WEBVTT - Folk Magic with Wendi Mclendon-Covey 0:00:00.880 --> 0:00:02.560 Hi, Catherine, Hey, Chelsea. 0:00:03.000 --> 0:00:04.240 Well, we have a great guest today. 0:00:04.480 --> 0:00:07.760 Everyone knows her from Reno nine one one, Bridesmaid and 0:00:07.800 --> 0:00:11.200 now Saint Dennis Medical and Wendy McClendon Covey's joining us now. 0:00:11.480 --> 0:00:11.760 Hello. 0:00:12.080 --> 0:00:15.080 Wendy, Hi, baby, Hi, Hi. 0:00:15.160 --> 0:00:20.920 Hi, Wendy McClendon covey, Good morning, Good morning to you. 0:00:21.280 --> 0:00:23.880 Was that your brother helping you set up your podcast? 0:00:24.400 --> 0:00:29.800 That was my husband, my brother husband. 0:00:29.760 --> 0:00:33.519 My brother husband. Hi, It's so nice to see you. 0:00:34.000 --> 0:00:35.239 Where's good to see you. 0:00:35.800 --> 0:00:38.000 I tried to see you at the night we were at 0:00:38.040 --> 0:00:39.479 the Critics' Choice Awards together. 0:00:39.840 --> 0:00:41.680 I saw you, but I didn't see you. 0:00:42.800 --> 0:00:44.440 Good job with that PS. 0:00:44.720 --> 0:00:46.880 Oh, thank you, Thank you so much. 0:00:47.000 --> 0:00:51.760 That was amazing because you had the unenviable position of 0:00:51.840 --> 0:00:54.680 having to make everybody happy after the city had burned 0:00:54.680 --> 0:00:58.279 to the ground and that show had been rescheduled three times, 0:00:58.800 --> 0:01:02.720 and you nailed it. You were fantastic. Thank you, Thank 0:01:02.760 --> 0:01:04.480 you so much, Wendy. I appreciate that. 0:01:04.680 --> 0:01:07.320 I'm Wendy and I share a gynecologist and his name 0:01:07.400 --> 0:01:11.280 is David Allan Greer. So I first want to just 0:01:11.400 --> 0:01:16.560 talk about your experience working with him, because I have 0:01:16.880 --> 0:01:20.840 never ever been able, nor will I ever Wendy be 0:01:20.880 --> 0:01:23.840 able to take that man seriously as an actor, as 0:01:23.880 --> 0:01:27.880 a person, as a skier. I tried to ski with 0:01:27.959 --> 0:01:28.440 him once. 0:01:29.000 --> 0:01:32.199 I don't remember. Yeah, yeah, yeah, he tried to tell 0:01:32.240 --> 0:01:33.559 me he could ski. 0:01:33.880 --> 0:01:36.920 And this was before I became the skier that I 0:01:36.959 --> 0:01:40.520 am today, before I'm a pretty decent and competent skier. 0:01:40.560 --> 0:01:44.120 Now, yeah you are, thank you, thank you. I appreciate that. 0:01:44.560 --> 0:01:46.560 And I worked hard to get there, you know, like 0:01:46.600 --> 0:01:50.400 I took it very seriously, like almost like a college degree. 0:01:50.680 --> 0:01:54.080 But David, like the idiot that he is, and will 0:01:54.120 --> 0:01:59.120 always remain trying to convince me that he's the one. Actually, no, 0:01:59.160 --> 0:02:00.600 I have to give him a little bit of credit. 0:02:01.040 --> 0:02:03.360 He's the one who got me back into skiing because 0:02:03.360 --> 0:02:05.280 he took me skiing on the West Coast. I don't 0:02:05.320 --> 0:02:07.640 remember if we were in Tahoe or we were in 0:02:08.200 --> 0:02:10.960 maybe Aspen Comedy Festival. It was something where there was 0:02:11.000 --> 0:02:12.720 like a comedy festival related, so. 0:02:12.760 --> 0:02:13.760 It must have been Aspen. 0:02:14.240 --> 0:02:15.960 And he was like, oh, let's go skiing. 0:02:16.000 --> 0:02:17.680 I said I don't have any ski clothes and was 0:02:17.720 --> 0:02:20.320 like springish, and he said, you don't need any you 0:02:20.400 --> 0:02:22.200 just need jeans. And like, you know a vest, and 0:02:22.240 --> 0:02:24.120 I'm like, since when? Because I grew up in New Jersey, 0:02:24.240 --> 0:02:26.800 so I skied on the East coast, right, and so 0:02:26.919 --> 0:02:28.120 he convinced me to go skiing. 0:02:28.160 --> 0:02:28.840 We went skiing. 0:02:28.840 --> 0:02:30.680 We went out for about an hour and a half 0:02:31.040 --> 0:02:34.560 until he started complaining he was too cold in the 0:02:34.600 --> 0:02:37.760 springtime he had. He was the one who dragged me 0:02:37.800 --> 0:02:40.320 out there and then started complaining, and finally I told 0:02:40.400 --> 0:02:41.840 him to get off the mountain. I was having a 0:02:41.880 --> 0:02:43.639 really good time on my own, you know, I was like, 0:02:43.760 --> 0:02:46.880 leave me alone. And that was when I discovered that 0:02:46.919 --> 0:02:50.880 skiing could be actually pleasurable when when other people weren't 0:02:50.919 --> 0:02:53.640 with you, and warmer weather, when you didn't have to 0:02:53.639 --> 0:02:56.720 put on all that gear. And so he kind of was. 0:02:57.080 --> 0:03:00.560 He was kind of the person that re introduced me 0:03:00.600 --> 0:03:02.520 to adult skiing. So I do want to give him 0:03:02.520 --> 0:03:05.960 that shout out, but I've had so many personal experiences 0:03:06.000 --> 0:03:07.320 with him as a friend. 0:03:07.400 --> 0:03:09.560 That I don't want to give him any credit beyond that. 0:03:10.120 --> 0:03:13.600 Okay, you're blowing my mind that he skis at all, Well, 0:03:13.639 --> 0:03:16.440 he doesn't, and because he doesn't like to leave the 0:03:16.520 --> 0:03:19.760 house the David I know. Now Again, I've only known 0:03:19.840 --> 0:03:21.480 him for a year or two, you've known him for 0:03:21.520 --> 0:03:24.440 a lot longer, but that he would willingly go and 0:03:24.560 --> 0:03:27.440 ski or do something physical that's amazing to me. 0:03:27.560 --> 0:03:28.560 Or do something fun. 0:03:29.440 --> 0:03:32.280 Yes, I don't know what's happened to him over the 0:03:32.280 --> 0:03:34.680 past couple of years because I haven't stayed in touch 0:03:34.720 --> 0:03:34.960 with him. 0:03:34.960 --> 0:03:36.520 I think I haven't hung out with him probably in 0:03:36.520 --> 0:03:38.240 like ten years. But when. 0:03:39.600 --> 0:03:41.880 Whenever I see him, I just think of that day 0:03:41.880 --> 0:03:44.240 on the mountain, and I just think of I mean, 0:03:44.280 --> 0:03:46.600 he is he is one of our funniest people. 0:03:46.840 --> 0:03:48.080 He is he really is. 0:03:48.520 --> 0:03:51.480 Yeah, and tell me about what it's like working with him. 0:03:52.160 --> 0:03:56.200 Well, okay, so you and I are roughly the same age. 0:03:56.240 --> 0:03:59.880 So we both watched in Living Color. Uh huh right, yeah, 0:04:00.120 --> 0:04:04.120 and that was a pretty mind blowing show, yes at 0:04:04.120 --> 0:04:07.680 the time, and he was so damn money on that 0:04:07.720 --> 0:04:10.560 and in anything he does. So when I heard that 0:04:10.680 --> 0:04:13.920 he was doing this show, Saint Dennis Medical, I couldn't 0:04:13.960 --> 0:04:17.479 say yes fast enough. And when I'm on set, I 0:04:17.480 --> 0:04:20.400 feel like I just catch myself staring at him, like, Wow, 0:04:20.440 --> 0:04:23.800 you're really right there and we know each other and 0:04:23.880 --> 0:04:27.120 you know who I am, And this is crazy to 0:04:27.160 --> 0:04:29.760 me that this is where my life is. So when 0:04:29.760 --> 0:04:32.240 we're in a scene together, I basically turn into an 0:04:32.240 --> 0:04:33.200 audience member. 0:04:33.520 --> 0:04:35.520 Okay, you forgot to save my life. 0:04:35.839 --> 0:04:39.280 So you respect him? Oh yes, yeah, that's the difference 0:04:39.279 --> 0:04:42.799 between you and me. I don't have any respect for him. Actually, 0:04:42.839 --> 0:04:44.880 we should book him on this podcast because I would 0:04:44.920 --> 0:04:46.120 like to tell him to his face. 0:04:46.560 --> 0:04:48.600 I tell him. I think he needs to hear it. 0:04:48.680 --> 0:04:50.599 But I like that you do respect him because he 0:04:50.720 --> 0:04:54.279 is very entertaining and obviously the show is a huge chant. 0:04:54.560 --> 0:04:57.560 Congrats on all the nominations you guys received. Well the Critics' 0:04:57.600 --> 0:05:00.440 Choice nomination for sure, and congrats on CEAS and two. 0:05:01.160 --> 0:05:02.960 Oh, thank you, thank you, thank you. 0:05:03.120 --> 0:05:05.719 Also, congrats on being one of the funniest women out there, 0:05:05.760 --> 0:05:10.400 because you make me fucking laugh what I mean a 0:05:10.440 --> 0:05:13.680 lot of you. Yeah, you do. You make you make 0:05:13.760 --> 0:05:15.720 everybody laugh. You're ridiculous. 0:05:15.800 --> 0:05:16.640 You and Carrie. 0:05:16.480 --> 0:05:20.160 Kenny Silver on Reno nine one one is just too 0:05:20.320 --> 0:05:21.239 fucking funny. 0:05:21.520 --> 0:05:25.600 These two are ridiculous together. Well, the whole cast of. 0:05:25.560 --> 0:05:28.359 Rena nine one one deserves an award every year just forever. 0:05:28.600 --> 0:05:29.559 Having done that show. 0:05:30.400 --> 0:05:32.919 Well, you you have some fun with us, didn't you. 0:05:33.160 --> 0:05:33.479 I did? 0:05:33.520 --> 0:05:35.560 I did a guest star on that show years and 0:05:35.600 --> 0:05:38.320 years ago. I was so I was, Yes, it was, 0:05:38.839 --> 0:05:41.720 which was also a ridiculous experience. It was so fun 0:05:41.839 --> 0:05:43.960 to be a part of that show because you guys 0:05:44.080 --> 0:05:48.120 improved so much and everyone was always just about to 0:05:48.200 --> 0:05:51.400 break and always laughing in the middle of scenes. 0:05:51.480 --> 0:05:54.120 And that's really what I Those are the only kinds of. 0:05:54.160 --> 0:05:56.520 Productions I like to be involved in, is when people 0:05:56.600 --> 0:05:58.239 are breaking on camera. 0:06:00.279 --> 0:06:02.720 Well, we were lucky to get you, and you were 0:06:02.800 --> 0:06:05.799 so cool about it because I remember, you know, Reno 0:06:06.000 --> 0:06:07.560 was just like a fly by the seat of our 0:06:07.600 --> 0:06:11.960 pants kind of show like permits. Never heard of her, 0:06:12.360 --> 0:06:15.760 you know, we never got fermits for anything. It was 0:06:15.800 --> 0:06:19.400 just gorilla shooting. So we needed cars for some reason. 0:06:19.440 --> 0:06:22.320 We needed cars to drive by and it wasn't safe, 0:06:22.360 --> 0:06:25.279 but you said, oh, you can use mine. I'm turning 0:06:25.279 --> 0:06:27.520 it in tomorrow. It doesn't matter. You can thrash it. 0:06:28.040 --> 0:06:30.920 And it was like, that's a good girl, right there, 0:06:31.400 --> 0:06:35.760 she will go there, yes, of course, and she's hilarious. 0:06:35.800 --> 0:06:38.400 So yeah, all in the name of comedy, right, Wendy, 0:06:38.560 --> 0:06:39.800 that's right, that's right. 0:06:40.080 --> 0:06:42.880 So tell me about your life. What's happening, what's happening 0:06:42.920 --> 0:06:45.240 in your personal life. So this is your husband brother 0:06:45.640 --> 0:06:47.960 that set us your podcast for you. 0:06:48.960 --> 0:06:50.880 Yes, and right now we're in New Orleans. 0:06:51.160 --> 0:06:52.279 Oh what are you doing there? 0:06:52.760 --> 0:06:56.760 We have the tiniest condo in the French Quarter and 0:06:56.800 --> 0:06:59.360 we come out here as often as we can. I 0:06:59.440 --> 0:07:02.200 love this city. I cannot tell you what kind of 0:07:02.200 --> 0:07:05.160 hold it has on me. Wow. But we hadn't been 0:07:05.160 --> 0:07:07.960 able to get out here since right around New Year's 0:07:08.279 --> 0:07:10.560 so we needed to come out and just check on things, 0:07:10.640 --> 0:07:14.400 do some housekeeping, and of course we're gonna have fun 0:07:14.480 --> 0:07:16.600 and try to hear some music and stuff. But we've 0:07:16.640 --> 0:07:19.680 missed Marti Gral this year. We're missing jazz best we 0:07:19.720 --> 0:07:22.800 missed we missed French Quarter beest. But doesn't matter. I 0:07:22.840 --> 0:07:23.720 just love it here. 0:07:23.920 --> 0:07:26.520 I feel like there's always a festival happening in the 0:07:26.520 --> 0:07:28.400 French Quarter always. 0:07:28.440 --> 0:07:33.600 And when we got here there were three parades. Three parades. 0:07:33.640 --> 0:07:36.120 We couldn't our cab couldn't even get us to our house. 0:07:36.280 --> 0:07:37.760 They had to drop us off at the park and 0:07:37.800 --> 0:07:39.680 we just walked our luggage through the. 0:07:39.640 --> 0:07:40.320 Through the preade. 0:07:40.400 --> 0:07:43.600 Quarter. Yeah, pretty much became you should. 0:07:43.320 --> 0:07:45.320 Have immersed yourself in the parade, and so you got 0:07:45.320 --> 0:07:45.920 to your house. 0:07:46.640 --> 0:07:49.760 I know I should have, just you know, disrobed. 0:07:50.000 --> 0:07:51.800 Do you ever run into Amy Schumer down there? 0:07:51.800 --> 0:07:53.920 Because I was recently when I always did a show 0:07:53.920 --> 0:07:56.520 down there, I went to her house in the French Quarter. 0:07:57.360 --> 0:07:59.960 I heard that she has a house, and no, I 0:07:59.840 --> 0:08:01.200 I've never run into her. 0:08:01.360 --> 0:08:03.520 Oh you too, need to connect. You two would really 0:08:03.520 --> 0:08:04.800 get on like a house on fire. 0:08:05.320 --> 0:08:05.640 Really. 0:08:05.720 --> 0:08:07.400 Yeah, I'm going to put you on a text with her. 0:08:07.680 --> 0:08:09.520 Do you know if she has a big house, because 0:08:09.560 --> 0:08:12.560 like I said, we've got a tiny little place because 0:08:12.560 --> 0:08:14.400 I don't want to I don't want to worry about 0:08:14.400 --> 0:08:15.000 a big house. 0:08:15.200 --> 0:08:17.240 No, no, no, no, no, it's not crazy or anything 0:08:17.280 --> 0:08:19.560 like that. It's it's normal. It's normal size. She does 0:08:19.600 --> 0:08:22.880 have a pool in the backyard, but it's not Wow. Yeah, 0:08:22.920 --> 0:08:25.840 but it's not a crazy house. Amy's not crazy like that. 0:08:26.040 --> 0:08:30.400 She's like, you know, she's pretty normal. Now, you have 0:08:30.440 --> 0:08:32.760 a house in Spain, I do that is not. 0:08:32.720 --> 0:08:34.040 A normal Oh my god. 0:08:34.160 --> 0:08:35.720 No, And I'm not going to pretend that it is. 0:08:35.920 --> 0:08:36.480 You know what I mean? 0:08:36.880 --> 0:08:38.600 But do you you must go there a lot. 0:08:38.800 --> 0:08:40.480 I do go there. I go there in the summer. 0:08:40.800 --> 0:08:44.240 I we rent out that house a lot because you know, 0:08:44.400 --> 0:08:47.000 it is so ridiculous, so in order to justify it, 0:08:47.040 --> 0:08:47.960 I have to rent it out. 0:08:48.320 --> 0:08:49.400 But I do go there with it. 0:08:49.480 --> 0:08:51.120 I go there like I'll be there in June for 0:08:51.160 --> 0:08:53.040 a week and hopefully I'll spend like the month of 0:08:53.040 --> 0:08:57.680 September or October, whatever my schedule allows. I share that 0:08:57.720 --> 0:08:59.840 house with a lot of my friends and family, and 0:08:59.880 --> 0:09:02.640 it's the biggest It's one of the best gifts I've 0:09:02.679 --> 0:09:04.600 ever given myself, as the house in Maorca. 0:09:05.000 --> 0:09:07.760 Catherine's been there, gorgeous. 0:09:07.600 --> 0:09:09.920 It's kind of like a slice of I remember looking 0:09:09.960 --> 0:09:12.920 at this house, and you know, places speak to you 0:09:13.040 --> 0:09:15.360 as you're talking about New Orleans, right, which is such 0:09:15.360 --> 0:09:18.760 a magical place everyone if you haven't been to New Orleans, 0:09:18.760 --> 0:09:21.480 once you go, you understand there's just something there that 0:09:21.600 --> 0:09:24.200 is not available anywhere else in any other city in 0:09:24.240 --> 0:09:26.800 the United States. And I'm not sure about the world. 0:09:26.920 --> 0:09:29.480 I mean, you know, maybe there's parts of Paris I 0:09:29.520 --> 0:09:32.480 feel like the French Quarter or something, but which was 0:09:32.520 --> 0:09:34.920 why what It's probably called the fucking Front Quarter, But 0:09:35.800 --> 0:09:36.160 I just. 0:09:36.120 --> 0:09:36.880 Pieced that together. 0:09:36.920 --> 0:09:39.520 As I was saying it, I'm like, oh, but you 0:09:39.559 --> 0:09:42.160 know when you find something and you're like whll wha ooh, 0:09:42.160 --> 0:09:44.920 this is like my childhood, like it came, It came 0:09:44.960 --> 0:09:50.000 from my child my childhood memories. It evoked all of 0:09:50.040 --> 0:09:53.720 these happy feelings, like the view of the water in 0:09:53.800 --> 0:09:56.839 the setting that it is, and just the boats that 0:09:56.920 --> 0:10:00.240 like the sailboats parked in the bay reminded me so 0:10:00.360 --> 0:10:04.760 much of my childhood growing up on Martha's Vineyard and seeing, Wow, 0:10:04.880 --> 0:10:07.600 it's not the same exact view, obviously, but it's it's 0:10:07.679 --> 0:10:09.720 a very similar view. And I remember we would always 0:10:09.760 --> 0:10:13.880 sit outside on our deck and my dad would every 0:10:14.120 --> 0:10:17.320 time we would be outside, he'd be look at this view, 0:10:17.360 --> 0:10:18.080 look at this view. 0:10:18.160 --> 0:10:20.000 So I've had that imprinted in my brain. 0:10:20.280 --> 0:10:23.040 And when I found my house in Myorca, it was dilapidated, 0:10:23.080 --> 0:10:24.960 it was run down. I had to climb over some 0:10:25.120 --> 0:10:28.240 balustrade and banister to get up there with a couple 0:10:28.240 --> 0:10:28.720 of friends. 0:10:28.880 --> 0:10:31.240 And I remember turning around once we got in. 0:10:31.559 --> 0:10:34.560 Once we broke in and turned around and looked at 0:10:34.559 --> 0:10:37.520 the view, I said, look at this view. I cannot 0:10:37.520 --> 0:10:41.199 believe this house is abandoned. Like I'm going to get it. 0:10:41.800 --> 0:10:44.240 And so that's how I feel every time I'm there, like, 0:10:44.400 --> 0:10:46.320 look at this view and I could get lost in 0:10:46.320 --> 0:10:49.280 that view and sit in front of that water for 0:10:49.440 --> 0:10:52.200 days and not leave the house and be perfectly happy 0:10:52.240 --> 0:10:54.960 as long as somebody's making me a frozen mango decory. 0:10:55.120 --> 0:10:57.800 It's really magical there, it is. You know, the older 0:10:57.840 --> 0:10:59.839 you get, the less it takes to make you happy. 0:11:00.120 --> 0:11:02.480 Sometimes it's just a nice view and a good drink, 0:11:02.679 --> 0:11:06.400 I know. Yeah, yeah, So wait, your your house was abandoned. 0:11:06.440 --> 0:11:08.400 You you just found it. You didn't go through a 0:11:08.440 --> 0:11:11.520 realtor or anything. You just it said for sale in 0:11:11.559 --> 0:11:13.760 Spanish on it. But like it was, it was like 0:11:13.800 --> 0:11:16.679 the roofs had caved in, like like the pictures were 0:11:16.720 --> 0:11:19.480 still on the walls, the like you could go up 0:11:19.520 --> 0:11:21.719 halfway up the staircase, but you couldn't go all the 0:11:21.720 --> 0:11:23.400 way up to the top. So it needed just to 0:11:23.400 --> 0:11:26.360 be refortified. There's not a lot of leeway they give 0:11:26.400 --> 0:11:28.280 you in those small towns. You have to kind of 0:11:28.280 --> 0:11:31.400 stick to the plan and just like refortify it, you 0:11:31.400 --> 0:11:35.560 know what I mean. Like the even the banisters outside 0:11:35.559 --> 0:11:38.160 on the terrace, they have to be in like you know, 0:11:38.440 --> 0:11:42.760 my orcin code, And so that's even more beautiful I think, 0:11:42.800 --> 0:11:44.679 so that you can't really you know, you can obviously 0:11:44.800 --> 0:11:45.920 design it however. 0:11:45.640 --> 0:11:47.719 You want in the interior, but what you do on. 0:11:47.679 --> 0:11:50.080 The outside has to have the edifice has to match 0:11:50.360 --> 0:11:53.400 the area. But yes, best gift I ever bought myself. 0:11:54.000 --> 0:11:57.680 Amazing And you earned that, Thank you, You earned that. 0:11:58.080 --> 0:12:01.880 You worked your ass off. So yes, absolutely deserve to 0:12:01.960 --> 0:12:03.640 have a beautiful vacation home. 0:12:03.880 --> 0:12:06.920 Well, you deserve the same. You absolutely deserve the same. 0:12:07.000 --> 0:12:11.079 You don't do you don't have any children, Wendy, Right, Nope, nope, no, 0:12:11.360 --> 0:12:11.760 And how do. 0:12:11.720 --> 0:12:12.960 You feel about that decision? 0:12:13.720 --> 0:12:16.760 Every day? I pat myself on the back for sticking 0:12:16.760 --> 0:12:17.360 to my guns. 0:12:17.360 --> 0:12:20.280 Fucking high five, high fucking five right there. 0:12:20.880 --> 0:12:23.400 I mean, the best thing that the thing that people 0:12:23.480 --> 0:12:26.200 never tell you about making the choice to never have children, 0:12:26.240 --> 0:12:28.400 which nobody ever told me that was a choice either 0:12:28.720 --> 0:12:30.560 I did anyone ever tell you it was a choice 0:12:30.640 --> 0:12:32.480 or did you just inherently know or. 0:12:32.880 --> 0:12:35.920 I just always knew I didn't want them? Yes, but 0:12:36.000 --> 0:12:39.880 I never said that because it seemed like something that 0:12:39.920 --> 0:12:43.199 I was gonna have to do regardless. But I mean, 0:12:43.240 --> 0:12:46.280 even when when I remember being little, being presented with 0:12:46.320 --> 0:12:50.680 a baby doll and being like, oh no, that's so 0:12:50.800 --> 0:12:54.719 much work. Yeah, I don't want to. I don't want 0:12:54.720 --> 0:12:56.800 to fuss with this thing. I got stuff to do. 0:12:57.040 --> 0:12:59.440 I've got to go make mud pies. And you know, 0:13:00.200 --> 0:13:03.440 I never wanted them, but I liked barbies. I liked 0:13:03.559 --> 0:13:05.120 you too. She's a career woman. 0:13:05.360 --> 0:13:05.720 Me too. 0:13:05.760 --> 0:13:07.600 I like it's a career woman exactly. 0:13:07.760 --> 0:13:10.240 I had never contemplated this though, but you're absolutely right. 0:13:10.240 --> 0:13:13.280 That's how I felt about like playing mommy and baby 0:13:13.320 --> 0:13:15.920 and with little babies. Like I liked cabbage Patch kids 0:13:15.960 --> 0:13:18.079 because they seemed like they had a little personality. 0:13:18.600 --> 0:13:22.439 Yes, you know what I mean, Like they could change 0:13:22.480 --> 0:13:24.400 their own diaper probably. 0:13:24.120 --> 0:13:25.960 Yeah, And they were like you could get one with 0:13:26.000 --> 0:13:28.240 a dimple and green eyes and brown hair, like you 0:13:28.240 --> 0:13:30.480 could kind of design them or they you know, like 0:13:30.559 --> 0:13:33.240 pick out the ones you had freckles. But they seemed 0:13:33.240 --> 0:13:36.240 like they had a little spunk. They weren't babies, you know. 0:13:36.320 --> 0:13:38.480 I remember getting a pre MEI cabbage Patch. I'm like, 0:13:38.480 --> 0:13:39.960 I don't want this. I want the one with the 0:13:40.000 --> 0:13:42.199 long brown hair, the green eyes and the dimple. 0:13:42.679 --> 0:13:46.040 Yeah, that's what I prease. They they're too they're too young. 0:13:46.120 --> 0:13:48.640 You gotta be fussing with them all the time. Every 0:13:48.640 --> 0:13:51.600 two hours. You gotta feed them. No, thank you want 0:13:51.640 --> 0:13:52.319 nothing to do with that. 0:13:52.679 --> 0:13:55.480 The other thing, though, is what we need to tell 0:13:55.520 --> 0:13:58.040 people who are listening to this, as we have so 0:13:58.160 --> 0:14:01.840 many female listeners, and I'm sure many of them are on, 0:14:02.600 --> 0:14:05.200 you know, thinking and deliberating about whether or not they 0:14:05.200 --> 0:14:08.640 want to be a mother when you choose not to, 0:14:08.840 --> 0:14:10.840 because people go, am I going to regret this decision? 0:14:11.360 --> 0:14:14.440 I don't know anyone that hasn't had a child that 0:14:14.640 --> 0:14:18.120 sits around and goes. I wish I had one. Anyone 0:14:18.160 --> 0:14:22.400 that is child free goes. Thank god, I got through 0:14:22.440 --> 0:14:25.280 that area of time, that period of time where I 0:14:25.320 --> 0:14:30.760 could have been vulnerable to possibly dislodging a child. I 0:14:30.960 --> 0:14:33.960 did not fall for fall prey to that, and I 0:14:34.120 --> 0:14:36.280 made it through the tunnel that where I am no 0:14:36.360 --> 0:14:39.440 longer able or viable to have one, like I feel 0:14:39.440 --> 0:14:40.080 like whoop. 0:14:40.240 --> 0:14:41.320 I got through that test. 0:14:41.920 --> 0:14:44.680 Yep, yep. And then I for a while I looked 0:14:44.680 --> 0:14:49.240 at like Diane Keaton who adopted at fifty, and I think, well, 0:14:49.320 --> 0:14:50.880 is that an option? No? It isn't. 0:14:50.920 --> 0:14:52.400 No, No, it isn't. 0:14:52.640 --> 0:14:56.560 And I love kids and I love that people want 0:14:56.600 --> 0:14:58.720 to have kids. I don't judge that, but boy do 0:14:58.840 --> 0:15:02.040 I feel judged when I tell people, yeah, that was 0:15:02.080 --> 0:15:04.840 never in the plan, never wanted them. I've been told, 0:15:06.000 --> 0:15:09.920 you know, oh, well, that's really selfish. It's really selfish 0:15:09.960 --> 0:15:11.880 of you not to have them, and it's like, wild, 0:15:12.160 --> 0:15:14.360 I don't think it is. I think it's selfish to 0:15:14.960 --> 0:15:17.480 have them because you think you're supposed to and then 0:15:17.560 --> 0:15:21.880 resent them, yeah, and turn them into an unfunny comedy 0:15:22.000 --> 0:15:24.680 routine that a lot of people do. Oh yeah, I don't. 0:15:24.920 --> 0:15:27.680 I think that's repugnant, but whatever. 0:15:27.920 --> 0:15:29.880 I think it's selfish to bring a child into this 0:15:29.960 --> 0:15:32.360 world where you're not one hundred and fifty percent down 0:15:32.400 --> 0:15:34.760 with the idea of what's going to happen, Like, if 0:15:34.760 --> 0:15:37.360 there's any doubt at all, then it's not for you. 0:15:37.360 --> 0:15:40.360 You have to yearn for something the way that we 0:15:40.400 --> 0:15:43.520 would yearn for our careers, the way that we yearn 0:15:43.600 --> 0:15:46.160 to be creative. You have to have that longing and 0:15:46.200 --> 0:15:48.960 that yearning with regard to children, and if it's not there, 0:15:49.440 --> 0:15:50.840 then I think that's your answer. 0:15:51.360 --> 0:15:55.640 Yeah exactly. And I see people going through IVF and 0:15:55.680 --> 0:15:57.560 doing all these things and it's like, well, I hope 0:15:57.600 --> 0:16:00.360 it happens for you. You clearly want it so much much 0:16:01.400 --> 0:16:04.280 but I have never wanted it. Well, and Greg and 0:16:04.360 --> 0:16:07.080 I you know, we've been married twenty nine years, and 0:16:07.160 --> 0:16:09.480 we would check in with each other. You good, you 0:16:09.480 --> 0:16:12.920 don't want any great and we've always been on the 0:16:12.960 --> 0:16:13.840 same page with it. 0:16:14.040 --> 0:16:16.600 Wow, twenty nine years, that's great. Yeah, and that's why 0:16:16.680 --> 0:16:18.960 you're still together, probably because you never had to be. 0:16:19.080 --> 0:16:21.000 I think so too. I think so too. 0:16:21.280 --> 0:16:23.600 What are you going to do for your thirtieth anniversary? 0:16:23.640 --> 0:16:25.000 Do you want to go to my house in MAJORCA. 0:16:25.040 --> 0:16:27.280 I'm offering it up for you to celebrate your thirtieth 0:16:27.320 --> 0:16:28.880 anniversary wedding anniversary. 0:16:29.000 --> 0:16:31.400 Oh my god, that's amazing. 0:16:31.800 --> 0:16:34.880 It'll obviously be I'll obviously Pepper and some other couples 0:16:34.880 --> 0:16:37.320 who are celebrating big milestone, so it can turn into 0:16:37.360 --> 0:16:39.680 a big swingers party because. 0:16:39.360 --> 0:16:40.200 I can't mark up. 0:16:40.520 --> 0:16:43.520 I leave well enough alone. 0:16:45.560 --> 0:16:48.080 That would be amazing. And we'll look at the view 0:16:48.320 --> 0:16:48.840 give us. 0:16:48.720 --> 0:16:51.800 Some serious nuggets of wisdoms or not so serious of 0:16:51.840 --> 0:16:55.160 why you have a successful marriage for thirty years, like 0:16:55.200 --> 0:16:56.320 what is the secret? 0:16:56.400 --> 0:16:58.200 What's your secret? 0:16:58.520 --> 0:17:04.600 Well, my secret, my quote unquote secret is before I 0:17:04.680 --> 0:17:07.760 say anything critical of him, I look at myself and 0:17:08.040 --> 0:17:11.959 find out that I'm not so delightful either, So I 0:17:12.040 --> 0:17:15.360 try not to criticize him before I see what I'm 0:17:15.359 --> 0:17:19.480 doing wrong, and I'm usually doing something terrible. I'm a 0:17:19.520 --> 0:17:21.680 pain in the ass. He's very how are you? 0:17:21.800 --> 0:17:22.640 How are you a pain anything? 0:17:22.720 --> 0:17:26.920 Well, you know, listen, I'm an actor, I'm very needy, 0:17:27.359 --> 0:17:32.520 I'm moody, I'm a perfectionist, and I have a short temper, 0:17:32.760 --> 0:17:38.160 whereas Greg is nothing but pure sweetness, is very slow 0:17:38.200 --> 0:17:42.800 to anger, and it is just the most supportive person 0:17:42.840 --> 0:17:46.200 in the world. So if there's anything wrong in our marriage, 0:17:46.240 --> 0:17:49.360 it's usually my fault and I'm willing to admit that. 0:17:49.840 --> 0:17:52.480 I can admit it, and I think admitting it is 0:17:52.520 --> 0:17:56.280 one thing. And also when he does something sweet, I 0:17:56.359 --> 0:17:58.960 tell the whole wide world. So I brag on him 0:17:58.960 --> 0:18:02.480 a lot because he is really like, I couldn't do 0:18:02.600 --> 0:18:05.080 anything that I do if I didn't have that man. 0:18:05.440 --> 0:18:09.000 He's the only one who ever encouraged me to go 0:18:09.119 --> 0:18:12.120 into acting. The rest of my family and friends were 0:18:12.160 --> 0:18:16.800 just like, oh, this is embarrassing, don't do that. Well, 0:18:16.800 --> 0:18:20.400 he was right. Apparently it worked out. He was right. 0:18:20.440 --> 0:18:22.720 But like, he's the one who wakes me up in 0:18:22.760 --> 0:18:25.159