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Speaker 1: What would you talk about on your on your podcast,

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Speaker 1: firms show, It's the fifteen in the Morning Show podcast.

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Speaker 1: There's Froggy in his fake uh break background, Scary and

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Speaker 1: Master Control in Manhattan, and there's Scotty same place, and

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Speaker 1: there's uh Nate. They're all three together doing each other.

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Speaker 1: Danielle in her basement in New Jersey. There's Gandhi and

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Speaker 1: her boyfriend's house in Detroit. Look, Dave Brodie's in his

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Speaker 1: There's a Garrett and of course in beautiful Lahoya, California,

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Speaker 1: our friend Dan Mason. Hi, Dan, it's good to be back. Guys,

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Speaker 1: It's good to see you. Dan is like that that

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Speaker 1: that brother on happy days that would visit every once

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Speaker 1: in a while, you know. Overall, anyway, we'll welcome, Welcome

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Speaker 1: to the fifteen minute Morning Show podcast, where usually we

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Speaker 1: just waste time insult each other until dirty jokes and

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Speaker 1: use the word fuck. Hey, I'm down for that too.

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Speaker 1: Let's go. Yeah. So, giving you a little background from

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Speaker 1: our point of view. Anyway, Dan, we have no Dan.

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Speaker 1: For many years, we've worked with him often on here

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Speaker 1: and there and everywhere, and then Dan one day had

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Speaker 1: find our right lane in life too, which is gonna

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Speaker 1: be a great reason you're watching this podcast today. Something

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Speaker 1: great's going to happen for you today. Dan kind of

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Speaker 1: give everyone a background from there. Yeah. I mean, you know,

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Speaker 1: for everybody. I originally linked up with you guys because

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Speaker 1: And what's my purpose? And that's been my journey since.

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Speaker 1: That's what the Life Amplified podcast is about on the

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Speaker 1: that's a big question that my purpose statement, my purpose

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Speaker 1: That's my purpose statement. How do I live that every day?

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Speaker 1: While I do it through my coaching practice, I do

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Speaker 1: And we were fortunate enough to have Dan join us

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