WEBVTT - Going to Bed Early with Diane Kruger 0:00:01.000 --> 0:00:06.320 What is happening? Hello? How are you doing? You're fresh 0:00:06.320 --> 0:00:09.440 as a daisy today, Actually, I know, I feel so fresh. 0:00:10.240 --> 0:00:12.680 Showering is so annoying, you know what I mean, Like, 0:00:12.800 --> 0:00:18.239 I'm just so sick of of it. I know it's necessary, 0:00:18.280 --> 0:00:20.560 and of course I do it, but I don't like it, 0:00:21.000 --> 0:00:23.840 and I don't like blowing out my hair. I don't 0:00:23.880 --> 0:00:27.200 like the act of showering. It's like you kind of 0:00:27.240 --> 0:00:30.120 get uncomfortable while you're getting in and you're getting out, 0:00:30.200 --> 0:00:31.720 but you have to like do it so you can 0:00:31.760 --> 0:00:34.519 copy worm and also clean. I know. I mean, I'm 0:00:34.520 --> 0:00:38.159 just basically watching washing my Pikachu, my butt and my 0:00:38.440 --> 0:00:40.440 like under arms, and it doesn't really take that long, 0:00:40.479 --> 0:00:42.879 but it's just annoying. No one takes quicker showers than I. 0:00:43.280 --> 0:00:47.360 I did not give a fuck about that. I remember 0:00:47.479 --> 0:00:49.880 Tiffany Hattish I was once did a show of hers 0:00:50.000 --> 0:00:53.159 and she was like, why don't white girls wash their legs? 0:00:53.360 --> 0:00:56.520 And I was like, I don't know, but I don't know. 0:00:57.040 --> 0:01:00.440 I don't wash my legs and she's like why, She's like, 0:01:00.480 --> 0:01:02.600 you have to wash everything. I go, I don't. I 0:01:02.680 --> 0:01:05.040 just I just feel like the soap goes down from 0:01:05.040 --> 0:01:09.520 my shampoo and my hair everything falls down. So if 0:01:09.560 --> 0:01:12.280 I've been out in public and used a public restroom, 0:01:12.319 --> 0:01:16.480 I will wash the back of my thighs. However, so 0:01:17.040 --> 0:01:20.120 I washed my butt getting dirty your legs. I washed 0:01:20.120 --> 0:01:24.119 my butt cheeks and my butt hole because my butt 0:01:24.240 --> 0:01:26.319 cheeks because I don't want to get any pimples on 0:01:26.360 --> 0:01:28.920 my butt, you know what I mean. And that's disgusting. 0:01:29.040 --> 0:01:31.840 I mean, it's not disgusting. It happens, but it is. 0:01:32.000 --> 0:01:33.959 It's not pleasant. I don't like when I look at 0:01:34.000 --> 0:01:35.240 my butt in the mirror and there's like a little 0:01:35.280 --> 0:01:38.600 red dot. I'm like, oh god, what is that? See? 0:01:38.640 --> 0:01:41.240 I try to use the natural deodorant. I'm wearing real 0:01:41.240 --> 0:01:44.600 stuff today, but I'm trying to not get Alzheimer's. But like, 0:01:44.680 --> 0:01:46.640 I find that my pitts are stinky the second I 0:01:46.640 --> 0:01:48.360 get out of the shower. I'm like, why don't even bother? 0:01:48.720 --> 0:01:52.200 They're just always stinky. I find that I only get 0:01:52.200 --> 0:01:54.360 be a well, No, my bo has definitely gotten worse 0:01:54.400 --> 0:01:56.840 as I've aged, but it's still not that bad. But 0:01:56.920 --> 0:01:59.279 I definitely get it when I drink coffee. I started 0:01:59.320 --> 0:02:01.320 sweating a meatia when I drink coffee, So I just 0:02:01.320 --> 0:02:03.120 feel like it's too much of a stimulant for me. 0:02:03.160 --> 0:02:05.560 You're just all amped up. Yeah, I am amped up. 0:02:05.600 --> 0:02:07.280 I'm pretty Yeah. I have a lot to be amped 0:02:07.320 --> 0:02:12.400 up about, namely ozempic. Ozempic. For those of you who 0:02:12.400 --> 0:02:15.959 are have been living under a rock. Everyone is on ozempic, 0:02:17.600 --> 0:02:20.720 is on this weight loss drug. I was taking semi 0:02:20.760 --> 0:02:23.480 glue tide and I had no idea that is ax empic, 0:02:23.919 --> 0:02:26.359 and I was wondering why I was nauseated for two 0:02:26.360 --> 0:02:29.079 weeks straight. But I've been giving a lot of people. 0:02:30.280 --> 0:02:32.680 I've been giving it to a lot of people. I'm 0:02:32.720 --> 0:02:35.440 like running a whole thing out of my house because 0:02:36.080 --> 0:02:38.600 people are it's like a miracle. I mean, people are sick, 0:02:38.720 --> 0:02:43.400 but they're losing. But it's like it's a diabetes drug, right, Yeah. 0:02:43.400 --> 0:02:45.480 And the side effect is it kills your appetite. But 0:02:45.520 --> 0:02:48.520 the thing is, it's just so unpleasant to be nauseous. 0:02:48.560 --> 0:02:50.520 I guess you have to find the sweet spot that 0:02:50.560 --> 0:02:52.960 doesn't make you nauseous and then slowly build it up 0:02:53.000 --> 0:02:55.679 over time incrementally. But I can't pretend that I have 0:02:55.800 --> 0:02:57.240 enough weight to lose to be on some sort of 0:02:57.240 --> 0:02:59.840 weight loss drugs, So I mean, I'm just abusing my 0:03:00.000 --> 0:03:02.320 body if I take that. I mean, like rips, You've 0:03:02.360 --> 0:03:05.080 got your Ben Bruno, like you got your muscles, I know, 0:03:05.120 --> 0:03:07.920 But imagine if this ozempic just makes me muscular, like 0:03:07.960 --> 0:03:10.160 if it's a fat burning I have to look up 0:03:10.200 --> 0:03:11.919 and see if it actually burns fat or if it 0:03:12.000 --> 0:03:14.560 just kills your appetite, because it does make you feel 0:03:14.680 --> 0:03:17.240 full faster, like I definitely when I took it, I 0:03:17.280 --> 0:03:19.880 had more control over myself. And then I lowered my 0:03:19.919 --> 0:03:22.280 dosage because I want to have an appetite. I just 0:03:22.320 --> 0:03:24.760 don't want to go nuts, you know. And then my 0:03:24.800 --> 0:03:26.959 cousin's on it, but she's taking such a small, small 0:03:27.000 --> 0:03:29.040 amount that she doesn't even feel the effects of it, 0:03:29.520 --> 0:03:32.480 and so she's like, my doctor's anantochronologists. She wants me 0:03:32.520 --> 0:03:34.880 to be very safe and we have to go very slowly. 0:03:35.280 --> 0:03:36.720 And I was like, come over to my house and 0:03:36.720 --> 0:03:39.640 I'll give you the proper dosage. So for everyone out there, 0:03:39.720 --> 0:03:41.720 talk to your doctor or come to my place and 0:03:41.760 --> 0:03:46.240 I'll inject you with semi glutade. I have an update, 0:03:46.640 --> 0:03:49.720 Chelsea from one of our collar Does anybody know that 0:03:49.760 --> 0:03:52.840 Ben Bruno, my trainer, has gotten a gage. Oh yes, 0:03:52.960 --> 0:03:56.000 I saw you got engaged to his girlfriend Nicole, who's 0:03:56.160 --> 0:03:59.400 who's called No Bread. So anybody, anybody who's gluten free 0:03:59.480 --> 0:04:01.400 or has still act disease or any of that, you 0:04:01.400 --> 0:04:03.240 should follow her because she has like a lot of 0:04:03.280 --> 0:04:07.280 great tips on how to eat without ever having anything bad. Yes, 0:04:07.360 --> 0:04:09.760 and like recipes and stuff. She's a cute eat And 0:04:09.800 --> 0:04:11.520 she also has the flattest stomach I think I've ever 0:04:11.520 --> 0:04:13.760 seen on any woman. I guess that's what happens when 0:04:13.800 --> 0:04:16.480 you don't have gluten that bloats you, right, because even 0:04:16.560 --> 0:04:19.440 when I'm my body's banging, I don't have that. I mean, 0:04:19.520 --> 0:04:22.280 I feel like everybody these days, and it feels like 0:04:22.320 --> 0:04:24.720 all the slebs Kim Kardashi and all those people. Sorry 0:04:24.720 --> 0:04:27.880 I mentioned her name, but everyone's ribs forward, like everything 0:04:27.960 --> 0:04:30.400 is about the ribs, and everyone's got these very flat stomachs. 0:04:30.480 --> 0:04:33.840 Right now, have you noticed this trend? Well, it's ozempic asshole. 0:04:33.880 --> 0:04:40.720 I told you that's the trend. Think that's what it is, Chelsea. 0:04:40.800 --> 0:04:43.920 I have an update from a collar. This is from 0:04:44.120 --> 0:04:47.360 a who wrote in on our Dan Savage episode about 0:04:47.720 --> 0:04:49.640 she and her husband had just gotten married and they 0:04:49.680 --> 0:04:54.360 were like not having sex hardly at all, So she says, hi, again, 0:04:55.080 --> 0:04:58.120 my initial letter probably lacked a lot of key details. 0:04:58.360 --> 0:05:00.760 At the time, my husband and I weren't living together 0:05:01.080 --> 0:05:03.680 and we were working completely different schedules. He's a bar 0:05:03.800 --> 0:05:06.160 tender and I work night. Not living together, Yeah, that 0:05:06.320 --> 0:05:08.960 is a big that'll kill your sex life. So we 0:05:09.000 --> 0:05:11.320 really never sought each other to have sex. When we 0:05:11.400 --> 0:05:13.200 did see each other for the one night a week 0:05:13.240 --> 0:05:15.400 we could, there was a lot of pressure on us 0:05:15.440 --> 0:05:18.240 to have sex, and pressure isn't really that sexy, which, 0:05:18.279 --> 0:05:20.600 like I hear that he was also going through a 0:05:20.600 --> 0:05:23.880 tough depression. I did take Chelsea and Dan's advice and 0:05:23.960 --> 0:05:27.200 just letting go of things and letting things happen more naturally. 0:05:27.680 --> 0:05:29.400 It was harder than I thought it would be. I 0:05:29.440 --> 0:05:31.680 had to sit with the idea that his attraction to 0:05:31.760 --> 0:05:34.359 me isn't only based on looks, but also on his 0:05:34.440 --> 0:05:37.680 mood and the larger context that seems obvious. But in 0:05:37.800 --> 0:05:40.680 order to truly let things go and happen naturally, I 0:05:40.680 --> 0:05:42.839 had to really wrestle with the idea that his not 0:05:42.920 --> 0:05:45.599 wanting sex doesn't mean there's something wrong with me or 0:05:45.640 --> 0:05:47.760 that he doesn't love me. It is of course, still 0:05:47.760 --> 0:05:51.200 a work in progress, and I'm healing from dealing with 0:05:51.240 --> 0:05:55.200 neglect and childhood. We're having significantly more sex now that 0:05:55.200 --> 0:05:58.080 we're living together, not quite as much as I would like, 0:05:58.200 --> 0:06:01.279 since we still work opposite schedule, but I'm realizing that 0:06:01.320 --> 0:06:03.799 we go through cycles in life and especially in marriage, 0:06:04.000 --> 0:06:07.120 where we're having more sex or less sex, and that's normal. 0:06:07.440 --> 0:06:10.480 I'm also realizing in talking to friends that not having 0:06:10.480 --> 0:06:12.520 that much sex in the marriage is actually quite common. 0:06:12.920 --> 0:06:15.279 I feel like we hear about husbands badgering their wives 0:06:15.320 --> 0:06:17.200 for sex all the time, but we don't hear much 0:06:17.200 --> 0:06:20.080 about wives who want more sex in their marriage. I'm 0:06:20.120 --> 0:06:21.720 sure that there are plenty of wives who are in 0:06:21.760 --> 0:06:23.960 the same position. So I hope this helps someone else 0:06:24.000 --> 0:06:27.520 to Thank you for following up, sincerely, A. I mean, 0:06:27.600 --> 0:06:30.880 I totally agree. I, for one, usually in our marriage, 0:06:30.920 --> 0:06:32.560 or at least for the first decade, I was the 0:06:32.600 --> 0:06:35.760 one who wanted more sex than he did. And it 0:06:35.920 --> 0:06:38.640 changes changes from months to month, it changes from year 0:06:38.640 --> 0:06:41.239 to year. Sometimes you're gonna have like tons of sex 0:06:41.680 --> 0:06:43.880 or maybe more sporadic sex, but it might be even 0:06:43.920 --> 0:06:46.920 better sex. But why were they fucking living together as 0:06:46.920 --> 0:06:49.719 a married couple. I don't understand that. My guess is 0:06:49.760 --> 0:06:54.280 probably like work related, work related. I don't know what 0:06:54.320 --> 0:06:57.520 did that mean? She left that information out. Yeah, that's 0:06:57.520 --> 0:07:01.440 a pretty crucial piece of information, So please include all 0:07:01.440 --> 0:07:03.520 the details when you're right againsto teer Chelsea. Okay, we 0:07:03.520 --> 0:07:06.080 take this ship really seriously. Yes, but also make your 0:07:06.080 --> 0:07:09.880 emails brief please. Yeah, yeah, exactly, yet to be succinct. 0:07:10.000 --> 0:07:12.840 And yeah, with all of the details. Listen, I love 0:07:12.880 --> 0:07:15.200 bullet points, if you send me something with bullet points. 0:07:15.400 --> 0:07:16.920 I'm just trying to think about all the sex I've 0:07:16.920 --> 0:07:18.920 had in my life and when there was ever like 0:07:19.080 --> 0:07:23.320 a deficit of sex. Yeah, well, I mean when I 0:07:23.360 --> 0:07:25.800 was in a relationship, I guess because I've never been married, 0:07:25.880 --> 0:07:29.640 you know, but some men become unfuckable within the relationship, 0:07:29.760 --> 0:07:34.720 like they do something that is a turn off, you know. 0:07:34.960 --> 0:07:38.040 Like I remember a long a relationship a long time 0:07:38.080 --> 0:07:40.880 ago that I was in and we lived together. There 0:07:40.960 --> 0:07:43.240 was like a period towards the end where he just 0:07:43.320 --> 0:07:47.000 was so needy, so needy that it was not sexy. 0:07:47.200 --> 0:07:48.920 And then I would just pretend that I had a 0:07:48.960 --> 0:07:52.440 east infection, like almost every week to get out of 0:07:52.480 --> 0:07:54.760 sucking him and I would just be like, I have 0:07:54.800 --> 0:07:57.760 another yeast infection, I have this. I mean, I would 0:07:57.800 --> 0:08:01.080 have used COVID had it been before that, before COVID. 0:08:01.160 --> 0:08:02.960 But that's another great way to get out of sex 0:08:03.240 --> 0:08:06.080 in the beginning. It's always great, it's always fun. And 0:08:06.200 --> 0:08:09.640 obviously that honeymoon period doesn't last. I guess I don't 0:08:09.640 --> 0:08:11.360 know how long it lasts for I think it's like 0:08:11.360 --> 0:08:14.320 a year, yeah, because it's gonna be different for everybody. Yeah, 0:08:14.360 --> 0:08:17.120 And when people do stuff like I just wish men 0:08:17.200 --> 0:08:20.080 were aware of the behavior and women of the behavior 0:08:20.160 --> 0:08:22.440 that makes us not want to have sex with you. Yeah, 0:08:22.640 --> 0:08:27.320 like really jealous behaviors a turn off, really needy behavior, 0:08:27.480 --> 0:08:29.840 Like I don't know, does anyone like a needy guy? 0:08:30.000 --> 0:08:32.680 I don't think so. And it's just it's so obvious 0:08:32.720 --> 0:08:34.960 when you see it. You see the end of the 0:08:35.000 --> 0:08:38.800 relationship when someone starts becoming needy and like, oh, like 0:08:38.840 --> 0:08:41.000 don't go somewhere without me or don't do this. Yeah, 0:08:41.160 --> 0:08:44.560 it's like you see the end in sight. Just because 0:08:44.640 --> 0:08:46.800 it just drives someone away. You just have to like, 0:08:47.200 --> 0:08:48.920 even if you don't feel it inside, you just gotta 0:08:48.960 --> 0:08:52.439 be like cock sure, like I'll be here, you do 0:08:52.520 --> 0:08:56.040 your thing. I'm great. Yeah, I think when you hold 0:08:56.040 --> 0:08:58.800 onto something too tight, you're always gonna lose it. So 0:08:58.880 --> 0:09:01.520 that's the lesson of the day. Yes, I've been meaning 0:09:01.559 --> 0:09:03.440 to tell you that you're gonna have to get rid 0:09:03.480 --> 0:09:05.480 of your social media accounts because we're going to combine 0:09:05.480 --> 0:09:07.440 ours because you're not allowed to have your own anymore. 0:09:07.480 --> 0:09:12.679 So I've been meaning to tell you. I've been meaning 0:09:12.679 --> 0:09:15.400 to let you know what I'm what I'm about to do. Yeah, 0:09:15.480 --> 0:09:17.679 that's a death knell when you see somebody who's like 0:09:18.160 --> 0:09:21.800 the couple's name is the Facebook account or Instagram account, 0:09:21.840 --> 0:09:26.760 you're like controlling Chelsea. I have a question from one 0:09:26.760 --> 0:09:28.839 of our listeners that's kind of about voting, and I 0:09:28.920 --> 0:09:32.000 know you've been posting a ton about that lately. Yes, guys, voting. 0:09:32.160 --> 0:09:34.520 You can vote early and the last day of voting 0:09:34.559 --> 0:09:37.280 is November eight. If you are not registered to vote, 0:09:37.440 --> 0:09:40.320 you can still register to vote. It is really really 0:09:40.360 --> 0:09:42.880 important to be voting, guys. It's complicated and it's a 0:09:42.920 --> 0:09:47.520 pain in the ass, and it's worth it. Awesome. So specifically, 0:09:47.840 --> 0:09:50.920 Tom says, dear Chelsea, I just want to start out 0:09:50.920 --> 0:09:53.240 by saying I love your podcast. I listened to it 0:09:53.320 --> 0:09:56.560 every week during my six hour drive to Berkeley from 0:09:56.600 --> 0:09:59.840 Fort Irwin, California to visit my husband. I'm a tw 0:10:00.000 --> 0:10:02.040 the eight year old white gay guy in the army, 0:10:02.120 --> 0:10:04.680 finishing up almost seven years, and I'm trying to be 0:10:04.720 --> 0:10:08.040 a more responsible voter. I've gotten my past two ballots, 0:10:08.080 --> 0:10:12.280 like most military people, absentee. Coming from a conservative household, 0:10:12.320 --> 0:10:15.760 I was definitely brainwashed in my younger years into that mentality, 0:10:15.840 --> 0:10:19.439 which obviously goes against my liberal and progressive ideals. I'm 0:10:19.440 --> 0:10:21.920 trying to vote more responsibly, but I find it difficult 0:10:22.000 --> 0:10:25.560 to find information on local candidates and smaller races so 0:10:25.600 --> 0:10:27.400 I know who to vote for. Do you know if 0:10:27.400 --> 0:10:29.959 any good tools to find out more about people up 0:10:29.960 --> 0:10:32.760 for election? Ballot PDA seems to be the biggest one, 0:10:32.800 --> 0:10:34.920 but it doesn't tell me anything on that person's voting 0:10:35.000 --> 0:10:38.960 history and stuff like that. Thank you very respectfully, Tom Well, 0:10:39.480 --> 0:10:42.160 Hi Tom Good questions, because, Yeah, there are a lot 0:10:42.160 --> 0:10:44.560 of cheat sheets you can use, Like for instance, I 0:10:44.760 --> 0:10:47.240 used the l A Times cheat sheep. There were a 0:10:47.280 --> 0:10:49.160 couple of votes I didn't agree with that the l 0:10:49.360 --> 0:10:52.040 Times had, so I used a progressive cheat sheet too. 0:10:52.160 --> 0:10:55.080 There's some progressive outlet. But if you go to that candidate, 0:10:55.120 --> 0:10:57.480 if you're deciding between two candidates, you can go to 0:10:57.520 --> 0:10:59.760 that candidate's website and they should have a history of 0:11:00.000 --> 0:11:02.240 everything that they voted on. If they do not have 0:11:02.280 --> 0:11:05.440 a history of what they voted on, it's public information. 0:11:05.840 --> 0:11:07.679 You just have to dig a little deeper and like 0:11:07.760 --> 0:11:11.280 probably go to the state legislation for California and find 0:11:11.320 --> 0:11:15.000 out which candidates you know voted for what. But for 0:11:15.160 --> 0:11:18.800 anyone in the country, you have to find your progressive 0:11:19.040 --> 0:11:22.640 liberal cheat sheet. They can't do that. Set support, Yeah, 0:11:22.720 --> 0:11:26.120 like a voter's guide, and those are easily attained because 0:11:26.200 --> 0:11:28.120 when I looked it up, like five came up and 0:11:28.160 --> 0:11:29.600 I was like, oh, I picked the top two that 0:11:29.640 --> 0:11:32.160 I know about. Because there's just too many measures on 0:11:32.200 --> 0:11:35.120 every ballot and the wording is can be very confusing, 0:11:35.520 --> 0:11:37.440 so they can kind of like, depending on which state 0:11:37.480 --> 0:11:39.160 you live in, they can trick you into voting for 0:11:39.200 --> 0:11:41.760 something that you really don't want to be voting for. Yeah. 0:11:41.800 --> 0:11:44.320 Another recommendation that a friend of mine actually gave me 0:11:44.679 --> 0:11:47.280 was to go to a local chapter of an organization 0:11:47.320 --> 0:11:49.880 that you know, share beliefs with. Maybe it's like white 0:11:49.880 --> 0:11:53.319 people for Black Lives or whatever it is, and ask 0:11:53.480 --> 0:11:57.280 them specifically about people in your area. And for those 0:11:57.320 --> 0:12:01.320 local elections. Yeah, and for this elections specifically, it would 0:12:01.360 --> 0:12:05.280 probably be any candidate that is pro you know, writes 0:12:05.679 --> 0:12:08.680 abortion rights. I think that is probably the most important 0:12:08.679 --> 0:12:13.280 issue on the ballot right now. And go vote. Yep, 0:12:13.440 --> 0:12:17.000 fucking vote people. You can look if someone votes. If 0:12:17.040 --> 0:12:18.720 I ever meet a man that wants to have sex 0:12:18.760 --> 0:12:21.719 with me again that doesn't vote, it's not happening. Just 0:12:22.000 --> 0:12:23.680 know that because I know there's a ton of straight 0:12:23.720 --> 0:12:29.000 men listening. Oh you guys, I'm performing this weekend in 0:12:29.160 --> 0:12:34.880 Tucson Saturday night and uh Colorado Springs, Colorado Sunday night. Yes, 0:12:35.000 --> 0:12:39.400 tickets are still available for both shows. So bye some 0:12:39.800 --> 0:12:44.080 okay bye. I'm excited about our guest today because I 0:12:44.080 --> 0:12:45.719 haven't spoken to her in a long time and she's 0:12:45.720 --> 0:12:49.440 a great actress. She's beautiful. I love watching her and 0:12:49.480 --> 0:12:52.600 her lover and their baby. You can see how much 0:12:52.679 --> 0:12:55.280 motherhood has changed her if you follow her on Instagram. 0:12:55.320 --> 0:12:57.440 She has a new book coming out, a baby book 0:12:57.440 --> 0:12:59.800 called A Name from the Sky, and she's a new 0:12:59.800 --> 0:13:03.439 move called Marlow that's also coming out. So say Hello 0:13:03.480 --> 0:13:08.520 to Diane Krueger. Hi, Hi alright, baby cakes, Hi are you? 0:13:08.960 --> 0:13:11.200 Oh my god? I love you. I'm so happy to 0:13:11.240 --> 0:13:15.400 see that beautiful face. Tom me too. It's been so long. 0:13:15.800 --> 0:13:18.120 I know, I haven't seen you since when I was 0:13:18.200 --> 0:13:19.720 last time I saw you. Let me think, let me 0:13:19.760 --> 0:13:22.000 jog my memory. I feel like I always see you 0:13:22.240 --> 0:13:25.800 at Vanity Fair every year, or at the Chateau Marmont. 0:13:25.800 --> 0:13:27.520 I think we were once having a conversation at the 0:13:27.559 --> 0:13:30.559 Chateau Marmont, bitching about our respective boyfriends at the time. 0:13:32.960 --> 0:13:38.120 It's very like, where are you. I am in New 0:13:38.160 --> 0:13:40.160 York right now. I want to tell you that I 0:13:40.200 --> 0:13:43.920 follow you on Instagram and I have been so moved 0:13:44.480 --> 0:13:48.280 by you having a baby and your reaction and just 0:13:48.480 --> 0:13:51.280 how I can feel the love that you have for 0:13:51.520 --> 0:13:54.920 being a mother and being in like a great healthy 0:13:54.960 --> 0:13:58.920 relationship and watching you with your daughter. It's just so sweet. 0:13:58.960 --> 0:14:01.679 It's really heartwarming. And I don't really appreciate children, so 0:14:02.080 --> 0:14:05.600 that's saying a lot well coming from you. Then, Yeah, 0:14:05.720 --> 0:14:08.079 you know, Chelsea, it's like it's I never thought I 0:14:08.160 --> 0:14:10.560 wanted kids to be honest. For a long time, I 0:14:10.600 --> 0:14:15.800 didn't think so. And Nova was a surprise, and it's 0:14:15.840 --> 0:14:18.880 just so amazing how life can be. She came at 0:14:18.960 --> 0:14:23.240 the least expected but yet most wanted time in my life. 0:14:23.280 --> 0:14:26.480 Really changed my life in the best possible way. That's sweet. 0:14:26.920 --> 0:14:28.680 So you weren't planning on having a baby. I didn't 0:14:28.680 --> 0:14:31.920 know that. Yeah, no, I mean, you know, it's it 0:14:32.040 --> 0:14:34.680 crossed my mind, and then you know, I was like, oh, 0:14:34.680 --> 0:14:36.760 it's it's done. I'm too old, you know, it's not 0:14:36.800 --> 0:14:39.800 going to happen. And it did. Well good. I'm glad 0:14:39.800 --> 0:14:41.680 that it happened for you, because I you you also 0:14:41.800 --> 0:14:44.480 just wrote a children's book based on probably becoming a mother, 0:14:44.600 --> 0:14:47.240 I would presume, right, Well, the book is a little 0:14:47.240 --> 0:14:49.600 bit about my childhood. So what happened was I was 0:14:49.640 --> 0:14:52.280 in l A working and my mom from Germany was 0:14:52.320 --> 0:14:54.040 in town to help me with Nova, and she was 0:14:54.080 --> 0:14:57.320 both one, and you know, the world shut down and 0:14:57.520 --> 0:15:00.240 weeks turned into months, and I hadn't spent this much 0:15:00.280 --> 0:15:02.320 time with my mom since I was probably sixteen, because 0:15:02.360 --> 0:15:04.800 I moved out so young, and so we you know, 0:15:04.880 --> 0:15:07.720 started talking about my childhood and stuff I had forgotten 0:15:07.760 --> 0:15:12.840 and remembered fondly with her, and I remember that she 0:15:13.280 --> 0:15:14.920 told me the meaning of my name because I was 0:15:14.960 --> 0:15:18.000 really teased for my name, which seems incordible because it's Diane. 0:15:18.040 --> 0:15:20.440 It's not that unusual, but where I'm from, it was. 0:15:21.360 --> 0:15:24.200 And she really did change my life because it made 0:15:24.240 --> 0:15:28.400 she made me feel special. And I'm named after Diane, 0:15:28.400 --> 0:15:31.320 the goddess of Hunt. And I was a very odd kid. 0:15:31.120 --> 0:15:33.400 I didn't have many friends. My best friend was my 0:15:34.000 --> 0:15:36.440 pet bunny Benny, who was a real buddy who would 0:15:36.480 --> 0:15:38.800 come to school with me on a leash every day, 0:15:39.240 --> 0:15:42.600 and so kids thought I was crazy. And I loved 0:15:42.680 --> 0:15:44.800 to read, and my best friends with the characters in 0:15:44.840 --> 0:15:48.480 my books. So I felt very unseen. And she changed 0:15:48.560 --> 0:15:51.160 my life that way by explaining to you the meaning 0:15:51.160 --> 0:15:54.560 of your name. Yeah, I just felt like, what could 0:15:54.600 --> 0:15:58.360 be so special about me? You know, a little for me? 0:15:58.840 --> 0:16:01.720 Could I be ever im as powerful as this god is? 0:16:02.560 --> 0:16:05.640 And could my life have a destiny in a way 0:16:05.720 --> 0:16:08.960 that was different and special? And so when you know 0:16:09.040 --> 0:16:11.720 Nova was born, I remember we were thinking so hard 0:16:11.720 --> 0:16:13.720 about how to name her, and I just started writing 0:16:13.720 --> 0:16:15.760 it down and that's kind of how it happened. I 0:16:15.840 --> 0:16:18.240 found an editor, and I mean it's been two years 0:16:18.280 --> 0:16:23.280 in the making. Wow, So how is your relationship changed 0:16:23.280 --> 0:16:26.040 with your own mom. Since you've had a child, has 0:16:26.080 --> 0:16:29.800 it changed, It's changed a lot. I finally understand I'm 0:16:29.800 --> 0:16:33.040 conditional love. You know. I think I moved out very young. 0:16:33.520 --> 0:16:36.560 I had a very complicated situation, family situation at home, 0:16:36.760 --> 0:16:40.080 so my mom kind of lost out of all the 0:16:40.120 --> 0:16:42.360 good years. I guess you get with your daughter, you know, 0:16:42.400 --> 0:16:45.800 when you become friends and things are not so hard anymore. 0:16:45.920 --> 0:16:48.520 And you know, I never really came home after I 0:16:49.280 --> 0:16:52.840 moved out, and so my daughter brought us back together 0:16:52.880 --> 0:16:56.440 because I I didn't know that my mom would step 0:16:56.520 --> 0:16:59.240 up as such a great grand parent. You know, she 0:16:59.400 --> 0:17:02.320 really is here when I need her. It makes me 0:17:02.360 --> 0:17:04.199 feel so much better about going to work, you know, 0:17:04.280 --> 0:17:07.280 not having her being raised by nanny's when I'm away, 0:17:07.440 --> 0:17:11.080 and just seeing her kindness. It's just really been a 0:17:11.080 --> 0:17:13.399 watership moment for me. Um. You know, we still have 0:17:13.440 --> 0:17:17.520 our differences, of course, but I find myself to be 0:17:17.600 --> 0:17:21.640 much kinder these days. Yeah. Yeah, So when you moved 0:17:21.640 --> 0:17:25.560 at sixteen, where did you go Paris to start modeling, 0:17:25.720 --> 0:17:29.399 acting exactly modeling Yeah yeah, yeah yeah, and then New 0:17:29.480 --> 0:17:32.479 York at eighteen, and you know, back and forth, so 0:17:32.560 --> 0:17:37.439 you speak French, German, English, anything else. No, that's it. 0:17:38.119 --> 0:17:39.800 And are you teaching your daughter? Are do you? You 0:17:39.840 --> 0:17:42.280 speak to her in French and German as well? Not 0:17:42.400 --> 0:17:44.240 so much in French, even though you know, we live 0:17:44.280 --> 0:17:46.399 in Paris right now for a year as a family, 0:17:46.560 --> 0:17:49.679 just for work reasons, and she's going to school there 0:17:49.720 --> 0:17:53.159 as well, French English bilingual school, and she's going to 0:17:53.200 --> 0:17:56.840 a German school once a week, so hopefully she'll get it. 0:17:57.119 --> 0:17:59.439 Oh cute, I love that. Yeah, I know. I've been 0:17:59.480 --> 0:18:01.800 trying to learn Spanish for about seven years, so I 0:18:01.840 --> 0:18:04.520 mean the real key ingredient to everybody is to fucking 0:18:04.600 --> 0:18:06.240 learn it as a baby so you don't have to 0:18:06.320 --> 0:18:08.240 learn it as an adult because we should all know 0:18:08.359 --> 0:18:10.840 multiple languages. And I'm sick of my I have my 0:18:10.840 --> 0:18:14.080 first Spanish class tomorrow. By the way, I'm really she 0:18:14.119 --> 0:18:16.560 does pretty well. I came back from Spain. We were 0:18:16.560 --> 0:18:17.960 in my Orca for a month. That I came back. 0:18:18.000 --> 0:18:20.679 I told my housekeeper, I'm like, listen, don't speak anything 0:18:20.680 --> 0:18:22.720 but Spanish. We're only speaking Spanish from now and I 0:18:22.760 --> 0:18:25.920 need to level up. And I mean it's really limiting her. Yeah, 0:18:25.960 --> 0:18:28.280 I haven't understand the word. She's said since our return, 0:18:28.520 --> 0:18:32.760 so it's really limiting our conversation. But also talk to 0:18:32.800 --> 0:18:36.200 me about you and Norman. You're not married, right, No, 0:18:36.200 --> 0:18:40.240 not yet? You got engaged. Oh you did? Congratulations, Thank you. 0:18:41.560 --> 0:18:44.800 He's a cute I love Norman. I met him once, 0:18:44.840 --> 0:18:46.439 I did an interview with him, and I liked him 0:18:46.440 --> 0:18:48.440 a lot. So I was very happy to find out 0:18:48.440 --> 0:18:50.439 about you guys getting together because you seem like a 0:18:50.480 --> 0:18:52.520 great hair and I know that you've been in you 0:18:52.600 --> 0:18:55.160 had a lot, a couple of relationships prior to that 0:18:55.280 --> 0:18:57.800 and longer ones. So talk to us a little bit 0:18:57.840 --> 0:19:01.439 about how you're life has changed by being in this 0:19:01.600 --> 0:19:05.679 relationship and how you know you've grown. You know, I 0:19:05.720 --> 0:19:08.639 think that I'm much more my own person. I don't 0:19:08.720 --> 0:19:11.679 tend to I mean, that might sound really dark, but 0:19:12.080 --> 0:19:14.200 you know, I hope things will work out with Norman, 0:19:14.240 --> 0:19:17.399 will always be together, but I've kind of grown into 0:19:17.840 --> 0:19:21.560 being more independent, you know, being hopefully actually a better partner, 0:19:21.640 --> 0:19:23.920 you know, where I let him do his thing, support 0:19:24.000 --> 0:19:26.480 him and what he wants to do, but reserve the 0:19:26.600 --> 0:19:30.400 rights that I want the same for myself. And I'm 0:19:30.400 --> 0:19:33.200 trying to really live the life of a good family 0:19:33.280 --> 0:19:37.040 where we model to our child that it's okay to 0:19:37.080 --> 0:19:39.760 be absent, it's okay to work, but it's the most 0:19:39.760 --> 0:19:43.240 important thing is to be a family and uphold those traditions. 0:19:43.320 --> 0:19:46.160 And I really want to show up and I need 0:19:46.240 --> 0:19:49.240 him to show up, you know. Yeah. I I feel 0:19:49.240 --> 0:19:51.879 like as we get how old are you, Diane, and 0:19:52.960 --> 0:19:54.720 oh you are okay, we're almost the same age on 0:19:54.800 --> 0:19:57.880 forty seven. I feel like as we get into our forties, 0:19:58.040 --> 0:19:59.560