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Speaker 1: Conversations on life, style, beauty and relationships. It's The Velvet's

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Speaker 1: Edge Podcast with Kelly Henderson.

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Speaker 2: Intuitive healer Ebony Banks is here. Hi Ebany, Hello Kelly,

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Speaker 2: how are you. I'm good? Thank you. We were just

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Speaker 2: actually talking about PMS because both of us are struggling

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Speaker 2: there this month, so you guys bear with us and

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Speaker 2: our listeners know this. And I was just telling you

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Speaker 2: that we have a monthly word every month. It's like

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Speaker 2: the theme of the month, and this month's word is

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Speaker 2: the word guts, and so I couldn't, like, I couldn't

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Speaker 2: think of another perfect topic than intuition. And so when

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Speaker 2: I was introduced to you, I was like, oh, I

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Speaker 2: have to have her on this month because when I

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Speaker 2: think of guts, I immediately go to gut instinct, which

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Speaker 2: is intuition. And you are an intuitive healer, so you've

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Speaker 2: made a whole career out of this. I know that

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Speaker 2: you come from a line of spiritual healers. So can

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Speaker 2: you just tell us a little bit about how you

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Speaker 2: discovered you have these gifts?

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Speaker 3: Yes, So it's a bit of a lifelong journey, you know.

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Speaker 3: I started. I was intuitive as a child. Okay, as

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Speaker 3: a child, though I just didn't know that it was intuitive.

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Speaker 3: You know, I was raised in a Christian family. The

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Speaker 3: only thing I knew about spirituality was what I learned

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Speaker 3: at church about Jesus, you.

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Speaker 4: Know, so outside of that, I did not know.

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Speaker 3: So I didn't know that what I was experiencing was

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Speaker 3: a spiritual experience. And I thought of myself as bad

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Speaker 3: sometimes because I knew things people didn't tell me. And

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Speaker 3: then sometimes I would think, Oh, I'm just really smart,

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Speaker 3: That's how I know these things. Like I was totally confused,

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Speaker 3: and then as I got older, I thought it went away.

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Speaker 3: When I was like a teenager, I thought it left me.

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Speaker 3: That's how I used to think about it because I

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Speaker 3: wasn't having the same kind of experiences. And then when

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Speaker 3: I was in my twenties, I met like minded people

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Speaker 3: who gave me language to these experiences and like taught

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Speaker 3: me all these like metaphysical spiritual things.

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Speaker 4: I was like, Oh, that's what this is. Oh that's

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Speaker 4: what this is.

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Speaker 3: So it was really helpful because I started to accept myself.

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Speaker 2: You know, yeah, well, when you say these experiences, can

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Speaker 2: you talk us through a little bit about what that

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Speaker 2: even means?

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Speaker 4: Yes, for sure.

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Speaker 3: So right now, my dominant my dominant skill, it's an

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Speaker 3: unusual skill, is being clear tangent, right, And most people

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Speaker 3: are familiar with clairvoyant, you know, you see that in

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Speaker 3: like pop culture and movies and stuff, and there are

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Speaker 3: lots of clear senses. And so Claire, the word Claire

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Speaker 3: ce lai r. It just means clear, and then the

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Speaker 3: ending kind of tells you, like what the the unusual

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Speaker 3: skill is. And so tangent means touch. And so my

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Speaker 3: dominant expression now is, you know, I have readings with people,

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Speaker 3: and when I touch them, I can get information about them,

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Speaker 3: and I basically think about it as I'm telling them

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Speaker 3: what their body is telling me. But as a child,

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Speaker 3: I was experiencing Claire sentient, which is clear feeling, and

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Speaker 3: I think a lot of us are Claire sentient. There

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Speaker 3: are a lot of very sensitive people who can walk

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Speaker 3: know what's going on. They may not call themselves Claire sentient,

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Speaker 3: but I think that's what they are. And I was

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Speaker 3: also experiencing Claire cognizant, which is when you just automatically

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Speaker 3: know something without someone telling you. That's mostly what I

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Speaker 3: experienced as a child, But clear tangent didn't come until

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Speaker 3: years later, and I accidentally learned I was clear tangent.

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Speaker 2: What do you mean you accidentally?

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Speaker 4: I know, so it's been of a long story.

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Speaker 3: So I was, you know, I've always been a spiritual person,

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Speaker 3: you know, for life, and so I was going to

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Speaker 3: these like spiritual gatherings at this woman's house. She was

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Speaker 3: a reiki master. I live in Brooklyn, New York, and

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Speaker 3: I scheduled an appointment with her to have I thought

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Speaker 3: do you know all of this? Yeah, I have no idea.

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Speaker 3: I have never done that in life until this exact moment.

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Speaker 2: Oh my gosh. So I think it's so interesting that

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Speaker 2: look at it very taboo like, like it's almost like

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Speaker 2: a witchy thing versus or like a woo woo or

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Speaker 4: Well?

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Speaker 3: I didn't tell anybody, you know, I didn't tell a

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Speaker 4: Like what is going on? Right?

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Speaker 3: I had no idea, But as far as Christianity goes,

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Speaker 3: it just really expands my perspective or my perception of

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Speaker 3: But I think of it as just another expression of God.

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Speaker 2: You know. Do you feel like the more that you've

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: So I think for sure what I've learned is being

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and that's a big hurdle for a lot of

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Speaker 2: Touch, right, And I want to get into some of

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Speaker 2: we started the podcast, but you said that, you know,

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Speaker 4: Yeah, for sure.

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Speaker 3: And then this time around, I'm in yoga class and

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Speaker 3: Absolutely, I mean all that is one hundred percent truth

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Speaker 2: myself again.

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Speaker 3: Yes, you know what I mean, absolutely, And everyone can

440
00:21:46,960 --> 00:21:49,520
Speaker 3: do that in their way, maybe maybe it's when you're cooking,

441
00:21:49,880 --> 00:21:52,320
Speaker 3: maybe it's when you're gardening, maybe it's when you're walking

442
00:21:52,320 --> 00:21:53,960
Speaker 3: your dog on your.

443
00:21:53,840 --> 00:21:56,800
Speaker 4: Bike, like whatever it is for you, But just be.

444
00:21:56,880 --> 00:22:00,159
Speaker 3: Conscious of spending that kind of time with yourself, you know,

445
00:22:00,200 --> 00:22:03,080
Speaker 3: don't have your headphones on, don't think about something that's

446
00:22:03,080 --> 00:22:06,360
Speaker 3: stressing you out, just kind of be present with yourself

447
00:22:06,400 --> 00:22:07,679
Speaker 3: and in that moment, you know.

448
00:22:08,640 --> 00:22:10,760
Speaker 2: You know what's so interesting though, is I'm sitting here

449
00:22:10,880 --> 00:22:13,800
Speaker 2: thinking about certain people in my life or in my

450
00:22:14,040 --> 00:22:16,760
Speaker 2: life in the past, and the thing that they could

451
00:22:16,800 --> 00:22:19,800
Speaker 2: not do is be quiet with themselves. Why are we

452
00:22:19,880 --> 00:22:20,720
Speaker 2: so scared of that?

453
00:22:21,720 --> 00:22:21,880
Speaker 4: Oh?

454
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Speaker 3: I think it's because there's so much pain and stuff

455
00:22:23,960 --> 00:22:26,720
Speaker 3: that we've all experienced, and it's you know, when we're quiet,

456
00:22:27,680 --> 00:22:28,679
Speaker 3: the truth comes up.

457
00:22:29,960 --> 00:22:30,159
Speaker 1: You know.

458
00:22:30,240 --> 00:22:31,359
Speaker 4: That's why it's yeah.

459
00:22:31,440 --> 00:22:34,719
Speaker 3: And why it's scary, Yeah, because the truth comes up

460
00:22:34,720 --> 00:22:37,160
Speaker 3: when you're quiet, and you know, a lot of people

461
00:22:37,200 --> 00:22:40,160
Speaker 3: don't want to deal with their truths, you know, which

462
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Speaker 3: I totally understand. I totally everybody do their thing in

463
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Speaker 3: their own.

464
00:22:43,600 --> 00:22:48,240
Speaker 2: Time, right, So if someone is listening and they're like ooh,

465
00:22:48,280 --> 00:22:51,520
Speaker 2: like that gut wrenching kind of nauseous feeling when you

466
00:22:51,560 --> 00:22:53,840
Speaker 2: think about being quiet. Do you have one little tip

467
00:22:53,920 --> 00:22:54,720
Speaker 2: that could help.

468
00:22:54,560 --> 00:22:58,240
Speaker 3: Them take a really deep breath in that moment and

469
00:22:58,760 --> 00:23:02,480
Speaker 3: yourself that you are love hmm, Like that's the only

470
00:23:02,520 --> 00:23:04,360
Speaker 3: thing true about who you are is your life?

471
00:23:04,400 --> 00:23:07,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, like period, Yeah, regardless of all the pain in

472
00:23:07,800 --> 00:23:08,280
Speaker 2: the past.

473
00:23:08,440 --> 00:23:09,720
Speaker 4: Yes, I agree with that.

474
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Speaker 2: Okay, Well, let's talk speaking of love, let's talk a

475
00:23:16,760 --> 00:23:20,960
Speaker 2: little bit about self love. That's a journey that I

476
00:23:20,960 --> 00:23:22,959
Speaker 2: feel have been on the last couple of years. And

477
00:23:23,040 --> 00:23:26,440
Speaker 2: it's so interesting because I don't know that it's something

478
00:23:26,480 --> 00:23:29,120
Speaker 2: that you're necessarily conscious of when you're on a journey

479
00:23:29,160 --> 00:23:31,439
Speaker 2: like that. It's just part of the healing process, or

480
00:23:31,480 --> 00:23:34,040
Speaker 2: it has been for me. But one thing that's been

481
00:23:34,080 --> 00:23:36,119
Speaker 2: really interesting is the people in my life lately here

482
00:23:36,119 --> 00:23:39,960
Speaker 2: are just like, oh my gosh, you seem so happy,

483
00:23:40,040 --> 00:23:43,199
Speaker 2: And I'm like, what really? Like what you know? Like,

484
00:23:43,280 --> 00:23:46,439
Speaker 2: I don't necessarily on a day to day basis notice it,

485
00:23:46,960 --> 00:23:50,000
Speaker 2: but I think something that I'm putting out is a

486
00:23:50,119 --> 00:23:54,560
Speaker 2: sense of you know, calm, happy, content energy. And the

487
00:23:54,680 --> 00:23:57,359
Speaker 2: only thing that I can say that's changed in my

488
00:23:57,440 --> 00:24:00,000
Speaker 2: life is my relationship with myself. And I've kind of

489
00:24:00,160 --> 00:24:03,960
Speaker 2: come to a new self acceptance and it's not perfect.

490
00:24:04,320 --> 00:24:05,440
Speaker 2: Some days are not good.

491
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Speaker 4: You know.

492
00:24:05,760 --> 00:24:08,240
Speaker 2: It's all the things that I did not think self

493
00:24:08,280 --> 00:24:10,680
Speaker 2: love looked like. But it's like walking with myself through

494
00:24:10,680 --> 00:24:14,000
Speaker 2: all of it, no matter what it is. So I

495
00:24:14,119 --> 00:24:17,520
Speaker 2: have obviously had those experiences, but I don't necessarily know

496
00:24:17,560 --> 00:24:21,840
Speaker 2: how to tell people in my life what that looked like,

497
00:24:22,119 --> 00:24:25,160
Speaker 2: or how I got here, anything like that. So can

498
00:24:25,200 --> 00:24:27,800
Speaker 2: you talk to us a little bit about maybe even

499
00:24:27,920 --> 00:24:32,119
Speaker 2: using your own intuition to really tap into the love

500
00:24:32,240 --> 00:24:34,080
Speaker 2: that you know you could have for yourself, or like

501
00:24:34,119 --> 00:24:35,920
Speaker 2: getting to know yourself even.

502
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Speaker 3: Yes, for sure, I mean I love what you just said.

503
00:24:39,440 --> 00:24:42,160
Speaker 3: That's so beautiful. The journey you're on, it sounds so amazing.

504
00:24:42,720 --> 00:24:45,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, it really has been. Honestly, it started out very,

505
00:24:45,880 --> 00:24:49,640
Speaker 2: very painful, but it has now turned into something more

506
00:24:49,680 --> 00:24:51,359
Speaker 2: beautiful than I ever could have imagined.

507
00:24:51,720 --> 00:24:55,119
Speaker 3: I love love love hearing that, because that's you know,

508
00:24:55,240 --> 00:24:59,160
Speaker 3: what everyone will experience if they allow themselves to you know, Yeah,

509
00:24:59,280 --> 00:25:01,040
Speaker 3: I guess I've I think of you know, I definitely

510
00:25:01,080 --> 00:25:03,359
Speaker 3: think of self love. I think of intuition as an

511
00:25:03,359 --> 00:25:08,399
Speaker 3: expression of self love. Okay, because in order to really

512
00:25:08,440 --> 00:25:11,919
Speaker 3: tune into your intuition, you have to know that you know,

513
00:25:12,000 --> 00:25:14,520
Speaker 3: it will only speak to you in a loving manner, right,

514
00:25:14,560 --> 00:25:17,840
Speaker 3: and so it minimizes all that negative self talk that

515
00:25:17,880 --> 00:25:20,680
Speaker 3: goes on when you tune into your intuition. I mean

516
00:25:21,200 --> 00:25:23,880
Speaker 3: it's rare that it happens for me, you know. It's

517
00:25:24,080 --> 00:25:26,040
Speaker 3: negative self talk, negative self talking.

518
00:25:26,080 --> 00:25:26,800
Speaker 4: It happens.

519
00:25:27,000 --> 00:25:30,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's rare. It is rare, you know.

520
00:25:31,400 --> 00:25:36,800
Speaker 3: And so you create more space for like your true self,

521
00:25:36,880 --> 00:25:38,520
Speaker 3: you know, which a lot of people refer to as

522
00:25:38,560 --> 00:25:40,520
Speaker 3: higher self. I don't like high low either, so I

523
00:25:40,560 --> 00:25:43,520
Speaker 3: just say true. So you create more space for your

524
00:25:43,560 --> 00:25:46,840
Speaker 3: true self to show up when you allow yourself to

525
00:25:46,960 --> 00:25:49,080
Speaker 3: kind of just when you allow your ego and your

526
00:25:49,080 --> 00:25:52,240
Speaker 3: personality and like your brain to just kind of take

527
00:25:52,280 --> 00:25:55,879
Speaker 3: a back seat sometimes and acknowledge that you are this

528
00:25:56,000 --> 00:26:00,359
Speaker 3: other thing too, you know, other thing too. So I

529
00:26:00,359 --> 00:26:02,600
Speaker 3: think that's a really good way to start to have

530
00:26:03,119 --> 00:26:07,200
Speaker 3: a better relationship with yourself and to really allow yourself

531
00:26:07,280 --> 00:26:09,879
Speaker 3: to love yourself more, you know, because you have to

532
00:26:09,920 --> 00:26:10,880
Speaker 3: acknowledge who you are.

533
00:26:11,600 --> 00:26:15,119
Speaker 2: Yeah, my dad taught me that when the negative voices

534
00:26:15,160 --> 00:26:16,919
Speaker 2: come in, you just say, oh, thank you for sharing,

535
00:26:17,040 --> 00:26:19,720
Speaker 2: and you try to like just move on like it's

536
00:26:19,840 --> 00:26:22,600
Speaker 2: just a voice. It's just a note, it's not even real.

537
00:26:22,680 --> 00:26:24,840
Speaker 2: Most of the time, it's ever real.

538
00:26:25,000 --> 00:26:26,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's so true. I do the same thing. I

539
00:26:27,040 --> 00:26:28,320
Speaker 3: dismiss it like right away.

540
00:26:28,640 --> 00:26:31,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, like they're not going to not come in, is

541
00:26:31,040 --> 00:26:33,240
Speaker 2: what I've realized. And maybe it gets easier as you

542
00:26:33,320 --> 00:26:36,880
Speaker 2: keep doing it, but mine still come in too. And

543
00:26:36,960 --> 00:26:38,439
Speaker 2: you know some of the tools I use or make

544
00:26:38,480 --> 00:26:40,679
Speaker 2: a call to a friend that'll help me through that

545
00:26:40,720 --> 00:26:43,200
Speaker 2: if I can't get out of it myself. But most

546
00:26:43,200 --> 00:26:45,080
Speaker 2: of the time, when I just acknowledge it and go

547
00:26:45,200 --> 00:26:48,440
Speaker 2: oh wow, like I didn't realize that was even coming up,

548
00:26:48,560 --> 00:26:51,320
Speaker 2: But thank you for sharing, and we'll like let you

549
00:26:51,400 --> 00:26:52,480
Speaker 2: go for the day, you know.

550
00:26:52,720 --> 00:26:56,200
Speaker 3: Yes, yes, and you can encounter it with the opposite

551
00:26:56,480 --> 00:26:56,679
Speaker 3: you know.

552
00:26:56,720 --> 00:26:57,760
Speaker 2: Oh that's a good idea.

553
00:26:57,920 --> 00:27:00,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, I do when it comes up, Like even if

554
00:27:00,400 --> 00:27:02,280
Speaker 3: the opposite is not true, it doesn't matter.

555
00:27:02,720 --> 00:27:05,520
Speaker 4: Yeah, Like that's what I'm saying to myself.

556
00:27:06,400 --> 00:27:08,359
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's how you're gonna let go of it. We'll

557
00:27:08,440 --> 00:27:10,840
Speaker 2: talk us through. I know that we talked a little

558
00:27:10,840 --> 00:27:15,840
Speaker 2: bit about your clear tangency. Is that I say that? Yeah,

559
00:27:15,920 --> 00:27:18,080
Speaker 2: so talk us through, Like what does a session look

560
00:27:18,160 --> 00:27:21,320
Speaker 2: like with you? Because I know that would involve touch

561
00:27:21,440 --> 00:27:23,800
Speaker 2: and like the energy movement. I've done sessions like this,

562
00:27:23,880 --> 00:27:25,320
Speaker 2: but I want to tell the listeners a little bit

563
00:27:25,320 --> 00:27:25,760
Speaker 2: about that.

564
00:27:26,240 --> 00:27:29,399
Speaker 3: Yes, for sure, So I do both in person and

565
00:27:29,480 --> 00:27:32,840
Speaker 3: remote sessions. Okay, it's still I've been doing it now

566
00:27:32,840 --> 00:27:35,760
Speaker 3: since eleven years, and it still blows me away every

567
00:27:35,760 --> 00:27:37,520
Speaker 3: time I have a client, like, I would like someone

568
00:27:37,600 --> 00:27:40,560
Speaker 3: to tell me how this is happening, you know, yeah,

569
00:27:42,359 --> 00:27:46,399
Speaker 3: like what the heck? Because essentially I will you know.

570
00:27:46,480 --> 00:27:48,679
Speaker 3: I usually have the person laying on their back, like

571
00:27:48,720 --> 00:27:52,680
Speaker 3: in a yoga resting position, you know, and I will

572
00:27:52,680 --> 00:27:54,760
Speaker 3: start with the soul of the feet, and then I'll

573
00:27:54,800 --> 00:27:56,359
Speaker 3: make my way up to the knees, and then I

574
00:27:56,400 --> 00:27:59,920
Speaker 3: focus on like the seven main chakras, and I basically

575
00:28:00,119 --> 00:28:03,600
Speaker 3: I'm definitely touching, and I basically tell them what their

576
00:28:03,640 --> 00:28:07,200
Speaker 3: body is telling me. So I'm feeling and I'm seeing.

577
00:28:07,280 --> 00:28:09,919
Speaker 3: I can images in my mind's eye, and I feel

578
00:28:10,800 --> 00:28:13,160
Speaker 3: things that tell me you know that I can translate

579
00:28:13,200 --> 00:28:17,679
Speaker 3: into words. Right, So, okay, something is a challenge, out let.

580
00:28:17,760 --> 00:28:19,560
Speaker 3: Let me give you an example. So I had a reading,

581
00:28:19,720 --> 00:28:22,800
Speaker 3: and this is a remote reading, about two weeks ago,

582
00:28:23,280 --> 00:28:27,480
Speaker 3: and the woman's grandmother had passed away recently, and when

583
00:28:27,480 --> 00:28:31,399
Speaker 3: I was on her heart chakra. I was seeing tree bark,

584
00:28:31,920 --> 00:28:34,760
Speaker 3: like all kinds of tree bark. And usually I pick

585
00:28:34,840 --> 00:28:37,200
Speaker 3: up people on the heart chakra, right, we carry people

586
00:28:37,240 --> 00:28:40,080
Speaker 3: we love there the energy of those people. And so

587
00:28:40,240 --> 00:28:42,680
Speaker 3: I asked the woman, like, I'm seeing tree bark and

588
00:28:42,720 --> 00:28:44,920
Speaker 3: this is really unusual because it's not a person that

589
00:28:44,960 --> 00:28:47,440
Speaker 3: I usually see people. And so she shared with me

590
00:28:47,600 --> 00:28:50,400
Speaker 3: that before her grandmother passed away, they were looking at

591
00:28:50,400 --> 00:28:52,320
Speaker 3: different types of tree bark to pick out what kind

592
00:28:52,360 --> 00:28:53,600
Speaker 3: of tree to put in the backyard.

593
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Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, right, yeah, how like how it was

594
00:28:58,320 --> 00:29:00,480
Speaker 2: so random? Right, Like how would you know that?

595
00:29:00,920 --> 00:29:04,040
Speaker 4: Absolutely not right? I don't know this woman.

596
00:29:04,160 --> 00:29:07,280
Speaker 3: You know, she found me online and booked an appointment, right,

597
00:29:07,640 --> 00:29:12,560
Speaker 3: So right, But so I get information very abstractly like that,

598
00:29:12,720 --> 00:29:14,640
Speaker 3: you know. And then so I saw the tree bark

599
00:29:14,640 --> 00:29:16,600
Speaker 3: in my mind and I felt the tree bark like

600
00:29:16,640 --> 00:29:20,280
Speaker 3: I felt it in my body. It's hard for me

601
00:29:20,360 --> 00:29:25,280
Speaker 3: to describe. Yeah, but I'm extremely sensitive, and so that's

602
00:29:25,280 --> 00:29:27,160
Speaker 3: how my sensitivity it shows up.

603
00:29:27,760 --> 00:29:30,600
Speaker 2: You know what I have found with I have someone

604
00:29:30,640 --> 00:29:34,440
Speaker 2: I work with who has a similar gift. And it's interesting.

605
00:29:34,480 --> 00:29:36,920
Speaker 2: As I was just listening to you talk, I was thinking,

606
00:29:37,000 --> 00:29:39,480
Speaker 2: this is why I've needed the healers in my life

607
00:29:39,520 --> 00:29:42,360
Speaker 2: that I've needed. And I think that you guys are

608
00:29:42,440 --> 00:29:46,120
Speaker 2: just such facilitators for our own intuition and getting to

609
00:29:46,160 --> 00:29:50,680
Speaker 2: know ourselves and that whole process because a lot of times,

610
00:29:50,720 --> 00:29:53,040
Speaker 2: like most of us are walking around this world and

611
00:29:53,080 --> 00:29:56,960
Speaker 2: we have no concept of all of the energy is

612
00:29:57,000 --> 00:30:00,080
Speaker 2: happening in our body, you know, like we'll feel or

613
00:30:00,200 --> 00:30:02,840
Speaker 2: it'll get to the point of having a physical manifestation

614
00:30:03,080 --> 00:30:07,200
Speaker 2: of some sort like a gut issue or you know,

615
00:30:07,280 --> 00:30:11,440
Speaker 2: anything like that, and it's like we don't necessarily register

616
00:30:11,600 --> 00:30:14,880
Speaker 2: that with what we're processing through emotionally or energetically or

617
00:30:14,880 --> 00:30:17,560
Speaker 2: anything like that. So it's so nice when there's someone

618
00:30:17,560 --> 00:30:20,320
Speaker 2: who can come in and go, hey, wait, like I'm

619
00:30:20,320 --> 00:30:24,080
Speaker 2: feeling this thing and help us sort through it, because

620
00:30:24,080 --> 00:30:26,360
Speaker 2: I think a lot of times maybe we're just not

621
00:30:26,520 --> 00:30:30,480
Speaker 2: conscious of our own emotions or feelings or energies.

622
00:30:30,880 --> 00:30:33,080
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's exactly what it is, you know.

623
00:30:33,160 --> 00:30:36,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, so, and we have a million and one distractions

624
00:30:36,560 --> 00:30:41,480
Speaker 3: in the world exactly, so it doesn't help. But everyone

625
00:30:41,560 --> 00:30:44,240
Speaker 3: has the same capacity, you know, Like people like me

626
00:30:44,320 --> 00:30:47,520
Speaker 3: are not special or not for whatever reason. I'm just

627
00:30:47,680 --> 00:30:51,000
Speaker 3: really sensitive. That's how I describe it, I'm just exactly sensitive.

628
00:30:51,200 --> 00:30:53,800
Speaker 3: But everyone has the same capacity, and all you have

629
00:30:53,880 --> 00:30:56,720
Speaker 3: to do is pay attention to yourself, learn how to

630
00:30:56,720 --> 00:31:00,480
Speaker 3: pay attention to yourself, and take the cues from your body.

631
00:31:00,640 --> 00:31:03,200
Speaker 3: Your body is giving you cues all day.

632
00:31:03,720 --> 00:31:08,280
Speaker 2: You know that we are exactly know cues telling us.

633
00:31:08,360 --> 00:31:11,000
Speaker 3: If we're if we like something, if we don't like something,

634
00:31:11,120 --> 00:31:13,480
Speaker 3: if something feels good, or if it doesn't feel good.

635
00:31:13,840 --> 00:31:18,360
Speaker 3: But because we have you know, relationships, if it's professional, personal, whatever,

636
00:31:18,520 --> 00:31:21,880
Speaker 3: we're always trying to appease other people in ways that

637
00:31:21,920 --> 00:31:24,880
Speaker 3: we aren't even aware of. So we'll act like something

638
00:31:24,880 --> 00:31:28,840
Speaker 3: feels good when it doesn't right, which doesn't serve us well,

639
00:31:29,240 --> 00:31:32,600
Speaker 3: you know. So yeah, it's really about being true about

640
00:31:33,000 --> 00:31:36,000
Speaker 3: your truthful with yourself about how you feel, and then

641
00:31:36,080 --> 00:31:39,280
Speaker 3: allowing you and paying attention to like all the nuanced

642
00:31:39,280 --> 00:31:41,320
Speaker 3: things that your body is always telling you.

643
00:31:41,680 --> 00:31:45,520
Speaker 2: Okay, ebany, if someone wants to talk more to you

644
00:31:45,840 --> 00:31:47,760
Speaker 2: or schedule a session, I know you said you do

645
00:31:47,880 --> 00:31:50,360
Speaker 2: things virtually as well. So I know a lot of

646
00:31:50,360 --> 00:31:53,040
Speaker 2: my listeners are all over the place. Where would they

647
00:31:53,320 --> 00:31:54,000
Speaker 2: find you?

648
00:31:55,360 --> 00:31:57,880
Speaker 3: The best place to find me is probably my Instagram,

649
00:31:58,440 --> 00:32:02,720
Speaker 3: which is act and intuitive ebony Ebo and I Rights,

650
00:32:03,880 --> 00:32:05,760
Speaker 3: and I also leave lots of tips on there. I

651
00:32:05,960 --> 00:32:09,120
Speaker 3: just started using Instagram in twenty nineteen. I barely used

652
00:32:09,160 --> 00:32:11,720
Speaker 3: it then I just started using it again. So it's

653
00:32:11,720 --> 00:32:14,360
Speaker 3: not a whole lot on there, but I'm using like

654
00:32:14,520 --> 00:32:16,640
Speaker 3: Instagram to share and get people tips.

655
00:32:17,640 --> 00:32:20,360
Speaker 2: So Instagram and then your website, right, and.

656
00:32:20,440 --> 00:32:22,960
Speaker 3: My website, yes, which is just my name, ebany bank,

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Speaker 3: stop me, ebo and I KS. That's where you can

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Speaker 3: book an appointment if you want to learn a little

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Speaker 3: bit more about me.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: If someone is or if anyone is listening and they

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Speaker 2: are just like, oh, I don't know if this is

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Speaker 2: the right thing for me, Like what would you say, Oh, if.

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Speaker 3: They don't know if it's the right thing for them,

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Speaker 3: I would say, wait until you know it's the right thing,

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Speaker 3: because I still just know. Yeah, yeah, wait until you're ready.

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Speaker 3: Because my sessions can be pretty intense. You know, your body,

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Speaker 3: your body holds every experience you've ever had. I had

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Speaker 3: another woman recently, when I touched her room, I could

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Speaker 3: feel her sexual assault, you know, and she had a baby,

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Speaker 3: and it's happened like ten years ago, and she's still

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Speaker 3: carrying this energy and was not expecting that to come

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Speaker 3: up at all in the reading. Yeah, so I will

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Speaker 3: pick up on things that you may not be ready

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Speaker 3: to address, you know, so I say wait until you're ready.

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Speaker 2: Okay, So if you start feeling curious now, now you know,

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Speaker 2: I'll put all of Ebany's information in the description of

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Speaker 2: this podcast if you do feel curious. I love this

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Speaker 2: kind of work. It has served me so well, and

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Speaker 2: again I think it's been a huge part of me

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Speaker 2: getting to know myself and my own story and listening

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Speaker 2: to my body and all of this things. So if

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Speaker 2: you guys are at all interested, I highly recommend going

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Speaker 2: to check it out. Ebani, thank you so much for

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Speaker 2: being here. It was so lovely meeting you.

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Speaker 4: Thank you.

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Speaker 2: Thank you guys for listening.

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