WEBVTT - Happiness And Joy

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<v Speaker 1>Hello there, I'm Delilah. I'm excited to be able to

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<v Speaker 1>talk with you on this podcast and get your feedback

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<v Speaker 1>on both my Facebook page and my website Delilah dot com.

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<v Speaker 1>Whatever is easiest for you, and I hope you'll do

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<v Speaker 1>what I do. When I sit down and get a

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<v Speaker 1>chance to connect with you, Pall, I'm in the studio.

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<v Speaker 1>I make myself a cup of Twining's Tea of London.

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<v Speaker 1>There's so much thought and passion in making all the

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<v Speaker 1>flavors and the varieties of Twinings tea that is available

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<v Speaker 1>to you. There's more than one that's perfect for you.

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<v Speaker 1>I bet start by choosing the flavors that sound most

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<v Speaker 1>appealing and then experiment in making just the perfect cup

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<v Speaker 1>of tea. I'm holding my cup of Twinings Tea right

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<v Speaker 1>here right now. In fact, it's English breakfast, but it's

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<v Speaker 1>the decalf kind. They have it in Caffea decaff and

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<v Speaker 1>because it's late at night, I went for the decalf

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<v Speaker 1>Twining Stea of London is found in my favorite supermarkets,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm sure yours look for Twinings Tea of London.

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<v Speaker 1>And right now I want to talk about happiness and joy.

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<v Speaker 1>Happiness and joy. The two kind of sound alike, and

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of people use the two words interchangeably. But

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<v Speaker 1>there is, in my mind anyway, a huge difference, a

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<v Speaker 1>monumentally huge difference between being happy and experiencing happiness and

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<v Speaker 1>having joy. And I want to talk about that, and uh,

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<v Speaker 1>and you can. You can decide how you feel about it.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not saying this is a fact. I'm not saying

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<v Speaker 1>I'm right or wrong, but this is this is what

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<v Speaker 1>I have determined in my life. Happiness is a feeling

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<v Speaker 1>of elation, a feeling of goodness, a feeling of um

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<v Speaker 1>completion when circumstances are right, when things come together in

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<v Speaker 1>the right way. You feel happy when you wake up

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<v Speaker 1>and the sun is shining and your backs not hurting,

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<v Speaker 1>and the kids managed to get out the door for

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<v Speaker 1>school on time without spilling milk all over the table,

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<v Speaker 1>and you know your your cat hasn't thrown up on

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<v Speaker 1>the floor. You're happy when you go to work and

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<v Speaker 1>your coworkers are friendly, and your boss compliments you and

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<v Speaker 1>maybe even gives you a promotion. You're happy. Happiness is

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<v Speaker 1>something you experience when circumstances or situations come together and

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<v Speaker 1>you're not stressed or you're not angry, or you're not frustrated.

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<v Speaker 1>You may feel happiness when some buddy that you care

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<v Speaker 1>about brings you flowers or leaves you a card, or

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<v Speaker 1>calls you or text you to compliment you. These things

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<v Speaker 1>make you happy, but joy is completely different from happiness.

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<v Speaker 1>Joy is what you experience even when things don't come

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<v Speaker 1>together the way you want. Joy is something you experience

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<v Speaker 1>when you are at peace in your heart with yourself,

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<v Speaker 1>when you know that you know that you know in

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<v Speaker 1>the very core of your being, that you have great worth,

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<v Speaker 1>that you are precious, that you are wonderful, wonderfully made,

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<v Speaker 1>that you are a creation, and that the one who

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<v Speaker 1>created you has a great plan for you. Joy is

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<v Speaker 1>something you experience when you are at peace with yourself,

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<v Speaker 1>when you have made amends for your mistakes, your lies,

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<v Speaker 1>your the times you broke someone's heart, when you've made amends,

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<v Speaker 1>when you've owned your stuff, and when you are content

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<v Speaker 1>knowing that each day you are doing the best that

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<v Speaker 1>you can do to make the world a better place.

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<v Speaker 1>You have joy. You wake up with joy. You go

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<v Speaker 1>to sleep feeling joyful, even when situations are not good,

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<v Speaker 1>even when they're not perfect, even when the waiter doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>bring you the right pizza. Even when your car breaks down,

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<v Speaker 1>the washing machine stops working, the kids put dish so

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<v Speaker 1>the kind that makes bubbles in the dishwasher and broke

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<v Speaker 1>the new dishwasher right after it's out of warranty. Even

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<v Speaker 1>when those things happen, even when God calls someone you

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<v Speaker 1>love home, even when God calls your child filed home,

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<v Speaker 1>you can still experience joy in the midst of your

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<v Speaker 1>sorrow or your frustration. I know, trust me. I know.

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<v Speaker 1>Happiness is something we experience based on circumstances or situations.

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<v Speaker 1>So when those circumstances change or those situations change, our

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<v Speaker 1>happiness changes. But joy, joy is something that is everlasting,

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<v Speaker 1>and even when our circumstances change, we can still experience joy.

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<v Speaker 1>I know. Like I said, the two words are sometimes interchangeable,

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<v Speaker 1>and I interchange them all the time. But when when

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<v Speaker 1>you are searching for happiness. There was a movie several

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<v Speaker 1>years ago, the Pursuit of Happiness. Loved the movie, but

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<v Speaker 1>that phrase, the pursuit of happiness. When you are ever

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<v Speaker 1>in the pursuit of happiness, you're never really satisfied. You

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<v Speaker 1>might be temporarily. A lot of people are in the

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<v Speaker 1>pursuit of happiness. Uh. Professionally, they think, when I get

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<v Speaker 1>this education, when I finished college, when I get a

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<v Speaker 1>new job, when I get the right job, when I

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<v Speaker 1>get a raise at my job, when I get a

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<v Speaker 1>better boss at my job, when I get my own

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<v Speaker 1>desk at my job, blah blah blah blah, then they'll

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<v Speaker 1>be happy, or they are happy temporarily with each improvement,

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<v Speaker 1>but then when life changes, they're not happy anymore. A

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<v Speaker 1>lot of people, a lot of people I know, spend

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<v Speaker 1>a whole lot of time and energy and money in

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<v Speaker 1>the pursuit of happiness. We want to be happy, but

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<v Speaker 1>when you're ever in the pursuit of happiness, you're not

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<v Speaker 1>really very happy. Some people chase happiness by buying things.

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<v Speaker 1>They want to buy a new car, they want to

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<v Speaker 1>buy a better car, a faster car, and then they

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<v Speaker 1>complain because they have car payments and no money. A

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<v Speaker 1>lot of people want a bigger house, a better house,

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<v Speaker 1>a summer house, a winter house, and they're not happy

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<v Speaker 1>even after they get whatever it is they were chasing after,

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<v Speaker 1>because happiness can be very fleeting. But joy, you can

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<v Speaker 1>have joy even when you don't have the summer house

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<v Speaker 1>or the winter house or any house. I have been

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<v Speaker 1>to West Africa twenty five times, and I have seen

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<v Speaker 1>people with no houses, a lot of people, hundreds of people,

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<v Speaker 1>thousands of people with minimal housing, a mud hut, and

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<v Speaker 1>yet they have joy. They don't have possessions, they don't

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<v Speaker 1>have new cars, they don't they don't have shoes on

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<v Speaker 1>their feet, for goodness sakes, and yet they have joy

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<v Speaker 1>in their hearts. You can have joy regardless of your

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<v Speaker 1>circumstances or your situations. You can go into a nursing

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<v Speaker 1>home and nursing facility and you will meet people who

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<v Speaker 1>live in the same building, have the same size room,

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<v Speaker 1>the same nurses, the same doctors that care for them,

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<v Speaker 1>and some of them will be smiling and laughing, even

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<v Speaker 1>some with Alzheimer's will be laughing and smiling and carrying

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<v Speaker 1>on conversation and joy is bubbling out of their spirit.

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<v Speaker 1>And others are so miserable and their pain is palpable

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<v Speaker 1>and overwhelming, and there is no joy. You can choose joy.

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<v Speaker 1>You can choose to have joy in your life, regardless

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<v Speaker 1>of your situation, regardless of your marital status, regardless of

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<v Speaker 1>your housing situation, regardless of your relationships, regardless if you're

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<v Speaker 1>children are good to you, or drug addicted and driving

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<v Speaker 1>you insane. You can still have joy in the midst

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<v Speaker 1>of those situations if you have a relationship with yourself

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<v Speaker 1>and the understanding that you are wonderful, and a relationship

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<v Speaker 1>with the one who made you, and understand how much

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<v Speaker 1>you are loved, fiercely, loved, completely and totally loved for

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<v Speaker 1>who you are. I hope you think about that. I

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<v Speaker 1>hope you choose joy. I mean I want you to

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<v Speaker 1>be happy. Don't misunderstand. I want you to be happy.

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<v Speaker 1>I want you to be thrilled when you get flowers,

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<v Speaker 1>or get a love note or someone text you, when

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<v Speaker 1>all the lights turn green at the same time and

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<v Speaker 1>you're not stuck at red light after red light after

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<v Speaker 1>red light. I want you to be happy. I want

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<v Speaker 1>little things to make you happy. But far better than

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<v Speaker 1>to just be happy in your circumstances is to feel

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<v Speaker 1>joy and experience joy on a daily basis. Thank you

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<v Speaker 1>for letting me share these thoughts with you. You're listening

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<v Speaker 1>to the lima, so down and less amone with the

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<v Speaker 1>layer