1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:02,759 Speaker 1: It's there. Time buckle up whole long tight Joe Baby 2 00:00:02,880 --> 00:00:08,400 Speaker 1: Letter twenty three. All right, this one is not necessarily 3 00:00:08,440 --> 00:00:10,960 Speaker 1: for kids. Do I want to point that out? Subject 4 00:00:11,240 --> 00:00:15,440 Speaker 1: secrets I keep just Shirley and Steve, I've been keeping 5 00:00:15,440 --> 00:00:18,000 Speaker 1: a secret from my man, and I need your advice. 6 00:00:18,400 --> 00:00:21,239 Speaker 1: I joined a local swingers club a little over two 7 00:00:21,320 --> 00:00:25,639 Speaker 1: years ago, and my sexual appetite desires being with more 8 00:00:25,760 --> 00:00:29,600 Speaker 1: than one My sexual appetite desires being with more than 9 00:00:29,680 --> 00:00:32,519 Speaker 1: just one man. I've been with my boyfriend now for 10 00:00:32,600 --> 00:00:35,559 Speaker 1: six months. I really want to tell him about my 11 00:00:35,600 --> 00:00:38,800 Speaker 1: other life, but I don't know how. I've hinted around 12 00:00:38,840 --> 00:00:40,960 Speaker 1: at the idea of us going to the parties as 13 00:00:40,960 --> 00:00:44,040 Speaker 1: a couple, and the idea of us becoming swingers and 14 00:00:44,120 --> 00:00:46,440 Speaker 1: for play. He will say yes, But on the night 15 00:00:46,440 --> 00:00:49,559 Speaker 1: of the party he doesn't want to go, so I 16 00:00:49,640 --> 00:00:52,120 Speaker 1: have to make up a story about where I'm going 17 00:00:52,159 --> 00:00:54,960 Speaker 1: for the evening. I've tried to stop going, but I 18 00:00:55,080 --> 00:00:59,560 Speaker 1: simply can't. I'm stuck between my fantasy and the real world. 19 00:01:00,040 --> 00:01:02,520 Speaker 1: I'm not sure if I want to stop, if I 20 00:01:02,600 --> 00:01:06,600 Speaker 1: need to stop. I like the swinger's lifestyle. It's very 21 00:01:06,640 --> 00:01:10,520 Speaker 1: addictive and very satisfying. I can be who I want, 22 00:01:10,600 --> 00:01:15,119 Speaker 1: when I want without any ridum, ridicule or negative feedback. 23 00:01:15,560 --> 00:01:19,560 Speaker 1: It's a world of complete bliss and fulfillment. However, I 24 00:01:19,600 --> 00:01:21,640 Speaker 1: do enjoy my man in bed and we are and 25 00:01:21,720 --> 00:01:24,520 Speaker 1: we are very passionate couple. It's just that I need 26 00:01:24,560 --> 00:01:27,399 Speaker 1: more than what he's giving me. I have a very 27 00:01:27,480 --> 00:01:31,280 Speaker 1: insatiable appetite and I don't believe any one man can 28 00:01:31,280 --> 00:01:35,320 Speaker 1: satisfy me at this time in my life. I do 29 00:01:35,400 --> 00:01:38,480 Speaker 1: appreciate the idea of being with just one man, and 30 00:01:38,520 --> 00:01:41,280 Speaker 1: I do care about his feelings, but I haven't been 31 00:01:41,280 --> 00:01:44,679 Speaker 1: completely honest about my other sex life. Surely should I 32 00:01:44,720 --> 00:01:47,280 Speaker 1: be honest with him or just leave things the way 33 00:01:47,319 --> 00:01:50,560 Speaker 1: they are? Even if you don't, even if you do 34 00:01:50,640 --> 00:01:53,000 Speaker 1: not read this letter on the air, can you please 35 00:01:53,040 --> 00:01:58,360 Speaker 1: give me some advice via email? Thanks Shirley, Thanks Steve, sincerely. A, 36 00:02:00,040 --> 00:02:02,720 Speaker 1: you're a you know what, if this is your lifestyle 37 00:02:02,800 --> 00:02:05,160 Speaker 1: and you're so cool with it at all, I think 38 00:02:05,200 --> 00:02:07,080 Speaker 1: you really need to be honest with your man. I 39 00:02:07,120 --> 00:02:09,080 Speaker 1: think your man needs to know what type of person 40 00:02:09,400 --> 00:02:12,079 Speaker 1: that he's dealing with, because you know, you say that 41 00:02:12,400 --> 00:02:16,120 Speaker 1: you really are into this lifestyle and you really like it. Uh, 42 00:02:16,160 --> 00:02:19,080 Speaker 1: and you know it gives you fulfillment and complete bliss 43 00:02:19,080 --> 00:02:20,800 Speaker 1: and all of that. You know, I'm not one that 44 00:02:20,840 --> 00:02:23,640 Speaker 1: believes in telling everything about your past and everything, but 45 00:02:23,680 --> 00:02:26,800 Speaker 1: if it were the other way around, you know, you 46 00:02:26,800 --> 00:02:29,440 Speaker 1: would want to know this about your man. Um. You know. 47 00:02:29,520 --> 00:02:31,680 Speaker 1: But here's the deal, though, I really don't think he's 48 00:02:31,680 --> 00:02:34,440 Speaker 1: gonna stay around if you tell him. Really don't think 49 00:02:34,440 --> 00:02:37,520 Speaker 1: that although he says he will uh go to these parties, 50 00:02:37,560 --> 00:02:40,600 Speaker 1: he never goes um you know when he says he will. 51 00:02:40,880 --> 00:02:43,440 Speaker 1: So so here are your choices, as far as I'm concerned. 52 00:02:43,639 --> 00:02:46,720 Speaker 1: Your choices are to tell him be free, you know, 53 00:02:46,880 --> 00:02:50,200 Speaker 1: living complete bliss and have your life fulfilled and all 54 00:02:50,200 --> 00:02:51,919 Speaker 1: of that, because that's where you are in your life 55 00:02:52,040 --> 00:02:55,280 Speaker 1: right now, or and uh probably lose your man of 56 00:02:55,360 --> 00:02:58,000 Speaker 1: six months. You're probably gonna lose him, or find someone 57 00:02:58,160 --> 00:03:01,200 Speaker 1: you know who can fit into your swinging lifestyle. Maybe 58 00:03:01,200 --> 00:03:04,280 Speaker 1: somebody you know they're at the swinging parties. I got 59 00:03:04,280 --> 00:03:09,160 Speaker 1: a pard you do need to hook up there. I 60 00:03:09,240 --> 00:03:11,000 Speaker 1: got a part to go down there and be there 61 00:03:11,200 --> 00:03:14,639 Speaker 1: at one. I need to hook up then being so 62 00:03:14,680 --> 00:03:17,519 Speaker 1: hard you'll be digging your man. I really feel in 63 00:03:17,600 --> 00:03:20,840 Speaker 1: this girl, So you know, I say, be honest with him, 64 00:03:20,880 --> 00:03:24,080 Speaker 1: but he's not gonna he's not gonna stay around. I 65 00:03:24,160 --> 00:03:27,320 Speaker 1: got a pardner listening to this radio show right now. 66 00:03:27,639 --> 00:03:32,400 Speaker 1: That's all be surprised when we get through. If he 67 00:03:32,480 --> 00:03:35,040 Speaker 1: don't call me right now and ask for her email. 68 00:03:35,160 --> 00:03:40,520 Speaker 1: You need to email that. Hey, you can you can 69 00:03:41,680 --> 00:03:45,120 Speaker 1: be that and all you have a won't it? Email 70 00:03:45,240 --> 00:03:48,920 Speaker 1: us for your comments at Strawberry Letters. Caring so hard 71 00:03:49,040 --> 00:03:52,000 Speaker 1: he pushed you and then you push you gotta say 72 00:03:52,000 --> 00:03:54,520 Speaker 1: Strawberry Letter dot com probably dot com click on the 73 00:03:54,520 --> 00:03:58,040 Speaker 1: Strawberry Letter twelve minutes after Code Cracker coming up next. 74 00:03:58,280 --> 00:04:03,080 Speaker 1: You're listening Steve. Alright, come on, Steve with your response 75 00:04:03,120 --> 00:04:11,240 Speaker 1: to today's Strawberry Letter, Part two. Dear Shirley and Steve, 76 00:04:11,440 --> 00:04:13,520 Speaker 1: I've been keeping a secret from my man, and I 77 00:04:13,600 --> 00:04:16,680 Speaker 1: need your advice. I joined the local swingers club a 78 00:04:16,760 --> 00:04:19,800 Speaker 1: little over two years ago, and my sexual appetite desires 79 00:04:19,880 --> 00:04:24,040 Speaker 1: being with more than just one man. Oh, and my 80 00:04:24,120 --> 00:04:27,880 Speaker 1: sexual appetite desires being with more than just one man. 81 00:04:28,360 --> 00:04:30,719 Speaker 1: I've been with my boyfriend now for six months. I 82 00:04:30,760 --> 00:04:33,200 Speaker 1: really want to tell him about mother life, but I 83 00:04:33,200 --> 00:04:35,679 Speaker 1: don't know how. I have hinted around at the idea 84 00:04:35,680 --> 00:04:37,919 Speaker 1: of us going to the parties as a couple, and 85 00:04:37,960 --> 00:04:40,760 Speaker 1: the idea of us becoming swingers and for play. He 86 00:04:40,839 --> 00:04:42,960 Speaker 1: would say yes, but on the night of the party 87 00:04:42,960 --> 00:04:44,560 Speaker 1: he doesn't want to go, so I have to make 88 00:04:44,640 --> 00:04:47,360 Speaker 1: up a story about where I'm going for the evening. 89 00:04:47,680 --> 00:04:50,440 Speaker 1: I've tried to stop going, but I simply can't. I'm 90 00:04:50,480 --> 00:04:53,240 Speaker 1: stuck between my fantasy in the real world. I'm not 91 00:04:53,279 --> 00:04:55,839 Speaker 1: sure if I want to stop, if I need to stop. 92 00:04:55,920 --> 00:04:59,280 Speaker 1: I like the swingers lifestyle. It's very addictive and very satisfying. 93 00:04:59,320 --> 00:05:01,159 Speaker 1: I could be who I won't when I won't without 94 00:05:01,160 --> 00:05:05,000 Speaker 1: any ridicular negative feedback. It's a world of complete bliss 95 00:05:05,000 --> 00:05:08,400 Speaker 1: and fulfillment. However, I do enjoy my man in bed, 96 00:05:08,440 --> 00:05:11,080 Speaker 1: and we are very passionate couple. It's just said I 97 00:05:11,120 --> 00:05:14,200 Speaker 1: need more than what he's given me. I have a 98 00:05:14,320 --> 00:05:18,520 Speaker 1: verisationable appetite and I don't believe only one man can 99 00:05:18,520 --> 00:05:21,640 Speaker 1: satisfy me at this time in my life. I do 100 00:05:21,680 --> 00:05:25,160 Speaker 1: appreciate the idea of being just one man. I do 101 00:05:25,240 --> 00:05:27,839 Speaker 1: appreciate the idea of being with just one man, and 102 00:05:27,920 --> 00:05:31,480 Speaker 1: I do care about his feelings. But I haven't been 103 00:05:31,480 --> 00:05:35,400 Speaker 1: completely honest about my other sex life. Surely should I 104 00:05:35,440 --> 00:05:37,839 Speaker 1: be honest with him or just leave things the way 105 00:05:37,880 --> 00:05:40,080 Speaker 1: they are? Even if you do not read this on that, 106 00:05:40,240 --> 00:05:43,200 Speaker 1: can you please give me some advice via email. Thanks Shirley, 107 00:05:43,400 --> 00:05:48,839 Speaker 1: Thanks Steve, sincerely. A. The key word in this letter 108 00:05:49,080 --> 00:06:02,760 Speaker 1: is A, and a's proper pronunciation is ah. Okay, oh lady, 109 00:06:02,880 --> 00:06:08,880 Speaker 1: you are what Let's go over this hell we're dealing 110 00:06:08,960 --> 00:06:17,279 Speaker 1: with all swing See. First of all, there's no mention 111 00:06:17,320 --> 00:06:20,160 Speaker 1: of love in this letter. You don't love your boyfriend. 112 00:06:20,160 --> 00:06:22,200 Speaker 1: You ain't in love with your boyfriend. You ain't in 113 00:06:22,200 --> 00:06:26,440 Speaker 1: love with yourself. You obviously don't love yourself. So love 114 00:06:26,560 --> 00:06:30,000 Speaker 1: is out the window. So now I'm asking you what 115 00:06:30,200 --> 00:06:34,599 Speaker 1: is the letter for? Mm hmm. You ask your boy 116 00:06:34,640 --> 00:06:37,000 Speaker 1: to be a swinger, he jokingly said, yeah. You ask 117 00:06:37,040 --> 00:06:39,120 Speaker 1: him go to parties and swingers, dude, he said yeah, 118 00:06:39,160 --> 00:06:40,760 Speaker 1: Then the night of he don't want to go. Then 119 00:06:40,839 --> 00:06:42,920 Speaker 1: you gotta make up a reason for you to lead 120 00:06:42,920 --> 00:06:48,360 Speaker 1: a house, and now you go do it yourself. Ah. 121 00:06:48,880 --> 00:06:51,840 Speaker 1: I don't know what to say about you, lady, except 122 00:06:52,279 --> 00:06:55,960 Speaker 1: you just off. Let me ask you this question. What 123 00:06:56,200 --> 00:06:59,480 Speaker 1: is the boyfriend about? I mean, what is that about? 124 00:07:00,680 --> 00:07:04,080 Speaker 1: He's not satisfying to you? It's not what you want. 125 00:07:04,680 --> 00:07:06,679 Speaker 1: Why don't you let him go? Because there are plenty 126 00:07:06,720 --> 00:07:09,480 Speaker 1: women out there who would love a man of their own. 127 00:07:10,600 --> 00:07:14,120 Speaker 1: You obviously don't want a man of your own. You 128 00:07:14,160 --> 00:07:18,000 Speaker 1: want to be this little brothel type babe for all 129 00:07:18,080 --> 00:07:20,520 Speaker 1: these other men and women. That's what you want to 130 00:07:20,520 --> 00:07:23,040 Speaker 1: be a little passed around pack. You want to get 131 00:07:23,080 --> 00:07:25,600 Speaker 1: passed around because see you're a lady. And I'm sorry, 132 00:07:25,640 --> 00:07:29,200 Speaker 1: I hate to break this. You ain't doing nobody. You're 133 00:07:29,240 --> 00:07:34,119 Speaker 1: being done. You're just over at the joint getting done. 134 00:07:34,280 --> 00:07:37,480 Speaker 1: You ain't doing nobody. Let me help you understand about 135 00:07:37,480 --> 00:07:41,160 Speaker 1: the mindset of man. Let me teach you something about us. 136 00:07:42,880 --> 00:07:45,560 Speaker 1: You're not doing us when you're in a swing of 137 00:07:45,600 --> 00:07:50,320 Speaker 1: situation or club situation, you're just getting done. M Because 138 00:07:50,320 --> 00:07:53,480 Speaker 1: see once we can get in a situation where it 139 00:07:53,520 --> 00:07:58,680 Speaker 1: ain't nothing but about that, then lord him mercy. You 140 00:07:58,680 --> 00:08:01,000 Speaker 1: ain't gonna get called no good names. You don't get 141 00:08:01,000 --> 00:08:03,960 Speaker 1: no flowers, no candy, you don't even get the trappings 142 00:08:04,000 --> 00:08:07,320 Speaker 1: of get being taken to dinner. We're just doing you. 143 00:08:07,800 --> 00:08:10,280 Speaker 1: So now you're just passing your little self around. Not 144 00:08:10,400 --> 00:08:13,160 Speaker 1: a confusing part is And this is what throws me. 145 00:08:13,200 --> 00:08:15,440 Speaker 1: This is why I say, what's ther boyfriend about? I 146 00:08:15,480 --> 00:08:19,160 Speaker 1: like the swingers lifestyle is very addictive and very satisfied. 147 00:08:19,400 --> 00:08:21,800 Speaker 1: I could be who I want, when I want without 148 00:08:21,840 --> 00:08:25,760 Speaker 1: any ridicular negative feedback. It's a world of complete bliss 149 00:08:25,800 --> 00:08:32,480 Speaker 1: and fulfillment. Okay, then you have found what the world 150 00:08:32,679 --> 00:08:36,199 Speaker 1: is searching for. I mean, man, dog, I mean really, 151 00:08:36,800 --> 00:08:39,560 Speaker 1: you found what we all have been looking for. You 152 00:08:39,559 --> 00:08:43,520 Speaker 1: have found a world that is so satisfying and it's 153 00:08:43,679 --> 00:08:50,920 Speaker 1: complete bliss and fulfillment. What congratulations. You're the only person 154 00:08:51,040 --> 00:08:55,040 Speaker 1: I know that has died still living and gone to heaven. 155 00:08:56,800 --> 00:08:59,440 Speaker 1: So now that you've completed that cycle of life, I 156 00:08:59,440 --> 00:09:01,599 Speaker 1: don't even see what else you got to live for 157 00:09:02,679 --> 00:09:07,440 Speaker 1: you at the Swingers Club, it's the most complete bliss 158 00:09:07,520 --> 00:09:11,240 Speaker 1: and fulfillment and that what why are you waking up? 159 00:09:12,080 --> 00:09:15,800 Speaker 1: Stay at the club. Stay at the Swingers Club and 160 00:09:15,880 --> 00:09:19,320 Speaker 1: keep getting done. I don't know how you old you 161 00:09:19,360 --> 00:09:22,079 Speaker 1: are on this letter is not stated in it anywhere, 162 00:09:22,800 --> 00:09:26,160 Speaker 1: but you know what you you just you're too far 163 00:09:26,240 --> 00:09:28,080 Speaker 1: out there for me, baby, I don't know what to 164 00:09:28,120 --> 00:09:31,600 Speaker 1: tell you. I have a very insatiable appetite and I 165 00:09:31,720 --> 00:09:35,240 Speaker 1: don't believe only one man can satisfy me. At this 166 00:09:35,360 --> 00:09:39,000 Speaker 1: time in my life. That sounds just like a prostitute 167 00:09:39,040 --> 00:09:42,640 Speaker 1: to me. I don't know how you are. I enjoy, 168 00:09:42,679 --> 00:09:45,280 Speaker 1: I do enjoy my man in bed. You enjoy your 169 00:09:45,320 --> 00:09:49,280 Speaker 1: man in bed, Her man in bed, day, man in bed, 170 00:09:49,840 --> 00:09:53,280 Speaker 1: oly man at the bed, anybody standing by the bed, 171 00:09:53,720 --> 00:09:56,280 Speaker 1: all the people that's looking in at the bed, the 172 00:09:56,360 --> 00:09:58,840 Speaker 1: people that put the sheets on the bed. I like 173 00:09:58,960 --> 00:10:01,160 Speaker 1: the man that made them at you. So it became 174 00:10:01,200 --> 00:10:04,000 Speaker 1: all right, thank you, Steve. You know we have to 175 00:10:04,000 --> 00:10:06,120 Speaker 1: get out of here. Email us or Instagram. That's your 176 00:10:06,120 --> 00:10:09,960 Speaker 1: thoughts on today's Strawberry Letter at My Girls Shirley, Um, 177 00:10:10,000 --> 00:10:12,720 Speaker 1: and don't forget this coming Thursday. Well that is what 178 00:10:12,880 --> 00:10:16,400 Speaker 1: tomorrow right we did. Yeah, we were off on Monday 179 00:10:16,720 --> 00:10:19,280 Speaker 1: tomorrow at one pm. Joined me for the Strawberry Letter 180 00:10:19,400 --> 00:10:22,080 Speaker 1: Live after show on Facebook. You can find me at 181 00:10:22,080 --> 00:10:25,080 Speaker 1: My Girls Shirley or Shirley Strawberry. Okay, we're gonna talk 182 00:10:25,120 --> 00:10:28,120 Speaker 1: about today's letter or that day's letter, tomorrow's letter. I 183 00:10:28,120 --> 00:10:30,880 Speaker 1: should say, do my Strawberry Fresh pick of the weekend 184 00:10:30,920 --> 00:10:32,960 Speaker 1: trending topic. So please join me.