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Speaker 1: Hey, this is Dakota and this is Angie, your favorite

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Speaker 3: Karen ordered me around, but she was putting her place

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Speaker 3: as she should. I went to the grocery store today

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Speaker 3: for some essentials. What were they? And tragically they were

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Speaker 3: all healthy pigs. Oh thank you you're telling us eggs, yoga,

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Speaker 3: spinach blah. Managed to make it in and out of

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Speaker 3: the store without any unfortunate run ins with other people.

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Speaker 3: And while I was walking to my car, I heard

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Speaker 3: an older lady trying to get the attention of a

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Speaker 3: cart wrangler in the parking lot. She was a little

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Speaker 3: ways closer to the store than where I was parked

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Speaker 3: in the same room. By the way, this comes from

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Speaker 3: go to the r slash Okay Storytime suvered it. I'm Sophia,

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Speaker 3: I'm Angie, I'm Riley, and we're here to give good

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Speaker 3: vice scookly but we don't have all the answers. We

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Speaker 3: only know some things, so let us know what you

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Speaker 3: think in the comments, and Opie says she was being

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Speaker 3: ignored by a cart jockey. I like that, opis changing

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Speaker 3: up the terminology. We got Kurt Wrangler, Kurt.

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Speaker 1: Jockey, Yeah, what's next?

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Speaker 3: Cart enthusiast with a full carriage of groceries and an

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Speaker 3: open trunk on her car didn't take a rocket scientist

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Speaker 3: to figure out what she wanted. So I walked over

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Speaker 3: and made sure the goal was to get the stuff

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Speaker 3: out of the carriage into the suv, and did it.

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Speaker 3: Took me about two minutes. The whole time the lady

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Speaker 1: Me a nice young man.

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Speaker 3: I am a nice young man. No, someone said again,

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Speaker 3: I'm old enough now that it was flattering rather than

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Speaker 3: condescending mid to late thirties, don't rub it in. When

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Speaker 3: all was sad and done, and I'd made sure the

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Speaker 3: trunk could close without smushing anything, I grabbed my own groceries,

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Speaker 3: and the lady grabbed my arm to stop me. She

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Speaker 3: was an older, white lady, the kind where she doesn't

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Speaker 3: look particularly frail, and if she wasn't white and was

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Speaker 3: wearing sandals, I'd be confident she could nail an evading

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Speaker 3: target at thirty yards with Footwear of Justice. For those

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Speaker 3: confused by Footwear of Justice, behold la Chancla. As it was,

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Speaker 3: it was quite clear that it was a good idea

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Speaker 3: to stay on this woman's good side. Think matron rather

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Speaker 3: than frail grandma. Well, I was not okay with being grabbed.

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Speaker 3: She wagged something papery and green in front of me

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Speaker 3: couldn't hear me, she said with an eye roll. Rather

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Speaker 3: with whom one would not idly f I took the

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Speaker 3: green paper she was waving.

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Speaker 1: It was a hundred dollar bill.

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Speaker 3: I was immediately like, like, nah, just yours, take it

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Speaker 3: back too much, that sort of thing. And then she

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Speaker 3: gave me a look and said, young man, if you

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Speaker 3: don't take that, I shall become difficult. Actually, I think

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Speaker 3: this is Meryl Streep in the Devil. Where's the Devil

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Speaker 3: in the Devil?

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Speaker 1: The Devil? That's a different movie.

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Speaker 3: I think this is Meryl Streep is the Devil. The

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Speaker 3: urge to cover my ears was so strong. This wasn't

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Speaker 3: time I heard a woman speak to me in that

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Speaker 1: Trying to give you money, dude, Yeah, are you kidding me?

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Speaker 1: I'd be like, oh no, no, oh, yeah, okay, take

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Speaker 3: Kind, rather than argue because I might have been born

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Speaker 3: at night. It just wasn't last night. Oh what it

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Speaker 3: just I wasn't born yesterday. What ope, he's trying to say. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: I took the money right after she released me, and

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Speaker 3: I felt something heavy slam into my side, knocking me

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Speaker 3: off balance but not quite tipping me over. Once I

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Speaker 3: was a full cart of groceries, I saw a woman

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Speaker 1: But that's time in there.

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Speaker 3: I'm in a hurry. Oh it doesn't work here, says

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Speaker 3: me doing or bidding. Mind you, I was in black

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Speaker 3: men's shorts and a navy blue T shirt. Folks who

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Speaker 1: But the sheer audacity.

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Speaker 3: Of this woman left me stunned for a moment. My

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Speaker 3: mouth opened and closed a few times, and I was

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Speaker 3: attempting to think of how I was going to handle

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Speaker 3: this particular situation, because I've obviously spent a lot of

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Speaker 3: time in the gym, and the Karen didn't. Are you

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Speaker 3: gonna attack her? I'm so buff? Yeah, she was so

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Speaker 3: freel If it escalated, which it probably would have, it

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Speaker 1: But as it so happens, I didn't need to do

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Speaker 3: The older lady i'd helped previously walks over to the woman,

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Speaker 3: trying to avoid looking at me or her groceries, finds

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Speaker 3: herself with a face full of matront Oh. I didn't

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Speaker 3: realize you had both of your hips were placed too,

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Speaker 3: she said brightly. The Karen, flummixed at the seemingly non sequitor,

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Speaker 3: and just asked to help. Such a nice thing to

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Speaker 3: had both my hips replaced. My doctor would be most

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Speaker 3: upset with me if you found out I was exerting

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Speaker 3: myself that way. When did yours get replaced? They did mine,

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Speaker 3: one at a time a few months ago, she said brightly.

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Speaker 3: The Karen replies, I haven't had any of my hips replaced.

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Speaker 3: I'm kind of just in a hurry now, if you

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Speaker 1: Oh, I'm very happy with this story too.

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Speaker 5: Also, I think Grandma wants her hips replaced the gainto

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Speaker 3: Matrons sickly sweet smile on her face. Oh, so, there's

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Speaker 3: nothing wrong with you. You just couldn't be bothered to

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Speaker 3: put your own groceries in your own car. You're simply

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Speaker 1: Oh, she's given out one hundred dollars bills and she's

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Speaker 3: Morty, this is Julie Andrews. She was on a roll

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Speaker 3: now and rather than ask that nice young man. You're

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Speaker 3: Just said you were a rry Karen. I well, and

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Speaker 1: Karen started to puff up.

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Speaker 3: Now you lessen and instantly got deflated by an old

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Speaker 3: fashioned look. Oh yeah, it's like blue steel of old ladies.

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Speaker 3: Children prone to misbehavior are quite familiar with it. It

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Speaker 3: is a look that quite clearly communicates we are in public.

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Speaker 3: You're in trouble. See, so the consequences will be old

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Speaker 3: testament goodness, you're gonna be caught in a fluff seeing

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Speaker 3: at work on a grown adult was a thing to behold,

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Speaker 3: by the way I would like you guys to behold

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Speaker 3: full episodes of was just like this. Just go to Spotify,

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Speaker 3: Apple Podcasts or iHeartRadio and search up Okay, storytime.

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Speaker 5: Honestly more for this grandma. Instead of clapping for like,

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Speaker 3: For yeah, get strong, get up her grandma.

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Speaker 4: Because of her replaced tips. We should use our.

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Speaker 3: Hips, Yeah, use your hips in her honor right now,

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Speaker 3: all right, I'll do it later. But uh, there's a

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, just in.

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Speaker 3: The way that Ope was writing it. He was like

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Speaker 3: and I was scared of her, and she was frightening.

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Speaker 3: But it was just like, she's just powerful.

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Speaker 1: She's good.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, she's powerful. She uses her power for young man.

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Speaker 1: Please bring that carriage over.

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Speaker 3: I think this nice young lady is ready to put

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Speaker 3: her own groceries in the car. I pushed the carriage

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Speaker 3: over and left it near the two women. Now you

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Speaker 3: run along, don't spend all that in one place, she said,

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Speaker 3: with a smile. Hey, I gave her the boy scout salute.

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Speaker 3: I'm not actually a scout. Don't tell anyone. I'm telling

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Speaker 3: everyone I'm gonna tattle. That's like pretending to be a lawyer.

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Speaker 3: It's criminal offense. Grab my bag and beat feet for

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Speaker 3: my own vehicle. The Karen was actually still putting her

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Speaker 3: I might have.

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Speaker 1: Cackled, Wow, oh my gosh, that was amazing. That was

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Speaker 1: not her first time. No, honestly, yeah, I don't think

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Speaker 2: And that's the end of this story and we're going

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Speaker 1: A woman mistook me for a hardware store employee, then

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Speaker 3: Complain, Now they have to give you a job there.

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Speaker 1: This one involves a quaint hardware store manager so overdrawn

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Speaker 1: Inspector fing gadget IFG, so we'll name this lady Nancy

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Speaker 1: F and Drew NFD. By the way, this comes from

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Speaker 1: ablest Age. Interesting and if you wanna submit your own stories,

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Speaker 1: I'm angiep Sophia, I'm Riley, and we're here to give

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Speaker 1: good advice goofily, But we don't have all the answers.

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Speaker 1: We just know what we would do in these situations.

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Speaker 1: So let us know what you would do in the comments,

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Speaker 1: and Opie says, I was visiting some relatives I didn't

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Speaker 1: know well way out of town during the holidays. The

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Speaker 1: senior age lady of the household couldn't get her senior

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Speaker 1: age husband to make progress on touch up painting some

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Speaker 1: as the House of Men in Black's Sugar Water Lady interesting,

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Speaker 1: and see a chance to see the sights of this

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Speaker 1: backcountry Iowa town. Aside from such excitements as the weird haybail,

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Speaker 1: I volunteered to help out. The hang up was that

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Speaker 1: it needed a specific hue of paint, and he hated

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Speaker 1: dealing with the incompetent painton mixing kid at the lone

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Speaker 3: I wasn't the only out of.

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Speaker 1: Town or that day, as the hardware store was lightly

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Speaker 1: swarmed with others of us, including Nancy Effing Drew. Not

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Speaker 1: only did I get to introduce her to my brand

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Speaker 1: of sass, it appeared that the manager of said shop

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Speaker 1: also supplied his own hometown snark.

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Speaker 3: This is quite the opener. It really really painted a picture.

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Speaker 1: I was so eager to expiltrate the kitch of their

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Speaker 1: tank Engine, PJ bottoms backwards ball cap with anime patches

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Speaker 1: I'm calling corporate and they are going to come down

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Speaker 1: readily it came to mind it was good regardless, NFD

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Speaker 3: What just happened?

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Speaker 1: That was crazy? There is still more to the story.

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Speaker 4: Listen.

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Speaker 3: I I picked up all of that because sometimes we

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Speaker 5: Yeah yeah, living in Taylor's Ville, North Carolina?

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Speaker 3: Is that where he lived?

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Speaker 4: No, that's where I love.

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Speaker 5: And most of the people sound like this, Oh what,

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Speaker 3: I work at the paint store.

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Speaker 4: Exc here's your cup of paint.

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Speaker 1: That was why cups of paint? Oh my gosh, there

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Speaker 3: Everyone forgot about it. Yeah, probably everyone immediately forgot.

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Speaker 1: Drew was cross armed and fuming. There were multiple little

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Speaker 1: was giving her eyebrow raised, inquisitive look that suggested, please

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Speaker 3: I told the customer exactly what I thought about her haircut.

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Speaker 3: She pled guilty six weeks later.

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Speaker 1: Did she attack you after you said that?

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Speaker 3: I work in mobile it for business, often finding myself

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Speaker 1: I'm Sophia, I'm Angie, I'm RAYTHERER.

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Speaker 3: We're here to give good advice, goofy, but we don't

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Speaker 3: for a Polos and black jeans dress code. The person

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Speaker 3: and they're not wrong even over a collared button up shirt.

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Speaker 3: Polls make people assume I work there. I've been just

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Speaker 3: purplish blue color. Never seen an employee wear that before. Oh,

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Speaker 3: I'm buying the counter at a substance store that does

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Speaker 1: What what? What does that mean? Is substance store that

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Speaker 3: They have a side business of photography, fixing a printer

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Speaker 3: that regularly craps out ak cheap headphones in zone into

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Speaker 3: At the tech support call while working repair getting boring fast.

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Speaker 3: I don't know what that sentence was trying to say.

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Speaker 4: I understood it.

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Speaker 5: What he's saying is he can't hang up on the phone,

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Speaker 3: Despite my headphone's volume and semi noise canceling, I could

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Speaker 3: Oh god, I tell her that no one finishes the

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Speaker 3: like that ugly sweater you're wearing. It's not my taste,

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Speaker 1: I don't think that.

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Speaker 3: I don't think you can say that.

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Speaker 3: Oh, I see to a customer. Oh, I don't think

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Speaker 3: you can say it. She gave me a smile and

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Speaker 3: no joke. Not ten minutes later, I see her die

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Speaker 3: for the offices as Karen is now a back What

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Speaker 3: Karen marches right up to the phono counter register isn't

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Speaker 3: I am, You're the only one here, aren't you? Who else?

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Speaker 3: What I'd be talking tom. I put my headphone up

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Speaker 3: to attempt to tell tech support I was muting the

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Speaker 1: Can't mute babe, y'all never silence made.

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00:21:54,320 --> 00:21:55,760
Speaker 3: I'd ever he saw the phone.

435
00:21:55,800 --> 00:21:56,040
Speaker 1: Girl.

436
00:21:56,800 --> 00:22:01,440
Speaker 3: Do you think that he's just going like you'll speak right?

437
00:22:01,680 --> 00:22:02,000
Speaker 3: Thank you?

438
00:22:02,080 --> 00:22:02,960
Speaker 1: Lady? Think?

439
00:22:03,160 --> 00:22:06,320
Speaker 3: Think what do you even say to that? I finally say,

440
00:22:06,440 --> 00:22:10,720
Speaker 3: I'm not an employee here, I'm a tech fixing the printer,

441
00:22:11,400 --> 00:22:13,920
Speaker 3: motioning to the printer pulled from wall and in pieces.

442
00:22:14,280 --> 00:22:17,679
Speaker 3: But you can get an employee if you Just before

443
00:22:17,760 --> 00:22:20,560
Speaker 3: I can say to the employee paging button, she screeches

444
00:22:20,600 --> 00:22:22,640
Speaker 3: again about how she was here earlier and the cash

445
00:22:22,640 --> 00:22:25,359
Speaker 3: here was so rude, and now yet another employee was

446
00:22:25,400 --> 00:22:27,959
Speaker 3: just as rude and entitled, and this is why she

447
00:22:28,040 --> 00:22:31,160
Speaker 3: never shops here anymore. And now this entire country it's

448
00:22:31,200 --> 00:22:34,320
Speaker 3: going downhill. Oh my god, I don't know why she's here.

449
00:22:34,400 --> 00:22:36,679
Speaker 1: I think you do shop here, though, as you're in

450
00:22:36,720 --> 00:22:41,840
Speaker 1: the store right now with things in your hands, shopping shopping, And.

451
00:22:41,920 --> 00:22:43,879
Speaker 3: Now no one wants to do their job anymore. And

452
00:22:43,880 --> 00:22:47,520
Speaker 3: now she's never shoven air again. Please please don't come

453
00:22:47,520 --> 00:22:47,880
Speaker 3: here again.

454
00:22:47,960 --> 00:22:50,439
Speaker 1: Oh my goodness, I mean breed lady.

455
00:22:50,640 --> 00:22:53,200
Speaker 3: Her face is bright red and sweaty. At this point

456
00:22:53,400 --> 00:22:56,680
Speaker 3: I spot an actual employee, likely the store manager, based

457
00:22:56,680 --> 00:22:59,119
Speaker 3: on threads coming from deep in the back out of

458
00:22:59,160 --> 00:23:02,280
Speaker 3: the corner of my Unfortunately, my brain didn't allow that

459
00:23:02,359 --> 00:23:04,840
Speaker 3: to sink in before I blurt out ma'am loud and

460
00:23:05,200 --> 00:23:08,120
Speaker 3: sharp to get her to finally shut up for thirteen seconds.

461
00:23:08,240 --> 00:23:10,399
Speaker 3: I would like to take you up on your offer

462
00:23:10,480 --> 00:23:13,680
Speaker 3: to never come here again. Take your John and Kate

463
00:23:13,800 --> 00:23:17,480
Speaker 3: the aftermath haircut at it here, and next time, don't

464
00:23:17,480 --> 00:23:20,000
Speaker 3: buy your clothes from a smelly hobo on the side

465
00:23:20,000 --> 00:23:22,679
Speaker 3: of the road. It's not sanitary and it looks like

466
00:23:22,760 --> 00:23:28,640
Speaker 3: he may have given you crabs. Zan, did you actually say.

467
00:23:28,480 --> 00:23:32,280
Speaker 1: That just like traumatize story.

468
00:23:32,320 --> 00:23:34,879
Speaker 3: Honestly, my mouth worked faster than my brain and I

469
00:23:34,920 --> 00:23:36,800
Speaker 3: didn't even know I was saying it until it was

470
00:23:36,840 --> 00:23:40,920
Speaker 3: already out. ADHD and lack of spoons for the wind Boz. Yeah,

471
00:23:40,960 --> 00:23:43,400
Speaker 3: it's a whole thing where like the amount of energy

472
00:23:43,440 --> 00:23:44,960
Speaker 3: you have for something is like measured in.

473
00:23:44,920 --> 00:23:47,639
Speaker 1: Like your spoons spoons.

474
00:23:48,400 --> 00:23:50,400
Speaker 3: It's like I don't have enough spoons to deal with this,

475
00:23:51,200 --> 00:23:52,359
Speaker 3: like sing spoons.

476
00:23:52,560 --> 00:23:55,000
Speaker 4: The card game. Yeah, we didn't collect it.

477
00:23:56,119 --> 00:23:58,120
Speaker 3: It's just like a I don't know, it's a terminology

478
00:23:58,160 --> 00:23:59,880
Speaker 3: that I've learned from these stories.

479
00:24:00,080 --> 00:24:04,359
Speaker 1: Okay, nice What who calculates how much energy they have

480
00:24:04,440 --> 00:24:05,040
Speaker 1: by spoons?

481
00:24:05,280 --> 00:24:08,280
Speaker 4: Watts old she wore miles spoons.

482
00:24:08,440 --> 00:24:11,720
Speaker 3: I don't know. It's just a thing. It's just a thing, Riley,

483
00:24:11,720 --> 00:24:14,600
Speaker 3: It's just a thing. I was likely emboldened by the

484
00:24:14,640 --> 00:24:16,640
Speaker 3: fact that the store can't fire me and they need

485
00:24:16,680 --> 00:24:19,159
Speaker 3: me to fix the printer for the Christmas season. Who

486
00:24:19,320 --> 00:24:22,119
Speaker 3: assume manager is finally at the counter, and despite quickly

487
00:24:22,160 --> 00:24:25,560
Speaker 3: turning back to my work, dropped my walkway. I could

488
00:24:25,600 --> 00:24:28,160
Speaker 3: swear I saw his mouth drop a little before I did.

489
00:24:28,760 --> 00:24:32,080
Speaker 3: I had the audacity and did not care, just continued working.

490
00:24:32,160 --> 00:24:35,119
Speaker 3: Three ish minutes later, tech support says they hear a

491
00:24:35,200 --> 00:24:39,280
Speaker 3: commotion making it hard to understand. I turned to see

492
00:24:39,320 --> 00:24:43,399
Speaker 3: assumed loss prevention and security and the manager walking Karen

493
00:24:43,400 --> 00:24:46,320
Speaker 3: out from behind the counter, fully in the employee's only

494
00:24:46,400 --> 00:24:49,800
Speaker 3: area and towards the main door. In her infinite wisdom,

495
00:24:50,040 --> 00:24:53,520
Speaker 3: Karen's side swipes a display and it all comes crashing.

496
00:24:53,680 --> 00:24:56,720
Speaker 3: Now security now had flexi cuffs on Karen and is

497
00:24:56,840 --> 00:24:59,240
Speaker 3: escorting her to the back out of my sight.

498
00:24:59,640 --> 00:24:59,720
Speaker 1: No.

499
00:25:00,600 --> 00:25:03,840
Speaker 3: About forty five minutes later, I'm done. About forty five

500
00:25:03,880 --> 00:25:07,800
Speaker 3: minutes later, I'm done and packing up when an actual

501
00:25:07,880 --> 00:25:11,200
Speaker 3: cop flags me down while loading my tools. The display

502
00:25:11,320 --> 00:25:15,880
Speaker 3: was apparently fine, fragrance kind you'd keep locked up, so

503
00:25:15,920 --> 00:25:19,360
Speaker 3: it rose to the level of criminal mischief damage over

504
00:25:19,400 --> 00:25:20,440
Speaker 3: two fifty.

505
00:25:21,119 --> 00:25:24,120
Speaker 1: Whoa go to jail.

506
00:25:25,200 --> 00:25:26,080
Speaker 4: That's awesome.

507
00:25:26,560 --> 00:25:29,360
Speaker 3: They get my statement, say if they don't reach out

508
00:25:29,400 --> 00:25:31,600
Speaker 3: in the next seven to ten days, to call some

509
00:25:31,720 --> 00:25:34,000
Speaker 3: county office to see if I'm needed for court or

510
00:25:34,040 --> 00:25:36,719
Speaker 3: whatever and send me away. After telling them that I

511
00:25:36,840 --> 00:25:40,280
Speaker 3: was double booked and needed to go lie. Of course,

512
00:25:40,280 --> 00:25:43,080
Speaker 3: they didn't follow up, so I called let out my

513
00:25:43,160 --> 00:25:45,480
Speaker 3: testimony not needed. Can I get the case number for

514
00:25:45,600 --> 00:25:49,880
Speaker 3: my records? In case? Boss asks why I was delayed?

515
00:25:50,720 --> 00:25:54,359
Speaker 3: A self employed Sure it's ba bae bye. Search of

516
00:25:54,400 --> 00:25:55,359
Speaker 3: the public court records.

517
00:25:55,440 --> 00:25:56,879
Speaker 1: Yeah, questions you're still wondering.

518
00:25:56,960 --> 00:25:59,280
Speaker 4: Yeah, where did the haircut have to do anything with this?

519
00:25:59,400 --> 00:26:01,760
Speaker 3: He said she had an ugly haircut. That was the

520
00:26:01,800 --> 00:26:03,840
Speaker 3: whole rant that he went on. He was like, you

521
00:26:03,920 --> 00:26:05,760
Speaker 3: and your ugly haircut.

522
00:26:05,400 --> 00:26:08,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, and you're home disposed salt that he added in there.

523
00:26:09,840 --> 00:26:11,960
Speaker 1: But we got a little bit left to this story.

524
00:26:12,240 --> 00:26:15,119
Speaker 3: Karen gets permanent trespassed, and not only that chain, but

525
00:26:15,200 --> 00:26:18,760
Speaker 3: all chains in the corporate umbrella, like eleven plus named

526
00:26:18,800 --> 00:26:23,720
Speaker 3: locations I recognized, wow one one hundred and fifty hours

527
00:26:23,760 --> 00:26:28,399
Speaker 3: community service at the local DV shelter judge named specific names,

528
00:26:28,920 --> 00:26:32,520
Speaker 3: and two weekends in jail. Dang. She also had to

529
00:26:32,520 --> 00:26:35,640
Speaker 3: pay five hundred dollars restoration to the store and five

530
00:26:35,720 --> 00:26:38,600
Speaker 3: hundred dollars each to whom I assume is the cashier

531
00:26:38,640 --> 00:26:41,399
Speaker 3: and manager. To be honest, I think her sentence was

532
00:26:41,400 --> 00:26:43,320
Speaker 3: perfect for a behavior just desserts.

533
00:26:43,320 --> 00:26:46,080
Speaker 2: Indeed, And there we go, and that's the end of

534
00:26:46,119 --> 00:26:48,240
Speaker 2: this story, and we're going on to the next one.

535
00:26:49,040 --> 00:26:52,399
Speaker 3: My boyfriend keeps calling out his best friend's name in bed,

536
00:26:53,080 --> 00:26:54,800
Speaker 3: and his explanation made no sense.

537
00:26:55,359 --> 00:26:55,879
Speaker 1: Yaosa.

538
00:26:56,400 --> 00:26:59,480
Speaker 3: My boyfriend, twenty four mail, let's call him Will, has

539
00:26:59,520 --> 00:27:02,479
Speaker 3: been best friends with Caleb for about ten or eleven years.

540
00:27:02,760 --> 00:27:04,760
Speaker 1: Me twenty three female, and Will have been.

541
00:27:04,720 --> 00:27:07,959
Speaker 3: Dating for about sixth month now, and things have been

542
00:27:08,000 --> 00:27:10,440
Speaker 3: going really well. This has only just started to become

543
00:27:10,480 --> 00:27:13,840
Speaker 3: a problem. I honestly know this sounds like a joke,

544
00:27:13,880 --> 00:27:16,680
Speaker 3: and I've been scared to tell my friends because they'll

545
00:27:16,680 --> 00:27:19,639
Speaker 3: either laugh at me or tell the story to other people,

546
00:27:19,640 --> 00:27:22,240
Speaker 3: which would be really embarrassing. By the way, this comes

547
00:27:22,240 --> 00:27:24,280
Speaker 3: from throwing seven. I was six one two one, and

548
00:27:24,359 --> 00:27:25,800
Speaker 3: if you all spent your own stories, go to the

549
00:27:25,920 --> 00:27:29,760
Speaker 3: r slash okay storytime severed it TI. I'm Sophia, I'm Angie,

550
00:27:29,800 --> 00:27:32,080
Speaker 3: I'm Ralegh, and we're here to give good advice scoofly,

551
00:27:32,160 --> 00:27:34,280
Speaker 3: but we don't have all the answers. Mainly know what

552
00:27:34,359 --> 00:27:36,240
Speaker 3: WED do, so let us know what you would do

553
00:27:36,280 --> 00:27:39,440
Speaker 3: in the comments, and Ope says so. We always would

554
00:27:39,480 --> 00:27:43,480
Speaker 3: accidentally call me Caleb sometimes during conversation, which I didn't

555
00:27:43,480 --> 00:27:45,760
Speaker 3: mind at all. I get names mixed up all the time.

556
00:27:46,040 --> 00:27:48,480
Speaker 3: But around last month, in early March, he called me

557
00:27:48,640 --> 00:27:52,359
Speaker 3: Caleb as I was helping him out. I would have

558
00:27:52,440 --> 00:27:54,679
Speaker 3: laughed it off, but he said it so loudly and

559
00:27:54,760 --> 00:27:57,480
Speaker 3: passionately that honestly, I was so shocked that I just

560
00:27:57,560 --> 00:28:00,720
Speaker 3: ignored it. Obviously, I regret this now because because eventually

561
00:28:00,760 --> 00:28:02,840
Speaker 3: so much time passed that I couldn't bring it up

562
00:28:02,880 --> 00:28:04,280
Speaker 3: and just kind of forgot about it.

563
00:28:04,320 --> 00:28:04,840
Speaker 1: In my head.

564
00:28:04,880 --> 00:28:06,560
Speaker 3: I thought it was sort of funny because the way

565
00:28:06,560 --> 00:28:08,600
Speaker 3: he said it was honestly funny as heck from an

566
00:28:08,640 --> 00:28:12,000
Speaker 3: outside perspective, but as his girlfriend, it's kind of worrying.

567
00:28:12,560 --> 00:28:15,520
Speaker 3: Him and Caleb are very close, and they've lived together

568
00:28:15,640 --> 00:28:19,160
Speaker 3: for almost two years, and they know everything about each other,

569
00:28:19,400 --> 00:28:21,760
Speaker 3: but I really, really doubt that they have ever been

570
00:28:21,800 --> 00:28:25,040
Speaker 3: together or have feelings for each other. Will has mentioned

571
00:28:25,040 --> 00:28:28,240
Speaker 3: Caleb having an ex girlfriend, so I'm pretty sure he's straight,

572
00:28:28,440 --> 00:28:30,800
Speaker 3: and Will is definitely straight. But I ran the situation

573
00:28:30,880 --> 00:28:32,320
Speaker 3: through my head. I decided to give.

574
00:28:32,200 --> 00:28:33,120
Speaker 1: Him a benefit of the doubt.

575
00:28:33,160 --> 00:28:35,520
Speaker 3: It's rottle to get names mixed up sometimes, especially when

576
00:28:35,520 --> 00:28:36,800
Speaker 3: you see that person every single day.

577
00:28:36,880 --> 00:28:39,120
Speaker 1: Of course, of course, yeah, I have.

578
00:28:39,120 --> 00:28:40,760
Speaker 5: A lot of best friends I see every day. I

579
00:28:40,840 --> 00:28:44,800
Speaker 5: am not saying John whenever I'm spoofing, I'm sorry.

580
00:28:44,560 --> 00:28:46,560
Speaker 4: I think about him sometimes. I'm sure it is, but

581
00:28:46,640 --> 00:28:48,080
Speaker 4: I'm not saying it right.

582
00:28:48,160 --> 00:28:49,520
Speaker 1: There was one time.

583
00:28:50,880 --> 00:28:53,720
Speaker 3: I should also add that I really like Caleb and

584
00:28:53,840 --> 00:28:58,560
Speaker 3: would consider him my friend. Then it happened again. This

585
00:28:58,680 --> 00:29:02,520
Speaker 3: time it was actually spicy Sleep, my name sounds nothing

586
00:29:02,600 --> 00:29:06,720
Speaker 3: like Caleb, and he straight up moaned Caleb. This time,

587
00:29:06,760 --> 00:29:09,840
Speaker 3: I stopped and started laughing, awkwardly, thinking that Will would

588
00:29:09,840 --> 00:29:13,000
Speaker 3: also be laughing that he'd said Caleb by accident. He

589
00:29:13,160 --> 00:29:15,800
Speaker 3: just looked blank and kind of confused for a second,

590
00:29:15,880 --> 00:29:18,600
Speaker 3: and then saw that I was nervously laughing and did

591
00:29:18,680 --> 00:29:22,320
Speaker 3: this awkward ha fake laugh for a few seconds before

592
00:29:22,400 --> 00:29:23,080
Speaker 3: kissing me again.

593
00:29:23,240 --> 00:29:24,160
Speaker 4: What is happening?

594
00:29:24,320 --> 00:29:29,240
Speaker 3: What? Either either he has done something with Caleb or

595
00:29:29,320 --> 00:29:31,400
Speaker 3: he's done something with Caleb in his dream.

596
00:29:31,600 --> 00:29:36,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, it sounds like he's like fantasizing about this so

597
00:29:36,280 --> 00:29:39,160
Speaker 1: hard to the fact that he's like not even realizing

598
00:29:39,160 --> 00:29:41,360
Speaker 1: that he's saying it out loud. Yeah, or that he's

599
00:29:41,840 --> 00:29:43,960
Speaker 1: not even realizing that it's a problem because he thinks

600
00:29:44,000 --> 00:29:45,320
Speaker 1: Caleb is with him right now.

601
00:29:45,480 --> 00:29:49,200
Speaker 3: It does sound like that. I said, that's the second

602
00:29:49,200 --> 00:29:51,680
Speaker 3: time you've done that, and he laughed and said, I'm

603
00:29:51,720 --> 00:29:55,360
Speaker 3: just weird. Obviously I was uncomfortable, but again I thought

604
00:29:55,400 --> 00:29:58,920
Speaker 3: it was just him being clumsy. Finally, it happened the

605
00:29:59,040 --> 00:30:02,479
Speaker 3: last time. Last night, he moaned Caleb as we were

606
00:30:02,520 --> 00:30:04,880
Speaker 3: having spicy sleep. I stopped him and sort of snapped

607
00:30:04,920 --> 00:30:07,280
Speaker 3: and said, okay. He started crying and said that he

608
00:30:07,360 --> 00:30:10,320
Speaker 3: gets names mixed up because he had a kidney stone

609
00:30:10,400 --> 00:30:10,920
Speaker 3: last year.

610
00:30:11,520 --> 00:30:15,800
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, what what.

611
00:30:15,800 --> 00:30:17,720
Speaker 4: Does a kidney stone have to do with this?

612
00:30:18,320 --> 00:30:20,960
Speaker 1: I had cows I fight rocking my peepy, so I

613
00:30:21,080 --> 00:30:22,800
Speaker 1: have to see my best brother's name.

614
00:30:22,720 --> 00:30:23,680
Speaker 3: While you're drunking it.

615
00:30:23,800 --> 00:30:27,240
Speaker 5: Wait wait wait wait, oh man, man, this kidney stone

616
00:30:27,320 --> 00:30:29,640
Speaker 5: really messed around with one of my heads, so it

617
00:30:30,160 --> 00:30:31,440
Speaker 5: really effed up the other one.

618
00:30:31,720 --> 00:30:35,360
Speaker 4: So I can't think with it. What it makes no sense?

619
00:30:35,760 --> 00:30:38,800
Speaker 4: Did Caleb bite on it and get the guinea stone?

620
00:30:38,840 --> 00:30:39,040
Speaker 2: Helse?

621
00:30:39,080 --> 00:30:40,440
Speaker 4: So now you think about him?

622
00:30:40,480 --> 00:30:43,280
Speaker 3: He's what happens I get stop something? Ever since I

623
00:30:43,320 --> 00:30:45,240
Speaker 3: got a kidney stone removed.

624
00:30:44,960 --> 00:30:47,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, once it passed, I kept it and named it Caleb,

625
00:30:48,000 --> 00:30:49,360
Speaker 1: And it's all I can think about.

626
00:30:49,640 --> 00:30:52,160
Speaker 3: And it was a really stressful time for him, and

627
00:30:52,200 --> 00:30:54,400
Speaker 3: Caleb was the person who helped him through it. What

628
00:30:54,680 --> 00:30:57,280
Speaker 3: the e F? This is total bs, right. I Mean,

629
00:30:57,680 --> 00:31:00,600
Speaker 3: I don't know much about kidney stones, but I'm pretty

630
00:31:00,600 --> 00:31:02,880
Speaker 3: sure that's not how it works. Now I'm worried more

631
00:31:02,920 --> 00:31:05,600
Speaker 3: about his weird lies an excuse for doing it, rather

632
00:31:05,640 --> 00:31:08,479
Speaker 3: than him actually doing it. Should I be worried? Do

633
00:31:08,560 --> 00:31:10,560
Speaker 3: I need to talk to him about this? Or should

634
00:31:10,600 --> 00:31:13,280
Speaker 3: I just end things? And there is an update, folks,

635
00:31:13,360 --> 00:31:16,600
Speaker 3: But oh lord, who's gonna tell this girl? Who's gonna

636
00:31:16,600 --> 00:31:17,280
Speaker 3: tell this girl?

637
00:31:17,760 --> 00:31:18,680
Speaker 4: Your boyfriend?

638
00:31:19,040 --> 00:31:22,600
Speaker 1: Because also he started crying when she paid attention to it.

639
00:31:22,720 --> 00:31:26,440
Speaker 1: He's started crying immediately. That shows that there's something emotional

640
00:31:26,480 --> 00:31:28,600
Speaker 1: that he has been keeping in for so long that

641
00:31:28,680 --> 00:31:32,400
Speaker 1: even just the mention of it, like just acknowledging it

642
00:31:32,440 --> 00:31:35,680
Speaker 1: and putting a focus on it, is immediately making him

643
00:31:35,720 --> 00:31:38,520
Speaker 1: cry because of his kidney stone.

644
00:31:38,800 --> 00:31:40,840
Speaker 4: I know, I'm so confused this.

645
00:31:40,800 --> 00:31:42,520
Speaker 1: It's just do we have their ages?

646
00:31:42,960 --> 00:31:44,720
Speaker 4: Twenty four twenty.

647
00:31:44,400 --> 00:31:46,800
Speaker 3: Three update two days later, Oh God.

648
00:31:46,640 --> 00:31:47,959
Speaker 4: Please break up with this person.

649
00:31:48,840 --> 00:31:52,160
Speaker 3: This got a lot of attention, and everyone's responses were

650
00:31:52,320 --> 00:31:55,760
Speaker 3: a very helpful. It made me realize how serious the

651
00:31:55,760 --> 00:31:58,520
Speaker 3: whole thing is and how I was fooling myself into

652
00:31:58,520 --> 00:32:01,440
Speaker 3: thinking that Will didn't have some sort of feelings for Caleb.

653
00:32:01,680 --> 00:32:03,640
Speaker 3: They live about a block away from me, so I

654
00:32:03,680 --> 00:32:07,120
Speaker 3: really thought through everything I wanted to say and headed

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Speaker 3: over there. Caleb answered the door and let me know

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Speaker 3: that Will was picking up concert tickets and that he'd

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Speaker 3: be back soon, and he let me in. I'll admit

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Speaker 3: I was acting strange around Caleb because even though it

659
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Speaker 3: isn't his fault, I still felt a bit jealous and sad.

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Speaker 3: He picked up on this and asked what was wrong,

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Speaker 3: and I basically broke down and asked if he and

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Speaker 3: Will had ever slept together. He looked really shocked and

663
00:32:30,360 --> 00:32:34,680
Speaker 3: asked why, and I ended up telling him the whole thing.

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Speaker 3: He looked incredibly confused the whole time, and then when

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Speaker 3: I told him about the kidney stone thing, he burst

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Speaker 3: into laughter, like a manic laughter. He was shaking so

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Speaker 3: much it was like he was vibrating. Then he started crying,

668
00:32:47,680 --> 00:32:49,800
Speaker 3: and I got really worried and asked what was going on.

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Speaker 1: He wouldn't answer me at first.

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00:32:52,040 --> 00:32:54,560
Speaker 3: But after I insisted he'd tell me what's going on,

671
00:32:55,120 --> 00:32:57,120
Speaker 3: he apologized to me and told me that he and

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Speaker 3: Will had drunkenly slept together a handful of time over

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Speaker 3: the last two years, and Will had wanted something more,

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Speaker 3: but he didn't want a relationship with him.

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Speaker 1: Yikes. So we were obviously right. He's in love with

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Speaker 1: Caleb and he's been picturing you as Caleb this whole time.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's when did ope and boyfriend get together? I

678
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Speaker 3: do not know.

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Speaker 5: So Caleb and Will have known each other for ten

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Speaker 5: to fifteen years, and we don't know how long op

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Speaker 5: and and Will has been together.

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Speaker 3: Tough and tough, girl, I'm sorry.

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Speaker 1: Sorry, girl, time to leave. Sorry to to Will.

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Speaker 3: Wish I could have said I didn't see that coming.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but I see what you did there? See what

686
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Speaker 1: you did there, Caleb.

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Speaker 3: Shir did Oh, I mean, yes, I did that on purpose.

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Speaker 4: Hey.

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Speaker 1: Eventually times I'm sorry. Yeah, Hanson family's left together a

690
00:33:54,480 --> 00:33:57,440
Speaker 1: handful of times. That's not a mistake. No, I mean,

691
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Speaker 1: it's still never a mistake.

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Speaker 3: You know.

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Speaker 4: Maybe sorry.

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00:34:00,640 --> 00:34:02,680
Speaker 5: We just both slipped on a banana at the same

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Speaker 5: time and did it.

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00:34:03,640 --> 00:34:05,520
Speaker 3: Oops my kidney stones?

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00:34:06,520 --> 00:34:08,600
Speaker 4: Yeah, what kind of excuses that?

698
00:34:09,200 --> 00:34:09,760
Speaker 3: So bad?

699
00:34:10,080 --> 00:34:12,080
Speaker 1: Such a bad one, truly crazy.

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Speaker 3: Eventually, Will moved on with me and Caleb had confessed

701
00:34:15,920 --> 00:34:18,360
Speaker 3: to Will that he was jealous, but he swears nothing

702
00:34:18,400 --> 00:34:21,480
Speaker 3: happened between them. He prefaced the conversation with I'm not

703
00:34:22,040 --> 00:34:25,680
Speaker 3: attracted to the same gender or anything like. Giving the

704
00:34:25,719 --> 00:34:27,759
Speaker 3: amount of people telling me that they thought they liked

705
00:34:27,800 --> 00:34:29,440
Speaker 3: each other, I was prepared for this.

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Speaker 1: The whole situation is.

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Speaker 3: Mess and I think both of them need to figure

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00:34:32,520 --> 00:34:36,560
Speaker 3: things out with themselves as well as each other. I

709
00:34:36,680 --> 00:34:39,920
Speaker 3: decided to leave Will a letter explaining this and left.

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Speaker 3: I'm pretty upset, but luckily Will and I had only

711
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Speaker 3: been together for less than six months, so I'm glad

712
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Speaker 3: you have got out when I did. I hope I

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Speaker 3: don't bump into them at a Walmart.

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Speaker 4: Oh God, that they live in the middle of nowhere?

715
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Speaker 4: Is what you just said?

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Speaker 1: That would suck?

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Speaker 3: Well, dang.

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Speaker 1: Sorry rip to that A straight relationship that sucks and.

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Speaker 4: Yuh super weird.

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Speaker 1: Good luck to them in their own personal journey with that.

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Speaker 1: And that's the end of the story. We're gonna go

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Speaker 1: on to the next one.

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Speaker 1: I wrote down everything I did compared to my partner.

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Speaker 1: idea at all. My partner twenty four male and doesn't

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Speaker 1: two things unless I twenty four females specifically ask him to.

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Speaker 1: It's driving me insane. We have two children, daughter who

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Speaker 1: will be two in January, and a three month old boy.

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Speaker 1: We've been together for six years. By the way this

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Speaker 1: story Times I Reddit. I'm Angie, I'm Sophia I'm Riley,

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Speaker 1: were here to give good advice, GOOFU leave, But we

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Speaker 1: don't have all the answers. We just know what we

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Speaker 1: would do in these situations. So let us know what

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Speaker 1: you would do in huh. I'm in and Opie says.

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Speaker 1: He works a lot, so I really don't mind doing

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Speaker 1: most things around the house and our children. He has

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Speaker 1: two main things that he has kind of picked himself.

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Speaker 1: What oh, he has kind of picked himself, which is

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Speaker 1: the trash and the cleaning up of the kitchen. Most

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Speaker 1: of the time he does this when I'm bathing or

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Speaker 1: getting the children ready for bed, if he's home. If

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Speaker 1: he's not home, I do it. As I've stated, I

748
00:36:23,320 --> 00:36:25,880
Speaker 1: do not mind doing mostly everything, but I would like

749
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Speaker 1: some help. It's full on with two children under two.

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Speaker 1: I do the dinner, the housework, getting the kids sorted.

751
00:36:32,640 --> 00:36:35,280
Speaker 1: But the issue is he won't just do things himself.

752
00:36:35,480 --> 00:36:37,759
Speaker 1: I have to ask him to do baby's nappy if

753
00:36:37,800 --> 00:36:40,839
Speaker 1: I'm busy doing something else. He won't just do it.

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Speaker 1: I ask when he's home. As he works a lot

755
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Speaker 1: twelve hour shifts but does have a few days off

756
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Speaker 1: in between, I have to ask if he can make

757
00:36:49,000 --> 00:36:51,880
Speaker 1: daughter something to eat. If I'm too busy breastfeeding baby

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Speaker 1: and can't do it myself, he won't just think, oh,

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Speaker 1: it's lunchtime, she's gonna be hungry. It's getting to the

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Speaker 1: point that I need to ask him to do pretty

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Speaker 1: much anything. I've spoken to him about it, but he

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Speaker 1: says it's not true and he does do things he

763
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Speaker 1: needs to do. I don't know if he has depression,

764
00:37:07,480 --> 00:37:09,640
Speaker 1: because he does show signs of it sometimes, but he

765
00:37:09,640 --> 00:37:11,680
Speaker 1: says he feels fine, to be honest, I just think

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00:37:11,680 --> 00:37:14,080
Speaker 1: it's a case of he works. He thinks he should

767
00:37:14,160 --> 00:37:16,080
Speaker 1: chill out for the days that he is off work,

768
00:37:16,560 --> 00:37:19,239
Speaker 1: which is fine, but not all the time, and not

769
00:37:19,520 --> 00:37:23,040
Speaker 1: every single hour of the day. Any advice to try

770
00:37:23,080 --> 00:37:25,959
Speaker 1: and get him to do more without me nagging at him.

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Speaker 1: I hate asking him to do stuff, as I feel

772
00:37:28,800 --> 00:37:31,280
Speaker 1: like I'm going on at him, but I need some help.

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00:37:32,080 --> 00:37:33,960
Speaker 1: There's so much I need to do in the day

774
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Speaker 1: when he's off work. I would like some more help.

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Speaker 1: I've told him and we've had conversations, but I don't

776
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Speaker 1: really know what to do next. Another issue is he

777
00:37:42,120 --> 00:37:44,520
Speaker 1: doesn't spend too much time with the children. He'd rather

778
00:37:44,600 --> 00:37:48,240
Speaker 1: just be doing something else. The children think of the children,

779
00:37:48,440 --> 00:37:51,840
Speaker 1: think of the children? I mean fair, What do you mean?

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Speaker 4: I probably wouldn't watch kids. I'd like I'd rather watch

781
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Speaker 4: like basketball.

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Speaker 3: You literally have told me so many times that you

783
00:37:57,360 --> 00:37:58,919
Speaker 3: want to be a stam dad. You're such a liar.

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00:37:59,040 --> 00:38:01,680
Speaker 4: Yeah, so you want a better to watch the kids?

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Speaker 1: If here be a state, Yeah, he's like.

786
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Speaker 3: What do those kids run off to? I was watching basketball?

787
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Speaker 3: They'll be fine, come home before the let's turn on.

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Speaker 1: If they fall, heal them cry. I'm either holding the

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Speaker 1: baby or he's on his chair. My partner will hold

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Speaker 1: him if I ask him to, which I don't think

791
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Speaker 1: is right. I do think he's suffering with something, but

792
00:38:22,360 --> 00:38:25,080
Speaker 1: I can't force him to get help. And there are

793
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Speaker 1: some comments from Ope. Ope responds to a comment, that's

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Speaker 1: what I hate the most. He won't just get up

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Speaker 1: and change the baby. Or if I'm changing the baby

796
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Speaker 1: and he's been sick and I need new clothes, he

797
00:38:36,960 --> 00:38:38,680
Speaker 1: won't just give me clothes to the baby when he

798
00:38:38,719 --> 00:38:40,680
Speaker 1: can clearly see that I need them. I'll have to

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Speaker 1: ask him. I'm okay with not going out for a

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Speaker 1: bit as I'm feeding. He won't take a bottle. I've

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Speaker 1: tried expressing, so the more I can leave the baby

802
00:38:50,280 --> 00:38:53,480
Speaker 1: is about an hour. That hour is me going to

803
00:38:53,520 --> 00:38:55,720
Speaker 1: get some stuff from the store. But with my daughter

804
00:38:55,800 --> 00:38:58,720
Speaker 1: with me, I am never actually loaned to do anything.

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Speaker 1: To be honest, I do myself really annoyed sometimes, and

806
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Speaker 1: I do agree that I will find myself resenting him

807
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Speaker 1: sad face. We do you have an update from two

808
00:39:06,000 --> 00:39:08,439
Speaker 1: months later. What are thoughts so far?

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Speaker 3: She deeply resents her husband.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, which makes sense. Yes, for obvious reasons. He does

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Speaker 1: not do much well.

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00:39:19,040 --> 00:39:22,520
Speaker 4: He does too only if she asks. He keeps himself.

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Speaker 3: Busy himself like, well, I just want to get out

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Speaker 3: of your way.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I feel like that's tough because if it was

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00:39:27,680 --> 00:39:29,839
Speaker 1: with things just like around the house that they didn't

817
00:39:29,880 --> 00:39:32,359
Speaker 1: have kids, then it's like, okay, maybe I'll just let

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Speaker 1: him do that and see the message he's lived in

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Speaker 1: and hopefully that like he'll experience the consequences and the

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00:39:38,520 --> 00:39:41,399
Speaker 1: discomfort himself. But when it comes to kids, you can't

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Speaker 1: just like not feed your kids, no, you know what

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Speaker 1: I mean.

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Speaker 3: And also it shouldn't be it feels like as if

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00:39:46,360 --> 00:39:49,439
Speaker 3: he is a bad babysitter, you know. Yeah, she needs

825
00:39:49,480 --> 00:39:53,040
Speaker 3: to keep telling him everything. He needs to do, which

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Speaker 3: is so frustrating because you're supposed to be a parent.

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Speaker 3: You should know what your kids need. Yeah, yeah, absolutely yeah,

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Speaker 3: And he says I can't get him help. I think

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Speaker 3: you tell him. I think you say, hey, this is unacceptable,

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Speaker 3: and if there's something going on that you need support with,

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Speaker 3: I will absolutely support you. But I am not receiving

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Speaker 3: any support right now.

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Speaker 1: Right I am struggling. I don't have any alone time

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Speaker 1: for myself. Yeah, like, I need help, and you're supposed

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Speaker 1: to be helping me as this father. Yeah, and my partner.

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Speaker 1: We have an update from two months later. Hey, everyone,

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Speaker 1: I wrote this post just over two months ago, and

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Speaker 1: I got a lot of advice and help and thought

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Speaker 1: that I should do an update. I took a lot

840
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Speaker 1: of your advice. I spoke to him about it again

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00:40:37,640 --> 00:40:39,160
Speaker 1: and said that we needed to come up for a

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00:40:39,160 --> 00:40:42,640
Speaker 1: solution because I couldn't go on with such little help anymore.

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Speaker 1: We wrote a list, as someone had suggested. I wrote

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Speaker 1: what I do, and he wrote what he did. My

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00:40:48,160 --> 00:40:50,719
Speaker 1: list was much bigger than his, and he said he

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Speaker 1: didn't realize how quote unequal the lists were, and he

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00:40:55,520 --> 00:40:57,480
Speaker 1: thought that we were doing pretty much the same. He

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00:40:57,560 --> 00:40:59,919
Speaker 1: thanked me for everything I did and said he'd change.

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Speaker 1: We take it in turns with the nappy changes and

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00:41:02,760 --> 00:41:06,120
Speaker 1: the story times, et cetera, and it's working very well. Now.

851
00:41:06,160 --> 00:41:08,760
Speaker 1: We have certain things that we both need to get done.

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00:41:09,040 --> 00:41:11,799
Speaker 1: He will bathe the kids on the nights that he's home,

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00:41:11,880 --> 00:41:13,879
Speaker 1: so he gets to spend more one on one time.

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Speaker 1: He'll read stories and is being.

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Speaker 3: Much more involved.

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Speaker 1: I still do a lot, which I'm fine with the

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00:41:19,040 --> 00:41:22,200
Speaker 1: things a stay at home partner do, but I want

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Speaker 1: to stay home with the kids and do the majority

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00:41:24,360 --> 00:41:26,719
Speaker 1: as I feel that that's what I'm happiest with doing.

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Speaker 1: I'm just appreciative of the help that he's now giving me.

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00:41:30,040 --> 00:41:33,160
Speaker 1: I don't feel alone anymore. I think with a new

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00:41:33,160 --> 00:41:36,080
Speaker 1: baby and a toddler and working full time, it was

863
00:41:36,120 --> 00:41:39,240
Speaker 1: getting a bit on top of him. But we communicate better,

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00:41:39,520 --> 00:41:43,200
Speaker 1: and when he's feeling overwhelmed, I'll do more and vice versa.

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Speaker 1: Sounds like things are changing, it sure does.

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Speaker 4: I don't know a lot of this, not a lot

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Speaker 4: at this well.

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Speaker 3: I think you Typically in these stories, we see the

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Speaker 3: partner who.

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Speaker 1: Is not you know, pulling their way.

871
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Speaker 3: They either say that they'll make a chance, make a change,

872
00:42:01,800 --> 00:42:04,080
Speaker 3: for like a month or so and then kind.

873
00:42:03,920 --> 00:42:07,320
Speaker 4: Of fall back, not even a two weeks, yeah, maybe.

874
00:42:07,120 --> 00:42:09,359
Speaker 3: Two weeks, like for some amount of time and they

875
00:42:09,400 --> 00:42:12,439
Speaker 3: fall back into their old habits or are they say

876
00:42:12,480 --> 00:42:14,200
Speaker 3: they're gonna make the change and then put a lot

877
00:42:14,200 --> 00:42:16,880
Speaker 3: of effort in. There's a big up, you know, upheaval.

878
00:42:17,880 --> 00:42:19,480
Speaker 3: So let's see what this guy does.

879
00:42:19,680 --> 00:42:22,279
Speaker 1: Yeah, I know this update is after two months, so

880
00:42:22,440 --> 00:42:25,960
Speaker 1: you know who fit the last longer than this? That's

881
00:42:26,000 --> 00:42:28,120
Speaker 1: it right now? I think like to give me.

882
00:42:28,520 --> 00:42:31,920
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm sorry that things like this in a relationship.

883
00:42:32,239 --> 00:42:34,480
Speaker 5: If Angie's telling me, Riley, you gotta take out the trash,

884
00:42:34,520 --> 00:42:36,120
Speaker 5: you gotta take out the trash, I'll take out the

885
00:42:36,160 --> 00:42:39,640
Speaker 5: trash for her. But at some point that's not gonna

886
00:42:39,640 --> 00:42:41,680
Speaker 5: be enough, and I'm gonna stop taking out the trash.

887
00:42:41,880 --> 00:42:43,759
Speaker 4: I gotta want to do it for my family. I

888
00:42:43,800 --> 00:42:46,040
Speaker 4: gotta like want to have a little part in me

889
00:42:46,080 --> 00:42:46,879
Speaker 4: to do it, you feel me.

890
00:42:47,080 --> 00:42:48,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't think he has that.

891
00:42:48,719 --> 00:42:50,040
Speaker 4: I don't think he's gonna find that.

892
00:42:50,400 --> 00:42:50,680
Speaker 3: Yeah.

893
00:42:50,800 --> 00:42:53,520
Speaker 1: I do wonder, like to give him a real benefit

894
00:42:53,560 --> 00:42:58,000
Speaker 1: of the doubt, I do wonder if, like, since she's

895
00:42:58,040 --> 00:43:00,279
Speaker 1: a stay at home mom, maybe he didn't realize is

896
00:43:01,480 --> 00:43:06,560
Speaker 1: like exactly what Maybe they both weren't like clear on

897
00:43:06,640 --> 00:43:09,200
Speaker 1: what the deal was there, like how much that she

898
00:43:09,280 --> 00:43:11,120
Speaker 1: would be taken care of and how much like he

899
00:43:11,160 --> 00:43:14,279
Speaker 1: would still need to step in. Like I mean, sure

900
00:43:14,360 --> 00:43:16,880
Speaker 1: I could see, like, if you're frustrated being the woman

901
00:43:16,920 --> 00:43:19,480
Speaker 1: in this situation, that's like doing most of the work.

902
00:43:19,800 --> 00:43:22,200
Speaker 1: I could see being like, well, when he like see

903
00:43:22,239 --> 00:43:25,239
Speaker 1: it on his own, that's frustrating for sure. But I mean,

904
00:43:25,360 --> 00:43:28,759
Speaker 1: you know, if he's fixing it after looking at it

905
00:43:28,840 --> 00:43:30,400
Speaker 1: like this, maybe.

906
00:43:30,280 --> 00:43:33,240
Speaker 3: No one's a mind reader. Yeah, be open and honest

907
00:43:33,280 --> 00:43:36,160
Speaker 3: with your partners. Yeah, and if there's no change after that,

908
00:43:36,239 --> 00:43:37,040
Speaker 3: then it's a problem.

909
00:43:37,320 --> 00:43:39,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, there is a little bit more to the story,

910
00:43:40,040 --> 00:43:42,480
Speaker 1: let's see. I do think I have to ask him

911
00:43:42,520 --> 00:43:45,240
Speaker 1: some things still, but I feel like that only happens

912
00:43:45,280 --> 00:43:47,600
Speaker 1: when we have had a bit of a busy slash

913
00:43:47,600 --> 00:43:49,960
Speaker 1: hard day. But we have more of an understanding of

914
00:43:49,960 --> 00:43:53,920
Speaker 1: one another now. We also read the articles commenters recommended,

915
00:43:54,000 --> 00:43:56,040
Speaker 1: and that is definitely in the back of our mind.

916
00:43:56,520 --> 00:43:58,399
Speaker 1: I do feel I got into the habit of doing

917
00:43:58,440 --> 00:44:01,439
Speaker 1: things myself and would be than read, et cetera without

918
00:44:01,480 --> 00:44:04,319
Speaker 1: really giving him that time. And now I'm encouraging him

919
00:44:04,400 --> 00:44:06,640
Speaker 1: even more to do things one on one with the kids.

920
00:44:06,880 --> 00:44:08,960
Speaker 1: As I was always there when he was spending time

921
00:44:09,000 --> 00:44:11,120
Speaker 1: with them. I'm trying to make it where he actually

922
00:44:11,160 --> 00:44:13,719
Speaker 1: gets alone time with them as well as I think

923
00:44:13,760 --> 00:44:16,160
Speaker 1: that that was making him feel like a secondary parent,

924
00:44:16,239 --> 00:44:18,160
Speaker 1: if that makes any sense. He has a much better

925
00:44:18,200 --> 00:44:20,319
Speaker 1: bond with the kids now and we are all so

926
00:44:20,440 --> 00:44:23,200
Speaker 1: much happier as a family and us as a couple.

927
00:44:23,239 --> 00:44:24,320
Speaker 1: And that's the end of that story.

928
00:44:25,160 --> 00:44:28,879
Speaker 3: My boyfriend's mother discovered I have polyamorous parents. She asked

929
00:44:28,920 --> 00:44:33,239
Speaker 3: me to leave immediately. What the more the better, I

930
00:44:33,520 --> 00:44:38,120
Speaker 3: twenty female have polyamorous parents. I have always had polyamorous parents.

931
00:44:38,600 --> 00:44:41,000
Speaker 3: This is nothing new, as they have been together for

932
00:44:41,040 --> 00:44:44,799
Speaker 3: almost twenty two years. This may seem like a lot

933
00:44:44,800 --> 00:44:47,319
Speaker 3: of repetition, but I'm really angry by the way this

934
00:44:47,400 --> 00:44:50,120
Speaker 3: comes from throwway polyparent And if you want to smit

935
00:44:50,160 --> 00:44:52,280
Speaker 3: your own stories, go to the rs slush Okay, storytime,

936
00:44:52,280 --> 00:44:55,879
Speaker 3: separate it. I'm Sophia and I'm Savannah, and we're here

937
00:44:55,920 --> 00:44:57,919
Speaker 3: to give good advice. Goofy, but we don't have all

938
00:44:57,960 --> 00:45:00,560
Speaker 3: the answers. We only know what we'd do, So let

939
00:45:00,680 --> 00:45:02,759
Speaker 3: us know what you would do in the comments, and

940
00:45:02,880 --> 00:45:05,879
Speaker 3: Opie says, my boyfriend twenty one male and I met

941
00:45:05,920 --> 00:45:08,520
Speaker 3: in our first year of university and we've been together

942
00:45:08,640 --> 00:45:12,160
Speaker 3: for two years. He's met my parents, been to our cottage,

943
00:45:12,200 --> 00:45:14,359
Speaker 3: and has things in common with all four of them.

944
00:45:14,880 --> 00:45:17,800
Speaker 3: He has never once mentioned that he finds them weird

945
00:45:18,080 --> 00:45:21,439
Speaker 3: or made any negative comments about them. Where I live,

946
00:45:21,520 --> 00:45:24,120
Speaker 3: you can have up to four people on your birth certificate.

947
00:45:24,560 --> 00:45:26,000
Speaker 3: This is important to the story.

948
00:45:26,280 --> 00:45:27,880
Speaker 1: What where do you live?

949
00:45:28,760 --> 00:45:28,840
Speaker 4: What?

950
00:45:29,480 --> 00:45:30,600
Speaker 1: I didn't know that was a thing?

951
00:45:30,800 --> 00:45:31,359
Speaker 3: Why would you?

952
00:45:31,520 --> 00:45:32,560
Speaker 1: Why would you read that?

953
00:45:32,719 --> 00:45:35,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, there are four people involved in this birth. That

954
00:45:35,760 --> 00:45:40,000
Speaker 3: is wild. That feels like I actually I really want

955
00:45:40,040 --> 00:45:42,200
Speaker 3: to know why, because when't you just like adopt or

956
00:45:42,200 --> 00:45:45,960
Speaker 3: something and then it's like the child ley is your

957
00:45:46,080 --> 00:45:47,840
Speaker 3: child birth certificate?

958
00:45:47,880 --> 00:45:50,520
Speaker 1: Feels like that's just like who's biologically I don't know.

959
00:45:50,640 --> 00:45:52,439
Speaker 3: I don't know how this works. I guess it works

960
00:45:52,440 --> 00:45:54,960
Speaker 3: for you. I was at my boyfriend's house today spending

961
00:45:55,000 --> 00:45:57,120
Speaker 3: time with him because he lives in the same city

962
00:45:57,160 --> 00:46:01,200
Speaker 3: where our university is. I'm from just over four hours away,

963
00:46:01,280 --> 00:46:03,839
Speaker 3: so I live in student housing. While I was at

964
00:46:03,920 --> 00:46:06,120
Speaker 3: his house, I got an email from the university that

965
00:46:06,200 --> 00:46:09,120
Speaker 3: it needed my sin and my birth certificate so that

966
00:46:09,160 --> 00:46:12,800
Speaker 3: I could facilitate changing my major. I texted my mama,

967
00:46:13,160 --> 00:46:15,040
Speaker 3: one of my mother's and asked her to email a

968
00:46:15,040 --> 00:46:17,200
Speaker 3: copy to me, which she did. I was talking with

969
00:46:17,239 --> 00:46:21,480
Speaker 3: my boyfriend's mom when she Mamma sent me my birth certificate.

970
00:46:21,640 --> 00:46:23,360
Speaker 3: When I opened the PDF to make sure that it

971
00:46:23,400 --> 00:46:26,480
Speaker 3: was the correct document, my boyfriend's mom saw that I

972
00:46:26,480 --> 00:46:29,960
Speaker 3: have four parents on my birth certificate. She began to

973
00:46:30,000 --> 00:46:32,080
Speaker 3: ask questions, and when I told her that I have

974
00:46:32,360 --> 00:46:35,080
Speaker 3: four parents, it took her a while to realize that

975
00:46:35,120 --> 00:46:37,520
Speaker 3: I meant what I said and I don't have step parents,

976
00:46:37,880 --> 00:46:40,520
Speaker 3: but four parents who lived together and raised me and

977
00:46:40,600 --> 00:46:41,680
Speaker 3: my siblings.

978
00:46:42,200 --> 00:46:42,799
Speaker 1: She got all.

979
00:46:42,760 --> 00:46:45,439
Speaker 3: Quiet before asking me to go back to campus. I'm

980
00:46:45,440 --> 00:46:47,800
Speaker 3: thinking about it, and I guess when you adopt a baby,

981
00:46:47,960 --> 00:46:51,439
Speaker 3: do you go on the birth certificate. I'm not sure. Yeah,

982
00:46:51,440 --> 00:46:54,560
Speaker 3: maybe I just yeah answer my questions because I am

983
00:46:54,640 --> 00:46:55,719
Speaker 3: genuinely curious.

984
00:46:55,960 --> 00:46:58,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, I ever actually like thought about this. I just

985
00:46:58,880 --> 00:47:01,080
Speaker 1: have two parents, but I feel like four would be

986
00:47:01,120 --> 00:47:02,080
Speaker 1: fun for as well.

987
00:47:02,480 --> 00:47:04,880
Speaker 3: Maybe I don't know. I texted my boyfriend afterward and

988
00:47:04,920 --> 00:47:07,480
Speaker 3: I asked him if there was something I did. He said, no,

989
00:47:07,640 --> 00:47:10,799
Speaker 3: but have been giving me non answers, I'm studying for

990
00:47:10,880 --> 00:47:13,719
Speaker 3: midterms and feeling stressed out and like my relationship is

991
00:47:13,760 --> 00:47:17,400
Speaker 3: going to implode. How do I navigate this conversation in

992
00:47:17,440 --> 00:47:20,520
Speaker 3: a way that doesn't make him feel alienated or hurt

993
00:47:20,520 --> 00:47:25,040
Speaker 3: his feelings? And we've got some relevant questions answered several.

994
00:47:25,080 --> 00:47:27,640
Speaker 3: Knowledge says totally unrelated. But I have never met someone

995
00:47:27,680 --> 00:47:30,279
Speaker 3: with Polly parents, and I'm really curious what names you

996
00:47:30,320 --> 00:47:33,440
Speaker 3: call them, op He says, mom, Papa, Mama, and dad.

997
00:47:34,320 --> 00:47:36,880
Speaker 3: Dana Rharr says, Okay, that's really cute, But you and

998
00:47:36,920 --> 00:47:39,400
Speaker 3: your siblings are spoiled in a good way. Opie says,

999
00:47:39,440 --> 00:47:43,600
Speaker 3: I feel totally spoiled. Six six kids with four incomes

1000
00:47:43,640 --> 00:47:46,239
Speaker 3: comes with perks. The reason I had to give my

1001
00:47:46,480 --> 00:47:48,800
Speaker 3: SIN in the first place was because I pull money

1002
00:47:48,800 --> 00:47:52,160
Speaker 3: from an RESP. The reason I had to give my

1003
00:47:52,320 --> 00:47:54,399
Speaker 3: SI N and the first place was because I pull

1004
00:47:54,480 --> 00:47:58,760
Speaker 3: money from an RESP, which is an education savings account.

1005
00:47:59,000 --> 00:48:02,440
Speaker 3: I'm totally for all of UNI, and it's honestly been

1006
00:48:02,520 --> 00:48:05,120
Speaker 3: such a joy. I should also probably mention at some

1007
00:48:05,239 --> 00:48:09,279
Speaker 3: point my parents practice Polly fidelity, which means they don't

1008
00:48:09,280 --> 00:48:12,440
Speaker 3: seek other partners outside of the relationship. It's super stable.

1009
00:48:13,000 --> 00:48:14,839
Speaker 3: They rolled a pair of dice to see who would

1010
00:48:14,920 --> 00:48:17,680
Speaker 3: legally marry whom the year before I was born, as

1011
00:48:17,760 --> 00:48:20,640
Speaker 3: attracted the same gender. Marriage was fully legal year the

1012
00:48:20,719 --> 00:48:23,880
Speaker 3: year before I was born, although my province allowed it

1013
00:48:23,920 --> 00:48:27,120
Speaker 3: since two thousand and three. So my parents are legally

1014
00:48:27,160 --> 00:48:30,360
Speaker 3: married in two couples. However, they're all on the same relationship,

1015
00:48:30,400 --> 00:48:33,560
Speaker 3: which is That's why I think it's interesting because legally

1016
00:48:33,600 --> 00:48:36,399
Speaker 3: they're not allowed to all be married to each other,

1017
00:48:37,080 --> 00:48:39,239
Speaker 3: but they are allowed to be in the birth certificate,

1018
00:48:39,280 --> 00:48:40,160
Speaker 3: which feels like.

1019
00:48:40,200 --> 00:48:43,719
Speaker 1: A weird thing for wherever you live to do. Yeah,

1020
00:48:43,719 --> 00:48:46,440
Speaker 1: I don't know. I've just never thought about like how

1021
00:48:46,880 --> 00:48:50,760
Speaker 1: holy people would do that, But it sounds like it's.

1022
00:48:50,600 --> 00:48:52,319
Speaker 3: I don't know, sounds like it's gone really well.

1023
00:48:52,560 --> 00:48:55,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, I just have logistic questions. Honestly, me too.

1024
00:48:55,640 --> 00:48:58,080
Speaker 3: I'd be happy to answer any questions people have about

1025
00:48:58,080 --> 00:49:00,920
Speaker 3: my parents' relationship and my experience as a kid from

1026
00:49:00,960 --> 00:49:04,839
Speaker 3: a poly family, and everyone's just saying, like, love this.

1027
00:49:05,840 --> 00:49:09,360
Speaker 3: They made sure to do paternity tests for us medical reasons.

1028
00:49:09,640 --> 00:49:13,480
Speaker 3: Mama and Papa had an eighteen male child. Mom and

1029
00:49:13,520 --> 00:49:17,239
Speaker 3: Papa had a sixteen female child. Mama and Dad had

1030
00:49:17,239 --> 00:49:20,920
Speaker 3: a fifteen male child and mom and dad thirteen female child,

1031
00:49:21,080 --> 00:49:22,719
Speaker 3: Mama and Papa ten female.

1032
00:49:23,000 --> 00:49:26,360
Speaker 1: So basically just telling us whose kid is who's that's crazy.

1033
00:49:26,400 --> 00:49:29,839
Speaker 1: So they're all different. They like mixed it up. Yeah,

1034
00:49:29,880 --> 00:49:33,319
Speaker 1: they were like, you're turned all right, let's change it

1035
00:49:33,400 --> 00:49:36,600
Speaker 1: up this time. That's crazy, but like fun.

1036
00:49:36,800 --> 00:49:40,960
Speaker 3: I don't know op explaining their family background, how did

1037
00:49:40,960 --> 00:49:44,080
Speaker 3: my parents meet and form their polycole They were all

1038
00:49:44,160 --> 00:49:48,239
Speaker 3: housemates at university and just clicked, both platonically and romantically.

1039
00:49:48,800 --> 00:49:52,440
Speaker 3: They remained platonic housemates through Uni, then after rented a

1040
00:49:52,440 --> 00:49:55,200
Speaker 3: house together, they kind of fell into it. According to

1041
00:49:55,239 --> 00:49:57,839
Speaker 3: my mama. They made it official after my mom got

1042
00:49:57,840 --> 00:50:01,440
Speaker 3: her law degree. Do neighbors and colleagues No, Yes, our

1043
00:50:01,480 --> 00:50:04,160
Speaker 3: next door neighbors on both sides. No. They thought my

1044
00:50:04,239 --> 00:50:06,239
Speaker 3: parents were weird when they moved in, but have come

1045
00:50:06,280 --> 00:50:08,719
Speaker 3: to be supportive. I don't know how many of their

1046
00:50:08,760 --> 00:50:11,440
Speaker 3: work colleagues know, but I know my dad's coworker knows

1047
00:50:11,480 --> 00:50:14,560
Speaker 3: and is supportive. They tend to say that they're married

1048
00:50:14,640 --> 00:50:18,760
Speaker 3: and in a non conventional relationship. If a person gets curious,

1049
00:50:18,760 --> 00:50:23,120
Speaker 3: they tell. If they don't ask, no info is exchanged.

1050
00:50:23,440 --> 00:50:26,520
Speaker 3: I've always said I have four parents introduced all four

1051
00:50:26,520 --> 00:50:29,760
Speaker 3: of my parents and maintained that they're all equal. Parents

1052
00:50:30,239 --> 00:50:33,439
Speaker 3: were my siblings, and I always comfortable. I was. Yes,

1053
00:50:34,000 --> 00:50:37,480
Speaker 3: my younger brother eighteen mail, faced significantly more bullying about

1054
00:50:37,480 --> 00:50:40,520
Speaker 3: it than I did because he is more social. I

1055
00:50:40,600 --> 00:50:43,120
Speaker 3: can't speak for them about what they want, but I

1056
00:50:43,160 --> 00:50:46,040
Speaker 3: have never wanted a traditional family. Well, it doesn't seem like,

1057
00:50:46,160 --> 00:50:48,759
Speaker 3: you know, it seems like you got everything you need.

1058
00:50:49,080 --> 00:50:51,080
Speaker 1: So yeah, it doesn't seem like any of this was

1059
00:50:51,080 --> 00:50:54,000
Speaker 1: like a red flag, caused any riff in, like any

1060
00:50:54,000 --> 00:50:54,960
Speaker 1: relationships or whatever.

1061
00:50:55,000 --> 00:50:56,280
Speaker 3: It seems super healthy.

1062
00:50:56,560 --> 00:50:57,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, pretty stable household.

1063
00:50:58,080 --> 00:50:59,759
Speaker 3: Why I have less when I have more? Kind of

1064
00:50:59,800 --> 00:51:03,440
Speaker 3: thought process? People have been both homo and poly to

1065
00:51:03,520 --> 00:51:08,520
Speaker 3: our faces, including lots of faith based hatred towards my parents. Overall,

1066
00:51:08,560 --> 00:51:12,680
Speaker 3: most people just say that's weird or okay and don't

1067
00:51:12,719 --> 00:51:16,120
Speaker 3: go into detail about their feelings. Wlas Attack says, anyone

1068
00:51:16,160 --> 00:51:19,040
Speaker 3: else really curious about this very real place where you

1069
00:51:19,080 --> 00:51:21,360
Speaker 3: can have four parents on your birth certificate?

1070
00:51:21,440 --> 00:51:24,720
Speaker 1: That's what I want to know. Someone tell me where

1071
00:51:24,800 --> 00:51:25,960
Speaker 1: is this magical place?

1072
00:51:26,280 --> 00:51:28,759
Speaker 3: And two you need to present your birth certificate to

1073
00:51:28,840 --> 00:51:33,520
Speaker 3: change your university major, and will say you do sometimes

1074
00:51:33,600 --> 00:51:37,520
Speaker 3: need your birth certificate when applying to university stuff. I

1075
00:51:37,560 --> 00:51:38,560
Speaker 3: do think that is a thing.

1076
00:51:39,080 --> 00:51:40,600
Speaker 1: Honestly, I forget it's been a while.

1077
00:51:40,680 --> 00:51:42,920
Speaker 3: Pretty sure you need like documents, oh, he says. I

1078
00:51:42,960 --> 00:51:45,759
Speaker 3: live in Ontario, Canada. You can have up to four

1079
00:51:45,800 --> 00:51:48,000
Speaker 3: parents on a birth certificate due to an act about

1080
00:51:48,040 --> 00:51:51,719
Speaker 3: making all sorts of families equal. In twenty eighteen, my

1081
00:51:51,800 --> 00:51:53,880
Speaker 3: siblings and I went to a courthouse to have our

1082
00:51:53,880 --> 00:51:57,359
Speaker 3: birth certificates changed after the law passed. Okay, this makes

1083
00:51:57,400 --> 00:51:59,399
Speaker 3: more sense. So it wasn't something that you're at because

1084
00:51:59,400 --> 00:52:02,960
Speaker 3: I was like, where was this allowed? Like eighteen years ago,

1085
00:52:03,280 --> 00:52:05,879
Speaker 3: But it seems like it just happened. That makes sense

1086
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Speaker 3: to go to Canada get it is great too. I

1087
00:52:08,800 --> 00:52:12,400
Speaker 3: needed foundational ideas, so proof of citizenship and my sin number.

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00:52:12,520 --> 00:52:14,920
Speaker 3: I don't have a valid passport, so the birth certificate

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Speaker 3: was the best option. I think it's to prevent fraud.

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Speaker 3: There is a little bit left to the story. But

1091
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Speaker 3: like the original question that OPI had was what do

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00:52:23,880 --> 00:52:28,360
Speaker 3: I do about my boyfriend being weird and his mom

1093
00:52:28,400 --> 00:52:31,719
Speaker 3: not liking that? You know, my parents are polly, and

1094
00:52:31,760 --> 00:52:32,799
Speaker 3: do you have any answers for that?

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Speaker 1: I mean, I think the thing is you can't convince

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Speaker 1: someone to like have a specific belief it's never gonna happen.

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Speaker 1: People just believe what they believe. That everyone has a

1098
00:52:44,360 --> 00:52:48,279
Speaker 1: different opinion whatever, it's just it's whether or not she

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00:52:48,600 --> 00:52:53,040
Speaker 1: can accept it, or is it boyfriend or girlfriend boyfriend boyfriend.

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00:52:53,600 --> 00:52:56,480
Speaker 1: If boyfriend can accept it, then like cool.

1101
00:52:56,520 --> 00:52:58,800
Speaker 6: But if it's gonna cause issues and it's like okay,

1102
00:52:58,880 --> 00:53:02,239
Speaker 6: then obviously you don't understand. You don't care to understand,

1103
00:53:02,320 --> 00:53:06,680
Speaker 6: you don't care enough about me to let your past

1104
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Speaker 6: beliefs like go, you know, or your closed mindedness.

1105
00:53:10,320 --> 00:53:13,360
Speaker 3: Well, the thing that I'm wondering about is, oh, Pe

1106
00:53:13,400 --> 00:53:17,080
Speaker 3: obviously would have told her boyfriend. She seems very open.

1107
00:53:17,640 --> 00:53:21,200
Speaker 3: Yeah this so to her parents, Yeah exactly. So it

1108
00:53:21,239 --> 00:53:24,040
Speaker 3: feels like she definitely would have told them pretty early

1109
00:53:24,120 --> 00:53:28,200
Speaker 3: on into the relationship. I'm assuming. So why didn't he

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00:53:28,239 --> 00:53:29,080
Speaker 3: tell his mom?

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Speaker 4: You know?

1112
00:53:30,360 --> 00:53:34,520
Speaker 6: I guess yeah, maybe he felt that was like weird.

1113
00:53:34,560 --> 00:53:36,640
Speaker 6: Maybe he has like very traditional parents that are just

1114
00:53:36,680 --> 00:53:39,600
Speaker 6: like now yeah, and now we're in his ear saying

1115
00:53:39,640 --> 00:53:40,920
Speaker 6: like you shouldn't do that.

1116
00:53:41,280 --> 00:53:41,400
Speaker 1: You know.

1117
00:53:41,480 --> 00:53:44,040
Speaker 3: I feel like he was scared to say anything, but

1118
00:53:44,080 --> 00:53:45,200
Speaker 3: now it's causing issues.

1119
00:53:45,640 --> 00:53:48,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, so it have said something minute?

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00:53:48,000 --> 00:53:49,920
Speaker 3: Boxes have you talked to him about what kind of

1121
00:53:49,960 --> 00:53:51,359
Speaker 3: relationship and marriage you want.

1122
00:53:51,560 --> 00:53:53,719
Speaker 1: Do you want to be polyamorous? And if so?

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00:53:53,920 --> 00:53:56,919
Speaker 3: Does he know this and has he agreed? OHP says yes.

1124
00:53:57,520 --> 00:54:00,000
Speaker 3: I told him I wanted to be completely monogamous when

1125
00:54:00,080 --> 00:54:03,239
Speaker 3: he started dating, and I feel the same. I know

1126
00:54:03,360 --> 00:54:06,719
Speaker 3: I don't have the level of emotional bandwidth or capacity

1127
00:54:06,719 --> 00:54:09,680
Speaker 3: for emotional labor, or the communication skills that comes with

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Speaker 3: being polyamorous. I'll ask him about it later today when

1129
00:54:12,680 --> 00:54:16,279
Speaker 3: I know he's awake and Lonely Arts Club says, after

1130
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Speaker 3: dating for two years, why haven't your families met? This

1131
00:54:19,320 --> 00:54:21,200
Speaker 3: sounds more like you and him were keeping it a

1132
00:54:21,280 --> 00:54:23,680
Speaker 3: secret from his family, Like they don't even really know

1133
00:54:23,719 --> 00:54:26,759
Speaker 3: anything about you. Ope, he says, our parents haven't met

1134
00:54:26,760 --> 00:54:29,600
Speaker 3: each other, But my boyfriend has met my parents that

1135
00:54:29,800 --> 00:54:32,759
Speaker 3: on vacation with us, gone to our cottage, met my siblings.

1136
00:54:33,200 --> 00:54:35,959
Speaker 3: I assumed he would have told his parents that's my bad,

1137
00:54:36,040 --> 00:54:37,479
Speaker 3: that's not your bad, that's his bad.

1138
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Speaker 4: Yeah.

1139
00:54:38,080 --> 00:54:39,040
Speaker 1: No, that's the same with me.

1140
00:54:39,920 --> 00:54:44,160
Speaker 6: Like I my ex like came with us everywhere, but

1141
00:54:45,120 --> 00:54:46,800
Speaker 6: I never really went with his family.

1142
00:54:46,920 --> 00:54:48,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, but you knew he had two parents.

1143
00:54:49,280 --> 00:54:51,880
Speaker 1: I knew he had two parents. Well, you kind of

1144
00:54:52,000 --> 00:54:55,399
Speaker 1: just one because he didn't talk to his dad. And

1145
00:54:55,560 --> 00:54:57,160
Speaker 1: that's the end of the story. We're gonna go on

1146
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Speaker 1: to the next one. Hey, it's Angie, your fa favorite

1147
00:55:00,600 --> 00:55:04,040
Speaker 1: fake redhead hosts here and we're going to get back

1148
00:55:04,080 --> 00:55:06,480
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1150
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Speaker 6: A woman used a line to sit at my table

1151
00:55:10,800 --> 00:55:13,560
Speaker 6: all night, then asked if I was taking.

1152
00:55:13,280 --> 00:55:17,920
Speaker 1: Her home leave my table. So this weird thing happens

1153
00:55:18,000 --> 00:55:20,240
Speaker 1: last week, and everyone I talked to has a different

1154
00:55:20,239 --> 00:55:22,880
Speaker 1: response to this story. So I'm going to ask people

1155
00:55:22,920 --> 00:55:26,799
Speaker 1: here for their judgment for contexts. Every other Thursday, at

1156
00:55:26,800 --> 00:55:28,000
Speaker 1: a bar in my town.

1157
00:55:27,800 --> 00:55:30,320
Speaker 6: They have an open mic night. I go every single

1158
00:55:30,360 --> 00:55:32,640
Speaker 6: time they have it. I like to unwind, sit at

1159
00:55:32,640 --> 00:55:34,799
Speaker 6: a table by myself and listen to some of the

1160
00:55:34,840 --> 00:55:36,000
Speaker 6: local artists in town.

1161
00:55:36,400 --> 00:55:36,720
Speaker 3: Uh.

1162
00:55:36,760 --> 00:55:39,319
Speaker 1: My girlfriend typically doesn't come along because she isn't a

1163
00:55:39,320 --> 00:55:42,000
Speaker 1: fan of genres most people do at these open mics.

1164
00:55:42,160 --> 00:55:45,480
Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from Tuba Technician And if

1165
00:55:45,520 --> 00:55:46,920
Speaker 1: you want to submit your own stories, go to the

1166
00:55:47,000 --> 00:55:50,759
Speaker 1: r slash Okay storytime subreddit. I'm Savannah, I'm Sophia. We

1167
00:55:50,800 --> 00:55:53,279
Speaker 1: are here to give some good advice goofully. We don't

1168
00:55:53,320 --> 00:55:55,160
Speaker 1: have all the answers. We don't even let you know

1169
00:55:55,200 --> 00:55:56,960
Speaker 1: what we would do in this situation, but you should

1170
00:55:57,040 --> 00:55:59,040
Speaker 1: let us know what you would do in the comments

1171
00:55:59,560 --> 00:56:02,239
Speaker 1: as Opa, he says. At the most recent night, a

1172
00:56:02,280 --> 00:56:04,160
Speaker 1: woman came up to my table and asked if she

1173
00:56:04,160 --> 00:56:06,239
Speaker 1: could sit there to avoid a creepy guy who kept

1174
00:56:06,280 --> 00:56:09,640
Speaker 1: hitting on her. I said sure. Once she sat down,

1175
00:56:10,640 --> 00:56:13,240
Speaker 1: she started talking to me, which was fine. I guess

1176
00:56:13,520 --> 00:56:16,360
Speaker 1: I would rather sit in silence, but I politely nodded

1177
00:56:16,360 --> 00:56:18,439
Speaker 1: along and mostly tried to tune her out and listen

1178
00:56:18,480 --> 00:56:21,320
Speaker 1: to the performers. After a few sets, one of her

1179
00:56:21,480 --> 00:56:23,600
Speaker 1: or one of the employees came to take her order.

1180
00:56:24,000 --> 00:56:25,880
Speaker 1: I get the same thing every time, and the staff

1181
00:56:25,920 --> 00:56:28,919
Speaker 1: all know that she talked most of the night, which

1182
00:56:29,000 --> 00:56:32,120
Speaker 1: was frustrating but fine. The waiter came back and asked

1183
00:56:32,120 --> 00:56:34,960
Speaker 1: if we wanted our bills separate or together. I said separate,

1184
00:56:35,000 --> 00:56:37,960
Speaker 1: which she got upset about. I only keep a small

1185
00:56:38,000 --> 00:56:39,960
Speaker 1: amount of cash on me, and I had just enough

1186
00:56:40,000 --> 00:56:41,200
Speaker 1: for my meal and a tip.

1187
00:56:41,000 --> 00:56:41,480
Speaker 3: For the server.

1188
00:56:41,760 --> 00:56:43,839
Speaker 1: She paid for her food, so it was fine.

1189
00:56:43,880 --> 00:56:46,360
Speaker 6: I guess I was pretty tired of her, so I

1190
00:56:46,400 --> 00:56:48,880
Speaker 6: wanted to leave as soon as possible at that point,

1191
00:56:49,320 --> 00:56:51,160
Speaker 6: so I asked if the creepy guy was gone or

1192
00:56:51,160 --> 00:56:51,719
Speaker 6: still at the bar.

1193
00:56:51,920 --> 00:56:54,040
Speaker 1: She looked at me confused and said, what creepy guy.

1194
00:56:54,440 --> 00:56:56,920
Speaker 1: She then figured it out and told me that was

1195
00:56:56,960 --> 00:56:59,320
Speaker 1: a line she just used to sit at my table.

1196
00:56:59,400 --> 00:57:01,480
Speaker 3: You cannot use that as a line.

1197
00:57:01,640 --> 00:57:04,040
Speaker 1: That's not a line, but that feels like entrapman.

1198
00:57:04,320 --> 00:57:07,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, you should use that in case of emergency.

1199
00:57:07,600 --> 00:57:09,239
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like, I don't go up to people be like

1200
00:57:09,360 --> 00:57:11,120
Speaker 1: can I can I talk to you? Like, there's this

1201
00:57:11,120 --> 00:57:13,279
Speaker 1: creepy guy over there and I really don't like him.

1202
00:57:13,440 --> 00:57:15,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, Like you go up to the next guy and

1203
00:57:15,000 --> 00:57:16,440
Speaker 3: you're like, there's a fire in the building.

1204
00:57:16,480 --> 00:57:17,520
Speaker 1: I needed to take me home.

1205
00:57:17,800 --> 00:57:20,600
Speaker 6: Yeah, Like could you imagine, like where's the fire?

1206
00:57:20,440 --> 00:57:21,960
Speaker 3: You're like, no, no, that was a line. No, no, no,

1207
00:57:22,000 --> 00:57:22,800
Speaker 3: that was my line.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 6: I am very pissed off at this point, so I

1210
00:57:26,000 --> 00:57:28,280
Speaker 6: just get up and leave. She follows me out and

1211
00:57:28,320 --> 00:57:30,280
Speaker 6: asks if we are heading back to my place, and

1212
00:57:30,320 --> 00:57:32,360
Speaker 6: I told her I have a girlfriend, so leave me alone,

1213
00:57:32,440 --> 00:57:35,479
Speaker 6: and then got in my truck and left. After telling

1214
00:57:35,520 --> 00:57:38,760
Speaker 6: my friends and my girlfriend this, they each had different reactions.

1215
00:57:38,840 --> 00:57:40,720
Speaker 6: My girlfriend thought it was messed up that I got

1216
00:57:40,720 --> 00:57:42,919
Speaker 6: put in that situation, while most of my friends say

1217
00:57:42,960 --> 00:57:45,000
Speaker 6: I should have offered to give her a ride home

1218
00:57:45,280 --> 00:57:47,960
Speaker 6: or an uber before leaving her alone at the bar.

1219
00:57:48,240 --> 00:57:49,280
Speaker 1: So am I the a hole?

1220
00:57:49,560 --> 00:57:53,320
Speaker 6: Now what this girl put herself in this situation. You

1221
00:57:53,440 --> 00:57:55,800
Speaker 6: have no obligation to take care of her at all.

1222
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Speaker 3: Also insane of any of your friends and be like, yeah,

1223
00:57:59,120 --> 00:58:03,160
Speaker 3: you should have taken this random girl who we've already

1224
00:58:03,280 --> 00:58:06,680
Speaker 3: established was not in any danger. Yeah, she can get

1225
00:58:06,680 --> 00:58:09,560
Speaker 3: a nuber. She literally came there to be she's the

1226
00:58:09,560 --> 00:58:13,160
Speaker 3: creepy woman. Yeah, like she's the creepy one. Yeah, at

1227
00:58:13,240 --> 00:58:15,000
Speaker 3: least your girlfriends got her head on right.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. The girlfriend's like, uh yeah, no, you did the

1229
00:58:17,880 --> 00:58:20,840
Speaker 1: right thing, And all the guy friends are just like,

1230
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Speaker 1: I don't know. I mean, you didn't pay for Ruber. No,

1231
00:58:23,480 --> 00:58:25,280
Speaker 1: I didn't pay for her meal either, because I don't

1232
00:58:25,320 --> 00:58:25,800
Speaker 1: know her.

1233
00:58:25,960 --> 00:58:28,920
Speaker 3: She's a stranger. There is an update.

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Speaker 6: I had meant to do this update since last Thursday,

1235
00:58:31,360 --> 00:58:34,120
Speaker 6: but things were on my mind. But there has also

1236
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Speaker 6: been new developments through this current week. So first I

1237
00:58:37,760 --> 00:58:40,360
Speaker 6: would like to say thank you for all your comments.

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Speaker 6: To the person that said I fell for the oldest

1239
00:58:44,520 --> 00:58:46,920
Speaker 6: line in the book. I'm sorry, but I don't think

1240
00:58:47,040 --> 00:58:49,600
Speaker 6: lying about being unsafe at a bar should be a line.

1241
00:58:49,720 --> 00:58:51,680
Speaker 6: My friends who thought I should have given her a

1242
00:58:51,800 --> 00:58:55,040
Speaker 6: ride home didn't have proper context. I sometimes forget to

1243
00:58:55,040 --> 00:58:57,440
Speaker 6: say things when I talk to people. They assumed I

1244
00:58:57,560 --> 00:59:00,280
Speaker 6: left when I normally do. I typically I am the

1245
00:59:00,320 --> 00:59:02,120
Speaker 6: last person to leave the bar because I like to

1246
00:59:02,160 --> 00:59:04,360
Speaker 6: stay and help clean, and most of the time I

1247
00:59:04,440 --> 00:59:06,480
Speaker 6: lock up for the owner. So they had thought I

1248
00:59:06,520 --> 00:59:09,240
Speaker 6: had left her stranded without any way of getting a.

1249
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Speaker 1: Hold of a ride.

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00:59:10,440 --> 00:59:12,720
Speaker 6: My girlfriend and I had been making jokes the whole

1251
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Speaker 6: week about the situation. Example, me, can we watch the

1252
00:59:16,200 --> 00:59:16,919
Speaker 6: karate Kid?

1253
00:59:17,080 --> 00:59:17,560
Speaker 1: Girlfriend?

1254
00:59:17,600 --> 00:59:21,000
Speaker 6: No, I want to watch the Princess Bride. Me, very sarcastically,

1255
00:59:21,520 --> 00:59:23,440
Speaker 6: I bet the girl would want to watch the karate

1256
00:59:23,520 --> 00:59:27,280
Speaker 6: while we were watching Princess Bride? Me, Hey, can you

1257
00:59:27,360 --> 00:59:29,400
Speaker 6: turn it up a little bit? I can't hear this

1258
00:59:29,600 --> 00:59:31,880
Speaker 6: that well. Girlfriend, Oh yeah, I forgot that girl at

1259
00:59:31,880 --> 00:59:33,400
Speaker 6: the bar talked to your ear off. We both think

1260
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Speaker 6: it's a very hilarious joke.

1261
00:59:34,760 --> 00:59:37,320
Speaker 1: Anyway, I convinced my girlfriend to come to open my

1262
00:59:37,560 --> 00:59:40,080
Speaker 1: last Thursday by saying that girl might be there, so

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00:59:40,120 --> 00:59:42,760
Speaker 1: we went together. The girl wasn't there, but girlfriend managed

1264
00:59:42,800 --> 00:59:45,920
Speaker 1: to get some details from her waitress. I kind of zoomed.

1265
00:59:46,080 --> 00:59:48,000
Speaker 1: I kind of zoned out the whole night, so I

1266
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Speaker 1: didn't pay attention. Here is my girlfriend's telling of what

1267
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Speaker 1: the waitress told her. Apparently that girl was in the

1268
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Speaker 1: bar for four nights in a row, Tuesday through Thursday.

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Speaker 1: Her friends kept making her go talk to different guys,

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Speaker 1: presumably with the same line she used on me, which

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Speaker 1: was the friend's idea. Friday night, she blew up on

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Speaker 1: her friends and the friends left her behind with no

1273
01:00:07,920 --> 01:00:11,040
Speaker 1: ride home. The waitress ended up driving her home. Small

1274
01:00:11,080 --> 01:00:11,840
Speaker 1: town no uber.

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Speaker 3: Uh. Okay, that actually is good information to know because

1276
01:00:19,120 --> 01:00:21,560
Speaker 3: I now understand a little bit more where the friends

1277
01:00:21,560 --> 01:00:24,640
Speaker 3: are coming from. Because if they thought that it was

1278
01:00:24,680 --> 01:00:27,200
Speaker 3: like late at night and she had no way to

1279
01:00:27,200 --> 01:00:29,600
Speaker 3: get home, I understand a little bit more of where

1280
01:00:29,600 --> 01:00:32,400
Speaker 3: the friends are coming from. Doesn't mean that you owed

1281
01:00:32,440 --> 01:00:34,280
Speaker 3: her a ride, but I get what they were saying.

1282
01:00:34,800 --> 01:00:37,440
Speaker 1: Apparently the information she got from the girl. I'll give

1283
01:00:37,480 --> 01:00:40,560
Speaker 1: her a name now. Her name is Lucy. Fake name.

1284
01:00:41,160 --> 01:00:44,440
Speaker 6: Apparently her boyfriend passed away a week prior in a

1285
01:00:44,440 --> 01:00:45,120
Speaker 6: car accident.

1286
01:00:45,600 --> 01:00:50,840
Speaker 1: What okay, I think she's lying? Yeah, I think.

1287
01:00:50,680 --> 01:00:54,919
Speaker 3: This is another one of her lines. That's my line. Yeah,

1288
01:00:54,960 --> 01:00:55,400
Speaker 3: how are you?

1289
01:00:55,440 --> 01:00:57,840
Speaker 1: My boyfriend passed away last week? Oh my oh sorry?

1290
01:00:57,880 --> 01:00:58,880
Speaker 3: Everyone feels bad for her.

1291
01:00:59,160 --> 01:01:01,280
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know if I believe it.

1292
01:01:01,360 --> 01:01:03,480
Speaker 3: I also don't know if I believe it. Sorry girl,

1293
01:01:03,520 --> 01:01:07,160
Speaker 3: If it did happen, that really is tragic, But you

1294
01:01:07,200 --> 01:01:09,080
Speaker 3: have not proven yourself to be trustworthy.

1295
01:01:09,200 --> 01:01:12,800
Speaker 6: Her alleged friend wanted her to get over it, and

1296
01:01:12,840 --> 01:01:15,160
Speaker 6: we're trying to get her to get guys to hook

1297
01:01:15,280 --> 01:01:19,640
Speaker 6: up with her, and when they wouldn't, Lucy's friends would

1298
01:01:19,720 --> 01:01:23,000
Speaker 6: chastise her. By Friday, she had had enough and decided

1299
01:01:23,040 --> 01:01:25,880
Speaker 6: to no longer be friends with them. That is just crazy,

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01:01:26,240 --> 01:01:28,720
Speaker 6: like a lie, a lot of freaking drama.

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01:01:28,840 --> 01:01:31,880
Speaker 3: Her friends told her to get over her boyfriend passing

1302
01:01:32,120 --> 01:01:36,560
Speaker 3: a week ago. Yeah, I don't believe her.

1303
01:01:36,760 --> 01:01:39,960
Speaker 6: I also am having a hard time believing all of this.

1304
01:01:40,560 --> 01:01:43,480
Speaker 6: The day after the open mic, my girlfriend, being the lovable,

1305
01:01:43,520 --> 01:01:47,560
Speaker 6: friendly stalker she is, found Lucy on Facebook through the

1306
01:01:47,680 --> 01:01:50,440
Speaker 6: article about the crash. She messaged Lucy and told her

1307
01:01:50,480 --> 01:01:53,880
Speaker 6: about the situation with me, and Lucy profusely apologized about

1308
01:01:53,880 --> 01:01:56,560
Speaker 6: the whole ordeal. My girlfriend thought it sounded like she

1309
01:01:56,600 --> 01:01:59,240
Speaker 6: needed better friends and invited her to brunch on Sunday

1310
01:01:59,280 --> 01:02:02,320
Speaker 6: with her and her friends. They all seem to hit

1311
01:02:02,360 --> 01:02:03,280
Speaker 6: it off that.

1312
01:02:03,400 --> 01:02:06,560
Speaker 1: Why did your girlfriend do that? Well, she was like,

1313
01:02:06,600 --> 01:02:07,200
Speaker 1: I don't know.

1314
01:02:07,240 --> 01:02:09,440
Speaker 6: Her girlfriend honestly kind of seems like a really good person,

1315
01:02:09,520 --> 01:02:10,120
Speaker 6: like she does.

1316
01:02:10,200 --> 01:02:14,600
Speaker 3: But that's like like imagine I I don't know. I'm

1317
01:02:14,600 --> 01:02:17,439
Speaker 3: trying to like think of the situation. My boyfriend comes

1318
01:02:17,480 --> 01:02:19,439
Speaker 3: to me and says, hey, I was at this bar

1319
01:02:19,720 --> 01:02:21,640
Speaker 3: and like this girl was really weird and made me

1320
01:02:21,720 --> 01:02:24,920
Speaker 3: really uncomfortable, like she wouldn't stop hitting on me, and like,

1321
01:02:25,400 --> 01:02:27,320
Speaker 3: I don't know, it was a little creepy. And then

1322
01:02:27,560 --> 01:02:30,600
Speaker 3: you go, and then I know, I go and find

1323
01:02:30,680 --> 01:02:35,160
Speaker 3: her Instagram DM her and say, hey, you flirted with

1324
01:02:35,200 --> 01:02:38,800
Speaker 3: my boyfriend, but would you want to be friends? What?

1325
01:02:39,200 --> 01:02:41,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, it is a little weird seeing it from that

1326
01:02:41,720 --> 01:02:42,960
Speaker 1: point of view, weird.

1327
01:02:43,560 --> 01:02:47,200
Speaker 6: I yeah, see I me being the fun loving person

1328
01:02:47,280 --> 01:02:47,640
Speaker 6: I am.

1329
01:02:47,920 --> 01:02:50,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, you'd be all you see. I'm like, well, I

1330
01:02:50,920 --> 01:02:54,080
Speaker 1: feel bad. Means yeah, maybe she just doesn't have anyone

1331
01:02:54,120 --> 01:02:56,400
Speaker 1: and her friends seem like they're crappy, so like, I'll

1332
01:02:56,400 --> 01:02:57,040
Speaker 1: be a good friend.

1333
01:02:57,120 --> 01:02:59,120
Speaker 3: Maybe this is just small town dynamics.

1334
01:02:59,520 --> 01:03:02,440
Speaker 6: Yeah, I did grow up in a very small so

1335
01:03:02,520 --> 01:03:05,400
Speaker 6: now my girlfriend and my date are friends.

1336
01:03:06,440 --> 01:03:08,600
Speaker 1: That's about all I have left for an update.

1337
01:03:09,360 --> 01:03:14,760
Speaker 6: Strange story, very strange, but I guess it was meant

1338
01:03:14,800 --> 01:03:15,080
Speaker 6: to be.

1339
01:03:16,400 --> 01:03:19,000
Speaker 1: I guess so, and that's the end of the story.