WEBVTT - Following Your Curiosity with Tinx 0:00:00.560 --> 0:00:03.280 Scrubbing In with Beck of Tilly and Tanya rad and 0:00:03.440 --> 0:00:07.640 iHeartRadio and two times People's Choice Award winning podcast. 0:00:10.440 --> 0:00:14.480 Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in grub. 0:00:14.640 --> 0:00:18.320 Dub Dub and the Tings a tub tub. 0:00:19.000 --> 0:00:21.919 Did you read the comments about the jingle your jingle? 0:00:22.360 --> 0:00:24.840 No, don't tell me. It's not bad. People hate it. 0:00:25.280 --> 0:00:26.520 There's mixed reviews. 0:00:26.920 --> 0:00:30.720 They posted a poll about it and. 0:00:30.680 --> 0:00:32.199 It was like fifty to fifty people loved it or 0:00:32.240 --> 0:00:32.680 hated it. 0:00:33.080 --> 0:00:35.199 Yeah, they told me to break the news to you gently. 0:00:37.520 --> 0:00:39.080 But then some people are like, oh my god, I 0:00:39.120 --> 0:00:41.360 sing along every time, so it's really you know, And 0:00:41.440 --> 0:00:42.319 I told you, I said. 0:00:42.360 --> 0:00:44.680 The tots are going to be like I love it 0:00:44.760 --> 0:00:48.960 and some might not. And then a lot of people 0:00:48.960 --> 0:00:50.959 are like, I'm mostly indifferent about it. 0:00:51.520 --> 0:00:53.559 The till heads are over here, slammer. 0:00:55.880 --> 0:01:01.160 I do not consent on tillheads, but here we are 0:01:00.840 --> 0:01:06.080 but the doctor for themselves as the tongue of talk. 0:01:06.160 --> 0:01:06.720 They love it. 0:01:07.120 --> 0:01:09.080 Well, the till heads are gonna take this uprunt of it. 0:01:09.160 --> 0:01:14.360 Now. Love our guests today, anyways, they're y'all are all 0:01:14.360 --> 0:01:15.400 gonna love our guest today. 0:01:16.920 --> 0:01:18.320 You know her as Tinks. 0:01:18.480 --> 0:01:21.039 She is a New York Times best selling author and 0:01:21.200 --> 0:01:22.800 podcast and radio host. 0:01:23.959 --> 0:01:26.800 She has a new debut fiction novel. It's called Hotter 0:01:26.880 --> 0:01:29.720 in the Hampton's. It's coming out May six, so everybody 0:01:29.720 --> 0:01:30.520 pre order it now. 0:01:30.800 --> 0:01:31.080 Yeah. 0:01:31.160 --> 0:01:35.240 She really has just developed, Like I feel like she 0:01:35.680 --> 0:01:38.920 is the millennial girls BFF. 0:01:39.280 --> 0:01:39.800 Yeah kind of. 0:01:39.880 --> 0:01:43.319 We're a big sister or big sister, however you want 0:01:43.319 --> 0:01:43.840 to think it. 0:01:44.160 --> 0:01:46.679 She's here today, so everyone, welcome. 0:01:46.440 --> 0:01:51.360 To Thanks for having you guys. 0:01:51.480 --> 0:01:53.880 We're so excited because we've been trying to do this 0:01:53.960 --> 0:01:54.920 for a long time now. 0:01:55.320 --> 0:01:57.640 I know, I'm so excited to finally be here and 0:01:57.960 --> 0:01:58.800 have a good yap. 0:02:00.120 --> 0:02:03.560 I was trying to figure out literally just this morning, 0:02:04.320 --> 0:02:07.240 what flight I was taking, Where were we going? 0:02:07.280 --> 0:02:09.679 Were we on the same flight? No, we were just 0:02:09.720 --> 0:02:12.399 saw each other in the JSX, yes. 0:02:12.400 --> 0:02:14.160 And so what I thought was, I think it was 0:02:14.160 --> 0:02:17.519 when we were going to Tahoe for Amy's birthday, so 0:02:17.720 --> 0:02:20.600 last summer. I wasn't with you, I know, I know, 0:02:20.639 --> 0:02:22.720 I know, but I think that's the flight that we 0:02:22.720 --> 0:02:23.639 were taking. 0:02:23.440 --> 0:02:25.640 And I think I saw you that that then I 0:02:25.720 --> 0:02:27.240 was I don't know where I was going there. I 0:02:27.240 --> 0:02:30.440 loved jet sweet Eyes. Yeah, so do we so good. 0:02:30.600 --> 0:02:32.880 But we were We had this like big debate on 0:02:33.080 --> 0:02:38.200 podcast because I love to like I obviously like I 0:02:38.200 --> 0:02:39.400 feel like and I feel like you probably get this 0:02:39.440 --> 0:02:41.160 all the time. People feel like they know you. It's 0:02:41.160 --> 0:02:44.639 like a parasocial relationship. Yeah, And so I was like, oh, 0:02:44.639 --> 0:02:46.079 my gosh, I have to say hi to her. Yeah, 0:02:46.120 --> 0:02:47.200 but you had your headphones on. 0:02:47.919 --> 0:02:48.320 Oh. 0:02:48.400 --> 0:02:51.120 And they always tell me that's the universal sign of like, 0:02:51.440 --> 0:02:52.760 don't talk to it, don't talk to me. 0:02:52.880 --> 0:02:55.640 No, I always have my headphones in, like I literally 0:02:55.720 --> 0:02:58.560 can't be with the sound of my own thoughts. And actually, 0:02:58.560 --> 0:03:00.359 when my followers asked me yesterday, they were like, how 0:03:00.360 --> 0:03:02.800 do you listen to so many podcasts and like listen 0:03:02.800 --> 0:03:05.240 to so many books and consume so much media? And 0:03:05.280 --> 0:03:07.720 I was like, I literally can't be alone. And so 0:03:07.800 --> 0:03:10.320 the second I wake up, I have music or podcasts on, 0:03:10.440 --> 0:03:12.120 like I'm talking the second I would up to the 0:03:12.160 --> 0:03:14.280 second I go to sleep, So I always have something 0:03:14.320 --> 0:03:16.600 in So I don't for me, it's not a universal symbol. 0:03:16.639 --> 0:03:17.440 It's just like I'm. 0:03:17.240 --> 0:03:21.320 Breathing, so I need again, Like if you're on an airplane, like, 0:03:21.360 --> 0:03:24.440 for instance, I'm on an airplane and I'm by myself. 0:03:24.600 --> 0:03:27.880 Yeah, and I put my AirPods in. Yeah, that's my 0:03:28.040 --> 0:03:30.800 sign of like, I am, you're in your zone, please 0:03:30.800 --> 0:03:33.240 don't talk to me. Yeah, so Tanya does not. She'll 0:03:33.280 --> 0:03:33.760 tap me. 0:03:33.840 --> 0:03:35.920 If she's with me and I put my headphones in, 0:03:35.960 --> 0:03:37.800 she'll tap me until I. 0:03:37.440 --> 0:03:39.720 Okay, So now I see what you're saying. And I 0:03:39.720 --> 0:03:42.240 think if you're with someone and you put your headphones in, 0:03:42.320 --> 0:03:44.920 you're like, I need a man. If you're like traveling 0:03:44.920 --> 0:03:46.960 with your friend and you're like a girl, like, I 0:03:47.000 --> 0:03:49.480 get a second, that's really funny. But yeah, no, I 0:03:49.800 --> 0:03:51.440 love when people come up to me. Like people are 0:03:51.480 --> 0:03:52.880 always like I feel like I know you, and I'm like, 0:03:53.120 --> 0:03:55.880 I am overly casual back because I also feel like 0:03:55.920 --> 0:03:57.320 I know them. I'm like, oh my god, hey do 0:03:57.320 --> 0:03:57.880 you have a tampon? 0:03:57.960 --> 0:03:58.680 Like what's up on? 0:03:58.760 --> 0:04:02.280 They're like wait what, I feel like I know all 0:04:02.360 --> 0:04:05.000 the girl is back, So it's like good both ways. 0:04:05.280 --> 0:04:05.520 Yeah. 0:04:05.680 --> 0:04:07.200 I was like it was very funny because I was 0:04:07.240 --> 0:04:09.600 like I met Tings and she had her headphones, and 0:04:09.600 --> 0:04:11.520 then I felt really bad that I was like bothering 0:04:11.560 --> 0:04:13.680 her and it was like a whole debate. 0:04:13.840 --> 0:04:14.400 She told us. 0:04:14.480 --> 0:04:16.040 She was like yeah, and then I went up and 0:04:16.320 --> 0:04:17.720 I said hey, and we all were like. 0:04:17.880 --> 0:04:20.080 No, oh my god. 0:04:20.360 --> 0:04:24.080 I'm like literally always so on my own planet. I 0:04:24.400 --> 0:04:25.680 love meeting everybody. 0:04:25.880 --> 0:04:28.960 So but you know what's so funny is we have 0:04:29.000 --> 0:04:31.200 a mutual friend Candice. 0:04:30.880 --> 0:04:32.120 Yes, our facialist. 0:04:32.240 --> 0:04:34.600 I love her. It's her birthday tomorrow. It's her birthday. 0:04:34.600 --> 0:04:37.600 To wait, I think it's in May. I always get 0:04:37.600 --> 0:04:39.720 it or I always get it two weeks wrong because 0:04:39.720 --> 0:04:41.719 I had it initially on my calendar and then it 0:04:41.720 --> 0:04:43.400 was her dog's birthday, and now it's like a joke 0:04:43.480 --> 0:04:45.840 every year, and like I always wish her birthday her 0:04:45.880 --> 0:04:48.000 dog's birthday was like over the weekend. Yeah, so then 0:04:48.040 --> 0:04:49.600 it was okay, so that's what I was. Yeah, I know, 0:04:49.640 --> 0:04:53.080 he birthdays in We're still in April, right, a Torus queen. 0:04:53.279 --> 0:04:54.320 Yeah yeah, But. 0:04:54.320 --> 0:04:57.599 So I feel like I like I'm again I sound 0:04:57.640 --> 0:04:58.919 like such a creep, but I'm like, I feel like 0:04:58.920 --> 0:04:59.960 we're like one step remove. 0:05:00.000 --> 0:05:02.440 Oh no, no, yeah we are all the time. Yeah 0:05:02.520 --> 0:05:03.280 yeah you are. 0:05:03.400 --> 0:05:05.600 You're just like meant to be so not ago just 0:05:07.080 --> 0:05:09.680 barely missing me. Yeah yeah, yeah yeah, I do. 0:05:09.760 --> 0:05:14.240 Wonder is is it because when you started, was TikTok 0:05:14.279 --> 0:05:14.800 your main thing? 0:05:14.880 --> 0:05:16.040 When you started social media? 0:05:16.120 --> 0:05:19.080 Yes, I started in twenty twenty. Okay, I had no plan. 0:05:19.279 --> 0:05:21.279 I was literally I thought we were all going to die. 0:05:21.360 --> 0:05:23.360 And I was like, I don't care what people think. 0:05:23.400 --> 0:05:26.400 I'm going to make videos for fun. Like I people 0:05:26.400 --> 0:05:28.640 think I'm joking, but I literally thought we were all 0:05:28.640 --> 0:05:29.960 going to die. So I was like, well, I might 0:05:30.000 --> 0:05:33.320 as well make some videos and like full around until 0:05:33.440 --> 0:05:37.159 the end and then that's yeah, that was my main thing. 0:05:37.440 --> 0:05:41.599 When did so when what was your first I guess 0:05:41.680 --> 0:05:42.360 did you have a. 0:05:42.360 --> 0:05:44.960 Video where it went viral and you were like, oh, 0:05:45.000 --> 0:05:46.159 this could be something. 0:05:46.920 --> 0:05:49.719 My first video that went viral is so dumb that like, 0:05:49.760 --> 0:05:51.599 if you pull it up, you'll actually laugh. It was 0:05:51.640 --> 0:05:54.160 like me doing in like a It was a sound. 0:05:54.240 --> 0:05:56.440 It was a TikTok sound, and I was like, this 0:05:56.480 --> 0:05:57.880 is what dating in LA is like. It was like 0:05:57.920 --> 0:06:00.240 the dumbest thing ever. But it went viral and I 0:06:00.279 --> 0:06:03.200 was like, oh, like validation from Sandris feels kind of good. 0:06:03.839 --> 0:06:05.799 And then I just kept going and then my friends 0:06:05.800 --> 0:06:07.400 were like, I think you could like make money from 0:06:07.440 --> 0:06:09.480 this and I was like what and they were like, yeah, 0:06:09.560 --> 0:06:11.560 you can like make money from this if you keep going, 0:06:12.040 --> 0:06:15.040 and all the like all of my jobs had let 0:06:15.080 --> 0:06:17.320 me go because of the pandemic, and I was like 0:06:17.360 --> 0:06:20.160 doing consulting and like working for doing this and that 0:06:20.279 --> 0:06:23.359 kind of thing, like nothing steady, and so I was like, 0:06:23.400 --> 0:06:25.560 oh damn, Like okay, I'll keep going. And then I 0:06:25.600 --> 0:06:27.640 got my first brand deal. They were like, we'll pay 0:06:27.640 --> 0:06:29.440 you six hundred dollars if you wear those pants in 0:06:29.440 --> 0:06:32.440 your video. And I was like, shut off, you're kidding 0:06:32.680 --> 0:06:34.839 doing to keep the pants and they're like, yeah, freak 0:06:35.440 --> 0:06:39.120 and yeah. I started in May of twenty twenty and 0:06:39.160 --> 0:06:41.000 I think by like August of twenty twenty, I had 0:06:41.040 --> 0:06:43.880 a manager. So it went really fast. WHOA, it was 0:06:43.920 --> 0:06:45.960 a different time. It was, yeah, it was a different time. 0:06:46.000 --> 0:06:48.640 Everyone was on their phones. TikTok was in its infancy. 0:06:48.800 --> 0:06:50.919 In my opinion, it was the best era. It was 0:06:50.960 --> 0:06:53.640 like the era one that was like Charlie and Addison 0:06:53.760 --> 0:06:55.560 and the you know, the hype house, and it just 0:06:55.560 --> 0:06:58.960 felt so fresh. The content felt so funny. I don't 0:06:58.960 --> 0:07:01.080 know if you guys remember, but like I could spend 0:07:01.160 --> 0:07:03.640 eight hours on TikTok and I was laughing my ass 0:07:03.640 --> 0:07:05.880 off the whole time. Now I go on and I'm like, 0:07:06.160 --> 0:07:08.120 I don't know what I'm gonna get like it's I 0:07:08.160 --> 0:07:11.160 don't know, like it's scary now, but yeah, it was 0:07:11.200 --> 0:07:11.720 the best time. 0:07:12.080 --> 0:07:14.320 Is that weird because how y'all were talking about You 0:07:14.320 --> 0:07:16.800 were saying it's like a parasocial relationship, and you're saying 0:07:16.840 --> 0:07:20.480 you're just as equally casual back. But is it when 0:07:20.520 --> 0:07:24.560 you're posting something vulnerable or people are negative, do you 0:07:24.720 --> 0:07:26.840 Is it kind of like a two double edged sword 0:07:26.880 --> 0:07:28.440 in that way, yeah, because it hurts. 0:07:28.240 --> 0:07:30.480 Your feelings and you're like, oh, I was so honest 0:07:30.480 --> 0:07:33.280 with you guys, and then like you like, now it 0:07:33.280 --> 0:07:36.040 feels now I feel stupid that I was honest with you. 0:07:36.080 --> 0:07:38.000 And I have pulled back a lot, Like back in 0:07:38.040 --> 0:07:41.520 the day, I would tell everything. I'd be on live crying, 0:07:41.760 --> 0:07:44.560 like when I got cheated on. I did the famous 0:07:44.600 --> 0:07:46.920 crying video, so embarrassing, like when I look back at it, 0:07:46.960 --> 0:07:49.480 but it was like where I was in my life. Yeah, 0:07:49.600 --> 0:07:51.400 But now I'm like, I don't know, I'm just not 0:07:51.480 --> 0:07:53.600 in that era anymore. And maybe it's because I've been 0:07:53.640 --> 0:07:55.440 on the internet for five years and I have been 0:07:55.560 --> 0:07:58.160 burned by being vulnerable and I'm like, you know what, 0:07:58.200 --> 0:07:59.760 there's parts of my life I just don't want to 0:07:59.800 --> 0:08:03.080 s anymore, and so I've kind of found a happy medium. 0:08:03.520 --> 0:08:06.440 So is that how you started, like writing now this 0:08:06.520 --> 0:08:08.440 book Hotter in the Hampton's No. 0:08:09.160 --> 0:08:11.040 I loved writing my first book so much. It was 0:08:11.080 --> 0:08:14.240 so fantastic. It was nonfiction. It was something I really 0:08:14.280 --> 0:08:15.920 felt like, I wanted to put all my thoughts in 0:08:15.920 --> 0:08:19.200 one place for my community about knowing your worth and 0:08:19.600 --> 0:08:23.400 how important self esteem is for everybody, but especially young women. 0:08:23.880 --> 0:08:26.040 And then when I was thinking about what I wanted 0:08:26.040 --> 0:08:29.000 to do next, I wanted to do something that was 0:08:29.040 --> 0:08:33.840 like creative and like escapism and fun. And I used 0:08:33.880 --> 0:08:36.560 to do these rich Mom videos where I would like 0:08:36.640 --> 0:08:39.320 do rich Mom Starter Pack like Malibu Rich Mom Starter 0:08:39.400 --> 0:08:43.040 Pack West Hollywood or whatever, and people love them. And 0:08:43.080 --> 0:08:45.680 then I was like, what if I did that but 0:08:45.840 --> 0:08:48.440 like into a book, like a whole story. And I 0:08:48.480 --> 0:08:51.679 was also really inspired by my community. They read a 0:08:51.679 --> 0:08:53.920 lot of romance novels. So I started reading a lot 0:08:53.960 --> 0:08:56.640 of romance novels and I was like, these are great. 0:08:56.760 --> 0:09:00.760 I love them, but I have like a different fantasy 0:09:00.760 --> 0:09:02.400 than I want to see in my mind, like in 0:09:02.480 --> 0:09:05.840 terms of the main character, in terms of the settings. 0:09:05.960 --> 0:09:07.920 So it was a lot of different things that inspired 0:09:07.960 --> 0:09:08.400 me to do this. 0:09:09.280 --> 0:09:11.719 I'm like so fascinated because I wrote a book a 0:09:11.760 --> 0:09:15.559 few years ago and it took me so much time 0:09:15.600 --> 0:09:17.600 and effort and energy. So I'm like, I like to 0:09:17.600 --> 0:09:19.400 get really like into the nitty gritty of this. When 0:09:19.440 --> 0:09:21.640 did you start writing this book? Or like when when 0:09:21.640 --> 0:09:22.720 did the idea start? 0:09:22.920 --> 0:09:26.160 Like what year I had actually written the proposal for 0:09:26.240 --> 0:09:29.120 another nonfiction book, and I was excited about it, like 0:09:29.280 --> 0:09:31.360 I had this other idea which I still hope to 0:09:31.400 --> 0:09:34.240 do at some point. And then I guess it was 0:09:34.360 --> 0:09:39.360 like last year. No, like like a year and a 0:09:39.360 --> 0:09:42.920 half ago. I was like, I actually have this different idea, 0:09:42.920 --> 0:09:44.760 and I called my agents and I was like, I 0:09:44.800 --> 0:09:47.800 want to write a series of romance novels that where 0:09:48.360 --> 0:09:50.800 the girl is really cool. In all of them, she's 0:09:51.000 --> 0:09:53.600 like flawed and she's like a real person, because we're 0:09:53.640 --> 0:09:56.720 all flawed and messy, and like each book is going 0:09:56.760 --> 0:09:59.000 to take place in a different rich mom location, like 0:09:59.040 --> 0:10:01.520 White Lotus, and they're all going to explore a different 0:10:01.520 --> 0:10:04.360 sexual fantasy. And my agent was like, yeah go. She 0:10:04.480 --> 0:10:07.800 was like that's really I love it. Both of my agents, 0:10:07.840 --> 0:10:09.719 I love them both shout out Margaret and like that. 0:10:10.640 --> 0:10:13.000 But yeah, it was just like, oh, year and a 0:10:13.040 --> 0:10:16.240 half's like not that crazy. Yeah, No, I don't think 0:10:16.240 --> 0:10:17.320 that's that crazy. No. 0:10:17.520 --> 0:10:19.480 I was expecting you to say, like this was three 0:10:19.559 --> 0:10:20.840 years ago and. 0:10:21.080 --> 0:10:24.000 No, because like I kind of after my first book, 0:10:24.960 --> 0:10:27.360 I took a little mental break and then I was like, whoa, 0:10:27.400 --> 0:10:29.559 I need to like do something again, like I need 0:10:29.559 --> 0:10:32.760 to do something meteor again, and I kind of like 0:10:33.120 --> 0:10:37.120 needed to reorganize my life. And yeah, I have. 0:10:37.080 --> 0:10:42.240 A question because the book without I just have seen 0:10:42.280 --> 0:10:46.640 a few videos about it has a queer storyline. Yes, 0:10:46.960 --> 0:10:51.280 well yeah, yeah, yeah, and you collaborated with a queer 0:10:51.320 --> 0:10:54.520 author to write Why was that important? Because I asked 0:10:54.520 --> 0:10:57.800 someone who's in the community, and I have a girlfriend, 0:10:58.320 --> 0:11:01.880 she's my first girlfriend, so like, my experience is limited 0:11:01.920 --> 0:11:04.440 because I only have been with one woman, but we've been. 0:11:04.320 --> 0:11:05.360 Together for seven years. 0:11:05.480 --> 0:11:08.080 Totally like writing this, I imagine it was important for you 0:11:08.160 --> 0:11:10.199 to have that voice. 0:11:09.920 --> 0:11:12.360 One hundred percent. It's I wanted to have that lived 0:11:12.360 --> 0:11:15.400 experience and I'm not queer, so that was just so 0:11:15.920 --> 0:11:19.200 key for me to have someone who has lived that 0:11:19.360 --> 0:11:21.720 because I wanted to nail that part. And she's also 0:11:21.760 --> 0:11:24.440 an incredibly talented writer, so it was amazing to learn 0:11:24.480 --> 0:11:26.280 from her as well. So it was it was a 0:11:26.559 --> 0:11:28.120 It was a great experience. 0:11:27.880 --> 0:11:31.160 And it's already being turned into a series. Correct, Yes, Yeah, 0:11:32.360 --> 0:11:33.280 how does it happen? 0:11:33.440 --> 0:11:36.480 That's huge? I honestly can't believe it. It was like 0:11:36.520 --> 0:11:39.960 always such a dream. And when we announced the book, 0:11:40.000 --> 0:11:42.680 it you know, we sent it around to a couple people, 0:11:42.960 --> 0:11:44.920 and when I heard they were interested, I was like, 0:11:44.960 --> 0:11:47.960 no way, Like I I love them. They're so talented, 0:11:48.480 --> 0:11:51.240 they're so smart, and obviously their show was like the 0:11:51.240 --> 0:11:54.319 biggest hit of last year. So I'm just so thrilled 0:11:54.360 --> 0:11:55.560 and be happier. 0:11:55.640 --> 0:11:58.679 I mean, I really can't think of a more exciting 0:11:59.400 --> 0:12:02.360 duo to take on, Like if I were writing a book, 0:12:02.440 --> 0:12:04.840 I can't think of two people i'd want to create 0:12:04.880 --> 0:12:07.160 a series for me right now than them. 0:12:07.320 --> 0:12:09.840 They just get it. They just like gennerally get it. 0:12:09.920 --> 0:12:11.680 So and I feel like you'll kind of have the 0:12:11.720 --> 0:12:15.400 same tone, Like your tone and how you yeah speak 0:12:15.559 --> 0:12:18.400 and deliver storytelling is very similar. 0:12:18.480 --> 0:12:20.199 In how y'all podcast? 0:12:20.280 --> 0:12:22.480 I guess I was listening to your podcast and talking 0:12:22.480 --> 0:12:26.760 about it was your Coachella recap, and I feel like 0:12:26.800 --> 0:12:28.600 it's very similar to the Foster Sisters. 0:12:28.720 --> 0:12:30.880 That's highest compliment, Thank you. 0:12:30.960 --> 0:12:31.920 I love that well. 0:12:31.960 --> 0:12:34.040 I think it's just being honest and real, and I 0:12:34.080 --> 0:12:36.240 think I keep it real, yeah, and funny, Like I 0:12:36.240 --> 0:12:40.000 think that's what it is. Which I loved that episode 0:12:40.120 --> 0:12:43.320 because I find myself scrolling on I didn't go to Coachell, 0:12:43.480 --> 0:12:46.000 like I'm at the point now where I think about 0:12:46.000 --> 0:12:47.720 how bad my feet are going to hurt. 0:12:47.480 --> 0:12:48.079 And how. 0:12:49.520 --> 0:12:52.520 Tired I'm going to be, and so that just I'm like, 0:12:52.559 --> 0:12:53.120 I can't do it. 0:12:53.160 --> 0:12:57.000 But I was loving how you talked about how you 0:12:57.040 --> 0:12:58.559 feel like at your peak right now? 0:12:58.640 --> 0:13:01.240 Right, Yes, I really do. That's been a focus of. 0:13:01.200 --> 0:13:03.600 What you've been talking about, Like you've been taking care 0:13:03.600 --> 0:13:06.319 of yourself physically, mentally, and I feel like you're in 0:13:06.360 --> 0:13:09.240 like the best place in terms of how you feel 0:13:09.240 --> 0:13:11.560 about yourself. And you were saying how you were looking 0:13:11.600 --> 0:13:13.880 at all these girls at Coachella and they're like in 0:13:13.920 --> 0:13:16.280 their twenties and you're thinking, gosh, what would I have 0:13:16.280 --> 0:13:16.640 been like. 0:13:16.600 --> 0:13:17.720 If I peaked at that age? 0:13:17.880 --> 0:13:20.720 Yeah, And I thought it was such an interesting conversation 0:13:20.840 --> 0:13:23.640 because there I don't know if you felt this way. 0:13:23.679 --> 0:13:25.560 I saw a video where you were talking about how 0:13:25.640 --> 0:13:27.960 you're gonna lean into being a millennial, like you're not 0:13:28.000 --> 0:13:30.319 going to try to be gen Z anymore, and you 0:13:30.800 --> 0:13:33.520 Donia and I have had this battle because I went 0:13:33.559 --> 0:13:35.640 through this space where I was like, I feel like 0:13:35.720 --> 0:13:38.160 I need to be younger, Like the gen Z is. 0:13:38.160 --> 0:13:38.840 Wearing these pants. 0:13:38.880 --> 0:13:40.520 I got to get these pants, and they're doing this 0:13:40.600 --> 0:13:41.679 and they're doing this trend. 0:13:41.760 --> 0:13:44.000 I'm like, I don't care what gen Z is doing. 0:13:44.080 --> 0:13:47.000 I'm not gen Z. I honestly think it's because of COVID. 0:13:47.080 --> 0:13:49.720 Like I think us millennials like we got kind of 0:13:49.760 --> 0:13:52.720 stuck in COVID, and so we thought that, Like I 0:13:52.760 --> 0:13:54.800 read one article that said you get stuck at the 0:13:54.840 --> 0:13:56.960 age where you entered COVID, so I would be like 0:13:56.960 --> 0:13:59.160 twenty nine thirty. So I still like think that I'm 0:13:59.160 --> 0:14:02.680 that age in we really Yeah, that's like called the 0:14:02.760 --> 0:14:05.640 like the I don't know, the pandemic skip or something. 0:14:06.080 --> 0:14:09.840 So I's interesting. And also just because like I was 0:14:09.880 --> 0:14:12.079 on TikTok at that time that I was all of 0:14:12.080 --> 0:14:14.600 my colleagues so to speak, we're like twenty or like 0:14:14.679 --> 0:14:17.079 eighteen or whatever, and so I literally for a while 0:14:17.240 --> 0:14:20.120 was stuck in that mindset, and then recently I've just 0:14:20.120 --> 0:14:22.520 been like I'm obsessed with millennials, Like I love us, 0:14:22.600 --> 0:14:25.720 Like I think we're so fabulous, we have the best attitudes. 0:14:25.760 --> 0:14:28.440 We've created so much goodness in the world, like so 0:14:28.440 --> 0:14:31.280 many companies, so many cool changes have been made, and 0:14:31.320 --> 0:14:33.640 we really like stand on business. Like if millennials say 0:14:33.640 --> 0:14:35.120 we're going to do something, we do like gen Z, 0:14:35.200 --> 0:14:40.160 but we don't have to get in. So yeah, it's 0:14:40.560 --> 0:14:43.840 now I'm like, live, laugh, loving my wife through life. 0:14:44.160 --> 0:14:46.920 I am a millennial and proud and it's just like, 0:14:47.120 --> 0:14:49.480 yeah to your point before I was talking about being 0:14:49.480 --> 0:14:52.640 like a little bit of a late bloomer, and you know, 0:14:53.600 --> 0:14:56.760 in a way, I'm happy about it because it kind 0:14:56.800 --> 0:14:59.720 of like makes your personality develop more and you kind 0:14:59.760 --> 0:15:02.280 of know know who you are, and then if you 0:15:02.280 --> 0:15:04.480 feel like you get hot later, you can just enjoy 0:15:04.520 --> 0:15:06.280 it and just do what you want with the people 0:15:06.280 --> 0:15:08.040 that you want, because so much of your twenties is 0:15:08.240 --> 0:15:10.480 hanging around with people that you don't actually like. Beer like, 0:15:10.480 --> 0:15:12.080 but I feel like you should be friends with this person. 0:15:12.240 --> 0:15:14.000 I feel like I should be dating this person's. 0:15:13.840 --> 0:15:17.440 Yeah, do it. I was listening to Mel Robbins was 0:15:18.280 --> 0:15:20.680 going through the decades of like which did you listen 0:15:20.720 --> 0:15:22.360 to that where she's talking about what happened in your 0:15:22.360 --> 0:15:26.480 twenties and thirties. Yeah, about feeling behind in life, which 0:15:26.520 --> 0:15:28.880 is kind of on the same topic of late bloomers. 0:15:28.920 --> 0:15:33.040 But did you ever feel because you're are you single? 0:15:33.280 --> 0:15:33.520 Yes? 0:15:33.600 --> 0:15:37.880 Okay, So I feel like there's this societal expectation of 0:15:37.920 --> 0:15:40.440 like you should be doing this, this and this by 0:15:40.520 --> 0:15:42.720 this age, and then this this and this by this age. 0:15:43.120 --> 0:15:46.880 And I feel like with social media and this shift 0:15:46.960 --> 0:15:50.960 that there's been, it's totally a different landscape. Now. Yeah, yeah, 0:15:51.000 --> 0:15:53.760 how do you how do you feel navigating that and 0:15:53.800 --> 0:15:56.120 being kind of like because I felt like you got 0:15:56.120 --> 0:15:59.000 branded as like millennials bestie girl, like. 0:15:58.960 --> 0:16:02.640 I know, and you know, I've never called myself that, 0:16:02.760 --> 0:16:05.080 Like I like, I'm always worried that people think that 0:16:05.120 --> 0:16:07.320 I go around being like Millennial's big. 0:16:07.120 --> 0:16:07.840 Sister, like. 0:16:11.280 --> 0:16:16.960 But whatever, No, I I think it is a different landscape. 0:16:17.000 --> 0:16:19.280 I mean, I talk to so many women on my 0:16:19.440 --> 0:16:22.440 radio show and through social media every week, and like 0:16:22.680 --> 0:16:26.200 women are settling down later and later, and there is 0:16:26.360 --> 0:16:28.880 a course still societal pressure, like of course you still 0:16:28.880 --> 0:16:30.840 feel like I'm running out of time. Women have a 0:16:30.880 --> 0:16:33.560 biological cloudy. If we want to have kids. Of course 0:16:33.560 --> 0:16:35.040 that's in the back of your mind. We can't be 0:16:35.120 --> 0:16:37.239 as care free. We do have to think about that. 0:16:37.240 --> 0:16:40.280 That being said, what I encourage all my community to 0:16:40.320 --> 0:16:45.280 do is like not settle or not make choices out 0:16:45.280 --> 0:16:48.360 of fear of that societal pressure, because I think what 0:16:48.440 --> 0:16:54.000 we've seen historically is women settling or making choices that 0:16:54.040 --> 0:16:56.200 aren't the best for them just because they need feel 0:16:56.200 --> 0:16:58.280 they need to like check boxes by a certain time, 0:16:58.320 --> 0:17:01.600 and that's not going to equal happy piness. So I'm 0:17:01.640 --> 0:17:04.680 happy to see that women are getting settling down later 0:17:04.720 --> 0:17:07.280 in life. It doesn't mean that, you know, I'm not 0:17:07.359 --> 0:17:09.639 of the camp of like, oh, you know, we can 0:17:09.680 --> 0:17:11.800 all live by ourselves, like we all want love. Of 0:17:11.800 --> 0:17:13.000 course that's human right. 0:17:13.320 --> 0:17:14.600 But if you. 0:17:14.520 --> 0:17:17.399 Take a little while to discover who you are, to 0:17:17.480 --> 0:17:20.440 work on your career, to work on yourself, and you 0:17:20.480 --> 0:17:23.479 get married in your late thirties, forties, whatever, who cares? 0:17:23.920 --> 0:17:26.280 Like truly who cares? And I always talk about like 0:17:26.280 --> 0:17:28.600 being over the hump, and I feel like the hardest 0:17:28.600 --> 0:17:31.560 time is like twenty nine to like thirty two, because 0:17:31.600 --> 0:17:34.439 you're just completely manic all your friends are getting engaged, 0:17:34.480 --> 0:17:36.639 all your friends are getting married, and you're just like, 0:17:36.640 --> 0:17:39.200 oh my god, I'm just totally manique. Yeah, it's a 0:17:39.240 --> 0:17:40.760 man of time, it's amount of time. But if you 0:17:40.800 --> 0:17:42.800 get over the hump, I'm not going to be a 0:17:42.840 --> 0:17:44.919 young bride like that shit is sailed. And now I 0:17:44.960 --> 0:17:47.720 feel like completely free yea. And now I'm like, I'll 0:17:47.760 --> 0:17:49.720 know it when I see it, and that's really exciting 0:17:49.760 --> 0:17:52.760 and freeing and until then I can just have fun. Yeah. 0:17:52.920 --> 0:17:53.320 I always. 0:17:53.640 --> 0:17:58.160 I always thought of it as like I in my twenties, 0:17:58.320 --> 0:18:02.360 I really gave my whole life to like my career, 0:18:02.520 --> 0:18:05.480 like I and what I realize like now in hindsight, 0:18:05.560 --> 0:18:08.280 now that I am married, like I just got married, 0:18:09.200 --> 0:18:11.480 I'm like, I give so much to my relationship and 0:18:11.520 --> 0:18:13.080 I'm like, I don't think I would have been able 0:18:13.080 --> 0:18:15.600 to do as much in my career as I did 0:18:15.680 --> 0:18:18.399 if I were in that relationship at that point in 0:18:18.400 --> 0:18:22.000 my life. I know myself because I give everything a 0:18:22.119 --> 0:18:23.359 hundred and so I would have been. 0:18:23.440 --> 0:18:24.439 I just know I wouldn't have. 0:18:24.480 --> 0:18:27.280 And I'm like, I feel like I believe in God, 0:18:27.320 --> 0:18:28.959 and I feel like God kept me single for that 0:18:29.000 --> 0:18:31.480 period of time to like fully give myself to my 0:18:31.520 --> 0:18:33.200 career to like do these things that i'd like never 0:18:33.240 --> 0:18:37.359 imagine that I could, and then brought him into my life. 0:18:37.480 --> 0:18:40.239 Yeah, and that's so beautiful. And I think it's like, 0:18:40.880 --> 0:18:43.200 you know, you have to kind of lean into where 0:18:43.600 --> 0:18:45.640 like what is in front of you, and that's all 0:18:45.640 --> 0:18:47.560 about like how woo you want to get? But like 0:18:47.560 --> 0:18:49.440 I really think you have to think, what is the 0:18:49.520 --> 0:18:51.720 universe showing me right now? If the universe is showing 0:18:51.720 --> 0:18:54.960 you tons of opportunities in your career, okay, it's a 0:18:54.960 --> 0:18:57.679 good time to push there. If the universe drops an 0:18:57.720 --> 0:19:00.600 amazing person into your life, okay, that's your time to 0:19:00.640 --> 0:19:02.960 spend time with this person then. And I don't know 0:19:03.000 --> 0:19:05.440 if you guys have read Matthew McConaughey's book Green Lights, 0:19:05.440 --> 0:19:07.560 but I always think about that, like I he's like, oh, 0:19:07.560 --> 0:19:09.280 it's a green light, or like you kind of have 0:19:09.359 --> 0:19:12.040 to look for those things. And I always just think 0:19:12.640 --> 0:19:15.200 I think there's timing, like we're all. 0:19:15.359 --> 0:19:16.960 That's actually good way of putting it. I feel like 0:19:17.000 --> 0:19:19.160 I forced. 0:19:19.359 --> 0:19:22.119 You're really trying to turn some red lights green, trying 0:19:22.119 --> 0:19:23.600 to like look at the green lights. 0:19:23.600 --> 0:19:26.640 But I didn't necessarily think that they were green, trying 0:19:26.640 --> 0:19:27.280 to make them green. 0:19:27.400 --> 0:19:29.520 Yeah, that's normal. We all do that, like, especially in 0:19:29.520 --> 0:19:32.280 our twenties. We're like, no, this horrible person is my soulmate, 0:19:32.320 --> 0:19:34.199 and yeah, your family and friends are like no, they're not, 0:19:34.440 --> 0:19:37.680 like what are you doing? And it just takes time 0:19:37.720 --> 0:19:41.200 and learning. But you know, we all have different seasons, 0:19:41.320 --> 0:19:45.159 we all have different eras, and it's like freeing to 0:19:45.520 --> 0:19:47.960 know that everybody is on their own path. You just 0:19:48.040 --> 0:19:49.639 have to honestly have little faith. 0:19:49.760 --> 0:19:50.280 Yeah. 0:19:50.520 --> 0:19:53.879 I want to get into the dating, dating world that 0:19:53.920 --> 0:19:56.520 you're experiencing, but first we're going to take a break. 0:20:11.880 --> 0:20:12.760 All right, we're back. 0:20:13.000 --> 0:20:17.160 So what is dating like for you in this this 0:20:17.359 --> 0:20:21.520 era of Tony actually met her husband on the dating app. 0:20:21.600 --> 0:20:23.960 So I'm I'm a big supporter of the dating app. 0:20:24.000 --> 0:20:24.520 So what is it? 0:20:24.560 --> 0:20:28.159 Funny? He's like, totally normal. I know, I know it 0:20:28.160 --> 0:20:30.520 can happen. I know it can happen. About how how 0:20:30.520 --> 0:20:36.240 long ago did you meet? Twenty nineteen? Yeah that was back? 0:20:37.280 --> 0:20:45.600 You got a bad Really what is trump shoe? 0:20:46.080 --> 0:20:49.919 Yeah? They're really bad? Now what is it? Because I 0:20:49.960 --> 0:20:52.560 hear this all the time. People are addicted to validation. 0:20:53.280 --> 0:20:55.240 They match and they will never speak it. They don't 0:20:55.240 --> 0:20:59.040 have any intention, and it's an addiction and like I'm 0:20:59.119 --> 0:21:01.440 not some angel, like I feel it too. Sometimes I'll 0:21:01.440 --> 0:21:03.400 match with the guy and I'm never going to meet 0:21:03.480 --> 0:21:05.000 up with him. But I did that a lot too. 0:21:05.000 --> 0:21:07.720 You know you're like, oh, well, you know, maybe he 0:21:07.760 --> 0:21:09.639 looks all right, you see one thing on his profile, 0:21:09.680 --> 0:21:12.200 you match, then you never meet up. Like that's but 0:21:12.320 --> 0:21:16.520 that's everybody does that. There's just too much choice. It's 0:21:16.520 --> 0:21:19.360 fried our brains. It used to be a good service. 0:21:19.840 --> 0:21:22.000 It used to be like uber, like if you would 0:21:22.000 --> 0:21:23.720 want a date, you would go on it. You'd get 0:21:23.720 --> 0:21:25.800 a date and see if it worked. If it does great, 0:21:25.840 --> 0:21:30.119 if not, cool. Now it's more like Instagram or TikTok, 0:21:30.119 --> 0:21:32.400 where people just go when they're swiping, and they're swiping 0:21:32.440 --> 0:21:34.720 and they do it whether in a waiting room, they're like, oh, 0:21:34.800 --> 0:21:36.159 just going hints for a little bit. And that's why 0:21:36.200 --> 0:21:42.640 it's completely lost. It's efficacy. I kind of I guess 0:21:42.640 --> 0:21:44.960 I'm on the apps. I'm not like in a dating time. 0:21:45.080 --> 0:21:48.680 I'm like, I'm like gonna, I'm so happy like in 0:21:48.680 --> 0:21:51.320 my life and I'm a very decisive person and when 0:21:51.359 --> 0:21:53.879 I know it, I'll see it. I'll see it. You 0:21:53.880 --> 0:21:54.440 know what I mean. 0:21:54.600 --> 0:21:57.239 Do you have EDI when you've when you have been 0:21:57.280 --> 0:22:00.040 in a dating season? Yeah, do you have an emmat like, 0:22:00.760 --> 0:22:04.840 do you have something where within the first few minutes 0:22:04.880 --> 0:22:08.520 you're like absolutely not. Yeah, I mean beyond just like 0:22:08.600 --> 0:22:10.320 a attraction. 0:22:10.000 --> 0:22:12.040 It's a vibe. It's a vibe. And everyone that I've 0:22:12.080 --> 0:22:14.360 ever been with, I've met them and I'm like, They're 0:22:14.359 --> 0:22:16.280 gonna be my boyfriend or I'm gonna spend time with 0:22:16.320 --> 0:22:19.080 them or whatever. Like I'm a very It's just an 0:22:19.240 --> 0:22:23.840 energy thing. And some would say that I'm too judgmental 0:22:23.880 --> 0:22:27.080 too quickly, but I think that I know right away 0:22:27.600 --> 0:22:28.240 like I do. 0:22:28.720 --> 0:22:30.439 That's what I was I was saying. 0:22:30.520 --> 0:22:32.800 No, everybody says like, oh, there's a slow burners the 0:22:32.840 --> 0:22:35.680 guys that like you meet, and I think you forget 0:22:35.720 --> 0:22:38.200 how how I was one of those people. 0:22:38.320 --> 0:22:40.359 You loved a slow burn. You were all about a 0:22:40.440 --> 0:22:43.040 slow burn until you met Robby, and now all of 0:22:43.040 --> 0:22:46.800 a sudden, you act like it has to be switcher tuned. 0:22:47.040 --> 0:22:50.720 But I also before my girlfriend, I was like, as 0:22:50.760 --> 0:22:51.280 soon as I. 0:22:51.200 --> 0:22:53.080 Would meet up with a guy, I'm like, when can 0:22:53.160 --> 0:22:53.640 I go home? 0:22:53.800 --> 0:22:54.080 Yeah? 0:22:54.400 --> 0:22:55.760 That's how Maybe it was because it was men. 0:22:55.840 --> 0:23:00.240 I don't know, but yeah, fair exactly. I just think 0:23:00.359 --> 0:23:03.760 I don't know. I'm I'm not too worried about it, like, 0:23:04.080 --> 0:23:07.879 oh yeah, I feel like I am having fun, Like 0:23:07.920 --> 0:23:10.520 I'll go on a date here and there. I just like, 0:23:11.480 --> 0:23:14.040 I think that the pressure that's on women is so 0:23:14.160 --> 0:23:17.560 insane and I have better things to do with my 0:23:17.680 --> 0:23:20.560 time than like freak out and go on seventy hinge 0:23:20.640 --> 0:23:22.639 dates in a week, Like I just I. 0:23:23.040 --> 0:23:24.760 You have to, literally, it's what it feels like. It's 0:23:24.760 --> 0:23:26.639 like you're just going on like a hundred You're. 0:23:26.520 --> 0:23:29.320 Like yeah, and you just and if you if you're 0:23:29.320 --> 0:23:31.840 at a point where you feel you're like bored with 0:23:31.920 --> 0:23:34.199 yourself or you're like not putting your best foot forward, 0:23:34.280 --> 0:23:36.399 like you should be excited to go on a date. 0:23:36.440 --> 0:23:38.960 You should be like, I'm excited, I'm gonna get dressed up. 0:23:39.000 --> 0:23:41.080 This person could be interesting. And if you're at a 0:23:41.119 --> 0:23:43.199 point where you're like, oh my god, I'm like just 0:23:43.200 --> 0:23:46.280 going to do this like it's homework, that's not a 0:23:46.320 --> 0:23:49.160 good place to be in it. And I'm a big advocate. 0:23:49.240 --> 0:23:51.920 Like in my community, we have this thing called summer outside, 0:23:52.320 --> 0:23:55.439 where like we really try to be off our phones 0:23:55.480 --> 0:23:58.080 and we really try to like change our energy and 0:23:58.240 --> 0:24:01.399 do like say yes to things that at our non phone, 0:24:01.440 --> 0:24:03.399 like going to the dinner party with your friend, or 0:24:03.400 --> 0:24:05.320 like going out with your coworker who you've never seen 0:24:05.320 --> 0:24:07.879 outside of work, or like doing the sports thing, and 0:24:07.960 --> 0:24:10.200 that we have so many success stories in my community 0:24:10.200 --> 0:24:11.800 of people being like yeah, I was like for get 0:24:11.840 --> 0:24:13.600 I'm going to Spain and then I met this guy 0:24:13.680 --> 0:24:17.480 or whatever. Like we just need to like people act 0:24:17.600 --> 0:24:21.280 like there's no real life anymore, like we just live online. Yeah, 0:24:21.320 --> 0:24:25.120 there's still coffee shops, there's still dinner parties, there's still bars, 0:24:25.160 --> 0:24:27.640 there's still clubs, there's still all these things, and it's 0:24:27.720 --> 0:24:30.840 just about changing your energy. And sometimes I'll even catch myself. 0:24:30.880 --> 0:24:34.000 I'll be out with friends and I'll be like hunched 0:24:34.080 --> 0:24:37.000 over like on my phone, Like listen, like nobody's going 0:24:37.040 --> 0:24:38.639 to come up to you that way. Yeah, if your 0:24:38.680 --> 0:24:40.520 phone's in your bag and you're like looking around, you're 0:24:40.560 --> 0:24:43.560 like hey, hey, like yeah, people want to talk, people 0:24:43.640 --> 0:24:46.040 want to connect, especially if they're at a place like 0:24:46.080 --> 0:24:47.680 a bar. You know, they didn't come there to be 0:24:47.760 --> 0:24:49.840 on their phone, neither did you. So put your phone 0:24:49.840 --> 0:24:51.119 away and look around and smile. 0:24:51.720 --> 0:24:52.280 It's so true. 0:24:52.320 --> 0:24:55.240 It's become like the security blanket. But it's the most 0:24:55.320 --> 0:24:58.960 hindering thing of like having any human connection. It's weird 0:24:59.000 --> 0:25:04.400 because it's like you're seeking connection in the most surface 0:25:04.480 --> 0:25:06.680 level way, like you're seeking something. 0:25:06.720 --> 0:25:07.520 It's not surface. 0:25:07.680 --> 0:25:12.240 It's easy, but it's also like you're trying, like you're 0:25:12.280 --> 0:25:16.120 scrolling social media trying to get validation there as opposed 0:25:16.119 --> 0:25:20.520 to seeking human connection, with which I think everyone's craving 0:25:20.600 --> 0:25:20.920 right now. 0:25:21.000 --> 0:25:23.120 I did it. I literally did it in every way, 0:25:23.119 --> 0:25:24.880 shape or form. I would be on the apps. 0:25:25.800 --> 0:25:28.520 DM whatever, messaging every guy in the app, ID, on Instagram, 0:25:28.600 --> 0:25:31.919 like dming whoever, you know, in real life, going to 0:25:31.920 --> 0:25:33.959 the bar, like with my eyes open, trying to make 0:25:34.000 --> 0:25:35.359 eye contact, like I was like. 0:25:35.600 --> 0:25:39.080 Feral holding eye contact with someone as they. 0:25:40.240 --> 0:25:41.919 And I just make eye connectively said hi to me, 0:25:41.960 --> 0:25:43.560 and then I would like go in like I was 0:25:43.640 --> 0:25:45.240 like on it. 0:25:45.240 --> 0:25:46.080 It's crazy. 0:25:46.200 --> 0:25:48.240 It's true, though, there is so much pressure, and it's 0:25:48.280 --> 0:25:50.639 like and then you get to a certain age and 0:25:50.680 --> 0:25:59.640 because of the societal pressure, it's like people are like, I'm. 0:25:57.720 --> 0:26:00.919 Like they after you haven't thought about it, Like we 0:26:01.040 --> 0:26:03.480 as women, we've thought about this stuff since we're young, 0:26:03.600 --> 0:26:03.800 you know. 0:26:04.040 --> 0:26:05.920 So it's like, how many people have asked you if 0:26:05.920 --> 0:26:06.959 you've frozen your eggs? 0:26:07.000 --> 0:26:13.920 Seventy five thousand, ye one thing? And I'm like, it's 0:26:13.960 --> 0:26:16.320 not like I don't mind talking about it. It's just 0:26:16.400 --> 0:26:19.440 like it just bothers me that those are the first 0:26:19.480 --> 0:26:22.280 questions that we always ask women, like are you this 0:26:22.320 --> 0:26:23.720 and that? And like are you going to freeze your eggs? 0:26:23.720 --> 0:26:25.480 And I'm like, well, you haven't asked a man if 0:26:25.480 --> 0:26:26.800 you got a sperm checked? 0:26:26.920 --> 0:26:29.720 Yeah, so sorry, I may I always get, but I 0:26:29.760 --> 0:26:31.720 always get the when I say I haven't frozen my eggs, 0:26:31.720 --> 0:26:32.560 I get the why not? 0:26:33.040 --> 0:26:33.280 I know. 0:26:33.480 --> 0:26:35.879 I'm like, obviously, this is something I thought about. 0:26:36.400 --> 0:26:38.760 Very And then if you say your reason like I 0:26:38.760 --> 0:26:40.600 didn't know you hadn't, I haven't either, and I don't 0:26:40.600 --> 0:26:42.520 plan to. It's not the right choice for me. Yeah, 0:26:42.520 --> 0:26:45.440 And I have like a list of reasons. I wrote 0:26:45.440 --> 0:26:47.480 a pros and cons list. I'm a virgo, Like I 0:26:47.560 --> 0:26:49.720 really did think about it. Yeah, right, I say my 0:26:49.800 --> 0:26:53.439 reasons and then like people will still write me and 0:26:53.480 --> 0:26:55.200 be like I know you think this, but like you're 0:26:55.200 --> 0:26:57.680 gonna regret this, and like that's a wild thing to say. 0:26:57.720 --> 0:26:59.720 To someone. Yeah, it's a wild thing to say to 0:26:59.760 --> 0:27:02.200 someone when they've clearly put a lot of thought into it. Yeah. 0:27:02.240 --> 0:27:04.800 And it's such a personal choice, and I think because 0:27:04.800 --> 0:27:07.399 it is such a sensitive thing, there is a lot 0:27:07.440 --> 0:27:10.159 of projection when it comes to it. So it's like 0:27:10.520 --> 0:27:12.840 everybody needs to research and do what's best for them. 0:27:12.960 --> 0:27:15.199 I'm so glad it's an option for women. I really am. 0:27:15.240 --> 0:27:17.560 I think yeah totally. I said that. I'm like, I 0:27:18.400 --> 0:27:20.919 love that it's an option. It's amazing. It's not my option. 0:27:21.040 --> 0:27:21.639 It's not for me. 0:27:21.840 --> 0:27:24.560 Yeah yeah, yeah, but always it's always followed up with 0:27:24.640 --> 0:27:27.000 like the one hundred slew of things. 0:27:27.160 --> 0:27:28.760 Yeah, thank you so much. 0:27:29.600 --> 0:27:31.480 Yeah, it's it is what. 0:27:31.960 --> 0:27:34.119 Uh Well, I wanted to kind of shift into the 0:27:34.119 --> 0:27:37.680 book because I know it comes out May six. Yes, 0:27:37.840 --> 0:27:39.680 so the plan is the book comes out May six. 0:27:41.200 --> 0:27:43.960 When does the series come out? Have you started working 0:27:43.960 --> 0:27:47.040 on that at all? We are in the beginning stages. 0:27:47.119 --> 0:27:48.600 I'm so new to this process. 0:27:48.640 --> 0:27:50.959 I'm learning. I'm going to be an executive executive producer, 0:27:50.960 --> 0:27:53.119 which I'm so excited about. So do you pick the cast? 0:27:53.480 --> 0:27:58.280 I think yeah, but they've been amazing so far. So 0:27:58.320 --> 0:28:01.200 we're starting to do the meeting and kind of look 0:28:01.240 --> 0:28:03.639 at writers and everything, which is really cool. 0:28:03.520 --> 0:28:04.679 Okay in your mind? 0:28:04.840 --> 0:28:07.600 Oh yeah, and who's like the ideal like your main 0:28:08.200 --> 0:28:08.560 I have. 0:28:08.480 --> 0:28:09.840 A list, but I don't want to jinx it. I 0:28:09.840 --> 0:28:11.199 have I have a list in my head. I have 0:28:11.200 --> 0:28:12.840 a list on my phone so that if it comes true, 0:28:12.880 --> 0:28:15.280 I can show everyone. But like I'm manifesting, so I 0:28:15.280 --> 0:28:15.919 can't chink it. 0:28:15.960 --> 0:28:17.840 Do you have more than one person for each cast 0:28:17.920 --> 0:28:18.400 or you just have. 0:28:19.119 --> 0:28:21.480 I have like the cast in my mind. Oh wow, 0:28:22.720 --> 0:28:24.560 I am kind of a good manifestor so we'll see 0:28:24.560 --> 0:28:25.280 if it happens. 0:28:25.359 --> 0:28:28.359 But yeah, fingers, does the main character in your mind 0:28:28.359 --> 0:28:29.520 look like you? 0:28:29.520 --> 0:28:29.680 No? 0:28:29.920 --> 0:28:33.240 Oh no, I made her like blind with like big 0:28:33.280 --> 0:28:36.159 boobs and like really sexy because like I don't know, 0:28:36.320 --> 0:28:40.040 that's what I imagine. I wanted to work out because 0:28:40.080 --> 0:28:41.840 like when I was writing it, I was like this 0:28:41.880 --> 0:28:43.400 will be made into a movie or a show. Like 0:28:43.440 --> 0:28:45.400 I was like manifesting while I was doing it, So 0:28:45.440 --> 0:28:47.720 I was like, wow, like who do I think of you? 0:28:47.760 --> 0:28:47.840 Know? 0:28:48.200 --> 0:28:51.440 What do you do? You seem powerful in your manifestations? 0:28:51.440 --> 0:28:53.480 How what is what is the key? 0:28:53.720 --> 0:28:57.080 I think just like you always have to be like 0:28:57.080 --> 0:29:00.280 like having fun I like love Gabby Bernstein. I'm like, 0:29:00.320 --> 0:29:02.640 if you have are having fun, like the manifesting will 0:29:02.640 --> 0:29:07.760 come easy. And it's like I write a lot of 0:29:07.800 --> 0:29:10.960 lists and I do a lot of treadmill manifesting, which 0:29:10.960 --> 0:29:13.320 is where you just are on the treadmill and you're 0:29:13.440 --> 0:29:14.640 like or you can be on a walk and you 0:29:14.720 --> 0:29:18.880 like visualize what you want to happen. I just started 0:29:18.920 --> 0:29:21.680 doing this. It's like I just started walking like it 0:29:21.800 --> 0:29:24.200 sounds just say. I always just. 0:29:24.120 --> 0:29:25.680 To think that I needed to like do like crazy 0:29:25.720 --> 0:29:27.440 like berries and like hit workouts and stuff, and I've 0:29:27.480 --> 0:29:29.680 just started like doing this like ten thousand steps a day. 0:29:29.760 --> 0:29:30.360 It's the best. 0:29:30.440 --> 0:29:32.160 I just started like two weeks before my wedding and 0:29:32.160 --> 0:29:33.720 now I'm like obsessed with it. But I was like, 0:29:33.760 --> 0:29:36.160 this is a great time. It's built in like hour 0:29:36.720 --> 0:29:38.960 where I'm not I don't have anything to do that 0:29:39.040 --> 0:29:41.520 I can start like really visualizing things. 0:29:41.640 --> 0:29:44.200 No, it's it's the best. I really love to walk, 0:29:44.280 --> 0:29:46.840 like I walk every day. I do my rich mom walks, 0:29:46.880 --> 0:29:50.520 and it's like where it's I do a lot of imagining, 0:29:50.600 --> 0:29:53.760 like visualization, you just like imagine it and it's I 0:29:53.800 --> 0:29:54.240 don't know. 0:29:54.440 --> 0:29:56.600 What does a rich mom walk intol. 0:29:56.440 --> 0:29:59.120 Okay, So when I was doing my rich mom starter 0:29:59.240 --> 0:30:01.520 packs on social media, can think. 0:30:01.440 --> 0:30:04.040 Of an example of a like, let's do a Malibu 0:30:04.120 --> 0:30:04.720 rich mom starter. 0:30:04.880 --> 0:30:07.960 A Malviy rich mom starter pack is like a g 0:30:08.160 --> 0:30:10.480 wagon that has like an appropriate amount of scuffs on 0:30:10.520 --> 0:30:12.160 it because you're a cool girl and you don't care 0:30:12.200 --> 0:30:14.120 too much, and like also you've got seven of them, 0:30:14.400 --> 0:30:18.560 Aviator Nation sweatpants, a sun Life smoothie which you don't 0:30:18.760 --> 0:30:21.640 actually eat because it has low key twenty thousand calories 0:30:21.640 --> 0:30:25.560 in it, some sort of a trucker hat that's like 0:30:25.640 --> 0:30:29.000 faded that says like Malibu on it, like a lot 0:30:29.040 --> 0:30:32.440 of like logan hollow all jewelry that's like casually like 0:30:32.480 --> 0:30:34.480 fifty thousand dollars on your neck, even though it like 0:30:34.560 --> 0:30:38.520 might get lost in the waves. But yeah, I'm basically 0:30:38.560 --> 0:30:41.200 obsessed with like rich mom places and the women who 0:30:41.240 --> 0:30:43.560 live in them. But then it kind of evolved into 0:30:43.760 --> 0:30:46.520 rich mom energy, which like anybody can have rich mom energy. 0:30:46.560 --> 0:30:48.880 You don't have to be rich or mom, you just 0:30:49.040 --> 0:30:51.520 it's like rich moms get shit done. They have an 0:30:51.520 --> 0:30:55.680 incredible sense of like power and beauty and they're fabulous. 0:30:55.720 --> 0:30:57.840 So then I started calling you rich mom walks, which 0:30:57.880 --> 0:31:01.280 is just like a walk you take could be five minutes, 0:31:01.320 --> 0:31:05.160 could be an hour, and you just like to your point, 0:31:05.520 --> 0:31:08.400 walking is literally the key to life. Like any problem 0:31:08.520 --> 0:31:10.120 that you have, if you go on a walk, it's 0:31:10.120 --> 0:31:12.280 like eighty percent solved when you come back. It really 0:31:12.320 --> 0:31:17.720 helps you think. And people don't walk enough. In my opinion, 0:31:17.800 --> 0:31:20.280 I'm I have to get ten k steps to day 0:31:20.360 --> 0:31:23.840 or I go mentally insane. And you can go get 0:31:23.880 --> 0:31:26.040 a coffee, you can talk to someone on the phone, 0:31:26.520 --> 0:31:28.320 just use it as your U time, Like we really 0:31:28.400 --> 0:31:31.280 don't have enough time to just do simple things. Yeah, 0:31:31.320 --> 0:31:33.640 and that's why I'm so passionate about walking. 0:31:34.040 --> 0:31:36.720 Yeah, you and Tanya are really it's the best. 0:31:36.920 --> 0:31:37.600 It really is. 0:31:37.880 --> 0:31:39.600 I know I've become like a I'm like, where has 0:31:39.640 --> 0:31:41.840 this been my whole life? So I've been like beating 0:31:41.880 --> 0:31:45.360 myself at these gyms, and it's just like it's in 0:31:45.400 --> 0:31:45.760 the walk. 0:31:45.920 --> 0:31:47.440 It's in the walk. Yeah. 0:31:47.520 --> 0:31:51.120 I was going to get into your physical fitness journey 0:31:51.360 --> 0:31:53.400 because I feel like I've seen you talk a lot 0:31:53.400 --> 0:31:56.560 about that and how much it's transformed. No, like again, 0:31:56.640 --> 0:31:58.720 not only just like your physical body, but it seems 0:31:58.760 --> 0:32:03.080 like your mental confidence yes, like thinking even I remember 0:32:03.120 --> 0:32:05.840 seeing videos of you, like being upset after dates and 0:32:05.920 --> 0:32:09.000 like on the internet, and I feel and obviously there 0:32:09.000 --> 0:32:14.680 comes like with time, there comes perspective totally, but in general, 0:32:14.720 --> 0:32:17.800 I feel like you have had this glow up that's 0:32:17.800 --> 0:32:18.320 so nice. 0:32:18.400 --> 0:32:22.960 Thank you. I feel like weightlifting literally changed my life. 0:32:23.000 --> 0:32:25.200 And I always was one of those people who thought 0:32:25.480 --> 0:32:28.640 it's not for me, it's gonna make me bulky, it's 0:32:28.680 --> 0:32:31.400 for really intense people like I never thought it would 0:32:31.400 --> 0:32:34.400 be me. And then like a year and a half ago, 0:32:34.520 --> 0:32:38.200 I guess like cliche, I started in January of twenty 0:32:38.640 --> 0:32:43.080 twenty four. I was like, you know what, let me 0:32:43.160 --> 0:32:45.720 just try. Let me commit to six months and really 0:32:46.120 --> 0:32:48.240 not give up this time, because I've started a million 0:32:48.280 --> 0:32:52.160 times like everybody, it's just so normal to quit and 0:32:52.600 --> 0:32:55.600 I am obsessed with it. So I train. I like 0:32:55.680 --> 0:32:59.920 lift heavy weights. There's something about the hardness of it. 0:33:00.080 --> 0:33:02.800 Like I know all workouts are hard, berries is hard, 0:33:02.840 --> 0:33:06.400 pilates is hard, but there's something about like almost primal 0:33:06.440 --> 0:33:09.400 about lifting heavy things and like getting stronger that just 0:33:09.480 --> 0:33:13.880 makes you feel so proud of yourself. And also I 0:33:13.920 --> 0:33:16.400 think as adults, like we don't often get the chance 0:33:16.480 --> 0:33:19.120 to become better at something, like by the time you're 0:33:19.120 --> 0:33:20.880 in your thirties, you're like, you know what you're good at. 0:33:20.920 --> 0:33:23.000 You stick to those things. You don't really learn new 0:33:23.040 --> 0:33:27.320 things that often. And so for me, when I started weightlifting, 0:33:27.320 --> 0:33:29.760 I was like, this is hard. I feel not good 0:33:29.840 --> 0:33:32.280 at it. I feel, you know, like I'm a loser 0:33:32.360 --> 0:33:35.920 and whatever. And just building up my strength has been incredible. 0:33:35.960 --> 0:33:40.120 So I'm like such a big advocate for weightlifting, and yeah, 0:33:40.160 --> 0:33:43.200 weightlifting and walking and it's good. And also, like to 0:33:43.280 --> 0:33:46.200 your point, it does when you turn inwards, all the 0:33:46.200 --> 0:33:49.040 rest of the stuff gets easier. You're like, ah, I 0:33:49.080 --> 0:33:50.920 don't really care. Oh it's a bad day, Like I'll 0:33:50.920 --> 0:33:52.040 get over it, like whatever. 0:33:52.600 --> 0:33:55.600 Yeah, I like what you said about that, because I 0:33:55.640 --> 0:33:58.760 also sometimes and I have this mentality that I feel 0:33:58.800 --> 0:34:01.040 like has held me back so much, which is if 0:34:01.080 --> 0:34:02.960 I'm not immediately good at it. 0:34:03.080 --> 0:34:04.600 I won't try it totally. 0:34:04.840 --> 0:34:07.040 And so I always think, like, what are the things 0:34:07.040 --> 0:34:09.200 that I've missed out on that maybe I've had interest in, 0:34:09.280 --> 0:34:10.759 but I've been scared that I'm not going to be 0:34:10.800 --> 0:34:13.279 good at it, So therefore I just go or I 0:34:13.360 --> 0:34:15.239 do what you do, and I what you did. And 0:34:15.280 --> 0:34:17.680 I start something and then if I'm not immediately good 0:34:17.680 --> 0:34:19.600 at it or don't feel strong in it, I'm like, yeah, 0:34:19.640 --> 0:34:20.840 I quit totally. 0:34:21.080 --> 0:34:23.120 I'm the same way, like I really hate being bad 0:34:23.120 --> 0:34:25.480 at things. I think it's especially at this stage in 0:34:25.520 --> 0:34:27.680 my life. I feel like embarrassed if I'm not good 0:34:27.680 --> 0:34:29.280 at something or I don't know how to do something. 0:34:29.800 --> 0:34:31.799 And I was like, you know what, nobody is thinking 0:34:31.840 --> 0:34:34.359 about me as much as I'm thinking about me, And 0:34:34.880 --> 0:34:37.440 this is just like so many of my friends have 0:34:37.480 --> 0:34:39.439 gotten into it, and it's also really important as women 0:34:39.480 --> 0:34:42.560 that like for our bone density and just the strength training. 0:34:42.640 --> 0:34:45.200 So I was like, let me just commit to six 0:34:45.239 --> 0:34:47.839 months and see it was hard. I really almost quit 0:34:48.000 --> 0:34:50.640 like three four months, and then I was like, I'm 0:34:50.680 --> 0:34:53.040 so glad I pushed through because now I'm obsessed. It's 0:34:53.080 --> 0:34:55.759 just really also so good for my mental health. Yeah, 0:34:55.880 --> 0:34:58.160 thing is just different about it. Of course, I love 0:34:58.200 --> 0:35:01.080 the pilates class with the girlies. That's so fun. I 0:35:01.080 --> 0:35:03.600 love that stuff. I love all the classes are great, 0:35:03.640 --> 0:35:06.600 but there's something about like the weightlifting that just makes 0:35:06.640 --> 0:35:09.880 me has really helped transform me. 0:35:25.400 --> 0:35:30.080 I wanted to talk to you about making friends in 0:35:30.120 --> 0:35:33.200 your thirties and even I think twenties, because I think 0:35:33.239 --> 0:35:37.400 once you're out of an organized like school system, or 0:35:38.440 --> 0:35:40.800 I mean, it's hard even now because everything's remote, so 0:35:40.840 --> 0:35:42.840 a lot of people don't even go into a work environment. 0:35:43.120 --> 0:35:44.640 So a lot of people are just sitting at home 0:35:45.000 --> 0:35:47.640 on their phones or computers working and they don't have 0:35:47.719 --> 0:35:51.200 any interaction or ways of like making friends. What is 0:35:51.239 --> 0:35:54.120 the advice you give people who are searching for friendship 0:35:54.160 --> 0:35:54.680 and connection. 0:35:55.440 --> 0:35:58.200 I think you have to actually like put in the work, 0:35:58.239 --> 0:35:59.799 because it is one of the most common questions that 0:35:59.800 --> 0:36:01.520 I got. People are like, I need to make more friends, 0:36:01.600 --> 0:36:04.400 especially single people are like I need to make single friends, 0:36:04.440 --> 0:36:06.760 like that you alone, especially as my friends get married, 0:36:06.760 --> 0:36:09.719 And I totally feel that it's really scary to feel like, oh, 0:36:09.800 --> 0:36:11.080 I have literally no one to go out with on 0:36:11.120 --> 0:36:14.319 a Friday night when I'm single or whatever. But you know, 0:36:14.800 --> 0:36:19.120 the thing is, especially post pandemic people sometimes like they're 0:36:19.160 --> 0:36:20.640 like I don't have any friends. I don't have any friends, 0:36:20.640 --> 0:36:22.080 And I'm like, okay, well have you tried, Like have 0:36:22.120 --> 0:36:24.080 you You have to go make the effort. You have 0:36:24.080 --> 0:36:25.560 to go to the workout class and say hey to 0:36:25.600 --> 0:36:29.000 the girl you have to go if. I always say 0:36:29.040 --> 0:36:30.799 to do whatever you like to do. So if you 0:36:30.920 --> 0:36:33.160 like to run, join the run club. Do it, even 0:36:33.200 --> 0:36:35.520 if it means you're getting a slower time or you're 0:36:35.520 --> 0:36:37.839 not getting as good a run. Go do the social thing. 0:36:37.920 --> 0:36:39.840 If you like to go out, like I like to 0:36:39.880 --> 0:36:42.480 go out, so I've made a lot of friends out partying. 0:36:42.560 --> 0:36:44.520 I know that sounds silly, but that's what I like 0:36:44.560 --> 0:36:46.040 to do. I meet friends out and then we go 0:36:46.080 --> 0:36:49.360 out together because that's how I spend my time. Another 0:36:49.440 --> 0:36:52.439 great hack is, like single people always think to ask 0:36:52.560 --> 0:36:56.120 married people for a setup. They're terrible it setups. 0:36:56.160 --> 0:36:56.640 We know this. 0:36:58.080 --> 0:37:00.120 A really good thing to do is ask the do 0:37:00.160 --> 0:37:01.719 you have any other single friends you could set me 0:37:01.800 --> 0:37:04.359 up with? That's a really and then they're like that's 0:37:04.360 --> 0:37:06.279 a very easy task for them. They're like, yes, I 0:37:06.320 --> 0:37:08.759 know all the single people. I can smush them together. 0:37:08.800 --> 0:37:10.680 And then that's a great way to make friends as well. 0:37:10.920 --> 0:37:12.600 But you have to show up. You have to do 0:37:12.680 --> 0:37:16.239 the awkward first coffee date. Yeah, it's not pleasant. We 0:37:16.280 --> 0:37:18.479 don't like it. Of course, you miss your old best friend, 0:37:18.480 --> 0:37:19.960 but guess what, your best friend lives on the other 0:37:20.000 --> 0:37:21.640 side of the country and she's got a baby, so 0:37:22.000 --> 0:37:25.680 you need to be planting some seeds. I recently made 0:37:25.680 --> 0:37:27.839 a new friend. I made two new friends, and I 0:37:27.880 --> 0:37:30.479 love them so much. Like I got introduced to them 0:37:30.920 --> 0:37:33.520 via my other friend who's married, and she was like, 0:37:33.560 --> 0:37:36.040 you guys should meet. You know, you'll have a great time. 0:37:36.080 --> 0:37:38.640 And we have the best time. Now, Like you just 0:37:38.680 --> 0:37:41.400 have to do the first awkward meeting and see if 0:37:41.440 --> 0:37:41.920 you vibe. 0:37:42.160 --> 0:37:44.120 That's a good point because a lot of our friends 0:37:44.280 --> 0:37:46.279 have other friends. You know, a lot of people don't 0:37:46.320 --> 0:37:48.800 like to merge their friend groups, but they have friends 0:37:48.800 --> 0:37:52.080 from different seasons and it's like the one thing you 0:37:52.120 --> 0:37:54.720 have in common is a friend. 0:37:55.080 --> 0:37:58.960 Yeah, and if you're friends with them, then hopefully they 0:37:59.040 --> 0:38:01.600 have no bad vibes people around them, right, And I 0:38:01.640 --> 0:38:03.680 do believe the saying like good people know good people. 0:38:03.840 --> 0:38:06.879 So if it's a friend, that's you have to ask, like, hey, 0:38:06.880 --> 0:38:09.400 do you know any other single people or whatever, like whatever. 0:38:09.200 --> 0:38:10.759 It may be, it's so true, like you have to 0:38:10.800 --> 0:38:12.000 put in the effort and those. 0:38:11.960 --> 0:38:14.480 The first coffee day with a friend might be worse 0:38:14.480 --> 0:38:15.720 than the first day. 0:38:15.760 --> 0:38:17.680 It might be harder than dating because it's it is 0:38:17.719 --> 0:38:19.440 awkward and you're like I don't know where to go 0:38:19.520 --> 0:38:21.560 with this, and maybe it won't work out, but then 0:38:21.560 --> 0:38:23.759 the next one you will have that instant connection. I 0:38:23.800 --> 0:38:27.160 staying especially with women for me at least, I know, 0:38:27.360 --> 0:38:29.520 like also very fast with a girl. It's like if 0:38:29.520 --> 0:38:32.319 they're vulnerable right away and they're just like, oh my god, 0:38:32.360 --> 0:38:34.040 this and that is going on, I'm like, Oh, we're 0:38:34.040 --> 0:38:35.520 gonna vibe like that's so cool. 0:38:35.920 --> 0:38:36.160 Yeah. 0:38:36.400 --> 0:38:38.719 So do you have any things when you're scrolling or 0:38:38.760 --> 0:38:41.719 like IX about social media or things like when you're 0:38:41.760 --> 0:38:44.520 looking that that you're you just you know how Sometimes 0:38:44.600 --> 0:38:46.480 you'll be scrolling and you'll see something You're like, I 0:38:46.520 --> 0:38:48.080 just need to put my phone down, Like you see 0:38:48.080 --> 0:38:49.880 something in your go okay, this is my phone. 0:38:49.880 --> 0:38:50.680 Time is done. 0:38:51.000 --> 0:38:54.839 I think I am genuinely trying to limit myself more 0:38:54.920 --> 0:38:57.480 and more because it just isn't I don't know, it's 0:38:57.520 --> 0:39:00.120 not feeding me the same way I used to. I 0:39:00.120 --> 0:39:02.160 I try to go on and have fun for a 0:39:02.160 --> 0:39:04.560 little bit and then close out. I'm trying to think 0:39:04.600 --> 0:39:07.000 about what things pick me out. One thing I don't 0:39:07.040 --> 0:39:09.759 love is when people will do on TikTok, like a 0:39:09.800 --> 0:39:12.799 cryptic video. They'll be like, guys, like I was just 0:39:12.840 --> 0:39:15.279 in an event and there was an influencer there and 0:39:15.320 --> 0:39:17.880 you guys all really love her, and she looked at 0:39:17.880 --> 0:39:19.480 me in a really weird way and it just really 0:39:19.560 --> 0:39:21.800 hurt my feelings and she's evil, and then it's like 0:39:21.800 --> 0:39:23.080 a witch hunt in the comments. 0:39:23.560 --> 0:39:25.680 Oh yeah, I wasn't there one just recently about Alex 0:39:25.760 --> 0:39:26.439 Earl like that. 0:39:26.880 --> 0:39:28.560 I think there was. Yeah, I feel like I saw 0:39:28.600 --> 0:39:31.680 on TMZ. But also it's just like, here's my thing. 0:39:32.040 --> 0:39:34.879 If you want to start internet beef, start it, like, 0:39:35.520 --> 0:39:37.600 if you really want to go there, then go and 0:39:37.600 --> 0:39:39.520 make a video and be like I'm beefing with this 0:39:39.520 --> 0:39:42.840 person for X y Z reasons. Don't make a cryptic 0:39:42.960 --> 0:39:46.160 video and put a witch hunt so that everybody's trying 0:39:46.160 --> 0:39:49.120 to guess and make it so like I don't know. 0:39:49.200 --> 0:39:50.960 That just rubs me the wrong way. That's like what 0:39:51.160 --> 0:39:55.000 Duma was kind of. Yeah, well that's more like celeb 0:39:55.080 --> 0:39:57.360 gossip or whatever, like spottings and whatever. 0:39:57.440 --> 0:39:59.200 I'm always so bad at them, Like I'll read Dumont 0:39:59.440 --> 0:40:01.160 and then I'm like, who are they talking about? 0:40:01.160 --> 0:40:03.680 And I have to like go on the comments like yeah, 0:40:03.680 --> 0:40:06.440 I know. I like sometimes I'll see the blind items 0:40:06.480 --> 0:40:08.480 on TikTok and I love them, and they're always like 0:40:08.520 --> 0:40:11.319 in code, they're like the sexy actress and I'm like, 0:40:11.400 --> 0:40:12.560 I don't know who it is, and then it's so 0:40:12.640 --> 0:40:14.160 obvious I got him. 0:40:14.840 --> 0:40:17.560 Have you ever been the subject of one of those videos? 0:40:18.200 --> 0:40:20.120 They always think it's me, That's what maybe why I 0:40:20.120 --> 0:40:22.799 hate them, Always like it's cheeks, isn't it? And I'm like, 0:40:22.880 --> 0:40:24.880 I literally don't want to influence their events. 0:40:24.880 --> 0:40:27.440 They give me anxiety. And the person's always like, no, 0:40:27.520 --> 0:40:27.880 it's not. 0:40:30.080 --> 0:40:32.600 It's always nice when they make sure to let people 0:40:32.640 --> 0:40:33.279 know it's not. 0:40:33.600 --> 0:40:35.640 Yeah, And then that's the most annoying part is and 0:40:35.680 --> 0:40:37.359 they go through the comments they're like, no, it's not her, 0:40:37.360 --> 0:40:37.640 No it's not. 0:40:37.960 --> 0:40:39.080 But didn't just say like. 0:40:39.080 --> 0:40:43.080 Oh my god, like enough it's not. It's just like silly. 0:40:43.239 --> 0:40:45.320 Can we talk about your DJ? 0:40:46.000 --> 0:40:46.239 Yes? 0:40:46.760 --> 0:40:50.680 Because I was at an event for uh, did you 0:40:50.760 --> 0:40:52.680 DJ something with Tyler Cameron? 0:40:52.840 --> 0:40:53.520 Like an event? 0:40:53.680 --> 0:40:56.640 Yeah, okay last year I did it for his he 0:40:56.680 --> 0:40:59.279 had a show, yeah, and it was his the launch party, 0:40:59.320 --> 0:41:00.560 I believe, So he was. 0:41:00.520 --> 0:41:03.000 There and I was like, is that Tinks DJ? 0:41:03.320 --> 0:41:04.919 And they're like yeah, And I was like I didn't 0:41:04.920 --> 0:41:07.320 even know that that was something you did. 0:41:07.520 --> 0:41:10.360 I just started speaking of learning new things as an adult. 0:41:10.640 --> 0:41:13.640 I wanted to learn. I do it with my best 0:41:13.640 --> 0:41:16.800 friend Lucas. We have known each other for like almost 0:41:16.800 --> 0:41:19.799 ten years, and he's worked in music and we love 0:41:19.880 --> 0:41:22.000 to party together. We have a big group of friends, 0:41:22.000 --> 0:41:24.319 and we were like, how can we ensure that our 0:41:24.360 --> 0:41:26.759 friends get together like six times a year for sure, 0:41:26.920 --> 0:41:30.160 and also how can we get paid to party? And 0:41:30.239 --> 0:41:32.640 so now we DJ and he taught me and it's 0:41:32.680 --> 0:41:34.960 really fun. We've been doing it for I guess like 0:41:34.960 --> 0:41:38.400 a year and a half now, and it was really 0:41:38.440 --> 0:41:40.279 hard to learn. I don't know why everyone makes fun 0:41:40.320 --> 0:41:42.600 of DJ's being like it's so easy. I'm not easy. 0:41:42.640 --> 0:41:48.879 It's really hardy. But it's an incredible fun hobby. And 0:41:49.360 --> 0:41:51.719 like I said, I love to learn and be bad 0:41:51.760 --> 0:41:55.520 at something, and like it's scary, especially because obviously there's 0:41:55.520 --> 0:41:57.439 a cliche of like, oh, the influence are becoming DJ, 0:41:57.640 --> 0:42:00.960 Like I totally understand that. I think if you look 0:42:01.000 --> 0:42:03.520 at my history, I really have always been a committed 0:42:03.560 --> 0:42:06.000 party girl. So this is the natural progression for me. 0:42:07.600 --> 0:42:10.000 I didn't start partying in Brat's summer, Okay, I've been 0:42:10.040 --> 0:42:15.239 partying since way back, So it's very fun. We're headed 0:42:15.280 --> 0:42:18.600 to Stagecoach this weekend. We're dojing a pop up there, 0:42:18.640 --> 0:42:22.560 which will be amazing. Yes, it's really fun. We feel 0:42:22.600 --> 0:42:25.319 like you're like doing all the things. I like to 0:42:25.320 --> 0:42:28.000 be really busy. I really like to always be working 0:42:28.000 --> 0:42:31.680 on a project. I like again to bring it full circle. 0:42:31.719 --> 0:42:33.880 I really don't like my own thoughts. I'm like, I 0:42:33.920 --> 0:42:36.000 always like to be working on something creative because then 0:42:36.000 --> 0:42:42.440 it keeps me distressed instincts. I think something. There was 0:42:42.480 --> 0:42:45.279 a class in my college called Design your Life, and 0:42:45.280 --> 0:42:48.920 there's a professor and he always talked about how you 0:42:48.920 --> 0:42:51.440 should follow your curiosity, and that's something that's stuck with 0:42:51.480 --> 0:42:53.560 me all these years. He's like, it's really hard when 0:42:53.840 --> 0:42:56.279 older people tell younger people like follow your passion, and 0:42:56.360 --> 0:42:58.160 you're like, I don't know what my passion is. Like 0:42:58.160 --> 0:43:00.680 a lot of the times that feels so that feels 0:43:00.760 --> 0:43:03.600 so like intense to try and figure out what your 0:43:03.680 --> 0:43:07.680 passion is. And then if you follow your curiosity, That's 0:43:07.680 --> 0:43:09.759 something that's always really served me because I'm like, yeah, 0:43:09.760 --> 0:43:11.839 I'm curious to go talk to this person, or I'm 0:43:11.880 --> 0:43:14.759 curious to go like try writing this book or I'm 0:43:15.040 --> 0:43:17.960 curious to try DJing, Like, just follow those things and 0:43:18.000 --> 0:43:21.000 that will help like move you along. And not to 0:43:21.040 --> 0:43:23.280 be corny, but it really puts you in the mindset 0:43:23.320 --> 0:43:26.480 of it's about the experience and the journey. It's not 0:43:26.520 --> 0:43:28.759 about the destination. It's not about the day the book 0:43:28.800 --> 0:43:32.080 comes out. It's about writing it and the creative process, 0:43:32.120 --> 0:43:34.720 and like, if you're proud of your work, then that's 0:43:34.719 --> 0:43:38.279 so important. Same with DJing. It's like, I don't know, 0:43:38.320 --> 0:43:40.680 it's I'm curious to see how far I can take it. 0:43:40.680 --> 0:43:42.440 It's fun. I like connecting with people. 0:43:43.040 --> 0:43:45.680 Why not, you know, could you like dj at Coachella 0:43:45.719 --> 0:43:46.120 one year? 0:43:46.440 --> 0:43:49.239 That's our dream, I think. So we've DJed, like we 0:43:49.320 --> 0:43:53.719 DJed the Nylon Party last year at Coachella, we DJed 0:43:54.000 --> 0:43:56.920 Surflage fourth of July, which was huge for us. 0:43:57.640 --> 0:44:01.600 That's in Surflage is like in the Hampton, Oh yeah, I. 0:44:01.560 --> 0:44:05.440 Know what your thing in the Malibou, Yes, yeah, surf Rider, Yeah, that's. 0:44:05.360 --> 0:44:09.120 I love that place too. But yeah, we we've had 0:44:09.239 --> 0:44:11.839 so much fun doing it, and it's obviously a great 0:44:11.840 --> 0:44:13.600 way for me to connect with my community. If they 0:44:13.640 --> 0:44:16.360 like to party, I'm like, yeah, that's cool, fun. 0:44:16.320 --> 0:44:18.600 This is your first stage coach, first stage coach. 0:44:18.760 --> 0:44:19.320 So excited? 0:44:19.480 --> 0:44:22.320 Are you going like full country girl? What's your vibe? 0:44:22.360 --> 0:44:24.640 I'm doing like tanks version of country. 0:44:24.800 --> 0:44:26.080 What is that like? 0:44:26.160 --> 0:44:29.040 I'm doing a lot of like turquoise jewelry and like 0:44:29.200 --> 0:44:32.920 the big belts and boots and boots, I have my 0:44:32.960 --> 0:44:33.480 good boots. 0:44:34.200 --> 0:44:36.480 Exciting kind of like what era was that where we 0:44:36.520 --> 0:44:38.000 had a lot of turquoise? Was that? 0:44:38.160 --> 0:44:41.439 Like it's very like Prince or Countess Luanne inspired. She's 0:44:41.440 --> 0:44:43.920 always got like massive like necklaces on. 0:44:44.280 --> 0:44:45.759 It's like your rich mom stage coach. 0:44:45.800 --> 0:44:48.800 It's like I feel like a lot of rich moms 0:44:48.840 --> 0:44:50.920 go to stage coach like they really like it, like 0:44:50.960 --> 0:44:53.640 it's like time for them to party. And I've heard 0:44:53.640 --> 0:44:56.040 that that crowded stage coach is slightly older or something 0:44:56.160 --> 0:44:57.120 saying about that too. 0:44:57.400 --> 0:45:01.040 It's fun because it's very like hash I think. 0:45:01.440 --> 0:45:03.439 I mean, there's you still have the It's the same 0:45:03.480 --> 0:45:06.359 thing because you have the influencers. You have everyone like 0:45:06.800 --> 0:45:09.680 wanting to go and get their pictures and meet everyone would. 0:45:11.040 --> 0:45:13.080 More chill, yeah, chill, that's yeah. 0:45:13.120 --> 0:45:13.520 I love that. 0:45:13.560 --> 0:45:15.799 I can't wait to experience it. I do like country music. 0:45:15.840 --> 0:45:18.040 I don't know I don't know too much about it, 0:45:18.040 --> 0:45:19.960 but I do really always if it's on, I'll keep 0:45:20.000 --> 0:45:21.799 it on. I like that, and I feel like it's 0:45:21.840 --> 0:45:23.040 so mainstream now. 0:45:22.960 --> 0:45:24.840 So it's it's more about the vibes. 0:45:25.719 --> 0:45:29.360 Yeah, since you're big on manifesting, what are the next 0:45:30.760 --> 0:45:31.880 two years? 0:45:32.200 --> 0:45:32.399 Dude? 0:45:32.400 --> 0:45:33.279 Got manifest thems? 0:45:33.280 --> 0:45:34.240 You can't tell us well? 0:45:34.280 --> 0:45:37.000 Like, I mean, there's something about speaking into the universal. 0:45:36.960 --> 0:45:39.719 No totally well recently, and I don't know if I'm 0:45:39.719 --> 0:45:41.920 going to pursue this. So I recently moved to New 0:45:42.000 --> 0:45:45.080 York and I've noticed that there's no good frozen yogurt shops, 0:45:45.440 --> 0:45:49.319 and I everyone on my team is like clenching their 0:45:49.360 --> 0:45:51.200 but holes to see if I actually forced them to 0:45:51.239 --> 0:45:52.680 go down this road because I was. I was like 0:45:52.680 --> 0:45:54.799 this week, I was like another thing. I think I'd 0:45:54.800 --> 0:45:56.520 like to open a frozen yogurt shop in New York 0:45:56.560 --> 0:45:58.640 because I the best part about LA is like all 0:45:58.640 --> 0:46:00.480 the fro yo and like, yeah, when you're in a 0:46:00.520 --> 0:46:03.239 suburban place, they have the best frozen yogurt and it's 0:46:03.280 --> 0:46:06.279 like such a treat and everybody loves it. Why would 0:46:06.280 --> 0:46:07.600 you not have that in New York City? Like the 0:46:07.640 --> 0:46:11.360 girlies need a fabulous place, and I would make it stunning, 0:46:11.480 --> 0:46:15.400 like I would make it blonde wood, warm lighting, so 0:46:15.480 --> 0:46:18.239 it's not like scary. You could go and sit with 0:46:18.239 --> 0:46:20.480 your friends and have amazing froyo. So I don't know, 0:46:20.520 --> 0:46:22.200 I kind of like jokingly said that I wanted to 0:46:22.200 --> 0:46:24.080 make that, but I don't know. I'm just going to 0:46:24.120 --> 0:46:26.200 follow my curiosity. As long as I'm like happy in 0:46:26.239 --> 0:46:31.640 the moment and working on some projects, I'm just kind of, yeah. 0:46:31.160 --> 0:46:34.320 I'm taking that with me after today, following your curt curiosity, 0:46:34.360 --> 0:46:36.719 because I do think there's when people ask what are 0:46:36.719 --> 0:46:38.240 your passion what are you passionate about? 0:46:38.239 --> 0:46:40.680 I get so overwhelmed because I'm like, it. 0:46:40.600 --> 0:46:43.840 Feels so vinyl, it feel like it feels so like intense. 0:46:43.960 --> 0:46:46.120 I always say, like this new TV show I'm watching 0:46:46.840 --> 0:46:47.400 so embarrassing. 0:46:47.480 --> 0:46:49.640 Yeah, but curiosity, it's like And also, if you're ever 0:46:49.680 --> 0:46:51.680 feeling stuck, you just go back to that and you're like, 0:46:51.719 --> 0:46:53.520 what am I curious about right now? It could be 0:46:53.560 --> 0:46:55.560 something so small. It could be a person that you 0:46:55.640 --> 0:46:56.839 met that you want to have a coffee with and 0:46:56.880 --> 0:46:59.759 learn about their career whatever. Yeah, it could be a 0:46:59.800 --> 0:47:03.040 new restaurant, Like never limit yourself, just be like, oh, 0:47:03.080 --> 0:47:04.920 what is that? Like, why am I talking about fro you? 0:47:05.040 --> 0:47:06.719 Because I'm curious about it. I don't know, I want 0:47:06.719 --> 0:47:09.799 to see. Maybe I'll take a meeting. Yeah, I love 0:47:09.840 --> 0:47:13.040 that too. I'm feeling inspired. 0:47:13.440 --> 0:47:16.719 I feel like you're one of those people where you 0:47:17.880 --> 0:47:21.360 have an idea and you go get through always. 0:47:21.520 --> 0:47:22.000 I love that. 0:47:22.080 --> 0:47:24.520 I always have to like sometimes it takes years and 0:47:24.560 --> 0:47:27.120 years and years, but I just keep you just got 0:47:27.120 --> 0:47:30.280 to keep going and learn. That's a good patience. Patience 0:47:30.320 --> 0:47:32.640 is hard for me sometimes, but you just got to 0:47:32.719 --> 0:47:35.239 keep sewing. That a mantra I love is the day 0:47:35.280 --> 0:47:36.919 you plant the seed is not the day you bear 0:47:36.960 --> 0:47:39.200 the fruit. Yeah, that's true. I think about that all 0:47:39.200 --> 0:47:41.200 the time. So I always think about like planting little 0:47:41.239 --> 0:47:44.359 seeds and they'll flower in the future. We never know when, 0:47:44.400 --> 0:47:46.680 and that's kind of the exciting part of life. So true. 0:47:46.880 --> 0:47:48.240 Just start like a walking club. 0:47:48.600 --> 0:47:50.960 I would love to as well. Yeah we do. Why 0:47:50.960 --> 0:47:53.520 do rich Mount walks in my community? We get together. 0:47:53.640 --> 0:47:56.319 We've done like I don't know, eight or something all 0:47:56.320 --> 0:47:57.840 over the country. It's really fun. 0:47:58.760 --> 0:48:01.400 Yeah, that's a great rate. Yeah, I know. 0:48:01.600 --> 0:48:03.600 I get so excited, Like there's I have like this 0:48:03.640 --> 0:48:05.439 one route, and I ran into like an old friend 0:48:05.440 --> 0:48:06.759 of min that haven't seen it in years. She's like 0:48:06.760 --> 0:48:09.200 pregnant now, and we did our ten k steps together 0:48:09.640 --> 0:48:11.880 and I was like, oh, it flew by, just like 0:48:11.920 --> 0:48:14.399 having a friend with me, especially somebody that hadn't seen 0:48:14.440 --> 0:48:16.400 in so long. And so now I'm like, anytime like 0:48:16.400 --> 0:48:18.440 I can get someone to do my walk with me, I'm. 0:48:18.280 --> 0:48:21.359 Like so fun. No, No, walking with a friend is 0:48:21.520 --> 0:48:22.200 the best. Yeah. 0:48:22.200 --> 0:48:24.600 I have a question that's just will round it out 0:48:24.640 --> 0:48:27.280 with this because I've been thinking about it the whole podcast. 0:48:27.520 --> 0:48:28.840 Where did Tinks come from? 0:48:29.280 --> 0:48:34.640 So? Tinks is it's a nickname that I gave myself 0:48:34.760 --> 0:48:38.759 when I was like eleven or twelve. It's from a movie. 0:48:38.840 --> 0:48:43.120 I basically watched this movie. It's called Strike, and it's 0:48:43.160 --> 0:48:44.759 about an all girls' school and there was this really 0:48:44.800 --> 0:48:46.640 beautiful girl in it, and she was really confident and 0:48:46.680 --> 0:48:48.839 her name was Tinka Parker. And so when I got 0:48:48.840 --> 0:48:50.920 back to school that fall, I was like, guys, call 0:48:51.000 --> 0:48:53.160 me Tinker Parker from now on, because that's like I'm 0:48:53.160 --> 0:48:55.360 going to be confident like her or whatever, and it 0:48:55.400 --> 0:48:57.479 got I don't know why they went with it, because 0:48:57.480 --> 0:48:59.359 if someone told me to call them Tinker Parker. I'd 0:48:59.400 --> 0:49:02.480 be like no, and then it got short into tink, 0:49:02.480 --> 0:49:04.440 and then I got short into Tanks and it just stuck, 0:49:04.640 --> 0:49:07.280 like for no reason, it just stuck for my whole life. 0:49:07.600 --> 0:49:12.759 So when you would would you introduce yourself as Tinks. 0:49:11.520 --> 0:49:14.200 Like in college? I did? Wow. Like in college, I 0:49:14.280 --> 0:49:16.319 was like, oh, they call me tanks. It's such a 0:49:16.360 --> 0:49:19.239 cute name. It really works for me. And yeah, maybe 0:49:19.239 --> 0:49:20.440 I was even manifesting. 0:49:20.640 --> 0:49:23.520 Yeah, it's like so unique, but just like so cute, 0:49:23.560 --> 0:49:24.800 Like I don't know another Tinks. 0:49:24.880 --> 0:49:27.920 No, it's easy, it's short. It's like, and you're the 0:49:27.920 --> 0:49:29.560 only Tinks, the only Tanks. No. 0:49:29.560 --> 0:49:33.239 I do you ever want to go back to Christina? 0:49:33.840 --> 0:49:38.640 Sometimes I do. Sometimes I'm like I've actually found on 0:49:38.760 --> 0:49:42.000 dating more recently. If I'm meeting someone, I'm like, I'm Christina, 0:49:42.120 --> 0:49:44.279 like just because I don't want to go into it 0:49:44.320 --> 0:49:46.319 and I just want a little bit of separation from 0:49:46.320 --> 0:49:48.839 my job. But I don't know. I always say call 0:49:48.920 --> 0:49:51.160 me either, like it really doesn't matter to me. I'm both. 0:49:51.239 --> 0:49:52.120 I answered to both. 0:49:52.160 --> 0:49:54.680 So when you go on dates, do people do guys 0:49:54.719 --> 0:49:56.839 recognize you because you're such a you're a girl's girl. 0:49:56.960 --> 0:49:57.239 So do. 0:49:57.400 --> 0:50:00.759 Guys usually know and then they'll like look you up. 0:50:00.920 --> 0:50:02.520 Then they'll be like, oh, I just looked at your 0:50:02.520 --> 0:50:05.279 Instagram and like my sister follows you, and I'm right, 0:50:07.040 --> 0:50:09.279 I really like I'll know I've met the guy when 0:50:09.320 --> 0:50:12.279 he's like, what do you do? Like that's that's hot. 0:50:12.600 --> 0:50:15.120 Yeah, that's It takes a lot of woolpower not to 0:50:15.239 --> 0:50:17.239 like google someone else. 0:50:17.480 --> 0:50:20.520 I know, And I hate to stop people before I 0:50:20.560 --> 0:50:22.319 go on date some them because I'll be aicked out. 0:50:22.840 --> 0:50:25.279 I'm very extensitive and I know that and I am 0:50:25.320 --> 0:50:27.600 working on it. But like one thing and I'm like, 0:50:28.160 --> 0:50:29.200 I can't, I can't do it. 0:50:29.400 --> 0:50:31.960 I need to know top three X, like right off 0:50:31.960 --> 0:50:33.520 the bat X. 0:50:33.640 --> 0:50:36.520 I would say, okay, if a guy doesn't like listen 0:50:36.600 --> 0:50:39.279 or ask me questions, which is an epidemic right now 0:50:39.320 --> 0:50:42.000 in dating, guys just like do not ask questions, and 0:50:42.040 --> 0:50:45.319 it's really it's insane. It's now that I've said it, 0:50:45.440 --> 0:50:47.839 you'll like look out for it and anyone's single out 0:50:47.880 --> 0:50:52.040 there will will have experienced this. I think when a 0:50:52.160 --> 0:50:56.680 guy doesn't have any like interests or when he's not interesting, 0:50:56.960 --> 0:50:59.759 he's not interested, which means he's not interesting that it's 0:50:59.840 --> 0:51:05.719 just like, I can't do that, and what else? I 0:51:05.800 --> 0:51:12.320 mean if a guy puts like emojis over other people's 0:51:12.320 --> 0:51:15.719 faces and his dating app profile, that's an immediate wait 0:51:15.800 --> 0:51:19.600 why because I'm like, I just I can't do that 0:51:19.719 --> 0:51:21.480 like that or he doesn't want you to think that 0:51:21.560 --> 0:51:23.160 his cute friend is him. 0:51:23.800 --> 0:51:25.880 Don't put that picture that. 0:51:25.920 --> 0:51:27.239 I think I will figure it out. 0:51:27.320 --> 0:51:30.480 I will perseure the thought of him, like putting the 0:51:30.520 --> 0:51:32.719 little it's giving insecure. 0:51:32.840 --> 0:51:35.520 No, it's just it's giving, thoughtful, it's giving. 0:51:35.560 --> 0:51:37.880 I don't have so many photos to choose from. 0:51:37.960 --> 0:51:39.560 I think you should reconsider. 0:51:39.680 --> 0:51:40.120 I can't. 0:51:40.160 --> 0:51:41.400 I can't do it. 0:51:43.600 --> 0:51:44.800 He doesn't have that many photos. 0:51:44.840 --> 0:51:46.600 He's like, should I have to use these? All these? 0:51:46.640 --> 0:51:51.200 This is alid? God, find another one? Yeah, yourself going. 0:51:53.040 --> 0:51:57.640 Anyway, there's the next stick. You only have six photos 0:51:57.680 --> 0:51:58.280 of yourself? 0:51:58.840 --> 0:51:59.120 Wow? 0:51:59.680 --> 0:52:02.760 Yeah, it is like do you have physical. 0:52:02.400 --> 0:52:06.760 Ages or of Like, no, I'm honestly really chill about 0:52:07.000 --> 0:52:11.560 okay anything. I mean, look, am I a highth queen? Secretly? Yeah, 0:52:11.600 --> 0:52:13.600 it's pretty hard to go back from six to four 0:52:13.640 --> 0:52:15.799 after you've dated someone six four And I'm just gonna 0:52:15.800 --> 0:52:17.759 put that out there. But I would never swipe no 0:52:17.880 --> 0:52:19.240 on someone for a physical thing. 0:52:19.239 --> 0:52:19.600 Right, right. 0:52:20.000 --> 0:52:22.560 And also if you put all the guys I've dated 0:52:22.560 --> 0:52:26.280 in a room, you would be like there's no common 0:52:26.320 --> 0:52:30.080 thread between, Like you'd be every everything, everything, all over. 0:52:31.480 --> 0:52:33.600 It's just like an energy thing. Yeah, I just like 0:52:34.000 --> 0:52:35.040 Dick energy. Yeah. 0:52:35.920 --> 0:52:39.560 I like that you walk in and you know yeah. 0:52:39.600 --> 0:52:43.120 Thank you so much for taking time to this was 0:52:43.239 --> 0:52:43.800 so fun. 0:52:43.920 --> 0:52:45.760 Thank you, We love you everyone. 0:52:46.120 --> 0:52:49.560 I'm so happy that you were not absolutely thrown off 0:52:49.560 --> 0:52:50.160 by Tanya. 0:52:50.520 --> 0:52:52.840 Yeah, I'm happy I didn't scare you off. Oh my gosh, 0:52:53.000 --> 0:52:53.440 it happens. 0:52:53.560 --> 0:52:54.360 She does that sometimes. 0:52:54.400 --> 0:52:55.880 It's such a fabulous conversation. 0:52:56.320 --> 0:52:59.239 Thank you so much, so excited, and you pick up 0:52:59.239 --> 0:53:01.839 a copy six it's up, but you can preorder it now. 0:53:02.680 --> 0:53:03.799 Where can everyone follow you? 0:53:04.200 --> 0:53:07.080 At tanks t I n X on everything so nice, 0:53:07.360 --> 0:53:09.279 got it all, Thank you, thank you. 0:53:09.400 --> 0:53:09.960 So fun