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Speaker 2: I actually ruin my friendship with my boss, who I

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Speaker 2: deeply admire.

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Speaker 3: Ooh, what'd you do?

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Speaker 2: I twenty seven Mal. I'm close friends with my boss,

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Speaker 2: forty one Mel and we're both guys.

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Speaker 4: Just like us.

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Speaker 3: We're just a bunch of silly guys.

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Speaker 2: He's about twenty years older than me.

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Speaker 3: Stop that.

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Speaker 2: But we speak very candidly and openly about other employees

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Speaker 2: and unfair policies.

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Speaker 3: It's just like Riley and myself.

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Speaker 2: By the way, this comes from Throwaway All Day Today,

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Speaker 2: one hundred and eleven. And if you want to spend

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Speaker 2: your old stories where you go Keon.

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Speaker 3: Good at the r slash Okay Storytime separate it. I'm Riley,

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Speaker 3: I'm Keon.

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Speaker 2: And we're here to give good advice. Goofily, but we

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Speaker 2: don't have one.

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Speaker 3: Keon kind of nervous now all the answers, I have

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Speaker 3: some of the answers, and.

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Speaker 2: If they have anything they'd like to share more. What

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Speaker 2: do they gotta do?

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Speaker 3: Leave a comment below, oh, or come over here and

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Speaker 3: tell us yourselves.

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Speaker 2: As Op says, we played cards about every day. At lunch,

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Speaker 2: we talk about relationships and personal stuff. We even got

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Speaker 2: tattoos together. I always got a tattoo with John.

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Speaker 3: I have a tattoo with Dakota.

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Speaker 2: Well, we almost got the OK symbol.

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Speaker 3: Where would you get it?

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Speaker 2: You know, where where they didn't. I would only have

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Speaker 2: to put the K where oh was already there where

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Speaker 2: they didn't match. But he told me he'd always wanted

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Speaker 2: a tattoo, So I went with him and got on myself.

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Speaker 2: I think they're about to fall in love. I've been

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Speaker 2: working for him for three years and gave my notice yesterday.

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Speaker 2: I did get another job, and I let him know

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Speaker 2: that's why I was leaving. They were offering me significantly

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Speaker 2: higher pay. The boss is out all week, so unfortunately

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Speaker 2: I had to do this over the phone. Ooh, and

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Speaker 2: you guys have been that tight since.

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Speaker 3: Then, throw me a bone, boss guy.

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Speaker 2: I wasn't nervous, however, because on Friday he was telling

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Speaker 2: me how hard the job had come and how he

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Speaker 2: wanted to quit too, because he'd been offered another position

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Speaker 2: at a different company as well. He asked if he

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Speaker 2: should take it, and I told him to do what

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Speaker 2: makes him happy. The phone, he was fine, He even

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Speaker 2: congratulated me.

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Speaker 3: He starts doing you who would do?

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Speaker 4: Make me happy?

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Speaker 3: All right?

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Speaker 1: Bro?

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Speaker 2: Are you getting that too? What little romance?

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Speaker 3: No?

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Speaker 2: Really, they got tattoos together? Dude?

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Speaker 3: Does that mean Dakota and I? Oh?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, see exhibitor.

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Speaker 3: Matching tattoos with people?

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Speaker 2: Name another one.

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Speaker 3: His name's Dylan.

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Speaker 2: Didn't you and Dylan have a thing.

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Speaker 3: No.

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Speaker 2: On the phone, he was fine, he even congratulated me.

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Speaker 2: But then the text started coming in. He basically said

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Speaker 2: the timing was interesting. So Friday is going to be

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Speaker 2: my last day? He said I had been coming in

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Speaker 2: late and leaving early, which isn't true. I even found

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Speaker 2: my in and out times to prove it. Added that

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Speaker 2: my willingness to give such short notice tells him where

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Speaker 2: I am. I didn't give him tons of notice, only

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Speaker 2: ten days, but I said I would be able to

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Speaker 2: help out remotely for as long as they needed me,

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Speaker 2: the start date of my new job.

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Speaker 4: Op.

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Speaker 2: He sounds pretty flexible.

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Speaker 3: Oh, yeah.

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Speaker 2: Edit, that's eight working days and two weekend days.

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Speaker 3: I suck.

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Speaker 2: I know. My boss told me they were fine and

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Speaker 2: that the office didn't need me. No lunch, no send

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Speaker 2: off for my years of work, nothing. He's never been

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Speaker 2: this rude, short, or cruel with me. I've never received

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Speaker 2: a bad performance review or even a comment about my

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Speaker 2: commuter hours. I understand I probably could have quit better,

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Speaker 2: but we were friends on Friday, and I love the guy.

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Speaker 3: How much do you love him?

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Speaker 2: Okay? If you guys are saying it's a bromance, say

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Speaker 2: it now, it's a bromance. I want to see some

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Speaker 2: bromance vibes here.

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Speaker 3: Kiss.

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Speaker 2: He is so one I could see as a lifelong

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Speaker 2: mentor and friend. For him to dismiss me like this,

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Speaker 2: he must have been livid. I feel like such a knucklehead.

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Speaker 2: I know I heard his feelings, but it wasn't personal.

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Speaker 2: It's business, okay, right, I don't know. I don't know

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Speaker 2: for him.

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Speaker 3: To him, it was personal, it wasn't business.

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Speaker 2: How can I begin to repair this? And we have

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Speaker 2: a top comment here? I assume ten days means ten

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Speaker 2: working days aka two weeks. Oh no, it's a total

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Speaker 2: of ten days, two days or a weekend. It's short notice,

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Speaker 2: a combo of a three day weekend not being able

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Speaker 2: to get in touch with him while he took the

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Speaker 2: week off. Hope, he replied to a deleted comment. It

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Speaker 2: was my fault and I should have done better. I

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Speaker 2: had friends coming into town, and the full two weeks

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Speaker 2: caused me to miss most of their trip. They were

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Speaker 2: only here to come see me because I told them

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Speaker 2: I got unlimited paid time off, which I did, but

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Speaker 2: I hadn't gotten this job offer yet. So I figured,

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Speaker 2: since I'm closing on a big project in today's which

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Speaker 2: happened to be the day before they were in town,

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Speaker 2: that wouldn't be too big of a deal to save

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Speaker 2: off those four days. So he basically put in these

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Speaker 2: two days notice so he could spend like an extra

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Speaker 2: couple of days with his buds.

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Speaker 3: Oh he did this like very strategically. I like from

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Speaker 3: you know, taking your time off with like, oh, I

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Speaker 3: have all these six days whe I could take these

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Speaker 3: times these days off. Your strategy was sound and you

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Speaker 3: can't be upset about it. But the way you'd like,

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Speaker 3: you didn't tell your boss friend you know, which you've

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Speaker 3: known for a very long time, which I can see

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Speaker 3: his point of view, like, dude, that was like, I

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Speaker 3: get it, that was sleazy. But I'm also like your

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Speaker 3: friend you didn't tell me from like both perspectives are like,

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Speaker 3: I'm your friend but also your boss. Both perspectives not cool.

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Speaker 2: Bro, Yeah, it's weird. This is kind of weird. I

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Speaker 2: don't like it personally.

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Speaker 3: You could, you could have handled it a lot better.

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Speaker 3: I feel like you just like I got the job.

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Speaker 3: It was easy. I get I put ten days. That's

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Speaker 3: That's great, good luck.

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Speaker 2: It's weird, fine hams abound comments. You think maybe your

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Speaker 2: friend is mad, not because he's your boss and gave

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Speaker 2: short notice, but because you recently had a conversation about

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Speaker 2: his career path and did not use the opportunity to

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Speaker 2: be candid with him about your own current decision. I'd

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Speaker 2: be pretty pissed if I thought I was good friends

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Speaker 2: about a decision they absolutely had more time to contemplate.

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Speaker 2: But he says, this man is my boss. Even if

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Speaker 2: we were best homies in the world, he was my boss.

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Speaker 2: I could not tell my boss of my decision to

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Speaker 3: What I feel like, that's no. I feel like that's

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Speaker 3: a major excuse. I've been friends with my bosses before

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Speaker 3: and maybe the relationships different, But the fact that you

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Speaker 3: be like yeah, I feel like, come on, op, if

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Speaker 3: I'm happy for you take the job, especially when you

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Speaker 3: brought it up and you kind of like, oh, if

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Speaker 3: you got that, like that new job, would you take

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Speaker 3: it kind of thing. I don't know, you're kind of

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Speaker 2: It, very sleazy.

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Speaker 3: And he's my boss. I'm not gonna tell my boss

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Speaker 3: my boss friend, even though he's like a friend and

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Speaker 3: like we're tight. Couldn't you tell him about that?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? I know you had a significant pay raise. Could

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Speaker 2: you have like a negotiated anything.

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Speaker 3: I feel like anything should have been brought up, especially

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Speaker 3: if this you say you you and your boss were close.

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Speaker 3: Sean says, never say anything to your boss unless the

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Speaker 3: other job is ready. I understand, Ope.

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Speaker 2: I mean I get it. I think you should have

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Speaker 3: I feel like it depends on your relationship. But if

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Speaker 3: he's all like professional even then yeah, if it's.

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Speaker 2: Professional, it shouldn't be this big of a deal. I

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Speaker 2: know it's weird. Oh, I don't disagree, but was just

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Speaker 2: offering another possible reason for his odd reaction. I would

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Speaker 2: actually argue that this is exactly why people can't truly

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Speaker 2: buddy up to a boss. There is still a power

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Speaker 2: in balance. Sometimes short notice is all we can give.

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Speaker 2: But you seem to have offered a temporary solution to

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Speaker 2: ease the transition, while still frustrating and an inconvenience. He

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Speaker 2: seems to be taking this news extremely personally. That makes

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Speaker 2: me think he really doesn't understand the boundaries of what

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Speaker 2: your work friendship should have been. Hope. He says. I'm

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Speaker 2: in the office today and he won't even look at

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Speaker 2: me professionally, speak out loud, leaves every room I enter.

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Speaker 2: I feel like I'm in the twilight zone. And I

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Speaker 2: even looked up the past two months of my parking

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Speaker 2: history to make sure I was secretly slacking off. And

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Speaker 2: I've never left early on the same day I came

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Speaker 2: in late. I purposely come in early or leave late,

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Speaker 2: so all averages out. I really don't know what's going on,

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Speaker 2: and grub thirty four says, congrats on the new position.

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Speaker 2: Ten days is plenty of time when giving notice. You

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Speaker 2: didn't do anything wrong. I would assume your boss is

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Speaker 2: a little blind sided than hurt. When he's in the

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Speaker 2: office next. It would probably go a long way to

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Speaker 2: talk to him face to face and let him know

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Speaker 2: exactly what you said here. It's a good opportunity, and

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Speaker 2: don't be silly not to take it. Tell him how

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Speaker 2: you appreciated his guidance and leadership through the years and

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Speaker 2: really wanted to maintain the friendship. He might just have

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Speaker 2: hurt feelings. His reaction isn't okay, but having a conversation

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Speaker 2: about it might clear the air. Nope, he says, just

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Speaker 2: a quick update for you guys. My boss is actively

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Speaker 2: avoiding me, so the last meeting we will have is

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Speaker 2: the morning of my last day. Okay, update two days later.

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Speaker 2: I don't know. Is this too much?

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Speaker 3: I mean, ten days is more than enough. Is it

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Speaker 3: a blind side? Yes? Your boss friend being petty and

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Speaker 3: like weird about it?

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Speaker 2: Also, yes, forty one.

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Speaker 4: I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I would the fact that he's avoiding you. He can't

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Speaker 3: have a full and conversation with you because of the

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Speaker 3: Well, no, we'll give no, I'll give tell him like

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Speaker 2: If they don't get together or there's not some kind

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Speaker 2: So the day after my boss chewed me out over text,

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Speaker 2: checked out. He said, everyone noticed I was coming in late.

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Speaker 2: dropped it. He said our relationship had changed. He said,

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Speaker 2: No one, not my boss, not my co workers, ever

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Speaker 3: Again, It's just your boss friend is being a little

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Speaker 4: He spaghetti yeah.

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Speaker 2: I told my boss I had completed several significant projects

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Speaker 3: Bro, you were the only reason he liked coming to work.

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Speaker 2: That's yeah, honestly.

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Speaker 3: And if his only reason to come to work was

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what I'm saying here, And I'm guarantee you.

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Speaker 3: He doesn't want to tell you that or show you

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Speaker 3: to yeah, you just weren't performing well and I I

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Speaker 2: Why couldn't he just be for real about this? What

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Speaker 2: when I left for the final time, he hugged me,

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Speaker 2: I am left feeling really weird. I'm not sure I

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Speaker 2: Any idea, what should I do? We have a little

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Speaker 2: edit here, go get a beer.

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Speaker 3: I don't know, you can't hang out with your friend

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Speaker 2: Yeah, he's just your friend exactly.

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Speaker 3: You can go hang out with him, and you should.

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Speaker 3: You should celebrate him on his last day. Go into

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Speaker 3: he did for you. Yeah, I did this. My friend

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Speaker 3: was like at my old job, my last job before this,

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Speaker 3: I was I'm still great friends with my boss, but

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Speaker 3: you have to listen to what I say, I'd be

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Speaker 3: I'll do that. I'll do the job. And you know,

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Speaker 2: On, man, like yeah, you need that sometimes.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but yeah, so but I get it. It's a relationship.

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Speaker 3: But you hurt your friend at the end of the day,

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Speaker 3: But all is all, Like you guys are friends. Go

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Speaker 2: A drink, That's what I said.

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Speaker 3: Okay, you don't drink, Go go kiss.

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Speaker 2: No, I don't do that either. We I'm not supposed

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Speaker 3: Kaon, go cook something and make sure it's not dry.

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Speaker 2: I actually made really good potato soup this weekend.

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Speaker 2: Potatoes, celery, onions, carrot began ha ha cheese. Okay, I

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Speaker 2: Wow, y'all's amazing responses. I'm gonna try and get some

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Speaker 2: distance from the whole situation. Still feel really guilty, even

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Speaker 2: though I know it isn't my fault. Boss is a

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Speaker 2: weird man, I've got to comment here. Honestly, it's impossible

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Speaker 2: for anyone here to know if there was truth to

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Speaker 2: his feelings. Your update is kind of disjointed, but it

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Speaker 3: Which you were. It seems like you were like, I'm

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Speaker 2: I was like, coasting right now, No, are you quite quitting?

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Speaker 3: What would I be doing?

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Speaker 4: I don't know.

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Speaker 2: You can't kind of you can't really quite quit your.

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Speaker 3: No, exactly, I didn't. I mean also, I didn't quite

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Speaker 3: But like at the like the last weeks, I was like,

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Speaker 3: What are they going to do? Fire me? I'm leaving anyway.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I suggest doing some thinking on your work ethics.

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Speaker 2: Is there truth to what he said? I have a

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Speaker 2: She's checked out and is going through the motions. It's

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Speaker 2: and projecting, that's one thing, But there's some truth. Maybe

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Speaker 2: meditate on fresh approaches at your new job. Also, this

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Speaker 2: might just be my old fashioned approach, but I rarely

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Speaker 2: have seen blurring lines with bosses becoming good friends to

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Speaker 2: professional is usually way less likely to backfire on you. Up,

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Speaker 2: he says, I was definitely coasting when it came to

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Speaker 2: What where are you? What is this?

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Speaker 3: Where did this come from?

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Speaker 2: Especially after I brought it to my boss, who echoed

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Speaker 2: my notes of horror and discussed, but whose manager did

442
00:17:44,880 --> 00:17:47,240
Speaker 2: not act. So I took a step back, just showed

443
00:17:47,320 --> 00:17:49,480
Speaker 2: up and got my work done and left. No buddy

444
00:17:49,480 --> 00:17:53,520
Speaker 2: buddy stuff, no long lunches or after hours conversations until

445
00:17:53,560 --> 00:17:56,479
Speaker 2: eight pm because it felt wrong. You know. That, coupled

446
00:17:56,480 --> 00:17:58,920
Speaker 2: with my boss's obvious disdain for the work and open

447
00:17:58,960 --> 00:18:01,520
Speaker 2: complaints about the company, had me thinking the level of

448
00:18:01,560 --> 00:18:04,240
Speaker 2: hatred for the company was normal. I figured if my

449
00:18:04,320 --> 00:18:07,520
Speaker 2: commuter hour slash emotional detachment from the office culture was

450
00:18:07,520 --> 00:18:10,639
Speaker 2: an issue. Someone would have said something, where do you work?

451
00:18:11,040 --> 00:18:13,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, this got more questionable. Where you work?

452
00:18:14,160 --> 00:18:16,600
Speaker 2: Can we be fine? You worked at Hooters? Wait, my

453
00:18:16,640 --> 00:18:19,760
Speaker 2: mom said, bosses is being petty because Opie seemed to

454
00:18:19,800 --> 00:18:23,280
Speaker 2: have that friend boss friendship vibe. But the boss seemed

455
00:18:23,280 --> 00:18:24,879
Speaker 2: to buy her about losing his friend.

456
00:18:25,119 --> 00:18:25,199
Speaker 1: Like.

457
00:18:25,280 --> 00:18:28,480
Speaker 2: He seemed like he thinks he's just friends with OPI

458
00:18:28,720 --> 00:18:31,640
Speaker 2: not a boss. Yeah. I think that's what happened there.

459
00:18:31,880 --> 00:18:34,560
Speaker 3: Again, I guarantee you that's what happened. Like you, he

460
00:18:34,800 --> 00:18:37,760
Speaker 3: literally told you, like, I'm quitting because I don't like

461
00:18:37,880 --> 00:18:40,840
Speaker 3: working here. He only enjoyed going to work and hanging

462
00:18:40,840 --> 00:18:42,679
Speaker 3: out with his buddy. He's like, I'm gonna see my

463
00:18:42,680 --> 00:18:44,960
Speaker 3: buddy today. It's like going to school. When you're a kid,

464
00:18:45,000 --> 00:18:46,840
Speaker 3: You're like, what's what's the best thing about school? My

465
00:18:46,920 --> 00:18:50,080
Speaker 3: friends like yeah, Like, yeah, I sure the education is great.

466
00:18:50,119 --> 00:18:51,680
Speaker 3: You get to learn, But why are you going to

467
00:18:51,680 --> 00:18:53,120
Speaker 3: school they hang out with your friends?

468
00:18:53,720 --> 00:18:57,080
Speaker 2: Yeah? No, no, no. He honestly sounds like a terrible boss.

469
00:18:57,200 --> 00:18:59,560
Speaker 2: I don't mean he's a terrible person, just having this

470
00:18:59,680 --> 00:19:03,119
Speaker 2: level of emotional entanglement with a much younger subordinate, not

471
00:19:03,240 --> 00:19:07,040
Speaker 2: being able to distinguish your work relationship and your personal friendship,

472
00:19:07,160 --> 00:19:10,399
Speaker 2: wanting to avoid hard conversation, and just waiting for you

473
00:19:10,480 --> 00:19:14,159
Speaker 2: spontaneously to know he wasn't satisfied with your work. He

474
00:19:14,240 --> 00:19:16,280
Speaker 2: was a terrible manager. Sounds like a lot of the

475
00:19:16,359 --> 00:19:19,679
Speaker 2: dysfunction and dissatisfaction with your job may have actually stemmed

476
00:19:19,720 --> 00:19:22,080
Speaker 2: from the fact that your supervisor was just awful of

477
00:19:22,160 --> 00:19:24,880
Speaker 2: his job, even if you like him as a person. Yeah,

478
00:19:24,920 --> 00:19:26,760
Speaker 2: I could see that. It's like you've just been coasting

479
00:19:26,840 --> 00:19:29,960
Speaker 2: since October. He's probably been coasting. Dude's probably been coasting

480
00:19:30,000 --> 00:19:33,720
Speaker 2: for a while. Probably sounds like you've gotten really strange

481
00:19:33,920 --> 00:19:37,280
Speaker 2: unprofessional cues and behavior modeling from this job. You might

482
00:19:37,359 --> 00:19:39,600
Speaker 2: want to read some of the archives that ask a

483
00:19:39,680 --> 00:19:42,720
Speaker 2: manager or similar before starting this new job to get

484
00:19:42,720 --> 00:19:46,520
Speaker 2: a regrounding and what healthy, typical boss relationships look like.

485
00:19:46,560 --> 00:19:48,960
Speaker 2: Good luck. Another comment says, no, no, no, this entire

486
00:19:48,960 --> 00:19:52,200
Speaker 2: relationship is inappropriate. He was a terrible boss. He should

487
00:19:52,200 --> 00:19:54,240
Speaker 2: have never told you any of this. If there were

488
00:19:54,240 --> 00:19:57,160
Speaker 2: issues with your performance, he should have addressed them immediately.

489
00:19:57,359 --> 00:20:00,159
Speaker 2: He thought you were his little fan club and and

490
00:20:00,320 --> 00:20:03,160
Speaker 2: took it personally when you quit and threw a tantrum.

491
00:20:03,280 --> 00:20:05,800
Speaker 2: This guy's gross. Another comment says, not gonna lie. I

492
00:20:05,880 --> 00:20:09,880
Speaker 2: wonder if he's projecting his dissatisfaction onto you. I got

493
00:20:09,880 --> 00:20:13,159
Speaker 2: that feeling either way. Try to distance yourself emotionally a

494
00:20:13,200 --> 00:20:16,399
Speaker 2: bit until you can look at this with fresh eyes.

495
00:20:16,520 --> 00:20:19,040
Speaker 2: I agree, Yeah, it was a little weird, inappropriate. I

496
00:20:19,119 --> 00:20:21,200
Speaker 2: don't know. I think it's I think it's fine.

497
00:20:21,280 --> 00:20:23,040
Speaker 3: I think you could be friends with your boss. But

498
00:20:23,320 --> 00:20:27,159
Speaker 3: don't be like telling your boss every nitty little gritty

499
00:20:27,240 --> 00:20:29,560
Speaker 3: thing in your life, because that can come to bite

500
00:20:29,560 --> 00:20:31,199
Speaker 3: you back in the butt. But I feel like you

501
00:20:31,280 --> 00:20:34,080
Speaker 3: can be friends with your boss, you know if because

502
00:20:34,280 --> 00:20:36,639
Speaker 3: should everyone? You should be fine. Should there be a

503
00:20:36,720 --> 00:20:40,480
Speaker 3: level of being professional in it? Yes, But I think

504
00:20:40,720 --> 00:20:42,280
Speaker 3: you can be friends with your boss personally.

505
00:20:42,400 --> 00:20:44,000
Speaker 2: What do you guys think? Do you think this is weird?

506
00:20:44,160 --> 00:20:46,320
Speaker 2: True story The first and only time I went to Hooter,

507
00:20:46,520 --> 00:20:49,639
Speaker 2: someone and our party ordered a chocolate milk and it

508
00:20:49,800 --> 00:20:52,359
Speaker 2: was in fact gone bad. That is I'm so sorry.

509
00:20:52,359 --> 00:20:54,639
Speaker 2: Doctor Katie give me the find says my old bosses

510
00:20:54,680 --> 00:20:57,600
Speaker 2: were awesome. Owner bestie with my manager gave notice and

511
00:20:57,640 --> 00:20:59,879
Speaker 2: cut him. Came a competition there for a lot.

512
00:21:00,760 --> 00:21:02,679
Speaker 3: I was gonna say, yeah, have you been friends with

513
00:21:02,720 --> 00:21:05,320
Speaker 3: your boss? Did you have like a more deeper relationship

514
00:21:05,320 --> 00:21:08,760
Speaker 3: with your bosses or any of your bosses where you work? I, like,

515
00:21:08,840 --> 00:21:11,000
Speaker 3: I said, like, I worked at a very professional job

516
00:21:11,040 --> 00:21:13,040
Speaker 3: a couple like a couple of jobs ago. Was I

517
00:21:13,080 --> 00:21:13,840
Speaker 3: friends with my boss?

518
00:21:14,000 --> 00:21:14,080
Speaker 4: No?

519
00:21:14,280 --> 00:21:16,320
Speaker 3: Was I cordial with them? Sure? Would I go out

520
00:21:16,320 --> 00:21:18,840
Speaker 3: with my boss to get a drink? No? At my

521
00:21:18,880 --> 00:21:21,160
Speaker 3: other job, one hundred percent, like I could, one hundred percent.

522
00:21:21,200 --> 00:21:24,679
Speaker 3: I could be very myself and very not proper and

523
00:21:24,680 --> 00:21:26,439
Speaker 3: then you know, tell him how it is and you know,

524
00:21:26,480 --> 00:21:28,919
Speaker 3: make fun of him and vice versa. But that was

525
00:21:28,960 --> 00:21:31,720
Speaker 3: also a different kind of relationship before I started that job.

526
00:21:31,920 --> 00:21:34,520
Speaker 3: So thanks, But we got another story. My friend invites

527
00:21:34,560 --> 00:21:36,760
Speaker 3: me on trips just to ask for gas money.

528
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Speaker 2: Cha ching, get pay me now?

529
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Speaker 3: I twenty three mail come from the city. So I'm

530
00:21:42,080 --> 00:21:44,159
Speaker 3: a veteran public transportation rider. Said that.

531
00:21:44,160 --> 00:21:47,240
Speaker 2: I was like, so nonchalantly like, veteran public transportation.

532
00:21:47,400 --> 00:21:51,080
Speaker 3: That's new VPTR. I have never heard of this, But

533
00:21:51,240 --> 00:21:53,240
Speaker 3: you do you? No?

534
00:21:53,400 --> 00:21:55,399
Speaker 4: I feel like it going going Okay.

535
00:21:55,520 --> 00:21:58,600
Speaker 3: I attend a university where public transportation isn't abundant but

536
00:21:58,800 --> 00:22:01,880
Speaker 3: still reliable. Recently, my friend twenty female got a new

537
00:22:01,920 --> 00:22:05,320
Speaker 3: car and excitement has been using it frequently. This has

538
00:22:05,400 --> 00:22:08,040
Speaker 3: led to her asking and later begging me to join

539
00:22:08,080 --> 00:22:10,760
Speaker 3: her on trips to the store, the mall, or anywhere

540
00:22:10,880 --> 00:22:14,399
Speaker 3: off campus. Okay, by the way, this comes from user

541
00:22:14,600 --> 00:22:16,840
Speaker 3: pseudo optics, and if you want to submit your own stories,

542
00:22:16,840 --> 00:22:18,879
Speaker 3: go to the r slash Okay story time sepbout it.

543
00:22:18,920 --> 00:22:21,320
Speaker 3: I'm key On, I'm Riley, and we're here to give

544
00:22:21,359 --> 00:22:23,959
Speaker 3: good advice. Goofily. We don't have all the answers, maybe some,

545
00:22:24,160 --> 00:22:26,159
Speaker 3: but we only know what we do, so let us

546
00:22:26,160 --> 00:22:27,360
Speaker 3: know what you do in the comments.

547
00:22:27,560 --> 00:22:27,919
Speaker 4: Please.

548
00:22:28,000 --> 00:22:31,080
Speaker 3: As Opie says, at first, I agreed to these trips

549
00:22:31,080 --> 00:22:34,000
Speaker 3: since she was still in the freedom phase of owning

550
00:22:34,000 --> 00:22:36,880
Speaker 3: a car. I've asked this, when you got your car

551
00:22:37,000 --> 00:22:38,800
Speaker 3: or your driver's license, the first time you're driving, what

552
00:22:38,840 --> 00:22:39,840
Speaker 3: was the first thing that you did?

553
00:22:40,040 --> 00:22:42,960
Speaker 2: What the food line? What's food line like as it's

554
00:22:43,000 --> 00:22:44,960
Speaker 2: like a grocery store, it's like food city.

555
00:22:45,119 --> 00:22:47,840
Speaker 3: Cool. I went to a fast food restaurant like immediately

556
00:22:48,640 --> 00:22:52,560
Speaker 3: got my left like the DMV or like my like

557
00:22:52,680 --> 00:22:54,600
Speaker 3: whenever I got it, my mom was with me. Because

558
00:22:54,600 --> 00:22:56,600
Speaker 3: I'm still like seventeen, so I still needed an adult.

559
00:22:56,600 --> 00:22:58,320
Speaker 3: But I was like, we're going to get fast food,

560
00:22:58,359 --> 00:23:00,560
Speaker 3: and you can't tell me what to do because I

561
00:23:00,560 --> 00:23:01,200
Speaker 3: can drive now.

562
00:23:01,400 --> 00:23:03,119
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, so I get the freedom phase.

563
00:23:03,240 --> 00:23:05,840
Speaker 3: After a few weeks, she started demanding gas money for

564
00:23:05,880 --> 00:23:08,600
Speaker 3: her service. I would normally pay for all my goods

565
00:23:08,600 --> 00:23:11,359
Speaker 3: and services, but I'm baffled at this. She invites me

566
00:23:11,400 --> 00:23:14,560
Speaker 3: on these little runs willingly, and mostly to places I

567
00:23:14,600 --> 00:23:17,440
Speaker 3: do not need or care to go. I have told

568
00:23:17,480 --> 00:23:20,000
Speaker 3: her often that I would rather use public transportation, as

569
00:23:20,000 --> 00:23:22,760
Speaker 3: my university student fees pay for it. When I turn

570
00:23:22,800 --> 00:23:26,000
Speaker 3: her down, she asked again or passive aggressively comments on

571
00:23:26,280 --> 00:23:28,440
Speaker 3: not spending time with her. I do not have a

572
00:23:28,480 --> 00:23:30,480
Speaker 3: lot of money compared to her. She comes from a

573
00:23:30,600 --> 00:23:33,440
Speaker 3: rich family and has a fair bit of cash on

574
00:23:33,520 --> 00:23:36,160
Speaker 3: her at all times. Then, girlypop, why are you asking

575
00:23:36,160 --> 00:23:36,720
Speaker 3: me for money?

576
00:23:36,760 --> 00:23:40,040
Speaker 2: Yeah? Why don't you ask me to go everywhere with you? Like, yeah,

577
00:23:40,080 --> 00:23:41,240
Speaker 2: pay for yourself? What the heck?

578
00:23:41,480 --> 00:23:43,800
Speaker 3: I do not understand the underlying issue or how to

579
00:23:43,840 --> 00:23:46,199
Speaker 3: address it. And there's an edit. I am attracted to

580
00:23:46,280 --> 00:23:49,480
Speaker 3: the same gender. Oh, here we go, I'm Broadway musical

581
00:23:49,680 --> 00:23:52,760
Speaker 3: show tunes singing, mall going and if I have money

582
00:23:52,840 --> 00:23:56,520
Speaker 3: and take the bus. I am attracted to the same gender.

583
00:23:56,640 --> 00:23:59,800
Speaker 2: I knew it. I could tell. I mean really, I

584
00:23:59,800 --> 00:24:01,960
Speaker 2: mean yeah, I thought I just assumed.

585
00:24:02,240 --> 00:24:04,399
Speaker 3: Opie says, why is this so important? I don't know,

586
00:24:04,520 --> 00:24:06,520
Speaker 3: but apparently you guys think that from my inbox, that

587
00:24:06,640 --> 00:24:07,640
Speaker 3: I'm trying to sleep with her.

588
00:24:07,720 --> 00:24:10,040
Speaker 2: No, just no, yeah, that was the thought, Like did

589
00:24:10,080 --> 00:24:11,680
Speaker 2: she have a crush on you or did you guys

590
00:24:11,720 --> 00:24:13,320
Speaker 2: just besties? Small besties?

591
00:24:13,760 --> 00:24:16,639
Speaker 3: I mean, I just yeah, I feel like one, she

592
00:24:17,240 --> 00:24:19,520
Speaker 3: can't do things on her own. She wants a little

593
00:24:19,880 --> 00:24:23,000
Speaker 3: car companion, which is fine, but like, why would I

594
00:24:23,040 --> 00:24:25,639
Speaker 3: be paying for your gas services if she was driving

595
00:24:25,640 --> 00:24:27,879
Speaker 3: you to the airport or driving you around places that

596
00:24:27,960 --> 00:24:30,119
Speaker 3: you need to go. Sure, I get that, but.

597
00:24:30,119 --> 00:24:33,000
Speaker 2: It was all on her doing young Yeah, yeah, I

598
00:24:33,000 --> 00:24:35,399
Speaker 2: don't know. She's found she's found a way to manipulate you.

599
00:24:35,600 --> 00:24:37,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, she's kind of smart for her, But I hope

600
00:24:37,520 --> 00:24:39,800
Speaker 3: you're not paying her because that's really dumb, especially if

601
00:24:39,800 --> 00:24:40,359
Speaker 3: she's rich.

602
00:24:40,480 --> 00:24:42,119
Speaker 2: By the way, Yeah, all right, she's ames from a

603
00:24:42,160 --> 00:24:43,439
Speaker 2: rich family. She's asking for.

604
00:24:43,800 --> 00:24:45,760
Speaker 3: She always has money on hand. Why do you need

605
00:24:45,800 --> 00:24:47,680
Speaker 3: that money? I'd be like, one, I'm not willing to

606
00:24:47,720 --> 00:24:48,600
Speaker 3: go Like, well, she.

607
00:24:48,520 --> 00:24:50,359
Speaker 2: Knows how to get money out of people. She's smart,

608
00:24:50,400 --> 00:24:52,119
Speaker 2: because you go, yeah, I think so. She does how

609
00:24:52,160 --> 00:24:53,879
Speaker 2: to get it from her daddy and from you.

610
00:24:54,119 --> 00:24:56,639
Speaker 3: Maybe you're her daddy. Whoa, we have some top relevent

611
00:24:56,720 --> 00:25:01,119
Speaker 3: comments user kjyes gn s k wow, and this is

612
00:25:01,160 --> 00:25:04,560
Speaker 3: also downloaded. She's using you because she can. You want

613
00:25:04,600 --> 00:25:07,320
Speaker 3: an effort, which OPI doesn't. She wants your money and

614
00:25:07,440 --> 00:25:08,879
Speaker 3: for you to be at your shoulder to cry on.

615
00:25:09,000 --> 00:25:11,199
Speaker 3: She's going to keep using you until you realize this

616
00:25:11,320 --> 00:25:13,719
Speaker 3: and wake up. She's not going to f you, bro,

617
00:25:14,080 --> 00:25:16,840
Speaker 3: move on. Here's an edit. Yes, I know you didn't

618
00:25:16,880 --> 00:25:19,640
Speaker 3: say you want an ef her, but it's painfully obvious. Otherwise,

619
00:25:19,720 --> 00:25:21,560
Speaker 3: how is she even a friend if she treats you

620
00:25:21,680 --> 00:25:25,800
Speaker 3: like such crap? Opie responds with I am gay and

621
00:25:25,840 --> 00:25:30,480
Speaker 3: she knows I find her very unattractive, and that same

622
00:25:30,560 --> 00:25:34,240
Speaker 3: user also getting downloaded. Ha ha ha ha wow why

623
00:25:34,280 --> 00:25:36,639
Speaker 3: that f is she your friend? Then get right of

624
00:25:36,720 --> 00:25:37,199
Speaker 3: the witch.

625
00:25:39,800 --> 00:25:43,560
Speaker 2: You can't understand, I understand. If you don't want to

626
00:25:43,640 --> 00:25:46,280
Speaker 2: do her, then why are you hanging out with her?

627
00:25:46,560 --> 00:25:49,080
Speaker 3: I'm gay? Then why are you friends with her? That

628
00:25:49,160 --> 00:25:50,600
Speaker 3: comment is he's such a.

629
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Speaker 2: Bro chad he was yeah, he was at the gym,

630
00:25:53,640 --> 00:25:56,080
Speaker 2: like just curl in the fifties. Right now, she's not

631
00:25:56,160 --> 00:26:01,000
Speaker 2: gonna she's not gonna f you, dummy, freaking more on

632
00:26:01,160 --> 00:26:01,680
Speaker 2: over here.

633
00:26:01,840 --> 00:26:04,000
Speaker 3: Oh dude, you like you're tract to the same gender,

634
00:26:04,160 --> 00:26:06,440
Speaker 3: then why are you even why are you even talking

635
00:26:06,480 --> 00:26:06,679
Speaker 3: to her?

636
00:26:06,760 --> 00:26:08,000
Speaker 2: Yeah? Yeah, we got it.

637
00:26:08,320 --> 00:26:12,320
Speaker 3: Uh Ope responds with she has great qualities as a friend.

638
00:26:12,359 --> 00:26:14,160
Speaker 2: See how he didn't say a great personality.

639
00:26:14,320 --> 00:26:17,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, the only great qualities. This started recently and came

640
00:26:17,520 --> 00:26:19,440
Speaker 3: out of left field. I have the thought the car

641
00:26:19,440 --> 00:26:22,000
Speaker 3: has changed her. She's become more entitled, but in a

642
00:26:22,080 --> 00:26:24,719
Speaker 3: joking manner. She joked about going to the university and

643
00:26:24,760 --> 00:26:28,080
Speaker 3: demanding they give her a personal slash reserved parking space.

644
00:26:28,520 --> 00:26:30,320
Speaker 2: It's not too much of a high. She needs a job.

645
00:26:30,440 --> 00:26:31,360
Speaker 2: She needs to be humbled.

646
00:26:31,760 --> 00:26:34,560
Speaker 3: She's getting too someone too high. Well, I want to

647
00:26:34,640 --> 00:26:35,840
Speaker 3: know what car she's driving.

648
00:26:36,040 --> 00:26:36,960
Speaker 2: It's a Range Rover.

649
00:26:37,320 --> 00:26:41,119
Speaker 3: I was gonna say, like a buw do.

650
00:26:39,240 --> 00:26:40,159
Speaker 4: Do do this?

651
00:26:40,320 --> 00:26:42,280
Speaker 2: Check from my eye school. She got a range Rover

652
00:26:42,320 --> 00:26:42,840
Speaker 2: from her parents.

653
00:26:42,920 --> 00:26:43,399
Speaker 3: She crashed it.

654
00:26:43,720 --> 00:26:46,320
Speaker 2: She didn't like the color and she started crying. Range Rover.

655
00:26:47,280 --> 00:26:49,760
Speaker 2: She also lives like eight minutes away from you right now, I.

656
00:26:49,680 --> 00:26:51,200
Speaker 3: Want to talk to her, I like me to those people.

657
00:26:51,280 --> 00:26:53,879
Speaker 3: I want to talk to her. Ah, I need to

658
00:26:53,920 --> 00:26:55,439
Speaker 3: talk to her. I need to I need I have

659
00:26:55,520 --> 00:26:57,639
Speaker 3: to ask him personal questions of her. I don't know

660
00:26:57,640 --> 00:26:59,240
Speaker 3: if this is a phase and it'll wear off in

661
00:26:59,280 --> 00:27:01,600
Speaker 3: a few days, or this is the real her. Opie

662
00:27:01,600 --> 00:27:04,200
Speaker 3: also replied to a deleted comment Opie saying I have

663
00:27:04,400 --> 00:27:06,960
Speaker 3: paid her for the first month when this started to happen,

664
00:27:07,080 --> 00:27:10,000
Speaker 3: since I actually got something from her trips, I figured

665
00:27:10,080 --> 00:27:13,159
Speaker 3: why not. But then this got increasingly worse. And gas

666
00:27:13,280 --> 00:27:16,120
Speaker 3: isn't cheap. It's even a pay half sort of deal.

667
00:27:16,400 --> 00:27:18,520
Speaker 3: It's a pay all for the gas.

668
00:27:18,720 --> 00:27:20,080
Speaker 2: Why are you doing this?

669
00:27:20,840 --> 00:27:23,560
Speaker 3: Why this girl needs to learn? This is a this

670
00:27:23,680 --> 00:27:25,920
Speaker 3: is a life situation. Girly pop, you got, you got?

671
00:27:26,000 --> 00:27:28,480
Speaker 3: She's like, wait, I need to pay insurance too? Wait?

672
00:27:28,680 --> 00:27:29,720
Speaker 3: I need to pay insurance?

673
00:27:30,040 --> 00:27:30,119
Speaker 4: What?

674
00:27:30,440 --> 00:27:31,800
Speaker 3: I have to renew my license?

675
00:27:32,119 --> 00:27:32,359
Speaker 4: What?

676
00:27:32,680 --> 00:27:34,320
Speaker 3: I just want to know what car she drives? But

677
00:27:34,359 --> 00:27:35,439
Speaker 3: also who is she?

678
00:27:35,720 --> 00:27:39,440
Speaker 2: Yeah? Honestly this is so like this sounds.

679
00:27:39,200 --> 00:27:40,000
Speaker 3: Very high school.

680
00:27:40,920 --> 00:27:41,640
Speaker 2: Yeah.

681
00:27:41,760 --> 00:27:44,199
Speaker 3: Opie also replies to another deleted comment, saying, if I

682
00:27:44,200 --> 00:27:46,879
Speaker 3: was pining for spicy Sleep, I'd go for her attractive

683
00:27:46,920 --> 00:27:50,000
Speaker 3: older brother, though no amounts of him would make her

684
00:27:50,040 --> 00:27:53,040
Speaker 3: actions okay, hate that you're just like I want a brother,

685
00:27:53,200 --> 00:27:53,800
Speaker 3: go for her brother.

686
00:27:53,880 --> 00:27:55,840
Speaker 2: I guess this is why we're here. I still don't

687
00:27:55,920 --> 00:27:58,840
Speaker 2: understand why you're here. Man, Are you just yelted into it?

688
00:27:58,880 --> 00:28:00,600
Speaker 2: Is your CPP? Just? Is this bad?

689
00:28:00,800 --> 00:28:03,359
Speaker 3: I don't know. Another deleted user says, you straight up

690
00:28:03,400 --> 00:28:05,280
Speaker 3: tell her to stop asking if she expects you to

691
00:28:05,359 --> 00:28:08,399
Speaker 3: pay for her gas. Another user saying billages. But this

692
00:28:08,560 --> 00:28:11,800
Speaker 3: was an open and shutcase and we're onto an update

693
00:28:11,840 --> 00:28:12,920
Speaker 3: which is four days later.

694
00:28:13,080 --> 00:28:14,960
Speaker 2: I hope he learned how to say no to her.

695
00:28:15,119 --> 00:28:17,440
Speaker 3: I would call her out like if she really is

696
00:28:17,440 --> 00:28:19,359
Speaker 3: a friend, and like, hey, dude, you know I'm not

697
00:28:19,359 --> 00:28:22,280
Speaker 3: paying for your gas right and I will stop going

698
00:28:22,320 --> 00:28:24,159
Speaker 3: on car rides with you and fun trips with you

699
00:28:24,440 --> 00:28:26,119
Speaker 3: if you keep asking for me to pay for gas.

700
00:28:26,200 --> 00:28:29,119
Speaker 2: Also, you know I'm gonna be f reu. It's like

701
00:28:29,600 --> 00:28:32,040
Speaker 2: all of my gay friends that I know would not

702
00:28:32,080 --> 00:28:32,719
Speaker 2: put up with this.

703
00:28:33,080 --> 00:28:33,240
Speaker 4: No.

704
00:28:33,520 --> 00:28:36,600
Speaker 2: They would be like, ah, honey, no, we're not excuse me.

705
00:28:36,840 --> 00:28:38,840
Speaker 2: They get all sassy and they'd be like you know.

706
00:28:38,800 --> 00:28:40,840
Speaker 3: What they say please. I'd even say like, no, you

707
00:28:40,840 --> 00:28:43,000
Speaker 3: should pay me. I'm your passenger. Princess.

708
00:28:43,240 --> 00:28:46,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, honestly, where's my meal? I could call like three

709
00:28:46,680 --> 00:28:48,520
Speaker 2: gay dudes I know and they would say the same thing.

710
00:28:48,640 --> 00:28:50,680
Speaker 3: Yeah. Oh, we have an update four days later. As

711
00:28:50,680 --> 00:28:54,280
Speaker 3: stated before, her actions are relatively recent. She hasn't had

712
00:28:54,280 --> 00:28:56,640
Speaker 3: a bad friend since I met her. She's one of

713
00:28:56,680 --> 00:29:01,560
Speaker 3: those super hulac theater push over tumblrgals. Oh boy, her

714
00:29:01,600 --> 00:29:02,920
Speaker 3: words not mine?

715
00:29:03,120 --> 00:29:04,640
Speaker 4: Oh lord boy.

716
00:29:04,960 --> 00:29:08,840
Speaker 2: She got that little Tumblr link in her bio.

717
00:29:07,240 --> 00:29:11,080
Speaker 3: And was interesting. So this took you by surprise. I

718
00:29:11,200 --> 00:29:13,120
Speaker 3: decided to sit her down in a public place and

719
00:29:13,200 --> 00:29:14,520
Speaker 3: speak with her about the issue.

720
00:29:14,880 --> 00:29:16,360
Speaker 2: After I took the bus to get there.

721
00:29:16,480 --> 00:29:19,600
Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, I told her that I don't have a

722
00:29:19,640 --> 00:29:21,520
Speaker 3: lot of money and I won't flip the bill on

723
00:29:21,560 --> 00:29:25,120
Speaker 3: trips she invites me to. Of course, she got angry.

724
00:29:25,320 --> 00:29:27,520
Speaker 2: Oh you care, I'm just driving my curage.

725
00:29:27,960 --> 00:29:29,920
Speaker 3: She stated that I shouldn't use her and I was

726
00:29:29,960 --> 00:29:32,480
Speaker 3: a bad friend. I ended up giggling in reply, as

727
00:29:32,560 --> 00:29:36,320
Speaker 3: I do this when I'm nervous. This infuriated her. She

728
00:29:36,400 --> 00:29:39,760
Speaker 3: went on a long winded monologue about how she knows

729
00:29:39,800 --> 00:29:45,520
Speaker 3: my type and now since she's from Long Island, Ah.

730
00:29:44,120 --> 00:29:46,360
Speaker 2: That's why hey is John og host.

731
00:29:46,360 --> 00:29:47,880
Speaker 1: We're gonna get back to the stories, but a quick,

732
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Speaker 1: free minute break of ads from our sponsors.

733
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Speaker 3: Since she's from Long Island, I think she has money,

734
00:29:53,200 --> 00:29:57,080
Speaker 3: blah blah blah. When she finally stopped, I informed her

735
00:29:57,320 --> 00:29:59,720
Speaker 3: that was not the case. I explained that I don't

736
00:29:59,760 --> 00:30:03,800
Speaker 3: care about her parents' money, but our friendship. After further discussion,

737
00:30:04,000 --> 00:30:05,000
Speaker 3: she started a tear up.

738
00:30:05,160 --> 00:30:07,880
Speaker 2: Oh oh wait, why aren't she crying now? Is this

739
00:30:07,920 --> 00:30:09,000
Speaker 2: a manipulation tactic?

740
00:30:09,040 --> 00:30:09,400
Speaker 3: I don't know.

741
00:30:09,560 --> 00:30:12,520
Speaker 2: Sometimes people crying and I feel like it's a manipulation tactic.

742
00:30:12,680 --> 00:30:14,440
Speaker 3: Long Island if you don't know where that is. Long

743
00:30:14,480 --> 00:30:16,920
Speaker 3: Island's a place in New York. And uh, they got

744
00:30:17,320 --> 00:30:19,320
Speaker 3: it's like I'm the I'm walking here kind of thing,

745
00:30:19,720 --> 00:30:21,800
Speaker 3: Like they got the accent. They're New Yorkers.

746
00:30:21,920 --> 00:30:22,160
Speaker 2: Through.

747
00:30:22,560 --> 00:30:25,240
Speaker 3: Yeah. Turns out that though mommy and daddy bought her

748
00:30:25,240 --> 00:30:28,120
Speaker 3: car and was providing her with gas money and allowance

749
00:30:28,160 --> 00:30:30,360
Speaker 3: per se, she was saving up for something she wanted.

750
00:30:30,520 --> 00:30:33,160
Speaker 3: This something was a five thousand dollars trip to have

751
00:30:33,240 --> 00:30:35,920
Speaker 3: her online boyfriend fly up this summer and put put

752
00:30:35,960 --> 00:30:38,160
Speaker 3: them in a ritzy hotel. And this is where I say,

753
00:30:38,320 --> 00:30:40,640
Speaker 3: give me back my money, Yeah, give me back my money.

754
00:30:41,160 --> 00:30:42,520
Speaker 2: What is this I.

755
00:30:42,480 --> 00:30:45,400
Speaker 3: Would say, Mmm, crime more than a river. Please cry

756
00:30:45,440 --> 00:30:47,320
Speaker 3: me in ocean because it's not gonna I don't care.

757
00:30:47,480 --> 00:30:49,920
Speaker 2: Online boyfriend. Oh, you sound like you can get any

758
00:30:49,960 --> 00:30:50,680
Speaker 2: boyfriend you want.

759
00:30:50,720 --> 00:30:50,840
Speaker 4: Not.

760
00:30:51,200 --> 00:30:53,000
Speaker 2: What the heck you've been catfish?

761
00:30:53,200 --> 00:30:53,480
Speaker 4: Yeah?

762
00:30:53,600 --> 00:30:54,360
Speaker 3: Her parents didn't.

763
00:30:54,840 --> 00:30:58,080
Speaker 2: I'm sorry. Pretty soon you coun like AI generate FaceTime.

764
00:30:58,400 --> 00:30:58,960
Speaker 3: I'm scared.

765
00:30:59,040 --> 00:31:01,040
Speaker 2: That's scary where you're like you won't even know.

766
00:31:01,160 --> 00:31:04,200
Speaker 3: Her parents didn't approve of her relationship, so they wouldn't

767
00:31:04,240 --> 00:31:07,160
Speaker 3: fund it. Apparently she's been hustling people out of their

768
00:31:07,200 --> 00:31:10,200
Speaker 3: money in order to fund the trip while continuing her

769
00:31:10,280 --> 00:31:13,280
Speaker 3: luxury loves lifestyle. I believe she expected me to feel

770
00:31:13,280 --> 00:31:15,320
Speaker 3: some sort of sympathy for her. She was very teary

771
00:31:15,320 --> 00:31:17,720
Speaker 3: eyed and stiffling about true love and how she's doing

772
00:31:17,720 --> 00:31:19,640
Speaker 3: this to meet the one. But I couldn't take it.

773
00:31:19,760 --> 00:31:21,719
Speaker 3: I ended up explaining to her that she cannot use

774
00:31:21,760 --> 00:31:25,680
Speaker 3: people as human ATMs what mommy and daddy are, and

775
00:31:25,760 --> 00:31:27,920
Speaker 3: that even though she is a nice girl, I don't

776
00:31:27,920 --> 00:31:32,240
Speaker 3: appreciate her doing ugly things. Mmmm. Well that's a bomb.

777
00:31:32,200 --> 00:31:35,880
Speaker 2: That gets to those rich girls doing ugly things. They

778
00:31:35,960 --> 00:31:36,640
Speaker 2: hate that word.

779
00:31:36,760 --> 00:31:39,600
Speaker 3: Eh, it's a good phrase. She babbled on about how

780
00:31:39,640 --> 00:31:42,720
Speaker 3: I wouldn't understand because love her some crap. I sighed

781
00:31:42,760 --> 00:31:44,800
Speaker 3: and ended my friendship with her on the spot.

782
00:31:45,000 --> 00:31:46,080
Speaker 4: Dang good.

783
00:31:46,280 --> 00:31:47,920
Speaker 3: I spent a lot of time with this girl and

784
00:31:47,960 --> 00:31:49,680
Speaker 3: collected several good memories, just.

785
00:31:49,680 --> 00:31:52,320
Speaker 2: Several, probably about six or seven, you know.

786
00:31:52,400 --> 00:31:55,040
Speaker 3: About six or several memories. That's crazy. But someone who

787
00:31:55,040 --> 00:31:57,400
Speaker 3: refuses to see their own wrongdoings is not for me.

788
00:31:57,600 --> 00:31:58,560
Speaker 3: There's a little bit left.

789
00:31:58,800 --> 00:32:00,960
Speaker 2: You really want to get back at her, Stay her French,

790
00:32:01,160 --> 00:32:03,440
Speaker 2: keep your enemies closer than at what hotel?

791
00:32:04,400 --> 00:32:06,000
Speaker 3: Not even I'd be like, do your car no, no.

792
00:32:05,760 --> 00:32:08,200
Speaker 2: No, find out what hotel you're going to? Okay when

793
00:32:08,240 --> 00:32:09,200
Speaker 2: her boyfriend comes in?

794
00:32:09,760 --> 00:32:12,560
Speaker 3: No, I would tell everybody, like, stop funding funding her.

795
00:32:12,760 --> 00:32:15,280
Speaker 3: Make belief, Oh yeah, I do an Instagram post? Yeah,

796
00:32:15,360 --> 00:32:18,000
Speaker 3: like she's using. I would be like, anyone who knows

797
00:32:18,000 --> 00:32:20,880
Speaker 3: this girl, stop paying her. You're just trying to fund her.

798
00:32:21,040 --> 00:32:23,720
Speaker 3: By the way she's rich. By the way she's rich. Yeah,

799
00:32:23,800 --> 00:32:25,480
Speaker 3: did the car not show you that she's rich? She

800
00:32:25,560 --> 00:32:27,080
Speaker 3: probably flaunts it too, She's like, I'm rich.

801
00:32:27,160 --> 00:32:28,959
Speaker 2: Pull up her daddy's net worth on Google.

802
00:32:29,080 --> 00:32:30,720
Speaker 3: I don't know. I wouldn't do I don't know. I

803
00:32:30,720 --> 00:32:33,200
Speaker 3: would just like stop funding her and like put put

804
00:32:33,280 --> 00:32:33,840
Speaker 3: on blast.

805
00:32:34,000 --> 00:32:35,560
Speaker 4: Honestly, let's finish up the story.

806
00:32:35,600 --> 00:32:37,440
Speaker 3: I've heard this in a long time. I wouldn't really

807
00:32:37,440 --> 00:32:41,080
Speaker 3: classify her as a tumblerina. She likes Tumblr culture, but

808
00:32:41,160 --> 00:32:43,520
Speaker 3: she isn't as radical slash insane as the ones I've

809
00:32:43,560 --> 00:32:46,480
Speaker 3: seen online. Second edit, still very much attracted to the

810
00:32:46,520 --> 00:32:50,000
Speaker 3: same gender. Yeah, and we have some top relevant comments.

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00:32:50,240 --> 00:32:53,239
Speaker 3: User bill Osby says that got me good name. I

812
00:32:53,280 --> 00:32:55,640
Speaker 3: often wonder what the ceiling is for people like this

813
00:32:55,720 --> 00:32:57,480
Speaker 3: in terms of personal growth. I know a lot of

814
00:32:57,520 --> 00:33:00,360
Speaker 3: people who were entirely self centered and ridiculous this in

815
00:33:00,440 --> 00:33:04,640
Speaker 3: their teens, who turned around and became mature and great humans. However,

816
00:33:04,840 --> 00:33:07,040
Speaker 3: I have not met many people who were able to

817
00:33:07,040 --> 00:33:10,040
Speaker 3: grow pass such behaviors after they hit twenty. I don't

818
00:33:10,160 --> 00:33:12,360
Speaker 3: know if it's some sort of critical period or if

819
00:33:12,360 --> 00:33:14,680
Speaker 3: I'm just entirely wrong, but it just seems like when

820
00:33:14,680 --> 00:33:16,920
Speaker 3: a person is still treating other people like props in

821
00:33:16,960 --> 00:33:18,480
Speaker 3: their life by the time they're supposed to be at

822
00:33:18,560 --> 00:33:22,280
Speaker 3: least somewhat personally independent and responsible, the future is bleak.

823
00:33:22,520 --> 00:33:24,480
Speaker 3: Let's hope that your ex friend learns how to be

824
00:33:24,560 --> 00:33:28,000
Speaker 3: a regular human person sometime in her future. However, you're

825
00:33:28,040 --> 00:33:30,080
Speaker 3: making the right move, not waiting around to find out

826
00:33:30,080 --> 00:33:32,440
Speaker 3: if she does. Use your exiled one two three X

827
00:33:32,480 --> 00:33:35,360
Speaker 3: says she's toxic. Good for you for ending your friendship,

828
00:33:35,440 --> 00:33:37,440
Speaker 3: which it's debatable if you could call it that. We

829
00:33:37,520 --> 00:33:40,400
Speaker 3: have two more comments. Use This scammer says many selfish

830
00:33:40,400 --> 00:33:43,320
Speaker 3: people simply do not realize they are selfish. They think

831
00:33:43,320 --> 00:33:46,320
Speaker 3: people don't understand their needs. But once you start lying,

832
00:33:46,400 --> 00:33:49,720
Speaker 3: you are a next level crap bag. And again, just

833
00:33:49,800 --> 00:33:52,520
Speaker 3: everyone's saying she's a greedy, selfish friend.

834
00:33:52,840 --> 00:33:54,160
Speaker 4: Yeah, if you could even call her.

835
00:33:54,120 --> 00:33:57,200
Speaker 2: A friend honestly, dude, weird, weird, weird.

836
00:33:57,240 --> 00:33:59,040
Speaker 3: I don't like it that is in the story.

837
00:33:59,120 --> 00:34:02,280
Speaker 2: Good for you, op stand on business.

838
00:34:01,840 --> 00:34:04,600
Speaker 3: You know what? Like just again, say her car's ugly,

839
00:34:04,800 --> 00:34:07,040
Speaker 3: tell her she's a bad driver. I guarantee she's also

840
00:34:07,040 --> 00:34:09,040
Speaker 3: the type of person like who like bumps into a

841
00:34:09,120 --> 00:34:11,360
Speaker 3: car and she's like, that's fine, they won't notice they're

842
00:34:11,400 --> 00:34:14,040
Speaker 3: not there. Daddy will pay for exactly, or like, oh,

843
00:34:14,080 --> 00:34:15,560
Speaker 3: my dad will cover it. I don't have to worry

844
00:34:15,560 --> 00:34:17,560
Speaker 3: about that. You have to worry about that. That's crazy,

845
00:34:17,640 --> 00:34:18,680
Speaker 3: don't we give it a story?

846
00:34:19,280 --> 00:34:21,719
Speaker 2: My friend told her kid that my house is nasty?

847
00:34:22,239 --> 00:34:23,480
Speaker 3: Well, is it nasty?

848
00:34:23,719 --> 00:34:26,840
Speaker 2: I Amanda twenty four female. Have been friends with Roquel?

849
00:34:27,080 --> 00:34:28,640
Speaker 3: Yes? Yes, you have?

850
00:34:29,280 --> 00:34:32,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, go on, Op, Roquel like that. It feels like

851
00:34:32,880 --> 00:34:35,280
Speaker 2: it's a sentence within itself. I am managed to four female.

852
00:34:35,280 --> 00:34:37,439
Speaker 2: I have been friends with Roquel twenty five females since

853
00:34:37,480 --> 00:34:40,680
Speaker 2: middle school. We became inseparable in high school, and she

854
00:34:40,800 --> 00:34:43,200
Speaker 2: was the closest person to me I had ever met,

855
00:34:43,280 --> 00:34:46,279
Speaker 2: even when we drifted apart after she graduated early and

856
00:34:46,520 --> 00:34:49,399
Speaker 2: moved away with her husband r J twenty eight male

857
00:34:49,680 --> 00:34:53,480
Speaker 2: active duty military at the time, I always hoped we'd reconnect.

858
00:34:53,560 --> 00:34:55,600
Speaker 2: By the way, this comes from Tiny Trust sixty three.

859
00:34:55,640 --> 00:34:57,839
Speaker 2: And if you want to see old stories our slash Okay

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Speaker 2: story time sub reddit. I'm Riley, I'm Keon, and we're

861
00:35:01,080 --> 00:35:03,719
Speaker 2: here to give good advice. Goofully and that's it. We

862
00:35:03,719 --> 00:35:06,719
Speaker 2: don't have any answers. I have a couple, And if

863
00:35:06,760 --> 00:35:09,839
Speaker 2: you want to submend anything in our videos, just put

864
00:35:09,880 --> 00:35:12,080
Speaker 2: in the comments where read it. I don't even care anymore.

865
00:35:12,239 --> 00:35:15,719
Speaker 2: As Op says to Roquel, when she came back with

866
00:35:15,800 --> 00:35:18,960
Speaker 2: her baby, Max, we picked right back up where we

867
00:35:19,040 --> 00:35:21,359
Speaker 2: left off. I love Max like he was my own.

868
00:35:21,560 --> 00:35:24,600
Speaker 2: He gave me the nickname Mimi. I have a me me.

869
00:35:25,200 --> 00:35:28,480
Speaker 3: I also have a MEMI no way, Well that's what

870
00:35:28,600 --> 00:35:31,120
Speaker 3: I call my dog, so maybe not the same.

871
00:35:31,440 --> 00:35:34,000
Speaker 2: Well, she's my mem I love me me. That kid

872
00:35:34,239 --> 00:35:38,560
Speaker 2: was and still is incredibly important to me. Backstory. About

873
00:35:38,600 --> 00:35:41,160
Speaker 2: five years ago, Raquel and r J had a falling

874
00:35:41,200 --> 00:35:43,840
Speaker 2: out with his parents and suddenly needed a place to stay.

875
00:35:43,960 --> 00:35:46,319
Speaker 2: I just bought my first home. It wasn't big, but

876
00:35:46,520 --> 00:35:48,440
Speaker 2: it had an extra room. I opened my door to

877
00:35:48,480 --> 00:35:52,040
Speaker 2: them immediately, no hesitation. It was me, my partner Matt,

878
00:35:52,080 --> 00:35:54,800
Speaker 2: and our one dog, two cats, and the Roquelles family.

879
00:35:55,040 --> 00:35:57,759
Speaker 2: It was cramped, but I didn't care. I wanted her

880
00:35:57,760 --> 00:36:00,879
Speaker 2: to feel safe. I wanted Max to feel stable. I

881
00:36:00,960 --> 00:36:03,759
Speaker 2: wanted to help because I love this family. They ended

882
00:36:03,800 --> 00:36:05,440
Speaker 2: up staying for roughly six months.

883
00:36:05,520 --> 00:36:08,920
Speaker 3: Dang, six months is crazy? Did they pay for some

884
00:36:09,000 --> 00:36:09,200
Speaker 3: of that?

885
00:36:09,640 --> 00:36:12,200
Speaker 2: They paid rent every month except the last one, when

886
00:36:12,200 --> 00:36:15,080
Speaker 2: they left with only a week's notice, because Roquel always

887
00:36:15,080 --> 00:36:17,920
Speaker 2: paid at the end of the month. She actually still owes,

888
00:36:18,280 --> 00:36:20,080
Speaker 2: but I didn't push it. I didn't want money to

889
00:36:20,160 --> 00:36:23,200
Speaker 2: ruin our friendship. RJ did damage one of my interior

890
00:36:23,239 --> 00:36:26,520
Speaker 2: doors during an argument of theirs. Huh, he punched a

891
00:36:26,560 --> 00:36:30,680
Speaker 2: whole straight through it, hau. I didn't scream erascualate until

892
00:36:30,880 --> 00:36:33,359
Speaker 2: the damage. I stood up in this moment and told

893
00:36:33,440 --> 00:36:35,919
Speaker 2: him calmly but firmly to leave the house and come

894
00:36:35,960 --> 00:36:38,040
Speaker 2: back after he had cooled off. He got my face,

895
00:36:38,200 --> 00:36:40,000
Speaker 2: yelled that I had no right to put him out,

896
00:36:40,040 --> 00:36:42,680
Speaker 2: and said that he left. Raquel and Max were leaving

897
00:36:42,680 --> 00:36:46,120
Speaker 2: with them, and honestly was intimidating and really upsetting. They

898
00:36:46,120 --> 00:36:48,960
Speaker 2: eventually paid for the door, but only because I insisted

899
00:36:49,000 --> 00:36:51,919
Speaker 2: after they had left. The argument happened around month three

900
00:36:52,120 --> 00:36:55,200
Speaker 2: of them living with me. They moved out for unrelated reasons.

901
00:36:55,239 --> 00:36:58,359
Speaker 2: Around month six, one week before Christmas, they moved out.

902
00:36:58,480 --> 00:37:01,200
Speaker 2: None of this, the stress, the notice, the unpaid rent

903
00:37:01,360 --> 00:37:04,280
Speaker 2: was ever acknowledged. It was brushed off like nothing happened

904
00:37:04,400 --> 00:37:08,280
Speaker 2: the first few months. Roquel came over maybe twice briefly.

905
00:37:08,480 --> 00:37:11,879
Speaker 2: After that, she basically stopped coming entirely. But she still

906
00:37:11,920 --> 00:37:14,440
Speaker 2: wanted to hang out, just not at my house. She

907
00:37:14,560 --> 00:37:18,560
Speaker 2: always wanted to meet in places incredibly inconvenient for me.

908
00:37:18,680 --> 00:37:20,719
Speaker 2: She lives about twenty minutes for me. She wanted me

909
00:37:20,760 --> 00:37:23,960
Speaker 2: to meet her twenty minutes past her house. Which is

910
00:37:24,040 --> 00:37:26,400
Speaker 2: forty minutes for me. I literally had to drive past

911
00:37:26,400 --> 00:37:28,640
Speaker 2: her house just to meet her somewhere she chose, and

912
00:37:28,719 --> 00:37:31,319
Speaker 2: I did over and over because I loved her, because

913
00:37:31,320 --> 00:37:34,200
Speaker 2: I love Max, because I thought friendships were supposed to

914
00:37:34,200 --> 00:37:37,080
Speaker 2: be flexible when one person was struggling. I even used

915
00:37:37,080 --> 00:37:39,120
Speaker 2: my one hour work lunch just to drive to her

916
00:37:39,200 --> 00:37:41,759
Speaker 2: house sometimes just to see her and the kids. She

917
00:37:41,840 --> 00:37:44,200
Speaker 2: did not come to my house a single time during

918
00:37:44,239 --> 00:37:45,200
Speaker 2: that entire period.

919
00:37:45,440 --> 00:37:47,600
Speaker 4: Interesting, wonder why.

920
00:37:47,680 --> 00:37:50,040
Speaker 3: I'll be I also wonder, why why are we going

921
00:37:50,120 --> 00:37:52,399
Speaker 3: on extra twenty minutes past her house?

922
00:37:52,520 --> 00:37:55,360
Speaker 2: You guy's got no other coffee shops near there, you know,

923
00:37:55,760 --> 00:37:59,239
Speaker 2: or in between? Yeah? That's yeah. And right around the

924
00:37:59,280 --> 00:38:02,319
Speaker 2: same time, my entire life changed in ways I was

925
00:38:02,360 --> 00:38:05,239
Speaker 2: not prepared for. Just two months after Ruckelle moved out,

926
00:38:05,320 --> 00:38:08,120
Speaker 2: everything in my home changed overnight when all three of

927
00:38:08,200 --> 00:38:11,279
Speaker 2: Matt's kids suddenly moved in with us full time. So

928
00:38:11,440 --> 00:38:14,960
Speaker 2: now nineteen females, sixteen male and fourteen female. But at

929
00:38:15,000 --> 00:38:16,799
Speaker 2: this time, it happened about four or five years ago,

930
00:38:16,840 --> 00:38:19,279
Speaker 2: when they were roughly fourteen and fifteen, eleven and eight.

931
00:38:19,400 --> 00:38:22,080
Speaker 2: For context, I was only twenty when this all hit

932
00:38:22,120 --> 00:38:24,279
Speaker 2: at once. Matt is thirty nine now, so he was

933
00:38:24,320 --> 00:38:27,200
Speaker 2: about thirty four turning thirty five that year. The kids

934
00:38:27,239 --> 00:38:29,759
Speaker 2: had been living with their mom in a studio apartment

935
00:38:29,840 --> 00:38:32,480
Speaker 2: for a year dang. Their mom was a heavy drinker

936
00:38:32,600 --> 00:38:35,520
Speaker 2: and the environment had become unstable. One day, Matt took

937
00:38:35,560 --> 00:38:37,640
Speaker 2: them for a fishing day, and when he brought them back,

938
00:38:37,800 --> 00:38:41,400
Speaker 2: their place was trashed, cluttered, and clearly being shared with

939
00:38:41,440 --> 00:38:44,080
Speaker 2: a new boyfriend. That was the last straw for him.

940
00:38:44,120 --> 00:38:46,000
Speaker 2: He told the kids to grab their things, get in

941
00:38:46,040 --> 00:38:47,919
Speaker 2: the truck, and to come home with him. One drive

942
00:38:48,000 --> 00:38:49,960
Speaker 2: he told the truth that he and I were together.

943
00:38:50,160 --> 00:38:52,719
Speaker 2: He then called me and said, they know everything. We'll

944
00:38:52,760 --> 00:38:55,440
Speaker 2: be home in fifteen to ten minutes. That was my warning.

945
00:38:55,600 --> 00:38:58,959
Speaker 2: Ten minutes, no preparation, no conversation, just three older kids

946
00:38:58,960 --> 00:39:01,360
Speaker 2: with trauma, confusion, anger, and fear showing up at my

947
00:39:01,400 --> 00:39:04,759
Speaker 2: home to live with us permanently. The older two were resistant.

948
00:39:04,880 --> 00:39:07,440
Speaker 2: His oldest daughter even asked him if he was with

949
00:39:07,600 --> 00:39:09,920
Speaker 2: me just to have a place to stay. She barely

950
00:39:09,960 --> 00:39:11,879
Speaker 2: talked to me for a long time, and even now

951
00:39:11,920 --> 00:39:15,280
Speaker 2: we're still working on making the living situation comfortable, especially

952
00:39:15,320 --> 00:39:17,760
Speaker 2: because she and I are only about four years apart.

953
00:39:17,840 --> 00:39:20,000
Speaker 2: And since her home is only a two bedroom, two bath,

954
00:39:20,239 --> 00:39:22,160
Speaker 2: all three kids had to share a bedroom. At first,

955
00:39:22,400 --> 00:39:24,799
Speaker 2: not a deal, but sharing a motel room for a

956
00:39:24,880 --> 00:39:27,920
Speaker 2: year wasn't the new for them. For me, though, it

957
00:39:28,000 --> 00:39:30,279
Speaker 2: was overwhelming. I never had kids on my own, and

958
00:39:30,320 --> 00:39:32,880
Speaker 2: now suddenly my home was filled with two teenagers and

959
00:39:32,880 --> 00:39:36,400
Speaker 2: a young child, all adjusting to trauma, losing their old life,

960
00:39:36,440 --> 00:39:39,840
Speaker 2: and navigating their parents' final split. I walked on eleg

961
00:39:39,920 --> 00:39:43,320
Speaker 2: shows trying to not upset anyone. I prioritize their needs

962
00:39:43,360 --> 00:39:46,680
Speaker 2: over mind. I bought what they needed they were unprepared,

963
00:39:46,800 --> 00:39:49,440
Speaker 2: and Matt worked odd hours, leaving me to figure out

964
00:39:49,480 --> 00:39:52,600
Speaker 2: the day to day dynamics alone. Oh that's so tough. Yeah,

965
00:39:53,440 --> 00:39:56,799
Speaker 2: that makes sense why Rockquele probably didn't want to come over.

966
00:39:57,840 --> 00:40:02,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, it could be very, very very stressful, man, especially

967
00:40:03,120 --> 00:40:06,640
Speaker 3: with all that going on. Yeah, I can see why.

968
00:40:07,160 --> 00:40:09,920
Speaker 3: I mean, dang, Opie, you got a lot on your plate.

969
00:40:10,040 --> 00:40:12,359
Speaker 3: M from going to Like, man, I have to deal

970
00:40:12,400 --> 00:40:15,200
Speaker 3: with these roommates, then they move out, and then now

971
00:40:15,200 --> 00:40:18,120
Speaker 3: I have to deal with a full on family at twenty.

972
00:40:18,760 --> 00:40:20,920
Speaker 2: That's tough. I get. Yeah, that still seems stuff.

973
00:40:20,920 --> 00:40:23,719
Speaker 3: Ope, you need like a vacation just for you yourself,

974
00:40:23,760 --> 00:40:24,480
Speaker 3: and that's it.

975
00:40:24,840 --> 00:40:27,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, kel knew the situation, but whenever I try to

976
00:40:27,960 --> 00:40:30,279
Speaker 2: open up, she would say things like it was the

977
00:40:30,320 --> 00:40:32,680
Speaker 2: position I put myself in, or that I needed to

978
00:40:32,680 --> 00:40:34,960
Speaker 2: make the decisions that were fair to me. Made me

979
00:40:34,960 --> 00:40:38,000
Speaker 2: feel judged, so I stopped confiding in her completely. So

980
00:40:38,040 --> 00:40:40,279
Speaker 2: the conflict with her didn't happen in a vacuum. It

981
00:40:40,320 --> 00:40:44,359
Speaker 2: happened while my life was exploding into responsibilities I wasn't

982
00:40:44,360 --> 00:40:47,279
Speaker 2: prepared for, and while I was emotionally drowning. I am

983
00:40:47,320 --> 00:40:49,560
Speaker 2: not going to pretend I was on top of everything,

984
00:40:49,560 --> 00:40:53,080
Speaker 2: because I wasn't. I struggled badly. I have lamin at

985
00:40:53,080 --> 00:40:55,839
Speaker 2: floors and I didn't know how to properly maintain them.

986
00:40:55,960 --> 00:40:58,960
Speaker 2: The kids weren't cleaning up after themselves. Sometimes their pets

987
00:40:59,000 --> 00:41:01,239
Speaker 2: had accidents, and the kids would ignore them until I

988
00:41:01,360 --> 00:41:03,239
Speaker 2: yelled and got on to them to clean it up.

989
00:41:03,360 --> 00:41:05,840
Speaker 2: There were days where depression just swallowed me, and I

990
00:41:05,840 --> 00:41:08,120
Speaker 2: would literally lock myself in my room and shut the

991
00:41:08,160 --> 00:41:10,280
Speaker 2: world out, and the house showed it. It was messy,

992
00:41:10,520 --> 00:41:14,560
Speaker 2: sometimes gross, clutter, pat message dishes, not dangerous, but not great.

993
00:41:14,640 --> 00:41:16,920
Speaker 2: I'm not proud of it. I'm ashamed of that. Period

994
00:41:16,960 --> 00:41:19,359
Speaker 2: in my life. But it was temporary and I've worked

995
00:41:19,400 --> 00:41:21,600
Speaker 2: so hard since then to turn my home back into

996
00:41:21,640 --> 00:41:25,360
Speaker 2: a home. And it is a home now, a good one, clean, functional,

997
00:41:25,480 --> 00:41:28,360
Speaker 2: lived in but not chaotic. Kel never saw that. She

998
00:41:28,480 --> 00:41:31,680
Speaker 2: never asked, she never offered help. She never even asked

999
00:41:31,719 --> 00:41:34,080
Speaker 2: if I was okay. Oh what a friend.

1000
00:41:34,440 --> 00:41:36,839
Speaker 3: What I remember when you were there for her?

1001
00:41:37,080 --> 00:41:42,320
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, I remember. Oh that's so tough, dude.

1002
00:41:42,360 --> 00:41:44,600
Speaker 2: You know I got a friend. Let me tell you.

1003
00:41:44,680 --> 00:41:46,720
Speaker 2: I got a friend that helped me out a pretty

1004
00:41:46,800 --> 00:41:48,879
Speaker 2: rough time in my life. Yeah, okay, he was there

1005
00:41:48,880 --> 00:41:51,160
Speaker 2: for me. Okay, And now those friends going through a

1006
00:41:51,160 --> 00:41:52,640
Speaker 2: hard time, and guess what.

1007
00:41:52,960 --> 00:41:53,640
Speaker 3: You're there for him?

1008
00:41:53,760 --> 00:41:55,960
Speaker 2: I am, And I'm making sure he's all right.

1009
00:41:56,160 --> 00:41:57,080
Speaker 3: That's what friends are for.

1010
00:41:57,320 --> 00:42:02,000
Speaker 2: Yes, And this is unaccepted. I'm calling him, making sure

1011
00:42:02,000 --> 00:42:05,000
Speaker 2: he's doing all right, making sure everything seems square. And

1012
00:42:06,360 --> 00:42:10,040
Speaker 2: this just infuriates me. Not even asking if they're okay.

1013
00:42:10,239 --> 00:42:13,200
Speaker 3: No, not even yeah, not even like the littlest things

1014
00:42:13,200 --> 00:42:15,640
Speaker 3: of little thing's gonna add up to be big things.

1015
00:42:15,680 --> 00:42:18,960
Speaker 3: But the fact that she'll judge you or like co

1016
00:42:19,640 --> 00:42:22,000
Speaker 3: It's like you did this to yourself. That's your fault.

1017
00:42:22,040 --> 00:42:23,439
Speaker 2: I'm gonna reach out to him right now.

1018
00:42:23,640 --> 00:42:24,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, he's doing it.

1019
00:42:24,719 --> 00:42:27,880
Speaker 2: There, I just did it. Boom, Who was that Rex?

1020
00:42:28,040 --> 00:42:28,600
Speaker 4: Oh?

1021
00:42:28,760 --> 00:42:29,360
Speaker 3: It was okay.

1022
00:42:29,840 --> 00:42:30,279
Speaker 4: He's fine.

1023
00:42:30,280 --> 00:42:32,839
Speaker 2: He's always going through girl trouble. That's really what it is.

1024
00:42:33,160 --> 00:42:35,160
Speaker 2: He's fine. He literally just needs to move out of

1025
00:42:35,320 --> 00:42:38,279
Speaker 2: freaking Jefferson City. If you ever go to Jefferson City,

1026
00:42:38,320 --> 00:42:40,640
Speaker 2: go to the Maddox during the weekend and ask for Rex.

1027
00:42:40,840 --> 00:42:42,400
Speaker 3: Tell him, you know me, give him a kiss on

1028
00:42:42,400 --> 00:42:42,880
Speaker 3: his forehead.

1029
00:42:43,080 --> 00:42:44,839
Speaker 2: You will get the biggest look on his face. He'll

1030
00:42:44,880 --> 00:42:49,280
Speaker 2: be like, no really anyways, which is why what happened

1031
00:42:49,280 --> 00:42:53,680
Speaker 2: next broke my heart. Oh no, no.

1032
00:42:53,040 --> 00:42:55,080
Speaker 3: That's not a good sentence to segue into something.

1033
00:42:55,360 --> 00:42:57,680
Speaker 2: One day, Max, about five or six years old, was

1034
00:42:57,719 --> 00:43:00,319
Speaker 2: in the car with me while Rokel ran inside the store.

1035
00:43:00,640 --> 00:43:04,600
Speaker 2: He said, completely innocently me, Me, I miss you, and

1036
00:43:04,640 --> 00:43:07,080
Speaker 2: I want to come over more, but Mama won't let

1037
00:43:07,120 --> 00:43:10,400
Speaker 2: me because she says your house is nasty. When's the

1038
00:43:10,480 --> 00:43:14,120
Speaker 2: last time he'd been in my house? Max? Huh Jeffs City, Tennessee,

1039
00:43:14,520 --> 00:43:15,960
Speaker 2: not Misseruri. When was the last time he've been in

1040
00:43:16,000 --> 00:43:16,839
Speaker 2: my house? Max? Huh?

1041
00:43:17,080 --> 00:43:19,279
Speaker 3: Sorry, Maxy, when was I given a chance to show

1042
00:43:19,280 --> 00:43:20,440
Speaker 3: you that it's not nasty.

1043
00:43:21,360 --> 00:43:24,000
Speaker 2: He wasn't tattling, he wasn't being mean. He was just

1044
00:43:24,040 --> 00:43:26,120
Speaker 2: telling me how he felt. I didn't let him see

1045
00:43:26,160 --> 00:43:28,120
Speaker 2: me react. I told him I missed him too, that

1046
00:43:28,200 --> 00:43:31,160
Speaker 2: he was always welcome, that adults sometimes make choices they

1047
00:43:31,239 --> 00:43:33,960
Speaker 2: think are best for kids, but inside it gutted me.

1048
00:43:34,239 --> 00:43:36,760
Speaker 2: Arkel never said one word to me about my house,

1049
00:43:37,120 --> 00:43:39,680
Speaker 2: never asked what was going on, never tried to talk

1050
00:43:39,719 --> 00:43:42,360
Speaker 2: to me about my mental health, never said, hey, is

1051
00:43:42,400 --> 00:43:45,279
Speaker 2: everything okay? I'm noticing x y Z. Probably because she

1052
00:43:45,400 --> 00:43:47,200
Speaker 2: was going through hard time and she just didn't want

1053
00:43:47,239 --> 00:43:49,000
Speaker 2: to hear another hard time honestly.

1054
00:43:49,320 --> 00:43:51,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, but even then, what Opie did for.

1055
00:43:52,040 --> 00:43:54,160
Speaker 2: Raquelot hesitating, just letting him in.

1056
00:43:54,400 --> 00:43:56,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, after everything that happened.

1057
00:43:56,080 --> 00:43:58,520
Speaker 2: Anyways, Hey, John og host here, we're gonna get back

1058
00:43:58,520 --> 00:44:00,520
Speaker 2: to this episode, but a quick three a break of

1059
00:44:00,560 --> 00:44:03,600
Speaker 2: ads from a sponsor's keeping the show alive. She just

1060
00:44:03,880 --> 00:44:06,680
Speaker 2: judged me behind my back. She weaponized it. She used

1061
00:44:06,680 --> 00:44:08,960
Speaker 2: it to keep Max away from me, without ever giving

1062
00:44:09,000 --> 00:44:12,000
Speaker 2: me the chance to defend myself, explain, or even clean

1063
00:44:12,040 --> 00:44:14,520
Speaker 2: up before she visited, because she simply chose not to

1064
00:44:14,600 --> 00:44:15,120
Speaker 2: visit at all.

1065
00:44:15,160 --> 00:44:17,280
Speaker 3: It's not your friend, I get it not your friend.

1066
00:44:17,520 --> 00:44:20,600
Speaker 2: After hearing that, I quietly pulled back. I stopped driving

1067
00:44:20,640 --> 00:44:22,279
Speaker 2: forty minutes out of my way to meet her. I

1068
00:44:22,280 --> 00:44:25,640
Speaker 2: stopped making myself available at her convenience while she gives

1069
00:44:25,719 --> 00:44:28,880
Speaker 2: zero effort at mind. Stop rearranging my life to fit hers.

1070
00:44:29,040 --> 00:44:31,000
Speaker 2: When she would ask to hang out, I'd say, I'm

1071
00:44:31,040 --> 00:44:33,759
Speaker 2: busy working all my house today, but you're welcome to

1072
00:44:33,760 --> 00:44:36,160
Speaker 2: come over. She'd always say something like maybe if I

1073
00:44:36,200 --> 00:44:40,840
Speaker 2: have time. Then she'd cancel every single time. Eventually she

1074
00:44:40,920 --> 00:44:44,920
Speaker 2: stopped asking altogether, and she stopped responding. We haven't spoken

1075
00:44:44,960 --> 00:44:48,200
Speaker 2: in like six to eight months at all. That part

1076
00:44:48,280 --> 00:44:50,799
Speaker 2: hurts me the most. I didn't just lose her. I

1077
00:44:50,880 --> 00:44:54,040
Speaker 2: lost Max, a kid who genuinely loved me, who I

1078
00:44:54,080 --> 00:44:57,520
Speaker 2: deeply loved. Now I'm torn. I've never told her why

1079
00:44:57,560 --> 00:44:59,719
Speaker 2: I'm pulled away. For all I know, she has no

1080
00:44:59,760 --> 00:45:02,920
Speaker 2: idea that I know what she had said. We got

1081
00:45:02,920 --> 00:45:04,320
Speaker 2: a little bit left here, keon.

1082
00:45:04,520 --> 00:45:06,239
Speaker 3: Even if you did a message her and be like, hey,

1083
00:45:06,360 --> 00:45:08,640
Speaker 3: you know the house is clean, or like you know

1084
00:45:08,760 --> 00:45:11,120
Speaker 3: I'm not talking to you because you know Max told

1085
00:45:11,160 --> 00:45:13,920
Speaker 3: me this, or what you think. I don't think she

1086
00:45:14,000 --> 00:45:17,080
Speaker 3: would care, which sucks, which makes even worse. But would

1087
00:45:17,120 --> 00:45:19,359
Speaker 3: it make would he give you the closure? Ope? I

1088
00:45:19,400 --> 00:45:22,040
Speaker 3: hope so, or maybe you don't even need to message her.

1089
00:45:22,280 --> 00:45:24,319
Speaker 3: But you love that kid, You took care of her,

1090
00:45:24,320 --> 00:45:25,799
Speaker 3: You were a good friend to her. She's not giving

1091
00:45:25,840 --> 00:45:28,720
Speaker 3: you that in return. Yeah, I don't know. That's crazy

1092
00:45:28,760 --> 00:45:31,840
Speaker 3: that like, yeah, people go through hardships and everything like

1093
00:45:31,840 --> 00:45:33,880
Speaker 3: that and it, you know, sometimes people don't want to

1094
00:45:33,880 --> 00:45:35,440
Speaker 3: hear about it. But the fact that she didn't even

1095
00:45:35,440 --> 00:45:38,560
Speaker 3: give you a chance and that sucks, and you helped

1096
00:45:38,560 --> 00:45:41,240
Speaker 3: her out through thick and thin, and she still doesn't

1097
00:45:41,400 --> 00:45:44,160
Speaker 3: like not even asking you. How are things? How are you?

1098
00:45:44,320 --> 00:45:45,040
Speaker 3: How is life?

1099
00:45:45,200 --> 00:45:48,400
Speaker 2: It's rough, dude. My mom went through this. She had

1100
00:45:48,440 --> 00:45:50,839
Speaker 2: a friend that she would pay to like babysit us

1101
00:45:50,840 --> 00:45:53,759
Speaker 2: and stuff, and then she slowly realized, like when she

1102
00:45:53,800 --> 00:45:56,360
Speaker 2: stopped asking her to babysit and like hang out to

1103
00:45:56,360 --> 00:45:58,560
Speaker 2: the side, she'd always just come for the money.

1104
00:45:58,840 --> 00:46:00,840
Speaker 3: Oh it was like, look the money involved.

1105
00:46:01,000 --> 00:46:03,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, it was like, oh, we see now when I.

1106
00:46:02,960 --> 00:46:05,480
Speaker 3: Get something out of it, though, Yeah, that makes sense.

1107
00:46:05,560 --> 00:46:07,880
Speaker 2: He's weird, but I don't know. I know I'd like

1108
00:46:07,920 --> 00:46:10,000
Speaker 2: to always see the other side of it too, like mine,

1109
00:46:10,080 --> 00:46:10,640
Speaker 2: did you stop?

1110
00:46:10,880 --> 00:46:12,080
Speaker 4: What's going on money.

1111
00:46:12,320 --> 00:46:14,759
Speaker 2: Part of me feels guilty for not just confronting her

1112
00:46:14,760 --> 00:46:17,239
Speaker 2: and telling her how much that comment hurt. Part of

1113
00:46:17,280 --> 00:46:20,759
Speaker 2: me feels like she abandoned me first emotionally, physically, ann

1114
00:46:20,760 --> 00:46:23,640
Speaker 2: as a friend. Part of me wonders if distancing myself

1115
00:46:23,719 --> 00:46:25,799
Speaker 2: was a mature thing or the petty thing. Part of

1116
00:46:25,800 --> 00:46:28,560
Speaker 2: me desperately misses Max and wants to reach out, and

1117
00:46:28,600 --> 00:46:31,239
Speaker 2: part of me feels like Raquel clearly didn't value me

1118
00:46:31,360 --> 00:46:34,839
Speaker 2: enough to put even the smallest effort so reddit, Am

1119
00:46:34,920 --> 00:46:37,719
Speaker 2: I the a hole for distancing myself after hearing what

1120
00:46:37,760 --> 00:46:40,279
Speaker 2: she said? Am I the able for only inviting her

1121
00:46:40,320 --> 00:46:43,320
Speaker 2: to my home after that and refusing to keep driving

1122
00:46:43,360 --> 00:46:45,399
Speaker 2: to eat her? Should I tell her the truth? Should

1123
00:46:45,440 --> 00:46:48,160
Speaker 2: I leave it alone? Except that friendship is probably over?

1124
00:46:48,360 --> 00:46:51,160
Speaker 2: I'm genuinely torn about it. I don't know if I'm

1125
00:46:51,160 --> 00:46:54,440
Speaker 2: being unfair, petty heard, or finally setting a boundary I

1126
00:46:54,440 --> 00:46:56,200
Speaker 2: should have said a long time ago. I just want

1127
00:46:56,200 --> 00:46:58,759
Speaker 2: to be honest outside perspectives, Guys, what do you think

1128
00:46:58,840 --> 00:47:01,560
Speaker 2: Kimberly find says? If you're the girl needs helping, give

1129
00:47:01,560 --> 00:47:04,240
Speaker 2: her thick not thin. This makes me feel like Opie

1130
00:47:04,360 --> 00:47:07,440
Speaker 2: was being judged by Roquel. Just like when Opie said

1131
00:47:07,560 --> 00:47:10,359
Speaker 2: that what she felt, yeah, being judged. Yeah, I mean

1132
00:47:10,400 --> 00:47:12,600
Speaker 2: she she opened didn't She opened up to her earlier,

1133
00:47:12,640 --> 00:47:13,120
Speaker 2: didn't she?

1134
00:47:13,120 --> 00:47:15,279
Speaker 3: She did, she tried to at least, but Roquel was said, nah,

1135
00:47:15,320 --> 00:47:16,960
Speaker 3: you did that. But also I think Opie is one

1136
00:47:16,960 --> 00:47:17,719
Speaker 3: of our own.

1137
00:47:17,920 --> 00:47:20,320
Speaker 2: She is this is our okay story Tom, Yeah, yeah.

1138
00:47:20,680 --> 00:47:23,479
Speaker 3: OPI I mean I said it earlier. Do what's best

1139
00:47:23,520 --> 00:47:25,920
Speaker 3: for you. And if you think distancing yourself, and it

1140
00:47:25,920 --> 00:47:28,120
Speaker 3: does suck for Max, but at this point in your life,

1141
00:47:28,200 --> 00:47:30,040
Speaker 3: you just got to do what's best for you. Yeah,

1142
00:47:30,400 --> 00:47:31,960
Speaker 3: you gotta live your life. You got to make sure

1143
00:47:32,120 --> 00:47:34,520
Speaker 3: you know, but you also need a support system. You

1144
00:47:34,560 --> 00:47:37,680
Speaker 3: need friends, You need that social circle that whatever gives you,

1145
00:47:37,680 --> 00:47:39,320
Speaker 3: you know, happiness or enjoyment.

1146
00:47:39,560 --> 00:47:42,920
Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, and it's going to be tough to find that.

1147
00:47:43,360 --> 00:47:46,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, and especially in this type of person who doesn't

1148
00:47:46,080 --> 00:47:46,840
Speaker 3: give you any of that.

1149
00:47:47,080 --> 00:47:50,560
Speaker 2: A real friend goes halfway, meet you halfway, or meet

1150
00:47:50,640 --> 00:47:52,239
Speaker 2: you where you are when you need it.

1151
00:47:52,480 --> 00:47:52,800
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1152
00:47:52,840 --> 00:47:56,439
Speaker 2: And dude, I have seen people they're just stringing people

1153
00:47:56,520 --> 00:47:59,000
Speaker 2: around long. They're not actually friends. They just want them

1154
00:47:59,040 --> 00:48:02,080
Speaker 2: there because ifits them in some way, shape or form, it's.

1155
00:48:01,960 --> 00:48:04,000
Speaker 3: The it's the crab and the crabs in a bucket

1156
00:48:04,040 --> 00:48:04,400
Speaker 3: kind of thing.

1157
00:48:04,680 --> 00:48:07,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, that or just I don't even know if it's

1158
00:48:07,160 --> 00:48:08,960
Speaker 2: that they're pulling one of them down. It's just like

1159
00:48:09,000 --> 00:48:11,319
Speaker 2: you're there here watch my kid while I go get

1160
00:48:11,320 --> 00:48:11,920
Speaker 2: a coffee.

1161
00:48:12,040 --> 00:48:13,800
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's just oh man, it's weird.

1162
00:48:13,840 --> 00:48:16,680
Speaker 2: It's really weird. And the fact that like she didn't

1163
00:48:16,719 --> 00:48:19,120
Speaker 2: reach out or she genuinely misses you, says something.

1164
00:48:19,200 --> 00:48:21,480
Speaker 3: The fact that she tells this five year old kid, yeah,

1165
00:48:21,480 --> 00:48:23,719
Speaker 3: we don't go over there because it's disgusting, dude.

1166
00:48:23,719 --> 00:48:25,920
Speaker 2: My mom would say that kind of stuff though, But.

1167
00:48:26,080 --> 00:48:28,000
Speaker 3: I guarantee your mom would also give the person a

1168
00:48:28,080 --> 00:48:30,080
Speaker 3: chance to be like, Okay, the house is clean or

1169
00:48:30,080 --> 00:48:32,040
Speaker 3: like just the house clean, or is that person clean,

1170
00:48:32,160 --> 00:48:33,680
Speaker 3: or is you know, is it a safe is it

1171
00:48:33,719 --> 00:48:34,560
Speaker 3: a safe place to go?

1172
00:48:34,880 --> 00:48:35,960
Speaker 4: Yeah?

1173
00:48:36,000 --> 00:48:37,799
Speaker 3: I guarantee your mom would give him that chance. But

1174
00:48:37,960 --> 00:48:38,879
Speaker 3: Raquela doesn't care.

1175
00:48:39,000 --> 00:48:42,280
Speaker 2: Okay, Yeah, that's that's true. Huh, that's seeing that story.

1176
00:48:42,719 --> 00:48:44,480
Speaker 2: Good luck, Opie. I think you know what you need

1177
00:48:44,520 --> 00:48:46,440
Speaker 2: to do do if you need, if you need to

1178
00:48:46,440 --> 00:48:47,879
Speaker 2: find closure by telling her.

1179
00:48:48,040 --> 00:48:49,880
Speaker 3: Yeah, I was just saying that's how I was going

1180
00:48:49,960 --> 00:48:51,879
Speaker 3: to finish it with that, because again, OPI do what's

1181
00:48:51,960 --> 00:48:54,399
Speaker 3: best for you. But if you need to, like if

1182
00:48:54,400 --> 00:48:56,520
Speaker 3: that's gonna be looming over your head, or you need

1183
00:48:56,560 --> 00:48:58,719
Speaker 3: to get that last bit out or like hey, let

1184
00:48:58,760 --> 00:49:00,440
Speaker 3: me talk to you in a person girl, or just

1185
00:49:00,440 --> 00:49:02,680
Speaker 3: like get it, get that text out, do it. Yeah,

1186
00:49:02,760 --> 00:49:04,680
Speaker 3: but if you already know like this friendship is over

1187
00:49:04,800 --> 00:49:07,160
Speaker 3: or like there's not, there's no there's no reason to

1188
00:49:07,200 --> 00:49:08,840
Speaker 3: put that energy into it. Do what you gotta do

1189
00:49:08,960 --> 00:49:09,920
Speaker 3: that gives you that closure.

1190
00:49:10,040 --> 00:49:13,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly. If you love us, make sure to subscribe.

1191
00:49:13,400 --> 00:49:16,840
Speaker 3: We love you and see you tomorrow, See you tomorrow.

1192
00:49:16,880 --> 00:49:18,279
Speaker 3: I was gonna say, how do we do this? But

1193
00:49:18,680 --> 00:49:19,640
Speaker 3: and see you tomorrow,