1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:02,240 Speaker 1: Am I the a hole for evicting my boyfriend's daughter 2 00:00:02,360 --> 00:00:04,040 Speaker 1: because she almost put me in the hospital. 3 00:00:04,120 --> 00:00:05,680 Speaker 2: I mean it sounds that she's trying to kill you 4 00:00:05,720 --> 00:00:09,240 Speaker 2: live in the hospital. Yeah, yeah, exactly, you just got 5 00:00:09,400 --> 00:00:10,160 Speaker 2: new room and. 6 00:00:10,119 --> 00:00:11,200 Speaker 3: Board, exactly. 7 00:00:11,440 --> 00:00:14,680 Speaker 1: This kinds of throwaway allergy who says I can't have 8 00:00:14,800 --> 00:00:17,279 Speaker 1: contact with peanuts and I am terrified of them due 9 00:00:17,280 --> 00:00:20,439 Speaker 1: to some bad experiences of me ending up in the hospital. 10 00:00:20,640 --> 00:00:22,320 Speaker 2: Never good experiences, never good. 11 00:00:22,400 --> 00:00:25,400 Speaker 1: Honestly, it is not exactly airborne, but I could have 12 00:00:25,440 --> 00:00:28,960 Speaker 1: an irritation and if, for example, I touched something that 13 00:00:29,000 --> 00:00:31,520 Speaker 1: has been in contact with peanuts, I could have swollen 14 00:00:31,560 --> 00:00:33,320 Speaker 1: eyes in an itchy nose and throats. 15 00:00:33,680 --> 00:00:35,720 Speaker 3: Ingesting the peanuts is fatal. 16 00:00:35,800 --> 00:00:37,080 Speaker 2: The allergies are crazy. 17 00:00:37,200 --> 00:00:39,559 Speaker 3: What is it about peanuts that are so lethal? 18 00:00:39,640 --> 00:00:41,240 Speaker 2: I don't know. They just trying to kill us, dude. 19 00:00:41,280 --> 00:00:43,200 Speaker 2: It is a nightshade, right, night shade. Yah. I feel 20 00:00:43,200 --> 00:00:45,440 Speaker 2: like peanuts are trying to get revenge on humans. There's 21 00:00:45,479 --> 00:00:48,040 Speaker 2: this one kid that I know that if there's peanuts 22 00:00:48,240 --> 00:00:51,040 Speaker 2: even in the vicinity, just like kits. 23 00:00:51,240 --> 00:00:53,520 Speaker 3: What do you do at that point? Because I feel like, Okay, 24 00:00:53,960 --> 00:00:54,520 Speaker 3: avoid them. 25 00:00:54,560 --> 00:00:58,040 Speaker 4: Information ready, yea, So we know that Lectins and peanuts, 26 00:00:58,080 --> 00:01:01,560 Speaker 4: for example, are dangerous. Electin and night shades may also 27 00:01:01,600 --> 00:01:05,120 Speaker 4: be got irritants insensitive individuals, setting off the same leaky 28 00:01:05,160 --> 00:01:07,160 Speaker 4: gut response as the alcoholm. 29 00:01:07,120 --> 00:01:09,040 Speaker 3: So it's like bad for your gutten in your. 30 00:01:09,080 --> 00:01:11,440 Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean I think if it kills you, it's 31 00:01:11,440 --> 00:01:13,600 Speaker 2: probably bad for your gut too. I'm gonna be deceased 32 00:01:13,640 --> 00:01:15,640 Speaker 2: with the strongest, strongest gut. 33 00:01:15,720 --> 00:01:18,720 Speaker 4: But I want wait, let me tell you more about this, 34 00:01:18,760 --> 00:01:19,080 Speaker 4: all right? 35 00:01:19,120 --> 00:01:19,560 Speaker 2: What what? 36 00:01:19,760 --> 00:01:20,240 Speaker 3: What else? 37 00:01:20,720 --> 00:01:24,319 Speaker 4: Lectins are defined as proteins that bind to carbohydrates. The 38 00:01:24,319 --> 00:01:26,920 Speaker 4: same features that lectins use to defend plants in nature 39 00:01:27,080 --> 00:01:30,800 Speaker 4: may cause problems during human digestion. What I just told you, 40 00:01:31,360 --> 00:01:33,680 Speaker 4: I just explained it literally. 41 00:01:33,480 --> 00:01:35,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, carbohydrates, that was great. 42 00:01:36,480 --> 00:01:39,920 Speaker 4: Proteins Lectins defend plants in nature. So yeah, like a 43 00:01:39,959 --> 00:01:42,280 Speaker 4: poison you know, so for example, Okay. 44 00:01:42,040 --> 00:01:44,000 Speaker 3: So they're poisonous because they're protecting other things. 45 00:01:44,080 --> 00:01:47,240 Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, I'm electin that, John, keep telling the story, 46 00:01:48,680 --> 00:01:49,800 Speaker 2: telling you facts. 47 00:01:49,480 --> 00:01:51,920 Speaker 4: That you asked me for whatever. 48 00:01:52,520 --> 00:01:55,840 Speaker 1: She is fourteen and has no respect whatsoever for my anxiety. 49 00:01:55,920 --> 00:01:57,880 Speaker 1: My boyfriend and I moved in and she lives with 50 00:01:57,960 --> 00:02:00,160 Speaker 1: us every other week. Now, I told my boyfriend and 51 00:02:00,160 --> 00:02:01,800 Speaker 1: that I don't want to hear it because she is 52 00:02:01,840 --> 00:02:04,440 Speaker 1: not respecting my boundaries, but that I understand that he 53 00:02:04,440 --> 00:02:06,200 Speaker 1: doesn't want to live with me. In that case, we 54 00:02:06,240 --> 00:02:08,800 Speaker 1: could revert back to him being with me when he 55 00:02:08,880 --> 00:02:11,760 Speaker 1: doesn't have his daughter. So basically like they just moved in, 56 00:02:11,919 --> 00:02:13,760 Speaker 1: but also they this. 57 00:02:13,919 --> 00:02:16,839 Speaker 2: Daughter that is not being sensitive to Ope's. 58 00:02:16,680 --> 00:02:18,760 Speaker 3: They might revert it all though they might run it back. 59 00:02:19,280 --> 00:02:21,440 Speaker 1: He got very upset, and he said that he loved 60 00:02:21,440 --> 00:02:24,040 Speaker 1: me and wanted a real relationship and to live in 61 00:02:24,160 --> 00:02:26,640 Speaker 1: one home makes sense. So I told him that maybe 62 00:02:26,680 --> 00:02:28,800 Speaker 1: he should be with someone who isn't allergic. 63 00:02:28,840 --> 00:02:31,280 Speaker 2: Then I feel like that Opie's gone nuclear. Yeah, that's 64 00:02:31,320 --> 00:02:33,160 Speaker 2: a little I feel it's like the nuclear option. 65 00:02:33,320 --> 00:02:35,160 Speaker 3: Is that an a hole sentence? 66 00:02:35,320 --> 00:02:37,200 Speaker 2: Yeah? I think it is a whole remarks. It kind 67 00:02:37,200 --> 00:02:39,760 Speaker 2: of feels like you're talking a breakup language and you 68 00:02:39,760 --> 00:02:42,680 Speaker 2: shouldn't be talking breakup language. Yeah, it's pretty pretty harsh. 69 00:02:42,760 --> 00:02:45,520 Speaker 4: However, it is life or death, that is true. 70 00:02:45,560 --> 00:02:47,480 Speaker 2: It is life, he said, it's not life or death. 71 00:02:49,080 --> 00:02:50,400 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, we need. 72 00:02:50,280 --> 00:02:52,040 Speaker 4: To know more about this this daughter. 73 00:02:52,160 --> 00:02:53,839 Speaker 1: Yeah, I want to know what the daughters actually doing. 74 00:02:53,960 --> 00:02:56,840 Speaker 1: He thinks I'm being very unfair. He said, well, she 75 00:02:56,960 --> 00:02:59,720 Speaker 1: will probably hate the next one too, and the next 76 00:02:59,720 --> 00:03:01,960 Speaker 1: one in the next because she wants her mom and 77 00:03:02,000 --> 00:03:05,040 Speaker 1: me to be together again. So it wasn't me specifically 78 00:03:05,200 --> 00:03:06,160 Speaker 1: that she dislikes. 79 00:03:06,280 --> 00:03:08,560 Speaker 2: Oh so maybe the fourteen year old is trying to 80 00:03:08,639 --> 00:03:10,840 Speaker 2: kill her I low, yeah, yeah, I think so. Oh 81 00:03:11,360 --> 00:03:14,880 Speaker 2: you don't like this sandwich peanut butter jelly? What's wrong 82 00:03:14,919 --> 00:03:15,160 Speaker 2: with that? 83 00:03:15,520 --> 00:03:15,760 Speaker 5: Here? 84 00:03:15,960 --> 00:03:18,639 Speaker 1: Eat this totally not peanut butter sandwich. 85 00:03:18,639 --> 00:03:20,400 Speaker 3: I made it special for you. Have you? 86 00:03:20,520 --> 00:03:23,920 Speaker 2: Uh, just starts like rubbing herself with peanut butter and 87 00:03:23,960 --> 00:03:25,000 Speaker 2: going in for hugs. 88 00:03:25,240 --> 00:03:29,120 Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, here's this new face mask. Totally healthy. 89 00:03:29,520 --> 00:03:31,680 Speaker 1: I said that maybe he needs to take a break 90 00:03:31,720 --> 00:03:34,360 Speaker 1: from dating then until she is on board. But he 91 00:03:34,400 --> 00:03:36,880 Speaker 1: said that he couldn't be single just because his daughter 92 00:03:36,960 --> 00:03:39,520 Speaker 1: wants him to. Before me, he was single for six 93 00:03:39,800 --> 00:03:41,680 Speaker 1: years and that wasn't good enough. 94 00:03:41,880 --> 00:03:45,960 Speaker 4: That's true maybe at that time or like a small child, but. 95 00:03:45,920 --> 00:03:48,400 Speaker 2: Even still six and you have a small child. 96 00:03:48,520 --> 00:03:50,920 Speaker 4: No, no, no, he's saying that, how old is she right now? 97 00:03:50,960 --> 00:03:51,360 Speaker 3: Fourteen? 98 00:03:51,440 --> 00:03:54,360 Speaker 4: He's fourteen, So he's saying that six years ago. 99 00:03:54,560 --> 00:03:56,200 Speaker 2: No, he was single for six years. 100 00:03:56,240 --> 00:03:58,080 Speaker 4: He was I know, I know he was single for 101 00:03:58,200 --> 00:04:01,200 Speaker 4: six years. And he's saying, oh, she's still unhappy with 102 00:04:01,240 --> 00:04:04,360 Speaker 4: the arrangement, but she's probably only like kind of cognizant 103 00:04:04,440 --> 00:04:04,920 Speaker 4: about it. 104 00:04:04,960 --> 00:04:08,320 Speaker 2: Well, then she shouldn't care, because then she wouldn't remember 105 00:04:08,680 --> 00:04:10,600 Speaker 2: that there was a relationship. 106 00:04:11,160 --> 00:04:13,080 Speaker 1: She's like, wait a minute, Well, she's been against it 107 00:04:13,120 --> 00:04:14,680 Speaker 1: the entire time, consistently. 108 00:04:14,800 --> 00:04:16,280 Speaker 4: No, I'm not defending her. 109 00:04:16,320 --> 00:04:19,719 Speaker 2: You're saying, Opie should be single for more than six years. 110 00:04:20,400 --> 00:04:22,520 Speaker 3: Your sentenced to singleness, more identity. 111 00:04:23,320 --> 00:04:25,919 Speaker 4: I just feel like those past six years aren't relevant 112 00:04:25,960 --> 00:04:26,800 Speaker 4: to her, you know. 113 00:04:27,040 --> 00:04:30,279 Speaker 2: They well they're relevant to op Yeah, yeah, of course, 114 00:04:30,480 --> 00:04:34,039 Speaker 2: Well because because literally she's saying, oh, maybe you're not 115 00:04:34,120 --> 00:04:37,080 Speaker 2: ready to date. And he's like, girl, I've been waiting 116 00:04:37,200 --> 00:04:38,560 Speaker 2: six years for this moment. 117 00:04:38,720 --> 00:04:40,760 Speaker 4: She's not saying you're not ready to date. She's saying, 118 00:04:40,800 --> 00:04:43,800 Speaker 4: maybe you shouldn't date because your daughter's not ready to see. 119 00:04:44,200 --> 00:04:45,560 Speaker 2: The daughter's a butthole. 120 00:04:45,680 --> 00:04:48,000 Speaker 4: I know, I know. But and he said, well, I 121 00:04:48,080 --> 00:04:50,960 Speaker 4: was cockark in the universe, but I'm saying, trying to 122 00:04:51,040 --> 00:04:55,360 Speaker 4: kill my girl because she is afraid of peanuts. 123 00:04:55,480 --> 00:04:58,160 Speaker 3: I can't believe you're advocating not the. 124 00:04:58,200 --> 00:05:04,520 Speaker 4: Daughter, not advocating the care. Oh the daughter sucks. I'm 125 00:05:04,560 --> 00:05:07,320 Speaker 4: just saying that. He was saying the six years are relevant, 126 00:05:07,320 --> 00:05:09,240 Speaker 4: and I feel like they're not relevant because she was 127 00:05:09,279 --> 00:05:09,719 Speaker 4: a child. 128 00:05:09,839 --> 00:05:14,520 Speaker 3: They are very relevant, literally, Op is daughter to the daughter. 129 00:05:14,560 --> 00:05:16,560 Speaker 4: They're not relevant because she was a six year old 130 00:05:16,640 --> 00:05:17,240 Speaker 4: or an eight year old. 131 00:05:17,400 --> 00:05:20,560 Speaker 2: They're very relevant to the daughter. Like I understand, oh 132 00:05:20,720 --> 00:05:23,479 Speaker 2: six months later, Oh yeah, my daughter is too fresh, 133 00:05:23,720 --> 00:05:25,840 Speaker 2: not wanting to date. But that's an election cycle and 134 00:05:25,880 --> 00:05:26,880 Speaker 2: a half. Get over it. 135 00:05:27,360 --> 00:05:29,720 Speaker 1: She's young, so it's like hard to wrap her her 136 00:05:29,760 --> 00:05:32,880 Speaker 1: head around us. But that doesn't mean that Op should 137 00:05:32,839 --> 00:05:35,240 Speaker 1: have had to wait six years. 138 00:05:34,680 --> 00:05:37,680 Speaker 2: Because she's barely Sophia is right, she was barely cognizant, 139 00:05:37,880 --> 00:05:41,800 Speaker 2: which means that she doesn't have any idea of what 140 00:05:41,880 --> 00:05:44,240 Speaker 2: the memory of them being together was. 141 00:05:44,360 --> 00:05:47,799 Speaker 4: Like, I see, you just weren't listening. I'm not advocating 142 00:05:47,800 --> 00:05:48,360 Speaker 4: to the daughter. 143 00:05:48,800 --> 00:05:51,360 Speaker 2: Sounds like it sounds like you're on pet UT's side. 144 00:05:51,760 --> 00:05:53,520 Speaker 3: What the pet sibling? 145 00:05:57,320 --> 00:06:00,200 Speaker 1: He says, Before we decided to move in together, we 146 00:06:00,240 --> 00:06:03,320 Speaker 1: have done some trial living together, and never once did 147 00:06:03,320 --> 00:06:06,240 Speaker 1: his daughter do anything about the nuts. 148 00:06:06,120 --> 00:06:09,640 Speaker 2: That make sure you do important. There you go, the 149 00:06:09,680 --> 00:06:10,760 Speaker 2: only allergic to one nut? 150 00:06:10,880 --> 00:06:11,400 Speaker 3: Am I right? 151 00:06:11,720 --> 00:06:14,560 Speaker 1: But now for four months she always has peanuts with her, 152 00:06:14,600 --> 00:06:16,640 Speaker 1: so all of a sudden, she's like bringing peanuts. 153 00:06:16,720 --> 00:06:20,200 Speaker 2: So funny. That is the funniest active aggression ever. 154 00:06:20,400 --> 00:06:25,479 Speaker 1: Dude, dangerous though it's crazy, it's good. 155 00:06:25,560 --> 00:06:29,240 Speaker 2: I think it's funny, it's hilarious. 156 00:06:30,680 --> 00:06:32,680 Speaker 3: I don't know why she's doing this. I thought we 157 00:06:32,680 --> 00:06:33,120 Speaker 3: were cool. 158 00:06:33,279 --> 00:06:36,200 Speaker 1: She just smirks and says, maybe if you are so allergic, 159 00:06:36,400 --> 00:06:37,960 Speaker 1: maybe you're not meant to survive. 160 00:06:38,160 --> 00:06:41,560 Speaker 4: Whoa, that's a eugenesis thing. 161 00:06:41,480 --> 00:06:44,159 Speaker 1: To say, followed by a stand up comedy bit from 162 00:06:44,320 --> 00:06:46,880 Speaker 1: Louis k So, I guess she's just quoting Lucy Ka 163 00:06:47,080 --> 00:06:48,840 Speaker 1: that line from a special. 164 00:06:49,000 --> 00:06:51,880 Speaker 2: I was like, that sounds kinda I've heard that. 165 00:06:51,960 --> 00:06:52,680 Speaker 3: I haven't heard before. 166 00:06:52,720 --> 00:06:54,839 Speaker 1: It's new to me, but we got some relevant comments 167 00:06:54,880 --> 00:06:58,120 Speaker 1: from er vet surgeon, not the ahole. But you might 168 00:06:58,120 --> 00:07:00,240 Speaker 1: need to leave this relationship. She thinks it's fun and 169 00:07:00,279 --> 00:07:02,960 Speaker 1: he doesn't care. The amount of disrespect for your health 170 00:07:03,000 --> 00:07:03,560 Speaker 1: is amazing. 171 00:07:03,640 --> 00:07:05,880 Speaker 2: It doesn't sound like he doesn't care, but maybe he's 172 00:07:05,920 --> 00:07:07,920 Speaker 2: not doing anything about it. He's like having a hard 173 00:07:07,960 --> 00:07:09,440 Speaker 2: time managing his daughter. 174 00:07:09,640 --> 00:07:11,880 Speaker 1: I mean like be like, hey, you're not allowed to 175 00:07:11,920 --> 00:07:15,160 Speaker 1: bring you here anymore because it's like super dangerous to 176 00:07:15,160 --> 00:07:15,560 Speaker 1: her health. 177 00:07:15,680 --> 00:07:18,160 Speaker 2: Yeah, and she knows. Yeah, but like, do you know 178 00:07:18,160 --> 00:07:20,480 Speaker 2: how small a peanut is? You can sneak that shit in? 179 00:07:20,760 --> 00:07:23,240 Speaker 3: Great, you keep doing it, There's gonna be consequences. 180 00:07:23,280 --> 00:07:24,040 Speaker 2: What do you do? 181 00:07:24,040 --> 00:07:26,720 Speaker 1: You try something? You try grounding her? Oh, you need 182 00:07:26,760 --> 00:07:29,560 Speaker 1: to stay in the house more. Here's the thing that 183 00:07:29,600 --> 00:07:32,800 Speaker 1: Opie is not doing anything or sorry, OPI's boyfriend is 184 00:07:32,840 --> 00:07:35,280 Speaker 1: not doing anything, Like, what would you do? Don't try 185 00:07:35,280 --> 00:07:35,840 Speaker 1: one punished? 186 00:07:35,880 --> 00:07:36,240 Speaker 2: What do you do? 187 00:07:36,440 --> 00:07:39,040 Speaker 3: I mean, probably start taking away the things that. 188 00:07:39,200 --> 00:07:42,120 Speaker 2: Phone, foomway phone. You're gonna have peanuts. 189 00:07:41,800 --> 00:07:42,200 Speaker 3: Or a phone. 190 00:07:42,520 --> 00:07:43,640 Speaker 4: You lose an item? 191 00:07:44,160 --> 00:07:46,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, like something and you know what, maybe it 192 00:07:46,960 --> 00:07:48,560 Speaker 1: doesn't work and it's not an effective solution. 193 00:07:48,760 --> 00:07:50,040 Speaker 3: Better than sitting on her hands. 194 00:07:50,120 --> 00:07:52,200 Speaker 2: Yeah, no, I agree, I agree. I think if OPI's 195 00:07:52,240 --> 00:07:55,160 Speaker 2: boyfriend is not doing any punishment, that's pretty whack and 196 00:07:55,160 --> 00:07:57,200 Speaker 2: that's an a hole move. Pretty obviously the daughter is 197 00:07:57,240 --> 00:07:59,080 Speaker 2: the a hole, But yeah, I think the boyfriend is 198 00:07:59,080 --> 00:08:03,000 Speaker 2: the a hole if there's no punishment following this peanut terrorism. 199 00:08:02,600 --> 00:08:04,960 Speaker 1: Low key, I'm we don't have to answer this now, 200 00:08:05,000 --> 00:08:06,880 Speaker 1: but at the end of the section here, I'm curious 201 00:08:06,880 --> 00:08:08,960 Speaker 1: for everyone watching if everyone is the a. 202 00:08:09,000 --> 00:08:13,720 Speaker 2: Hole here including looting opda hole. Oh for being so aggressive, 203 00:08:13,880 --> 00:08:15,040 Speaker 2: like you're not ready to date? 204 00:08:15,160 --> 00:08:17,680 Speaker 4: Okay, but I don't think that's necessary. I think Ope's 205 00:08:17,720 --> 00:08:20,840 Speaker 4: worried for her health and well being, and I think 206 00:08:20,880 --> 00:08:23,440 Speaker 4: that she kind of implied that she's brought this up 207 00:08:23,480 --> 00:08:26,280 Speaker 4: before as like an issue, saying like, hey, you need 208 00:08:26,280 --> 00:08:28,320 Speaker 4: to stop your daughter from bringing the peanuts in the house, 209 00:08:28,320 --> 00:08:30,920 Speaker 4: and it keeps happening, and now the daughter's blatantly saying 210 00:08:30,960 --> 00:08:33,800 Speaker 4: that she's doing it on purpose and knows why what 211 00:08:33,960 --> 00:08:35,800 Speaker 4: she's doing, and so I feel like, if he's not 212 00:08:35,800 --> 00:08:37,920 Speaker 4: going to do anything about it, I think that's kind 213 00:08:37,920 --> 00:08:39,360 Speaker 4: of fair of her to be like, if you can't 214 00:08:39,440 --> 00:08:41,280 Speaker 4: control your daughter, I can't live with you. 215 00:08:41,440 --> 00:08:42,400 Speaker 3: Yeah, I wonderful, But. 216 00:08:42,320 --> 00:08:44,640 Speaker 2: I feel like it's a rephrasing. There's a rephrasing that 217 00:08:44,679 --> 00:08:46,600 Speaker 2: needs to happen, because it's not if you can't control 218 00:08:46,640 --> 00:08:49,560 Speaker 2: your daughter then like she's like, Oh, if your daughter's 219 00:08:49,600 --> 00:08:52,120 Speaker 2: not okay with it, then you can't date. But I 220 00:08:52,160 --> 00:08:54,959 Speaker 2: think she said, if you can't control your daughter in 221 00:08:55,000 --> 00:08:57,120 Speaker 2: the way that you need to, this is literally not 222 00:08:57,160 --> 00:08:59,400 Speaker 2: a safe environment for me. I think that would make sense, 223 00:08:59,400 --> 00:09:02,360 Speaker 2: then you wouldn't be I don't think. I think hope 224 00:09:02,360 --> 00:09:04,199 Speaker 2: there's a tinge. I smell a tinge? 225 00:09:04,200 --> 00:09:04,720 Speaker 3: What are you thinking? 226 00:09:04,720 --> 00:09:07,040 Speaker 1: We're gonna get into it after this next section, Corulex 227 00:09:07,160 --> 00:09:10,360 Speaker 1: intention says this, he's allowing this instead of getting to 228 00:09:10,400 --> 00:09:12,240 Speaker 1: the core of it and putting the child in therapy 229 00:09:12,280 --> 00:09:14,800 Speaker 1: where she clearly belongs. She's plenty old enough to know 230 00:09:15,000 --> 00:09:18,360 Speaker 1: that this can MRK someone and to have complete disregard 231 00:09:18,440 --> 00:09:21,120 Speaker 1: over that shouldn't be overlooked, and then wondering. Gemini eighty 232 00:09:21,120 --> 00:09:23,080 Speaker 1: four says, may love this guy, but I bet you 233 00:09:23,120 --> 00:09:26,760 Speaker 1: love breathing more this. People just love saying this. You 234 00:09:26,800 --> 00:09:30,200 Speaker 1: cannot love someone when you're gone. The boyfriend doesn't seem 235 00:09:30,240 --> 00:09:33,120 Speaker 1: to realize how serious the no peanuts thing is. This 236 00:09:33,240 --> 00:09:35,640 Speaker 1: is non negotiable. Your home should be your safe space. 237 00:09:35,640 --> 00:09:37,960 Speaker 1: Through she doesn't respect that and doesn't hear you or 238 00:09:38,040 --> 00:09:38,959 Speaker 1: doesn't care enough. 239 00:09:38,800 --> 00:09:40,360 Speaker 3: Throw them out, Opie Weeper. 240 00:09:40,360 --> 00:09:42,840 Speaker 1: If Chimney says, not the a hole she has all 241 00:09:42,880 --> 00:09:47,520 Speaker 1: but said, she's attempting to mark you with peanuts quote. 242 00:09:46,640 --> 00:09:47,800 Speaker 2: Like she is. 243 00:09:48,120 --> 00:09:49,720 Speaker 3: Literally she's using it as a weapon. 244 00:09:49,880 --> 00:09:52,880 Speaker 4: Yeah, this is premeditated, premeditated. 245 00:09:52,240 --> 00:09:54,079 Speaker 2: Yeah, it would be premeditated markin right. 246 00:09:54,240 --> 00:09:56,120 Speaker 1: Also, I realized I feel like it's a great word 247 00:09:56,320 --> 00:09:59,560 Speaker 1: for so no one barking thanks us for saying that. 248 00:09:59,640 --> 00:10:02,160 Speaker 1: Quoting a comedian, it doesn't make it funny or acceptable. 249 00:10:02,200 --> 00:10:04,760 Speaker 1: He hasn't bothered to search her and divest her of 250 00:10:04,840 --> 00:10:06,920 Speaker 1: the nuts when he picks her up either, to which 251 00:10:06,960 --> 00:10:08,479 Speaker 1: Opie responds he alts. 252 00:10:08,240 --> 00:10:09,880 Speaker 4: Her down every time she comes into. 253 00:10:09,679 --> 00:10:13,360 Speaker 3: The all right peanut detector. 254 00:10:14,240 --> 00:10:17,400 Speaker 2: He offered this, I realize, I know this is serious 255 00:10:17,559 --> 00:10:21,840 Speaker 2: and like OPI could die. Yeah, but there's just something so. 256 00:10:21,800 --> 00:10:24,920 Speaker 1: There is a funny comedic There is a element element 257 00:10:24,960 --> 00:10:28,880 Speaker 1: of the peanuts, of this small little nut being a terrorist. 258 00:10:29,040 --> 00:10:32,000 Speaker 3: Yes, I agree. I think a comedian could do something 259 00:10:32,080 --> 00:10:33,080 Speaker 3: on this. They have. 260 00:10:33,600 --> 00:10:37,880 Speaker 1: Apparently Opie offered this as a suggestion visitation before she 261 00:10:38,080 --> 00:10:40,840 Speaker 1: entered my apartment. But I don't want this kind of life. 262 00:10:40,880 --> 00:10:44,040 Speaker 1: So visitation before he entered my apartment, Oh, I guess 263 00:10:44,120 --> 00:10:48,239 Speaker 1: like visiting more until like everything's good, and then comes. 264 00:10:48,000 --> 00:10:48,439 Speaker 3: To live there. 265 00:10:48,480 --> 00:10:50,480 Speaker 1: I was fine only seeing him on his weeks off, 266 00:10:50,520 --> 00:10:52,840 Speaker 1: but I understand that he wants something more permanent than 267 00:10:52,880 --> 00:10:56,040 Speaker 1: meeting every other week, so he probably should find another woman. 268 00:10:56,160 --> 00:10:59,680 Speaker 1: Yogurt Snodgrass says she would probably just hide the peanuts around. 269 00:10:59,720 --> 00:11:01,960 Speaker 1: His is for you to hopefully come in contact with 270 00:11:02,240 --> 00:11:04,320 Speaker 1: just break up. His kid is trying to mark you. 271 00:11:04,720 --> 00:11:06,600 Speaker 1: Where is she even getting all of these nuts from? 272 00:11:06,720 --> 00:11:08,559 Speaker 1: Is her mom buying them for her? Does she buy 273 00:11:08,640 --> 00:11:11,240 Speaker 1: them from a vending machine at school? How crazy is 274 00:11:11,280 --> 00:11:14,280 Speaker 1: the little turn? Now we do have an update one 275 00:11:14,400 --> 00:11:15,040 Speaker 1: day later. 276 00:11:15,280 --> 00:11:18,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, I think like maybe Op was being a little 277 00:11:18,120 --> 00:11:21,160 Speaker 2: like the only reason Op should be worried, of course, 278 00:11:21,280 --> 00:11:24,280 Speaker 2: because there is Ope's health in the line. Only thing 279 00:11:24,320 --> 00:11:26,320 Speaker 2: I was just like a little bit like that felt 280 00:11:26,320 --> 00:11:28,800 Speaker 2: like a little bit aggressive. Was the maybe you're not 281 00:11:28,880 --> 00:11:31,480 Speaker 2: ready to date, But a good point is if you 282 00:11:31,520 --> 00:11:33,840 Speaker 2: can't control your child, maybe you're not ready to date. 283 00:11:33,920 --> 00:11:36,320 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's like, yeah, that's maybe more the root cause 284 00:11:36,360 --> 00:11:38,560 Speaker 1: of the issue, where it's like you're literally and there's 285 00:11:38,600 --> 00:11:41,760 Speaker 1: like quote unquote controlling your child and then like actually 286 00:11:41,920 --> 00:11:45,400 Speaker 1: trying to like do some parenting strategies to address it. 287 00:11:45,520 --> 00:11:47,959 Speaker 2: Yeah, like there's literally doesn't seem like he's even trying. 288 00:11:48,040 --> 00:11:50,160 Speaker 3: It doesn't seem like he's even trying at all. 289 00:11:50,320 --> 00:11:52,520 Speaker 1: And I think like maybe to Sophia's point, like we 290 00:11:52,559 --> 00:11:55,880 Speaker 1: don't know exactly how if this is the first conversation 291 00:11:55,920 --> 00:11:58,480 Speaker 1: about it, if this is the millionth conversation about it. 292 00:11:58,520 --> 00:11:59,560 Speaker 3: But it does sound like. 293 00:11:59,440 --> 00:12:02,480 Speaker 1: Op's kind of like over it, kind of feeling like 294 00:12:02,600 --> 00:12:05,600 Speaker 1: OP just wants to break it off, and like almost like. 295 00:12:05,600 --> 00:12:07,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe he is looking for a reason I understand 296 00:12:07,880 --> 00:12:09,960 Speaker 2: not wanting to. I mean, if like this guy's like 297 00:12:10,000 --> 00:12:13,040 Speaker 2: a weak sack of poop that isn't trying to be 298 00:12:13,400 --> 00:12:16,160 Speaker 2: firm at all with his daughter, I think that shows 299 00:12:16,200 --> 00:12:17,000 Speaker 2: a lack of character. 300 00:12:17,160 --> 00:12:20,400 Speaker 1: Yeah again again, it's it's actually like parenting the child 301 00:12:20,440 --> 00:12:24,760 Speaker 1: that you like ultimately will likedepmother a long term. So 302 00:12:25,120 --> 00:12:27,600 Speaker 1: if you don't have a good co parent in your 303 00:12:27,760 --> 00:12:28,760 Speaker 1: how can you ever hurt her? 304 00:12:28,880 --> 00:12:30,880 Speaker 2: Yeah? How can you ever get to a point where 305 00:12:31,000 --> 00:12:34,240 Speaker 2: things are good? Well, Risen update, We might find out it. 306 00:12:34,360 --> 00:12:34,520 Speaker 3: Hi. 307 00:12:34,559 --> 00:12:36,520 Speaker 1: Everyone, thank you so much for really caring about a 308 00:12:36,559 --> 00:12:38,920 Speaker 1: stranger with a dilemma. I was glad that I wasn't 309 00:12:38,920 --> 00:12:41,640 Speaker 1: wrong in my gut. I told my boyfriend that I 310 00:12:41,760 --> 00:12:45,320 Speaker 1: wanted to break up over over. He was very sad 311 00:12:45,360 --> 00:12:47,520 Speaker 1: and tried to reason with me. He suggested that we 312 00:12:47,520 --> 00:12:49,920 Speaker 1: could live separately. His daughter will soon be an adults. 313 00:12:50,000 --> 00:12:52,960 Speaker 1: I told him that just because she's eighteen doesn't guarantee 314 00:12:53,000 --> 00:12:55,440 Speaker 1: that she leaves the nest, nor that he stops being 315 00:12:55,480 --> 00:12:56,520 Speaker 1: a father either. 316 00:12:56,440 --> 00:12:58,720 Speaker 2: Yeah or that. I mean she could she has when 317 00:12:58,720 --> 00:13:00,800 Speaker 2: she's eighteen, she could probably buy more peanuts. 318 00:13:00,840 --> 00:13:03,439 Speaker 1: I mean, like that is full peanut buying freedom, right, 319 00:13:03,440 --> 00:13:05,400 Speaker 1: that is yeah, you can buy any peanut you want. 320 00:13:05,480 --> 00:13:08,120 Speaker 1: You can eat bags and bag dump your whole paycheck. 321 00:13:08,160 --> 00:13:09,320 Speaker 1: You can buy peanuts or cheap. 322 00:13:09,320 --> 00:13:11,880 Speaker 2: Peanuts are cheap and they literally it's like buying peanuts. 323 00:13:12,160 --> 00:13:15,880 Speaker 1: See see anytime she could come across hardships and want 324 00:13:15,880 --> 00:13:18,120 Speaker 1: to move home, and she needs to find that home. 325 00:13:18,320 --> 00:13:21,160 Speaker 1: She couldn't have it with me. And about living separately. 326 00:13:21,320 --> 00:13:23,640 Speaker 1: While it is fine now and some few years ahead, 327 00:13:23,679 --> 00:13:25,960 Speaker 1: what about the future. He was silent and listening to me. 328 00:13:26,080 --> 00:13:28,560 Speaker 1: I felt overwhelmed because I love him. He said that 329 00:13:28,600 --> 00:13:31,240 Speaker 1: the only way his daughter will be happy is when 330 00:13:31,320 --> 00:13:34,120 Speaker 1: he is alone. Dude, that's that's crazy. 331 00:13:34,200 --> 00:13:35,400 Speaker 2: This daughter sucks. 332 00:13:35,640 --> 00:13:37,559 Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean she is a teenager, but I. 333 00:13:37,480 --> 00:13:40,520 Speaker 2: Mean a lot of teenagers suck, but this one specifically sucks. 334 00:13:40,880 --> 00:13:41,559 Speaker 3: Not a vibe. 335 00:13:41,600 --> 00:13:44,720 Speaker 1: She is in therapy but has not shown any regards 336 00:13:44,800 --> 00:13:47,160 Speaker 1: for her father or his life. She seems to not 337 00:13:47,200 --> 00:13:48,800 Speaker 1: see him as an individual with feelings. 338 00:13:48,800 --> 00:13:49,559 Speaker 3: He is just a father. 339 00:13:49,679 --> 00:13:51,880 Speaker 1: I don't know what to tell him, and just said 340 00:13:52,000 --> 00:13:54,240 Speaker 1: that she probably needed time to grow up until he 341 00:13:54,240 --> 00:13:56,680 Speaker 1: moves out. Daughter is not allowed to be in my apartment. 342 00:13:56,760 --> 00:13:59,439 Speaker 1: She called and threw a tantrum about her father choosing 343 00:13:59,480 --> 00:14:01,760 Speaker 1: me in sad oh, I guess about. He was trying 344 00:14:01,760 --> 00:14:03,839 Speaker 1: to like like reason and be like, hey, like stay 345 00:14:03,840 --> 00:14:04,520 Speaker 1: with me, but. 346 00:14:05,960 --> 00:14:09,600 Speaker 2: But he's not doing anything, Like there still hasn't. I 347 00:14:09,640 --> 00:14:12,040 Speaker 2: feel like I'm hearing no action that the father has 348 00:14:12,080 --> 00:14:13,640 Speaker 2: taken to reprimand his child. 349 00:14:13,760 --> 00:14:13,920 Speaker 3: Yeah. 350 00:14:14,000 --> 00:14:17,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, he's literally losing on both fronts. The girlfriend is like, hey, 351 00:14:17,200 --> 00:14:20,000 Speaker 1: you're literally not doing anything. And just because he's like 352 00:14:20,080 --> 00:14:21,960 Speaker 1: trying to push back and stay in the relationship, the 353 00:14:22,040 --> 00:14:23,080 Speaker 1: daughter's like, why. 354 00:14:22,920 --> 00:14:25,120 Speaker 3: Are you choosing her over me? Like, why are you 355 00:14:25,160 --> 00:14:25,960 Speaker 3: being a bad dad? 356 00:14:26,040 --> 00:14:29,400 Speaker 1: I was entitled, Braddy kidd, Yeah, not not feeling it. 357 00:14:29,520 --> 00:14:31,720 Speaker 1: She has the right to live with her father every 358 00:14:31,720 --> 00:14:34,120 Speaker 1: other week and this shouldn't change. I didn't say anything. 359 00:14:34,160 --> 00:14:36,640 Speaker 1: They need to fix us as a family, and I 360 00:14:36,680 --> 00:14:40,000 Speaker 1: am not a part of that family anymore. He rented 361 00:14:40,000 --> 00:14:42,440 Speaker 1: his apartment for a year's contract, so I don't know 362 00:14:42,520 --> 00:14:44,840 Speaker 1: how he will manage to find a new lease or 363 00:14:45,000 --> 00:14:47,160 Speaker 1: terminate the lease. So he could move back to his 364 00:14:47,200 --> 00:14:50,400 Speaker 1: old apartment. So, yeah, they got a specific apartment just 365 00:14:50,520 --> 00:14:53,720 Speaker 1: to live together, but they're both on the lease. I 366 00:14:53,880 --> 00:14:58,320 Speaker 1: think he's confused. He rented his apartment for a year's contract, 367 00:14:58,400 --> 00:15:00,400 Speaker 1: so I don't know how he will make I managed 368 00:15:00,400 --> 00:15:04,000 Speaker 1: to find a new or terminate the lease so he 369 00:15:04,040 --> 00:15:06,840 Speaker 1: could move back to his old apartment. Anyway, he's staying 370 00:15:06,880 --> 00:15:07,600 Speaker 1: there for a couple of no. 371 00:15:07,680 --> 00:15:11,080 Speaker 4: No, no, okay, So so he he's like a landlord basically, 372 00:15:11,080 --> 00:15:13,480 Speaker 4: and so he was renting out his previous apartment to 373 00:15:13,560 --> 00:15:14,080 Speaker 4: someone else. 374 00:15:14,320 --> 00:15:18,120 Speaker 2: Oh, so he has to find a new place to live. Yeah, 375 00:15:18,320 --> 00:15:21,320 Speaker 2: that's feasy enough. Yeah, that's that's not a bad fine 376 00:15:21,400 --> 00:15:21,640 Speaker 2: over it. 377 00:15:21,720 --> 00:15:24,000 Speaker 1: But then the next one is, anyway, he is staying 378 00:15:24,000 --> 00:15:25,880 Speaker 1: here for a couple of months. 379 00:15:25,560 --> 00:15:27,440 Speaker 2: He's still because all right, so he has an apartment 380 00:15:27,480 --> 00:15:30,560 Speaker 2: that he when he moved in with her, he rented out, 381 00:15:30,640 --> 00:15:32,360 Speaker 2: and now he's staying a couple months until he can 382 00:15:32,400 --> 00:15:33,000 Speaker 2: find a new place. 383 00:15:33,080 --> 00:15:34,560 Speaker 3: Yes, a couple months where okay? 384 00:15:35,560 --> 00:15:36,120 Speaker 2: Living together? 385 00:15:36,200 --> 00:15:39,240 Speaker 1: Yeah okay, so okay, Yeah, so she's letting him stay. 386 00:15:39,240 --> 00:15:42,080 Speaker 1: I was confused because saying you're kicked out immediately. 387 00:15:42,280 --> 00:15:44,800 Speaker 2: Yeah, but your daughter is not allowed, right, right? Right. 388 00:15:44,880 --> 00:15:47,720 Speaker 1: I am very sad that this beautiful relationship has to 389 00:15:47,760 --> 00:15:50,120 Speaker 1: come to an end, but I need to think about 390 00:15:50,120 --> 00:15:52,880 Speaker 1: myself now, and there are some relevant comments closing us out. 391 00:15:53,040 --> 00:15:55,760 Speaker 1: Key Nudge seventy three says, No, you made the right 392 00:15:55,840 --> 00:15:59,040 Speaker 1: choice for you, your health, and your safety. As someone said 393 00:15:59,080 --> 00:16:01,000 Speaker 1: in your other post, you may love him, but you 394 00:16:01,080 --> 00:16:02,360 Speaker 1: probably love breathing more. 395 00:16:02,600 --> 00:16:04,080 Speaker 2: I love that quote. That's so fun. 396 00:16:04,160 --> 00:16:06,440 Speaker 1: That's a pretty great quote. I think you're right about 397 00:16:06,440 --> 00:16:09,560 Speaker 1: his daughter never accepting his partners. He needs to address this. 398 00:16:09,520 --> 00:16:11,040 Speaker 3: With her in therapy. This is true. 399 00:16:11,080 --> 00:16:13,560 Speaker 1: I hope her therapist knows about the peanuts because her 400 00:16:13,560 --> 00:16:16,760 Speaker 1: behavior is truly disturbing. I am so sorry your relationship 401 00:16:16,800 --> 00:16:19,720 Speaker 1: had end. And commercial ask thirty four to sixteen says, 402 00:16:19,880 --> 00:16:21,840 Speaker 1: I feel so bad for you and your boyfriend. I 403 00:16:21,880 --> 00:16:23,400 Speaker 1: feel like he is stuck between a rock and a 404 00:16:23,440 --> 00:16:25,960 Speaker 1: hard place regarding his daughter. I know people are saying 405 00:16:26,000 --> 00:16:28,000 Speaker 1: he should discipline her on this and that, but it 406 00:16:28,080 --> 00:16:31,560 Speaker 1: sounds like it wouldn't work and that she would likely escalate. 407 00:16:31,800 --> 00:16:34,440 Speaker 1: I work with kids like her, hoping her not being 408 00:16:34,480 --> 00:16:37,000 Speaker 1: able to live with her dad the next few months 409 00:16:37,040 --> 00:16:38,840 Speaker 1: will be a wake up call for her, But in 410 00:16:38,840 --> 00:16:41,400 Speaker 1: my experience, I doubt it, but look to the both 411 00:16:41,400 --> 00:16:43,600 Speaker 1: of you, especially him, as he has to deal with 412 00:16:43,640 --> 00:16:47,400 Speaker 1: the fallout. Not your monkey, not your circus any more. 413 00:16:47,520 --> 00:16:47,840 Speaker 3: That's it. 414 00:16:47,920 --> 00:16:50,800 Speaker 2: Well, I'm glad at the very least op he got 415 00:16:50,840 --> 00:16:53,400 Speaker 2: out of a potentially deadly situation. 416 00:16:53,600 --> 00:16:56,240 Speaker 3: Yeah, it seems like it just was not a match 417 00:16:56,280 --> 00:16:56,560 Speaker 3: for either. 418 00:16:56,600 --> 00:16:58,120 Speaker 2: And you know, the more that I listen to the story, 419 00:16:58,480 --> 00:17:00,920 Speaker 2: like the more that I pull back my initial like 420 00:17:01,040 --> 00:17:03,680 Speaker 2: Ope was even a little bit the a hole, It 421 00:17:03,840 --> 00:17:06,439 Speaker 2: just it feels like she the more I think about 422 00:17:06,520 --> 00:17:08,920 Speaker 2: and like if I'm if I stop thinking about it 423 00:17:09,000 --> 00:17:11,600 Speaker 2: like a peanut and start thinking about it like every 424 00:17:11,720 --> 00:17:14,800 Speaker 2: time the daughter placed a peanut somewhere, it was her 425 00:17:14,880 --> 00:17:18,000 Speaker 2: trying to stab Opie, which is effectively kind of what 426 00:17:18,200 --> 00:17:20,359 Speaker 2: is happening. Yeah, it really puts in the context like, 427 00:17:20,440 --> 00:17:23,800 Speaker 2: oh this is there's real consequences to her succeeding and 428 00:17:23,880 --> 00:17:24,439 Speaker 2: hurting Opie. 429 00:17:24,520 --> 00:17:27,640 Speaker 1: Plus again, we don't know exactly like where in the timeline, 430 00:17:27,680 --> 00:17:29,960 Speaker 1: how many conversations they've had about this, et cetera, But 431 00:17:30,240 --> 00:17:33,040 Speaker 1: it seems like they have had this conversation and Ope 432 00:17:33,240 --> 00:17:35,560 Speaker 1: is like I am trying to tell you that you 433 00:17:35,600 --> 00:17:38,600 Speaker 1: need to discipline your daughter, but you continually just don't 434 00:17:38,640 --> 00:17:41,520 Speaker 1: do anything about it. So I think think the language, 435 00:17:41,560 --> 00:17:44,800 Speaker 1: which maybe debatably could be harsh, is just she's just 436 00:17:45,000 --> 00:17:47,840 Speaker 1: trying to communicate with him like you need to do this, 437 00:17:48,119 --> 00:17:50,359 Speaker 1: like this needs to happen, or like it's going to 438 00:17:50,600 --> 00:17:52,800 Speaker 1: break off, which is exactly what happened. 439 00:17:53,200 --> 00:17:56,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, so should have he did the peanut, heated the peanut, 440 00:17:56,560 --> 00:17:58,040 Speaker 2: heated the penut. But to all of you that have 441 00:17:58,200 --> 00:18:01,080 Speaker 2: peanut allergies, I would love to know how harsh it 442 00:18:01,160 --> 00:18:03,600 Speaker 2: is and how do you think about it? Is it 443 00:18:03,680 --> 00:18:06,359 Speaker 2: like I am afraid of peanuts, like I am afraid 444 00:18:06,400 --> 00:18:09,639 Speaker 2: of getting or like is it is there? I don't know, 445 00:18:09,640 --> 00:18:12,960 Speaker 2: how do you? I'm curious avoid My friend James is 446 00:18:13,000 --> 00:18:15,159 Speaker 2: allergic to peanuts, but he eats a tiny bit of 447 00:18:15,160 --> 00:18:17,200 Speaker 2: a peanut every day and now he's like he can 448 00:18:17,320 --> 00:18:19,280 Speaker 2: he's worked his way up to a whole peanut. Oh, 449 00:18:19,480 --> 00:18:20,560 Speaker 2: we actually let me. 450 00:18:20,760 --> 00:18:22,719 Speaker 4: I have a friend who's also allergic to peanuts and 451 00:18:22,760 --> 00:18:24,680 Speaker 4: can't be like in the air. 452 00:18:24,680 --> 00:18:27,840 Speaker 1: Right, yeah, like even the air is like affects them. 453 00:18:27,960 --> 00:18:30,680 Speaker 4: Yeah, And I constantly I have to like catch myself 454 00:18:30,720 --> 00:18:32,040 Speaker 4: because I'm like, oh, hey, do you want some of this? 455 00:18:32,280 --> 00:18:34,399 Speaker 5: And like it's clearly a peanut thing. And I'm like, 456 00:18:34,480 --> 00:18:36,960 Speaker 5: oh wait, yeah, I don't. I don't know how your 457 00:18:37,240 --> 00:18:40,160 Speaker 5: allergy people are able to like live maneuver. You walk 458 00:18:40,240 --> 00:18:43,040 Speaker 5: into a salad bar like any restaurant, right, peanut oil, 459 00:18:43,119 --> 00:18:44,840 Speaker 5: high fruit dress cons the way, that's cool, and go 460 00:18:44,880 --> 00:18:48,000 Speaker 5: to a Starbucks because we can't confirm that our foods 461 00:18:48,000 --> 00:18:48,600 Speaker 5: are allergens. 462 00:18:48,680 --> 00:18:50,359 Speaker 3: Yeah, which I feel like is most people. 463 00:18:50,400 --> 00:18:52,520 Speaker 2: Well, there's there's peanut free schools, now. 464 00:18:52,440 --> 00:18:54,200 Speaker 4: That's true. When I was working at a summer camp, 465 00:18:54,240 --> 00:18:56,520 Speaker 4: we weren't allowed to bring any sort of peanut free hole. 466 00:18:57,080 --> 00:18:59,879 Speaker 3: Did this just happen? I'mbbit hole. 467 00:19:00,240 --> 00:19:01,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know. 468 00:19:01,320 --> 00:19:03,119 Speaker 4: It wasn't the thing when I went to school, but 469 00:19:03,160 --> 00:19:03,720 Speaker 4: when I was. 470 00:19:04,119 --> 00:19:06,360 Speaker 1: I would love to see a YouTube video like breaking 471 00:19:06,400 --> 00:19:09,240 Speaker 1: down the history of the pen analergy and like, because 472 00:19:09,240 --> 00:19:12,439 Speaker 1: it feels like maybe the collective horde has become like 473 00:19:12,480 --> 00:19:15,000 Speaker 1: more and more allergic to peanuts or something. I really 474 00:19:15,000 --> 00:19:15,359 Speaker 1: don't know. 475 00:19:15,520 --> 00:19:18,000 Speaker 4: I think it was probably a thing for a while. 476 00:19:18,280 --> 00:19:21,200 Speaker 4: It just we know why they're dying. They were probably 477 00:19:21,240 --> 00:19:24,200 Speaker 4: just like some people are dying fad on the way. 478 00:19:24,520 --> 00:19:27,520 Speaker 2: No, so penat allergies are becoming more common the prevalence 479 00:19:27,560 --> 00:19:30,439 Speaker 2: of poena allergies has significantly increased over the past few decades. 480 00:19:30,480 --> 00:19:32,720 Speaker 2: For instance, studies indicate that the number of children in 481 00:19:32,760 --> 00:19:36,600 Speaker 2: the US with pena allergies more than tripled between nineteen 482 00:19:36,640 --> 00:19:38,840 Speaker 2: ninety seven and two thousand and eight, and this trend 483 00:19:38,880 --> 00:19:42,600 Speaker 2: continues to rise. Approximately two point five percent of children 484 00:19:42,640 --> 00:19:45,560 Speaker 2: in the US now have a penut allergy, representing about 485 00:19:45,600 --> 00:19:48,080 Speaker 2: a twenty percent increase from twenty ten. 486 00:19:48,840 --> 00:19:50,320 Speaker 4: Why is everyone becoming allergic? 487 00:19:50,560 --> 00:19:54,400 Speaker 2: Improved hygiene has reduced exposure to infectious agents in early 488 00:19:54,520 --> 00:19:57,879 Speaker 2: childhood that might lead to higher incidences of allergies. So, 489 00:19:57,960 --> 00:20:00,800 Speaker 2: in conclusion, let your kids plan the much and if 490 00:20:00,800 --> 00:20:04,360 Speaker 2: some dirt rolloman peanut butter, Yeah, roll them as soon 491 00:20:04,359 --> 00:20:06,520 Speaker 2: as they're out of the womb, cover them in flater them. 492 00:20:06,600 --> 00:20:09,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, well you know what I want to be slathered with? 493 00:20:09,080 --> 00:20:12,440 Speaker 1: Sam this next story? Say that five times fast. 494 00:20:12,520 --> 00:20:13,000 Speaker 3: Let's get it. 495 00:20:13,040 --> 00:20:15,840 Speaker 2: Am I the a hole for introducing my adopted daughter 496 00:20:16,040 --> 00:20:16,760 Speaker 2: as my daughter? 497 00:20:16,960 --> 00:20:17,280 Speaker 3: Yes? 498 00:20:17,280 --> 00:20:21,520 Speaker 2: No context And this comes from Okay fan twenty oh four, 499 00:20:21,800 --> 00:20:22,320 Speaker 2: And it's. 500 00:20:22,160 --> 00:20:25,399 Speaker 4: Not an Okay fan. I was wondering it's not lies. 501 00:20:25,560 --> 00:20:28,320 Speaker 2: Maybe it is. I was married from twenty to twenty twelve. 502 00:20:28,400 --> 00:20:31,359 Speaker 2: During that time, ex wife and I had one son twenty. 503 00:20:31,400 --> 00:20:33,680 Speaker 2: We divorced because she had two affairs while we were 504 00:20:33,720 --> 00:20:36,080 Speaker 2: in marriage counseling trying to pick up the pieces from 505 00:20:36,119 --> 00:20:40,320 Speaker 2: the first affair. She was very publicly exposed for having 506 00:20:40,440 --> 00:20:43,919 Speaker 2: a second affair, the while in marriage counseling for the 507 00:20:43,920 --> 00:20:47,120 Speaker 2: first one, publicly exposed by the second one with our 508 00:20:47,280 --> 00:20:50,120 Speaker 2: child's teacher and her husband. 509 00:20:50,280 --> 00:20:53,280 Speaker 3: Oh man, so like both of them both double whammy. 510 00:20:53,560 --> 00:20:56,800 Speaker 2: It ended badly no crap when the ex wife started 511 00:20:56,840 --> 00:21:01,200 Speaker 2: meeting the husband alone behind the wife slash teacher's back, 512 00:21:01,240 --> 00:21:04,640 Speaker 2: and the whole thing was a messy public spectacle which 513 00:21:04,800 --> 00:21:08,520 Speaker 2: ultimately ended with the teacher being fired and both marriages 514 00:21:08,800 --> 00:21:11,800 Speaker 2: ending in divorce. We live in a smallish community and 515 00:21:11,840 --> 00:21:14,679 Speaker 2: it isn't often that a teacher gets fired midyear, and 516 00:21:14,800 --> 00:21:18,679 Speaker 2: certainly not under such interesting circumstances. So it was very 517 00:21:18,760 --> 00:21:21,760 Speaker 2: much the subject of gossip for years, and it gives 518 00:21:21,800 --> 00:21:24,960 Speaker 2: people an excellent reference point to remember when it happened. 519 00:21:25,040 --> 00:21:27,159 Speaker 2: It was when little Timmy was in fourth grade. 520 00:21:27,200 --> 00:21:29,600 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I feel like that would rock. Oh yeah, 521 00:21:29,680 --> 00:21:33,439 Speaker 1: oh yeah, headline news headline for I mean for years. Yeah, 522 00:21:33,480 --> 00:21:36,280 Speaker 1: I can't, I can't imagine talking about an affair for years. 523 00:21:36,359 --> 00:21:39,359 Speaker 1: Remember when Miss Carrolson was sleeping with that guy with 524 00:21:39,440 --> 00:21:41,920 Speaker 1: them the guy went behind the bleachers again. 525 00:21:42,000 --> 00:21:44,480 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what it sounds like. I guess only the 526 00:21:44,520 --> 00:21:48,480 Speaker 2: fourth graders are gospeling. Exactly after our divorce, I remarried 527 00:21:48,480 --> 00:21:51,560 Speaker 2: in twenty fourteen and adopted my wife's daughter, fourteen, who 528 00:21:51,600 --> 00:21:53,800 Speaker 2: was born in twenty ten. When I introduced my daughter, 529 00:21:53,880 --> 00:21:56,280 Speaker 2: I introduced her as my daughter. It isn't particularly a 530 00:21:56,280 --> 00:21:58,720 Speaker 2: secret that she's adopted, but it's something that I don't 531 00:21:58,760 --> 00:22:01,720 Speaker 2: feel I need to necessary make people aware of anytime 532 00:22:01,800 --> 00:22:04,560 Speaker 2: I introduce her. Well, my ex wife sent me a 533 00:22:04,560 --> 00:22:07,960 Speaker 2: text stating that she had something really important to talk 534 00:22:08,000 --> 00:22:09,840 Speaker 2: to me about, so I called her, thinking was about 535 00:22:09,840 --> 00:22:11,760 Speaker 2: our son. She says that I need to make sure 536 00:22:11,880 --> 00:22:15,119 Speaker 2: that people know that my daughter is adopted because several 537 00:22:15,160 --> 00:22:19,280 Speaker 2: people have assumed that she's my biological daughter and therefore 538 00:22:19,440 --> 00:22:22,160 Speaker 2: in a fair child, oh piece a fair child. 539 00:22:22,320 --> 00:22:23,720 Speaker 3: Yeah, I was a little confused by that. 540 00:22:23,880 --> 00:22:26,919 Speaker 2: What do you think about this whole idea that your 541 00:22:26,960 --> 00:22:30,840 Speaker 2: adopted daughter should be introduced as Hey, this is my daughter, 542 00:22:30,880 --> 00:22:32,160 Speaker 2: this is my adopted daughter. 543 00:22:32,280 --> 00:22:36,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, that like feels so demeaning to that I know, Hey, yeah, 544 00:22:36,480 --> 00:22:39,040 Speaker 1: this is my not real daughter and like my fake daughter. 545 00:22:39,160 --> 00:22:42,080 Speaker 1: I mean, that does suck if people are like incorrectly 546 00:22:42,119 --> 00:22:45,600 Speaker 1: assuming there's an affair. But also like, are you really 547 00:22:45,640 --> 00:22:48,480 Speaker 1: going to like just basically crap on your kid every 548 00:22:48,520 --> 00:22:50,280 Speaker 1: time you introduce them to someone? 549 00:22:50,520 --> 00:22:53,400 Speaker 2: Yeah, and also like who's when you? I guess they're 550 00:22:53,400 --> 00:22:55,960 Speaker 2: assuming stuff like this small town In small towns can 551 00:22:56,040 --> 00:22:58,560 Speaker 2: be gossipy, yappity appting. I don't know, do you think 552 00:22:58,600 --> 00:23:01,520 Speaker 2: she's right, like not right as in you should introduce 553 00:23:01,600 --> 00:23:03,560 Speaker 2: your daughter as your adopted daughter. But do you think 554 00:23:03,600 --> 00:23:06,560 Speaker 2: she's right in that people think that he had an affair? Baby? 555 00:23:06,720 --> 00:23:10,480 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I guess yeah I could. I could definitely 556 00:23:10,520 --> 00:23:11,280 Speaker 1: see that happening. 557 00:23:11,440 --> 00:23:17,480 Speaker 2: Yaps, the telephone happened well. For some reason, it bothers 558 00:23:17,480 --> 00:23:20,359 Speaker 2: her that people might think that I had an affair 559 00:23:20,400 --> 00:23:22,560 Speaker 2: while we were married, even though it's pretty much common 560 00:23:22,600 --> 00:23:25,159 Speaker 2: knowledge about her second affair. I told her, anyone who 561 00:23:25,280 --> 00:23:27,760 Speaker 2: matters knows the situation, and I really don't care if 562 00:23:27,800 --> 00:23:30,679 Speaker 2: people who don't know gossip about me. Is op the 563 00:23:30,720 --> 00:23:33,040 Speaker 2: talk of the town, dude, I'm rather used to it 564 00:23:33,080 --> 00:23:36,199 Speaker 2: by now. Rip. She said that I should think about 565 00:23:36,240 --> 00:23:40,640 Speaker 2: her feelings. Really, Ope should think about your feelings. Did 566 00:23:40,680 --> 00:23:43,879 Speaker 2: you think about Ope's feelings during the first affair? How 567 00:23:43,920 --> 00:23:46,520 Speaker 2: about during the second affair when you were in marriage 568 00:23:46,560 --> 00:23:49,280 Speaker 2: counseling for the first affair. How about when you were 569 00:23:49,359 --> 00:23:52,399 Speaker 2: cheating on the two new people having their second affair 570 00:23:52,480 --> 00:23:55,679 Speaker 2: with and then had a separate affair, leaving one person 571 00:23:55,800 --> 00:23:57,639 Speaker 2: out of the second affair. So it's just you and 572 00:23:57,680 --> 00:23:59,639 Speaker 2: that other person, and that person got mad, exposed the 573 00:23:59,640 --> 00:24:01,439 Speaker 2: second fair, and then exposed it to your husband. How 574 00:24:01,440 --> 00:24:04,119 Speaker 2: about that? But what about get off your high horse. 575 00:24:05,520 --> 00:24:08,800 Speaker 2: You don't get to have feelings. So I told her 576 00:24:08,880 --> 00:24:11,479 Speaker 2: that the feelings and self image of my fourteen year 577 00:24:11,480 --> 00:24:15,400 Speaker 2: old daughter matter way more than her feelings, and she's 578 00:24:15,480 --> 00:24:18,000 Speaker 2: welcome to set the record straight with anyone she wants, 579 00:24:18,040 --> 00:24:20,680 Speaker 2: But I'm not going to change the way I introduce 580 00:24:20,760 --> 00:24:24,280 Speaker 2: my daughter casual acquaintances to tiptoe around her feelings, which 581 00:24:24,320 --> 00:24:26,480 Speaker 2: I agree. I think that constantly pointing out that she's 582 00:24:26,520 --> 00:24:29,120 Speaker 2: adopted would hurt my daughter, which we talked about. Yes, 583 00:24:29,119 --> 00:24:31,840 Speaker 2: one hundred percent yes, and it's just not what I 584 00:24:31,880 --> 00:24:34,600 Speaker 2: want to do. So after spending Mother's Day with his mom, 585 00:24:34,680 --> 00:24:37,320 Speaker 2: my son called me and said that I'm the a hole. 586 00:24:37,359 --> 00:24:39,520 Speaker 2: So Opie's son that's like twenty said that I'm the 587 00:24:39,560 --> 00:24:41,159 Speaker 2: a hole for the way I handled things, and he 588 00:24:41,240 --> 00:24:43,119 Speaker 2: thinks I should make a point to make it clear 589 00:24:43,200 --> 00:24:46,240 Speaker 2: that my daughter is adopted so there is no confusion 590 00:24:46,440 --> 00:24:49,520 Speaker 2: out of respect for him and his mother. So am 591 00:24:49,840 --> 00:24:50,840 Speaker 2: I the a hole here? 592 00:24:50,920 --> 00:24:53,760 Speaker 1: That is so because it makes it doubly worse if 593 00:24:53,800 --> 00:24:57,399 Speaker 1: you have a biological child as well, then it's like, oh, 594 00:24:57,440 --> 00:25:00,640 Speaker 1: it's like favoritism essentially, so it's like, okay, this child, Yeah, yeah, 595 00:25:00,640 --> 00:25:02,400 Speaker 1: this is my child, but you're just my fake child. 596 00:25:02,480 --> 00:25:06,800 Speaker 1: You're just adopted child, though not the a whole at all. 597 00:25:06,880 --> 00:25:09,480 Speaker 1: Op has their priorities streights, yeah, which. 598 00:25:09,320 --> 00:25:13,000 Speaker 2: I think is super super important. And I can't I 599 00:25:13,040 --> 00:25:16,000 Speaker 2: can't imagine like if you adopt a kid having to 600 00:25:16,000 --> 00:25:19,320 Speaker 2: give context to everyone, Like I can't imagine that is 601 00:25:19,440 --> 00:25:23,280 Speaker 2: something that anyone who adopts does. But two parents who 602 00:25:23,280 --> 00:25:27,560 Speaker 2: have adopted, do you introduce your kid in any different 603 00:25:27,600 --> 00:25:30,480 Speaker 2: way than you would if your kid was biologically yours? 604 00:25:30,560 --> 00:25:32,120 Speaker 1: Or like do you say, hey, this is my daughter 605 00:25:32,880 --> 00:25:34,720 Speaker 1: and then do you maybe like tell the story of 606 00:25:34,800 --> 00:25:36,960 Speaker 1: the adoption commonly, Like I. 607 00:25:37,480 --> 00:25:40,440 Speaker 2: Don't know, I never adopted a child. But I can't 608 00:25:40,480 --> 00:25:44,760 Speaker 2: imagine that is normal, appropriate thing to do. But I'm well, 609 00:25:44,800 --> 00:25:46,800 Speaker 2: I'm willing and ready to be proven wrong. Let us know. 610 00:25:46,920 --> 00:25:50,240 Speaker 2: Let us know in the comment adopters, give us the scoop. 611 00:25:50,280 --> 00:25:52,920 Speaker 2: But John, I think I want you to adopt this 612 00:25:52,960 --> 00:25:55,440 Speaker 2: next story and read. I will, but just make sure 613 00:25:55,480 --> 00:25:57,520 Speaker 2: that you label it as adopted. I am not a 614 00:25:57,560 --> 00:26:01,200 Speaker 2: deadbeat dory reader. No, I'm a beat story reader. Yeah, 615 00:26:01,240 --> 00:26:04,840 Speaker 2: he beats it that I do. Onto the next story.