Speaker 1: Hello there, I'm Delilah. I'm excited to be able to
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Speaker 1: And right now I want to talk about happiness and joy.
Speaker 1: Happiness and joy. The two kind of sound alike, and
Speaker 1: a lot of people use the two words interchangeably. But
Speaker 1: there is, in my mind anyway, a huge difference, a
Speaker 1: monumentally huge difference between being happy and experiencing happiness and
Speaker 1: having joy. And I want to talk about that, and uh,
Speaker 1: and you can. You can decide how you feel about it.
Speaker 1: I'm not saying this is a fact. I'm not saying
Speaker 1: I'm right or wrong, but this is this is what
Speaker 1: I have determined in my life. Happiness is a feeling
Speaker 1: of elation, a feeling of goodness, a feeling of um
Speaker 1: completion when circumstances are right, when things come together in
Speaker 1: the right way. You feel happy when you wake up
Speaker 1: and the sun is shining and your backs not hurting,
Speaker 1: and the kids managed to get out the door for
Speaker 1: school on time without spilling milk all over the table,
Speaker 1: and you know your your cat hasn't thrown up on
Speaker 1: the floor. You're happy when you go to work and
Speaker 1: your coworkers are friendly, and your boss compliments you and
Speaker 1: maybe even gives you a promotion. You're happy. Happiness is
Speaker 1: something you experience when circumstances or situations come together and
Speaker 1: you're not stressed or you're not angry, or you're not frustrated.
Speaker 1: You may feel happiness when some buddy that you care
Speaker 1: about brings you flowers or leaves you a card, or
Speaker 1: calls you or text you to compliment you. These things
Speaker 1: make you happy, but joy is completely different from happiness.
Speaker 1: Joy is what you experience even when things don't come
Speaker 1: together the way you want. Joy is something you experience
Speaker 1: when you are at peace in your heart with yourself,
Speaker 1: when you know that you know that you know in
Speaker 1: the very core of your being, that you have great worth,
Speaker 1: that you are precious, that you are wonderful, wonderfully made,
Speaker 1: that you are a creation, and that the one who
Speaker 1: created you has a great plan for you. Joy is
Speaker 1: something you experience when you are at peace with yourself,
Speaker 1: when you have made amends for your mistakes, your lies,
Speaker 1: your the times you broke someone's heart, when you've made amends,
Speaker 1: when you've owned your stuff, and when you are content
Speaker 1: knowing that each day you are doing the best that
Speaker 1: you can do to make the world a better place.
Speaker 1: You have joy. You wake up with joy. You go
Speaker 1: to sleep feeling joyful, even when situations are not good,
Speaker 1: even when they're not perfect, even when the waiter doesn't
Speaker 1: bring you the right pizza. Even when your car breaks down,
Speaker 1: the washing machine stops working, the kids put dish so
Speaker 1: the kind that makes bubbles in the dishwasher and broke
Speaker 1: the new dishwasher right after it's out of warranty. Even
Speaker 1: when those things happen, even when God calls someone you
Speaker 1: love home, even when God calls your child filed home,
Speaker 1: you can still experience joy in the midst of your
Speaker 1: sorrow or your frustration. I know, trust me. I know.
Speaker 1: Happiness is something we experience based on circumstances or situations.
Speaker 1: So when those circumstances change or those situations change, our
Speaker 1: happiness changes. But joy, joy is something that is everlasting,
Speaker 1: and even when our circumstances change, we can still experience joy.
Speaker 1: I know. Like I said, the two words are sometimes interchangeable,
Speaker 1: and I interchange them all the time. But when when
Speaker 1: you are searching for happiness. There was a movie several
Speaker 1: years ago, the Pursuit of Happiness. Loved the movie, but
Speaker 1: that phrase, the pursuit of happiness. When you are ever
Speaker 1: in the pursuit of happiness, you're never really satisfied. You
Speaker 1: might be temporarily. A lot of people are in the
Speaker 1: pursuit of happiness. Uh. Professionally, they think, when I get
Speaker 1: this education, when I finished college, when I get a
Speaker 1: new job, when I get the right job, when I
Speaker 1: get a raise at my job, when I get a
Speaker 1: better boss at my job, when I get my own
Speaker 1: desk at my job, blah blah blah blah, then they'll
Speaker 1: be happy, or they are happy temporarily with each improvement,
Speaker 1: but then when life changes, they're not happy anymore. A
Speaker 1: lot of people, a lot of people I know, spend
Speaker 1: a whole lot of time and energy and money in
Speaker 1: the pursuit of happiness. We want to be happy, but
Speaker 1: when you're ever in the pursuit of happiness, you're not
Speaker 1: really very happy. Some people chase happiness by buying things.
Speaker 1: They want to buy a new car, they want to
Speaker 1: buy a better car, a faster car, and then they
Speaker 1: complain because they have car payments and no money. A
Speaker 1: lot of people want a bigger house, a better house,
Speaker 1: a summer house, a winter house, and they're not happy
Speaker 1: even after they get whatever it is they were chasing after,
Speaker 1: because happiness can be very fleeting. But joy, you can
Speaker 1: have joy even when you don't have the summer house
Speaker 1: or the winter house or any house. I have been
Speaker 1: to West Africa twenty five times, and I have seen
Speaker 1: people with no houses, a lot of people, hundreds of people,
Speaker 1: thousands of people with minimal housing, a mud hut, and
Speaker 1: yet they have joy. They don't have possessions, they don't
Speaker 1: have new cars, they don't they don't have shoes on
Speaker 1: their feet, for goodness sakes, and yet they have joy
Speaker 1: in their hearts. You can have joy regardless of your
Speaker 1: circumstances or your situations. You can go into a nursing
Speaker 1: home and nursing facility and you will meet people who
Speaker 1: live in the same building, have the same size room,
Speaker 1: the same nurses, the same doctors that care for them,
Speaker 1: and some of them will be smiling and laughing, even
Speaker 1: some with Alzheimer's will be laughing and smiling and carrying
Speaker 1: on conversation and joy is bubbling out of their spirit.
Speaker 1: And others are so miserable and their pain is palpable
Speaker 1: and overwhelming, and there is no joy. You can choose joy.
Speaker 1: You can choose to have joy in your life, regardless
Speaker 1: of your situation, regardless of your marital status, regardless of
Speaker 1: your housing situation, regardless of your relationships, regardless if you're
Speaker 1: children are good to you, or drug addicted and driving
Speaker 1: you insane. You can still have joy in the midst
Speaker 1: of those situations if you have a relationship with yourself
Speaker 1: and the understanding that you are wonderful, and a relationship
Speaker 1: with the one who made you, and understand how much
Speaker 1: you are loved, fiercely, loved, completely and totally loved for
Speaker 1: who you are. I hope you think about that. I
Speaker 1: hope you choose joy. I mean I want you to
Speaker 1: be happy. Don't misunderstand. I want you to be happy.
Speaker 1: I want you to be thrilled when you get flowers,
Speaker 1: or get a love note or someone text you, when
Speaker 1: all the lights turn green at the same time and
Speaker 1: you're not stuck at red light after red light after
Speaker 1: red light. I want you to be happy. I want
Speaker 1: little things to make you happy. But far better than
Speaker 1: to just be happy in your circumstances is to feel
Speaker 1: joy and experience joy on a daily basis. Thank you
Speaker 1: for letting me share these thoughts with you. You're listening
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