WEBVTT - Mrs Claus is Comin’ to Town 0:00:01.880 --> 0:00:05.359 Wine Down with Janet Kramer and I Heart Radio podcast. 0:00:07.000 --> 0:00:10.760 It's almost Christmas time and we're in our Christmas colors. 0:00:11.880 --> 0:00:14.000 What are you most looking forward to for Christmas? Cap 0:00:15.120 --> 0:00:19.279 honestly relaxing. Yeah, I just want to relax. So at 0:00:19.320 --> 0:00:23.200 Christmas time, Um, the kids with the kids as are 0:00:23.200 --> 0:00:25.560 getting older a little bit more really, Yeah, they'll start 0:00:25.560 --> 0:00:27.880 sleeping in, We'll start being a little bit lazy in 0:00:27.920 --> 0:00:32.479 the mornings. And our PJSU Yeah you're still kind of 0:00:32.520 --> 0:00:35.680 in the like they still get up at six am 0:00:35.720 --> 0:00:39.760 and start start going. After Christmas is usually kind of crazy. 0:00:39.840 --> 0:00:43.840 But yeah, what about you? Um, what I'm most looking 0:00:43.840 --> 0:00:50.960 forward to? Um? What am I most looking forward to? Well, again, 0:00:51.000 --> 0:00:52.960 it's weird and it's hard, and I'm trying to stay 0:00:53.000 --> 0:00:55.680 positive and a few days before Christmas, but I think 0:00:57.040 --> 0:01:03.240 just um, you know, actually, I'm gonna be totally honest, 0:01:03.480 --> 0:01:05.000 you know what. So, and I was talking to Pamelin 0:01:05.040 --> 0:01:09.759 about this. Um, I'm I'm so worried about next year 0:01:10.200 --> 0:01:14.280 that I'm not almost enjoying this year. Oh wow, Okay, 0:01:14.520 --> 0:01:16.920 because next year I'm like, holy, I won't have them 0:01:16.920 --> 0:01:19.640 for Christmas. Eve. Yeah, let's not think about I don't 0:01:19.680 --> 0:01:22.200 get to wake up with them Christmas morning? What do 0:01:22.280 --> 0:01:25.760 I do? But then like what Pamela and saying She's like, 0:01:25.760 --> 0:01:27.920 what's so special about Christmas Eve? And I'm like, okay 0:01:28.480 --> 0:01:30.560 for me, Like, what's so special about Christmas Eve? Is 0:01:30.640 --> 0:01:32.280 like you know, you talk him in then in the 0:01:32.319 --> 0:01:34.200 morning they get the excitement of sand and she's like, well, 0:01:34.200 --> 0:01:35.600 you can still have the excitement when they come over 0:01:35.600 --> 0:01:38.400 to your house at noon on Christmas Day, I think, 0:01:38.400 --> 0:01:41.039 and I'm like, but you miss them walking down the steps, 0:01:41.120 --> 0:01:44.840 and like, I understand that. I get that, Um, but 0:01:44.920 --> 0:01:46.399 I think you're going to have to make your own 0:01:48.000 --> 0:01:52.160 new excitement at a different time. But I understand that's hard. 0:01:52.480 --> 0:01:54.600 But I also feel like maybe we should focus on 0:01:54.640 --> 0:02:00.680 this year well, because you do have them this year. Yes, god, 0:02:00.880 --> 0:02:03.680 I know. And Pamela and said she wrote me this message, 0:02:03.680 --> 0:02:06.320 and she goes, right, I oh, this is what I said. 0:02:06.360 --> 0:02:09.520 And then I was like, well, I go, what if 0:02:09.520 --> 0:02:11.480 I just have because he had asked to come over 0:02:11.639 --> 0:02:15.440 Christmas Eve and spend the night and wake up with 0:02:15.440 --> 0:02:19.200 the kids in the morning, and I'm like I and 0:02:19.200 --> 0:02:21.440 I said, I originally was like, let me think about it, 0:02:21.480 --> 0:02:24.440 and then I said no because I was like, I 0:02:24.480 --> 0:02:27.280 want my own memories, my own traditions. So I guess 0:02:27.320 --> 0:02:30.480 I have a little bit oficult. Um like my own traditions, 0:02:30.520 --> 0:02:35.480 my own thing. I don't want that energy around because 0:02:35.720 --> 0:02:37.120 you know, kids will pick up on it. But then 0:02:37.120 --> 0:02:40.200 in my mind, I was like, but next year, I 0:02:40.280 --> 0:02:43.080 will want the same thing. But we also don't know 0:02:43.120 --> 0:02:45.720 what's going to be next year. Well, I mean we'd 0:02:45.760 --> 0:02:48.320 probably both be in relationships, and like, then how do 0:02:48.360 --> 0:02:50.360 you go spend the night at your ex husband's house 0:02:50.520 --> 0:02:53.920 if you're in a new relationship, Like yeah, like my 0:02:53.919 --> 0:02:57.080 my my boyfriend spend the night at like my with 0:02:57.200 --> 0:02:59.839 like you know. So it's like that just won't work, right. 0:03:00.280 --> 0:03:04.760 I mean I don't I appreciate the you know, trying 0:03:04.800 --> 0:03:06.639 to figure it out. I just I don't know, I 0:03:06.680 --> 0:03:08.320 don't know how that would work. Well, this is what 0:03:08.360 --> 0:03:10.920 Pam said. Um, she was right. I get it. But 0:03:10.960 --> 0:03:13.160 you cannot do family with him. You just can't. You 0:03:13.680 --> 0:03:16.040 have you will have your own memories and traditions. For example, 0:03:16.320 --> 0:03:18.080 I would choose to pick them up from his house 0:03:18.120 --> 0:03:20.760 next year. You're in control of how your kids walk 0:03:20.800 --> 0:03:22.720 into the door, bring a cute treat that Santa left 0:03:22.720 --> 0:03:25.399 for them, in the car, write the letter he wrote them. 0:03:25.919 --> 0:03:27.520 They read it on the way home and build up 0:03:27.520 --> 0:03:30.480 the anticipation. Um have them stand at the front door 0:03:30.520 --> 0:03:32.440 and count to ten and run like hell into the 0:03:32.440 --> 0:03:34.320 house and see all the presents. Things like that, take 0:03:34.320 --> 0:03:36.440 control of the situation to make it awesome. Put foot 0:03:36.440 --> 0:03:40.240 Santa's footsteps outside of the sidewalk, like do things that like, 0:03:40.680 --> 0:03:43.040 and I'm like, okay, okay, okay, okay, Like I think 0:03:43.080 --> 0:03:45.440 you're right, and because like that would be weird, and 0:03:45.440 --> 0:03:47.760 that would be weird, like to like if my the 0:03:47.800 --> 0:03:51.160 guy that I'm dating, was like would be like, hey, 0:03:51.400 --> 0:03:54.080 let's go spend the night at my ex wife's house. 0:03:54.800 --> 0:03:57.000 I don't know. I think it just becomes a little 0:03:57.040 --> 0:03:59.760 bit and you're setting the precedent and then it's like, okay, 0:03:59.800 --> 0:04:02.200 so what happens then the next year when Mike's like, 0:04:02.240 --> 0:04:03.800 all right, me and my girlfriend are coming to Horsmal 0:04:03.840 --> 0:04:05.560 and I had at your house. Like, I don't know, 0:04:05.680 --> 0:04:08.680 I agree, doing the family thing is just too complicated. 0:04:08.880 --> 0:04:11.640 I mean, I think you make your own thing. I 0:04:11.640 --> 0:04:14.040 think Pam is right. I think you can make that 0:04:14.200 --> 0:04:16.000 so big and so special and at the end of 0:04:16.000 --> 0:04:18.719 the day, like they get too Christmas is they're going 0:04:18.760 --> 0:04:21.480 to be excited about that. I was mean the other 0:04:21.520 --> 0:04:23.159 day though to him. He was like, why are you 0:04:23.160 --> 0:04:25.080 being I was just like because I was like, you 0:04:25.160 --> 0:04:27.440 ruined everything. And I was just like and I had 0:04:27.440 --> 0:04:29.320 to talk to my therapist and own that, like I 0:04:29.360 --> 0:04:32.160 was being a bit and was like I was being 0:04:32.240 --> 0:04:34.200 so mean to him. Not mean, but I was just like, 0:04:34.240 --> 0:04:37.600 he's like, why aren't you like communicating because I've I've 0:04:37.600 --> 0:04:41.159 been very kind and like very nice and like very 0:04:41.800 --> 0:04:44.800 um even when like you know, it wasn't reciprocated. I'm 0:04:44.800 --> 0:04:46.960 just like, all right, but I just was like, I 0:04:47.000 --> 0:04:48.640 don't know what it was, but I was just like 0:04:49.920 --> 0:04:52.760 because I don't want to talk to you. I don't 0:04:52.800 --> 0:04:55.960 like you. You ruined everything, you know, And I was 0:04:56.000 --> 0:04:59.320 just for the first time like I got like, you know, 0:04:59.360 --> 0:05:01.000 I was like, I've been so nice and now it's 0:05:01.000 --> 0:05:03.120 the holidays and you ruined everything, and now I have 0:05:03.240 --> 0:05:04.880 to not be with my kids and I hate you. 0:05:05.200 --> 0:05:06.960 Get out of my face, take the kids, go by, 0:05:07.040 --> 0:05:09.120 see you later. And I was just like, now I 0:05:09.200 --> 0:05:12.440 have to apologize for being bitchy because I haven't, like 0:05:12.480 --> 0:05:17.000 I've been very nice. Nonpopular opinion I think it's okay. Well, 0:05:17.000 --> 0:05:19.880 my therapist is like, you need to give yourself radical grace. 0:05:20.360 --> 0:05:23.159 She's like, you've been very kind and like you have 0:05:23.240 --> 0:05:25.440 a lot of like still anger and hatred inside of you, 0:05:25.520 --> 0:05:28.480 so like unfortunately it's showing right now because of like 0:05:28.520 --> 0:05:30.880 the holiday season. She's like, and you can be happy 0:05:30.920 --> 0:05:33.480 and your friendships and your relationships and other things, but 0:05:33.520 --> 0:05:38.320 like the reality is you still harbor you know, anger 0:05:38.360 --> 0:05:41.120 and frustration and and this is hard, Like you didn't 0:05:41.120 --> 0:05:44.039 want this for your kids. So it's like and I'm like, 0:05:44.080 --> 0:05:45.720 I know, but that doesn't mean that I can like 0:05:45.839 --> 0:05:49.880 be nasty and mean. She's like, well you didn't. She's like, 0:05:49.920 --> 0:05:51.880 you're just you know, you're finally being like how a 0:05:51.880 --> 0:05:55.839 divorced wife would be. Yeah. Well, and honestly, like I 0:05:55.920 --> 0:05:58.920 get it. This holiday is your thing, Christmas has always been. 0:05:59.400 --> 0:06:00.920 I mean it would be for you know a lot 0:06:00.920 --> 0:06:03.520 of people. But it's going to be hard. And I 0:06:03.560 --> 0:06:06.640 think I think you posted something the other day, Oh yeah, 0:06:06.680 --> 0:06:10.680 because my tree I was dying, and I feel bad 0:06:10.720 --> 0:06:12.880 because someone was at the house with me and I 0:06:12.960 --> 0:06:16.760 snapped at this person because I was looking at all 0:06:16.800 --> 0:06:21.000 my comments and they're like, yep, I agree with that one. Yep, 0:06:21.040 --> 0:06:23.000 I agree. It's for sure dead. I go, I get it, 0:06:23.000 --> 0:06:26.599 it's dead. And then I just started crying. And the 0:06:26.640 --> 0:06:28.560 person was like, oh wait, this is not about the tree. 0:06:28.560 --> 0:06:30.120 I was like, of course, it's not about the tree. 0:06:30.160 --> 0:06:32.440 It's about then, like the fact that Christmas is dead 0:06:32.480 --> 0:06:37.320 and perfect I was dying and everything's dead and my 0:06:37.400 --> 0:06:42.160 family's like you know. So it was just like a yeah, well, 0:06:42.200 --> 0:06:44.400 I think even when you posted that, it reminded me. 0:06:45.000 --> 0:06:47.280 You know, I think even as your friends were always 0:06:47.279 --> 0:06:49.880 trying to pep you up, keep you happy, you know, 0:06:49.880 --> 0:06:52.000 all those things which we will continue to do, but 0:06:52.080 --> 0:06:54.599 it's a reminder to me that, like, it's okay for 0:06:54.680 --> 0:06:57.440 you to be sad. You're going to be sad, and 0:06:57.480 --> 0:07:01.160 that's just part of it. I think that you choose 0:07:01.200 --> 0:07:04.000 and you will find the joy and your new things 0:07:04.120 --> 0:07:05.839 and you know what you're doing with your kids, but 0:07:05.880 --> 0:07:07.599 you're going to be sad, and I think that's okay. 0:07:07.680 --> 0:07:09.200 I think you have to give yourself Chrice for yeah, 0:07:09.200 --> 0:07:10.440 And I said that in the comment. I was like, 0:07:10.480 --> 0:07:14.000 you know what, and that's okay, Like it's it is okay. 0:07:14.120 --> 0:07:15.760 I think be sad. I think people have a hard 0:07:15.760 --> 0:07:18.720 time around the holidays. You know, it's some people who 0:07:18.720 --> 0:07:22.240 have lost someone or you know, a dog, a parent, 0:07:22.320 --> 0:07:24.880 a friend or whatever. And you know a relationship and 0:07:25.440 --> 0:07:27.560 it might not look the way that you want to look, 0:07:27.560 --> 0:07:32.720 but you have to still find um ways to um 0:07:33.000 --> 0:07:35.320 have peace. And my therapist actually made me write it 0:07:35.320 --> 0:07:39.080 down the other day. She um. She goes, when you 0:07:39.160 --> 0:07:42.240 get into a hard spot for the holidays, whether it's 0:07:42.280 --> 0:07:45.239 Christmas Eve, Christmas Day, she was eight tips for caring 0:07:45.280 --> 0:07:48.320 for your mind, body and spirit. Um. The eight tips 0:07:48.400 --> 0:07:50.480 was breathe, go for a walk, feel the wind on 0:07:50.520 --> 0:07:52.880 your skin. Move run So however, like you want to, 0:07:52.920 --> 0:07:55.240 like like move your body because I'm in for me, 0:07:55.320 --> 0:07:57.160 Like whenever I work out or I run, I feel better. 0:07:57.960 --> 0:08:01.800 UM touch um, you know, get your shoulder and treat yourself, 0:08:01.800 --> 0:08:04.320 like get your shoulders massaged or your neck or whatever. 0:08:05.240 --> 0:08:06.880 You know, sit in a bath. I don't know. UM 0:08:07.000 --> 0:08:09.520 sing sometimes singing using your voice to heal, like put 0:08:09.560 --> 0:08:11.160 on And she's like, and you might be crying through it, 0:08:11.640 --> 0:08:13.840 And then she goes, sweat tears can be purifying for 0:08:13.880 --> 0:08:18.400 the heart and the body, and so can sweat. UM dance, cleanse, 0:08:18.520 --> 0:08:20.560 take a moment and then rest like when you when 0:08:20.600 --> 0:08:22.400 your body feels tired, take a nap and then just 0:08:22.440 --> 0:08:26.720 practice radical grace. So um, I like that radical grace. Yeah, 0:08:26.720 --> 0:08:29.360 because she was like we were talking about it, and um, 0:08:30.600 --> 0:08:33.520 I was like, Amy, I was like, why can't I 0:08:33.559 --> 0:08:35.080 just I'm like, why can't I just get over it? 0:08:35.160 --> 0:08:38.520 We're divorced, like, you know, like why do I like care? 0:08:38.920 --> 0:08:41.080 Why do I you know, why can't I just be 0:08:41.160 --> 0:08:43.760 like okay, you know, have a nice day by And 0:08:43.800 --> 0:08:46.120 she's like, you are not giving yourself and she's like, 0:08:46.200 --> 0:08:49.560 you need to give yourself a radical grace. And I 0:08:49.600 --> 0:08:52.160 was just like, oh, I like that. Yeah, you're really 0:08:52.160 --> 0:08:56.360 hard on yourself. Well yeah, and it's it's okay to 0:08:56.440 --> 0:09:02.559 still anyways, UM, trying to keep it joyful. Sorry, we're 0:09:02.600 --> 0:09:05.680 going to turn it around joyful because um, but I 0:09:05.720 --> 0:09:08.080 will say, what I'm looking most forward to for the 0:09:08.080 --> 0:09:11.640 holiday season is, um, the new memories and the new 0:09:11.679 --> 0:09:15.160 traditions that you know, I'm I have created this week 0:09:15.160 --> 0:09:19.000 with my kids and that Um, you know, I just 0:09:19.040 --> 0:09:21.199 want them to be happy. So I'm going to give 0:09:21.240 --> 0:09:23.280 him a great Christmas. And then when they leave Christmas 0:09:23.360 --> 0:09:25.720 Day at noon, the tree is going down Christmas is over. 0:09:26.480 --> 0:09:30.560 That's fair. I'm taking everything down because I will not 0:09:30.640 --> 0:09:33.520 be sad. There you go, what's the point. Whatever you 0:09:33.520 --> 0:09:36.120 gotta do. Yeah, I will take everything like because my 0:09:36.160 --> 0:09:41.280 tree is already dead, so I'm like, it's not going anywhere. Okay, 0:09:41.480 --> 0:09:44.720 I'm sorry, I mean Christmas and okay, um, we're gonna 0:09:44.760 --> 0:09:46.680 take a break and then, um, I gotta I gotta 0:09:46.760 --> 0:09:49.280 check on Mrs Claws because you know, it's a it's 0:09:49.280 --> 0:09:51.000 a crazy year for her husband, so I just want 0:09:51.040 --> 0:09:54.679 to make sure that she's she's she's doing an okay, Uh, 0:09:54.840 --> 0:09:56.800 she's okay during this time because I know what it's like. 0:09:56.920 --> 0:10:01.960 You know, actually I don't, but when your husband to work. Anyways, 0:10:02.240 --> 0:10:19.080 let's stay right. Hi, Fame is Claus. Hi? How are 0:10:19.160 --> 0:10:23.000 you good? How are you? I'm a little I've got 0:10:23.000 --> 0:10:26.520 the heater on full blast now it's too hot. Why 0:10:26.520 --> 0:10:31.320 are you so pretty? Because Santa knows how to get 0:10:31.360 --> 0:10:38.720 the good one. I don't judge man by their looks. 0:10:38.920 --> 0:10:42.360 I judge them by their character. Trust me and their beard. 0:10:42.520 --> 0:10:44.880 Their beard tells a lot. I like your beard. I 0:10:44.960 --> 0:10:49.920 love him a little round, you know, right, Yeah, skinny, 0:10:49.960 --> 0:10:51.960 I want to hold on to them and feel like 0:10:52.080 --> 0:10:54.520 they got me. So it's nice. I mean, there is 0:10:54.559 --> 0:10:56.640 something to be said about a man that is just like, 0:10:56.800 --> 0:11:03.240 you know, just like right, a little something something. Um, So, 0:11:03.400 --> 0:11:04.960 how long have you and Sama had been married for? 0:11:05.000 --> 0:11:07.080 Because this is a relationship podcast, So I just really 0:11:07.080 --> 0:11:08.680 want to get in the ends of you and Samah. 0:11:10.880 --> 0:11:13.240 I don't want to talk, you know sometimes, you know, 0:11:13.920 --> 0:11:17.280 I think when you you have a good attitude and 0:11:17.360 --> 0:11:20.840 you're happy or you're joyful, you know, your looks can 0:11:20.920 --> 0:11:24.240 stay forever. I'm just gonna say that. So we've been 0:11:24.280 --> 0:11:29.200 married a long time. Um, when I met him in 0:11:29.280 --> 0:11:32.960 my twenties, I didn't grow up in the snow, and 0:11:33.040 --> 0:11:35.960 I went on a trip with somebody with a family, 0:11:36.160 --> 0:11:40.280 and I just he was just a happy guy. And 0:11:40.360 --> 0:11:44.320 sometimes an infectious happy attitude is enough to pull a 0:11:44.360 --> 0:11:47.280 woman in. And you know what, I like a manly man. 0:11:47.480 --> 0:11:54.080 He's very giving, very kind. I've learned to respect his 0:11:54.400 --> 0:11:57.680 quiet side because you know, I'm a bit of a chatter. 0:11:58.040 --> 0:12:00.079 You know, I'm a girl. I love the eld I 0:12:00.240 --> 0:12:02.599 hang out with the Alps. I love Rudolph. Rudolph is 0:12:02.600 --> 0:12:04.679 actually one of the girls, by the way. I mean, 0:12:04.720 --> 0:12:08.520 he is out So you guys know that right way. 0:12:09.559 --> 0:12:14.960 Oh he's fine the red nose. You didn't. I did 0:12:14.960 --> 0:12:18.160 not know that. I mean, I'm here for it. He's 0:12:18.200 --> 0:12:20.440 a hundred percent fine with it. So I'm not saying 0:12:20.440 --> 0:12:23.400 anything that's out of blind But so we are like 0:12:23.880 --> 0:12:27.839 besties at this point. And and and might have a 0:12:27.840 --> 0:12:32.840 little nicky I call nicky sometimes. Um, he loves that 0:12:32.960 --> 0:12:37.160 I have plenty of elves to talk to. Oh it 0:12:37.320 --> 0:12:43.680 sounds risque. You know, he's litt alone, and he's busy 0:12:43.720 --> 0:12:46.840 a lot. He's busy. So does that ever cause any 0:12:46.920 --> 0:12:51.040 tension between you and Santa because he's so busy. Um. 0:12:51.320 --> 0:12:53.560 In the beginning, I felt, you know, I was a 0:12:53.559 --> 0:12:56.199 little bit more immature, and I felt like it was 0:12:56.240 --> 0:12:59.960 all about me. And then I realized his spirit is 0:13:00.040 --> 0:13:05.800 about giving, and there's something really attractive and respectful about 0:13:05.840 --> 0:13:09.880 someone who actually is altruistic and he has that something 0:13:09.920 --> 0:13:13.839 about him. So I started realizing that how lucky am 0:13:13.840 --> 0:13:16.800 I to have somebody that thinks about someone else other 0:13:16.880 --> 0:13:21.040 than himself and it's not all about him. Does Santa 0:13:21.120 --> 0:13:24.520 give up? Ye? Does Santa give you presents? Or is 0:13:24.559 --> 0:13:26.680 it like is he like presented out by the time 0:13:26.720 --> 0:13:29.720 he gets home? Oh no, we get little stuff I 0:13:29.720 --> 0:13:32.080 I get to send on my list. I don't always 0:13:32.080 --> 0:13:34.960 get what I want. But you know, I mean, I 0:13:35.000 --> 0:13:37.600 gotta be like everybody else I cannot. You know, the 0:13:37.679 --> 0:13:40.520 naughty or nice, The naughty or nice is not necessarily 0:13:40.559 --> 0:13:44.480 what we think. Nay, are nice? Do you mean naughty 0:13:44.640 --> 0:13:47.600 or nice? Is? Are you nice to everybody in the world? 0:13:47.720 --> 0:13:50.920 Are you kind of people if you give smiles? Naughty 0:13:51.160 --> 0:13:54.079 is when you don't, and he charges people more. But 0:13:54.800 --> 0:13:59.000 your actions of how you are with other people then 0:14:00.040 --> 0:14:01.840 if you know, because we always think, oh my god, 0:14:01.880 --> 0:14:05.439 even naughty, did you like do something sexual or you 0:14:05.720 --> 0:14:08.160 I'm just I'm being a little out there, but or 0:14:08.200 --> 0:14:10.960 did you do something that was like mean? Or it's 0:14:11.000 --> 0:14:13.640 more of did you not give your heart? So he 0:14:13.720 --> 0:14:17.000 judges people by the heart. By the way, just in 0:14:17.040 --> 0:14:21.160 case anymoy moore that so interesting? Does he have a book? 0:14:21.160 --> 0:14:23.640 Because I would like to ask a few if any 0:14:23.680 --> 0:14:25.440 of my exes are going to get cold or if 0:14:25.440 --> 0:14:30.880 they're going to give presents this here, where's this? Less? Well, 0:14:30.920 --> 0:14:33.240 you know he doesn't give cold. He just doesn't give 0:14:33.280 --> 0:14:37.240 as much. Yeah, you just don't, you know, just don't 0:14:37.280 --> 0:14:40.240 get as much. And sometimes you don't get like the 0:14:40.280 --> 0:14:44.240 desires of your heart because you remember, he's judging it 0:14:44.320 --> 0:14:47.640 by your heart, not your by your actions. So so 0:14:47.680 --> 0:14:50.960 he doesn't actually give cold to anyone. He's kind of 0:14:51.000 --> 0:14:54.560 a deep guy without even be indeed you kind of 0:14:54.960 --> 0:14:58.000 he's interesting. I thought it was all the show, and 0:14:58.160 --> 0:15:01.280 because he was like Mr Present, I thought I was like, wow, 0:15:01.320 --> 0:15:03.360 oh my god, we're gonna do everything. And then I 0:15:03.400 --> 0:15:06.600 realized I got everything in here. So that's why he's 0:15:06.680 --> 0:15:11.120 the greatest guy ever. M I'm lucky here. I thought 0:15:11.120 --> 0:15:15.440 that people actually got cool. No, they did, they did 0:15:15.520 --> 0:15:17.400 back in the day. But you know, we don't even 0:15:17.560 --> 0:15:19.680 we don't even mind for call anymore. Like where do 0:15:19.720 --> 0:15:25.760 you get cold? Like home depot now they have it. 0:15:25.840 --> 0:15:28.320 I'm like, I think Kentucky still have an outlet that 0:15:28.560 --> 0:15:30.640 he just doesn't even have. We don't even have a 0:15:30.720 --> 0:15:32.520 card to that anymore. We have used to have like 0:15:32.520 --> 0:15:35.360 a home depault card. It was a Kentucky coal card, 0:15:35.480 --> 0:15:37.920 but we don't even it's lapsed and he doesn't even 0:15:38.040 --> 0:15:41.520 use it anymore. He's just it. Yeah, it's kind of 0:15:41.920 --> 0:15:44.560 there's a lot of things that you know, kind of 0:15:44.600 --> 0:15:48.480 old school that's kind of been hipped up. So what that? 0:15:49.040 --> 0:15:51.800 What is your favorite Christmas tradition that you in Santa 0:15:51.840 --> 0:15:59.120 do together? Well, we he and I we go and 0:15:59.160 --> 0:16:04.080 we chopped on our own tree. It's pretty is yours alive? 0:16:04.120 --> 0:16:09.240 Because mine's dead? So um, I don't mind chopping it down. 0:16:09.400 --> 0:16:12.760 Yours is dead. You have a plastic one? No, no, 0:16:13.040 --> 0:16:17.720 I have a real one, but it died. Yeah, I 0:16:17.800 --> 0:16:21.600 still I'm I'm also we chopped them down. We chopped 0:16:21.600 --> 0:16:23.720 them down, but that's the romance with it. But then 0:16:23.720 --> 0:16:25.800 we mulched up and we put it back in the earth. 0:16:25.960 --> 0:16:29.440 So it's a single So if you can mulch it 0:16:29.480 --> 0:16:31.520 and put it back in the ground, it's almost as 0:16:31.600 --> 0:16:35.200 if you're doing in the whole whole circle. But some people, 0:16:35.280 --> 0:16:37.360 you know, we end up throwing it away in the 0:16:37.440 --> 0:16:42.640 trash and it's not trash. It's just it's just happiness 0:16:42.760 --> 0:16:45.920 is changing. It's cool, Okay, I like that. I have 0:16:45.960 --> 0:16:48.040 a question for this. Well, because I'm going to pretend 0:16:48.040 --> 0:16:50.480 to be a skeptic right now. I believe in Santa, obviously, 0:16:52.840 --> 0:16:59.600 how can Santa visit every single house in one night? Well, 0:17:00.040 --> 0:17:03.440 you know this is where my my nerdy side kicks in. 0:17:06.400 --> 0:17:11.720 We do have time travel fyi. Okay, okay, and we 0:17:11.800 --> 0:17:15.080 do have parallel lives, f y I. And he is 0:17:15.080 --> 0:17:18.680 a nerdy guy and he can go from place to 0:17:18.720 --> 0:17:24.720 place just like that in a thought. That's how powerful 0:17:24.800 --> 0:17:28.280 we all are. But he's got it down to a science. 0:17:30.440 --> 0:17:34.119 So he just pops in all over the place. And 0:17:34.200 --> 0:17:36.000 what do you say to the kids that don't believe 0:17:36.000 --> 0:17:41.399 in Santa? Oh, you believe in other things. You believe 0:17:41.440 --> 0:17:46.480 in the cartoons, right, they make you feel good? I 0:17:46.520 --> 0:17:50.240 mean Santa. You know, it's like believing that you're going 0:17:50.280 --> 0:17:52.720 to have a really good day to day. It makes 0:17:52.720 --> 0:17:56.639 you feel good, and then what ends up happening is 0:17:56.680 --> 0:18:01.040 you have a good day. So if you can go well, 0:18:01.440 --> 0:18:06.720 maybe there is a Santa. Maybe? Does that make you 0:18:06.760 --> 0:18:10.160 feel good thinking there's a possibility of a good there 0:18:10.240 --> 0:18:14.640 is a Santa? And by thinking that it becomes so 0:18:14.800 --> 0:18:21.119 try shifting your thoughts to believe it instead of trying 0:18:21.160 --> 0:18:23.879 to get it first. Why don't you just go to it? 0:18:24.359 --> 0:18:27.440 But what about the kids that are maybe bullying other 0:18:27.560 --> 0:18:29.600 kids because they're like, oh, you still believe in Santa? 0:18:29.720 --> 0:18:34.720 You're stupid? Yeah, there are some there's those kids. Those 0:18:34.720 --> 0:18:36.840 are the ones that don't get as much f ya. 0:18:36.880 --> 0:18:39.960 They're not getting switches and you know we don't give 0:18:40.000 --> 0:18:42.840 them call remember no cold, but they don't really get 0:18:42.920 --> 0:18:45.960 the desires of their hearts. But you know, one of 0:18:46.000 --> 0:18:49.080 the things that you know Santa does try to do 0:18:49.280 --> 0:18:53.760 is when those kids end up saying there is no Santa, 0:18:54.160 --> 0:18:58.399 you'll do something that maybe they asked for a couple 0:18:58.400 --> 0:19:03.840 of years prior. It ends up showing up without even asking, 0:19:03.960 --> 0:19:07.600 So it puts the wonder back in her mind. But 0:19:07.680 --> 0:19:10.000 what I say to those little kids that don't that 0:19:10.080 --> 0:19:17.040 are bullying and you know, sometimes we do things when 0:19:17.040 --> 0:19:19.840 we don't feel good and someone's bullying them at home. 0:19:20.200 --> 0:19:24.240 So we got to look at the whole picture here, right. Yeah, 0:19:24.840 --> 0:19:28.399 you know, maybe mom and dad have stopped believing in things, 0:19:28.480 --> 0:19:30.560 and maybe mom and dad have given up on a 0:19:30.600 --> 0:19:34.159 lot of stuff. So it's all about letting everybody know 0:19:34.320 --> 0:19:37.159 that when you reach for something that makes you happy, 0:19:37.200 --> 0:19:40.120 you bring in a lot of happy. So this time 0:19:40.160 --> 0:19:44.160 of year is not necessarily about am I going to get? 0:19:44.600 --> 0:19:47.920 It's how can I kind of give to my brothers 0:19:47.920 --> 0:19:51.000 and my sisters and even the guy driving down the road, 0:19:51.080 --> 0:19:53.600 Like even if someone pulls in front of you. What 0:19:53.680 --> 0:19:57.240 if you just say, oh, go ahead, have a great day, 0:19:58.000 --> 0:20:01.680 you bring in more wonderful full things and you feel good. 0:20:02.000 --> 0:20:05.560 It's so true. So what we end up doing is 0:20:06.040 --> 0:20:09.520 when you do things that are nice, you feel nice. 0:20:09.760 --> 0:20:14.639 So I would suggest to the bullies, let's practice doing 0:20:14.840 --> 0:20:21.480 one nice thing for someone and not tell them radical niceness. There. Yeah, totally, 0:20:22.080 --> 0:20:25.320 that's that naughty or nice kind of thing. So I 0:20:25.359 --> 0:20:28.159 remember I was driving one time Eastern You're ready for 0:20:28.200 --> 0:20:30.040 the edit button. But like I have a thing when 0:20:30.040 --> 0:20:32.080 like people like when I let someone in and they 0:20:32.080 --> 0:20:34.320 don't wave thank you, I'm like, well, Mary, Christmas to 0:20:34.359 --> 0:20:40.000 you two. Yeah, it feels better when you just like, 0:20:40.040 --> 0:20:43.080 oh god, bless you have the best day ever. I 0:20:43.080 --> 0:20:46.119 don't know why. It's like we're friends on the road, 0:20:46.119 --> 0:20:49.760 be nice, right right right, But we you know what's 0:20:49.760 --> 0:20:52.159 funny is when we do that, it's almost like we 0:20:52.320 --> 0:20:57.000 become infectious. When we wait and smile, that person the 0:20:57.119 --> 0:21:01.160 next time is gonna do it. We pay it forward. Well, 0:21:04.160 --> 0:21:09.120 I don't know, I don't know what's up. But favorite 0:21:09.119 --> 0:21:12.000 favorite Christmas song, least favorite Christmas song in the in 0:21:12.040 --> 0:21:16.560 the Santa House, Oh my gosh, my favorite. Um I 0:21:16.600 --> 0:21:22.440 think My favorite Christmas song is probably jingle Bells. It's 0:21:22.520 --> 0:21:26.320 just fun. It's just fun. You can just all ingle 0:21:28.600 --> 0:21:31.640 and every kid say yeah all day long. I could 0:21:31.640 --> 0:21:35.200 do that all day long. And I think my least 0:21:35.880 --> 0:21:40.760 is no, Well, because I knew her, Oh is she is? 0:21:40.800 --> 0:21:50.760 She saying it's my least favorite? Was that a little 0:21:50.760 --> 0:21:56.480 bit of a little to Santa? Like whatever, It's okay. 0:21:56.600 --> 0:21:59.480 People have lives before me. I am here for this. 0:22:00.520 --> 0:22:05.439 The drama down at is just really well, you know, 0:22:05.680 --> 0:22:10.800 I'm come on, you know, it's a festive world. I mean, 0:22:11.400 --> 0:22:18.640 I'm I am just yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, I mean 0:22:18.720 --> 0:22:21.920 it happens right, um, But I don't want to talk 0:22:21.920 --> 0:22:23.880 about that. I want to just be nice. But I'm 0:22:23.880 --> 0:22:25.800 never going to be able to listen to that song now, 0:22:26.680 --> 0:22:33.920 ho ho ho. I just know there's this straight man, 0:22:34.040 --> 0:22:36.920 this is how So what do you do the night 0:22:37.000 --> 0:22:39.320 when Santa's gone? Like? Is that your time to take 0:22:39.359 --> 0:22:41.760 a bath and be like? Man, that three and sixty 0:22:41.840 --> 0:22:47.880 something days is oh gosh, what do I do when 0:22:47.960 --> 0:22:52.000