WEBVTT - Ep 15: The Friend 0:00:06.120 --> 0:00:13.520 Novel. This show contains adult material and swearing. You have 0:00:13.640 --> 0:00:17.160 been warned. If I was a man, I would suck 0:00:17.200 --> 0:00:18.000 Bond Dick for sure. 0:00:18.239 --> 0:00:22.720 Hey you can, you wouldn't be getting I'm really flexible. Well, Grace, 0:00:22.760 --> 0:00:24.239 that's a lot of information. 0:00:27.160 --> 0:00:27.639 Around me. 0:00:27.680 --> 0:00:34.160 I'm a savage. 0:00:34.280 --> 0:00:36.080 Are you bored of modern dating? 0:00:36.320 --> 0:00:38.839 Meeting the same people from the same apps in the 0:00:38.880 --> 0:00:41.599 same bar You've only chosen because it's close to your 0:00:41.640 --> 0:00:44.920 house and you can make your usual quick getaway. It's 0:00:44.960 --> 0:00:47.400 time to change the narrative on how we find love. 0:00:47.520 --> 0:00:50.320 It's time to start looking for love in all the 0:00:50.400 --> 0:00:55.440 wrong places. I'm going on a wild dating adventure, only 0:00:55.480 --> 0:00:57.960 picking people who are the total opposite of my type. 0:00:58.040 --> 0:01:01.800 And after twenty eight of these days in two months. 0:01:01.720 --> 0:01:03.680 Will I find that special someone? 0:01:03.960 --> 0:01:06.720 Or Well, this experiment proved that I should just give 0:01:06.800 --> 0:01:08.440 up on dating altogether. 0:01:09.480 --> 0:01:10.679 It's time to find out. 0:01:12.240 --> 0:01:15.680 I'm Grace Campbell and this is twenty eight dates later. 0:01:19.959 --> 0:01:22.520 Grace, how are you, hiver Oz, I'm good? 0:01:22.520 --> 0:01:23.040 How are you? 0:01:23.280 --> 0:01:25.680 I'm very good. I'm excited to hear about this week's date. 0:01:25.959 --> 0:01:28.640 So this is someone and I don't really think me 0:01:28.680 --> 0:01:30.120 and this person ever actually went on a date to 0:01:30.160 --> 0:01:32.280 be honest, we were just friends and then just got 0:01:32.319 --> 0:01:34.360 with each other like once after a night out. 0:01:34.800 --> 0:01:37.680 But I wanted to sort of try it see what 0:01:37.760 --> 0:01:38.280 it was like. 0:01:38.400 --> 0:01:41.920 I guess because in my life right, I have kind 0:01:41.920 --> 0:01:43.760 of messed up quite a lot of relationships with my 0:01:43.840 --> 0:01:47.039 male friends by having sex with them. And it's something 0:01:47.120 --> 0:01:49.720 like all my gay friends are so good at like 0:01:49.760 --> 0:01:51.680 sleeping with each other and it not really like causing 0:01:51.680 --> 0:01:53.400 a s rip. I feel like there's something about straight 0:01:53.480 --> 0:01:56.720 men that once you've had sex with them, they either 0:01:56.920 --> 0:01:59.040 presume that you're in love with them and that when 0:01:59.080 --> 0:02:01.480 you're just still trying to be friend, they're like, whoa, whoa, 0:02:01.520 --> 0:02:03.240 whoa have you ever gotten with a friend? 0:02:03.560 --> 0:02:05.360 Yeah? When I was younger, when I was a teenager, 0:02:05.400 --> 0:02:08.120 I started going out with my best friend and it 0:02:08.240 --> 0:02:11.840 totally ruined our friendship. Really yeah, So I learned the 0:02:11.919 --> 0:02:15.480 lesson quite young, like that if you have a platonic friendship, 0:02:15.919 --> 0:02:17.519 just keep it that way or you're going to ruin it. 0:02:17.560 --> 0:02:19.359 And now, look, I that's just my experience. I could 0:02:19.400 --> 0:02:22.400 be totally wrong. I do know friends who've gotten with 0:02:22.480 --> 0:02:25.480 friends and they've still remained friends, But I don't know 0:02:25.639 --> 0:02:27.760 is one of them feeling something and the other one 0:02:27.840 --> 0:02:30.560 isn't Is it always gonna have an underlining awkwardness? 0:02:30.800 --> 0:02:32.640 Do you never really know where it's going to go. 0:02:32.760 --> 0:02:35.600 Like I've slept with friends in the past and thought, 0:02:35.680 --> 0:02:38.640 this is like so casual, but then something will happen 0:02:38.760 --> 0:02:41.240 where then one of us will get with someone else 0:02:41.280 --> 0:02:43.680 and it will trigger a jealousy. Yeah, and then it 0:02:43.680 --> 0:02:47.880 becomes complicated because like you're still friends, and so I've 0:02:47.960 --> 0:02:50.120 sort of always vowed like, you know, I used to 0:02:50.120 --> 0:02:52.600 have so many male friends. And my mum said this 0:02:52.600 --> 0:02:53.799 the other day. She's just like, you used to have 0:02:53.919 --> 0:02:56.120 so many male friends, and what happened? I was, like 0:02:56.560 --> 0:02:58.440 I had sex with most of them, and then it 0:02:58.520 --> 0:03:00.520 just became complicated and then we just talking. 0:03:00.639 --> 0:03:02.600 I wonder what the percentage is, Like I'd love to 0:03:02.639 --> 0:03:04.920 a poll, like, have you ever got with a friend 0:03:05.600 --> 0:03:07.239 hooked up and it's gone back to normal? 0:03:07.440 --> 0:03:08.840 You should do that on your Instagram. 0:03:08.919 --> 0:03:11.679 You should do that because if, in like the case 0:03:11.680 --> 0:03:13.840 of a miracle, neither of you actually like each other 0:03:13.840 --> 0:03:16.320 but you can have sex, that's great. The problem is 0:03:16.360 --> 0:03:18.400 when you're friends with someone and you already have this 0:03:18.440 --> 0:03:21.840 foundation of friendship, it feels more intimate because when you 0:03:21.919 --> 0:03:23.960 geting with each other, you're like, we're already friends, we 0:03:24.040 --> 0:03:25.320 already know each other really well. 0:03:25.360 --> 0:03:26.640 It's not like a one like stand. 0:03:26.800 --> 0:03:29.679 Another interesting topic like obviously i'd love to find out 0:03:29.720 --> 0:03:32.519 like can you return to a platonic relationship after having 0:03:32.960 --> 0:03:36.200 like very built into sexual relations with your friend or 0:03:37.560 --> 0:03:40.400 you know. The other question is like would you tell 0:03:40.520 --> 0:03:43.120 a new partner if you have casually hooked up with 0:03:43.160 --> 0:03:46.040 your friend a lot of times even though nothing's going on. 0:03:46.360 --> 0:03:47.440 Well, this is an issue. 0:03:47.440 --> 0:03:50.840 In my last relationship, like this, this was an issue 0:03:50.840 --> 0:03:55.240 because we would go out and like, you know, I 0:03:55.280 --> 0:03:56.960 would sort of say, by the way, I've had sex 0:03:57.000 --> 0:03:59.840 with him, And then it got to this point where 0:03:59.840 --> 0:04:01.440 he was like, you've had sex with like all of 0:04:01.440 --> 0:04:03.280 your friends And I was like, because I at the 0:04:03.320 --> 0:04:05.440 time was sort of twenty five and still my main 0:04:05.480 --> 0:04:08.040 friendship group was my like school friends, and I was like, yeah, 0:04:08.080 --> 0:04:09.720 I have, but like it's not that deep, like I 0:04:09.720 --> 0:04:11.880 don't really you know, I had no feelings for any 0:04:11.920 --> 0:04:13.840 of them. Yeah, But then it became this sort of 0:04:13.920 --> 0:04:15.520 thing where then I then made it a thing where 0:04:15.560 --> 0:04:17.440 I was like I want to know, like, you know, 0:04:17.600 --> 0:04:19.839 if we're out and we're with someone that you've gotten with, 0:04:20.320 --> 0:04:22.159 And then it became this thing where we would almost 0:04:22.240 --> 0:04:24.200 sort of like do it to like show off to 0:04:24.279 --> 0:04:26.880 each other of like, yeah, how many of our friends 0:04:26.880 --> 0:04:27.480 we've gotten with? 0:04:27.640 --> 0:04:29.400 So Gray, He's like, after all the past things that 0:04:29.440 --> 0:04:31.520 have happened, and considering you don't have as many mare 0:04:31.600 --> 0:04:34.520 friends anymore, would you consider like dating a friend? 0:04:34.760 --> 0:04:37.960 Well, I did it for this episode, so tell me 0:04:38.000 --> 0:04:40.280 about them. I've known him for a while, like we'd 0:04:40.320 --> 0:04:42.800 like matched on a dating app years ago and then 0:04:43.040 --> 0:04:46.159 never met. And then I think a year or so after, 0:04:46.320 --> 0:04:48.640 like we followed each other on Instagram or something like that, 0:04:48.680 --> 0:04:50.840 and then I remember he was like I really recognize you, 0:04:50.880 --> 0:04:52.960 and I was like, yeah, it's because we matched on 0:04:53.120 --> 0:04:55.560 hinge like a year ago, Like that's where you remember 0:04:55.560 --> 0:04:56.000 me from. 0:04:56.040 --> 0:04:57.440 So is that how you became friends? 0:04:57.720 --> 0:04:57.960 Yeah? 0:04:57.960 --> 0:05:00.360 And then we just like became friends like through that, 0:05:00.440 --> 0:05:02.800 And I didn't really think it was ever anything more 0:05:02.839 --> 0:05:03.080 than that. 0:05:03.120 --> 0:05:06.000 But so you did meet on the premise of dating. 0:05:05.680 --> 0:05:08.840 That we did originally and then like after that didn't 0:05:08.920 --> 0:05:11.600 if that makes sense, because we'd like naturally dating out 0:05:11.600 --> 0:05:14.640 like a year before. It was also kind of awkward 0:05:14.800 --> 0:05:17.080 because I hadn't seen him for a while, and like 0:05:17.120 --> 0:05:20.200 he doesn't live in London, and I think he was 0:05:20.200 --> 0:05:22.279 really nervous about the fact that we were being recorded. 0:05:22.600 --> 0:05:28.479 Yeah, so how does this actually work? 0:05:28.520 --> 0:05:30.440 Do you come preprepared if any questions? 0:05:30.520 --> 0:05:32.080 Or No? I have really good chat? 0:05:32.640 --> 0:05:35.279 Oh Jesus right, Oh. 0:05:34.760 --> 0:05:36.560 No, I don't do. Do you think I am a good chat? 0:05:36.600 --> 0:05:37.080 Do you know me? 0:05:37.960 --> 0:05:41.000 Well? I mean for this side of Lamb Jack, I 0:05:41.040 --> 0:05:41.920 don't know. 0:05:42.480 --> 0:05:43.920 But do you not think I have a good chat? 0:05:44.080 --> 0:05:45.000 I do? I do? 0:05:45.360 --> 0:05:47.080 I do? 0:05:47.960 --> 0:05:51.960 And you feed bad me? 0:05:52.000 --> 0:05:58.520 Do you think I'm a good conversation? List be honest speaking? 0:05:58.720 --> 0:05:59.120 No, I do? 0:05:59.240 --> 0:05:59.479 I do? 0:06:00.120 --> 0:06:00.400 I do. 0:06:01.760 --> 0:06:02.120 That's it. 0:06:02.960 --> 0:06:04.599 I'm not I'm not going to get myself in trouble? 0:06:04.680 --> 0:06:07.159 Am I So? 0:06:07.800 --> 0:06:09.560 Well? Again? 0:06:10.440 --> 0:06:11.760 What is pretty terrible outside? 0:06:18.440 --> 0:06:20.440 I find it hard to believe you guys ever had 0:06:20.440 --> 0:06:22.040 a vibe. I'm being quite honest. 0:06:22.320 --> 0:06:24.840 Really, I felt that made me sad because I think 0:06:24.839 --> 0:06:25.880 we get along really. 0:06:25.640 --> 0:06:27.520 Well, Like all we doing with together is laugh. 0:06:28.080 --> 0:06:30.040 I kind of felt like that was so awkward to 0:06:30.080 --> 0:06:30.479 listen to. 0:06:30.960 --> 0:06:35.080 Really, I just completely that I just disagree, Like all 0:06:35.120 --> 0:06:36.640 I do when I'm with him is just take the 0:06:36.640 --> 0:06:37.279 bit out of him. 0:06:37.480 --> 0:06:43.039 But that is your what I've learned your style of communication, conversation. 0:06:44.480 --> 0:06:45.080 I'm bad. 0:06:45.240 --> 0:06:47.120 You could never go out with someone who like took 0:06:47.160 --> 0:06:48.000 things personally. 0:06:48.680 --> 0:06:50.320 I know, but can I tell you? 0:06:50.440 --> 0:06:53.080 Yeah, like it is very much like me and my 0:06:53.120 --> 0:06:55.159 friends and my family. If you can't take a joke, 0:06:55.200 --> 0:06:57.719 you should not spend time with us. Yeah, you're always 0:06:57.720 --> 0:06:59.080 going to leave feeling offended. 0:06:59.360 --> 0:07:01.520 So you love to rip the piss out of people, 0:07:01.560 --> 0:07:05.599 but also you want to be what's that word praised? Praise, 0:07:05.680 --> 0:07:09.080 but there's another word affirmed affirmed. Yeah, you need to 0:07:09.120 --> 0:07:10.360 be friend constantly. 0:07:10.680 --> 0:07:11.040 I do. 0:07:11.200 --> 0:07:15.960 I'm I'm really I'm really needy. We really need He wasn't. 0:07:15.800 --> 0:07:18.520 Really giving you any kind of feedback. He was actually, 0:07:18.560 --> 0:07:21.240 I don't know the correctrum nagging to call it, but 0:07:21.280 --> 0:07:23.880 he was kind of like almost making you feel like 0:07:24.480 --> 0:07:25.080 it was bad. 0:07:25.520 --> 0:07:28.480 Yeah, I think he was joking. This was a stressful day, 0:07:28.720 --> 0:07:31.280 like in terms of the recording. I had a gig 0:07:31.440 --> 0:07:34.040 in this bar, and like timing wise, we had to 0:07:34.040 --> 0:07:36.040 do it in the bar of the venue that I 0:07:36.080 --> 0:07:38.960 was about to do again. And it's one of the 0:07:39.000 --> 0:07:41.040 only ones I felt really conscious that I was being 0:07:41.080 --> 0:07:43.280 recorded because it was with someone I know that makes 0:07:43.320 --> 0:07:45.040 sense like all of the other days, it's like, I 0:07:45.080 --> 0:07:45.560 don't know you. 0:07:45.640 --> 0:07:46.400 I'm not really thinking. 0:07:46.440 --> 0:07:47.920 I'm more in the moment, whereas this I think we 0:07:47.960 --> 0:07:50.320 both felt quite self conscious. And then we're in this 0:07:50.360 --> 0:07:55.640 bar where I was getting like recognized quite a lot. 0:07:56.600 --> 0:07:57.160 That's fine. 0:07:57.560 --> 0:08:01.120 Are you coming to the you know that's where you 0:08:01.480 --> 0:08:03.120 because I have that vibe. 0:08:04.840 --> 0:08:06.880 That's right that you're coming, because I was just worried 0:08:06.920 --> 0:08:11.160 that there wasn't going to be young women. Okay, great, way, 0:08:11.680 --> 0:08:13.239 it'll be really fun. 0:08:14.360 --> 0:08:16.400 It's through the bat. 0:08:16.920 --> 0:08:17.320 Oh my god. 0:08:17.400 --> 0:08:18.880 That like why is she saying? 0:08:23.760 --> 0:08:24.720 Does this happen a lot? 0:08:25.520 --> 0:08:26.320 Are you asking me that? 0:08:26.440 --> 0:08:26.800 Genuinely? 0:08:30.160 --> 0:08:33.400 Is that joke? I can't go anywhere in London? 0:08:34.800 --> 0:08:38.240 So what do you think? Like obviously you're talking there 0:08:38.240 --> 0:08:42.520 about like are you a good conversationist? Like is he 0:08:42.600 --> 0:08:44.760 a good conversationist? Because like I didn't really get to 0:08:44.800 --> 0:08:46.880 hear much of him there. I just heard him firm 0:08:46.920 --> 0:08:53.120 me you you like me? So like from off the dates, 0:08:53.120 --> 0:08:56.440 like you go in deep your questions on dates straight 0:08:56.480 --> 0:08:59.400 away you were asking some juicy things that I'm like, 0:08:59.480 --> 0:09:01.719 I wouldn't even ask them a year into relationship. I like, 0:09:01.800 --> 0:09:04.960 is that appropriate? You're like, You're like wild, You're like, so, 0:09:05.000 --> 0:09:07.560 who was your last bang? Did you write anyone last night? 0:09:08.440 --> 0:09:08.679 You had? 0:09:08.800 --> 0:09:09.120 Reason? 0:09:11.760 --> 0:09:14.240 Yeah, exactly, so like did you did you get into 0:09:14.240 --> 0:09:14.679 any of that? 0:09:15.440 --> 0:09:17.240 Let's let's be cause I think at one point we 0:09:17.280 --> 0:09:23.480 were talking about swallowing your own com. 0:09:21.679 --> 0:09:22.680 Have you tried drawings? 0:09:23.720 --> 0:09:24.000 No? 0:09:24.840 --> 0:09:26.600 I think I would if I was the man, just 0:09:26.600 --> 0:09:26.959 to see what. 0:09:27.800 --> 0:09:31.520 No, I'm not that curious. 0:09:31.559 --> 0:09:35.920 Do you have good reviews? I've never asked really pretty 0:09:36.000 --> 0:09:36.760 terribly feedback. 0:09:36.800 --> 0:09:40.480 I've told you this, you should last night? 0:09:40.600 --> 0:09:43.880 FI. No, mainly enough, I don't think guys are very 0:09:43.880 --> 0:09:45.360 open about tasting their own cum. 0:09:45.440 --> 0:09:46.120 But maybe I should. 0:09:46.720 --> 0:09:49.439 Maybe I should start like pulling my friends. Yeah, if 0:09:49.480 --> 0:09:51.400 you were a lad, you'd have a questionare out the 0:09:51.400 --> 0:09:53.240 side of your bed, and when someone we finished, you'd 0:09:53.240 --> 0:09:56.360 be like, can you just fill that out? Please? That's like, 0:09:56.559 --> 0:09:58.600 I'm sorry, that's what I know. That what you do. 0:09:59.200 --> 0:10:01.800 Also, he was the man, I would suck my own 0:10:01.800 --> 0:10:02.360 dick for sure. 0:10:02.679 --> 0:10:03.679 Hey you can't, you can? 0:10:03.800 --> 0:10:06.000 You wouldn't be I'm really flexible. 0:10:06.840 --> 0:10:12.640 Well, well, Grace, that's a lot of information. I don't 0:10:12.640 --> 0:10:14.359 even know that conversation. 0:10:14.720 --> 0:10:17.400 I think because I have a stand up routine about 0:10:17.400 --> 0:10:21.680 how you can sort of assess the physical health of 0:10:21.679 --> 0:10:23.199 a man by the taste of their car. 0:10:24.000 --> 0:10:25.000 Yeah, is that a joke? 0:10:25.400 --> 0:10:27.520 No, it's for real, Like men of smoke a lot, 0:10:27.880 --> 0:10:29.239 their com is disgusting. 0:10:29.559 --> 0:10:33.360 Sorry. Sorry, Okay, So the next guy, if anyone's dating you, 0:10:33.640 --> 0:10:37.160 have a health check. No, I don't need to help check. 0:10:37.200 --> 0:10:38.920 I just wanted to come and then I can tell. 0:10:39.080 --> 0:10:44.720 You're like some colductor. You're like, I think you don't 0:10:44.760 --> 0:10:45.319 taste right. 0:10:45.559 --> 0:10:47.920 I once dated a guy and there was something so 0:10:48.040 --> 0:10:51.640 weird about his calm, like disgusting, like disgusting, and then 0:10:51.679 --> 0:10:53.720 he found out that he was really deficient in bittermin 0:10:53.760 --> 0:10:56.720 d and then he started taking supplements and his com 0:10:56.760 --> 0:10:57.360 tasted better. 0:10:58.040 --> 0:11:01.559 Wow, grace, you should you should become like it should. 0:11:01.400 --> 0:11:07.120 Be like a savant, like I'm a psychic. I'll take 0:11:07.160 --> 0:11:08.560 your carmel, I'll tell you your future. 0:11:21.720 --> 0:11:22.959 Have you faked an orgasm? 0:11:23.120 --> 0:11:23.440 No? 0:11:23.720 --> 0:11:27.800 Really no, I definitely wish that things have been shorter 0:11:27.880 --> 0:11:29.040 than well. 0:11:29.240 --> 0:11:30.079 I mean I've stopped. 0:11:30.640 --> 0:11:33.520 Yeah, you stop take it, yeah, and be like, okay, 0:11:34.120 --> 0:11:34.720 I've done it. 0:11:35.440 --> 0:11:37.800 I need I need a naugh It's. 0:11:38.280 --> 0:11:41.680 You know, like loads of men take orgasms. How could 0:11:41.760 --> 0:11:43.000 you the conduct. 0:11:44.480 --> 0:11:46.520 Where do you fucking meet these people? 0:11:47.040 --> 0:11:48.760 People tell me? Crazy ship? 0:11:48.920 --> 0:11:51.760 What has that happened to you? No? Well, probably like 0:11:52.080 --> 0:11:54.600 now I'm paranoid has That's why I'm asking you. 0:11:54.679 --> 0:11:57.559 I'm going back, I've ever had taxes? Like? 0:11:57.600 --> 0:11:58.120 Did you have fake? 0:11:58.679 --> 0:12:01.040 Is this what this whole day in series fine about? 0:12:04.480 --> 0:12:06.640 Can I just say, Rod's your face when you heard 0:12:06.640 --> 0:12:09.040 that thing? When I said men fake orgasms? You did 0:12:09.080 --> 0:12:09.719 go a bit like. 0:12:09.760 --> 0:12:12.920 Whoa, Yeah, I was like what it always shocks people? 0:12:13.240 --> 0:12:14.120 One in four men? 0:12:14.360 --> 0:12:16.640 Yeah, Like I enough to price. Look, we've all been there, 0:12:16.640 --> 0:12:18.680 We've all faked orgasms because we're like, we're just over 0:12:18.760 --> 0:12:21.240 this right now. I just couldn't be arrest doing this 0:12:21.320 --> 0:12:25.400 any longer. But can I just say, like, I think 0:12:25.440 --> 0:12:28.920 it's funny thinking of them faking it because it's like acting. 0:12:28.960 --> 0:12:32.120 It's like, oh no, this is what I'm saying. 0:12:32.200 --> 0:12:35.120 Right, So I now know when I'm having sex with 0:12:35.160 --> 0:12:37.760 a man and they come, I'm like, you cannot be faking, 0:12:37.760 --> 0:12:39.840 because if you were faking, you would not sound like that, 0:12:39.960 --> 0:12:43.000 Like men sound so unfavorable when they orgasm. Not to 0:12:43.000 --> 0:12:45.080 give everyone a complex, but like now when I have 0:12:45.160 --> 0:12:47.680 sex with a guy or like listen to the sounds America, 0:12:47.679 --> 0:12:49.880 and I'm like, that was a real orgasm because they 0:12:49.920 --> 0:12:52.840 sounded like they were crying and wanted to call their mom, 0:12:53.080 --> 0:12:54.920 Like that was the vibe that they were giving me. 0:12:55.200 --> 0:12:57.440 It's funny, like I've keep saying to my friends, like 0:12:57.520 --> 0:12:59.679 this knowledge that men fake orgasms has not been good 0:12:59.720 --> 0:13:02.840 for my like anxiety. Yeah, I just have to trust 0:13:02.840 --> 0:13:04.840 the process and trust it when they're making these like 0:13:04.920 --> 0:13:07.319 baby sounds that they are fully legitimately orgasmic. 0:13:07.480 --> 0:13:09.959 Yeah. And you know what, whenever I fake an orrialism, 0:13:10.040 --> 0:13:12.720 it's not because I'm like, oh, this isn't good. It's 0:13:12.760 --> 0:13:15.200 more like I'm not in the zone. I think that's 0:13:15.240 --> 0:13:15.560 the thing. 0:13:15.600 --> 0:13:17.600 And like I just feel like there should be like 0:13:17.640 --> 0:13:20.400 an easier way of saying that without having to fake it. 0:13:20.480 --> 0:13:23.040 Because that's why women fake orgasms so much, is because 0:13:23.040 --> 0:13:26.679 we are all worried that we're going to offend someone 0:13:26.960 --> 0:13:29.520 if we say really sorry, like I'm not gonna come. 0:13:29.559 --> 0:13:31.520 You're worried that they're going to like take it personally, 0:13:32.080 --> 0:13:33.600 and so that's why we fake it. But if we 0:13:33.640 --> 0:13:35.520 could just like more easily say, like, by the way, 0:13:35.559 --> 0:13:37.040 like the end of sex doesn't always have to be 0:13:37.240 --> 0:13:38.600 like both of us coming like or. 0:13:38.760 --> 0:13:40.880 You know, as Grace would say, you could just come 0:13:40.920 --> 0:13:42.320 into a cup and we can I'll just drink it 0:13:42.400 --> 0:13:44.600 and check your health, you know. 0:13:44.760 --> 0:13:46.360 Or you could just go to the bin and then 0:13:46.400 --> 0:13:48.280 I'll go and try it with my mouth and then 0:13:48.280 --> 0:13:50.080 I'll come back in and I'll say you need to 0:13:50.080 --> 0:13:52.760 go to the doctor's mate. 0:13:57.040 --> 0:13:58.559 Basically, it just happens quite a lot. 0:13:58.559 --> 0:14:00.600 But like I'll forget them with my period, i won't say, 0:14:01.240 --> 0:14:02.679 or I'll come on with him when I'm coming to 0:14:03.800 --> 0:14:06.679 and then like the man will be like, oh, you're 0:14:06.800 --> 0:14:10.360 you're bleeding and I'm like okay, like so and then 0:14:10.559 --> 0:14:11.600 they're like I've done. 0:14:11.480 --> 0:14:13.719 It despite that, when it's like it's not. 0:14:14.120 --> 0:14:16.319 How an intention like you to say, are these people 0:14:16.360 --> 0:14:19.720 that this guy that I was seeing and like the 0:14:19.720 --> 0:14:21.880 first time he was like, it's cool, it's poor, no problem, 0:14:22.040 --> 0:14:24.000 no problem, And the second time he was like, I 0:14:24.040 --> 0:14:27.040 feel like you are doing your purpose. You're not telling 0:14:27.080 --> 0:14:30.400 me on purpose, and then they're just planned everywhere. I 0:14:30.440 --> 0:14:33.840 feel like people who react like either way, there's something 0:14:33.840 --> 0:14:34.880 wrong with you if. 0:14:34.720 --> 0:14:38.400 You react either way if you react or you react 0:14:38.440 --> 0:14:40.479 going oh, there's not real against me whatever. 0:14:43.600 --> 0:14:46.360 If you react like, oh my god, amazing blood, like 0:14:46.440 --> 0:14:50.840 I'm a vaire, Well that's a bad, terrible do you 0:14:50.880 --> 0:14:53.320 think Do you think because my friends keep saying to me, 0:14:53.440 --> 0:14:56.000 like I always talk about other people i've banged on 0:14:56.120 --> 0:14:56.880 first dates? 0:14:57.200 --> 0:14:58.080 Do you think that. 0:14:58.320 --> 0:15:02.400 I know you do? Do you think that's a bad 0:15:02.440 --> 0:15:05.680 thing to do? I look, from what I've learned from 0:15:06.040 --> 0:15:08.400 basically going on data to you, there's no right or wrong, 0:15:08.520 --> 0:15:09.760 like do you know what I mean? And it depends 0:15:09.760 --> 0:15:11.320 on the vibe of the other person, like it might 0:15:11.360 --> 0:15:14.120 open a conversation and create a good communication from the 0:15:14.160 --> 0:15:17.880 get go, but I suppose personally would I probably not, 0:15:18.600 --> 0:15:20.720 Like I would just use the first day to establish 0:15:20.880 --> 0:15:24.160 like do I have any similarities with this person? Like 0:15:24.280 --> 0:15:27.480 do I fancy? Then what I realized I'm a basic bitch. 0:15:29.560 --> 0:15:32.040 I'm like, I'm like, do you ever been to the zoo? 0:15:32.080 --> 0:15:34.400 What's your favorite daughter? And you're like, have you tasted 0:15:34.440 --> 0:15:36.600 your own comm I'm like, Jesus Christ, if I get 0:15:36.600 --> 0:15:39.360 back in with dating game, I'm like, such a loser, 0:15:39.480 --> 0:15:39.960 what the hell? 0:15:40.680 --> 0:15:43.400 But I feel like I'm I'm you know, it's a lot, 0:15:43.920 --> 0:15:46.560 and I'm aware of that, and I've never thought about 0:15:46.600 --> 0:15:48.360 it till I've done this and I've had to listen 0:15:48.400 --> 0:15:49.200 back to myself. 0:15:50.200 --> 0:15:53.360 But like that's your personality, Like why change your personality 0:15:53.640 --> 0:15:55.520 for a first date. You may well let people know 0:15:55.720 --> 0:15:57.520 kind of you know who you are and what your 0:15:57.520 --> 0:16:00.200 topics of conversation are like and what your interests are, 0:16:00.280 --> 0:16:02.720 and like, you know, you are extremely open person so 0:16:02.920 --> 0:16:04.360 I just don't think you should hide that. 0:16:04.640 --> 0:16:07.560 Just sometimes I think about this with like people like 0:16:07.600 --> 0:16:09.320 this where it's like a friend that I've gotten with 0:16:09.360 --> 0:16:11.560 in the past, and then like I'll like talk so 0:16:11.720 --> 0:16:14.560 openly about like other people that I'm getting with. I 0:16:14.600 --> 0:16:16.440 think that's the way of me establishing like it's not 0:16:16.480 --> 0:16:20.120 that deep. But I understand that maybe sometimes that can 0:16:20.160 --> 0:16:22.880 be like a bit jarring because I feel like I 0:16:22.960 --> 0:16:24.760 have a bit of a double standard, where like if 0:16:24.760 --> 0:16:26.720 he started talking like that about the people that he'd 0:16:26.760 --> 0:16:29.720 been getting with, I think I'd be like, WHOA, do you. 0:16:29.600 --> 0:16:33.600 Know what I mean, Grace, that's bad. You're like, you're like, 0:16:33.680 --> 0:16:35.440 I can do it, but if you do it, I'm 0:16:35.440 --> 0:16:40.080 going to search in the bin and make sure the 0:16:40.120 --> 0:16:43.120 whole clip there about being on your period having sex. 0:16:43.680 --> 0:16:45.560 I don't think there's stigma around that is there. 0:16:46.440 --> 0:16:47.200 I think there is. 0:16:47.280 --> 0:16:49.520 I'm sorry saying the person. I've literally been in a 0:16:49.560 --> 0:16:52.440 relationship since I was like fifteen, so i'd say, you know, 0:16:52.480 --> 0:16:54.400 like I think when you're in your relationship, there probably 0:16:54.480 --> 0:16:57.320 isn't Danny, Yes, it's like whatever, but like maybe there is, 0:16:57.400 --> 0:16:59.280 like when you're having one night to dance or just 0:16:59.320 --> 0:17:00.000 hooking up with people. 0:17:00.280 --> 0:17:02.040 I don't know, Like I have friends who don't have 0:17:02.040 --> 0:17:05.560 sex on my period of their long term partners. Mm hmm, 0:17:06.320 --> 0:17:08.840 but like you know what I mean, right, No, I know, 0:17:09.000 --> 0:17:10.720 but it's obviously it's crazy to me. 0:17:11.080 --> 0:17:14.040 That's a busy gal. You know, there's a few days 0:17:14.080 --> 0:17:17.040 a month or your first because you're you know, like busy. 0:17:17.600 --> 0:17:21.240 Yeah, it happens famously. You get really horny when you're 0:17:21.240 --> 0:17:21.760 in your period. 0:17:21.840 --> 0:17:24.560 Exactly was exactly to not make the most of. 0:17:24.560 --> 0:17:28.159 Like being really horning and also what's like what you 0:17:28.200 --> 0:17:31.080 have to like put some sheets in a washing machine 0:17:31.119 --> 0:17:34.120