaker 3>It just is.

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<v Speaker 1>It's trauma to the body, trauma to your emotions, trauma

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<v Speaker 1>to your heart, your soul.

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<v Speaker 3>It's just new.

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<v Speaker 1>So I think that people forget that when a baby's born,

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<v Speaker 1>it's not just a baby that's being born.

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<v Speaker 3>A parent is born too.

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<v Speaker 1>Especially you know obviously with your with your first and

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<v Speaker 1>everyone's trying to figure it out.

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<v Speaker 3>And that to take as much time as you need.

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<v Speaker 3>There's no there's no.

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<v Speaker 1>Ticking time clock about. You have to know and figure

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<v Speaker 1>it out by this time. And just I told Mandy, honestly,

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<v Speaker 1>take as much time as you need. And you know,

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<v Speaker 1>you guys have been awesome. I'm sure you guys have

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<v Speaker 1>been hitting Mandy up and giving her like some mommy

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<v Speaker 1>advice those of you who are moms, and yeah, I

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<v Speaker 1>just feel like, you know, it's such a special time.

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<v Speaker 1>And I don't think the pressure we give so many

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<v Speaker 1>moms to like be on point, be so sharp, be

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<v Speaker 1>like why no.

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<v Speaker 2>Even from it's not even from society, was pressure I

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<v Speaker 2>put on myself too, to just be normal, like be

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<v Speaker 2>my old self really quickly. And I in some ways

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<v Speaker 2>I did feel like my old self, but I underestimated

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<v Speaker 2>how honestly, what I what I will say about so

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<v Speaker 2>far with the newborn stage is it really just strips

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<v Speaker 2>you bare and exposes every issue you ever had and

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<v Speaker 2>makes it really hard to hide it. So my problems

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<v Speaker 2>with anxiety that I've pretty much had my whole life,

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<v Speaker 2>through college, whatever, my career always kind of dealt with

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<v Speaker 2>anxiety issues. Whereas before I could turn on an audiobook

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<v Speaker 2>and you know, get my mind off of my worries

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<v Speaker 2>and go to sleep at night, I was literally just

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<v Speaker 2>laying awake all night long having really scary thoughts about

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<v Speaker 2>my baby, which were really scary. But I'm doing I'm

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<v Speaker 2>you know, I'm doing really well, and I don't want

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<v Speaker 2>anyone to worry. As you guys know, one of the

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<v Speaker 2>first things I did when I found out I was

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<v Speaker 2>pregnant would start looking for a therapist who specializes in

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<v Speaker 2>working with new moms. I think at the time I

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<v Speaker 2>knew I would need a soft place to land, and

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<v Speaker 2>I'm really proud of myself for having that forethought of

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<v Speaker 2>I need to have this in place, this this safety blanket,

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<v Speaker 2>the security system in place for myself, because nothing would

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<v Speaker 2>have been like if I had had to find a

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<v Speaker 2>whole new therapist through the fog I was in. There

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<v Speaker 2>was no f like I could hardly find time to

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<v Speaker 2>use the bathroom every day, you know, let alone start googling,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, therapists in my area. So I continued talking

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<v Speaker 2>to my even though I didn't see her as often.

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<v Speaker 2>I still you know, called and texted my therapist when

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<v Speaker 2>I felt like I was really hitting the wall and

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<v Speaker 2>we were still I'm in the middle of it. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't even want to pretend like I'm done, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm I feel like I was just telling Tiffany, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>in this fog, and it feels like what was different

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<v Speaker 2>is two weeks ago. It didn't seem like the fog

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<v Speaker 2>was ever going to end. Oh shit, I'm gonna kind

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<v Speaker 2>of emotional start, right, Amandra. On the plus side, this

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<v Speaker 2>is the first time I've cried in two weeks, so

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<v Speaker 2>that's that's a way. But it's the fog two weeks

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<v Speaker 2>ago was opaque and now it feels like there's light.

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<v Speaker 4>And I think the reason is one. I'm you know, getting.

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<v Speaker 2>Help that I need. And I told my mom. It

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<v Speaker 2>was really hard to tell my mom for some reason,

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<v Speaker 2>till my mom told my sister, told my family and

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<v Speaker 2>just let them know, Hey, I'm really struggling. So while

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<v Speaker 2>you're asking me for pictures of the baby all day long,

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<v Speaker 2>just know that on the other end of this phone,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm a hot mess, and check in with me too.

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<v Speaker 2>And that really helped, just to let people know that

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<v Speaker 2>I needed their support as well. And I've just been

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<v Speaker 2>being really open about it and so seeing therapists and

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<v Speaker 2>and I wanted to shout out some resources that have

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<v Speaker 2>really helped me just really quick. You know, therapy is

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<v Speaker 2>not the only thing that I've been turning to of all.

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<v Speaker 2>Also spent a lot of late nights on Reddit. I

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<v Speaker 2>might have mentioned read it before, but there's a yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>there's a subreddit called Beyond the Bump, and all the

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<v Speaker 2>moms on there are just so great and at three

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<v Speaker 2>am when you're just like, you know, you're nursing the

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<v Speaker 2>baby and you're delirious. It's really been my little comfort

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<v Speaker 2>to go there and just hear other women share what

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<v Speaker 2>they're going through and feel completely seen and feel like

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<v Speaker 2>nothing I'm going through is unusual. And then there's a

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<v Speaker 2>book that I want to you know, I love a

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<v Speaker 2>good book. I just gave one of my one of

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<v Speaker 2>my friends who's having a baby next week. I just

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<v Speaker 2>gave her this book and I'm going to give it

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<v Speaker 2>to every new mom ever. And it's called and for

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<v Speaker 2>anyone who knows a new mom out there, this is

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<v Speaker 2>an amazing gift. It's called Good Moms Have Scary Thoughts.

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<v Speaker 2>And it was actually written by people in the mental

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<v Speaker 2>health industry and haze industry who have mental who have

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<v Speaker 2>experienced dealing with moms with postpartum anxiety and postpartum depression,

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<v Speaker 2>and it is just.

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<v Speaker 4>It's it's literally just a illustrated book that.

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<v Speaker 2>Kind of goes through all the crazy things that are

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<v Speaker 2>not I hate to say crazy, but all the thoughts

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<v Speaker 2>totally normal but can be scary thoughts I kind of

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<v Speaker 2>go through your mind and again it just made me

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<v Speaker 2>feel so seen and like I wasn't actually unusual in

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<v Speaker 2>any way and really comforted me. So those two things

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<v Speaker 2>plus the fact that I have like my great therapist,

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<v Speaker 2>Hey Laura, who's been it's been really supportive, who calls

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<v Speaker 2>and texts and has been really approachable, and she was

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<v Speaker 2>the one who freaked me out and was like, there's

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<v Speaker 2>you can't you can't wait to figure it, you can't

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<v Speaker 2>wait to attack this. You have to call your mom

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<v Speaker 2>right now. You have to call in reinforcements right now,

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<v Speaker 2>ask for help right now. There's no time to wait.

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<v Speaker 2>You cannot do this alone. She's just staring at me,

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<v Speaker 2>and I'm staring at her, and I'm like, oh, you're worried. Okay, Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>if Laura is worried, then I'll get it together.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>No, but I love that, like I love that you.

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<v Speaker 1>When I saw you the text, I was really because

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<v Speaker 1>I could hear it in your voice before, like you know,

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<v Speaker 1>because it's a lot like you know, and I could

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<v Speaker 1>hear it before, and I just but I also know

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<v Speaker 1>you're like really like a doer and a complet you

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<v Speaker 1>know what I mean, And so I was like, I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't want you to think, I mean even that's why

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<v Speaker 1>from the beginning, I didn't want you to think that, like,

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<v Speaker 1>as much as the podcast means to me, I.

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<v Speaker 3>Wanted you to know that, like you, I want you

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<v Speaker 3>to be okay.

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<v Speaker 1>There is no podcast without you, you know, and that

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<v Speaker 1>you need to be okay.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, and I'm so glad that you asked for

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<v Speaker 3>help and said enough.

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<v Speaker 1>And that's why I tried, you know, whenever I reached

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<v Speaker 1>out to you to see how you were doing, because

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<v Speaker 1>I just remember, I just just was thinking of all

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<v Speaker 1>the feedback that I got from previous friends and my

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<v Speaker 1>sister when you know, when they first had their baby,

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<v Speaker 1>and how they felt like no one ever asked about them.

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<v Speaker 3>It was always like the baby, the baby, And so

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<v Speaker 3>I tried to.

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<v Speaker 1>And so I tried that whenever to be like how

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<v Speaker 1>you doing, mano, you know, like I don't even know

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<v Speaker 1>if I really asked about the baby, because I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sure everyone else is, because I was just trying

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<v Speaker 1>to be mindful of.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, I get it.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, this is brand being and everyone's excited, but

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<v Speaker 1>it's like, oh what about mom, you know, like you've

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<v Speaker 1>gone through a lot. So I'm just glad you asked

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<v Speaker 1>for help and that you shared with us because it's

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<v Speaker 1>not easy, and it's good for someone who might be

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<v Speaker 1>going through it to know that they're not alone and

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<v Speaker 1>how they're feeling is how and how they're feeling is normal,

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<v Speaker 1>and people feel like this, and you know it's okay

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<v Speaker 1>and necessary to ask for help and ask for a

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<v Speaker 1>reprieve and just to share like I'm not okay, Like

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<v Speaker 1>I think that's what you said, and I was just

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<v Speaker 1>so proud of you, like I'm not okay.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and I really I wasn't. And every day it's

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<v Speaker 2>I check in them like is this okay? And how

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<v Speaker 2>am I feeling? And just trying to be honest about it.

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<v Speaker 2>And I think it's like I said, the difference between

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<v Speaker 2>now and then, and why I felt strong enough to

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<v Speaker 2>do the show today is that I know that there

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<v Speaker 2>it will get better, that this isn't always going to

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<v Speaker 2>be as hard as it is now, and that there

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<v Speaker 2>is light and there's a lot to be grateful for.

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<v Speaker 2>And I'm just trying to be a little bit easier

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<v Speaker 2>on myself stead of pushing myself to be exactly who

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<v Speaker 2>I was, you know, two and a half months ago,

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<v Speaker 2>just to this is the new normal, and I've got

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<v Speaker 2>to figure out, you know, and just be honest with

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<v Speaker 2>where I'm at today. I'm changed and I'm still figuring

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<v Speaker 2>out all the different ways that I'm different, but hopefully

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<v Speaker 2>it'll be all for the better. And of course I

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<v Speaker 2>love mister Rio.

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<v Speaker 3>He is a delight.

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<v Speaker 2>Every blowout diaper is a gift. Yeah, So thank you all.

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<v Speaker 4>And that is.

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<v Speaker 2>Our extremely depressing intro for the show.

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<v Speaker 1>It's good, good, No, that's good. I think that this

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<v Speaker 1>was great and people needed to hear it.

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<v Speaker 3>And we're back. We're back, and.

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<v Speaker 4>If we take a little break in the next few weeks,

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<v Speaker 4>you know why.

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<v Speaker 2>So all the love and encouragement you guys can send,

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<v Speaker 2>I appreciate it. And of course, Tiff, you're my I'll

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<v Speaker 2>still talk. We'll still talk even though we're not doing

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<v Speaker 2>the show. Love you very much and thank you for

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<v Speaker 2>doing so. Next time I see you, go bang, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>going to cash them on that hug. Get ready for

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<v Speaker 2>letting go?

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<v Speaker 1>Do you want to take some questions? I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>we haven't had questions in so long. I'm sure we've

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<v Speaker 1>got some poles up. I love answering questions from the listeners,

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<v Speaker 1>so let's have all right.

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<v Speaker 2>I checked out our Instagram. You guys can always hit

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<v Speaker 2>us up. We're at brandabision Podcast on Instagram with your questions.

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<v Speaker 2>You can also email us if you want to be

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<v Speaker 2>old school Brandivisionpodcasts at gmail dot com or check out

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<v Speaker 2>our website brandivision podcast dot com and click ask us

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<v Speaker 2>anything to hit us up there. Let's take one from

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<v Speaker 2>a Oh the Tender Age of twenty two listener. Will

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<v Speaker 2>keep her anonymous. She says, I love the podcast. My

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<v Speaker 2>boyfriend and I are twenty two years old and still

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<v Speaker 2>in college, but we're hoping to get married within the

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<v Speaker 2>next couple of years and want to start saving for

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<v Speaker 2>a wedding. What do you think is the most efficient

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<v Speaker 2>way to do it? Should we save in a highyeld

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<v Speaker 2>savings account or should we invest and withdraw the money

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<v Speaker 2>when we're ready?

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<v Speaker 3>Good? How many years, she says? Do you thinks she's

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<v Speaker 3>going to get married?

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<v Speaker 2>She says the next couple years, So not looking at

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<v Speaker 2>us super tight or super long timeline here.

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<v Speaker 1>If it's a couple of years meaning too or under,

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<v Speaker 1>probably would do hot yield right. But I remember because

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<v Speaker 1>my sister when she got married, but she knew she

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<v Speaker 1>had I think it was like five or six years

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<v Speaker 1>because like he was going to medical school. But anyway,

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<v Speaker 1>she invested and she bought stock, and I forgot how

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<v Speaker 1>much she put in, but she bought Tesla when it.

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<v Speaker 3>Was like thirty dollars a share, so it was tremendous

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<v Speaker 3>and so, you.

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<v Speaker 1>Know, and I think she put like fifteen hundred dollars

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<v Speaker 1>in or two thousand, and I remember by the time

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<v Speaker 1>she was ready to get married and she sold the stock,

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<v Speaker 1>she had.

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<v Speaker 3>About thirty thousand dollars.

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<v Speaker 1>So but that's because she had time, you know, for

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<v Speaker 1>that stock or like you know, all her other investments

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<v Speaker 1>to kind of grow. So I feel like if it's

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<v Speaker 1>two years, I likely would put it someplace where you

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<v Speaker 1>have you're a little bit more liquid because.

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<v Speaker 3>You don't really have a ton of time to ride

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<v Speaker 3>the wave should things drop.

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<v Speaker 1>But if you had more than like maybe four years,

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<v Speaker 1>then you know, I might look into putting it.

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<v Speaker 3>And I probably wouldn't have put into stock. I mean,

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<v Speaker 3>she tried it. She was lucky, quite honestly.

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<v Speaker 4>Not single stock.

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<v Speaker 2>She was exactly maybe like you know, an an index fund.

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<v Speaker 1>Exactly, that's what I would put it into. Honestly, I

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<v Speaker 1>had more than a few years and.

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<v Speaker 2>An index index fund. Just to remind you, it just

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<v Speaker 2>means that instead of investing in one company like Tesla,

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<v Speaker 2>you get to invest in a bunch of different companies

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<v Speaker 2>and that just spreads your investment over it spreads your

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<v Speaker 2>risk out and typically you'll see returns that that kind

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<v Speaker 2>of average out over all those companies returns, not just

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<v Speaker 2>like one company doing really well won't make.

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<v Speaker 4>Or break you. Yeah, and I totally agree. I chose

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<v Speaker 4>to save.

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<v Speaker 2>In a high yield savings account and I think if

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<v Speaker 2>you just have a couple of years, that makes perfect

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<v Speaker 2>sense and be real. And I would say, you're twenty two,

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<v Speaker 2>so you know, think about what's a realistic wedding cost

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<v Speaker 2>for you guys, Like I would, I would set a

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<v Speaker 2>target for how much you can afford to spend on

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<v Speaker 2>your wedding and keep it realistic to where you are

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<v Speaker 2>in your lives. You know, getting married at twenty two

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<v Speaker 2>you're straight out of college. And I just would hate

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<v Speaker 2>for you guys too, if you have student loan debt

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<v Speaker 2>to also take on a bunch of you know, wedding expenses,

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<v Speaker 2>trying to have the big, mega wedding of your dreams.

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<v Speaker 2>If that ends up being your dream that you know,

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<v Speaker 2>you look at the price tag of what you want

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<v Speaker 2>and it's astronomical, and you guys don't see how you

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<v Speaker 2>can get there in two years.

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<v Speaker 4>I would say, why not? Wait? I mean, your life

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<v Speaker 4>is your life.

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<v Speaker 2>But if the dream wedding is what you want, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>putting it off for a few years so you can

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<v Speaker 2>save more. Nothing wrong with that. You know you're still

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<v Speaker 2>so young? Do I sound like an old Buddy Duddy?

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<v Speaker 3>Until you said buddy Duddy?

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<v Speaker 4>What a kid say?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, No, I know, Okay, boomer, that's what I am.

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<v Speaker 3>No cap. I don't even know what that means. Somebody

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<v Speaker 3>tell me what does no cap mean? Let me ask LUSA.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>I was just really proud that I dug up. Okay, boomer,

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<v Speaker 2>I guess instead of boomer, it's like, okay, older millennial,

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<v Speaker 2>that's how I feel.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, I mean yes, like I said, you said,

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<v Speaker 1>Fuddy Dady, I was with you.

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<v Speaker 3>I was with you. No.

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<v Speaker 1>I think that's really great advice and congratulations on finding love.

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<v Speaker 2>All right, Let's take our next question from Let's say

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<v Speaker 2>her name is Faith, just making that up?

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<v Speaker 3>Okay?

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<v Speaker 2>Her question is about her children? So she has four

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<v Speaker 2>children ages seventeen, fifteen, eight and seven. I really don't

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<v Speaker 2>want my children to end up in a tough financial

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<v Speaker 2>predicament like I am in, and I want to set

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<v Speaker 2>them up for a success. I was thinking of somehow

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<v Speaker 2>setting up investment accounts for each one and starting to

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<v Speaker 2>put money in each Hopefully over the years they will

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<v Speaker 2>grow and by the time they're adults or older adults,

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<v Speaker 2>they will have a nice nest egg they can continue

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<v Speaker 2>to invest. How or what is the best way to

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<v Speaker 2>go about doing this? Should I meet with a financial advisor.

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<v Speaker 2>I know nothing about investing, really, so I wouldn't even

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<v Speaker 2>know where to start.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, this is actually a really good question I wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to pull up. So I just was talking with my angelie,

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<v Speaker 1>who's my financial planner, and she had me transferred. I

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<v Speaker 1>honestly had, like all the kids in my life, like

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<v Speaker 1>my my godson, my nieces, and my nephew, I had

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<v Speaker 1>their money basically saved in a high yield Savans account.

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<v Speaker 3>And she was like.

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<v Speaker 1>Girl nine, so she put money, she invested the funds

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<v Speaker 1>for me, and I was trying to figure out like

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<v Speaker 1>where she said, because I wanted.

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<v Speaker 3>To give you the exact words that she said.

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<v Speaker 1>She said, Uh, since the kids are young, I think

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<v Speaker 1>the allocation is one hundred percent equity's reasonable for their age.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh yeah, okay, this is what she said.

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<v Speaker 1>I would like to keep their allocation simple, meaning when

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<v Speaker 1>she said one hundred percent equity, that means she's investing

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<v Speaker 1>all of their funds in basically like stocks, but like

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<v Speaker 1>a combination. But I'll tell you exactly what she put

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<v Speaker 1>it in. She said, I would like to keep their

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<v Speaker 1>allocation simple. Hence I planned to use two Vanguard ETFs.

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<v Speaker 1>Remember Mandy talked about ETF earlier, a total US market

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<v Speaker 1>and a total international market, meaning that she's going to

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<v Speaker 1>put the kids funds into a Vanguard. Vanguard is a

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<v Speaker 1>company and they have ats, which are these collection of

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<v Speaker 1>stocks or bonds. But she's picking the collection of stocks,

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<v Speaker 1>and stocks are more risky. Because the kids are really young,

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<v Speaker 1>we can afford to put all of their money in

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<v Speaker 1>like kind of like riskier investments because you have a

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<v Speaker 1>higher potential for a higher yield.

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<v Speaker 3>And she was like, you know that.

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<v Speaker 1>She's putting them into the total market, total US market

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<v Speaker 1>and total international market funds. So what you can do

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<v Speaker 1>with ets is you can find funds that mimic what

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<v Speaker 1>the US market looks like. And also funds that mimic

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<v Speaker 1>like what the like with like the NASDAC or whatever.

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<v Speaker 1>So you can find funds that mimic what with markets

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<v Speaker 1>around the world look like. So if the US market

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<v Speaker 1>stocks go up, so does your fund. If the US

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<v Speaker 1>market stocks go down, so does your fund. And so

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<v Speaker 1>that's when that's what she said, and she said something

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<v Speaker 1>I think that was really great too.

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<v Speaker 3>She said, when we have.

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<v Speaker 1>Market volatility, you'll see this account swinging a lot more

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<v Speaker 1>than your respective account. So the accounts for myself and

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<v Speaker 1>my husband, it's okay as long as the funds will

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<v Speaker 1>be kept in for a long time horizon.

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<v Speaker 3>Now super super disclaimer disclaimer.

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<v Speaker 1>Remember Angelie is my financial planner, and so she's paid

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<v Speaker 1>to give me personal financial advice, and so disclaimer is that,

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<v Speaker 1>like you know, you have not paid Angelie, so you

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<v Speaker 1>know that advice is not professional advice specifically tailored for you,

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<v Speaker 1>faith or anyone listening. But I've just given you an

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<v Speaker 1>example of what I'm doing, and certainly we welcome you

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<v Speaker 1>to reach out to a financial planner on your own

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<v Speaker 1>to get specifically tailored advice to you. But just know

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<v Speaker 1>that for the younger kids especially, you know, there's some

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<v Speaker 1>room to be a little bit more aggressive with the

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<v Speaker 1>whatever investments you've set aside for them. And for the

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<v Speaker 1>older kids, there's still a lot of room too because honestly,

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<v Speaker 1>seventeen eighteen, that's still very young. It depends on when

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<v Speaker 1>you are expecting them to be able to basically cash

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<v Speaker 1>in on that. But I definitely would sit down with

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<v Speaker 1>the financial planner and at least you have some thing

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<v Speaker 1>like to discuss and you can bring some ideas to

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<v Speaker 1>the table where you think you'd like your money to

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<v Speaker 1>go for your kids. But kudos for thinking in advance.

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<v Speaker 3>That's awesome. Faith.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, definitely, And she also questions, you know, should I

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<v Speaker 2>do a CD if I don't feel ready to invest?

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<v Speaker 2>You know, a CD is a viable option. I mean

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<v Speaker 2>with rates going down right now, though I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>You definitely with the CD, it's a more conservative investment,

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<v Speaker 2>which means you're not going to be earning potentially as

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<v Speaker 2>much as you could if you were to invest in

0:23:28.359 --> 0:23:29.920
<v Speaker 2>the market. But what I would say, because your kids,

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<v Speaker 2>some of them are older, So you have a seventeen

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<v Speaker 2>and a fifteen year old, they're you know, depending on

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<v Speaker 2>how or when you want them to tap into this

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<v Speaker 2>fun you have to think about how much time you

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<v Speaker 2>have in front of you. And if that, you know answer,

0:23:42.400 --> 0:23:44.600
<v Speaker 2>is not very much time, maybe a CD makes sense.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe if it's a lot of time five plus years,

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<v Speaker 2>maybe investing in the market makes more sense. Seeking out

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<v Speaker 2>help from a financial advisor is probably a good place

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<v Speaker 2>to start if you want to, you know, figure out

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<v Speaker 2>what's the different approach for each of your children based

0:23:58.440 --> 0:24:01.119
<v Speaker 2>on their ages. So like Tiffany's, that can make a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of sense. And again we are not financial experts,

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<v Speaker 2>just sharing what's worked for us. And I want to

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<v Speaker 2>do a quick segue because someone else asked on an

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<v Speaker 2>earlier episode when I talked about saving for my son,

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<v Speaker 2>who I obviously is very tiny, very very young, starting

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<v Speaker 2>to think about how to save for him. I mentioned

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<v Speaker 2>on an earlier show that I was going to do

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<v Speaker 2>an ira, and I chose an ira over a five

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<v Speaker 2>two nine plan, and this listener TONI or I wanted

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<v Speaker 2>to know why did I choose a roth ira instead

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<v Speaker 2>of a five to two nine plan. The only thing

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<v Speaker 2>that I uh. One of the benefits of a roth

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<v Speaker 2>ira is that they don't necessarily have to use the

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<v Speaker 2>funds for education. So I feel like that offers more flexibility.

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<v Speaker 2>Not that I don't hope that my son will go

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<v Speaker 2>to college one day, you know, but he might get

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<v Speaker 2>a scholarship or a full ride. I mean, if you know, hopefully,

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<v Speaker 2>if he takes after his mama, he'll be very smart.

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<v Speaker 2>And I don't want to have to have those funds

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<v Speaker 2>tied up. You could use the funds and like, uh,

0:24:59.760 --> 0:25:02.600
<v Speaker 2>you know, give them to another family member, but again

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<v Speaker 2>they have to use it, at least for now, for

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<v Speaker 2>some kind of education. So for me, roth Ira makes

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<v Speaker 2>more sense. But they're both you know, reasonable ways, good

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<v Speaker 2>ways to invest in your child's future. You just have

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<v Speaker 2>to kind of think about what's best for you.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I agree.

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<v Speaker 1>I always feel like, I mean, I feel like these

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<v Speaker 1>days five to nine plans it just feels a little

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<v Speaker 1>bit like ah, because I just don't know ten years

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<v Speaker 1>from now how relevant traditional college is going to be,

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<v Speaker 1>and I would hate to tie my money up in

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<v Speaker 1>such a way that it can only be used. Well,

0:25:33.480 --> 0:25:35.160
<v Speaker 1>the good thing about five to nine plans it doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>just have to be used for college. It could be

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<v Speaker 1>used for education across the board, so like you can

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<v Speaker 1>even use it for like like high school or if

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<v Speaker 1>your middle school costs some money, or even from what

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<v Speaker 1>I understand, even daycare these days, because they're understanding that

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<v Speaker 1>education is going to look different years from now.

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<v Speaker 3>But still it makes me a little nervous. I'd rather

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<v Speaker 3>put my money elsewhere for my little one.

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<v Speaker 1>So yeah, so that was just some good, so good updates.

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<v Speaker 3>Brown booths, brown bray. What you're gonna do, what you're

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<v Speaker 3>gonna do? Well, they come for a boo, what you

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<v Speaker 3>wanna do.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm gonna do a boost. I'm gonna go first.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, go ahead, I'll volunteer if you guys can ignore

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<v Speaker 2>the sound of my very unhappy child in the background.

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<v Speaker 2>I on Last Lame the last episode talked about taking

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<v Speaker 2>advantage of some different like options to simplify my life,

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<v Speaker 2>So like getting groceries delivered through Amazon Prime.

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<v Speaker 4>It's been awesome.

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<v Speaker 2>I tried out a new service for the past week

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<v Speaker 2>called Freshly, which is not they don't you know, not

0:26:56.160 --> 0:26:58.679
<v Speaker 2>an adorse, it's an endorsement. We're not getting paid, but

0:26:58.840 --> 0:27:00.800
<v Speaker 2>Freshly actually sends.

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<v Speaker 4>You meals that are already cooked.

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<v Speaker 2>You just have to heat them up and they're like

0:27:03.160 --> 0:27:05.960
<v Speaker 2>prepared by chefs and healthy and balance and all that jazz,

0:27:06.320 --> 0:27:09.919
<v Speaker 2>and it's been amazing so far. I feel only a

0:27:09.960 --> 0:27:12.840
<v Speaker 2>little bit lazy, but who cares. I don't have time

0:27:12.840 --> 0:27:15.480
<v Speaker 2>to cook and clean up dishes and all that stuff.

0:27:15.880 --> 0:27:17.879
<v Speaker 2>And it's nice to eat food that's not like a

0:27:17.880 --> 0:27:21.320
<v Speaker 2>healthy choice or you know again, another peanut butter and

0:27:21.400 --> 0:27:23.320
<v Speaker 2>jelly sandwich. That was how I sustained myself for the

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<v Speaker 2>first six weeks. I'm telling you postpartum peeb and Jay's y'all.

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<v Speaker 2>So it's called Freshly, and there's all kinds of promo codes.

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<v Speaker 2>So the cost is for twelve meals. I got for

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<v Speaker 2>ninety two dollars, which is a lot less than what

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<v Speaker 2>I was paying to have lunch every day at the office,

0:27:39.520 --> 0:27:41.760
<v Speaker 2>like fifteen dollars for lunch every day. This comes out

0:27:41.800 --> 0:27:45.040
<v Speaker 2>to less than I think eleven dollars per meal with

0:27:45.160 --> 0:27:49.240
<v Speaker 2>the promo code. So I'd recommend it, and there's other

0:27:49.400 --> 0:27:51.720
<v Speaker 2>services like it, so if you guys, it's I think

0:27:51.760 --> 0:27:54.399
<v Speaker 2>it'd be great for anyone who's on maternity leave, or

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<v Speaker 2>even if you're like recovering from a surgery, or you

0:27:56.680 --> 0:27:59.000
<v Speaker 2>know someone like say you know someone who had an

0:27:59.000 --> 0:28:02.840
<v Speaker 2>operation recently or for whatever reason, they can't get around

0:28:02.840 --> 0:28:04.560
<v Speaker 2>the house as easily as they could. This would be

0:28:04.560 --> 0:28:06.800
<v Speaker 2>a great gift to give them, like a week or

0:28:06.840 --> 0:28:09.960
<v Speaker 2>two weeks from a service like this. I'm a I'm

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<v Speaker 2>a fan.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh it's good to know.

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<v Speaker 1>That's honestly really good to know, because sometimes you're not

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<v Speaker 1>sure what to get people, and I always like to

0:28:17.760 --> 0:28:19.640
<v Speaker 1>get people things that are going to be super helpful,

0:28:19.800 --> 0:28:22.200
<v Speaker 1>especially when they have something new happened in their life,

0:28:22.280 --> 0:28:23.040
<v Speaker 1>like a biby.

0:28:23.240 --> 0:28:26.440
<v Speaker 2>So good to know husband is already sneaking into them

0:28:26.440 --> 0:28:27.680
<v Speaker 2>a meal selling those are mine.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I am going to boost. Did I tell you

0:28:34.560 --> 0:28:36.200
<v Speaker 1>that I got the Nest a new nest. Well, I

0:28:36.240 --> 0:28:39.000
<v Speaker 1>don't know if it's the new, but so Nest is

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<v Speaker 1>like a thermostat for your house, and you know it's

0:28:42.120 --> 0:28:43.640
<v Speaker 1>like a smart thrmostat.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, I don't know.

0:28:45.200 --> 0:28:47.400
<v Speaker 1>Like I live in Jersey, so we have PC and G,

0:28:47.520 --> 0:28:49.560
<v Speaker 1>but I know like New York has like kindetsin and

0:28:49.920 --> 0:28:52.360
<v Speaker 1>depending on where you live around the country, I don't

0:28:52.360 --> 0:28:55.120
<v Speaker 1>know what the name of your your energy provider is.

0:28:55.720 --> 0:29:00.280
<v Speaker 1>And so PC ANDNG is offering basically half off the Nest.

0:29:00.920 --> 0:29:02.440
<v Speaker 1>So instead of like two fifty, it was like one

0:29:02.560 --> 0:29:05.480
<v Speaker 1>twenty five, which is awesome. So I got the nest,

0:29:05.720 --> 0:29:08.920
<v Speaker 1>and then I splurged and got something called the sensors.

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<v Speaker 3>Because I lived in an old house.

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<v Speaker 1>It was built in like I don't know, nineteen twenty

0:29:13.080 --> 0:29:15.440
<v Speaker 1>or something like that. So we've got like just one

0:29:15.520 --> 0:29:20.440
<v Speaker 1>thermostat for the whole house. So I wanted to figure out,

0:29:20.600 --> 0:29:22.080
<v Speaker 1>you know, like what did I need to set the

0:29:22.080 --> 0:29:25.680
<v Speaker 1>thermostat too, so that the house could be comfortable. And

0:29:25.920 --> 0:29:28.800
<v Speaker 1>the sensors will let you know, like I've named them

0:29:28.840 --> 0:29:34.920
<v Speaker 1>like Supergirl's room, guest room, master bedroom, and kitchen and

0:29:34.960 --> 0:29:37.520
<v Speaker 1>so that way. And then the sensor that the main sensor,

0:29:37.520 --> 0:29:39.240
<v Speaker 1>which is in the thermostat is in the dining room.

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<v Speaker 3>And so I on my phone. I'm obsessed. So my

0:29:42.920 --> 0:29:44.600
<v Speaker 3>husband now calls me the boriler operator.

0:29:46.240 --> 0:29:48.320
<v Speaker 2>Do you guys battle it out like me and husband do?

0:29:48.600 --> 0:29:50.680
<v Speaker 2>Where Like he's like I wanted to be sixty eight.

0:29:50.680 --> 0:29:51.920
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, I want to be seventy two.

0:29:51.960 --> 0:29:52.800
<v Speaker 4>We go back and forth.

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<v Speaker 1>So first of all, he doesn't really play, but I

0:29:56.240 --> 0:29:58.520
<v Speaker 1>you should see me. I'm in here, like, ooh, Supergus

0:29:58.640 --> 0:29:59.440
<v Speaker 1>room looks a little.

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<v Speaker 3>Chilly, let's turn it. Oh my god, I look at

0:30:01.560 --> 0:30:03.440
<v Speaker 3>the boy, look at a boil operator. Look at the

0:30:03.440 --> 0:30:04.280
<v Speaker 3>boil operator there.

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<v Speaker 1>Like sometimes I'll come home and it's like, maybe the

0:30:07.400 --> 0:30:08.680
<v Speaker 1>house is too warmer, too chili.

0:30:08.840 --> 0:30:12.320
<v Speaker 3>He's like, boil operator, you're off your job. I love it.

0:30:12.920 --> 0:30:14.680
<v Speaker 1>Like sometimes I'm like, did you touch the did you

0:30:14.720 --> 0:30:17.080
<v Speaker 1>touch the thermos back? And I just love the fact

0:30:17.120 --> 0:30:20.200
<v Speaker 1>that literally I could be like totally like in another

0:30:20.240 --> 0:30:21.880
<v Speaker 1>state and be like, you know what, the house looks

0:30:21.880 --> 0:30:24.920
<v Speaker 1>a little chili from where I am. So yes, honestly,

0:30:24.960 --> 0:30:27.000
<v Speaker 1>I have to say I love the nests. I love

0:30:27.080 --> 0:30:27.800
<v Speaker 1>the sensors.

0:30:28.920 --> 0:30:30.520
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, and I.

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<v Speaker 1>Somebody gifted me Google Home a while ago, so I

0:30:32.200 --> 0:30:34.280
<v Speaker 1>have not set it up yet, but apparently it all

0:30:34.320 --> 0:30:36.440
<v Speaker 1>links because I have the ring, which is I think

0:30:36.520 --> 0:30:38.520
<v Speaker 1>is a Google product, and I have the nests and

0:30:38.560 --> 0:30:40.920
<v Speaker 1>the sensor. So I think with Google Home, like i'd

0:30:40.920 --> 0:30:42.880
<v Speaker 1>be there's like, you know, I can set it up

0:30:42.920 --> 0:30:44.600
<v Speaker 1>and like be like.

0:30:44.480 --> 0:30:47.400
<v Speaker 3>The superstalker of my house. So yeah, that's my boost.

0:30:47.400 --> 0:30:49.800
<v Speaker 3>It's just I think it's just such a great tool.

0:30:50.040 --> 0:30:53.800
<v Speaker 1>And I used to have to because of the first

0:30:53.840 --> 0:30:56.760
<v Speaker 1>floor of the house tends to be cooler than the bedrooms.

0:30:57.160 --> 0:30:58.960
<v Speaker 1>So we would go to bed at night and I

0:30:58.960 --> 0:31:01.479
<v Speaker 1>would wake up like an a wet because I forgot

0:31:01.480 --> 0:31:04.720
<v Speaker 1>to turn down the thermostat.

0:31:04.920 --> 0:31:07.840
<v Speaker 3>And meanwhile, I live my I'm on the third floor

0:31:07.920 --> 0:31:09.440
<v Speaker 3>of our house. That's where our master.

0:31:09.360 --> 0:31:11.200
<v Speaker 1>Suite is, and so I'd have to go all the

0:31:11.240 --> 0:31:14.360
<v Speaker 1>way downstairs, like at midnight to turn it down and

0:31:14.400 --> 0:31:16.080
<v Speaker 1>to come all the way back up. And so now

0:31:16.120 --> 0:31:18.320
<v Speaker 1>I just roll over grab my phone and the boiler

0:31:18.400 --> 0:31:22.920
<v Speaker 1>operator has it, had her fingertips and I'm like, yeah,

0:31:23.040 --> 0:31:25.040
<v Speaker 1>so just a little booths, you know, Like I said,

0:31:25.040 --> 0:31:27.680
<v Speaker 1>it's X to me. I brought a thermistat before. It's

0:31:27.720 --> 0:31:30.200
<v Speaker 1>it's comparable to like what other thermost casts cost with

0:31:31.000 --> 0:31:33.400
<v Speaker 1>this discount. If you live and I guess the city

0:31:33.400 --> 0:31:35.239
<v Speaker 1>that has PC and G and for all I know

0:31:35.280 --> 0:31:39.200
<v Speaker 1>your your your your service provider might have it as well.

0:31:39.440 --> 0:31:41.160
<v Speaker 1>But totally it's worth it and I love it.

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<v Speaker 3>Join me.

0:31:42.600 --> 0:31:44.720
<v Speaker 2>Oh, you don't need to have a certain service. I

0:31:44.720 --> 0:31:48.600
<v Speaker 2>think anyone could do the Nest and it's fabulous. Oh

0:31:48.680 --> 0:31:51.520
<v Speaker 2>sorry discount yah yea, yeah, okay, gotcha, gotcha, gotcha. I'll

0:31:51.560 --> 0:31:54.000
<v Speaker 2>say we have the Nest doorbell too, and I recently

0:31:54.080 --> 0:31:57.080
<v Speaker 2>discovered you can turn off the doorbell sound. Oh my god,

0:31:57.280 --> 0:32:01.600
<v Speaker 2>anyone with a baby at home game change. Every Amazon

0:32:01.640 --> 0:32:04.480
<v Speaker 2>person I wanted to personally murder for ringing the doorbell

0:32:04.480 --> 0:32:07.840
<v Speaker 2>when they came. It was always when the baby was sleeping, always,

0:32:08.280 --> 0:32:10.320
<v Speaker 2>and not only that, but Molly would start barking too,

0:32:10.520 --> 0:32:12.800
<v Speaker 2>so to I still get the alert that someone's ringing

0:32:12.800 --> 0:32:14.200
<v Speaker 2>the doorbell, but no sound.

0:32:14.320 --> 0:32:15.440
<v Speaker 3>It is blissful.

0:32:15.720 --> 0:32:19.880
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that is bol technology. I am so grateful to you.

0:32:20.800 --> 0:32:22.680
<v Speaker 2>So shout out to Husby for hooking us up and

0:32:22.680 --> 0:32:25.960
<v Speaker 2>making our house super tech friendly because the nest is awesome.

0:32:26.960 --> 0:32:28.479
<v Speaker 4>Yes, I co sign your boost.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, Mandua, this was great. It was great to be

0:32:32.800 --> 0:32:34.800
<v Speaker 1>back in the saddle. But don't forget if you need

0:32:34.800 --> 0:32:37.080
<v Speaker 1>a break, take a break. That's not just for Managic,

0:32:37.120 --> 0:32:39.840
<v Speaker 1>that's for all y'all listening that nothing's more important than

0:32:39.880 --> 0:32:41.880
<v Speaker 1>you being healthy, happy in a home.

0:32:42.080 --> 0:32:44.160
<v Speaker 2>One day at a time with my new mantra. So

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<v Speaker 2>we will maybe see you guys next week, maybe not.

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<v Speaker 2>If not, we'll have it something else in its place.

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<v Speaker 2>But I have to say I'm feeling really good and

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<v Speaker 2>the fog is listening. As trenty as that sounds, that's

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<v Speaker 2>what it feels like. So I'm not feeling being very happy.

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<v Speaker 3>Kay. Good