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Speaker 2: James is on the phone today for a first date

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Speaker 2: follow up and he's being ghosted by Jessica. So we're

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Speaker 2: gonna see if we can help him out, figure out why,

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Speaker 2: and maybe get him another date in a second. But first, James,

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Speaker 2: before we get into your dating and stuff, how long

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Speaker 2: has it been since you heard from Jessica.

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Speaker 3: Oh?

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Speaker 4: Man, let's see, it's been like, geez, it's been like

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Speaker 4: a week. It's been maybe a week and a half,

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Speaker 4: two weeks, two.

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Speaker 3: Weeks, a week. There's a difference. Sure what I think

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Speaker 3: we're in ghosting territory. When was the last time you

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Speaker 3: guys talked? Was it on your last date?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, last time we talked was actually after that date,

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Speaker 4: and she even said she was like, oh you I

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Speaker 4: might she was gonna like reach out to me and

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Speaker 4: maybe playing the next day. But I'm not gonna lie

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Speaker 4: you guys, Like, I'm super disappointed because the date was awesome.

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Speaker 2: Well was so awesome about it.

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Speaker 4: So we went out to dinner, and you know, I

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Speaker 4: wanted to impress her, so I took her to like

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Speaker 4: this slanky spot you know, and I'm not gonna lie.

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Speaker 4: She was like just and I was pretty as her

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Speaker 4: pictures were, and uh, I'm a classy fellaw. So of

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Speaker 4: course I didn't like say nothing about that to her.

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Speaker 4: But my I think my favorite thing might be that

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Speaker 4: she's like really career driven, and I love that it

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Speaker 4: turns me on when a woman into her work.

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Speaker 2: I love that. I love that I do that. Okay, yeah,

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Speaker 2: I feel you on that. So she has she's career driven.

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Speaker 2: You thought she was beautiful, and how was the interaction

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Speaker 5: Date was really good.

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Speaker 4: You know, we had dinner, we got to talk about

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Speaker 4: our lives, and you know, I let her know that

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Speaker 4: I actually have three kids, which she didn't seem like

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Speaker 6: And that's like a huge surprise.

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Speaker 4: Normally, like once I bring kids up, people are like, oh,

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Speaker 4: they're out, you know. But she she actually did mention

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Speaker 4: she'd actually like wanted kids, but she's you know, because

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Speaker 4: of her job and being so focused on a career,

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Speaker 4: she hasn't been able.

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Speaker 2: To so kids weren't really an issue.

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Speaker 3: Maybe she was excited about the idea that you had

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Speaker 4: Yeah, And she said that she wants to be able

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Speaker 4: both were like the good thing too. The more we talked,

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Speaker 4: I realized she and I both are looking for something serious.

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Speaker 4: I'm sick of fishing. There's so many fish in the sea.

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Speaker 4: I'm tired of it. I'll be honest, you know, I'm

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Speaker 4: looking for someone that my kids can eventually call mom.

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Speaker 4: Because it's like, as much as I want to find somebody, yeah,

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Speaker 4: as much as I want to find somebody, my kids

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Speaker 4: find somebody good.

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Speaker 3: Did you express that that you're looking for somebody to

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Speaker 3: call mom? Because that's also quite intense for a first date,

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Speaker 3: even if you are open to the idea of having children.

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Speaker 3: And you know, the other question is, did you mention

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Speaker 4: Hmm, Okay, we didn't talk about having more, but I'll

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Speaker 6: Hey, they're all the way room, you.

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Speaker 4: Know what I mean?

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Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, she said too.

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Speaker 4: She said, the really one thing she wants is a

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Speaker 4: looking for someone to come home too. And after that,

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Speaker 4: I was like, oh, I'm in, sign me up, I'm in.

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Speaker 2: So she pretty much seemed to have everything you're looking for,

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Speaker 6: Yeah, and here's the thing that kills me. Like we

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Speaker 6: maybe set up another date. And like I said, that

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Speaker 6: was like, yeah, that was It was a week and

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Speaker 5: I try my.

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Speaker 4: Best, did not do too much. But you know, my heart,

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Speaker 4: my heart is breaking over here.

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Speaker 5: I'll be honest.

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Speaker 4: I think it was the kids thing, really, you know,

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Speaker 4: that's normally what shuts people off. I mean because people,

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Speaker 4: But I mean I got three, and I hope that's

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Speaker 5: I hate it.

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Speaker 4: You know, it sucks when you know, great people get

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Speaker 4: spooped by the fact that you got you know, kids.

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Speaker 4: And we were sharing my war stories of past relationships

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Speaker 4: but it seems it seems like, gosh, she's right where

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Speaker 4: I would want her to be.

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Speaker 2: She's like, she's amazing.

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Speaker 4: So I hope the kids thing didn't run off because

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Speaker 4: I can't do nothing about that.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, all right, well we'll see if we can figure

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Speaker 2: out what plays. So come back and then call her

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Speaker 2: and see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting you

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Speaker 2: right after this. Okay, okay, thanks so much, All right, place,

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Speaker 2: don't come back. Get your first day follow up, next.

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Speaker 2: Right in the middle of your first date follow up

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Speaker 2: if you're just joining us, James is on the phone

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Speaker 2: and he's getting ghosted by the woman of his dreams.

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Speaker 2: That sounded really insensitive. Way, I didn't mean it like that, James. Yeah, Wow,

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Speaker 2: you know I'm not gonna lie.

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Speaker 5: I'm tough enough. I'm tough enough. They didn't bother me.

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Speaker 4: But I'm a hoop.

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Speaker 2: I didn't mean it that way. After I said it,

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Speaker 2: I was like, man, that sounds really insensitive. But I

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Speaker 2: hope that you know. We're about to call her and

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Speaker 2: ask her why she's ghosting you and I hope she'll

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Speaker 2: tell us, and I hope you still want another date

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Speaker 2: after or can get into the Kay.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I hope so too, man, because she was incredible.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, all right, well, why don't you recap the date

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Speaker 2: real quick before we give her a call, so catch

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Speaker 2: everybody up.

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, So we went out to a real nice restaurant,

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Speaker 4: you know, told her that I got kids and she

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Speaker 4: didn't seem too bothered by it. But dinner was great.

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Speaker 4: We talked about old relationships stuff, talk about what you

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Speaker 4: want from life. Seems like we kind of want the

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Speaker 4: same thing because she wants somebody to come home to

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Speaker 4: and I'm looking for a home. I'm looking for a house,

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Speaker 4: you know, I'm trying to make a family. So you

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Speaker 4: date went well, gave me a kiss on the cheek,

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Speaker 4: and she said she'd reach back out to playing another date.

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Speaker 4: But that was like what feels like forever ago?

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Speaker 2: All right, cool, Well, we're about to call her right now,

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Speaker 2: see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting you and

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Speaker 2: hopefully get you another date. You're ready, okay, thank you?

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Speaker 2: All right, here we go. Hello, I missed to Jessica. Please?

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Speaker 5: Yes?

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Speaker 2: Is she hey? Jessica, how are you my name is Jewbel,

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Speaker 2: host the radio show. It's called The Jewel Show, Jessica.

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Speaker 2: The whole show is here.

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Speaker 5: Hi.

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Speaker 2: Hi, I'm Victoria. Do you listen to the show at all?

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Speaker 5: I actually do. I really love you guys.

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Speaker 2: You guys are great, sweet well and we really love you.

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Speaker 2: So if you listened to the show, if you heard

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Speaker 2: her first day follow up before, Oh yes, I have

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Speaker 2: all right? How would it feel to star in one?

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Speaker 5: I mean I have a feeling that I'm looking like

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Speaker 5: the bad guy right now. But sure, let's do it.

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Speaker 5: Why not?

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Speaker 2: He said star in one? So that's actually a positive span. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: you sound really awesome from the description we got of you.

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Speaker 5: That's great, that's wonderful. That's accurate.

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Speaker 2: His name is James. Oh oh, all right. You went

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Speaker 2: out on a date with James and you've been ghosting

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Speaker 2: him and he wants to know why. So could you

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Speaker 5: Yes, I'm just trying to think of how I can

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Speaker 5: have rules. I just I honestly didn't think that caveman

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Speaker 5: whatever you're thinking of right now is correct.

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Speaker 2: Oh okay, hey, what does that mean exactly for you?

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Speaker 5: All right? I mean, like, first off, he didn't put

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Speaker 5: that wasn't a big deal. It's just a little red

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Speaker 5: He just like kept telling me that, like, you know,

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Speaker 5: Yeah, And that honestly told me right there I was

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Speaker 5: You know. He started talking about how he loved that

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Speaker 4: First off, I can't believe you had done like this,

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Speaker 5: All the signals to try and kiss you. I mean,

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Speaker 4: You dressed great, And no, I did not look at

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Speaker 5: He absolutely did. I dressed to impress. I made sure

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Speaker 5: He looked at him the entire time, the entire time,

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Speaker 5: I'm glad. I think his shirt, you know, was washed,

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Speaker 5: oh my god, I can't believe you know what I'd see.

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Speaker 5: You know, no, I see what it is. You know what?

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Speaker 5: with excuses she ain't ready to. No, no, no adult relationship.

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Speaker 5: over here, who's throwing words. He asked if we could

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Speaker 5: go have fun in the restroom on our first date. Yeah,

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Speaker 5: there don't nothing to do with any of this.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, if I'm out of.

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Speaker 2: Here, I mean, but it did, though, gone.

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Speaker 5: I'm not surprised, and like the crazy thing is, there's

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Speaker 5: still so much more to this horrible date.

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Speaker 2: Clear. Yeah, he actually suggested that you guys go to

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Speaker 2: the bathroom and messrun he did.

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Speaker 5: Somebody had to say.

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Speaker 2: Three people did, at least

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