WEBVTT - The Perfect Husband | Jenifer's Story 0:00:00.280 --> 0:00:04.360 This podcast discusses sexual assault. Please take care while listening. 0:00:06.160 --> 0:00:08.280 I want to share a story of a real life 0:00:08.280 --> 0:00:12.280 fairy tale gone horribly wrong, A cautionary tale about a 0:00:12.320 --> 0:00:15.520 marriage so filled with betrayal and deceit that it set 0:00:15.560 --> 0:00:19.200 off a path of destruction that people are still recovering from. 0:00:19.800 --> 0:00:22.120 My name is Andrea Gunning and I'm a podcast producer 0:00:22.160 --> 0:00:25.120 in Philadelphia. In the summer of twenty nineteen, I had 0:00:25.160 --> 0:00:27.840 just wrapped up a project when I met a fellow producer, 0:00:28.240 --> 0:00:32.080 Jennifer Fasin. She pitched a story she thought was compelling 0:00:32.200 --> 0:00:35.960 enough to make something of, and it turns out it 0:00:36.040 --> 0:00:37.279 was her own story. 0:00:37.840 --> 0:00:40.520 Information this Morning about a cop County teacher in jail. 0:00:40.880 --> 0:00:44.320 Spencer Haron was arrested Friday at his home in Ackworth. 0:00:44.479 --> 0:00:46.559 Haaren is currently in the cop County jail on a 0:00:46.600 --> 0:00:48.040 fifty five thousand dollars bond. 0:00:49.720 --> 0:00:53.400 Spencer was Jennifer's husband of seven years. Twenty years after 0:00:53.479 --> 0:00:55.959 dating in college, the stars seem to align and they 0:00:56.000 --> 0:00:59.880 reconnected when they decided to get sirious. Jennifer moved from 0:01:00.200 --> 0:01:03.680 la where she worked as a television producer, to Ackworth, Georgia, 0:01:03.840 --> 0:01:07.080 where Spencer was a popular high school teacher. He was 0:01:07.160 --> 0:01:09.959 also awarded Teacher of the Year twice. 0:01:10.520 --> 0:01:13.280 We've learned his arrest stems from an alleged three year 0:01:13.360 --> 0:01:18.160 sexual relationship with a sixteen year old female student, Investigators 0:01:18.160 --> 0:01:20.480 saying The team says it started back in twenty sixteen 0:01:20.600 --> 0:01:23.800 when he allegedly groped her. It all happened on Kel 0:01:23.920 --> 0:01:27.080 High School property. The school's website lists the forty eight 0:01:27.160 --> 0:01:29.560 year old as the head of the career tech department 0:01:30.000 --> 0:01:30.639 and a coach. 0:01:31.200 --> 0:01:34.400 Jennifer was blindsided. 0:01:35.720 --> 0:01:43.360 I came home on June first, twenty eighteen. Spence didn't 0:01:43.400 --> 0:01:47.600 greet me. Instead, he was sitting on the couch shaking 0:01:47.640 --> 0:01:53.960 his head. It's all over. It's all over. It's all over. 0:01:57.520 --> 0:02:00.480 Nothing could have been more shocking from this popular teacher, 0:02:00.880 --> 0:02:06.320 respected coach, and loving husband. The arrest unlocked terrible secrets 0:02:06.400 --> 0:02:10.560 about predatory behavior that went against the image Spencer Heron 0:02:10.639 --> 0:02:14.959 fabricated for years, the cheerful neighbor, member of the Air 0:02:15.040 --> 0:02:20.600 National Guard. The truth shook a community, devastated his wife, 0:02:21.160 --> 0:02:32.200 and sent Spencer Heron to prison. I'm Andrea Gunning and 0:02:32.360 --> 0:02:39.160 this is betrayal Episode one. The perfect husband. 0:02:45.320 --> 0:02:48.799 Spencer and I met at college. 0:02:49.080 --> 0:02:52.080 I wanted to be in video production and he was 0:02:52.160 --> 0:02:53.320 the station manager. 0:02:54.120 --> 0:02:55.959 And I'll never forget our first meeting. 0:02:57.600 --> 0:03:00.800 He said, excuse me, do you know what time? And 0:03:00.840 --> 0:03:03.120 I said, oh, I don't wear a watch. She said, oh, 0:03:03.200 --> 0:03:06.360 me either, and that was kind of like the Inn 0:03:07.080 --> 0:03:11.840 and I don't know, it was just one of those things. 0:03:11.880 --> 0:03:16.120 We just connected right away. He was a year older 0:03:16.160 --> 0:03:20.320 than I was. In him being the station manager, he 0:03:20.440 --> 0:03:24.760 seems so cool to me. I remember I tried out 0:03:24.800 --> 0:03:29.079 for anchor that semester and he didn't choose me because 0:03:29.120 --> 0:03:31.880 he was afraid that if he did, everybody would know 0:03:31.960 --> 0:03:37.200 that he liked me. The word college sweethearts, that's what 0:03:37.280 --> 0:03:42.000 we were. We had so much fun. He had always 0:03:42.040 --> 0:03:45.120 try to do surprises for me or make a mixtape. 0:03:46.080 --> 0:03:48.400 Every day when we would pass by each other in 0:03:48.440 --> 0:03:52.480 the hallways, he would give me a note. He was 0:03:52.560 --> 0:03:57.640 just very attentive and he was very caring. 0:03:58.280 --> 0:04:00.520 I'm Jeffrey Birch and this is Berg. 0:04:00.800 --> 0:04:03.040 I'm her stepfather and I. 0:04:02.920 --> 0:04:07.880 Am her mom. She and Spence stated in college, and 0:04:08.640 --> 0:04:12.440 she was absolutely in love with him, and we loved 0:04:12.480 --> 0:04:12.880 him too. 0:04:13.240 --> 0:04:17.440 I'm Karen Bason and I'm John Fason. I'm Jenn's father 0:04:18.160 --> 0:04:19.520 and I'm Jennifer's stepmother. 0:04:20.480 --> 0:04:21.480 We thought a lot of it. 0:04:21.600 --> 0:04:23.440 We thought it was a wonderful young man. 0:04:23.640 --> 0:04:26.599 He had a great personality and you know, just a 0:04:26.680 --> 0:04:31.560 real down thearth person, very personable and michable and a 0:04:31.640 --> 0:04:35.000 talented fellow. I mean he was a musician, and I 0:04:35.000 --> 0:04:38.760 mean he played trumpet very good, evidently. 0:04:41.160 --> 0:04:42.800 Jennifer's sister Christy. 0:04:43.200 --> 0:04:46.000 You know, when people are in love, they just are 0:04:46.040 --> 0:04:50.600 beautiful because they're themselves and someone just totally accepts them 0:04:50.640 --> 0:04:53.599 for who they are, and they just shine and they're beautiful. 0:04:53.640 --> 0:04:57.279 Like I remember seeing my sister and she was wearing 0:04:57.440 --> 0:05:02.880 a red winter coat. She just looked so beautiful, and 0:05:03.640 --> 0:05:08.279 it was because she was just so in love. I 0:05:08.279 --> 0:05:11.760 don't know when we started calling him Saint Spence, but 0:05:12.760 --> 0:05:15.919 there were a few reasons why he was wonderful to 0:05:16.080 --> 0:05:18.240 my sister. When he got up, he was like, does 0:05:18.240 --> 0:05:21.760 anybody need anything, or he would go get coffee for 0:05:22.000 --> 0:05:26.640 my sister. He was polite and engaged with my mom 0:05:26.839 --> 0:05:31.359 and my grandparents. He was really curious about everyone, and 0:05:32.040 --> 0:05:34.160 he just didn't do anything wrong. 0:05:37.080 --> 0:05:40.440 It was my senior year in college and I wanted 0:05:40.440 --> 0:05:43.080 to go out and you know, enjoy my friends and 0:05:43.160 --> 0:05:48.000 have fun. So we broke up, still kept in touch. 0:05:49.600 --> 0:05:53.040 I think I can honestly say I broke his heart 0:05:53.240 --> 0:05:58.000 and he was very sad and tried to get me back. 0:05:58.720 --> 0:06:01.039 And it wasn't that there was any anything wrong. It 0:06:01.120 --> 0:06:06.799 was just not the right time. So we remained friends, 0:06:06.960 --> 0:06:12.279 but eventually went our separate ways. My grandmother was upset. 0:06:12.839 --> 0:06:16.280 She couldn't believe it. She just thought Spence was perfect. 0:06:16.880 --> 0:06:19.240 She thought we were going to get married after school. 0:06:20.240 --> 0:06:25.320 My sister cried, She was like, how could you leave 0:06:25.520 --> 0:06:29.719 this great, perfect guy. You know, a lot of people 0:06:29.760 --> 0:06:34.880 can't understand, but at the time, that's just how I felt. 0:06:35.120 --> 0:06:39.680 I wanted to explore. We dated for a year and 0:06:39.680 --> 0:06:44.599 a half and it was one of those relationships where 0:06:45.920 --> 0:06:49.600 you realized what a good one looks like. 0:06:50.480 --> 0:06:54.520 She took her communication degree, She got into radio and 0:06:54.960 --> 0:06:59.960 was on the air in Minneapolis. From there, she decided 0:07:00.160 --> 0:07:02.960 that she wanted to see if she could get a 0:07:03.040 --> 0:07:06.960 producing job in California. She just decided, I'm going to 0:07:07.080 --> 0:07:09.119 la and I'm going to find my mark. 0:07:09.800 --> 0:07:12.640 Spencer and Jennifer stayed in touch for a while. Like 0:07:12.680 --> 0:07:15.640 a lot of couples in college, they eventually lost touch 0:07:15.720 --> 0:07:17.160 and started their own lives. 0:07:18.240 --> 0:07:22.800 Jen was on a path, so we lost touch after 0:07:22.840 --> 0:07:26.680 that for a long time. I think partly because he 0:07:26.800 --> 0:07:30.520 was married and had kids, and I wanted to respect 0:07:30.560 --> 0:07:33.600 that and those boundaries in that relationship. 0:07:34.240 --> 0:07:38.360 Jennifer was ambitious. She built an impressive resume and reputation 0:07:38.560 --> 0:07:42.640 as a talented reality show producer and was even nominated 0:07:42.920 --> 0:07:44.320 for three Emmy Awards. 0:07:47.800 --> 0:07:50.680 You Are Afoot Too entered the court room of Judge 0:07:50.760 --> 0:07:51.680 Judith Shindlight. 0:07:52.600 --> 0:07:58.680 She also worked for Judge Judy. In fact, when was 0:07:58.720 --> 0:08:02.000 nominated for a time Emmy, we got to go to 0:08:02.080 --> 0:08:04.320 New York to walk the red carpet. 0:08:06.000 --> 0:08:08.800 After a few years with Judy, Jennifer made her way 0:08:08.840 --> 0:08:18.920 from daytime to Primetime Tonight Guys. 0:08:19.960 --> 0:08:23.840 She ended up getting a job with Extreme Makeover Home 0:08:24.000 --> 0:08:27.680 Edition with Ty Pennington, so she went all over the country. 0:08:28.400 --> 0:08:31.440 Jen was making her mark in the industry. She could 0:08:31.440 --> 0:08:35.560 go from Judge Judy to Homemakeovers to the Craziness at 0:08:35.640 --> 0:08:36.120 the Beach. 0:08:36.800 --> 0:08:38.800 One of the ones that I was shocked about was 0:08:38.840 --> 0:08:42.800 she was doing Jersey Shore. That's what Jennifer excels at 0:08:42.960 --> 0:08:46.520 is being able to get along with everybody. Keep peace, 0:08:46.720 --> 0:08:53.200 amongst everybody, manage their different personalities and then produce a 0:08:53.240 --> 0:08:55.560 great show. That's what she's good at. 0:08:55.800 --> 0:08:59.679 Well, Jennifer was building an impressive resume. Spencer had built 0:08:59.760 --> 0:09:03.040 a different life back in Georgia. 0:09:03.400 --> 0:09:09.920 Spence got married, had three great kids, and for many 0:09:10.040 --> 0:09:13.480 years he was the stay at home parent who took 0:09:13.520 --> 0:09:14.559 care of those kids. 0:09:15.280 --> 0:09:20.280 Kevin, Spence's best friend, described Spence as trustworthy and loyal. 0:09:21.120 --> 0:09:24.880 It was funny, very charismatic if he came from a 0:09:24.880 --> 0:09:29.240 big family, so you never had much like in terms 0:09:29.240 --> 0:09:32.800 of physical possessions and stuff, so we always seemed like 0:09:32.840 --> 0:09:37.640 a simple person. My name is Rod and I've known 0:09:37.720 --> 0:09:39.880 Spencer since probably. 0:09:41.040 --> 0:09:45.360 Nineteen eighty so eighty sixth grade. Rod and Spencer bonded 0:09:45.400 --> 0:09:48.280 over shared interests. Our high school was pretty small. 0:09:48.280 --> 0:09:51.079 There was probably one hundred and fifty people in the 0:09:51.200 --> 0:09:52.600 graduating class something like that. 0:09:53.280 --> 0:09:56.560 I think we were both always pop students in top popularity. 0:09:56.600 --> 0:10:00.320 I would think Spencer grew up in Avondale Estates, twenty 0:10:00.320 --> 0:10:01.440 minutes east of Atlanta. 0:10:01.720 --> 0:10:02.920 It's kind of Cony Well. 0:10:03.480 --> 0:10:07.680 Spence's real father, Spencer's real mother. They had this other 0:10:07.720 --> 0:10:11.160 couple that was good friends, and both couples I guess 0:10:11.240 --> 0:10:14.400 you could say he split up and married each other. 0:10:15.320 --> 0:10:21.560 And so Spence has step brothers, real brothers and half brothers, and. 0:10:21.440 --> 0:10:24.560 There was a bunch of It's a little confusing, but 0:10:24.600 --> 0:10:27.959 Spence was part of a big blended family. There were 0:10:28.040 --> 0:10:36.880 six boys altogether. Well, Jennifer was living her best life 0:10:36.920 --> 0:10:39.640 in La Spence was living in Georgia as a well 0:10:39.640 --> 0:10:44.880 regarded video production teacher. Julia Sultziak was one of Spencer's 0:10:44.880 --> 0:10:48.760 students over a decade ago. She still has fond memories. 0:10:49.400 --> 0:10:52.839 My name is Julia. I graduated from cal High School 0:10:52.840 --> 0:10:55.640 in twenty ten. I'm going to refer to him as 0:10:55.679 --> 0:10:58.800 coach Haaren, if that's okay. I've never actually called him 0:10:58.840 --> 0:11:02.280 Spencer's so everyone called him co Charan because he was 0:11:02.559 --> 0:11:03.439 the soccer coach. 0:11:04.120 --> 0:11:05.720 He coached girls soccer. 0:11:06.480 --> 0:11:10.320 Co Charan was my high school video productions teacher, my 0:11:10.559 --> 0:11:14.719 junior and senior year high school. Everyone who had him 0:11:14.760 --> 0:11:18.160 loved him. He was the fun class, the fun teacher, 0:11:18.679 --> 0:11:21.679 the fund program. You got to be on the announcements, 0:11:22.000 --> 0:11:24.040 you know, you got to work on these cool projects. 0:11:24.400 --> 0:11:27.240 When Spencer was thirty seven, he joined the Air National 0:11:27.240 --> 0:11:30.160 Guard and became part of the band he was the 0:11:30.240 --> 0:11:33.040 oldest person in his boot camp class and kind of 0:11:33.040 --> 0:11:37.680 played the role of dad there. And then, out of 0:11:37.679 --> 0:11:41.840 the blue, twenty years later, Jen's first love reached out 0:11:41.840 --> 0:11:43.120 to her on social media. 0:11:43.720 --> 0:11:47.280 I get a message from him on Facebook. He was 0:11:47.400 --> 0:11:52.959 planning his college reunion and saw me like a photo 0:11:53.120 --> 0:11:56.400 or something, so he reached out to me, Hey, how 0:11:56.480 --> 0:12:00.079 are you, how's it going? What are you doing? He 0:12:00.160 --> 0:12:02.600 told me that he had kept up with my career 0:12:03.160 --> 0:12:07.160 and knew I was in LA And honestly, the first 0:12:07.240 --> 0:12:10.640 thing that I wrote to him back was are you 0:12:10.720 --> 0:12:14.840 still married? Because I'm not going to get involved with 0:12:14.960 --> 0:12:20.680 somebody that's married. That's just not me. He wrote me 0:12:20.720 --> 0:12:26.880 back immediately said we split up four years ago. Great. Well, 0:12:26.920 --> 0:12:30.040 then he says, so, I know you travel a lot 0:12:30.120 --> 0:12:33.400 for work. Are you by any chance going to be 0:12:33.600 --> 0:12:37.120 in New York City in December, which was a couple 0:12:37.200 --> 0:12:40.080 months away. He said, I'm going to be there with 0:12:40.240 --> 0:12:44.080 the Decca group from school. I said, no, you know, 0:12:44.120 --> 0:12:47.560 I don't usually work in New York. Then I go 0:12:47.640 --> 0:12:50.920 to the movies with my sister two days later and 0:12:51.080 --> 0:12:54.160 run into my old boss from Extreme Makeover Home Edition, 0:12:54.240 --> 0:12:56.720 who says, what are you doing? Right now, and I 0:12:56.760 --> 0:12:58.760 said nothing. I was in between jobs at the time. 0:12:58.800 --> 0:13:00.520 He said, okay, I need to fly you to New 0:13:00.640 --> 0:13:03.760 York and you need to help me out with this show. 0:13:04.880 --> 0:13:08.680 Said okay, great, I'll do it, hopped on a plane 0:13:08.920 --> 0:13:14.200 and flew out there. So I emailed Spence and said, hey, 0:13:14.400 --> 0:13:17.240 guess what, I'm here. I'm going to be here for 0:13:17.280 --> 0:13:20.319 about a month, and he said, great, I would love 0:13:20.400 --> 0:13:22.600 to see you when you're here, and maybe you could 0:13:22.640 --> 0:13:26.000 even come and speak to the students. So I agreed 0:13:26.040 --> 0:13:35.119 to do that. One afternoon, rushed home from work changed 0:13:35.760 --> 0:13:40.520 tried to look as cute as possible. You know, it's 0:13:40.559 --> 0:13:42.920 December now in New York and hard to get a 0:13:42.960 --> 0:13:45.480 taxi at that time of night, so I was running late. 0:13:46.520 --> 0:13:49.440 The taxi drops me off about two blocks from the 0:13:49.480 --> 0:13:52.080 hotel because I just figured I can get there faster 0:13:52.200 --> 0:13:58.160 if I walk. So I walk in there and he's 0:13:58.240 --> 0:14:01.600 kind of leaning up against the wall, a kind of cool, 0:14:02.520 --> 0:14:04.679 and he sees me, and I think both of our 0:14:04.720 --> 0:14:08.760 faces just light up and gives me a big hug, 0:14:09.160 --> 0:14:13.920 and I just I remember thinking, wow, he looks really good. 0:14:14.880 --> 0:14:18.880 I just I got butterflies. I was excited to see 0:14:18.960 --> 0:14:24.520 him again. And then he and I went and walked 0:14:24.520 --> 0:14:31.200 around New York and talked and learned about each other again, 0:14:31.480 --> 0:14:37.080 and we sat in this cute little speakeasy bar. I 0:14:37.160 --> 0:14:40.640 noticed his sleeve kind of came up on his jacket, 0:14:40.960 --> 0:14:44.200 and I saw he had tattoos. And now I'm not 0:14:44.280 --> 0:14:47.320 a tattoo person, but for some reason, this was so 0:14:47.400 --> 0:14:51.680 sexy to me. You know, now he was cool and everything. 0:14:51.720 --> 0:14:54.640 I remembered, everything I remembered. 0:14:55.800 --> 0:14:58.920 The two of them walked the city all night long, 0:14:59.160 --> 0:15:02.560 just talking and talking and talking, and that's when they 0:15:02.560 --> 0:15:04.680 said they just fell in love all over again. 0:15:05.200 --> 0:15:07.960 I was on cloud nine. He walked me back to 0:15:08.040 --> 0:15:11.840 my hotel room. Yes, he came inside. No, I don't 0:15:11.880 --> 0:15:17.840 usually do that, but it was Spence, and I always 0:15:18.000 --> 0:15:22.560 felt safe with Spence. I asked him if he could stay, 0:15:22.840 --> 0:15:24.960 and he said, no, I have to go back because 0:15:25.160 --> 0:15:27.280 he had to go back to his student's And the 0:15:27.320 --> 0:15:29.520 next morning I woke up and I called my best 0:15:29.520 --> 0:15:33.800 friend crying because I was so sad that I may 0:15:33.840 --> 0:15:37.160 never see him again. I really thought that was it, 0:15:38.160 --> 0:15:44.200 and something in me was really sad about that. But 0:15:44.880 --> 0:15:47.840 that's not what happened. The whole New. 0:15:47.840 --> 0:15:52.480 York trip was serendipitous. After twenty years apart, Jen and 0:15:52.520 --> 0:15:57.440 Spencer were reconnected and this time Spencer was not going 0:15:57.480 --> 0:15:58.080 to lose her. 0:15:58.720 --> 0:16:02.440 He continued, you to pursue me and text me and 0:16:02.560 --> 0:16:06.640 call me from Atlanta to LA. We would be up 0:16:06.720 --> 0:16:09.600 all night on the phone. 0:16:10.600 --> 0:16:13.600 So she went back to LA. He went back to 0:16:14.000 --> 0:16:19.400 Atlanta area and they continue with their phone conversations. He 0:16:19.560 --> 0:16:23.160 had called us and said that he wanted to marry Jennifer, 0:16:23.200 --> 0:16:27.280 and he asked for permission. We said, We've always felt 0:16:27.280 --> 0:16:29.040 like you're part of the family. You know, you don't 0:16:29.080 --> 0:16:31.160 need to ask us, You just need to ask her. 0:16:31.680 --> 0:16:35.320 I said, the only thing we ask of you is 0:16:35.360 --> 0:16:38.800 that you go to LA and you visit Jennifer and 0:16:38.880 --> 0:16:41.920 you see what kind of lifestyle that she was living, 0:16:42.800 --> 0:16:48.080 because she was very, very successful in her career, very 0:16:48.120 --> 0:16:54.000 successful financially. I'm very established. And so he said, okay, 0:16:54.040 --> 0:16:56.200 he would do that because he was going to be 0:16:56.240 --> 0:17:01.320 asking her to possibly move to this small little in Georgia, 0:17:01.600 --> 0:17:05.120 pulling her away from LA. And that was a concern 0:17:05.200 --> 0:17:07.240 that we had too, is would she be able to 0:17:07.280 --> 0:17:09.560 adjuste that fair to her? Is that going to affect 0:17:09.600 --> 0:17:10.160 her career? 0:17:15.160 --> 0:17:20.320 So we re met in December twenty eleven. We made 0:17:20.359 --> 0:17:23.600 the decision pretty quickly that I would move out there, 0:17:23.920 --> 0:17:26.399 and I didn't mind doing that. I mean, it meant 0:17:27.119 --> 0:17:31.560 giving up a lot. My career was doing great. I'd 0:17:31.560 --> 0:17:35.520 really established myself, which in hindsight is a good thing 0:17:35.560 --> 0:17:38.560 because I was able to move to Atlanta and keep working. 0:17:39.400 --> 0:17:42.440 But his kids were there and that was important to him, 0:17:42.600 --> 0:17:46.679 and being a stepchild myself, it was important to me 0:17:46.840 --> 0:17:50.080 that he stay as close to the kids as he could. 0:17:51.440 --> 0:17:56.080 So I decided I would move there. I packed up 0:17:56.080 --> 0:18:00.240 my whole apartment and then he flew out and we 0:18:00.320 --> 0:18:04.639 drove my car across the country. Our first stop was Vegas. 0:18:06.760 --> 0:18:09.840 He gave me this booklet and in it were all 0:18:09.880 --> 0:18:13.120 these photos of the two of us, some of them 0:18:13.160 --> 0:18:16.840 from college and then some from New York and just 0:18:17.040 --> 0:18:20.679 you know, when we had seen each other since. And 0:18:20.720 --> 0:18:24.400 at the very end was a picture of my grandmother's 0:18:24.480 --> 0:18:29.600 ring that he had gotten from my mom. He got 0:18:29.640 --> 0:18:32.880 down on one knee and he asked me to marry him, 0:18:33.400 --> 0:18:36.680 and I was so excited. I wanted to be able 0:18:36.720 --> 0:18:40.960 to remember exactly what it felt like and what it 0:18:41.200 --> 0:18:46.560 sounded like, so I said, can you ask me again, 0:18:47.359 --> 0:18:51.879 and he just laughed and he asked me again, and 0:18:51.960 --> 0:18:56.600 of course I said yes. It was everything that I 0:18:56.640 --> 0:18:57.399 could have wanted. 0:18:58.160 --> 0:19:01.080 It was like a movie, all of the thought and 0:19:01.160 --> 0:19:05.880 effort Spencer put into their engagement. She waited so long 0:19:06.000 --> 0:19:10.879 for love. They were so sweet together. Like he was 0:19:11.040 --> 0:19:15.080 very demonstrative with his affection towards her. 0:19:15.440 --> 0:19:17.320 You know, he would say, look at jen Look how 0:19:17.320 --> 0:19:18.200 cute she looks today. 0:19:18.720 --> 0:19:19.560 He was always very. 0:19:19.480 --> 0:19:22.040 Proud to talk about her and about her accomplishments and 0:19:22.080 --> 0:19:22.600 things like that. 0:19:22.880 --> 0:19:24.360 He would walk by her and just kiss. 0:19:24.160 --> 0:19:25.600 Her on the top of the head, you know, just 0:19:26.160 --> 0:19:26.800 was very sweet. 0:19:26.880 --> 0:19:29.520 And their little love story was very sweet, and they 0:19:29.600 --> 0:19:30.280 loved to tell it. 0:19:30.560 --> 0:19:33.200 If she was traveling, you know, producing a show then 0:19:33.400 --> 0:19:36.719 coming back, he would always walk in and you know, 0:19:36.920 --> 0:19:40.000 Huger and say, so glad you're home. 0:19:40.600 --> 0:19:46.000 Jennifer's friend Danielle. I mean, he would just say, like, hey, wife, 0:19:46.160 --> 0:19:47.760 you know, and he was so proud of that. 0:19:48.480 --> 0:19:52.200 He was such a doting husband. Every morning he would 0:19:52.280 --> 0:19:56.400 leave me a note by the coffee pot. Every single 0:19:56.760 --> 0:20:02.200 morning for six seven years, he would text me during 0:20:02.240 --> 0:20:06.480 the day. I'd never worried about where he was or 0:20:06.560 --> 0:20:12.400 what he was doing. I really really thought we were 0:20:12.440 --> 0:20:16.680 living a fairy tale. Every time the clock would turn 0:20:16.680 --> 0:20:20.600 on eleven eleven, I would make a wish, and ever 0:20:20.640 --> 0:20:22.760 since Spence and I got back together in New York, 0:20:24.200 --> 0:20:29.680 the wish was, I hope Spence and I have a beautiful, 0:20:29.800 --> 0:20:30.800 long life together. 0:20:31.600 --> 0:20:35.439 When the bottom drops out, you usually don't see it coming, 0:20:36.560 --> 0:20:38.680 and Jennifer never did. 0:20:39.800 --> 0:20:45.800 I came home on June first, twenty eighteen, and Spence 0:20:45.840 --> 0:20:49.879 didn't greet me. Instead, he was sitting on the couch 0:20:49.920 --> 0:20:54.959 in the living room just shaking his head. So I 0:20:55.040 --> 0:20:57.720 was joking around with him because he didn't jump up 0:20:57.760 --> 0:21:02.800 and say, wife, welcome back. And I walked over to 0:21:02.880 --> 0:21:06.480 him and he just kept shaking his head. It's all over, 0:21:07.040 --> 0:21:14.200 it's all over, it's all over. I kept expecting him 0:21:14.600 --> 0:21:18.040 to say, oh, just kidding, because what could be that 0:21:18.280 --> 0:21:23.560 wrong that he would be feeling this way. He slid 0:21:23.600 --> 0:21:27.000 a piece of paper to me. I just kind of 0:21:27.040 --> 0:21:29.479 glanced at it, trying to figure out what it was, 0:21:31.280 --> 0:21:36.159 and it said searchworn on top. I saw the words 0:21:36.280 --> 0:21:38.320 sexual assault and. 0:21:38.359 --> 0:21:48.600 Studentlis arrested Kel High school teacher Spencer Herron on Friday 0:21:48.640 --> 0:21:51.640 at his home in at Growth. Investigators say he faces 0:21:51.720 --> 0:21:53.480 three counts of sexual assault. 0:21:54.200 --> 0:21:57.840 Imagine seeing that piece of paper, the search worn, and 0:21:57.880 --> 0:22:00.800 knowing that everything in your life was a out to change. 0:22:02.040 --> 0:22:04.959 He was charged with sexual assault with one of his 0:22:05.119 --> 0:22:09.240 own students. It had started when she was a sophomore 0:22:09.400 --> 0:22:10.119 in high school. 0:22:12.000 --> 0:22:15.960 I got up and stood in front of him and said, 0:22:16.520 --> 0:22:19.080 is this true? 0:22:19.400 --> 0:22:23.840 He said yes, He said it happened three times. 0:22:26.119 --> 0:22:28.840 This Spens is the last person that I would have 0:22:28.880 --> 0:22:33.639 ever guessed would have taken advantage of a kid. And 0:22:33.720 --> 0:22:35.880 I think anybody else that knew him would have said 0:22:35.880 --> 0:22:41.320 the same thing. To find out that he cheated on me, 0:22:42.680 --> 0:22:48.360 not with a woman, but with a sixteen year old girl, 0:22:49.240 --> 0:22:57.320 It is so hard to understand that I just started 0:22:57.359 --> 0:23:00.320 pacing back and forth him. 0:23:00.359 --> 0:23:05.440 He ruined everything. He knew how much marriage meant to me, 0:23:07.440 --> 0:23:13.720 He knew what it meant to me. I thought I. 0:23:12.280 --> 0:23:16.760 Knew what it meant to him. I set across from 0:23:16.880 --> 0:23:18.720 him at that point because I didn't want to be 0:23:18.840 --> 0:23:23.920 near him, just trying to make sense of what just happened. 0:23:24.040 --> 0:23:28.840 In realizing that life as I knew it would never 0:23:28.880 --> 0:23:37.760 be the same. The future that we planned was gone. 0:23:38.040 --> 0:23:43.400 It couldn't be true. Not her husband the nicest, kindest 0:23:43.440 --> 0:23:49.320 man in the world. A predator. Not possible, except it 0:23:49.480 --> 0:23:51.680 was possible. It happened. 0:23:52.400 --> 0:23:56.440 It didn't take too long before I saw two Cobb 0:23:56.480 --> 0:24:01.560 County police officers drive past our house. I knew they 0:24:01.560 --> 0:24:05.320 were on their way back for Spence. They had already 0:24:05.320 --> 0:24:08.160 been there once with the search warrant and busted down 0:24:08.200 --> 0:24:13.320 our front door. They took a bunch of his stuff, 0:24:13.359 --> 0:24:18.879 his computers, hard drives, and a pair of his underwear. 0:24:20.400 --> 0:24:24.280 All Spence could talk about was killing himself at that point. 0:24:25.200 --> 0:24:28.439 So I sat down on the coffee table right in 0:24:28.440 --> 0:24:30.000 front of him where he was sitting. 0:24:29.760 --> 0:24:33.359 On the couch, and I just begged him not to 0:24:33.440 --> 0:24:35.119 do anything stupid. 0:24:36.240 --> 0:24:40.480 Her life was upended, Her husband was sitting across from 0:24:40.480 --> 0:24:45.160 her talking about suicide. It was all so scary and 0:24:45.280 --> 0:24:49.800 so much to digest. Jen felt conflicted by a feeling 0:24:49.840 --> 0:24:53.080 of obligation to Spence because of the vows they took. 0:24:54.320 --> 0:24:58.120 Jennifer repeated after me, I Jennifer. 0:24:58.320 --> 0:25:03.280 I Jennifer the Spencer. Take the Spencer to be my 0:25:03.400 --> 0:25:06.840 wedded husband, To be my wedded husband. I wanted him 0:25:06.840 --> 0:25:09.680 to know that somebody would be there for him. 0:25:10.600 --> 0:25:16.080 We were married, They're supposed to. 0:25:13.760 --> 0:25:18.960 Stick by your spouse for better or worse, for better, 0:25:19.440 --> 0:25:22.639 for worse, till death do us part, till death do 0:25:22.760 --> 0:25:27.000 us part. The cops came. 0:25:28.560 --> 0:25:32.280 I opened up the door and looked across to Spence 0:25:32.560 --> 0:25:35.359 and was so relieved when I saw him walking into 0:25:35.400 --> 0:25:41.840 the foyer, because if he had run, I don't know 0:25:41.840 --> 0:25:42.760 what would have happened. 0:25:43.080 --> 0:25:45.480 But he turned around. 0:25:46.560 --> 0:25:49.600 He let them put the cuffs on him. 0:25:49.800 --> 0:25:54.000 Even after seeing the words sexual assault and student on 0:25:54.040 --> 0:25:58.160 the search warrant, Jennifers still needed to hear the police 0:25:58.200 --> 0:25:58.560 say it. 0:25:59.560 --> 0:26:03.680 I said, what are you arresting him for? They looked 0:26:03.720 --> 0:26:06.240 at him like, is it okay if we tell her? 0:26:07.640 --> 0:26:13.760 And he yells out no, don't tell her anything, which 0:26:13.800 --> 0:26:19.640 is weird because he'd already admitted what he had done. 0:26:19.920 --> 0:26:24.840 I guess he was still hoping to hide stuff. They 0:26:24.880 --> 0:26:27.639 walked him out of the house. I shut the door 0:26:28.359 --> 0:26:31.440 and I couldn't watch them put him in the back 0:26:31.480 --> 0:26:35.359