1 00:00:21,000 --> 00:00:23,600 Speaker 1: What is going on? Emily Abody? 2 00:00:23,680 --> 00:00:27,360 Speaker 2: Here? You are listening to five Minute Friday from Hurdle. 3 00:00:28,040 --> 00:00:31,360 Speaker 2: Can I tell you about what happened this weekend? A 4 00:00:31,400 --> 00:00:34,320 Speaker 2: lot of things happened last weekend, my birthday to be 5 00:00:34,400 --> 00:00:36,879 Speaker 2: one of them. I was able to celebrate with so 6 00:00:37,080 --> 00:00:39,800 Speaker 2: many of my dearest and closest friends, and I had 7 00:00:39,840 --> 00:00:43,920 Speaker 2: such a nice time spending time with my people. And 8 00:00:44,120 --> 00:00:48,680 Speaker 2: right before I walked into the first bit of celebration, 9 00:00:48,920 --> 00:00:53,000 Speaker 2: I had recently arrived back in New York City from 10 00:00:53,040 --> 00:00:56,240 Speaker 2: a quick red eye and I didn't get much sleep. 11 00:00:56,360 --> 00:00:58,320 Speaker 2: I came home, I napped an hour and a half 12 00:00:58,360 --> 00:00:59,920 Speaker 2: and then I woke up and met one of my 13 00:01:00,200 --> 00:01:03,120 Speaker 2: dearest friends, Ashley, for breakfast. And it was as I 14 00:01:03,160 --> 00:01:06,720 Speaker 2: was walking out the door headed for breakfast, that I 15 00:01:06,840 --> 00:01:12,199 Speaker 2: realized I left my Apple Watch on the plane. Yeah, 16 00:01:12,400 --> 00:01:18,200 Speaker 2: like sad? What's a sad? Trombone? Inserts trombone here to 17 00:01:18,280 --> 00:01:21,679 Speaker 2: say that, I was like the ultimate uh, would be 18 00:01:21,800 --> 00:01:28,160 Speaker 2: like the biggest understatement. I immediately filed the paperwork on 19 00:01:28,200 --> 00:01:31,200 Speaker 2: the Delta website, and when I went to look on 20 00:01:31,480 --> 00:01:35,000 Speaker 2: find my on my iPhone where my Apple Watch was connected, 21 00:01:35,200 --> 00:01:39,119 Speaker 2: I saw that my watch had rudely taken a trip 22 00:01:39,200 --> 00:01:43,119 Speaker 2: all the way from JFK within the span of five 23 00:01:43,200 --> 00:01:49,320 Speaker 2: hours since I landed to Orlando. I wasn't laughing when 24 00:01:49,320 --> 00:01:51,240 Speaker 2: I realized all this. In fact, I was like, you 25 00:01:51,360 --> 00:01:54,880 Speaker 2: are so silly, What a silly human. I used words 26 00:01:54,920 --> 00:01:59,080 Speaker 2: that weren't as nice as silly. And I arrived at 27 00:01:59,080 --> 00:02:02,120 Speaker 2: breakfast after or going through the motions of handling the 28 00:02:02,120 --> 00:02:05,080 Speaker 2: fact that I lost my iPhone, and I sat down 29 00:02:05,320 --> 00:02:07,840 Speaker 2: and I was really frustrated, and I knew that this 30 00:02:08,040 --> 00:02:10,640 Speaker 2: wasn't how I wanted to start a weekend that I 31 00:02:10,680 --> 00:02:13,560 Speaker 2: had been looking forward to for a while now. 32 00:02:14,400 --> 00:02:17,520 Speaker 1: And it was in that moment that I made a choice. 33 00:02:17,560 --> 00:02:21,040 Speaker 2: And I understand there is privilege within this choice for me, 34 00:02:21,720 --> 00:02:24,760 Speaker 2: but my choice in that moment was not to let 35 00:02:24,800 --> 00:02:28,320 Speaker 2: a bad minute make for a bad day. My choice 36 00:02:28,360 --> 00:02:30,560 Speaker 2: in that moment was let go of the things that 37 00:02:30,600 --> 00:02:35,320 Speaker 2: you cannot control. Because being angry and upset and throwing 38 00:02:35,360 --> 00:02:38,640 Speaker 2: a tantrum over the fact that my Apple Watch was 39 00:02:38,800 --> 00:02:42,079 Speaker 2: perhaps never to be found spoiler alert, it is now 40 00:02:42,120 --> 00:02:44,640 Speaker 2: in Alabama. It is certainly never coming back to me, 41 00:02:44,720 --> 00:02:48,720 Speaker 2: and I am letting this go in the universe. But 42 00:02:48,840 --> 00:02:51,560 Speaker 2: I made the decision to do what serves me. I 43 00:02:51,600 --> 00:02:53,760 Speaker 2: asked myself this question a lot, and it's a question 44 00:02:53,800 --> 00:02:56,800 Speaker 2: that my life coach asks me. What's best for Emily? 45 00:02:57,200 --> 00:02:59,160 Speaker 2: How do I want to feel and what is within 46 00:02:59,400 --> 00:03:02,880 Speaker 2: my control role to feel that way? How do you 47 00:03:03,000 --> 00:03:06,800 Speaker 2: want to feel and what is within your control to 48 00:03:06,840 --> 00:03:10,480 Speaker 2: feel that way. It's easier said than done when your 49 00:03:10,520 --> 00:03:14,240 Speaker 2: feelings are heightened around a certain situation. To walk away 50 00:03:14,760 --> 00:03:18,760 Speaker 2: and lean toward a perspective and attitude, a mood that 51 00:03:18,880 --> 00:03:24,480 Speaker 2: serves you more. That is entirely understandable. But I know 52 00:03:25,000 --> 00:03:28,920 Speaker 2: for a fact that throwing a temper tantrum about that. 53 00:03:29,040 --> 00:03:31,919 Speaker 2: Watch for the better part of a day, when I 54 00:03:31,960 --> 00:03:34,600 Speaker 2: was getting to spend time with people that are close 55 00:03:34,639 --> 00:03:37,600 Speaker 2: to me, people that were traveling to see me, I 56 00:03:37,680 --> 00:03:40,120 Speaker 2: was about to usher in a new chapter, and I 57 00:03:40,360 --> 00:03:43,200 Speaker 2: know how I wanted to approach all of that, and 58 00:03:43,280 --> 00:03:46,839 Speaker 2: it wasn't with a post on my face. Easier said 59 00:03:46,880 --> 00:03:49,040 Speaker 2: than done, right, But think about this how it applies 60 00:03:49,080 --> 00:03:51,320 Speaker 2: to other things that you have going on in your life. 61 00:03:51,360 --> 00:03:54,880 Speaker 2: Maybe you got an email today that really bothered you, 62 00:03:55,320 --> 00:03:58,960 Speaker 2: or perhaps you wanted to go for a rum this 63 00:03:59,080 --> 00:04:02,440 Speaker 2: morning and felt like junk. It is up to you 64 00:04:02,520 --> 00:04:06,840 Speaker 2: to not let that one thing ruin the other twenty 65 00:04:06,840 --> 00:04:09,400 Speaker 2: three hours in your day. Twenty three hours and fifty 66 00:04:09,480 --> 00:04:14,280 Speaker 2: nine minutes. Maybe right, Do not let one bad moment 67 00:04:14,680 --> 00:04:18,599 Speaker 2: make for a bad day. My question for you this week, 68 00:04:18,920 --> 00:04:20,400 Speaker 2: what do you want to let go of right now? 69 00:04:20,400 --> 00:04:22,760 Speaker 2: What's one thing that you're kind of bugging out about 70 00:04:22,839 --> 00:04:25,680 Speaker 2: that you will just be better off if you'll let 71 00:04:25,720 --> 00:04:25,960 Speaker 2: it go? 72 00:04:27,440 --> 00:04:29,400 Speaker 1: And now a listener question. 73 00:04:29,920 --> 00:04:32,440 Speaker 3: Hi, Emily. My name is Julie and I'm from Monkton, 74 00:04:32,480 --> 00:04:35,800 Speaker 3: New Brunswick in Canada. I've been a big fan of 75 00:04:35,839 --> 00:04:39,080 Speaker 3: the show since twenty twenty and I especially love five 76 00:04:39,120 --> 00:04:41,839 Speaker 3: Minute Friday in my morning routine to finish the week. 77 00:04:42,640 --> 00:04:45,800 Speaker 3: My question for you, You've met and interviewed so many 78 00:04:45,839 --> 00:04:48,760 Speaker 3: brilliant and inspiring people over the course of your career. 79 00:04:49,360 --> 00:04:51,839 Speaker 3: Is there a piece of advice, a takeaway, or a 80 00:04:51,960 --> 00:04:54,800 Speaker 3: lesson that is stuck with you the most? And if so, 81 00:04:55,040 --> 00:04:57,880 Speaker 3: can you share it with us? Thank you so much, Emily, 82 00:04:58,080 --> 00:05:00,000 Speaker 3: Take care and happy Friday to everyone listening. 83 00:05:00,760 --> 00:05:03,560 Speaker 1: Thanks for listening all the way from Canada. 84 00:05:03,680 --> 00:05:09,280 Speaker 2: Advice some of my favorite from six plus years of podcasting. 85 00:05:09,839 --> 00:05:10,839 Speaker 1: Wow, there's a lot. 86 00:05:11,000 --> 00:05:13,960 Speaker 2: Something I always come back to is a nugget from 87 00:05:14,080 --> 00:05:17,839 Speaker 2: Jacqueline Johnson. She was episode one and ninety eight of 88 00:05:17,880 --> 00:05:21,919 Speaker 2: the show, and in that episode she talked to me 89 00:05:22,160 --> 00:05:27,080 Speaker 2: about how rejection is often redirection. I'll say that again, 90 00:05:27,160 --> 00:05:32,200 Speaker 2: rejection is redirection, meaning that these things that aren't happening 91 00:05:32,720 --> 00:05:36,120 Speaker 2: as you had hoped, they're happening so that something better 92 00:05:36,480 --> 00:05:38,919 Speaker 2: can come through the door. They're happening so that you 93 00:05:39,600 --> 00:05:43,120 Speaker 2: get something that is even better for you, something that's 94 00:05:43,200 --> 00:05:47,480 Speaker 2: hard to really hold on to, an embrace in the moment. 95 00:05:47,600 --> 00:05:52,240 Speaker 2: Rejection is redirection. Episode one ninety eight. Jacqueline is the 96 00:05:52,320 --> 00:05:56,360 Speaker 2: founder of Creating Cultivate. Another really great nugget of advice 97 00:05:56,720 --> 00:06:01,280 Speaker 2: came from doctor Michael Gervai. He's a hyperfund arms psychologist. 98 00:06:01,400 --> 00:06:04,040 Speaker 2: He was episode one fifty one of the show, and 99 00:06:04,080 --> 00:06:08,880 Speaker 2: he talked to me so beautifully about having control over 100 00:06:08,920 --> 00:06:12,520 Speaker 2: your inner voice, exercising control over your inner voice, and 101 00:06:12,600 --> 00:06:15,880 Speaker 2: having compassion for the thoughts that may come up, knowing 102 00:06:15,920 --> 00:06:18,640 Speaker 2: that you are not your thoughts. He told me that 103 00:06:18,839 --> 00:06:22,159 Speaker 2: awareness of your inner dialogue is so important that you 104 00:06:22,240 --> 00:06:25,599 Speaker 2: can adjust and then come back to the now. So 105 00:06:26,200 --> 00:06:29,680 Speaker 2: having awareness over what's going on in your head allows 106 00:06:29,720 --> 00:06:33,479 Speaker 2: you to then respond instead of react I'll say that 107 00:06:33,480 --> 00:06:37,480 Speaker 2: one more time, respond instead of react. A response is 108 00:06:37,480 --> 00:06:40,680 Speaker 2: something more likely than not that you're a little bit 109 00:06:40,720 --> 00:06:44,440 Speaker 2: more proud of than perhaps your gut reactions. So knowing 110 00:06:44,480 --> 00:06:48,000 Speaker 2: what's going on in your inner voice and developing a relationship, 111 00:06:48,240 --> 00:06:52,400 Speaker 2: a compassionate relationship with that inner voice is going to 112 00:06:52,480 --> 00:06:55,240 Speaker 2: be that helps you be more present in the now 113 00:06:55,640 --> 00:06:58,760 Speaker 2: and respond in a way that makes you proud. I 114 00:06:58,800 --> 00:07:01,159 Speaker 2: could go on with lessons from this show all day, 115 00:07:01,200 --> 00:07:03,960 Speaker 2: but those are just a couple of places to start. 116 00:07:04,080 --> 00:07:07,200 Speaker 2: I'm going to link those episodes in the show notes. 117 00:07:07,320 --> 00:07:07,599 Speaker 1: Again. 118 00:07:07,760 --> 00:07:10,280 Speaker 2: I'm always looking for listener questions and I would love 119 00:07:10,560 --> 00:07:14,320 Speaker 2: to answer yours on an upcoming episode of Five Minute Friday. 120 00:07:14,360 --> 00:07:16,880 Speaker 2: The link to leave me a voice message is in 121 00:07:17,320 --> 00:07:19,920 Speaker 2: the show notes. Make sure to follow along over on 122 00:07:19,960 --> 00:07:23,000 Speaker 2: social It's at Emily a Body and at Hurdle Podcast. 123 00:07:23,320 --> 00:07:26,400 Speaker 2: Another Hurdle Conquered. Catch you guys next time.