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Speaker 1: Put your heads together, and we're gonna start to party.

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Speaker 2: Start.

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Speaker 3: I'm ready to party.

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Speaker 4: The Elvis Duran After Party.

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Speaker 5: Arian run right, Oh my god, the after Party podcast.

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Speaker 3: Let's go. Who's ready?

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Speaker 2: Where are we going?

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Speaker 5: I'm readying We're going to Okay, I'm gonna start the

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Speaker 5: conversation with something we talked about on our radio show

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Speaker 5: this morning, silence being quiet. Who we couldn't do it

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Speaker 5: on the show, but who in here on the podcast

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Speaker 5: could stay quiet the longest?

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Speaker 6: Not scary because you say you have no internal dialogue

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Speaker 6: and everything that his thought comes out of your mouth,

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Speaker 6: which is one hundred percent true. I think you'd have

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Speaker 6: a really hard time being silent.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, right, West, I had no thoughts whatsoever, and then

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Speaker 1: I wouldn't talk.

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Speaker 3: He could, Yeah, I don't know. I don't well. I

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Speaker 3: think that's the beauty of our show.

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Speaker 5: I don't think anyone in this room or on the

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Speaker 5: show could stay quiet for a long time.

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Speaker 4: I could do it, I think, I go.

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Speaker 3: I have two kids.

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Speaker 4: I sometimes have to stay very quiet and shut my

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Speaker 4: mouth and not say a word. Believe me, I can

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Speaker 4: do it.

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Speaker 3: I don't know. Nate's pretty quiet when you want to.

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Speaker 2: I could definitely those monks take what a vow of silence?

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Speaker 2: I could easily do that. I could coast for probably

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Speaker 2: a week easy not speaking.

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Speaker 4: He didn't even like to text us.

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Speaker 5: Should we just do the rest of the podcast and

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Speaker 5: just say nothing and see what happens for ten minutes?

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Speaker 4: It's very entertaining.

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Speaker 3: Easy, that would be an easy podcast.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, let's start now, let's start.

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Speaker 3: Now you really no, we can't do that and stop that.

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Speaker 3: That'll be bad. Well, this is not interesting.

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Speaker 6: Nate broke the silence first, look at that?

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Speaker 3: Say anything? All right? Okay? Really? Can we talk about

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Speaker 3: being quiet?

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Speaker 7: Though?

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Speaker 3: There are points I want to make. Do you have

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Speaker 3: any friends who are very quiet?

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Speaker 6: Yes?

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Speaker 3: And if so, how do you? How do you describe

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Speaker 6: So Brandon I think is very quiet. He doesn't contribute

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Speaker 6: a lot to group conversations. It makes him anxious and nervous,

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Speaker 6: and even when he speaks, he speaks very quietly, and

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Speaker 6: it comes off as him being an asshole. I think

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Speaker 6: it comes off as him being an asshole, when in reality,

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Speaker 6: it's just his anxiety and him kind of processing things.

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Speaker 6: So that's how I will describe him to people after

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Speaker 6: they have met him. If he was in a quiet mode.

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Speaker 4: You know what they say about the quiet ones, you

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Speaker 4: have to watch out for the.

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Speaker 2: Absolutely similar you know.

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Speaker 1: Similarly, Robin is that she's the same way. In group settings,

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Speaker 1: she'll never talk because the group just carries it and

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Speaker 1: But in private she's talking to yeah, because she doesn't

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Speaker 1: not at all.

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Speaker 3: I've have many discussions with her.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 5: Also, I also feel like my quiet friends are very

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Speaker 5: creative people. They're also I don't know that they're smart.

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Speaker 5: They listen and learn a lot because they're not blah

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Speaker 5: means they're shy. A lot of people think if you're quiet,

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Speaker 5: you're shy. It's but socializing, like Robin thinks about and

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Speaker 5: like Brandon socializing, it takes a lot of battery power.

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Speaker 5: It takes a lot of energy to be in the

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Speaker 1: You gotta fight, like like with my friends, with my

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Speaker 1: group of friends, forget it. They're all like trying to

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Speaker 1: that's like to just you know, I like to be

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Speaker 1: But with my friends, I can't even get in because

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Speaker 3: Do you think also that quiet people are maybe.

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Speaker 5: Happier than the loud people in being by themselves, like

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Speaker 5: they prefer their own company.

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Speaker 4: Maybe yes, I do.

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Speaker 7: I'm that guy. I'm the one that after a party

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Speaker 7: people come up to me and go, hey, what's wrong.

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Speaker 7: I'm just quiet, That's all I am. Like, I don't

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Speaker 7: Nothing to matter? I'm just quiet. I got nothing to say.

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Speaker 5: Not funny how people to assume there's a problem saying

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Speaker 3: Every time?

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Speaker 1: What's wrong with you, Danielle, You haven't anything.

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Speaker 5: She's actually winning her point.

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Speaker 2: I discussed being an ambivert with someone the other day.

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Speaker 3: What is that?

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Speaker 2: That is the combination of an extrovert and an introvert.

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Speaker 2: Turns out, there's not just extroverts and introverts. There's a

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Speaker 2: combination of the two where you go out to get energy,

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Speaker 2: own energy. It's it's it's you know, a lot of

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Speaker 2: people think, oh, you're quiet, you're an introvert, and you

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Speaker 2: know you create your own energy when you're home alone.

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Speaker 2: But apparently there's another one that exists. And I think

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Speaker 2: that's me because I definitely enjoy my alone time. But

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Speaker 2: I do like going out and being social, but on

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Speaker 2: my terms, you know what I mean.

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Speaker 5: See, I look at our group of family members here.

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Speaker 5: I think of scary as being the only extrovert.

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Speaker 1: You mean in what? In what way? Like where I

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Speaker 1: have to in being an extrovert extroverted?

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, well what really?

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Speaker 4: I always want to be out there.

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Speaker 1: No more than everybody else here compared.

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Speaker 5: I look at Gandhi, I look at Danielle. Danielle maybe

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Speaker 5: less of an introvert to it, but I look at

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Speaker 5: all of us, and I think a lot of us

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Speaker 5: really really need to charge up by being alone, and

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Speaker 5: that would be the sign of an introvert, right, just

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Speaker 5: doesn't mean we don't want to go out.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, yeah, because Elvis, you.

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Speaker 2: For instance, you definitely unplug. I know those times where

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Speaker 2: during the day you can't get in touch with you

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Speaker 2: and you just need to unplug. And that's totally fine.

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Speaker 2: That's totally fine.

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Speaker 3: I got my dogs, That's all I need.

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: We used to work with somebody who we would do

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Speaker 4: an event and then they would be out there with everybody,

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Speaker 4: and then after the event they would say, Okay, I

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Speaker 4: can't go to the next thing, Like say, we all

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Speaker 4: would go out for dinner. They wouldn't go out for dinner.

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Speaker 4: They would go back and recharge because they was there's

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Speaker 4: too much to do both. So maybe that's what you're explaining.

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Speaker 6: Like, Yeah, I had never lived alone until I moved

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Speaker 6: to Boston. I was always with a roommate, my sister,

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Speaker 6: a boyfriend, somebody was always with me. So when I moved,

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Speaker 6: I was very nervous what am I going to do alone?

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Speaker 6: And as soon as I lived alone, I was like,

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Speaker 6: this shit is amazing? Anyone ever again?

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Speaker 4: God?

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Speaker 6: I was missing out. It's amazing.

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Speaker 3: I love it, I tell you.

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Speaker 5: During pandemic that's when I really truly learned to appreciate being.

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Speaker 3: Alone because I had to be.

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Speaker 5: I lived in a farmhouse with dogs sometimes weeks at

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Speaker 5: a time, and we would do the show on zoom

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Speaker 5: and then I turned it off. It would be silence,

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Speaker 5: and it could be a little loud the silence, but

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Speaker 5: most of the time I enjoyed it. So matter of fact,

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Speaker 5: I'm about to push the.

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Speaker 3: Button right now. Anyways, this has been a very very

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Speaker 3: interesting podcast today. What do you think? I like it?

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Speaker 5: All right, Tomorrow we'll talk about farts and having sex

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Speaker 5: with toy animals.

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Speaker 4: Can't wait. By the way, Scotty wins because he didn't

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Speaker 4: really say because we were talking about farts and the

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Speaker 4: screwing animals.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, tomorrow, I'm in Okay, we're not real animals. Peace

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Speaker 3: that everybody.

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Speaker 4: Bye, Jesus Christ Goudie the elvist Ran after party