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Speaker 1: twenty days now until November third, uh, the election, the

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Speaker 1: general election. Please go to vote dot org. Some states

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Speaker 1: vote dot org. Twenty days left. I'm gonna tell you

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Speaker 1: I went yesterday, it opened up. I went. The line

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Speaker 1: so we're battling in is a longer lifespan for us,

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Speaker 1: better quality life for our children. This man get in

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Speaker 1: So don't let the lines you know turn you away.

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Speaker 1: Just know, be prepared. That's all you gotta do, all right,

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Speaker 1: Switching gears Here, time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And

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Speaker 1: if you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting,

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Speaker 1: and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve Harvey

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Speaker 1: we're gonna read this one right here, right now. Buckle up,

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Speaker 1: the Strawberry Letter, subject Women Seem to Love a Man

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Speaker 1: in Uniform. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm a twenty eight year

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Speaker 1: old black man serving in the United States Army and

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Speaker 1: I'm doing quite well for myself, and it's causing a

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Speaker 1: problem with my love life. I'm hesitant when it comes

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Speaker 1: I am ready to settle down and start a family,

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Speaker 1: but I seem to attract female gold diggers. I've been

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Speaker 1: on several dates the past few months, and when I

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Speaker 1: met each of the women, the first thing they ask

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Speaker 1: is what do I do in the military. What I

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Speaker 1: do in the military. I've been upfront with them and

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Speaker 1: told them what my rank is and what my job is,

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Speaker 1: and they're instantly attracted to me, it seems. On one date,

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Speaker 1: we met at a lounge and a hookah bar, and

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Speaker 1: Do you know how much a bottle of Hennessey costs

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Speaker 1: in a club? I got her a drink, we left,

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Speaker 1: and I will never call her again. I went out

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Speaker 1: looking good. This was on our first date. My most

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Speaker 1: When we started to get undressed, I reached for a

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Speaker 1: I had heard that, because, yeah, I had heard that.

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Speaker 1: Because the military base is all this town has going

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Speaker 1: I am stationed here for another two years, So is

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Speaker 1: there a way to tell if a woman is into

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Speaker 1: it sure doesn't seem like it now, does It sure

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Speaker 1: thank you for your service. The one thing you can

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Speaker 1: say about these women is that they were open and

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Speaker 1: sure that's discouraging if you're trying to have something real

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Speaker 1: don't get caught up, and always, always, if you're going

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Speaker 1: she told you you know what was up, okay with

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Speaker 1: other thing is, don't give up on your dream. If

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Speaker 1: just has to be with the right one. And that's

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Speaker 1: You've met a few bad apples, but you know, you

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Speaker 1: haven't met all of the eligible women there. And since

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Speaker 1: when you tell them your rank and what you do.

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Speaker 1: Don't be so quick to tell everything. How about that?

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Speaker 1: Do you have to wear your uniform on dates? Can't

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Speaker 1: you wear some jeans, you know, and a nice shirt.

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Speaker 1: You know you're probably really fit, wear a T shirt

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Speaker 1: or something, you know, think about it. I just say,

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Speaker 1: based on what you've already had with these women, which

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Speaker 1: you've already experienced, I just think it's time for you

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Speaker 1: to change your game up, you know, get out of

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Speaker 1: that you're looking for. You know, That's what I'm thinking.

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Speaker 1: Just slow down, rethink, you know, change your game up,

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Speaker 1: like I said, and you'll attract a different type of woman. Steve. Wow,

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Speaker 1: twenty eight year old man. When we come back, little brother,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna put you on what's called gaining. I understand

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Speaker 1: where you're coming from. I understand your dilemma and it's real.

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Speaker 1: But you need to understand a couple of things too.

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Speaker 1: I think you are making you your pickers off, if

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Speaker 1: way off because all women are not this way. There.

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Speaker 1: It's a large number of them this way, but all

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Speaker 1: come back, I'm going to show it to you in

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Speaker 1: the letter. All right, thank you, Steve. Coming up your

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Speaker 1: women seem to love a man in uniform. We'll get

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Speaker 1: come on, Steve, you're looking good at zoom too. Let's

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Speaker 1: recap today's Strawberry letter subject, women seem to love a

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Speaker 1: man in uniform? Well, see, brother, I think that you

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Speaker 1: Women seemed to love them. Man in uniform. Women seemed

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Speaker 1: to love money. They don't give it damn what you

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Speaker 1: have on, you know, bro, actor, comedian, ball player. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: football uniform, basketball uniform, fireman uniform, policeman uniform, military uniform.

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Speaker 1: You're working, don't give it damn for it's a sanitation uniform.

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Speaker 1: If you're making enough and you working your fair game

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Speaker 1: to what's going on in this letter today, year old

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Speaker 1: well for myself, and it's creating a problem for you,

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Speaker 1: Listen to this though a lot. It's called bottle service.

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Speaker 1: She want them act like you know, when they bring

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Speaker 1: But if a woman asked you to buy her a

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Speaker 1: whole battlet Hennessy, she ain't a gold digger. She an alcoholic.

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Speaker 1: They bring champagne out in bottles with the lighters on it.

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Speaker 1: She didn't ask for a whole ballet Damn Hennessy, brown

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Speaker 1: ass liquor. That ain't gonna that's an alcoholic. Your pickle

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Speaker 1: is all that's gone down the line. You got her

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Speaker 1: if we dated, it would be my responsibility keep on

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Speaker 1: looking good. This is our first date. Well you should

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Speaker 1: bit different. Let's see what your real hair looked like.

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Speaker 1: Cut back on some of this makeup. Let's tone it

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Speaker 1: All this time got going forward. That's crazy. Listen to me.

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Speaker 1: damn hallway, damn the baby. We ain't got to worry

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Speaker 1: about that party. See brother, throughout the letter, your picker

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Speaker 1: is wrong. You've picked an alcoholic. You picked a gold

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Speaker 1: digger that wants to dress up and told you you responsible,

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Speaker 1: and now you want me to say it, don't put

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Speaker 1: or the two. But brother, you got to stop this here.

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Speaker 1: There are a lot of women out there who are

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Speaker 1: looking for the same thing you're looking for. There are

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Speaker 1: a lot of women looking for something real. Man. You

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Speaker 1: keep using the fact that you have on this uniform,

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Speaker 1: and this uniform, you are using your rank to pull women.

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Speaker 1: Let's stop playing these reindeer games, because, bro, you wear

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Speaker 1: That's your bait. You know what's happening in that time?

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Speaker 1: I heard this all the time, got going forward? You

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Speaker 1: So when you stop playing the games, they're gonna stop

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Speaker 1: just being real with you, Uncle Steve, know what's going on.

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Speaker 1: Using all that to get the women to your choice.

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Speaker 1: Now you want to get a real one. But now

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Speaker 1: You ain't to win all that damn well for yourself now,

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Speaker 1: thank you. Yeah, he could take that uniform off sometimes, man.

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Speaker 1: All right, yes, all right, thank you. Steve. Post your

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Speaker 1: the hour, our resident poet Junior is here with another poem.

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Speaker 1: You know who. I wonder who it's for? You know who? Yeah,

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