1 00:00:00,360 --> 00:00:03,280 Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya Rad and I 2 00:00:03,400 --> 00:00:07,400 Speaker 1: Heart Radio and two time People's Choice Award winning podcast. 3 00:00:11,440 --> 00:00:16,919 Speaker 1: Hello everybody, I have it's some exciting news. Talk to 4 00:00:16,960 --> 00:00:19,160 Speaker 1: me about that exciting. Where you going to San Francisco 5 00:00:19,280 --> 00:00:22,560 Speaker 1: this weekend? Yeah, we are. We are popping our live 6 00:00:22,680 --> 00:00:26,440 Speaker 1: Cherry this weekend in San Francisco, first live show ever 7 00:00:26,640 --> 00:00:29,760 Speaker 1: for Scrubbing In with Beccallian Tanya Rad. That's right. We're 8 00:00:29,760 --> 00:00:32,680 Speaker 1: staying in the Vice Roy Hotels. Y'all should be booking 9 00:00:32,720 --> 00:00:34,960 Speaker 1: your hotel room. You should be buying your tickets to 10 00:00:35,000 --> 00:00:36,559 Speaker 1: the show. I don't know if there's any left, but 11 00:00:36,600 --> 00:00:38,360 Speaker 1: you should check it out to see if there are 12 00:00:38,400 --> 00:00:40,280 Speaker 1: tickets left. And we actually just found out that we 13 00:00:40,320 --> 00:00:43,880 Speaker 1: are releasing a couple more VIP tickets for Saturday, so 14 00:00:44,080 --> 00:00:47,080 Speaker 1: you guys can get your hands on those. That's exciting, 15 00:00:47,280 --> 00:00:49,120 Speaker 1: very exciting. And just so you guys know if you 16 00:00:49,159 --> 00:00:50,560 Speaker 1: are coming to the show, we're gonna have like a 17 00:00:50,560 --> 00:00:52,280 Speaker 1: little booth when you walk in where you can write 18 00:00:52,280 --> 00:00:54,120 Speaker 1: in your questions for truth or drink, So make sure 19 00:00:54,120 --> 00:00:57,480 Speaker 1: you make them really hard hitting for Becca and I, um, 20 00:00:57,560 --> 00:00:59,320 Speaker 1: so we can get we don't want to get drunk. 21 00:00:59,360 --> 00:01:02,200 Speaker 1: We want to answer the questions. We're so excited. Have 22 00:01:02,240 --> 00:01:04,399 Speaker 1: you guys picked the truth or drink games yet? Have 23 00:01:04,480 --> 00:01:07,200 Speaker 1: we got some questions. We're in the process of doing 24 00:01:07,240 --> 00:01:09,600 Speaker 1: that right now. Actually, okay, yeah, and there's some good 25 00:01:09,840 --> 00:01:12,080 Speaker 1: there's some good questions that I'm gonna be very uncomfortable 26 00:01:12,080 --> 00:01:14,840 Speaker 1: asking you. Well, if you have a good one that 27 00:01:14,880 --> 00:01:18,040 Speaker 1: you can think of, send it into scrubbing in at 28 00:01:18,040 --> 00:01:20,679 Speaker 1: iHeartMedia dot com. And Mark posted a thing on the 29 00:01:20,680 --> 00:01:22,600 Speaker 1: Facebook group to so you can leave a comment there, 30 00:01:22,600 --> 00:01:24,920 Speaker 1: okay and say who the question is for, because you 31 00:01:24,920 --> 00:01:30,280 Speaker 1: know the questions that I'll answer well or everything everything. Yeah, 32 00:01:30,360 --> 00:01:34,360 Speaker 1: it's we gotta find questions that Becco will answer and 33 00:01:34,760 --> 00:01:37,399 Speaker 1: questions that Tanya will not know because then I'm super 34 00:01:37,440 --> 00:01:39,399 Speaker 1: sober and she's like wasted at the end of it, 35 00:01:39,440 --> 00:01:41,360 Speaker 1: and we're we're going to be answering them from the 36 00:01:41,360 --> 00:01:45,679 Speaker 1: Marines Memorial Um Theater in San Francisco. So it is 37 00:01:45,680 --> 00:01:49,080 Speaker 1: going to be a freaking blast. Oh, another high five. 38 00:01:49,200 --> 00:01:52,040 Speaker 1: Tanya is full of Okay, you know it's gonna be 39 00:01:52,040 --> 00:01:53,520 Speaker 1: a good show when we started off with that many 40 00:01:53,600 --> 00:01:56,240 Speaker 1: high fives. So we have a really fun show today 41 00:01:56,280 --> 00:02:00,160 Speaker 1: because we have by back by popular demand. We have 42 00:02:00,360 --> 00:02:06,040 Speaker 1: a mantle and let me tell you, these guys are 43 00:02:06,200 --> 00:02:10,160 Speaker 1: here to help you out. Yeah. So basically on our 44 00:02:10,200 --> 00:02:12,600 Speaker 1: on this podcast, Beck and I really um, we answer 45 00:02:12,600 --> 00:02:14,160 Speaker 1: a lot of listener emails and things like that. But 46 00:02:14,160 --> 00:02:16,280 Speaker 1: it's almost like the blind leading the blind. They're all 47 00:02:16,480 --> 00:02:21,200 Speaker 1: they're all questions about guys. And I mean, I'm super single. 48 00:02:21,560 --> 00:02:24,040 Speaker 1: Becca is not, but I'm not. But we're not guys. 49 00:02:24,080 --> 00:02:26,640 Speaker 1: So like, we don't think like men, so we answer, 50 00:02:27,040 --> 00:02:28,760 Speaker 1: I try to answer for I also think. I think 51 00:02:28,840 --> 00:02:34,399 Speaker 1: I think the opposite of men. You do, I think? So. Yeah, 52 00:02:34,760 --> 00:02:37,040 Speaker 1: so our advice is like a little Sanzi, so this 53 00:02:37,120 --> 00:02:39,639 Speaker 1: is this is good. Also, just so you know, when 54 00:02:39,680 --> 00:02:43,000 Speaker 1: Tanya says Sanzi, that really means whatever you wanted to me. 55 00:02:43,320 --> 00:02:47,200 Speaker 1: We have no definition for it. Um. So we have 56 00:02:47,600 --> 00:02:50,959 Speaker 1: Hunter March, who is a host on Nightly Pop. You've 57 00:02:50,960 --> 00:02:54,560 Speaker 1: seen him on Tanya's Instagram story multiple times. Tried to 58 00:02:54,560 --> 00:02:58,080 Speaker 1: set her up, but they're not romantically compatible, but they 59 00:02:58,160 --> 00:03:01,840 Speaker 1: love each other dearly us am I right? I mean 60 00:03:01,840 --> 00:03:04,960 Speaker 1: it's really up to Tanya. We can go ahead and 61 00:03:04,960 --> 00:03:06,839 Speaker 1: figure this out. I mean, if we try hard enough. 62 00:03:06,880 --> 00:03:10,440 Speaker 1: I know that there's some obvious gaps, but um, we could. 63 00:03:10,480 --> 00:03:12,880 Speaker 1: We could. It's just I don't know if she's into it. 64 00:03:13,160 --> 00:03:15,120 Speaker 1: Hunter and I actually worked together for the first time 65 00:03:15,120 --> 00:03:17,680 Speaker 1: this weekend at the Grammys. Um, and I really like 66 00:03:17,800 --> 00:03:20,239 Speaker 1: you a lot. Okay, I like where this is. I 67 00:03:20,240 --> 00:03:22,840 Speaker 1: don't like where the tone is going to be a 68 00:03:22,880 --> 00:03:25,040 Speaker 1: butt coming. No, I think you're so great and I 69 00:03:25,080 --> 00:03:27,600 Speaker 1: love working with you. Sure, but it would be would 70 00:03:27,600 --> 00:03:29,600 Speaker 1: we be better as friends? Because if so, no, need 71 00:03:29,639 --> 00:03:32,080 Speaker 1: to finish that sentence and let me live in my fantasy. 72 00:03:33,960 --> 00:03:35,640 Speaker 1: I don't think we've been better friends. I just think 73 00:03:35,640 --> 00:03:39,800 Speaker 1: we want different things currently. Okay, Well, I want to 74 00:03:39,960 --> 00:03:42,040 Speaker 1: fall in love with someone I respect in, someone who 75 00:03:42,040 --> 00:03:43,960 Speaker 1: respects me and impowers amazing human beings. So I guess 76 00:03:44,040 --> 00:03:48,840 Speaker 1: whatever you're looking for, let me is looking for. Yeah, 77 00:03:48,920 --> 00:03:54,360 Speaker 1: someone's being a little sanzy. Okay, we can table this. Yeah, 78 00:03:54,400 --> 00:03:58,200 Speaker 1: we'll get back to um. You're you also do a 79 00:03:58,240 --> 00:04:00,560 Speaker 1: lot more than just nightly pop, but I know that 80 00:04:00,560 --> 00:04:03,840 Speaker 1: that's where we know you from Tanya. This year, you 81 00:04:03,840 --> 00:04:05,800 Speaker 1: do a lot of hosting for Netflix as well. Yeah. 82 00:04:05,800 --> 00:04:08,360 Speaker 1: I have a show called sugar Rush. We've done two seasons. 83 00:04:08,360 --> 00:04:11,800 Speaker 1: It's a baking competition show in which I am secretly 84 00:04:11,800 --> 00:04:16,200 Speaker 1: gluten intolerant, so it is just very interesting. And then 85 00:04:16,200 --> 00:04:19,159 Speaker 1: on E, I don't really like celebrities. This is all locked. 86 00:04:19,760 --> 00:04:22,920 Speaker 1: I mean, I am really cornered myself into a bad spot. 87 00:04:23,520 --> 00:04:25,560 Speaker 1: But I love I love both shows with all my heart, 88 00:04:25,640 --> 00:04:28,720 Speaker 1: Like they are so fun to do. And uh, I 89 00:04:28,760 --> 00:04:32,200 Speaker 1: actually really appreciate your take um on E because like, 90 00:04:32,320 --> 00:04:35,320 Speaker 1: I don't know, you just have this very refreshing Nobody 91 00:04:35,440 --> 00:04:37,280 Speaker 1: I don't know, nobody has the same take as you, 92 00:04:37,320 --> 00:04:39,320 Speaker 1: and I find it to be very refreshing. I think 93 00:04:39,320 --> 00:04:41,640 Speaker 1: I'm the only one who's really not afraid to get fired, 94 00:04:42,279 --> 00:04:44,800 Speaker 1: Like I'm like, yeah, I'm gonna say it no matter what. 95 00:04:45,400 --> 00:04:46,960 Speaker 1: It's kind of like I always really looked up to 96 00:04:47,040 --> 00:04:48,840 Speaker 1: Chelsea Handler in that way. We're it's kind of like, oh, 97 00:04:48,960 --> 00:04:53,800 Speaker 1: you don't give what's the adrene of this podcast? It's 98 00:04:53,839 --> 00:04:57,560 Speaker 1: better not to curse a cluck. I don't give a cluck. No, 99 00:04:57,640 --> 00:04:59,599 Speaker 1: But I really do love. I mean, I did not 100 00:04:59,720 --> 00:05:01,839 Speaker 1: think I would ever be on E, and I have 101 00:05:01,920 --> 00:05:05,320 Speaker 1: fallen in love with my co hosts and my producers 102 00:05:05,360 --> 00:05:07,360 Speaker 1: and the whole team, and I guess would just be funny, 103 00:05:07,440 --> 00:05:10,599 Speaker 1: which is like my dream job. Awesome, great, so Hunter 104 00:05:10,640 --> 00:05:16,120 Speaker 1: is gonna be representing the single male, single male perspective 105 00:05:16,360 --> 00:05:19,760 Speaker 1: for as long as Tanya holds out, Yeah, which might 106 00:05:19,839 --> 00:05:23,640 Speaker 1: just be this podcast. We don't know. Um. Her other 107 00:05:24,080 --> 00:05:27,360 Speaker 1: mantel guest is Jack's Taylor, you know him from Bander 108 00:05:27,400 --> 00:05:30,040 Speaker 1: Pump Rolls. We also found out that he was in 109 00:05:30,480 --> 00:05:34,120 Speaker 1: a Britney Spears music video. I was, I Was, I Was, 110 00:05:34,279 --> 00:05:35,680 Speaker 1: I said. We would trying to remember it as I 111 00:05:35,720 --> 00:05:37,279 Speaker 1: was walking in here, I was like trying to remember it. 112 00:05:37,320 --> 00:05:40,640 Speaker 1: I was. It was two thousand three, I was twenty three. 113 00:05:40,760 --> 00:05:43,520 Speaker 1: It was in Miami. It was the Onyx Hotel tour. 114 00:05:44,040 --> 00:05:46,080 Speaker 1: It was with David la Chappelle. Was my first time 115 00:05:46,120 --> 00:05:49,400 Speaker 1: working with him, which is pretty cool. And I remember 116 00:05:49,440 --> 00:05:50,960 Speaker 1: I don't remember the date, but I just remember the 117 00:05:50,960 --> 00:05:53,600 Speaker 1: next day she got married to this guy named Jason, 118 00:05:53,680 --> 00:05:56,839 Speaker 1: which is her friend apparently. Do you remember this again? Again, 119 00:05:56,920 --> 00:05:58,760 Speaker 1: I'm four years old. This is when I was twenty three, 120 00:05:58,960 --> 00:06:02,760 Speaker 1: but she literally married best friends. Is that the one, 121 00:06:02,880 --> 00:06:05,440 Speaker 1: isn't it? Yeah? In Vegas? What was it? Not my 122 00:06:05,520 --> 00:06:10,680 Speaker 1: friend Jason Trey? This is another we're not trying to 123 00:06:10,680 --> 00:06:14,279 Speaker 1: go back. Yeah. So it's a really coming full circle 124 00:06:14,320 --> 00:06:16,520 Speaker 1: because if you guys obviously, we actually didn't say that 125 00:06:16,560 --> 00:06:19,719 Speaker 1: we were at the Britney Spears experience here. Apparently we 126 00:06:19,720 --> 00:06:22,160 Speaker 1: are not in our studio, so it might sound a 127 00:06:22,200 --> 00:06:24,279 Speaker 1: little bit different. But we're at Britney Spears the Zone 128 00:06:24,440 --> 00:06:27,800 Speaker 1: and it's just like pop up um that they're doing 129 00:06:28,600 --> 00:06:31,600 Speaker 1: uh in l A on Third Street, and it's basically 130 00:06:31,839 --> 00:06:34,840 Speaker 1: gonna be it's like a Britney Spears experience. It's the 131 00:06:34,839 --> 00:06:39,480 Speaker 1: coolest thing. I love these experiences and I hold Britney 132 00:06:39,480 --> 00:06:41,799 Speaker 1: Spears very close to my heart. I grew up with her. 133 00:06:42,120 --> 00:06:44,560 Speaker 1: I'm upset that I'm not in my schoolgirl me too, 134 00:06:44,680 --> 00:06:50,720 Speaker 1: or my red Spandex leather. Yeah, opportunity for you guys. 135 00:06:54,080 --> 00:06:56,560 Speaker 1: Well um yeah, So it's really cool. We're actually in 136 00:06:56,880 --> 00:06:59,680 Speaker 1: what is her dressing room and it's so cute because 137 00:06:59,680 --> 00:07:02,240 Speaker 1: it's the signed like how her dressing room is designed 138 00:07:02,279 --> 00:07:04,719 Speaker 1: when for her shows. Am I right on that. It's 139 00:07:04,760 --> 00:07:09,720 Speaker 1: like walking into ross. It's so cute. It's like so um, 140 00:07:09,760 --> 00:07:13,080 Speaker 1: it's like Southern chic Um. It's it's really cute. They've 141 00:07:13,120 --> 00:07:15,760 Speaker 1: got her writer Chip and Joanne Gaines came in here. 142 00:07:15,800 --> 00:07:20,960 Speaker 1: Ye southern girl's dream and you are married to a 143 00:07:20,960 --> 00:07:24,920 Speaker 1: Southern girl. So you can appreciate some southern roots. Yes, yeah, 144 00:07:25,240 --> 00:07:28,120 Speaker 1: I'm You're married to Brittany and she's just the sweetest 145 00:07:28,160 --> 00:07:33,240 Speaker 1: human ever. I got married this past summer Newly. Yeah, 146 00:07:34,400 --> 00:07:36,960 Speaker 1: we get married. How's married life is? It's awesome. It's 147 00:07:37,000 --> 00:07:40,160 Speaker 1: everything that I you know, I I wasn't sure I was. 148 00:07:40,200 --> 00:07:42,040 Speaker 1: I'm the I'm the guy. I'm the guy that did 149 00:07:42,080 --> 00:07:44,120 Speaker 1: not want pets, did not want to get married. I 150 00:07:44,160 --> 00:07:46,080 Speaker 1: wanted to live the bachelor life my whole life. But 151 00:07:46,960 --> 00:07:51,160 Speaker 1: it just happened. Okay, my soul mate, want to say, 152 00:07:51,200 --> 00:07:54,320 Speaker 1: what changed? The girl? It was the girl? It was 153 00:07:54,360 --> 00:07:56,120 Speaker 1: the girl. Oh yeah, it was a girl. Definitely the girl. 154 00:07:56,200 --> 00:07:57,720 Speaker 1: I didn't care. I was. I don't know if my 155 00:07:57,760 --> 00:07:59,680 Speaker 1: past is how much time we have, but I don't 156 00:07:59,680 --> 00:08:02,920 Speaker 1: have passed when it comes to females and leaving like 157 00:08:03,120 --> 00:08:07,680 Speaker 1: a good record behind. So um, yeah, it definitely changed. 158 00:08:07,680 --> 00:08:08,920 Speaker 1: It had to be the girl because I would have 159 00:08:08,960 --> 00:08:12,320 Speaker 1: never I've ever changed. So I was in My situation 160 00:08:12,360 --> 00:08:13,720 Speaker 1: was a little different. I was on a date in 161 00:08:13,800 --> 00:08:17,400 Speaker 1: Vegas when I've met Brittany. I tell this story a lot. 162 00:08:17,440 --> 00:08:19,200 Speaker 1: I was literally flew into Vegas. I was there for 163 00:08:19,280 --> 00:08:21,440 Speaker 1: my friend's birthday party, came in a day early. It 164 00:08:21,480 --> 00:08:23,160 Speaker 1: was an old Vegas I was on a date with 165 00:08:23,160 --> 00:08:26,040 Speaker 1: this girl, um and Brittany walked by and I said, 166 00:08:26,080 --> 00:08:27,920 Speaker 1: I want that. So I waited till she went to 167 00:08:27,920 --> 00:08:31,480 Speaker 1: the bathroom, got her number, and that's all that happened. 168 00:08:32,800 --> 00:08:35,640 Speaker 1: Never never left and then left. Your left each other side. 169 00:08:35,760 --> 00:08:37,440 Speaker 1: The girl you left on that date has a very 170 00:08:37,440 --> 00:08:42,520 Speaker 1: different story. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, Well it was interesting. 171 00:08:43,360 --> 00:08:45,280 Speaker 1: Well you maybe you could try and set her up 172 00:08:45,280 --> 00:08:48,720 Speaker 1: with somebody, Hunter. It's funny this conversation came up like 173 00:08:48,760 --> 00:08:50,560 Speaker 1: a month ago. I yeah, I could set her up. 174 00:08:50,640 --> 00:08:55,160 Speaker 1: I look for her. I don't know. It's probably still 175 00:08:55,280 --> 00:08:58,440 Speaker 1: at the restaurant she is. I think she works in 176 00:08:58,760 --> 00:09:01,440 Speaker 1: the Cosmo at Vegas. I just feel like it would 177 00:09:01,440 --> 00:09:03,920 Speaker 1: be good karma for you to like set her up. Maybe, 178 00:09:04,600 --> 00:09:07,120 Speaker 1: I don't know. There goes That's what my brain goes to. Yeah, 179 00:09:07,160 --> 00:09:10,400 Speaker 1: Tanya is a hopeless romantic. Just you coming on the show. 180 00:09:10,400 --> 00:09:13,960 Speaker 1: I'm sure Hunter, you've quickly realized that I can get married. 181 00:09:14,120 --> 00:09:16,280 Speaker 1: Anybody can get married if I can fall in love, 182 00:09:16,360 --> 00:09:19,160 Speaker 1: but anybody can fall off. It's kind of one of 183 00:09:19,160 --> 00:09:21,400 Speaker 1: those things, are looking for a partner. Yeah, I like 184 00:09:21,440 --> 00:09:23,400 Speaker 1: a hopeless romantic and I like people who make up 185 00:09:23,440 --> 00:09:24,920 Speaker 1: words and try and get them to catch on. I 186 00:09:24,960 --> 00:09:28,160 Speaker 1: don't know. Let me know if you know someone laid 187 00:09:28,200 --> 00:09:31,880 Speaker 1: it on thick not though, just wait till the middle 188 00:09:31,880 --> 00:09:36,440 Speaker 1: of the episode. Well, we need both of your advice, 189 00:09:36,440 --> 00:09:38,880 Speaker 1: because Tanya and I were saying earlier, we get a 190 00:09:38,880 --> 00:09:41,720 Speaker 1: lot of questions for girls who are in the dating 191 00:09:41,760 --> 00:09:44,640 Speaker 1: world or they're even in relationships where they're married, and 192 00:09:44,880 --> 00:09:47,959 Speaker 1: they need advice on things, and we try to answer. 193 00:09:48,160 --> 00:09:51,480 Speaker 1: But we are females, so our answers are different than 194 00:09:51,720 --> 00:09:54,400 Speaker 1: what we don't think like men because we are not men. 195 00:09:54,800 --> 00:09:58,600 Speaker 1: So we like to bring in guys to give a 196 00:09:58,640 --> 00:10:02,600 Speaker 1: perspective that's different than than what we are able to. Yeah, 197 00:10:02,600 --> 00:10:04,280 Speaker 1: and even like what you just said, that's so interesting 198 00:10:04,280 --> 00:10:05,600 Speaker 1: because I feel like we do get a lot of 199 00:10:05,600 --> 00:10:07,959 Speaker 1: emails from girls that are like, I'm dating this guy 200 00:10:08,120 --> 00:10:10,160 Speaker 1: and he like is a bachelor and every wants to 201 00:10:10,160 --> 00:10:13,000 Speaker 1: settled down and I'm always like, run girl, but like, 202 00:10:14,200 --> 00:10:16,880 Speaker 1: but this is today. People are waiting later. It's not 203 00:10:17,040 --> 00:10:20,120 Speaker 1: about the run thing. They're just waiting later. And what 204 00:10:20,240 --> 00:10:22,679 Speaker 1: city is you know, are you guys in city or 205 00:10:22,840 --> 00:10:24,640 Speaker 1: l A and there is He's still trying to hold 206 00:10:24,679 --> 00:10:27,360 Speaker 1: lot of that dream. That's a lot of my friends are. 207 00:10:27,520 --> 00:10:29,200 Speaker 1: I'll give you for instance on all a lot of them. 208 00:10:29,200 --> 00:10:30,800 Speaker 1: I have a group chat of buddies on my phone 209 00:10:30,800 --> 00:10:32,120 Speaker 1: that I hang out with. Some are to get some 210 00:10:32,240 --> 00:10:34,640 Speaker 1: are married, some are not, and they're still living on 211 00:10:34,679 --> 00:10:36,319 Speaker 1: to that dream. If they hear this right now, they're 212 00:10:36,320 --> 00:10:38,240 Speaker 1: gonna kill me. But they are now. They're in they're 213 00:10:38,320 --> 00:10:41,000 Speaker 1: mid to late thirties. You know, it's that that time 214 00:10:41,080 --> 00:10:43,160 Speaker 1: that you're supposed to start, you know, I mean, you're 215 00:10:43,160 --> 00:10:48,679 Speaker 1: not supposed to do anything, but you know, it's that time. 216 00:10:49,120 --> 00:10:51,080 Speaker 1: And I think they're just hanging on. They're hanging out, 217 00:10:51,080 --> 00:10:53,160 Speaker 1: They're thinking there's something better out there. They're always at 218 00:10:53,160 --> 00:10:55,400 Speaker 1: the same bars. They're always the same bars in Hollywood, 219 00:10:55,720 --> 00:10:58,640 Speaker 1: always trying to find that next best thing. And to me, 220 00:10:58,920 --> 00:11:00,599 Speaker 1: I was that guy. And look and I talked to 221 00:11:00,640 --> 00:11:02,439 Speaker 1: my buddies that are married, Tom and always our guys, 222 00:11:02,640 --> 00:11:05,800 Speaker 1: and I'm always like, I'm so no offense, I'm so 223 00:11:05,880 --> 00:11:09,080 Speaker 1: glad I'm not single. I could never be single again, ever, ever, ever. 224 00:11:09,440 --> 00:11:12,480 Speaker 1: And I'm coming from a guy that's literally loved being 225 00:11:12,520 --> 00:11:14,440 Speaker 1: single in my whole life. But I just thought of 226 00:11:14,480 --> 00:11:17,360 Speaker 1: going back to that world again scares the hell out 227 00:11:17,360 --> 00:11:19,440 Speaker 1: of me. I don't, especially with all technology and how 228 00:11:19,440 --> 00:11:21,880 Speaker 1: people date nowadays, I don't understand how people date. It's 229 00:11:21,880 --> 00:11:24,320 Speaker 1: like an interview, it's not a date. So I don't. 230 00:11:24,480 --> 00:11:28,840 Speaker 1: I don't know. Sorry. I love dates I loved, but 231 00:11:28,920 --> 00:11:31,840 Speaker 1: my job is also to interview people and to post 232 00:11:31,920 --> 00:11:34,319 Speaker 1: and be like a people person. So I've always looked 233 00:11:34,320 --> 00:11:36,160 Speaker 1: at dates, even when I've gone on bad dates, which 234 00:11:36,200 --> 00:11:38,400 Speaker 1: I have been plenty, because I've gone on many dates. 235 00:11:39,040 --> 00:11:41,360 Speaker 1: Um and it stems back to just me missing something 236 00:11:41,400 --> 00:11:46,080 Speaker 1: from my childhood and being dependent according to my But 237 00:11:46,240 --> 00:11:48,720 Speaker 1: I love dates because it's just a chance to meet 238 00:11:48,720 --> 00:11:50,760 Speaker 1: someone I don't. I didn't drink for a long time, 239 00:11:50,800 --> 00:11:52,880 Speaker 1: so I was never going to bars or parties to 240 00:11:52,920 --> 00:11:56,160 Speaker 1: meet people. So once I ended my long relationship, I 241 00:11:56,200 --> 00:11:57,800 Speaker 1: was like, all right, I'm gonna join the dating apps. 242 00:11:57,840 --> 00:12:00,280 Speaker 1: And even bad dates, I would the whole I'm in 243 00:12:00,280 --> 00:12:02,840 Speaker 1: my head. I'd be like, why are you this way? 244 00:12:03,400 --> 00:12:06,719 Speaker 1: Let me just trying to analyze. Yeah, I'm very analytical 245 00:12:06,760 --> 00:12:08,720 Speaker 1: that way, and never to an extent where they go, 246 00:12:08,800 --> 00:12:11,240 Speaker 1: oh that man just tried to figure me out and 247 00:12:11,240 --> 00:12:12,679 Speaker 1: had no interests. It's always like I just don't have 248 00:12:12,679 --> 00:12:14,320 Speaker 1: a nice time, give you a nice time, even if 249 00:12:14,360 --> 00:12:16,040 Speaker 1: I have no interest in you. Let's have a nice 250 00:12:16,120 --> 00:12:18,800 Speaker 1: date and a drink or dinner whatever it is, and 251 00:12:18,800 --> 00:12:20,360 Speaker 1: then we don't never have to see each other again, 252 00:12:20,360 --> 00:12:22,080 Speaker 1: but at least we'll have a nice interaction with another 253 00:12:22,160 --> 00:12:26,320 Speaker 1: human for two hours. Interesting. That's that's interesting. See, I 254 00:12:26,360 --> 00:12:28,240 Speaker 1: wish I could have had that. I don't know. This 255 00:12:28,280 --> 00:12:32,680 Speaker 1: is a PG show, correct. And when I was dating, 256 00:12:32,720 --> 00:12:34,760 Speaker 1: when I went back to my Dannys, I'm gonna tell 257 00:12:34,800 --> 00:12:36,600 Speaker 1: you be honest, I was just looking to sleep with them. 258 00:12:36,640 --> 00:12:38,280 Speaker 1: That was it, and that's I was never looking for 259 00:12:38,320 --> 00:12:41,240 Speaker 1: any substance. And I think that was the problem. I'm sorry. 260 00:12:41,480 --> 00:12:43,520 Speaker 1: I was just like, yeah, literally, like how you said, 261 00:12:43,520 --> 00:12:45,880 Speaker 1: I think that was the problem. Could have been anything. Well, 262 00:12:46,080 --> 00:12:48,240 Speaker 1: I'm just saying I wasn't really looking like you know, 263 00:12:48,240 --> 00:12:49,839 Speaker 1: I would go on a date and I'm like, listen, 264 00:12:49,840 --> 00:12:51,880 Speaker 1: I just really want to take her home. That's my 265 00:12:51,960 --> 00:12:54,000 Speaker 1: only goal here. I'll sit and listen to her spiel 266 00:12:54,360 --> 00:12:56,360 Speaker 1: whatever she wants to dish to me. I'm gonna I'm 267 00:12:56,400 --> 00:13:00,200 Speaker 1: being honest. Especially living in this town and I I 268 00:13:00,280 --> 00:13:02,240 Speaker 1: lived in that I had that Peter Pan syndrome where 269 00:13:02,280 --> 00:13:03,760 Speaker 1: I never wanted to grow up, you know, I kind 270 00:13:03,760 --> 00:13:05,360 Speaker 1: of wanted to fight it and at the end of 271 00:13:05,360 --> 00:13:08,400 Speaker 1: the day, and I think things were a little different 272 00:13:08,400 --> 00:13:11,360 Speaker 1: with technology when I was when I was dating um, 273 00:13:11,440 --> 00:13:15,000 Speaker 1: there wasn't much of it around, so that was me. 274 00:13:15,080 --> 00:13:17,680 Speaker 1: But then again, I'm not the best judge. I'm not 275 00:13:17,760 --> 00:13:20,319 Speaker 1: the best guy to be asking about stories like this. 276 00:13:20,400 --> 00:13:22,120 Speaker 1: But I'll be honest with you. That's why it's good 277 00:13:22,120 --> 00:13:23,400 Speaker 1: to have me on here because I will literally be 278 00:13:23,440 --> 00:13:25,400 Speaker 1: honest with me. I have a question for me, and 279 00:13:25,400 --> 00:13:27,640 Speaker 1: I'll tell you. I feel like we have too, very 280 00:13:27,679 --> 00:13:30,120 Speaker 1: honest and open. Yeah, this man gonna be this is 281 00:13:30,160 --> 00:13:34,800 Speaker 1: gonna be good. I found your Britney Spears appearance by 282 00:13:34,800 --> 00:13:37,360 Speaker 1: the way here, you're gonna show up here as a statue. 283 00:13:39,840 --> 00:13:42,160 Speaker 1: It's it's in the commercial for the Onyx Hotel tour. 284 00:13:42,240 --> 00:13:45,559 Speaker 1: So we can press this on the Facebook group. Yeah, 285 00:13:45,640 --> 00:13:47,480 Speaker 1: and then like I was, like I said, Rock kissed 286 00:13:47,480 --> 00:13:49,080 Speaker 1: me on the cheek and come alive and it's a 287 00:13:49,080 --> 00:13:55,720 Speaker 1: whole congraduation. He's naked in it by the way anyway, Yeah, 288 00:13:57,160 --> 00:14:01,920 Speaker 1: whopping seven hunducks ac about that? Wait, Okay, so I 289 00:14:01,960 --> 00:14:03,439 Speaker 1: want to jump right into some of these because we 290 00:14:03,480 --> 00:14:06,600 Speaker 1: do have a lot for the Mantle, um, and this 291 00:14:06,640 --> 00:14:08,120 Speaker 1: is the one that we get asked a lot. So 292 00:14:08,120 --> 00:14:10,120 Speaker 1: I want to just ask you guys, this is from Ainslie. 293 00:14:10,520 --> 00:14:12,760 Speaker 1: How does the Mantle feel about women passing gas in 294 00:14:12,760 --> 00:14:14,600 Speaker 1: front of them? It baffles me that women go years 295 00:14:14,600 --> 00:14:16,360 Speaker 1: without passing gas in front of a man. Is it 296 00:14:16,400 --> 00:14:17,880 Speaker 1: a total turn off or is it more of a 297 00:14:17,920 --> 00:14:21,520 Speaker 1: respect thing? Such a bummer. We're starting off with that 298 00:14:21,680 --> 00:14:25,760 Speaker 1: question of all questions because it's so awkward to I 299 00:14:25,760 --> 00:14:28,840 Speaker 1: think once you're married, it's different. It is a little different. 300 00:14:28,840 --> 00:14:32,080 Speaker 1: It's actually cute. But are we talking about like as 301 00:14:32,120 --> 00:14:34,600 Speaker 1: being married as my life now or dating? Like if 302 00:14:34,600 --> 00:14:36,320 Speaker 1: I was on a date and she did that, how 303 00:14:36,320 --> 00:14:39,200 Speaker 1: would I feel compared to now being married? Or like 304 00:14:39,240 --> 00:14:41,800 Speaker 1: what's the threshold? Like when is it appropriate? I think 305 00:14:41,840 --> 00:14:44,160 Speaker 1: most of the people I could be wrong sending in 306 00:14:44,240 --> 00:14:47,040 Speaker 1: questions are not sending in questions because they figured it out. 307 00:14:47,520 --> 00:14:50,240 Speaker 1: They're sending in questions because they're at the dating stage, 308 00:14:50,720 --> 00:14:54,320 Speaker 1: so they're getting desperate. They're like, listen, I need to know. 309 00:14:54,640 --> 00:14:56,720 Speaker 1: It's just going to be a problem. All these women 310 00:14:56,720 --> 00:14:58,520 Speaker 1: are like, I've been farting in front of all my 311 00:14:58,600 --> 00:15:01,920 Speaker 1: kids at the first date, and for some reason, none 312 00:15:01,960 --> 00:15:05,720 Speaker 1: of them are sticking around. What's going on? Maybe change 313 00:15:05,720 --> 00:15:08,640 Speaker 1: your diet, change your diet, change your diaper, and then 314 00:15:08,640 --> 00:15:10,400 Speaker 1: go on another day and try and be cool. I 315 00:15:10,600 --> 00:15:14,800 Speaker 1: So my take was, I I've had besides high school relationships, 316 00:15:14,800 --> 00:15:16,960 Speaker 1: I've had one long relationship and that's the only thing 317 00:15:17,000 --> 00:15:18,680 Speaker 1: I can really based on because everything else has been 318 00:15:19,400 --> 00:15:23,440 Speaker 1: five dates maximum um. Even in the five year relationship, 319 00:15:23,480 --> 00:15:26,840 Speaker 1: it took me like a year year and a half 320 00:15:26,920 --> 00:15:29,360 Speaker 1: to start, like maybe maybe around a year to start 321 00:15:29,560 --> 00:15:31,480 Speaker 1: passing gas in front of my partner, and it was 322 00:15:31,520 --> 00:15:34,360 Speaker 1: more of a respect thing. Like I also think the 323 00:15:34,400 --> 00:15:38,600 Speaker 1: old factory senses our smell is so important in relationship. 324 00:15:38,720 --> 00:15:40,480 Speaker 1: Like I'm I'm the type of person if I'm on 325 00:15:40,520 --> 00:15:42,640 Speaker 1: a date and we're next to something that smells, I 326 00:15:42,640 --> 00:15:45,080 Speaker 1: will start associating it with that person without any like 327 00:15:45,200 --> 00:15:47,280 Speaker 1: or with the date and it's not that person. I 328 00:15:47,280 --> 00:15:49,040 Speaker 1: know it's not them, but like I go that I'm 329 00:15:49,120 --> 00:15:50,960 Speaker 1: uncomfortable right now. I don't want to be here, so 330 00:15:50,960 --> 00:15:53,440 Speaker 1: I don't want to give someone that reason. And it's 331 00:15:53,440 --> 00:15:56,360 Speaker 1: also it is like when I was, you know, eighteen, 332 00:15:56,400 --> 00:16:00,200 Speaker 1: I'd be like this is hysterical, but as a old 333 00:16:00,200 --> 00:16:02,560 Speaker 1: I'm kind of like, I don't. I don't think I can. 334 00:16:02,640 --> 00:16:05,200 Speaker 1: I can come up with something funnier. I'm not getting 335 00:16:05,200 --> 00:16:06,960 Speaker 1: a stomach ache, so I'm gonna do it. And I 336 00:16:07,000 --> 00:16:09,880 Speaker 1: did on the second date. I'm not It's part of life, 337 00:16:09,920 --> 00:16:11,640 Speaker 1: it's who we are. We have to do it. I 338 00:16:11,760 --> 00:16:13,720 Speaker 1: got to hold it an Would you have a girl 339 00:16:13,760 --> 00:16:15,280 Speaker 1: passed gast on a second day in front of because 340 00:16:15,280 --> 00:16:17,160 Speaker 1: I wouldn't say anything. I wouldn't say it's part of 341 00:16:17,960 --> 00:16:20,960 Speaker 1: If it happens and it's an accident, I have no judge. 342 00:16:20,960 --> 00:16:23,320 Speaker 1: And those times too, I just never thought girls did that. 343 00:16:23,440 --> 00:16:25,880 Speaker 1: In my head. Girls are too pretty to do that thing, 344 00:16:25,920 --> 00:16:29,360 Speaker 1: so I've never really happened. But not being married, you know, 345 00:16:29,520 --> 00:16:33,680 Speaker 1: it's very cute. She does it her sleep, and yeah, 346 00:16:33,760 --> 00:16:36,480 Speaker 1: I don't mind when something I videoed her because she 347 00:16:36,520 --> 00:16:46,560 Speaker 1: denies it. But that's really cute. I feel like if it, 348 00:16:46,840 --> 00:16:49,200 Speaker 1: if it happens, like we're all human. But I think 349 00:16:50,120 --> 00:16:56,520 Speaker 1: I think both people. Just letting it rip is like 350 00:16:56,640 --> 00:16:58,920 Speaker 1: the silent like you just kind of lift if you're 351 00:16:58,920 --> 00:17:01,440 Speaker 1: gonna just you know, you know, like a little bit 352 00:17:01,760 --> 00:17:04,359 Speaker 1: do one of those Yeah, you know what I'm talking about. 353 00:17:04,400 --> 00:17:07,639 Speaker 1: I'm not talking about disgusting bar. But you know, again, 354 00:17:07,760 --> 00:17:09,919 Speaker 1: do you want to have a stomach ache or not? 355 00:17:10,000 --> 00:17:15,119 Speaker 1: Everyone gets Some people just literally don't fart. It's not 356 00:17:15,200 --> 00:17:18,040 Speaker 1: like it goes back up into their stomach and disrupts 357 00:17:18,080 --> 00:17:22,439 Speaker 1: the day. Everybody poops, everybody farts, everybody, sure, everybody farts. 358 00:17:22,840 --> 00:17:26,920 Speaker 1: We should not get stuck on it. But we're just 359 00:17:26,960 --> 00:17:29,560 Speaker 1: saying a deal breaker. No, no, no. If it happens, 360 00:17:29,560 --> 00:17:32,600 Speaker 1: if a girl goes, let me show you something and 361 00:17:32,640 --> 00:17:34,919 Speaker 1: then does it on the first date, if it's not 362 00:17:35,480 --> 00:17:37,280 Speaker 1: so if she does that, I'm kind of a little 363 00:17:37,280 --> 00:17:39,919 Speaker 1: bit tepid. But if she makes it really funny, like 364 00:17:39,960 --> 00:17:41,479 Speaker 1: what I used to do in my relationship. I used 365 00:17:41,520 --> 00:17:44,119 Speaker 1: to be go, what is this karate move called? And 366 00:17:44,119 --> 00:17:45,600 Speaker 1: I would throw a big kick and I would fart 367 00:17:45,600 --> 00:17:47,360 Speaker 1: at the top of the kick. That was like three 368 00:17:47,400 --> 00:17:49,480 Speaker 1: years into the relationship that if a girl did that 369 00:17:49,520 --> 00:17:52,040 Speaker 1: on a first date, hysterical, I'm in love with her 370 00:17:52,200 --> 00:17:54,199 Speaker 1: about the delivery. Yeah, And it's also like, if a 371 00:17:54,240 --> 00:17:56,400 Speaker 1: girl does it, you can either pretend it didn't happen 372 00:17:56,520 --> 00:17:59,560 Speaker 1: or be like life, you know, and then it's like 373 00:17:59,600 --> 00:18:02,920 Speaker 1: it's like I did that on a date and someone 374 00:18:02,960 --> 00:18:11,320 Speaker 1: goes life, I would die, I would die. Great start. 375 00:18:11,440 --> 00:18:13,679 Speaker 1: We like that. That was a good Yeah. Okay, this 376 00:18:13,720 --> 00:18:17,240 Speaker 1: one is a little more um serious, I guess, but 377 00:18:17,640 --> 00:18:20,880 Speaker 1: not that that wasn't now pooping on a date. Um. 378 00:18:20,920 --> 00:18:23,040 Speaker 1: So this is from Mary and she wants to know 379 00:18:23,119 --> 00:18:26,200 Speaker 1: how can you bring up marriage without your boyfriend boyfriend 380 00:18:26,280 --> 00:18:30,280 Speaker 1: feeling pressured, not necessarily getting engaged, but about what marriage 381 00:18:30,320 --> 00:18:33,960 Speaker 1: means to them. I feel like this is I think 382 00:18:34,119 --> 00:18:36,280 Speaker 1: on the day I you kind of feel that out 383 00:18:36,280 --> 00:18:38,880 Speaker 1: in the first handful of dates. That's how I did, 384 00:18:38,960 --> 00:18:42,399 Speaker 1: like I needed like as far as when I met Brittany, Um, 385 00:18:42,440 --> 00:18:44,880 Speaker 1: I'm not I wasn't in the time to start dating 386 00:18:44,920 --> 00:18:46,600 Speaker 1: just a date like I was getting towards. Okay, I 387 00:18:46,640 --> 00:18:48,440 Speaker 1: guess we're gonna do this, and we're gonna we're gonna 388 00:18:48,440 --> 00:18:50,360 Speaker 1: do this. I need to know these certain things. Um. 389 00:18:50,400 --> 00:18:52,879 Speaker 1: And Plus I wouldn't do that to her. She's a Christian, 390 00:18:52,960 --> 00:18:55,040 Speaker 1: you know, woman, she gets married and has the kids, 391 00:18:55,040 --> 00:18:56,680 Speaker 1: the whole thing. So I knew that's what she was 392 00:18:56,760 --> 00:18:58,399 Speaker 1: up to. I asked her right off the bat. She 393 00:18:58,440 --> 00:18:59,840 Speaker 1: asked me right off the bat, and I like that. 394 00:19:00,000 --> 00:19:01,680 Speaker 1: I like to everything's on the table right up front. 395 00:19:01,680 --> 00:19:04,480 Speaker 1: We're not wasting time. Yeah, I think I appreciate that 396 00:19:04,480 --> 00:19:06,159 Speaker 1: because I'm not wanting when I went on when I 397 00:19:06,200 --> 00:19:08,000 Speaker 1: every time I go on my first dates, I asked 398 00:19:08,000 --> 00:19:09,720 Speaker 1: all those questions. Do you want to get married, you 399 00:19:09,760 --> 00:19:11,480 Speaker 1: want to have kids? Let's not waste our time. Life 400 00:19:11,520 --> 00:19:13,359 Speaker 1: is too short. As we can see how it is. 401 00:19:13,440 --> 00:19:15,360 Speaker 1: Let's so let's get it along the table. If you're 402 00:19:15,480 --> 00:19:18,000 Speaker 1: dating someone and you're still like, well, I don't know, 403 00:19:18,160 --> 00:19:20,719 Speaker 1: she doesn't say like where she is in her relationship. 404 00:19:20,800 --> 00:19:22,560 Speaker 1: But if you're in the first few dates and someone 405 00:19:22,600 --> 00:19:24,600 Speaker 1: brings up marriage and you're still trying to figure out 406 00:19:24,640 --> 00:19:27,800 Speaker 1: if you're into them, would that be a sign like 407 00:19:28,040 --> 00:19:30,000 Speaker 1: if you felt scared by that, would that be a 408 00:19:30,040 --> 00:19:32,240 Speaker 1: sign of like, maybe this isn't the person, or would 409 00:19:32,240 --> 00:19:34,000 Speaker 1: you just I think if you felt scared, I don't know. 410 00:19:34,040 --> 00:19:36,160 Speaker 1: I don't feel people feel scared for that. I don't 411 00:19:36,240 --> 00:19:38,400 Speaker 1: understand guys feel scared. You have to expect that. That's 412 00:19:38,400 --> 00:19:40,120 Speaker 1: a woman's going to ask that. It's just like, Hunter, 413 00:19:40,200 --> 00:19:42,760 Speaker 1: how do you feel about marriage? Well, I was really 414 00:19:42,800 --> 00:19:45,560 Speaker 1: never a big marriage guy. Um. I think a lot 415 00:19:45,600 --> 00:19:48,040 Speaker 1: of it has to do with you know, whatever belief 416 00:19:48,080 --> 00:19:50,480 Speaker 1: system you have is a big reason for marriage. I 417 00:19:50,520 --> 00:19:54,240 Speaker 1: think that lines up with yeah, and I don't have 418 00:19:54,320 --> 00:19:57,320 Speaker 1: that super strong belief system, so I was like, well, 419 00:19:57,320 --> 00:20:01,240 Speaker 1: that's out legally. I I don't think like I wouldn't 420 00:20:01,280 --> 00:20:04,040 Speaker 1: stay with someone because I'm married. My parents divorced when 421 00:20:04,040 --> 00:20:05,439 Speaker 1: I was young, and it was because if they had 422 00:20:05,480 --> 00:20:08,000 Speaker 1: stayed together, I would have had a really toxic household, 423 00:20:08,400 --> 00:20:10,720 Speaker 1: like my childhood would have been ruined, and they got 424 00:20:10,720 --> 00:20:13,080 Speaker 1: divorced so that they could be friends and co parents. 425 00:20:13,320 --> 00:20:16,080 Speaker 1: I think having kids is a much stronger reason to 426 00:20:16,119 --> 00:20:18,399 Speaker 1: stay together. So I think you have to ask yourself 427 00:20:18,440 --> 00:20:20,120 Speaker 1: the reasons why you want to get married. If if 428 00:20:20,119 --> 00:20:21,359 Speaker 1: you want to get married because you want to you 429 00:20:21,359 --> 00:20:23,359 Speaker 1: want that person to be with you forever, that's the 430 00:20:23,359 --> 00:20:27,600 Speaker 1: wrong reason. If you want to get married, I'm saying 431 00:20:27,640 --> 00:20:29,520 Speaker 1: because they you don't want them to leave you, and 432 00:20:29,560 --> 00:20:31,680 Speaker 1: you think, oh, well this will lock them in. That's 433 00:20:31,680 --> 00:20:32,920 Speaker 1: not how to do it. But if you want to 434 00:20:32,920 --> 00:20:34,680 Speaker 1: get married because both of you are just so head 435 00:20:34,720 --> 00:20:36,240 Speaker 1: over heels in love with each other and one of 436 00:20:36,320 --> 00:20:37,800 Speaker 1: you wants it or both of you want it, and 437 00:20:37,800 --> 00:20:40,040 Speaker 1: you're like, yeah, I'll concede this thing, Like I would 438 00:20:40,080 --> 00:20:42,840 Speaker 1: absolutely do that for the right girl. That's I think 439 00:20:42,840 --> 00:20:44,680 Speaker 1: that's kind of what happened to me. I, like I said, 440 00:20:44,680 --> 00:20:46,560 Speaker 1: I was with you, I wasn't on board with getting married. 441 00:20:46,600 --> 00:20:48,439 Speaker 1: It was because of just like I felt like everybody 442 00:20:48,440 --> 00:20:50,119 Speaker 1: got divorced just to get divorced, and I didn't want to. 443 00:20:50,119 --> 00:20:51,840 Speaker 1: I don't want that, but it came with me. It 444 00:20:51,880 --> 00:20:53,359 Speaker 1: was like, I just I just fell in love with 445 00:20:53,400 --> 00:20:55,240 Speaker 1: Brittany and I didn't want her to get away, and 446 00:20:55,240 --> 00:20:57,480 Speaker 1: I'm like, I need to lock this down so, you know, 447 00:20:57,480 --> 00:21:00,040 Speaker 1: because if I don't, someone else, well, so I I 448 00:21:01,000 --> 00:21:04,000 Speaker 1: just had to do it, and I just it went perfectly. 449 00:21:04,040 --> 00:21:05,400 Speaker 1: And I was like, I can't believe I just went 450 00:21:05,440 --> 00:21:07,719 Speaker 1: against everything that I've always was against. I was never 451 00:21:07,720 --> 00:21:09,919 Speaker 1: against animals now I have three dogs. Was never against 452 00:21:10,000 --> 00:21:11,520 Speaker 1: find a house. I now I own a home. Like 453 00:21:11,560 --> 00:21:15,200 Speaker 1: I just I did everything, And I guess it's just love. 454 00:21:15,280 --> 00:21:18,160 Speaker 1: You fall in love and what happens when you Because 455 00:21:18,200 --> 00:21:20,000 Speaker 1: you said when you were when you were being into 456 00:21:20,000 --> 00:21:21,800 Speaker 1: a girl was mostly so you could sleep with them. 457 00:21:22,080 --> 00:21:24,480 Speaker 1: That was at what point when you met when So 458 00:21:24,520 --> 00:21:26,040 Speaker 1: when you saw Brittany you were like, oh, I want 459 00:21:26,040 --> 00:21:28,200 Speaker 1: to sleep with her, But at what point were you like, oh, 460 00:21:28,240 --> 00:21:29,760 Speaker 1: I think I did want to sleep with the right 461 00:21:29,760 --> 00:21:31,600 Speaker 1: off the bat that was that was a given, but 462 00:21:32,000 --> 00:21:33,320 Speaker 1: there was I don't know what it was with her. 463 00:21:33,359 --> 00:21:34,920 Speaker 1: I just had accent and I heard it from a 464 00:21:34,920 --> 00:21:37,320 Speaker 1: wrong room. That's what got me first, that Southern accent 465 00:21:37,359 --> 00:21:40,080 Speaker 1: and just and like this, there's a lot that goes 466 00:21:40,119 --> 00:21:41,639 Speaker 1: into this. That kind of was just kind of like 467 00:21:41,680 --> 00:21:43,440 Speaker 1: the sun was like the god I was looking at me. 468 00:21:43,480 --> 00:21:44,840 Speaker 1: My friends used to make funny. I used to live 469 00:21:44,840 --> 00:21:46,800 Speaker 1: my buddies in Hollywood, and I was obsessed with the 470 00:21:46,800 --> 00:21:54,680 Speaker 1: restaurant Hooters. I love, I love going tracking this sense. 471 00:21:55,080 --> 00:21:57,720 Speaker 1: So my father took me to was not sixteen. I 472 00:21:57,760 --> 00:21:59,240 Speaker 1: love that place. I used to be obsessed with it. 473 00:21:59,280 --> 00:22:01,560 Speaker 1: My buddies always like, You're gonna marry Hooters girl. So 474 00:22:01,600 --> 00:22:04,879 Speaker 1: when I met Brittany, she was just got out of 475 00:22:04,960 --> 00:22:07,199 Speaker 1: out of school and she was bartending at Hooters, and 476 00:22:07,200 --> 00:22:08,960 Speaker 1: I was like, you work at Hooters and you're this beautiful. 477 00:22:09,080 --> 00:22:10,960 Speaker 1: I love you right now, Like I just fell in love. 478 00:22:11,280 --> 00:22:13,439 Speaker 1: And then after that, after you know, just talking to 479 00:22:13,480 --> 00:22:15,280 Speaker 1: her and seeing the sweet woman she is and how 480 00:22:15,280 --> 00:22:17,960 Speaker 1: beautiful asians, all kind she is, it was just over. 481 00:22:18,080 --> 00:22:20,200 Speaker 1: I mean, she's just checked all the boxes. I'm more 482 00:22:20,200 --> 00:22:22,800 Speaker 1: of a butt guy myself, seems like you've got a 483 00:22:22,800 --> 00:22:26,240 Speaker 1: strong fascination with boobies. I'm more and I don't know 484 00:22:26,280 --> 00:22:31,680 Speaker 1: how to I gotta I like the curvier curves. I'm not. 485 00:22:31,920 --> 00:22:33,680 Speaker 1: I don't make sure I say everything right. I mean, 486 00:22:33,720 --> 00:22:37,879 Speaker 1: just yeah, I like curveyer women. If that's how that's perfect. 487 00:22:37,880 --> 00:22:40,119 Speaker 1: What are you saying nowadays? If if you are into 488 00:22:40,160 --> 00:22:47,080 Speaker 1: the I think the curvy woman is pect. That's what 489 00:22:47,160 --> 00:22:51,200 Speaker 1: I like. That's great. That makes everyone feel good because 490 00:22:51,320 --> 00:22:53,720 Speaker 1: there's a lot of pressure to be Like, if my 491 00:22:54,080 --> 00:22:56,480 Speaker 1: wife just ate salad, it wouldn't work. Um. Okay, I 492 00:22:56,480 --> 00:22:58,840 Speaker 1: have another question, and this I'm gonna make this too 493 00:22:58,880 --> 00:23:00,920 Speaker 1: pronged because it's from Jennifer, And she said, why do 494 00:23:00,960 --> 00:23:02,960 Speaker 1: you guys leave it to the girl to plan every date? 495 00:23:03,880 --> 00:23:11,719 Speaker 1: Do you do what? Yes? Yes, explained I just it's 496 00:23:11,880 --> 00:23:16,960 Speaker 1: just takes the It just makes it easier. Hey, you know, 497 00:23:17,480 --> 00:23:22,240 Speaker 1: I mean I'm going for the for me. Well yeah, okay, okay, 498 00:23:22,240 --> 00:23:25,080 Speaker 1: you're talking to a guy who's married. Okay, I'm married. 499 00:23:25,119 --> 00:23:27,399 Speaker 1: I'm setting my ways. I've been with my my wife 500 00:23:27,400 --> 00:23:29,760 Speaker 1: now for almost five years, so I mean, I know 501 00:23:29,760 --> 00:23:32,879 Speaker 1: what she likes. She's gonna plan and she's gonna know listen, 502 00:23:32,880 --> 00:23:34,320 Speaker 1: I'm just gonna plan it because I know what I 503 00:23:34,359 --> 00:23:38,959 Speaker 1: like when you were single and dating, so I would Okay, 504 00:23:38,960 --> 00:23:40,840 Speaker 1: then I would go the extra mile because again, I'm 505 00:23:40,840 --> 00:23:43,000 Speaker 1: just trying to get your pants right, so I would 506 00:23:43,000 --> 00:23:47,239 Speaker 1: do what you're asking to be I'm a single. This 507 00:23:47,320 --> 00:23:49,600 Speaker 1: is why I think my show was so successful in 508 00:23:49,640 --> 00:23:52,119 Speaker 1: the beginning, because it's such a crappy person that I was, 509 00:23:52,160 --> 00:23:54,119 Speaker 1: and people were just like, how does this person exist? 510 00:23:54,200 --> 00:23:56,720 Speaker 1: But that's how I was. I would figure out who 511 00:23:56,760 --> 00:23:58,639 Speaker 1: she was and then I'd be like, you know, what 512 00:23:58,640 --> 00:23:59,960 Speaker 1: what can I do to be I was probably more 513 00:24:00,040 --> 00:24:02,639 Speaker 1: more more romantic when I was single, just because I 514 00:24:02,680 --> 00:24:07,440 Speaker 1: was trying to lack That is a good reason. Yeah. 515 00:24:07,520 --> 00:24:10,320 Speaker 1: When I was sorry, if I'm going on dates, I 516 00:24:10,359 --> 00:24:16,680 Speaker 1: usually try and set up I like setting up nice dates. Uh. 517 00:24:16,720 --> 00:24:18,159 Speaker 1: And when I was with my ex, I think that 518 00:24:18,359 --> 00:24:21,040 Speaker 1: was one of the reasons the relationship kind of fell apart, 519 00:24:21,080 --> 00:24:24,000 Speaker 1: is because we stopped going on dates. And I think 520 00:24:24,040 --> 00:24:27,320 Speaker 1: it was really important. Like, uh. She at one point 521 00:24:27,400 --> 00:24:29,600 Speaker 1: had heard a podcast where someone said this, and it 522 00:24:29,680 --> 00:24:33,800 Speaker 1: was that every week the man or the woman the 523 00:24:33,880 --> 00:24:36,080 Speaker 1: husband wife that she would listen to would ask the 524 00:24:36,080 --> 00:24:37,840 Speaker 1: other one on a date in a unique way and 525 00:24:37,880 --> 00:24:39,680 Speaker 1: set up the date and was back and forth every week, 526 00:24:39,720 --> 00:24:41,639 Speaker 1: and I thought, oh, that's so nice. But we were 527 00:24:41,680 --> 00:24:45,520 Speaker 1: so deep into a uh kind of just a pattern 528 00:24:45,640 --> 00:24:48,000 Speaker 1: of a little bit of like resentment over things we 529 00:24:48,000 --> 00:24:50,919 Speaker 1: couldn't control, a noncommunication, so it was really hard to 530 00:24:50,960 --> 00:24:54,439 Speaker 1: remedy by going on dates. So moving forward, I really 531 00:24:54,440 --> 00:24:57,320 Speaker 1: love everyone like in the relationship to feel like they've 532 00:24:57,359 --> 00:25:00,880 Speaker 1: got this input and this weight on back, to make 533 00:25:00,880 --> 00:25:04,240 Speaker 1: the relationship feel like it's theirs and that they've got 534 00:25:04,240 --> 00:25:05,840 Speaker 1: their say. So I think if I ended up in 535 00:25:05,840 --> 00:25:08,400 Speaker 1: another relationship, I would make it really important. I love 536 00:25:08,400 --> 00:25:10,520 Speaker 1: setting updates. I like making it really special for the person. 537 00:25:10,520 --> 00:25:12,000 Speaker 1: I need to get better with that, but I would 538 00:25:12,040 --> 00:25:14,040 Speaker 1: ask them to do the same for me. I like 539 00:25:14,119 --> 00:25:16,479 Speaker 1: if someone wasn't doing it, didn't have that same drive 540 00:25:16,600 --> 00:25:19,639 Speaker 1: to make me happy. Um, I think it's okay in 541 00:25:19,680 --> 00:25:21,520 Speaker 1: the beginning. It's okay for a while, but then you 542 00:25:21,560 --> 00:25:23,760 Speaker 1: fall into a pattern where now one person is always 543 00:25:23,760 --> 00:25:26,040 Speaker 1: doing it, and then you build resentment because you're like, 544 00:25:26,040 --> 00:25:28,560 Speaker 1: why the freak did I end up in this situation? 545 00:25:28,600 --> 00:25:31,360 Speaker 1: It's because you didn't say anything right and I'm not 546 00:25:31,400 --> 00:25:33,840 Speaker 1: going down that pad. I'm on that, I'm on that. 547 00:25:34,080 --> 00:25:35,840 Speaker 1: You know, it's so easy right now, it's so nice. 548 00:25:35,840 --> 00:25:37,600 Speaker 1: She's like, baby, let's go here, Let's go here, because 549 00:25:37,600 --> 00:25:39,199 Speaker 1: she knows the place to be like and she just 550 00:25:39,240 --> 00:25:41,320 Speaker 1: kind of takes the kind of the reins because she 551 00:25:41,400 --> 00:25:43,520 Speaker 1: does all the computers and books of flights and all that. 552 00:25:43,640 --> 00:25:46,720 Speaker 1: I'll arrange it all or you know, but she'll arrange 553 00:25:46,720 --> 00:25:51,760 Speaker 1: it all. I was about to say everything else. Tell me, 554 00:25:51,880 --> 00:25:53,560 Speaker 1: I'd rather just do that a baby. You pick where 555 00:25:53,560 --> 00:25:55,000 Speaker 1: you want to go. Here's my credit card. So this 556 00:25:55,080 --> 00:25:56,640 Speaker 1: that's what I like to do. That's what I used 557 00:25:56,680 --> 00:25:59,000 Speaker 1: to do as well, because I was very lucky, Like 558 00:25:59,160 --> 00:26:01,600 Speaker 1: you will, you picked it, so you have to like it. Well. 559 00:26:01,680 --> 00:26:04,280 Speaker 1: I I paid for everything because I was in that position. 560 00:26:04,320 --> 00:26:06,159 Speaker 1: I was very lucky to be able to provide that 561 00:26:06,280 --> 00:26:11,040 Speaker 1: kind of support. But it also if you've been paying 562 00:26:11,080 --> 00:26:14,040 Speaker 1: for everything regardless of which is totally fine vice versa 563 00:26:14,080 --> 00:26:18,760 Speaker 1: two for everything, that's fine, but there is something really 564 00:26:18,800 --> 00:26:21,119 Speaker 1: exciting about you all of a sudden being like by 565 00:26:21,200 --> 00:26:24,359 Speaker 1: the way I booked the plane ticket, I booked the hotel, 566 00:26:24,440 --> 00:26:26,080 Speaker 1: like for you to do that. Now at this point, 567 00:26:26,160 --> 00:26:28,280 Speaker 1: you're even better off because you've established this pattern that 568 00:26:28,320 --> 00:26:31,399 Speaker 1: you can outbreak in the most romantic. Yeah, you're in 569 00:26:31,440 --> 00:26:34,040 Speaker 1: a good plan, something like super romantic for her, she'd 570 00:26:34,040 --> 00:26:38,520 Speaker 1: be like, whoa, yeah, because even if you don't even 571 00:26:38,560 --> 00:26:41,439 Speaker 1: know how to turn the computer on, I think you should. 572 00:26:41,440 --> 00:26:42,639 Speaker 1: I think you should do that. You don't even need 573 00:26:42,680 --> 00:26:44,399 Speaker 1: to do it all yourself. Have you know, if you 574 00:26:44,440 --> 00:26:49,320 Speaker 1: have an assistant or something you but you're baby steps. 575 00:26:49,359 --> 00:26:51,240 Speaker 1: Pick a restaurant you haven't been to and be like, 576 00:26:51,240 --> 00:26:52,560 Speaker 1: I looked at the menu ahead of time. I know 577 00:26:52,600 --> 00:26:54,480 Speaker 1: you're gonna like this. I got a special dessert coming. 578 00:26:54,800 --> 00:26:58,280 Speaker 1: Little things like that go so far that I do 579 00:26:58,400 --> 00:27:01,800 Speaker 1: stuff like that. You're you're reasoning for letting her plan 580 00:27:01,920 --> 00:27:04,720 Speaker 1: the dates is because you want you know that she's 581 00:27:04,720 --> 00:27:06,840 Speaker 1: gonna be happy if she plans. It takes the pressure 582 00:27:06,840 --> 00:27:08,879 Speaker 1: off of you, and whatever she picks, I'm gonna like. 583 00:27:08,920 --> 00:27:10,840 Speaker 1: That's another thing about my wife and I, as we 584 00:27:11,000 --> 00:27:12,960 Speaker 1: like everything the same. We like the same music, we 585 00:27:13,040 --> 00:27:15,240 Speaker 1: like the same furniture, we like the same places to visit, 586 00:27:15,280 --> 00:27:18,840 Speaker 1: we like the same food. Everything everything we like the same. 587 00:27:18,840 --> 00:27:20,080 Speaker 1: So even we go out to eat and I runner 588 00:27:20,080 --> 00:27:22,400 Speaker 1: the bathroom, she'll order my food for me and order 589 00:27:22,400 --> 00:27:24,560 Speaker 1: her food for you. We just know we like everything 590 00:27:24,600 --> 00:27:27,040 Speaker 1: the same. So I think that's why when she said, 591 00:27:27,320 --> 00:27:28,920 Speaker 1: let's go on vacation next week, and we're still trying 592 00:27:28,920 --> 00:27:30,240 Speaker 1: to figure out what we're going on her honeymoon. I 593 00:27:30,240 --> 00:27:34,680 Speaker 1: haven't decided that yet. I know, well, it's one of 594 00:27:34,680 --> 00:27:36,280 Speaker 1: those things where our show was too long, so we 595 00:27:36,320 --> 00:27:38,520 Speaker 1: had to wait until afterwards. So it's and we travel 596 00:27:38,600 --> 00:27:41,800 Speaker 1: a lot, like every weekend is a freaking honeymoon. So um, 597 00:27:41,920 --> 00:27:43,679 Speaker 1: we're still trying to figure that out. And I'm again 598 00:27:43,840 --> 00:27:45,639 Speaker 1: she kind of it's like taking the reins on that. 599 00:27:45,760 --> 00:27:47,840 Speaker 1: So I probably should be more a little involved because 600 00:27:47,840 --> 00:27:48,800 Speaker 1: she's kind of like, where do you want to go out? 601 00:27:48,800 --> 00:27:49,840 Speaker 1: What do you want to do? I'm like, whatever you want. 602 00:27:50,240 --> 00:27:53,280 Speaker 1: Just surprised her with I think I'm using stuff when 603 00:27:53,280 --> 00:27:56,520 Speaker 1: I get there, like I'll do no because if I 604 00:27:56,600 --> 00:27:58,920 Speaker 1: do that, and what if She's like, well, wait a minute, 605 00:27:58,920 --> 00:28:00,280 Speaker 1: I know you're gonna do that. I thought had this 606 00:28:00,320 --> 00:28:02,200 Speaker 1: in man, this in mind, and this in mind because 607 00:28:02,200 --> 00:28:04,560 Speaker 1: she's knowing that I'm not going to do that. You 608 00:28:04,600 --> 00:28:06,280 Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, Well, then you just tell her, well, 609 00:28:06,280 --> 00:28:07,920 Speaker 1: then you plan the next one. But I wanted to 610 00:28:08,240 --> 00:28:10,600 Speaker 1: feel my plan, whatever I plan, whatever I do, Like 611 00:28:10,640 --> 00:28:12,320 Speaker 1: she sends me the grocery store and she gives me 612 00:28:12,359 --> 00:28:14,320 Speaker 1: the Honeydeo list. Do you ever get the Honeydeo list? 613 00:28:14,880 --> 00:28:18,000 Speaker 1: I'm single, that's right, that's right, I'm sorry. All right. Well, 614 00:28:18,440 --> 00:28:20,800 Speaker 1: when you do move in with your significant other and 615 00:28:20,800 --> 00:28:22,720 Speaker 1: you're you'll get the honeydew list of things you gotta 616 00:28:22,800 --> 00:28:25,680 Speaker 1: do before. Okay, tonight, I need you to do this stuff. 617 00:28:25,720 --> 00:28:27,600 Speaker 1: So I get those lists sometimes and I usually get 618 00:28:27,640 --> 00:28:30,280 Speaker 1: up because I'll forget this, I forget that, or I 619 00:28:30,320 --> 00:28:32,440 Speaker 1: thought this, and sometimes I like a fly this brand. 620 00:28:32,440 --> 00:28:34,679 Speaker 1: So she's just kind of like, I'll just deal with it, 621 00:28:34,760 --> 00:28:36,280 Speaker 1: but I don't. I don't know if it bothers her. 622 00:28:36,280 --> 00:28:37,959 Speaker 1: But now I'm like thinking about it because she just 623 00:28:38,040 --> 00:28:40,600 Speaker 1: she won't show that anything bothers her. She's so sweet, 624 00:28:40,640 --> 00:28:44,040 Speaker 1: my wife. It's a Southern thing, take care of people. 625 00:28:44,080 --> 00:28:47,880 Speaker 1: She loves. You can't let her do that. That's how 626 00:28:48,280 --> 00:28:51,800 Speaker 1: that's how quiet resentment builds. You have to have it, 627 00:28:52,160 --> 00:28:55,000 Speaker 1: I promise you, no matter how much she likes anything. Okay, 628 00:28:55,040 --> 00:28:56,959 Speaker 1: And this is coming from a girl who likes doing that. 629 00:28:57,000 --> 00:28:59,240 Speaker 1: Like I'm the same way, Like I'll start dating somebody 630 00:28:59,280 --> 00:29:02,160 Speaker 1: a month in and I'll baking cookie. Yeah, I'll mention 631 00:29:02,200 --> 00:29:04,160 Speaker 1: that he loves like this specific cooking. Like I'll show 632 00:29:04,240 --> 00:29:06,720 Speaker 1: up like I'm like that type of girl, and I 633 00:29:06,840 --> 00:29:09,600 Speaker 1: love doing those things. But after a while, when I'm 634 00:29:09,640 --> 00:29:12,719 Speaker 1: always doing those things and I'm not getting any in return, 635 00:29:12,760 --> 00:29:14,840 Speaker 1: and I don't do things because I want in return, 636 00:29:14,920 --> 00:29:18,320 Speaker 1: but just a little acknowledgement or little thoughtfulness, it starts 637 00:29:18,360 --> 00:29:21,280 Speaker 1: to like build. And I wouldn't say anything that being 638 00:29:21,320 --> 00:29:23,400 Speaker 1: said now that she does. Britney does do a lot 639 00:29:23,440 --> 00:29:26,000 Speaker 1: of things, but her Christmas presents and her and her 640 00:29:26,520 --> 00:29:29,440 Speaker 1: Birthday presents, a Valentine's pres on, all her holiday presents 641 00:29:29,480 --> 00:29:31,480 Speaker 1: are just that much more because she does so much. 642 00:29:31,480 --> 00:29:35,440 Speaker 1: For if she's getting that extra Chanelle handback, she's getting 643 00:29:35,440 --> 00:29:43,040 Speaker 1: that extra Louis Louis Baton handbag. What if we're at 644 00:29:43,040 --> 00:29:45,200 Speaker 1: the mall and she says, I love those shoes and 645 00:29:45,240 --> 00:29:47,600 Speaker 1: it's like it's a Tuesday afternoon and there's no reason. 646 00:29:47,640 --> 00:29:49,520 Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, let's get him, like just because I 647 00:29:49,560 --> 00:29:51,880 Speaker 1: know she goes that extra mile and she's just like 648 00:29:51,920 --> 00:29:53,440 Speaker 1: what really, And I'll be like She's like, yeah, of 649 00:29:53,480 --> 00:30:00,440 Speaker 1: course so much that Yeah, I think I think, uh, 650 00:30:00,480 --> 00:30:02,240 Speaker 1: I kind of fell into the same thing of like 651 00:30:02,320 --> 00:30:04,000 Speaker 1: we would go on vacation. I'd pay for everything, and 652 00:30:04,040 --> 00:30:07,680 Speaker 1: I'd be like, isn't this good enough? And at a 653 00:30:07,680 --> 00:30:10,840 Speaker 1: certain point it is, but then at another point it isn't. 654 00:30:10,840 --> 00:30:13,360 Speaker 1: And I think, like with the honeydew list, if you 655 00:30:13,600 --> 00:30:17,000 Speaker 1: went and bought flowers without being asked and then missed butter, 656 00:30:17,440 --> 00:30:20,160 Speaker 1: milk and water, she would be so happy that you. 657 00:30:20,440 --> 00:30:22,200 Speaker 1: I'd buy her flyers every time. If I go to 658 00:30:22,200 --> 00:30:27,520 Speaker 1: the gas station, I buy her flyers. That's perfect. I 659 00:30:27,520 --> 00:30:29,600 Speaker 1: have a very cute guy. I do. Every morning I 660 00:30:29,600 --> 00:30:31,280 Speaker 1: go to get her coffee. She got her for her place, 661 00:30:31,320 --> 00:30:33,240 Speaker 1: and I get her scratch offs every morning. She likes 662 00:30:33,240 --> 00:30:35,680 Speaker 1: her scratch offs. She likes to get her daisies. I 663 00:30:35,680 --> 00:30:39,480 Speaker 1: get her daisies. I'm sorry, sunflowers every morning. That's great, 664 00:30:41,320 --> 00:30:42,840 Speaker 1: I know, but I was just I was getting into 665 00:30:42,840 --> 00:30:44,320 Speaker 1: the good stuff because I was like that I do 666 00:30:44,440 --> 00:30:48,760 Speaker 1: mess up on that. Yeah, I'm I'm an amazing husband. Wait, 667 00:30:48,800 --> 00:30:52,280 Speaker 1: that's really cute, but I do. Okay, so let me okay, 668 00:30:52,320 --> 00:30:54,440 Speaker 1: this might win you some points. You should go home 669 00:30:54,480 --> 00:30:56,440 Speaker 1: tonight and be like, I really think we should take 670 00:30:56,440 --> 00:30:58,480 Speaker 1: the love language test just to see how each of 671 00:30:58,560 --> 00:31:01,280 Speaker 1: us receives love and what and what is that there 672 00:31:01,280 --> 00:31:06,120 Speaker 1: are five love languages. It's it's literally changes how you 673 00:31:06,160 --> 00:31:08,840 Speaker 1: have relationships with people, honestly, truly. So remind you we 674 00:31:08,920 --> 00:31:10,880 Speaker 1: are in the process of trying to start a family 675 00:31:11,000 --> 00:31:15,239 Speaker 1: right now. Is this a good time? Tell you how 676 00:31:15,320 --> 00:31:18,280 Speaker 1: romantic that is? By the way, starting a family. Break 677 00:31:18,320 --> 00:31:20,520 Speaker 1: into that real quick. There's some questions, so we'll get 678 00:31:20,560 --> 00:31:22,720 Speaker 1: to that. Yeah, I'm glad to know that. Wait, I 679 00:31:22,760 --> 00:31:24,600 Speaker 1: just really okay, we're gonna get into that, but really quick, 680 00:31:24,600 --> 00:31:26,600 Speaker 1: what's your love language? You know your top love language. 681 00:31:26,880 --> 00:31:29,200 Speaker 1: I really like acts of service because I'm most of 682 00:31:29,240 --> 00:31:32,920 Speaker 1: the most like gracious person Like to me, there's nothing 683 00:31:33,000 --> 00:31:36,080 Speaker 1: more annoying than me doing something or paying for dinner 684 00:31:36,080 --> 00:31:38,160 Speaker 1: and not getting a thank you. It's I will never 685 00:31:38,360 --> 00:31:40,760 Speaker 1: go on another date with that person. It's very frustrating. 686 00:31:40,800 --> 00:31:43,520 Speaker 1: All I wanted to thank you. But if if a 687 00:31:43,600 --> 00:31:46,120 Speaker 1: girl buys me, if I'm with someone and I've bought 688 00:31:46,360 --> 00:31:48,400 Speaker 1: I've purchased everything for months and months and she buys 689 00:31:48,440 --> 00:31:51,080 Speaker 1: me one coffee, I'm literally over the moon. I'm like, 690 00:31:51,160 --> 00:31:52,920 Speaker 1: that was so cool of you to do that. Thank you, 691 00:31:53,120 --> 00:31:55,840 Speaker 1: Like I'm just it might be a little weird for 692 00:31:55,880 --> 00:31:57,480 Speaker 1: some people. No, that's all fashioned. I grew up the 693 00:31:57,520 --> 00:31:59,400 Speaker 1: same way. I personally, I never think a girl should 694 00:31:59,400 --> 00:32:01,800 Speaker 1: pay for everything. I'm like, I grew up in that 695 00:32:01,880 --> 00:32:03,880 Speaker 1: generation where you take a girl out, you pay for 696 00:32:04,000 --> 00:32:06,240 Speaker 1: That's how you do things. That's how my dad, my 697 00:32:06,240 --> 00:32:08,400 Speaker 1: grandfather was that way. That's I will always be that way. 698 00:32:08,440 --> 00:32:09,760 Speaker 1: I don't think a girl should pay when you go 699 00:32:09,800 --> 00:32:11,120 Speaker 1: on a date. But I like when they do the 700 00:32:11,120 --> 00:32:16,120 Speaker 1: fake on oh hey, I brought you some take out, 701 00:32:16,240 --> 00:32:17,920 Speaker 1: I brought you. The stat to me is like, that's 702 00:32:17,960 --> 00:32:20,080 Speaker 1: like a million dollars to me. When she comes home 703 00:32:20,120 --> 00:32:22,440 Speaker 1: with something that's so little or something something cool that 704 00:32:22,440 --> 00:32:24,520 Speaker 1: I would love, like oh, he's your favorite your bagel 705 00:32:24,520 --> 00:32:26,760 Speaker 1: sandwich or something like that or whatever, and I'm like, 706 00:32:26,760 --> 00:32:29,080 Speaker 1: oh my god. I mean that's like like that's like 707 00:32:29,120 --> 00:32:31,080 Speaker 1: the best thing in the world. That's active service. So 708 00:32:31,160 --> 00:32:33,440 Speaker 1: yours just probably access service to That's my number one. 709 00:32:33,440 --> 00:32:35,560 Speaker 1: I would highly recommend that you say let's take it. 710 00:32:35,640 --> 00:32:37,440 Speaker 1: She'll be like, oh my gosh, that she might know 711 00:32:37,520 --> 00:32:40,600 Speaker 1: her already have all the girls are coming over my 712 00:32:40,600 --> 00:32:44,600 Speaker 1: house sign so maybe we'll all do it. Katie. Yeah, 713 00:32:44,600 --> 00:32:48,080 Speaker 1: I'm gonna be the only guy there, but we'll do. Yeah, 714 00:32:48,080 --> 00:32:50,200 Speaker 1: it takes like ten minutes. I have some questions about 715 00:32:50,200 --> 00:32:53,240 Speaker 1: starting a family and never think. So we're going to 716 00:32:53,320 --> 00:33:07,959 Speaker 1: take a break and we'll be by back. And I'm 717 00:33:07,960 --> 00:33:11,959 Speaker 1: glad we're back because I almost um busted my question 718 00:33:12,280 --> 00:33:17,440 Speaker 1: without being on the air. That makes sense and busted. No, 719 00:33:17,520 --> 00:33:19,400 Speaker 1: But it's really cute when you make little mistakes at 720 00:33:19,440 --> 00:33:25,400 Speaker 1: that time, Hunter, you are kind of winning me over. 721 00:33:25,480 --> 00:33:30,320 Speaker 1: I'm not really flaws, so you're gonna just have to 722 00:33:30,360 --> 00:33:34,440 Speaker 1: accept that. Okay, So I want interesting first date. I 723 00:33:34,480 --> 00:33:36,400 Speaker 1: would really like to recap that if you guys do it, 724 00:33:36,800 --> 00:33:39,000 Speaker 1: I want to be there for the recap. I think 725 00:33:39,160 --> 00:33:42,080 Speaker 1: I think we've discovered that I'm a little bit I 726 00:33:42,120 --> 00:33:45,080 Speaker 1: don't even know the best word, the opposite of conservative, 727 00:33:45,760 --> 00:33:49,240 Speaker 1: Like I'm pretty I'm pretty dark, Like I like trauma 728 00:33:49,240 --> 00:33:51,280 Speaker 1: and people's life, I like, I like all that. And 729 00:33:51,360 --> 00:33:54,880 Speaker 1: she's very and like bright and light and like not 730 00:33:54,960 --> 00:33:57,480 Speaker 1: that I like someone with a bad relationship with their father. 731 00:33:58,280 --> 00:34:00,480 Speaker 1: See that's that's what I was always going out with it, 732 00:34:00,440 --> 00:34:02,440 Speaker 1: and that's because I'm the dark side. So it took 733 00:34:02,440 --> 00:34:05,280 Speaker 1: me to be with Brittany because She's just she finds 734 00:34:05,280 --> 00:34:07,080 Speaker 1: the light in everything, and there could be the worst 735 00:34:07,160 --> 00:34:08,960 Speaker 1: day in the world and she'll just be chippers can be. 736 00:34:09,000 --> 00:34:11,160 Speaker 1: And I'm just like she'said the yng to my yang. 737 00:34:11,200 --> 00:34:13,640 Speaker 1: So I if I had it both, if we were 738 00:34:13,640 --> 00:34:15,759 Speaker 1: both the same way, it would have never worked, seem looking, 739 00:34:15,760 --> 00:34:18,480 Speaker 1: I'm so narcissistic that I want to find me. I 740 00:34:18,560 --> 00:34:20,320 Speaker 1: want to find me and then have a little me 741 00:34:21,040 --> 00:34:25,080 Speaker 1: and name him Hunter. I don't want that. There was 742 00:34:25,120 --> 00:34:26,799 Speaker 1: a girl that was named Hunter, and I thought, how 743 00:34:26,800 --> 00:34:28,320 Speaker 1: funny would it be be if I married her had a 744 00:34:28,400 --> 00:34:30,879 Speaker 1: kid named Hunter and we could never separate mail because 745 00:34:30,880 --> 00:34:34,360 Speaker 1: there would be three Hunter Marches in one house. Weird 746 00:34:34,400 --> 00:34:39,440 Speaker 1: fantasies that I have. Yeah, it's sick. Okay after that, well, 747 00:34:39,440 --> 00:34:43,279 Speaker 1: she could change her name to Hunter, okay. Um. This 748 00:34:43,320 --> 00:34:45,120 Speaker 1: is something that comes up a lot on the podcast. 749 00:34:45,880 --> 00:34:48,160 Speaker 1: What are your thoughts on a girl asking you out 750 00:34:48,200 --> 00:34:50,000 Speaker 1: first or making the first move? I think it's the 751 00:34:50,000 --> 00:34:52,520 Speaker 1: hottest thing ever and and every I've had that happen 752 00:34:52,560 --> 00:34:54,640 Speaker 1: a few times, and it's always been the most amazing 753 00:34:54,719 --> 00:34:56,960 Speaker 1: dates because that girls into it. It's always the other 754 00:34:56,960 --> 00:34:58,560 Speaker 1: way around. It's always the guy asking the girl and 755 00:34:58,600 --> 00:35:00,160 Speaker 1: the girls kind of like sometimes you don't know and 756 00:35:00,160 --> 00:35:03,359 Speaker 1: she's like okay, yes, and then this one she you know, 757 00:35:03,480 --> 00:35:05,480 Speaker 1: she's ready for this date. She came to you, she 758 00:35:05,560 --> 00:35:08,040 Speaker 1: asked you, so you're like, okay, you know that takes 759 00:35:08,120 --> 00:35:09,719 Speaker 1: kind of like the edge off of like I gotta 760 00:35:09,760 --> 00:35:12,319 Speaker 1: win this girl over because she's already asked you, she's 761 00:35:12,320 --> 00:35:13,759 Speaker 1: already wants to do you want to date with you, 762 00:35:13,840 --> 00:35:17,439 Speaker 1: She's already interested. So you basically got half the date 763 00:35:17,480 --> 00:35:19,680 Speaker 1: over with. Really, in my eyes, that's how I looked 764 00:35:19,680 --> 00:35:20,959 Speaker 1: at it. I'm like, oh, this is in the bag. 765 00:35:21,239 --> 00:35:24,480 Speaker 1: But a p time it was that lines up with 766 00:35:24,600 --> 00:35:28,720 Speaker 1: your your core goal, which is sleeping with Again. Well, 767 00:35:29,280 --> 00:35:31,920 Speaker 1: well okay, that wasn't the whole question. She said what 768 00:35:32,000 --> 00:35:34,359 Speaker 1: how do you feel about it? That's period. She would 769 00:35:34,360 --> 00:35:35,560 Speaker 1: say how do you feel about it? And do you 770 00:35:35,560 --> 00:35:38,200 Speaker 1: think this is this right? I felt great about it. 771 00:35:38,320 --> 00:35:40,520 Speaker 1: I was always good. I love when a girl does 772 00:35:40,520 --> 00:35:42,640 Speaker 1: it too. But I also think there is something to 773 00:35:42,840 --> 00:35:45,960 Speaker 1: the chase, Like I think as a social media person, 774 00:35:46,040 --> 00:35:49,000 Speaker 1: as someone who has a presence on TV or whatever 775 00:35:49,040 --> 00:35:52,120 Speaker 1: it is people do like through d M. S asked 776 00:35:52,200 --> 00:35:55,279 Speaker 1: me out and I have vice versa found when I 777 00:35:55,280 --> 00:35:57,719 Speaker 1: was on dating apps. I would ask people out through 778 00:35:57,800 --> 00:36:02,160 Speaker 1: social media, so I get back and forth, and I've 779 00:36:02,160 --> 00:36:03,719 Speaker 1: gone on dates with girls that have asked me out 780 00:36:03,840 --> 00:36:08,600 Speaker 1: through Instagram? And where's that left you? Crazy? Because you like, 781 00:36:08,600 --> 00:36:10,239 Speaker 1: I mean that would be the weirdest thing for me 782 00:36:10,280 --> 00:36:12,120 Speaker 1: if I was single or go back on the dating world, 783 00:36:12,160 --> 00:36:14,319 Speaker 1: like I wouldn't know who to trust. No, I see, 784 00:36:14,440 --> 00:36:20,239 Speaker 1: but I'm also the most all over the place. I'm 785 00:36:20,280 --> 00:36:24,960 Speaker 1: the most I think, like secure in myself that even 786 00:36:24,960 --> 00:36:28,120 Speaker 1: if it's a horrible date, I'm having the best time 787 00:36:28,160 --> 00:36:30,239 Speaker 1: because I like a story, Like I've gone on dates 788 00:36:30,239 --> 00:36:33,080 Speaker 1: with people where I'm like, this is the craziest thing 789 00:36:33,080 --> 00:36:35,880 Speaker 1: I could physically do, and gone into situations I'm like 790 00:36:35,920 --> 00:36:38,040 Speaker 1: this is insane and the story is amazing and the 791 00:36:38,080 --> 00:36:40,360 Speaker 1: person ends up being like this little light in my 792 00:36:40,400 --> 00:36:42,279 Speaker 1: life where I was like, I remember that date so 793 00:36:42,360 --> 00:36:45,640 Speaker 1: much more than I remember the boring one. You know, like, 794 00:36:45,680 --> 00:36:47,799 Speaker 1: get weird on your dates because even if it doesn't work, 795 00:36:48,120 --> 00:36:51,359 Speaker 1: because you're gonna have a really really good memory. Yeah, 796 00:36:51,400 --> 00:36:54,440 Speaker 1: I've had some Have you ever asked can I ask you? 797 00:36:54,440 --> 00:36:55,840 Speaker 1: Can I ask you a question if you don't wan 798 00:36:55,920 --> 00:36:57,520 Speaker 1: to credit like in this day and age again, because 799 00:36:57,520 --> 00:36:59,160 Speaker 1: I haven't dated a long time. Is it common now 800 00:36:59,239 --> 00:37:03,320 Speaker 1: for girls to ask is out? I think that's so awesome. 801 00:37:03,480 --> 00:37:05,160 Speaker 1: I think that's so awesome that girls are now kind 802 00:37:05,160 --> 00:37:06,440 Speaker 1: of because, first of all, I'm never the kind of 803 00:37:06,440 --> 00:37:07,600 Speaker 1: guy that can go up to a girl anyway. I 804 00:37:07,880 --> 00:37:10,880 Speaker 1: just had to have my friend do it work my 805 00:37:10,920 --> 00:37:13,360 Speaker 1: way in. But um, I just think that's so awesome. 806 00:37:13,400 --> 00:37:15,160 Speaker 1: I just think it's so attractive when just kind of 807 00:37:15,200 --> 00:37:17,680 Speaker 1: takes the initiative. I kind of like that, do you 808 00:37:17,880 --> 00:37:20,800 Speaker 1: but beyond the for asking, the initial asking of a 809 00:37:20,920 --> 00:37:24,520 Speaker 1: first date, do you agree that there's something to the 810 00:37:24,560 --> 00:37:28,960 Speaker 1: pursuit of um mystery? And I was I'm glad you 811 00:37:29,000 --> 00:37:30,560 Speaker 1: said that, because I was going to say the one 812 00:37:30,680 --> 00:37:33,080 Speaker 1: thing that does kind of go away when a girl 813 00:37:33,120 --> 00:37:36,080 Speaker 1: asks you out is this question of does she like me? 814 00:37:36,320 --> 00:37:40,080 Speaker 1: And for me, I like, if I ask a girl out, 815 00:37:40,120 --> 00:37:42,520 Speaker 1: and I am like on my best behavior, I'm like 816 00:37:42,719 --> 00:37:44,759 Speaker 1: being like, hey, did you know I paint? You know, 817 00:37:44,840 --> 00:37:48,520 Speaker 1: like trying to be like drop little things, little things. 818 00:37:48,560 --> 00:37:52,200 Speaker 1: Sorry I dropped little things. And uh, if I know 819 00:37:52,239 --> 00:37:54,279 Speaker 1: that they asked me out, At least on social media, 820 00:37:54,280 --> 00:37:57,839 Speaker 1: it's usually pretty forward, it's usually like ho, holy hell. 821 00:37:57,880 --> 00:37:59,799 Speaker 1: I think you're hilarious, Let's go on a date, and 822 00:37:59,840 --> 00:38:02,200 Speaker 1: I'll go on a date with them with this idea 823 00:38:02,239 --> 00:38:06,120 Speaker 1: that like, oh, they already are infatuated. There's something so 824 00:38:06,320 --> 00:38:10,200 Speaker 1: attractive of not knowing, Like for me, the chase has 825 00:38:10,280 --> 00:38:12,319 Speaker 1: always been and for my dad and my brother, we've 826 00:38:12,320 --> 00:38:14,000 Speaker 1: all talked about it, this idea of like not knowing 827 00:38:14,000 --> 00:38:17,880 Speaker 1: if a girl likes me, mind blowing. I am head 828 00:38:17,960 --> 00:38:20,279 Speaker 1: over heels in love, and then it's for the most part, 829 00:38:20,360 --> 00:38:23,279 Speaker 1: as soon as she likes me, the chase is over 830 00:38:23,360 --> 00:38:25,879 Speaker 1: and I've bent over. But that's exactly what I used 831 00:38:25,880 --> 00:38:27,520 Speaker 1: to call me the three week Warrior, because I think 832 00:38:27,760 --> 00:38:29,239 Speaker 1: to a girl for three weeks, and as soon as 833 00:38:29,280 --> 00:38:31,200 Speaker 1: I stopped with her, I was over it. I was 834 00:38:31,239 --> 00:38:33,279 Speaker 1: over and I tried so hard. That's why I was 835 00:38:33,280 --> 00:38:35,680 Speaker 1: worried about breeding too when that happened quick, and I 836 00:38:35,680 --> 00:38:37,319 Speaker 1: was like, am I going to be over this too quick? 837 00:38:37,400 --> 00:38:39,799 Speaker 1: And that's because I was just lost the attraction after 838 00:38:39,880 --> 00:38:41,600 Speaker 1: I slept with him, Yeah, and then I like that 839 00:38:41,680 --> 00:38:43,520 Speaker 1: it was over. I was nervous that that was gonna 840 00:38:43,560 --> 00:38:46,440 Speaker 1: be my like life is person because my dad's still 841 00:38:46,520 --> 00:38:49,600 Speaker 1: single and everything. But I had a really really great 842 00:38:49,640 --> 00:38:52,400 Speaker 1: five year relationship where I didn't have any interest in 843 00:38:52,440 --> 00:38:55,080 Speaker 1: anyone else, Like I was very content, So I know 844 00:38:55,120 --> 00:38:56,960 Speaker 1: that it's possible. I've gone on dates since then, and 845 00:38:57,000 --> 00:38:59,320 Speaker 1: I'm like, I could totally be with this person regardless 846 00:38:59,360 --> 00:39:00,920 Speaker 1: of I they like me. I could be with this 847 00:39:00,960 --> 00:39:03,399 Speaker 1: person and for one reason or another didn't work out. See, 848 00:39:03,640 --> 00:39:05,960 Speaker 1: my go to is like I dropped the handkerchief so 849 00:39:05,960 --> 00:39:08,120 Speaker 1: that they like, no, I'm interested, but then I let 850 00:39:08,200 --> 00:39:11,080 Speaker 1: them like pick it up, you know what I mean? 851 00:39:12,239 --> 00:39:16,160 Speaker 1: Actually instance, for instance, all like a lot of flirty 852 00:39:16,239 --> 00:39:18,640 Speaker 1: d M or like I'll send a flirty text or 853 00:39:18,719 --> 00:39:22,320 Speaker 1: something flirty that what no, but it wouldn't be like forward, 854 00:39:22,360 --> 00:39:25,000 Speaker 1: like no, it wouldn't be forward, and it wouldn't be 855 00:39:25,040 --> 00:39:27,040 Speaker 1: asking them out, but it would be like flirty so 856 00:39:27,080 --> 00:39:28,680 Speaker 1: that they could like be like, oh she's said to me, 857 00:39:28,719 --> 00:39:31,040 Speaker 1: I'll ask her out. It's like to drop the handkerchief 858 00:39:31,120 --> 00:39:33,799 Speaker 1: let them pick it up. I like that. I like 859 00:39:33,880 --> 00:39:35,719 Speaker 1: that too, like that because I think if a guy 860 00:39:35,800 --> 00:39:37,560 Speaker 1: is ready for it, he'll pick it up. And then 861 00:39:37,600 --> 00:39:39,120 Speaker 1: one time, one time I was dropping a lot of 862 00:39:39,160 --> 00:39:41,360 Speaker 1: handkerchiefs and this guy was not picking them up, and 863 00:39:41,400 --> 00:39:43,080 Speaker 1: then he came. I came on the podcast, and I 864 00:39:43,120 --> 00:39:44,560 Speaker 1: was like, I've been talking to this guy for two 865 00:39:44,560 --> 00:39:45,840 Speaker 1: weeks and he won't ask me out. I don't know 866 00:39:45,880 --> 00:39:47,719 Speaker 1: if we started calling him Dr Woosey and then he 867 00:39:47,800 --> 00:39:50,920 Speaker 1: ended up asking me out. How did that work out? 868 00:39:52,040 --> 00:39:53,640 Speaker 1: I was gonna say that I was waiting for you. 869 00:39:55,600 --> 00:39:59,040 Speaker 1: That was this heavy silence. Oh yeah, it ended up 870 00:39:59,040 --> 00:40:02,799 Speaker 1: pretty sanzy. Yeah, sometimes you can try too hard, and 871 00:40:02,840 --> 00:40:05,880 Speaker 1: even if eventually you do get that date, there's already 872 00:40:05,960 --> 00:40:11,000 Speaker 1: this status difference in terms of infatuation, and that's really 873 00:40:11,040 --> 00:40:14,319 Speaker 1: hard to bounce back from. In a way, like I 874 00:40:14,320 --> 00:40:15,880 Speaker 1: think it's it's some of the best times when you 875 00:40:15,880 --> 00:40:18,360 Speaker 1: meet someone in public and you say, hey, I just 876 00:40:18,400 --> 00:40:19,920 Speaker 1: think you're beautiful. I'd love to go on a date 877 00:40:19,920 --> 00:40:21,440 Speaker 1: with you sometime, and then it's like you guys are 878 00:40:21,480 --> 00:40:23,399 Speaker 1: both here r. You know, you can go on the date. 879 00:40:23,520 --> 00:40:25,000 Speaker 1: But when it's like as someone you know and you've 880 00:40:25,000 --> 00:40:27,799 Speaker 1: been dropping hint after hint after hint, there's this weird 881 00:40:27,840 --> 00:40:31,040 Speaker 1: and balance, you know, good or bad. Um. Such a 882 00:40:31,040 --> 00:40:32,840 Speaker 1: cool thing to do is I think it's so cocky 883 00:40:32,920 --> 00:40:34,000 Speaker 1: just to go up to a girl and be like, 884 00:40:34,040 --> 00:40:35,440 Speaker 1: I think you're gorgeous. I just want you to know 885 00:40:35,520 --> 00:40:40,399 Speaker 1: that walk away. The walking away a part, Yeah, why 886 00:40:40,400 --> 00:40:42,319 Speaker 1: do you walk away? Well, just like you get seed 887 00:40:42,520 --> 00:40:43,560 Speaker 1: just to go out and back. Just want I think 888 00:40:43,560 --> 00:40:45,560 Speaker 1: you're gorgeous, and you know, even if you don't ask him, 889 00:40:45,600 --> 00:40:46,840 Speaker 1: I just want to let you know that you're beautiful. 890 00:40:46,840 --> 00:40:49,160 Speaker 1: It makes a girl's day whether or not you ask 891 00:40:49,200 --> 00:40:50,600 Speaker 1: her out or not. Do you want to know something? 892 00:40:51,239 --> 00:40:53,239 Speaker 1: Do you wanna know? I've done that plenty of times, 893 00:40:53,239 --> 00:40:56,279 Speaker 1: but it's not with maybe the same intention. I will 894 00:40:56,360 --> 00:40:58,160 Speaker 1: see like a beautiful person, like I was with my 895 00:40:58,200 --> 00:40:59,960 Speaker 1: brother and my dad at one point. We're at Venice 896 00:41:00,280 --> 00:41:02,840 Speaker 1: Beach and my dad's the type of guy where he 897 00:41:02,840 --> 00:41:04,160 Speaker 1: will go up to a girl with my brother and 898 00:41:04,200 --> 00:41:06,200 Speaker 1: I are both were nervous about it, but we would 899 00:41:06,239 --> 00:41:08,600 Speaker 1: also do it. And I did that with my That 900 00:41:08,640 --> 00:41:11,000 Speaker 1: girlfriend was working at Starbucks and she came in and 901 00:41:11,000 --> 00:41:12,560 Speaker 1: I couldn't talk to her because I was a briest 902 00:41:12,600 --> 00:41:14,600 Speaker 1: and I was like at the wrong section and it 903 00:41:14,680 --> 00:41:16,200 Speaker 1: was busy, and she was in there with her mom 904 00:41:16,520 --> 00:41:19,040 Speaker 1: and the girl that I was really attracted to walked away, 905 00:41:19,080 --> 00:41:20,160 Speaker 1: but her mom was right in front of me, and 906 00:41:20,160 --> 00:41:21,960 Speaker 1: I was like, I'm so sorry to ask you this, 907 00:41:22,000 --> 00:41:28,880 Speaker 1: but is your sister single and so good. I started 908 00:41:28,880 --> 00:41:30,279 Speaker 1: talking to her for a little bit and I was like, well, 909 00:41:30,280 --> 00:41:32,520 Speaker 1: would you mind if I asked your daughter on a date? 910 00:41:32,640 --> 00:41:34,279 Speaker 1: And she was like go ahead. I went up to 911 00:41:34,320 --> 00:41:35,759 Speaker 1: and I was like, hey, I was talking to your mom. 912 00:41:35,760 --> 00:41:37,719 Speaker 1: I got the approval. Can I ask you on a date? 913 00:41:37,960 --> 00:41:40,040 Speaker 1: All right? I'd love to go on a date with you. Um, 914 00:41:40,120 --> 00:41:41,840 Speaker 1: And we set up the date. I was like blown 915 00:41:41,840 --> 00:41:43,960 Speaker 1: away that she was into it. It was at a 916 00:41:44,000 --> 00:41:47,920 Speaker 1: coffee being ironically, and she didn't show up and she 917 00:41:48,000 --> 00:41:50,520 Speaker 1: texted me like fifteen minutes late. I walked outside at 918 00:41:50,560 --> 00:41:53,080 Speaker 1: a parking ticket and we didn't talk to each other 919 00:41:53,120 --> 00:41:55,800 Speaker 1: for three years. And then three years later, same day Easter, 920 00:41:56,719 --> 00:41:58,759 Speaker 1: she texted me and we got together that night and 921 00:41:58,800 --> 00:42:02,120 Speaker 1: we had a five year relations ship after that. That 922 00:42:02,280 --> 00:42:05,560 Speaker 1: is a very fascinating story. Yeah. So, but the reason 923 00:42:05,600 --> 00:42:07,719 Speaker 1: I say that is I've always liked that. Uh. And 924 00:42:07,760 --> 00:42:09,799 Speaker 1: to tail back to what I was saying, Sometimes, if 925 00:42:09,800 --> 00:42:12,080 Speaker 1: I see a girl from a far from a distance, 926 00:42:12,120 --> 00:42:15,400 Speaker 1: and I go, wow, this little blob I see in 927 00:42:15,440 --> 00:42:17,960 Speaker 1: the distance the shape of a human I'm a fan of. 928 00:42:18,400 --> 00:42:20,000 Speaker 1: And then you get closer and you got all this 929 00:42:20,120 --> 00:42:22,040 Speaker 1: intention to say that you really want to go on 930 00:42:22,040 --> 00:42:23,520 Speaker 1: a day, so you think you're beautiful, blah blah, I 931 00:42:23,520 --> 00:42:25,000 Speaker 1: think you beau, want to go day, think want to go, 932 00:42:25,280 --> 00:42:27,440 Speaker 1: And then you get there and she's not as beautiful 933 00:42:27,480 --> 00:42:29,399 Speaker 1: as maybe you envisioned her. Maybe she's not your type. 934 00:42:29,400 --> 00:42:30,920 Speaker 1: And then you go, I just want to let you 935 00:42:30,920 --> 00:42:32,680 Speaker 1: know you're beautiful, and then you walk away with that 936 00:42:32,760 --> 00:42:35,040 Speaker 1: housing on the date. That's a time when that would 937 00:42:35,040 --> 00:42:37,000 Speaker 1: have happened to me. That's not horrible. I mean I 938 00:42:37,280 --> 00:42:40,200 Speaker 1: know that there was an attraction, like what don't you 939 00:42:40,200 --> 00:42:42,960 Speaker 1: want my number? And you're like you're then you're in. 940 00:42:43,280 --> 00:42:44,799 Speaker 1: I have a I had a guy asked me out 941 00:42:44,840 --> 00:42:46,680 Speaker 1: on will Share Boulevard like we were like in our 942 00:42:46,680 --> 00:42:49,600 Speaker 1: cars next to each other. And then I know, and 943 00:42:49,680 --> 00:42:51,200 Speaker 1: he got my number and they asked me on a 944 00:42:51,280 --> 00:42:52,640 Speaker 1: day and I kept saying like no, no no, no, this 945 00:42:52,680 --> 00:42:54,840 Speaker 1: is so weird, like little sketchy, because I was like, 946 00:42:54,840 --> 00:42:57,000 Speaker 1: I don't know, I've only saw your face, like I 947 00:42:57,040 --> 00:42:58,799 Speaker 1: don't know, you know what I mean, Like, I don't know. 948 00:42:59,400 --> 00:43:01,560 Speaker 1: It was like we um. But then he was like, 949 00:43:01,600 --> 00:43:03,239 Speaker 1: what would be different if we met on a dating app? 950 00:43:03,239 --> 00:43:05,040 Speaker 1: And I was like, you know, you're absolutely right, Like 951 00:43:05,080 --> 00:43:06,360 Speaker 1: if I met on a dating app. I would have 952 00:43:06,400 --> 00:43:08,920 Speaker 1: no idea either. So I met him for coffee. I 953 00:43:09,000 --> 00:43:12,880 Speaker 1: was like, oh, this could be good at intersection. All 954 00:43:12,920 --> 00:43:15,440 Speaker 1: at the intersect Will Shure and Will Shore in Fairfax, 955 00:43:16,840 --> 00:43:21,319 Speaker 1: right there, intersection. How long have you been seeing him? 956 00:43:22,200 --> 00:43:26,040 Speaker 1: That ended fairly quickly, so yeah, we were. We saw 957 00:43:26,160 --> 00:43:31,640 Speaker 1: him out with another girl, were actually together, and I 958 00:43:31,719 --> 00:43:33,160 Speaker 1: was supposed to go with him that night. So we 959 00:43:33,200 --> 00:43:35,279 Speaker 1: had plans to go that night, and beck and I 960 00:43:35,320 --> 00:43:37,080 Speaker 1: were having lunch and we were like sitting on this 961 00:43:37,120 --> 00:43:39,800 Speaker 1: bench and this guy walks past us, holding hands to 962 00:43:39,840 --> 00:43:41,600 Speaker 1: this other girl, and I literally was in so much shock. 963 00:43:41,680 --> 00:43:43,640 Speaker 1: I looked up. I couldn't even get words out. Thank 964 00:43:43,680 --> 00:43:46,320 Speaker 1: God she knew it was him, because I like literally 965 00:43:46,440 --> 00:43:49,399 Speaker 1: was just like I got buddies that do that. They'll 966 00:43:49,400 --> 00:43:51,360 Speaker 1: set up dates throughout the whole day. I got breakfast 967 00:43:51,480 --> 00:43:53,360 Speaker 1: with Yeah, I got lunch with this girl. I probably 968 00:43:53,440 --> 00:43:58,880 Speaker 1: dated one of your friends. The words. So then I 969 00:43:58,880 --> 00:44:02,919 Speaker 1: didn't meet him that night, and that that chip sailed quickly. Well, 970 00:44:02,960 --> 00:44:05,920 Speaker 1: I've always said, I've always said if someone's into you, 971 00:44:05,920 --> 00:44:09,000 Speaker 1: you'll know, And I feel like that shows with just 972 00:44:09,280 --> 00:44:11,320 Speaker 1: your relationship, because you were on a date with someone 973 00:44:11,320 --> 00:44:13,319 Speaker 1: else and you saw someone walk by and you said, 974 00:44:13,360 --> 00:44:15,600 Speaker 1: I want her, and now you're married to her. So 975 00:44:15,680 --> 00:44:18,239 Speaker 1: I do think you will know, even if you're the 976 00:44:18,280 --> 00:44:22,520 Speaker 1: first one to make the move, the response, you'll know 977 00:44:22,600 --> 00:44:38,960 Speaker 1: if they're into you. Um so you were before we 978 00:44:39,000 --> 00:44:41,240 Speaker 1: went on break. You were talking about y'all are trying 979 00:44:41,239 --> 00:44:45,799 Speaker 1: to have children? My life, I've been a little promiscuous 980 00:44:46,000 --> 00:44:48,680 Speaker 1: through my through my my time in l A. And 981 00:44:49,120 --> 00:44:51,920 Speaker 1: you know, I never thought that I would be. You know, 982 00:44:51,960 --> 00:44:54,400 Speaker 1: my wife's were on trying to have a children. You know, 983 00:44:54,440 --> 00:44:56,080 Speaker 1: we just started this whole thing. And let me just 984 00:44:56,120 --> 00:44:59,120 Speaker 1: tell you how, Like it's not as romantic as I 985 00:44:59,160 --> 00:45:01,160 Speaker 1: thought it was going to be. You know, it's because 986 00:45:01,320 --> 00:45:04,160 Speaker 1: she's got the thing under watch that says, okay, it's time, 987 00:45:04,280 --> 00:45:06,640 Speaker 1: you know, and I'll be outside working on the outside 988 00:45:06,640 --> 00:45:08,279 Speaker 1: of the grass on the grass, working on the car. 989 00:45:08,360 --> 00:45:10,600 Speaker 1: Sometimes she's like, you got to come in here, it's time, 990 00:45:10,640 --> 00:45:12,480 Speaker 1: and like it's time for what She's like, you know, 991 00:45:13,000 --> 00:45:15,000 Speaker 1: and I'm like, right now, we don't have to kiss 992 00:45:15,040 --> 00:45:16,839 Speaker 1: me or anything, just get in and get out, like 993 00:45:18,560 --> 00:45:22,080 Speaker 1: and I'm like okay, And like that's how it's been going. 994 00:45:22,600 --> 00:45:24,759 Speaker 1: But like during the days because for the time, like 995 00:45:24,800 --> 00:45:27,040 Speaker 1: there's a really small window to get pregnant. It's like, 996 00:45:27,160 --> 00:45:28,920 Speaker 1: I don't know how some of my drunk friends did it, 997 00:45:29,000 --> 00:45:31,319 Speaker 1: Like I really don't. There's really there's a there's two 998 00:45:31,320 --> 00:45:33,239 Speaker 1: pink days and there's a red day, and you have 999 00:45:33,280 --> 00:45:34,799 Speaker 1: to hit that red day, and if you miss, you 1000 00:45:34,840 --> 00:45:36,960 Speaker 1: can get pregnant on any of the days. It's just 1001 00:45:37,040 --> 00:45:41,840 Speaker 1: more unlikely. Yeah, because eight days or something. I'm researching it. 1002 00:45:41,880 --> 00:45:43,680 Speaker 1: When you go to doctors and make sure everything's were 1003 00:45:43,680 --> 00:45:47,040 Speaker 1: all both healthy and how like, there's just so much 1004 00:45:47,080 --> 00:45:48,959 Speaker 1: that goes into it, and like, okay, wait a minute, 1005 00:45:49,000 --> 00:45:50,960 Speaker 1: it's three o'clock and the sun is at this level. 1006 00:45:51,000 --> 00:45:53,319 Speaker 1: It's time. You know. It's like it's just been really 1007 00:45:53,360 --> 00:45:56,560 Speaker 1: bizarre and it's just like I just I don't know 1008 00:45:56,560 --> 00:45:57,960 Speaker 1: why I thought that, why they came up. It's just 1009 00:45:58,000 --> 00:46:00,000 Speaker 1: like the most bizarre thing to me. And how we're 1010 00:46:00,000 --> 00:46:01,960 Speaker 1: going about this right now. If it's not like we're 1011 00:46:02,000 --> 00:46:04,840 Speaker 1: on a honeymoon and we made love, it might be 1012 00:46:04,960 --> 00:46:10,440 Speaker 1: that children like a child. If you're cutting grass, I 1013 00:46:10,480 --> 00:46:12,759 Speaker 1: don't care, get in here. Yeah, if you plan a 1014 00:46:12,880 --> 00:46:16,080 Speaker 1: romantic date, that might be a case. Maybe that's it. 1015 00:46:16,200 --> 00:46:18,759 Speaker 1: Maybe you're right, Maybe romantic what kind of dad. Are 1016 00:46:18,800 --> 00:46:21,239 Speaker 1: you going to be awesome freaking dad? Are you gonna 1017 00:46:21,239 --> 00:46:23,600 Speaker 1: be strict? I'm gonna be strict, But I just know. 1018 00:46:24,000 --> 00:46:26,719 Speaker 1: I just know God's gonna give me gorgeous daughters. Just 1019 00:46:26,880 --> 00:46:28,279 Speaker 1: know it. I just know. And I'm going to be 1020 00:46:28,320 --> 00:46:31,120 Speaker 1: the best dad either way. Probably gonna have daughters, but 1021 00:46:31,160 --> 00:46:35,520 Speaker 1: that's okay. But no, I'm from the Midwest. Um, I 1022 00:46:35,560 --> 00:46:37,759 Speaker 1: can't wait to be a dad. You're excited. You never 1023 00:46:37,840 --> 00:46:39,719 Speaker 1: thought that you would be like excited to be a 1024 00:46:39,800 --> 00:46:41,800 Speaker 1: dad in here? You never never. I can't wait to 1025 00:46:41,800 --> 00:46:45,400 Speaker 1: just live vicariously through my kid. I can't soccer practice 1026 00:46:45,440 --> 00:46:48,080 Speaker 1: or dance class. Cute. Do you want to be a dad? 1027 00:46:48,200 --> 00:46:52,080 Speaker 1: I've always wanted checks to be my dad. I just 1028 00:46:52,120 --> 00:46:57,000 Speaker 1: think you'd be really caring and really cool watch sports, yeah, 1029 00:46:57,560 --> 00:47:00,600 Speaker 1: like cars or whatever. Um, I do really want to 1030 00:47:00,600 --> 00:47:04,279 Speaker 1: be a dad. I think, uh, you know again, I 1031 00:47:04,280 --> 00:47:06,200 Speaker 1: don't know. I'm pretty nihilistic with the whole thing, but 1032 00:47:06,239 --> 00:47:08,759 Speaker 1: I think having kids is like kind of one of 1033 00:47:08,800 --> 00:47:12,240 Speaker 1: the only purposes of you know, being alive and sharing 1034 00:47:12,280 --> 00:47:18,719 Speaker 1: your knowledge with people and stuff. Well, yeah, and so 1035 00:47:18,840 --> 00:47:22,240 Speaker 1: like my dad had me when he was twenty nine, 1036 00:47:22,280 --> 00:47:24,120 Speaker 1: and he wanted to have kids by the time he 1037 00:47:24,160 --> 00:47:25,719 Speaker 1: was thirty, so that he could play sports with us 1038 00:47:25,800 --> 00:47:29,120 Speaker 1: until we were old enough forty. I'm forty right now. 1039 00:47:29,160 --> 00:47:30,840 Speaker 1: I'll be sixty by the time they go to college, 1040 00:47:30,840 --> 00:47:32,680 Speaker 1: so it's time now you'll you'll be able to play 1041 00:47:32,719 --> 00:47:37,040 Speaker 1: baseball with them forever. Football not so much. But I 1042 00:47:37,719 --> 00:47:39,759 Speaker 1: you know, with my father, he was so doting, and 1043 00:47:39,960 --> 00:47:41,239 Speaker 1: you know, it definitely has something to do with my 1044 00:47:41,280 --> 00:47:43,080 Speaker 1: parents divorced. Like I think he was always afraid that 1045 00:47:43,080 --> 00:47:45,040 Speaker 1: I would call my stepdad dad. So it became a 1046 00:47:45,200 --> 00:47:48,839 Speaker 1: huge loving impact in my life, to the point where 1047 00:47:48,880 --> 00:47:52,200 Speaker 1: like every phone call we would have um because he 1048 00:47:52,239 --> 00:47:54,040 Speaker 1: was a weekend Dad would be like, all right, I 1049 00:47:54,120 --> 00:47:56,440 Speaker 1: love you, buddy, I love you more Dad. I love 1050 00:47:56,480 --> 00:47:59,520 Speaker 1: you most, buddy. I like I love you most Dad. 1051 00:47:59,520 --> 00:48:00,960 Speaker 1: He goes, I love more than everything you're saying. He'd 1052 00:48:00,960 --> 00:48:03,719 Speaker 1: hang up the phone, and I just think that when 1053 00:48:04,000 --> 00:48:05,920 Speaker 1: the one thing you can give to a child is 1054 00:48:06,560 --> 00:48:11,560 Speaker 1: uh an endless amount of adoration and love and support, 1055 00:48:12,239 --> 00:48:16,000 Speaker 1: very unlikely that kid is gonna end up at all bad. 1056 00:48:16,160 --> 00:48:17,799 Speaker 1: Like that kid, as long as he feels like he 1057 00:48:17,840 --> 00:48:19,360 Speaker 1: has his parents on his side, he never looks to 1058 00:48:19,440 --> 00:48:22,080 Speaker 1: those bad influences to fill those gaps, and I was 1059 00:48:22,120 --> 00:48:24,240 Speaker 1: so lucky that even my stepdad, I'm really my stepdad, 1060 00:48:24,320 --> 00:48:25,880 Speaker 1: of my dad and my mom or all friends, and 1061 00:48:25,920 --> 00:48:29,440 Speaker 1: they're all huge impacts. So I don't know why I'm 1062 00:48:29,480 --> 00:48:39,440 Speaker 1: still so messed up. Yeah. No, if I meet the 1063 00:48:39,520 --> 00:48:42,520 Speaker 1: right girl, if Tanya turns around on this whole thing 1064 00:48:42,840 --> 00:48:46,480 Speaker 1: and she decides she wants to go with someone who 1065 00:48:47,480 --> 00:48:53,040 Speaker 1: and then we're set needs therapy. Tanya, you want yourself 1066 00:48:53,080 --> 00:48:54,880 Speaker 1: a bad boy who looks like a good girl, and 1067 00:48:54,880 --> 00:49:01,879 Speaker 1: that's me, bad boy who looks like a good girl. 1068 00:49:02,360 --> 00:49:04,200 Speaker 1: You know what you want, Tanya. You're afraid to admit 1069 00:49:04,239 --> 00:49:08,560 Speaker 1: it on the podcast, but I know you. I've got 1070 00:49:08,560 --> 00:49:12,400 Speaker 1: glow in the dark tattoos, baby in the dark tattoos. 1071 00:49:12,600 --> 00:49:15,600 Speaker 1: But I could tell me what you want, tell me 1072 00:49:15,680 --> 00:49:18,000 Speaker 1: what you want? Wait, I have I have questions to 1073 00:49:18,160 --> 00:49:20,640 Speaker 1: people asked this there, it's kind of it's the same. 1074 00:49:20,719 --> 00:49:24,680 Speaker 1: So um, Brittany said, does sexual experience matter? I'm twenty 1075 00:49:24,680 --> 00:49:27,440 Speaker 1: four and literally only ever kissed one guy, and I'm 1076 00:49:27,440 --> 00:49:29,520 Speaker 1: nervous that when I decided to start dating that guys 1077 00:49:29,520 --> 00:49:31,759 Speaker 1: are going to be freaked out by my lack of experience. 1078 00:49:32,120 --> 00:49:36,840 Speaker 1: And then Caitlin said, Um, if a guy was seeing 1079 00:49:36,840 --> 00:49:39,520 Speaker 1: someone who was a virgin and also hadn't kissed anyone before. 1080 00:49:39,560 --> 00:49:43,719 Speaker 1: Would that be a deterrent? Not even that they were 1081 00:49:43,800 --> 00:49:49,040 Speaker 1: waiting for marriage or anything, they just haven't had the opportunity. 1082 00:49:50,239 --> 00:49:53,120 Speaker 1: Was the first one? Again? Would the first one again? 1083 00:49:54,080 --> 00:49:55,080 Speaker 1: To tell me a little bit of the first one? 1084 00:49:55,440 --> 00:49:59,560 Speaker 1: The first one says, sexual experience matter. I always found 1085 00:49:59,600 --> 00:50:02,840 Speaker 1: the Lisa Spirits ones are the best. Actually that's in 1086 00:50:02,920 --> 00:50:09,280 Speaker 1: my Okay, we have to look over the page. Sorry, Um, 1087 00:50:09,920 --> 00:50:13,120 Speaker 1: that's in my in my experience, I like it like 1088 00:50:13,160 --> 00:50:15,839 Speaker 1: that personally, I like it when they don't have much 1089 00:50:15,840 --> 00:50:19,359 Speaker 1: experience they couldn't tell how bad I was that was. Yeah, Well, 1090 00:50:19,440 --> 00:50:21,600 Speaker 1: I just you know, you're you're you're kind of it's 1091 00:50:21,600 --> 00:50:27,640 Speaker 1: like you're dealing with a blank canvas. You're kind of teaching. Yeah, 1092 00:50:27,680 --> 00:50:32,120 Speaker 1: that's that's probably similar person to have first, But yeah, 1093 00:50:32,320 --> 00:50:37,640 Speaker 1: I'm the opposite I I personally, I think I'm also 1094 00:50:37,760 --> 00:50:41,080 Speaker 1: just I've done so many weird things that it's like 1095 00:50:41,440 --> 00:50:44,200 Speaker 1: I like when someone yes, sexually, like, are you into 1096 00:50:44,239 --> 00:50:50,080 Speaker 1: weird stuff? Sexually? It's really fun? Yeah, it's like have 1097 00:50:50,200 --> 00:50:54,120 Speaker 1: we seen it in the video? Literally? What is the 1098 00:50:54,160 --> 00:50:57,520 Speaker 1: most Just like I don't have that many odd things. 1099 00:50:57,560 --> 00:50:59,040 Speaker 1: I mean, it depends how much I've had to drink 1100 00:50:59,080 --> 00:51:01,200 Speaker 1: that night and where we're going on. But everybody thinks, 1101 00:51:01,200 --> 00:51:02,880 Speaker 1: like my foot fet just like a weird thing. Do 1102 00:51:02,880 --> 00:51:04,480 Speaker 1: you think that's weird? I don't wait, I want somebody 1103 00:51:04,520 --> 00:51:10,040 Speaker 1: stuck on my toes? What does I don't know if 1104 00:51:10,080 --> 00:51:12,200 Speaker 1: you know this, but my favorite drink of all time 1105 00:51:12,320 --> 00:51:15,520 Speaker 1: is toes. So this is a lining up. I'm not 1106 00:51:15,560 --> 00:51:17,680 Speaker 1: getting Somebody said that like having somebody stuck on your 1107 00:51:17,719 --> 00:51:20,200 Speaker 1: feet like the most like pleasurable thing that you know what, 1108 00:51:20,280 --> 00:51:22,640 Speaker 1: And any girl who says otherwise, because I was Brittany 1109 00:51:22,719 --> 00:51:24,279 Speaker 1: was really not into that at the beginning. I'm like, 1110 00:51:24,280 --> 00:51:25,640 Speaker 1: this is going to be a deal breaker if you 1111 00:51:25,640 --> 00:51:27,520 Speaker 1: don't get into this, like you need to like it. 1112 00:51:27,560 --> 00:51:32,920 Speaker 1: And now it was yes, that's a huge deal, but 1113 00:51:32,960 --> 00:51:35,080 Speaker 1: you since feet are just a big deal breaker for me. 1114 00:51:35,160 --> 00:51:37,000 Speaker 1: You have to have cute little feet. You have to. 1115 00:51:37,800 --> 00:51:42,640 Speaker 1: So you're saying that it's the most pleasurable thing. I 1116 00:51:44,440 --> 00:51:47,719 Speaker 1: feel like that might overcome that people are saying it's 1117 00:51:47,760 --> 00:51:50,080 Speaker 1: better than telling you if you're good at it. I'm 1118 00:51:50,120 --> 00:51:51,960 Speaker 1: not going to do pad myself on the back, but 1119 00:51:52,000 --> 00:51:53,759 Speaker 1: I'm pretty damn good at it. Yeah, but you've only 1120 00:51:53,800 --> 00:52:00,319 Speaker 1: had sex with virgins. It's different. You should try. Like, 1121 00:52:00,600 --> 00:52:05,160 Speaker 1: I have never had any sort of reservation about the 1122 00:52:05,239 --> 00:52:08,920 Speaker 1: experience level to the end degree, like in terms of 1123 00:52:08,960 --> 00:52:11,080 Speaker 1: the most experience. Like I have gone on dates with 1124 00:52:12,320 --> 00:52:16,560 Speaker 1: adult entertainers because I was like, well, this is like, yeah, 1125 00:52:16,800 --> 00:52:19,520 Speaker 1: it's just interesting. I didn't end up hooking up with them, 1126 00:52:19,560 --> 00:52:21,799 Speaker 1: but I was like, because I it was more of 1127 00:52:21,800 --> 00:52:23,160 Speaker 1: like a respect thing. I didn't want to be like 1128 00:52:23,280 --> 00:52:25,759 Speaker 1: just another guy who had that fetish, but I just 1129 00:52:25,920 --> 00:52:29,040 Speaker 1: was like very interested in that. And uh, I think 1130 00:52:29,080 --> 00:52:31,959 Speaker 1: when you the problem is it's okay to be a virgin, 1131 00:52:32,000 --> 00:52:34,280 Speaker 1: it's okay to never have kissed a guy. The problem 1132 00:52:34,480 --> 00:52:36,560 Speaker 1: is it starts to affect your confidence on dates and 1133 00:52:36,600 --> 00:52:38,200 Speaker 1: you start having this thing in the back of your 1134 00:52:38,200 --> 00:52:42,120 Speaker 1: mind that inhibits you from allowing yourself to just be comfortable. 1135 00:52:42,160 --> 00:52:44,720 Speaker 1: I think there's this like, you know, I'm not a father, 1136 00:52:44,880 --> 00:52:47,319 Speaker 1: but I have heard father's talk about this, this idea 1137 00:52:47,320 --> 00:52:51,279 Speaker 1: of having a daughter. And I think before back in 1138 00:52:51,320 --> 00:52:54,120 Speaker 1: the day, it was like, honey, your virginity is sacred. 1139 00:52:54,200 --> 00:52:56,920 Speaker 1: It's this precious thing. Take care of it, and odds 1140 00:52:56,960 --> 00:52:58,839 Speaker 1: are she's going to lose it to a dude who's 1141 00:52:58,880 --> 00:53:02,240 Speaker 1: drinking bud Light and gate boards and he sucks so 1142 00:53:02,920 --> 00:53:05,000 Speaker 1: and I think you can really scare a girl, especially 1143 00:53:05,000 --> 00:53:06,640 Speaker 1: if it's your father telling you this, that this is 1144 00:53:06,680 --> 00:53:09,920 Speaker 1: the most precious thing in the world, when really love 1145 00:53:10,000 --> 00:53:12,920 Speaker 1: is way more like precious. It's okay, it's your body. 1146 00:53:13,000 --> 00:53:15,799 Speaker 1: It's a very normal thing to have sex. And I 1147 00:53:15,800 --> 00:53:17,520 Speaker 1: think the more pressure you put on it for to 1148 00:53:17,560 --> 00:53:19,719 Speaker 1: be perfect, the more disappointment is going to be. It's 1149 00:53:19,719 --> 00:53:21,960 Speaker 1: almost better to say, listen, you're probably going to lose 1150 00:53:22,000 --> 00:53:24,760 Speaker 1: your virginity in a way that's not your partner. Odds 1151 00:53:24,760 --> 00:53:26,880 Speaker 1: are Let's just look at statistics. The person you lose 1152 00:53:26,920 --> 00:53:28,400 Speaker 1: your virginity too, you don't spend the rest of your 1153 00:53:28,400 --> 00:53:32,400 Speaker 1: life with probably ninety something percent at the time. So instead, 1154 00:53:32,760 --> 00:53:34,799 Speaker 1: really just look at it like, what do you want 1155 00:53:34,840 --> 00:53:38,280 Speaker 1: as a person, Not other people's voices, not your religion, 1156 00:53:38,280 --> 00:53:40,880 Speaker 1: not your parents, not anything. Ask yourself. And if you 1157 00:53:40,880 --> 00:53:43,000 Speaker 1: don't feel comfortable and you want to wait, wait, But 1158 00:53:43,080 --> 00:53:45,799 Speaker 1: if you want to indulge in that part of your 1159 00:53:45,800 --> 00:53:48,200 Speaker 1: life and get that kind of like weight off your shoulders, 1160 00:53:48,719 --> 00:53:50,359 Speaker 1: do it. It's not gonna hurt you. I think it's 1161 00:53:50,440 --> 00:53:52,080 Speaker 1: a lot more. I think it's a generational thing. I 1162 00:53:52,120 --> 00:53:54,440 Speaker 1: think it's a lot more pressure. Enough, it wasn't so 1163 00:53:54,520 --> 00:53:56,480 Speaker 1: much pressure when I was younger. Again, I'm a little 1164 00:53:56,480 --> 00:53:57,920 Speaker 1: bit older, I think than some of you guys, But 1165 00:53:58,440 --> 00:54:00,600 Speaker 1: there was a lot more pressure now. I I just 1166 00:54:00,600 --> 00:54:02,120 Speaker 1: go and talk to my nephews and my nieces and 1167 00:54:02,160 --> 00:54:04,400 Speaker 1: stuff and the things they do in school nowadays, and 1168 00:54:04,840 --> 00:54:06,800 Speaker 1: I never we never did any of that in school, 1169 00:54:06,840 --> 00:54:09,160 Speaker 1: like junior high. I've lost my Virginia extremely late. I 1170 00:54:09,200 --> 00:54:12,520 Speaker 1: was nineteen, So I was nineteen, and it was like 1171 00:54:12,560 --> 00:54:14,560 Speaker 1: if you see American Pie, It's it was just like 1172 00:54:14,640 --> 00:54:22,640 Speaker 1: that exactly. I'm fine, Matthews bands, yes, right, and a 1173 00:54:22,680 --> 00:54:27,960 Speaker 1: little crash. So it was I was like, I think 1174 00:54:28,000 --> 00:54:29,440 Speaker 1: there's a lot I don't know, like to be a 1175 00:54:29,520 --> 00:54:32,040 Speaker 1: kid now without this technology and social media and the 1176 00:54:32,560 --> 00:54:35,399 Speaker 1: sexual it's it's gotta be tough to be a kid now. 1177 00:54:35,440 --> 00:54:37,680 Speaker 1: It's got to be extremely tough. And I think the 1178 00:54:37,719 --> 00:54:40,600 Speaker 1: sexual pressures are definitely there. And and we're dealing with 1179 00:54:40,680 --> 00:54:43,160 Speaker 1: with the parents now or my age, and you're talking 1180 00:54:43,160 --> 00:54:44,840 Speaker 1: to them and you're like, well, what did our parents 1181 00:54:44,840 --> 00:54:46,640 Speaker 1: teach us? But we know it's a different time now, 1182 00:54:46,719 --> 00:54:49,040 Speaker 1: or what are we supposed to say without making our 1183 00:54:49,120 --> 00:54:51,839 Speaker 1: kids feel weird? You know, like it's got to be weird, 1184 00:54:51,920 --> 00:54:53,560 Speaker 1: Like what do you say to your kids. I'm going 1185 00:54:53,600 --> 00:54:56,120 Speaker 1: to I'm gonna be open to, I'm gonna be on 1186 00:54:56,239 --> 00:54:57,840 Speaker 1: every other thing on the table. Nothing you say in 1187 00:54:57,840 --> 00:55:00,239 Speaker 1: this house, whatever I'm gonna be, that house will never 1188 00:55:00,280 --> 00:55:02,959 Speaker 1: get in trouble with honest and upfront. I'll be honest 1189 00:55:03,000 --> 00:55:05,439 Speaker 1: with you. I want to have one of those households. Definitely. Yeah. 1190 00:55:05,520 --> 00:55:08,320 Speaker 1: I I was a virgin for a long long time, 1191 00:55:08,520 --> 00:55:11,239 Speaker 1: and I was very confident in my decision, so it 1192 00:55:11,360 --> 00:55:14,319 Speaker 1: never I never had an issue where it deterred a 1193 00:55:14,360 --> 00:55:16,480 Speaker 1: guy from wanting to date me because I was very 1194 00:55:16,520 --> 00:55:19,439 Speaker 1: confident in my decision, and so I make it open 1195 00:55:19,480 --> 00:55:21,360 Speaker 1: in the beginning of the like date like just so 1196 00:55:21,480 --> 00:55:23,680 Speaker 1: you know, well, when I was on The Bachelor, that 1197 00:55:23,760 --> 00:55:25,560 Speaker 1: was like my whole storyline is that it was about 1198 00:55:25,600 --> 00:55:32,760 Speaker 1: a virgin. So I'm sorry, sorry, apologies. Um. So I 1199 00:55:32,920 --> 00:55:35,680 Speaker 1: always say it has nothing like you said. It's not 1200 00:55:35,760 --> 00:55:38,680 Speaker 1: even so much you're inexperience, but it's the confidence that 1201 00:55:38,719 --> 00:55:41,000 Speaker 1: you bring with what you're saying. And it's funny that 1202 00:55:41,000 --> 00:55:43,440 Speaker 1: you say that because I also feel like I used 1203 00:55:43,480 --> 00:55:45,720 Speaker 1: to have a lot of unattached sex and it didn't 1204 00:55:45,719 --> 00:55:47,560 Speaker 1: make me feel good, like it actually made me feel 1205 00:55:47,760 --> 00:55:51,640 Speaker 1: like a piece sorry and um. And then I made 1206 00:55:51,640 --> 00:55:53,440 Speaker 1: that conscious decision where I was like, I only want 1207 00:55:53,480 --> 00:55:55,960 Speaker 1: to have sex in a committed, serious relationship. And it's 1208 00:55:56,000 --> 00:55:57,879 Speaker 1: almost like once that trigger went off in my head 1209 00:55:57,920 --> 00:56:00,360 Speaker 1: and I realized that that's where I was most comfortable 1210 00:56:00,360 --> 00:56:02,440 Speaker 1: and where I was like my confidence almost and I 1211 00:56:02,440 --> 00:56:04,319 Speaker 1: didn't It wasn't like I'm not having sex with you 1212 00:56:04,400 --> 00:56:06,600 Speaker 1: because I don't want to. It's more like I'm not 1213 00:56:06,640 --> 00:56:08,799 Speaker 1: having sex with you because I know what's best for me. 1214 00:56:09,040 --> 00:56:11,160 Speaker 1: And like that perspective shift, I feel like it was 1215 00:56:11,200 --> 00:56:14,000 Speaker 1: like it was like it was like, yeah, it was 1216 00:56:14,040 --> 00:56:17,279 Speaker 1: like my power. I also feel that I've been on 1217 00:56:17,360 --> 00:56:19,279 Speaker 1: dates where girls have been very clear like I'm not 1218 00:56:19,320 --> 00:56:22,719 Speaker 1: having sex until I'm in a relationship, and right then 1219 00:56:22,719 --> 00:56:24,480 Speaker 1: and there, I was able to take sex off the 1220 00:56:24,480 --> 00:56:26,480 Speaker 1: table and go, well, do I like this person enough 1221 00:56:26,520 --> 00:56:28,319 Speaker 1: to go on dates? And I love what they did 1222 00:56:28,360 --> 00:56:30,600 Speaker 1: that because they would be like, oh, this is a game. Now, yes, 1223 00:56:30,840 --> 00:56:35,400 Speaker 1: I couldn't do that. I know good right now, like 1224 00:56:35,480 --> 00:56:37,480 Speaker 1: she says no, yeah, we'll see how long that last. 1225 00:56:38,120 --> 00:56:40,560 Speaker 1: This is actually so good though, because there are a 1226 00:56:40,600 --> 00:56:43,040 Speaker 1: lot of guys who have that mentality, and I think 1227 00:56:43,080 --> 00:56:46,560 Speaker 1: it's refreshing to hear these girls here like there are 1228 00:56:46,600 --> 00:56:49,440 Speaker 1: guys who were just that's what they want, right and then, 1229 00:56:49,520 --> 00:56:52,200 Speaker 1: and in my twenties, I was that was that guy. 1230 00:56:52,320 --> 00:56:55,000 Speaker 1: I was that guy walking around Hollywood and you know, 1231 00:56:55,000 --> 00:56:56,439 Speaker 1: I didn't want a girlfriend and just going to sleep 1232 00:56:56,440 --> 00:56:58,719 Speaker 1: with as many people as I could. That's was I 1233 00:56:58,800 --> 00:57:01,319 Speaker 1: That was my thing. Is you a personal question? Sure? 1234 00:57:01,920 --> 00:57:03,680 Speaker 1: How many girls do you think you've left with her? 1235 00:57:03,840 --> 00:57:08,480 Speaker 1: My god, my wife's gonna hear this. You can give 1236 00:57:08,480 --> 00:57:12,440 Speaker 1: me a rage. Is it like triple digits? It's up there? Okay, 1237 00:57:12,960 --> 00:57:16,120 Speaker 1: Just I'm just curious. I had a very It was 1238 00:57:16,160 --> 00:57:18,320 Speaker 1: one of those insecurity things because I was out here 1239 00:57:18,320 --> 00:57:21,560 Speaker 1: doing the acting model. It's insecurity thing. It was never 1240 00:57:22,600 --> 00:57:25,160 Speaker 1: it made me feel better, and I'll be totally honest 1241 00:57:25,200 --> 00:57:27,080 Speaker 1: with you, because I had no Once it was over, 1242 00:57:27,280 --> 00:57:29,800 Speaker 1: it was like go bye, you know. And I it 1243 00:57:29,880 --> 00:57:31,880 Speaker 1: was an insecurity thing. I need to felt like that 1244 00:57:31,920 --> 00:57:33,800 Speaker 1: I was good enough that I was, And that's what 1245 00:57:33,880 --> 00:57:35,760 Speaker 1: another thing not to go in another subject. But when 1246 00:57:35,800 --> 00:57:38,400 Speaker 1: I got a girlfriend, oh my god, it's been going 1247 00:57:38,440 --> 00:57:40,480 Speaker 1: really really well. I gotta figure out way to sabotage it. 1248 00:57:40,480 --> 00:57:43,040 Speaker 1: And I did do that. I sabotaged my relationship with Brittany, 1249 00:57:43,040 --> 00:57:44,560 Speaker 1: and that's was one of the things because I just 1250 00:57:44,600 --> 00:57:46,920 Speaker 1: didn't It wasn't ever ever about the other girl. And 1251 00:57:46,920 --> 00:57:48,840 Speaker 1: I always make that very very clear. It was never 1252 00:57:48,880 --> 00:57:50,600 Speaker 1: about the other girl. It was a mental thing with 1253 00:57:50,640 --> 00:57:53,040 Speaker 1: me thinking, am I still attractive enough? Am I still 1254 00:57:53,080 --> 00:57:55,200 Speaker 1: gonna I have the best girl in the world? But 1255 00:57:55,480 --> 00:57:58,360 Speaker 1: do I still do people still find me attractive? Am 1256 00:57:58,360 --> 00:58:00,520 Speaker 1: I still? That's when I was going through, and that's 1257 00:58:01,160 --> 00:58:03,840 Speaker 1: I was not trying to justify it, and it was 1258 00:58:03,880 --> 00:58:05,680 Speaker 1: I'm not trying to justify it. But I've been living 1259 00:58:05,680 --> 00:58:07,920 Speaker 1: in this world where I was in New York and 1260 00:58:07,960 --> 00:58:09,520 Speaker 1: I was I was traveling, I was doing the modeling thing, 1261 00:58:09,520 --> 00:58:12,600 Speaker 1: and it was very such a disgusting world of people 1262 00:58:12,680 --> 00:58:15,400 Speaker 1: just being pretty and and and getting what you want 1263 00:58:15,440 --> 00:58:17,000 Speaker 1: whenever you want, and just not having a care in 1264 00:58:17,040 --> 00:58:19,040 Speaker 1: the world. And I grew up with that. And then 1265 00:58:19,120 --> 00:58:22,040 Speaker 1: you're also your rejection, constant rejection, going on editions, rejection 1266 00:58:22,080 --> 00:58:24,960 Speaker 1: and time you're rejected in life. So do that for 1267 00:58:25,040 --> 00:58:27,200 Speaker 1: fifteen years or someone's telling you you're not good enough 1268 00:58:27,280 --> 00:58:29,520 Speaker 1: so many times, No, you're not good enough for this role. No, 1269 00:58:29,560 --> 00:58:30,920 Speaker 1: you're not good enough for this role. Well, I need 1270 00:58:30,960 --> 00:58:32,400 Speaker 1: to make up for that somewhere. So when I go 1271 00:58:32,440 --> 00:58:34,000 Speaker 1: on a date, I need to make up there with 1272 00:58:34,040 --> 00:58:37,120 Speaker 1: that with girls or whatever, because if that makes any sense. 1273 00:58:37,720 --> 00:58:39,120 Speaker 1: I grew out of that, but it took for me 1274 00:58:39,160 --> 00:58:40,640 Speaker 1: a long time ago out of that because I needed 1275 00:58:40,640 --> 00:58:42,960 Speaker 1: to find some kind of I wasn't booking jobs. Well 1276 00:58:43,040 --> 00:58:45,480 Speaker 1: I better go sleep with somebody that likes me for 1277 00:58:45,520 --> 00:58:48,280 Speaker 1: the night, you know. So it was tough, and that's 1278 00:58:48,360 --> 00:58:50,600 Speaker 1: that was my flaw. That's what I I never really 1279 00:58:50,600 --> 00:58:53,120 Speaker 1: explained that to people to think about just like a 1280 00:58:53,160 --> 00:58:58,000 Speaker 1: slutty guy, which I was, But this is, yeah. I mean, 1281 00:58:58,320 --> 00:59:02,480 Speaker 1: if someone's promiscuous, or if someone keeps their virginity until 1282 00:59:02,520 --> 00:59:06,160 Speaker 1: they're you know, thirty, there's a psychological reason that you 1283 00:59:06,240 --> 00:59:09,080 Speaker 1: are that way. It's not just because you decided that 1284 00:59:09,120 --> 00:59:11,760 Speaker 1: it is. It's buried in something and it's good for 1285 00:59:11,800 --> 00:59:13,640 Speaker 1: everyone to kind of. I love therapy. I think you 1286 00:59:13,760 --> 00:59:17,160 Speaker 1: realize those things. Okay, here's a question. It's a little 1287 00:59:17,200 --> 00:59:21,480 Speaker 1: more like like lighthearted, but what are some trends that 1288 00:59:21,520 --> 00:59:25,760 Speaker 1: guys find unattractive in a woman, like hair, makeup, clothes. 1289 00:59:25,920 --> 00:59:31,200 Speaker 1: Do you like curly hair? I'll stop you. They're not 1290 00:59:31,360 --> 00:59:35,000 Speaker 1: a fan. Yeah, anything that like, you're like, wow, I 1291 00:59:35,040 --> 00:59:37,160 Speaker 1: when a girl has this on, or when a girl 1292 00:59:37,160 --> 00:59:39,160 Speaker 1: has her hair like this, or do you all not? 1293 00:59:39,880 --> 00:59:43,040 Speaker 1: I'm I'm I'm a very less is more. I'm not 1294 00:59:43,080 --> 00:59:45,000 Speaker 1: really into the lingerie thing. I like it wouldn'tring me 1295 00:59:45,040 --> 00:59:46,720 Speaker 1: wears one of my T shirts. I think that's the 1296 00:59:46,720 --> 00:59:48,280 Speaker 1: hottest thing in the world. I don't like it when 1297 00:59:48,320 --> 00:59:50,479 Speaker 1: she wears makeup. I like it when she just wakes 1298 00:59:50,520 --> 00:59:52,520 Speaker 1: up in the morning and that's how she is. I 1299 00:59:52,560 --> 00:59:54,480 Speaker 1: like it when she when she's all glambed up, don't 1300 00:59:54,520 --> 00:59:55,920 Speaker 1: get me wrong, and she does get glamed up a lot. 1301 00:59:56,000 --> 00:59:59,000 Speaker 1: She's absolutely gorgeous, but she's a Kentucky girl. She's got 1302 00:59:59,000 --> 01:00:00,720 Speaker 1: that farmer girl so you can get out and get 1303 01:00:00,720 --> 01:00:02,960 Speaker 1: her hands dirty. But then she can also look good 1304 01:00:03,000 --> 01:00:05,320 Speaker 1: on the red carpet too. So I personally just like 1305 01:00:05,360 --> 01:00:08,320 Speaker 1: that all natural beauty. I'm not really big into makeup 1306 01:00:08,360 --> 01:00:12,040 Speaker 1: and las read and all that. Yeah. To me, it 1307 01:00:12,080 --> 01:00:14,400 Speaker 1: really goes down to what makes her feel super confident. 1308 01:00:14,440 --> 01:00:18,880 Speaker 1: They're obviously things where um, you know those people men 1309 01:00:18,920 --> 01:00:21,680 Speaker 1: and women who do things because they are insecure. They'll 1310 01:00:21,720 --> 01:00:24,240 Speaker 1: wear this because they're really insecure. Like whether it's a 1311 01:00:24,400 --> 01:00:28,960 Speaker 1: you know, a young woman wearing like very provocative clothing. 1312 01:00:29,160 --> 01:00:30,520 Speaker 1: And it's one thing if you're just trying to be 1313 01:00:30,520 --> 01:00:32,880 Speaker 1: sexy for it yourself. It's another thing if you're trying 1314 01:00:32,920 --> 01:00:34,200 Speaker 1: to do it because you're like, I don't know if 1315 01:00:34,200 --> 01:00:36,040 Speaker 1: guys like me, so let me do this thing. And 1316 01:00:36,120 --> 01:00:39,000 Speaker 1: same with men. Men who you need the Instagram models 1317 01:00:39,000 --> 01:00:42,560 Speaker 1: who are half naked and then quote like a sonnet. Yeah, 1318 01:00:43,120 --> 01:00:45,240 Speaker 1: I never understand that. They're like, yeah, they're like in 1319 01:00:45,280 --> 01:00:47,400 Speaker 1: the book the bed reading and they're like boobs around, 1320 01:00:47,400 --> 01:00:49,120 Speaker 1: better out, and they're just they're like quoting some kind 1321 01:00:49,160 --> 01:00:52,200 Speaker 1: of like William Shakespeare there. I'm like, but you also 1322 01:00:52,200 --> 01:00:54,840 Speaker 1: can't fault to them because they're making money based on 1323 01:00:55,240 --> 01:01:00,200 Speaker 1: men's desires. It's totally it's empowering to them. Um. I 1324 01:01:00,280 --> 01:01:03,240 Speaker 1: just think that, you know, whatever makes the person happy. 1325 01:01:03,440 --> 01:01:06,160 Speaker 1: I've been one of the things I'm most attracted to 1326 01:01:06,200 --> 01:01:09,960 Speaker 1: as a woman who's self aware. I love intelligence, Um, 1327 01:01:09,960 --> 01:01:12,680 Speaker 1: but intelligence such a wide thing, Like I personally love 1328 01:01:12,760 --> 01:01:14,640 Speaker 1: literature and art, and if a girl has a knowledge 1329 01:01:14,640 --> 01:01:16,800 Speaker 1: of that great. But I'm also so attracted to a 1330 01:01:16,800 --> 01:01:19,120 Speaker 1: girl who if I say, do you like Albert Camba 1331 01:01:19,200 --> 01:01:22,480 Speaker 1: and she goes, I don't have no idea what language 1332 01:01:22,520 --> 01:01:24,560 Speaker 1: you just spoke? I go, that's really attractive. At least 1333 01:01:24,560 --> 01:01:27,400 Speaker 1: you're not trying to pretend to know these things, because 1334 01:01:27,440 --> 01:01:30,320 Speaker 1: everybody's intelligent in their own way. I just want. I 1335 01:01:30,560 --> 01:01:32,760 Speaker 1: think it comes with confidence to be like, I don't 1336 01:01:32,800 --> 01:01:34,320 Speaker 1: know that stuff. I'll learn that stuff if you want 1337 01:01:34,360 --> 01:01:36,280 Speaker 1: me to, you know, or if you you know, maybe 1338 01:01:36,280 --> 01:01:38,920 Speaker 1: I'll never learn that stuff, but I find that confidence. 1339 01:01:38,960 --> 01:01:41,000 Speaker 1: That's what I'm That's the trend that it sounds like 1340 01:01:41,520 --> 01:01:44,920 Speaker 1: I'm hearing here and passion. Be passionate for something besides 1341 01:01:45,320 --> 01:01:49,640 Speaker 1: you know um other people like, be passionate for something 1342 01:01:49,680 --> 01:01:52,040 Speaker 1: in your own life. That's very attractive to a guy. 1343 01:01:53,200 --> 01:01:56,880 Speaker 1: Independent woman, you know, does her own thing. I'm not 1344 01:01:56,960 --> 01:01:58,720 Speaker 1: afraid to speak her mind, even if she's got a 1345 01:01:58,720 --> 01:02:01,480 Speaker 1: dirty mouth. I like it. You know, if she cusses, 1346 01:02:01,560 --> 01:02:03,120 Speaker 1: or if she just said she's drinking with the guys 1347 01:02:03,120 --> 01:02:05,160 Speaker 1: and drinking, I think that's hot. I love it when 1348 01:02:05,160 --> 01:02:06,800 Speaker 1: my wife goes out and drinks with the guys, like 1349 01:02:06,840 --> 01:02:08,800 Speaker 1: she'll come out, she'll be the only ones some of 1350 01:02:08,840 --> 01:02:10,760 Speaker 1: the times, just because I just think there's nothing sexier 1351 01:02:10,840 --> 01:02:12,680 Speaker 1: than I can just sit and watch her talk to 1352 01:02:12,760 --> 01:02:15,360 Speaker 1: all my buddies and all drinking beer, and I just like, 1353 01:02:15,440 --> 01:02:17,240 Speaker 1: this is the coolest thing ever. I got a wife 1354 01:02:17,280 --> 01:02:19,400 Speaker 1: that's my best friend, that's hanging out with my guy friends. 1355 01:02:19,400 --> 01:02:21,439 Speaker 1: Like I love having her around. You know. The guys 1356 01:02:21,600 --> 01:02:23,320 Speaker 1: was like, why woulda go out the guys tonight? Britney 1357 01:02:23,360 --> 01:02:24,600 Speaker 1: is kind of like one of the guys too, So 1358 01:02:24,640 --> 01:02:30,680 Speaker 1: it's awesome, sweet guye alarm is going off right now, sweetnesses. 1359 01:02:31,480 --> 01:02:34,880 Speaker 1: I mean, the sounds in here have been truly you know, 1360 01:02:34,920 --> 01:02:37,400 Speaker 1: the zone has so many noises in it. This is 1361 01:02:37,400 --> 01:02:40,800 Speaker 1: Britney Spears House, after all, the zone in Los Angeles today. 1362 01:02:41,520 --> 01:02:43,400 Speaker 1: When you're at the Zone, you don't know what kind 1363 01:02:43,400 --> 01:02:45,360 Speaker 1: of music you're going to get, what kind of sounds 1364 01:02:45,360 --> 01:02:48,600 Speaker 1: are going to hit you, baby, one more time. They 1365 01:02:48,600 --> 01:02:52,280 Speaker 1: can be a little toxic on the mic, but we're 1366 01:02:52,320 --> 01:02:56,560 Speaker 1: just lucky to be here. Yeah. Wow. This is from 1367 01:02:56,640 --> 01:03:00,000 Speaker 1: Lauren and she said, if you are in a position, 1368 01:03:00,000 --> 01:03:04,080 Speaker 1: shouldn't updating someone you really like non exclusively? When is 1369 01:03:04,080 --> 01:03:06,920 Speaker 1: it appropriate to say something like hey, I like you, 1370 01:03:07,000 --> 01:03:08,880 Speaker 1: I'm not seeing anyone else, And I want to know 1371 01:03:08,920 --> 01:03:11,760 Speaker 1: where you see things going. Did you send this question? 1372 01:03:12,440 --> 01:03:15,080 Speaker 1: Did shea did Sheina from vander Pump Rules send that 1373 01:03:15,160 --> 01:03:18,760 Speaker 1: question or she said or do you think the man 1374 01:03:18,800 --> 01:03:22,280 Speaker 1: would speak up if he felt that way? I wouldn't 1375 01:03:22,280 --> 01:03:24,960 Speaker 1: rely on a man to really do anything correctly. So 1376 01:03:25,560 --> 01:03:28,480 Speaker 1: I think it's again, it's a feeling thing out you know, 1377 01:03:28,520 --> 01:03:31,240 Speaker 1: if you are confident in your position in that part 1378 01:03:31,240 --> 01:03:34,080 Speaker 1: of the relationship to go, Hey, I just want to 1379 01:03:34,080 --> 01:03:35,920 Speaker 1: know I feel this way. Did you tell me how 1380 01:03:35,960 --> 01:03:37,880 Speaker 1: you feel? Just understand that you might not get the 1381 01:03:37,880 --> 01:03:40,440 Speaker 1: response you want, but it's better than living in the 1382 01:03:40,520 --> 01:03:45,040 Speaker 1: dark and not knowing for sure. Yeah, I agree with you. 1383 01:03:45,280 --> 01:03:47,120 Speaker 1: I think this whole place is sinking right now. That 1384 01:03:47,240 --> 01:03:51,600 Speaker 1: sound I know. I'm trying not to. Yeah. Again, what 1385 01:03:51,720 --> 01:03:53,160 Speaker 1: I was dealing was it was like it was a 1386 01:03:53,200 --> 01:03:55,240 Speaker 1: sleeping with the person thing. If you slept with them, 1387 01:03:55,320 --> 01:03:57,560 Speaker 1: is like, does that mean that we're official? That's the 1388 01:03:57,600 --> 01:04:00,840 Speaker 1: girls that I was talking to what I know, because 1389 01:04:00,840 --> 01:04:02,560 Speaker 1: well they're also a lot younger than I was. So 1390 01:04:03,080 --> 01:04:05,440 Speaker 1: that's the kind of mentality that the girls that I 1391 01:04:05,480 --> 01:04:07,080 Speaker 1: would date with are like, well, if you sleep with me, 1392 01:04:07,120 --> 01:04:08,680 Speaker 1: then it's it's official, and then they would call you 1393 01:04:08,720 --> 01:04:10,760 Speaker 1: a million times and that would scare you away. Now 1394 01:04:10,840 --> 01:04:12,880 Speaker 1: some now, Now, if a girl said to me on 1395 01:04:13,000 --> 01:04:16,920 Speaker 1: a third or fourth date, would like, third or fourth date? 1396 01:04:16,960 --> 01:04:19,240 Speaker 1: Would that be weird to you? Fifth day? Sixth day? 1397 01:04:19,560 --> 01:04:22,520 Speaker 1: If a girl said, hey, listen, I like okay? For instance, dy, 1398 01:04:22,600 --> 01:04:24,120 Speaker 1: what of them has joked with me before? Like, so 1399 01:04:24,200 --> 01:04:26,080 Speaker 1: does that mean we're like? Are we official? Now? You 1400 01:04:26,080 --> 01:04:27,840 Speaker 1: know how girls can joke with it if you're around 1401 01:04:27,840 --> 01:04:29,920 Speaker 1: your friends, if your buddy makes you feel uncomfortable, like, oh, 1402 01:04:29,960 --> 01:04:31,760 Speaker 1: is this your girlfriend? And you're like and you've been 1403 01:04:31,880 --> 01:04:33,680 Speaker 1: like talking for like five dates and you're like no, 1404 01:04:34,040 --> 01:04:36,400 Speaker 1: and then that guy walks away and she'll go, so 1405 01:04:36,440 --> 01:04:38,280 Speaker 1: does that mean we're official? That kind of like breaks 1406 01:04:38,320 --> 01:04:41,160 Speaker 1: the ice. You know what I'm saying. I would give 1407 01:04:41,160 --> 01:04:44,040 Speaker 1: it more than five dates. I would spend some time 1408 01:04:44,080 --> 01:04:46,040 Speaker 1: with the person because I also feel like people are 1409 01:04:46,120 --> 01:04:48,920 Speaker 1: really imp Are you seeing each other? Is that different? 1410 01:04:48,960 --> 01:04:54,080 Speaker 1: You're dating? Am I dating? Am I dating myself? Back? 1411 01:04:54,080 --> 01:04:55,880 Speaker 1: When are we seeing each other? Is that the same 1412 01:04:55,880 --> 01:04:59,080 Speaker 1: thing as dating each other? Dating? Seeing each other to 1413 01:04:59,160 --> 01:05:03,439 Speaker 1: me is more conclusive than dating. To me, seeing each 1414 01:05:03,440 --> 01:05:06,800 Speaker 1: other seeing each other dating is open. Dating is like, oh, 1415 01:05:06,800 --> 01:05:08,320 Speaker 1: I'm going on dates with this person, going on dat 1416 01:05:08,600 --> 01:05:11,240 Speaker 1: but seeing each other is oh we're seeing there's like okay, 1417 01:05:11,240 --> 01:05:12,680 Speaker 1: so this is the thing. And if you're sleeping with 1418 01:05:12,680 --> 01:05:14,160 Speaker 1: this person, do you have to be open with all 1419 01:05:14,200 --> 01:05:18,200 Speaker 1: these I mean you should should well, but like, hey, 1420 01:05:18,200 --> 01:05:19,920 Speaker 1: are you seeing that person? Doesn't that to tear you though? 1421 01:05:19,920 --> 01:05:21,040 Speaker 1: If you're on a date, like oh, I heard you 1422 01:05:21,080 --> 01:05:22,280 Speaker 1: want on a date last week, and you know how 1423 01:05:22,280 --> 01:05:24,360 Speaker 1: you make jokes with somebody like so I know we're open. 1424 01:05:24,440 --> 01:05:25,680 Speaker 1: I know you want to date last week, but are 1425 01:05:25,680 --> 01:05:27,040 Speaker 1: you sleeping with that person? Because you know what you 1426 01:05:27,040 --> 01:05:31,880 Speaker 1: want to ask? Right? They're dark? Am I right? Feeding? Honestly? 1427 01:05:32,480 --> 01:05:36,160 Speaker 1: But you're right now? I don't know. I think there's 1428 01:05:36,160 --> 01:05:38,880 Speaker 1: steps there is dating. I didn't really seeing was a difference. 1429 01:05:38,920 --> 01:05:41,600 Speaker 1: I could be wrong and that's never been wrong before, 1430 01:05:41,640 --> 01:05:45,800 Speaker 1: but I mean there's a difference. When I was exclusive 1431 01:05:45,840 --> 01:05:48,640 Speaker 1: and then exclusive is like is exclusive? Yeah? We all 1432 01:05:48,640 --> 01:05:52,000 Speaker 1: know what exclusive is this Britney spears offense exclusive right 1433 01:05:52,080 --> 01:05:56,000 Speaker 1: the world opening right now, ladies and gentlemen. But these 1434 01:05:56,000 --> 01:05:57,680 Speaker 1: are the these are the questions that I've had, like 1435 01:05:57,800 --> 01:05:59,880 Speaker 1: is it like this? Is it like that? Like you know? 1436 01:06:00,000 --> 01:06:02,080 Speaker 1: And then you're like, I don't know, I was these 1437 01:06:02,080 --> 01:06:04,000 Speaker 1: are the questions you've had because you've dated eighteen year 1438 01:06:04,040 --> 01:06:09,520 Speaker 1: olds for the past thirte years, which is I want 1439 01:06:09,560 --> 01:06:11,760 Speaker 1: to say, I do very much appreciate your Honestly, I 1440 01:06:11,800 --> 01:06:14,920 Speaker 1: know a lot of guys. I mean, you're asking and 1441 01:06:14,960 --> 01:06:17,280 Speaker 1: I'm telling you, but yeah, I mean they were all 1442 01:06:17,320 --> 01:06:19,520 Speaker 1: array of them, but yeah, the majority and were in there. 1443 01:06:19,560 --> 01:06:21,720 Speaker 1: I do think when you're dating someone young who doesn't 1444 01:06:21,720 --> 01:06:24,040 Speaker 1: know exactly what they want, and they even are open 1445 01:06:24,080 --> 01:06:26,960 Speaker 1: about like, hey, by the way, I don't sleep with everyone. 1446 01:06:27,120 --> 01:06:29,640 Speaker 1: I am not looking for just f buddy, like I 1447 01:06:29,720 --> 01:06:32,560 Speaker 1: want something more. You should be honest with that person 1448 01:06:32,600 --> 01:06:34,680 Speaker 1: about you sleeping with other people. But then again, some 1449 01:06:34,760 --> 01:06:38,520 Speaker 1: girls that you know are stupid. But I've gone on 1450 01:06:38,600 --> 01:06:43,160 Speaker 1: dates with the girls who don't care. Just caught onto 1451 01:06:43,160 --> 01:06:45,800 Speaker 1: what you said. No, I mean the ones I were 1452 01:06:45,880 --> 01:06:48,040 Speaker 1: dating was dating. Yes, they again I can say this 1453 01:06:48,120 --> 01:06:51,400 Speaker 1: is years ago. They were a little bit flighty, But yes, 1454 01:06:51,520 --> 01:06:54,520 Speaker 1: I think most girls know the you know, when you're 1455 01:06:54,520 --> 01:06:56,080 Speaker 1: coming off hard like that, I don't do this. I 1456 01:06:56,080 --> 01:07:01,080 Speaker 1: don't do that. If you're saying picking the community college 1457 01:07:01,080 --> 01:07:03,480 Speaker 1: degree they were, I mean, what do you call I 1458 01:07:03,520 --> 01:07:04,960 Speaker 1: don't want to get in trouble with what I say. 1459 01:07:05,000 --> 01:07:09,160 Speaker 1: I'm like, they're flighty, they're just a little They moved 1460 01:07:09,160 --> 01:07:11,080 Speaker 1: out to l A. It was it was there time 1461 01:07:11,120 --> 01:07:13,360 Speaker 1: to be a server out here and and you know, 1462 01:07:13,440 --> 01:07:15,680 Speaker 1: being an actress and nobody really cares at that time. 1463 01:07:15,760 --> 01:07:18,240 Speaker 1: And in like two thousand and five, thousand ten, or 1464 01:07:18,240 --> 01:07:19,840 Speaker 1: we're here, was just you just date, You worked at 1465 01:07:19,880 --> 01:07:21,320 Speaker 1: a nightclub, you try to be an actor, and you 1466 01:07:21,320 --> 01:07:23,280 Speaker 1: hooked up with people. It's so funny. It was different. 1467 01:07:24,640 --> 01:07:27,240 Speaker 1: You're also it's funny eight years old. I'm also forty. No, 1468 01:07:27,280 --> 01:07:29,560 Speaker 1: but I was dating. I was. I'm dating like in 1469 01:07:29,600 --> 01:07:32,840 Speaker 1: my twenties. There was no social media, there was no Tinder, 1470 01:07:32,920 --> 01:07:34,920 Speaker 1: there was no date me. This it was you go 1471 01:07:34,960 --> 01:07:36,680 Speaker 1: to the bar, you find somebody, who go home with 1472 01:07:36,720 --> 01:07:38,960 Speaker 1: a girl. That's what it was. But we have the 1473 01:07:38,960 --> 01:07:41,960 Speaker 1: opposite type and that my ultimate type right now is 1474 01:07:42,000 --> 01:07:43,720 Speaker 1: a girl that puts me in my place, a girl 1475 01:07:43,760 --> 01:07:46,200 Speaker 1: that goes I'm not gonna fall for any of your 1476 01:07:46,560 --> 01:07:50,320 Speaker 1: you dumb little boy, dumb a little boy. I'll be 1477 01:07:50,360 --> 01:07:52,360 Speaker 1: your dumb little boy. You know. Like I love a 1478 01:07:52,400 --> 01:07:55,520 Speaker 1: girl who's just so confident, which is like I think 1479 01:07:55,560 --> 01:08:00,480 Speaker 1: I definitely um beeticized this idea of like dating created genius, 1480 01:08:00,520 --> 01:08:03,600 Speaker 1: like a musical person or an artist, because they're so 1481 01:08:03,680 --> 01:08:05,480 Speaker 1: much more interested in their passion than they are me. 1482 01:08:05,680 --> 01:08:07,240 Speaker 1: And I go, do you want me to get you 1483 01:08:07,280 --> 01:08:09,360 Speaker 1: anything while you're painting? And they go get out, and 1484 01:08:09,400 --> 01:08:14,720 Speaker 1: I go, okay, whatever you like, and yeah, I've also 1485 01:08:14,800 --> 01:08:16,439 Speaker 1: been in a situation I've been my whole life. It's 1486 01:08:16,439 --> 01:08:18,360 Speaker 1: been like I've been so comfortable with dating that I 1487 01:08:18,400 --> 01:08:21,360 Speaker 1: haven't been in a lot of situations where I felt uncomfortable. 1488 01:08:21,400 --> 01:08:23,439 Speaker 1: And so I think I kind of like romanticize this idea. 1489 01:08:23,479 --> 01:08:25,599 Speaker 1: It seems like you still really enjoy dating, You still 1490 01:08:25,680 --> 01:08:28,720 Speaker 1: really enjoy I do, but just listen, don't. Don't If 1491 01:08:28,720 --> 01:08:31,439 Speaker 1: I find the right girl had settled down immediately, just 1492 01:08:31,479 --> 01:08:35,040 Speaker 1: a girl who keeps me on my toes, preferably blonde. 1493 01:08:37,479 --> 01:08:40,680 Speaker 1: I'm looking for my right hand girl. She's under my 1494 01:08:40,800 --> 01:08:44,599 Speaker 1: right hand right now. Tanya's that on my on your shoulder, 1495 01:08:45,320 --> 01:08:49,240 Speaker 1: she's touching me back. Wow, Tanya's kissing on the face 1496 01:08:49,240 --> 01:08:55,519 Speaker 1: of I get it, okay, okay, we'll do it well 1497 01:08:55,560 --> 01:09:00,720 Speaker 1: after the shop. Tanya, wow, okay, okay, okay, Oh on 1498 01:09:00,760 --> 01:09:08,920 Speaker 1: my ear? Something with her foot I think my toes 1499 01:09:08,960 --> 01:09:14,800 Speaker 1: sucked you up to the challenge. You know what, there's 1500 01:09:14,960 --> 01:09:16,760 Speaker 1: there's a lot of things that was about to be 1501 01:09:16,880 --> 01:09:19,120 Speaker 1: will you suck my toes? It was about to be. 1502 01:09:19,439 --> 01:09:20,920 Speaker 1: There's a lot of things I would do after a 1503 01:09:20,920 --> 01:09:23,640 Speaker 1: shower and wouldn't do before a shower, but after a 1504 01:09:23,640 --> 01:09:28,120 Speaker 1: showers every part of the body's game after a shower. 1505 01:09:29,880 --> 01:09:33,519 Speaker 1: I see, I'm different. I like a dirty No one 1506 01:09:33,640 --> 01:09:37,280 Speaker 1: is surprised by that. You sick of. I know there's 1507 01:09:37,280 --> 01:09:39,000 Speaker 1: a lot of things that are disturbing by me, but 1508 01:09:39,040 --> 01:09:41,000 Speaker 1: that is definitely one of the other dirty or the better. 1509 01:09:41,880 --> 01:09:44,840 Speaker 1: I'm not that my my smell sense is too strong. 1510 01:09:44,880 --> 01:09:48,000 Speaker 1: I like, it's gotta be freshly. It's gotta be fresh too. 1511 01:09:48,040 --> 01:09:51,920 Speaker 1: I'm not talking about a shower like ago. That's fine, 1512 01:09:52,080 --> 01:09:53,519 Speaker 1: but if it was that way too, I'm not going 1513 01:09:53,560 --> 01:09:54,880 Speaker 1: to be like, well, can we stop this and you 1514 01:09:54,920 --> 01:09:57,400 Speaker 1: go clean your feet? No, but it's great because you say, hey, 1515 01:09:57,439 --> 01:09:58,960 Speaker 1: let's get in the shower right now, and then you 1516 01:09:59,000 --> 01:10:00,240 Speaker 1: get in the shower, then you get on a bed. 1517 01:10:00,240 --> 01:10:05,479 Speaker 1: A little moist, little moist, a little moist tony. Thanks 1518 01:10:05,479 --> 01:10:08,960 Speaker 1: for kissing me right there. Yeah, to me, that's that's 1519 01:10:08,960 --> 01:10:12,679 Speaker 1: more fun. That was an eye opening ending right there. 1520 01:10:14,200 --> 01:10:18,000 Speaker 1: I think we in there honestly, truly one of my 1521 01:10:18,040 --> 01:10:22,720 Speaker 1: favorite episodes. I hope I wasn't too discussed. Both of 1522 01:10:22,720 --> 01:10:26,000 Speaker 1: you were so refreshing. It was like, because there's a 1523 01:10:26,040 --> 01:10:28,640 Speaker 1: lot of different types of guys in the world, and 1524 01:10:28,680 --> 01:10:31,840 Speaker 1: I think, you know, I will be honest. Easton and 1525 01:10:31,920 --> 01:10:35,519 Speaker 1: Mark other producer are really like just both married, top 1526 01:10:35,600 --> 01:10:38,880 Speaker 1: notch husbands, Like they just are, like you know, their 1527 01:10:38,920 --> 01:10:44,880 Speaker 1: answers are always just perfect book answers, but they're genuinely 1528 01:10:44,920 --> 01:10:50,120 Speaker 1: they're different type of guy saying it like, I love 1529 01:10:50,200 --> 01:10:52,320 Speaker 1: that you came in and you talked about your truth. 1530 01:10:52,360 --> 01:10:54,679 Speaker 1: You're married, you were with the girl of your dreams, 1531 01:10:54,720 --> 01:10:58,800 Speaker 1: you love her feet, and you are searching for the 1532 01:10:58,880 --> 01:11:01,880 Speaker 1: perfect foot in someone to put you in your place. 1533 01:11:02,120 --> 01:11:06,120 Speaker 1: Tanya is greatly um so I just like I w 1534 01:11:06,520 --> 01:11:10,559 Speaker 1: it's so unnecessary. Yeah, a lot of it's unnecessary, but 1535 01:11:10,640 --> 01:11:14,200 Speaker 1: it's worth it anyway. Let us know the send us 1536 01:11:14,200 --> 01:11:16,000 Speaker 1: a d M. If you guys want us to get together, 1537 01:11:16,040 --> 01:11:17,840 Speaker 1: we'll do it. If we get enough messages. If you 1538 01:11:17,920 --> 01:11:23,840 Speaker 1: if the scrubbing and paper views and grab your man, 1539 01:11:24,640 --> 01:11:30,240 Speaker 1: we'll like scout it out. That's actually you know, we'll 1540 01:11:30,280 --> 01:11:35,920 Speaker 1: talk see how it's going. So it sat ranch. I'd 1541 01:11:35,920 --> 01:11:38,960 Speaker 1: be so down for a triple date. I would be down. 1542 01:11:39,240 --> 01:11:41,160 Speaker 1: And just so the audience at home knows, Tanya is 1543 01:11:41,160 --> 01:11:47,320 Speaker 1: currently pinching my nipples and blowing me kisses. 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