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Speaker 1: Hey, this is Angie and this is Dakota, your favorite

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Speaker 1: Okay story Time hosts, and we've got some great stories

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Speaker 2: But before that, we have a quick two minute break

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Speaker 2: from the sponsors that keep this show running. I discovered

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Speaker 2: that I'm now a father weeks after my girlfriend passed away.

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Speaker 3: Well that's depressing.

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Speaker 2: There is no doubt her son needs one hundred percent

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Speaker 2: mine because we had a paternity test just to be sure. Anyways,

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Speaker 2: I twenty seven mail barely found this out weeks ago.

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Speaker 2: Only reason we broke up is because I had to

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Speaker 2: move back across the country last year to help my

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Speaker 2: family after my dad passed away from the VID. Oh

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Speaker 2: you had a year. Didn't want to do the long

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Speaker 2: distance since I was gonna stay there working for a bit.

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Speaker 2: By the way, this comes from Throwaway Clueless and if

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Speaker 2: you want to spit your own stories, go to the

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Speaker 2: r slash Okay Storytime suppered it. I'm Sophia, I'm Riley,

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Speaker 2: I'm Keon, and we're here to give good advice scoofully.

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Speaker 2: But we don't have all the answers. We only know

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Speaker 2: what we'd do, So let us know what you would

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Speaker 2: do in the comments.

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Speaker 3: So you're down to up one. Right now, this.

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Speaker 2: Story seems sad.

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Speaker 3: I'm sorry, Wait, did you hear my jokes? Yeah, he's

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Speaker 3: up one, down to up one.

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Speaker 4: A little little early for jokes.

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Speaker 2: She never told me anything, her mom says. She didn't

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Speaker 2: want me to worry about her all the way over

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Speaker 2: there when my dad's family needed me more, and she

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Speaker 2: was gonna tell me as soon as I was back.

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Speaker 2: I moved back like a month ago. Only now I'm

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Speaker 2: finding out not only that I lost her. They said

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Speaker 2: there were complications when she gave birth. But we have

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Speaker 2: a baby boy, a genuinely and you still loved her genuinely.

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Speaker 2: I would be incredibly upset that they didn't tell me

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Speaker 2: that she was giving birth to deprive him of you know,

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Speaker 2: the birth of his child.

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Speaker 4: I didn't even know, and for hers.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's ridiculous.

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Speaker 3: You know what, I'm not buying this. I don't think

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Speaker 3: this happened. I believe someone sat down at a table. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: they made this look up and they wrote a story.

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Speaker 4: And they called it the Notebook.

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Speaker 3: That's not no, there's another realm calm maybe not wrong

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Speaker 3: walk romantic? What do you call those movies? Just romance?

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Speaker 3: Romantic movies?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, there's there's no comedy in it is more of

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Speaker 4: a like a tragic romance.

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Speaker 2: But I did not like it.

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Speaker 3: If you don't have comment, I ain't coming.

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Speaker 2: Feeling a mix of stuff. And worst part is I

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Speaker 2: can't talk to her about it because I wish she

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Speaker 2: told me. Her mom says, they've barely been managing with him.

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Speaker 2: They need help with them, and so that's why she

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Speaker 2: reached out to me once they learned I was back again.

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Speaker 2: Absolutely insane of the parents. Do not even tell you

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Speaker 2: that you had a kid. The kid's mother passed away

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Speaker 2: in childbirth, Like you didn't find any of that out

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Speaker 2: until they found out you were coming back. List devastating.

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Speaker 3: Sometimes God gives it strongest warriors, it's hardest battles.

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Speaker 2: Because Opie's getting one battle after another.

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Speaker 3: I think OPI Ah, great movie, because that was a

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Speaker 3: movie I never got to watch yet. Oh I'm scared

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Speaker 3: of the beginning part of it.

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Speaker 2: The beginning part of it is quite intense.

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Speaker 4: The revolution, Yeah.

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Speaker 2: It is quite intense. And you're sitting there like whoa

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Speaker 2: with your parents beside of you. Well, no, I went

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Speaker 2: with my boyfriend, but we were both like whoa.

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Speaker 3: We kinda as your parent.

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Speaker 2: What ew ew we but.

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Speaker 3: OPI dude, yeah, good luck.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm so sorry they did that because that's not okay.

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Speaker 2: Of course he's mine, that's my responsibility. Still, it's hard

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Speaker 2: not to panic. I'm still in shock about her passing.

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Speaker 2: Now I've got a son I need to take care of.

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Speaker 2: Didn't even get to be part of the first two

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Speaker 2: months of his life. That is insane. Why would they

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Speaker 2: think that that's okay to keep that from you? Truly?

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Speaker 3: Maybe because she still loved him, but loved him so

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Speaker 2: It's terrible. My family doesn't know about him yet. Heck,

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Speaker 2: I still haven't met him yet. Her mom's only sent

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Speaker 2: me picks. He's beautiful. I don't know how I'm gonna

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Speaker 2: do this. I'm scared, sad, and pissed off. For some reason,

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Speaker 2: you're allowed to be pissed because they lied to you.

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Speaker 3: Is it a lie if they don't tell you, Yes, that's.

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Speaker 4: A lie of a mission. If they yeah, if they

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Speaker 4: know and they should tell you.

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Speaker 3: Well, I've been lying to you guys for quite some time. Then.

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Speaker 2: Speaking of I've admitted a lot. I'm nervous as f

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Speaker 2: about meeting him or how this is gonna go. Her

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Speaker 2: parents will be around to help, but I know he'll

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Speaker 2: be with me full time for the most part. Really,

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Speaker 2: any advice I'll really appreciate from new parents or anyone. Honestly,

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Speaker 2: what the heck do I do about all these new changes?

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Speaker 2: And we've got some relevant comments.

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Speaker 3: Everyone put down the best thing you believe to do

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Speaker 3: right now? Yeah, go, He's tell I think that Tom

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Speaker 3: had something earlier, She said, surely they tried to stay

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Speaker 3: in contact with him, and he wondered why she ghosted him,

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Speaker 3: and this happened. Well, no, she recently just died and

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Speaker 3: the baby's been around for two longs.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, well, but she was pregnant for nine so presumably

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Speaker 2: you know, he was gone for about a year. So

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Speaker 2: she finds out she's pregnant. After they split up, he

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Speaker 2: goes to take care of, you know, all of the

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Speaker 2: family stuff after his dad's passing, and then just for

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Speaker 2: nine months, she's keeping that secret and not telling him,

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Speaker 2: not reaching out, and then she's having the family keep

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Speaker 2: the secret, and then the family thinks I can I

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Speaker 2: just am shocked that even after her passing, they continue.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I just I'm like wondering, Like they notice that

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Speaker 4: who's yeah the father?

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Speaker 2: Maybe you should tell your recently ex boyfriend.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you can be mad, but maybe I have a

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Speaker 3: pretty good reason. I feel like he's gonna know and

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Speaker 2: It feels like the reason was just that they didn't

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Speaker 2: But I don't think that's a good enough reason. Evil says,

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Speaker 2: are you listed on the birth certificate? If you aren't,

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Speaker 2: then not only do you have no responsibilities, you have

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Speaker 2: no rights either. It could be very dangerous for you

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Speaker 2: to take over the care of this child if you

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Speaker 2: a mess, but you can do it. Lots of single

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Speaker 2: moms in the world do it all the time. I

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Speaker 2: don't know where you are located, but they're all kinds

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Speaker 2: of resources for new parents, single parents, et cetera. One

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Speaker 2: of the best places to start is at the pediatricians.

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Speaker 3: Good luck. I'm sorry, what is pediatrician gonna do?

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Speaker 2: For the baby, just like make sure the baby's all

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Speaker 3: Well, yeah, the parents are making sure that happens.

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Speaker 2: Well, but yeah, they're just saying, like take the baby

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Speaker 2: to a you know, baby doctor, baby, doctor, baby's all

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Speaker 3: You're a woman doctor, yeah, no, no, no, I know what

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Speaker 3: a pediatricians. I almost became one at one point because

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Speaker 3: I like doctor Poncer and he was a cool guy

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Speaker 3: and I feel like he had my background, and for a.

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Speaker 2: Brief moment, You're like, I could be a pediatrician.

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Speaker 4: He's really chill.

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Speaker 3: But then I saw how much schooling I had had

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Speaker 2: Now that's how I felt about being a vet. I

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Speaker 3: That well, actually, no, there's a lot of things about

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Speaker 3: being a vet, and I'm so glad you didn't do that.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a lot. But also also want to tell

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Speaker 2: me you wanted to be a vet? Yeah? For you, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: what why wouldn't I want to be a vet.

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Speaker 4: I'm not surprised by those. Out of all the things,

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Speaker 4: she wanted to be, like a vet or like a teacher.

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Speaker 4: Seems pretty that'd be fair because.

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Speaker 3: We know years old, well, that would be fair because

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Speaker 3: we know you wouldn't eat the pets. That's good, that's good.

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Speaker 2: Would you eat the pets?

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Speaker 3: Well, I mean I have a better chance of eating

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Speaker 3: them because I eat meat.

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Speaker 2: You know that's true.

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Speaker 3: But anyways, the pediatrician, we need to go get someone

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Speaker 3: that gets the rights, the doctor, the payment.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's that is that is first first thing.

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Speaker 3: No, no, no, Pedatrice's second step. Maybe I don't think it's

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Speaker 4: I was gonna say, especially if you're not on the

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Speaker 4: birth certificate. I mean, yeah, dude, I don't think you

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Speaker 4: can really you can talk to the you know, like

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Speaker 4: who's in care of the child now that her parents

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Speaker 4: and parents.

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Speaker 2: But the parents have already said they want OP two

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Speaker 2: take over, and we have proof that OP is the

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Speaker 2: pretty open to OP signing.

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Speaker 3: Okay, okay, he needs a DNA test and they get

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Speaker 4: It's it's confirmed. No, he is, he's the father.

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Speaker 3: Oh so it's not just to make the baby healthy,

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Speaker 3: but advice for legal assistance and such and government assistance

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Speaker 3: if needed. The pediatrician knows this.

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Speaker 4: Pediatrician, guys, they probably deal with this a lot more

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Speaker 4: than you think. We're so or they probably also give

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Speaker 3: Okay, should we get a pediatrician on because I have questions?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, can they check the can they check me?

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Speaker 2: How am I doing?

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Speaker 3: Casana says, I mean he made the decision to leave

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Speaker 3: and cut the GF off, and maybe the GF did

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Speaker 2: This could be true, and I hope not because well,

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Speaker 2: I mean, regardless of whether or not that's true, I

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Speaker 2: I'm shocked about, is that the parents, after the fact,

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Speaker 2: waited two months. That's the thing I'm like really shocked about.

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Speaker 2: Oh P says not yet, but we're gonna look into

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Speaker 2: getting that taken care of. I think the pediatrician her

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Speaker 2: parents want to help out, but can't have him full

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Speaker 2: time anymore. Another comment from what does It Matter says Ugh,

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Speaker 2: I'm so sorry congrats on your son and being a

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Speaker 2: new dad, but also I'm so sorry for your losses

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Speaker 2: your dad and ex girlfriend. I can't imagine what you're

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Speaker 2: going through. And Op says it's been a lot barely

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Speaker 2: have gotten by accepting my dad's passing, and now here

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Speaker 2: we are. We might have been broken up, but it

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Speaker 2: I got back, it's crushed me. Then with all this

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Speaker 2: our son. He's so beautiful, and I wish I was

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Speaker 2: some time to process and get ready for it.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, genuinely, Yeah, I feel so bad for op I don't.

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Speaker 3: So you're in this scenario, boyfriend, I had a baby

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Speaker 4: And you get all your fault? Yeah, how dare you

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Speaker 2: And then zac Efron tried to flirt with me and

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Speaker 4: If you truly love them. You'll let him go.

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Speaker 2: He's been with me almost two weeks at my place.

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Speaker 4: What were you singing? You know?

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Speaker 2: Iron Man, Ish Ish iron Man? And it works every time.

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Speaker 3: Dude. I'm just thinking, if I had a kid, play

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Speaker 3: Yeah, get to hang out with Auntie Sophia.

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Speaker 3: Gonna make it wear a mask everywhere it goes. No,

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Speaker 2: I'm slowly adjusting to this new life. Not easy, but

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Speaker 3: This one's getting to me.

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Speaker 2: This one's so sad.

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Speaker 3: You guys, don't mind.

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Speaker 3: Actually, guys in the chat, what would Sophia do if

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Speaker 4: What would I do you want? Do you want a macha?

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Speaker 2: But Daylor seventeen says, you're doing great. When my daughter

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Speaker 2: op says, Oh yeah. That was my first night alone

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Speaker 4: Yeah, you read all the books, you get all the

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and then you actually have the baby and the

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Speaker 4: Yeah, the baby's not like a computer. Yeah, or like

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Speaker 3: Also, Amanda said that you would take them out for

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Speaker 2: Fish ice cream. M that would be cute. I'm imagining,

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Speaker 2: Oh my goodness, when I have a baby, they're gonna

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Speaker 3: I could see that.

439
00:19:56,520 --> 00:19:58,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, and they've got their little ice cream and they're.

440
00:19:58,720 --> 00:20:00,719
Speaker 3: Like like, oh, miss, what's up?

441
00:20:00,800 --> 00:20:04,600
Speaker 2: Mmm mm hmmm. Yeah, they're so cool. Okay, Breakfast says,

442
00:20:05,160 --> 00:20:07,800
Speaker 2: I'm in tears, so proud of you and so moved

443
00:20:07,800 --> 00:20:10,600
Speaker 2: by your story. Your in law sound wonderful, as does

444
00:20:10,640 --> 00:20:12,879
Speaker 2: your mom. I'm so sorry for the loss of your

445
00:20:12,920 --> 00:20:14,760
Speaker 2: axe hand of your dad. She sounds like she was

446
00:20:14,800 --> 00:20:17,000
Speaker 2: a wonderful woman who fully believed you would all be

447
00:20:17,000 --> 00:20:20,720
Speaker 2: a family together. She clearly believed in you, and Opie

448
00:20:20,760 --> 00:20:24,320
Speaker 2: says she was the best, always made me laugh, super

449
00:20:24,359 --> 00:20:27,320
Speaker 2: caring and supportive. I can only imagine what an amazing

450
00:20:27,320 --> 00:20:29,360
Speaker 2: mom she would have been to our son. I think

451
00:20:29,400 --> 00:20:31,360
Speaker 2: part of me is always gonna love her no matter what.

452
00:20:31,560 --> 00:20:34,600
Speaker 2: Right now, everything is still fresh. Oh well, oh okay,

453
00:20:34,640 --> 00:20:37,359
Speaker 2: And then OPI's talking about or answering a question about

454
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Speaker 2: his work and what benefits he yet, because like he's.

455
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Speaker 3: Got a couple months off.

456
00:20:41,560 --> 00:20:44,159
Speaker 2: It sounded like yeah, Opie says, yeah, I've spoken to

457
00:20:44,160 --> 00:20:46,480
Speaker 2: my boss about this and gotten all the paperwork taken

458
00:20:46,480 --> 00:20:49,680
Speaker 2: care of. He was really understanding and made the process

459
00:20:49,720 --> 00:20:52,280
Speaker 2: a lot quicker. So right now I'm on paternity leave.

460
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Speaker 3: That's amazingly cow.

461
00:20:54,040 --> 00:20:56,200
Speaker 2: Not sure yet if I'll go back once that's up.

462
00:20:56,359 --> 00:20:58,680
Speaker 2: Still have my annual leave to use, and I enjoy

463
00:20:58,760 --> 00:21:01,040
Speaker 2: being home with him. Also got to be looking to

464
00:21:01,040 --> 00:21:03,680
Speaker 2: see if there's survivor benefits for him. I make enough

465
00:21:03,760 --> 00:21:05,960
Speaker 2: that we'd be fine on her own, but you never

466
00:21:06,040 --> 00:21:09,320
Speaker 2: know for rainy days or school for him. Larryot fifty says,

467
00:21:09,359 --> 00:21:10,720
Speaker 2: you're rocking it, dad.

468
00:21:10,800 --> 00:21:14,280
Speaker 3: Yeah, pediatricians. I didn't know pediatricians could step up like this.

469
00:21:14,880 --> 00:21:17,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, pediatricians are doing great.

470
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Speaker 3: Holy cow, I missed my pediatrician.

471
00:21:19,080 --> 00:21:21,280
Speaker 2: I don't remember my pediatrician. I'll be honest.

472
00:21:21,359 --> 00:21:22,080
Speaker 3: Mom was awesome.

473
00:21:22,240 --> 00:21:22,960
Speaker 4: Mine was cool.

474
00:21:23,119 --> 00:21:25,680
Speaker 2: We do have an update. But you know what, who

475
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Speaker 2: I do remember? I remember my childhood dentist who apparently

476
00:21:30,119 --> 00:21:33,000
Speaker 2: like is kind of a bad dentist because you stop

477
00:21:33,080 --> 00:21:35,040
Speaker 2: going to them because my mom had a lot of

478
00:21:35,080 --> 00:21:38,439
Speaker 2: complaints about the dentist office and stuff. But I remember

479
00:21:38,440 --> 00:21:41,320
Speaker 2: they were really cool and they would always give me prices.

480
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Speaker 4: Oh that's nice, like the toy chest.

481
00:21:43,000 --> 00:21:45,280
Speaker 3: But cowbot, as God said, Sofia would take the baby

482
00:21:45,400 --> 00:21:45,800
Speaker 3: rock line.

483
00:21:45,880 --> 00:21:48,040
Speaker 2: I totally would. Have you seen the babies that go

484
00:21:48,160 --> 00:21:51,359
Speaker 2: rock climbing with their parents, I one or like almost

485
00:21:51,400 --> 00:21:52,040
Speaker 2: two years old?

486
00:21:52,160 --> 00:21:53,800
Speaker 3: What if you fall? I'm sorry, you.

487
00:21:53,760 --> 00:21:55,520
Speaker 2: Go on a mat and you would like hold them.

488
00:21:55,880 --> 00:21:59,960
Speaker 2: They're not doing free solo up a giant mountains.

489
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Speaker 3: That's what I They're like upper rock Anyways, I can't,

490
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Speaker 3: I can't think of it.

491
00:22:02,359 --> 00:22:03,280
Speaker 2: They're just on a baby rock.

492
00:22:03,320 --> 00:22:05,360
Speaker 4: Well, I already know what I've been with my baby

493
00:22:06,680 --> 00:22:09,000
Speaker 4: that and they're gonna be in a little grogu outfit

494
00:22:09,320 --> 00:22:10,200
Speaker 4: low baby Yoda.

495
00:22:10,280 --> 00:22:13,359
Speaker 2: Oh my goodness, my goodness. I can't wait for baby Halloween.

496
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Speaker 3: Survivor benefits the kids if the parent worked or was

497
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Speaker 3: in the military. That's really cool though. I'm glad. I God,

498
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Speaker 3: I was gonna ask a question. I totally forgot. It

499
00:22:24,600 --> 00:22:25,120
Speaker 3: was a good one.

500
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Speaker 2: Pediatrician.

501
00:22:26,800 --> 00:22:29,760
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, so my pedatrition was cool. Also my dentist

502
00:22:30,080 --> 00:22:32,840
Speaker 3: that was kind of lame story, but I gotten good

503
00:22:32,880 --> 00:22:34,640
Speaker 3: with the nice dinnis. That was nice to my teeth

504
00:22:34,720 --> 00:22:37,760
Speaker 3: because I've never told anyone here about this. Yeah, I

505
00:22:37,760 --> 00:22:40,560
Speaker 3: don't think you have ever noticed. But I'm missing a tooth.

506
00:22:40,720 --> 00:22:41,440
Speaker 2: I didn't notice.

507
00:22:41,640 --> 00:22:42,680
Speaker 4: Is it on your right side?

508
00:22:42,840 --> 00:22:45,680
Speaker 3: It's my left side. But I'm missing a tooth. Okay,

509
00:22:45,960 --> 00:22:49,680
Speaker 3: one two three, I'm missing two teeth. You have four?

510
00:22:49,880 --> 00:22:53,320
Speaker 3: So all right here one two three, So this one

511
00:22:53,400 --> 00:22:57,280
Speaker 3: right here is fused together, so it's like stuck together

512
00:22:57,359 --> 00:23:00,520
Speaker 3: like this instead of it being two separate teeth like this.

513
00:23:01,160 --> 00:23:04,119
Speaker 3: So I'm missing two teeth. So you're supposed to have

514
00:23:04,200 --> 00:23:07,200
Speaker 3: a smile on two three.

515
00:23:07,560 --> 00:23:07,880
Speaker 4: I don't.

516
00:23:08,160 --> 00:23:10,880
Speaker 2: I don't see it smile smile. So if you okay, okay, okay.

517
00:23:10,720 --> 00:23:13,120
Speaker 4: Okay, you have like a tom Cruise tooth, so.

518
00:23:13,119 --> 00:23:14,960
Speaker 3: You're supposed to have four down there.

519
00:23:15,359 --> 00:23:16,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, Okay, see I.

520
00:23:16,280 --> 00:23:18,880
Speaker 3: Only have three, but one of those teeth are fused together,

521
00:23:18,920 --> 00:23:20,760
Speaker 3: so I basically have two teeth. So I'm missing two teeth,

522
00:23:21,119 --> 00:23:24,840
Speaker 3: or I guess I'm missing one but back here, or it's

523
00:23:24,880 --> 00:23:27,560
Speaker 3: fuse together. Like this is like a little indent, and

524
00:23:27,600 --> 00:23:29,560
Speaker 3: whenever people would go and clean it, they'd be so

525
00:23:29,720 --> 00:23:32,160
Speaker 3: rough on it and so mean. It would it would hurt.

526
00:23:32,240 --> 00:23:33,320
Speaker 3: I know they had to clean it, but it would

527
00:23:33,359 --> 00:23:34,920
Speaker 3: hurt so much. But I finally go out to a

528
00:23:35,000 --> 00:23:37,240
Speaker 3: dentist that was like really nice on my teeth, and

529
00:23:37,280 --> 00:23:39,280
Speaker 3: like it's because I told her I had green beans

530
00:23:39,280 --> 00:23:40,680
Speaker 3: and I would give her some cause she was looking

531
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Speaker 3: for green beans. And then Tate got with the dennist

532
00:23:44,720 --> 00:23:47,199
Speaker 3: that was kind of mean, and she'd always put her

533
00:23:47,240 --> 00:23:50,000
Speaker 3: boob on his head whenever she was like cleaning the teeth.

534
00:23:50,200 --> 00:23:51,720
Speaker 3: The heck, cause she had to like get up in

535
00:23:51,840 --> 00:23:53,399
Speaker 3: there and like do it. And she was a little

536
00:23:53,440 --> 00:23:54,600
Speaker 3: like a little bigger.

537
00:23:54,760 --> 00:23:57,080
Speaker 2: She totally could have gone a different direction.

538
00:23:56,960 --> 00:23:59,480
Speaker 3: But you always be mad coming back because you put

539
00:23:59,480 --> 00:24:01,919
Speaker 3: her boo my head and then I had to get

540
00:24:02,440 --> 00:24:05,560
Speaker 3: this or whatever. Blah blah blah blah blah. Oh, it

541
00:24:05,720 --> 00:24:07,960
Speaker 3: was just so funny because he didn't brush his theF

542
00:24:07,960 --> 00:24:09,679
Speaker 3: as much as he should have grown up, so that

543
00:24:09,760 --> 00:24:10,200
Speaker 3: was on him.

544
00:24:10,200 --> 00:24:11,200
Speaker 2: But it's on him.

545
00:24:11,280 --> 00:24:14,280
Speaker 3: That's something new about me. Everyone, Yeah, I'm missing a tooth.

546
00:24:14,400 --> 00:24:18,640
Speaker 2: Well. I've been waiting for my dentist appointment for ages, like, truly,

547
00:24:19,400 --> 00:24:21,960
Speaker 2: since the beginning of January. I was supposed to have

548
00:24:21,960 --> 00:24:25,000
Speaker 2: a dentist appointment, and they keep pushing it. I think

549
00:24:25,040 --> 00:24:29,120
Speaker 2: my next appointment is supposed to be in March at

550
00:24:29,160 --> 00:24:32,760
Speaker 2: some point, but truly, like they've pushed it three times

551
00:24:32,880 --> 00:24:35,040
Speaker 2: and they keep calling me and they're like, the dentist

552
00:24:35,080 --> 00:24:36,600
Speaker 2: can't is not in that day. I'm like, well, then

553
00:24:36,680 --> 00:24:39,320
Speaker 2: stop scheduling me on day's so they're not there.

554
00:24:39,480 --> 00:24:40,399
Speaker 3: Go to a different dentist.

555
00:24:40,480 --> 00:24:42,680
Speaker 2: He go to a different dentist. They're good. This is

556
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Speaker 2: the first time this has happened.

557
00:24:44,240 --> 00:24:45,479
Speaker 4: You can switch you dentist.

558
00:24:45,920 --> 00:24:49,480
Speaker 2: That sounds like a lot of work, guys, And otherwise

559
00:24:50,080 --> 00:24:52,560
Speaker 2: they're great. They just pushed me three times.

560
00:24:53,200 --> 00:24:54,959
Speaker 3: You didn't want to hear solutions right now?

561
00:24:55,080 --> 00:24:57,760
Speaker 2: Aren't solutions? Find a new dentist.

562
00:24:58,160 --> 00:25:00,760
Speaker 3: Also, I am very insecure my too, so please don't

563
00:25:00,800 --> 00:25:01,359
Speaker 3: make fun of me.

564
00:25:01,800 --> 00:25:03,399
Speaker 4: I make fun of you anyway. I know, but this

565
00:25:03,440 --> 00:25:06,920
Speaker 4: is something like you just gave me gasoline growing up.

566
00:25:06,800 --> 00:25:09,879
Speaker 3: People had I was like, so like I mumbled because

567
00:25:09,880 --> 00:25:11,280
Speaker 3: of this, because I don't like my teeth.

568
00:25:11,880 --> 00:25:13,479
Speaker 4: I mumbled because I just couldn't speak.

569
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Speaker 2: Update two nine months and twenty one days later, Oh.

570
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Speaker 3: Gosh, you old baby he's I think this is his

571
00:25:20,600 --> 00:25:23,560
Speaker 3: first year old. He's a year and now baby, the

572
00:25:23,560 --> 00:25:25,320
Speaker 3: baby's a year old? Wait wait hear it out?

573
00:25:25,800 --> 00:25:28,680
Speaker 2: Made it? Okay, yes, says made it my first year

574
00:25:28,800 --> 00:25:32,000
Speaker 2: as a parent. I'm so happy how far we've come.

575
00:25:32,359 --> 00:25:35,000
Speaker 2: He's gotten so big already. I really can't believe it.

576
00:25:35,160 --> 00:25:38,240
Speaker 2: But it was definitely bittersweet. His grandparents were there, so

577
00:25:38,480 --> 00:25:41,320
Speaker 2: as my family, having a little barbecue together, and it

578
00:25:41,400 --> 00:25:43,480
Speaker 2: hit me when I was taking pictures of him stuffing

579
00:25:43,480 --> 00:25:46,320
Speaker 2: his face in cupcakes. There is a teeny tiny little

580
00:25:46,320 --> 00:25:47,640
Speaker 2: bit left to this story.

581
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Speaker 3: Good for you, Opie. I'm so glad.

582
00:25:49,920 --> 00:25:51,080
Speaker 2: I'm so proud of Euope.

583
00:25:51,480 --> 00:25:53,520
Speaker 3: Also, I feel like I should call my boss and

584
00:25:53,560 --> 00:25:55,960
Speaker 3: ask what benefits I can get whenever I have a kid.

585
00:25:56,320 --> 00:25:57,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't think we'd get those yet.

586
00:25:58,280 --> 00:26:02,280
Speaker 3: We better start getting kids then, Sam, I want twelve kids.

587
00:26:02,640 --> 00:26:03,880
Speaker 3: What can you do to help me out?

588
00:26:04,000 --> 00:26:05,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, well, we gotta, we gotta.

589
00:26:05,359 --> 00:26:06,480
Speaker 4: You get twelve hours off.

590
00:26:06,960 --> 00:26:09,800
Speaker 2: You get twelve hours off, one for each kid. Yay,

591
00:26:10,320 --> 00:26:12,159
Speaker 2: all of the kids have to work with the company.

592
00:26:12,480 --> 00:26:14,280
Speaker 3: I mean, that's how it works with the sawmill.

593
00:26:15,040 --> 00:26:17,199
Speaker 2: I wish she had been there celebrating with us. I

594
00:26:17,200 --> 00:26:19,679
Speaker 2: wish she could kiss his cheek covered in frosting with

595
00:26:19,720 --> 00:26:21,679
Speaker 2: me and being all proud we made it through our

596
00:26:21,720 --> 00:26:22,240
Speaker 2: first year.

597
00:26:22,400 --> 00:26:23,640
Speaker 3: Oh stop it, op.

598
00:26:23,800 --> 00:26:26,000
Speaker 2: Her mom felt it too, I know, because she also

599
00:26:26,119 --> 00:26:28,600
Speaker 2: needed a moment inside. He still had a good day,

600
00:26:29,080 --> 00:26:31,200
Speaker 2: didn't fight his naps during the day, and he was

601
00:26:31,240 --> 00:26:33,960
Speaker 2: knocked out before it was his bedtime. Again. When I

602
00:26:34,000 --> 00:26:36,000
Speaker 2: was watching him sleep, it made me wish she was

603
00:26:36,040 --> 00:26:38,199
Speaker 2: there with me. This has been the best year of

604
00:26:38,240 --> 00:26:41,679
Speaker 2: my life being a dad. It still was lonely without her.

605
00:26:41,960 --> 00:26:45,760
Speaker 2: I miss you so much. And Top comments lift stand

606
00:26:45,880 --> 00:26:48,880
Speaker 2: or livestand says, well done, my friend, well done, you're

607
00:26:48,920 --> 00:26:51,919
Speaker 2: doing it. Keep going, it gets easier. I bet that

608
00:26:52,040 --> 00:26:55,040
Speaker 2: kid is seriously loved, and Opie says, he's the light

609
00:26:55,080 --> 00:26:57,080
Speaker 2: of my life, and I make sure he knows it

610
00:26:57,119 --> 00:26:59,640
Speaker 2: every day. She might not be here, but my family

611
00:26:59,680 --> 00:27:02,840
Speaker 2: and hers do everything to shower him with all the

612
00:27:02,920 --> 00:27:06,719
Speaker 2: love we can give and that's the end of the story.

613
00:27:07,000 --> 00:27:07,760
Speaker 2: That's so sweet.

614
00:27:08,119 --> 00:27:11,000
Speaker 3: Wow, that was so sad. That was so sad.

615
00:27:11,119 --> 00:27:12,000
Speaker 2: You're doing a good job.

616
00:27:12,160 --> 00:27:16,880
Speaker 3: That was so sad. Practice safe everyone, Yeah, I guess

617
00:27:16,960 --> 00:27:18,800
Speaker 3: that's that's what you know.

618
00:27:19,480 --> 00:27:23,879
Speaker 2: Yes, but also just be honest when you can be honest.

619
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Speaker 3: I don't know if you're not, if you're not able

620
00:27:25,320 --> 00:27:28,760
Speaker 3: to ever be honest with anyone, you better be practicing

621
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Speaker 3: it safely.

622
00:27:29,359 --> 00:27:31,720
Speaker 2: That's true. That's true. But I'm very proud of you,

623
00:27:31,920 --> 00:27:35,080
Speaker 2: and it seems like you are doing all the right things.

624
00:27:35,080 --> 00:27:37,480
Speaker 3: So people, because a story like this makes me when

625
00:27:37,480 --> 00:27:39,359
Speaker 3: I have a kid and then makes me want to

626
00:27:39,400 --> 00:27:42,919
Speaker 3: do unsafe things. What but I can't do that. I

627
00:27:42,960 --> 00:27:47,200
Speaker 3: can't do honest. Just stay safe, I am. But guys,

628
00:27:47,200 --> 00:27:48,199
Speaker 3: we got another one coming up.

629
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Speaker 2: Hey, it's Angie, your favorite fake redhead host here and

630
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Speaker 2: we're going to get back to the stories. But he's

631
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Speaker 2: a three minute ad break from our sponsors.

632
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Speaker 3: My eggs slied about us to his family and pestered

633
00:28:01,640 --> 00:28:02,440
Speaker 3: me for a year.

634
00:28:02,680 --> 00:28:03,680
Speaker 2: Leave me alone.

635
00:28:04,200 --> 00:28:07,120
Speaker 3: So this happened years ago. I was thirty seven year old,

636
00:28:07,160 --> 00:28:09,880
Speaker 3: single mom of three. Oh dig I traveled for work,

637
00:28:10,160 --> 00:28:13,000
Speaker 3: not between states, just inside the state where I live.

638
00:28:13,520 --> 00:28:16,320
Speaker 3: By the way, this comes from Heavy three zero four.

639
00:28:16,560 --> 00:28:17,840
Speaker 3: And if you want to speak you own stories, go

640
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Speaker 3: to the arsash okay story t I'm super at it.

641
00:28:19,960 --> 00:28:24,160
Speaker 4: I'm not Sophia, I'm not Riley, and I'm not any

642
00:28:24,200 --> 00:28:24,560
Speaker 4: of them.

643
00:28:25,200 --> 00:28:25,800
Speaker 3: That's Keyon.

644
00:28:26,200 --> 00:28:28,040
Speaker 4: That's Riley and I'm Sophia.

645
00:28:28,400 --> 00:28:31,000
Speaker 3: And we're here to give good advice. Goofily, You're here

646
00:28:31,040 --> 00:28:34,119
Speaker 3: to comment and to listen to us and form your

647
00:28:34,119 --> 00:28:36,600
Speaker 3: own opinions. No, he says one day while I was

648
00:28:36,640 --> 00:28:39,640
Speaker 3: out on a case. I'm a guy a case, Adam,

649
00:28:39,720 --> 00:28:41,720
Speaker 3: Are you a detective, wouldn't he?

650
00:28:41,840 --> 00:28:44,360
Speaker 2: I was adding a key sit, Adam, I was.

651
00:28:44,360 --> 00:28:45,400
Speaker 3: Thinking of social service.

652
00:28:45,960 --> 00:28:48,320
Speaker 2: Oh, but not as exciting.

653
00:28:48,320 --> 00:28:50,200
Speaker 3: At the end of it is excited?

654
00:28:50,280 --> 00:28:54,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, well maybe by the end of the story.

655
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Speaker 3: He was tall, cute, respectful, sweet, funny, and he had

656
00:28:58,440 --> 00:29:01,760
Speaker 3: a daughter the same age as my youngest son. Everything

657
00:29:01,880 --> 00:29:04,920
Speaker 3: was great in the beginning, of course, is it always so?

658
00:29:05,200 --> 00:29:07,680
Speaker 3: Is good in the beginning, sort of like cigarettes, they're

659
00:29:07,680 --> 00:29:08,680
Speaker 3: fun at first.

660
00:29:08,840 --> 00:29:10,160
Speaker 2: And then you get lung cancer.

661
00:29:10,680 --> 00:29:13,760
Speaker 3: We lived an hour and a half away from each other. No, biggie,

662
00:29:13,960 --> 00:29:16,680
Speaker 3: I love driving and didn't mind the trip. I'd go

663
00:29:16,720 --> 00:29:19,120
Speaker 3: see him a couple times a week after my kids

664
00:29:19,120 --> 00:29:21,440
Speaker 3: went to school. I'd spend the day with him, then

665
00:29:21,560 --> 00:29:23,320
Speaker 3: drive home in the time to get the kids from

666
00:29:23,440 --> 00:29:26,640
Speaker 3: their after school program. I made my own schedule and

667
00:29:26,680 --> 00:29:28,360
Speaker 3: it was easy to get the free time to see him,

668
00:29:28,600 --> 00:29:31,720
Speaker 3: and he worked evenings. I started to find it odd

669
00:29:31,840 --> 00:29:33,720
Speaker 3: that we always met out in public.

670
00:29:34,040 --> 00:29:38,120
Speaker 4: Cheeter, cheeterar Oh. I feel like he's a pumpkinater.

671
00:29:38,800 --> 00:29:41,080
Speaker 2: I feel like he's got a secret family, even though

672
00:29:41,080 --> 00:29:42,600
Speaker 2: you already know about his daughter.

673
00:29:43,040 --> 00:29:45,400
Speaker 4: But he's got another secret family. But does she know

674
00:29:45,400 --> 00:29:46,120
Speaker 4: about her mother?

675
00:29:46,360 --> 00:29:50,640
Speaker 3: Oh? He lived in a small town and there wasn't

676
00:29:50,720 --> 00:29:53,080
Speaker 3: much to do beyond going to the park or eating

677
00:29:53,080 --> 00:29:55,479
Speaker 3: at a restaurant. So that's what we did every time

678
00:29:55,560 --> 00:29:58,360
Speaker 3: I visit him. You never even got a good poundtown

679
00:29:58,440 --> 00:30:03,040
Speaker 3: in Okayo. No, that come on, you're seeing someone for

680
00:30:03,160 --> 00:30:05,840
Speaker 3: like three to six months, you don't want no poundtown.

681
00:30:06,280 --> 00:30:08,520
Speaker 2: That's besides the point.

682
00:30:08,760 --> 00:30:12,480
Speaker 4: It wasn't a no ew, there wasn't a no.

683
00:30:12,640 --> 00:30:16,239
Speaker 3: You're right, Yan, it wasn't a It was raining one

684
00:30:16,320 --> 00:30:18,120
Speaker 3: day and I asked if we go back to his

685
00:30:18,240 --> 00:30:20,760
Speaker 3: place because I didn't want to sit in the car.

686
00:30:21,000 --> 00:30:22,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're every time you meet up. You're just sitting

687
00:30:22,960 --> 00:30:23,800
Speaker 2: in a car together.

688
00:30:24,000 --> 00:30:25,320
Speaker 3: No, they're at a restaurant in a park.

689
00:30:25,400 --> 00:30:30,200
Speaker 2: SOFIA were sitting in a car, restaurant, park car. Those

690
00:30:30,200 --> 00:30:31,240
Speaker 2: are the three options.

691
00:30:31,400 --> 00:30:33,920
Speaker 3: Go find a cooler, arcade or something a park car.

692
00:30:34,360 --> 00:30:37,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, you can go to an arcade, you can go

693
00:30:37,360 --> 00:30:38,120
Speaker 2: to a museum.

694
00:30:38,480 --> 00:30:40,400
Speaker 3: And there was nothing to do in this town. Well,

695
00:30:40,440 --> 00:30:43,400
Speaker 3: it turns out that he lived with the sister, her husband,

696
00:30:43,440 --> 00:30:47,200
Speaker 3: and their two kids in their basements. Oh okay. His

697
00:30:47,280 --> 00:30:49,480
Speaker 3: sister didn't like for him to bring people to their

698
00:30:49,480 --> 00:30:52,160
Speaker 3: house when she was at home, and he was embarrassed

699
00:30:52,160 --> 00:30:54,000
Speaker 3: to tell me that, Okay, I can do with that.

700
00:30:54,400 --> 00:30:56,880
Speaker 3: Times are hard. Jobs don't pay enough to cover living

701
00:30:56,920 --> 00:31:00,360
Speaker 3: expenses in some places. Plus it's their house, so I

702
00:31:00,440 --> 00:31:03,440
Speaker 3: dealt with it. I was actually relieved because I was

703
00:31:03,520 --> 00:31:06,160
Speaker 3: afraid there was a wife or a girlfriend at home.

704
00:31:06,240 --> 00:31:08,040
Speaker 3: Maybe you should meet the sister.

705
00:31:08,320 --> 00:31:12,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, he's like a fully grown adult. He should be

706
00:31:12,880 --> 00:31:15,880
Speaker 2: able to say, hey, I want to bring my girlfriend

707
00:31:15,880 --> 00:31:17,719
Speaker 2: over just to hang out at the house.

708
00:31:18,000 --> 00:31:18,640
Speaker 3: He's forty.

709
00:31:19,200 --> 00:31:21,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, he's a fully grown adult with a child.

710
00:31:22,120 --> 00:31:24,600
Speaker 3: Soon after that, I got to meet his family. They

711
00:31:24,680 --> 00:31:27,400
Speaker 3: were really welcoming, and his sister and I really hit

712
00:31:27,440 --> 00:31:30,080
Speaker 3: it off well. His mom was a bit over the top,

713
00:31:30,320 --> 00:31:33,160
Speaker 3: talking about how happy he was that he has a girlfriend,

714
00:31:33,600 --> 00:31:37,320
Speaker 3: talking him up and hugging me repeatedly. This woman acted

715
00:31:37,400 --> 00:31:39,520
Speaker 3: like I was about to walk down the aisle the

716
00:31:39,600 --> 00:31:42,320
Speaker 3: next minute. Things went on for about two more months,

717
00:31:42,400 --> 00:31:44,400
Speaker 3: and I invited him to come to my town for

718
00:31:44,440 --> 00:31:46,720
Speaker 3: the day. He turned me down, saying that he was

719
00:31:46,720 --> 00:31:49,560
Speaker 3: more comfortable if I came to him. Mind you, I

720
00:31:49,640 --> 00:31:52,680
Speaker 3: did all of the driving for our visits and dates.

721
00:31:53,120 --> 00:31:55,200
Speaker 3: He hadn't come to my town at all, So it

722
00:31:55,240 --> 00:31:57,880
Speaker 3: turned into a disagreement when I told him I felt

723
00:31:57,920 --> 00:32:00,080
Speaker 3: like he didn't make an effort to come see me.

724
00:32:00,240 --> 00:32:02,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's a huge red flag for someone to always

725
00:32:02,960 --> 00:32:05,200
Speaker 2: be driving to you and making you put all of

726
00:32:05,240 --> 00:32:08,920
Speaker 2: the effort in. Not cool. You either got to meet

727
00:32:08,960 --> 00:32:10,960
Speaker 2: halfway or switch off.

728
00:32:11,120 --> 00:32:14,640
Speaker 3: But what if you line them up an awesome job

729
00:32:15,000 --> 00:32:16,440
Speaker 3: and they come see you every week?

730
00:32:16,480 --> 00:32:19,480
Speaker 2: But you go visit Angie a lot in Orange County?

731
00:32:20,080 --> 00:32:21,840
Speaker 2: I feel like you go down there quite a bit.

732
00:32:22,160 --> 00:32:22,560
Speaker 3: I do.

733
00:32:23,080 --> 00:32:25,040
Speaker 2: No, I mean, like it makes sense why she comes

734
00:32:25,080 --> 00:32:29,880
Speaker 2: here more because she's working. Yeah totally, not more than

735
00:32:29,920 --> 00:32:32,640
Speaker 2: she comes here, true, but like you still go it

736
00:32:32,640 --> 00:32:35,120
Speaker 2: seems like he's not going at all and it's been

737
00:32:35,280 --> 00:32:35,959
Speaker 2: six months.

738
00:32:37,200 --> 00:32:39,560
Speaker 3: Man, Yeah, I go see I go down to Orange

739
00:32:39,600 --> 00:32:41,640
Speaker 3: County like twice a month, once a month.

740
00:32:41,840 --> 00:32:42,280
Speaker 2: Yeah?

741
00:32:42,400 --> 00:32:43,000
Speaker 3: Is that enough?

742
00:32:43,360 --> 00:32:44,160
Speaker 2: Nice? Go more?

743
00:32:44,520 --> 00:32:45,560
Speaker 3: Really every weekend?

744
00:32:45,920 --> 00:32:46,040
Speaker 4: No?

745
00:32:46,120 --> 00:32:48,880
Speaker 3: I feel like I go every weekend. I couldn't go

746
00:32:48,960 --> 00:32:50,280
Speaker 3: to your boyfriend's party.

747
00:32:51,240 --> 00:32:53,480
Speaker 2: Well, I feel like it's a different scenario though, because

748
00:32:53,520 --> 00:32:56,960
Speaker 2: she's coming here and being paid, So that's like a

749
00:32:56,960 --> 00:32:59,760
Speaker 2: pretty good deal. You know, Like she has a job here,

750
00:32:59,800 --> 00:33:02,600
Speaker 2: so it's not just she's always coming here and you're

751
00:33:02,640 --> 00:33:03,520
Speaker 2: not putting in any.

752
00:33:03,600 --> 00:33:04,240
Speaker 3: That's a good point.

753
00:33:04,440 --> 00:33:05,400
Speaker 2: I think you're in the clear.

754
00:33:05,760 --> 00:33:08,880
Speaker 3: So he went off on me, saying I didn't take

755
00:33:08,920 --> 00:33:13,360
Speaker 3: his feelings into consideration and hung up on me. Later,

756
00:33:13,680 --> 00:33:16,080
Speaker 3: he called me crying told me that he was scared

757
00:33:16,080 --> 00:33:18,200
Speaker 3: to ride in a car. He said that he was

758
00:33:18,240 --> 00:33:20,880
Speaker 3: in a car accident when he was eight and has

759
00:33:20,920 --> 00:33:23,800
Speaker 3: avoided being in a car as much as possible as

760
00:33:23,800 --> 00:33:24,760
Speaker 3: you can since then.

761
00:33:25,160 --> 00:33:27,480
Speaker 2: Then, why did you start dating someone who lived an

762
00:33:27,480 --> 00:33:30,640
Speaker 2: hour and a half away from you? And also since

763
00:33:30,680 --> 00:33:33,080
Speaker 2: he was eight, so he's never driven a car.

764
00:33:33,240 --> 00:33:35,800
Speaker 3: No, he tries to avoid it makes sense, But I

765
00:33:35,800 --> 00:33:36,080
Speaker 3: don't know.

766
00:33:36,120 --> 00:33:37,360
Speaker 2: I don't like this therapy.

767
00:33:37,800 --> 00:33:39,360
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, you have a kid.

768
00:33:39,400 --> 00:33:40,800
Speaker 2: Now you're gonna have to drive your kid.

769
00:33:41,360 --> 00:33:43,600
Speaker 3: I get it. It was a trauma thing when you

770
00:33:43,600 --> 00:33:44,000
Speaker 3: were eight.

771
00:33:44,560 --> 00:33:46,960
Speaker 2: You're forty. Now you gotta go to therapy. You have

772
00:33:47,000 --> 00:33:49,560
Speaker 2: a child. Yeah, let's start working on this. You don't

773
00:33:49,560 --> 00:33:53,160
Speaker 2: have to, you know, start driving cold turkey? What's the opposite?

774
00:33:53,160 --> 00:33:54,880
Speaker 2: Because I feel like cold turkey is when you give

775
00:33:54,880 --> 00:33:57,640
Speaker 2: something up? Is it a hot turkey? Start driving hot turkey?

776
00:33:57,920 --> 00:33:59,320
Speaker 3: It's a hot beef stew.

777
00:34:00,000 --> 00:34:02,280
Speaker 2: You're driving hot You don't have to start driving hot beefstew.

778
00:34:02,800 --> 00:34:04,360
Speaker 4: That sounds so good right now?

779
00:34:04,600 --> 00:34:07,080
Speaker 3: You you'd probably could get it a care to eat it?

780
00:34:07,280 --> 00:34:08,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, griss.

781
00:34:08,320 --> 00:34:10,280
Speaker 4: Gross food is food.

782
00:34:10,520 --> 00:34:12,360
Speaker 2: M some food is worse.

783
00:34:12,480 --> 00:34:14,839
Speaker 3: I'll cook you good food one day. Keon. I try

784
00:34:14,880 --> 00:34:19,360
Speaker 3: to be understanding. I understood PTSD as I suffered from CPSD.

785
00:34:19,880 --> 00:34:22,600
Speaker 3: But his story didn't make one hundred percent sense to me.

786
00:34:23,160 --> 00:34:25,359
Speaker 3: As he rides in the car with me, we try

787
00:34:25,400 --> 00:34:27,880
Speaker 3: to stay local and the rides were short, but still

788
00:34:28,160 --> 00:34:28,799
Speaker 3: is he scared to.

789
00:34:28,719 --> 00:34:29,319
Speaker 4: Go that far?

790
00:34:29,400 --> 00:34:31,200
Speaker 2: Then I don't believe him.

791
00:34:31,760 --> 00:34:34,120
Speaker 3: Okay, So a couple of months ago by and he

792
00:34:34,160 --> 00:34:36,680
Speaker 3: shows me a video of him riding in his friend's

793
00:34:36,680 --> 00:34:39,759
Speaker 3: sports car going over one hundred miles an hour on

794
00:34:39,800 --> 00:34:40,440
Speaker 3: the freeway.

795
00:34:40,760 --> 00:34:45,719
Speaker 2: You little liar, You are a liar. I knew you

796
00:34:45,760 --> 00:34:48,959
Speaker 2: were lying. Oh oh, just because it's a fancy little

797
00:34:49,000 --> 00:34:51,160
Speaker 2: sports car. You've gotten over your trauma.

798
00:34:51,520 --> 00:34:55,600
Speaker 3: He was laughing, whopping, having a great time. I asked

799
00:34:55,640 --> 00:34:57,640
Speaker 3: him how he could do that but not come see

800
00:34:57,680 --> 00:35:01,439
Speaker 3: me confess that he was high. I was super icked.

801
00:35:01,800 --> 00:35:04,200
Speaker 2: Don't believe him. I don't believe him.

802
00:35:04,239 --> 00:35:06,320
Speaker 3: I told him I needed to break and I went home.

803
00:35:06,719 --> 00:35:10,960
Speaker 3: And I am highly against misusing prescription meds. I really

804
00:35:11,080 --> 00:35:13,040
Speaker 3: liked this guy, and I wasn't sure how I could

805
00:35:13,040 --> 00:35:15,720
Speaker 3: proceed with a relationship with him, but I was willing

806
00:35:15,760 --> 00:35:18,560
Speaker 3: to talk it out and see if we could be together.

807
00:35:18,840 --> 00:35:20,960
Speaker 3: We talked for a while over text and decided we

808
00:35:20,960 --> 00:35:25,200
Speaker 3: would start things over slowly. Over the next few weeks,

809
00:35:25,520 --> 00:35:28,080
Speaker 3: he turned into a different person. My days consisted of

810
00:35:28,120 --> 00:35:31,320
Speaker 3: sending the kids off for school, getting ready for work, working,

811
00:35:31,520 --> 00:35:34,680
Speaker 3: getting my kids from there, after school program, going to

812
00:35:34,719 --> 00:35:38,680
Speaker 3: my kids extracurriculars, going home, cooking dinner, cleaning the house,

813
00:35:38,800 --> 00:35:42,080
Speaker 3: getting ready for bed, sleeping, and repeating that is my

814
00:35:42,200 --> 00:35:45,360
Speaker 3: everyday life. Even now. If he messaged me while I

815
00:35:45,440 --> 00:35:48,680
Speaker 3: was asleep, I would wake up the forty messages accusing

816
00:35:48,719 --> 00:35:51,560
Speaker 3: me of sleeping with someone else, saying he hated me,

817
00:35:51,920 --> 00:35:54,439
Speaker 3: calling me a witch, then switching up, saying he loved

818
00:35:54,440 --> 00:35:56,799
Speaker 3: me and couldn't live without me, and begging me to

819
00:35:56,920 --> 00:35:59,520
Speaker 3: ignore his other messages and message him back.

820
00:35:59,600 --> 00:36:02,840
Speaker 2: Okay, I'm sorry, op, immediate breakup. You've only been with

821
00:36:02,880 --> 00:36:06,200
Speaker 2: ever six months and he's pulling out this stuff. If

822
00:36:06,360 --> 00:36:12,200
Speaker 2: anyone texted me just forty messages saying you're cheating on me,

823
00:36:12,560 --> 00:36:15,080
Speaker 2: blah blah blah, like I can't believe this. How could

824
00:36:15,160 --> 00:36:20,239
Speaker 2: you while I'm sleeping? Breakup? That's an immediate breakup. I'm

825
00:36:20,280 --> 00:36:23,840
Speaker 2: saying that's completely unacceptable. Are you texting me? Are you

826
00:36:23,880 --> 00:36:28,080
Speaker 2: texting Angie? I'm so scared for Angie. Nope, you're texting me. Okay,

827
00:36:28,320 --> 00:36:33,759
Speaker 2: we've got one twenty three se ggg C. He can't

828
00:36:33,800 --> 00:36:37,280
Speaker 2: spam you ding it f ffff.

829
00:36:37,520 --> 00:36:39,880
Speaker 3: I'm just gonna try and do forty messages. Yeah, you

830
00:36:39,880 --> 00:36:43,480
Speaker 3: couldn't even get like twenty anyways. At we guys, have

831
00:36:43,520 --> 00:36:45,720
Speaker 3: we seen a green flag at all? Kimber Kahn says,

832
00:36:45,880 --> 00:36:47,600
Speaker 3: what if he did drive a car? But he did

833
00:36:47,640 --> 00:36:49,520
Speaker 3: it when he was eight and that's why he's not

834
00:36:49,600 --> 00:36:50,080
Speaker 3: allowed to.

835
00:36:50,680 --> 00:36:53,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, he was so bad. He's like Tokyodri.

836
00:36:53,680 --> 00:36:56,360
Speaker 3: Oh my god, Kimberly, come be on the show. I

837
00:36:56,400 --> 00:36:58,880
Speaker 3: would love the fine Kim on the show. You're hilarious.

838
00:36:59,000 --> 00:36:59,320
Speaker 4: Okay.

839
00:36:59,440 --> 00:37:03,280
Speaker 3: Anyways, A close male family friend and his girlfriend stopped

840
00:37:03,320 --> 00:37:05,560
Speaker 3: by to hang out one evening, and he accused me

841
00:37:05,600 --> 00:37:06,399
Speaker 3: of sleeping with him.

842
00:37:06,400 --> 00:37:08,520
Speaker 2: Oh pee, why are we still with him? You can't

843
00:37:08,520 --> 00:37:10,920
Speaker 2: come over here and talk to us and say all

844
00:37:10,920 --> 00:37:12,680
Speaker 2: these things and then still be with him.

845
00:37:12,800 --> 00:37:14,520
Speaker 4: How hot is he? Ugly?

846
00:37:14,840 --> 00:37:18,640
Speaker 2: He's ugly? Ye. I could just feel the ugly energy

847
00:37:18,760 --> 00:37:19,799
Speaker 2: radiating off of him.

848
00:37:19,760 --> 00:37:23,680
Speaker 3: On the inside or outside everywhere, Ugly everywhere. If I

849
00:37:23,800 --> 00:37:25,960
Speaker 3: was out of town for work and lost service, I

850
00:37:26,000 --> 00:37:28,560
Speaker 3: was accused of cheating. It was way too much, and

851
00:37:28,600 --> 00:37:30,600
Speaker 3: I confronted him. I told him I didn't want to

852
00:37:30,640 --> 00:37:33,719
Speaker 3: see him anymore far. Then he messaged every guy on

853
00:37:33,760 --> 00:37:36,920
Speaker 3: my Facebook telling them he knew we were screwing, but

854
00:37:37,120 --> 00:37:39,280
Speaker 3: that he was going to beat their butt. My Facebook

855
00:37:39,280 --> 00:37:42,520
Speaker 3: friends is small, very small. I only send her except

856
00:37:42,520 --> 00:37:45,160
Speaker 3: friend requests from family or very close friends and keep

857
00:37:45,200 --> 00:37:48,360
Speaker 3: it private. Nearly every man on my profile is a relative.

858
00:37:48,680 --> 00:37:51,720
Speaker 3: This man messaged my family members with a threatening claim.

859
00:37:52,040 --> 00:37:54,480
Speaker 3: He told me, I know that you and that Germany

860
00:37:54,480 --> 00:37:57,319
Speaker 3: guy are screwing. He admitted it. Then I told him

861
00:37:57,320 --> 00:37:59,680
Speaker 3: that Jeremy had passed away five years ago. He said

862
00:37:59,680 --> 00:38:02,560
Speaker 3: he had I had a clue, and I laughed so hard. Peop,

863
00:38:02,560 --> 00:38:03,640
Speaker 3: why are we entertaining this?

864
00:38:03,719 --> 00:38:06,759
Speaker 2: Yeah, truly, that is so embarrassing of this guy that

865
00:38:06,880 --> 00:38:09,680
Speaker 2: I'm again, Well, I've broken up with him already in

866
00:38:09,680 --> 00:38:12,879
Speaker 2: the psypothetical situation, but I'm definitely breaking up with him

867
00:38:12,920 --> 00:38:14,920
Speaker 2: right then because he sounds like an idiot.

868
00:38:15,239 --> 00:38:17,080
Speaker 3: I wish I could have seen the look on his face.

869
00:38:17,560 --> 00:38:20,800
Speaker 3: Some of the relatives and friends I messaged were pissed,

870
00:38:21,120 --> 00:38:23,439
Speaker 3: some laughed when I told him the story. His mom

871
00:38:23,480 --> 00:38:26,120
Speaker 3: messaged me one day and informed me that she would

872
00:38:26,160 --> 00:38:29,279
Speaker 3: be expecting your call when I got into labor and

873
00:38:29,320 --> 00:38:31,759
Speaker 3: wanted to be there for the birth. I asked, the

874
00:38:31,800 --> 00:38:32,279
Speaker 3: birth of what?

875
00:38:32,840 --> 00:38:33,720
Speaker 4: The birth of Jesus?

876
00:38:33,880 --> 00:38:36,839
Speaker 3: She replied, the birth of my grandchildren. I had called

877
00:38:36,840 --> 00:38:40,120
Speaker 3: this woman flabbergast and explained that we were not dating

878
00:38:40,160 --> 00:38:43,640
Speaker 3: any longer and everything he has told her was a lie.

879
00:38:43,960 --> 00:38:47,919
Speaker 3: This woman thought she was getting grand babies on the way, Opie,

880
00:38:48,480 --> 00:38:49,400
Speaker 3: like the cigarettes.

881
00:38:49,560 --> 00:38:52,680
Speaker 2: Okay, Well, OPI at least is no longer dating this guy.

882
00:38:52,400 --> 00:38:53,719
Speaker 3: And he's an hour and a half away, and it

883
00:38:53,760 --> 00:38:55,920
Speaker 3: seemed like he might be afraid to go see herself.

884
00:38:55,960 --> 00:39:00,000
Speaker 2: He's just, you know, she's just still getting messages on Facebook,

885
00:39:00,080 --> 00:39:00,840
Speaker 2: which is weird.

886
00:39:00,920 --> 00:39:03,080
Speaker 3: I didn't know the chaos setting sued on his end.

887
00:39:03,480 --> 00:39:05,960
Speaker 3: I didn't ask. I was done with him. I told

888
00:39:06,000 --> 00:39:08,520
Speaker 3: him to punt rocks because his label of crazy was

889
00:39:08,560 --> 00:39:11,520
Speaker 3: far beyond anything I could handle. I blocked him on

890
00:39:11,560 --> 00:39:14,000
Speaker 3: social media and hoped he would find someone else to

891
00:39:14,040 --> 00:39:17,440
Speaker 3: obsess over. I wasn't lucky that he made dozens of

892
00:39:17,600 --> 00:39:21,120
Speaker 3: fake Facebook accounts. Dude, how do you do that? I

893
00:39:21,239 --> 00:39:23,440
Speaker 3: try to make a fake Facebook account and I couldn't

894
00:39:23,440 --> 00:39:23,759
Speaker 3: do it.

895
00:39:24,120 --> 00:39:28,200
Speaker 2: I am shocked. Either you might have to, unfortunately get

896
00:39:28,239 --> 00:39:32,279
Speaker 2: a new Facebook account or like deactivate your current one,

897
00:39:32,880 --> 00:39:35,960
Speaker 2: or just warn all of your family and friends that

898
00:39:36,000 --> 00:39:39,200
Speaker 2: this guy is crazy and it's been reaching out to people.

899
00:39:39,480 --> 00:39:43,919
Speaker 2: Because I really wish YouTube, you know, Facebook was doing

900
00:39:43,960 --> 00:39:46,040
Speaker 2: to this guy what YouTube was doing, and you guys,

901
00:39:47,040 --> 00:39:49,520
Speaker 2: that would be nice get rid of his messages please.

902
00:39:50,040 --> 00:39:52,719
Speaker 3: He would message me and my friends, get blocked, then

903
00:39:52,760 --> 00:39:55,120
Speaker 3: go quiet for a few days, only to a reappear

904
00:39:55,400 --> 00:40:00,120
Speaker 3: with a new account. The profiles were always obvious, like Mark,

905
00:40:00,440 --> 00:40:05,320
Speaker 3: Mark Sunberg or Scott Scottington. These messages were always different

906
00:40:05,320 --> 00:40:08,840
Speaker 3: personas accusing me of cheating, but with the same bad grammar,

907
00:40:09,040 --> 00:40:10,879
Speaker 3: insults and accusations.

908
00:40:10,880 --> 00:40:15,360
Speaker 2: Also, you can't cheat if you're not in a relationship.

909
00:40:15,800 --> 00:40:17,920
Speaker 4: I think it's the guy's a pathological liar too.

910
00:40:18,080 --> 00:40:20,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, there we go, a pathological idiot.

911
00:40:20,560 --> 00:40:24,320
Speaker 3: I, I responded. He would slip back into being himself

912
00:40:24,360 --> 00:40:27,440
Speaker 3: in the same messages. This went on for almost daily

913
00:40:27,600 --> 00:40:28,839
Speaker 3: for a year year.

914
00:40:29,640 --> 00:40:30,319
Speaker 4: I'm not help.

915
00:40:30,520 --> 00:40:32,680
Speaker 2: We should have gotten rid of our Facebook like one

916
00:40:32,719 --> 00:40:33,080
Speaker 2: month in.

917
00:40:33,400 --> 00:40:35,960
Speaker 4: Or just just delete your I mean, I don't know

918
00:40:35,960 --> 00:40:38,360
Speaker 4: how tired you are to your Facebook. Delete your Facebook.

919
00:40:38,600 --> 00:40:40,040
Speaker 2: Ex Yeah, we're gone.

920
00:40:40,200 --> 00:40:43,920
Speaker 3: Okay, So he eventually slowed the frequency of his intimidation.

921
00:40:44,320 --> 00:40:46,200
Speaker 3: It's been about almost eight.

922
00:40:46,120 --> 00:40:52,040
Speaker 4: Eight years, eight years of this guy, but okay.

923
00:40:52,080 --> 00:40:55,239
Speaker 3: And I still get messages from his fake profiles a

924
00:40:55,239 --> 00:40:56,120
Speaker 3: couple of times a year.

925
00:40:56,239 --> 00:40:58,080
Speaker 4: So he does do it. He does do it for

926
00:40:58,120 --> 00:40:58,680
Speaker 4: eight years.

927
00:40:58,960 --> 00:41:03,359
Speaker 2: Genuinely. I am changing my Facebook account. I'm getting rid

928
00:41:03,400 --> 00:41:06,880
Speaker 2: of it. I'm blocking him. I'm going private on my

929
00:41:06,960 --> 00:41:08,880
Speaker 2: other account that's new.

930
00:41:09,280 --> 00:41:11,880
Speaker 4: Because this is eight years of us. Hey, you know what,

931
00:41:11,960 --> 00:41:15,960
Speaker 4: I'll give this guy one thing. He's got tenacity, but

932
00:41:16,000 --> 00:41:16,360
Speaker 4: that's it.

933
00:41:16,680 --> 00:41:20,120
Speaker 3: I am married now to the man I met after him, Mike.

934
00:41:20,320 --> 00:41:22,440
Speaker 3: He got to witness the last couple of months of

935
00:41:22,480 --> 00:41:25,760
Speaker 3: steady intimidation and even became a part of it. Adam

936
00:41:25,760 --> 00:41:28,520
Speaker 3: would message him, talk crap and told him and threaten him.

937
00:41:28,760 --> 00:41:30,640
Speaker 3: Mike would just laugh and tell him that when he

938
00:41:30,719 --> 00:41:33,160
Speaker 3: was brave enough to make the trip, he would be waiting.

939
00:41:33,360 --> 00:41:35,880
Speaker 3: I sincerely feel sorry for whatever woman is dealing with

940
00:41:35,960 --> 00:41:39,480
Speaker 3: him now I see end of that story. Oh my gosh,

941
00:41:39,400 --> 00:41:42,120
Speaker 3: I Yi, that's crazy, Opie.

942
00:41:42,320 --> 00:41:46,359
Speaker 2: We let this guy trudge along with his awfulness for

943
00:41:46,440 --> 00:41:48,919
Speaker 2: too long. You're glad that you broke up with him

944
00:41:49,440 --> 00:41:52,399
Speaker 2: and that you have a new life away, even though

945
00:41:52,440 --> 00:41:54,960
Speaker 2: he still messages you. And we should figure that out

946
00:41:55,080 --> 00:41:57,440
Speaker 2: by maybe deactivating our Facebook account.

947
00:41:57,520 --> 00:42:00,640
Speaker 3: But hopefully you and Mikey Mike in the Funky Bunch

948
00:42:00,680 --> 00:42:01,479
Speaker 3: will have a good time.

949
00:42:01,719 --> 00:42:02,520
Speaker 2: I think you will.

950
00:42:02,680 --> 00:42:04,080
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, red.

951
00:42:03,840 --> 00:42:06,239
Speaker 2: Flag, big old red flag.

952
00:42:06,760 --> 00:42:09,360
Speaker 3: We will get back to these stories anyway.

953
00:42:09,840 --> 00:42:10,360
Speaker 4: Let's do it.

954
00:42:10,520 --> 00:42:10,759
Speaker 3: Yep.

955
00:42:11,080 --> 00:42:14,640
Speaker 1: Hey, it's Dakota, your favorite goofball host here, and we're

956
00:42:14,640 --> 00:42:16,720
Speaker 1: gonna get back to the stories. But here's three minutes

957
00:42:16,719 --> 00:42:18,440
Speaker 1: of ads from our sponsors.

958
00:42:19,000 --> 00:42:22,040
Speaker 2: I hit my fandom blog from my girlfriend because of

959
00:42:22,080 --> 00:42:23,200
Speaker 2: my fear of judgment.

960
00:42:23,760 --> 00:42:25,319
Speaker 3: What are you writing about her? So?

961
00:42:25,480 --> 00:42:28,439
Speaker 2: I've always been a nerd and in fandoms ever since

962
00:42:28,480 --> 00:42:31,840
Speaker 2: I found out what they were running fan blogs, making edits,

963
00:42:31,880 --> 00:42:35,600
Speaker 2: writing fan fiction, participating in group chats about whatever fandom

964
00:42:35,640 --> 00:42:39,440
Speaker 2: I was in with other fans and blogs. The interest change,

965
00:42:39,480 --> 00:42:42,520
Speaker 2: but it's always something I've done. It's where I express

966
00:42:42,600 --> 00:42:45,600
Speaker 2: myself and create content, and it's like my happy place.

967
00:42:45,800 --> 00:42:48,319
Speaker 2: By the way, this comes from user muse lebar six x'

968
00:42:48,360 --> 00:42:50,280
Speaker 2: six And if you want to spend your own stories,

969
00:42:50,320 --> 00:42:52,440
Speaker 2: go to the r slash Okay storytime separate it.

970
00:42:52,680 --> 00:42:56,040
Speaker 4: I'm Sophia, I'm Riley, I'm Keon, and we're.

971
00:42:55,840 --> 00:42:58,040
Speaker 2: Here to give goodvie scoofully. But we don't have all

972
00:42:58,080 --> 00:43:03,520
Speaker 2: the answers. We only know what we do in these situations.

973
00:43:04,160 --> 00:43:07,080
Speaker 2: Please let us know what you would do in the

974
00:43:07,160 --> 00:43:09,280
Speaker 2: chat below or to the side.

975
00:43:09,400 --> 00:43:11,200
Speaker 3: Oh Pie says also real quick, do you know how

976
00:43:11,200 --> 00:43:14,320
Speaker 3: many stories we've read about girlfriends writing fandoms about their boyfriends?

977
00:43:14,360 --> 00:43:15,920
Speaker 3: This is like the fourth story we've read.

978
00:43:15,719 --> 00:43:18,279
Speaker 2: About this we'll call any stories like that, I call

979
00:43:18,400 --> 00:43:21,920
Speaker 2: like three I've met about the boy fandom, but not

980
00:43:21,960 --> 00:43:23,080
Speaker 2: about their boy.

981
00:43:23,080 --> 00:43:24,960
Speaker 3: Well, their boyfriends are somehow in the mix of it.

982
00:43:25,520 --> 00:43:26,960
Speaker 3: Remember the bottom or top one.

983
00:43:27,120 --> 00:43:28,160
Speaker 2: A lot of people read.

984
00:43:28,000 --> 00:43:30,520
Speaker 4: Fan fiction, a lot of those going around.

985
00:43:31,400 --> 00:43:34,560
Speaker 2: But Pie says, I twenty one female have been going

986
00:43:34,560 --> 00:43:37,160
Speaker 2: out with my partner twenty two female for three to

987
00:43:37,239 --> 00:43:40,359
Speaker 2: four years, and she knows I've always got some sort

988
00:43:40,400 --> 00:43:43,799
Speaker 2: of special interest or show going. But she doesn't know

989
00:43:43,840 --> 00:43:46,400
Speaker 2: about the blogs, or the edits or the fix.

990
00:43:46,719 --> 00:43:48,200
Speaker 3: This has happened before to someone else.

991
00:43:48,280 --> 00:43:49,720
Speaker 2: Oh, pee, what's you doing?

992
00:43:50,280 --> 00:43:52,239
Speaker 3: What are you doing, or you do anything like this?

993
00:43:52,360 --> 00:43:55,439
Speaker 3: Go on exactly what you're doing online and put ready

994
00:43:55,440 --> 00:43:57,120
Speaker 3: at the end of it to see how it plays out.

995
00:43:57,400 --> 00:44:00,359
Speaker 2: It's not her vibe. She's never really been in fans

996
00:44:00,400 --> 00:44:02,520
Speaker 2: or done that kind of stuff before, and thinks it's

997
00:44:02,600 --> 00:44:06,919
Speaker 2: kind of nerdy and cringey overall. She just doesn't get it.

998
00:44:07,160 --> 00:44:09,840
Speaker 3: After reading one fandom agreed, it is kind of crazy.

999
00:44:09,920 --> 00:44:15,720
Speaker 2: You read the worst possible initiation story.

1000
00:44:15,680 --> 00:44:21,160
Speaker 4: Which one was that that was that's not fandom. That's smut.

1001
00:44:21,239 --> 00:44:22,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's just smut.

1002
00:44:22,320 --> 00:44:24,040
Speaker 4: I mean it is which is which is a type

1003
00:44:24,040 --> 00:44:25,240
Speaker 4: of fandom, but that's.

1004
00:44:25,120 --> 00:44:28,520
Speaker 2: Not a no, no no. A fandom is the smiling

1005
00:44:28,640 --> 00:44:33,200
Speaker 2: friend's fandom. The tearing is Charlie and Pim and like

1006
00:44:33,440 --> 00:44:36,839
Speaker 2: the genre kind of is, or one of the things

1007
00:44:36,920 --> 00:44:40,360
Speaker 2: about it is smut. So you can go into a

1008
00:44:40,400 --> 00:44:45,879
Speaker 2: fandom and find very high class literature. I've read very

1009
00:44:45,960 --> 00:44:47,040
Speaker 2: well written.

1010
00:44:46,680 --> 00:44:49,000
Speaker 3: Stuff, sofia doesn't look like I read.

1011
00:44:49,760 --> 00:44:52,480
Speaker 2: Well, that wasn't your question before? What you know? What?

1012
00:44:52,680 --> 00:44:56,400
Speaker 2: You know, what's a fandom? Basketball? You coming up with

1013
00:44:56,440 --> 00:44:59,440
Speaker 2: little fake like oh, I put this this person on

1014
00:44:59,440 --> 00:45:01,600
Speaker 2: a team with this person and they'd be great on

1015
00:45:01,640 --> 00:45:03,160
Speaker 2: a team together. Fandom?

1016
00:45:03,239 --> 00:45:04,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know why fandom?

1017
00:45:05,160 --> 00:45:07,839
Speaker 2: You asked me to no, and you would have done

1018
00:45:07,840 --> 00:45:08,280
Speaker 2: it anyway.

1019
00:45:08,440 --> 00:45:11,600
Speaker 3: They're okay, Well, in your two K, in two K

1020
00:45:11,760 --> 00:45:13,799
Speaker 3: NBA two K, you can create your own teams and

1021
00:45:13,840 --> 00:45:15,839
Speaker 3: like play it out. But it's like a league thing.

1022
00:45:15,880 --> 00:45:16,720
Speaker 3: It's like a basketball.

1023
00:45:17,040 --> 00:45:19,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, just because it's sports. Still fandom. She has to

1024
00:45:19,680 --> 00:45:23,720
Speaker 2: see my camera roll in conversation, not in a controlling way, promise,

1025
00:45:24,200 --> 00:45:26,239
Speaker 2: and I wasn't comfortable with it, so I said no.

1026
00:45:26,680 --> 00:45:29,360
Speaker 2: She asked why, and I said, it's got fandom content

1027
00:45:29,440 --> 00:45:32,160
Speaker 2: on there, and it's embarrassing. She dropped it, but said

1028
00:45:32,200 --> 00:45:35,160
Speaker 2: it seemed like I was hiding something, which I guess

1029
00:45:35,200 --> 00:45:38,080
Speaker 2: I am, and I totally get why she's been feeling weird.

1030
00:45:38,480 --> 00:45:41,000
Speaker 2: That's not really what I'm confused about. I mainly just

1031
00:45:41,040 --> 00:45:44,719
Speaker 2: don't really want her or anybody I know personally to

1032
00:45:44,840 --> 00:45:47,080
Speaker 2: know about this side of my life. It's for me,

1033
00:45:47,520 --> 00:45:50,759
Speaker 2: not anybody else. I just don't see how her knowing

1034
00:45:50,800 --> 00:45:54,160
Speaker 2: would benefit anybody. I'd be embarrassed and she'd be confused

1035
00:45:54,200 --> 00:45:59,160
Speaker 2: and cringing. Must be share everything with hoppatnas am I

1036
00:45:59,280 --> 00:46:01,760
Speaker 2: the ale for not wanting her to know about my fandom, blog,

1037
00:46:02,040 --> 00:46:05,880
Speaker 2: edits and fan fiction, and we've got a consensus and

1038
00:46:05,920 --> 00:46:12,440
Speaker 2: an update four years later. Guys, Wow, wow, wow wow.

1039
00:46:14,880 --> 00:46:17,279
Speaker 3: If you feel this guilty about hiding it, I think

1040
00:46:17,280 --> 00:46:19,440
Speaker 3: you are the ahole, because what are you writing about.

1041
00:46:19,800 --> 00:46:23,560
Speaker 2: The thing is that you probably will get a little

1042
00:46:23,560 --> 00:46:27,160
Speaker 2: flack from people if you mentioned things about fandoms and

1043
00:46:27,239 --> 00:46:30,080
Speaker 2: fan fiction and stuff. I know because I've done all

1044
00:46:30,120 --> 00:46:32,920
Speaker 2: of that. However, you got to own it. Like you're

1045
00:46:33,000 --> 00:46:35,399
Speaker 2: twenty one, so you're still young, but I think you're

1046
00:46:35,440 --> 00:46:37,640
Speaker 2: old enough that you just got to stop. You kind

1047
00:46:37,640 --> 00:46:40,800
Speaker 2: of have to stop being embarrassed about things that you enjoy.

1048
00:46:41,320 --> 00:46:45,600
Speaker 2: You know, like people are gonna think things are nerdy,

1049
00:46:45,640 --> 00:46:48,839
Speaker 2: and they're gonna think that things are like weird because

1050
00:46:48,840 --> 00:46:50,440
Speaker 2: they're not into them. Who cares.

1051
00:46:50,600 --> 00:46:53,720
Speaker 4: Guess what, I hate to break it to you. Nerdy's

1052
00:46:53,800 --> 00:46:56,719
Speaker 4: the new cool. Yeah. Like growing up, I was like

1053
00:46:56,760 --> 00:46:57,640
Speaker 4: that tenuinely.

1054
00:46:57,880 --> 00:46:58,200
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1055
00:46:58,320 --> 00:47:00,120
Speaker 4: I like yeah. I was like, I love anime, I

1056
00:47:00,160 --> 00:47:01,560
Speaker 4: love sports, I love this, I love that.

1057
00:47:02,040 --> 00:47:03,600
Speaker 2: At a certain point, I was just like, I like

1058
00:47:03,640 --> 00:47:06,520
Speaker 2: fan fiction, I write you know, I wrote fan fiction.

1059
00:47:06,680 --> 00:47:11,000
Speaker 2: I like fandoms, I like anime, I like animated shows,

1060
00:47:11,600 --> 00:47:13,960
Speaker 2: and you just own it. And then at a certain

1061
00:47:13,960 --> 00:47:16,640
Speaker 2: point you might get like a couple jokes, but people

1062
00:47:16,680 --> 00:47:20,480
Speaker 2: don't really care. Yeah, you're not, you know, doing bad stuff.

1063
00:47:20,600 --> 00:47:23,640
Speaker 4: People don't really You're not like other people's faces. Like,

1064
00:47:23,719 --> 00:47:25,799
Speaker 4: if you don't like this, then you're the worst thing

1065
00:47:25,800 --> 00:47:27,759
Speaker 4: in the world. He's like, Okay, it's not like the

1066
00:47:28,080 --> 00:47:29,919
Speaker 4: you don't yuck somebody's young kind of thing.

1067
00:47:30,040 --> 00:47:32,680
Speaker 3: But here's the thing. What is she writing about where

1068
00:47:32,719 --> 00:47:35,960
Speaker 3: she's so scared of being judged because hear me out,

1069
00:47:36,239 --> 00:47:38,680
Speaker 3: she's a lesbian couple. She's a part of that. Yeah,

1070
00:47:38,760 --> 00:47:41,360
Speaker 3: that community doesn't really discriminate about a lot of things

1071
00:47:41,400 --> 00:47:43,840
Speaker 3: I would say when it comes to fandoms. So exactly,

1072
00:47:44,040 --> 00:47:45,759
Speaker 3: I was thinking, what are you writing about?

1073
00:47:45,800 --> 00:47:49,360
Speaker 4: Ope, Well, the thing is I did rivalry.

1074
00:47:48,880 --> 00:47:50,359
Speaker 3: But that everyone would be fine with that.

1075
00:47:50,480 --> 00:47:53,200
Speaker 2: I feel like fandom a lot of like fandom and

1076
00:47:53,280 --> 00:47:57,000
Speaker 2: fan fiction culture is a part of queer culture, and

1077
00:47:57,040 --> 00:47:59,000
Speaker 2: I think that your girlfriend needs to get on the

1078
00:47:59,040 --> 00:48:01,080
Speaker 2: same page and maybe you just need to have a

1079
00:48:01,120 --> 00:48:04,120
Speaker 2: conversation and say, hey, like I've I felt a little

1080
00:48:04,120 --> 00:48:06,480
Speaker 2: bit judged from you, and I'm totally fine with you

1081
00:48:06,800 --> 00:48:09,239
Speaker 2: looking at what you know I write and stuff, but

1082
00:48:09,280 --> 00:48:11,600
Speaker 2: I just I don't want to be judged. So I

1083
00:48:11,600 --> 00:48:16,080
Speaker 2: feel like that's the move. But let's continue. Four years later,

1084
00:48:16,520 --> 00:48:19,840
Speaker 2: I then twenty one female now twenty six non binary,

1085
00:48:20,040 --> 00:48:22,840
Speaker 2: feared my partner at the time than twenty two female

1086
00:48:22,880 --> 00:48:27,200
Speaker 2: now twenty six female judging me for participating in a fandom.

1087
00:48:27,239 --> 00:48:28,600
Speaker 4: What I want to one to know what kind of

1088
00:48:28,640 --> 00:48:29,319
Speaker 4: fandom it was?

1089
00:48:29,520 --> 00:48:32,279
Speaker 2: I it's probably a lot of different ones, That's what

1090
00:48:32,320 --> 00:48:32,919
Speaker 2: Ope said.

1091
00:48:33,239 --> 00:48:36,480
Speaker 4: Maybe it could be potentially like Opie's partner was like

1092
00:48:36,680 --> 00:48:38,240
Speaker 4: making fun of it, like maybe.

1093
00:48:38,040 --> 00:48:39,200
Speaker 2: Well I think that's what they were saying.

1094
00:48:39,320 --> 00:48:41,719
Speaker 4: I know, but like, mmm, I'm trying to figure out

1095
00:48:41,719 --> 00:48:42,600
Speaker 4: what fandom it was.

1096
00:48:42,920 --> 00:48:46,360
Speaker 2: I feel like they were part of a bunch of

1097
00:48:46,360 --> 00:48:48,760
Speaker 2: different fandoms. I bet they were a part of Wait,

1098
00:48:48,880 --> 00:48:51,239
Speaker 2: can we can? I know when the first post was

1099
00:48:51,280 --> 00:48:52,479
Speaker 2: from because they'll probably tell.

1100
00:48:52,400 --> 00:48:55,200
Speaker 4: You a couple It was twenty twenty one, twenty.

1101
00:48:55,000 --> 00:49:01,799
Speaker 2: Twenty one, Okay, I bet Voltron? Hmmm what probably not

1102
00:49:01,880 --> 00:49:05,480
Speaker 2: Stranger Things? This is the vid too, Yeah, this is

1103
00:49:05,520 --> 00:49:08,080
Speaker 2: the vid. I don't think it was quite Stranger things like,

1104
00:49:08,400 --> 00:49:13,240
Speaker 2: I think they're probably Voltron. Probably Owl House that would

1105
00:49:13,239 --> 00:49:15,319
Speaker 2: have been. I don't know if that was quite out

1106
00:49:15,400 --> 00:49:20,200
Speaker 2: yet though. Maybe Owl House BTS was big, could be BTS.

1107
00:49:20,520 --> 00:49:24,000
Speaker 2: I'm thinking that this person is majorly into like anime

1108
00:49:24,440 --> 00:49:25,720
Speaker 2: or animated shows.

1109
00:49:26,120 --> 00:49:28,560
Speaker 4: It may not even be something big. It may me small.

1110
00:49:28,920 --> 00:49:31,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, it could be something small. When did Spy Family

1111
00:49:31,800 --> 00:49:33,160
Speaker 2: come out? I feel like they're into.

1112
00:49:32,960 --> 00:49:37,440
Speaker 4: Like that JJK Attack on Titan M Yeah.

1113
00:49:37,120 --> 00:49:39,480
Speaker 2: I bet attack on Titan I could see that. Tell

1114
00:49:39,560 --> 00:49:42,520
Speaker 2: us what fantoms are in. I won't judge. Oh, he continues.

1115
00:49:43,040 --> 00:49:45,239
Speaker 2: I'd only just left home at the time and thought

1116
00:49:45,239 --> 00:49:48,000
Speaker 2: I knew everything. In hindsight, I was young, naive and

1117
00:49:48,120 --> 00:49:51,719
Speaker 2: unsure of myself. I was also becoming socially isolated due

1118
00:49:51,719 --> 00:49:55,239
Speaker 2: to the VID and being in an increasingly controlling relationship.

1119
00:49:55,320 --> 00:49:58,120
Speaker 2: Oh oh, yikes. I thought y'all were still together. That's

1120
00:49:58,160 --> 00:50:02,280
Speaker 2: not good. Uh they they are seemingly out in this relationship.

1121
00:50:02,320 --> 00:50:04,320
Speaker 3: Now I feel bad because I thought this other person

1122
00:50:04,360 --> 00:50:07,719
Speaker 3: had a point. Ah, they were just an all. Yeah.

1123
00:50:07,880 --> 00:50:12,120
Speaker 2: If someone makes you feel bad for liking things, then

1124
00:50:12,160 --> 00:50:13,759
Speaker 2: they're not for you.

1125
00:50:13,880 --> 00:50:17,080
Speaker 3: See. I thought they were running fandom about like the

1126
00:50:17,360 --> 00:50:20,920
Speaker 3: random background character of a Star Wars movie and the

1127
00:50:21,000 --> 00:50:23,600
Speaker 3: random background character of someone from Harry Potter, and they

1128
00:50:23,680 --> 00:50:25,560
Speaker 3: somehow figured out how to be together.

1129
00:50:25,640 --> 00:50:26,960
Speaker 2: That's okay. That that would be cringe.

1130
00:50:27,000 --> 00:50:28,800
Speaker 3: It'd be like, I can't see this happening.

1131
00:50:29,120 --> 00:50:29,680
Speaker 2: How dare you?

1132
00:50:29,880 --> 00:50:31,799
Speaker 3: I couldn't. How in the world are people from the

1133
00:50:31,800 --> 00:50:33,600
Speaker 3: Harry Potter series supposed to be up with people of

1134
00:50:33,600 --> 00:50:35,680
Speaker 3: the Star Wars series and meet up? That isn't that's

1135
00:50:35,719 --> 00:50:36,480
Speaker 3: at you.

1136
00:50:37,440 --> 00:50:40,360
Speaker 2: There's it's called an AU. What the hell is that

1137
00:50:40,920 --> 00:50:42,000
Speaker 2: alternate universe?

1138
00:50:42,239 --> 00:50:45,040
Speaker 3: It was Australia. That is AU. That is an alternate

1139
00:50:45,120 --> 00:50:51,080
Speaker 3: universe Australia, the juiced up American version. Man, No juiced

1140
00:50:51,160 --> 00:50:52,719
Speaker 3: up British people, That's what those are.

1141
00:50:52,840 --> 00:50:55,320
Speaker 2: I read a story where Prissy Jackson was in the

1142
00:50:55,360 --> 00:50:58,040
Speaker 2: Spider Man universe though, And you know how I got there?

1143
00:50:59,160 --> 00:51:03,759
Speaker 3: The rab a web Internet. No, we were at good No,

1144
00:51:03,840 --> 00:51:04,799
Speaker 3: that's really how we got there.

1145
00:51:04,840 --> 00:51:09,080
Speaker 4: It be like Australia. Now I got there Australia.

1146
00:51:09,239 --> 00:51:12,400
Speaker 2: Okay. I actually kind of low key called some of

1147
00:51:12,400 --> 00:51:15,560
Speaker 2: the stuff because I wrote it before the second Spider

1148
00:51:15,600 --> 00:51:17,640
Speaker 2: Man Tom Holland movie had come out, and I called

1149
00:51:17,640 --> 00:51:19,560
Speaker 2: like a bunch of the stuff in that movie in

1150
00:51:19,680 --> 00:51:20,240
Speaker 2: my fanbic.

1151
00:51:20,600 --> 00:51:21,359
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, but.

1152
00:51:21,360 --> 00:51:25,040
Speaker 2: Anyway, in time, we only did what she wanted. I

1153
00:51:25,080 --> 00:51:27,880
Speaker 2: was guilted out of seeing friends and family. I was

1154
00:51:27,960 --> 00:51:31,160
Speaker 2: expected to shower her with gifts. I was also thinking

1155
00:51:31,200 --> 00:51:33,760
Speaker 2: my hero, I was gonna say that. I was thinking

1156
00:51:33,760 --> 00:51:37,120
Speaker 2: that darud and anything she bought me, like a Christmas

1157
00:51:37,239 --> 00:51:39,960
Speaker 2: or Birthday gift, was always something she wanted so she

1158
00:51:39,960 --> 00:51:43,160
Speaker 2: could eventually permanently borrow it. I was too young to

1159
00:51:43,280 --> 00:51:46,719
Speaker 2: understand what was happening outside of this feels bad, I know.

1160
00:51:46,800 --> 00:51:49,920
Speaker 2: I didn't communicate and often enabled her. I boasted on

1161
00:51:49,960 --> 00:51:52,000
Speaker 2: Reddit because I didn't have anyone else to turn to.

1162
00:51:52,280 --> 00:51:55,000
Speaker 2: I was sure all the replies would be you're the agle,

1163
00:51:55,520 --> 00:51:57,960
Speaker 2: saying how suspicious it was to hide stuff from her

1164
00:51:58,160 --> 00:52:00,680
Speaker 2: that I needed to grow up. What I did was

1165
00:52:00,719 --> 00:52:03,760
Speaker 2: some secret form of cheating I didn't know about. Every

1166
00:52:03,840 --> 00:52:06,480
Speaker 2: single response I got was some form of not the

1167
00:52:06,520 --> 00:52:08,960
Speaker 2: A hole. But you should examine why you don't want

1168
00:52:09,000 --> 00:52:12,000
Speaker 2: her to know exactly, because there are things that I

1169
00:52:12,040 --> 00:52:17,439
Speaker 2: think are okay in terms of like gentle negging from

1170
00:52:17,440 --> 00:52:20,200
Speaker 2: your partner, and then there are things that are too far.

1171
00:52:20,600 --> 00:52:23,359
Speaker 3: Dude, I mess with Angie so much on things like that.

1172
00:52:23,360 --> 00:52:24,000
Speaker 3: It's so funny.

1173
00:52:24,040 --> 00:52:25,360
Speaker 4: You mess with everyone on things like that.

1174
00:52:26,120 --> 00:52:29,800
Speaker 2: You're just messy. A good or compatible partner wouldn't shame

1175
00:52:29,880 --> 00:52:32,680
Speaker 2: you for your interests. And I was utterly blown away

1176
00:52:32,719 --> 00:52:35,920
Speaker 2: by the empathy, honesty, and kindness shown to me. It

1177
00:52:36,000 --> 00:52:38,040
Speaker 2: hadn't even occurred to me at the time that that

1178
00:52:38,239 --> 00:52:41,960
Speaker 2: was an option that in this specific situation, neither her

1179
00:52:42,080 --> 00:52:44,520
Speaker 2: nor I were the A hole. Just two different people

1180
00:52:44,600 --> 00:52:45,120
Speaker 2: headed in.

1181
00:52:45,200 --> 00:52:48,440
Speaker 4: Different directions, two different fandoms, two different fandoms.

1182
00:52:48,640 --> 00:52:51,160
Speaker 2: You guys, are not part of the same au. We

1183
00:52:51,280 --> 00:52:54,279
Speaker 2: broke up somewhat amicably short after she hit me with

1184
00:52:54,360 --> 00:52:57,839
Speaker 2: a maybe we shouldn't be together then, and instead of

1185
00:52:57,880 --> 00:53:01,680
Speaker 2: my normal fawning response, I remained silent and let that

1186
00:53:01,840 --> 00:53:04,920
Speaker 2: concept sink in. I knew in that moment we weren't

1187
00:53:04,960 --> 00:53:07,880
Speaker 2: for each other. We broke up. I found a studio

1188
00:53:07,960 --> 00:53:10,640
Speaker 2: hole in the wall for myself and did some serious

1189
00:53:10,719 --> 00:53:14,799
Speaker 2: healing and growing in that moldy but beloved apartment. Four

1190
00:53:14,920 --> 00:53:17,960
Speaker 2: years on, I am more myself than ever now, happily

1191
00:53:18,080 --> 00:53:21,279
Speaker 2: enjoying a healthy relationship and a beautiful home with someone

1192
00:53:21,280 --> 00:53:23,879
Speaker 2: who feels like my second heart, who gets just as

1193
00:53:24,000 --> 00:53:27,279
Speaker 2: unnormal about their nerdy interests as I do mine. We

1194
00:53:27,320 --> 00:53:29,920
Speaker 2: also share a few and get into each other's interests

1195
00:53:29,920 --> 00:53:31,960
Speaker 2: from time to time. I show them some of my

1196
00:53:32,160 --> 00:53:35,239
Speaker 2: edits when we first met, and I'll still sometimes tell

1197
00:53:35,280 --> 00:53:37,360
Speaker 2: them about the goings on in one of my fandom

1198
00:53:37,400 --> 00:53:41,360
Speaker 2: discord servers, and they show nothing but interest and support.

1199
00:53:41,600 --> 00:53:43,279
Speaker 2: Aw I love this.

1200
00:53:43,600 --> 00:53:46,000
Speaker 3: Are you stories better now too? But you get some

1201
00:53:46,120 --> 00:53:47,279
Speaker 3: experience for this or.

1202
00:53:47,600 --> 00:53:50,560
Speaker 2: You grow as a writer too if you continue. They've

1203
00:53:50,600 --> 00:53:52,839
Speaker 2: taught me so much more about the importance of being

1204
00:53:52,920 --> 00:53:56,680
Speaker 2: unapologetically yourself and not settling for people who don't accept

1205
00:53:56,680 --> 00:53:59,520
Speaker 2: you for who you are or who want to change you.

1206
00:54:00,080 --> 00:54:02,920
Speaker 2: There is a little bit left to the story, any thoughts.

1207
00:54:03,040 --> 00:54:05,880
Speaker 3: I mean, it took one bad story you write to

1208
00:54:06,000 --> 00:54:08,520
Speaker 3: let you know that you were in a bad situation.

1209
00:54:09,040 --> 00:54:10,680
Speaker 3: It just makes me feel like, if you want to

1210
00:54:10,680 --> 00:54:13,640
Speaker 3: test the strength of your relationship, right, a crazy fandom

1211
00:54:13,800 --> 00:54:17,360
Speaker 3: about whatever. What was that one guy in the first

1212
00:54:17,800 --> 00:54:19,839
Speaker 3: Star Wars not the first one made, but the first

1213
00:54:19,840 --> 00:54:23,120
Speaker 3: Star Wars where Anakin was in that pod race and

1214
00:54:23,160 --> 00:54:26,000
Speaker 3: that guy had like three kids and a wife and

1215
00:54:26,040 --> 00:54:28,120
Speaker 3: he died random? Do you remember him?

1216
00:54:28,640 --> 00:54:29,200
Speaker 4: Yeah?

1217
00:54:29,440 --> 00:54:31,080
Speaker 3: What was that background characters? Now?

1218
00:54:31,200 --> 00:54:34,480
Speaker 4: Dude, I don't I know? He looks like a little dinosaur.

1219
00:54:34,640 --> 00:54:36,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, well he does, he does?

1220
00:54:37,400 --> 00:54:39,719
Speaker 4: They all have? I got you?

1221
00:54:39,840 --> 00:54:41,120
Speaker 3: No, no, no, he has a name, He had like a

1222
00:54:41,160 --> 00:54:42,000
Speaker 3: wife and three kids.

1223
00:54:42,040 --> 00:54:42,600
Speaker 2: Did you tell me?

1224
00:54:43,560 --> 00:54:44,760
Speaker 3: And he sadly died.

1225
00:54:44,920 --> 00:54:47,560
Speaker 4: Oh he is a fan of It's Rats Tyrell, rats Tyro.

1226
00:54:49,040 --> 00:54:53,320
Speaker 4: Hold on, yeah, you go to Wikipedia, go to Wookipedia.

1227
00:54:53,440 --> 00:54:56,879
Speaker 3: Here's Rats Tyro. That's Rats Tyro. Okay, there he is

1228
00:54:57,200 --> 00:55:01,279
Speaker 3: right there. Okay, Rats Tyrell two. He works on AO three.

1229
00:55:01,480 --> 00:55:04,640
Speaker 3: And there's his family. There's his family right there. Ride

1230
00:55:04,680 --> 00:55:08,000
Speaker 3: a fandom about this guy doing whatever, And see how

1231
00:55:08,040 --> 00:55:10,480
Speaker 3: your partner reacts, and if they don't love it, then

1232
00:55:10,480 --> 00:55:11,279
Speaker 3: they're not the one.

1233
00:55:11,719 --> 00:55:15,480
Speaker 2: There is a Rats Tyrell fan ficed six thousand words,

1234
00:55:15,520 --> 00:55:16,120
Speaker 2: one chapter.

1235
00:55:16,360 --> 00:55:17,640
Speaker 3: What does it say? What's the title.

1236
00:55:18,000 --> 00:55:20,480
Speaker 2: Rats Tyrell was one of many pod racers at the

1237
00:55:20,520 --> 00:55:24,600
Speaker 2: Bunta Eve Classic. His death had long lasting consequences for

1238
00:55:24,680 --> 00:55:27,440
Speaker 2: his family in the galaxy, and the title is Checkered

1239
00:55:27,440 --> 00:55:30,000
Speaker 2: Flag The Tragic Tale of Rats Tyrell.

1240
00:55:30,440 --> 00:55:31,520
Speaker 3: Dude, that's what happened.

1241
00:55:31,600 --> 00:55:34,840
Speaker 4: He died again. There's a Wikipedia where like if you

1242
00:55:34,880 --> 00:55:38,600
Speaker 4: see every character you see in Star Wars, especially in

1243
00:55:38,640 --> 00:55:39,640
Speaker 4: the movies.

1244
00:55:39,400 --> 00:55:42,040
Speaker 3: Name Rat Tyro's family. What is his wife's name.

1245
00:55:42,120 --> 00:55:42,880
Speaker 4: Delan Tyrell?

1246
00:55:43,320 --> 00:55:44,400
Speaker 3: What's his kid's names?

1247
00:55:44,520 --> 00:55:48,319
Speaker 4: I forgot He's Tyrell or no.

1248
00:55:48,440 --> 00:55:51,400
Speaker 3: Way, God, I might have to get into farandom.

1249
00:55:50,960 --> 00:55:54,720
Speaker 2: Now do it? Man? Oh wow, a whole archive.

1250
00:55:55,120 --> 00:55:57,680
Speaker 4: Get ready for Ben Quadgnaro's that's the biggest one.

1251
00:55:57,719 --> 00:56:00,279
Speaker 2: And you can filter out stuff that you don't want

1252
00:56:00,280 --> 00:56:02,640
Speaker 2: to see, Like if you just wanted to be PG,

1253
00:56:03,320 --> 00:56:05,880
Speaker 2: if you want it to be completely no smut, all

1254
00:56:06,400 --> 00:56:07,800
Speaker 2: good for the kids.

1255
00:56:07,920 --> 00:56:10,919
Speaker 3: Good, you can change that, dude. That's what I'm gonna

1256
00:56:10,960 --> 00:56:12,880
Speaker 3: do with Star Wars. I'm gonna sit my kids own,

1257
00:56:12,880 --> 00:56:14,160
Speaker 3: We're gonna watch it. I'm gonna be like, let me

1258
00:56:14,160 --> 00:56:16,359
Speaker 3: tell you about Rats Thyrail, guys, let me.

1259
00:56:16,239 --> 00:56:18,000
Speaker 2: Tell you a story. Well, we got a little bit

1260
00:56:18,040 --> 00:56:21,360
Speaker 2: love to this story. We're truly embodying the sentiment shown

1261
00:56:21,400 --> 00:56:24,239
Speaker 2: to me in those Reddit comments years ago. A good

1262
00:56:24,239 --> 00:56:27,319
Speaker 2: partner is also interested in your life and what you do.

1263
00:56:27,880 --> 00:56:30,680
Speaker 2: You are hopefully the most interesting person to them, and

1264
00:56:30,719 --> 00:56:33,560
Speaker 2: they love spending time doing things with you. Thank you

1265
00:56:33,640 --> 00:56:36,040
Speaker 2: to all those who commented at the time. Your kind

1266
00:56:36,080 --> 00:56:39,479
Speaker 2: words and advice truly did ripple out into the rest

1267
00:56:39,520 --> 00:56:41,960
Speaker 2: of my life and help me make a few big,

1268
00:56:42,200 --> 00:56:44,960
Speaker 2: scary decisions that have now led me down a path

1269
00:56:45,120 --> 00:56:47,960
Speaker 2: better than I could have hoped. Good karma to you all.

1270
00:56:48,280 --> 00:56:50,719
Speaker 4: I need to know what the fandom was.

1271
00:56:50,920 --> 00:56:53,120
Speaker 2: That's the end. Yeah, I mean it's got to be multiple,

1272
00:56:53,320 --> 00:56:56,239
Speaker 2: but folks, that's the end of that story and the

1273
00:56:56,440 --> 00:56:57,200
Speaker 2: end of the episode.

1274
00:56:57,280 --> 00:57:00,000
Speaker 3: Now we have comments, Sophia, stop rushing, Are you rushing?

1275
00:57:00,040 --> 00:57:00,840
Speaker 4: Are you dragging?

1276
00:57:00,960 --> 00:57:01,280
Speaker 3: Dragging?

1277
00:57:01,320 --> 00:57:02,440
Speaker 4: Are you edging? Are you dragging?

1278
00:57:02,680 --> 00:57:05,759
Speaker 2: Eh, we've got some comments from the video. My best

1279
00:57:05,800 --> 00:57:09,120
Speaker 2: friend admitted she loves me, my fiance exploded, and I

1280
00:57:09,200 --> 00:57:13,240
Speaker 2: canceled the wedding. And this was posted December sixteenth, twenty

1281
00:57:13,280 --> 00:57:16,520
Speaker 2: twenty five. TLDR from story one is op is about

1282
00:57:16,560 --> 00:57:19,640
Speaker 2: to get married when her longtime best friend suddenly admits

1283
00:57:19,680 --> 00:57:22,360
Speaker 2: she has always been in love with her Opie tells

1284
00:57:22,360 --> 00:57:25,760
Speaker 2: her fiance right away, but he explodes in anger, uses

1285
00:57:25,960 --> 00:57:29,000
Speaker 2: hateful slurs, and scares her so badly she has to

1286
00:57:29,120 --> 00:57:31,760
Speaker 2: run to her brother's house. Now, with the wedding only

1287
00:57:31,800 --> 00:57:36,720
Speaker 2: weeks away, Opie is questioning everything, including her safety, her values,

1288
00:57:36,760 --> 00:57:40,400
Speaker 2: and whether she can marry someone who showed such deep hatred,

1289
00:57:41,040 --> 00:57:44,480
Speaker 2: even as her whole small town watches. If you're curious

1290
00:57:44,520 --> 00:57:46,440
Speaker 2: to know the full story, you can go watch the

1291
00:57:46,440 --> 00:57:47,040
Speaker 2: full video.

1292
00:57:47,560 --> 00:57:49,880
Speaker 3: That is wild. I need to watch his TNG.

1293
00:57:49,960 --> 00:57:52,560
Speaker 2: I vaguely remember that one. That is a lot though.

1294
00:57:52,840 --> 00:57:55,120
Speaker 4: Yep, oh, we do some comments. First comment, here's from

1295
00:57:55,120 --> 00:57:58,160
Speaker 4: Holdfast nineteen seventy nine. I kind of hope she doesn't

1296
00:57:58,160 --> 00:58:00,560
Speaker 4: go for her best friend when this settles, even though

1297
00:58:00,600 --> 00:58:03,360
Speaker 4: it ultimately helped her avoid marrying that turd. That was

1298
00:58:03,560 --> 00:58:06,760
Speaker 4: horrific timing. Overall, in my mind, someone who would do

1299
00:58:06,800 --> 00:58:09,760
Speaker 4: that in the last minute may not have your best

1300
00:58:09,760 --> 00:58:10,560
Speaker 4: interest at heart.

1301
00:58:10,960 --> 00:58:13,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, it seemed like in that story op

1302
00:58:13,440 --> 00:58:16,520
Speaker 2: said that the reason, from what I remember, the reason

1303
00:58:16,680 --> 00:58:19,960
Speaker 2: that they broke up had nothing to do with feelings

1304
00:58:20,000 --> 00:58:23,360
Speaker 2: for that friend. It just kind of incited this whole

1305
00:58:23,520 --> 00:58:24,720
Speaker 2: sequence of events.

1306
00:58:24,600 --> 00:58:27,000
Speaker 3: Like the graduation of the movie sure if you say so,

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Speaker 3: I haven't seen it.

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Speaker 4: We have another comment here by critter Collopsia sixty two

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Speaker 4: forty two. I had just thought my friendship with now

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Speaker 4: my ex best friend because she would claim that I'm

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Speaker 4: the love of her life and sabotage any sort of

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Speaker 4: relationship I had jealous of potential partners or even friends.

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Speaker 2: Sometimes you have to cut people off rather just making faces.

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Speaker 4: Yeah. We have another comment here by Chuckle Debuggle Games

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Speaker 4: saying homophobia in the first story is wild because, like dude,

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Speaker 4: she was marrying you. The only difference between your relationship

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Speaker 4: and a straight relationship is that you both can appreciate

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Speaker 4: attractive women while still being married to each other.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. I mean the husband was incredibly awful.

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Speaker 4: Yeah. And the final comment here from Uncle Mike one

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Speaker 4: three one can't believe op was gonna marry that guy. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: he showed his true.

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Speaker 2: Colors, dodged a bullet, but uh that matrix style.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but that's the end of this story. Guys, and

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