1 00:00:00,680 --> 00:00:21,320 Speaker 1: Hmmm. Hello everyone, it's your girl, cheek ees, and you've 2 00:00:21,320 --> 00:00:23,959 Speaker 1: reached the voicemail box board. Dear cheekies, I'm here to 3 00:00:23,960 --> 00:00:26,680 Speaker 1: give you advice on anything and everything you need help with. 4 00:00:27,080 --> 00:00:29,360 Speaker 1: Maybe you're going through a breakup, maybe you're having issues 5 00:00:29,400 --> 00:00:32,120 Speaker 1: with your family, or maybe you need help figuring out 6 00:00:32,120 --> 00:00:34,800 Speaker 1: how to balance your checkbook or how to start a business, 7 00:00:35,120 --> 00:00:38,400 Speaker 1: whatever the cases, I want to hear from you. Remember 8 00:00:38,560 --> 00:00:41,000 Speaker 1: these are my thoughts and opinions. And if you're suffering 9 00:00:41,000 --> 00:00:43,159 Speaker 1: from an issue or hardship, you should seek help from 10 00:00:43,159 --> 00:00:46,159 Speaker 1: a qualified professional. All right, Now go ahead and leave 11 00:00:46,159 --> 00:00:53,080 Speaker 1: your question at the sound of the babe. Now, hi, 12 00:00:53,280 --> 00:00:57,320 Speaker 1: cheek ease. First of all, congratulations on your Latin grammy. 13 00:00:57,400 --> 00:01:01,000 Speaker 1: You deserve this and everything that's coming your way, so 14 00:01:01,200 --> 00:01:05,080 Speaker 1: felici that is. And now my question is. I am 15 00:01:05,120 --> 00:01:08,039 Speaker 1: the youngest of four. My sister is the oldest. Her 16 00:01:08,040 --> 00:01:12,559 Speaker 1: and I used to be super close, best friends and everything, 17 00:01:13,319 --> 00:01:15,720 Speaker 1: and I would do everything for her, for her two 18 00:01:15,800 --> 00:01:18,720 Speaker 1: kids and one of her kids it's my godson. And 19 00:01:19,000 --> 00:01:23,720 Speaker 1: ever since I started putting me first and I got 20 00:01:23,720 --> 00:01:27,880 Speaker 1: into relationship and finally got married, things have changed. And 21 00:01:27,920 --> 00:01:33,800 Speaker 1: now she and my nephews don't talk to me, they 22 00:01:34,319 --> 00:01:38,480 Speaker 1: don't want nothing to do with me. I don't know gets, 23 00:01:41,040 --> 00:01:44,959 Speaker 1: but I recently got a text from my godson saying 24 00:01:45,520 --> 00:01:49,400 Speaker 1: he's super hurt that I don't talk to him and 25 00:01:49,520 --> 00:01:52,760 Speaker 1: for me to consider him dead. It really hurts. But 26 00:01:52,920 --> 00:01:57,440 Speaker 1: just wondering if you have any advice, how do I 27 00:01:57,480 --> 00:02:01,400 Speaker 1: figure out the topic that my sister has towards my 28 00:02:01,480 --> 00:02:05,520 Speaker 1: nephews towards me. How do I rebuild that relationship? Thank 29 00:02:05,560 --> 00:02:09,560 Speaker 1: you for listening. No, Jessica, I'm so sorry to hear that. 30 00:02:09,560 --> 00:02:11,480 Speaker 1: That's hard, and I can hear the painting you're in 31 00:02:11,520 --> 00:02:14,920 Speaker 1: your voice, And thank you for you know, congratulating me 32 00:02:14,919 --> 00:02:18,520 Speaker 1: from my Latin grammy. I really appreciate that. Um. Okay, look, 33 00:02:18,880 --> 00:02:21,639 Speaker 1: this one's tough because it's family and it's your sister, 34 00:02:21,840 --> 00:02:24,040 Speaker 1: and you guys know, I love my siblings so much. 35 00:02:24,280 --> 00:02:26,520 Speaker 1: It doesn't sound like you've given up and lost hope, 36 00:02:26,800 --> 00:02:30,440 Speaker 1: which is good. Unfortunately I don't know your sister, but 37 00:02:30,840 --> 00:02:34,640 Speaker 1: it sounds like she got used to you being available 38 00:02:34,639 --> 00:02:38,519 Speaker 1: and always being there, and now that you're not because 39 00:02:39,160 --> 00:02:42,240 Speaker 1: you're putting yourself first, which I think is a great thing, 40 00:02:42,280 --> 00:02:44,520 Speaker 1: and you found someone that loves you. I think your 41 00:02:44,520 --> 00:02:46,880 Speaker 1: sister should be happy for you, but for some reason 42 00:02:46,919 --> 00:02:49,000 Speaker 1: she's not. I mean, oh, there's always the sides to 43 00:02:49,040 --> 00:02:55,720 Speaker 1: a story. Look um, I would say, try to say, 44 00:02:55,840 --> 00:02:58,880 Speaker 1: even if you said consider me dead, just say I'd 45 00:02:58,960 --> 00:03:01,000 Speaker 1: love to speak to you in person, if you would 46 00:03:01,000 --> 00:03:02,880 Speaker 1: give me the opportunity to hear me out. I'd like 47 00:03:02,919 --> 00:03:06,679 Speaker 1: to hear you out. Let's have a conversation. I think 48 00:03:06,720 --> 00:03:09,240 Speaker 1: that's the best thing you could do, is at least try, 49 00:03:09,320 --> 00:03:12,040 Speaker 1: even with your sister, say hey, I don't know what's 50 00:03:12,080 --> 00:03:14,720 Speaker 1: going on. I don't want to have this tension. I'd 51 00:03:14,720 --> 00:03:16,320 Speaker 1: like to hear you out. If I did anything to 52 00:03:16,440 --> 00:03:18,480 Speaker 1: offend you, I'd like for you to tell me in 53 00:03:18,520 --> 00:03:22,280 Speaker 1: person and for you guys to talk about it now. 54 00:03:22,320 --> 00:03:24,760 Speaker 1: If that doesn't work, then that's where you have to 55 00:03:24,880 --> 00:03:28,280 Speaker 1: just respect their decision and leave it in God's hands 56 00:03:28,320 --> 00:03:30,400 Speaker 1: and move on with your life. As long as you 57 00:03:30,440 --> 00:03:34,400 Speaker 1: know I tried and that door was shut, It's okay. 58 00:03:34,600 --> 00:03:36,640 Speaker 1: At least you tried. You knocked down that door and 59 00:03:36,640 --> 00:03:39,680 Speaker 1: it didn't open. But you can go on with your 60 00:03:39,680 --> 00:03:43,360 Speaker 1: life at peace and knowing that, Hey, this is what 61 00:03:43,400 --> 00:03:44,920 Speaker 1: I do. Because one time I had a falling out 62 00:03:44,960 --> 00:03:47,200 Speaker 1: with my cousin, and she had a reason to be 63 00:03:47,240 --> 00:03:50,160 Speaker 1: upset with me, absolutely, and she didn't want to talk 64 00:03:50,160 --> 00:03:51,880 Speaker 1: to me. And I said, look, the doors to my 65 00:03:51,960 --> 00:03:53,800 Speaker 1: heart and to my home will always be open for 66 00:03:53,840 --> 00:03:56,440 Speaker 1: you when you are ready to talk to me. And 67 00:03:56,480 --> 00:03:58,880 Speaker 1: thank goodness, after a while, after a year, we started 68 00:03:58,920 --> 00:04:00,880 Speaker 1: talking again. So I think if you just leave that 69 00:04:00,920 --> 00:04:02,960 Speaker 1: door open, leave your door open, even if they don't 70 00:04:03,000 --> 00:04:05,800 Speaker 1: want to let you in, I think that's great. Again. 71 00:04:05,800 --> 00:04:07,720 Speaker 1: I'm so sorry that you're going through this. I'm happy 72 00:04:07,760 --> 00:04:09,440 Speaker 1: for you though. You found someone that loves you. You're 73 00:04:09,440 --> 00:04:15,720 Speaker 1: in a relationship that's beautiful. They're going to be happy 74 00:04:15,760 --> 00:04:19,839 Speaker 1: for you and they're going to support you. So I 75 00:04:19,880 --> 00:04:21,600 Speaker 1: hope it works out though, I really do. I hope 76 00:04:21,640 --> 00:04:23,320 Speaker 1: she answers, and I hope you guys get to talk, okay. 77 00:04:23,480 --> 00:04:25,760 Speaker 1: Sending you a big, big hug. Jessica, thank you for 78 00:04:26,080 --> 00:04:32,040 Speaker 1: your question, and I'm gonna be praying for you all right. 79 00:04:32,160 --> 00:04:36,200 Speaker 1: So our next question is from g Hi Gis. I 80 00:04:36,240 --> 00:04:38,560 Speaker 1: just wanted to let you know I do enjoy your 81 00:04:38,680 --> 00:04:42,799 Speaker 1: podcast every Monday morning. The only question I have for 82 00:04:42,839 --> 00:04:45,960 Speaker 1: you would be, I'm struggling where my life is at 83 00:04:46,000 --> 00:04:48,880 Speaker 1: the moment. I have been divorced for the past three 84 00:04:48,960 --> 00:04:52,040 Speaker 1: years now, and I had to live back with my parents. 85 00:04:52,320 --> 00:04:55,720 Speaker 1: And the only thing that I do sometimes can embarrass 86 00:04:55,760 --> 00:04:59,400 Speaker 1: about when I do go on dates, when they asked 87 00:04:59,440 --> 00:05:02,040 Speaker 1: me where live and I tell him I lived with 88 00:05:02,160 --> 00:05:05,839 Speaker 1: my parents. Unfortunately, I can't afford to move out right 89 00:05:05,839 --> 00:05:09,719 Speaker 1: now because of how expensive everything is. I just wanted 90 00:05:09,720 --> 00:05:14,800 Speaker 1: to get your feedback and see what your advice would be. 91 00:05:15,040 --> 00:05:19,279 Speaker 1: Thank you, Okay, Gia, Well, first of all, that is 92 00:05:19,320 --> 00:05:22,120 Speaker 1: nothing to be ashamed of. I think after the pandemic 93 00:05:22,200 --> 00:05:24,280 Speaker 1: and everything that's going on in the world right now, 94 00:05:24,320 --> 00:05:28,240 Speaker 1: everything is very expensive. So you need to be patient 95 00:05:28,279 --> 00:05:31,000 Speaker 1: with yourself and compassionate with yourself in regard to that, 96 00:05:31,200 --> 00:05:35,640 Speaker 1: and whoever you're dating is going to understand that. And 97 00:05:35,680 --> 00:05:38,040 Speaker 1: I think the best thing here is always be honest. 98 00:05:38,279 --> 00:05:43,279 Speaker 1: Don't start a relationship or anything with a lie, you 99 00:05:43,279 --> 00:05:44,920 Speaker 1: know what I mean, Like you don't have to say 100 00:05:45,040 --> 00:05:46,720 Speaker 1: I'm staying with my mom just for a little bit, 101 00:05:46,720 --> 00:05:48,680 Speaker 1: like just say, you know what times are tough, I 102 00:05:48,800 --> 00:05:50,840 Speaker 1: move back with my mom. I feel safe there, I'm 103 00:05:50,880 --> 00:05:53,599 Speaker 1: happy there, because what better than to live with your parents. 104 00:05:53,600 --> 00:05:55,240 Speaker 1: I think I would have probably say with my mom forever, 105 00:05:55,240 --> 00:05:57,160 Speaker 1: I'm not even gonna lie. Hopefully he has a house 106 00:05:57,200 --> 00:05:58,760 Speaker 1: you guys can hang out at. You know, I don't know, 107 00:05:58,839 --> 00:06:01,039 Speaker 1: but I think the best thing you could do is 108 00:06:01,080 --> 00:06:04,279 Speaker 1: just be honest, baby, just straight up, and don't be 109 00:06:04,320 --> 00:06:08,159 Speaker 1: ashamed of that, because we all start somewhere and sometimes, yes, 110 00:06:08,160 --> 00:06:10,240 Speaker 1: we have to take two steps back to be able 111 00:06:10,279 --> 00:06:13,799 Speaker 1: to leap five steps forward. It's okay. Just be patient. 112 00:06:14,400 --> 00:06:16,320 Speaker 1: If the guy likes you, he's not gonna care where 113 00:06:16,360 --> 00:06:19,039 Speaker 1: you live, girl, like honestly, like, he's gonna say, okay, 114 00:06:19,120 --> 00:06:21,960 Speaker 1: let me work hard, and I like this woman so 115 00:06:22,000 --> 00:06:23,480 Speaker 1: that I can buy her house, so we can buy 116 00:06:23,480 --> 00:06:26,080 Speaker 1: a house together, you know. So I'm gonna be praying 117 00:06:26,080 --> 00:06:27,919 Speaker 1: for that guy to come. Okay, and if he gets 118 00:06:27,920 --> 00:06:30,200 Speaker 1: mad over you're living with your mom, something wrong with him. 119 00:06:30,240 --> 00:06:32,440 Speaker 1: You don't want that boy, okay, And that's a boy. 120 00:06:32,480 --> 00:06:35,760 Speaker 1: So anyways, I hope that helped, Gia, and don't be ashamed. 121 00:06:36,520 --> 00:06:39,120 Speaker 1: Living at your mom's is amazing. I wish I had 122 00:06:39,160 --> 00:06:41,400 Speaker 1: my mommy so I can live with her too. Anyways, Okay, 123 00:06:41,520 --> 00:06:48,799 Speaker 1: sending you a big kiss. Alright, guys, our final color 124 00:06:48,960 --> 00:06:51,840 Speaker 1: didn't leave a name, so I'm not sure who you are, 125 00:06:51,920 --> 00:06:53,839 Speaker 1: but let's hit the play button and see what the 126 00:06:53,920 --> 00:06:58,520 Speaker 1: question is hijinks. My question is what do you think 127 00:06:58,560 --> 00:07:06,320 Speaker 1: about religious in my situation? My family is Christian and 128 00:07:06,640 --> 00:07:12,080 Speaker 1: my mom really believes in Shannony and all of those things. 129 00:07:12,240 --> 00:07:16,559 Speaker 1: And right now she really wants me to little church 130 00:07:16,600 --> 00:07:21,240 Speaker 1: for her and stuff, but I don't really. I believe 131 00:07:21,280 --> 00:07:24,239 Speaker 1: in it, but I don't really like going to church. 132 00:07:24,800 --> 00:07:27,360 Speaker 1: There's a lot of things you can and cannot do, 133 00:07:28,360 --> 00:07:33,120 Speaker 1: and it's really hard. So what do you think? Okay, 134 00:07:33,360 --> 00:07:38,400 Speaker 1: my lovely anonymous color here leaving a question. Okay, that's tough. 135 00:07:38,640 --> 00:07:42,680 Speaker 1: It's tough because that's your mom. We have to respect them, 136 00:07:42,720 --> 00:07:45,200 Speaker 1: you know. And I think it's a little harder, especially 137 00:07:45,200 --> 00:07:48,320 Speaker 1: in our Latin culture, because it doesn't matter how old 138 00:07:48,360 --> 00:07:50,280 Speaker 1: you are, you're always going to be a little girl 139 00:07:50,280 --> 00:07:51,960 Speaker 1: in their eyes, you know what I mean. So it's 140 00:07:52,000 --> 00:07:55,440 Speaker 1: like a lama and whatever they say. And I totally 141 00:07:55,480 --> 00:07:58,960 Speaker 1: get that. But little by little, she has to also 142 00:07:59,040 --> 00:08:01,520 Speaker 1: understand that you have to live your life, you know, 143 00:08:01,560 --> 00:08:04,840 Speaker 1: and make your own decisions. Maybe you should compromise with her, 144 00:08:04,840 --> 00:08:07,280 Speaker 1: maybe like maybe I can't go every Sunday, you know, 145 00:08:07,320 --> 00:08:10,200 Speaker 1: maybe I'll go once every month to keep her happy, 146 00:08:10,240 --> 00:08:15,760 Speaker 1: to keep her at peace. Be like, look, Mom, I'm 147 00:08:15,760 --> 00:08:17,760 Speaker 1: a good girl, but I don't want to go to 148 00:08:17,840 --> 00:08:20,400 Speaker 1: church every Sunday, you know, but I'll go once a 149 00:08:20,400 --> 00:08:21,720 Speaker 1: month with you, you know what I mean. Like, I 150 00:08:21,760 --> 00:08:24,880 Speaker 1: think compromising would be good, especially because she's your mom 151 00:08:24,920 --> 00:08:27,640 Speaker 1: and it's okay. I know we're not gonna get into it, 152 00:08:27,680 --> 00:08:30,560 Speaker 1: but I feel you on like, you know, sometimes churches, 153 00:08:30,640 --> 00:08:32,640 Speaker 1: not all of them, some you know, I've had bad 154 00:08:32,640 --> 00:08:36,640 Speaker 1: experiences myself, so sometimes it just doesn't feel right, you know, 155 00:08:36,920 --> 00:08:39,960 Speaker 1: And that's okay. But that's the best advice, honestly I 156 00:08:39,960 --> 00:08:42,280 Speaker 1: can give you, babe, is just maybe compromising with her 157 00:08:42,440 --> 00:08:45,200 Speaker 1: and going once in a while, just not because she's 158 00:08:45,200 --> 00:08:47,760 Speaker 1: telling you, but just to give her peace, you know 159 00:08:47,800 --> 00:08:51,280 Speaker 1: what I mean. That's what makes her happy. So sometimes 160 00:08:51,320 --> 00:08:52,840 Speaker 1: we just got to give and take a little bit, 161 00:08:52,880 --> 00:08:55,280 Speaker 1: you feel me. So that's it because it's a little 162 00:08:55,280 --> 00:08:57,960 Speaker 1: tough there, you know. But thank you for your question 163 00:08:58,280 --> 00:09:02,400 Speaker 1: and what Jessica. I ga to our lovely anonymous color. 164 00:09:02,960 --> 00:09:05,760 Speaker 1: I hope you all have a really great week. I'll 165 00:09:05,840 --> 00:09:09,240 Speaker 1: be here next Wednesday answering even more questions. You can 166 00:09:09,240 --> 00:09:12,319 Speaker 1: submit yours at speak pipe dot com, slash Chickens and 167 00:09:12,400 --> 00:09:24,719 Speaker 1: Chill podcast, Yes, Samon Losamo, The Sipos. 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