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Speaker 1: Spreading in with beck At, Tilly and Tanya rad and

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Speaker 1: I Heart Radio and two time People's Choice Award winning

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Speaker 1: podcast Hello Everybody. Hello morning, gangs all here, Good morning,

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Speaker 1: Good morning. How are you doing. I'm good? How are you?

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Speaker 1: I'm good? You had a Jonas weekend? Just feeling alive, revived, Like, honestly,

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Speaker 1: I'm so obsessed with them. We yeah, it's so weird,

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Speaker 1: no we I swear anyone who listens knows. I love

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Speaker 1: them so much, and not only because they put on

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Speaker 1: such a good show, because they're good, good guys and

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Speaker 1: they're just so nice, Like you don't find that often,

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Speaker 1: you know, they really did, They really give you the

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Speaker 1: attention that you need, that I need. Like Joe spotted

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Speaker 1: Brad and E in the crowd within the second song,

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Speaker 1: and he like pointed us out and gave us a smile.

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Speaker 1: And so I saw him after at the after party,

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Speaker 1: and I was like, Joe, I literally felt so seen

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Speaker 1: by you in the show, and he goes, he spotted

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Speaker 1: you guys, and he go he literally said he texted

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Speaker 1: Sophie in the middle of the show and told her

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Speaker 1: that we were there. I was like, how crazy that, Like,

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Speaker 1: they're doing a show and he texts Sophie to tell

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Speaker 1: her that we're there, you know, like they're doing a

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Speaker 1: full on show. I mean, you and Brad are hard

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Speaker 1: to miss in a crowd, you know, and my shirt

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Speaker 1: was like lime green very yeah right, yeah, I mean

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Speaker 1: the shirt probably helped a little, but I think just

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Speaker 1: they could probably since the beams coming from both. But

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Speaker 1: it is interesting. I think people that go to show

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Speaker 1: should know that they can like the artists performing, really can,

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Speaker 1: like they see you like they see the crowd. Well,

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Speaker 1: one time I thought that Pink told me, like Pink

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Speaker 1: pointed straight at me and said, like it was right

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Speaker 1: after I got my hair blonde, like super blonde, and

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Speaker 1: she was like gorgeous hair. But apparently there was a

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Speaker 1: girl behind me with like beautiful curly red hair, and

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Speaker 1: someone said that they were talking to her, So she

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Speaker 1: could have been talking to both of you. Yeah, I

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Speaker 1: mean you just don't know, but you feel like she

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Speaker 1: saw at least a group of us in the crowd. Yea,

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Speaker 1: whether it was me she was complimenting or not, she

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Speaker 1: saw me. Yeah, I like everyone in that section went

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Speaker 1: home that night thinking hair. Yeah, you're right, I wasn't

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Speaker 1: in like the pit or anything. So there's a good

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Speaker 1: chance of the section like one oh one that got

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Speaker 1: the shout out. Yeah, it's okay, that was one of them. Yeah. Um,

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Speaker 1: but yeah, I've always thought like, oh, there's no way

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Speaker 1: they can see me because there's so many bright lights.

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Speaker 1: But no, they can. Yeah. Nick said he was trying

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Speaker 1: to figure out who was on brad shirt. That's what

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Speaker 1: they can see. It was on the shirt Britney Spears.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah yeah. So anyway, fun fact if you're in

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Speaker 1: the audience. Yeah. So I was going to go to

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Speaker 1: one of those shows, but it just kind of slipped

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Speaker 1: my mind and until I saw you there and then

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Speaker 1: I saw Damie All there last night. I was like,

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Speaker 1: oh I missed it, and now that was the last show. Yeah, Like,

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Speaker 1: do you know how depressing that is? No, I have

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Speaker 1: another one with all their new music. When they come

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Speaker 1: out with new music, that could be who knows how

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Speaker 1: long that is. Now I feel like they're like and

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Speaker 1: get back. I mean they did. I think there was

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Speaker 1: seventy five shows on the leg of that tour. That

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Speaker 1: is wild. It's all fun for them though. Cool to

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Speaker 1: like go from being like this massive group breaking up

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Speaker 1: and like not making music together and then coming back

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Speaker 1: and having the same, if not more excitement and success.

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Speaker 1: And the thing that's so special is like when you're

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Speaker 1: watching the show, it really genuinely looks like they're having

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Speaker 1: a really good time, Like they all just look super

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Speaker 1: happy and like they're having a good time. Well. I

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Speaker 1: loved when we had Danielle on and she said she

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Speaker 1: hadn't seen Kevin smile like that. I was like, that's

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Speaker 1: because it's i mean, performing on a stage in front

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Speaker 1: high probably than anything else in his life, no matter

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Speaker 1: how much he loves like his family life, you know,

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Speaker 1: like Um, Kevin doesn't sing, he does he like does

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Speaker 1: just for Kevin, and it's like justice for Kevin. I

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Speaker 1: love him so much. I just love them so much,

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Speaker 1: Like we need to get them on this on this podcast.

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Speaker 1: I mean, they're one of my my um ones for

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Speaker 1: the it feels like we're close, so close, Like I

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Speaker 1: think they're just so busy, you know, maybe not that

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Speaker 1: and say hey that they're number one fan truly, I know. Yeah, Okay,

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Speaker 1: that's a good goal speak. So, speaking of we're gonna

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Speaker 1: do well, we're saying goodbye to two nineteen. Bye bye.

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Speaker 1: What we're leaving behind we talked about last week is

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Speaker 1: the first part of the show saying and then later

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Speaker 1: we're gonna predict and make our all of our plans.

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Speaker 1: So what are we saying goodbye to from? I'm saying

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Speaker 1: goodbye to the haters? Why did you? Are you embarrassed

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Speaker 1: by that? I'm not embarrassed by I just was trying

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Speaker 1: to be serious and I just can't say haters and

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Speaker 1: just says Trolls coatrolls. Um, I'm saying goodbye to anyone

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Speaker 1: who has brought negativity into my life my life. Are

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Speaker 1: those specific people, I'm just in general in general, But

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Speaker 1: I don't really have anyone specifically. It's mostly like strangers

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Speaker 1: if I really thought about it. However, I really am

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Speaker 1: trying to channel like gratitude and grace and forgiveness towards people,

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Speaker 1: So like, even if someone hurts me or does something,

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Speaker 1: I'm able to leave them behind. But say, I forgive you.

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Speaker 1: I hope that you find whatever you're looking for that's

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Speaker 1: What about you? Um, I think in I'm saying goodbye

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Speaker 1: debilitating me, debilitating me. Um, and I'm over it. I'm

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Speaker 1: And she was like, you have this is the impostor

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Speaker 1: and I got lucky, and like that's why this all happened,

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Speaker 1: and it's true that is a part of it. But

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Speaker 1: like a lot of people go on the Bachelor. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: a lot of people go on the Bachelor, and something

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Speaker 1: like sure, I gotta jump start and it was a

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Speaker 1: It's interesting because it's like you always want to keep

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Speaker 1: I always want to keep the gratitude and the like, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I don't feel like I'm like I'm around all these

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Speaker 1: But I should have gone into before they went out,

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Speaker 1: an award totally um. And then I think, in twenty nineteen,

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Speaker 1: I think up until this point, I've been very much

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Speaker 1: always the guy that I'm dating. I'm always going off

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Speaker 1: bit more like secure. So you're saying in the past

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Speaker 1: for a job kind of yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, like

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Speaker 1: It's so funny because, um, I was talking to Haley

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Speaker 1: him up with Tanya, but she deserves someone like it's

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451
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452
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Speaker 1: Thank you guys for having me. You have an amazing story.

534
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Speaker 1: I remember seeing you on Dancing the Stars and being like,

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Speaker 1: my mind is blown, what is happening? Yeah? I know,

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Speaker 1: I like actually just want to kind of hear a

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Speaker 1: little bit about so like being a prisoner of your

538
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Speaker 1: in your own body, Like you're fully aware of what's happening,

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Speaker 1: but you can't physically or like verbally do anything. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: that is wild. It's like the ultimate form of torture,

541
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Speaker 1: I feel like. But you also learn a lot about

542
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Speaker 1: yourself too. So it was not years four years? Well

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Speaker 1: what how how did you get into that? Did you?

544
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Speaker 1: Were you sick? What happened? Yes? So I developed too

545
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Speaker 1: incredibly rare neurological conditions that basically shut down my brain

546
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Speaker 1: in my spinal cords. So in a matter of like

547
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Speaker 1: three months, I went from completely normal to complete vegetative state.

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Speaker 1: And that was just just just you just got genetically

549
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Speaker 1: just happened. R. Yeah, they still don't know how it happened.

550
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Speaker 1: But these two conditions you don't normally get both. You

551
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Speaker 1: only usually get one. Um. But as Papa Arlen says,

552
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Speaker 1: like you just like to go big. And but like,

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Speaker 1: what symptoms are you having that you like, what took

554
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Speaker 1: you to the doctor? Um? So it started with like

555
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Speaker 1: flu like symptoms, so they thought, you know, it's a

556
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Speaker 1: virus or tummy bug and then um, and then there

557
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Speaker 1: was like the severe pain on the right side, so

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Speaker 1: they thought it was um appendicitis, so it was just

559
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Speaker 1: super random and then um and then my legs started

560
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Speaker 1: going out in my fine motor. But at that point,

561
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Speaker 1: it was happening so quickly that everyone was kind of racing,

562
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Speaker 1: racing against the clock. And you're like eleven years old

563
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Speaker 1: at this point. Oh yep, eleven years old. Yeah. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: So your parents take you in there like she has

565
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Speaker 1: the flu. This is horrible, and it's like, oh, no,

566
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Speaker 1: she has a pennicitis. And then it's like you're just

567
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Speaker 1: progressively getting worse and they can't figure out what to

568
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Speaker 1: do to stop it. Yeah, they don't really know what's

569
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Speaker 1: going on. And so what we learned very quickly is

570
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Speaker 1: that when doctors don't know what's happening, they just decided

571
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Speaker 1: to turn it back on you. So they told my

572
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Speaker 1: parents I was doing it for attention. And unfortunately, because

573
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Speaker 1: they did they went down that route, they missed a

574
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Speaker 1: really crucial treatment window because these two conditions, if caught early,

575
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Speaker 1: can be very treatable with steroids, and they didn't do that.

576
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Speaker 1: So by the time I was pretty much, you know, catatonic,

577
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Speaker 1: they were like, oh but there was nothing. There was

578
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Speaker 1: nothing they could do. So when you were in, Like

579
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Speaker 1: when you got when you went into the vegetative state,

580
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Speaker 1: were you able to was there any sign that you

581
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Speaker 1: were understanding what was happening, Like were you blinking or

582
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Speaker 1: anything but you knew? Yeah, so you were hearing and

583
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Speaker 1: could do sounds like hello. Yeah, I could see, but

584
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Speaker 1: my eyes were fixed so I couldn't move them. So

585
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Speaker 1: it was actually four years in when I started regaining

586
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Speaker 1: control of my eyes and also blinking was how I

587
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Speaker 1: let people know that I was in there? That So,

588
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Speaker 1: how did you when when you're you're in because you

589
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Speaker 1: can obviously hear what's going on and they're telling you, like,

590
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Speaker 1: you're not going to get better, right, Yeah, how did

591
00:32:05,480 --> 00:32:09,480
Speaker 1: you like mentally decided No, I'm not that's not me.

592
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Speaker 1: I'm very stubborn, so which I think works works in

593
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Speaker 1: my favorite But um, I think I think I just

594
00:32:16,920 --> 00:32:19,240
Speaker 1: didn't want to. I mean I think I had to

595
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Speaker 1: obviously look at the facts and say, Okay, yeah, this

596
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Speaker 1: is probably not going to and like and the way

597
00:32:26,000 --> 00:32:27,840
Speaker 1: I wanted to. But at the same time, I was

598
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Speaker 1: also like, well, there's there's no like, there's no um

599
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Speaker 1: downside to dreaming. So I just kind of decided that

600
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Speaker 1: I made a decision. I was like, well, today, I

601
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Speaker 1: have today, so I'm going to look forward to what

602
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Speaker 1: I will be able to do versus like me dying,

603
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Speaker 1: you know, because I think no one wants to think,

604
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Speaker 1: no one wants to think about dying. But also just

605
00:32:47,520 --> 00:32:49,360
Speaker 1: it felt a lot better to dream than it did

606
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Speaker 1: to think about think about dying. So I just decided, well,

607
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Speaker 1: you know what, I'm gonna make a hefty bucket list

608
00:32:55,400 --> 00:32:57,840
Speaker 1: and hope for the best. And I think you've made

609
00:32:57,920 --> 00:33:00,560
Speaker 1: that mentally. I made that mentally. Yeah. And I also

610
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Speaker 1: come from an incredible family. So I'm one of triplets,

611
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Speaker 1: I have an older brother, I have two incredible parents,

612
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Speaker 1: and so I saw I was witnessing them just refused

613
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Speaker 1: to give up on me, and so I was like,

614
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Speaker 1: who am I to even remotely try and give up

615
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Speaker 1: when these these folks don't even know that I'm in here,

616
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Speaker 1: and yet they're they're just believing and and giving me

617
00:33:21,760 --> 00:33:23,680
Speaker 1: the best possible life because they I mean, they literally

618
00:33:23,720 --> 00:33:26,200
Speaker 1: set up a hospital room in our living room and

619
00:33:26,280 --> 00:33:28,680
Speaker 1: just brought the world to me and didn't even know

620
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Speaker 1: that I was in there. But we're like, we have her,

621
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Speaker 1: and we're going to give her the best life we

622
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Speaker 1: can possibly give her. So at that point I was like, wow,

623
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Speaker 1: I need to come back and be able to say

624
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Speaker 1: thank you and I love you so um. So it

625
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Speaker 1: was kind of the combination of those things. So, I mean,

626
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Speaker 1: it's just crazy because four years, I mean, you know,

627
00:33:43,880 --> 00:33:46,720
Speaker 1: it's a long time. It's a very long time. Your

628
00:33:46,800 --> 00:33:50,280
Speaker 1: family like they're they're seeing you, and you're obviously their

629
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Speaker 1: child and their sister, but they're you're not who like

630
00:33:54,760 --> 00:33:57,000
Speaker 1: you're not you because you're not you're you know, you're

631
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Speaker 1: not able to talk and be there with them. Um.

632
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Speaker 1: But four years is a long time, and I feel

633
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Speaker 1: like a lot of times there's a lot of frustration

634
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Speaker 1: of being like this is not fair. Why did this

635
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Speaker 1: happen to her? And why are we having to go

636
00:34:09,360 --> 00:34:11,719
Speaker 1: through this? Why isn't she getting better? And for them

637
00:34:11,800 --> 00:34:14,239
Speaker 1: to continually be like, well, you know, this is what

638
00:34:14,280 --> 00:34:15,919
Speaker 1: it is. We're going to make the best of it.

639
00:34:16,200 --> 00:34:18,279
Speaker 1: Without even knowing that there was a chance that you

640
00:34:18,320 --> 00:34:24,640
Speaker 1: would be the start, you know, it's just crazy, and

641
00:34:24,680 --> 00:34:26,920
Speaker 1: like what a testament to your family of being like

642
00:34:27,719 --> 00:34:30,200
Speaker 1: I mean, like I said, we I just had a

643
00:34:30,239 --> 00:34:34,160
Speaker 1: conversation with someone the other day talking about someone that

644
00:34:34,200 --> 00:34:36,759
Speaker 1: she knows their child with a brain injury, and I

645
00:34:37,880 --> 00:34:41,920
Speaker 1: go into this, like, my brain starts going, is this

646
00:34:41,960 --> 00:34:44,680
Speaker 1: little girl aware of what's going on around her even

647
00:34:44,680 --> 00:34:48,080
Speaker 1: though she's not able to communicate, you know, And how

648
00:34:48,120 --> 00:34:50,879
Speaker 1: frustrating it is for the family, and how hard being

649
00:34:50,920 --> 00:34:53,720
Speaker 1: like this is not fair? Yeah, I actually I actually

650
00:34:53,719 --> 00:34:56,360
Speaker 1: got into a conversation with my mom about that recently,

651
00:34:56,360 --> 00:34:58,600
Speaker 1: and I was like, how did you How did you

652
00:34:58,680 --> 00:35:00,719
Speaker 1: keep going? Because it was my mom who was kind

653
00:35:00,719 --> 00:35:03,680
Speaker 1: of the captain of of all that, like everyone looked

654
00:35:03,680 --> 00:35:05,719
Speaker 1: to her and she because she was day in and

655
00:35:05,800 --> 00:35:08,320
Speaker 1: day out, and she was like, to be quite honest

656
00:35:08,360 --> 00:35:11,120
Speaker 1: with you, all of us couldn't bear the fact that

657
00:35:11,800 --> 00:35:13,640
Speaker 1: you were gone or that we were going to lose you.

658
00:35:13,760 --> 00:35:17,279
Speaker 1: So every day that we had you was enough for us.

659
00:35:17,719 --> 00:35:19,840
Speaker 1: Like we had you, and that was She's like, we

660
00:35:19,880 --> 00:35:22,399
Speaker 1: almost lost you quite a few times. And she goes,

661
00:35:22,400 --> 00:35:25,080
Speaker 1: So we had you, and the idea that you weren't

662
00:35:25,120 --> 00:35:28,360
Speaker 1: there was almost far too painful. So we just believed

663
00:35:28,400 --> 00:35:31,520
Speaker 1: that you were there and then that that you were

664
00:35:31,560 --> 00:35:33,560
Speaker 1: going to come back to us, And she goes, because

665
00:35:33,600 --> 00:35:36,880
Speaker 1: that that gave us hope, and that gave us faith

666
00:35:36,920 --> 00:35:40,600
Speaker 1: to keep going. And so I think having that belief

667
00:35:40,600 --> 00:35:43,759
Speaker 1: in that in that miracle, if you will, almost made

668
00:35:43,760 --> 00:35:47,040
Speaker 1: it easier than than believing that, you know, believing the

669
00:35:47,080 --> 00:35:49,799
Speaker 1: prognosis that it was over, that it was done. What

670
00:35:49,840 --> 00:35:51,400
Speaker 1: was on your bucket list? Like when you were in

671
00:35:51,400 --> 00:35:53,200
Speaker 1: that and you had like that, but like what was

672
00:35:53,680 --> 00:35:55,920
Speaker 1: like what was on that? And what have you accomplished

673
00:35:55,960 --> 00:35:59,400
Speaker 1: since them? Quite a few things? Um? Yeah, like Dancing

674
00:35:59,440 --> 00:36:02,560
Speaker 1: with the Stars on it. I love that show growing

675
00:36:02,640 --> 00:36:04,759
Speaker 1: up and so and that was the thing too, is

676
00:36:04,800 --> 00:36:08,560
Speaker 1: like my parents would put on things that they knew

677
00:36:08,560 --> 00:36:10,720
Speaker 1: I love, so they knew I loved Dancing with the Stars.

678
00:36:11,040 --> 00:36:13,920
Speaker 1: I also really wanted to win a gold medal. That

679
00:36:14,040 --> 00:36:16,719
Speaker 1: was like something I at five years old to my

680
00:36:16,800 --> 00:36:18,000
Speaker 1: mom I was going to do. I was like, I'm

681
00:36:18,000 --> 00:36:21,120
Speaker 1: gonna win a gold medal at the Olympics. And She's like, okay,

682
00:36:21,160 --> 00:36:25,120
Speaker 1: like cool, like that's awesome, like we support you, and

683
00:36:25,200 --> 00:36:27,520
Speaker 1: so it was like stuff like that. Um, I really

684
00:36:27,560 --> 00:36:30,719
Speaker 1: wanted to um start a foundation and help people in

685
00:36:30,800 --> 00:36:34,279
Speaker 1: my similar situations. And I'm trying to think what else

686
00:36:34,360 --> 00:36:37,480
Speaker 1: is on the bucket? I've done so many different things. Yeah, Like, well,

687
00:36:37,480 --> 00:36:39,000
Speaker 1: I had a lot of time in my hands and

688
00:36:39,040 --> 00:36:41,320
Speaker 1: I was just kind of like, well, let's go crazy,

689
00:36:41,560 --> 00:36:45,239
Speaker 1: like let's think of the craziest things. Um. Being on

690
00:36:45,520 --> 00:36:49,200
Speaker 1: ESPN was another one. Yeah, you're one of the youngest reporters, right, Yeah,

691
00:36:49,480 --> 00:36:52,520
Speaker 1: the youngest. I was twenty when they hired me, so

692
00:36:52,800 --> 00:36:55,359
Speaker 1: I had no idea what I was doing and went

693
00:36:55,440 --> 00:36:58,120
Speaker 1: with it. Yeah, So is that definitely wild working for

694
00:36:58,280 --> 00:37:02,480
Speaker 1: ESPN at like dude central, Um not anymore. It's it's

695
00:37:02,520 --> 00:37:06,480
Speaker 1: definitely there's some there's some pretty epic woman um there too,

696
00:37:06,600 --> 00:37:08,799
Speaker 1: and especially I'm now in the in the kind of

697
00:37:08,840 --> 00:37:12,360
Speaker 1: sports center realm, so there's some really amazing anchors too.

698
00:37:12,400 --> 00:37:14,880
Speaker 1: But it was it was wild at twenty because I

699
00:37:14,920 --> 00:37:17,560
Speaker 1: wasn't even legal to drink. And I remember one of

700
00:37:17,560 --> 00:37:20,560
Speaker 1: my first events was the X Games and I just

701
00:37:20,640 --> 00:37:22,640
Speaker 1: turned twenty one, but I was still in school, so

702
00:37:22,680 --> 00:37:24,920
Speaker 1: I had to like go back to my hotel room

703
00:37:24,960 --> 00:37:27,040
Speaker 1: after we got off air. So after we do this

704
00:37:27,120 --> 00:37:29,839
Speaker 1: like huge broadcast, I'm going back to my hotel room.

705
00:37:29,880 --> 00:37:32,480
Speaker 1: Because my parents when I joined, were like, you have

706
00:37:32,600 --> 00:37:37,160
Speaker 1: to finish school, so I finished online. I did. Yeah,

707
00:37:37,200 --> 00:37:39,200
Speaker 1: and at this point I was in college and they're like,

708
00:37:39,239 --> 00:37:41,600
Speaker 1: you have to get your degree even though you have

709
00:37:41,680 --> 00:37:45,400
Speaker 1: this job, and so like, I remember my first big production.

710
00:37:45,480 --> 00:37:47,759
Speaker 1: We were at the X Games and everyone's going out

711
00:37:47,800 --> 00:37:49,440
Speaker 1: and going to parties, and I'm like back in my

712
00:37:49,480 --> 00:37:52,719
Speaker 1: hotel room writing a paper and like submitting it in

713
00:37:52,800 --> 00:37:54,880
Speaker 1: and I was like, because everyone else is like twice

714
00:37:54,920 --> 00:37:58,200
Speaker 1: my age. Um, So it was wild. But it also

715
00:37:58,520 --> 00:38:01,440
Speaker 1: was really cool because a lot of amazing humans just

716
00:38:01,480 --> 00:38:03,759
Speaker 1: took me under their wing and kind of adopted me.

717
00:38:03,840 --> 00:38:06,799
Speaker 1: So I really got to learn from people who have

718
00:38:06,920 --> 00:38:10,480
Speaker 1: really excelled in that industry and and pick their brains

719
00:38:10,560 --> 00:38:13,359
Speaker 1: and and kind of be be you know, their kids

720
00:38:13,440 --> 00:38:16,320
Speaker 1: age sitting next to them. So it was it was wild.

721
00:38:16,360 --> 00:38:18,800
Speaker 1: It's still wild though it's been It's been four years,

722
00:38:18,800 --> 00:38:20,880
Speaker 1: and I was actually joking my boss about it the

723
00:38:20,920 --> 00:38:22,280
Speaker 1: other day. I was like, I feel like I'm finally

724
00:38:22,280 --> 00:38:25,200
Speaker 1: out of elementary school, Like I kind of know what

725
00:38:25,239 --> 00:38:28,800
Speaker 1: I'm doing now. But then again, don't do any of

726
00:38:28,920 --> 00:38:31,680
Speaker 1: us know what we're doing. Let's be honest, as we

727
00:38:31,719 --> 00:38:34,360
Speaker 1: talk about this all the time that the syndrome and

728
00:38:34,400 --> 00:38:36,640
Speaker 1: I don't belong here, But the truth is everyone feels

729
00:38:36,640 --> 00:38:38,960
Speaker 1: that way, and everyone is just figuring it out here today.

730
00:38:39,120 --> 00:38:40,600
Speaker 1: And I feel like, if you think you know what

731
00:38:40,640 --> 00:38:43,600
Speaker 1: you're doing, then something's wrong because I'm like, come on now,

732
00:38:43,760 --> 00:38:47,480
Speaker 1: we're we're all evolving and learning totally. Yeah. I almost

733
00:38:47,520 --> 00:38:49,840
Speaker 1: feel like when you feel like you've got it and

734
00:38:49,880 --> 00:38:51,920
Speaker 1: you feel like you know what you're doing, is when

735
00:38:52,000 --> 00:38:55,200
Speaker 1: something really comes to humble you and you're like okay,

736
00:38:55,920 --> 00:38:59,640
Speaker 1: slacks on the face and you're like fair enough, yeah right,

737
00:39:00,239 --> 00:39:02,880
Speaker 1: Um when you so when you came out of the

738
00:39:03,560 --> 00:39:07,000
Speaker 1: vegetative state and you said your eyes started working, how

739
00:39:07,080 --> 00:39:11,880
Speaker 1: long before you were able to speak and visit and walk?

740
00:39:12,040 --> 00:39:16,279
Speaker 1: And so I started to come out of the vegetative state,

741
00:39:17,120 --> 00:39:22,719
Speaker 1: so in like February. I started speaking in April April May,

742
00:39:23,400 --> 00:39:25,600
Speaker 1: and so it was it was kind of a very

743
00:39:25,640 --> 00:39:28,360
Speaker 1: slow I mean I literally had to relearn how to

744
00:39:28,400 --> 00:39:30,600
Speaker 1: do everything. But they were like you'll never walk again,

745
00:39:30,640 --> 00:39:33,400
Speaker 1: like you'll be in a wheelchair. Your spine has been

746
00:39:34,120 --> 00:39:37,640
Speaker 1: severely damaged. So for ten years I was in a wheelchair,

747
00:39:38,120 --> 00:39:41,520
Speaker 1: which was fine, um, but I also come from a

748
00:39:41,600 --> 00:39:44,120
Speaker 1: very tall family, and so I was at Butts View

749
00:39:44,200 --> 00:39:47,880
Speaker 1: constantly and which I don't recommend, especially in high school.

750
00:39:47,920 --> 00:39:51,880
Speaker 1: It's not cool. Um, But I I couldn't fight this

751
00:39:51,960 --> 00:39:54,680
Speaker 1: feeling that I had literally done everything that the doctor

752
00:39:54,719 --> 00:39:58,680
Speaker 1: said I wouldn't do except walk. And so my parents

753
00:39:59,120 --> 00:40:01,799
Speaker 1: had had made a promise with me because my first

754
00:40:01,880 --> 00:40:04,920
Speaker 1: day back to school after being gone for five years,

755
00:40:05,280 --> 00:40:08,520
Speaker 1: I was bullied incessively for being in a wheelchair and

756
00:40:08,560 --> 00:40:10,840
Speaker 1: it was horrible, and I remember I came home crying

757
00:40:10,880 --> 00:40:12,759
Speaker 1: and I was like, I'm just trying to find this

758
00:40:13,040 --> 00:40:15,919
Speaker 1: new normal and now I can't even like the one

759
00:40:15,960 --> 00:40:18,440
Speaker 1: thing I can't control, I'm getting made fun of for.

760
00:40:18,640 --> 00:40:21,640
Speaker 1: And so my parents were like, we promise you, we

761
00:40:21,680 --> 00:40:23,880
Speaker 1: will we will do whatever it takes to help you

762
00:40:23,960 --> 00:40:27,360
Speaker 1: regain regain you know, everything that was taken away from you.

763
00:40:27,440 --> 00:40:31,879
Speaker 1: And so we discovered a program called Project Walk, which

764
00:40:31,920 --> 00:40:35,919
Speaker 1: is a prolysis recovery program, and so we we kind

765
00:40:35,920 --> 00:40:38,160
Speaker 1: of went for it and went to this place and

766
00:40:38,200 --> 00:40:40,640
Speaker 1: realized this is the answer. But it's on the other side,

767
00:40:40,680 --> 00:40:43,360
Speaker 1: you know, from the East coast, and right, yeah, it

768
00:40:43,400 --> 00:40:46,960
Speaker 1: was in San Diego, and so um, my parents decided

769
00:40:47,000 --> 00:40:48,720
Speaker 1: to bring it to the East Coast. So they opened

770
00:40:48,800 --> 00:40:52,080
Speaker 1: up a center as like a gift to me but

771
00:40:52,160 --> 00:40:54,719
Speaker 1: also to our community because there was nothing out there.

772
00:40:54,840 --> 00:40:56,680
Speaker 1: I mean, they pretty much give you a wheelchair or

773
00:40:56,719 --> 00:40:59,719
Speaker 1: hospital bed and say okay, figure it out and as

774
00:40:59,719 --> 00:41:02,080
Speaker 1: a Emily, we were like, wait, we can do something

775
00:41:02,320 --> 00:41:04,960
Speaker 1: where we can help other lost causes if you will,

776
00:41:05,080 --> 00:41:07,279
Speaker 1: or other people in similar situations. So we opened up

777
00:41:07,280 --> 00:41:10,400
Speaker 1: Project Walk Boston and from there I could train like

778
00:41:10,520 --> 00:41:13,120
Speaker 1: six hours a day and so I basically split my

779
00:41:13,160 --> 00:41:17,160
Speaker 1: time at ESPN and Project Walk and just worked around

780
00:41:17,160 --> 00:41:20,680
Speaker 1: the clock trying to regain anything and it and I

781
00:41:20,680 --> 00:41:23,400
Speaker 1: mean it was literally not supposed to happen. And then

782
00:41:23,400 --> 00:41:25,719
Speaker 1: we got we got a twitch in my leg and

783
00:41:25,760 --> 00:41:28,200
Speaker 1: that was like it was like a blink moment again

784
00:41:28,280 --> 00:41:30,440
Speaker 1: where it was like all that that small little thing

785
00:41:30,560 --> 00:41:33,880
Speaker 1: and so um, within two months, I was on crutches

786
00:41:34,320 --> 00:41:37,600
Speaker 1: and like braces, and then I took my step. I

787
00:41:37,640 --> 00:41:43,320
Speaker 1: took my first like official steps without anything in April. Yes,

788
00:41:43,320 --> 00:41:49,760
Speaker 1: that's like And then a year later I was understand,

789
00:41:50,239 --> 00:41:52,600
Speaker 1: I don't either. It's just like such a it's such

790
00:41:52,600 --> 00:41:57,080
Speaker 1: a crazy beautiful story because I feel like, I mean,

791
00:41:57,440 --> 00:42:00,399
Speaker 1: people are told no so many times in their life,

792
00:42:00,440 --> 00:42:03,400
Speaker 1: and it's like even the smallest things that you know

793
00:42:03,440 --> 00:42:05,480
Speaker 1: what I mean, and people get so discouraged by the

794
00:42:05,520 --> 00:42:08,640
Speaker 1: word no, and it's like you had like the ultimate nose,

795
00:42:08,880 --> 00:42:11,160
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Like doctors and doctors and

796
00:42:11,239 --> 00:42:15,760
Speaker 1: professionals and like all the experts like the craziest nose

797
00:42:16,000 --> 00:42:18,160
Speaker 1: and you were able to like come out on the

798
00:42:18,200 --> 00:42:20,239
Speaker 1: other end. And I think it's just such a testimony,

799
00:42:20,239 --> 00:42:22,120
Speaker 1: Like your life is such a testimony, and it's just

800
00:42:22,160 --> 00:42:25,640
Speaker 1: such like a I don't know what the word is,

801
00:42:25,640 --> 00:42:28,319
Speaker 1: like a beacon of the light for people that like

802
00:42:28,640 --> 00:42:30,720
Speaker 1: know that, like everybody, you know, I feel like sometimes

803
00:42:30,800 --> 00:42:33,440
Speaker 1: you're told no and you just kind of like, Okay,

804
00:42:33,480 --> 00:42:35,160
Speaker 1: well I can't do that, and you have to be

805
00:42:35,200 --> 00:42:37,919
Speaker 1: a little stubborn, I feel like in life and just

806
00:42:38,040 --> 00:42:41,200
Speaker 1: to get anywhere, even if you don't have an extreme

807
00:42:41,520 --> 00:42:44,319
Speaker 1: circumstance like what I went through. I think we all

808
00:42:44,400 --> 00:42:46,680
Speaker 1: have people that say no, are people that want to

809
00:42:46,719 --> 00:42:48,640
Speaker 1: put roadblocks up. But at the end of the day,

810
00:42:49,200 --> 00:42:51,760
Speaker 1: you are almost like slam the brakes, but you're driving

811
00:42:51,800 --> 00:42:55,120
Speaker 1: the car. Yeah, so you don't give the steering wheel

812
00:42:55,160 --> 00:42:57,200
Speaker 1: to someone else, don't give the gas and break to

813
00:42:57,280 --> 00:42:59,440
Speaker 1: someone else, because if you do, someone's going to hit

814
00:42:59,480 --> 00:43:03,279
Speaker 1: the brakes, and so you almost just have to be like, well,

815
00:43:03,520 --> 00:43:06,520
Speaker 1: I respect you, and I respect your expertise and what

816
00:43:06,560 --> 00:43:09,080
Speaker 1: you said, but this is how I want to write

817
00:43:09,080 --> 00:43:12,040
Speaker 1: my story. That's such a good point because I feel

818
00:43:12,080 --> 00:43:16,400
Speaker 1: like I accept no so often like I'm so, I'm

819
00:43:16,480 --> 00:43:19,879
Speaker 1: like so on the the side of like I don't

820
00:43:19,880 --> 00:43:24,360
Speaker 1: want to disrespect or like upset anybody that I accept

821
00:43:24,520 --> 00:43:27,200
Speaker 1: no more than I should, rather than being like, like

822
00:43:27,239 --> 00:43:30,160
Speaker 1: you said, I respect you, but I have something to do,

823
00:43:30,320 --> 00:43:32,799
Speaker 1: or like I know what I need to do. And

824
00:43:32,840 --> 00:43:35,920
Speaker 1: there's like a fine line of walking that of saying

825
00:43:35,960 --> 00:43:38,000
Speaker 1: like I'm not going to accept what you tell me

826
00:43:38,040 --> 00:43:41,680
Speaker 1: because I know I have more versus like And it's

827
00:43:41,719 --> 00:43:45,520
Speaker 1: not easy. It's not something I mean, I still struggle

828
00:43:45,560 --> 00:43:47,759
Speaker 1: with that sometimes, I think, but it's something that you

829
00:43:47,800 --> 00:43:51,880
Speaker 1: have to almost make a conscious decision to to like

830
00:43:52,080 --> 00:43:55,640
Speaker 1: look from within and be like you, you hold that power,

831
00:43:55,760 --> 00:43:58,440
Speaker 1: not anyone else. But at the other people are going

832
00:43:58,480 --> 00:44:01,080
Speaker 1: to try to steal your light or steal your power.

833
00:44:01,200 --> 00:44:03,120
Speaker 1: It's just kind of human nature. But you have to

834
00:44:03,160 --> 00:44:04,920
Speaker 1: kind of look within and be like, wait a second,

835
00:44:05,520 --> 00:44:08,080
Speaker 1: how do I want this story to go? And and

836
00:44:08,160 --> 00:44:10,879
Speaker 1: for me, it started in that vegetative state and then

837
00:44:11,719 --> 00:44:13,880
Speaker 1: continue to evolve where I was like, wait, this is

838
00:44:13,920 --> 00:44:16,040
Speaker 1: not how my story is going to end. And I

839
00:44:16,080 --> 00:44:19,160
Speaker 1: respect that this is what the facts are saying, or

840
00:44:19,200 --> 00:44:22,239
Speaker 1: this is what the prognosis is, but you also don't

841
00:44:22,280 --> 00:44:26,640
Speaker 1: know me, and I'm going to try to not have

842
00:44:26,840 --> 00:44:29,560
Speaker 1: that happen. It's so crazy because it's like the like

843
00:44:30,120 --> 00:44:33,600
Speaker 1: I don't know anything about help, so like whatever my

844
00:44:33,640 --> 00:44:38,359
Speaker 1: doctor tells me, I'm like, okay, you got it. Yeah, yeah, yeah,

845
00:44:38,480 --> 00:44:40,480
Speaker 1: it was well. And it's my mom has like a

846
00:44:40,560 --> 00:44:44,040
Speaker 1: theory like except the prognosis, but except the diagnosis, but

847
00:44:44,080 --> 00:44:47,560
Speaker 1: not the prognosis because there's I mean at the end

848
00:44:47,560 --> 00:44:49,920
Speaker 1: of the day like that that's up to you. And

849
00:44:50,000 --> 00:44:51,960
Speaker 1: they literally were like, yeah, she's not going to make

850
00:44:52,000 --> 00:44:56,120
Speaker 1: it past her fifteenth birthday. And my parents are like

851
00:44:56,160 --> 00:44:58,560
Speaker 1: what And I was like what, Like I'm not, like

852
00:44:58,680 --> 00:45:00,680
Speaker 1: come on, like I got the things to do. And

853
00:45:01,200 --> 00:45:04,280
Speaker 1: so it's you have to respect doctors at the same time,

854
00:45:04,360 --> 00:45:07,760
Speaker 1: like miracles do happen and there's such a bigger picture

855
00:45:08,360 --> 00:45:12,200
Speaker 1: and you have to almost be be wary of that

856
00:45:12,320 --> 00:45:14,600
Speaker 1: and also be aware that you have to look beyond

857
00:45:15,400 --> 00:45:19,080
Speaker 1: this prognosis. Jeez, yeah, I'm having probably getting past the

858
00:45:19,080 --> 00:45:22,000
Speaker 1: four years because your brain is active and fine and

859
00:45:22,080 --> 00:45:24,560
Speaker 1: nothing works. How do you deal with that that boredom

860
00:45:24,840 --> 00:45:26,960
Speaker 1: without losing your mind? Because they put people in solitary

861
00:45:26,960 --> 00:45:29,560
Speaker 1: confinement and they go crazy. How did you handle that?

862
00:45:29,920 --> 00:45:33,399
Speaker 1: I think I paid attention to kind of the world

863
00:45:33,400 --> 00:45:36,480
Speaker 1: around me. I also focused a lot on gratitude. But

864
00:45:36,760 --> 00:45:39,480
Speaker 1: I think the real torture was there was like one

865
00:45:39,520 --> 00:45:41,279
Speaker 1: moment in particular, it was like three and a half

866
00:45:41,360 --> 00:45:44,480
Speaker 1: years in and I had to scratch my nose, like

867
00:45:44,600 --> 00:45:46,799
Speaker 1: my nose was to me, have you ever liked just

868
00:45:46,840 --> 00:45:49,239
Speaker 1: had that itch? And the more you think about it,

869
00:45:49,280 --> 00:45:52,480
Speaker 1: the more how did you take three half years? I

870
00:45:52,480 --> 00:45:54,279
Speaker 1: think I was just more aware of it. I think

871
00:45:54,320 --> 00:45:56,359
Speaker 1: the first half of it, I was just kind of

872
00:45:56,480 --> 00:45:59,560
Speaker 1: um because I was also having seizures for twenty hours

873
00:45:59,560 --> 00:46:02,879
Speaker 1: a day, so I was battling other things to even

874
00:46:02,960 --> 00:46:05,440
Speaker 1: not even like half the time I was. I was

875
00:46:05,520 --> 00:46:07,960
Speaker 1: just trying to rally from that. And I remember I

876
00:46:08,000 --> 00:46:10,160
Speaker 1: was just laying there and my nose was itching, and

877
00:46:10,160 --> 00:46:12,880
Speaker 1: I was like oh no, oh no, And I was

878
00:46:12,960 --> 00:46:16,160
Speaker 1: like this is this is how like this is where

879
00:46:16,200 --> 00:46:18,600
Speaker 1: I'm like a complete torture and like, so I always

880
00:46:18,600 --> 00:46:21,000
Speaker 1: tell people, so I do a lot of motivational speaking,

881
00:46:21,000 --> 00:46:23,160
Speaker 1: and I made a couple of months ago speaking at

882
00:46:23,200 --> 00:46:25,840
Speaker 1: this event in Dallas, and there was like twenty thousand

883
00:46:25,880 --> 00:46:28,200
Speaker 1: people there, and I made every single person scratch their

884
00:46:28,239 --> 00:46:30,320
Speaker 1: nose because I'm like, if you ever having a moment

885
00:46:31,000 --> 00:46:34,040
Speaker 1: where you're spinning out of control, stop, take a moment

886
00:46:34,040 --> 00:46:36,000
Speaker 1: and scratch your nose and just think about the fact

887
00:46:36,040 --> 00:46:38,480
Speaker 1: that you can scratch your nose. So it was like

888
00:46:38,520 --> 00:46:41,240
Speaker 1: stuff like that that bothered me more than the bigger stuff.

889
00:46:41,880 --> 00:46:44,359
Speaker 1: And then there was another another moment where my mom

890
00:46:44,480 --> 00:46:47,920
Speaker 1: was having me get a haircut, so they brought their

891
00:46:48,040 --> 00:46:51,440
Speaker 1: silence here and they gave me bangs, and I remember

892
00:46:51,920 --> 00:46:54,680
Speaker 1: so vividly the scissors coming across my face and I

893
00:46:54,719 --> 00:46:56,319
Speaker 1: was like, don't do it. And I was like kill

894
00:46:56,400 --> 00:46:59,799
Speaker 1: me now, Jesus, like I could. I cannot come back

895
00:47:00,000 --> 00:47:02,560
Speaker 1: of this. And that was one of the first things

896
00:47:02,640 --> 00:47:04,239
Speaker 1: I said to my mom was like, you gave me

897
00:47:04,320 --> 00:47:07,439
Speaker 1: bangs and she's like, I was just trying to get

898
00:47:07,440 --> 00:47:09,040
Speaker 1: the hair out of your face. I was like, you

899
00:47:09,080 --> 00:47:11,040
Speaker 1: gave me bangs. And I was ready to throw in

900
00:47:11,080 --> 00:47:14,560
Speaker 1: the towel at that moment, Like could they show you

901
00:47:14,800 --> 00:47:17,719
Speaker 1: movies you couldn't write because you can't focus your eyes. Yeah,

902
00:47:17,760 --> 00:47:22,879
Speaker 1: I mean, put movies on. But they didn't know that.

903
00:47:23,040 --> 00:47:25,000
Speaker 1: They didn't know that they would put on like a

904
00:47:25,000 --> 00:47:27,640
Speaker 1: lot of different things, but my dad whenever he was on,

905
00:47:27,760 --> 00:47:30,160
Speaker 1: so everyone was kind of on Victoria duty. My dad

906
00:47:30,160 --> 00:47:33,120
Speaker 1: would put the Food Network on and like it was

907
00:47:33,239 --> 00:47:36,680
Speaker 1: torture because I couldn't eat, but I learned how to cook,

908
00:47:37,280 --> 00:47:39,360
Speaker 1: So I came back like learning how to cook. So

909
00:47:39,680 --> 00:47:41,640
Speaker 1: I decided that in that thing, I was like, well,

910
00:47:41,680 --> 00:47:43,920
Speaker 1: I'm going to figure out special skills and I was

911
00:47:43,960 --> 00:47:46,239
Speaker 1: going to figure out So I paid attention to all

912
00:47:46,280 --> 00:47:49,720
Speaker 1: the sports like scores and stories, I paid attention to food.

913
00:47:49,800 --> 00:47:54,520
Speaker 1: So I stayed entertained, like I found entertainment in that

914
00:47:54,680 --> 00:47:58,080
Speaker 1: solitary confinement. Yeah, I mean, you really don't know until

915
00:47:58,120 --> 00:48:01,200
Speaker 1: you're in that scenario. And I was like, well, here

916
00:48:01,239 --> 00:48:04,160
Speaker 1: I am, can someone please just scratch my nose? Is

917
00:48:04,239 --> 00:48:05,680
Speaker 1: what I want? Like they always say, when you know,

918
00:48:05,680 --> 00:48:07,080
Speaker 1: when tough times come along, you got to make the

919
00:48:07,120 --> 00:48:08,600
Speaker 1: best of it. I mean, that is the most extreme

920
00:48:08,600 --> 00:48:13,120
Speaker 1: example I've ever of that attitude, saying, yeah, it's incredible.

921
00:48:13,160 --> 00:48:15,319
Speaker 1: You really don't have a choice at that point. Yeah.

922
00:48:15,440 --> 00:48:17,719
Speaker 1: And this is a Grazon anatomy centric podcast. A lot

923
00:48:17,719 --> 00:48:22,080
Speaker 1: of the time, it reminds me of Dr McDreamy when

924
00:48:22,120 --> 00:48:25,879
Speaker 1: he was laying there and there that episode wrecked me.

925
00:48:26,080 --> 00:48:29,520
Speaker 1: I literally stopped watching for like six months because it's

926
00:48:29,560 --> 00:48:35,319
Speaker 1: like it hit me, like you're telling your mom not

927
00:48:35,360 --> 00:48:37,600
Speaker 1: to give you banks, he said, the saying don't do that.

928
00:48:39,400 --> 00:48:43,000
Speaker 1: The bank has almost killed me. I love it. You're

929
00:48:43,040 --> 00:48:44,920
Speaker 1: like they said I won't walk, talk or walk. I'm

930
00:48:44,920 --> 00:48:47,160
Speaker 1: going to do those things. But she gave me bang

931
00:48:47,560 --> 00:48:50,080
Speaker 1: like this wait for my bangs to grow up, and

932
00:48:50,239 --> 00:48:53,880
Speaker 1: they took forever my hair. I was like, oh my lord,

933
00:48:54,239 --> 00:48:57,319
Speaker 1: I look like a mushroom. Oh my god, you do

934
00:48:57,320 --> 00:49:00,480
Speaker 1: you still have any like um simple, I don't even

935
00:49:00,480 --> 00:49:02,719
Speaker 1: know what the word would be, like any symptoms or

936
00:49:02,760 --> 00:49:05,839
Speaker 1: anything from the lizzase Yeah, um no. I just can't

937
00:49:05,880 --> 00:49:09,959
Speaker 1: feel my legs. That's really that never came back. Yeah,

938
00:49:10,239 --> 00:49:13,960
Speaker 1: you can't feel your legs, like to touch that. You

939
00:49:13,960 --> 00:49:16,520
Speaker 1: can walk. I can walk, but I have no idea

940
00:49:16,719 --> 00:49:18,400
Speaker 1: like if you have somebody were to like pinch your leg,

941
00:49:18,400 --> 00:49:20,160
Speaker 1: you would feel it. Know, like my foot got ran

942
00:49:20,239 --> 00:49:23,720
Speaker 1: over by a golf cart a couple of months ago. Nope,

943
00:49:24,719 --> 00:49:28,640
Speaker 1: that's not good. You walk without feeling. I just learned

944
00:49:28,680 --> 00:49:32,920
Speaker 1: how to walk without feeling. Yeah, I mean I just do.

945
00:49:33,239 --> 00:49:35,120
Speaker 1: I don't know. I think it'd be weird. Now to

946
00:49:35,280 --> 00:49:38,000
Speaker 1: feel my legs because I've I'm so used to not

947
00:49:38,080 --> 00:49:41,400
Speaker 1: feeling them right right, Yeah, my mind is I know

948
00:49:41,560 --> 00:49:48,120
Speaker 1: you're You're so incredible. Very No, it's just it's like

949
00:49:51,320 --> 00:49:53,120
Speaker 1: when you, like, when my footballs asleep and I try

950
00:49:53,160 --> 00:49:55,800
Speaker 1: to walk, Yes, you feel that. Do you feel pressure?

951
00:49:56,360 --> 00:50:00,480
Speaker 1: But you guys feel it's like nothing. Okay, so you

952
00:50:00,560 --> 00:50:03,279
Speaker 1: know when your foes asleep. I don't know where my

953
00:50:03,360 --> 00:50:08,640
Speaker 1: legs are like to. I mean, obviously with a gold

954
00:50:08,680 --> 00:50:11,400
Speaker 1: car so you have broken your foot, you wouldn't have

955
00:50:11,400 --> 00:50:16,319
Speaker 1: realized you wouldn't pay Nope, nope. Wow. I mean I'm

956
00:50:16,360 --> 00:50:20,600
Speaker 1: got to be very careful, very careful. Wow. Well yeah,

957
00:50:20,800 --> 00:50:23,640
Speaker 1: so yeah the stars, Yeah, dancer of the Stars. I

958
00:50:23,680 --> 00:50:25,800
Speaker 1: want to talk about what you brought in for us today.

959
00:50:27,200 --> 00:50:30,080
Speaker 1: So sweet. You have a capsule collection um with Jockey

960
00:50:31,160 --> 00:50:34,080
Speaker 1: and it's really cute stuff. Thank you really cut with

961
00:50:34,160 --> 00:50:36,480
Speaker 1: us on your bucket list. Yes, well it was I

962
00:50:36,719 --> 00:50:42,080
Speaker 1: I wrote about four years ago. I was I was

963
00:50:42,160 --> 00:50:44,279
Speaker 1: kind of at this transitional period of my life, and

964
00:50:44,320 --> 00:50:46,480
Speaker 1: I wrote down the five things I wanted to achieve

965
00:50:46,560 --> 00:50:51,000
Speaker 1: in the next ten years, and I wrote like espn ump,

966
00:50:51,280 --> 00:50:54,440
Speaker 1: like motivational speaking, write a book, design a clothing collection

967
00:50:54,480 --> 00:50:57,360
Speaker 1: and start a foundation. And the clothing collection was like

968
00:50:57,440 --> 00:51:00,399
Speaker 1: the final checkmark on that on that list, and it's

969
00:51:00,480 --> 00:51:02,880
Speaker 1: it's incredible. I mean Jockey. I've been with Jockey for

970
00:51:02,960 --> 00:51:05,319
Speaker 1: two years and about a year and a half ago,

971
00:51:06,000 --> 00:51:08,360
Speaker 1: um I just jokingly said, can we design a T

972
00:51:08,440 --> 00:51:10,719
Speaker 1: shirt with a donut on it? And they're like ha

973
00:51:10,840 --> 00:51:14,080
Speaker 1: ha ha, like that's funny. And then um my agent

974
00:51:14,200 --> 00:51:16,880
Speaker 1: called me like a month later and he was like,

975
00:51:16,960 --> 00:51:19,719
Speaker 1: so they squashed your idea of designing a T shirt.

976
00:51:19,800 --> 00:51:22,000
Speaker 1: They want to give you a capsule collection. So I

977
00:51:22,040 --> 00:51:24,640
Speaker 1: got to design it from start to finish and it's

978
00:51:24,680 --> 00:51:27,759
Speaker 1: been really cool and people have really responded well to it.

979
00:51:27,840 --> 00:51:31,480
Speaker 1: And we wanted to kind of have the premise be

980
00:51:31,680 --> 00:51:33,719
Speaker 1: turn your struggles into sprinkles, just throw it in the

981
00:51:33,800 --> 00:51:37,000
Speaker 1: air and feel, you know, empowered and inspired in your

982
00:51:37,040 --> 00:51:40,600
Speaker 1: own way, but with a theme of doughnuts. I love donuts.

983
00:51:40,680 --> 00:51:44,160
Speaker 1: And also all the clothes are so soft. I reached

984
00:51:44,200 --> 00:51:47,000
Speaker 1: in the bag and everything felt like butter Where can

985
00:51:47,040 --> 00:51:49,360
Speaker 1: everybody get it? They can get it in stores and

986
00:51:49,440 --> 00:51:54,040
Speaker 1: then at jockey dot com slash Victoria amazing. Yeah, it's

987
00:51:54,080 --> 00:51:56,560
Speaker 1: really cool. It's like crazy, my name's in it. And

988
00:51:56,760 --> 00:51:59,200
Speaker 1: so you just see my name in there. Oh and

989
00:51:59,239 --> 00:52:01,200
Speaker 1: the way all the way, let me go look at

990
00:52:01,239 --> 00:52:03,279
Speaker 1: that one of the labels. It's so funny because I

991
00:52:03,640 --> 00:52:06,120
Speaker 1: had a collection too, And the coolest part to me

992
00:52:06,200 --> 00:52:07,920
Speaker 1: was when I saw the tag with my name literally

993
00:52:10,239 --> 00:52:13,719
Speaker 1: back at these, everyone's clue, like I have crazy, right,

994
00:52:14,160 --> 00:52:17,000
Speaker 1: Like I've kept tax I know me too, right, And

995
00:52:17,200 --> 00:52:18,880
Speaker 1: every time I throw one away, I'm like, what do

996
00:52:18,960 --> 00:52:24,239
Speaker 1: I need to keep more? That tag? That's really cool? Thanks, Yeah,

997
00:52:24,320 --> 00:52:29,560
Speaker 1: it's crazy. And so it's twelve pieces. Um, there's leggings,

998
00:52:29,840 --> 00:52:34,080
Speaker 1: strappy tanks, v neck tease, crop hoodies, a cocoon cardigan.

999
00:52:34,719 --> 00:52:38,360
Speaker 1: Sounds cozy? That the great one. Yeah, that's cute. Like

1000
00:52:38,680 --> 00:52:43,080
Speaker 1: it gives you a snuggle a good snugger too. Yeah,

1001
00:52:43,239 --> 00:52:46,439
Speaker 1: that's so awesome. You're amazing. My word, Do you date?

1002
00:52:46,520 --> 00:52:49,879
Speaker 1: Are do? Are you single? I don't really talk about

1003
00:52:49,920 --> 00:52:56,479
Speaker 1: my personal oatle I talked too much about my personal life.

1004
00:52:56,640 --> 00:52:59,040
Speaker 1: I do, David, Like, I feel like my personal life

1005
00:52:59,080 --> 00:53:02,040
Speaker 1: there's so much out there on every other nitty gritty

1006
00:53:02,120 --> 00:53:04,840
Speaker 1: detail of my life and my story that that's like

1007
00:53:04,920 --> 00:53:07,560
Speaker 1: the one thing I keep Like, But you're not married, No,

1008
00:53:07,680 --> 00:53:11,440
Speaker 1: I'm not married. When you go out with somebody speaking generally,

1009
00:53:12,800 --> 00:53:14,000
Speaker 1: do you ever go out with somebody who has no

1010
00:53:14,040 --> 00:53:16,600
Speaker 1: idea what your story is? Yes, I bet that's fast.

1011
00:53:16,760 --> 00:53:20,399
Speaker 1: It's fantastic. It is fantastic. I went on a date

1012
00:53:20,480 --> 00:53:24,080
Speaker 1: recently and uh and I got to tell my story

1013
00:53:24,160 --> 00:53:27,320
Speaker 1: on my terms, which was really cool. The like, the

1014
00:53:27,440 --> 00:53:29,440
Speaker 1: biggest like turn off is when someone says, so I

1015
00:53:29,520 --> 00:53:35,160
Speaker 1: googled you, and I'm like, all right, check, please, let's

1016
00:53:35,239 --> 00:53:40,840
Speaker 1: move on. Yeah, my mom's a huge fanity peers. I'm like,

1017
00:53:40,960 --> 00:53:45,360
Speaker 1: oh my god, that is cut so funny. Yeah, I know.

1018
00:53:45,440 --> 00:53:47,319
Speaker 1: It's actually really funny because when I go on dates,

1019
00:53:47,400 --> 00:53:49,600
Speaker 1: people will google me before we go out, Like this

1020
00:53:49,719 --> 00:53:52,280
Speaker 1: last guy that on before our first day, he googled

1021
00:53:52,320 --> 00:53:54,120
Speaker 1: me or whatever, and the first video that popped up

1022
00:53:54,239 --> 00:53:57,279
Speaker 1: was like a video of me talking like Tanya says

1023
00:53:57,320 --> 00:53:59,200
Speaker 1: goodbye to doctor delble you. It was like a five

1024
00:53:59,239 --> 00:54:01,960
Speaker 1: minute video of me like ending this from this guy

1025
00:54:02,000 --> 00:54:05,319
Speaker 1: that I was dating. I was just like, shoot right, yeah,

1026
00:54:05,600 --> 00:54:08,319
Speaker 1: Like it was so like awkward, hoteyway because the guy

1027
00:54:08,480 --> 00:54:10,200
Speaker 1: knows nothing about me, and then he says that he's like,

1028
00:54:10,440 --> 00:54:14,919
Speaker 1: what do you do get into? Yeah? Yeah, I feel

1029
00:54:14,960 --> 00:54:18,399
Speaker 1: like um with with jockeys. There's a lot out there

1030
00:54:18,480 --> 00:54:20,480
Speaker 1: of me and my underwear, like a lot of videos

1031
00:54:20,520 --> 00:54:22,839
Speaker 1: and photos of me a mandoar and like there's been

1032
00:54:22,840 --> 00:54:25,040
Speaker 1: a few like people have said, so I don't recognize

1033
00:54:25,080 --> 00:54:31,880
Speaker 1: you with your clothes on, Like yeah, no, Like so

1034
00:54:32,000 --> 00:54:33,600
Speaker 1: tell me about this jackey, And I'm like, well, I

1035
00:54:33,840 --> 00:54:39,360
Speaker 1: just don't like wearing pants. And I'm like, back, have

1036
00:54:39,480 --> 00:54:44,719
Speaker 1: a good one. It's like so fascinated by you. This

1037
00:54:44,800 --> 00:54:47,000
Speaker 1: from her instagram. You might have seen this. This. This

1038
00:54:47,800 --> 00:54:49,960
Speaker 1: is from last month you posted this. I mean, this

1039
00:54:50,040 --> 00:54:53,239
Speaker 1: sums it all up just I mean, that's the ten

1040
00:54:53,360 --> 00:54:58,080
Speaker 1: year channel. My gosh, that's she's got the thing under

1041
00:54:58,120 --> 00:55:02,160
Speaker 1: her nose helping her to breathe, and then on the

1042
00:55:02,239 --> 00:55:13,480
Speaker 1: beach she's just loving driving no banks. It's crazy. Ever,

1043
00:55:13,840 --> 00:55:16,600
Speaker 1: Like what an amazing testimony and like how you've used

1044
00:55:16,680 --> 00:55:19,600
Speaker 1: it to Like there's probably so many people going through

1045
00:55:19,920 --> 00:55:21,680
Speaker 1: not only what you went through, but what your family

1046
00:55:21,760 --> 00:55:24,879
Speaker 1: went through and you they probably have found so much

1047
00:55:24,960 --> 00:55:27,440
Speaker 1: hope in your story. Yeah, even if it doesn't go

1048
00:55:27,640 --> 00:55:29,480
Speaker 1: the way that your story went, just being able to

1049
00:55:29,560 --> 00:55:31,800
Speaker 1: get through that tough time with the hope, you know,

1050
00:55:31,960 --> 00:55:35,960
Speaker 1: seeing what what happened for you it's really cool, and

1051
00:55:36,000 --> 00:55:38,399
Speaker 1: I'm glad that you're you're open about it because it's

1052
00:55:38,480 --> 00:55:40,000
Speaker 1: it could be really hard to talk about. It's like

1053
00:55:40,040 --> 00:55:42,160
Speaker 1: a dark time, you know. Well, I didn't want to

1054
00:55:42,200 --> 00:55:44,360
Speaker 1: ever talk about it, Like I was convinced I was

1055
00:55:44,400 --> 00:55:46,719
Speaker 1: going to keep it under lock and key and never

1056
00:55:46,840 --> 00:55:49,839
Speaker 1: talk about it. And then um, and then little by

1057
00:55:49,880 --> 00:55:51,800
Speaker 1: little I started to you. And then I feel like,

1058
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Speaker 1: as we all know, once you're kind of thrown more

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00:55:54,040 --> 00:55:56,640
Speaker 1: into the public space, you kind of people will dig

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00:55:57,200 --> 00:56:01,040
Speaker 1: and so um, but I I think hearing people who

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00:56:01,120 --> 00:56:03,680
Speaker 1: have who have found hope or families who have found

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00:56:03,719 --> 00:56:06,680
Speaker 1: hope really has inspired me and also given me the

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00:56:06,680 --> 00:56:09,040
Speaker 1: strength because it's not like we're talking about like unicorns

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Speaker 1: and rainbows here, you know, as much as I would

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00:56:12,120 --> 00:56:15,879
Speaker 1: love to talk about unicorns and rainbows, and so I think,

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Speaker 1: if anything, if I can make a difference in one

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Speaker 1: person's life, then I'm like, all right, the second chance

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00:56:20,680 --> 00:56:24,319
Speaker 1: is is valid, you know, And and so it's it's

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Speaker 1: been it's been such a blessing to be able to

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Speaker 1: just tell people, look, there's no such thing as a

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00:56:28,920 --> 00:56:32,400
Speaker 1: lost cause, trust me, living proof right here, and just

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00:56:32,800 --> 00:56:35,880
Speaker 1: don't give up on the ones you love and people

1073
00:56:35,960 --> 00:56:37,719
Speaker 1: are going through struggles. You just got to be there

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00:56:37,800 --> 00:56:41,319
Speaker 1: for them. Wow, you're like the best guests we could

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00:56:41,360 --> 00:56:50,480
Speaker 1: have had. Going embrace it, defy it, conquer it. Thank

1076
00:56:50,520 --> 00:56:52,359
Speaker 1: you so much for coming and everybody. Thank you, guys.

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Speaker 1: Go to jockey jockey dot com and Victoria slash Victoria

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00:56:57,200 --> 00:57:01,080
Speaker 1: follow you on Instagram at Arlan v One at Arlen

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Speaker 1: b One. That's a r L E N. Yeah, so

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Speaker 1: let's go to her Instagram and give her all the

1081
00:57:06,920 --> 00:57:08,920
Speaker 1: compliments you can tell her how much we love her

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Speaker 1: and sign it scrub sisters. Thank you, Thank you, ladies,

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00:57:14,480 --> 00:57:32,200
Speaker 1: thank you. I appreciate you guys. You know, when I

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00:57:32,280 --> 00:57:36,600
Speaker 1: talk to people like Victoria, I think there's literally nothing

1085
00:57:36,800 --> 00:57:40,280
Speaker 1: I should ever complain about. I should just be like

1086
00:57:40,400 --> 00:57:44,520
Speaker 1: the thought of not being able to scratch your your

1087
00:57:44,640 --> 00:57:47,560
Speaker 1: prisoner in your own body, it's it's fascinating, it's fascinating,

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Speaker 1: and for for you, it's not like four months for years.

1089
00:57:50,760 --> 00:57:53,160
Speaker 1: I know, for some reason, I thought I had read

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Speaker 1: something and I thought it was a year year, it's

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Speaker 1: like a full college term. In such a testament to

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Speaker 1: her family, because I feel like a lot of families,

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00:58:01,080 --> 00:58:03,360
Speaker 1: you know, you're you kind of get into I think

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00:58:03,720 --> 00:58:06,760
Speaker 1: in human nature a selfish mentality. And of course I

1095
00:58:06,800 --> 00:58:09,120
Speaker 1: don't have kids, Mark, you can relate to this, but

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00:58:10,440 --> 00:58:12,840
Speaker 1: you go, this is not fair. I'm having to take

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Speaker 1: care of this child who can't do anything for herself,

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00:58:16,120 --> 00:58:18,560
Speaker 1: and like, at what point do we just kind of

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Speaker 1: give up hope? And I mean it's so cool that

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Speaker 1: her family just said we'd rather have her here than

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Speaker 1: not have her here and hope for the miracle. Yeah,

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00:58:28,160 --> 00:58:30,880
Speaker 1: I love her incredible story. Like I'm a person who

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00:58:30,920 --> 00:58:33,840
Speaker 1: can't even get on a plane without two books and

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00:58:33,960 --> 00:58:35,720
Speaker 1: five movies, and you know, I just need to be

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00:58:35,840 --> 00:58:39,400
Speaker 1: constantly entertained because I get so bored so easily. And meanwhile,

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00:58:39,520 --> 00:58:42,760
Speaker 1: she literally laid there for four years and just absorbed

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00:58:42,840 --> 00:58:46,840
Speaker 1: her environment and managed to improve herself learn things, learn

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00:58:46,880 --> 00:58:49,640
Speaker 1: how to cook, learn about sports. I mean it's incredible.

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00:58:50,400 --> 00:58:53,520
Speaker 1: Dream and dream create dreams for herself, which is a

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Speaker 1: perfect transition. And what we're gonna talk about now, that's right,

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00:58:56,680 --> 00:59:00,560
Speaker 1: we're going to create our vision board for scrubbing in

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00:59:01,120 --> 00:59:06,920
Speaker 1: so henceforth, um henceforth, not the word what's what I'm

1113
00:59:06,920 --> 00:59:10,680
Speaker 1: looking for? So here's how we're Here's what we're gonna do.

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Speaker 1: We're going to come up with a word. So what

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00:59:14,040 --> 00:59:16,520
Speaker 1: I like to do is think of, like, this word

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Speaker 1: is what we're gonna um kind of make all of

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00:59:19,840 --> 00:59:22,040
Speaker 1: our decisions through and needs to kind of go through

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00:59:22,360 --> 00:59:24,040
Speaker 1: as a filter. So the word is like a filter

1119
00:59:24,880 --> 00:59:28,040
Speaker 1: essentially for what we're going to do with the podcasts. Okay,

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Speaker 1: so everything we want to do with the podcast where

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00:59:31,560 --> 00:59:33,320
Speaker 1: you go through kind of go through the word. Yeah, Like,

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Speaker 1: is it this a lot of words? You came up

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Speaker 1: with the seecraft word, you came up with a personal word,

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Speaker 1: coming up with a scrubbing in work well, and your

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Speaker 1: personal word for decided? Okay, radiant. I wanted everything I

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Speaker 1: did or like, yeah, I wanted everything every decision I

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00:59:51,160 --> 00:59:54,360
Speaker 1: made to like have a radiant effect. Do you feel

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Speaker 1: like you good? Your secret word boisterous, boisterous. You'd like

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Speaker 1: the show to have a boisterous vibe. Fun, fun. That

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01:00:04,440 --> 01:00:07,080
Speaker 1: was my my word for the morning. So that's what

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01:00:07,120 --> 01:00:09,080
Speaker 1: we're gonna start with. So our word, and then I

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01:00:09,160 --> 01:00:12,840
Speaker 1: think we should pitch our dream guests. So we'll make

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Speaker 1: a list of guests and then anything else that you

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Speaker 1: think like that week, any other dreams for or like

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01:00:20,160 --> 01:00:22,680
Speaker 1: things that you think we should do. Do you like that?

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01:00:22,800 --> 01:00:24,320
Speaker 1: That's how to have the order we're going to go in.

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01:00:24,520 --> 01:00:26,040
Speaker 1: I kind of blacked out because I was trying to

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Speaker 1: think of my word for last year and I can't remember,

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01:00:28,200 --> 01:00:31,320
Speaker 1: so which makes me think that maybe I didn't follow.

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01:00:33,760 --> 01:00:35,680
Speaker 1: That's okay, because we'll make one this so this will

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01:00:35,680 --> 01:00:38,880
Speaker 1: be for the podcast today. Have your word for the podcast? Um? Yeah,

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01:00:38,920 --> 01:00:40,720
Speaker 1: I have two words for the podcast. You need to

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01:00:40,760 --> 01:00:48,720
Speaker 1: pick one. Okay, you got one? Okay, what's your word?

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01:00:48,880 --> 01:00:53,200
Speaker 1: What's your word? My words? Authentic? Okay? Good. I want

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01:00:53,280 --> 01:00:57,160
Speaker 1: everything that we do to be authentically us, every decision

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01:00:57,240 --> 01:00:59,400
Speaker 1: that we make, every guest that comes in here. If

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01:00:59,440 --> 01:01:02,760
Speaker 1: it's not us, it's not happening. That's a good one.

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Speaker 1: I love that you like that. Yeah, mine is expansion.

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01:01:06,560 --> 01:01:12,560
Speaker 1: I want everything to expand that's good. And like everything

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01:01:12,640 --> 01:01:14,840
Speaker 1: that we do, I want it to say, are we

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01:01:15,480 --> 01:01:20,520
Speaker 1: is this expanding our our audience? Is this expanding us?

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01:01:20,760 --> 01:01:24,520
Speaker 1: Is it making us grow? Is it making us better? Better?

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01:01:24,880 --> 01:01:27,120
Speaker 1: I like that. That's a really good word. Back, I'm

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01:01:27,440 --> 01:01:30,920
Speaker 1: I'm impressed. I'm not gonna lie. Okay, So now, guests,

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Speaker 1: you want to go one for one on this? Sure? Okay,

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01:01:34,160 --> 01:01:38,440
Speaker 1: I'm starting off, I have three grays. Anatomy characters are

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Speaker 1: pretty boisterous. We love ambitious, um, but I'm gonna go

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01:01:43,760 --> 01:01:49,120
Speaker 1: for it. So I want Justin Chambers. Yes, because he's

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Speaker 1: fascinating and he's old and new. Yeah he's like yeah,

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01:01:56,160 --> 01:01:58,280
Speaker 1: and he's got so many kids in real life, like

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Speaker 1: he's so many kids he does. Yeah, that's fascinating, like

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01:02:03,680 --> 01:02:06,680
Speaker 1: he's been married forever. And he's also just one of

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01:02:06,720 --> 01:02:08,920
Speaker 1: those guys like That's how I would do it. If

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Speaker 1: I had book raise Anatomy when I was twenty whatever,

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01:02:12,160 --> 01:02:14,440
Speaker 1: I would never leave that show because I feel like,

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01:02:15,440 --> 01:02:16,720
Speaker 1: you know, some of these people like oh I want

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01:02:16,760 --> 01:02:18,800
Speaker 1: to do movies, or oh this thing is holding me back.

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01:02:19,000 --> 01:02:22,560
Speaker 1: I just can't do another surgery seeing it. No, I

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01:02:22,600 --> 01:02:24,880
Speaker 1: would write it out. I'm just practical like that. I

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01:02:24,920 --> 01:02:26,440
Speaker 1: would be. I would be there as long as they

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01:02:26,480 --> 01:02:27,880
Speaker 1: want me there because you don't know what the outside

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01:02:27,920 --> 01:02:29,560
Speaker 1: world is going to be. People leave that show and

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01:02:29,640 --> 01:02:32,320
Speaker 1: you never hear from them again. True, It's very true. Okay,

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01:02:32,360 --> 01:02:34,080
Speaker 1: So okay, Justin Japers, do you want to add to

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Speaker 1: the list. Oh yeah, okay, mine are pretty I have

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Speaker 1: some steep ones. Give it to me. Jennifer Andison, maybe

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Speaker 1: even a call in phoner Jennifer Aniston. Okay, then I'll

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Speaker 1: go to my other one. I'm Sandra thought. Okay, that's good,

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01:02:54,200 --> 01:02:59,960
Speaker 1: so we need to get her Burnet Brown good. Interesting, Okay,

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01:03:00,000 --> 01:03:07,080
Speaker 1: I'm adding it. Um I put Eric Dane. Okay, that's

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01:03:07,120 --> 01:03:09,920
Speaker 1: a good one. Okay, give me another one. Taylor Swift

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01:03:10,720 --> 01:03:16,640
Speaker 1: putt for a phoner is really aiming high here. You

1183
01:03:16,880 --> 01:03:20,600
Speaker 1: put it out there and you just never know. Okay.

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01:03:20,960 --> 01:03:24,480
Speaker 1: My next one is Charles Melton from Riverdale. I really

1185
01:03:24,560 --> 01:03:27,360
Speaker 1: want him in studio. Don't you know him very well?

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01:03:27,440 --> 01:03:34,160
Speaker 1: Reasoning beca. She's getting people that you know are well.

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01:03:34,240 --> 01:03:37,480
Speaker 1: I'm drinking. Did you just hear the story we are? Yeah?

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01:03:39,880 --> 01:03:43,280
Speaker 1: You were scribbling out the other ones and just going big. Okay,

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Speaker 1: thank you, me another one. Those are the only three

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01:03:45,920 --> 01:03:49,360
Speaker 1: I had write down. Okay. My last one is Davon Franklin.

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01:03:49,400 --> 01:03:50,920
Speaker 1: I know we've had him on the show as a phoner,

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01:03:50,960 --> 01:03:53,920
Speaker 1: but I want him in studio because I find him

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01:03:54,240 --> 01:03:56,640
Speaker 1: like something I thought back on I was thinking about

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01:03:56,800 --> 01:04:00,600
Speaker 1: on my person, the person that really affected me that

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01:04:00,960 --> 01:04:03,800
Speaker 1: isn't necessarily in my life life, and he's that person,

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01:04:04,160 --> 01:04:06,240
Speaker 1: like he's affected the way that I think he's affected

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01:04:06,240 --> 01:04:07,960
Speaker 1: the way that I act, he's affected the way that

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Speaker 1: I dream. Um, I think he'd be such a great

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Speaker 1: guest in studio, like a full episode with him. Love that. Okay,

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Speaker 1: that's a good list. Okay. And then um, in terms

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01:04:20,800 --> 01:04:24,520
Speaker 1: of things that we want to do in the podcast,

1202
01:04:24,840 --> 01:04:28,120
Speaker 1: I went to tour the country with sold out shows. Okay,

1203
01:04:29,120 --> 01:04:31,800
Speaker 1: it's sold out tour, and you know, I went through

1204
01:04:31,840 --> 01:04:34,120
Speaker 1: the whole andy grammar. Is this an ego thing and

1205
01:04:36,080 --> 01:04:39,400
Speaker 1: of how many people can we can we reach and

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01:04:39,520 --> 01:04:42,840
Speaker 1: bring together to make friendships and build the community that

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Speaker 1: we've started building. And it's also I feel like it's

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01:04:45,400 --> 01:04:48,480
Speaker 1: also these people are so wonderful on our Facebook group

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01:04:48,520 --> 01:04:50,600
Speaker 1: and there's such great people and if you do this,

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01:04:50,680 --> 01:04:52,240
Speaker 1: you'll be able to meet as many of them as

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01:04:52,320 --> 01:04:55,160
Speaker 1: possible because they give us so much and then they

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01:04:55,200 --> 01:04:58,080
Speaker 1: give to each other, and then it feels us to

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01:04:58,160 --> 01:05:02,840
Speaker 1: give to them. Totally whole circle. Um. Okay. So I

1214
01:05:03,040 --> 01:05:04,840
Speaker 1: put on there that I want to do more Facebook lives.

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01:05:04,880 --> 01:05:07,880
Speaker 1: Remember we used to do going like, yeah, I want

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01:05:07,920 --> 01:05:11,360
Speaker 1: to do more of those, like on a semi regular basis. Okay,

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01:05:11,440 --> 01:05:14,800
Speaker 1: I said, have a presence on TV or visual digital platform,

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Speaker 1: So we're on the same page there. Well different, that's different.

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01:05:20,240 --> 01:05:22,920
Speaker 1: I'm saying, like something where it's like visual and not

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01:05:23,160 --> 01:05:28,440
Speaker 1: just on the podcast right right, like content. Yeah, I think,

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01:05:28,800 --> 01:05:30,800
Speaker 1: but I think that's separate, okay, because I feel like

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Speaker 1: Facebook lads are just like one offs, you know, like

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Speaker 1: just pop in and say, hey, UM, I put that

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01:05:37,160 --> 01:05:39,800
Speaker 1: on there too. I put service dreams. Um. I did

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01:05:39,840 --> 01:05:43,400
Speaker 1: put People's choice word three pet that's definitely an ego dream.

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01:05:44,200 --> 01:05:46,960
Speaker 1: But I just feel like it'd be so badass, you

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01:05:47,040 --> 01:05:48,720
Speaker 1: know what I mean if we're just like the only

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01:05:48,800 --> 01:05:52,320
Speaker 1: podcast that keeps dominating that category when there's like all

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Speaker 1: these other podcasts with millions of listeners and the scrubbing

1230
01:05:55,200 --> 01:05:58,520
Speaker 1: in listeners just keep on it. It's kind of amazing.

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01:05:58,560 --> 01:06:01,560
Speaker 1: It's like the little engine that could, like Goliath, David

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01:06:01,600 --> 01:06:08,600
Speaker 1: and Goliath like David. Um, I I put um triple

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01:06:09,040 --> 01:06:16,120
Speaker 1: downloads and listens to expand expand expansion. Wow, so triple listeners.

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01:06:17,480 --> 01:06:19,640
Speaker 1: I like this. And then my last one was, um,

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01:06:20,160 --> 01:06:22,040
Speaker 1: I kind of want to do like a secret scrubber,

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01:06:23,160 --> 01:06:27,560
Speaker 1: like I don't know exactly how I want to um

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01:06:28,880 --> 01:06:31,680
Speaker 1: devour this. Devour is not the right word attack this,

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01:06:32,240 --> 01:06:34,000
Speaker 1: but I want to have like a secret Scrubber that

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01:06:34,160 --> 01:06:35,920
Speaker 1: like we kind of highlight kind of like our Scrubber

1240
01:06:35,960 --> 01:06:39,480
Speaker 1: of the month key that we like find like kind

1241
01:06:39,520 --> 01:06:41,680
Speaker 1: of like Taylor Switch as she finds her fans, you know,

1242
01:06:41,840 --> 01:06:43,600
Speaker 1: like they like find the fans and then they do

1243
01:06:43,680 --> 01:06:44,960
Speaker 1: something fun for them. So I want to do like

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01:06:45,000 --> 01:06:47,280
Speaker 1: a secret Scrubber where we like find one scrubber a

1245
01:06:47,320 --> 01:06:50,880
Speaker 1: month to kind of just love on, not necessarily the podcast,

1246
01:06:50,920 --> 01:06:52,440
Speaker 1: but like we find them, we decided like you're the

1247
01:06:52,480 --> 01:06:55,160
Speaker 1: secret Scrubber of the month, and then we can send

1248
01:06:55,200 --> 01:06:57,280
Speaker 1: them something or maybe send them a video or do

1249
01:06:57,360 --> 01:06:59,560
Speaker 1: something for them or like whatever we decide. But like

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01:06:59,640 --> 01:07:02,320
Speaker 1: secret Scrubber, it would be really fun. I mean, we

1251
01:07:02,600 --> 01:07:07,040
Speaker 1: it's not like we're limited on scrubbers scrub sisters. We

1252
01:07:07,160 --> 01:07:09,800
Speaker 1: could do of the week and we could shout them

1253
01:07:09,840 --> 01:07:12,000
Speaker 1: out on the podcast. And yeah, but I wanted to

1254
01:07:12,080 --> 01:07:13,960
Speaker 1: be like more than that, you know what I mean.

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01:07:14,200 --> 01:07:16,640
Speaker 1: I don't want you to be like, hey, Deborah, I'm

1256
01:07:16,720 --> 01:07:19,280
Speaker 1: saying it could be that we shall it's like, alright,

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01:07:19,400 --> 01:07:22,600
Speaker 1: Scrubber of the week and then we send them a

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01:07:22,760 --> 01:07:25,320
Speaker 1: letter or send you know. Yeah, I just don't want

1259
01:07:25,320 --> 01:07:28,560
Speaker 1: to bite off more than we can yeah, like maybe

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01:07:28,560 --> 01:07:30,040
Speaker 1: send them a box of things, you know, with like

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01:07:30,080 --> 01:07:33,120
Speaker 1: a letter or just like something super cool. Okay, we'll

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01:07:33,160 --> 01:07:35,160
Speaker 1: start out with scrubber the month, and if we get

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Speaker 1: it down to it art, we can maybe do bye

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Speaker 1: Bi monthly right right every other week? Every other week. Yeah,

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01:07:41,800 --> 01:07:45,720
Speaker 1: like very a lot. Taylor's Taylor Shift inspired. I did

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Speaker 1: have one other guest that I wanted to that I

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01:07:47,240 --> 01:07:49,880
Speaker 1: put on here. I put Deborah Dugan. I don't want

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Speaker 1: to forget about her. She is the new president of

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01:07:52,720 --> 01:07:57,959
Speaker 1: the Grammy's okay, and she's such a badass modern woman.

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Speaker 1: I'm like obsessed with her, and I would like to

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Speaker 1: ideally have her before the Grammys because her first Grammys

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Speaker 1: as like, yeah, she probably has nothing going on, stuff

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01:08:06,600 --> 01:08:09,840
Speaker 1: struggling out. I mean, I feel like, you know, if

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Speaker 1: we're gonna diss my, um Taylor so lived in Jenner Brandiston,

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01:08:14,840 --> 01:08:16,200
Speaker 1: but well that's true. I do feel like she's a

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01:08:16,280 --> 01:08:18,519
Speaker 1: very busy woman. But I just really like I want

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01:08:18,520 --> 01:08:20,320
Speaker 1: to get inside her brain and kind of just like

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01:08:20,439 --> 01:08:23,320
Speaker 1: really because like she's stepping into a really big role

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01:08:23,400 --> 01:08:26,080
Speaker 1: and kind of like redefining and re like. I think

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01:08:26,120 --> 01:08:30,920
Speaker 1: that the nominations this year were very um, they were

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01:08:31,080 --> 01:08:35,599
Speaker 1: very diverse and forward thinking in a good way. Yeah.

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01:08:35,640 --> 01:08:38,360
Speaker 1: It was interesting because I went to the Billboard Woman

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01:08:38,400 --> 01:08:42,360
Speaker 1: in Music Awards and it was really cool seeing all

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01:08:42,439 --> 01:08:44,640
Speaker 1: the things and like the the amount of women that

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01:08:44,680 --> 01:08:47,880
Speaker 1: are being hired as CEOs and these like massive companies

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Speaker 1: and like presidents and you know, behind the scenes of

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01:08:51,000 --> 01:08:53,640
Speaker 1: what's happening in music on like the charts and the

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Speaker 1: artist and it was really cool to see how many

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Speaker 1: women are like running running at all. Yeah, I think

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01:09:00,920 --> 01:09:02,360
Speaker 1: I don't know. I would have to check this, but

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01:09:02,360 --> 01:09:05,280
Speaker 1: I feel like she's the first woman to be in

1292
01:09:05,360 --> 01:09:07,640
Speaker 1: that position for the Grammys. I think you're right. I

1293
01:09:07,680 --> 01:09:11,000
Speaker 1: feel like they mentioned her name, yeah a lot the Billboard.

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01:09:11,280 --> 01:09:13,479
Speaker 1: She's a big deal. So I'd love to have her

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01:09:13,520 --> 01:09:16,760
Speaker 1: on cool if she's available. And that's that. There, there

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Speaker 1: it is. There's our plan. I feel it's a really

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Speaker 1: good plan. I feel like it's a great plan for

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Speaker 1: their personal goals. You'd like to share or have those

1299
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Speaker 1: not been done yet? Because you haven't you do your

1300
01:09:26,560 --> 01:09:28,360
Speaker 1: vision brought in New Year's Eve of course. Yeah, I

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01:09:28,479 --> 01:09:31,120
Speaker 1: like started mine a little bit, Like I've just started

1302
01:09:31,120 --> 01:09:32,240
Speaker 1: thinking about it. I am going to do it on

1303
01:09:32,360 --> 01:09:35,280
Speaker 1: January one. But I haven't decided on a word, and

1304
01:09:35,360 --> 01:09:39,040
Speaker 1: so like everything kind of filters through the word don't

1305
01:09:39,479 --> 01:09:44,240
Speaker 1: don't rush it and twined between integrity, vulnerability, and intentional.

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01:09:45,840 --> 01:09:48,400
Speaker 1: There are all three really good ones, but they're such

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01:09:48,439 --> 01:09:52,920
Speaker 1: a different vibe different the year. Yeah, if I'm if

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01:09:52,920 --> 01:09:55,720
Speaker 1: I'm focusing on being vulnerable for the year, that is

1309
01:09:55,880 --> 01:09:58,760
Speaker 1: so different than being focused on being intentional for the year.

1310
01:09:59,680 --> 01:10:04,840
Speaker 1: It's so different from being of integrity. I don't know.

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01:10:05,000 --> 01:10:07,640
Speaker 1: I feel like they can all coexist. But what's the

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01:10:07,680 --> 01:10:13,200
Speaker 1: word like bushes them altogether? Something that's something about that's

1313
01:10:13,240 --> 01:10:15,599
Speaker 1: did you come up with? Yeah, I create a new

1314
01:10:15,640 --> 01:10:19,040
Speaker 1: word or something. Yeah, tonya is some ward of the year. Yeah,

1315
01:10:19,640 --> 01:10:23,120
Speaker 1: but yeah, so um, I do have some personal goals,

1316
01:10:23,200 --> 01:10:27,160
Speaker 1: but it's like not fully, not fully. We can report

1317
01:10:27,200 --> 01:10:29,920
Speaker 1: back in January. I think that's fine. Yeah, we have

1318
01:10:30,080 --> 01:10:33,439
Speaker 1: a good like fifteen days for you to really just

1319
01:10:34,160 --> 01:10:37,080
Speaker 1: hone in. Yeah, is a big year. We got the

1320
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Speaker 1: Olympics election, the leap year in twenty It's one of

1321
01:10:41,320 --> 01:10:44,280
Speaker 1: those years those are always kind of exciting. Every holiday

1322
01:10:44,320 --> 01:10:45,920
Speaker 1: is like on a weekend this year. That's there's some

1323
01:10:46,000 --> 01:10:50,160
Speaker 1: good holiday placement this year. I'm so excited because so

1324
01:10:50,360 --> 01:10:52,880
Speaker 1: every year, you know, I do the typical I'm going

1325
01:10:52,920 --> 01:10:55,400
Speaker 1: to be in the best physical shape blah blah blah.

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01:10:55,400 --> 01:10:57,400
Speaker 1: I always like, think it, you look like you're in

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01:10:57,439 --> 01:11:00,640
Speaker 1: good physical shape right now. Oh no, I'm not, no, Um.

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Speaker 1: But this year, I'm saying it out loud. I want

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01:11:03,600 --> 01:11:08,960
Speaker 1: to be like in the best shape physically, emotionally, spiritually, financially.

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01:11:09,160 --> 01:11:12,080
Speaker 1: I wanted to be like the big year where I

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01:11:12,160 --> 01:11:15,280
Speaker 1: look back and I'm like a stone year. So that

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01:11:15,720 --> 01:11:20,280
Speaker 1: that's I'm saying. It's like, let's go, I'm with you. Cool.

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Speaker 1: But what did I say, you'll be married? Is that

1334
01:11:24,760 --> 01:11:29,880
Speaker 1: what I told Tanya one podcast recently. By by the

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Speaker 1: end of end the two years, in the next two years,

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Speaker 1: I mean, it's the stranger things have happened. Stranger things

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Speaker 1: have happened. Victoria Arlen is nereder to tell you that

1338
01:11:42,920 --> 01:11:46,680
Speaker 1: stranger things anything can happen. That is true, all right.

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Speaker 1: I have some fascinating emails to share with you guys,

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Speaker 1: it was a bunch of the ease? What should it be?

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Speaker 1: What should it be? Okay, let's try. Oh yeah, Liam

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Speaker 1: Tabitha my partner and I've been together for four years.

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01:14:11,040 --> 01:14:13,559
Speaker 1: Never once have I been the jealous girlfriend. Well, things

1380
01:14:13,640 --> 01:14:15,400
Speaker 1: have been off the last year or so. I don't

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01:14:15,439 --> 01:14:17,280
Speaker 1: know if it's because we have a new baby together,

1382
01:14:17,479 --> 01:14:20,040
Speaker 1: but we've not been connecting at all. We got into

1383
01:14:20,080 --> 01:14:22,719
Speaker 1: an argument just before Thanksgiving and he slept on the couch.

1384
01:14:23,120 --> 01:14:25,040
Speaker 1: I woke up and hadn't urged to check his phone.

1385
01:14:25,400 --> 01:14:29,000
Speaker 1: He had messaged his ex wife and he texted her

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01:14:29,439 --> 01:14:32,639
Speaker 1: I wish I had fought harder for you. I confronted

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01:14:32,720 --> 01:14:34,680
Speaker 1: him right away. I literally woke him up at six

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01:14:34,680 --> 01:14:36,320
Speaker 1: o'clock in the morning when I found this. He said

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01:14:36,360 --> 01:14:38,800
Speaker 1: he didn't remember sending it. He had been drinking and

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01:14:38,880 --> 01:14:41,519
Speaker 1: he was mad at me, and he unsent it. I

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01:14:41,560 --> 01:14:43,160
Speaker 1: guess it was a d M. Perhaps if he was

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01:14:43,200 --> 01:14:46,320
Speaker 1: able to unsend it. Now I feel myself questioning everything.

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01:14:46,439 --> 01:14:48,400
Speaker 1: I checked our bank balance and saw a charge of

1394
01:14:48,479 --> 01:14:50,240
Speaker 1: the local bar that I didn't go to, and he

1395
01:14:50,360 --> 01:14:52,200
Speaker 1: was out of state at the time. He said he

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01:14:52,280 --> 01:14:55,040
Speaker 1: called the bar and bought drinks for some girl because

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01:14:55,080 --> 01:14:56,720
Speaker 1: I just think she's a good person and it was

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01:14:56,760 --> 01:14:59,720
Speaker 1: her birthday. I don't know this woman. He works out

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01:14:59,760 --> 01:15:02,080
Speaker 1: of town nine months out of the year. How often

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01:15:02,160 --> 01:15:05,560
Speaker 1: does this lonely texting crap happen? And my overreacting? What

1401
01:15:05,680 --> 01:15:09,040
Speaker 1: do I do? Let me just tell you, Okay, if

1402
01:15:09,080 --> 01:15:12,040
Speaker 1: I saw a text to an exit that I wish

1403
01:15:12,040 --> 01:15:14,800
Speaker 1: I had fought harder for you, I don't know if

1404
01:15:14,840 --> 01:15:18,960
Speaker 1: there would be any I wouldn't even question if I

1405
01:15:19,080 --> 01:15:23,040
Speaker 1: was overreacting, because I think that statement says a lot

1406
01:15:23,240 --> 01:15:28,439
Speaker 1: that packs a large punch. Yeah, I mean, this is

1407
01:15:28,479 --> 01:15:31,639
Speaker 1: a hard note. For me, this isn't like a here's

1408
01:15:31,640 --> 01:15:36,280
Speaker 1: the thing. I guess relationships are hard and there's compromise

1409
01:15:36,439 --> 01:15:39,920
Speaker 1: and things happen and you need to get over them. Yes,

1410
01:15:40,280 --> 01:15:43,280
Speaker 1: I don't think everything's rainbows and butterflies, but at the

1411
01:15:43,360 --> 01:15:46,360
Speaker 1: end of the day, I think I think sending an

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01:15:46,640 --> 01:15:49,599
Speaker 1: X or somebody that you've been intimate with or had

1413
01:15:49,640 --> 01:15:53,439
Speaker 1: a relationship with something like that, that's never acceptable in

1414
01:15:53,560 --> 01:15:56,240
Speaker 1: my opinion. I agree. I I think everything here is

1415
01:15:56,240 --> 01:15:57,519
Speaker 1: a hard note. The trouble is that they have a

1416
01:15:57,600 --> 01:16:00,200
Speaker 1: kid together now, and this is what I think. I

1417
01:16:00,320 --> 01:16:02,720
Speaker 1: think she needs to have a conversation and say, I

1418
01:16:02,800 --> 01:16:04,720
Speaker 1: saw that message you sent to your ex wife, and

1419
01:16:04,960 --> 01:16:07,720
Speaker 1: I'm seeing these things here and there that are making

1420
01:16:07,800 --> 01:16:10,960
Speaker 1: me question you, and I think maybe we need to talk.

1421
01:16:11,040 --> 01:16:13,920
Speaker 1: Maybe we need to see a counselor go to couples therapy.

1422
01:16:14,360 --> 01:16:17,000
Speaker 1: I don't think it should just be that you give

1423
01:16:17,120 --> 01:16:19,439
Speaker 1: up on the relationship like you have a child. I

1424
01:16:19,520 --> 01:16:24,479
Speaker 1: think you communicate, try what you can do to make

1425
01:16:24,560 --> 01:16:27,960
Speaker 1: the relationship work. But at some point you can't live

1426
01:16:28,040 --> 01:16:30,680
Speaker 1: your life not being able to trust the person that

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01:16:30,760 --> 01:16:34,479
Speaker 1: you're with. If he works out of town night once

1428
01:16:34,520 --> 01:16:35,800
Speaker 1: out of the year, you're never going to have a

1429
01:16:35,800 --> 01:16:39,120
Speaker 1: good night. Trust is like the most important thing. And

1430
01:16:39,160 --> 01:16:40,880
Speaker 1: I also think it takes him like he needs to

1431
01:16:40,960 --> 01:16:43,000
Speaker 1: want to go to like and yes, if he wants

1432
01:16:43,040 --> 01:16:44,720
Speaker 1: to go to counseling and he wants to do a

1433
01:16:44,760 --> 01:16:47,680
Speaker 1: lot of time that they don't see eye to eye,

1434
01:16:47,760 --> 01:16:49,559
Speaker 1: and like, you know, you really need somebody that wants

1435
01:16:49,640 --> 01:16:51,479
Speaker 1: to work on it or sees at least sees that

1436
01:16:51,560 --> 01:16:53,400
Speaker 1: this is not appropriate. I know, but a lot of

1437
01:16:53,479 --> 01:16:57,200
Speaker 1: times someone just needs to to be the one to say, like,

1438
01:16:57,360 --> 01:16:59,760
Speaker 1: we need help. Like we've been together for four years,

1439
01:17:00,000 --> 01:17:02,679
Speaker 1: things have been off this last year. We need to reset.

1440
01:17:03,160 --> 01:17:05,000
Speaker 1: Let's work on it. Do you want to work on

1441
01:17:05,080 --> 01:17:07,559
Speaker 1: this with me? Of course, if he says no, I'm out,

1442
01:17:07,800 --> 01:17:10,920
Speaker 1: then she did what she I mean, you know, you

1443
01:17:11,000 --> 01:17:13,160
Speaker 1: can only do so much. You can't control someone else.

1444
01:17:13,240 --> 01:17:15,240
Speaker 1: But I think you give it a chance and try

1445
01:17:15,280 --> 01:17:18,400
Speaker 1: to work through it. But I don't think she's gonna

1446
01:17:18,960 --> 01:17:23,080
Speaker 1: rest easy until if ever, if that happens, it's a lifetime.

1447
01:17:23,080 --> 01:17:26,680
Speaker 1: If you're going through his credit card receipts, it's a

1448
01:17:26,760 --> 01:17:28,640
Speaker 1: lot of that. If you're committing, if you commit to this,

1449
01:17:28,720 --> 01:17:31,320
Speaker 1: you're committing to a life of this. So something's got

1450
01:17:31,400 --> 01:17:33,840
Speaker 1: to change through counseling, whatever, But something's got to change.

1451
01:17:34,000 --> 01:17:37,479
Speaker 1: Here's the metaphor what's this in my hand, paper, piece

1452
01:17:37,479 --> 01:17:40,840
Speaker 1: of paper? This is the trust in that relationship. Oh,

1453
01:17:41,400 --> 01:17:44,680
Speaker 1: we trumbled it, but you can you can, you can

1454
01:17:44,760 --> 01:17:48,720
Speaker 1: uncrumble it. You can still use it, but but it's

1455
01:17:48,800 --> 01:17:53,120
Speaker 1: never the same. You still fee those licrease lines in it. Beautiful,

1456
01:17:53,640 --> 01:17:56,720
Speaker 1: very true, very true, Tabotha. I think we decided that

1457
01:17:56,840 --> 01:18:00,559
Speaker 1: you are not overreacting, and I think that you hopefully

1458
01:18:00,560 --> 01:18:02,759
Speaker 1: give you some good tips. I hope. So, yeah, Easton,

1459
01:18:02,840 --> 01:18:04,320
Speaker 1: did you have something to say because you brought the

1460
01:18:04,400 --> 01:18:07,360
Speaker 1: mic out? Well, I read this email the other day

1461
01:18:07,360 --> 01:18:10,000
Speaker 1: and I've been mad about it for like many multiple days. Uh.

1462
01:18:10,439 --> 01:18:12,479
Speaker 1: The thing that really irks me about it though, was

1463
01:18:13,160 --> 01:18:16,320
Speaker 1: the bar charge. So was he like buying drinks like

1464
01:18:16,439 --> 01:18:21,000
Speaker 1: over the phone? So weird? Okay, So something that that's weird.

1465
01:18:21,240 --> 01:18:24,599
Speaker 1: It's very weird that that is a number of hurdles

1466
01:18:24,720 --> 01:18:27,480
Speaker 1: to go through to like do something that's not appropriate.

1467
01:18:28,120 --> 01:18:31,519
Speaker 1: So I mean again, they're married to have a kid together,

1468
01:18:32,280 --> 01:18:36,720
Speaker 1: and I'm sorry, that's right, that's right there, the fact

1469
01:18:36,760 --> 01:18:40,200
Speaker 1: that you will marry or whatever. Anyway, I'm sorry I'm

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Speaker 1: assuming a lot of stuff with this email, but I

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01:18:42,280 --> 01:18:44,519
Speaker 1: was like, wait, where did it say that? I made

1472
01:18:44,600 --> 01:18:47,759
Speaker 1: up my own detail for that. But this dude sucks,

1473
01:18:48,040 --> 01:18:50,080
Speaker 1: Like I'm sorry, I hate to be like judgmental from

1474
01:18:50,160 --> 01:18:52,439
Speaker 1: like that type of email, but like, this dude sucks

1475
01:18:52,520 --> 01:18:55,160
Speaker 1: so bad. I just yeah, I just, I mean, I

1476
01:18:55,240 --> 01:18:57,240
Speaker 1: don't know, like I would never see either of you

1477
01:18:57,320 --> 01:18:59,280
Speaker 1: guys sending that text to somebody, you know what I

1478
01:18:59,320 --> 01:19:01,439
Speaker 1: mean out But also, like you're saying, he went to

1479
01:19:01,520 --> 01:19:04,200
Speaker 1: a lot of effort to flirt like that seems like

1480
01:19:04,240 --> 01:19:06,479
Speaker 1: a flirt to buy a girl drink. Right, this is

1481
01:19:06,520 --> 01:19:10,960
Speaker 1: just some random girl, right, I don't her not the

1482
01:19:10,960 --> 01:19:13,720
Speaker 1: ex wife. Whenever I hear we hear it on Rains

1483
01:19:13,760 --> 01:19:15,200
Speaker 1: Roses all the time on the morning show, like, oh,

1484
01:19:15,280 --> 01:19:17,000
Speaker 1: she was having a bad day. I wanted to send

1485
01:19:17,000 --> 01:19:19,800
Speaker 1: her some flowers, like the dents cheating on you. I

1486
01:19:19,840 --> 01:19:21,599
Speaker 1: don't know, I just this just got me really fired.

1487
01:19:21,680 --> 01:19:24,200
Speaker 1: He may not be cheating physically, but his mind is elsewhere.

1488
01:19:24,280 --> 01:19:29,040
Speaker 1: He's definitely he's checked out at the school and he's

1489
01:19:29,439 --> 01:19:33,880
Speaker 1: going to get lunch in the drive through. All right,

1490
01:19:33,920 --> 01:19:36,400
Speaker 1: One more from Ray. This is a little bit lighter.

1491
01:19:37,680 --> 01:19:39,720
Speaker 1: About two years ago, my mom met a guy at

1492
01:19:39,720 --> 01:19:41,800
Speaker 1: a football game with a group of her and my

1493
01:19:41,920 --> 01:19:44,360
Speaker 1: dad's friends, and so I get a text from her saying,

1494
01:19:44,400 --> 01:19:45,960
Speaker 1: I have just met the guy that you're going to marry.

1495
01:19:46,600 --> 01:19:48,280
Speaker 1: My mom is not friends with his parents, and she's

1496
01:19:48,280 --> 01:19:50,160
Speaker 1: always bugging me to get in contact with him. This

1497
01:19:50,200 --> 01:19:52,800
Speaker 1: is two years now. I finally buckled down and added

1498
01:19:52,880 --> 01:19:56,760
Speaker 1: him on social media. He literally instantly accepted. My mother

1499
01:19:56,840 --> 01:19:58,960
Speaker 1: has bugged me since that day to message him, but

1500
01:19:59,080 --> 01:20:01,479
Speaker 1: I was kind of hoping he would take that step.

1501
01:20:02,000 --> 01:20:03,600
Speaker 1: I feel like all the signs are pointing up to

1502
01:20:03,680 --> 01:20:05,960
Speaker 1: each other, but I don't know what to do. Either way,

1503
01:20:06,200 --> 01:20:07,800
Speaker 1: it would work out for me because I live in

1504
01:20:07,800 --> 01:20:09,479
Speaker 1: a new city where I only know a few people.

1505
01:20:09,520 --> 01:20:11,479
Speaker 1: So if you become friends, that's great, or if it's

1506
01:20:11,520 --> 01:20:13,960
Speaker 1: something more that's even better. Should I message him? And

1507
01:20:14,040 --> 01:20:17,280
Speaker 1: if so, what should I say? This is what I

1508
01:20:17,400 --> 01:20:19,920
Speaker 1: think because she there was one thing in here that

1509
01:20:20,080 --> 01:20:22,800
Speaker 1: changed my mind halfway through the email, because my first

1510
01:20:22,880 --> 01:20:25,080
Speaker 1: reaction was I know what I would do. I would

1511
01:20:25,120 --> 01:20:29,000
Speaker 1: let him make the first move. But I know because

1512
01:20:29,120 --> 01:20:31,280
Speaker 1: she said I live in a new city where if

1513
01:20:31,320 --> 01:20:34,360
Speaker 1: we become friends, great, and she's open to the possibility

1514
01:20:34,400 --> 01:20:37,200
Speaker 1: of it not being romantic, I say, she shoots her

1515
01:20:37,200 --> 01:20:40,160
Speaker 1: shot and says, hey, I just moved here. I know

1516
01:20:40,960 --> 01:20:42,920
Speaker 1: my mom. You met my mom, and I just wanted

1517
01:20:42,920 --> 01:20:46,519
Speaker 1: to message you. I'd love to you know, don't get

1518
01:20:46,560 --> 01:20:49,960
Speaker 1: a drink or something. I mean, this is a no

1519
01:20:50,120 --> 01:20:53,680
Speaker 1: brainer for me. You absolutely reach out to him. This

1520
01:20:53,960 --> 01:20:56,760
Speaker 1: is a kind of what happened to one of my girlfriends.

1521
01:20:57,080 --> 01:20:59,880
Speaker 1: Her parents met this guy on like a train oh yeah,

1522
01:21:00,120 --> 01:21:04,200
Speaker 1: and yeah, and they were like, um um, the details

1523
01:21:04,200 --> 01:21:06,040
Speaker 1: are a little bit fuzzy, but he lived in the

1524
01:21:06,040 --> 01:21:07,680
Speaker 1: same town or was moving to the same town that

1525
01:21:08,080 --> 01:21:10,160
Speaker 1: their daughter lived in, and so they basically like gave

1526
01:21:10,280 --> 01:21:12,040
Speaker 1: her number to the guy and said you should, like,

1527
01:21:12,160 --> 01:21:15,240
Speaker 1: you know, just to have or show you around the

1528
01:21:15,280 --> 01:21:18,080
Speaker 1: city or whatever. And he did. And they're now married

1529
01:21:18,120 --> 01:21:22,040
Speaker 1: and have a child, and so like totally shoot your shot.

1530
01:21:22,560 --> 01:21:24,639
Speaker 1: I don't think there's anything wrong with it. Because also,

1531
01:21:24,800 --> 01:21:27,080
Speaker 1: like if you were to start dating him, he can

1532
01:21:27,160 --> 01:21:28,800
Speaker 1: then take the reins back, you know what I mean.

1533
01:21:28,840 --> 01:21:32,200
Speaker 1: You're making the initial move. Doesn't mean you're like needing

1534
01:21:32,280 --> 01:21:36,120
Speaker 1: to lead the charge here. It's just you saying like, hey,

1535
01:21:37,800 --> 01:21:41,200
Speaker 1: what's going on. And also, and a lot of these

1536
01:21:41,240 --> 01:21:43,040
Speaker 1: come down to this. What do you have to lose?

1537
01:21:43,600 --> 01:21:45,840
Speaker 1: The only thing you have to lose is the fantasy.

1538
01:21:46,280 --> 01:21:48,360
Speaker 1: Right now, you still have that fantasy in your brain.

1539
01:21:48,640 --> 01:21:50,479
Speaker 1: If you reach out and doesn't work out, oh well

1540
01:21:50,640 --> 01:21:53,799
Speaker 1: that fantasy is gone. But that's okay. Yeah, Like literally,

1541
01:21:53,880 --> 01:21:57,679
Speaker 1: worst case scenario, you d M him and he never responds. Whoop?

1542
01:21:57,680 --> 01:22:01,880
Speaker 1: Do you do? What's happened to me? Many lives? I mean,

1543
01:22:02,000 --> 01:22:06,320
Speaker 1: and I think a lot of people they they're like,

1544
01:22:06,640 --> 01:22:09,080
Speaker 1: I want the fantasy, so if it if it doesn't

1545
01:22:09,160 --> 01:22:12,080
Speaker 1: end up being the fantasy, then I don't want you know,

1546
01:22:12,200 --> 01:22:14,280
Speaker 1: I don't want the rejection. I don't want the friends.

1547
01:22:14,320 --> 01:22:15,680
Speaker 1: I don't want to be friends with someone that I

1548
01:22:15,760 --> 01:22:18,519
Speaker 1: want the fantasy with. But she's okay with the friendship.

1549
01:22:18,920 --> 01:22:20,840
Speaker 1: She said that, so I think it's like, I don't

1550
01:22:21,120 --> 01:22:26,040
Speaker 1: buy that. By the way, whatever, it's not not real.

1551
01:22:26,160 --> 01:22:27,599
Speaker 1: She didn't meet a new guy and they're gonna become

1552
01:22:27,640 --> 01:22:30,560
Speaker 1: buddies like that. Don't But I think that she's it

1553
01:22:30,640 --> 01:22:33,080
Speaker 1: just means that she's open to, like it not necessarily

1554
01:22:33,120 --> 01:22:35,040
Speaker 1: working out, and that's great. Yeah, that's what I'm saying.

1555
01:22:35,040 --> 01:22:37,120
Speaker 1: I think a lot of people aren't as open to

1556
01:22:37,240 --> 01:22:39,840
Speaker 1: it not working out. Yeah, yeah, but I'm like, I

1557
01:22:39,880 --> 01:22:41,599
Speaker 1: don't want anyone. I don't know, I don't need any

1558
01:22:41,640 --> 01:22:45,080
Speaker 1: more friends I have, I have had guy friends, so

1559
01:22:45,400 --> 01:22:50,639
Speaker 1: I am open to a guy friend. And they don't

1560
01:22:50,640 --> 01:22:54,400
Speaker 1: tell you that, but they did name the guy friend

1561
01:22:54,640 --> 01:22:59,880
Speaker 1: name one exactly. Cricket's gonna be some cricket music. They're

1562
01:23:00,120 --> 01:23:06,880
Speaker 1: thank you so much. Okay, Well, point point in case. Okay,

1563
01:23:08,680 --> 01:23:10,280
Speaker 1: I didn't have a title for this episode, and you

1564
01:23:10,360 --> 01:23:12,679
Speaker 1: just got it in right at the end point end case,

1565
01:23:12,800 --> 01:23:19,640
Speaker 1: point end case that you're still thinking exactly. I mean,

1566
01:23:19,720 --> 01:23:23,840
Speaker 1: I have people name a guy friend name one like current. Yeah,

1567
01:23:23,880 --> 01:23:28,439
Speaker 1: you just said I playing a guy friend. Okay, that's

1568
01:23:28,439 --> 01:23:30,600
Speaker 1: what I thought. Yeah, okay, there you go, moving on.

1569
01:23:30,920 --> 01:23:34,720
Speaker 1: That's that. Okay. Uh, you can keep thinking. Maybe in

1570
01:23:34,840 --> 01:23:37,880
Speaker 1: January we can come up with them. So we got

1571
01:23:37,960 --> 01:23:40,320
Speaker 1: to wrap it up, but it's actually not wrapping it

1572
01:23:40,400 --> 01:23:41,599
Speaker 1: up for the year. It feels like we are, we're

1573
01:23:41,600 --> 01:23:43,120
Speaker 1: gonna you're gonna hear from us again before the end

1574
01:23:43,120 --> 01:23:45,519
Speaker 1: of the year. Yeah, this little baby one. Wait what

1575
01:23:45,880 --> 01:23:47,840
Speaker 1: we'll check in. Well, why did we do this? I

1576
01:23:47,960 --> 01:23:49,880
Speaker 1: thought this is our last episode of the year. Well,

1577
01:23:49,880 --> 01:23:53,200
Speaker 1: it kind of Victoria. It was so great that she

1578
01:23:53,320 --> 01:23:56,240
Speaker 1: was she thought, our last guest and it is our

1579
01:23:56,320 --> 01:24:00,439
Speaker 1: last real episode of the year. What is that mean?

1580
01:24:01,040 --> 01:24:02,600
Speaker 1: Our next one is just like a little pop in

1581
01:24:02,800 --> 01:24:06,200
Speaker 1: like Merry Christmas by We love you, We're thinking about you.

1582
01:24:06,640 --> 01:24:11,799
Speaker 1: Thank you for a great year. Got you for now. However,

1583
01:24:12,320 --> 01:24:15,120
Speaker 1: thank you to Victoria Arlen. Take a maaster dot com

1584
01:24:15,240 --> 01:24:16,880
Speaker 1: to come and see us in San Francisco. Stay at

1585
01:24:16,880 --> 01:24:20,200
Speaker 1: the Vice Throw Hotel. You won't be disappointed. So excited

1586
01:24:20,240 --> 01:24:22,879
Speaker 1: about our two shows. Yeah, we're about to go brainstorm

1587
01:24:22,960 --> 01:24:25,920
Speaker 1: right now, Brainstorm, Here we go for now. It's not

1588
01:24:26,040 --> 01:24:29,080
Speaker 1: the right button, there it is. Do you want to

1589
01:24:29,120 --> 01:24:30,360
Speaker 1: call I feel like you haven't called it in a

1590
01:24:30,439 --> 01:24:34,280
Speaker 1: well eleven forty nine you got to say time of death.

1591
01:24:34,880 --> 01:24:37,400
Speaker 1: I really am us time of death eleven forty nine

1592
01:24:37,439 --> 01:24:43,599
Speaker 1: and sixteen seconds A rookie. I know it has been

1593
01:24:43,600 --> 01:24:44,479
Speaker 1: a minute since I've done that.