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Speaker 1: I want to I want to hop right into it. Barb.

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Speaker 1: You know at an age it's been published already. You

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Speaker 1: know your boyfriend or whatever left you secretary. You've bought

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Speaker 1: that's what I always say, you turned it into a

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Speaker 2: Well, it was twenty three when I started the Corcoran Group,

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Speaker 2: I was twenty nine when you married my secretary. By

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Speaker 2: the way, Damon, John, it's a pleasure to be here.

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Speaker 2: You're my favorite shark. I think you're so handsome and

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Speaker 2: brilliant and I was really excited to talk with you today.

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Speaker 2: You didn't give me a chance to say thank you

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Speaker 1: That is impressive because I know that I am your

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Speaker 1: paper strick. I do know that, but all the rest

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Speaker 3: So yes, it's so true.

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Speaker 2: But you're always in the good category.

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Speaker 1: Nine, Barb. What you're at the point of twenty nine

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Speaker 2: Are you exaggerated? My dear ten kids seems like nothing

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Speaker 1: Listen, people don't know. Barbara did not grow up with

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Speaker 2: Do you make me sound a lot better and stronger

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Speaker 2: All I had in my mind was is she prettier

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Speaker 2: She was five years younger than me. He was ten

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Speaker 3: And I was heartbroken and it blew my confidence.

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Speaker 2: No, he left me as my boyfriend, h but not

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Speaker 1: Why did you stay? Was it because you didn't have

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Speaker 2: You say that you didn't know me then. I wasn't

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Speaker 1: I mean, he saw something in you, he saw the

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Speaker 1: That's night and day. Because if you would already believe

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Speaker 2: Consider this possibility. Let's say he looked at me as

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Speaker 1: Maybe because I know that you weren't great in bed,

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Speaker 3: You remember that night? Thank god? I thought you.

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Speaker 1: Forgot about it. So I'll see you in court, mister.

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Speaker 1: But what do you think it was? I'm gonna get

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Speaker 1: I doubt it, Okay, what was what? What was it

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Speaker 2: Something your interview, I'm the wrong person you ought to

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Speaker 1: Do you remember in part what he with you? What

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Speaker 2: Do you remember I don't remember hearing a song. I

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Speaker 3: That's all. I recall. I had my own song.

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Speaker 2: You could do it, Barbie Dolling, you could do it,

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Speaker 3: I don't remember the song. I don't even think I

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Speaker 2: But let me just take a guess at what was

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Speaker 2: It was as quick, an instant and impressionable as that,

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Speaker 1: Was that something? Were you in the twenty two jobs?

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Speaker 3: In social media. You cannot do that. You cannot be

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Speaker 2: I was married to my first husband and I talked

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Speaker 2: And I forgot to tell you one little anecdote that

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Speaker 2: I subsequently left him, thinking I had dodge a bullet

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Speaker 1: How many employees did you have one? Indeed, do I probably.

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Speaker 3: You know what?

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Speaker 2: I had full security, all right. But it wasn't until

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Speaker 3: Did I marry the wrong guy? Yes?

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Speaker 2: I did the first time, but he served a purpose.

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Speaker 1: I think Bridgel the Trouble Water is a perfect song

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Speaker 1: When I have a thing called food within me. Actually,

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Speaker 1: I mean that healthy, not healthy. It's a little bit

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Speaker 2: It was chopped? The decision to sell my business was

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Speaker 1: I was the.

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Speaker 2: Lowest on the total pole, and then I was number seven.

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Speaker 2: Then I was number six, and number three, the number two,

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Oh he was like what, and I said, yeah, I

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Speaker 3: we'll figure it out. We both went home that night.

440
00:21:25,640 --> 00:21:28,000
Speaker 2: The next morning made a few phone calls, and within

441
00:21:28,000 --> 00:21:31,840
Speaker 2: about three months this shop was sold. It was quick, fast,

442
00:21:31,960 --> 00:21:35,760
Speaker 2: and furious about the purchase price, which was I think

443
00:21:35,800 --> 00:21:37,200
Speaker 2: the more interesting.

444
00:21:36,720 --> 00:21:37,600
Speaker 3: Part of the story.

445
00:21:38,119 --> 00:21:41,240
Speaker 2: When I got my first offer from the loan buyer,

446
00:21:41,400 --> 00:21:43,639
Speaker 2: they offered me twenty two million dollars, and I was

447
00:21:43,640 --> 00:21:45,679
Speaker 2: on a chair going up to a ski run with

448
00:21:45,720 --> 00:21:46,160
Speaker 2: my brother.

449
00:21:46,359 --> 00:21:47,920
Speaker 3: My younger brother said.

450
00:21:47,720 --> 00:21:49,880
Speaker 2: I just got a twenty two million dollar He said,

451
00:21:49,880 --> 00:21:52,560
Speaker 2: what did you tell them? He said, twenty Do you

452
00:21:52,600 --> 00:21:52,960
Speaker 2: know what.

453
00:21:52,880 --> 00:21:55,760
Speaker 3: Twenty two million dollars is war? Could you imagine twenty

454
00:21:55,760 --> 00:21:57,320
Speaker 3: two million dollars? Twenty two million dollars?

455
00:21:57,400 --> 00:21:59,320
Speaker 2: We were the richest people in that chair lift in

456
00:21:59,320 --> 00:22:01,480
Speaker 2: the world, even though we didn't have our money on

457
00:22:01,520 --> 00:22:04,360
Speaker 2: the twenty two and I said, yeah. I told them

458
00:22:04,359 --> 00:22:08,240
Speaker 2: I'll take sixty six. He said why sixty six? I said,

459
00:22:08,240 --> 00:22:13,520
Speaker 2: it's my lucky number. And Sunday they eventually paid sixty six.

460
00:22:13,560 --> 00:22:16,200
Speaker 2: A month later, they kept upping it. I kept firm

461
00:22:16,280 --> 00:22:18,320
Speaker 2: until they hit sixty six. I said, I'll take it,

462
00:22:19,440 --> 00:22:21,800
Speaker 2: but I had a little a good luck and bad

463
00:22:21,880 --> 00:22:24,520
Speaker 2: luck rolled into one. So far it was all great.

464
00:22:24,920 --> 00:22:28,040
Speaker 2: And then I sold the contract Friday night before nine

465
00:22:28,080 --> 00:22:31,000
Speaker 2: to eleven. I remember my new CEO where I had

466
00:22:31,000 --> 00:22:34,119
Speaker 2: put in place, called me and said it's eleven thirty.

467
00:22:34,320 --> 00:22:36,560
Speaker 2: All the attorneys and accounts have to go home, will

468
00:22:36,640 --> 00:22:39,959
Speaker 2: resume on Monday. And I am the nicest, easiest going boss,

469
00:22:40,480 --> 00:22:42,399
Speaker 2: and I said to her, nobody's going home to that

470
00:22:42,480 --> 00:22:43,240
Speaker 2: deal is done.

471
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Speaker 3: She was in.

472
00:22:43,960 --> 00:22:47,199
Speaker 2: Westchester County and she said, no, well, just we'll we

473
00:22:47,240 --> 00:22:49,919
Speaker 2: all clear our calendars first thing Monday morning. I said, no,

474
00:22:50,880 --> 00:22:53,600
Speaker 2: sign it tonight. Nobody goes home till its signed. And

475
00:22:53,640 --> 00:22:55,560
Speaker 2: they worked till one in the morning, got it signed,

476
00:22:55,600 --> 00:22:57,400
Speaker 2: and on Monday, nine to eleven happened.

477
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Speaker 1: Wow, boy was that.

478
00:22:58,920 --> 00:23:03,280
Speaker 2: Lucky that I got that. But unfortunately that first week

479
00:23:03,400 --> 00:23:06,200
Speaker 2: no one would return my phone call. The acquired disappeared

480
00:23:06,200 --> 00:23:09,760
Speaker 2: off the face of the earth, such silence, and I

481
00:23:09,840 --> 00:23:12,080
Speaker 2: realized the deal was never going to close. It was

482
00:23:12,160 --> 00:23:15,359
Speaker 2: just never going to happen. And I went and visited

483
00:23:15,400 --> 00:23:16,720
Speaker 2: him and closed the deal. I want to tell you

484
00:23:16,720 --> 00:23:18,840
Speaker 2: the details on that, but I closed the deal, and

485
00:23:18,880 --> 00:23:22,280
Speaker 2: thank god I got the sixty six million dollars about

486
00:23:22,280 --> 00:23:25,359
Speaker 2: two weeks after nine to eleven. But you asked me

487
00:23:25,400 --> 00:23:27,359
Speaker 2: another I think I dropped pc a question.

488
00:23:27,400 --> 00:23:30,080
Speaker 1: What was something that's amazing? And now all of a

489
00:23:30,119 --> 00:23:32,480
Speaker 1: sudden because I think one of the top questions that

490
00:23:32,520 --> 00:23:34,600
Speaker 1: I'm asked, and I'm sure you are the same thing.

491
00:23:34,720 --> 00:23:36,800
Speaker 1: Two or three ways work like balance. But then people

492
00:23:36,840 --> 00:23:38,840
Speaker 1: like when do I take in an investor? And how

493
00:23:38,880 --> 00:23:40,640
Speaker 1: do I know when it's time to sell? And that's

494
00:23:40,680 --> 00:23:44,480
Speaker 1: all very personal matter to people, each individual. It sounded

495
00:23:44,520 --> 00:23:47,960
Speaker 1: like you're you had two personal things. You had number one.

496
00:23:47,960 --> 00:23:50,480
Speaker 1: We're number one, so I'm done, let's get it over

497
00:23:50,600 --> 00:23:53,280
Speaker 1: with because you wanted to prove something to somebody, whether

498
00:23:53,320 --> 00:23:54,280
Speaker 1: it's yourself or the world.

499
00:23:54,920 --> 00:23:56,840
Speaker 3: I reached my goal. What was that going to work on?

500
00:23:58,840 --> 00:24:00,800
Speaker 1: I don't know, because other people say, now that I've

501
00:24:00,840 --> 00:24:02,840
Speaker 1: reached this level of success and I'm so happy and

502
00:24:02,880 --> 00:24:04,840
Speaker 1: I'm pulling money. I mean, you may have been pulling

503
00:24:04,840 --> 00:24:06,359
Speaker 1: money out of business. They go, what am I going

504
00:24:06,400 --> 00:24:07,880
Speaker 1: to do after? Because this is all I know how

505
00:24:07,880 --> 00:24:10,280
Speaker 1: to do. But then you also had another number too.

506
00:24:10,680 --> 00:24:13,600
Speaker 1: You had number one and you had sixty six, and

507
00:24:13,600 --> 00:24:16,520
Speaker 1: that they both met. It sounds like you exited what

508
00:24:16,720 --> 00:24:19,760
Speaker 1: happens next that you have this money, because you're a

509
00:24:19,880 --> 00:24:23,200
Speaker 1: very active person, were you able to shift this into

510
00:24:23,359 --> 00:24:25,879
Speaker 1: the things you love buying privately? I'm sure you had

511
00:24:25,880 --> 00:24:28,679
Speaker 1: to non non compete or did you sit around and go,

512
00:24:29,240 --> 00:24:31,080
Speaker 1: what the hell am I going to do? Now? I'm

513
00:24:31,119 --> 00:24:34,720
Speaker 1: trying to understand what did that? After you got that check?

514
00:24:35,200 --> 00:24:37,760
Speaker 1: How did you feel for the next six months.

515
00:24:38,480 --> 00:24:40,440
Speaker 2: I'll tell you how it felt immediately, and then how

516
00:24:40,480 --> 00:24:43,959
Speaker 2: it felt one week later. How it felt immediately was

517
00:24:44,080 --> 00:24:46,919
Speaker 2: like the Catholic miracle. My mother always told us we

518
00:24:47,000 --> 00:24:50,040
Speaker 2: would get if we were really good kids, like it

519
00:24:50,080 --> 00:24:55,439
Speaker 2: finally happened. Catholic miracle happened. And the morning after actually

520
00:24:55,480 --> 00:24:58,520
Speaker 2: not Saturday morning, Monday morning, with nine to eleven, I

521
00:24:58,520 --> 00:25:00,879
Speaker 2: went to the City Bank, which was still open, and

522
00:25:00,920 --> 00:25:02,960
Speaker 2: I got a check, not a check. I got my

523
00:25:03,240 --> 00:25:05,720
Speaker 2: little cash card for two hundred dollars. I always got

524
00:25:05,720 --> 00:25:08,240
Speaker 2: two hundred dollars every Monday. And when I went to

525
00:25:08,320 --> 00:25:10,520
Speaker 2: chit and gave me my receipt, it said I had

526
00:25:10,520 --> 00:25:12,000
Speaker 2: sixty six million dollars in my.

527
00:25:12,000 --> 00:25:13,480
Speaker 3: Account, my chicking account.

528
00:25:13,640 --> 00:25:17,639
Speaker 2: I was like, ah, it was such a thrill. And

529
00:25:17,720 --> 00:25:19,720
Speaker 2: every time I go to the City bank, machine still

530
00:25:19,760 --> 00:25:22,520
Speaker 2: the same one. I would never change machines. Now I

531
00:25:22,600 --> 00:25:25,280
Speaker 2: get that same not the same thrill, but I live

532
00:25:25,280 --> 00:25:30,960
Speaker 2: it like groundhog Day again, you know the here Okay,

533
00:25:31,560 --> 00:25:37,440
Speaker 2: So that was ecstatically unbelievable to me. However, then by

534
00:25:37,480 --> 00:25:39,320
Speaker 2: the middle of the week, I knew exactly.

535
00:25:38,920 --> 00:25:39,679
Speaker 3: What I wanted to do.

536
00:25:40,200 --> 00:25:42,200
Speaker 2: I wanted to do all the things I never had

537
00:25:42,240 --> 00:25:44,120
Speaker 2: time to do. And I signed up for an Italian

538
00:25:44,119 --> 00:25:47,560
Speaker 2: cooking guess and I took my first class and realized

539
00:25:47,600 --> 00:25:48,479
Speaker 2: that wasn't going to do it.

540
00:25:49,200 --> 00:25:50,920
Speaker 3: I better find something else to do.

541
00:25:51,720 --> 00:25:53,600
Speaker 1: Oh what to say? You can cook? Because you know

542
00:25:53,640 --> 00:25:54,960
Speaker 1: I wouldn't be a house to dinner.

543
00:25:56,760 --> 00:25:59,760
Speaker 2: You keep that story to yourself for a change, please,

544
00:26:01,680 --> 00:26:02,440
Speaker 2: okay tell it.

545
00:26:02,960 --> 00:26:04,800
Speaker 1: No, I won't tell it. I won't tell it.

546
00:26:04,840 --> 00:26:05,639
Speaker 3: I made up for it.

547
00:26:05,640 --> 00:26:07,560
Speaker 2: I've made some good meals for you, damon, John. And

548
00:26:07,560 --> 00:26:09,040
Speaker 2: you know, ever since that bad.

549
00:26:08,920 --> 00:26:11,280
Speaker 1: One, it's not that you made a bad meal. You

550
00:26:11,280 --> 00:26:16,280
Speaker 1: didn't make anything. You didn't make ship. You was nothing there, Barbara, Barbara,

551
00:26:19,600 --> 00:26:21,280
Speaker 1: a little pack where you got a little bit of this,

552
00:26:21,400 --> 00:26:25,280
Speaker 1: a little bit of protein, and whatever it was. I

553
00:26:25,280 --> 00:26:27,400
Speaker 1: had to go down. My wife and I are stomachs

554
00:26:27,400 --> 00:26:29,960
Speaker 1: of growling. Your dogs growling and me, I think, because

555
00:26:29,960 --> 00:26:31,320
Speaker 1: you thought the dog was in the room, We're going

556
00:26:31,280 --> 00:26:32,840
Speaker 1: down and says we had to eat street meat and

557
00:26:32,880 --> 00:26:34,360
Speaker 1: then come back upstairs.

558
00:26:35,680 --> 00:26:37,240
Speaker 3: I knew you were gonna tell it. I knew you

559
00:26:37,240 --> 00:26:43,560
Speaker 3: couldn't resist. God, I remember.

560
00:26:43,160 --> 00:26:46,080
Speaker 1: That obviously you take cooking. What else did you do

561
00:26:46,119 --> 00:26:46,560
Speaker 1: after that?

562
00:26:48,000 --> 00:26:50,880
Speaker 2: I got depressed. I honestly got depressed for the first

563
00:26:50,920 --> 00:26:53,720
Speaker 2: time in my life. I never felt like a depressed

564
00:26:53,880 --> 00:26:57,400
Speaker 2: person or that type. But I don't know who I was.

565
00:26:57,760 --> 00:27:00,800
Speaker 2: I didn't know where I was going. I it's terribly

566
00:27:00,880 --> 00:27:03,040
Speaker 2: my team of brokers at the corporate Group. I had

567
00:27:03,119 --> 00:27:05,480
Speaker 2: hired every one of those thousand brokers when I sold

568
00:27:05,480 --> 00:27:07,560
Speaker 2: the business. I knew them, I knew their family. I

569
00:27:07,600 --> 00:27:09,919
Speaker 2: love them, even on a bad day, I love them.

570
00:27:10,400 --> 00:27:12,480
Speaker 2: And all of a sudden, I had nobody. I had

571
00:27:12,520 --> 00:27:16,880
Speaker 2: made my kitchen, and my husband and my dog. Yeah,

572
00:27:16,920 --> 00:27:20,240
Speaker 2: and you know what, I couldn't find the challenge, the excitement,

573
00:27:20,280 --> 00:27:24,680
Speaker 2: the curiosity, the creativity, all the things that are involved

574
00:27:24,720 --> 00:27:26,720
Speaker 2: in building a business for all of us. I couldn't

575
00:27:26,720 --> 00:27:28,479
Speaker 2: find any of that in my kitchen.

576
00:27:29,280 --> 00:27:29,800
Speaker 3: Wasn't there.

577
00:27:30,280 --> 00:27:34,000
Speaker 1: I just said, five hundred people, let's say each one

578
00:27:34,080 --> 00:27:39,160
Speaker 1: is making a deal a week. You got, you got wires,

579
00:27:39,320 --> 00:27:42,840
Speaker 1: you got, you gotta travel. You you're fighting other competitors.

580
00:27:42,840 --> 00:27:45,920
Speaker 1: That's super fat. That's my point, right, it's super fast faced.

581
00:27:45,920 --> 00:27:48,080
Speaker 1: Now all of a sudden, Okay, the money's great, right,

582
00:27:48,560 --> 00:27:52,159
Speaker 1: one hundred percent. If you're smart, you're not blowing at all.

583
00:27:52,320 --> 00:27:54,520
Speaker 1: So then now a sudden, it just goes from one

584
00:27:54,600 --> 00:27:56,480
Speaker 1: hundred miles an hour to five.

585
00:27:57,440 --> 00:27:58,960
Speaker 3: Zero zero miles an hour.

586
00:27:59,600 --> 00:27:59,959
Speaker 1: What do you do?

587
00:28:01,520 --> 00:28:03,359
Speaker 3: I got depressed. I didn't know what to do.

588
00:28:03,440 --> 00:28:04,600
Speaker 1: How long did that take? Bar?

589
00:28:05,600 --> 00:28:07,520
Speaker 2: You know what I did? Though I have I'm a

590
00:28:07,520 --> 00:28:11,440
Speaker 2: great logical thinker. A couple of weeks later, I sat

591
00:28:11,480 --> 00:28:14,040
Speaker 2: down with my big yellowpad, put the line down the middle,

592
00:28:14,880 --> 00:28:17,520
Speaker 2: and I put down on the left side everything I

593
00:28:17,600 --> 00:28:20,760
Speaker 2: loved to do and work, and on the right side

594
00:28:20,800 --> 00:28:22,720
Speaker 2: everything I hated to do and work what I never

595
00:28:22,840 --> 00:28:25,720
Speaker 2: liked doing. And I looked at the column and kept

596
00:28:25,760 --> 00:28:27,679
Speaker 2: staring at the column I loved to do. And I

597
00:28:27,720 --> 00:28:30,760
Speaker 2: asked myself what occupations could I do that would use

598
00:28:30,840 --> 00:28:32,320
Speaker 2: up those gifts that I had?

599
00:28:33,200 --> 00:28:34,600
Speaker 3: And I came up with two things.

600
00:28:34,800 --> 00:28:37,320
Speaker 2: Start a public relations company because I was so good

601
00:28:37,320 --> 00:28:40,200
Speaker 2: at it, or start a marketing company because I was

602
00:28:40,240 --> 00:28:43,360
Speaker 2: so good at it. But then I realized both of

603
00:28:43,440 --> 00:28:46,280
Speaker 2: those businesses wouldn't give me the attention that I was

604
00:28:46,320 --> 00:28:49,000
Speaker 2: accustomed to. And the third thing on the list was

605
00:28:49,040 --> 00:28:51,960
Speaker 2: going to the TV business, and that's why I decided

606
00:28:52,080 --> 00:28:54,959
Speaker 2: to let that one win, and I started going to

607
00:28:55,000 --> 00:28:56,880
Speaker 2: the studios and trying to get a job as a

608
00:28:56,920 --> 00:29:01,000
Speaker 2: real estate expert because I was, and the Today Show

609
00:29:01,080 --> 00:29:03,280
Speaker 2: hired me for one day a week, and that was

610
00:29:03,320 --> 00:29:06,600
Speaker 2: the beginning of my new career. I made it sound emzy.

611
00:29:06,720 --> 00:29:12,320
Speaker 2: That effort took probably five hundred rejections. My Rolodex was

612
00:29:12,400 --> 00:29:18,320
Speaker 2: useless to me and one yes, thank god, one yes finally, Yeah.

613
00:29:18,480 --> 00:29:21,400
Speaker 1: I don't think people take what you just said as

614
00:29:21,440 --> 00:29:23,800
Speaker 1: serious as it's just I want. I remember when I

615
00:29:23,880 --> 00:29:26,480
Speaker 1: was first working with the Kardashians and I was at

616
00:29:26,520 --> 00:29:30,240
Speaker 1: dinner with Kim and I said, what do you want

617
00:29:30,280 --> 00:29:33,719
Speaker 1: to do? She said, I want to be famous, just

618
00:29:33,760 --> 00:29:36,160
Speaker 1: like that. Wow, she said, I want to be famous,

619
00:29:36,200 --> 00:29:37,720
Speaker 1: and we were told me, I think she's at Reggie

620
00:29:39,120 --> 00:29:43,320
Speaker 1: by far. Yeah, and she said something like any aspect

621
00:29:43,360 --> 00:29:46,200
Speaker 1: of my life I'm going to show a social media

622
00:29:46,240 --> 00:29:49,200
Speaker 1: just coming out, and she was like, like me and Reggie.

623
00:29:49,280 --> 00:29:51,640
Speaker 1: We kissed publicly we do. I'm a very private person

624
00:29:51,680 --> 00:29:53,600
Speaker 1: when it comes to those matters. And she said I

625
00:29:53,640 --> 00:29:55,920
Speaker 1: want to be famous, and I think that was she

626
00:29:56,080 --> 00:29:58,239
Speaker 1: was focused enough on what she really wanted. A lot

627
00:29:58,280 --> 00:30:01,120
Speaker 1: of people want fame and or it's easy to say

628
00:30:01,120 --> 00:30:02,680
Speaker 1: I want to be successful because they can go, hey,

629
00:30:02,800 --> 00:30:04,240
Speaker 1: I want to be successful. I want to take care

630
00:30:04,280 --> 00:30:06,360
Speaker 1: of my family. Everybody can relate to that for some

631
00:30:06,400 --> 00:30:10,280
Speaker 1: way to say, like you just said, it wasn't giving

632
00:30:10,280 --> 00:30:14,800
Speaker 1: me the attention that I wanted or needed. Very there's

633
00:30:14,840 --> 00:30:17,880
Speaker 1: not a lot of people you may say I want

634
00:30:17,880 --> 00:30:18,800
Speaker 1: to be a singer because.

635
00:30:18,640 --> 00:30:21,040
Speaker 3: I want to make everybody happiest.

636
00:30:20,520 --> 00:30:23,640
Speaker 1: Saying for a few people like maybe Kim or like

637
00:30:23,760 --> 00:30:31,240
Speaker 1: you would say I want attention. Now, that's extremely powerful

638
00:30:31,280 --> 00:30:33,320
Speaker 1: and that's knowing your why. And I was able to

639
00:30:33,360 --> 00:30:35,360
Speaker 1: get you to take all the other things out of

640
00:30:35,360 --> 00:30:37,880
Speaker 1: the way. Uh, PR this and that, I don't even

641
00:30:38,000 --> 00:30:39,960
Speaker 1: know PR. I want to be the one that they're

642
00:30:40,000 --> 00:30:40,640
Speaker 1: talking about.

643
00:30:40,760 --> 00:30:41,640
Speaker 3: I want to be the star.

644
00:30:42,960 --> 00:30:45,920
Speaker 1: Was that because you was that? Because you came up

645
00:30:45,960 --> 00:30:48,400
Speaker 1: with a family of ten where you needed the attention.

646
00:30:48,520 --> 00:30:50,640
Speaker 1: You very clear and it's easy to say, listen, out

647
00:30:50,640 --> 00:30:52,960
Speaker 1: of ten kids, the one who makes the funniest jokes

648
00:30:53,040 --> 00:30:55,200
Speaker 1: or the one who does stand on their head gets attend.

649
00:30:55,360 --> 00:30:58,960
Speaker 1: What what during that moment when you drew that pad?

650
00:31:00,080 --> 00:31:03,240
Speaker 1: What during that moment made you really you were blatantly

651
00:31:03,280 --> 00:31:05,560
Speaker 1: honest with yourself. What made you go there and be

652
00:31:05,640 --> 00:31:07,320
Speaker 1: able to even say it to people?

653
00:31:08,200 --> 00:31:10,120
Speaker 3: I don't know about saying it to people, but I

654
00:31:10,160 --> 00:31:10,880
Speaker 3: was in touch with.

655
00:31:10,800 --> 00:31:14,520
Speaker 2: My feelings when I was working my after school jobs.

656
00:31:14,760 --> 00:31:18,320
Speaker 2: Since I was very young, I always knew how to grandstand.

657
00:31:18,560 --> 00:31:20,680
Speaker 2: I always knew how to get attention whatever I went,

658
00:31:20,720 --> 00:31:23,000
Speaker 2: because I really needed it. When I was at the

659
00:31:23,040 --> 00:31:26,320
Speaker 2: Corcoran group, most people would say having an empire and

660
00:31:26,360 --> 00:31:28,400
Speaker 2: having so many people working for you and having a

661
00:31:28,440 --> 00:31:31,400
Speaker 2: brand that's well known was great. That wasn't what I

662
00:31:31,480 --> 00:31:34,400
Speaker 2: found great. What I found great was the reporters calling

663
00:31:34,440 --> 00:31:36,320
Speaker 2: me every day and asking my opinion.

664
00:31:36,560 --> 00:31:38,720
Speaker 3: That was attention. I loved it.

665
00:31:38,760 --> 00:31:41,560
Speaker 2: When I saw my name in print quoted, that was attention.

666
00:31:42,200 --> 00:31:44,360
Speaker 2: And I'm sure, and stem back to my mother and

667
00:31:44,440 --> 00:31:47,320
Speaker 2: father having those two they had to share their attention

668
00:31:47,400 --> 00:31:50,480
Speaker 2: with ten kids. I'm sure I had a deficit. If

669
00:31:50,560 --> 00:31:52,960
Speaker 2: I had seen a shrink, I probably wouldn't have been

670
00:31:53,000 --> 00:31:56,160
Speaker 2: successful because I probably would have gotten known my need

671
00:31:56,240 --> 00:32:00,479
Speaker 2: for attention, but I didn't, and therefore I kept on

672
00:32:00,520 --> 00:32:02,640
Speaker 2: that path. How do I get more attention? How do

673
00:32:02,720 --> 00:32:05,400
Speaker 2: I grandstand? How do I get all eyes on me?

674
00:32:06,200 --> 00:32:09,320
Speaker 3: I need to have them on me. It's really a.

675
00:32:09,240 --> 00:32:12,840
Speaker 2: Sick o situation, isn't it, And not the healthiest stance

676
00:32:12,880 --> 00:32:16,360
Speaker 2: for anybody. But nonetheless, that's who I was, and that's

677
00:32:16,440 --> 00:32:19,040
Speaker 2: the race I ran and won.

678
00:32:19,720 --> 00:32:22,040
Speaker 1: What do you think they'll barber about that? When you

679
00:32:22,080 --> 00:32:23,960
Speaker 1: see other people as you and your mother had a

680
00:32:24,000 --> 00:32:27,080
Speaker 1: great gift, do you think that not being honest with

681
00:32:27,200 --> 00:32:31,000
Speaker 1: ourselves is probably one of the biggest traps that we

682
00:32:31,120 --> 00:32:34,160
Speaker 1: have that we end up not living a proofful life

683
00:32:34,280 --> 00:32:36,560
Speaker 1: because you're very honest with yourself. Do you see that

684
00:32:36,600 --> 00:32:38,880
Speaker 1: in other people? They're just not honest with themselves.

685
00:32:39,280 --> 00:32:39,360
Speaker 4: No.

686
00:32:39,520 --> 00:32:42,280
Speaker 2: You know what I think is a much more damaging

687
00:32:42,520 --> 00:32:44,920
Speaker 2: thing that happens with a lot of people, happened with me.

688
00:32:45,520 --> 00:32:48,040
Speaker 2: I was an exem from it is you can't shake

689
00:32:48,120 --> 00:32:50,880
Speaker 2: the old tape setter in your head. Whatever you used

690
00:32:50,920 --> 00:32:54,600
Speaker 2: to be as a kid, whatever your insecurities are, whatever

691
00:32:54,680 --> 00:32:58,680
Speaker 2: stops you, whatever you second guess, it's so ingrained because

692
00:32:58,680 --> 00:33:00,720
Speaker 2: it came up. It's your child to a friend that

693
00:33:00,760 --> 00:33:03,320
Speaker 2: came up the ranks with you, and to change that

694
00:33:03,440 --> 00:33:06,760
Speaker 2: tape is very difficult. I know, and you would know

695
00:33:07,560 --> 00:33:08,480
Speaker 2: as well as I know.

696
00:33:09,000 --> 00:33:09,720
Speaker 3: How hard is.

697
00:33:09,680 --> 00:33:11,400
Speaker 2: It to shake a tape in your head that you're

698
00:33:11,400 --> 00:33:13,680
Speaker 2: a dumb kid? Okay when you're in school, defined as

699
00:33:13,720 --> 00:33:16,880
Speaker 2: a dumb kid you can't read or write laughing at you.

700
00:33:16,880 --> 00:33:19,360
Speaker 2: You don't shake that so easily. We turn it into

701
00:33:19,400 --> 00:33:21,280
Speaker 2: our advantage because we're proving the world.

702
00:33:21,320 --> 00:33:22,800
Speaker 3: I know it's a YouTube.

703
00:33:22,440 --> 00:33:24,920
Speaker 2: Damon as well as as me, proven the world you're

704
00:33:24,960 --> 00:33:27,520
Speaker 2: not stupid, you're successful, you could do what you want

705
00:33:27,520 --> 00:33:30,440
Speaker 2: to do. I'm still proving it. But I think shaking

706
00:33:30,480 --> 00:33:33,400
Speaker 2: out that tape, getting rid of it, and trying to

707
00:33:33,440 --> 00:33:36,320
Speaker 2: bust through it and just be a new you and

708
00:33:36,360 --> 00:33:38,840
Speaker 2: ignore that old, dirty tape. I think it's the biggest

709
00:33:38,880 --> 00:33:41,000
Speaker 2: challenge for most of us. It has been for me.

710
00:33:41,240 --> 00:33:45,000
Speaker 2: It still creeps in my insecure moments. Not that I'm

711
00:33:45,000 --> 00:33:48,480
Speaker 2: afraid of being poor or going backwards in that way,

712
00:33:48,600 --> 00:33:50,280
Speaker 2: because I could always get a job as a waitress.

713
00:33:50,280 --> 00:33:54,920
Speaker 2: I'm a great waitress, but just the idea that believing

714
00:33:54,960 --> 00:33:57,120
Speaker 2: in the way you used to define yourself, you've got

715
00:33:57,120 --> 00:33:58,400
Speaker 2: to get rid of that shit if you're going to

716
00:33:58,440 --> 00:34:01,120
Speaker 2: move forward, and I've been successful in doing that, and

717
00:34:01,160 --> 00:34:02,200
Speaker 2: I think it's very hard.

718
00:34:02,000 --> 00:34:03,440
Speaker 3: For people to get rid of it. It takes a

719
00:34:03,440 --> 00:34:04,160
Speaker 3: lot of practice.

720
00:34:04,480 --> 00:34:07,120
Speaker 2: You won't believe the tape in my head that kicks

721
00:34:07,160 --> 00:34:09,720
Speaker 2: in now and I'm insecure. Used to be, Oh Barbia,

722
00:34:09,800 --> 00:34:12,000
Speaker 2: shouldn't be. You shouldn't have really tried it so important.

723
00:34:12,040 --> 00:34:14,360
Speaker 2: That guy's not worth your time. Don't ask for anything

724
00:34:14,360 --> 00:34:15,480
Speaker 2: you'll find back at the office.

725
00:34:15,520 --> 00:34:15,960
Speaker 3: You could do this.

726
00:34:16,440 --> 00:34:18,520
Speaker 2: I used to like back off and things. I wanted

727
00:34:18,560 --> 00:34:21,239
Speaker 2: to be a killer on and ride the horse and

728
00:34:21,280 --> 00:34:23,080
Speaker 2: slay the dragon out, back off, back off.

729
00:34:23,480 --> 00:34:23,560
Speaker 1: No.

730
00:34:23,760 --> 00:34:24,960
Speaker 3: Then I have a great tape.

731
00:34:24,960 --> 00:34:27,280
Speaker 2: It says you are hot shit, you are good looking,

732
00:34:27,640 --> 00:34:30,480
Speaker 2: you are brilliant, you are wonderful, you.

733
00:34:30,480 --> 00:34:33,520
Speaker 3: Are the cats me out. I just loaded up with

734
00:34:33,600 --> 00:34:36,040
Speaker 3: all this shit, so there's no room for the old tape.

735
00:34:36,200 --> 00:34:39,160
Speaker 2: But I think it takes a lot of practice at

736
00:34:39,160 --> 00:34:41,840
Speaker 2: that to really make it your own. I really do,

737
00:34:41,920 --> 00:34:43,319
Speaker 2: And I think it holds a lot of people back.

738
00:34:43,360 --> 00:34:44,879
Speaker 2: A lot of people back, a lot of people back,

739
00:34:45,239 --> 00:35:03,760
Speaker 2: people want to be back. There's a lot of practice

740
00:35:03,800 --> 00:35:06,640
Speaker 2: at that to really make it your own. I really do,

741
00:35:06,680 --> 00:35:08,239
Speaker 2: and I think it holds a lot of people back.

742
00:35:08,520 --> 00:35:11,120
Speaker 2: I know the people I've been acquainted with is as friends.

743
00:35:11,160 --> 00:35:11,640
Speaker 3: Definitely.

744
00:35:12,160 --> 00:35:13,759
Speaker 1: I love the way to say that when people want

745
00:35:13,760 --> 00:35:15,839
Speaker 1: to know their why, instead of going back there wanting

746
00:35:15,880 --> 00:35:18,120
Speaker 1: to go back to who that kid was and say,

747
00:35:18,160 --> 00:35:19,640
Speaker 1: like you said, is a kid who came along with

748
00:35:19,719 --> 00:35:22,920
Speaker 1: the journey with you. You never get fully rid of that person,

749
00:35:23,000 --> 00:35:25,560
Speaker 1: or maybe you extract some of the values. Now let's

750
00:35:25,560 --> 00:35:28,040
Speaker 1: go to something. I think there was a very special

751
00:35:28,080 --> 00:35:30,960
Speaker 1: moment that a lot of people don't realize. Things come

752
00:35:31,040 --> 00:35:33,600
Speaker 1: down to a moment. I always say, you're an amazing skier.

753
00:35:33,800 --> 00:35:35,840
Speaker 1: I've been told I know that I'll dust you on

754
00:35:35,880 --> 00:35:39,040
Speaker 1: a snowboard, but it's fine. But I'm told that people

755
00:35:39,080 --> 00:35:41,319
Speaker 1: practice for four years ago to the Olympics, and they

756
00:35:41,440 --> 00:35:44,080
Speaker 1: will practice over the best people in the world, and

757
00:35:44,080 --> 00:35:48,080
Speaker 1: they will win over milliseconds for four years of practice. Amazing.

758
00:35:49,480 --> 00:35:51,720
Speaker 1: It's the same as it's the same as an opening

759
00:35:51,760 --> 00:35:53,680
Speaker 1: of a letter. I realized the other day that I said,

760
00:35:53,719 --> 00:35:56,239
Speaker 1: some of my negotiations have gone on for months, when

761
00:35:56,360 --> 00:35:58,279
Speaker 1: all I needed to do instead of telling the lawyer

762
00:35:58,280 --> 00:35:59,640
Speaker 1: of this, and he tells that lawyer that, and she

763
00:35:59,760 --> 00:36:02,160
Speaker 1: tells that lawyer that all I need to write is

764
00:36:02,160 --> 00:36:05,040
Speaker 1: the opening sentence was, here's what I'm trying to accomplish,

765
00:36:05,640 --> 00:36:08,759
Speaker 1: and to accomplished, I make sure that I say I

766
00:36:08,800 --> 00:36:10,040
Speaker 1: know you're great, I know you have this, I know

767
00:36:10,080 --> 00:36:11,840
Speaker 1: you're trying to complish this. Hey, I'm trying to do

768
00:36:11,880 --> 00:36:14,959
Speaker 1: this with you. You got turned down for to come out

769
00:36:15,000 --> 00:36:17,799
Speaker 1: to film Shark Tank, and you wrote a great letter

770
00:36:17,880 --> 00:36:21,200
Speaker 1: and it opened up to Mark Burnette with hey, Mark,

771
00:36:21,280 --> 00:36:23,040
Speaker 1: I heard you took another girl to the dance.

772
00:36:24,000 --> 00:36:24,720
Speaker 3: That great line.

773
00:36:25,880 --> 00:36:29,480
Speaker 1: That is an opening and the story. I don't want

774
00:36:29,480 --> 00:36:32,440
Speaker 1: to butcher, but basically you you got turned down or

775
00:36:32,640 --> 00:36:35,279
Speaker 1: you said that you were you wanted to go out

776
00:36:35,320 --> 00:36:37,160
Speaker 1: there to film, and you heard that you were in

777
00:36:37,200 --> 00:36:40,319
Speaker 1: the runnings and you said, yeah, you know, they went.

778
00:36:40,920 --> 00:36:42,960
Speaker 2: I signed a contract, they offered me the job. I

779
00:36:43,000 --> 00:36:47,200
Speaker 2: signed a contract and federalshing it.

780
00:36:47,320 --> 00:36:49,320
Speaker 1: Tell it really quick. The story. I know this story

781
00:36:49,400 --> 00:36:51,520
Speaker 1: was to get into it about that.

782
00:36:52,120 --> 00:36:54,400
Speaker 2: They had come back and told me after I signed

783
00:36:54,400 --> 00:36:56,439
Speaker 2: the contract, they had changed your mind. They hired another

784
00:36:56,480 --> 00:37:00,719
Speaker 2: woman from my job, so that could be you. I

785
00:37:00,760 --> 00:37:03,920
Speaker 2: signed the contract and they reminded me they didn't countersign

786
00:37:03,960 --> 00:37:04,600
Speaker 2: the contract.

787
00:37:04,960 --> 00:37:06,120
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, that's true.

788
00:37:06,120 --> 00:37:11,400
Speaker 2: That's true, they called me and consider me a fallback

789
00:37:11,480 --> 00:37:13,600
Speaker 2: sometime in the future. That's the kiss of death. That's

790
00:37:13,640 --> 00:37:15,520
Speaker 2: like being the ugly sister at a problem right. Who

791
00:37:15,560 --> 00:37:16,360
Speaker 2: wants that spot?

792
00:37:16,920 --> 00:37:17,120
Speaker 1: Right?

793
00:37:17,280 --> 00:37:20,480
Speaker 2: And then I sat down and wrote your email that

794
00:37:20,520 --> 00:37:23,760
Speaker 2: you just referenced, and that was the first line. I understand, Mark,

795
00:37:23,800 --> 00:37:26,880
Speaker 2: you asked another girl to dance instead of me. I

796
00:37:26,920 --> 00:37:30,000
Speaker 2: appreciate being considered a fallback, but I'm much more accustomed

797
00:37:30,040 --> 00:37:32,000
Speaker 2: to coming in first. And let me tell you why.

798
00:37:32,640 --> 00:37:34,360
Speaker 2: And I said, all the best things that happened to

799
00:37:34,400 --> 00:37:36,280
Speaker 2: me in my life happened on the heels of rejection.

800
00:37:36,400 --> 00:37:38,880
Speaker 2: And I cited Sister Stella Marie telling me I'd be

801
00:37:38,880 --> 00:37:42,560
Speaker 2: stupid because I couldn't read right to the Donald himself,

802
00:37:42,560 --> 00:37:44,319
Speaker 2: who wouldn't pay me a penny of the four million

803
00:37:44,360 --> 00:37:47,040
Speaker 2: dollars till I beat him in federal court, till all

804
00:37:47,080 --> 00:37:49,440
Speaker 2: the old boys networks saying I would never compete with them,

805
00:37:49,480 --> 00:37:51,080
Speaker 2: un till he became the number one rival.

806
00:37:51,239 --> 00:37:54,279
Speaker 3: I just cited my mom my five high points. I

807
00:37:54,320 --> 00:37:55,080
Speaker 3: guess you'd call it.

808
00:37:55,640 --> 00:37:58,040
Speaker 2: And I told him I'd consider coming out, or I'd

809
00:37:58,080 --> 00:38:00,200
Speaker 2: like him to consider taking me out to compete for

810
00:38:00,239 --> 00:38:02,160
Speaker 2: the seat. I'd be on the plane on Tuesday night,

811
00:38:02,920 --> 00:38:05,200
Speaker 2: and that's when you met me. The next day, he

812
00:38:05,320 --> 00:38:09,240
Speaker 2: invited me out, and I competed for that seat, and

813
00:38:09,360 --> 00:38:10,720
Speaker 2: the rest of it is history.

814
00:38:10,760 --> 00:38:13,319
Speaker 1: As they he took the number one seat, and we're

815
00:38:13,320 --> 00:38:17,799
Speaker 1: all better for it. How did you have the emotional

816
00:38:17,800 --> 00:38:21,839
Speaker 1: intelligence to write that letter? Without that letter, somebody else

817
00:38:21,880 --> 00:38:24,719
Speaker 1: would have said that email would have went off as

818
00:38:25,400 --> 00:38:28,400
Speaker 1: Barbara is desperate, and look at the great Barbara Corkor

819
00:38:28,400 --> 00:38:30,040
Speaker 1: and look at the shit she sent me.

820
00:38:30,719 --> 00:38:32,640
Speaker 2: I didn't give a shit what they thought. Honestly, I've

821
00:38:32,680 --> 00:38:35,239
Speaker 2: never I gave up on worrying about that back when

822
00:38:35,280 --> 00:38:38,240
Speaker 2: I was in school. Really, you know what, I felt

823
00:38:38,280 --> 00:38:40,879
Speaker 2: like it was written from an attitude of strength, which

824
00:38:40,920 --> 00:38:43,560
Speaker 2: it was like, I cannot believe you actually passed me by.

825
00:38:44,120 --> 00:38:46,080
Speaker 2: I was insulted and I was angry, and that's what

826
00:38:46,080 --> 00:38:48,200
Speaker 2: got me to write it. And you know what, I

827
00:38:48,239 --> 00:38:50,040
Speaker 2: really felt that they were missing the best thing that

828
00:38:50,040 --> 00:38:53,680
Speaker 2: could have ever happened. It was sincere and powerful. And

829
00:38:53,719 --> 00:38:56,440
Speaker 2: he heard the tone because he said to Charman, if

830
00:38:56,440 --> 00:38:58,840
Speaker 2: you remember Charmon, she was the recruiter of the town.

831
00:38:58,880 --> 00:39:00,600
Speaker 2: I don't know if she approached you first. She was

832
00:39:00,640 --> 00:39:03,080
Speaker 2: the one who approached me. She called me back and

833
00:39:03,080 --> 00:39:05,279
Speaker 2: she said, I took your email into Mark. I made

834
00:39:05,280 --> 00:39:08,000
Speaker 2: a promise to take it in and he said, she's

835
00:39:08,040 --> 00:39:11,000
Speaker 2: a real shark. What a better compliment than that, she's

836
00:39:11,040 --> 00:39:11,720
Speaker 2: a real shark?

837
00:39:11,719 --> 00:39:15,759
Speaker 3: Inviter out? Oh, and of course I got invited out.

838
00:39:16,160 --> 00:39:16,600
Speaker 3: Do you know what?

839
00:39:16,640 --> 00:39:19,160
Speaker 2: Everything I have a visualized came true? And I had

840
00:39:19,160 --> 00:39:21,080
Speaker 2: a picture of me as a shark, and the idea

841
00:39:21,080 --> 00:39:22,640
Speaker 2: that it wasn't going to come true didn't make any

842
00:39:22,680 --> 00:39:25,360
Speaker 2: sense to me. It didn't follow the script of my life.

843
00:39:25,440 --> 00:39:27,960
Speaker 2: And that's why I stood up to be counted and objected,

844
00:39:28,360 --> 00:39:30,840
Speaker 2: and I did it as a lady, but with a

845
00:39:30,840 --> 00:39:32,960
Speaker 2: lot of power as well. I think it was well written.

846
00:39:33,160 --> 00:39:35,080
Speaker 2: I want you to know not to tell Mark Burnett.

847
00:39:35,200 --> 00:39:38,160
Speaker 2: I shot it off so fast. I probably rewrote it

848
00:39:38,200 --> 00:39:39,399
Speaker 2: seven or eight times to.

849
00:39:39,320 --> 00:39:40,560
Speaker 3: Make sure every word counted.

850
00:39:41,000 --> 00:39:43,000
Speaker 2: But it looked like it was off the cuff. I

851
00:39:43,120 --> 00:39:45,680
Speaker 2: just wrote it off the cup. But it turned the key,

852
00:39:46,040 --> 00:39:48,120
Speaker 2: and that's all that's important. It gave me the opportunity

853
00:39:48,160 --> 00:39:50,719
Speaker 2: to meet all these great entrepreneurs, great ones and not

854
00:39:50,840 --> 00:39:53,640
Speaker 2: just great ones over all the years. Yeah, and it

855
00:39:53,719 --> 00:39:55,480
Speaker 2: created a whole new life of me, a whole new

856
00:39:55,480 --> 00:39:58,120
Speaker 2: team of people to surround myself with my own joy

857
00:39:58,160 --> 00:39:59,239
Speaker 2: back r.

858
00:39:59,239 --> 00:40:01,040
Speaker 1: But you would think they would with a person that

859
00:40:01,040 --> 00:40:04,360
Speaker 1: has so much success and admiration that you wouldn't have

860
00:40:04,480 --> 00:40:06,880
Speaker 1: to keep fighting like that, even though it's just a

861
00:40:07,760 --> 00:40:09,560
Speaker 1: small fight or a big fight, you wouldn't have to

862
00:40:09,600 --> 00:40:12,319
Speaker 1: prove yourself. And a lot of people think that for

863
00:40:12,440 --> 00:40:14,480
Speaker 1: some reason, they just stop fighting after a while. They

864
00:40:14,520 --> 00:40:16,280
Speaker 1: think they're going to get to a point of Barbara

865
00:40:16,280 --> 00:40:19,120
Speaker 1: Corporate and they're gonna have to stop fighting because everybody's

866
00:40:19,160 --> 00:40:21,640
Speaker 1: gonna kneel at their feet. What would you say to

867
00:40:21,800 --> 00:40:26,000
Speaker 1: people like that, you fight harder today to prove yourself

868
00:40:26,000 --> 00:40:30,000
Speaker 1: because people want to bet against you because you are successful.

869
00:40:30,239 --> 00:40:33,319
Speaker 1: Do people just think it comes easy to you or

870
00:40:33,480 --> 00:40:37,719
Speaker 1: do people think you just don't need it is? What

871
00:40:37,760 --> 00:40:40,319
Speaker 1: would you say to people who you have to now

872
00:40:40,360 --> 00:40:41,799
Speaker 1: say you're always going to fight?

873
00:40:43,200 --> 00:40:45,560
Speaker 3: You know what I look at more than winning the fight.

874
00:40:46,160 --> 00:40:50,279
Speaker 2: I'm very focused on creating a habit of fighting and

875
00:40:50,360 --> 00:40:52,520
Speaker 2: standing up for myself. I think when you create a

876
00:40:52,600 --> 00:40:55,040
Speaker 2: habit of fighting and standing up for yourself, and sometimes

877
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Speaker 2: it's not a fight, things happen if you just push

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00:40:57,400 --> 00:41:01,640
Speaker 2: a little. But I always push partially because I'm insecurit.

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00:41:01,719 --> 00:41:06,000
Speaker 2: I need to have the success and always pushing, I

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00:41:06,040 --> 00:41:07,960
Speaker 2: think more than anything, so that I have the self

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00:41:08,000 --> 00:41:11,040
Speaker 2: confidence to know that I will always push put me

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00:41:11,040 --> 00:41:14,000
Speaker 2: in any adverse situation, and I will tell you one thing,

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00:41:14,000 --> 00:41:17,239
Speaker 2: without even knowing what I'm going in to confront, that

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00:41:17,360 --> 00:41:19,399
Speaker 2: I will push harder than anybody in there because I've

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00:41:19,400 --> 00:41:21,799
Speaker 2: made a habit of it, and so that gives me

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00:41:21,880 --> 00:41:24,600
Speaker 2: a great leg up on confidence knowing that I have

887
00:41:24,760 --> 00:41:27,640
Speaker 2: the makings of an individual that knows how to push.

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00:41:28,120 --> 00:41:31,040
Speaker 2: So it's half need, half habit, but I think making

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00:41:31,080 --> 00:41:34,279
Speaker 2: a habit of that is instrumental in success. And if

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00:41:34,320 --> 00:41:37,800
Speaker 2: I didn't push next week or next month, I'd probably

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00:41:37,800 --> 00:41:40,239
Speaker 2: get away with it. Give me eight months, I'd still

892
00:41:40,280 --> 00:41:42,879
Speaker 2: get away with it. But by the twelfth month, I've

893
00:41:42,920 --> 00:41:45,920
Speaker 2: wonder if I lost my mojo. I wonder about myself,

894
00:41:45,960 --> 00:41:48,520
Speaker 2: and that's the first loss of confidence. You have to

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00:41:48,560 --> 00:41:51,240
Speaker 2: push for your confidence, That's.

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Speaker 1: What I think. And I blear so much about you

897
00:41:53,640 --> 00:41:55,520
Speaker 1: that I didn't know. I've known you now fifteen years,

898
00:41:55,560 --> 00:41:58,800
Speaker 1: maybe even sixteen years, and so many of these little

899
00:41:58,840 --> 00:42:01,719
Speaker 1: antidotes and things that have happened I haven't realized or

900
00:42:01,719 --> 00:42:04,080
Speaker 1: I didn't know when. I'm really happy that we got

901
00:42:04,080 --> 00:42:05,759
Speaker 1: to know each other, and you spent this moment with

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00:42:05,840 --> 00:42:07,680
Speaker 1: me to share that moment with everybody else, and I

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00:42:07,719 --> 00:42:09,320
Speaker 1: appreciate you, Damon.

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Speaker 2: I just want to say to you, if you would

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00:42:10,840 --> 00:42:13,719
Speaker 2: stop complaining about that goddamn meal I made you that

906
00:42:13,840 --> 00:42:15,160
Speaker 2: sure changed you.

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00:42:15,160 --> 00:42:17,040
Speaker 3: You could hear a few more of my things that

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Speaker 3: I say. Okay, no, but it's that honor to be

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Speaker 3: with you.

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Speaker 2: The friendships out of Shark Tank is the best part

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00:42:23,200 --> 00:42:25,279
Speaker 2: about Shark Tank. I'm sure you would agree, right, We're

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00:42:25,320 --> 00:42:26,360
Speaker 2: like in the pit together.

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Speaker 1: It is. It is a moment in history. But getting

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Speaker 1: to know great people, even Kevin, has been amazing.

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Speaker 2: Oh Kevin's a hoot. I love that Kevin. I love

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00:42:34,920 --> 00:42:37,200
Speaker 2: hate him like a bad brother, good brother kind of thing.

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Speaker 3: But I always love you.

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Speaker 1: I love you too, bro.

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Speaker 3: All Right, thanks for the opportunity, Damon. Real honor.

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Speaker 1: That moment with Damon John is a production of the

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Speaker 1: wherever you listen to your favorite show, and don't forget

924
00:43:05,160 --> 00:43:09,399
Speaker 1: to subscribe to and rate the show and of course

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00:43:09,440 --> 00:43:10,880
Speaker 1: you can all connect with me on any of my

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Speaker 1: social media platforms. At The Shark, Damon spelt like Raymond,

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Speaker 1: but what a d