WEBVTT - Q & A: Love, Cringe, and Off Limits 0:00:01.000 --> 0:00:06.000 This is the most dramatic podcast ever and iHeartRadio podcast 0:00:07.680 --> 0:00:10.200 Chris Harrison and Lauren Z mccomedy from the home office 0:00:10.280 --> 0:00:13.840 in Austin, Texas. If you've just watched our social media 0:00:13.880 --> 0:00:18.079 We're off to a banging start today. As Lauren has 0:00:18.120 --> 0:00:22.279 been doing her vocal exercises MEMI one two three, she's 0:00:22.360 --> 0:00:23.239 living with notes. 0:00:23.520 --> 0:00:25.919 Me me one, two, three, four five. I'm not. 0:00:26.000 --> 0:00:29.840 I'm supposed to do these vocal exercises four times a day. 0:00:29.880 --> 0:00:33.159 It's that's the hardest part is to remember. How do 0:00:33.200 --> 0:00:39.120 you remember to do something four times a day? 0:00:39.159 --> 0:00:40.360 Just a spit take there. 0:00:43.440 --> 0:00:46.360 Well, well, we'll see you doing four times, Okay. 0:00:46.400 --> 0:00:48.200 So here's the thing water. 0:00:48.400 --> 0:00:48.920 I don't know. 0:00:49.200 --> 0:00:51.640 I just keep saying you're living with notes because I 0:00:51.640 --> 0:00:54.240 love pitch perfect, but you're actually not living with notes. 0:00:54.360 --> 0:00:54.800 What is it? 0:00:54.840 --> 0:00:59.600 Actually, it's a vocal polyp. And I thought a polyp 0:00:59.720 --> 0:01:02.680 was like something that grows, you know, like some sort 0:01:02.720 --> 0:01:06.920 of cancerous Yes. No, but in the vocal world they 0:01:07.000 --> 0:01:08.640 use the word polyps an injury. 0:01:08.840 --> 0:01:10.560 So you're working with a voice coach that's kind of 0:01:10.560 --> 0:01:10.960 helping you. 0:01:11.280 --> 0:01:13.080 Yeah, but I'm not doing well and not doing well 0:01:13.080 --> 0:01:16.040 with my homework. It's very difficult. I need to think 0:01:16.080 --> 0:01:19.080 of it as like physical therapy because you've had an injury. 0:01:19.120 --> 0:01:19.400 That's right. 0:01:19.440 --> 0:01:22.760 I actually worked with three years ago as well. Not 0:01:22.800 --> 0:01:24.959 the same, but I did the same. I didn't I 0:01:25.000 --> 0:01:26.040 wasn't living with nodes. 0:01:26.080 --> 0:01:27.679 But what were you living with? 0:01:27.880 --> 0:01:29.560 I was losing my voice. 0:01:30.120 --> 0:01:32.520 I would go, you were living with little mermaid syndrome. 0:01:35.160 --> 0:01:36.720 I actually understand that reference. 0:01:36.959 --> 0:01:38.080 Of course you do you have a daughter. 0:01:38.160 --> 0:01:39.560 No, I would lose my voice from time to time 0:01:39.560 --> 0:01:42.520 because we're just hosting so much, especially when I was traveling, 0:01:42.560 --> 0:01:44.520 and then I would get to, like do a show 0:01:44.560 --> 0:01:47.800 in Vegas. Vegas throat is a real thing because it's 0:01:47.800 --> 0:01:50.840 so dry there. You're in the desert, smoky. Yeah, you're 0:01:50.880 --> 0:01:55.600 in terrible you know, parts of air, and so yeah, 0:01:55.640 --> 0:01:58.200 I would lose I would get very especially Miss America Week. 0:01:58.240 --> 0:02:01.680 You're like, uh, okay, questions, why have you not been 0:02:01.680 --> 0:02:02.400 the one training me? 0:02:02.640 --> 0:02:06.200 Because it's like teaching your spouse to play golf. It's 0:02:06.200 --> 0:02:07.160 a terrible idea. 0:02:07.920 --> 0:02:10.120 Wait do you actually think that is a terrible idea? 0:02:10.080 --> 0:02:10.200 Oh? 0:02:10.240 --> 0:02:11.959 I think it's a horrible idea. It's a great way 0:02:12.200 --> 0:02:14.359 to get divorced or broken up. 0:02:15.000 --> 0:02:18.079 I think you're right, because, by the way, please dms everybody. 0:02:18.120 --> 0:02:20.520 I would love to know do you think your spouse 0:02:20.600 --> 0:02:24.480 can teach you a skill? Because I know a lot 0:02:24.520 --> 0:02:28.919 of I guess women mostly who I've heard say well, 0:02:28.960 --> 0:02:30.920 I play golf now. I took it up so that, 0:02:31.040 --> 0:02:33.440 like my husband and I could do something together. And 0:02:33.480 --> 0:02:35.080 they asked me, do you play golf? And I say 0:02:35.200 --> 0:02:38.880 I now, But I do respond with I think at 0:02:38.880 --> 0:02:41.000 that school, you guys want to do something together. For me, 0:02:41.360 --> 0:02:44.640 Chris and I already do enough together. We work together, 0:02:44.960 --> 0:02:48.639 we like all sorts of different socializing together. We talk 0:02:48.720 --> 0:02:51.600 movies together, so we don't need another together thing. Like 0:02:51.639 --> 0:02:53.800 golf is your thing and I don't like it, so 0:02:53.840 --> 0:02:55.680 I'm certainly not going to take it up. But what 0:02:55.760 --> 0:02:58.200 I don't ask those women is well, is your husband 0:02:58.240 --> 0:02:59.440 the one teaching you golf? 0:03:00.040 --> 0:03:03.079 And I would say, don't do it. There's things when 0:03:03.120 --> 0:03:06.000 you're parenting and when you're when you're in a relationship 0:03:06.040 --> 0:03:11.239 that fall into this category. Be the fun, cool person, 0:03:11.960 --> 0:03:13.960 and when you're parenting you can't always be the fun, 0:03:14.040 --> 0:03:16.680 cool guy or whatever, but be the supportive person. So 0:03:17.280 --> 0:03:19.880 when you are learning golf, I would get you a 0:03:19.880 --> 0:03:22.480 great instructor. You need a different, bad guy different, and 0:03:22.520 --> 0:03:24.040 then I get to come in at the end and 0:03:24.080 --> 0:03:26.120 tell you how great you're doing. Then we get to 0:03:26.120 --> 0:03:27.880 maybe hit on the range, maybe go play a few 0:03:27.880 --> 0:03:29.720 holes together, and I get to tell you how great 0:03:29.760 --> 0:03:31.720 it is and how fun it is. So I'm the 0:03:31.760 --> 0:03:33.799 fun person in this relationship. I don't want to be 0:03:33.840 --> 0:03:35.680 the person telling you what you're doing wrong. 0:03:35.840 --> 0:03:38.880 I think you're totally right about that, because. 0:03:38.640 --> 0:03:39.800 It's like us having sex. 0:03:42.680 --> 0:03:43.320 And now that was. 0:03:43.320 --> 0:03:44.880 A spit take for me. I don't even know what 0:03:44.920 --> 0:03:47.240 that meant. That was like a dad joke, but a 0:03:47.280 --> 0:03:48.120 dirty dad folk. 0:03:48.440 --> 0:03:50.760 But no, you're agreed. 0:03:51.360 --> 0:03:54.080 You agree though with the golf, Well, I think that 0:03:55.280 --> 0:03:58.520 when your spouse is teaching you something, it's just really 0:03:58.560 --> 0:04:02.480 easy to You're gonna you're gonna be frustrated when you're 0:04:02.560 --> 0:04:05.520 learning golf or learning anything, but probably especially golf, especially golf, 0:04:06.000 --> 0:04:08.880 and so it's gonna be easy to snap at your spouse, 0:04:09.000 --> 0:04:11.720 and then your spouse is heard and then doing frustrated. 0:04:11.800 --> 0:04:13.640 I am doing what you're telling me exactly. 0:04:13.800 --> 0:04:16.599 So the idea of teaching someone golf is only cute 0:04:16.680 --> 0:04:19.080 for that image that we all have of like a 0:04:19.120 --> 0:04:21.360 third date in our head, you know, when you're just 0:04:21.440 --> 0:04:24.200 dating and it's like, oh, help me with my swing. 0:04:24.960 --> 0:04:27.240 The girl she acts like she doesn't know. 0:04:27.279 --> 0:04:29.600 What he's turns out she's a professional. Yes. 0:04:30.040 --> 0:04:32.000 And by the way, this brings us to our first 0:04:32.040 --> 0:04:34.400 question of the day, because today's episode is actually a 0:04:34.480 --> 0:04:38.880 Q and A with you the listener, and this comes 0:04:38.920 --> 0:04:41.320 from Bethany, and I wanted to go to you because 0:04:41.360 --> 0:04:44.479 Bethany says, my husband has recently taken up golf. Tell 0:04:44.520 --> 0:04:47.120 me what I need to know to be a golf wife, 0:04:47.600 --> 0:04:49.680 because wow, you're really good at this. 0:04:49.920 --> 0:04:51.159 Do you think I'm a golf wife. 0:04:51.360 --> 0:04:52.720 Well, I don't know about that. I don't know what 0:04:52.720 --> 0:04:55.359 that even means, but I understand what she's talking. 0:04:55.440 --> 0:04:59.680 Yes, And I think there's something inherently about that term, Like, Bethany, 0:04:59.680 --> 0:05:01.240 you don't have to be a golf wife, you know. 0:05:01.320 --> 0:05:03.440 I certain that just takes away your identity. And I 0:05:03.440 --> 0:05:06.440 get that it's playful, but I don't think of myself 0:05:06.440 --> 0:05:08.839 as a golf wife. I do think if you want 0:05:08.880 --> 0:05:12.000 to be a spouse supporting your partner as they play golf. 0:05:12.480 --> 0:05:15.360 First of all, I'll be honest, I did it at 0:05:15.440 --> 0:05:20.400 Edgewood at the celebrity tournament. I walked all eighteen holes 0:05:20.400 --> 0:05:23.200 with you every day, three days. That's maybe the second 0:05:23.200 --> 0:05:25.400 time I've ever done that. I don't think that to 0:05:25.480 --> 0:05:27.880 be a good golf wife. I don't think you got 0:05:27.920 --> 0:05:30.080 to be out there for all eighteen holes because you're 0:05:30.120 --> 0:05:31.880 not going to enjoy that whole time. 0:05:32.240 --> 0:05:33.720 It's going to start to well. 0:05:33.720 --> 0:05:36.680 That was, by the way, a very special event and tournament, 0:05:37.080 --> 0:05:39.000 a celebrity event that you were just as much a 0:05:39.000 --> 0:05:42.560 part of on the daily when I'm here in Austin 0:05:42.800 --> 0:05:47.559 or whatever. What I love is you, And this goes 0:05:47.560 --> 0:05:51.839 for not just golf, Bethany, this goes for everything, man, woman, 0:05:51.960 --> 0:05:56.760 back and forth. We encourage each other's to do our 0:05:56.800 --> 0:06:00.680 own thing, love, our love, our passions, our hobbies. Courage that. 0:06:00.680 --> 0:06:01.279 That's a good point. 0:06:01.320 --> 0:06:03.800 Maybe it's your definition of golf wife. What type of 0:06:03.800 --> 0:06:06.039 golf wife are you? Are you the golf wife who says, 0:06:06.560 --> 0:06:08.880 go play for four hours, I'll see you later. 0:06:08.800 --> 0:06:10.960 Have a great time. I won't text you and. 0:06:11.600 --> 0:06:14.440 Enjoy and then you use those four hours, bet you 0:06:14.480 --> 0:06:15.200 and do what you want to do. 0:06:15.279 --> 0:06:19.240 That's a secret. Go to home goods, go to Marshalls. 0:06:19.240 --> 0:06:22.600 There's a candle you have time for all. 0:06:22.440 --> 0:06:24.480 Three and that's what I like to do. 0:06:25.839 --> 0:06:28.839 But I will say, like, look sort of dependent on 0:06:29.360 --> 0:06:32.120 and I would make these decisions based on the course, 0:06:32.400 --> 0:06:36.080 the temperature, the weather. Is it sometimes fun to like 0:06:36.120 --> 0:06:37.719 go out and ride in the cart with you or 0:06:37.839 --> 0:06:39.680 walk a few holes with you for a little bit, Yes, 0:06:39.760 --> 0:06:41.400 like we'll do that on vacation and it's fun. 0:06:41.440 --> 0:06:44.560 You got a margarita in hand. Just know that you. 0:06:44.520 --> 0:06:47.040 Should only engage in the golf if you're going to 0:06:47.160 --> 0:06:47.880 enjoy it yourself. 0:06:47.920 --> 0:06:49.559 Otherwise you'll start to resent the golf. 0:06:49.760 --> 0:06:51.720 So don't make yourself go out there and do it 0:06:51.720 --> 0:06:53.600 just because you think like you have to be there 0:06:53.640 --> 0:06:56.080 to be supportive. You don't, wouldn't you say, babe, that 0:06:56.760 --> 0:06:58.160 most men are probably like. 0:06:58.600 --> 0:07:00.680 I'm fine with you just letting me golf. You don't 0:07:00.680 --> 0:07:01.600 have to be part of this. Well. 0:07:01.640 --> 0:07:03.359 One of the best things you ever said to me 0:07:03.760 --> 0:07:06.799 when we first started dating and got married, you said, 0:07:07.160 --> 0:07:09.960 your thing doesn't need to be my thing. My thing 0:07:10.000 --> 0:07:13.200 doesn't need to necessarily be your thing. We can respect it, 0:07:13.640 --> 0:07:16.480 enjoy it from time to time, Like I honestly don't 0:07:16.520 --> 0:07:18.240 mind going to home goods from time to time. You 0:07:18.240 --> 0:07:20.720 don't mind coming out to special events. When it has 0:07:20.800 --> 0:07:21.240 to do with it. 0:07:21.600 --> 0:07:22.600 I need to call you out. 0:07:22.720 --> 0:07:24.560 All the amount of time that you have spent in 0:07:24.680 --> 0:07:26.640 home goods compared to the amount of time that I've 0:07:26.640 --> 0:07:32.680 spent on golf courses with you is vastly, wildly, So okay. 0:07:32.560 --> 0:07:35.640 I'm gonna call home Goods out on something. Have events, 0:07:36.400 --> 0:07:40.920 have cocktail hours, have things where we know, yes, chakuteris 0:07:40.960 --> 0:07:42.720 a line we walk around home goods. 0:07:42.840 --> 0:07:43.280 That's true. 0:07:43.280 --> 0:07:44.760 You don't get Maybe if I ever bring you to 0:07:44.800 --> 0:07:46.080 home Goods, I should give you a snack. 0:07:46.160 --> 0:07:48.120 Let's elevate the event and they have food there. 0:07:48.920 --> 0:07:51.360 Oh sometimes I'll just open up a snack from the 0:07:51.360 --> 0:07:52.520 snack round. I'll just seat it. 0:07:52.560 --> 0:07:55.040 Absolutely, But I would just say that's some of the 0:07:55.040 --> 0:07:57.920 best thing is like you respect each other's passion, hobbies 0:07:57.960 --> 0:07:59.640 and all that, but it doesn't need to become your 0:07:59.680 --> 0:08:02.360 thing when you get married, when you start dating, you 0:08:02.400 --> 0:08:05.920 don't have to become the same person. Keeping that individuality, 0:08:06.040 --> 0:08:09.040 keeping those the separation of church and state is a 0:08:09.040 --> 0:08:09.400 good thing. 0:08:09.880 --> 0:08:11.680 And you know, I was in a relationship in the 0:08:11.720 --> 0:08:16.720 past with a guy who golfed a lot, and I 0:08:16.760 --> 0:08:19.640 would say, oh my gosh, you're golfing so much like 0:08:19.680 --> 0:08:22.120 we need time to do things together. And he would 0:08:22.160 --> 0:08:25.520 respond with, well, you should come golf with me, And 0:08:25.960 --> 0:08:29.760 that wasn't fair to me because that's like, well, I 0:08:29.760 --> 0:08:31.840 don't want to I don't want to have to learn 0:08:32.280 --> 0:08:34.520 to like this thing that I know I'm not interested 0:08:34.520 --> 0:08:36.600 in in order to spend time with you. We should 0:08:36.600 --> 0:08:38.240 have And that should have been a big red flag 0:08:38.280 --> 0:08:40.280 for me at that moment. You should have things that 0:08:40.320 --> 0:08:43.679 you enjoy doing together without one person having to force 0:08:43.720 --> 0:08:44.640 it upon themselves. 0:08:45.080 --> 0:08:46.679 And all these things can go too far. 0:08:46.640 --> 0:08:47.760 Now that being said Bethany. 0:08:47.800 --> 0:08:49.600 Honestly, at the end of the day, the simplest answer 0:08:49.600 --> 0:08:51.959 on how to be a good golf wife is make 0:08:52.040 --> 0:08:54.760 sure there's drinks and snacks and make sure that he 0:08:54.840 --> 0:08:57.920 knows you need drinks and snacks. Do you remember early 0:08:57.960 --> 0:09:00.640 on I forget where it was. He might have been 0:09:00.679 --> 0:09:04.679 at Pebble Beach, you know what, God, where were we? Honestly, 0:09:04.720 --> 0:09:07.280 it was sometime when like Caitlin and Jason were with us. 0:09:07.480 --> 0:09:10.880 We're a Riviera country river area, tiger Wood's kind of 0:09:10.920 --> 0:09:13.319 ryder cup event, yes, with he and Fred couple. 0:09:13.440 --> 0:09:15.640 So we were walking, Caitlyn and Jason were together at 0:09:15.640 --> 0:09:18.320 the time, and I think you and I were walking 0:09:18.360 --> 0:09:21.640 with Tiger because your friends with Tiger, and I sort 0:09:21.679 --> 0:09:25.000 of knew I can't really say anything on this one, 0:09:25.080 --> 0:09:26.840 like I'm in this and I gotta just be quiet 0:09:26.880 --> 0:09:28.280 because like he's walking with Tiger. 0:09:28.480 --> 0:09:29.440 Was this is a big deal. 0:09:30.040 --> 0:09:32.679 But I would say about halfway through, I was like, 0:09:33.080 --> 0:09:36.439 are there no drinks and snacks anywhere? And I told 0:09:36.440 --> 0:09:38.360 you later and you were like, Okay, I will never 0:09:38.400 --> 0:09:40.240 make you go nine holes without a drink and snack 0:09:40.280 --> 0:09:40.760 break again. 0:09:40.880 --> 0:09:43.959 That was an awakening, that was a realization. It was 0:09:44.000 --> 0:09:48.400 a communication, and it's never happened since, so thank you, Bethany. 0:09:48.520 --> 0:09:50.040 I haven't looked at these at all. 0:09:50.160 --> 0:09:51.760 We kind of try to go on a little blind 0:09:51.800 --> 0:09:54.800 so that the answers are natural. But so I'm going 0:09:54.840 --> 0:09:57.240 to just pick one and go back and let's just 0:09:57.280 --> 0:09:58.240 back and forth at babe. 0:09:58.320 --> 0:10:00.640 Okay, I'm going to ask you. 0:10:02.280 --> 0:10:04.800 Mary Anne wants to know, are there any topics you 0:10:04.840 --> 0:10:07.079 will never talk about on your podcast? 0:10:07.200 --> 0:10:08.760 What are the off limits topics? 0:10:09.360 --> 0:10:11.720 I think there's there's some things with the show I 0:10:11.800 --> 0:10:16.240 just don't ever go back to, just because I just 0:10:16.360 --> 0:10:21.320 never want to be that person. And what are what 0:10:21.400 --> 0:10:23.439 are personal things I was trying to think of personal. 0:10:23.400 --> 0:10:26.800 I think it's not so much topics as like the 0:10:26.880 --> 0:10:31.079 deep layers of those topics. Like I talk about losing 0:10:31.120 --> 0:10:34.120 my dad, but there are some things that are like 0:10:34.240 --> 0:10:38.680 so painful for my family and my family that I like, 0:10:38.760 --> 0:10:41.880 don't go to those places, or like we might. I 0:10:41.960 --> 0:10:44.040 might talk about past relationships, but I'm not going to 0:10:44.040 --> 0:10:46.960 get into specifics about who that person was and that 0:10:47.040 --> 0:10:50.079 kind of thing, because I want to respect people's privacy. 0:10:50.480 --> 0:10:53.000 So it's like I don't know, or maybe you made 0:10:53.040 --> 0:10:54.800 a sex joke earlier. I feel like we'll talk about 0:10:54.800 --> 0:10:56.200 our sex life a little bit, but we don't go 0:10:56.280 --> 0:10:57.959 do deep. You got to keep some things personal. 0:10:58.200 --> 0:11:00.680 What's funny is I've thought about this podcast, and you 0:11:00.720 --> 0:11:03.240 know we always think as producers, Okay, what could you 0:11:03.320 --> 0:11:06.160 do to elevate it, make it bigger. I know there 0:11:06.200 --> 0:11:08.680 are podcasts out there where people really go to the 0:11:08.760 --> 0:11:12.800 crwch they're all in and no pun intended, but you 0:11:12.880 --> 0:11:14.960 know they'll talk about their sex life. They'll talk about 0:11:15.040 --> 0:11:18.439 the everything details, the good, the bad, the ugly. I 0:11:18.520 --> 0:11:22.000 know that could be revelatory and like get big clicks 0:11:22.080 --> 0:11:25.240 and get headlines It's just not me. It never has 0:11:25.280 --> 0:11:27.200 been me. I wasn't that guy when I was hosting. 0:11:27.240 --> 0:11:28.920 You're not that type of a journalist, and you're not 0:11:28.960 --> 0:11:31.200 that type of a person. We're not that type of 0:11:31.240 --> 0:11:33.600 people in our own lives. And I guess my main 0:11:33.640 --> 0:11:36.880 thing is what you get on the podcast is genuinely 0:11:36.920 --> 0:11:40.080 who Lauren and I are. We don't joke and talk 0:11:40.080 --> 0:11:42.480 about that stuff when we're with our friends, so I'm 0:11:42.480 --> 0:11:45.080 not going to do it here. I guess that's the 0:11:45.080 --> 0:11:47.840 thing is I maintain the same level of decorum. And 0:11:47.920 --> 0:11:50.640 so if you are that kind of shock person in 0:11:50.679 --> 0:11:53.520 life where you're going to talk about you know, I 0:11:53.600 --> 0:11:55.040 don't even want to go there, but you know what 0:11:55.080 --> 0:11:57.520 I mean, then then great, that's you. But that's just 0:11:57.600 --> 0:11:59.840 that's never been us, So why fake it. 0:12:00.520 --> 0:12:03.360 I think there's just that line of like, of course, 0:12:03.520 --> 0:12:05.160 like we want to connect with you guys, and we 0:12:05.200 --> 0:12:09.160 love connecting with you, but there's just I think that 0:12:09.200 --> 0:12:11.320 there's some things and it's different for everybody what your 0:12:11.320 --> 0:12:12.000 threshold is. 0:12:12.040 --> 0:12:13.880 But if you give it all away. 0:12:13.920 --> 0:12:16.679 I had someone tell me once, you don't want to 0:12:16.720 --> 0:12:19.520 give away too many pieces of yourself or you'll have 0:12:19.600 --> 0:12:22.240 nothing left O interesting, and I thought that that has 0:12:22.280 --> 0:12:24.520 stuck with me as like a simple but clear way 0:12:24.520 --> 0:12:27.160 of looking at it. That as much as I think 0:12:27.160 --> 0:12:31.400 there's power in sharing and relating to each other, some stuff, 0:12:31.440 --> 0:12:33.839 it's like, and by the way, there's some stuff I 0:12:33.880 --> 0:12:35.959 would like only tell my mom, or some stuff I 0:12:35.960 --> 0:12:38.600 would maybe only share with my best friends, and that 0:12:38.679 --> 0:12:41.280 kind of keeps those relationships special in a good way. 0:12:41.480 --> 0:12:55.800 Yeah, here's a question from Serena that I think is 0:12:55.840 --> 0:12:59.040 really interesting because I've actually never asked you this. Lz. 0:12:59.640 --> 0:13:01.480 Out of all the bat I love, everyone just calls 0:13:01.520 --> 0:13:04.640 you Alzo out of all the bachelors, who is most 0:13:04.840 --> 0:13:05.480 your type? 0:13:06.160 --> 0:13:10.600 Oh my gosh, Well you weren't a bachelor. I guess 0:13:10.640 --> 0:13:10.960 you were. 0:13:12.280 --> 0:13:14.640 You know what is funny about that. I used to 0:13:14.679 --> 0:13:16.600 say this all the time when I was covering the show. 0:13:17.480 --> 0:13:21.080 I never found any of the guys attractive. And I 0:13:21.120 --> 0:13:24.080 don't mean that in like a rude way. I just 0:13:24.200 --> 0:13:27.760 think there was this wall, and it even was a 0:13:27.800 --> 0:13:31.280 wall that existed with you and I until we always 0:13:31.320 --> 0:13:34.880 say we literally luckily kind of ran into each other 0:13:35.120 --> 0:13:37.680 off of the red carpet and saw each other in 0:13:37.720 --> 0:13:41.520 this different way. But I think there was one this 0:13:41.720 --> 0:13:44.520 wall of like I just always looked at them as 0:13:45.480 --> 0:13:48.760 in this workplace environment way where I didn't even think 0:13:48.800 --> 0:13:53.760 about them that way. But two, not to like age myself. 0:13:53.800 --> 0:13:56.160 I mean, I'm in my mid thirties, but they always 0:13:56.280 --> 0:13:58.840 all even though some of them were probably older than me, 0:13:59.360 --> 0:14:02.440 they always felt young to me, like younger than me. 0:14:03.000 --> 0:14:09.480 I think I felt like, I don't know, maybe not maternal, 0:14:09.559 --> 0:14:11.800 but like, on the one hand, I had to ask 0:14:11.840 --> 0:14:14.000 them deep questions. On the other hand, I think I 0:14:14.120 --> 0:14:18.120 felt they were trusting me with a lot of vulnerable 0:14:18.160 --> 0:14:20.440 things they were sharing. So I felt protective of them 0:14:20.480 --> 0:14:22.800 because I kind of knew a little bit of how 0:14:22.840 --> 0:14:24.560 the show worked, and I knew how intense it was, 0:14:24.600 --> 0:14:27.000 and so I tried to be respectful and protective of 0:14:27.560 --> 0:14:30.680 what I would, you know, how I did interviews and stuff, 0:14:30.720 --> 0:14:34.520 and maybe I wasn't always successful, but so I just 0:14:34.560 --> 0:14:38.040 didn't look at them in that way. Like Ben Higgins 0:14:38.080 --> 0:14:39.960 was the first bachelor I ever interviewed, and a lot 0:14:39.960 --> 0:14:42.480 of my friends like Ben was a popular bachelor. A 0:14:42.480 --> 0:14:44.520 lot of people thought he was cute. Ben seems like 0:14:44.560 --> 0:14:46.840 a little brother to me, Like I was like, oh, oh, you. 0:14:46.880 --> 0:14:49.920 Guys, By the way, y'all have that relationship. In real life, 0:14:49.960 --> 0:14:50.800 y'all very much have. 0:14:50.800 --> 0:14:52.560 That, which I think is why it's great that like 0:14:52.600 --> 0:14:54.720 we were such great friends with him a jest, because 0:14:54.720 --> 0:15:00.160 it seems so how like is Ben like sunlike to 0:15:00.200 --> 0:15:02.040 you or is he? I don't know all of them, 0:15:02.120 --> 0:15:03.240 you know they've become. 0:15:03.680 --> 0:15:05.480 I think Ben and Wells you feel a little more. 0:15:05.560 --> 0:15:08.440 Yea, our relationship has evolve in the beginning, when they 0:15:08.480 --> 0:15:10.640 are the backs of the backs already, well, it changed. 0:15:10.960 --> 0:15:13.720 That's interesting question. So back in the day, the Bob 0:15:13.800 --> 0:15:16.080 Guineas Andrew Firestones and all that, I think because I 0:15:16.400 --> 0:15:18.240 was so new, I felt like I was in my 0:15:18.400 --> 0:15:22.840 infancy in the show, and I was learning along with them, 0:15:22.960 --> 0:15:26.120 and we were a lot closer in age. Firestone and 0:15:26.160 --> 0:15:27.920 I are not that far apart. Bob Ginny and I 0:15:28.000 --> 0:15:29.360 are very close in age. 0:15:29.400 --> 0:15:31.000 I think Bob's the only one who's older than you. 0:15:31.480 --> 0:15:32.800 Only like a year there was. 0:15:34.320 --> 0:15:37.040 The Bass Fisherman Byron Velvick who was older than me. 0:15:37.320 --> 0:15:39.640 Brad Womax right there with me. So there are a few. 0:15:39.720 --> 0:15:41.760 But like back in the day, I think my infancy 0:15:41.800 --> 0:15:45.040 and growing went along with them, and I felt a 0:15:45.080 --> 0:15:48.840 little closer. But then it became more I was more 0:15:48.880 --> 0:15:52.440 of a producer slash father figure, taking them under my wing, 0:15:52.600 --> 0:15:55.080 really trying to help them emotionally and otherwise. And then 0:15:55.120 --> 0:15:58.080 I would try to advise them after the show and 0:15:58.120 --> 0:16:01.280 they would lean on me in that way. Then subsequently, 0:16:01.560 --> 0:16:05.520 definitely the relationships grew, whether it's like Michelle Money and 0:16:05.600 --> 0:16:08.160 Mike Weir becoming just really good friends of ours, Ben 0:16:08.280 --> 0:16:12.800 Higgins Wells, for sure, we've we those Ashley I and 0:16:13.400 --> 0:16:15.000 Jared I don't know why I still call her Ashley I, 0:16:15.400 --> 0:16:18.800 but our relationships have grown because they've grown as adults 0:16:18.880 --> 0:16:23.440 and Jadent Tanner having babies, and Ari and Lauren same thing. Yeah, 0:16:23.440 --> 0:16:25.920 everybody's grown up in those life phases have hit. 0:16:26.200 --> 0:16:29.880 They're also a key to like once the show's over, Literally, 0:16:29.960 --> 0:16:31.840 once that season was shover and interviews are over, you 0:16:31.920 --> 0:16:33.440 were able to look at it, Yeah. 0:16:33.360 --> 0:16:35.320 Look at different Well we it's kind of like you 0:16:35.400 --> 0:16:37.640 and I dating. We end up in rel in different 0:16:37.680 --> 0:16:41.600 situations now where it's not all about them, you know, 0:16:41.680 --> 0:16:44.720 the spotlight's not one hundred percent on them, and it's reciprocal, 0:16:44.760 --> 0:16:47.480 and the relationship becomes a little bit more even because 0:16:47.520 --> 0:16:50.000 my job as host is to take care of you, 0:16:50.280 --> 0:16:52.960 what's going on with you, And it's one hundred percent 0:16:53.000 --> 0:16:53.360 about you. 0:16:53.520 --> 0:16:53.920 By the way. 0:16:54.000 --> 0:16:56.320 That was why and that is why you're such a 0:16:56.360 --> 0:16:59.720 great host, is because you know that you were. I'm 0:16:59.800 --> 0:17:02.440 justuting you, but I'm always proud of your skill. You 0:17:02.480 --> 0:17:05.399 make it look easy, but you made it about the person. 0:17:05.480 --> 0:17:08.000 You made it about you know, your interviewing them and 0:17:08.080 --> 0:17:10.920 it's their story, and not every host does that. And 0:17:11.920 --> 0:17:13.639 it's one of the things that first attracted me to 0:17:13.680 --> 0:17:16.760 you is how you foster relationships with people like You've 0:17:16.920 --> 0:17:20.359 maintained and built and grown friendships with all these people 0:17:20.440 --> 0:17:23.520 from the show for more than twenty years. And I 0:17:23.600 --> 0:17:26.840 don't know another host. I literally can't name another host 0:17:26.880 --> 0:17:32.280 who's who created this phone tree of a family, of 0:17:32.320 --> 0:17:35.800 a world of friends like you did from the show. 0:17:35.880 --> 0:17:37.399 And it's very real. And the way that you, I 0:17:37.480 --> 0:17:39.000 mean you were just when we were at Edgewood, You're 0:17:39.000 --> 0:17:40.840 texting with Ben and Wells and they're telling you like 0:17:40.960 --> 0:17:42.880 good job, like great, great shot, buddy. 0:17:43.200 --> 0:17:45.399 One of the sweetest moments, like day one, after I 0:17:45.480 --> 0:17:47.080 got done with Edgwood, one of the first calls I 0:17:47.119 --> 0:17:49.480 got was from Ben. He had been watching and he's 0:17:49.560 --> 0:17:51.320 like he knew I didn't have a great day. I 0:17:51.359 --> 0:17:53.320 didn't have a horrible day. But he's like, hey man, 0:17:53.359 --> 0:17:55.800 how are you feeling? Just being in the positive number? 0:17:55.920 --> 0:17:57.760 Like we had this long talk and it would be 0:17:57.840 --> 0:17:58.560 a good life coach. 0:17:58.760 --> 0:17:59.679 She's just very positive. 0:17:59.800 --> 0:18:01.159 Came back in the room, You're like, who was that. 0:18:01.240 --> 0:18:03.200 I was like, I was talking to Bend. It was 0:18:03.359 --> 0:18:05.120 He's just that suite of a guy. By the way, 0:18:05.560 --> 0:18:09.240