1 00:00:02,240 --> 00:00:05,400 Speaker 1: It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if 2 00:00:05,400 --> 00:00:08,879 Speaker 1: you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more, 3 00:00:09,280 --> 00:00:13,080 Speaker 1: please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com. 4 00:00:13,119 --> 00:00:15,520 Speaker 1: All you have to do is go and click submit 5 00:00:15,640 --> 00:00:18,520 Speaker 1: Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter live Pop 6 00:00:18,520 --> 00:00:20,400 Speaker 1: Pop on the air, just like we're going to read 7 00:00:20,440 --> 00:00:22,680 Speaker 1: this one right here, right now. We need your letters. 8 00:00:22,720 --> 00:00:25,720 Speaker 1: We want to help you, okay, never know, this letter 9 00:00:25,760 --> 00:00:28,880 Speaker 1: could be yours, all right, it could be buckle up 10 00:00:28,880 --> 00:00:31,120 Speaker 1: and hold on tight. We got it for you. Here 11 00:00:31,160 --> 00:00:34,240 Speaker 1: it is Strawberry Letter. Thank you, nephew. Subject they don't 12 00:00:34,280 --> 00:00:37,879 Speaker 1: see what I see. Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm dating a wealthy, 13 00:00:38,080 --> 00:00:43,320 Speaker 1: handsome and very powerful man. He is a popular motivational 14 00:00:43,360 --> 00:00:47,120 Speaker 1: speaker and life coach online and in our small community. 15 00:00:47,479 --> 00:00:50,120 Speaker 1: We've been together for close to five years, and he 16 00:00:50,159 --> 00:00:53,320 Speaker 1: gave me an engagement ring last month to stall me 17 00:00:53,479 --> 00:00:58,360 Speaker 1: out as its popularity grew its personality group. I don't 18 00:00:58,400 --> 00:01:00,360 Speaker 1: know the man that I live with now, and his 19 00:01:00,400 --> 00:01:03,640 Speaker 1: followers don't see what I see. He's gained a little 20 00:01:03,640 --> 00:01:07,240 Speaker 1: weight over the years, so recently he had his body done. 21 00:01:07,520 --> 00:01:11,200 Speaker 1: He had liposuction and injections in his pecks to look 22 00:01:11,240 --> 00:01:14,880 Speaker 1: a look a lot more buff in his dress shirts. 23 00:01:15,560 --> 00:01:18,720 Speaker 1: He's had his hairline restored and he's gotten his teeth fixed, 24 00:01:19,000 --> 00:01:21,199 Speaker 1: which was a must for me when we first met. 25 00:01:21,680 --> 00:01:24,600 Speaker 1: He uses a texturizer in his hair now so it 26 00:01:24,680 --> 00:01:29,120 Speaker 1: appears curly. The changes have all happened gradually, and I'm 27 00:01:29,120 --> 00:01:32,560 Speaker 1: trying to encourage him to grow old gracefully. We're both 28 00:01:32,640 --> 00:01:36,000 Speaker 1: fifty four, and his constant need to look better has 29 00:01:36,080 --> 00:01:39,760 Speaker 1: me wondering if I measure up through his standards, then 30 00:01:39,840 --> 00:01:42,160 Speaker 1: there's the other part of him that I have to 31 00:01:42,200 --> 00:01:46,120 Speaker 1: live with. He has this newfound sexual prowess, and he 32 00:01:46,280 --> 00:01:50,160 Speaker 1: started being demanding when we're intimate, like I'm there only 33 00:01:50,200 --> 00:01:53,400 Speaker 1: for his pleasure. It makes me think he's cheating, and 34 00:01:53,520 --> 00:01:57,040 Speaker 1: the side pieces catering to him trying to impress him. 35 00:01:57,160 --> 00:02:00,200 Speaker 1: There's a lot swirling in my head, and I don't 36 00:02:00,200 --> 00:02:02,800 Speaker 1: know if I should even pursue marriage with him. He's 37 00:02:02,800 --> 00:02:05,480 Speaker 1: a drinker, and the other day I saw a tinge 38 00:02:05,600 --> 00:02:08,840 Speaker 1: of red around his scotch glass and he told me 39 00:02:09,080 --> 00:02:11,760 Speaker 1: it was his lip bomb. He showed it to me 40 00:02:11,800 --> 00:02:15,200 Speaker 1: and I was appalled to see my man wearing tinted 41 00:02:15,240 --> 00:02:18,240 Speaker 1: lip bomb. I do know he wears makeup for video 42 00:02:18,280 --> 00:02:22,480 Speaker 1: appearances and he washes it off right afterwards. Do I 43 00:02:22,560 --> 00:02:25,120 Speaker 1: let him be who he really wants to be? Or 44 00:02:25,160 --> 00:02:27,120 Speaker 1: do I fight for the man I fell in love with? 45 00:02:27,520 --> 00:02:30,480 Speaker 1: Is it a phase or will his fame continue to 46 00:02:30,600 --> 00:02:36,519 Speaker 1: control him? There's a lot going on in this letter. 47 00:02:36,560 --> 00:02:38,840 Speaker 1: I don't even know if you're asking the right questions. 48 00:02:39,120 --> 00:02:42,679 Speaker 1: I'm not quite exactly sure what you're upset about, though. 49 00:02:42,720 --> 00:02:44,480 Speaker 1: I mean, you've been with this man, like you said 50 00:02:44,520 --> 00:02:47,880 Speaker 1: in the letter, for close to five years. Now, you're engaged, 51 00:02:47,960 --> 00:02:50,280 Speaker 1: and one would think you know that you'd be heading 52 00:02:50,320 --> 00:02:53,080 Speaker 1: toward marriage. But you say he put a ring on 53 00:02:53,120 --> 00:02:57,960 Speaker 1: it to stall you out. Well, there's one way to 54 00:02:58,000 --> 00:03:00,959 Speaker 1: find that out, and that's to just set a date 55 00:03:01,040 --> 00:03:03,800 Speaker 1: and start planning the wedding. If he doesn't, If he 56 00:03:03,880 --> 00:03:06,000 Speaker 1: did it just to stall you out, and he doesn't, 57 00:03:06,120 --> 00:03:08,880 Speaker 1: you know, have anything to say about a date or 58 00:03:08,880 --> 00:03:11,280 Speaker 1: anything like that, then you know that may answer that 59 00:03:11,360 --> 00:03:15,280 Speaker 1: question for you. But is that really what's got you tripping? 60 00:03:15,480 --> 00:03:18,360 Speaker 1: I mean, you say this man is wealthy, handsome, powerful, 61 00:03:18,520 --> 00:03:21,919 Speaker 1: very popular motivational speaker online and in your small town, 62 00:03:22,840 --> 00:03:25,520 Speaker 1: which means sounds like he's got the money to make 63 00:03:25,600 --> 00:03:27,800 Speaker 1: himself look better. I mean, if that's what he wants 64 00:03:27,800 --> 00:03:31,960 Speaker 1: to do, women do it all the time. Breast lifts, reductions, enhancements, 65 00:03:32,240 --> 00:03:35,080 Speaker 1: base fillers. You know, women do all that kind of stuff. 66 00:03:35,080 --> 00:03:39,800 Speaker 1: Booty injections, tommy tucks, weaves, extensions, lasses, lashes. The list 67 00:03:39,880 --> 00:03:42,600 Speaker 1: goes on and on. You get the picture. So what's 68 00:03:42,640 --> 00:03:44,800 Speaker 1: wrong with him tweaking a few of his flaws to 69 00:03:44,880 --> 00:03:47,200 Speaker 1: make himself feel better? If that's why he's doing it. 70 00:03:47,280 --> 00:03:50,120 Speaker 1: I think you're worried about the wrong things. I really do. 71 00:03:50,440 --> 00:03:53,640 Speaker 1: I mean, you're mad because he texturized his hair and 72 00:03:53,720 --> 00:03:57,640 Speaker 1: now it's curly. Girls love curls. I mean maybe that's 73 00:03:58,320 --> 00:04:01,640 Speaker 1: I don't know, Maybe that's what going growing older gracefully 74 00:04:01,720 --> 00:04:04,840 Speaker 1: means to him. And you said he's doing it gradually. 75 00:04:05,400 --> 00:04:07,560 Speaker 1: I think you should be careful because it sounds like 76 00:04:07,680 --> 00:04:12,320 Speaker 1: your insecurities are showing. You said you don't measure up. 77 00:04:13,600 --> 00:04:16,200 Speaker 1: I think you do measure up. I mean, since he 78 00:04:16,320 --> 00:04:19,600 Speaker 1: proposed to you, that means he wants to marry you. 79 00:04:19,640 --> 00:04:22,600 Speaker 1: And I think instead of getting your guest list together 80 00:04:22,640 --> 00:04:25,560 Speaker 1: and all of that you're talking about, you know, all 81 00:04:25,600 --> 00:04:27,920 Speaker 1: these things that are swirling in your heads. Well, they're 82 00:04:28,000 --> 00:04:31,599 Speaker 1: negative thoughts about your fiance, and you need to stop 83 00:04:31,640 --> 00:04:35,000 Speaker 1: because you're about to talk yourself out of marrying him altogether, 84 00:04:35,160 --> 00:04:38,640 Speaker 1: and you know you want to be his wife. You do. 85 00:04:39,360 --> 00:04:42,120 Speaker 1: I just think you've got to stop this. I don't 86 00:04:42,120 --> 00:04:45,880 Speaker 1: think you have too much to complain about. Steve. Well, 87 00:04:48,400 --> 00:04:53,360 Speaker 1: as usual, Shelley's correct in some of the things she said. 88 00:04:53,400 --> 00:04:59,440 Speaker 1: I don't agree a hundred percent, But to me, I 89 00:04:59,520 --> 00:05:03,839 Speaker 1: gotta take a different approach to this because lady lady 90 00:05:04,080 --> 00:05:11,560 Speaker 1: late the words of this food on our show, Ladies, Ladies, ladies, 91 00:05:15,040 --> 00:05:19,160 Speaker 1: they don't see what I see. What hell they can now? 92 00:05:19,240 --> 00:05:22,920 Speaker 1: When I read this letter, I thought they was talking 93 00:05:22,960 --> 00:05:28,120 Speaker 1: about us. For a minute. Yeah, think that, and I'm 94 00:05:28,160 --> 00:05:31,080 Speaker 1: I'm gonna point out the three of us that's on 95 00:05:31,160 --> 00:05:35,200 Speaker 1: this show, the three men on this show. How I 96 00:05:35,240 --> 00:05:39,200 Speaker 1: was getting a little concerned about this letter because I 97 00:05:39,360 --> 00:05:45,440 Speaker 1: thought they was talking about us. I'm dating that takes 98 00:05:45,480 --> 00:05:50,560 Speaker 1: me out. Then they said, a wealthy, handsome and very 99 00:05:50,640 --> 00:05:58,400 Speaker 1: powerful man. Well they bought me right back. Yeah, he's 100 00:05:58,400 --> 00:06:05,280 Speaker 1: a popular motivational speech. Once again, I'm thinking, here I go. Yeah, 101 00:06:05,960 --> 00:06:09,440 Speaker 1: and a life coach take me out. I don't really 102 00:06:09,440 --> 00:06:17,400 Speaker 1: give a damn what you do with your life? You out? 103 00:06:17,400 --> 00:06:21,120 Speaker 1: Are you? We we ended out this letter and in 104 00:06:21,240 --> 00:06:28,640 Speaker 1: our small community. That's Tommy. That's where I come in. 105 00:06:28,839 --> 00:06:31,159 Speaker 1: We've been together for close to five years. He gave 106 00:06:31,200 --> 00:06:34,919 Speaker 1: me an engagement reading last month. That's Junior. Something Junior 107 00:06:35,000 --> 00:06:39,640 Speaker 1: need to look into doing to stall me out as 108 00:06:39,720 --> 00:06:44,760 Speaker 1: his popularity grew once again, that's Junior. Hang on, Steve, 109 00:06:44,880 --> 00:06:48,920 Speaker 1: hang on, Yeah, coming up for twenty three minutes after 110 00:06:48,960 --> 00:06:51,400 Speaker 1: the hour of the subject. They don't see what I see. 111 00:06:51,440 --> 00:06:54,480 Speaker 1: We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening 112 00:06:54,720 --> 00:06:58,400 Speaker 1: to Steve Morning Show. All right, come on, Steve, let's 113 00:06:58,400 --> 00:07:01,880 Speaker 1: recap today's Strawberry letter. This subject is they don't see 114 00:07:02,160 --> 00:07:04,840 Speaker 1: what I see. I really don't have response to this 115 00:07:04,920 --> 00:07:06,600 Speaker 1: lady until I get to the end. But I'm gonna 116 00:07:06,600 --> 00:07:08,479 Speaker 1: tell you how I thought the letter was about me, 117 00:07:08,720 --> 00:07:13,200 Speaker 1: Tommy and Julie. So let's just walk down through this letter. Hi, Shelly, 118 00:07:13,600 --> 00:07:17,480 Speaker 1: Stephen Shelley, I'm dating now that took me out, Okay, 119 00:07:18,080 --> 00:07:22,640 Speaker 1: A wealthy, handsome and very powerful man that drugged me 120 00:07:22,720 --> 00:07:27,520 Speaker 1: right back in it. He's a popular motivational speaker. I'm 121 00:07:27,680 --> 00:07:33,240 Speaker 1: very nervous at this point, and a life coach. I 122 00:07:33,280 --> 00:07:35,560 Speaker 1: got back out because it once again, I don't give 123 00:07:35,600 --> 00:07:39,920 Speaker 1: a damn what you do with your life online and 124 00:07:40,120 --> 00:07:47,960 Speaker 1: in our small community. Now we're talking Tommy small community. 125 00:07:48,480 --> 00:07:54,760 Speaker 1: I'm thinking a tiny house developed me. We've been together 126 00:07:54,800 --> 00:07:56,800 Speaker 1: for close to five years, and he gave me an 127 00:07:56,800 --> 00:07:59,680 Speaker 1: engagement ring last month. That says junior now, because this 128 00:07:59,800 --> 00:08:03,200 Speaker 1: is a move the junior needs to make. Okay, Tommy 129 00:08:03,200 --> 00:08:08,480 Speaker 1: and I can't participating now as his popularity group. That's 130 00:08:08,600 --> 00:08:17,160 Speaker 1: Junior again. His personality group, that's Junior again. I don't 131 00:08:17,240 --> 00:08:19,920 Speaker 1: know the man that I live with now, and his 132 00:08:20,040 --> 00:08:24,000 Speaker 1: followers don't see what I see. That's all of us, okay, 133 00:08:24,120 --> 00:08:26,920 Speaker 1: because don't none of our follows know what everything there 134 00:08:27,080 --> 00:08:30,880 Speaker 1: is to see. He gained a little weight over the 135 00:08:30,960 --> 00:08:38,559 Speaker 1: years now that's me and Tommy. Yeah, yeah, I've gained 136 00:08:38,559 --> 00:08:41,760 Speaker 1: molding him so I'm feeling like his back on me now. 137 00:08:42,679 --> 00:08:47,200 Speaker 1: So recently had his body done. I'm out of that. 138 00:08:50,320 --> 00:08:55,880 Speaker 1: You scared us with that. He had liposuction and injections 139 00:08:55,960 --> 00:08:59,280 Speaker 1: in his picks to look a lot more buffed than 140 00:08:59,400 --> 00:09:06,720 Speaker 1: his dress shirt. I am willing to look into that 141 00:09:07,880 --> 00:09:18,040 Speaker 1: injections hill. He's had his hairline restored now, Junior, Yeah, 142 00:09:18,080 --> 00:09:25,000 Speaker 1: I need to look into that. Yeah, when you fire 143 00:09:25,080 --> 00:09:27,920 Speaker 1: out from well, I can tell you when it's time 144 00:09:28,040 --> 00:09:31,480 Speaker 1: when your head sets is on your head and just 145 00:09:31,800 --> 00:09:40,439 Speaker 1: even with your headlines. Yeah, had his hairline restored and 146 00:09:40,520 --> 00:09:49,000 Speaker 1: he's gotten his teeth fixed. We all know that, which 147 00:09:49,080 --> 00:09:51,800 Speaker 1: is a must for me. When we first met, he 148 00:09:51,920 --> 00:09:54,720 Speaker 1: uses a text a riser in his hair. Now that 149 00:09:54,800 --> 00:10:00,240 Speaker 1: ain't nobody but jun he be having his little curl ass. Yeah, 150 00:10:00,440 --> 00:10:06,440 Speaker 1: that's the text, so it appears curly and it me 151 00:10:06,440 --> 00:10:10,199 Speaker 1: and Tommy out of this now and the changes of 152 00:10:10,280 --> 00:10:12,760 Speaker 1: all happened gradually. I'm trying to encourage him to grow 153 00:10:12,840 --> 00:10:16,520 Speaker 1: old gracefully. Were both fifty four. I'll be damn. We're 154 00:10:16,600 --> 00:10:22,439 Speaker 1: back on Tommy and his constant need to look better 155 00:10:22,559 --> 00:10:28,160 Speaker 1: has We're back on Tommy. Well, we're back on all 156 00:10:28,200 --> 00:10:31,600 Speaker 1: of us. To be honest, I constant need to look 157 00:10:31,640 --> 00:10:35,319 Speaker 1: better has me wondering if I measure up to his standards. 158 00:10:36,600 --> 00:10:38,600 Speaker 1: Then there's another party that I have to live with. 159 00:10:39,080 --> 00:10:42,880 Speaker 1: He has his new found sexual prowess, and he started 160 00:10:42,920 --> 00:10:45,840 Speaker 1: being demanding when we're intimate. I don't know the brother's 161 00:10:45,920 --> 00:10:49,200 Speaker 1: intimate lives, so I can't speak on that I'm there 162 00:10:49,280 --> 00:10:51,720 Speaker 1: only for his pleasure, and it makes me think he's 163 00:10:51,800 --> 00:10:56,160 Speaker 1: cheating and his side peace is catered to him. Now 164 00:10:57,080 --> 00:11:00,199 Speaker 1: we're gonna lead us from a loan. There's a lot 165 00:11:00,280 --> 00:11:02,120 Speaker 1: swirling in my head and I don't know if I 166 00:11:02,160 --> 00:11:05,640 Speaker 1: should even pursue marriage with him. What are you? Who 167 00:11:05,640 --> 00:11:08,400 Speaker 1: are you married? You're trying to convince this man to 168 00:11:08,480 --> 00:11:13,599 Speaker 1: growl gracefully, gracefully he's not. Now you didn't found a 169 00:11:13,760 --> 00:11:16,640 Speaker 1: tenser red around his Scotch glass. Now he didn't told 170 00:11:16,640 --> 00:11:19,640 Speaker 1: me it was his lip balmb. He showed it to me, 171 00:11:19,679 --> 00:11:22,680 Speaker 1: and I was appalled to see my man wearing tinted 172 00:11:22,760 --> 00:11:26,679 Speaker 1: lip bomb. Well, now we have another problem. He'd had 173 00:11:26,760 --> 00:11:31,800 Speaker 1: breasting plants, he'd had lipol sucks, and now he wearing 174 00:11:31,920 --> 00:11:40,520 Speaker 1: lipstick then breasting plants. You know what that's he didn't 175 00:11:40,520 --> 00:11:46,080 Speaker 1: got his body done and he got lace front. He 176 00:11:46,200 --> 00:11:51,920 Speaker 1: got a lace front. They called it hair restoration. So 177 00:11:52,200 --> 00:11:58,000 Speaker 1: now who you fitting? Man? Hallo? You don't see the 178 00:11:58,080 --> 00:12:03,120 Speaker 1: letter I see. This is starting to look like a 179 00:12:03,200 --> 00:12:08,800 Speaker 1: sex change. I'm just pointing out what I saw in 180 00:12:08,880 --> 00:12:12,559 Speaker 1: a lot of them. I ain't knocking it. I don't 181 00:12:12,160 --> 00:12:18,800 Speaker 1: I do know he wears makeup, tad, but you wear 182 00:12:18,920 --> 00:12:23,080 Speaker 1: makeup for television. Yeah, well, but we didn't get breasting plants, 183 00:12:23,120 --> 00:12:25,320 Speaker 1: got the lace front and got anybody done with some 184 00:12:25,440 --> 00:12:27,839 Speaker 1: light bulbs such and probably got new booty put on two. 185 00:12:27,880 --> 00:12:31,320 Speaker 1: She don't even know that. Yeah, so now he didn't 186 00:12:31,320 --> 00:12:34,360 Speaker 1: got all that? Man, How do I fight for the 187 00:12:34,440 --> 00:12:36,360 Speaker 1: man I'm in love with? I got news for you, 188 00:12:36,679 --> 00:12:42,480 Speaker 1: Your man no more? He is not anybody's man right now. 189 00:12:43,600 --> 00:12:46,760 Speaker 1: He's having some other thoughts. Please leave us your comments 190 00:12:46,800 --> 00:12:50,080 Speaker 1: on today's letter. And oh, by the way, man, he's 191 00:12:50,120 --> 00:12:55,880 Speaker 1: gone on Instagram and what do you mean gonna marry him? 192 00:12:56,200 --> 00:12:59,360 Speaker 1: Steve HARVEYFM dot com and check out the Strawberry Letter 193 00:12:59,440 --> 00:13:02,839 Speaker 1: podcast on demand. Thank you, Steve. Coming up next to 194 00:13:02,960 --> 00:13:05,880 Speaker 1: a sports talk with Junior at forty six minutes after, 195 00:13:06,000 --> 00:13:09,440 Speaker 1: We'll be right back. You're listening to the Stave Harvey 196 00:13:09,480 --> 00:13:10,079 Speaker 1: Morning Show.