Speaker 1: What's at the clip service. I'm Angela Ye maguire, I'm
Speaker 1: Laura Maura Hey and a somarian. I'm so happy to
Speaker 1: be in the presence of the queens. He did. If
Speaker 1: you manage to get on Marian up here, because he
Speaker 1: does have a book out right now. I'm bothered that
Speaker 1: we use when um, when we be online and something happened,
Speaker 1: but we went to be unbothered. But for you, it's
Speaker 1: a real thing for sure, you know, and it's not
Speaker 1: what people might think it is. And you start off
Speaker 1: the book explaining what it means to be unbothered. Yes,
Speaker 1: and UM, I think that this is a power tool,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, and a guide to emotional intelligence,
Speaker 1: you know. Um, so far often you know what I mean,
Speaker 1: we are reacting to things that really don't surf us.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. When you're thoughtful, you take
Speaker 1: a step back and you decide to respond. It really
Speaker 1: serves a lesson and a blessing. So you know, this
Speaker 1: book is a tool for people that you know need
Speaker 1: a little help. You know. Um, I have journal props
Speaker 1: in there, I have mantras, I have breathing exercises, so
Speaker 1: we fully tap in and go in word. You know
Speaker 1: what I mean with this book. So if you're a
Speaker 1: book buff, or even if you just want to level up,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, grab the book. It's amazing.
Speaker 1: Now this is lip service. So how can these things
Speaker 1: help in the bedroom too? Yeah? It all works. You know.
Speaker 1: I would call that like really diving in. You know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying to the physical and mental experience of love.
Speaker 1: You know what I mean, Like we were talking about,
Speaker 1: you know earlier. You know what I'm saying in reference
Speaker 1: to love. In order to have those experiences and realize
Speaker 1: those things, you got to actually like who you're with,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. Um, it goes past the
Speaker 1: physical level. When you start doing breath work and you
Speaker 1: start you know, speaking, you know about the things that
Speaker 1: you know you collectively want, things you want to manifest.
Speaker 1: You can really get into some interesting things as far
Speaker 1: as you know, sex happen. You know, it's important who
Speaker 1: you decide to partner up with two for sure, because
Speaker 1: you always want to be with somebody that's going to
Speaker 1: help you also level up and and hope you not
Speaker 1: make bad decisions, you know, because sometimes you want to
Speaker 1: jump out there and respond to certain things, But if
Speaker 1: you have the right person, they'd be like all right
Speaker 1: now listen, Yeah, I think that the importance of you know,
Speaker 1: a relationship is a partnership. You know, it is a business,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. And in order to really
Speaker 1: get into the success of that, you got to have
Speaker 1: a lot of conversations, you know what I'm saying. You
Speaker 1: gotta just really be honest about where you are and
Speaker 1: you you know, the number one thing for me, you
Speaker 1: got to be accountable, you know what I'm saying. As
Speaker 1: uh as I'm matured, you know, um, just even entertaining
Speaker 1: somebody that can't even admit that they're wrong, Like I'm
Speaker 1: not interested in it, you know what I'm saying. So
Speaker 1: maturity has definitely showed me the benefit of like, you know,
Speaker 1: just really virobing with a person that's really on your level,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, Um, it really serves you both,
Speaker 1: you know saying. So Yeah, being in the music business
Speaker 1: from such a young age for yourself, right, did you
Speaker 1: ever get tired of be like I'm tired of all
Speaker 1: these girls Like I'm just you know, did you you
Speaker 1: did a little celibacy thing too, did a little three
Speaker 1: years it's not pregnant there like like three years were
Speaker 1: like you didn't come at all? And three like did you?
Speaker 1: Or is it like celebrate like with you with someone
Speaker 1: else because I know, well in the book my first
Speaker 1: year I actually had a girlfriend. Yeah, so um yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean the three years it kind of transformed into
Speaker 1: a few things for me. You know, it was really
Speaker 1: mainly because you know, at the young age, you know,
Speaker 1: when we came into the game, you know, this is
Speaker 1: how they got us to not be horrors. Basically, they
Speaker 1: would tell us the stories. And these stories would be
Speaker 1: like you know a very prominent entertainers. I ain't gonna
Speaker 1: name them, you know what I'm saying, And it would
Speaker 1: be these stories. He's like as a kid when you
Speaker 1: were here, you'd be like, what you know this girl,
Speaker 1: you know, he being with this girl and she trying
Speaker 1: to you know, used to come to get pregnant, and yeah,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. It was. It was things
Speaker 1: that when they show you that driving school and they
Speaker 1: show you like to add that highway and death movie rights,
Speaker 1: you got to be careful exactly. So we got that
Speaker 1: talk you know, early on. Yeah, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: So we we never you know, up until a time,
Speaker 1: you know what i mean, when it was time for
Speaker 1: us to have our experiences. But you know, we were
Speaker 1: like always had one girlfriend and stuff like that, you
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, until later on, you know what
Speaker 1: i mean. But my southern pacy looked like, you know,
Speaker 1: three phases. It was like the first phase, I had
Speaker 1: a girlfriend. I was trying to figure out that it
Speaker 1: was it was it was actually it was, uh, well,
Speaker 1: this is what she told me. She told me it
Speaker 1: was a beautiful thing for her because she was actually
Speaker 1: the opposite. She was more wild, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: So when we linked up, it was like not about sex,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. It was about affection and
Speaker 1: all that, but it was more it was about that
Speaker 1: in the book. Yeah, so it was more than it
Speaker 1: just the physical and and to be doing that at
Speaker 1: a young age was like unheard of, like for me
Speaker 1: to be that young and mature, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: So I think it worked for that year because she
Speaker 1: was turned up, you know what I'm saying. She was young,
Speaker 1: but she had experienced girls, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: So you know, when you kind of peeled that back
Speaker 1: and you realize where all that experience comes from. Sometimes
Speaker 1: it comes from trauma, you know what I'm saying. I've
Speaker 1: been saying like, oh, you don't know what that has
Speaker 1: let them to make decisions exactly and value whatever that
Speaker 1: it is in the way that they do. So what
Speaker 1: was PHAs two? Like Phase two was more like, Okay,
Speaker 1: I could do this, like I have power over myself,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, not even you know, to
Speaker 1: be with a woman, could you know, differ me from
Speaker 1: you know, my goals, you know what I'm saying. And
Speaker 1: that's that was more of like I would say, to
Speaker 1: speak to the competitive aspect of it or why it
Speaker 1: was interesting to me, and then the last aspect I
Speaker 1: would say it was spirituality, you know what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: because at this particular time, you know, I was diving
Speaker 1: into some other religions at that time, Jehova Witness religion,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, And it was interesting to
Speaker 1: me at the time because I had heard Prince with
Speaker 1: Jehovah Witness and then I knew Michael Jackson's mom was
Speaker 1: a Jehova Witness, So I just was intrigued, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean and Jehovah witness, I think or he
Speaker 1: might have just not want to give me no presence.
Speaker 1: I'm you know what if you dive deep into that,
Speaker 1: like and you really think about you know, how we
Speaker 1: ingest culture, you know what I'm saying, and the things
Speaker 1: that we like, the rituals that we practice, you know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, We ought to know what that is.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, like, we ought to know
Speaker 1: you know, what deities and things that we're serving, because
Speaker 1: essentially that's what we're doing when we're talking about st. Nick.
Speaker 1: Nobody knows it cares about sat Nick, but you know exactly. Yeah,
Speaker 1: So what was the point that made you realize, Hey,
Speaker 1: I that was it was? It was after. It was
Speaker 1: after I realized that it wasn't for me. And it
Speaker 1: wasn't for me because when I understood the thing about
Speaker 1: being like this fellowship from your family, you know, like
Speaker 1: when you're going through stuff like that, Like I couldn't
Speaker 1: recacile that because that's not how I was raised. How
Speaker 1: I was raised where very close to my family. So
Speaker 1: if something going on, you know, I gotta tell my
Speaker 1: land or I gotta you know, talk to her. She's
Speaker 1: the only person that's going to protect me, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean. So the thing that I just didn't
Speaker 1: agree with, you know what I mean, which I understand
Speaker 1: in the business frame, it's like, Okay, you don't want
Speaker 1: to associate with certain people to not mess up your business.
Speaker 1: But then you know, it becomes a conversation about religion
Speaker 1: versus spirituality. You know what I'm saying. That that's really
Speaker 1: what I was stepping in, and spirituality allowed me to
Speaker 1: just you know, view myself differently than how the world
Speaker 1: viewed it, you know what I'm saying, Like you know,
Speaker 1: all of my experiences or or like being with a
Speaker 1: slut or a hole, you know what I mean, and
Speaker 1: like understanding why they're that way, you know, accepting them
Speaker 1: from for who they are, you know, and a lot
Speaker 1: of religions kind of ostracized people, you know from yeah,
Speaker 1: forget it, even come to church exactly. So it was
Speaker 1: like the other side that kind of made me feel
Speaker 1: comfortable with like okay, you know what I mean. And
Speaker 1: it was interesting, you know what I'm saying. When I
Speaker 1: stepped back, Yeah, for sure, it was like my body
Speaker 1: turned into a kid again, like twelve years old, you
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, when you did decide to indulge
Speaker 1: in sex again, did you start a new relationship or
Speaker 1: was it it was it was my home girl, you
Speaker 1: knew him was comfortable with exactly. And that's a lot
Speaker 1: of times I think what women confuse things with men,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, because comfortability is a major part,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, of being able to open
Speaker 1: yourself up. You know what I'm saying. So for me,
Speaker 1: rather than like getting a girl courting her feeling like okay,
Speaker 1: she's nice enough, I'm doing all of these different tests,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. It was like with my
Speaker 1: home girl, was like yeah, yeah, if if it was
Speaker 1: if it was like three pumps and I'm out, she
Speaker 1: wouldn't be like you know what I talking. That's never
Speaker 1: been the situation. A three years elevancy. You wasn't come
Speaker 1: on now, you would come on? You definitely did three
Speaker 1: three years ago. Because let me tell you what do Okay,
Speaker 1: I believe, but let me I believe that he that
Speaker 1: he you know, really performed because I see it the
Speaker 1: opposite way is what y'all see it. Y'all see it
Speaker 1: is it was so much backed up that he had
Speaker 1: to hurry up and let it out. But I see
Speaker 1: that he connected with himself at different level eternally, that
Speaker 1: he was able to have his mind in the place
Speaker 1: that was connected with his body and able to really
Speaker 1: exactly he came in and went again and pretended he
Speaker 1: didn't come that first time. You got to be able
Speaker 1: to go back spiritual into mine. But when it's been
Speaker 1: a while and find somebody that my body just says, yes,
Speaker 1: somebody says, splash, listen, but your friend, it's your home girl,
Speaker 1: right like that? Like, was it something that y'all have
Speaker 1: been talking about? Was there an attraction with each other
Speaker 1: that y'all have already had sex in the past. Now,
Speaker 1: we never had sex, and it was just a flow.
Speaker 1: We was just vibing, you know what I'm saying, And
Speaker 1: it was a flow and we just was we was
Speaker 1: both like comfortable with open up, you know what I mean,
Speaker 1: And we just took it there, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: And it was cool. And I'm a very like I
Speaker 1: don't like pressure type of person, especially in places that
Speaker 1: I want to feel like most authentic and comfortable with,
Speaker 1: you know what i mean. Like I'm a very go
Speaker 1: with the flow type of person. So if the moment
Speaker 1: calls for it, then you know what I mean, and
Speaker 1: you're good, then we're good. How is your guys relationship
Speaker 1: after that? Like, did you guys try it again? Because
Speaker 1: they say sometimes it's hardy maintain that friendship. Yeah, break
Speaker 1: the seal. Well, I think that when we see each other,
Speaker 1: we definitely have like a type of mutual respect for
Speaker 1: each other, but it didn't transform into anything else. I
Speaker 1: think a lot of the time, you know, sexist for
Speaker 1: men and women, you know what I'm saying. And yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: I guess, Well, I mean not if you you know,
Speaker 1: if you have an intention, you know, and intention is clear,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. Um, I don't think men
Speaker 1: have clear intentions beyond just wanting to most of the time.
Speaker 1: And you know, I feel like that's true. They also
Speaker 1: try to sometimes tell you like they feel like they're
Speaker 1: not gonna be a way. They want to warn you,
Speaker 1: like like just so you know, I don't want this
Speaker 1: to be. But then sometimes they change to be done.
Speaker 1: That happened one time and this guy was like, look,
Speaker 1: I don't want anything serious, and then next thing, you know,
Speaker 1: he want me to be his girl. And I'm like
Speaker 1: what time I wasn't even looking at you like that
Speaker 1: because we had a whole convery because he didn't know.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, That's just what women have
Speaker 1: to understand the power to peak, you know what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: Because we're trying to figure it out. We gotta we
Speaker 1: gotta figure this out, you know what I mean. I
Speaker 1: don't want to feel this way, but damn, you're making
Speaker 1: me feel this, so let me tell you so. But
Speaker 1: then that didn't work so exactly, so you know, I
Speaker 1: think that you know, it does take time for a
Speaker 1: man to mature, you know what I'm saying. But when
Speaker 1: a man knows what he wants, you know what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: it ain't no question. Did you eat the booty like groceries?
Speaker 1: You know? You know I appreciate you and I can't
Speaker 1: let you in my bed At the point why no
Speaker 1: said yes, somebody's like, I can't tell you. That means
Speaker 1: I actually had that phase in my life where it's
Speaker 1: like if I sleep with you, we go together, like
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna sleep with you, Like I wasn't gonna
Speaker 1: give it up, but I'm not gonna lie. As I
Speaker 1: got older, it was times resident after I sleep with
Speaker 1: you and you know I didn't feel it, yeah, you know,
Speaker 1: and sometimes it was a chemistry there. Yeah, kind of
Speaker 1: changes things. Because have you ever been with somebody and
Speaker 1: you really like them, but then you sleep together. Oh
Speaker 1: my god, you're saying it and you just wish you
Speaker 1: could take your pussy bad. You never game. I got
Speaker 1: jumped over. So I was a town boy in middle school.
Speaker 1: I went to three twenty in Brooklyn, and I got
Speaker 1: jumped over my homeboy. Like you know, I was like tomboys.
Speaker 1: So all my friends, like all the guys like we
Speaker 1: would do crazy stuff like I was a boy, and
Speaker 1: I didn't know that my best friend liked me. His
Speaker 1: girlfriend even jumped me, and everything with her sisters, Like
Speaker 1: her sisters was like eighteen seventeen. I'll be dass at
Speaker 1: least hers and everybody. Wait while you were in middle school. Yeah,
Speaker 1: her sister was eighteen and she jumped in like I
Speaker 1: was fighting her, like I couldn't worry about everyone else.
Speaker 1: So you know, I was making sure I was taking
Speaker 1: care of her. But it was because my homeboy, who
Speaker 1: was to me my best friend, I didn't even look
Speaker 1: at him like that, liked me. So she didn't like that,
Speaker 1: so they jumped me or whatever, and I was like, like,
Speaker 1: I didn't even know he liked me, Like I didn't
Speaker 1: even to me. Literally, it was just this is my friend,
Speaker 1: and I'm in middle school, so I wasn't It's not
Speaker 1: like having sex or anything like were though, but again
Speaker 1: I was a townboy, like I wasn't seeking about having
Speaker 1: sex with him, and like that I didn't like him.
Speaker 1: I think that a lot of the times, you know,
Speaker 1: women don't understand that, you know, man like like women
Speaker 1: like their mama. So if you have a cool mom,
Speaker 1: like I have a cool mom, then like I actually
Speaker 1: like really cool chicks, you know what I'm saying, versus
Speaker 1: the opposite, you know, which would be like maybe chicks
Speaker 1: that want to be pursued in a specific way. So
Speaker 1: you didn't know, you know, but obviously you was a
Speaker 1: great friend, you know. After that, I found out that,
Speaker 1: you know, he was like, you know, I did, and
Speaker 1: I guess she picked that up. But still I was like, no,
Speaker 1: I don't like you. But then years later, as adults,
Speaker 1: I moved back to New York. That's when I moved
Speaker 1: back and we linked up again. It was like, okay, well,
Speaker 1: I guess let's try this. He was so small was there? Wait?
Speaker 1: What happened? His penis was so small? I was like
Speaker 1: all the time, it's the same side of it was
Speaker 1: in the middle school. That's I've never I was like,
Speaker 1: I have to my best friend. I was like, yo,
Speaker 1: could you believe, like after all these years and I'm
Speaker 1: telling you this, was like, now we're like y for
Speaker 1: this little thing. Though I thought some women prefer that. Nah,
Speaker 1: how someone like put up with it? Okay, Sam is
Speaker 1: only good for the butt? No, this is little. It's
Speaker 1: like the only good for an I was like, what
Speaker 1: you're in there and otherwise you know, we need a
Speaker 1: certain and and they're too big. It's my penises know
Speaker 1: they have small penis. They better because they don't ask
Speaker 1: you questions that like other guys asked you, like is
Speaker 1: it big? You know you love it? They don't even
Speaker 1: ask you that. They're just happy to be inside. I
Speaker 1: was like, I got jumped over this. If this this little, Now,
Speaker 1: imagine back then you really jump me. Now, Marian, being
Speaker 1: that you were so young when you first got in
Speaker 1: this business, did older women try to talk to you
Speaker 1: a lot, older women trying How did you handle that?
Speaker 1: I actually like it, you know what I mean, I'm
Speaker 1: not afraid to learn. So yeah, they never felt creepy,
Speaker 1: like Okay, I'm si nah No, you know what, I
Speaker 1: was the kind of kid that like brought flowers to
Speaker 1: my teachers and stuff like that. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: So I'm you know, I'm gonna score. Yeah, for sure,
Speaker 1: you were still going to school during this time, like
Speaker 1: when you were still in regular high school? What before two? Yeah?
Speaker 1: Um yeah, yeah. I went to ninth grade then my
Speaker 1: team grade year or summer. Then I was in the
Speaker 1: group and I never went back to a regular school.
Speaker 1: I was gonna say, this is no way you could
Speaker 1: have been in school doing nah yah know I was
Speaker 1: getting turned up in high school. She just would have
Speaker 1: been all in that. Teachers then the teachers we're not
Speaker 1: like the teachers are out teacher teacher yea. She said
Speaker 1: that after she got on Valley, when her old students
Speaker 1: and her a messing at d M. It's like now
Speaker 1: that I can't anything like that. Yeah, it wasn't too
Speaker 1: many sexy teachers that I came across, But as far
Speaker 1: as older women though, you know what I mean, it depends,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, the one thing that I
Speaker 1: can't appreciate about a woman is her reserve, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean, and her ability to understand. Sometimes the
Speaker 1: reserve is a bit too much, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: But for the most part, I'm interested in like having
Speaker 1: a peaceful time with a woman, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: And you know, um, when questions are asked, they are
Speaker 1: articulated in a way that you know, it could be
Speaker 1: some open dialogue, you know. I mean, they don't have
Speaker 1: to just be like judgment, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: So now let me ask you this being that, like
Speaker 1: I said, you were really young when you first got
Speaker 1: started you in the group. How old were you? Like? Sixteen? Yeah?
Speaker 1: When we started when, um, I was fourteen, but we
Speaker 1: got signed, I was like sixteen. Yeah, So you did
Speaker 1: you ever before that? Did you want to be so low? Um?
Speaker 1: I was. I was preparing. I was preparing to be
Speaker 1: so low. I was like a rapper actually, and I
Speaker 1: was a part of this rap who called the Wild
Speaker 1: Kingdom and um yeah, Wild Kingdom, yeah, the Wild king Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: that's all I got my name with Marion Actually, yeah,
Speaker 1: I was a bunch of I was around a bunch
Speaker 1: of older dudes. You know what I'm saying, That's how
Speaker 1: I've always been for me, you know what i mean, mature.
Speaker 1: So yeah, like I didn't. Actually I started singing because
Speaker 1: my mom was like, Mario, I think you should sing,
Speaker 1: you know. I was like, why mine? She was like,
Speaker 1: because it sings to get all the girls. She knew
Speaker 1: I would like to get you going. Did your mom
Speaker 1: like any of these girls when you were younger? Like,
Speaker 1: did you bring them home? Yeah? Yeah, a few of them.
Speaker 1: She liked a few of them. She like, like she's
Speaker 1: hard critic. She said she liked April in the beginning.
Speaker 1: She did. Yeah, everybody loved April in the beginning. You know.
Speaker 1: I mean, like, how do you think that being on
Speaker 1: reality TV? You think that affected things? For sure? For sure,
Speaker 1: I think that affected the trajectory, you know, just of
Speaker 1: you know, the mindset and what was available, you know,
Speaker 1: just as far as like you know, a place that
Speaker 1: she feels like she could make something of herself. You
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, Like maybe if it was a
Speaker 1: different platform, you know what I mean, Um, it would
Speaker 1: have just transformed differently. But it's like, you know, I
Speaker 1: have a love hate relationship with reality TV because I
Speaker 1: know how it works, and I know that a lot
Speaker 1: of the times, you know, people making up stories, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean, they're not really trying to transform themselves,
Speaker 1: you know I'm saying. And the few that are, you know, um,
Speaker 1: they don't know enough about the entertainment business to like
Speaker 1: really you know, transform it into something productive for our culture,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. Those that do know where
Speaker 1: they're going with it, it gets overshadowed by all of
Speaker 1: the stories, you know, exactly to keep people engage. Yeah,
Speaker 1: And it's just like, yo, life is more than like,
Speaker 1: you know, these issues, you know what I'm saying, Like
Speaker 1: what about you know, getting through the and like what
Speaker 1: happens after that, you know what I'm saying, and the
Speaker 1: healing that goes on between that. So that's why reality
Speaker 1: TV never really worked for me, you know what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: Because I was actually being vulnerable and open and sharing
Speaker 1: the moment with my public you know what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: that with the people that have grew up with me
Speaker 1: as an artist, you know what I'm saying. So it was,
Speaker 1: like you said, like the vulnerability got overshadowed and through
Speaker 1: the moments, you know what I'm saying, even though I
Speaker 1: was still able to amplify my brand. You know, essentially
Speaker 1: I created a platform for someone to kind of bad
Speaker 1: mouthed me, you know what I'm saying, and do me wrong,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. But it's like, hey, you
Speaker 1: know that come with it. It had the potential to
Speaker 1: be good. It did. It was It was It was
Speaker 1: because it's like, okay, you know when you guys doin
Speaker 1: because I feel like all the time they're trying to
Speaker 1: reinvent that show and make it seem like, Okay, we're
Speaker 1: gonna bring some credible you know people are here, but
Speaker 1: then the drama happens. Yeah, because it's not really authentic.
Speaker 1: It's just like people think enough for opportunity, you know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. And it's like, you know, me and
Speaker 1: her was authentic, you know what I'm saying. And that's
Speaker 1: the real gift of you know, entertainer of performer, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean, to be able to like live
Speaker 1: it out in front of everybody. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: I would say that's the true mark, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean an entertainer. You think you have trust issues
Speaker 1: now because You've been through a lot when it comes
Speaker 1: to trust, when it comes to being in the group,
Speaker 1: when it comes to people that you thought were around
Speaker 1: you to benefit you and then instead it was a
Speaker 1: lot of behind the scenes tearing things apart, and then
Speaker 1: even being in a relationship and things like that. How
Speaker 1: hard is it for you to trust someone? I would
Speaker 1: say that at one point in time I did have
Speaker 1: trust issues, but you know, I'm elevated now. I just
Speaker 1: realize how to identify, you know, with people that have
Speaker 1: good intentions and people that don't. You know what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: Like I could feel it, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: It's happened to me so many times that you know,
Speaker 1: now I'm connected to it in a way that it's
Speaker 1: just like my life flows into a direction where you know,
Speaker 1: I'm around people that I deserve to be around, you
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. Um, And I think that that's
Speaker 1: so important. You know, when we all take a step
Speaker 1: back in our lives and we just you know, speak
Speaker 1: to our value. It's just like, if you're valuable, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean, then you know you you can
Speaker 1: be you can be open enough to be valuable to
Speaker 1: someone else. You know, what I'm saying, and it's powering
Speaker 1: that and too far often like we all, you know,
Speaker 1: get hurt and we kind of lose that that human
Speaker 1: aspect to our lives, you know what I'm saying, and
Speaker 1: essentially doesn't do good for you, you know, because you
Speaker 1: don't you don't let nobody in, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: So I see the importance of trusting people, but I
Speaker 1: also see the importance of protect myself and like being
Speaker 1: cautious and you know what I mean, um, just being aware,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, because you know it could
Speaker 1: happen once, you know what I mean, but the second
Speaker 1: time it's swing you for real reasons. In lifetime, like
Speaker 1: you say, and there's people, and I feel like as
Speaker 1: you get older, you choose better. Well you're supposed to.
Speaker 1: You should, because you know, some people will say new
Speaker 1: new friends, but the people that are meant to be
Speaker 1: in your life. You don't have to be loyal to
Speaker 1: people just because you've known them a long time. Sometimes
Speaker 1: those people are toxic to you. And then some people
Speaker 1: that you know will stand the test of time. You know,
Speaker 1: we've all known each other a really long time and
Speaker 1: managed to and we've never had any issues with each other,
Speaker 1: and so some people will grow with you and some
Speaker 1: people will fall off and fall out. But you can't
Speaker 1: try to force it if it's not meant to be.
Speaker 1: Right now, let me ask you this, So when you
Speaker 1: guys were younger, how was it like being on the road.
Speaker 1: Did you guys compete over women? You know how sometimes
Speaker 1: it might be on the show or on the road
Speaker 1: and then there's a girl. Everybody's like, I wanna talk
Speaker 1: to her, Like, how did that work? Were there are
Speaker 1: times that somebody would try to get somebody from someone else,
Speaker 1: so bring someone back to the room, but you were
Speaker 1: talking to her first. Well, um, from my perspective, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean, you know, coming into the group
Speaker 1: and just realizing everybody had their own different swag, you
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, Like, you know, that's kind of
Speaker 1: like how it was, you know when young girls would
Speaker 1: come around. Like for me, my position was just like,
Speaker 1: you know, choose up, you know what I'm saying, because
Speaker 1: I'm not really to like go after you type, you
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. I'm more like I appreciate who
Speaker 1: appreciates me, you know what I'm saying. And I back
Speaker 1: back then that's the kind of person I was, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean, Like I think that you know,
Speaker 1: we have maybe like some of the same girls, you know, naturally,
Speaker 1: you know, especially talented girls that were like coming into
Speaker 1: our space that like had more to offer than you know,
Speaker 1: just like a look you know what I mean, Like, oh, yeah,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, like Jennifer Freeman, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean, Like naturally, our interest you know, we're
Speaker 1: talking about kids, child actors, our interests in the script
Speaker 1: was that we had to like each other, you know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, Like that was the role we had
Speaker 1: to play. So it was so natural for us to
Speaker 1: like each other, you know what I'm saying, like, because
Speaker 1: that was the vibe, you know what I mean. Now,
Speaker 1: you know, aside from the work, I wasn't going to
Speaker 1: be the person that was just like, oh I need
Speaker 1: to like call you more than this person calling you
Speaker 1: because this person like you, this person calling DIBs on you,
Speaker 1: and Nika just did a little stupid stuff like that,
Speaker 1: you know, as kids, you know what I mean. But
Speaker 1: because I listen, I've been around, like you know, worked
Speaker 1: for a lot of different people, and I've seen that
Speaker 1: happen where it's competitive, Yeah, no, I like, I like
Speaker 1: for a chick to choose me. I feel like that's more,
Speaker 1: that's more of my speed, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: Like it could be a lot of handsome guys in here,
Speaker 1: but what you want, you know what I mean, because
Speaker 1: you know what you're interested in? You know why am
Speaker 1: I interesting to you? You know what I mean? So
Speaker 1: I'm more of that person energetically, you know, than anything
Speaker 1: like I'm not into Okay, Yeah, I'm the lead singer,
Speaker 1: so you you know, I get the number one quti
Speaker 1: in the room like you might be feel him. You know,
Speaker 1: you don't gotta be my you know. You know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. What if someone else likes a girl but
Speaker 1: she likes you, and then like how does that work?
Speaker 1: You know? Because you gotta let the woman choose. You
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. You got for real, you gotta
Speaker 1: let her choose. You know what I'm saying, because, um,
Speaker 1: it is what it is at that point, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean. It's not like a conversation. It ain't
Speaker 1: like ohd me versus you and I'm trying to size
Speaker 1: you up and yeah it's like yo, she bob with you? Cool,
Speaker 1: It's it's I mean, there's so many beautiful people on
Speaker 1: the planet, like, for real, for real, even I'm not,
Speaker 1: you know, some women's only option, you know what I mean,
Speaker 1: Like I would be silly to think that I'm their
Speaker 1: only option, Like any guy, you know, no matter what
Speaker 1: you bring in to the table, you know what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: It's all about what the woman wants. You're okay with
Speaker 1: dating a woman who's dating other people? Um, defined dating.
Speaker 1: I'm talking on the phone a lot, you know, going out,
Speaker 1: spending time together, having sex, okay, um, but not not
Speaker 1: in a verbally committed relationship. But it feels like we
Speaker 1: really like each other. Well, that's kind of a tricky question,
Speaker 1: just because you know, I I know women, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean, And when't they're really intrigued and interested
Speaker 1: in something, you know, they're data, They're not necessarily open,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, unless that's just how they are.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, That either have to just
Speaker 1: be that way or have been that way, you know.
Speaker 1: But what I find with most women, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean, if they really vibing with you, then you
Speaker 1: know they're gonna communicate that to you. You know, where
Speaker 1: you guys land that's a different thing, you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. Um, for me, I wouldn't say that I
Speaker 1: necessarily date, you know, because you know, it obviously takes
Speaker 1: me time to get to know someone. And I believe
Speaker 1: that to truly get to know someone, Like we're not
Speaker 1: talking three three to six months, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: We're not talking about even three years. You know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. It takes a real time to really develop
Speaker 1: something with someone, you know what I mean. So I
Speaker 1: don't like to give myself a time limit on that,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. If I want to move
Speaker 1: into a more serious agreement, then you know, it's a conversation,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. But I haven't been in
Speaker 1: that position yet to um have a more serious conversation
Speaker 1: until last time you had a one nice stand. Um,
Speaker 1: let me think about that. No, not really, not really,
Speaker 1: not really no, Because it's like, if you really want
Speaker 1: to have a consistent kind of experience, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean, Like you gotta vibe, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: You can't just be like, oh, you know, nice ass,
Speaker 1: big big tits, you know what I'm saying, Like it
Speaker 1: gotta be some fight they gotta be some dialogue, like
Speaker 1: I gotta at least, yeah, I at least gotta be
Speaker 1: able to tell you what I'm gonna do and you
Speaker 1: like it, you know what I mean, Like, Oh, I
Speaker 1: never had that happen. Yeah, you know what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: So what could that be? Now? No, I'm just I'm
Speaker 1: just chilling. You know. Being a single father, you know,
Speaker 1: UM makes it a little you know, more difficult. You know.
Speaker 1: I mean a lot of a lot of women want
Speaker 1: to move into something very serious with me very fast.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, and you know they're kind
Speaker 1: of put off that sometimes that I'm not um in
Speaker 1: that space, you know what I'm saying, because I bring
Speaker 1: so much to the table, you know what i mean, Like,
Speaker 1: how do you eat in exactly? That's a great question,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. I let the energy you
Speaker 1: know I have in the past. You know what I'm saying. Um,
Speaker 1: but no, hell no, I'm not. I just I'm just
Speaker 1: getting shout out to the tender heads. You know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. Yeah, No, I can't. I can't do that.
Speaker 1: I can't do that. I think that, Um, in order
Speaker 1: for someone to you know, understand who I am and
Speaker 1: what it is that I'm doing, you know, because I'm
Speaker 1: first generation wealth and I always explain that to women.
Speaker 1: You know what I mean, because I has to do
Speaker 1: directly with my focus and my communication. You know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying, Hey, I'm first generation wealth builder. You feel me.
Speaker 1: So if you can't be patient with me, you know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, you can keep it moving. It's being
Speaker 1: patient with you because a lot of men say that, like,
Speaker 1: be patient with me. Being patient is being able to,
Speaker 1: you know, ask the right question to garner some level
Speaker 1: of understanding and being able to adequately articulate your position
Speaker 1: so you can you know, because some women, which this
Speaker 1: is I despise that some women feel like they're running
Speaker 1: out of time. You know, like I e. A woman
Speaker 1: that doesn't have kids versus someone that has kids. You
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. It's like, oh, you're rushing to
Speaker 1: have kids because you're like and how I feel it.
Speaker 1: But but is it though? You know what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: there's so many women that you know, it's like, just
Speaker 1: on your story on where you at. Don't try to
Speaker 1: force where you think you need to be, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean. Even though it's lessons in that, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean? Um, what I find you know
Speaker 1: serves us more just you know, realizing where we are
Speaker 1: and while we're here and where we want to go.
Speaker 1: People get so stuck on societies standard of beauty be
Speaker 1: where they think it would be and how they think
Speaker 1: they should and it's just like, just be you let
Speaker 1: your ship flow, and I promise you with your life
Speaker 1: would be so much better. Period. You stop worrying about
Speaker 1: what everybody else takes standards of what you think you're
Speaker 1: supposed to be exactly, And that's how I live my life,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? Just like, Yo, you know
Speaker 1: what we're doing right now? You know what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: Like are we vibing or it's just physical? Okay? Cool?
Speaker 1: Then you know what I mean. We could do that
Speaker 1: until we feel like we need to have a conversation
Speaker 1: about going further. Okay, what can you contribute? You know
Speaker 1: what I mean? What can I contribute? You know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying, Like, what can we do? Because I'm definitely
Speaker 1: not interested in being you know, a boyfriend? You know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, somebody that because I like you and
Speaker 1: you que and what we got going is nice right now?
Speaker 1: That I'm like fully supporting your brand, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean. Um, if it's in a real investment, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean. We got to talk about the terms.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, period, agreement, period, it's a business,
Speaker 1: it is. Vacation is the key to all success and happiness.
Speaker 1: You said communicate, but vacations help to Yeah, communication, vacation,
Speaker 1: unication and everything in friendship and family, in all relationships, like,
Speaker 1: communication is key. And that's where I think everything lacks
Speaker 1: is people don't have clear communication or understanding of perspectives.
Speaker 1: And um, I saw a post where they somebody was like,
Speaker 1: I kind of want from the jump when we date,
Speaker 1: give me all your traumas, let me know what's going on,
Speaker 1: because I think that's how you best know a person
Speaker 1: and you're able to understand all the trauma. I'm not
Speaker 1: doing that from the post, and I din't understood where
Speaker 1: it was. It's like that. For you to understand a person,
Speaker 1: you gotta understand where they come from. You gotta understand
Speaker 1: their past, you gotta understand, you know what's going on
Speaker 1: for you to fully understand the perspective, like you shouldn't
Speaker 1: fully understand some when when you first meet them, you
Speaker 1: gotta like grow the post. I don't agree with that
Speaker 1: that was the post. Let me take my trauma, because
Speaker 1: I would run if somebody sits head know that was
Speaker 1: the post. But I do feel after a certain amount
Speaker 1: of time, like you send a lot of people, you
Speaker 1: don't understand them because you don't know where they come from.
Speaker 1: You don't understand what they've been. People don't even know
Speaker 1: their own trauma though sometimes, you know, sometimes like a
Speaker 1: lot of a lot of people don't though, because there's
Speaker 1: a lot of things that you might not realize. I
Speaker 1: feel this way because this happened to me, you know,
Speaker 1: until I started therapy then. And it is true that
Speaker 1: like a lot of people try to put their best
Speaker 1: foot forward when they meet somebody that's like the representative.
Speaker 1: That's what you always get the representative at first, of course,
Speaker 1: as you should, yeah, because that was the honeymoon phase.
Speaker 1: That's when you're just like having fun. You know, it's
Speaker 1: kind of more at that point, superficial, until you feel
Speaker 1: like you could trust somebody enough to like I think
Speaker 1: I think that too, But I feel like it gives
Speaker 1: room for you to grow, and it gives room for
Speaker 1: you to actually, like for me. You know, it's hard
Speaker 1: to be uh like uber romantic because I know the
Speaker 1: full extent and effect that it has on someone's life,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. So it's like you want
Speaker 1: to be mindful of that. You can't just do that
Speaker 1: in the beginning. What do you school? Super romantic to
Speaker 1: any woman? To any woman is something that means something
Speaker 1: to her, you know what I'm saying, Something that deeply
Speaker 1: touches her, Like, give us an example. That's something the
Speaker 1: most important period dowtful gifts. Um, I feel like the
Speaker 1: most important ones are the extensive relationships, you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying, So like maybe a parent or you know,
Speaker 1: figuring out you know, how to I don't know, let
Speaker 1: me think about an example. Um, but what's something for
Speaker 1: you that's been romantic romantic? Uh? Make this book with
Speaker 1: me and my kids like of like all memories like
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, since they were one of
Speaker 1: until their age like something like that. That's why I'm
Speaker 1: saying something very intimate to that person. You know what
Speaker 1: I mean that you know that's just like oh yeah,
Speaker 1: the heart string it like yo, Because there's nothing you
Speaker 1: can't buy yourself. So yeah, and certain experiences to you know,
Speaker 1: like certain women haven't had certain experiences, so like first timers,
Speaker 1: that's a big thing too, you know, But thoughtful gifts,
Speaker 1: like you said, is uh is the supreme you know
Speaker 1: gift to to give anyone, you know what I mean? Definitely,
Speaker 1: When do you think that you learned how to um
Speaker 1: properly be intimate? Because I feel like when guys are young,
Speaker 1: you all don't really know what you're doing until you
Speaker 1: get to us and you're like, Okay, this is how
Speaker 1: you make a girl squirk, you know what? Yeah, I
Speaker 1: mean I think that there is you know, a mental
Speaker 1: and physical aspect to this. You know that only you know,
Speaker 1: either you you're learning from an older man, you know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, or you actually mature into and you know,
Speaker 1: obviously a stronger aspect of you know, the society is
Speaker 1: like at this point in time, it's like you can
Speaker 1: learn everything on you. Yeah, but so you had like
Speaker 1: tell you what to do, like this is how you
Speaker 1: gotta Yeah, I mean I around the air hustle doing
Speaker 1: that conversation. No, I definitely you know, learned some things,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. But I also was very curious,
Speaker 1: you know, I remember my mom, you know, she used
Speaker 1: to work at this harrisalon in Hollywood called Afros in Hollywood,
Speaker 1: And it was like the first time that a right
Speaker 1: across the street was like this adult store, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean. And me and my brother was just
Speaker 1: like walk into adults store like being a little badass kids.
Speaker 1: And that was like the first time I've seen like, oh,
Speaker 1: wait a minute, she is busting it wide open and
Speaker 1: she is handling this like this, hold on now. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so that was kind of like my introduction that's the
Speaker 1: worst way for guys to learn how to have sex. Yeah, not,
Speaker 1: I wouldn't. I wouldn't say it's completely a waste, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean, just because just because there is
Speaker 1: a physical aspect and intention that goes into pleasing a woman,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. Like if most women you
Speaker 1: know complain about not coming, you know what I mean,
Speaker 1: but they're watching poor you know, he he mes, you
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. But but like I said, as
Speaker 1: you mature, you realize that, like sex isn't just physical,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. So you know, but if
Speaker 1: I wouldn't have you know, learned learned that, then you know,
Speaker 1: I would say that my intimacy, you know what I
Speaker 1: mean would probably not be so potent, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean when I decided to love a woman, to
Speaker 1: be intimate with a woman, you know what I mean,
Speaker 1: Like it's like, wait a minute, hold up, this is different. Yes, yes, baby,
Speaker 1: do you remember the first time I girl squirted? It? Um? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I think I think squirting is it's cool. I'm not,
Speaker 1: I'm not really I don't really like that. I think
Speaker 1: I think because it's sometimes you know, you know, certain
Speaker 1: women they're mixing it with the p you know what
Speaker 1: I mean. Okay, yeah, see that's why I know I
Speaker 1: didn't like it, because the material, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: The material and the consistency of it, you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying, and depending on what you're drinking, you know,
Speaker 1: pH whatever, you know what I'm saying. But I would say,
Speaker 1: to make a woman cry, that's that's different. That you
Speaker 1: have sex you cry, like that's something that's like emotional emotional.
Speaker 1: Have you have you cried during sex? I have when
Speaker 1: I like cried, like he saw me cry, but like
Speaker 1: I love this person so much, and my like when
Speaker 1: I skirt, like I'm not squirt with everyone, but when
Speaker 1: I spurt, it's like that that the chemistry, and it's
Speaker 1: just a feeling that's there. Um. But with my ex,
Speaker 1: who I was with for a while, I did cry.
Speaker 1: But I think it was more because it was so
Speaker 1: emotional for me because I love this person so much
Speaker 1: and we had such great cremistry in bed, and it's
Speaker 1: just like in that moment, it was like, how could
Speaker 1: you do me? I don't know, it was just crazy,
Speaker 1: Like it wasn't like happy. It was a happy cry. Yeah,
Speaker 1: more than once. Actually, Yeah, it wasn't like I had to.
Speaker 1: I've had that happy cry and why I've spared it
Speaker 1: a whole lot of times too, And never were their tears. Yeah,
Speaker 1: when I don't laugh, when I square, I don't think.
Speaker 1: I don't think crying. It wasn't like happy cry. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I haven't had a so in love and I feel
Speaker 1: like this, yeah everything right now? Emotional. Yeah, that's what
Speaker 1: That's what I'm referring you shrooms? No, this was before
Speaker 1: the shroom. So you cried during sex? No? No, I
Speaker 1: never cried. Do you want to? You said you never
Speaker 1: cried a period? No? No, I mean, of course I've
Speaker 1: been doing sex yea, yeah, No, you got to let
Speaker 1: it out. Sometimes you don't want it to build up
Speaker 1: over time, you know, I mean, you gotta let it,
Speaker 1: let it tear out. Um. But as far as sex goes, no,
Speaker 1: But I have felt incredibly intimate, you know, like when
Speaker 1: I created my son. You know that was definitely one
Speaker 1: of those moments overwhelming loving. Oh wait a minute, hold up,
Speaker 1: my lord. Yeah, you feel like that with both your kids,
Speaker 1: like you knew, Um, it was different what I may
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, It was always love, but
Speaker 1: you know it was more intense the first time for sure.
Speaker 1: But my baby is just so special, so you know
Speaker 1: I would definitely, you know, um say that love. It
Speaker 1: was more more of what I you know, put into
Speaker 1: that situation than anything because they're awesome. Did you fall
Speaker 1: out of love? You can fall out love for some
Speaker 1: people feel like once you're in love, you love that
Speaker 1: person forever. Like you know that you gotta update, you
Speaker 1: gotta update your love, baby, love and love you could,
Speaker 1: I mean, you could love someone because if you've been
Speaker 1: through so much and like real love, this is the
Speaker 1: greatest gift my children. I like, I could not not you,
Speaker 1: but I'm not in love with you, and I think
Speaker 1: in love is the part that keeps in love. It's done.
Speaker 1: I'm over it. Yeah, that you for falling and that's
Speaker 1: everybody getting all personal. Yeah, I'm in love with myself,
Speaker 1: my kids and everybody around me that loving me right
Speaker 1: now and just come on, you know I love with
Speaker 1: this oxygen that's keeping me alive. You want to get
Speaker 1: married one day? No, marriage is not for me, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean. The custom and it's not it's
Speaker 1: not a it's not a good business move for me,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. But I am all for
Speaker 1: a good um. Yeah, I wouldn't want to get married.
Speaker 1: You know. Well, first of all, let me just say,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean to be able to go
Speaker 1: and sign an agreement, you know what I mean to
Speaker 1: the courthouse to validate my love or to validate how
Speaker 1: I'm gonna show up in your life, Like it just
Speaker 1: doesn't equate to the type of love that I have
Speaker 1: to give. Some people feel like for legal purposes, like
Speaker 1: it's something happens to somebody. Yeah, that's already protecting yourself.
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know, you know, that's not how
Speaker 1: I was raised. You know what I'm saying. I wasn't
Speaker 1: raised you know, in a home where it was like
Speaker 1: marriage you know, was a you know, a status symbol.
Speaker 1: You know, it's none of love, is none of those
Speaker 1: things that it is for the idea of marriage for me,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. So that's the real reason
Speaker 1: why it's you know, even in the business you know
Speaker 1: aspect you know, uh, to really wealthy man, you know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, that I have a mass you know, billions.
Speaker 1: You know that is their worst business move, you do
Speaker 1: a prenup. Yeah, I mean I always thought that way,
Speaker 1: like your young adult into well, I never I never
Speaker 1: grew up seeing a marriage really work like happily, you know.
Speaker 1: I mean, I've always just seen people put up with
Speaker 1: each other, you know what I'm saying. So it's like
Speaker 1: not a lot like more people kind of like I think,
Speaker 1: staying married because they feel like it's the right thing
Speaker 1: to do, or gotten married because ever reason, or they're
Speaker 1: not that happy. That's what I'm saying, and I want
Speaker 1: I would never do that to myself. I would never
Speaker 1: be with somebody that I don't like. That's just torture,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. Somebody that I don't vide
Speaker 1: with my own love. I don't not even want to,
Speaker 1: like share the same bed with you for real, but
Speaker 1: you could be with somebody forever, just you don't feel
Speaker 1: like you have to get married. No, no, we won't
Speaker 1: because you bean monogamous. Like with one person, I feel
Speaker 1: like I could want to be. I feel like I
Speaker 1: could want to be are supposed to be? I feel
Speaker 1: like I want to be. But if I'm being honest,
Speaker 1: like I don't know in the physical aspect, I don't know,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, I don't know that one
Speaker 1: woman has made me feel like just on a mental
Speaker 1: and a physical level, like damn, I don't even need
Speaker 1: no nothing else, Like I've never felt like that, you
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. No woman for sure when you
Speaker 1: get older, yeah maybe maybe. But you know what I
Speaker 1: don't know. You know, I'm I'm pretty you know, sounding
Speaker 1: my energy, you know what I mean. It's you know,
Speaker 1: for a woman to have to deal with me, you know,
Speaker 1: she got to be a special type of woman you
Speaker 1: know that deals with energy in a in a way,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. So yeah, we'll see. But
Speaker 1: you know, I really feel like the true definition of
Speaker 1: love is acceptance. And you know, for me, a relationship
Speaker 1: is about that. So it's like I want to be
Speaker 1: chosen to be loved in that way. I don't want
Speaker 1: to be like, yeah, we together, you love me, I
Speaker 1: love you, and that's what it is. Like. I want
Speaker 1: her to be like I don't even folk what this
Speaker 1: nigga do. He can't do nothing but love me, because
Speaker 1: that's what I want. You know what I'm saying. And
Speaker 1: it's just like, damn, what are you gonna do to that?
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. As long as it ain't toxic,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, and as long as it's
Speaker 1: authentic and it really comes with you know, um, those
Speaker 1: kind of intentions, and that's that's a love that I
Speaker 1: want for sure. That's a love that i'll keep, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean, And that you're married and that
Speaker 1: I will What if what if she has more than
Speaker 1: you as a business and arrangement, Like let's just say
Speaker 1: that she's wealthy, then that's a good. Yeah, for sure,
Speaker 1: then you'll get married. I would give no baby about
Speaker 1: the cheese, because you ain't about the cheese. The cheese
Speaker 1: is you know, just some means. Yeah, you know, it's
Speaker 1: just some means to be able to say, hey, look
Speaker 1: meet me and you know you meet me here, meet
Speaker 1: me there, you know. But for the most part, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean, I want to be supportive, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean, even if there are business ideas,
Speaker 1: because I feel like whoever you know, I end up with,
Speaker 1: she'll have great ideas too. So it's like yo, if
Speaker 1: we you know, Polly and and she's like, yo, baby,
Speaker 1: we need to up Like all right, I'll put up
Speaker 1: at like I would love to do that with a woman,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, because that's really an exercise
Speaker 1: in the value of the relationship, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: So I'm interested in stuff like that. If she got
Speaker 1: more bands, you know, because of her family or something
Speaker 1: like that, or just or her hard work, you know
Speaker 1: what i mean. Now now, now give us out nows.
Speaker 1: Now you know, everybody got their own thing, you know,
Speaker 1: currency chase and that's a two black line. Um. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but hey, you know, to each his reach, you know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. Um, I don't know if that would
Speaker 1: particularly be my um you know, um, definitely something to
Speaker 1: have fun with, you know what I mean, But maybe not,
Speaker 1: you know, uh, the end all be all, you know,
Speaker 1: And I hate no women to have that hustle. You
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, Um, it's just energetically different, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean for someone like me. You know,
Speaker 1: we gotta say, O'Ryan was on there doing jumping jacks.
Speaker 1: I spent wrong. What did you say to him about that? Like?
Speaker 1: Were you what do you? Would you make jokes? I mean, well,
Speaker 1: you know, as we all we made jokes on each other.
Speaker 1: You know, I walked in the room and start doing
Speaker 1: jumping jackson up. You know what I mean. But it's
Speaker 1: all good. That video out to the thing about the
Speaker 1: thing about us, you know what I'm saying, Um, particularly
Speaker 1: my brother that you know, he has a way of
Speaker 1: expressing his sexuality, you know, and I would like to
Speaker 1: add as a masculine man, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: A lot of the times women feel like that looks
Speaker 1: like um promiscuity, but it's not. You know, just like
Speaker 1: women expressed themselves, you know, men want to express themselves
Speaker 1: to you know, Prince did that. You know what I mean.
Speaker 1: It's so many people's favorite artists at a time. That's
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. He was able to express you know, himself,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. And masculine men want to
Speaker 1: you know sometimes you know, just like y'all put your
Speaker 1: ass out there on the line. Sometimes, you know, you
Speaker 1: want to put the problem. Man, let it know, Like, hey, baby,
Speaker 1: I'll hit you in the head with this motherfucker. Okay,
Speaker 1: so just you know, I have a picture of Laura
Speaker 1: getting hit on the head with Oh my god. Now
Speaker 1: we were set me up. We were I was hosting
Speaker 1: like a male review show. I was like, just she
Speaker 1: was like, whatever you do, don't test it. He was
Speaker 1: a bump. Oh, you know, he took you to Chinatowns.
Speaker 1: Have you ever sent out a picture of yourself to
Speaker 1: a lady like you never sent to Dick Pick. Yeah,
Speaker 1: in the past for sure. Yeah. But because you know,
Speaker 1: I like to uh, I like to talk. I like
Speaker 1: to you know, speak certain things. Yeah. No, not just
Speaker 1: through pictures, but like you know, real life. Yeah, like, hey,
Speaker 1: you're ready to you know, handle the stick. Yeah, he's
Speaker 1: going to tell her what he gonna do to her.
Speaker 1: You didn't hear that part, didn't wait, But but you
Speaker 1: know these not only tell her, but it's hard to
Speaker 1: send pure I mean, you just gotta own it. You
Speaker 1: just gotta own it, you know, and you gotta make
Speaker 1: It's a good picture. Yeah, get your right angles. Shut
Speaker 1: out angles are very important. The background, the hair. You
Speaker 1: gotta make sure it's manicured. You gotta make sure everything
Speaker 1: is looking nice. Do you ask and shine? No, I
Speaker 1: don't shave man skate a little trim, you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. Clippers keeping a little trim, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean? Little feeling you can tell you because about
Speaker 1: the way he didn't right, because I'm pretty, I'm like
Speaker 1: a hairy person, So you know what I mean. I'd
Speaker 1: like to definitely you know what I mean. It's very courtey,
Speaker 1: right because I'm gonna be like, hell no, I don't right.
Speaker 1: So you've sent out these pictures. So the angle got
Speaker 1: to be from under here or from up here. If
Speaker 1: you got the right tool, then all the angles is good.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. It hits an If you
Speaker 1: got the right tools, then you know you know, I mean,
Speaker 1: there's definitely more angles that serve you better. You know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. Like I would say the upward angle.
Speaker 1: Upward angle always looks bigger. Upward angle, I would say
Speaker 1: the side side angle. You know what I'm saying, Um
Speaker 1: the above you feel me? Side corner? You feel and
Speaker 1: we all like a little like a little you know curve, Yes, no,
Speaker 1: curves are curves are nice if it's too big, like
Speaker 1: if if it's too big, it could hurt a little
Speaker 1: to me. Like a hook, it's a curb. I don't
Speaker 1: know about a hook, a whole hook, like a slight,
Speaker 1: slight little bit. It's okay, you know, straight up and
Speaker 1: down is good too. So I was like to a
Speaker 1: guy the other day, Um, actually walked into a conversation
Speaker 1: he was having someone and he was saying, Now, I
Speaker 1: was gonna say, he didn't get circumstances until he was
Speaker 1: a teenager. Can you imagine what that must be like you?
Speaker 1: How do you know he did it too? Yeah? I
Speaker 1: think I got and I think I spoke about it. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I got it later on in life when my son
Speaker 1: was born. And its completely useless, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: Like he talked him a lot. He said it made
Speaker 1: it more sensitive. Yeah, I mean some people say that.
Speaker 1: Some people say it makes you less sensitive and more desensitized.
Speaker 1: You know what I mean? Um, But anyway, I thought
Speaker 1: about you when he said it did clearly, Please don't
Speaker 1: think about me in that way, think about you, not
Speaker 1: think he said a woman he was dating told him
Speaker 1: he should do it. Yeah. I think I think that's
Speaker 1: because you know, that is you know, societies, you know, um, standard,
Speaker 1: But yeah, if you really know where it comes from,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, Like in the in the
Speaker 1: religion aspect, you know what I mean. Yeah, I mean,
Speaker 1: you know, in the Jewish aspect, that's a that's the
Speaker 1: custom that they have, you know. Yeah. So it's like
Speaker 1: when you really think about what you're doing, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean, and you're like, wait a minute, hold up,
Speaker 1: this but this is how we naturally born, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean, Like, this is how the dick comes.
Speaker 1: The dick comes like this when you tell them that. Yeah, yeah, period,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. So you know, um, but hey,
Speaker 1: you know I went on and went to the other side.
Speaker 1: I would say less sensitive. Yeah, I would say less sensitive.
Speaker 1: You know. I think it's because you did it later
Speaker 1: on in life or what now? Um? Yeah, No, I
Speaker 1: don't know. I think it's different for everyone. You know,
Speaker 1: everybody has a different kind of sensitivity. You know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. Um, not necessarily you clean, it's prettier huh um, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean it looks more like what what we know
Speaker 1: women want, because yeah, that's had. I've had more than
Speaker 1: one experience with the uncircumcised penis, and I had a
Speaker 1: really good experience with the uncircumcised the second time. The
Speaker 1: first time, I was like, what then, because you know,
Speaker 1: I was young and I wasn't you know, that experience
Speaker 1: with penises at all, So I just really didn't wasn't
Speaker 1: expecting that were prepared for that. But the second time,
Speaker 1: it was actually nice, Like it was it was a
Speaker 1: situation with that guy for a while, and that wasn't
Speaker 1: any type of thought or it was almost at the
Speaker 1: point where like I would be sucking his dick and
Speaker 1: forget that that was happening. It was so did you
Speaker 1: just have to get a warning? I had a time
Speaker 1: like just so you know, because she said the guy
Speaker 1: she was caught off guard. Yeah no, no, I'm pulling out. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I didn't get a morning guy either. But again I
Speaker 1: was much older and much more experienced sexually, so I
Speaker 1: under stood happened. In the first time, I was just
Speaker 1: what was happening? I know it looked funny, it looked
Speaker 1: like an elephant because we used to it, right, I
Speaker 1: mean the custom too of how everyone is kind of
Speaker 1: like program to be like yeah, but in other cultures
Speaker 1: they're not like that, Like I know certain Spanish cultures
Speaker 1: like that. You know, they coming as they are right, Yeah,
Speaker 1: and the women right, it's like a BBL for your
Speaker 1: penis kind of that's more like a more like a
Speaker 1: penis tuck. Yeah, penis tuck tucked the skin off. All right.
Speaker 1: I know you have a lot going on because you
Speaker 1: are doing a lot of press around you, but but
Speaker 1: I do want to thank you so much for coming
Speaker 1: and have a good time with that. We really did
Speaker 1: enjoy Yeah, no doubt, thank and I definitely appreciate this book. Um,
Speaker 1: I'm like almost done. I'm finishing on my way home
Speaker 1: on the plane. But it was refreshing. Definitely was here
Speaker 1: because yeah, it wasn't not what I expected because I
Speaker 1: didn't know what to expect. Um, but I learned a
Speaker 1: lot about you and your upbringing and who you are
Speaker 1: as a man, and I appreciate you sharing that it's
Speaker 1: something that's that they needed. So I hope people have
Speaker 1: the same reaction that I did, because I felt like
Speaker 1: this is something that we should Would you do a
Speaker 1: retreat after this, like would you plan to do like
Speaker 1: some type of retreat to teach people more about you know, mind,
Speaker 1: body and soul, spirituality and things like that. Yeah, so
Speaker 1: we're actually doing an Unbothered book tour, and there is
Speaker 1: a series of things that I take you through. Some breathwork. Um,
Speaker 1: we do some affirmations together, and we also do a
Speaker 1: sound bath. I don't know if you've got that. I
Speaker 1: just did that for the first time. So we do
Speaker 1: a sound but yeah, that's good. You need to passed out.
Speaker 1: But why don't you end with some affirmations for us? Okay,
Speaker 1: let's let's pull it from the book. Let's do like this. Okay,
Speaker 1: and I know which one I want to use. Yes, okay,
Speaker 1: this is the being Unbothered meditation. Okay. Now, usually sit
Speaker 1: in you know, comfortable position, you know what I mean?
Speaker 1: Then I do, and then let's do this all right,
Speaker 1: And now we're gonna do three breaths before we do
Speaker 1: this in hell or more. Now this last one real deep.
Speaker 1: I am walking away from toxicity. Be unbothered. Sometimes we
Speaker 1: go far from people who deserve very little. Be unbothered.
Speaker 1: I am willing to find a new way or make
Speaker 1: one be unbothered. I am disrupting ignorance with clarity. Be unbothered.
Speaker 1: I will gather my thoughts, be honest with myself. Be unbothered.
Speaker 1: I know now all that matters is what's meant for me.
Speaker 1: Be unbothered. I know that something are meant to be,
Speaker 1: but not meant to last. Be unbothered. I stand firm
Speaker 1: in my truth like a rock, undisturbed and unmoved. Be unbothered.
Speaker 1: Ignorance and rudeness crave attention and acknowledgement. Be unbothered. There
Speaker 1: we go. Amen, Amen, thank you so much. That's amazing.
Speaker 1: I feel bad for some of the questions earlier. Let's
Speaker 1: Service