1 00:00:00,040 --> 00:00:03,040 Speaker 1: All right, it's time for today's Strawberry Letter. And if 2 00:00:03,040 --> 00:00:07,120 Speaker 1: you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting and more. 3 00:00:07,560 --> 00:00:12,280 Speaker 1: Please please, please, baby, please submit your letter, your Strawberry 4 00:00:12,320 --> 00:00:15,680 Speaker 1: Letter to Steve Harvey FM and click submit Strawberry Letter. 5 00:00:15,680 --> 00:00:17,600 Speaker 1: We could be reading your letter live on the air, 6 00:00:17,680 --> 00:00:20,800 Speaker 1: just like we're gonna read this one right here, right now, 7 00:00:22,960 --> 00:00:24,760 Speaker 1: and hold on tight. We got it for you here. 8 00:00:24,800 --> 00:00:27,800 Speaker 1: It is the strong Mary Loiter. We need to back 9 00:00:27,880 --> 00:00:31,120 Speaker 1: up on that, Mike. I'm back in the Okay, I'm back, 10 00:00:31,640 --> 00:00:37,280 Speaker 1: and turn that sweater on. It's loud, all right, nevew 11 00:00:37,320 --> 00:00:39,440 Speaker 1: thank you. Here we go. Subject. I'm in love with 12 00:00:39,520 --> 00:00:43,320 Speaker 1: Harry Mary Dear Stephen Shirley. I need some serious advice 13 00:00:43,440 --> 00:00:45,599 Speaker 1: right now. I'm a thirty year old man and I'm 14 00:00:45,680 --> 00:00:49,240 Speaker 1: dating a twenty nine year old woman. She is very sexy, 15 00:00:49,440 --> 00:00:52,560 Speaker 1: sweet woman with a great figure. But she has one 16 00:00:52,640 --> 00:00:57,520 Speaker 1: flaw that is hard to overlook. She has hairy feet, 17 00:00:58,480 --> 00:01:04,040 Speaker 1: a hairy chest, and her back is hairy. God. When 18 00:01:04,080 --> 00:01:06,959 Speaker 1: we first met, it was in the middle of the winter, 19 00:01:07,360 --> 00:01:10,200 Speaker 1: so she wore sweaters, you know. She wore jeans and 20 00:01:10,280 --> 00:01:12,960 Speaker 1: boots mostly, and she kept her socks on. If we 21 00:01:12,959 --> 00:01:15,640 Speaker 1: were chilling at home. In the beginning, we waited a 22 00:01:15,680 --> 00:01:19,480 Speaker 1: while to have sex, so I had never seen her undressed. 23 00:01:20,360 --> 00:01:23,160 Speaker 1: The hair on her chest and back is as thick 24 00:01:23,200 --> 00:01:28,360 Speaker 1: as mine, and it's curly. I can't run my hands 25 00:01:28,400 --> 00:01:31,360 Speaker 1: down her back at all, and I can't kiss her 26 00:01:31,360 --> 00:01:34,319 Speaker 1: on her chest when we make love. She noticed my 27 00:01:34,400 --> 00:01:37,039 Speaker 1: reluctance to cuddle with her and asked me if I 28 00:01:37,080 --> 00:01:40,479 Speaker 1: had a problem with her body. I had to act 29 00:01:40,520 --> 00:01:42,800 Speaker 1: like all of that hair is no big deal. But 30 00:01:42,920 --> 00:01:46,400 Speaker 1: it is, and here's why. Two weeks ago we went 31 00:01:46,440 --> 00:01:55,960 Speaker 1: to a pool party. Yeah, back up, so loud, so loud, 32 00:01:56,280 --> 00:01:58,720 Speaker 1: all right, listen. Two weeks ago we went to a 33 00:01:58,800 --> 00:02:01,720 Speaker 1: pool party and she wore a bikini with her whole 34 00:02:01,920 --> 00:02:07,360 Speaker 1: body showing. All of my male friends were taken aback 35 00:02:07,400 --> 00:02:09,960 Speaker 1: when they saw her up close, and they started in 36 00:02:10,080 --> 00:02:14,160 Speaker 1: with the jokes. They nicknamed her Harry Mary, and when 37 00:02:14,160 --> 00:02:17,079 Speaker 1: I got mad, the jokes got worse. On our way home, 38 00:02:17,160 --> 00:02:18,880 Speaker 1: she told me that a few of the women pulled 39 00:02:18,919 --> 00:02:22,079 Speaker 1: her to the side and suggested lays her hair removal 40 00:02:22,200 --> 00:02:26,160 Speaker 1: or waxing, because a hairy body for a woman is unacceptable. 41 00:02:26,480 --> 00:02:30,640 Speaker 1: My girlfriend maintains that body hair is natural, and she 42 00:02:30,680 --> 00:02:32,760 Speaker 1: does not have to hide her body or go to 43 00:02:32,840 --> 00:02:36,400 Speaker 1: extra measures to remove the hair to please others. She 44 00:02:36,440 --> 00:02:41,560 Speaker 1: said it runs in her family and I can't stand it, though, 45 00:02:42,000 --> 00:02:44,560 Speaker 1: and I want her to get it plucked, shaved, waxed 46 00:02:44,639 --> 00:02:47,040 Speaker 1: or something. I guess you can tell that I like 47 00:02:47,200 --> 00:02:48,720 Speaker 1: her a lot, and I don't want to ruin a 48 00:02:48,720 --> 00:02:52,040 Speaker 1: good thing over a hairy situation. Am I being too shallow? 49 00:02:52,440 --> 00:02:55,200 Speaker 1: Or should I tell her how I really feel and 50 00:02:55,280 --> 00:03:00,480 Speaker 1: risk losing this great woman? Please help? All right? All right? 51 00:03:00,600 --> 00:03:04,480 Speaker 1: Uh no, absolutely not. You're not being shallow. I don't 52 00:03:04,480 --> 00:03:06,760 Speaker 1: think you're being shallow at all. She needs to mow 53 00:03:06,800 --> 00:03:11,200 Speaker 1: the lawn, she definitely does. You know, why is it 54 00:03:11,600 --> 00:03:15,520 Speaker 1: that you are afraid to tell your girlfriend how you 55 00:03:15,560 --> 00:03:18,200 Speaker 1: really feel? I mean, you really like this young woman, 56 00:03:18,320 --> 00:03:23,200 Speaker 1: You think that there could possibly be a future in 57 00:03:23,360 --> 00:03:27,320 Speaker 1: this relationship, and all of that. I agree with you. 58 00:03:27,400 --> 00:03:30,679 Speaker 1: This is a very serious situation. She's right. Hair does 59 00:03:30,760 --> 00:03:33,920 Speaker 1: grow naturally on the body. So does a lot of 60 00:03:33,919 --> 00:03:36,440 Speaker 1: other things. I mean, you know, funk and dirt and 61 00:03:36,480 --> 00:03:38,160 Speaker 1: all that will grow on the body if we don't 62 00:03:38,200 --> 00:03:42,080 Speaker 1: take showers and stuff. But you gotta do. You know, 63 00:03:42,200 --> 00:03:45,520 Speaker 1: some kind of maintenance men and women have to do maintenance. 64 00:03:45,600 --> 00:03:49,720 Speaker 1: Come on, now, you know, just because hair grows naturally 65 00:03:49,720 --> 00:03:52,440 Speaker 1: on the body, that doesn't mean it's attractive. It doesn't 66 00:03:52,440 --> 00:03:56,320 Speaker 1: mean that your partner wants to feel hair on your body, 67 00:03:56,640 --> 00:03:59,520 Speaker 1: you know, when he wants to be intimate and cuddle 68 00:03:59,600 --> 00:04:04,080 Speaker 1: with you. You know you had an opportunity when she 69 00:04:04,200 --> 00:04:07,400 Speaker 1: asked you to say something to her. I think you 70 00:04:07,440 --> 00:04:10,240 Speaker 1: can say it. I think it's just the way you 71 00:04:10,360 --> 00:04:13,200 Speaker 1: say it. You know, listen, when you asked me earlier 72 00:04:13,200 --> 00:04:15,280 Speaker 1: how I felt about it. I just want to tell 73 00:04:15,320 --> 00:04:18,280 Speaker 1: you that I don't like it. I mean, you gotta 74 00:04:18,360 --> 00:04:20,560 Speaker 1: just be straight with her and tell her. Just tell 75 00:04:20,560 --> 00:04:22,920 Speaker 1: her in a nice way, ask her, you know, to 76 00:04:23,400 --> 00:04:25,800 Speaker 1: shave some of it and see. Won't she even like 77 00:04:25,920 --> 00:04:28,640 Speaker 1: her body better? The smoothness of her skin and all 78 00:04:28,680 --> 00:04:32,039 Speaker 1: of that. I think you know, don't miss an opportunity 79 00:04:32,279 --> 00:04:34,680 Speaker 1: to tell her how you really feel. I don't think 80 00:04:34,680 --> 00:04:37,839 Speaker 1: she's going to go anywhere. It's just in all the 81 00:04:37,880 --> 00:04:44,760 Speaker 1: way you say it. Steve Well, good answer, Shirley. I 82 00:04:44,839 --> 00:04:50,640 Speaker 1: think you will spot on with your assessment. I agree 83 00:04:50,680 --> 00:04:57,880 Speaker 1: with everything you've said. Here's the problem. I'm thirty twenty nine. 84 00:04:58,320 --> 00:05:03,159 Speaker 1: She's sexy, sweet, banging body, and she got a flaw. 85 00:05:03,279 --> 00:05:08,280 Speaker 1: That's hard to overlook. Now I'm thinking breath. She cuss. No, 86 00:05:08,440 --> 00:05:13,520 Speaker 1: it ain't that she has very hairy feet. Wait wait, 87 00:05:13,640 --> 00:05:16,279 Speaker 1: that's just thought it was at first, Steve. I'm sorry. 88 00:05:17,640 --> 00:05:24,600 Speaker 1: Huh she cuss. Okay, yeah, you know she got bad grandmas. 89 00:05:24,600 --> 00:05:28,480 Speaker 1: She don't know how to talk well, smoke something. But 90 00:05:29,160 --> 00:05:35,080 Speaker 1: she has hairy feet. Let's stop right here. The hell 91 00:05:35,560 --> 00:05:41,839 Speaker 1: has harry feet. I'm a grown ass man. I got 92 00:05:41,880 --> 00:05:44,400 Speaker 1: a little hair on each one of my toes, but 93 00:05:44,480 --> 00:05:51,479 Speaker 1: my damn foot ain't Harry. Not Saskatchewa got harry ass feet. 94 00:05:53,279 --> 00:05:59,840 Speaker 1: My uncle had harry ass feet. I'm just confused. Hair 95 00:06:00,160 --> 00:06:05,800 Speaker 1: was growing on the foot on my uncle. Yeah, like yeah, 96 00:06:05,920 --> 00:06:12,040 Speaker 1: like he would wear sandals. I thought he had on socks. Stupid. 97 00:06:14,080 --> 00:06:17,920 Speaker 1: My father used to call my uncle Roger Super Sugar 98 00:06:18,000 --> 00:06:21,520 Speaker 1: Chris because he thought he was the ball on the 99 00:06:21,600 --> 00:06:29,680 Speaker 1: single pots. Now she has very hairy feet, a hairy chest, 100 00:06:30,200 --> 00:06:36,640 Speaker 1: and her back is harry wow. Wow, I like you 101 00:06:36,800 --> 00:06:40,640 Speaker 1: like a big back. So when she takes her shoes off, 102 00:06:40,640 --> 00:06:45,200 Speaker 1: it just looked like she got on house shoes already already. 103 00:06:45,920 --> 00:06:51,880 Speaker 1: You know, baby, you got your house shoes. H I'm sorry, 104 00:06:53,520 --> 00:06:58,160 Speaker 1: so now I'm tripping because when you first met him, 105 00:06:58,200 --> 00:07:00,200 Speaker 1: it was in the wintertime, and she had a out 106 00:07:00,200 --> 00:07:03,240 Speaker 1: of sweaters and jeans and boots and stuff on, kept 107 00:07:03,279 --> 00:07:06,880 Speaker 1: her socks on, even if as if we were when 108 00:07:06,920 --> 00:07:10,120 Speaker 1: we was chilling at the house in the beginning, waiting 109 00:07:10,160 --> 00:07:12,160 Speaker 1: for a while to have sex. So I had never 110 00:07:12,200 --> 00:07:15,760 Speaker 1: seen her undressed. The hound on her chest and back 111 00:07:15,920 --> 00:07:20,000 Speaker 1: is as thick as mine, and it's curly. I can't 112 00:07:20,080 --> 00:07:24,119 Speaker 1: run my hands down her back, and I can't kiss 113 00:07:24,120 --> 00:07:29,120 Speaker 1: her chest when we make love. Now you can't. Now 114 00:07:29,160 --> 00:07:31,960 Speaker 1: you can't run your head down her back. She got 115 00:07:32,080 --> 00:07:39,160 Speaker 1: hair on it. She has hair on it, So you 116 00:07:39,480 --> 00:07:44,160 Speaker 1: hugging the teddy bear and she got her on her chest. 117 00:07:44,320 --> 00:07:47,720 Speaker 1: Now surely has said, you know you could get stuff done, 118 00:07:47,800 --> 00:07:51,080 Speaker 1: you have to mow the lawn. I can't imagine what 119 00:07:51,200 --> 00:07:54,120 Speaker 1: else had happened. I can't kiss on her chest when 120 00:07:54,160 --> 00:07:58,520 Speaker 1: we make love, I can't kiss on the chest. And 121 00:07:58,600 --> 00:08:01,720 Speaker 1: she noticed my reluctant to cuddle with her and ask 122 00:08:01,800 --> 00:08:04,520 Speaker 1: me if I had a problem with her body. Hell, yeah, 123 00:08:04,560 --> 00:08:07,680 Speaker 1: I got a problem. How the hell you ain't got 124 00:08:07,720 --> 00:08:10,160 Speaker 1: no problem. It's what I have the biggest problem with 125 00:08:10,680 --> 00:08:12,559 Speaker 1: is how you sitting up here with all his hell 126 00:08:12,880 --> 00:08:17,640 Speaker 1: on your feet, your chest, on your hands. He didn't 127 00:08:17,680 --> 00:08:21,200 Speaker 1: say hands, probably on that or knuckles got hair on it. 128 00:08:21,320 --> 00:08:23,600 Speaker 1: Everybody got hell on knuckles. If you got hair on 129 00:08:23,640 --> 00:08:29,320 Speaker 1: your feet, you got knuckle hell slight mustache. Yeah, you know, 130 00:08:30,000 --> 00:08:36,640 Speaker 1: let's just cut to the quick on this cut you 131 00:08:36,679 --> 00:08:38,720 Speaker 1: know what I mean. Let's just say some obvious things 132 00:08:38,760 --> 00:08:44,120 Speaker 1: we know if you want to groom this relationship, I'm 133 00:08:44,160 --> 00:08:47,280 Speaker 1: just saying some things you need to see. You you 134 00:08:47,360 --> 00:08:51,280 Speaker 1: need to clip the situation in the bud. I'm just 135 00:08:51,320 --> 00:08:54,160 Speaker 1: saying some things you might can open up the conversation with, 136 00:08:54,720 --> 00:08:56,440 Speaker 1: you know, you know, you know, you know, you know, 137 00:08:56,760 --> 00:09:00,960 Speaker 1: just edge up on a Yeah, that's it, and say 138 00:09:00,960 --> 00:09:04,439 Speaker 1: you need to cut your damn hal You gotta get 139 00:09:04,520 --> 00:09:06,920 Speaker 1: some of this stuff out, man, because this ain't going nowhere, 140 00:09:07,000 --> 00:09:09,920 Speaker 1: because this is getting ugly. Man, this is already passed ugly. 141 00:09:10,160 --> 00:09:12,880 Speaker 1: You don't want to cuddle and so, you know, And 142 00:09:13,240 --> 00:09:15,280 Speaker 1: she asked me if I had a problem with her body. 143 00:09:15,480 --> 00:09:17,800 Speaker 1: I had to act like all that hair, it's no 144 00:09:17,880 --> 00:09:21,480 Speaker 1: big deal, but it is. And here's why. Two weeks ago, 145 00:09:21,559 --> 00:09:25,120 Speaker 1: y'all go to a pool party. She wore bikini. Oh Lord, 146 00:09:25,160 --> 00:09:31,439 Speaker 1: have mercy with her whole body showing all your male 147 00:09:31,679 --> 00:09:35,120 Speaker 1: friends was taking her back. They weren't taking her back. 148 00:09:35,280 --> 00:09:38,360 Speaker 1: They were tripping on her back when they saw her 149 00:09:38,559 --> 00:09:41,599 Speaker 1: close and they started with the jokes. They nicknamed the 150 00:09:41,720 --> 00:09:45,400 Speaker 1: Harry Mary. Then I got mad. The jokes got worse. 151 00:09:45,960 --> 00:09:48,439 Speaker 1: On our way home, she told me that a few 152 00:09:48,480 --> 00:09:50,120 Speaker 1: of the women had pulled her to the side and 153 00:09:50,240 --> 00:09:54,760 Speaker 1: suggested lays a Harry move because they throw off it 154 00:09:54,920 --> 00:09:57,640 Speaker 1: throw people off. I have to get it all the time. 155 00:09:57,679 --> 00:10:00,080 Speaker 1: I'm a very hairy woman myself. I have to get 156 00:10:00,160 --> 00:10:06,200 Speaker 1: laser hair removing. Yeah, my arms, my legs, yeah, yeah, 157 00:10:08,440 --> 00:10:19,600 Speaker 1: because you don't know exactly sound, Yeah, you gotta do it. 158 00:10:19,840 --> 00:10:24,720 Speaker 1: Come on, you do yeah, you have to. So now, 159 00:10:25,360 --> 00:10:28,280 Speaker 1: on the way home, few the women poured her to 160 00:10:28,360 --> 00:10:33,560 Speaker 1: the side, suggestion hair lasery, movie or wax it. It's 161 00:10:33,600 --> 00:10:36,680 Speaker 1: not the norm. And my man, you're not upset and 162 00:10:36,800 --> 00:10:41,079 Speaker 1: you're not being shallow. It's just not the norm. They 163 00:10:41,120 --> 00:10:46,120 Speaker 1: ain't in the magazines, know where. They ain't on Vogue, 164 00:10:47,920 --> 00:10:50,240 Speaker 1: They ain't on the Bill Boss Da, ain't on none 165 00:10:50,240 --> 00:10:55,360 Speaker 1: of the Housewives. You can't catch a hairy woman no where. 166 00:10:55,600 --> 00:10:58,959 Speaker 1: Separate horror movie and the last time I saw them 167 00:10:59,400 --> 00:11:04,920 Speaker 1: was where with girl? Wow? Werewolf girls only at one time? 168 00:11:04,960 --> 00:11:09,560 Speaker 1: Because ain't nobody even want to see werewolf girl? Where Girl? 169 00:11:09,960 --> 00:11:12,360 Speaker 1: She said it runs in her family. Well, don't get 170 00:11:12,440 --> 00:11:16,079 Speaker 1: in that family, all right? And I can't stand it 171 00:11:16,160 --> 00:11:20,520 Speaker 1: though I want her to get it. Pluck shaved, whack something. Yeah, 172 00:11:20,559 --> 00:11:22,800 Speaker 1: I like her a lot. Am I being too shallow? 173 00:11:22,840 --> 00:11:26,240 Speaker 1: Hell no, you ain't being too shallow? She being too thick? Yeah, 174 00:11:26,360 --> 00:11:28,680 Speaker 1: But he's got to tell her though, she tell her 175 00:11:28,720 --> 00:11:30,959 Speaker 1: how I really feel. Yes, you should, and run the 176 00:11:31,040 --> 00:11:33,840 Speaker 1: risk of losing a great woman. You can either lose 177 00:11:33,880 --> 00:11:36,439 Speaker 1: a great woman if she ain't willing to lose. No, 178 00:11:36,559 --> 00:11:40,320 Speaker 1: hal she could lose a great man. Everybody got something 179 00:11:40,360 --> 00:11:43,280 Speaker 1: to lose here. You need to have real conversation with her, 180 00:11:43,520 --> 00:11:46,920 Speaker 1: tell her the truth. Just anybody knows that ain't right, 181 00:11:47,200 --> 00:11:51,400 Speaker 1: even her family. 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