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Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Beck of Tilly and Tanya rad and

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Speaker 1: iHeartRadio and two times People's Choice Award winning podcast.

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Speaker 2: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in grub.

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Speaker 3: Dub Dub and the Tings a tub tub.

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Speaker 4: Did you read the comments about the jingle your jingle?

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Speaker 3: No, don't tell me. It's not bad. People hate it.

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Speaker 4: There's mixed reviews.

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Speaker 2: They posted a poll about it and.

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Speaker 1: It was like fifty to fifty people loved it or

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Speaker 1: hated it.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, they told me to break the news to you gently.

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Speaker 2: But then some people are like, oh my god, I

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Speaker 2: sing along every time, so it's really you know, And

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Speaker 2: I told you, I said.

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Speaker 4: The tots are going to be like I love it

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Speaker 4: and some might not. And then a lot of people

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Speaker 4: are like, I'm mostly indifferent about it.

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Speaker 3: The till heads are over here, slammer.

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Speaker 4: I do not consent on tillheads, but here we are

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Speaker 4: but the doctor for themselves as the tongue of talk.

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Speaker 4: They love it.

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Speaker 1: Well, the till heads are gonna take this uprunt of it.

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Speaker 2: Now. Love our guests today, anyways, they're y'all are all

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Speaker 2: gonna love our guest today.

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Speaker 4: You know her as Tinks.

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Speaker 2: She is a New York Times best selling author and

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Speaker 2: podcast and radio host.

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Speaker 1: She has a new debut fiction novel. It's called Hotter

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Speaker 1: in the Hampton's. It's coming out May six, so everybody

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Speaker 1: pre order it now.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: She really has just developed, Like I feel like she

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Speaker 2: is the millennial girls BFF.

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Speaker 4: Yeah kind of.

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Speaker 2: We're a big sister or big sister, however you want

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Speaker 2: to think it.

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Speaker 4: She's here today, so everyone, welcome.

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Speaker 3: To Thanks for having you guys.

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Speaker 2: We're so excited because we've been trying to do this

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Speaker 2: for a long time now.

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Speaker 3: I know, I'm so excited to finally be here and

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Speaker 3: have a good yap.

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Speaker 1: I was trying to figure out literally just this morning,

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Speaker 1: what flight I was taking, Where were we going?

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Speaker 3: Were we on the same flight? No, we were just

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Speaker 3: saw each other in the JSX, yes.

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Speaker 1: And so what I thought was, I think it was

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Speaker 1: when we were going to Tahoe for Amy's birthday, so

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Speaker 1: last summer. I wasn't with you, I know, I know,

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Speaker 1: I know, but I think that's the flight that we

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Speaker 1: were taking.

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Speaker 3: And I think I saw you that that then I

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Speaker 3: was I don't know where I was going there. I

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Speaker 3: loved jet sweet Eyes. Yeah, so do we so good.

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Speaker 1: But we were We had this like big debate on

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Speaker 1: podcast because I love to like I obviously like I

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Speaker 1: feel like and I feel like you probably get this

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Speaker 1: all the time. People feel like they know you. It's

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Speaker 1: like a parasocial relationship. Yeah, And so I was like, oh,

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Speaker 1: my gosh, I have to say hi to her. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: but you had your headphones on.

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Speaker 2: Oh.

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Speaker 1: And they always tell me that's the universal sign of like,

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Speaker 1: don't talk to it, don't talk to me.

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Speaker 3: No, I always have my headphones in, like I literally

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Speaker 3: can't be with the sound of my own thoughts. And actually,

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Speaker 3: when my followers asked me yesterday, they were like, how

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Speaker 3: do you listen to so many podcasts and like listen

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Speaker 3: to so many books and consume so much media? And

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Speaker 3: I was like, I literally can't be alone. And so

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Speaker 3: the second I wake up, I have music or podcasts on,

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Speaker 3: in So I don't for me, it's not a universal symbol.

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Speaker 3: It's just like I'm.

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Speaker 2: Breathing, so I need again, Like if you're on an airplane, like,

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Speaker 2: for instance, I'm on an airplane and I'm by myself.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and I put my AirPods in. Yeah, that's my

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Speaker 4: sign of like, I am, you're in your zone, please

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Speaker 4: don't talk to me. Yeah, so Tanya does not. She'll

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Speaker 4: tap me.

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Speaker 2: If she's with me and I put my headphones in,

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Speaker 2: she'll tap me until I.

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Speaker 3: Okay, So now I see what you're saying. And I

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Speaker 3: think if you're with someone and you put your headphones in,

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Speaker 3: you're like, I need a man. If you're like traveling

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Speaker 3: get a second, that's really funny. But yeah, no, I

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Speaker 4: Like what's up on?

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Speaker 3: They're like wait what, I feel like I know all

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I was like it was very funny because I was

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Speaker 1: like I met Tings and she had her headphones, and

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Speaker 1: then I felt really bad that I was like bothering

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Speaker 4: She told us.

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Speaker 2: She was like yeah, and then I went up and

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Speaker 2: I said hey, and we all were like.

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Speaker 4: No, oh my god.

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Speaker 3: I'm like literally always so on my own planet. I

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Speaker 3: love meeting everybody.

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Speaker 1: So but you know what's so funny is we have

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Speaker 1: a mutual friend Candice.

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Speaker 4: Yes, our facialist.

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Speaker 3: I love her. It's her birthday tomorrow. It's her birthday.

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Speaker 3: To wait, I think it's in May. I always get

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Speaker 3: he birthdays in We're still in April, right, a Torus queen.

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Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, But.

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Speaker 1: So I feel like I like I'm again I sound

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Speaker 3: Oh no, no, yeah we are all the time. Yeah

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Speaker 4: You're just like meant to be so not ago just

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Speaker 3: My first video that went viral is so dumb that like,

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Speaker 3: Everyone was on their phones. TikTok was in its infancy.

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Speaker 1: So is that how you started, like writing now this

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Speaker 3: I loved writing my first book so much. It was

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Speaker 3: one place for my community about knowing your worth and

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Speaker 3: how important self esteem is for everybody, but especially young women.

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Speaker 3: And then when I was thinking about what I wanted

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Speaker 3: do rich Mom Starter Pack like Malibu Rich Mom Starter

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Speaker 3: That's huge? I honestly can't believe it. It was like

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Speaker 3: They just get it. They just like gennerally get it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, do it. I was listening to Mel Robbins was

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Speaker 4: But did you ever feel because you're are you single?

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Speaker 3: amazing person into your life, okay, that's your time to

441
00:19:00,640 --> 00:19:02,960
Speaker 3: spend time with this person then. And I don't know

442
00:19:03,000 --> 00:19:05,440
Speaker 3: if you guys have read Matthew McConaughey's book Green Lights,

443
00:19:05,440 --> 00:19:07,560
Speaker 3: but I always think about that, like I he's like, oh,

444
00:19:07,560 --> 00:19:09,280
Speaker 3: it's a green light, or like you kind of have

445
00:19:09,359 --> 00:19:12,040
Speaker 3: to look for those things. And I always just think

446
00:19:12,640 --> 00:19:15,200
Speaker 3: I think there's timing, like we're all.

447
00:19:15,359 --> 00:19:16,960
Speaker 1: That's actually good way of putting it. I feel like

448
00:19:17,000 --> 00:19:19,160
Speaker 1: I forced.

449
00:19:19,359 --> 00:19:22,119
Speaker 3: You're really trying to turn some red lights green, trying

450
00:19:22,119 --> 00:19:23,600
Speaker 3: to like look at the green lights.

451
00:19:23,600 --> 00:19:26,640
Speaker 1: But I didn't necessarily think that they were green, trying

452
00:19:26,640 --> 00:19:27,280
Speaker 1: to make them green.

453
00:19:27,400 --> 00:19:29,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's normal. We all do that, like, especially in

454
00:19:29,520 --> 00:19:32,280
Speaker 3: our twenties. We're like, no, this horrible person is my soulmate,

455
00:19:32,320 --> 00:19:34,199
Speaker 3: and yeah, your family and friends are like no, they're not,

456
00:19:34,440 --> 00:19:37,680
Speaker 3: like what are you doing? And it just takes time

457
00:19:37,720 --> 00:19:41,200
Speaker 3: and learning. But you know, we all have different seasons,

458
00:19:41,320 --> 00:19:45,159
Speaker 3: we all have different eras, and it's like freeing to

459
00:19:45,520 --> 00:19:47,960
Speaker 3: know that everybody is on their own path. You just

460
00:19:48,040 --> 00:19:49,639
Speaker 3: have to honestly have little faith.

461
00:19:49,760 --> 00:19:50,280
Speaker 4: Yeah.

462
00:19:50,520 --> 00:19:53,879
Speaker 2: I want to get into the dating, dating world that

463
00:19:53,920 --> 00:19:56,520
Speaker 2: you're experiencing, but first we're going to take a break.

464
00:20:11,880 --> 00:20:12,760
Speaker 4: All right, we're back.

465
00:20:13,000 --> 00:20:17,160
Speaker 2: So what is dating like for you in this this

466
00:20:17,359 --> 00:20:21,520
Speaker 2: era of Tony actually met her husband on the dating app.

467
00:20:21,600 --> 00:20:23,960
Speaker 2: So I'm I'm a big supporter of the dating app.

468
00:20:24,000 --> 00:20:24,520
Speaker 4: So what is it?

469
00:20:24,560 --> 00:20:28,159
Speaker 3: Funny? He's like, totally normal. I know, I know it

470
00:20:28,160 --> 00:20:30,520
Speaker 3: can happen. I know it can happen. About how how

471
00:20:30,520 --> 00:20:36,240
Speaker 3: long ago did you meet? Twenty nineteen? Yeah that was back?

472
00:20:37,280 --> 00:20:45,600
Speaker 2: You got a bad Really what is trump shoe?

473
00:20:46,080 --> 00:20:49,919
Speaker 3: Yeah? They're really bad? Now what is it? Because I

474
00:20:49,960 --> 00:20:52,560
Speaker 3: hear this all the time. People are addicted to validation.

475
00:20:53,280 --> 00:20:55,240
Speaker 3: They match and they will never speak it. They don't

476
00:20:55,240 --> 00:20:59,040
Speaker 3: have any intention, and it's an addiction and like I'm

477
00:20:59,119 --> 00:21:01,440
Speaker 3: not some angel, like I feel it too. Sometimes I'll

478
00:21:01,440 --> 00:21:03,400
Speaker 3: match with the guy and I'm never going to meet

479
00:21:03,480 --> 00:21:05,000
Speaker 3: up with him. But I did that a lot too.

480
00:21:05,000 --> 00:21:07,720
Speaker 3: You know you're like, oh, well, you know, maybe he

481
00:21:07,760 --> 00:21:09,639
Speaker 3: looks all right, you see one thing on his profile,

482
00:21:09,680 --> 00:21:12,200
Speaker 3: you match, then you never meet up. Like that's but

483
00:21:12,320 --> 00:21:16,520
Speaker 3: that's everybody does that. There's just too much choice. It's

484
00:21:16,520 --> 00:21:19,360
Speaker 3: fried our brains. It used to be a good service.

485
00:21:19,840 --> 00:21:22,000
Speaker 3: It used to be like uber, like if you would

486
00:21:22,000 --> 00:21:23,720
Speaker 3: want a date, you would go on it. You'd get

487
00:21:23,720 --> 00:21:25,800
Speaker 3: a date and see if it worked. If it does great,

488
00:21:25,840 --> 00:21:30,119
Speaker 3: if not, cool. Now it's more like Instagram or TikTok,

489
00:21:30,119 --> 00:21:32,400
Speaker 3: where people just go when they're swiping, and they're swiping

490
00:21:32,440 --> 00:21:34,720
Speaker 3: and they do it whether in a waiting room, they're like, oh,

491
00:21:34,800 --> 00:21:36,159
Speaker 3: just going hints for a little bit. And that's why

492
00:21:36,200 --> 00:21:42,640
Speaker 3: it's completely lost. It's efficacy. I kind of I guess

493
00:21:42,640 --> 00:21:44,960
Speaker 3: I'm on the apps. I'm not like in a dating time.

494
00:21:45,080 --> 00:21:48,680
Speaker 3: I'm like, I'm like gonna, I'm so happy like in

495
00:21:48,680 --> 00:21:51,320
Speaker 3: my life and I'm a very decisive person and when

496
00:21:51,359 --> 00:21:53,879
Speaker 3: I know it, I'll see it. I'll see it. You

497
00:21:53,880 --> 00:21:54,440
Speaker 3: know what I mean.

498
00:21:54,600 --> 00:21:57,239
Speaker 2: Do you have EDI when you've when you have been

499
00:21:57,280 --> 00:22:00,040
Speaker 2: in a dating season? Yeah, do you have an emmat like,

500
00:22:00,760 --> 00:22:04,840
Speaker 2: do you have something where within the first few minutes

501
00:22:04,880 --> 00:22:08,520
Speaker 2: you're like absolutely not. Yeah, I mean beyond just like

502
00:22:08,600 --> 00:22:10,320
Speaker 2: a attraction.

503
00:22:10,000 --> 00:22:12,040
Speaker 3: It's a vibe. It's a vibe. And everyone that I've

504
00:22:12,080 --> 00:22:14,360
Speaker 3: ever been with, I've met them and I'm like, They're

505
00:22:14,359 --> 00:22:16,280
Speaker 3: gonna be my boyfriend or I'm gonna spend time with

506
00:22:16,320 --> 00:22:19,080
Speaker 3: them or whatever. Like I'm a very It's just an

507
00:22:19,240 --> 00:22:23,840
Speaker 3: energy thing. And some would say that I'm too judgmental

508
00:22:23,880 --> 00:22:27,080
Speaker 3: too quickly, but I think that I know right away

509
00:22:27,600 --> 00:22:28,240
Speaker 3: like I do.

510
00:22:28,720 --> 00:22:30,439
Speaker 4: That's what I was I was saying.

511
00:22:30,520 --> 00:22:32,800
Speaker 1: No, everybody says like, oh, there's a slow burners the

512
00:22:32,840 --> 00:22:35,680
Speaker 1: guys that like you meet, and I think you forget

513
00:22:35,720 --> 00:22:38,200
Speaker 1: how how I was one of those people.

514
00:22:38,320 --> 00:22:40,359
Speaker 4: You loved a slow burn. You were all about a

515
00:22:40,440 --> 00:22:43,040
Speaker 4: slow burn until you met Robby, and now all of

516
00:22:43,040 --> 00:22:46,800
Speaker 4: a sudden, you act like it has to be switcher tuned.

517
00:22:47,040 --> 00:22:50,720
Speaker 2: But I also before my girlfriend, I was like, as

518
00:22:50,760 --> 00:22:51,280
Speaker 2: soon as I.

519
00:22:51,200 --> 00:22:53,080
Speaker 4: Would meet up with a guy, I'm like, when can

520
00:22:53,160 --> 00:22:53,640
Speaker 4: I go home?

521
00:22:53,800 --> 00:22:54,080
Speaker 2: Yeah?

522
00:22:54,400 --> 00:22:55,760
Speaker 4: That's how Maybe it was because it was men.

523
00:22:55,840 --> 00:23:00,240
Speaker 3: I don't know, but yeah, fair exactly. I just think

524
00:23:00,359 --> 00:23:03,760
Speaker 3: I don't know. I'm I'm not too worried about it, like,

525
00:23:04,080 --> 00:23:07,879
Speaker 3: oh yeah, I feel like I am having fun, Like

526
00:23:07,920 --> 00:23:10,520
Speaker 3: I'll go on a date here and there. I just like,

527
00:23:11,480 --> 00:23:14,040
Speaker 3: I think that the pressure that's on women is so

528
00:23:14,160 --> 00:23:17,560
Speaker 3: insane and I have better things to do with my

529
00:23:17,680 --> 00:23:20,560
Speaker 3: time than like freak out and go on seventy hinge

530
00:23:20,640 --> 00:23:22,639
Speaker 3: dates in a week, Like I just I.

531
00:23:23,040 --> 00:23:24,760
Speaker 1: You have to, literally, it's what it feels like. It's

532
00:23:24,760 --> 00:23:26,639
Speaker 1: like you're just going on like a hundred You're.

533
00:23:26,520 --> 00:23:29,320
Speaker 3: Like yeah, and you just and if you if you're

534
00:23:29,320 --> 00:23:31,840
Speaker 3: at a point where you feel you're like bored with

535
00:23:31,920 --> 00:23:34,199
Speaker 3: yourself or you're like not putting your best foot forward,

536
00:23:34,280 --> 00:23:36,399
Speaker 3: like you should be excited to go on a date.

537
00:23:36,440 --> 00:23:38,960
Speaker 3: You should be like, I'm excited, I'm gonna get dressed up.

538
00:23:39,000 --> 00:23:41,080
Speaker 3: This person could be interesting. And if you're at a

539
00:23:41,119 --> 00:23:43,199
Speaker 3: point where you're like, oh my god, I'm like just

540
00:23:43,200 --> 00:23:46,280
Speaker 3: going to do this like it's homework, that's not a

541
00:23:46,320 --> 00:23:49,160
Speaker 3: good place to be in it. And I'm a big advocate.

542
00:23:49,240 --> 00:23:51,920
Speaker 3: Like in my community, we have this thing called summer outside,

543
00:23:52,320 --> 00:23:55,439
Speaker 3: where like we really try to be off our phones

544
00:23:55,480 --> 00:23:58,080
Speaker 3: and we really try to like change our energy and

545
00:23:58,240 --> 00:24:01,399
Speaker 3: do like say yes to things that at our non phone,

546
00:24:01,440 --> 00:24:03,399
Speaker 3: like going to the dinner party with your friend, or

547
00:24:03,400 --> 00:24:05,320
Speaker 3: like going out with your coworker who you've never seen

548
00:24:05,320 --> 00:24:07,879
Speaker 3: outside of work, or like doing the sports thing, and

549
00:24:07,960 --> 00:24:10,200
Speaker 3: that we have so many success stories in my community

550
00:24:10,200 --> 00:24:11,800
Speaker 3: of people being like yeah, I was like for get

551
00:24:11,840 --> 00:24:13,600
Speaker 3: I'm going to Spain and then I met this guy

552
00:24:13,680 --> 00:24:17,480
Speaker 3: or whatever. Like we just need to like people act

553
00:24:17,600 --> 00:24:21,280
Speaker 3: like there's no real life anymore, like we just live online. Yeah,

554
00:24:21,320 --> 00:24:25,120
Speaker 3: there's still coffee shops, there's still dinner parties, there's still bars,

555
00:24:25,160 --> 00:24:27,640
Speaker 3: there's still clubs, there's still all these things, and it's

556
00:24:27,720 --> 00:24:30,840
Speaker 3: just about changing your energy. And sometimes I'll even catch myself.

557
00:24:30,880 --> 00:24:34,000
Speaker 3: I'll be out with friends and I'll be like hunched

558
00:24:34,080 --> 00:24:37,000
Speaker 3: over like on my phone, Like listen, like nobody's going

559
00:24:37,040 --> 00:24:38,639
Speaker 3: to come up to you that way. Yeah, if your

560
00:24:38,680 --> 00:24:40,520
Speaker 3: phone's in your bag and you're like looking around, you're

561
00:24:40,560 --> 00:24:43,560
Speaker 3: like hey, hey, like yeah, people want to talk, people

562
00:24:43,640 --> 00:24:46,040
Speaker 3: want to connect, especially if they're at a place like

563
00:24:46,080 --> 00:24:47,680
Speaker 3: a bar. You know, they didn't come there to be

564
00:24:47,760 --> 00:24:49,840
Speaker 3: on their phone, neither did you. So put your phone

565
00:24:49,840 --> 00:24:51,119
Speaker 3: away and look around and smile.

566
00:24:51,720 --> 00:24:52,280
Speaker 4: It's so true.

567
00:24:52,320 --> 00:24:55,240
Speaker 2: It's become like the security blanket. But it's the most

568
00:24:55,320 --> 00:24:58,960
Speaker 2: hindering thing of like having any human connection. It's weird

569
00:24:59,000 --> 00:25:04,400
Speaker 2: because it's like you're seeking connection in the most surface

570
00:25:04,480 --> 00:25:06,680
Speaker 2: level way, like you're seeking something.

571
00:25:06,720 --> 00:25:07,520
Speaker 3: It's not surface.

572
00:25:07,680 --> 00:25:12,240
Speaker 2: It's easy, but it's also like you're trying, like you're

573
00:25:12,280 --> 00:25:16,120
Speaker 2: scrolling social media trying to get validation there as opposed

574
00:25:16,119 --> 00:25:20,520
Speaker 2: to seeking human connection, with which I think everyone's craving

575
00:25:20,600 --> 00:25:20,920
Speaker 2: right now.

576
00:25:21,000 --> 00:25:23,120
Speaker 3: I did it. I literally did it in every way,

577
00:25:23,119 --> 00:25:24,880
Speaker 3: shape or form. I would be on the apps.

578
00:25:25,800 --> 00:25:28,520
Speaker 1: DM whatever, messaging every guy in the app, ID, on Instagram,

579
00:25:28,600 --> 00:25:31,919
Speaker 1: like dming whoever, you know, in real life, going to

580
00:25:31,920 --> 00:25:33,959
Speaker 1: the bar, like with my eyes open, trying to make

581
00:25:34,000 --> 00:25:35,359
Speaker 1: eye contact, like I was like.

582
00:25:35,600 --> 00:25:39,080
Speaker 4: Feral holding eye contact with someone as they.

583
00:25:40,240 --> 00:25:41,919
Speaker 1: And I just make eye connectively said hi to me,

584
00:25:41,960 --> 00:25:43,560
Speaker 1: and then I would like go in like I was

585
00:25:43,640 --> 00:25:45,240
Speaker 1: like on it.

586
00:25:45,240 --> 00:25:46,080
Speaker 4: It's crazy.

587
00:25:46,200 --> 00:25:48,240
Speaker 2: It's true, though, there is so much pressure, and it's

588
00:25:48,280 --> 00:25:50,639
Speaker 2: like and then you get to a certain age and

589
00:25:50,680 --> 00:25:59,640
Speaker 2: because of the societal pressure, it's like people are like, I'm.

590
00:25:57,720 --> 00:26:00,919
Speaker 3: Like they after you haven't thought about it, Like we

591
00:26:01,040 --> 00:26:03,480
Speaker 3: as women, we've thought about this stuff since we're young,

592
00:26:03,600 --> 00:26:03,800
Speaker 3: you know.

593
00:26:04,040 --> 00:26:05,920
Speaker 1: So it's like, how many people have asked you if

594
00:26:05,920 --> 00:26:06,959
Speaker 1: you've frozen your eggs?

595
00:26:07,000 --> 00:26:13,920
Speaker 3: Seventy five thousand, ye one thing? And I'm like, it's

596
00:26:13,960 --> 00:26:16,320
Speaker 3: not like I don't mind talking about it. It's just

597
00:26:16,400 --> 00:26:19,440
Speaker 3: like it just bothers me that those are the first

598
00:26:19,480 --> 00:26:22,280
Speaker 3: questions that we always ask women, like are you this

599
00:26:22,320 --> 00:26:23,720
Speaker 3: and that? And like are you going to freeze your eggs?

600
00:26:23,720 --> 00:26:25,480
Speaker 3: And I'm like, well, you haven't asked a man if

601
00:26:25,480 --> 00:26:26,800
Speaker 3: you got a sperm checked?

602
00:26:26,920 --> 00:26:29,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, so sorry, I may I always get, but I

603
00:26:29,760 --> 00:26:31,720
Speaker 1: always get the when I say I haven't frozen my eggs,

604
00:26:31,720 --> 00:26:32,560
Speaker 1: I get the why not?

605
00:26:33,040 --> 00:26:33,280
Speaker 3: I know.

606
00:26:33,480 --> 00:26:35,879
Speaker 1: I'm like, obviously, this is something I thought about.

607
00:26:36,400 --> 00:26:38,760
Speaker 3: Very And then if you say your reason like I

608
00:26:38,760 --> 00:26:40,600
Speaker 3: didn't know you hadn't, I haven't either, and I don't

609
00:26:40,600 --> 00:26:42,520
Speaker 3: plan to. It's not the right choice for me. Yeah,

610
00:26:42,520 --> 00:26:45,440
Speaker 3: And I have like a list of reasons. I wrote

611
00:26:45,440 --> 00:26:47,480
Speaker 3: a pros and cons list. I'm a virgo, Like I

612
00:26:47,560 --> 00:26:49,720
Speaker 3: really did think about it. Yeah, right, I say my

613
00:26:49,800 --> 00:26:53,439
Speaker 3: reasons and then like people will still write me and

614
00:26:53,480 --> 00:26:55,200
Speaker 3: be like I know you think this, but like you're

615
00:26:55,200 --> 00:26:57,680
Speaker 3: gonna regret this, and like that's a wild thing to say.

616
00:26:57,720 --> 00:26:59,720
Speaker 3: To someone. Yeah, it's a wild thing to say to

617
00:26:59,760 --> 00:27:02,200
Speaker 3: someone when they've clearly put a lot of thought into it. Yeah.

618
00:27:02,240 --> 00:27:04,800
Speaker 3: And it's such a personal choice, and I think because

619
00:27:04,800 --> 00:27:07,399
Speaker 3: it is such a sensitive thing, there is a lot

620
00:27:07,440 --> 00:27:10,159
Speaker 3: of projection when it comes to it. So it's like

621
00:27:10,520 --> 00:27:12,840
Speaker 3: everybody needs to research and do what's best for them.

622
00:27:12,960 --> 00:27:15,199
Speaker 3: I'm so glad it's an option for women. I really am.

623
00:27:15,240 --> 00:27:17,560
Speaker 3: I think yeah totally. I said that. I'm like, I

624
00:27:18,400 --> 00:27:20,919
Speaker 3: love that it's an option. It's amazing. It's not my option.

625
00:27:21,040 --> 00:27:21,639
Speaker 3: It's not for me.

626
00:27:21,840 --> 00:27:24,560
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah, but always it's always followed up with

627
00:27:24,640 --> 00:27:27,000
Speaker 1: like the one hundred slew of things.

628
00:27:27,160 --> 00:27:28,760
Speaker 3: Yeah, thank you so much.

629
00:27:29,600 --> 00:27:31,480
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's it is what.

630
00:27:31,960 --> 00:27:34,119
Speaker 1: Uh Well, I wanted to kind of shift into the

631
00:27:34,119 --> 00:27:37,680
Speaker 1: book because I know it comes out May six. Yes,

632
00:27:37,840 --> 00:27:39,680
Speaker 1: so the plan is the book comes out May six.

633
00:27:41,200 --> 00:27:43,960
Speaker 1: When does the series come out? Have you started working

634
00:27:43,960 --> 00:27:47,040
Speaker 1: on that at all? We are in the beginning stages.

635
00:27:47,119 --> 00:27:48,600
Speaker 1: I'm so new to this process.

636
00:27:48,640 --> 00:27:50,959
Speaker 3: I'm learning. I'm going to be an executive executive producer,

637
00:27:50,960 --> 00:27:53,119
Speaker 3: which I'm so excited about. So do you pick the cast?

638
00:27:53,480 --> 00:27:58,280
Speaker 3: I think yeah, but they've been amazing so far. So

639
00:27:58,320 --> 00:28:01,200
Speaker 3: we're starting to do the meeting and kind of look

640
00:28:01,240 --> 00:28:03,639
Speaker 3: at writers and everything, which is really cool.

641
00:28:03,520 --> 00:28:04,679
Speaker 4: Okay in your mind?

642
00:28:04,840 --> 00:28:07,600
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, and who's like the ideal like your main

643
00:28:08,200 --> 00:28:08,560
Speaker 1: I have.

644
00:28:08,480 --> 00:28:09,840
Speaker 3: A list, but I don't want to jinx it. I

645
00:28:09,840 --> 00:28:11,199
Speaker 3: have I have a list in my head. I have

646
00:28:11,200 --> 00:28:12,840
Speaker 3: a list on my phone so that if it comes true,

647
00:28:12,880 --> 00:28:15,280
Speaker 3: I can show everyone. But like I'm manifesting, so I

648
00:28:15,280 --> 00:28:15,919
Speaker 3: can't chink it.

649
00:28:15,960 --> 00:28:17,840
Speaker 4: Do you have more than one person for each cast

650
00:28:17,920 --> 00:28:18,400
Speaker 4: or you just have.

651
00:28:19,119 --> 00:28:21,480
Speaker 3: I have like the cast in my mind. Oh wow,

652
00:28:22,720 --> 00:28:24,560
Speaker 3: I am kind of a good manifestor so we'll see

653
00:28:24,560 --> 00:28:25,280
Speaker 3: if it happens.

654
00:28:25,359 --> 00:28:28,359
Speaker 2: But yeah, fingers, does the main character in your mind

655
00:28:28,359 --> 00:28:29,520
Speaker 2: look like you?

656
00:28:29,520 --> 00:28:29,680
Speaker 4: No?

657
00:28:29,920 --> 00:28:33,240
Speaker 3: Oh no, I made her like blind with like big

658
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Speaker 3: boobs and like really sexy because like I don't know,

659
00:28:36,320 --> 00:28:40,040
Speaker 3: that's what I imagine. I wanted to work out because

660
00:28:40,080 --> 00:28:41,840
Speaker 3: like when I was writing it, I was like this

661
00:28:41,880 --> 00:28:43,400
Speaker 3: will be made into a movie or a show. Like

662
00:28:43,440 --> 00:28:45,400
Speaker 3: I was like manifesting while I was doing it, So

663
00:28:45,440 --> 00:28:47,720
Speaker 3: I was like, wow, like who do I think of you?

664
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Speaker 2: Know?

665
00:28:48,200 --> 00:28:51,440
Speaker 4: What do you do? You seem powerful in your manifestations?

666
00:28:51,440 --> 00:28:53,480
Speaker 4: How what is what is the key?

667
00:28:53,720 --> 00:28:57,080
Speaker 3: I think just like you always have to be like

668
00:28:57,080 --> 00:29:00,280
Speaker 3: like having fun I like love Gabby Bernstein. I'm like,

669
00:29:00,320 --> 00:29:02,640
Speaker 3: if you have are having fun, like the manifesting will

670
00:29:02,640 --> 00:29:07,760
Speaker 3: come easy. And it's like I write a lot of

671
00:29:07,800 --> 00:29:10,960
Speaker 3: lists and I do a lot of treadmill manifesting, which

672
00:29:10,960 --> 00:29:13,320
Speaker 3: is where you just are on the treadmill and you're

673
00:29:13,440 --> 00:29:14,640
Speaker 3: like or you can be on a walk and you

674
00:29:14,720 --> 00:29:18,880
Speaker 3: like visualize what you want to happen. I just started

675
00:29:18,920 --> 00:29:21,680
Speaker 3: doing this. It's like I just started walking like it

676
00:29:21,800 --> 00:29:24,200
Speaker 3: sounds just say. I always just.

677
00:29:24,120 --> 00:29:25,680
Speaker 1: To think that I needed to like do like crazy

678
00:29:25,720 --> 00:29:27,440
Speaker 1: like berries and like hit workouts and stuff, and I've

679
00:29:27,480 --> 00:29:29,680
Speaker 1: just started like doing this like ten thousand steps a day.

680
00:29:29,760 --> 00:29:30,360
Speaker 3: It's the best.

681
00:29:30,440 --> 00:29:32,160
Speaker 1: I just started like two weeks before my wedding and

682
00:29:32,160 --> 00:29:33,720
Speaker 1: now I'm like obsessed with it. But I was like,

683
00:29:33,760 --> 00:29:36,160
Speaker 1: this is a great time. It's built in like hour

684
00:29:36,720 --> 00:29:38,960
Speaker 1: where I'm not I don't have anything to do that

685
00:29:39,040 --> 00:29:41,520
Speaker 1: I can start like really visualizing things.

686
00:29:41,640 --> 00:29:44,200
Speaker 3: No, it's it's the best. I really love to walk,

687
00:29:44,280 --> 00:29:46,840
Speaker 3: like I walk every day. I do my rich mom walks,

688
00:29:46,880 --> 00:29:50,520
Speaker 3: and it's like where it's I do a lot of imagining,

689
00:29:50,600 --> 00:29:53,760
Speaker 3: like visualization, you just like imagine it and it's I

690
00:29:53,800 --> 00:29:54,240
Speaker 3: don't know.

691
00:29:54,440 --> 00:29:56,600
Speaker 4: What does a rich mom walk intol.

692
00:29:56,440 --> 00:29:59,120
Speaker 3: Okay, So when I was doing my rich mom starter

693
00:29:59,240 --> 00:30:01,520
Speaker 3: packs on social media, can think.

694
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Speaker 4: Of an example of a like, let's do a Malibu

695
00:30:04,120 --> 00:30:04,720
Speaker 4: rich mom starter.

696
00:30:04,880 --> 00:30:07,960
Speaker 3: A Malviy rich mom starter pack is like a g

697
00:30:08,160 --> 00:30:10,480
Speaker 3: wagon that has like an appropriate amount of scuffs on

698
00:30:10,520 --> 00:30:12,160
Speaker 3: it because you're a cool girl and you don't care

699
00:30:12,200 --> 00:30:14,120
Speaker 3: too much, and like also you've got seven of them,

700
00:30:14,400 --> 00:30:18,560
Speaker 3: Aviator Nation sweatpants, a sun Life smoothie which you don't

701
00:30:18,760 --> 00:30:21,640
Speaker 3: actually eat because it has low key twenty thousand calories

702
00:30:21,640 --> 00:30:25,560
Speaker 3: in it, some sort of a trucker hat that's like

703
00:30:25,640 --> 00:30:29,000
Speaker 3: faded that says like Malibu on it, like a lot

704
00:30:29,040 --> 00:30:32,440
Speaker 3: of like logan hollow all jewelry that's like casually like

705
00:30:32,480 --> 00:30:34,480
Speaker 3: fifty thousand dollars on your neck, even though it like

706
00:30:34,560 --> 00:30:38,520
Speaker 3: might get lost in the waves. But yeah, I'm basically

707
00:30:38,560 --> 00:30:41,200
Speaker 3: obsessed with like rich mom places and the women who

708
00:30:41,240 --> 00:30:43,560
Speaker 3: live in them. But then it kind of evolved into

709
00:30:43,760 --> 00:30:46,520
Speaker 3: rich mom energy, which like anybody can have rich mom energy.

710
00:30:46,560 --> 00:30:48,880
Speaker 3: You don't have to be rich or mom, you just

711
00:30:49,040 --> 00:30:51,520
Speaker 3: it's like rich moms get shit done. They have an

712
00:30:51,520 --> 00:30:55,680
Speaker 3: incredible sense of like power and beauty and they're fabulous.

713
00:30:55,720 --> 00:30:57,840
Speaker 3: So then I started calling you rich mom walks, which

714
00:30:57,880 --> 00:31:01,280
Speaker 3: is just like a walk you take could be five minutes,

715
00:31:01,320 --> 00:31:05,160
Speaker 3: could be an hour, and you just like to your point,

716
00:31:05,520 --> 00:31:08,400
Speaker 3: walking is literally the key to life. Like any problem

717
00:31:08,520 --> 00:31:10,120
Speaker 3: that you have, if you go on a walk, it's

718
00:31:10,120 --> 00:31:12,280
Speaker 3: like eighty percent solved when you come back. It really

719
00:31:12,320 --> 00:31:17,720
Speaker 3: helps you think. And people don't walk enough. In my opinion,

720
00:31:17,800 --> 00:31:20,280
Speaker 3: I'm I have to get ten k steps to day

721
00:31:20,360 --> 00:31:23,840
Speaker 3: or I go mentally insane. And you can go get

722
00:31:23,880 --> 00:31:26,040
Speaker 3: a coffee, you can talk to someone on the phone,

723
00:31:26,520 --> 00:31:28,320
Speaker 3: just use it as your U time, Like we really

724
00:31:28,400 --> 00:31:31,280
Speaker 3: don't have enough time to just do simple things. Yeah,

725
00:31:31,320 --> 00:31:33,640
Speaker 3: and that's why I'm so passionate about walking.

726
00:31:34,040 --> 00:31:36,720
Speaker 4: Yeah, you and Tanya are really it's the best.

727
00:31:36,920 --> 00:31:37,600
Speaker 3: It really is.

728
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Speaker 1: I know I've become like a I'm like, where has

729
00:31:39,640 --> 00:31:41,840
Speaker 1: this been my whole life? So I've been like beating

730
00:31:41,880 --> 00:31:45,360
Speaker 1: myself at these gyms, and it's just like it's in

731
00:31:45,400 --> 00:31:45,760
Speaker 1: the walk.

732
00:31:45,920 --> 00:31:47,440
Speaker 3: It's in the walk. Yeah.

733
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Speaker 2: I was going to get into your physical fitness journey

734
00:31:51,360 --> 00:31:53,400
Speaker 2: because I feel like I've seen you talk a lot

735
00:31:53,400 --> 00:31:56,560
Speaker 2: about that and how much it's transformed. No, like again,

736
00:31:56,640 --> 00:31:58,720
Speaker 2: not only just like your physical body, but it seems

737
00:31:58,760 --> 00:32:03,080
Speaker 2: like your mental confidence yes, like thinking even I remember

738
00:32:03,120 --> 00:32:05,840
Speaker 2: seeing videos of you, like being upset after dates and

739
00:32:05,920 --> 00:32:09,000
Speaker 2: like on the internet, and I feel and obviously there

740
00:32:09,000 --> 00:32:14,680
Speaker 2: comes like with time, there comes perspective totally, but in general,

741
00:32:14,720 --> 00:32:17,800
Speaker 2: I feel like you have had this glow up that's

742
00:32:17,800 --> 00:32:18,320
Speaker 2: so nice.

743
00:32:18,400 --> 00:32:22,960
Speaker 3: Thank you. I feel like weightlifting literally changed my life.

744
00:32:23,000 --> 00:32:25,200
Speaker 3: And I always was one of those people who thought

745
00:32:25,480 --> 00:32:28,640
Speaker 3: it's not for me, it's gonna make me bulky, it's

746
00:32:28,680 --> 00:32:31,400
Speaker 3: for really intense people like I never thought it would

747
00:32:31,400 --> 00:32:34,400
Speaker 3: be me. And then like a year and a half ago,

748
00:32:34,520 --> 00:32:38,200
Speaker 3: I guess like cliche, I started in January of twenty

749
00:32:38,640 --> 00:32:43,080
Speaker 3: twenty four. I was like, you know what, let me

750
00:32:43,160 --> 00:32:45,720
Speaker 3: just try. Let me commit to six months and really

751
00:32:46,120 --> 00:32:48,240
Speaker 3: not give up this time, because I've started a million

752
00:32:48,280 --> 00:32:52,160
Speaker 3: times like everybody, it's just so normal to quit and

753
00:32:52,600 --> 00:32:55,600
Speaker 3: I am obsessed with it. So I train. I like

754
00:32:55,680 --> 00:32:59,920
Speaker 3: lift heavy weights. There's something about the hardness of it.

755
00:33:00,080 --> 00:33:02,800
Speaker 3: Like I know all workouts are hard, berries is hard,

756
00:33:02,840 --> 00:33:06,400
Speaker 3: pilates is hard, but there's something about like almost primal

757
00:33:06,440 --> 00:33:09,400
Speaker 3: about lifting heavy things and like getting stronger that just

758
00:33:09,480 --> 00:33:13,880
Speaker 3: makes you feel so proud of yourself. And also I

759
00:33:13,920 --> 00:33:16,400
Speaker 3: think as adults, like we don't often get the chance

760
00:33:16,480 --> 00:33:19,120
Speaker 3: to become better at something, like by the time you're

761
00:33:19,120 --> 00:33:20,880
Speaker 3: in your thirties, you're like, you know what you're good at.

762
00:33:20,920 --> 00:33:23,000
Speaker 3: You stick to those things. You don't really learn new

763
00:33:23,040 --> 00:33:27,320
Speaker 3: things that often. And so for me, when I started weightlifting,

764
00:33:27,320 --> 00:33:29,760
Speaker 3: I was like, this is hard. I feel not good

765
00:33:29,840 --> 00:33:32,280
Speaker 3: at it. I feel, you know, like I'm a loser

766
00:33:32,360 --> 00:33:35,920
Speaker 3: and whatever. And just building up my strength has been incredible.

767
00:33:35,960 --> 00:33:40,120
Speaker 3: So I'm like such a big advocate for weightlifting, and yeah,

768
00:33:40,160 --> 00:33:43,200
Speaker 3: weightlifting and walking and it's good. And also, like to

769
00:33:43,280 --> 00:33:46,200
Speaker 3: your point, it does when you turn inwards, all the

770
00:33:46,200 --> 00:33:49,040
Speaker 3: rest of the stuff gets easier. You're like, ah, I

771
00:33:49,080 --> 00:33:50,920
Speaker 3: don't really care. Oh it's a bad day, Like I'll

772
00:33:50,920 --> 00:33:52,040
Speaker 3: get over it, like whatever.

773
00:33:52,600 --> 00:33:55,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, I like what you said about that, because I

774
00:33:55,640 --> 00:33:58,760
Speaker 2: also sometimes and I have this mentality that I feel

775
00:33:58,800 --> 00:34:01,040
Speaker 2: like has held me back so much, which is if

776
00:34:01,080 --> 00:34:02,960
Speaker 2: I'm not immediately good at it.

777
00:34:03,080 --> 00:34:04,600
Speaker 3: I won't try it totally.

778
00:34:04,840 --> 00:34:07,040
Speaker 2: And so I always think, like, what are the things

779
00:34:07,040 --> 00:34:09,200
Speaker 2: that I've missed out on that maybe I've had interest in,

780
00:34:09,280 --> 00:34:10,759
Speaker 2: but I've been scared that I'm not going to be

781
00:34:10,800 --> 00:34:13,279
Speaker 2: good at it, So therefore I just go or I

782
00:34:13,360 --> 00:34:15,239
Speaker 2: do what you do, and I what you did. And

783
00:34:15,280 --> 00:34:17,680
Speaker 2: I start something and then if I'm not immediately good

784
00:34:17,680 --> 00:34:19,600
Speaker 2: at it or don't feel strong in it, I'm like, yeah,

785
00:34:19,640 --> 00:34:20,840
Speaker 2: I quit totally.

786
00:34:21,080 --> 00:34:23,120
Speaker 3: I'm the same way, like I really hate being bad

787
00:34:23,120 --> 00:34:25,480
Speaker 3: at things. I think it's especially at this stage in

788
00:34:25,520 --> 00:34:27,680
Speaker 3: my life. I feel like embarrassed if I'm not good

789
00:34:27,680 --> 00:34:29,280
Speaker 3: at something or I don't know how to do something.

790
00:34:29,800 --> 00:34:31,799
Speaker 3: And I was like, you know what, nobody is thinking

791
00:34:31,840 --> 00:34:34,359
Speaker 3: about me as much as I'm thinking about me, And

792
00:34:34,880 --> 00:34:37,440
Speaker 3: this is just like so many of my friends have

793
00:34:37,480 --> 00:34:39,439
Speaker 3: gotten into it, and it's also really important as women

794
00:34:39,480 --> 00:34:42,560
Speaker 3: that like for our bone density and just the strength training.

795
00:34:42,640 --> 00:34:45,200
Speaker 3: So I was like, let me just commit to six

796
00:34:45,239 --> 00:34:47,839
Speaker 3: months and see it was hard. I really almost quit

797
00:34:48,000 --> 00:34:50,640
Speaker 3: like three four months, and then I was like, I'm

798
00:34:50,680 --> 00:34:53,040
Speaker 3: so glad I pushed through because now I'm obsessed. It's

799
00:34:53,080 --> 00:34:55,759
Speaker 3: just really also so good for my mental health. Yeah,

800
00:34:55,880 --> 00:34:58,160
Speaker 3: thing is just different about it. Of course, I love

801
00:34:58,200 --> 00:35:01,080
Speaker 3: the pilates class with the girlies. That's so fun. I

802
00:35:01,080 --> 00:35:03,600
Speaker 3: love that stuff. I love all the classes are great,

803
00:35:03,640 --> 00:35:06,600
Speaker 3: but there's something about like the weightlifting that just makes

804
00:35:06,640 --> 00:35:09,880
Speaker 3: me has really helped transform me.

805
00:35:25,400 --> 00:35:30,080
Speaker 2: I wanted to talk to you about making friends in

806
00:35:30,120 --> 00:35:33,200
Speaker 2: your thirties and even I think twenties, because I think

807
00:35:33,239 --> 00:35:37,400
Speaker 2: once you're out of an organized like school system, or

808
00:35:38,440 --> 00:35:40,800
Speaker 2: I mean, it's hard even now because everything's remote, so

809
00:35:40,840 --> 00:35:42,840
Speaker 2: a lot of people don't even go into a work environment.

810
00:35:43,120 --> 00:35:44,640
Speaker 2: So a lot of people are just sitting at home

811
00:35:45,000 --> 00:35:47,640
Speaker 2: on their phones or computers working and they don't have

812
00:35:47,719 --> 00:35:51,200
Speaker 2: any interaction or ways of like making friends. What is

813
00:35:51,239 --> 00:35:54,120
Speaker 2: the advice you give people who are searching for friendship

814
00:35:54,160 --> 00:35:54,680
Speaker 2: and connection.

815
00:35:55,440 --> 00:35:58,200
Speaker 3: I think you have to actually like put in the work,

816
00:35:58,239 --> 00:35:59,799
Speaker 3: because it is one of the most common questions that

817
00:35:59,800 --> 00:36:01,520
Speaker 3: I got. People are like, I need to make more friends,

818
00:36:01,600 --> 00:36:04,400
Speaker 3: especially single people are like I need to make single friends,

819
00:36:04,440 --> 00:36:06,760
Speaker 3: like that you alone, especially as my friends get married,

820
00:36:06,760 --> 00:36:09,719
Speaker 3: And I totally feel that it's really scary to feel like, oh,

821
00:36:09,800 --> 00:36:11,080
Speaker 3: I have literally no one to go out with on

822
00:36:11,120 --> 00:36:14,319
Speaker 3: a Friday night when I'm single or whatever. But you know,

823
00:36:14,800 --> 00:36:19,120
Speaker 3: the thing is, especially post pandemic people sometimes like they're

824
00:36:19,160 --> 00:36:20,640
Speaker 3: like I don't have any friends. I don't have any friends,

825
00:36:20,640 --> 00:36:22,080
Speaker 3: And I'm like, okay, well have you tried, Like have

826
00:36:22,120 --> 00:36:24,080
Speaker 3: you You have to go make the effort. You have

827
00:36:24,080 --> 00:36:25,560
Speaker 3: to go to the workout class and say hey to

828
00:36:25,600 --> 00:36:29,000
Speaker 3: the girl you have to go if. I always say

829
00:36:29,040 --> 00:36:30,799
Speaker 3: to do whatever you like to do. So if you

830
00:36:30,920 --> 00:36:33,160
Speaker 3: like to run, join the run club. Do it, even

831
00:36:33,200 --> 00:36:35,520
Speaker 3: if it means you're getting a slower time or you're

832
00:36:35,520 --> 00:36:37,839
Speaker 3: not getting as good a run. Go do the social thing.

833
00:36:37,920 --> 00:36:39,840
Speaker 3: If you like to go out, like I like to

834
00:36:39,880 --> 00:36:42,480
Speaker 3: go out, so I've made a lot of friends out partying.

835
00:36:42,560 --> 00:36:44,520
Speaker 3: I know that sounds silly, but that's what I like

836
00:36:44,560 --> 00:36:46,040
Speaker 3: to do. I meet friends out and then we go

837
00:36:46,080 --> 00:36:49,360
Speaker 3: out together because that's how I spend my time. Another

838
00:36:49,440 --> 00:36:52,439
Speaker 3: great hack is, like single people always think to ask

839
00:36:52,560 --> 00:36:56,120
Speaker 3: married people for a setup. They're terrible it setups.

840
00:36:56,160 --> 00:36:56,640
Speaker 2: We know this.

841
00:36:58,080 --> 00:37:00,120
Speaker 3: A really good thing to do is ask the do

842
00:37:00,160 --> 00:37:01,719
Speaker 3: you have any other single friends you could set me

843
00:37:01,800 --> 00:37:04,359
Speaker 3: up with? That's a really and then they're like that's

844
00:37:04,360 --> 00:37:06,279
Speaker 3: a very easy task for them. They're like, yes, I

845
00:37:06,320 --> 00:37:08,759
Speaker 3: know all the single people. I can smush them together.

846
00:37:08,800 --> 00:37:10,680
Speaker 3: And then that's a great way to make friends as well.

847
00:37:10,920 --> 00:37:12,600
Speaker 3: But you have to show up. You have to do

848
00:37:12,680 --> 00:37:16,239
Speaker 3: the awkward first coffee date. Yeah, it's not pleasant. We

849
00:37:16,280 --> 00:37:18,479
Speaker 3: don't like it. Of course, you miss your old best friend,

850
00:37:18,480 --> 00:37:19,960
Speaker 3: but guess what, your best friend lives on the other

851
00:37:20,000 --> 00:37:21,640
Speaker 3: side of the country and she's got a baby, so

852
00:37:22,000 --> 00:37:25,680
Speaker 3: you need to be planting some seeds. I recently made

853
00:37:25,680 --> 00:37:27,839
Speaker 3: a new friend. I made two new friends, and I

854
00:37:27,880 --> 00:37:30,479
Speaker 3: love them so much. Like I got introduced to them

855
00:37:30,920 --> 00:37:33,520
Speaker 3: via my other friend who's married, and she was like,

856
00:37:33,560 --> 00:37:36,040
Speaker 3: you guys should meet. You know, you'll have a great time.

857
00:37:36,080 --> 00:37:38,640
Speaker 3: And we have the best time. Now, Like you just

858
00:37:38,680 --> 00:37:41,400
Speaker 3: have to do the first awkward meeting and see if

859
00:37:41,440 --> 00:37:41,920
Speaker 3: you vibe.

860
00:37:42,160 --> 00:37:44,120
Speaker 2: That's a good point because a lot of our friends

861
00:37:44,280 --> 00:37:46,279
Speaker 2: have other friends. You know, a lot of people don't

862
00:37:46,320 --> 00:37:48,800
Speaker 2: like to merge their friend groups, but they have friends

863
00:37:48,800 --> 00:37:52,080
Speaker 2: from different seasons and it's like the one thing you

864
00:37:52,120 --> 00:37:54,720
Speaker 2: have in common is a friend.

865
00:37:55,080 --> 00:37:58,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, and if you're friends with them, then hopefully they

866
00:37:59,040 --> 00:38:01,600
Speaker 3: have no bad vibes people around them, right, And I

867
00:38:01,640 --> 00:38:03,680
Speaker 3: do believe the saying like good people know good people.

868
00:38:03,840 --> 00:38:06,879
Speaker 3: So if it's a friend, that's you have to ask, like, hey,

869
00:38:06,880 --> 00:38:09,400
Speaker 3: do you know any other single people or whatever, like whatever.

870
00:38:09,200 --> 00:38:10,759
Speaker 4: It may be, it's so true, like you have to

871
00:38:10,800 --> 00:38:12,000
Speaker 4: put in the effort and those.

872
00:38:11,960 --> 00:38:14,480
Speaker 2: The first coffee day with a friend might be worse

873
00:38:14,480 --> 00:38:15,720
Speaker 2: than the first day.

874
00:38:15,760 --> 00:38:17,680
Speaker 3: It might be harder than dating because it's it is

875
00:38:17,719 --> 00:38:19,440
Speaker 3: awkward and you're like I don't know where to go

876
00:38:19,520 --> 00:38:21,560
Speaker 3: with this, and maybe it won't work out, but then

877
00:38:21,560 --> 00:38:23,759
Speaker 3: the next one you will have that instant connection. I

878
00:38:23,800 --> 00:38:27,160
Speaker 3: staying especially with women for me at least, I know,

879
00:38:27,360 --> 00:38:29,520
Speaker 3: like also very fast with a girl. It's like if

880
00:38:29,520 --> 00:38:32,319
Speaker 3: they're vulnerable right away and they're just like, oh my god,

881
00:38:32,360 --> 00:38:34,040
Speaker 3: this and that is going on, I'm like, Oh, we're

882
00:38:34,040 --> 00:38:35,520
Speaker 3: gonna vibe like that's so cool.

883
00:38:35,920 --> 00:38:36,160
Speaker 4: Yeah.

884
00:38:36,400 --> 00:38:38,719
Speaker 2: So do you have any things when you're scrolling or

885
00:38:38,760 --> 00:38:41,719
Speaker 2: like IX about social media or things like when you're

886
00:38:41,760 --> 00:38:44,520
Speaker 2: looking that that you're you just you know how Sometimes

887
00:38:44,600 --> 00:38:46,480
Speaker 2: you'll be scrolling and you'll see something You're like, I

888
00:38:46,520 --> 00:38:48,080
Speaker 2: just need to put my phone down, Like you see

889
00:38:48,080 --> 00:38:49,880
Speaker 2: something in your go okay, this is my phone.

890
00:38:49,880 --> 00:38:50,680
Speaker 4: Time is done.

891
00:38:51,000 --> 00:38:54,839
Speaker 3: I think I am genuinely trying to limit myself more

892
00:38:54,920 --> 00:38:57,480
Speaker 3: and more because it just isn't I don't know, it's

893
00:38:57,520 --> 00:39:00,120
Speaker 3: not feeding me the same way I used to. I

894
00:39:00,120 --> 00:39:02,160
Speaker 3: I try to go on and have fun for a

895
00:39:02,160 --> 00:39:04,560
Speaker 3: little bit and then close out. I'm trying to think

896
00:39:04,600 --> 00:39:07,000
Speaker 3: about what things pick me out. One thing I don't

897
00:39:07,040 --> 00:39:09,759
Speaker 3: love is when people will do on TikTok, like a

898
00:39:09,800 --> 00:39:12,799
Speaker 3: cryptic video. They'll be like, guys, like I was just

899
00:39:12,840 --> 00:39:15,279
Speaker 3: in an event and there was an influencer there and

900
00:39:15,320 --> 00:39:17,880
Speaker 3: you guys all really love her, and she looked at

901
00:39:17,880 --> 00:39:19,480
Speaker 3: me in a really weird way and it just really

902
00:39:19,560 --> 00:39:21,800
Speaker 3: hurt my feelings and she's evil, and then it's like

903
00:39:21,800 --> 00:39:23,080
Speaker 3: a witch hunt in the comments.

904
00:39:23,560 --> 00:39:25,680
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I wasn't there one just recently about Alex

905
00:39:25,760 --> 00:39:26,439
Speaker 1: Earl like that.

906
00:39:26,880 --> 00:39:28,560
Speaker 3: I think there was. Yeah, I feel like I saw

907
00:39:28,600 --> 00:39:31,680
Speaker 3: on TMZ. But also it's just like, here's my thing.

908
00:39:32,040 --> 00:39:34,879
Speaker 3: If you want to start internet beef, start it, like,

909
00:39:35,520 --> 00:39:37,600
Speaker 3: if you really want to go there, then go and

910
00:39:37,600 --> 00:39:39,520
Speaker 3: make a video and be like I'm beefing with this

911
00:39:39,520 --> 00:39:42,840
Speaker 3: person for X y Z reasons. Don't make a cryptic

912
00:39:42,960 --> 00:39:46,160
Speaker 3: video and put a witch hunt so that everybody's trying

913
00:39:46,160 --> 00:39:49,120
Speaker 3: to guess and make it so like I don't know.

914
00:39:49,200 --> 00:39:50,960
Speaker 3: That just rubs me the wrong way. That's like what

915
00:39:51,160 --> 00:39:55,000
Speaker 3: Duma was kind of. Yeah, well that's more like celeb

916
00:39:55,080 --> 00:39:57,360
Speaker 3: gossip or whatever, like spottings and whatever.

917
00:39:57,440 --> 00:39:59,200
Speaker 1: I'm always so bad at them, Like I'll read Dumont

918
00:39:59,440 --> 00:40:01,160
Speaker 1: and then I'm like, who are they talking about?

919
00:40:01,160 --> 00:40:03,680
Speaker 3: And I have to like go on the comments like yeah,

920
00:40:03,680 --> 00:40:06,440
Speaker 3: I know. I like sometimes I'll see the blind items

921
00:40:06,480 --> 00:40:08,480
Speaker 3: on TikTok and I love them, and they're always like

922
00:40:08,520 --> 00:40:11,319
Speaker 3: in code, they're like the sexy actress and I'm like,

923
00:40:11,400 --> 00:40:12,560
Speaker 3: I don't know who it is, and then it's so

924
00:40:12,640 --> 00:40:14,160
Speaker 3: obvious I got him.

925
00:40:14,840 --> 00:40:17,560
Speaker 4: Have you ever been the subject of one of those videos?

926
00:40:18,200 --> 00:40:20,120
Speaker 3: They always think it's me, That's what maybe why I

927
00:40:20,120 --> 00:40:22,799
Speaker 3: hate them, Always like it's cheeks, isn't it? And I'm like,

928
00:40:22,880 --> 00:40:24,880
Speaker 3: I literally don't want to influence their events.

929
00:40:24,880 --> 00:40:27,440
Speaker 4: They give me anxiety. And the person's always like, no,

930
00:40:27,520 --> 00:40:27,880
Speaker 4: it's not.

931
00:40:30,080 --> 00:40:32,600
Speaker 2: It's always nice when they make sure to let people

932
00:40:32,640 --> 00:40:33,279
Speaker 2: know it's not.

933
00:40:33,600 --> 00:40:35,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, And then that's the most annoying part is and

934
00:40:35,680 --> 00:40:37,359
Speaker 3: they go through the comments they're like, no, it's not her,

935
00:40:37,360 --> 00:40:37,640
Speaker 3: No it's not.

936
00:40:37,960 --> 00:40:39,080
Speaker 4: But didn't just say like.

937
00:40:39,080 --> 00:40:43,080
Speaker 3: Oh my god, like enough it's not. It's just like silly.

938
00:40:43,239 --> 00:40:45,320
Speaker 4: Can we talk about your DJ?

939
00:40:46,000 --> 00:40:46,239
Speaker 3: Yes?

940
00:40:46,760 --> 00:40:50,680
Speaker 2: Because I was at an event for uh, did you

941
00:40:50,760 --> 00:40:52,680
Speaker 2: DJ something with Tyler Cameron?

942
00:40:52,840 --> 00:40:53,520
Speaker 4: Like an event?

943
00:40:53,680 --> 00:40:56,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, okay last year I did it for his he

944
00:40:56,680 --> 00:40:59,279
Speaker 3: had a show, yeah, and it was his the launch party,

945
00:40:59,320 --> 00:41:00,560
Speaker 3: I believe, So he was.

946
00:41:00,520 --> 00:41:03,000
Speaker 4: There and I was like, is that Tinks DJ?

947
00:41:03,320 --> 00:41:04,919
Speaker 2: And they're like yeah, And I was like I didn't

948
00:41:04,920 --> 00:41:07,320
Speaker 2: even know that that was something you did.

949
00:41:07,520 --> 00:41:10,360
Speaker 3: I just started speaking of learning new things as an adult.

950
00:41:10,640 --> 00:41:13,640
Speaker 3: I wanted to learn. I do it with my best

951
00:41:13,640 --> 00:41:16,800
Speaker 3: friend Lucas. We have known each other for like almost

952
00:41:16,800 --> 00:41:19,799
Speaker 3: ten years, and he's worked in music and we love

953
00:41:19,880 --> 00:41:22,000
Speaker 3: to party together. We have a big group of friends,

954
00:41:22,000 --> 00:41:24,319
Speaker 3: and we were like, how can we ensure that our

955
00:41:24,360 --> 00:41:26,759
Speaker 3: friends get together like six times a year for sure,

956
00:41:26,920 --> 00:41:30,160
Speaker 3: and also how can we get paid to party? And

957
00:41:30,239 --> 00:41:32,640
Speaker 3: so now we DJ and he taught me and it's

958
00:41:32,680 --> 00:41:34,960
Speaker 3: really fun. We've been doing it for I guess like

959
00:41:34,960 --> 00:41:38,400
Speaker 3: a year and a half now, and it was really

960
00:41:38,440 --> 00:41:40,279
Speaker 3: hard to learn. I don't know why everyone makes fun

961
00:41:40,320 --> 00:41:42,600
Speaker 3: of DJ's being like it's so easy. I'm not easy.

962
00:41:42,640 --> 00:41:48,879
Speaker 3: It's really hardy. But it's an incredible fun hobby. And

963
00:41:49,360 --> 00:41:51,719
Speaker 3: like I said, I love to learn and be bad

964
00:41:51,760 --> 00:41:55,520
Speaker 3: at something, and like it's scary, especially because obviously there's

965
00:41:55,520 --> 00:41:57,439
Speaker 3: a cliche of like, oh, the influence are becoming DJ,

966
00:41:57,640 --> 00:42:00,960
Speaker 3: Like I totally understand that. I think if you look

967
00:42:01,000 --> 00:42:03,520
Speaker 3: at my history, I really have always been a committed

968
00:42:03,560 --> 00:42:06,000
Speaker 3: party girl. So this is the natural progression for me.

969
00:42:07,600 --> 00:42:10,000
Speaker 3: I didn't start partying in Brat's summer, Okay, I've been

970
00:42:10,040 --> 00:42:15,239
Speaker 3: partying since way back, So it's very fun. We're headed

971
00:42:15,280 --> 00:42:18,600
Speaker 3: to Stagecoach this weekend. We're dojing a pop up there,

972
00:42:18,640 --> 00:42:22,560
Speaker 3: which will be amazing. Yes, it's really fun. We feel

973
00:42:22,600 --> 00:42:25,319
Speaker 3: like you're like doing all the things. I like to

974
00:42:25,320 --> 00:42:28,000
Speaker 3: be really busy. I really like to always be working

975
00:42:28,000 --> 00:42:31,680
Speaker 3: on a project. I like again to bring it full circle.

976
00:42:31,719 --> 00:42:33,880
Speaker 3: I really don't like my own thoughts. I'm like, I

977
00:42:33,920 --> 00:42:36,000
Speaker 3: always like to be working on something creative because then

978
00:42:36,000 --> 00:42:42,440
Speaker 3: it keeps me distressed instincts. I think something. There was

979
00:42:42,480 --> 00:42:45,279
Speaker 3: a class in my college called Design your Life, and

980
00:42:45,280 --> 00:42:48,920
Speaker 3: there's a professor and he always talked about how you

981
00:42:48,920 --> 00:42:51,440
Speaker 3: should follow your curiosity, and that's something that's stuck with

982
00:42:51,480 --> 00:42:53,560
Speaker 3: me all these years. He's like, it's really hard when

983
00:42:53,840 --> 00:42:56,279
Speaker 3: older people tell younger people like follow your passion, and

984
00:42:56,360 --> 00:42:58,160
Speaker 3: you're like, I don't know what my passion is. Like

985
00:42:58,160 --> 00:43:00,680
Speaker 3: a lot of the times that feels so that feels

986
00:43:00,760 --> 00:43:03,600
Speaker 3: so like intense to try and figure out what your

987
00:43:03,680 --> 00:43:07,680
Speaker 3: passion is. And then if you follow your curiosity, That's

988
00:43:07,680 --> 00:43:09,759
Speaker 3: something that's always really served me because I'm like, yeah,

989
00:43:09,760 --> 00:43:11,839
Speaker 3: I'm curious to go talk to this person, or I'm

990
00:43:11,880 --> 00:43:14,759
Speaker 3: curious to go like try writing this book or I'm

991
00:43:15,040 --> 00:43:17,960
Speaker 3: curious to try DJing, Like, just follow those things and

992
00:43:18,000 --> 00:43:21,000
Speaker 3: that will help like move you along. And not to

993
00:43:21,040 --> 00:43:23,280
Speaker 3: be corny, but it really puts you in the mindset

994
00:43:23,320 --> 00:43:26,480
Speaker 3: of it's about the experience and the journey. It's not

995
00:43:26,520 --> 00:43:28,759
Speaker 3: about the destination. It's not about the day the book

996
00:43:28,800 --> 00:43:32,080
Speaker 3: comes out. It's about writing it and the creative process,

997
00:43:32,120 --> 00:43:34,720
Speaker 3: and like, if you're proud of your work, then that's

998
00:43:34,719 --> 00:43:38,279
Speaker 3: so important. Same with DJing. It's like, I don't know,

999
00:43:38,320 --> 00:43:40,680
Speaker 3: it's I'm curious to see how far I can take it.

1000
00:43:40,680 --> 00:43:42,440
Speaker 3: It's fun. I like connecting with people.

1001
00:43:43,040 --> 00:43:45,680
Speaker 1: Why not, you know, could you like dj at Coachella

1002
00:43:45,719 --> 00:43:46,120
Speaker 1: one year?

1003
00:43:46,440 --> 00:43:49,239
Speaker 3: That's our dream, I think. So we've DJed, like we

1004
00:43:49,320 --> 00:43:53,719
Speaker 3: DJed the Nylon Party last year at Coachella, we DJed

1005
00:43:54,000 --> 00:43:56,920
Speaker 3: Surflage fourth of July, which was huge for us.

1006
00:43:57,640 --> 00:44:01,600
Speaker 1: That's in Surflage is like in the Hampton, Oh yeah, I.

1007
00:44:01,560 --> 00:44:05,440
Speaker 4: Know what your thing in the Malibou, Yes, yeah, surf Rider, Yeah, that's.

1008
00:44:05,360 --> 00:44:09,120
Speaker 3: I love that place too. But yeah, we we've had

1009
00:44:09,239 --> 00:44:11,839
Speaker 3: so much fun doing it, and it's obviously a great

1010
00:44:11,840 --> 00:44:13,600
Speaker 3: way for me to connect with my community. If they

1011
00:44:13,640 --> 00:44:16,360
Speaker 3: like to party, I'm like, yeah, that's cool, fun.

1012
00:44:16,320 --> 00:44:18,600
Speaker 4: This is your first stage coach, first stage coach.

1013
00:44:18,760 --> 00:44:19,320
Speaker 3: So excited?

1014
00:44:19,480 --> 00:44:22,320
Speaker 4: Are you going like full country girl? What's your vibe?

1015
00:44:22,360 --> 00:44:24,640
Speaker 3: I'm doing like tanks version of country.

1016
00:44:24,800 --> 00:44:26,080
Speaker 4: What is that like?

1017
00:44:26,160 --> 00:44:29,040
Speaker 3: I'm doing a lot of like turquoise jewelry and like

1018
00:44:29,200 --> 00:44:32,920
Speaker 3: the big belts and boots and boots, I have my

1019
00:44:32,960 --> 00:44:33,480
Speaker 3: good boots.

1020
00:44:34,200 --> 00:44:36,480
Speaker 2: Exciting kind of like what era was that where we

1021
00:44:36,520 --> 00:44:38,000
Speaker 2: had a lot of turquoise? Was that?

1022
00:44:38,160 --> 00:44:41,439
Speaker 3: Like it's very like Prince or Countess Luanne inspired. She's

1023
00:44:41,440 --> 00:44:43,920
Speaker 3: always got like massive like necklaces on.

1024
00:44:44,280 --> 00:44:45,759
Speaker 4: It's like your rich mom stage coach.

1025
00:44:45,800 --> 00:44:48,800
Speaker 3: It's like I feel like a lot of rich moms

1026
00:44:48,840 --> 00:44:50,920
Speaker 3: go to stage coach like they really like it, like

1027
00:44:50,960 --> 00:44:53,640
Speaker 3: it's like time for them to party. And I've heard

1028
00:44:53,640 --> 00:44:56,040
Speaker 3: that that crowded stage coach is slightly older or something

1029
00:44:56,160 --> 00:44:57,120
Speaker 3: saying about that too.

1030
00:44:57,400 --> 00:45:01,040
Speaker 4: It's fun because it's very like hash I think.

1031
00:45:01,440 --> 00:45:03,439
Speaker 2: I mean, there's you still have the It's the same

1032
00:45:03,480 --> 00:45:06,359
Speaker 2: thing because you have the influencers. You have everyone like

1033
00:45:06,800 --> 00:45:09,680
Speaker 2: wanting to go and get their pictures and meet everyone would.

1034
00:45:11,040 --> 00:45:13,080
Speaker 3: More chill, yeah, chill, that's yeah.

1035
00:45:13,120 --> 00:45:13,520
Speaker 4: I love that.

1036
00:45:13,560 --> 00:45:15,799
Speaker 3: I can't wait to experience it. I do like country music.

1037
00:45:15,840 --> 00:45:18,040
Speaker 3: I don't know I don't know too much about it,

1038
00:45:18,040 --> 00:45:19,960
Speaker 3: but I do really always if it's on, I'll keep

1039
00:45:20,000 --> 00:45:21,799
Speaker 3: it on. I like that, and I feel like it's

1040
00:45:21,840 --> 00:45:23,040
Speaker 3: so mainstream now.

1041
00:45:22,960 --> 00:45:24,840
Speaker 4: So it's it's more about the vibes.

1042
00:45:25,719 --> 00:45:29,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, since you're big on manifesting, what are the next

1043
00:45:30,760 --> 00:45:31,880
Speaker 1: two years?

1044
00:45:32,200 --> 00:45:32,399
Speaker 3: Dude?

1045
00:45:32,400 --> 00:45:33,279
Speaker 4: Got manifest thems?

1046
00:45:33,280 --> 00:45:34,240
Speaker 3: You can't tell us well?

1047
00:45:34,280 --> 00:45:37,000
Speaker 1: Like, I mean, there's something about speaking into the universal.

1048
00:45:36,960 --> 00:45:39,719
Speaker 3: No totally well recently, and I don't know if I'm

1049
00:45:39,719 --> 00:45:41,920
Speaker 3: going to pursue this. So I recently moved to New

1050
00:45:42,000 --> 00:45:45,080
Speaker 3: York and I've noticed that there's no good frozen yogurt shops,

1051
00:45:45,440 --> 00:45:49,319
Speaker 3: and I everyone on my team is like clenching their

1052
00:45:49,360 --> 00:45:51,200
Speaker 3: but holes to see if I actually forced them to

1053
00:45:51,239 --> 00:45:52,680
Speaker 3: go down this road because I was. I was like

1054
00:45:52,680 --> 00:45:54,799
Speaker 3: this week, I was like another thing. I think I'd

1055
00:45:54,800 --> 00:45:56,520
Speaker 3: like to open a frozen yogurt shop in New York

1056
00:45:56,560 --> 00:45:58,640
Speaker 3: because I the best part about LA is like all

1057
00:45:58,640 --> 00:46:00,480
Speaker 3: the fro yo and like, yeah, when you're in a

1058
00:46:00,520 --> 00:46:03,239
Speaker 3: suburban place, they have the best frozen yogurt and it's

1059
00:46:03,280 --> 00:46:06,279
Speaker 3: like such a treat and everybody loves it. Why would

1060
00:46:06,280 --> 00:46:07,600
Speaker 3: you not have that in New York City? Like the

1061
00:46:07,640 --> 00:46:11,360
Speaker 3: girlies need a fabulous place, and I would make it stunning,

1062
00:46:11,480 --> 00:46:15,400
Speaker 3: like I would make it blonde wood, warm lighting, so

1063
00:46:15,480 --> 00:46:18,239
Speaker 3: it's not like scary. You could go and sit with

1064
00:46:18,239 --> 00:46:20,480
Speaker 3: your friends and have amazing froyo. So I don't know,

1065
00:46:20,520 --> 00:46:22,200
Speaker 3: I kind of like jokingly said that I wanted to

1066
00:46:22,200 --> 00:46:24,080
Speaker 3: make that, but I don't know. I'm just going to

1067
00:46:24,120 --> 00:46:26,200
Speaker 3: follow my curiosity. As long as I'm like happy in

1068
00:46:26,239 --> 00:46:31,640
Speaker 3: the moment and working on some projects, I'm just kind of, yeah.

1069
00:46:31,160 --> 00:46:34,320
Speaker 2: I'm taking that with me after today, following your curt curiosity,

1070
00:46:34,360 --> 00:46:36,719
Speaker 2: because I do think there's when people ask what are

1071
00:46:36,719 --> 00:46:38,240
Speaker 2: your passion what are you passionate about?

1072
00:46:38,239 --> 00:46:40,680
Speaker 4: I get so overwhelmed because I'm like, it.

1073
00:46:40,600 --> 00:46:43,840
Speaker 3: Feels so vinyl, it feel like it feels so like intense.

1074
00:46:43,960 --> 00:46:46,120
Speaker 1: I always say, like this new TV show I'm watching

1075
00:46:46,840 --> 00:46:47,400
Speaker 1: so embarrassing.

1076
00:46:47,480 --> 00:46:49,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, but curiosity, it's like And also, if you're ever

1077
00:46:49,680 --> 00:46:51,680
Speaker 3: feeling stuck, you just go back to that and you're like,

1078
00:46:51,719 --> 00:46:53,520
Speaker 3: what am I curious about right now? It could be

1079
00:46:53,560 --> 00:46:55,560
Speaker 3: something so small. It could be a person that you

1080
00:46:55,640 --> 00:46:56,839
Speaker 3: met that you want to have a coffee with and

1081
00:46:56,880 --> 00:46:59,759
Speaker 3: learn about their career whatever. Yeah, it could be a

1082
00:46:59,800 --> 00:47:03,040
Speaker 3: new restaurant, Like never limit yourself, just be like, oh,

1083
00:47:03,080 --> 00:47:04,920
Speaker 3: what is that? Like, why am I talking about fro you?

1084
00:47:05,040 --> 00:47:06,719
Speaker 3: Because I'm curious about it. I don't know, I want

1085
00:47:06,719 --> 00:47:09,799
Speaker 3: to see. Maybe I'll take a meeting. Yeah, I love

1086
00:47:09,840 --> 00:47:13,040
Speaker 3: that too. I'm feeling inspired.

1087
00:47:13,440 --> 00:47:16,719
Speaker 2: I feel like you're one of those people where you

1088
00:47:17,880 --> 00:47:21,360
Speaker 2: have an idea and you go get through always.

1089
00:47:21,520 --> 00:47:22,000
Speaker 4: I love that.

1090
00:47:22,080 --> 00:47:24,520
Speaker 3: I always have to like sometimes it takes years and

1091
00:47:24,560 --> 00:47:27,120
Speaker 3: years and years, but I just keep you just got

1092
00:47:27,120 --> 00:47:30,280
Speaker 3: to keep going and learn. That's a good patience. Patience

1093
00:47:30,320 --> 00:47:32,640
Speaker 3: is hard for me sometimes, but you just got to

1094
00:47:32,719 --> 00:47:35,239
Speaker 3: keep sewing. That a mantra I love is the day

1095
00:47:35,280 --> 00:47:36,919
Speaker 3: you plant the seed is not the day you bear

1096
00:47:36,960 --> 00:47:39,200
Speaker 3: the fruit. Yeah, that's true. I think about that all

1097
00:47:39,200 --> 00:47:41,200
Speaker 3: the time. So I always think about like planting little

1098
00:47:41,239 --> 00:47:44,359
Speaker 3: seeds and they'll flower in the future. We never know when,

1099
00:47:44,400 --> 00:47:46,680
Speaker 3: and that's kind of the exciting part of life. So true.

1100
00:47:46,880 --> 00:47:48,240
Speaker 4: Just start like a walking club.

1101
00:47:48,600 --> 00:47:50,960
Speaker 3: I would love to as well. Yeah we do. Why

1102
00:47:50,960 --> 00:47:53,520
Speaker 3: do rich Mount walks in my community? We get together.

1103
00:47:53,640 --> 00:47:56,319
Speaker 3: We've done like I don't know, eight or something all

1104
00:47:56,320 --> 00:47:57,840
Speaker 3: over the country. It's really fun.

1105
00:47:58,760 --> 00:48:01,400
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's a great rate. Yeah, I know.

1106
00:48:01,600 --> 00:48:03,600
Speaker 1: I get so excited, Like there's I have like this

1107
00:48:03,640 --> 00:48:05,439
Speaker 1: one route, and I ran into like an old friend

1108
00:48:05,440 --> 00:48:06,759
Speaker 1: of min that haven't seen it in years. She's like

1109
00:48:06,760 --> 00:48:09,200
Speaker 1: pregnant now, and we did our ten k steps together

1110
00:48:09,640 --> 00:48:11,880
Speaker 1: and I was like, oh, it flew by, just like

1111
00:48:11,920 --> 00:48:14,399
Speaker 1: having a friend with me, especially somebody that hadn't seen

1112
00:48:14,440 --> 00:48:16,400
Speaker 1: in so long. And so now I'm like, anytime like

1113
00:48:16,400 --> 00:48:18,440
Speaker 1: I can get someone to do my walk with me, I'm.

1114
00:48:18,280 --> 00:48:21,359
Speaker 3: Like so fun. No, No, walking with a friend is

1115
00:48:21,520 --> 00:48:22,200
Speaker 3: the best. Yeah.

1116
00:48:22,200 --> 00:48:24,600
Speaker 2: I have a question that's just will round it out

1117
00:48:24,640 --> 00:48:27,280
Speaker 2: with this because I've been thinking about it the whole podcast.

1118
00:48:27,520 --> 00:48:28,840
Speaker 4: Where did Tinks come from?

1119
00:48:29,280 --> 00:48:34,640
Speaker 3: So? Tinks is it's a nickname that I gave myself

1120
00:48:34,760 --> 00:48:38,759
Speaker 3: when I was like eleven or twelve. It's from a movie.

1121
00:48:38,840 --> 00:48:43,120
Speaker 3: I basically watched this movie. It's called Strike, and it's

1122
00:48:43,160 --> 00:48:44,759
Speaker 3: about an all girls' school and there was this really

1123
00:48:44,800 --> 00:48:46,640
Speaker 3: beautiful girl in it, and she was really confident and

1124
00:48:46,680 --> 00:48:48,839
Speaker 3: her name was Tinka Parker. And so when I got

1125
00:48:48,840 --> 00:48:50,920
Speaker 3: back to school that fall, I was like, guys, call

1126
00:48:51,000 --> 00:48:53,160
Speaker 3: me Tinker Parker from now on, because that's like I'm

1127
00:48:53,160 --> 00:48:55,360
Speaker 3: going to be confident like her or whatever, and it

1128
00:48:55,400 --> 00:48:57,479
Speaker 3: got I don't know why they went with it, because

1129
00:48:57,480 --> 00:48:59,359
Speaker 3: if someone told me to call them Tinker Parker. I'd

1130
00:48:59,400 --> 00:49:02,480
Speaker 3: be like no, and then it got short into tink,

1131
00:49:02,480 --> 00:49:04,440
Speaker 3: and then I got short into Tanks and it just stuck,

1132
00:49:04,640 --> 00:49:07,280
Speaker 3: like for no reason, it just stuck for my whole life.

1133
00:49:07,600 --> 00:49:12,759
Speaker 2: So when you would would you introduce yourself as Tinks.

1134
00:49:11,520 --> 00:49:14,200
Speaker 3: Like in college? I did? Wow. Like in college, I

1135
00:49:14,280 --> 00:49:16,319
Speaker 3: was like, oh, they call me tanks. It's such a

1136
00:49:16,360 --> 00:49:19,239
Speaker 3: cute name. It really works for me. And yeah, maybe

1137
00:49:19,239 --> 00:49:20,440
Speaker 3: I was even manifesting.

1138
00:49:20,640 --> 00:49:23,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like so unique, but just like so cute,

1139
00:49:23,560 --> 00:49:24,800
Speaker 1: Like I don't know another Tinks.

1140
00:49:24,880 --> 00:49:27,920
Speaker 3: No, it's easy, it's short. It's like, and you're the

1141
00:49:27,920 --> 00:49:29,560
Speaker 3: only Tinks, the only Tanks. No.

1142
00:49:29,560 --> 00:49:33,239
Speaker 4: I do you ever want to go back to Christina?

1143
00:49:33,840 --> 00:49:38,640
Speaker 3: Sometimes I do. Sometimes I'm like I've actually found on

1144
00:49:38,760 --> 00:49:42,000
Speaker 3: dating more recently. If I'm meeting someone, I'm like, I'm Christina,

1145
00:49:42,120 --> 00:49:44,279
Speaker 3: like just because I don't want to go into it

1146
00:49:44,320 --> 00:49:46,319
Speaker 3: and I just want a little bit of separation from

1147
00:49:46,320 --> 00:49:48,839
Speaker 3: my job. But I don't know. I always say call

1148
00:49:48,920 --> 00:49:51,160
Speaker 3: me either, like it really doesn't matter to me. I'm both.

1149
00:49:51,239 --> 00:49:52,120
Speaker 3: I answered to both.

1150
00:49:52,160 --> 00:49:54,680
Speaker 2: So when you go on dates, do people do guys

1151
00:49:54,719 --> 00:49:56,839
Speaker 2: recognize you because you're such a you're a girl's girl.

1152
00:49:56,960 --> 00:49:57,239
Speaker 4: So do.

1153
00:49:57,400 --> 00:50:00,759
Speaker 3: Guys usually know and then they'll like look you up.

1154
00:50:00,920 --> 00:50:02,520
Speaker 3: Then they'll be like, oh, I just looked at your

1155
00:50:02,520 --> 00:50:05,279
Speaker 3: Instagram and like my sister follows you, and I'm right,

1156
00:50:07,040 --> 00:50:09,279
Speaker 3: I really like I'll know I've met the guy when

1157
00:50:09,320 --> 00:50:12,279
Speaker 3: he's like, what do you do? Like that's that's hot.

1158
00:50:12,600 --> 00:50:15,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's It takes a lot of woolpower not to

1159
00:50:15,239 --> 00:50:17,239
Speaker 2: like google someone else.

1160
00:50:17,480 --> 00:50:20,520
Speaker 3: I know, And I hate to stop people before I

1161
00:50:20,560 --> 00:50:22,319
Speaker 3: go on date some them because I'll be aicked out.

1162
00:50:22,840 --> 00:50:25,279
Speaker 3: I'm very extensitive and I know that and I am

1163
00:50:25,320 --> 00:50:27,600
Speaker 3: working on it. But like one thing and I'm like,

1164
00:50:28,160 --> 00:50:29,200
Speaker 3: I can't, I can't do it.

1165
00:50:29,400 --> 00:50:31,960
Speaker 4: I need to know top three X, like right off

1166
00:50:31,960 --> 00:50:33,520
Speaker 4: the bat X.

1167
00:50:33,640 --> 00:50:36,520
Speaker 3: I would say, okay, if a guy doesn't like listen

1168
00:50:36,600 --> 00:50:39,279
Speaker 3: or ask me questions, which is an epidemic right now

1169
00:50:39,320 --> 00:50:42,000
Speaker 3: in dating, guys just like do not ask questions, and

1170
00:50:42,040 --> 00:50:45,319
Speaker 3: it's really it's insane. It's now that I've said it,

1171
00:50:45,440 --> 00:50:47,839
Speaker 3: you'll like look out for it and anyone's single out

1172
00:50:47,880 --> 00:50:52,040
Speaker 3: there will will have experienced this. I think when a

1173
00:50:52,160 --> 00:50:56,680
Speaker 3: guy doesn't have any like interests or when he's not interesting,

1174
00:50:56,960 --> 00:50:59,759
Speaker 3: he's not interested, which means he's not interesting that it's

1175
00:50:59,840 --> 00:51:05,719
Speaker 3: just like, I can't do that, and what else? I

1176
00:51:05,800 --> 00:51:12,320
Speaker 3: mean if a guy puts like emojis over other people's

1177
00:51:12,320 --> 00:51:15,719
Speaker 3: faces and his dating app profile, that's an immediate wait

1178
00:51:15,800 --> 00:51:19,600
Speaker 3: why because I'm like, I just I can't do that

1179
00:51:19,719 --> 00:51:21,480
Speaker 3: like that or he doesn't want you to think that

1180
00:51:21,560 --> 00:51:23,160
Speaker 3: his cute friend is him.

1181
00:51:23,800 --> 00:51:25,880
Speaker 4: Don't put that picture that.

1182
00:51:25,920 --> 00:51:27,239
Speaker 3: I think I will figure it out.

1183
00:51:27,320 --> 00:51:30,480
Speaker 2: I will perseure the thought of him, like putting the

1184
00:51:30,520 --> 00:51:32,719
Speaker 2: little it's giving insecure.

1185
00:51:32,840 --> 00:51:35,520
Speaker 3: No, it's just it's giving, thoughtful, it's giving.

1186
00:51:35,560 --> 00:51:37,880
Speaker 1: I don't have so many photos to choose from.

1187
00:51:37,960 --> 00:51:39,560
Speaker 3: I think you should reconsider.

1188
00:51:39,680 --> 00:51:40,120
Speaker 4: I can't.

1189
00:51:40,160 --> 00:51:41,400
Speaker 3: I can't do it.

1190
00:51:43,600 --> 00:51:44,800
Speaker 1: He doesn't have that many photos.

1191
00:51:44,840 --> 00:51:46,600
Speaker 3: He's like, should I have to use these? All these?

1192
00:51:46,640 --> 00:51:51,200
Speaker 3: This is alid? God, find another one? Yeah, yourself going.

1193
00:51:53,040 --> 00:51:57,640
Speaker 4: Anyway, there's the next stick. You only have six photos

1194
00:51:57,680 --> 00:51:58,280
Speaker 4: of yourself?

1195
00:51:58,840 --> 00:51:59,120
Speaker 2: Wow?

1196
00:51:59,680 --> 00:52:02,760
Speaker 4: Yeah, it is like do you have physical.

1197
00:52:02,400 --> 00:52:06,760
Speaker 3: Ages or of Like, no, I'm honestly really chill about

1198
00:52:07,000 --> 00:52:11,560
Speaker 3: okay anything. I mean, look, am I a highth queen? Secretly? Yeah,

1199
00:52:11,600 --> 00:52:13,600
Speaker 3: it's pretty hard to go back from six to four

1200
00:52:13,640 --> 00:52:15,799
Speaker 3: after you've dated someone six four And I'm just gonna

1201
00:52:15,800 --> 00:52:17,759
Speaker 3: put that out there. But I would never swipe no

1202
00:52:17,880 --> 00:52:19,240
Speaker 3: on someone for a physical thing.

1203
00:52:19,239 --> 00:52:19,600
Speaker 4: Right, right.

1204
00:52:20,000 --> 00:52:22,560
Speaker 3: And also if you put all the guys I've dated

1205
00:52:22,560 --> 00:52:26,280
Speaker 3: in a room, you would be like there's no common

1206
00:52:26,320 --> 00:52:30,080
Speaker 3: thread between, Like you'd be every everything, everything, all over.

1207
00:52:31,480 --> 00:52:33,600
Speaker 3: It's just like an energy thing. Yeah, I just like

1208
00:52:34,000 --> 00:52:35,040
Speaker 3: Dick energy. Yeah.

1209
00:52:35,920 --> 00:52:39,560
Speaker 2: I like that you walk in and you know yeah.

1210
00:52:39,600 --> 00:52:43,120
Speaker 2: Thank you so much for taking time to this was

1211
00:52:43,239 --> 00:52:43,800
Speaker 2: so fun.

1212
00:52:43,920 --> 00:52:45,760
Speaker 4: Thank you, We love you everyone.

1213
00:52:46,120 --> 00:52:49,560
Speaker 2: I'm so happy that you were not absolutely thrown off

1214
00:52:49,560 --> 00:52:50,160
Speaker 2: by Tanya.

1215
00:52:50,520 --> 00:52:52,840
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm happy I didn't scare you off. Oh my gosh,

1216
00:52:53,000 --> 00:52:53,440
Speaker 3: it happens.

1217
00:52:53,560 --> 00:52:54,360
Speaker 4: She does that sometimes.

1218
00:52:54,400 --> 00:52:55,880
Speaker 3: It's such a fabulous conversation.

1219
00:52:56,320 --> 00:52:59,239
Speaker 1: Thank you so much, so excited, and you pick up

1220
00:52:59,239 --> 00:53:01,839
Speaker 1: a copy six it's up, but you can preorder it now.

1221
00:53:02,680 --> 00:53:03,799
Speaker 4: Where can everyone follow you?

1222
00:53:04,200 --> 00:53:07,080
Speaker 2: At tanks t I n X on everything so nice,

1223
00:53:07,360 --> 00:53:09,279
Speaker 2: got it all, Thank you, thank you.

1224
00:53:09,400 --> 00:53:09,960
Speaker 3: So fun