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Speaker 2: Welcome Becky Gee.

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Speaker 1: When you start in a career as young as I did,

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Speaker 1: The best selling authoring post the number one health and

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Speaker 1: wellness podcast, I'm Purpose with Jay Shedding.

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Speaker 2: Hey everyone, welcome back to On Purpose, the number one

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Speaker 2: connect with ourselves in a more authentic and deep way.

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Speaker 2: And today's guest is someone that I've wanted to have

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Speaker 2: that she's finally in this seat. I'm talking about multi

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Speaker 2: platinum award winning singer, songwriter, actress, and activist Becky g

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Speaker 2: who is born for the Spotlight, and her multifaceted career

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Speaker 2: Superstars long list of achievements include four Latin Grammy nominations,

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Speaker 2: streams to date. Today, we're talking about her new album, Eskinas.

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Speaker 2: Did I say that right?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? You did.

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Speaker 2: Welcome to the show, Becky, what's going on? Wow?

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Speaker 1: I feel like I was holding my breath that whole

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Speaker 2: I love it. Why was now the right time for

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Speaker 2: Beggy, you grew up in the public eye, and you

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Speaker 1: everything that you do. And it wasn't until you were

435
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Speaker 1: like a teenager and you're getting made fun of for

436
00:21:12,840 --> 00:21:15,040
Speaker 1: the way you dress or what your teeth look like

437
00:21:15,359 --> 00:21:19,160
Speaker 1: or having acne or whatever, and you're like, wow, you're

438
00:21:19,200 --> 00:21:22,200
Speaker 1: really wearing these things, like you're really wearing it. And

439
00:21:22,320 --> 00:21:24,040
Speaker 1: then you know, on top of that, you're dealing with

440
00:21:24,280 --> 00:21:26,399
Speaker 1: I mean, for me, I was dealing with, you know,

441
00:21:26,480 --> 00:21:29,360
Speaker 1: the pressures to provide for my family, So like I'm

442
00:21:29,440 --> 00:21:32,400
Speaker 1: really showing up as my best self because there's too

443
00:21:32,480 --> 00:21:33,680
Speaker 1: much writing on the line.

444
00:21:33,920 --> 00:21:36,520
Speaker 3: It's not just me, it's everybody who's walking in the

445
00:21:36,600 --> 00:21:37,119
Speaker 3: room with me.

446
00:21:37,720 --> 00:21:41,840
Speaker 1: So when you are kind of put in this place

447
00:21:41,960 --> 00:21:45,920
Speaker 1: where you were, you feel almost attacked sometimes, or you know,

448
00:21:46,080 --> 00:21:48,960
Speaker 1: you feel let down, You don't feel as supported as

449
00:21:49,000 --> 00:21:52,120
Speaker 1: you thought you would. You start to question, like, oh,

450
00:21:52,359 --> 00:21:54,760
Speaker 1: is this a safe space? Is this? Is this what

451
00:21:54,840 --> 00:21:56,640
Speaker 1: it's supposed Is this what I signed up for? Because

452
00:21:56,680 --> 00:21:58,600
Speaker 1: that's what everybody's telling me, this is what you signed

453
00:21:58,640 --> 00:22:00,639
Speaker 1: up for, This is what you signed up for. And

454
00:22:00,760 --> 00:22:04,119
Speaker 1: it's like, as I've continued to grow up in this space,

455
00:22:04,200 --> 00:22:06,520
Speaker 1: I think the biggest lesson for me is just like

456
00:22:07,240 --> 00:22:08,000
Speaker 1: maybe I'm.

457
00:22:07,840 --> 00:22:09,800
Speaker 3: Not supposed to be like to by everybody.

458
00:22:10,080 --> 00:22:12,840
Speaker 1: Maybe that's not the goal, you know, maybe I'm not

459
00:22:13,280 --> 00:22:15,800
Speaker 1: Maybe I'm not supposed to be for everyone. Maybe I

460
00:22:15,880 --> 00:22:18,000
Speaker 1: can be a little bit more sacred with my energy,

461
00:22:18,680 --> 00:22:20,760
Speaker 1: you know, maybe I don't have to be on social

462
00:22:20,840 --> 00:22:23,800
Speaker 1: media twenty four to seven. You know, like, maybe I

463
00:22:23,880 --> 00:22:26,560
Speaker 1: can remember that there's a real world out there with

464
00:22:26,760 --> 00:22:31,280
Speaker 1: real people, and quality connection matters, not the quantity of

465
00:22:31,359 --> 00:22:34,680
Speaker 1: connections I make. And so I think that like for me,

466
00:22:34,920 --> 00:22:41,560
Speaker 1: going from literal baby Becky fourteen years old getting discovered

467
00:22:41,640 --> 00:22:44,320
Speaker 1: on the Internet, to the twenty six year old that

468
00:22:44,480 --> 00:22:47,440
Speaker 1: is still figuring out how to practice those boundaries every

469
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Speaker 1: single day.

470
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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like the biggest takeaway for me.

471
00:22:51,119 --> 00:22:56,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, And that realization that we're not for everyone is

472
00:22:57,240 --> 00:23:01,280
Speaker 2: really difficult to swallow because I feel like our whole

473
00:23:01,400 --> 00:23:06,280
Speaker 2: life we've been trained to kind of be people who

474
00:23:06,400 --> 00:23:08,680
Speaker 2: make everyone around us happy. We've been trained to be

475
00:23:08,800 --> 00:23:11,600
Speaker 2: that way, conditioned, like we make people smile. Or you

476
00:23:11,720 --> 00:23:13,639
Speaker 2: with the peace maker in your family, or you were

477
00:23:13,720 --> 00:23:15,960
Speaker 2: the change maker in your family, or you with the

478
00:23:16,000 --> 00:23:20,639
Speaker 2: person who kind of you know, communicated individually and mediated

479
00:23:20,720 --> 00:23:23,760
Speaker 2: with your family, Like, we've all played roles, and most

480
00:23:23,800 --> 00:23:27,360
Speaker 2: of those roles revolve around us being liked or doing

481
00:23:27,480 --> 00:23:29,760
Speaker 2: things to be liked. And all of a sudden, you

482
00:23:29,880 --> 00:23:33,840
Speaker 2: grow up, and especially if you have a large public platform,

483
00:23:34,119 --> 00:23:36,160
Speaker 2: and even if you don't have a large public platform,

484
00:23:36,680 --> 00:23:39,280
Speaker 2: just growing up, you go to work and you have family.

485
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Speaker 1: It's crazy to I was literally gonna introduct right there

486
00:23:43,840 --> 00:23:46,119
Speaker 1: to say you do not have to be someone with

487
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Speaker 1: a platform like ours to know what this pressure is

488
00:23:48,960 --> 00:23:52,080
Speaker 1: like today. Agree, And that actually makes me so fearful

489
00:23:52,119 --> 00:23:56,120
Speaker 1: for the future generations because we are constantly comparing ourselves

490
00:23:56,200 --> 00:23:59,920
Speaker 1: to everyone's greatest hits, and that is really really hard

491
00:24:00,160 --> 00:24:04,639
Speaker 1: to leave any room, any space for grace, for growth,

492
00:24:05,240 --> 00:24:08,399
Speaker 1: you know, because there's this fear, this fear of messing up,

493
00:24:08,440 --> 00:24:10,680
Speaker 1: saying the wrong thing or whatever. And it's just like

494
00:24:10,840 --> 00:24:13,960
Speaker 1: that's actually part of learning. We have to leave room

495
00:24:14,280 --> 00:24:16,399
Speaker 1: to learn, and I think it's also learning that we

496
00:24:16,560 --> 00:24:19,920
Speaker 1: can be something different. I was thinking about this the

497
00:24:19,960 --> 00:24:22,680
Speaker 1: other day and I had a conversation with like a

498
00:24:22,800 --> 00:24:25,240
Speaker 1: really close friend of mine about how it's wild to

499
00:24:25,320 --> 00:24:26,840
Speaker 1: me that I've shared so much of my life on

500
00:24:26,920 --> 00:24:30,000
Speaker 1: the internet since such a young age and because I

501
00:24:30,200 --> 00:24:33,119
Speaker 1: shared that, you know, my favorite flavor of ice cream

502
00:24:33,440 --> 00:24:37,680
Speaker 1: seven years ago was chocolate, that someone can come across

503
00:24:37,840 --> 00:24:41,480
Speaker 1: that today and be like, oh, she's a chocolate ice

504
00:24:41,520 --> 00:24:43,439
Speaker 1: cream loving girly and like.

505
00:24:43,560 --> 00:24:45,800
Speaker 5: Little do they know, like I don't really like ice

506
00:24:45,840 --> 00:24:48,320
Speaker 5: cream anymore, but like I don't even have a favorite

507
00:24:48,320 --> 00:24:51,640
Speaker 5: flavor actually for for frozen yogurts, you know, and there's

508
00:24:51,720 --> 00:24:54,480
Speaker 5: like seven years but because someone can come across that,

509
00:24:55,200 --> 00:24:57,439
Speaker 5: you know today, it can be like, no, that's who

510
00:24:57,520 --> 00:24:57,840
Speaker 5: she is, and.

511
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Speaker 3: Unless it's documented, you can't tell me any different, you know.

512
00:25:02,240 --> 00:25:04,760
Speaker 1: But it's like I think it's leaving space that like

513
00:25:04,960 --> 00:25:06,439
Speaker 1: I can change my mind. I mean, I could love live,

514
00:25:06,520 --> 00:25:09,640
Speaker 1: scream tomorrow who knows, you know, and that's totally possible.

515
00:25:09,760 --> 00:25:12,800
Speaker 1: But on a deeper level, it's interesting you were saying something.

516
00:25:12,840 --> 00:25:15,280
Speaker 1: There's a book that I read called The Family on Bradshaw,

517
00:25:15,359 --> 00:25:17,879
Speaker 1: and it really blew my mind about the rigid roles

518
00:25:17,920 --> 00:25:21,280
Speaker 1: that we play in like family systems, and we find

519
00:25:21,400 --> 00:25:24,600
Speaker 1: so much purpose in that, but then we get so

520
00:25:24,880 --> 00:25:28,720
Speaker 1: attached to what that role is to forget that, like

521
00:25:28,800 --> 00:25:29,000
Speaker 1: we have.

522
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Speaker 3: To go out into the world and like learn more,

523
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Speaker 3: you know.

524
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Speaker 1: Like it terrifies me sometimes when I think about that,

525
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Speaker 1: because I feel like I've lived so much life in

526
00:25:37,680 --> 00:25:38,919
Speaker 1: my twenty six years, and I'm like.

527
00:25:38,920 --> 00:25:39,640
Speaker 3: Wait, there's more.

528
00:25:40,480 --> 00:25:43,680
Speaker 1: You're telling me there's more. I should be inspired and

529
00:25:43,800 --> 00:25:45,920
Speaker 1: excited at that idea, and a part of me is,

530
00:25:46,080 --> 00:25:48,680
Speaker 1: but then there's another part of me that's absolutely terrified,

531
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Speaker 1: you know. And I think it's again leaving room for

532
00:25:51,600 --> 00:25:54,720
Speaker 1: those two truths to exist. And usually when it's terrifying,

533
00:25:54,760 --> 00:25:57,520
Speaker 1: I think it's because it's right for you, you know

534
00:25:57,600 --> 00:26:00,280
Speaker 1: what I mean, Like it's supposed to be scary, like

535
00:26:00,640 --> 00:26:03,280
Speaker 1: just at least just a little bit to like ignite

536
00:26:03,359 --> 00:26:06,359
Speaker 1: that thing in you that really like catches your soul

537
00:26:06,440 --> 00:26:08,600
Speaker 1: on fire and says I was made for this.

538
00:26:09,200 --> 00:26:11,639
Speaker 3: You know, and I'm so happy that I did it.

539
00:26:12,400 --> 00:26:12,560
Speaker 4: You know.

540
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Speaker 2: Yeah, how hard was it for you? You just talked

541
00:26:14,960 --> 00:26:16,800
Speaker 2: about there where you're like, maybe I want to be

542
00:26:16,880 --> 00:26:19,440
Speaker 2: someone who experiences the real world. Maybe I do want

543
00:26:19,440 --> 00:26:22,800
Speaker 2: to switch up from social media, like as a public figure,

544
00:26:23,000 --> 00:26:25,640
Speaker 2: and even in our friend circles, like I remember when

545
00:26:25,640 --> 00:26:28,960
Speaker 2: I quit drinking alcohol and when I went back to

546
00:26:29,040 --> 00:26:31,440
Speaker 2: my friend group that was used to me drinking alcohol

547
00:26:32,080 --> 00:26:34,280
Speaker 2: and being a certain person at the party and now

548
00:26:34,359 --> 00:26:37,119
Speaker 2: I don't. It was a complete switch. I wasn't I

549
00:26:37,160 --> 00:26:39,400
Speaker 2: didn't have a public platform, I wasn't known. But even

550
00:26:39,480 --> 00:26:42,520
Speaker 2: in my group or my community, it was like, wait

551
00:26:42,560 --> 00:26:44,760
Speaker 2: a minute, Jay, have you changed right? Or when I

552
00:26:44,840 --> 00:26:47,720
Speaker 2: stopped doing certain things and when I started doing certain things.

553
00:26:48,000 --> 00:26:51,600
Speaker 2: We all go through these like identity deaths of who

554
00:26:51,640 --> 00:26:53,600
Speaker 2: we were and who we wanted to be to who

555
00:26:53,640 --> 00:26:56,760
Speaker 2: we are today. And when you're trying to make a

556
00:26:56,840 --> 00:26:59,240
Speaker 2: transition like not being as active on social media or

557
00:26:59,280 --> 00:27:01,359
Speaker 2: you're trying to make it transition of I don't go

558
00:27:01,440 --> 00:27:04,560
Speaker 2: to those places anymore. Whatever it may be, I feel

559
00:27:04,640 --> 00:27:08,280
Speaker 2: we all go through this moment of identity shifts, and

560
00:27:08,359 --> 00:27:10,760
Speaker 2: it sounds like you've had to do that too. What

561
00:27:10,920 --> 00:27:14,040
Speaker 2: has helped you make those as smooth as they can be,

562
00:27:14,520 --> 00:27:17,080
Speaker 2: or what has happened when you've made those shifts and

563
00:27:17,119 --> 00:27:17,480
Speaker 2: what have you.

564
00:27:17,520 --> 00:27:20,679
Speaker 1: Dealt with I'm laughing because Jay, it's so not smooth,

565
00:27:20,880 --> 00:27:25,320
Speaker 1: like it's so rough out here. It's very new for me.

566
00:27:25,880 --> 00:27:28,119
Speaker 1: It is so new. I have lived more of my

567
00:27:28,320 --> 00:27:32,920
Speaker 1: life this way than I have practicing trying something new.

568
00:27:34,080 --> 00:27:37,359
Speaker 1: But it makes me very proud of myself to know

569
00:27:37,680 --> 00:27:40,440
Speaker 1: that I can look at myself every day in the

570
00:27:40,480 --> 00:27:42,600
Speaker 1: mirror and say, I know it's going to be really hard,

571
00:27:43,160 --> 00:27:46,119
Speaker 1: and it's going to be challenging, and there's going to

572
00:27:46,160 --> 00:27:48,720
Speaker 1: be things that trigger a response from you. Maybe that

573
00:27:48,920 --> 00:27:52,480
Speaker 1: you are that is second nature. We are going to

574
00:27:52,680 --> 00:27:55,760
Speaker 1: take time to process. We're gonna add some filters in

575
00:27:55,840 --> 00:27:59,360
Speaker 1: your process that are better for you, because there's better

576
00:27:59,480 --> 00:28:03,720
Speaker 1: ways to deal with things. There's better ways than having

577
00:28:03,800 --> 00:28:07,560
Speaker 1: to just like promote your pain. You know, somebody the

578
00:28:07,600 --> 00:28:10,560
Speaker 1: other day is so funny. Somebody the other day mentioned

579
00:28:10,600 --> 00:28:12,600
Speaker 1: to be like, what's up with all these young kids

580
00:28:12,640 --> 00:28:15,720
Speaker 1: posting videos of themselves crying on the internet, and I said,

581
00:28:15,880 --> 00:28:18,600
Speaker 1: first of all, that's really mean, because literally, you know,

582
00:28:18,640 --> 00:28:20,880
Speaker 1: maybe they're seeking for connection. And second of all, I've

583
00:28:21,000 --> 00:28:25,800
Speaker 1: totally done that, damn it. I'm guilty. I'm so guilty

584
00:28:25,880 --> 00:28:26,040
Speaker 1: of it.

585
00:28:26,240 --> 00:28:28,040
Speaker 3: But are there times where I wish I didn't?

586
00:28:28,119 --> 00:28:32,159
Speaker 1: Absolutely because maybe not everybody needed to see that. I

587
00:28:32,320 --> 00:28:34,680
Speaker 1: wanted to be seen so badly. But who am I

588
00:28:34,920 --> 00:28:39,040
Speaker 1: seeking that from? Why am I seeking that from the

589
00:28:39,240 --> 00:28:43,080
Speaker 1: world when maybe it's really within myself? And so that

590
00:28:43,720 --> 00:28:47,600
Speaker 1: daily practice for me is still very new, but it's

591
00:28:47,760 --> 00:28:53,640
Speaker 1: doing things differently, willing to what's that saying, you won't

592
00:28:53,800 --> 00:28:55,480
Speaker 1: You got to be willing to do something you've never

593
00:28:55,640 --> 00:28:58,680
Speaker 1: done in order to get the result you've never had, Right,

594
00:28:59,320 --> 00:29:02,120
Speaker 1: And so if I want to be the healthiest version

595
00:29:02,200 --> 00:29:04,760
Speaker 1: of myself, I have to be willing to look at

596
00:29:04,880 --> 00:29:08,760
Speaker 1: my daily routines mentally routine, the mental routines that I have,

597
00:29:09,520 --> 00:29:13,000
Speaker 1: the spiritual routines that I have, the physical routines that

598
00:29:13,040 --> 00:29:16,840
Speaker 1: I have, and really just be honest with myself and

599
00:29:16,880 --> 00:29:19,640
Speaker 1: am I setting myself up for success? You know? And

600
00:29:19,760 --> 00:29:21,520
Speaker 1: there's been hard times, like people very.

601
00:29:21,440 --> 00:29:23,680
Speaker 3: Close to me will be like, Bee, we had this conversation.

602
00:29:24,960 --> 00:29:28,280
Speaker 1: We've had this conversation, and they very lovingly hold space

603
00:29:28,360 --> 00:29:30,960
Speaker 1: for me to come back around and be like you're right. Yeah,

604
00:29:31,240 --> 00:29:34,840
Speaker 1: you're so right, you know. But it's like just understanding

605
00:29:34,920 --> 00:29:37,480
Speaker 1: that we are constantly, always in process.

606
00:29:37,720 --> 00:29:41,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, let's walk through some of those actually, because

607
00:29:41,480 --> 00:29:44,760
Speaker 2: we love doing that on purpose. You mentioned mental, spiritual,

608
00:29:44,960 --> 00:29:48,440
Speaker 2: and physical routines. Let's talk about some of the Let's

609
00:29:48,440 --> 00:29:50,960
Speaker 2: start with the mental routines. What are some daily routines

610
00:29:51,040 --> 00:29:53,480
Speaker 2: or habits or practices that you've been working on.

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00:29:53,640 --> 00:29:56,160
Speaker 3: Okay, so shout out to my therapist because she's taught.

612
00:29:56,000 --> 00:29:56,680
Speaker 1: Me the three legs.

613
00:29:57,240 --> 00:29:59,240
Speaker 2: Therapists, I love me too.

614
00:30:00,120 --> 00:30:03,400
Speaker 1: Oh they keep it real, that's for sure. But the

615
00:30:03,480 --> 00:30:07,120
Speaker 1: three legged table is the mind, body, soul. And if

616
00:30:07,160 --> 00:30:09,600
Speaker 1: it's a table that needs to work right, it needs

617
00:30:09,640 --> 00:30:12,040
Speaker 1: to hold things on top of it. If one of

618
00:30:12,080 --> 00:30:14,360
Speaker 1: the tables is a little wobbly, or one of the

619
00:30:14,440 --> 00:30:18,040
Speaker 1: tables the legs break, it can't it can't fulfill its

620
00:30:18,080 --> 00:30:22,120
Speaker 1: purpose right, what it's intended for. And so I am

621
00:30:22,440 --> 00:30:24,400
Speaker 1: very much so a mind, body, soul kind of person.

622
00:30:24,440 --> 00:30:26,800
Speaker 1: And I think for me, if we're starting with the

623
00:30:26,960 --> 00:30:30,640
Speaker 1: mind just like not being on my phone the first

624
00:30:31,040 --> 00:30:33,920
Speaker 1: moments that I wake up in the morning, I didn't

625
00:30:33,960 --> 00:30:37,240
Speaker 1: realize like how second nature it was. Like even just

626
00:30:37,360 --> 00:30:40,160
Speaker 1: having like a separate alarm clock outside of my phone.

627
00:30:41,520 --> 00:30:42,200
Speaker 2: Very new for me.

628
00:30:42,400 --> 00:30:45,240
Speaker 1: Actually just started practicing that I do a social media

629
00:30:45,320 --> 00:30:48,120
Speaker 1: detox once a month, so like there's I'll literally delete

630
00:30:48,120 --> 00:30:50,120
Speaker 1: the apps from my phone completely and.

631
00:30:50,200 --> 00:30:51,520
Speaker 2: It's the best for how long?

632
00:30:51,920 --> 00:30:55,240
Speaker 3: For how long I do at least seven days constantly?

633
00:30:55,480 --> 00:31:00,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, also very new, but it's working. Highly recommend

634
00:31:01,320 --> 00:31:03,040
Speaker 1: And I don't say these things to like knock anybody,

635
00:31:03,040 --> 00:31:04,760
Speaker 1: because there's some people I know that can, like very

636
00:31:04,840 --> 00:31:07,120
Speaker 1: much so be on these platforms and like are so

637
00:31:07,320 --> 00:31:09,480
Speaker 1: unphased by it, and it's great for them, and I

638
00:31:09,600 --> 00:31:12,240
Speaker 1: love that for them. But I know myself and I'm

639
00:31:12,560 --> 00:31:16,200
Speaker 1: very very sensitive. So kind of just just practicing those

640
00:31:16,240 --> 00:31:18,000
Speaker 1: things has been super helpful for me on the on

641
00:31:18,080 --> 00:31:20,280
Speaker 1: the mental side. And then I would say on the

642
00:31:20,280 --> 00:31:23,240
Speaker 1: spiritual side, meditating has done so much for me, Like

643
00:31:23,360 --> 00:31:26,360
Speaker 1: meditation and prayer. I think just believing and having faith

644
00:31:26,400 --> 00:31:29,040
Speaker 1: in something that is greater than you is always helpful,

645
00:31:29,560 --> 00:31:31,640
Speaker 1: you know. I think it's really hard to trust something

646
00:31:31,720 --> 00:31:34,920
Speaker 1: that you can't see that you can't physically feel or touch,

647
00:31:35,640 --> 00:31:38,560
Speaker 1: but there's also something very magical when you tap into that.

648
00:31:39,200 --> 00:31:41,040
Speaker 1: And there's been moments where my day will be so

649
00:31:41,160 --> 00:31:43,720
Speaker 1: crazy and I, you know, this is constantly trying to

650
00:31:43,760 --> 00:31:46,440
Speaker 1: find time. How do we reset the mind? How do

651
00:31:46,560 --> 00:31:49,560
Speaker 1: we reprogram? And I just think to myself, even after

652
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Speaker 1: ten minutes of meditation, there's another version of me on

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Speaker 1: the other side of that that.

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Speaker 3: Will be so much better, so much capable.

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Speaker 1: What part of me can't give myself ten minutes today

656
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Speaker 1: like that that spiritual like tapp in and like recentering

657
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Speaker 1: for me is.

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Speaker 3: Special sauce.

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Speaker 2: And what type of meditation is that for you?

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Speaker 1: What I did? Meditation still for me because we've got

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Speaker 1: a lot of thoughts these days, you know, and it's

662
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Speaker 1: hard to silence them. But uh, it's sometimes.

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Speaker 3: Twice a day, you know.

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Speaker 1: I try to do it twice a day, definitely in

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Speaker 1: the morning or sometimes when I'm in the sauna, like

666
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Speaker 1: post workout, to kind of just really be in my

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Speaker 1: body and then uh, and then at night. And I

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Speaker 1: also do uh do you know Wim Hoffs, Yeah, of course, yeah.

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Speaker 2: On the show.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, another person I would like absolutely geek

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Speaker 1: out to meet. But honestly, that that whole routine for me,

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Speaker 1: even like before shows, just really relaxes the nervous system

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Speaker 1: on that breath hold. There's like a spiritual feeling that

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Speaker 1: I have, and sometimes I'll play like frequency during and

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Speaker 1: it just like there's moments where I'm like, oh my God,

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Speaker 1: I'm totally coming out of my body right now and

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Speaker 1: this is so nice.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and what about prayer.

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Speaker 1: You mentioned prayer there, Yes, Yeah, prayer is super important.

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Speaker 1: It's funny, I grew up in a very religious household.

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Speaker 1: I'm very Mexican in that sense. My grandmothers are very Catholic,

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Speaker 1: and I'm much more spiritual than religious, i'd say, but

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Speaker 1: I think seeing them in their dedication, seeing them in

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Speaker 1: their practice was like very inspiring to me when I

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Speaker 1: was younger, and also the communal aspect of it too,

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Speaker 1: Like getting to pray with my grandmothers growing up is

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Speaker 1: something very sacred to me. And I just think that, yeah,

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Speaker 1: when I pray and I surrender, like like going like

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Speaker 1: God is like I.

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Speaker 3: Literally have it tattooed.

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Speaker 1: Because it's important to know that you can't control everything.

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Speaker 1: You just can't. You can control what you do, how

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Speaker 1: There's not a version of me before this. I'd say

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Speaker 1: age that would say I love being in the gym.

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Speaker 1: I love working out so much the point where I'm like,

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Speaker 1: maybe I should prioritize sleep a little bit more than

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Speaker 1: the gym.

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Speaker 3: But good sleep, good diet, Jim.

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Speaker 1: Like feeling strong physically and knowing that I'm taking care

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Speaker 1: of my body again, like the vessel needs to be

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Speaker 1: safe and it needs to be protected and provided for,

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Speaker 1: and so I try.

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Speaker 3: My absolute best.

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Speaker 1: But even in that sense, it's like, you know, not

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Speaker 1: that my indulgence self takes over, but like enjoying the

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Speaker 1: little things in life, like the balance, you know, like

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Speaker 1: I love food, so the balance of that is like,

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Speaker 1: go burn it off in the gym, girl, and you'll

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Speaker 1: be just fine.

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Speaker 2: I love that. No, And it's so beautiful that you're

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Speaker 2: thinking about your life as those three legs to the

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Speaker 2: table or the stool in your life, because it is

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Speaker 2: so interesting to me about how as soon as you

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Speaker 2: take your eye off of one of them, how much

741
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Speaker 2: harder everything else becomes. And yet when those three things

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Speaker 2: are good, like you said, they can carry the weight

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Speaker 2: even if it's getting really really heavy. Yeah, you still

744
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Speaker 2: have this fighting chance almost. And I guess the thing

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Speaker 2: that I found that has really helped me in that

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Speaker 2: regard as well is making sure that I'm not trying

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Speaker 2: to solve all three at the same time. It's almost

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Speaker 2: like one at a time. Like I remember, I always

749
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Speaker 2: had my spiritual practice, and then I added my mental practice,

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Speaker 2: and then I added my physical practice. And for me,

751
00:36:56,760 --> 00:36:59,960
Speaker 2: that order worked really well. Whereas when you're trying to

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Speaker 2: all three at the same time, then too, it's almost

753
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Speaker 2: like saying, if you're putting a table together using your analogy,

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Speaker 2: you can't put all three legs on at the same time.

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Speaker 2: It just doesn't work that way. You got to put

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Speaker 2: one improperly. Then the other one, and then the other one.

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Speaker 2: I want to go back to something you said earlier.

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Speaker 2: You talked about the need for quality connections instead of

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Speaker 2: quantity connections. What is Beckyg's definition of a quality connection?

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Speaker 2: How do you view your quality connection?

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Speaker 1: You know, I think it's it's when I feel safe

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Speaker 1: in a room to be my true authentic self. And

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Speaker 1: there's ways that my body used to tell me that that,

764
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Speaker 1: like this isn't authentic, Like there's something about this that

765
00:37:41,280 --> 00:37:42,879
Speaker 1: doesn't feel right, and I would stay in the room

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Speaker 1: because you're scared of how that might come off, or again,

767
00:37:45,760 --> 00:37:48,080
Speaker 1: the people pleasing tendencies totally start to come through. Right

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Speaker 1: I'm a performer by nature at this point because I've

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Speaker 1: been doing this for longer than I've ever not been

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Speaker 1: doing it. But I think it was just really understanding,

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Speaker 1: man Like, it feels really good when I can just

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Speaker 1: show up in me and when I'm trying to be

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Speaker 1: my authentic self. Sometimes there's a little fumbling that happens,

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Speaker 1: or just sometimes it flows. Like right now, this feels

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Speaker 1: like a quality connection. It's just flowing. I'm not really

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Speaker 1: thinking about what could be said or what could be

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00:38:18,400 --> 00:38:21,400
Speaker 1: felt and how that might come off. And that feels

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00:38:21,480 --> 00:38:24,640
Speaker 1: to me again aside from the universe and really affirms

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Speaker 1: that I'm exactly where I'm supposed to be. And so

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Speaker 1: when I have those feelings that feel very affirmed in

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Speaker 1: a moment, that is quality connection.

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Speaker 3: And it might be with the stranger.

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Speaker 1: There's been times where, like, I mean, man, I'd be

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Speaker 1: at the airport sometimes just killing time because I'm totally

785
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Speaker 1: like my grandparents. I don't want to be late for

786
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Speaker 1: a fight or something, and I'm just talking to like

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Speaker 1: the person behind the bar and just like, how's your

788
00:38:45,000 --> 00:38:47,520
Speaker 1: day today, And I walk away like, oh my god,

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Speaker 1: Johnny was so sweet. I want to go to his

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Speaker 1: mom's pizza shop. Like, next time I'm in the city,

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Speaker 1: I'm coming. Because there's like a true connection that's being made.

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Speaker 1: And I think what we celebrate today is like followers,

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Speaker 1: Like how many fun followers you have? How many numbers

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Speaker 1: you have streaming this? And it's like that I think

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Speaker 1: is amazing when you're thinking from a business aspect, But

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Speaker 1: even then, truly like people want to support something that

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Speaker 1: is real. I want to support something that is real,

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Speaker 1: whether it be in my friendships, whether it be with

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Speaker 1: my family, with my team, with my fans and so, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I'd say that's what it is.

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Speaker 3: It's like that authenticity. I could feel it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, And it's really interesting, right. You said that we

803
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Speaker 2: almost all have an inner compass or an inner dial

804
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Speaker 2: that tells us whether something feels authentic and aligned or

805
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Speaker 2: it doesn't, but we tend to ignore it sometimes because

806
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Speaker 2: of our people pleasing tendencies or whatever it may have been.

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Speaker 2: When is the time in your life where you feel

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Speaker 2: like you've ignored it and it's misled you or it's

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00:39:54,160 --> 00:39:56,520
Speaker 2: led you away from feeling how you feel now where

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Speaker 2: you feel safe in yourself.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I definitely feel so re on like certain career

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Speaker 1: moments where it was very easy for me to let

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Speaker 1: other people make decisions for me, and then and then

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Speaker 1: when it wouldn't work, be like.

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Speaker 3: Oh I should have said something, you know, Oh why

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Speaker 3: didn't I say?

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Speaker 1: Oh? But there wasn't enough time. There just wasn't enough time.

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Speaker 1: We just and realizing, like, man, I spent some key

819
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Speaker 1: pivotal moments in my career feeling like I was being

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Speaker 1: far more reactive to what was happening than like proactive

821
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Speaker 1: and setting myself up to like fully be present, you know,

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Speaker 1: And I look back at it, and I'm like, I'm

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Speaker 1: very proud of myself for having made it through those moments.

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Speaker 1: But like there was moments where and this is like

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Speaker 1: even deeper on like the the experiences I used to

826
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Speaker 1: have with like anxiety and panic attacks. You know, I

827
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Speaker 1: didn't know that that was like my body physically telling

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Speaker 1: me something's wrong, Like you're not okay. But because you're

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Speaker 1: scared to let other people down, you're scared of what

830
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Speaker 1: other people might say, you push through anyways. And I realize,

831
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Speaker 1: like just because you can doesn't mean you should. And

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Speaker 1: I think that that's one of my most valuable lessons

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Speaker 1: for sure, because there was I mean many moments before

834
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Speaker 1: going on to a stage, and I mean we're talking

835
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Speaker 1: full blown tears. Can't breathe if you've had a panic attack,

836
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Speaker 1: you know, the world is ending. And there's also this

837
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Speaker 1: like subconscious part of you that's like, girl, breathe, just breathe.

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Speaker 1: You know, you know what this is, you know, but

839
00:41:31,840 --> 00:41:34,239
Speaker 1: your nervous system can't tell the difference between like the

840
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Speaker 1: mental bear and the.

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Speaker 3: Real bear that's in the room.

842
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Speaker 1: And there's no bears in the room, so like chill axe,

843
00:41:39,040 --> 00:41:42,640
Speaker 1: it's okay, you know, Yeah, just being really young and

844
00:41:42,719 --> 00:41:46,600
Speaker 1: in really high stress situations, Like you know, you're everybody's boss,

845
00:41:46,680 --> 00:41:50,319
Speaker 1: but technically everybody's older than you, and it's just such

846
00:41:50,360 --> 00:41:52,759
Speaker 1: an interesting dynamic to have grown up in. And so

847
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Speaker 1: I think that that has been the most valuable lesson

848
00:41:55,680 --> 00:41:59,560
Speaker 1: for me up until this point. You know, just like, yeah,

849
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Speaker 1: just because you can doesn't mean you should.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's good advice. Yeah, well said when you were

851
00:42:04,840 --> 00:42:08,040
Speaker 2: talking about people pleasing there, and that naturally happens in

852
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Speaker 2: environments where like you said, even though you're at the boss,

853
00:42:10,800 --> 00:42:14,280
Speaker 2: everyone's older than you. It's natural to want to please

854
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Speaker 2: our elders in the same way as we try to

855
00:42:15,920 --> 00:42:18,480
Speaker 2: please our parents and our family. And I know you've

856
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Speaker 2: worked a lot on therapy, and that's an area of

857
00:42:20,880 --> 00:42:25,480
Speaker 2: your life you've invested in deeply. How is therapy or

858
00:42:25,560 --> 00:42:27,560
Speaker 2: what work have you done in therapy that's helped you

859
00:42:27,960 --> 00:42:32,120
Speaker 2: identify your people pleasing tendencies and allow you to start

860
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Speaker 2: reframing and reshaping them, Because I think so many of

861
00:42:35,960 --> 00:42:40,640
Speaker 2: us often works so hard at pleasing people that we

862
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Speaker 2: end up displeasing and disconnecting from ourselves, and we don't

863
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Speaker 2: realize that in the attempt to make someone else happy,

864
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Speaker 2: We're making ourselves more unhappy and miserable, and the other

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Speaker 2: person's not happy either because they can tell that it's

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Speaker 2: not coming from an authentic, genuine place. It's just coming

867
00:43:02,080 --> 00:43:03,359
Speaker 2: from a place of like, I don't want to cause

868
00:43:03,400 --> 00:43:05,879
Speaker 2: any trouble. So what's some of the work that you've done,

869
00:43:05,960 --> 00:43:08,200
Speaker 2: or what's some of the lessons that you've been able

870
00:43:08,239 --> 00:43:10,839
Speaker 2: to illuminate about your triggers and where they come from

871
00:43:10,960 --> 00:43:15,080
Speaker 2: and reframing how do people how to move away from people? Please?

872
00:43:15,239 --> 00:43:17,239
Speaker 1: Yeah, Well, like I said, it's definitely like a daily

873
00:43:17,360 --> 00:43:19,560
Speaker 1: practice for me. But I think a lot of the

874
00:43:20,600 --> 00:43:22,520
Speaker 1: first I would say, like the first two years of

875
00:43:22,600 --> 00:43:25,440
Speaker 1: therapy for me were very reactive to what was happening

876
00:43:25,480 --> 00:43:29,000
Speaker 1: in real time. It wasn't really comfortable with the idea

877
00:43:29,080 --> 00:43:31,640
Speaker 1: of shining a spotlight on what the root cause of

878
00:43:31,760 --> 00:43:32,560
Speaker 1: anything was.

879
00:43:32,760 --> 00:43:32,920
Speaker 4: You know.

880
00:43:33,040 --> 00:43:35,520
Speaker 1: It was very ambiguous in the sense of like it's

881
00:43:35,520 --> 00:43:37,840
Speaker 1: got to be this, this, this, because this happened. And

882
00:43:38,000 --> 00:43:41,120
Speaker 1: so going back to the reactiveness of the first two

883
00:43:41,200 --> 00:43:43,719
Speaker 1: years for me is funny because yeah, there was a

884
00:43:43,760 --> 00:43:45,879
Speaker 1: lot of small fires that I had to put out

885
00:43:45,960 --> 00:43:47,879
Speaker 1: in that moment. It was a very high stress time

886
00:43:47,960 --> 00:43:50,920
Speaker 1: in my career in my personal life when I had

887
00:43:50,920 --> 00:43:54,920
Speaker 1: first started therapy. But I think when I really surrendered

888
00:43:55,000 --> 00:43:57,120
Speaker 1: to the fact that this goes so much deeper than

889
00:43:57,200 --> 00:43:59,200
Speaker 1: just what's happening around me, but it's like how I

890
00:43:59,360 --> 00:44:02,680
Speaker 1: exist in all of it, Like that is when I

891
00:44:02,840 --> 00:44:05,320
Speaker 1: was like, oh, yeah, this cis goes a lot deeper.

892
00:44:05,520 --> 00:44:07,880
Speaker 3: And a lot of it is you know, childhood stuff.

893
00:44:07,920 --> 00:44:09,480
Speaker 1: And when I think about, you know, a big part

894
00:44:09,560 --> 00:44:12,400
Speaker 1: of my childhood was also shared in an industry that

895
00:44:12,960 --> 00:44:15,080
Speaker 1: you know, my parents were very very young. They knew

896
00:44:15,160 --> 00:44:18,320
Speaker 1: nothing about it, like quite literally, and even then I

897
00:44:18,600 --> 00:44:20,320
Speaker 1: like to think I came out kind of okay, but

898
00:44:21,120 --> 00:44:24,319
Speaker 1: you know, like they they couldn't really protect me from

899
00:44:24,440 --> 00:44:27,360
Speaker 1: much when it came to that stuff. And then the

900
00:44:27,440 --> 00:44:29,840
Speaker 1: fact that they were young parents when they got married

901
00:44:30,320 --> 00:44:34,279
Speaker 1: and had children, like they were babies raising babies, and

902
00:44:34,400 --> 00:44:35,759
Speaker 1: so there was a lot of things I had to

903
00:44:35,880 --> 00:44:38,080
Speaker 1: like learn from myself and teach for myself.

904
00:44:38,600 --> 00:44:40,680
Speaker 3: And so I think having a lot more empathy for

905
00:44:40,840 --> 00:44:41,560
Speaker 3: myself was.

906
00:44:41,600 --> 00:44:45,200
Speaker 1: Like a big step in therapy because it was hard

907
00:44:45,280 --> 00:44:48,200
Speaker 1: for me to accept the fact that I went without

908
00:44:48,320 --> 00:44:50,080
Speaker 1: things like what do you meet?

909
00:44:50,200 --> 00:44:51,759
Speaker 3: But we tried our best, but.

910
00:44:51,840 --> 00:44:52,759
Speaker 1: We did what we had to do.

911
00:44:52,880 --> 00:44:53,840
Speaker 3: I did what I had to do.

912
00:44:54,239 --> 00:44:56,680
Speaker 1: There was just so much resistance to the fact that

913
00:44:56,880 --> 00:45:01,080
Speaker 1: I still didn't get what I really need. And so

914
00:45:01,200 --> 00:45:03,000
Speaker 1: I think when you can just come from that space

915
00:45:03,080 --> 00:45:06,279
Speaker 1: of empathy and compassion for yourself that like everybody really

916
00:45:06,440 --> 00:45:09,440
Speaker 1: was trying, You really were trying, and it still came

917
00:45:09,520 --> 00:45:11,759
Speaker 1: out a little short. But hey, it's not too late,

918
00:45:11,880 --> 00:45:14,840
Speaker 1: like you can still learn. You can still learn, you know,

919
00:45:14,960 --> 00:45:16,759
Speaker 1: And and that was like I would say, yeah, third

920
00:45:16,880 --> 00:45:19,839
Speaker 1: year of therapy, and that's crazy, because you're right, it's

921
00:45:19,880 --> 00:45:22,680
Speaker 1: an investment. And even then, I mean some of the

922
00:45:23,239 --> 00:45:25,640
Speaker 1: types of work that I do, you know, I think

923
00:45:25,880 --> 00:45:29,800
Speaker 1: when you take inventory on your life, you know, like

924
00:45:30,000 --> 00:45:34,200
Speaker 1: really taking inventory on what your relationships with the people

925
00:45:34,239 --> 00:45:36,480
Speaker 1: around you in your life look like and felt like

926
00:45:36,960 --> 00:45:40,040
Speaker 1: from the moment you were born till this current day,

927
00:45:40,719 --> 00:45:44,880
Speaker 1: inventory on memories, you know, experiences that you've had and

928
00:45:45,000 --> 00:45:48,840
Speaker 1: your recollections of them, and then also kind of revisiting

929
00:45:48,920 --> 00:45:50,719
Speaker 1: those with those people and being like, hey, what was

930
00:45:50,760 --> 00:45:53,200
Speaker 1: your experience like in this. You know, it's the trippiest

931
00:45:53,200 --> 00:45:55,000
Speaker 1: thing for me and my siblings because I'm like, we

932
00:45:55,200 --> 00:45:57,000
Speaker 1: that has had the same parents, grow up with the

933
00:45:57,080 --> 00:45:59,600
Speaker 1: same four walls around us, and we're all so different

934
00:46:00,080 --> 00:46:02,520
Speaker 1: and we all process so different, right, So going back

935
00:46:02,560 --> 00:46:06,120
Speaker 1: to even the deeper level of compassionate empathy holding space

936
00:46:06,200 --> 00:46:08,880
Speaker 1: for each other in that way so beautiful. Yeah, we

937
00:46:08,960 --> 00:46:11,000
Speaker 1: didn't get to really doing that until we went into

938
00:46:11,040 --> 00:46:14,520
Speaker 1: family therapy together. So thankful for the resource and opportunity

939
00:46:14,640 --> 00:46:17,280
Speaker 1: to do that, because there's there's a lot of times

940
00:46:17,320 --> 00:46:20,759
Speaker 1: where I'm like, man, like we things could have gone

941
00:46:20,840 --> 00:46:25,320
Speaker 1: one or another way, and we kept choosing, you know, family,

942
00:46:25,960 --> 00:46:28,360
Speaker 1: and we got to a point where like choosing family

943
00:46:28,520 --> 00:46:29,720
Speaker 1: this ride or die.

944
00:46:29,680 --> 00:46:32,279
Speaker 3: Mentality of like oh, you know, like why do we

945
00:46:32,360 --> 00:46:33,239
Speaker 3: have to ride or die?

946
00:46:33,360 --> 00:46:35,920
Speaker 1: Why can't we just be? You know, like nobody's going

947
00:46:36,000 --> 00:46:38,400
Speaker 1: to ask that question. And I was the big sister

948
00:46:38,560 --> 00:46:41,120
Speaker 1: who was like, you know, parentified, So I was like

949
00:46:41,280 --> 00:46:43,040
Speaker 1: I'm their parent, there am I? And They're like, we

950
00:46:43,160 --> 00:46:44,879
Speaker 1: just want you to be our big sister. We don't

951
00:46:44,880 --> 00:46:46,759
Speaker 1: need you to be our mom or our dad. And

952
00:46:46,840 --> 00:46:48,520
Speaker 1: I'm like, what do you mean I have to be?

953
00:46:49,160 --> 00:46:51,080
Speaker 1: It was like all those rigid roles and stuff. So

954
00:46:51,520 --> 00:46:53,840
Speaker 1: taking inventory was super helpful for me.

955
00:46:54,320 --> 00:46:55,640
Speaker 3: Gave me so much perspective.

956
00:46:56,000 --> 00:46:58,439
Speaker 1: And then recently I started doing like parts work which

957
00:46:58,600 --> 00:47:00,719
Speaker 1: we're talking about all the parts, you know, like, Oh,

958
00:47:00,760 --> 00:47:03,200
Speaker 1: there's a part of me that's still a child. I'm

959
00:47:03,239 --> 00:47:05,719
Speaker 1: still freaking afraid of the dark. I the amount of

960
00:47:05,760 --> 00:47:08,920
Speaker 1: times I travel and I'm alone in my hotel room

961
00:47:08,920 --> 00:47:10,160
Speaker 1: and I'm like, I'm gonna sleep with the TV on

962
00:47:10,320 --> 00:47:12,080
Speaker 1: just so it feels like somebody's here because it's a

963
00:47:12,160 --> 00:47:15,680
Speaker 1: little scary in here. That's a part of me, you know,

964
00:47:15,760 --> 00:47:18,399
Speaker 1: that's a part of me that's still trying to figure

965
00:47:18,440 --> 00:47:20,480
Speaker 1: things out, still feels a little lonely, that stuffels a

966
00:47:20,480 --> 00:47:24,040
Speaker 1: little lost. There's the boss part of me that feels

967
00:47:24,040 --> 00:47:26,920
Speaker 1: super empowered and feels like such a visionary over the

968
00:47:27,000 --> 00:47:30,080
Speaker 1: career that I've built for myself and excited to like

969
00:47:30,280 --> 00:47:33,080
Speaker 1: continue to attack these like parts of the industry that

970
00:47:33,680 --> 00:47:36,200
Speaker 1: quite literally need to just be broken down, you know,

971
00:47:36,440 --> 00:47:38,400
Speaker 1: so more more of me can get in there. When

972
00:47:38,440 --> 00:47:40,600
Speaker 1: I say more of me, I mean other powerful women

973
00:47:41,040 --> 00:47:43,879
Speaker 1: who have you know, so much talent and so much

974
00:47:44,480 --> 00:47:46,560
Speaker 1: just to offer in these spaces.

975
00:47:46,880 --> 00:47:49,239
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's it's beautiful. I love the parts work.

976
00:47:49,560 --> 00:47:52,319
Speaker 2: Yeah no, And it's so beautiful to hear someone talk

977
00:47:52,360 --> 00:47:56,120
Speaker 2: about it so thoroughly and thoughtfully. And I think when

978
00:47:56,160 --> 00:47:59,759
Speaker 2: you can articulate something effectively, it means you're more likely

979
00:47:59,840 --> 00:48:01,480
Speaker 2: to be able to process it out here.

980
00:48:02,200 --> 00:48:05,319
Speaker 1: Yeah, right, when you can the feeling part yea though,

981
00:48:05,719 --> 00:48:07,879
Speaker 1: that's that's the other part, because I really I learned

982
00:48:07,960 --> 00:48:10,120
Speaker 1: this from myself. It's like, Becket, you're really good at

983
00:48:10,160 --> 00:48:15,000
Speaker 1: intellectualizing your feelings, but do you feel them? Cue the tears,

984
00:48:15,320 --> 00:48:18,720
Speaker 1: Like I on purpose sometimes have to like get myself

985
00:48:18,760 --> 00:48:23,520
Speaker 1: to that space to release because the body keeps count.

986
00:48:23,600 --> 00:48:26,200
Speaker 1: The body keeps score of all of what you go through,

987
00:48:26,239 --> 00:48:27,640
Speaker 1: so you can be like, yeah, I was really stressed.

988
00:48:27,640 --> 00:48:29,440
Speaker 1: I was really if you don't allow your body to

989
00:48:29,600 --> 00:48:34,360
Speaker 1: feel it somatically, like, that's the other thing that for me,

990
00:48:34,480 --> 00:48:37,320
Speaker 1: I think I find myself like that was the manifestation

991
00:48:37,440 --> 00:48:41,120
Speaker 1: of the panic attacks and things like that, Like, oh right,

992
00:48:41,239 --> 00:48:45,360
Speaker 1: anxiety depression. They're not the diagnosis, they're the result of

993
00:48:47,000 --> 00:48:51,040
Speaker 1: That was like whoa big knowledge for me because I

994
00:48:51,120 --> 00:48:52,920
Speaker 1: was like, oh, yeah, I just have anxiety depression and

995
00:48:52,920 --> 00:48:55,960
Speaker 1: it's normal, Like I just have patic attacks all the time.

996
00:48:56,280 --> 00:48:59,040
Speaker 1: Like no, your body is telling you something, you are

997
00:48:59,120 --> 00:49:02,880
Speaker 1: processing something that you aren't letting your body feel.

998
00:49:03,560 --> 00:49:03,719
Speaker 4: You know.

999
00:49:04,800 --> 00:49:08,080
Speaker 2: It's again a hard reality because allowing yourself to feel

1000
00:49:08,120 --> 00:49:10,800
Speaker 2: it again. Is it almost goes back to that giving permission,

1001
00:49:11,280 --> 00:49:14,160
Speaker 2: just giving ourselves permission to feel, giving ourselves permission to

1002
00:49:14,760 --> 00:49:19,480
Speaker 2: process something, giving ourselves permission to allow for this paradox

1003
00:49:19,600 --> 00:49:23,120
Speaker 2: to exist. When was the last time you cried this morning? Yeah?

1004
00:49:23,320 --> 00:49:26,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's why I'm not crying right now. No, truly,

1005
00:49:27,080 --> 00:49:31,399
Speaker 1: truthfully speaking, it was this morning. It's such a stressful time,

1006
00:49:31,960 --> 00:49:34,200
Speaker 1: you know, and it's a time where I feel like

1007
00:49:34,320 --> 00:49:37,520
Speaker 1: in my career it's funny to me. I'm like, I

1008
00:49:37,760 --> 00:49:39,680
Speaker 1: can walk off a stage and feel like, oh I

1009
00:49:39,760 --> 00:49:41,319
Speaker 1: want to do that all over again, and then leading

1010
00:49:41,400 --> 00:49:42,960
Speaker 1: up to a performance, I'm like, why do I do

1011
00:49:43,120 --> 00:49:46,719
Speaker 1: this to myself? This is torturous? And I never but

1012
00:49:47,239 --> 00:49:51,719
Speaker 1: I like to think that I always regret not working out.

1013
00:49:51,960 --> 00:49:54,239
Speaker 1: I never regret the workout, And so I tried to

1014
00:49:54,320 --> 00:49:58,480
Speaker 1: think about that way in my life, like, oh, I

1015
00:49:58,600 --> 00:49:59,560
Speaker 1: gotta do hard thing.

1016
00:49:59,640 --> 00:50:02,120
Speaker 3: I was designed to do hard things, you know.

1017
00:50:02,600 --> 00:50:06,759
Speaker 1: But even then, acknowledging that it's hard is super important

1018
00:50:06,800 --> 00:50:09,360
Speaker 1: because then you can have that compassion and empathy for yourself.

1019
00:50:09,400 --> 00:50:11,880
Speaker 3: But if you don't acknowledge that it can you very challenging.

1020
00:50:12,560 --> 00:50:15,000
Speaker 1: You're not going to leave any room for that compassion

1021
00:50:15,080 --> 00:50:16,960
Speaker 1: and that empathy that you need to have for yourself

1022
00:50:17,000 --> 00:50:19,440
Speaker 1: in order to do those hard things. And so, yeah,

1023
00:50:19,520 --> 00:50:21,840
Speaker 1: your girl was crying. It was a full moon, it

1024
00:50:22,000 --> 00:50:23,839
Speaker 1: was it was all kinds of things, but it was good.

1025
00:50:23,920 --> 00:50:26,040
Speaker 1: It was a good cry. Like it's not always like

1026
00:50:26,360 --> 00:50:29,680
Speaker 1: a sad cry. Sometimes it's like a release, like a

1027
00:50:30,520 --> 00:50:31,600
Speaker 1: sense of relief, you know.

1028
00:50:31,840 --> 00:50:35,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's really interesting that if someone's natural reaction to

1029
00:50:35,520 --> 00:50:38,520
Speaker 2: something was to laugh, we'd see that as normal, But

1030
00:50:38,600 --> 00:50:41,560
Speaker 2: when someone's natural reaction to something is to cry, we

1031
00:50:41,680 --> 00:50:42,439
Speaker 2: see that as wrong.

1032
00:50:42,680 --> 00:50:42,839
Speaker 1: Yep.

1033
00:50:43,000 --> 00:50:45,319
Speaker 2: Or it's like stop crying, everything will be okay. We'd

1034
00:50:45,360 --> 00:50:48,000
Speaker 2: never say someone stop laughing, everything will be okay, right,

1035
00:50:48,280 --> 00:50:51,480
Speaker 2: or everything is okay. Like, it's really interesting to me

1036
00:50:51,560 --> 00:50:54,400
Speaker 2: which emotions we allow for in society and which emotions

1037
00:50:54,480 --> 00:50:58,279
Speaker 2: we try and block others and ourselves from having. And

1038
00:50:58,400 --> 00:51:01,000
Speaker 2: I find that the more we try and stop others

1039
00:51:01,040 --> 00:51:03,840
Speaker 2: from having a certain emotion, it's usually because we blocked

1040
00:51:03,880 --> 00:51:08,279
Speaker 2: that in ourselves for a long long time. And I

1041
00:51:08,400 --> 00:51:10,080
Speaker 2: love that you cried this morning, and that that was

1042
00:51:10,120 --> 00:51:11,719
Speaker 2: a release for you and it is helpful for you

1043
00:51:11,800 --> 00:51:14,400
Speaker 2: and it's powerful. Yeah, I think it's And I'm so

1044
00:51:14,480 --> 00:51:16,560
Speaker 2: glad you shared that with us today as well, because

1045
00:51:16,920 --> 00:51:21,000
Speaker 2: at the moment, we're experiencing a really vibrant, abundant with

1046
00:51:21,160 --> 00:51:24,120
Speaker 2: your frequency. And the interesting thing is when you were crying,

1047
00:51:24,200 --> 00:51:26,759
Speaker 2: you were still vibrant and abundant, Like we shouldn't see

1048
00:51:26,800 --> 00:51:29,840
Speaker 2: that as not that right just because it looks different.

1049
00:51:30,320 --> 00:51:32,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, definitely, And I think it's like it goes back

1050
00:51:33,000 --> 00:51:36,560
Speaker 1: to like those core those core emotions, you know, really understanding,

1051
00:51:36,760 --> 00:51:39,800
Speaker 1: like again, what are the symptoms of those core emotions

1052
00:51:39,880 --> 00:51:42,360
Speaker 1: And when I'm feeling this anxiety, when I'm feeling is

1053
00:51:42,400 --> 00:51:44,000
Speaker 1: it coming from a place of fear? And do I

1054
00:51:44,080 --> 00:51:47,040
Speaker 1: just need to talk about it? Or am I experienced

1055
00:51:47,040 --> 00:51:49,120
Speaker 1: such a great joy that my body really doesn't know

1056
00:51:49,160 --> 00:51:51,200
Speaker 1: how to receive this right now, you know? Or am

1057
00:51:51,200 --> 00:51:53,640
Speaker 1: I experiencing both because there's two things going on at

1058
00:51:53,640 --> 00:51:57,000
Speaker 1: the same time. And I think it's doing that that

1059
00:51:57,200 --> 00:51:59,840
Speaker 1: check in with yourself is super important making time for it,

1060
00:52:00,400 --> 00:52:02,840
Speaker 1: you know, Like I genuinely made time to cry today,

1061
00:52:03,000 --> 00:52:05,160
Speaker 1: and I'm very proud that I did that because I

1062
00:52:05,200 --> 00:52:07,280
Speaker 1: would be crying right now, which would have been totally

1063
00:52:07,360 --> 00:52:09,919
Speaker 1: fine as well. But uh, but I think it's also

1064
00:52:10,040 --> 00:52:13,600
Speaker 1: such a it's such a sacred practice for me, not crying,

1065
00:52:13,680 --> 00:52:16,080
Speaker 1: but just checking in with myself that to be able

1066
00:52:16,160 --> 00:52:19,239
Speaker 1: to know how to do that and support myself in

1067
00:52:19,360 --> 00:52:23,080
Speaker 1: that way instead of seeking it again in a space

1068
00:52:23,160 --> 00:52:25,920
Speaker 1: of validation when it feels too late and more reactive

1069
00:52:27,239 --> 00:52:30,120
Speaker 1: or from people who maybe don't know how to do that.

1070
00:52:30,320 --> 00:52:34,040
Speaker 1: For me, it feels empowering to know, oh, I got me,

1071
00:52:34,480 --> 00:52:36,080
Speaker 1: I always got me, you know.

1072
00:52:36,760 --> 00:52:38,600
Speaker 2: Oh, I mean if we could all just feel like

1073
00:52:38,760 --> 00:52:39,640
Speaker 2: I've always got me.

1074
00:52:40,160 --> 00:52:42,239
Speaker 1: And we don't all the time. Like I said, it's

1075
00:52:42,320 --> 00:52:44,759
Speaker 1: it's a it's a it's a daily practice to make

1076
00:52:44,800 --> 00:52:47,360
Speaker 1: that effort. And even then I fall short, you know,

1077
00:52:47,560 --> 00:52:50,879
Speaker 1: I've fallen traded in for friends and family members of mine,

1078
00:52:51,000 --> 00:52:53,520
Speaker 1: and I think that's that's when our human really shows,

1079
00:52:54,160 --> 00:52:57,239
Speaker 1: you know, like there's that window of tolerance and we

1080
00:52:57,360 --> 00:52:59,680
Speaker 1: can try to expand it as much as possible, but

1081
00:52:59,719 --> 00:53:02,240
Speaker 1: there's it's still a window, you know, Like it's still

1082
00:53:02,280 --> 00:53:04,320
Speaker 1: a window, and some days it's this big, and some

1083
00:53:04,440 --> 00:53:07,279
Speaker 1: days I could be this big, And so it's just

1084
00:53:07,360 --> 00:53:10,520
Speaker 1: like acknowledging and then expressing that too, just letting your hey,

1085
00:53:10,760 --> 00:53:11,840
Speaker 1: my windows, my.

1086
00:53:11,880 --> 00:53:12,840
Speaker 3: Wind does really small.

1087
00:53:13,040 --> 00:53:17,600
Speaker 1: Same it's Becky's size, or sometimes it's just like my

1088
00:53:17,719 --> 00:53:19,440
Speaker 1: window is big. We could fit a whole house to

1089
00:53:19,560 --> 00:53:23,000
Speaker 1: that thing. You know, everybody, come on in. It's nice

1090
00:53:23,080 --> 00:53:24,800
Speaker 1: to just be able to vibe check like that.

1091
00:53:25,080 --> 00:53:28,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, And that's that daily as you use the word inventory,

1092
00:53:28,160 --> 00:53:30,600
Speaker 2: that daily check in of like where am I at?

1093
00:53:30,800 --> 00:53:34,080
Speaker 2: How am I feeling? What can I offer? Is today

1094
00:53:34,239 --> 00:53:37,000
Speaker 2: a internal day or an external day?

1095
00:53:37,120 --> 00:53:37,160
Speaker 1: Like?

1096
00:53:37,280 --> 00:53:39,120
Speaker 2: I do that all the time too. There are certain

1097
00:53:39,200 --> 00:53:42,640
Speaker 2: days where I can literally be there for anyone and everyone,

1098
00:53:42,800 --> 00:53:46,279
Speaker 2: and I am this outward person, and then there are

1099
00:53:46,360 --> 00:53:48,320
Speaker 2: days where I just want to be alone and be

1100
00:53:48,440 --> 00:53:51,759
Speaker 2: in silence and stillness and being able to accept that

1101
00:53:51,880 --> 00:53:54,839
Speaker 2: they're both one and the same thing. Yes, that one

1102
00:53:54,960 --> 00:53:57,400
Speaker 2: is not a better expression of me and one is

1103
00:53:57,480 --> 00:54:00,279
Speaker 2: not a worse expression of me. I think we live

1104
00:54:00,320 --> 00:54:02,359
Speaker 2: in this world of what's right and wrong and better?

1105
00:54:03,120 --> 00:54:05,120
Speaker 3: Ye I can't.

1106
00:54:05,280 --> 00:54:06,960
Speaker 1: That's what I mean about the black and white thinking

1107
00:54:07,560 --> 00:54:11,240
Speaker 1: that I was talking about earlier. And uh, what's that story?

1108
00:54:11,320 --> 00:54:14,759
Speaker 1: There's a story about the man and he says, well,

1109
00:54:14,760 --> 00:54:16,200
Speaker 1: we'll just have to wait and see.

1110
00:54:16,400 --> 00:54:18,640
Speaker 3: Basically, I'm totally.

1111
00:54:20,320 --> 00:54:22,560
Speaker 1: Is. He's like a father and his son and this

1112
00:54:22,719 --> 00:54:25,280
Speaker 1: thing happens and then they're like, oh, I'm so sorry,

1113
00:54:25,360 --> 00:54:27,560
Speaker 1: and he's like, well, we'll see, you know, we'll see.

1114
00:54:27,800 --> 00:54:29,600
Speaker 1: And it actually, you know, there's so many things that

1115
00:54:29,680 --> 00:54:32,600
Speaker 1: you think are a bad thing, right quote unquote, bad

1116
00:54:32,640 --> 00:54:34,480
Speaker 1: things that are happening, but in reality it's a good thing.

1117
00:54:35,080 --> 00:54:37,600
Speaker 1: And uh and then maybe maybe it turns out to

1118
00:54:37,680 --> 00:54:39,520
Speaker 1: not be a good thing, and you just never know,

1119
00:54:39,920 --> 00:54:42,720
Speaker 1: you know. But I like to think, uh that everything

1120
00:54:42,840 --> 00:54:46,279
Speaker 1: happens for you, not to you, Like that is my

1121
00:54:46,840 --> 00:54:50,240
Speaker 1: that is my my mojo. These days, everything is happening

1122
00:54:50,360 --> 00:54:53,560
Speaker 1: for me, not to me. And it's interesting how you're

1123
00:54:54,080 --> 00:54:57,440
Speaker 1: the way you exist in those spaces will actually shift

1124
00:54:57,680 --> 00:54:59,480
Speaker 1: because you realize.

1125
00:54:58,960 --> 00:55:00,360
Speaker 3: Oh, this is in my favor.

1126
00:55:01,080 --> 00:55:03,839
Speaker 1: I'm supposed to learn something from this, you know, I'm

1127
00:55:03,880 --> 00:55:07,160
Speaker 1: supposed to like gain something from this. And that's why

1128
00:55:07,280 --> 00:55:10,400
Speaker 1: the whole concept of failure and success, like navigating this

1129
00:55:10,560 --> 00:55:12,000
Speaker 1: industry is in such a young age.

1130
00:55:12,360 --> 00:55:13,600
Speaker 3: There's songs of mine.

1131
00:55:13,400 --> 00:55:15,880
Speaker 1: That I love that I thought deserved to be the

1132
00:55:16,080 --> 00:55:19,880
Speaker 1: number one song and they're probably like the lowest streaming whatever,

1133
00:55:20,080 --> 00:55:21,960
Speaker 1: you know, but it's like, what it means to me

1134
00:55:22,200 --> 00:55:24,320
Speaker 1: is a win, Like that is a success to me,

1135
00:55:24,440 --> 00:55:27,880
Speaker 1: that's not a failure, you know. And so is like

1136
00:55:28,120 --> 00:55:33,400
Speaker 1: redefining what success means to you, redefining what greatness is.

1137
00:55:33,560 --> 00:55:37,480
Speaker 1: It's redefining what all of the stuff that life has

1138
00:55:37,640 --> 00:55:40,560
Speaker 1: to offer, and saying no, this is happening for me,

1139
00:55:41,040 --> 00:55:45,160
Speaker 1: not to me, for me, I just think it's so yeah.

1140
00:55:45,320 --> 00:55:47,759
Speaker 2: Yeah, for anyone who's wondering. The story that Becky was

1141
00:55:47,800 --> 00:55:51,960
Speaker 2: referring to, which please encapsulated that point. It's a beautiful

1142
00:55:52,040 --> 00:55:56,040
Speaker 2: zend story about a man and his son, and the

1143
00:55:56,160 --> 00:55:59,160
Speaker 2: man buys his son a horse. Well, actually, his son

1144
00:55:59,239 --> 00:56:02,000
Speaker 2: finds a horse, I believe, and comes home riding this

1145
00:56:02,200 --> 00:56:04,920
Speaker 2: beautiful horse, and all the villagers are like, wow, this

1146
00:56:05,120 --> 00:56:08,520
Speaker 2: is amazing, Like he's just so incredible that he could

1147
00:56:08,560 --> 00:56:11,120
Speaker 2: tame this wild horse. And now he's riding in. Look

1148
00:56:11,160 --> 00:56:14,360
Speaker 2: how elegant it is. And the man said the father says,

1149
00:56:14,719 --> 00:56:18,200
Speaker 2: good thing, bad thing? Who knows? Or maybe let's see.

1150
00:56:18,960 --> 00:56:21,480
Speaker 2: And then the next thing that happens is that the

1151
00:56:21,560 --> 00:56:23,520
Speaker 2: son's riding the horse, and then he gets thrown off

1152
00:56:23,560 --> 00:56:25,680
Speaker 2: the horse. And when he gets thrown off the horse,

1153
00:56:26,040 --> 00:56:28,279
Speaker 2: his leg gets fractured and he has to have on

1154
00:56:28,400 --> 00:56:30,880
Speaker 2: operation and surgery and whatever else, and everyone in the

1155
00:56:30,960 --> 00:56:32,399
Speaker 2: village is like, oh my god, this is the worst

1156
00:56:32,440 --> 00:56:34,279
Speaker 2: thing that's ever happened. Oh no, oh no, oh no,

1157
00:56:34,400 --> 00:56:36,959
Speaker 2: and the man says good thing, bad thing, who knows?

1158
00:56:37,200 --> 00:56:40,600
Speaker 2: Or maybe let's see. And then after that they come

1159
00:56:40,640 --> 00:56:43,719
Speaker 2: and recruit everyone in the village to join the army

1160
00:56:43,800 --> 00:56:46,600
Speaker 2: because they've got to defend themselves. But this guy can't go,

1161
00:56:46,719 --> 00:56:48,919
Speaker 2: and everyone's like, you're so lucky your son's not going

1162
00:56:49,000 --> 00:56:51,719
Speaker 2: because his leg's broken. All of our sons have gone,

1163
00:56:51,719 --> 00:56:53,440
Speaker 2: We're going to miss them. And the man says good thing,

1164
00:56:53,520 --> 00:56:55,759
Speaker 2: bad thing, who knows, or maybe let's see, And it

1165
00:56:55,840 --> 00:56:59,200
Speaker 2: continues that way that it's and it's really hard in

1166
00:56:59,239 --> 00:57:02,400
Speaker 2: the moment to live that way because when it feels like,

1167
00:57:02,600 --> 00:57:05,279
Speaker 2: because our mind has been trained in that good and bad,

1168
00:57:06,080 --> 00:57:10,799
Speaker 2: when something bad is happening, it feels like nothing good

1169
00:57:10,880 --> 00:57:13,160
Speaker 2: can come from it. And the interesting thing is when

1170
00:57:13,200 --> 00:57:17,440
Speaker 2: something good happens, we're also equally convinced nothing bad can

1171
00:57:17,520 --> 00:57:20,480
Speaker 2: come from this. And the truth is those two moments

1172
00:57:20,600 --> 00:57:23,920
Speaker 2: can switch so quickly, and I've been at the intersection

1173
00:57:24,040 --> 00:57:25,600
Speaker 2: of both of them in my life, and I've just

1174
00:57:25,720 --> 00:57:29,360
Speaker 2: found that not seeing things as good or bad, but

1175
00:57:29,520 --> 00:57:33,440
Speaker 2: seeing them as just learning and lessons and healing and growth,

1176
00:57:34,680 --> 00:57:37,000
Speaker 2: and what you just said which is that it's all

1177
00:57:37,000 --> 00:57:40,520
Speaker 2: about what's happening for us. If we can just live

1178
00:57:40,600 --> 00:57:44,240
Speaker 2: in that way, it's better than the dichotomy of good

1179
00:57:44,280 --> 00:57:45,640
Speaker 2: and bad, positive and negative.

1180
00:57:45,920 --> 00:57:47,720
Speaker 3: Oh Jay, shutty ladies and gentlemen.

1181
00:57:48,080 --> 00:57:52,640
Speaker 1: Na I just yeah, yeah, I mean, you definitely told

1182
00:57:52,680 --> 00:57:56,280
Speaker 1: the story better than either. I'm no, but I really

1183
00:57:56,320 --> 00:57:58,840
Speaker 1: appreciate you going into that that much detail, because I

1184
00:57:58,960 --> 00:58:03,760
Speaker 1: think that is I wish that for the future generations

1185
00:58:03,840 --> 00:58:06,720
Speaker 1: to really know that, to really know that there is

1186
00:58:06,840 --> 00:58:09,880
Speaker 1: no such thing as good or bad. There's just you

1187
00:58:11,080 --> 00:58:14,560
Speaker 1: just doing what you can do for yourself whatever that

1188
00:58:14,680 --> 00:58:18,080
Speaker 1: looks like, you know. And unfortunately, I think what happens

1189
00:58:18,160 --> 00:58:20,360
Speaker 1: for a lot of youth that grows up in you know,

1190
00:58:20,880 --> 00:58:23,040
Speaker 1: communities like the ones I grew up in, it's like

1191
00:58:23,680 --> 00:58:26,480
Speaker 1: we're doing a lot of things that we were never taught,

1192
00:58:27,800 --> 00:58:29,720
Speaker 1: you know, like we're doing a lot of things that

1193
00:58:29,760 --> 00:58:32,120
Speaker 1: we were never taught, and so there's a lot of

1194
00:58:32,440 --> 00:58:34,640
Speaker 1: like self doubt that creeps in.

1195
00:58:34,920 --> 00:58:36,760
Speaker 3: There's a lot of shame that creeps in.

1196
00:58:37,040 --> 00:58:39,760
Speaker 1: There's a lot of oh, you know, do I trust

1197
00:58:39,840 --> 00:58:41,960
Speaker 1: myself or do I just stay where I'm comfortable, And

1198
00:58:42,040 --> 00:58:44,800
Speaker 1: it's just like, nah, just just do the best that

1199
00:58:44,920 --> 00:58:47,200
Speaker 1: you can whatever that looks like, just do the best

1200
00:58:47,240 --> 00:58:50,000
Speaker 1: that you can, you know, And I feel proud that

1201
00:58:50,040 --> 00:58:51,560
Speaker 1: there's moments in my life that I can look back

1202
00:58:51,640 --> 00:58:53,520
Speaker 1: and say, wow, I really I really showed.

1203
00:58:53,360 --> 00:58:55,760
Speaker 3: Up for myself, you know, the best way I knew

1204
00:58:55,800 --> 00:58:56,000
Speaker 3: how to.

1205
00:58:57,160 --> 00:58:59,840
Speaker 1: Maybe would look a little different today, but even then,

1206
00:59:00,280 --> 00:59:03,720
Speaker 1: like very proud, nonetheless, And so yeah, I hope that

1207
00:59:03,800 --> 00:59:06,160
Speaker 1: for the future generations that they leave room for themselves

1208
00:59:06,200 --> 00:59:08,880
Speaker 1: to know that good thing, bad thing. I don't know,

1209
00:59:09,120 --> 00:59:09,760
Speaker 1: guess we'll see.

1210
00:59:10,040 --> 00:59:13,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, And you know it's you know what's

1211
00:59:13,280 --> 00:59:15,600
Speaker 2: really interesting back Yeah, obviously I went. So I went

1212
00:59:15,640 --> 00:59:18,040
Speaker 2: on tour for the first time this year my book.

1213
00:59:18,280 --> 00:59:20,000
Speaker 1: It was what you just did.

1214
00:59:20,360 --> 00:59:22,880
Speaker 2: It was hard and grueling and exhausting and at the

1215
00:59:22,920 --> 00:59:26,720
Speaker 2: same time the most fulfilling, beautiful, powerful thing we did.

1216
00:59:27,280 --> 00:59:29,480
Speaker 2: I think it was around just under forty cities across

1217
00:59:29,600 --> 00:59:32,440
Speaker 2: the world, and it was insane as an experience, and

1218
00:59:32,920 --> 00:59:35,720
Speaker 2: I'm so grateful I did it. But I couldn't do

1219
00:59:35,760 --> 00:59:38,400
Speaker 2: anything else but that for the time that I was out.

1220
00:59:38,920 --> 00:59:41,480
Speaker 2: I think overall we did that in like eighty days,

1221
00:59:41,960 --> 00:59:43,320
Speaker 2: all of that, and it was it was a lot

1222
00:59:43,400 --> 00:59:46,360
Speaker 2: of travel and everything else, but I was obviously touring

1223
00:59:46,440 --> 00:59:49,720
Speaker 2: for my book Eight Rules of Love, and it was

1224
00:59:49,800 --> 00:59:53,480
Speaker 2: really interesting to me because there were there were lots

1225
00:59:53,520 --> 00:59:55,240
Speaker 2: of moments. So the difference about for those of you

1226
00:59:55,320 --> 00:59:57,120
Speaker 2: who came to my show you already know, but it

1227
00:59:57,320 --> 01:00:00,400
Speaker 2: wasn't a speech or a lecture. It was truly like

1228
01:00:00,440 --> 01:00:03,080
Speaker 2: a social experiment where I would take people up from

1229
01:00:03,120 --> 01:00:07,200
Speaker 2: the audience. People would be in uncomfortable situations, that'd be humor.

1230
01:00:07,400 --> 01:00:10,000
Speaker 2: There were moments where people were sharing their story with

1231
01:00:10,200 --> 01:00:12,600
Speaker 2: the entire you know, thousands of people in the room.

1232
01:00:13,320 --> 01:00:15,880
Speaker 2: I was really moving. And there was one area where

1233
01:00:16,520 --> 01:00:18,040
Speaker 2: we've really focused a lot on, and it was this

1234
01:00:18,200 --> 01:00:22,520
Speaker 2: idea of how the biggest space we lose ourselves is

1235
01:00:22,600 --> 01:00:26,480
Speaker 2: often in romantic relationships, and romantic relationships tend to be

1236
01:00:26,560 --> 01:00:30,400
Speaker 2: the relationships where we invest the most of us and

1237
01:00:31,000 --> 01:00:35,280
Speaker 2: often find that we leave feeling the most broken or

1238
01:00:35,360 --> 01:00:37,160
Speaker 2: hurt or whatever it may have been. And I wanted

1239
01:00:37,200 --> 01:00:39,560
Speaker 2: to ask you, like, how have you looked at healing

1240
01:00:40,080 --> 01:00:42,520
Speaker 2: through romantic relationships that you've had. We've talked a lot

1241
01:00:42,520 --> 01:00:48,160
Speaker 2: about platonic friendship, family, and life, but romantic relationships tend

1242
01:00:48,200 --> 01:00:50,120
Speaker 2: to affect us deeper. I don't know if you agree

1243
01:00:50,160 --> 01:00:52,560
Speaker 2: with that or feel that way, but yeah, I.

1244
01:00:52,600 --> 01:00:53,800
Speaker 1: Mean I'm a sucker for love.

1245
01:00:53,880 --> 01:00:55,360
Speaker 2: I love much so much.

1246
01:00:55,520 --> 01:00:58,200
Speaker 1: I'm excited to talk about this with you because I

1247
01:00:58,280 --> 01:01:00,240
Speaker 1: know you are, and I think for me, it's it

1248
01:01:00,520 --> 01:01:02,920
Speaker 1: doesn't get any closer to your heart than that. You know,

1249
01:01:03,080 --> 01:01:07,280
Speaker 1: this is the type of experience that isn't uh, that's

1250
01:01:07,600 --> 01:01:10,760
Speaker 1: actually chosen. You're not born into, you know, you're not

1251
01:01:11,840 --> 01:01:12,720
Speaker 1: placed into.

1252
01:01:13,040 --> 01:01:14,800
Speaker 3: This is a space of choice.

1253
01:01:15,360 --> 01:01:19,040
Speaker 1: I enjoy this person, I enjoy the time that's spent

1254
01:01:19,120 --> 01:01:22,000
Speaker 1: with this person, and I think that there's so much

1255
01:01:22,400 --> 01:01:25,600
Speaker 1: to be revealed in a dynamic like that about yourself,

1256
01:01:26,400 --> 01:01:28,640
Speaker 1: and you don't realize it because sometimes you're so focused

1257
01:01:28,680 --> 01:01:30,800
Speaker 1: on the other person on the other side that when

1258
01:01:30,840 --> 01:01:33,960
Speaker 1: you realize, like, oh, this is actually about me too,

1259
01:01:34,920 --> 01:01:37,800
Speaker 1: you know, it's as close.

1260
01:01:37,560 --> 01:01:38,640
Speaker 3: To your heart as it gets.

1261
01:01:38,680 --> 01:01:42,640
Speaker 1: And I think my healing in that is the deepest

1262
01:01:42,680 --> 01:01:45,160
Speaker 1: it's gotten of how do I exist in these spaces,

1263
01:01:45,880 --> 01:01:49,240
Speaker 1: you know, the self accountability part, the self reflective part

1264
01:01:49,680 --> 01:01:52,640
Speaker 1: of like what part of me shows up in these

1265
01:01:52,680 --> 01:01:55,400
Speaker 1: spaces and going to the parts work and stuff that

1266
01:01:55,440 --> 01:02:00,760
Speaker 1: I've done in therapy. It's just like, yeah, it's powerful.

1267
01:02:01,040 --> 01:02:03,040
Speaker 1: It's as I think it's it's as powerful as I

1268
01:02:03,080 --> 01:02:03,840
Speaker 1: could ever get.

1269
01:02:04,520 --> 01:02:08,800
Speaker 2: Because it's the most revealing of wekness, of.

1270
01:02:08,840 --> 01:02:12,440
Speaker 1: Your weaknesses, yeah, and your vulnerabilities and and all of

1271
01:02:12,520 --> 01:02:15,959
Speaker 1: that stuff, and also maybe not your weaknesses, but also

1272
01:02:16,040 --> 01:02:18,480
Speaker 1: your strengths. You know, it can show you, like just

1273
01:02:18,560 --> 01:02:22,480
Speaker 1: how strong you are, how giving you can be to someone,

1274
01:02:23,200 --> 01:02:25,760
Speaker 1: finding parts of yourself that you didn't know existed. You know.

1275
01:02:25,920 --> 01:02:28,280
Speaker 1: I think it's a very inspiring space to be in.

1276
01:02:29,240 --> 01:02:31,360
Speaker 1: I was talking, I was to say, talk about this

1277
01:02:31,480 --> 01:02:34,240
Speaker 1: with a friend, but funny enough is somebody who also

1278
01:02:34,280 --> 01:02:36,640
Speaker 1: works in the industry, and she goes, oh, Amiga. I

1279
01:02:36,760 --> 01:02:38,280
Speaker 1: used to be told all the time that I'm so

1280
01:02:38,560 --> 01:02:41,160
Speaker 1: unlucky in love, and I beg the tof I've been

1281
01:02:41,320 --> 01:02:43,240
Speaker 1: so lucky in love, and I'm like, it's that that

1282
01:02:43,480 --> 01:02:46,920
Speaker 1: change of mindset of knowing that, like everything is happening

1283
01:02:47,000 --> 01:02:49,320
Speaker 1: for us, not to us. And I think that when

1284
01:02:49,320 --> 01:02:52,640
Speaker 1: I think of my journey of healing and relationships, you know,

1285
01:02:52,920 --> 01:02:56,640
Speaker 1: some of my earliest relationships and how I existed in them,

1286
01:02:57,240 --> 01:02:59,080
Speaker 1: and then the ones that I've had in like my

1287
01:02:59,560 --> 01:03:03,760
Speaker 1: my you know, teenage years, young adult years, and how

1288
01:03:03,800 --> 01:03:07,680
Speaker 1: they evolve and how you change so much, so much.

1289
01:03:08,280 --> 01:03:11,840
Speaker 2: What have you turned to that you'd encourage other people

1290
01:03:11,920 --> 01:03:16,000
Speaker 2: to turn to find that strength within themselves and that

1291
01:03:16,080 --> 01:03:19,920
Speaker 2: connection with themselves when it almost feels like the foundations

1292
01:03:19,960 --> 01:03:22,000
Speaker 2: are broken, like those three legs are just destroyed.

1293
01:03:22,320 --> 01:03:26,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, well, are the three legs actually destroyed? I think

1294
01:03:26,520 --> 01:03:30,600
Speaker 1: it's like again, it's an opportunity to reflect inward what

1295
01:03:30,800 --> 01:03:32,640
Speaker 1: is real, what is not real, and going back to

1296
01:03:32,760 --> 01:03:35,120
Speaker 1: like what's happening in the real world versus what's happening

1297
01:03:35,200 --> 01:03:38,720
Speaker 1: which happening on social media. It's not always reflective of

1298
01:03:38,800 --> 01:03:42,640
Speaker 1: the same thing, you know, and one's experience, and something

1299
01:03:42,680 --> 01:03:45,640
Speaker 1: can be so different than someone else's, But leaving room

1300
01:03:45,680 --> 01:03:48,320
Speaker 1: for yours is super important. And then also being selective

1301
01:03:48,360 --> 01:03:50,160
Speaker 1: and who you share that with because it is such

1302
01:03:50,160 --> 01:03:52,960
Speaker 1: a sacred thing, you know. And I think that's been

1303
01:03:53,040 --> 01:03:54,880
Speaker 1: one of the most revealing things for me in this

1304
01:03:55,280 --> 01:03:57,960
Speaker 1: you know, chapter of my life is like who do

1305
01:03:58,160 --> 01:04:01,960
Speaker 1: I share with with every thing? Who do I share with?

1306
01:04:02,120 --> 01:04:04,760
Speaker 1: Who deserves to be in these spaces with me.

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01:04:05,200 --> 01:04:11,640
Speaker 4: In my pain, in my peak, in my process, all

1308
01:04:11,680 --> 01:04:17,320
Speaker 4: of those things, like I deserve to have filters, I

1309
01:04:17,560 --> 01:04:20,480
Speaker 4: deserve to hold space, I deserve.

1310
01:04:20,280 --> 01:04:25,280
Speaker 3: To just be and not have to explain, you know.

1311
01:04:25,520 --> 01:04:29,040
Speaker 1: And I think being a person who's grown up on

1312
01:04:29,120 --> 01:04:32,200
Speaker 1: social media, there has been so many times in my

1313
01:04:32,360 --> 01:04:37,640
Speaker 1: life where I've just been like no, no, and then

1314
01:04:38,320 --> 01:04:41,440
Speaker 1: what you say, how you say it, who said it,

1315
01:04:42,280 --> 01:04:45,720
Speaker 1: always gets mixed up, always gets used against you in

1316
01:04:45,800 --> 01:04:48,480
Speaker 1: some shape or form. And I think for me, it's

1317
01:04:48,600 --> 01:04:53,160
Speaker 1: just like no, I'm good because my three legs are

1318
01:04:53,320 --> 01:04:58,160
Speaker 1: They're good, they've been solidified, they're being catered to, they're

1319
01:04:58,240 --> 01:05:01,960
Speaker 1: being taken care of, and and so my table was standing,

1320
01:05:02,440 --> 01:05:05,360
Speaker 1: you know, and I'm proud of that, very proud of that.

1321
01:05:05,720 --> 01:05:08,840
Speaker 2: To me, it's really powerful what you just said now

1322
01:05:08,880 --> 01:05:14,600
Speaker 2: around the idea of we get so lost in a

1323
01:05:14,680 --> 01:05:18,040
Speaker 2: conversation that's happening outside of us that isn't actually reality,

1324
01:05:18,760 --> 01:05:21,040
Speaker 2: and so almost we're looking at the wrong things, we're

1325
01:05:21,120 --> 01:05:24,320
Speaker 2: arguing about the wrong things, where internally having a debate

1326
01:05:24,680 --> 01:05:27,960
Speaker 2: about something that isn't the thing. I actually had a

1327
01:05:28,040 --> 01:05:32,000
Speaker 2: friend I was talking to a week ago and we

1328
01:05:32,120 --> 01:05:36,280
Speaker 2: were discussing, you know, he's been going through some stuff

1329
01:05:37,080 --> 01:05:40,439
Speaker 2: and there was someone in his life that he had

1330
01:05:40,600 --> 01:05:48,040
Speaker 2: some rightful animosity towards right like it would be okay

1331
01:05:48,160 --> 01:05:51,080
Speaker 2: for him to feel this certain way about it, and

1332
01:05:51,600 --> 01:05:55,560
Speaker 2: I was asking him what was the big win and

1333
01:05:55,880 --> 01:06:00,160
Speaker 2: what was the ego win? And I was asking, like,

1334
01:06:00,320 --> 01:06:03,200
Speaker 2: what is really the win in this situation? And he

1335
01:06:03,320 --> 01:06:06,320
Speaker 2: was saying, the win in this situation is that my

1336
01:06:06,480 --> 01:06:08,919
Speaker 2: family member can move on from what they've been going through.

1337
01:06:10,080 --> 01:06:11,720
Speaker 2: And I said, what's the ego win? And the ego

1338
01:06:11,760 --> 01:06:14,760
Speaker 2: win was that person's life is ruined, right, the other

1339
01:06:14,840 --> 01:06:16,960
Speaker 2: person that they were mad at. Yeah, And it was

1340
01:06:16,960 --> 01:06:19,520
Speaker 2: really interesting, like just looking at it from that perspective

1341
01:06:19,560 --> 01:06:24,040
Speaker 2: of like it's natural to have the ego win become

1342
01:06:24,120 --> 01:06:26,520
Speaker 2: strong in a situation. But then when you look at

1343
01:06:26,520 --> 01:06:29,320
Speaker 2: the bigger picture and you zoom out, you're like, oh, actually,

1344
01:06:29,960 --> 01:06:32,360
Speaker 2: now when I make sense of this, that actually is

1345
01:06:32,400 --> 01:06:34,960
Speaker 2: irrelevant to what I really care about. Does that make

1346
01:06:35,000 --> 01:06:35,320
Speaker 2: any sense?

1347
01:06:35,440 --> 01:06:35,600
Speaker 1: Yeah?

1348
01:06:36,960 --> 01:06:40,160
Speaker 2: And so I think, to me, it's I'm always reflecting

1349
01:06:40,200 --> 01:06:42,360
Speaker 2: on that, like what's my ego win in this scenario

1350
01:06:43,320 --> 01:06:46,240
Speaker 2: and what's the bigger win in this scenario? And that

1351
01:06:46,440 --> 01:06:48,200
Speaker 2: only comes when you take a step back and what

1352
01:06:48,320 --> 01:06:50,800
Speaker 2: you said, you look at the reality and you look

1353
01:06:50,880 --> 01:06:53,480
Speaker 2: at the filter that you just talked about. To me,

1354
01:06:53,640 --> 01:06:55,919
Speaker 2: that's the biggest one. And I love how you said.

1355
01:06:55,960 --> 01:06:58,040
Speaker 2: It wasn't just about the pains. It was the peaks

1356
01:06:58,160 --> 01:07:01,360
Speaker 2: it pa. That's so well said. Who's the first person

1357
01:07:01,400 --> 01:07:04,560
Speaker 2: you want to call when you win? And who's the

1358
01:07:04,600 --> 01:07:06,640
Speaker 2: first person you call when you want to lose? Yeah,

1359
01:07:06,880 --> 01:07:07,880
Speaker 2: And there's a filter to that.

1360
01:07:08,040 --> 01:07:12,200
Speaker 1: There's a filter to that on what the qualifications of someone,

1361
01:07:13,160 --> 01:07:16,720
Speaker 1: anyone in any way that comes into your space. And

1362
01:07:16,800 --> 01:07:19,800
Speaker 1: I think, going again, I'm so crazy. Everything goes back

1363
01:07:19,800 --> 01:07:20,840
Speaker 1: to my childhood of just.

1364
01:07:20,880 --> 01:07:24,760
Speaker 3: Being like giving, giving, giving, giving, When do you take.

1365
01:07:26,120 --> 01:07:28,680
Speaker 1: And not take just to take, I mean like receive,

1366
01:07:29,680 --> 01:07:33,000
Speaker 1: you know, like that to me is like the thing

1367
01:07:33,120 --> 01:07:38,200
Speaker 1: to really be just thoughtful about. And so those filters

1368
01:07:38,480 --> 01:07:42,280
Speaker 1: are again constantly being reevaluated for me. And that's why

1369
01:07:42,320 --> 01:07:44,320
Speaker 1: I say growing up. I'm not grown up.

1370
01:07:44,520 --> 01:07:45,400
Speaker 3: I'm growing up.

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01:07:45,640 --> 01:07:48,240
Speaker 1: And I'm sure you know the same way I felt this.

1372
01:07:48,400 --> 01:07:50,720
Speaker 1: I felt such a strong sense of self at sixteen,

1373
01:07:51,440 --> 01:07:54,080
Speaker 1: and I look back at her and I'm like, you

1374
01:07:54,200 --> 01:07:56,120
Speaker 1: better give me some of that. Girlfriend. I don't know

1375
01:07:56,200 --> 01:07:58,120
Speaker 1: what that was or what you was on, but you were.

1376
01:07:58,280 --> 01:08:02,160
Speaker 1: You were locked in but also not aware of what

1377
01:08:02,400 --> 01:08:03,840
Speaker 1: was really out there in the world. And so you

1378
01:08:03,920 --> 01:08:05,640
Speaker 1: go out in the world and you see what's out there,

1379
01:08:05,680 --> 01:08:07,480
Speaker 1: and you're learning and you're adapting and you're taking all

1380
01:08:07,520 --> 01:08:09,640
Speaker 1: these things in and things start to feel a little different.

1381
01:08:09,680 --> 01:08:13,560
Speaker 1: Your surroundings, your circumstances, they all shift. And then you

1382
01:08:13,640 --> 01:08:15,400
Speaker 1: know that this is how I feel at twenty six

1383
01:08:15,440 --> 01:08:16,960
Speaker 1: whouse you say, I'm not gonna feel any different one

1384
01:08:16,960 --> 01:08:19,760
Speaker 1: I'm thirty six, you know, and then forty six and

1385
01:08:19,960 --> 01:08:22,360
Speaker 1: so on, And so I think just like leaving room

1386
01:08:22,479 --> 01:08:25,720
Speaker 1: again for that, like that humanness and that being in

1387
01:08:25,880 --> 01:08:29,879
Speaker 1: process and the filters, you know, like not the filters

1388
01:08:29,920 --> 01:08:32,840
Speaker 1: we see on social media, but the real filters that matter.

1389
01:08:33,240 --> 01:08:33,400
Speaker 1: You know.

1390
01:08:33,720 --> 01:08:35,120
Speaker 3: We can't just be drinking any water.

1391
01:08:36,080 --> 01:08:37,679
Speaker 1: You can't just drink any You think you're really sick

1392
01:08:37,720 --> 01:08:40,559
Speaker 1: by drinking just any water, you know. But if also

1393
01:08:40,560 --> 01:08:42,479
Speaker 1: if you just drink only purified water, you're not getting

1394
01:08:42,479 --> 01:08:44,640
Speaker 1: the minerals that you need. You're not getting you know,

1395
01:08:44,800 --> 01:08:47,760
Speaker 1: So you can't you can't be too guarded, yeah, because

1396
01:08:47,800 --> 01:08:50,240
Speaker 1: then that's a very lonely space to live in, you know,

1397
01:08:50,600 --> 01:08:53,160
Speaker 1: to have these walls that no one could ever get through.

1398
01:08:54,160 --> 01:08:58,160
Speaker 1: But if you have no walls, you have no no boundaries,

1399
01:08:58,360 --> 01:09:01,439
Speaker 1: no anything, and everyone and anyone can come in whenever

1400
01:09:01,479 --> 01:09:02,920
Speaker 1: they want to. I don't think that's a way to

1401
01:09:03,000 --> 01:09:07,559
Speaker 1: live life either, you know. So I like to think

1402
01:09:07,640 --> 01:09:12,560
Speaker 1: of the house that I was born into had no roof. Sometimes,

1403
01:09:12,760 --> 01:09:16,080
Speaker 1: you know, maybe some of the doors were a little funky.

1404
01:09:16,160 --> 01:09:18,640
Speaker 1: There's no locks on the doors, and the windows are

1405
01:09:18,640 --> 01:09:21,400
Speaker 1: a little broken, but there because of time where you

1406
01:09:21,439 --> 01:09:22,760
Speaker 1: grow up and you can say, I don't have to

1407
01:09:22,800 --> 01:09:25,560
Speaker 1: live in this house anymore. I can go build a

1408
01:09:25,600 --> 01:09:29,240
Speaker 1: new house. I can build my own house where the

1409
01:09:29,320 --> 01:09:31,320
Speaker 1: windows I can open and close them as I want

1410
01:09:31,400 --> 01:09:34,639
Speaker 1: to check the blinds or let in the light. There's

1411
01:09:34,720 --> 01:09:37,519
Speaker 1: locks on my doors. I can let people in and

1412
01:09:37,640 --> 01:09:41,160
Speaker 1: share in my space and share a meal with them,

1413
01:09:41,400 --> 01:09:44,200
Speaker 1: and even if they'd like to move into my house,

1414
01:09:44,360 --> 01:09:46,919
Speaker 1: because I'd choose for them to be in that house. Beautiful.

1415
01:09:47,320 --> 01:09:49,040
Speaker 1: But also there's locks on my doors, so not just

1416
01:09:49,120 --> 01:09:52,479
Speaker 1: anybody can come into my house, you know, knowing that,

1417
01:09:52,760 --> 01:09:56,040
Speaker 1: knowing that I've provided a roof over my head, that yeah,

1418
01:09:56,080 --> 01:10:00,200
Speaker 1: if it rains, we're good, We're fine, you know, can

1419
01:10:00,360 --> 01:10:04,439
Speaker 1: it can come crashing down and I will be safe.

1420
01:10:05,160 --> 01:10:06,559
Speaker 3: I think that's that's beautiful.

1421
01:10:06,680 --> 01:10:10,800
Speaker 1: Like we're all building our own houses that look very

1422
01:10:10,920 --> 01:10:12,680
Speaker 1: different than the houses we grew up in.

1423
01:10:13,280 --> 01:10:16,719
Speaker 2: That is so powerful. Becky gus up and shoulder.

1424
01:10:16,840 --> 01:10:17,680
Speaker 1: That was like, thank you.

1425
01:10:18,040 --> 01:10:20,760
Speaker 2: That was no, that was so powerful, Like I love

1426
01:10:20,920 --> 01:10:23,920
Speaker 2: that analogy. It's so it's so true. There are some

1427
01:10:24,000 --> 01:10:26,960
Speaker 2: people you only meet in restaurants. There are some people

1428
01:10:27,000 --> 01:10:29,120
Speaker 2: who make it to the porch of the front door.

1429
01:10:29,680 --> 01:10:31,280
Speaker 2: There are some people who make it inside to the

1430
01:10:31,320 --> 01:10:33,680
Speaker 2: living room. There are some people who you'll cook a

1431
01:10:33,760 --> 01:10:36,840
Speaker 2: meal for, some people just order in for. And there's

1432
01:10:36,880 --> 01:10:40,400
Speaker 2: some people who not everyone's allowed into your private spaces,

1433
01:10:40,439 --> 01:10:42,920
Speaker 2: your bedroom, you know. Like I think for people to

1434
01:10:43,160 --> 01:10:46,920
Speaker 2: know that they can set how intimate they want to

1435
01:10:47,040 --> 01:10:51,599
Speaker 2: be with different people and that there isn't a policy

1436
01:10:52,439 --> 01:10:54,720
Speaker 2: that exists outside of that. It's something you have to

1437
01:10:54,760 --> 01:10:59,000
Speaker 2: set for yourself. Is such an important thing to remind

1438
01:10:59,080 --> 01:11:03,280
Speaker 2: people because I think people feel forced through stages, they

1439
01:11:03,360 --> 01:11:07,720
Speaker 2: feel uncomfortable through the different steps. And for you, I mean,

1440
01:11:07,760 --> 01:11:09,880
Speaker 2: you just referred to the home. I was wondering. I

1441
01:11:09,960 --> 01:11:11,599
Speaker 2: think it was. Was it when you were nine years

1442
01:11:11,640 --> 01:11:13,200
Speaker 2: old that the home you grew up in?

1443
01:11:13,320 --> 01:11:14,720
Speaker 3: Yeah, but I was I was.

1444
01:11:15,439 --> 01:11:17,840
Speaker 1: It didn't burn down. So the economy at the time

1445
01:11:18,000 --> 01:11:19,800
Speaker 1: was just it was a very scary time. There was

1446
01:11:19,840 --> 01:11:23,040
Speaker 1: a recession happening, and I just think that you know,

1447
01:11:23,160 --> 01:11:25,000
Speaker 1: at the time, my parents were so young, they had

1448
01:11:25,240 --> 01:11:28,720
Speaker 1: no idea they were first time homeowners, no idea really

1449
01:11:28,800 --> 01:11:31,600
Speaker 1: what type of mortgage they had gotten, you know, committed.

1450
01:11:31,280 --> 01:11:34,719
Speaker 3: To, and you hope for the best, but not necessarily

1451
01:11:34,800 --> 01:11:35,960
Speaker 3: prepared for the worst, you know.

1452
01:11:36,840 --> 01:11:39,680
Speaker 1: So it's one of those things where I think, I mean,

1453
01:11:39,720 --> 01:11:42,280
Speaker 1: thank God for our families that we had, like this

1454
01:11:42,439 --> 01:11:46,160
Speaker 1: family support that we had, because we lost everything.

1455
01:11:46,800 --> 01:11:48,240
Speaker 3: We lost our home.

1456
01:11:48,280 --> 01:11:51,080
Speaker 1: I went from having like my my first own bedroom.

1457
01:11:51,360 --> 01:11:53,960
Speaker 1: Like most of most of my life I shared. Up

1458
01:11:54,040 --> 01:11:56,639
Speaker 1: until that point, i'd shared a bedroom with my siblings,

1459
01:11:56,800 --> 01:11:59,360
Speaker 1: all three of them, and so I remember this house

1460
01:11:59,400 --> 01:12:01,320
Speaker 1: that we were living in. It was the first year

1461
01:12:01,400 --> 01:12:03,080
Speaker 1: I had ever had my own room, and I was

1462
01:12:03,200 --> 01:12:06,240
Speaker 1: so excited. I was like, this is what Lizzie McGuire has.

1463
01:12:06,439 --> 01:12:08,680
Speaker 1: This is what like all the girls on Disney Town.

1464
01:12:08,720 --> 01:12:10,360
Speaker 1: They get to put posters up on their wall and

1465
01:12:10,439 --> 01:12:14,240
Speaker 1: they get to like, you know, rhinestone their closets and whatever.

1466
01:12:14,479 --> 01:12:18,840
Speaker 1: And I just remember like being so excited about moving

1467
01:12:18,920 --> 01:12:21,439
Speaker 1: into that house, and then when we lost it, just

1468
01:12:21,520 --> 01:12:24,000
Speaker 1: feeling like, oh that that didn't last for very long.

1469
01:12:24,439 --> 01:12:27,200
Speaker 1: I think like subconsciously that started something in my mind

1470
01:12:27,320 --> 01:12:28,800
Speaker 1: that felt like, oh, when you have good things, they

1471
01:12:28,840 --> 01:12:32,880
Speaker 1: go away. Nothing lasts forever, so don't hold onto it

1472
01:12:32,960 --> 01:12:36,960
Speaker 1: too tight. And I'm thankful for like the flexibility that

1473
01:12:37,040 --> 01:12:39,160
Speaker 1: that gave me in life, but it also makes me

1474
01:12:39,840 --> 01:12:43,240
Speaker 1: very sad for my younger self that really believed that

1475
01:12:43,360 --> 01:12:46,280
Speaker 1: everything good that happened to me came with a really

1476
01:12:46,439 --> 01:12:49,600
Speaker 1: hard price to pay, you know. So like, if you

1477
01:12:49,720 --> 01:12:52,240
Speaker 1: have good things, oh, you got to be ready, got

1478
01:12:52,360 --> 01:12:54,519
Speaker 1: to be ready for something that, you know, for the

1479
01:12:54,560 --> 01:12:57,879
Speaker 1: shoot to drop. And so we moved into my grandparents

1480
01:12:57,960 --> 01:13:01,320
Speaker 1: convert a garage in Englewood where I was born, and

1481
01:13:02,080 --> 01:13:03,640
Speaker 1: it was a garage, I would say the size of

1482
01:13:03,680 --> 01:13:06,519
Speaker 1: the studio actually, and it was all six of us,

1483
01:13:06,920 --> 01:13:09,240
Speaker 1: my mom, my dad, my two brothers, and my sister,

1484
01:13:09,920 --> 01:13:11,639
Speaker 1: and there was bunk beds. I slept on the bottom

1485
01:13:11,680 --> 01:13:13,519
Speaker 1: bunk with my sister my brother's up top, and my

1486
01:13:13,600 --> 01:13:15,320
Speaker 1: parents on the food ton bed that you know, they

1487
01:13:15,360 --> 01:13:17,240
Speaker 1: would make a couch during the day so we'd have

1488
01:13:17,280 --> 01:13:19,880
Speaker 1: a little bit more room. And we had a pop

1489
01:13:20,000 --> 01:13:22,719
Speaker 1: up table from Ikia that I would do my homework

1490
01:13:22,800 --> 01:13:26,280
Speaker 1: on and eat my cereal that was the knockoff brand

1491
01:13:26,360 --> 01:13:27,000
Speaker 1: of Cocoa.

1492
01:13:26,760 --> 01:13:28,160
Speaker 3: Puffs, not the real one.

1493
01:13:28,920 --> 01:13:32,080
Speaker 1: All to fast forward to the day that I decided,

1494
01:13:32,280 --> 01:13:34,720
Speaker 1: you know, I want to do this. I was obsessed with,

1495
01:13:34,840 --> 01:13:37,320
Speaker 1: which is really funny to me. I mentioned Lizzie Maguire

1496
01:13:37,640 --> 01:13:42,360
Speaker 1: blonde white girl. I mentioned I was obsessed with Shirley Temple,

1497
01:13:42,800 --> 01:13:46,240
Speaker 1: young blonde white girl. I was obsessed with Dakota Fanning,

1498
01:13:46,920 --> 01:13:49,680
Speaker 1: blonde white girl. I don't know what it was, but

1499
01:13:49,760 --> 01:13:52,160
Speaker 1: it was something about how young they were and how

1500
01:13:52,360 --> 01:13:54,680
Speaker 1: like empowered they were, and they were doing these like

1501
01:13:54,880 --> 01:13:57,680
Speaker 1: very adult things, you know, they were like they were

1502
01:13:57,760 --> 01:14:01,839
Speaker 1: the heroes of the stories that they were doing and acting,

1503
01:14:02,439 --> 01:14:05,040
Speaker 1: and I just remember thinking like, oh, I want to

1504
01:14:05,120 --> 01:14:07,760
Speaker 1: do that, like I want to and I'm shout out

1505
01:14:07,760 --> 01:14:09,760
Speaker 1: to the internet. I go on Google and I look

1506
01:14:09,880 --> 01:14:11,559
Speaker 1: up like what do you need to do? Or who

1507
01:14:11,680 --> 01:14:14,080
Speaker 1: represents Dakota Fanning and all these things like how do

1508
01:14:14,160 --> 01:14:18,960
Speaker 1: you become an actress? And my first agency that I

1509
01:14:19,160 --> 01:14:23,360
Speaker 1: signed with at nine years old was OSBURNK Agency. Shout

1510
01:14:23,400 --> 01:14:25,640
Speaker 1: out to my first agents, and at the time, they

1511
01:14:25,680 --> 01:14:28,439
Speaker 1: were representing Dakota Fanning and I did not know what

1512
01:14:28,520 --> 01:14:31,040
Speaker 1: the heck of monologue was. I didn't know what headshots were,

1513
01:14:31,680 --> 01:14:33,200
Speaker 1: I didn't know any of that was.

1514
01:14:33,880 --> 01:14:35,760
Speaker 3: But I just knew I really wanted to learn. I

1515
01:14:35,880 --> 01:14:36,760
Speaker 3: really wanted to do this.

1516
01:14:37,000 --> 01:14:39,280
Speaker 1: And a huge shout out to my parents too, because

1517
01:14:39,280 --> 01:14:42,160
Speaker 1: again they knew nothing about this. They had three other kids,

1518
01:14:42,800 --> 01:14:46,000
Speaker 1: you know, to take care of too, and the drive

1519
01:14:46,040 --> 01:14:49,240
Speaker 1: from Inglewood to Hollywood is you know, with traffic especially,

1520
01:14:49,280 --> 01:14:52,479
Speaker 1: it is not very close. LA County's big. But they

1521
01:14:52,560 --> 01:14:54,600
Speaker 1: really supported me through that, and I have like a

1522
01:14:54,680 --> 01:14:57,880
Speaker 1: little like I printed out a little contract to my

1523
01:14:58,040 --> 01:15:01,200
Speaker 1: parents and I said, give me six months, just six months,

1524
01:15:01,280 --> 01:15:06,000
Speaker 1: and if nothing, yeah, if nothing happens, then like okay,

1525
01:15:06,600 --> 01:15:09,000
Speaker 1: like you know, that's fine, Like I'll leave it alone.

1526
01:15:09,040 --> 01:15:12,800
Speaker 1: What pretend it's never happened, or we can renegotiate our terms. Now,

1527
01:15:12,880 --> 01:15:15,080
Speaker 1: we can't renegotiate our terms after six months if all

1528
01:15:15,160 --> 01:15:19,439
Speaker 1: goes well. And yeah, going back to just like that instinct,

1529
01:15:19,520 --> 01:15:22,760
Speaker 1: that agency, that empowerment that I felt to just like

1530
01:15:23,240 --> 01:15:26,439
Speaker 1: to do this thing that no one in my family

1531
01:15:26,520 --> 01:15:27,320
Speaker 1: had ever done.

1532
01:15:27,439 --> 01:15:30,120
Speaker 3: Like there was really no point of reference.

1533
01:15:31,000 --> 01:15:33,200
Speaker 1: And I'm glad I did it because I look back

1534
01:15:33,320 --> 01:15:36,320
Speaker 1: at the garage, which is like still a real place

1535
01:15:36,520 --> 01:15:39,439
Speaker 1: where my family still lives. You know, there's there's a

1536
01:15:39,479 --> 01:15:41,240
Speaker 1: lot of things up there. My grandma has a couple

1537
01:15:41,280 --> 01:15:43,560
Speaker 1: of like little shrine things of like, oh, you know,

1538
01:15:43,920 --> 01:15:46,720
Speaker 1: I'm my grandma. This isn't a museum. There's people walking

1539
01:15:46,760 --> 01:15:48,120
Speaker 1: by the house like is this the house?

1540
01:15:48,160 --> 01:15:48,760
Speaker 2: The fack you lived there?

1541
01:15:48,800 --> 01:15:52,680
Speaker 1: My Grandma's like absolutely, I'm no very sacred space. Oh

1542
01:15:52,920 --> 01:15:55,160
Speaker 1: but yeah. It's like it's crazy to like look back

1543
01:15:55,240 --> 01:15:58,519
Speaker 1: at and think like this is you know, this is

1544
01:15:58,560 --> 01:16:02,760
Speaker 1: where it all started. Fire within me that felt like no,

1545
01:16:03,000 --> 01:16:05,880
Speaker 1: I can really do this, Like let's let's try this.

1546
01:16:06,439 --> 01:16:10,040
Speaker 2: That's so spectacular. That's special. That's special. How so many

1547
01:16:10,080 --> 01:16:13,760
Speaker 2: big dreams start from so many small places and small

1548
01:16:13,800 --> 01:16:14,840
Speaker 2: places within us too.

1549
01:16:15,439 --> 01:16:15,639
Speaker 1: Yep.

1550
01:16:15,840 --> 01:16:18,320
Speaker 2: And I was going to ask you that, like, how

1551
01:16:18,400 --> 01:16:22,439
Speaker 2: have you now that you're building this new home that

1552
01:16:23,240 --> 01:16:25,920
Speaker 2: as windows that work and as doors that have locks?

1553
01:16:27,040 --> 01:16:35,559
Speaker 2: What's changed about how you decide and define how someone

1554
01:16:35,640 --> 01:16:39,320
Speaker 2: gets to get closer to you and and connected to you? Like,

1555
01:16:39,439 --> 01:16:42,639
Speaker 2: what has changed? What is evolved? What have you learned

1556
01:16:42,720 --> 01:16:44,880
Speaker 2: growing up about who you allow close?

1557
01:16:45,600 --> 01:16:48,120
Speaker 1: Yeah? I think it's like again it comes back to

1558
01:16:48,200 --> 01:16:51,320
Speaker 1: knowing not anything has to be concrete. You know, you

1559
01:16:51,400 --> 01:16:54,519
Speaker 1: can you can vibe with people, you can enjoy beautiful

1560
01:16:54,600 --> 01:16:57,720
Speaker 1: moments with people. And then and then the moment that

1561
01:16:57,840 --> 01:16:59,840
Speaker 1: something doesn't feel right, you can speak to that, and

1562
01:17:00,080 --> 01:17:02,880
Speaker 1: everything is always to me, always owe to conversation. You know,

1563
01:17:02,960 --> 01:17:06,120
Speaker 1: I've had friendships in my life that just in all honesty,

1564
01:17:06,360 --> 01:17:09,720
Speaker 1: I outgrew and there's all love and it was a conversation.

1565
01:17:09,960 --> 01:17:11,080
Speaker 3: And it's sometimes that's simple.

1566
01:17:11,160 --> 01:17:14,839
Speaker 1: But I think it's just like leaving room for that growth,

1567
01:17:15,360 --> 01:17:19,320
Speaker 1: just like it's gonna change. That's the point, Like we grow,

1568
01:17:19,840 --> 01:17:23,160
Speaker 1: like we change. Going back to the ice cream seven

1569
01:17:23,240 --> 01:17:26,760
Speaker 1: years ago, it was chocolate, today is frozen yogurt. You

1570
01:17:29,600 --> 01:17:34,960
Speaker 1: I'll again, but you know, like you're literally like you're

1571
01:17:35,080 --> 01:17:39,240
Speaker 1: even your physical body changes, why wouldn't our minds and

1572
01:17:39,360 --> 01:17:42,519
Speaker 1: our hearts also expand and change in those ways too?

1573
01:17:42,640 --> 01:17:44,360
Speaker 1: You know. So I think it's like and it's not

1574
01:17:44,520 --> 01:17:46,200
Speaker 1: just in the way that I hope to be received

1575
01:17:46,240 --> 01:17:48,800
Speaker 1: by other people, but it's just it's also like or

1576
01:17:48,920 --> 01:17:50,840
Speaker 1: like how I hold space for other people, it's also

1577
01:17:50,920 --> 01:17:53,200
Speaker 1: like being around people who hold that same space for me.

1578
01:17:54,000 --> 01:17:56,160
Speaker 1: You know, Like I think understanding that these are like

1579
01:17:56,800 --> 01:18:01,240
Speaker 1: mutual spaces, right, like powering when you're like, oh this

1580
01:18:01,439 --> 01:18:04,880
Speaker 1: is a choice, Yeah, Like I get to choose to

1581
01:18:05,040 --> 01:18:07,720
Speaker 1: be here. You got to choose to be here like

1582
01:18:07,840 --> 01:18:11,280
Speaker 1: and we're here together like that to me has been

1583
01:18:12,000 --> 01:18:15,759
Speaker 1: the most beautiful part of my like evolution and healing.

1584
01:18:15,840 --> 01:18:17,040
Speaker 3: It's like man like when I go.

1585
01:18:17,080 --> 01:18:19,360
Speaker 1: On tour, my fans buy their tickets because they chose

1586
01:18:19,439 --> 01:18:21,439
Speaker 1: to be there, like you know, the same way I

1587
01:18:21,560 --> 01:18:24,720
Speaker 1: chose to walk onto that stage. Like, let's not rob

1588
01:18:24,840 --> 01:18:28,200
Speaker 1: ourselves of that like empowerment, that agency that we have

1589
01:18:28,400 --> 01:18:33,320
Speaker 1: over our lives to decide to choose what's good for you,

1590
01:18:33,520 --> 01:18:37,000
Speaker 1: what's best for you, what motivates you, what inspires you,

1591
01:18:37,240 --> 01:18:39,560
Speaker 1: and that can be the bad things, that could be

1592
01:18:39,680 --> 01:18:42,240
Speaker 1: the hard things, that could be the because there's no

1593
01:18:42,400 --> 01:18:46,760
Speaker 1: such thing as good bad whatever, you know, it's it.

1594
01:18:46,920 --> 01:18:49,760
Speaker 2: Just is, you know when I'm speaking to you. And

1595
01:18:49,840 --> 01:18:51,880
Speaker 2: I love this and I love it when I get

1596
01:18:51,960 --> 01:18:55,400
Speaker 2: to experience it in someone because I think it's quite rare.

1597
01:18:56,040 --> 01:18:59,080
Speaker 2: But you just have such a like strong spirit of

1598
01:18:59,320 --> 01:19:03,599
Speaker 2: just like positivity mindset, like obviously you're working on all

1599
01:19:03,640 --> 01:19:06,439
Speaker 2: of these things as we've been talking about today, and

1600
01:19:06,960 --> 01:19:10,320
Speaker 2: I love seeing it be so tough in someone. Not

1601
01:19:10,479 --> 01:19:12,080
Speaker 2: I'm not saying that, of course, like you said you

1602
01:19:12,160 --> 01:19:16,920
Speaker 2: cried this morning, I'm not saying without I'm actually more

1603
01:19:17,000 --> 01:19:19,400
Speaker 2: tough I'm not saying tough in the sense that there

1604
01:19:19,520 --> 01:19:22,760
Speaker 2: isn't any pain or stress, of course, And to me,

1605
01:19:23,000 --> 01:19:27,759
Speaker 2: the display of to yourself of pain is even tougher

1606
01:19:27,840 --> 01:19:30,080
Speaker 2: to be able to admit to yourself that, hey, I'm

1607
01:19:30,120 --> 01:19:36,679
Speaker 2: working on this stuff. How have you stayed so open

1608
01:19:36,800 --> 01:19:41,760
Speaker 2: to that mindset of trust and forgiveness for yourself and

1609
01:19:41,920 --> 01:19:45,559
Speaker 2: others when it almost seems like there's so many reasons

1610
01:19:45,600 --> 01:19:46,479
Speaker 2: to not be that way.

1611
01:19:47,280 --> 01:19:49,320
Speaker 1: If that makes sense, well, I think it's just going

1612
01:19:49,400 --> 01:19:51,479
Speaker 1: back to like it makes it makes it easier for

1613
01:19:51,560 --> 01:19:53,960
Speaker 1: our human mind to see things in black and white, right,

1614
01:19:54,040 --> 01:19:57,040
Speaker 1: it makes our life easier, But actually it doesn't. I

1615
01:19:57,120 --> 01:19:59,120
Speaker 1: feel like it cuts a short from the experience that

1616
01:19:59,200 --> 01:20:03,360
Speaker 1: we're supposed to have. Like I believe in karmic energy.

1617
01:20:03,439 --> 01:20:06,280
Speaker 1: I believe that like we are here for reason, you know,

1618
01:20:06,439 --> 01:20:10,000
Speaker 1: there's there's We're here on purpose. There's a purpose to

1619
01:20:10,320 --> 01:20:14,439
Speaker 1: our pain, to our our our happiness, to our greatest joys,

1620
01:20:14,640 --> 01:20:17,479
Speaker 1: to our anger. There's purpose to all of it. And

1621
01:20:17,600 --> 01:20:20,040
Speaker 1: so I think just like really allowing yourself to be

1622
01:20:20,200 --> 01:20:23,920
Speaker 1: open to it is is where I think I find it.

1623
01:20:24,080 --> 01:20:26,960
Speaker 1: It's like it is that story of the father and

1624
01:20:27,080 --> 01:20:31,440
Speaker 1: his son, Like I don't think that there's these practices

1625
01:20:31,520 --> 01:20:36,640
Speaker 1: that have been around for like generations and generations and decades,

1626
01:20:37,360 --> 01:20:40,120
Speaker 1: you know, to think that, like, yeah, it's just a

1627
01:20:40,160 --> 01:20:43,240
Speaker 1: bunch of helps focus, you know, Like I just don't.

1628
01:20:43,360 --> 01:20:45,000
Speaker 1: I don't think so. Like I think that's why I

1629
01:20:45,080 --> 01:20:48,040
Speaker 1: have a hard time trusting like the power of technology.

1630
01:20:48,160 --> 01:20:50,640
Speaker 1: Sometimes that's a whole other conversation. It's like, hasn't been

1631
01:20:50,680 --> 01:20:53,280
Speaker 1: around long enough for me to really understand what this

1632
01:20:53,560 --> 01:20:56,680
Speaker 1: is and what it's capable of and the impacts that

1633
01:20:56,760 --> 01:20:58,800
Speaker 1: it has. Like I said on on the Future generations,

1634
01:20:58,920 --> 01:21:01,200
Speaker 1: like it is, it's in timidating, and I think, but

1635
01:21:01,320 --> 01:21:03,920
Speaker 1: you got to be open to it because if it

1636
01:21:04,000 --> 01:21:06,920
Speaker 1: cuts our processing time, you know, by half, and our

1637
01:21:07,000 --> 01:21:09,479
Speaker 1: kids can learn more, that's that's great.

1638
01:21:09,520 --> 01:21:10,960
Speaker 3: But I believe in balance.

1639
01:21:11,600 --> 01:21:14,160
Speaker 1: I believe that we need balance as human beings, and

1640
01:21:14,240 --> 01:21:16,960
Speaker 1: I think that there's just so much more to this

1641
01:21:17,200 --> 01:21:20,200
Speaker 1: life than just being like, well I don't like you.

1642
01:21:20,680 --> 01:21:23,160
Speaker 1: It's like, okay, well maybe there's something in that person

1643
01:21:23,640 --> 01:21:25,880
Speaker 1: that you don't like that actually reflects something that you

1644
01:21:25,920 --> 01:21:28,599
Speaker 1: don't like about yourself. But you're not ready for that conversation.

1645
01:21:29,040 --> 01:21:31,679
Speaker 1: You know, some people just aren't, And that's totally fine.

1646
01:21:31,880 --> 01:21:35,160
Speaker 3: But I am that person like put yeah, I love it.

1647
01:21:36,000 --> 01:21:36,600
Speaker 1: I really do.

1648
01:21:37,160 --> 01:21:39,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, I sense that I could tell that,

1649
01:21:39,760 --> 01:21:42,720
Speaker 2: and it's it's it's fun to watch. I think it's

1650
01:21:43,160 --> 01:21:45,400
Speaker 2: it's really meaningful to see it in someone. You've talked

1651
01:21:45,439 --> 01:21:48,560
Speaker 2: about having guardian angels m hm, And I want to

1652
01:21:48,600 --> 01:21:51,040
Speaker 2: ask you when do you feel most connected to your

1653
01:21:51,080 --> 01:21:51,960
Speaker 2: guardian angels?

1654
01:21:52,080 --> 01:21:56,840
Speaker 1: Oh? Ah, I feel like my faith journey is very

1655
01:21:56,920 --> 01:21:59,439
Speaker 1: interesting because it was something that I was introduced to

1656
01:21:59,520 --> 01:22:01,559
Speaker 1: again out of very very young age, because I grew

1657
01:22:01,680 --> 01:22:05,200
Speaker 1: up in a very religious family. My mom was kind

1658
01:22:05,240 --> 01:22:07,120
Speaker 1: of the one to break that up for us, which

1659
01:22:07,439 --> 01:22:11,160
Speaker 1: I'm very thankful for because it allowed me the opportunity

1660
01:22:11,360 --> 01:22:14,280
Speaker 1: to kind of find it on my own instead of

1661
01:22:14,320 --> 01:22:15,160
Speaker 1: it be something.

1662
01:22:15,000 --> 01:22:15,759
Speaker 3: That was forced.

1663
01:22:15,920 --> 01:22:18,840
Speaker 1: Because like my mom, I remember many times she'd tell

1664
01:22:18,880 --> 01:22:19,360
Speaker 1: me stories.

1665
01:22:19,400 --> 01:22:21,519
Speaker 3: You know, your grandma would just call us in.

1666
01:22:21,640 --> 01:22:24,080
Speaker 1: We'd be like playing outside, having the time of our lives.

1667
01:22:24,080 --> 01:22:25,880
Speaker 1: She's like, kids don't even play outside anymore, you know,

1668
01:22:26,320 --> 01:22:28,519
Speaker 1: but here here there we were like playing outside and

1669
01:22:28,560 --> 01:22:31,040
Speaker 1: my mom would make us come inside and pray the Rosary,

1670
01:22:31,160 --> 01:22:34,920
Speaker 1: and we'd be like a get come on, grandma, come on, mom,

1671
01:22:35,120 --> 01:22:38,200
Speaker 1: you know, and what I loved is Like as a kid,

1672
01:22:38,280 --> 01:22:41,000
Speaker 1: I would have so many questions, Like I'd tell my mom, like,

1673
01:22:41,360 --> 01:22:44,080
Speaker 1: you know, sometimes when I was little, this is very funny.

1674
01:22:44,360 --> 01:22:47,000
Speaker 1: My grandma would sometimes be like kind of insinuate, like oh,

1675
01:22:47,040 --> 01:22:49,800
Speaker 1: you know, people don't go to church or like they're

1676
01:22:49,880 --> 01:22:52,720
Speaker 1: on the bad list, the naughty list, right, and and

1677
01:22:52,840 --> 01:22:54,360
Speaker 1: so my mom would be like, you know how Grandma

1678
01:22:54,439 --> 01:22:56,080
Speaker 1: is you know, we're gonna go to the Jocito's house,

1679
01:22:56,240 --> 01:22:58,000
Speaker 1: you know, which was like to go to church. We're

1680
01:22:58,040 --> 01:22:59,479
Speaker 1: gonna go to the Oscetho. So I'm like, why doesn't

1681
01:22:59,520 --> 01:23:02,080
Speaker 1: Joctho I'm not our house, Like why can't he come

1682
01:23:02,160 --> 01:23:04,679
Speaker 1: to our house? Like what's this concept of ice having

1683
01:23:04,720 --> 01:23:06,559
Speaker 1: to go to him? Why can't he come to us?

1684
01:23:06,880 --> 01:23:10,240
Speaker 1: Like challenging these things all the time, and I just

1685
01:23:10,479 --> 01:23:13,759
Speaker 1: remember just thinking like no, spirituality is a mutual connection

1686
01:23:14,080 --> 01:23:17,200
Speaker 1: with sores with greater source. And for me, my connection

1687
01:23:17,320 --> 01:23:22,080
Speaker 1: with God is just like yeah, like he loves me regardless.

1688
01:23:22,160 --> 01:23:23,720
Speaker 1: There's times where I pray and I mean some of

1689
01:23:23,720 --> 01:23:26,519
Speaker 1: the stuff that I share, I'm just like, you know

1690
01:23:26,600 --> 01:23:28,600
Speaker 1: what I mean, you know what I mean, you know,

1691
01:23:29,360 --> 01:23:32,400
Speaker 1: and I think that that's like I love that for me,

1692
01:23:32,520 --> 01:23:34,960
Speaker 1: that I was able to discover that faith and I

1693
01:23:35,000 --> 01:23:37,360
Speaker 1: feel so protected and some of the moments that are

1694
01:23:37,439 --> 01:23:40,760
Speaker 1: so simple, you know. I mean not just like in

1695
01:23:40,880 --> 01:23:45,000
Speaker 1: my moments of deep like confusion or like pain, when

1696
01:23:45,040 --> 01:23:47,960
Speaker 1: I am challenged to like surrender that control right when

1697
01:23:47,960 --> 01:23:50,400
Speaker 1: I say I practice like go let God, but even

1698
01:23:50,560 --> 01:23:52,280
Speaker 1: just like when I'm by myself in my house, like

1699
01:23:52,360 --> 01:23:55,320
Speaker 1: making my coffee and I'm playing like I don't know,

1700
01:23:55,439 --> 01:23:58,280
Speaker 1: a certain song will come on, like on my playlist,

1701
01:23:58,439 --> 01:24:00,640
Speaker 1: and I'm just like, that's my Grandma. I know it

1702
01:24:01,200 --> 01:24:03,800
Speaker 1: like I know it, you know. Or today A big

1703
01:24:03,880 --> 01:24:06,599
Speaker 1: thing for me is is dragonflies. I have a dragonfly

1704
01:24:06,720 --> 01:24:10,680
Speaker 1: tattoo and they definitely represent something very significant for me.

1705
01:24:11,000 --> 01:24:14,599
Speaker 1: And I mean for months now on the way here,

1706
01:24:15,640 --> 01:24:18,240
Speaker 1: dragonflies beautiful, isn't fine?

1707
01:24:18,600 --> 01:24:22,760
Speaker 2: Like I love that it's beautiful, and it's wonderful to

1708
01:24:22,880 --> 01:24:27,000
Speaker 2: have these notes and signs and you know, moments that

1709
01:24:27,920 --> 01:24:31,280
Speaker 2: make us feel aligned. We all need them in some capacity,

1710
01:24:31,320 --> 01:24:34,599
Speaker 2: and I think we all look for them because we're

1711
01:24:34,600 --> 01:24:38,000
Speaker 2: all trying to feel connected to something higher and bigger

1712
01:24:38,080 --> 01:24:41,519
Speaker 2: and more powerful than ourselves, whatever it may be, whether

1713
01:24:41,600 --> 01:24:44,160
Speaker 2: it's in the world or whether it's beyond, and it's

1714
01:24:44,280 --> 01:24:46,599
Speaker 2: it's nice thing about your spiritual journey and how it's

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01:24:46,640 --> 01:24:51,440
Speaker 2: evolved because it is so personal, and there's a beautiful

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01:24:52,640 --> 01:24:55,560
Speaker 2: there's a beautiful statement. I believe it's I believe it

1717
01:24:55,640 --> 01:24:59,280
Speaker 2: was said by David Lynch and he said that prayer

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01:24:59,479 --> 01:25:03,599
Speaker 2: is you talking to God, and meditation is God talking

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Speaker 2: to you. And I've always loved that that idea of

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01:25:06,320 --> 01:25:09,120
Speaker 2: the God of God, universe, whatever you call it. But

1721
01:25:09,200 --> 01:25:12,280
Speaker 2: the idea that prayer is when you're speaking, in meditation

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01:25:12,439 --> 01:25:16,439
Speaker 2: is when you're listening. Yes, and that communication is mutual.

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01:25:16,520 --> 01:25:18,880
Speaker 2: As you said, it's this two way connection. It's not

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01:25:19,040 --> 01:25:23,000
Speaker 2: a one way as it's often portrayed or comes across.

1725
01:25:23,600 --> 01:25:26,479
Speaker 2: And I really find that as well, that sometimes my

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01:25:26,640 --> 01:25:29,240
Speaker 2: job is to stop talking and just to listen, yep.

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01:25:29,560 --> 01:25:31,439
Speaker 2: And so often we're just talking too much. You're trying

1728
01:25:31,439 --> 01:25:34,280
Speaker 2: to figure it all out or problem solving, and that

1729
01:25:34,560 --> 01:25:39,040
Speaker 2: listening ability is so lost in the art of communication.

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01:25:40,720 --> 01:25:43,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, it's that's why I said, you know, everything

1731
01:25:43,240 --> 01:25:46,240
Speaker 1: is always a conversation. I think that's how we should

1732
01:25:46,240 --> 01:25:47,760
Speaker 1: look at even things I can't talk back to me.

1733
01:25:47,880 --> 01:25:49,960
Speaker 1: My dogs that live in my mom's house, you know

1734
01:25:50,040 --> 01:25:51,760
Speaker 1: all that. I love them so much. There is a

1735
01:25:51,880 --> 01:25:54,360
Speaker 1: mutual love. They can't necessarily talk back to me, but

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01:25:54,439 --> 01:25:57,080
Speaker 1: I listen. I take the time to like connect with them,

1737
01:25:57,280 --> 01:25:59,479
Speaker 1: you know. But I think it's about being that type

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01:25:59,520 --> 01:26:03,280
Speaker 1: of you know, intentional type of person. I guess when

1739
01:26:03,400 --> 01:26:07,000
Speaker 1: when you're having these daily practices. And that's why I

1740
01:26:07,040 --> 01:26:09,280
Speaker 1: think when I like meditate, like there was like a shift.

1741
01:26:09,360 --> 01:26:11,519
Speaker 1: Instead of saying, like what do I want? What do

1742
01:26:11,680 --> 01:26:13,880
Speaker 1: I feel right now, it's like what do you want?

1743
01:26:14,000 --> 01:26:15,719
Speaker 3: Like it's serve you have to ask.

1744
01:26:15,800 --> 01:26:19,919
Speaker 1: You're subconscious, you have to bring parts of yourself forward,

1745
01:26:20,520 --> 01:26:24,040
Speaker 1: you know, to really receive what that is because our

1746
01:26:24,080 --> 01:26:26,320
Speaker 1: psyche is like it's crazy.

1747
01:26:26,520 --> 01:26:27,640
Speaker 3: There's certain things.

1748
01:26:27,439 --> 01:26:28,479
Speaker 1: That I've unpacked in therapy.

1749
01:26:28,520 --> 01:26:32,400
Speaker 3: I was like, oh, I didn't even remember that that happened, you.

1750
01:26:32,479 --> 01:26:36,520
Speaker 1: Know, Like and it's it's because our minds are very powerful.

1751
01:26:36,640 --> 01:26:40,200
Speaker 1: Our minds were designed to protect us, right, Like our

1752
01:26:40,320 --> 01:26:46,479
Speaker 1: human body wants to survive and avoid death at all costs,

1753
01:26:47,160 --> 01:26:52,120
Speaker 1: but our spirit needs death. Our spirit needs death. The

1754
01:26:52,720 --> 01:26:56,400
Speaker 1: thing of giving up something to then have a rebirth

1755
01:26:56,560 --> 01:27:00,240
Speaker 1: of something else to gain something else, Like you have

1756
01:27:00,439 --> 01:27:03,840
Speaker 1: to be willing to do that, you know, Like there's

1757
01:27:03,880 --> 01:27:06,560
Speaker 1: so many parts of myself that I think, you know,

1758
01:27:07,080 --> 01:27:11,360
Speaker 1: I have kind of like resolved with and it's beautiful

1759
01:27:11,439 --> 01:27:13,560
Speaker 1: to look back at, like that's that skin that I

1760
01:27:13,640 --> 01:27:14,400
Speaker 1: needed to shed.

1761
01:27:15,200 --> 01:27:16,240
Speaker 3: That's a beautiful thing.

1762
01:27:16,520 --> 01:27:19,120
Speaker 1: But there's like, you know, parts in that that probably

1763
01:27:19,160 --> 01:27:22,080
Speaker 1: people I grew up with, people that knew me to

1764
01:27:22,200 --> 01:27:24,599
Speaker 1: be a certain way that was more beneficial for them,

1765
01:27:25,920 --> 01:27:30,040
Speaker 1: would probably be like she changed. Yeah, Like no, I did.

1766
01:27:30,880 --> 01:27:33,280
Speaker 1: I actually did. I did change, you know, And I

1767
01:27:33,320 --> 01:27:36,240
Speaker 1: don't think that's a bad thing. So it's funny how, yeah,

1768
01:27:36,320 --> 01:27:38,880
Speaker 1: spirit can need something different than like what our body

1769
01:27:39,120 --> 01:27:41,280
Speaker 1: is like designed for and you're like, no, no, it's

1770
01:27:41,280 --> 01:27:44,400
Speaker 1: not the literal thing. It's it's the shedding, you know,

1771
01:27:44,560 --> 01:27:46,120
Speaker 1: it's the shedding that needs to happen.

1772
01:27:46,600 --> 01:27:49,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, Becky, it's been such a joy talking to you today,

1773
01:27:49,200 --> 01:27:52,040
Speaker 2: and I'm so glad that we've finally connected in this way.

1774
01:27:52,160 --> 01:27:56,240
Speaker 2: We've got to share your abundant, energetic spirit with everyone

1775
01:27:56,439 --> 01:27:58,920
Speaker 2: through this so much episode, and I'm hoping that everyone

1776
01:27:58,920 --> 01:28:01,200
Speaker 2: who listens to it can kind of, you know, walk

1777
01:28:01,280 --> 01:28:05,800
Speaker 2: away feeling that positive energy through your voice, through your

1778
01:28:05,920 --> 01:28:07,920
Speaker 2: energy into them as well, because I really feel like

1779
01:28:07,960 --> 01:28:10,920
Speaker 2: it's come across from me too. You just yeah, you

1780
01:28:11,080 --> 01:28:14,000
Speaker 2: just have this spark and I'm hoping that everyone today

1781
01:28:14,080 --> 01:28:15,880
Speaker 2: got to feel a bit of it. But we end

1782
01:28:15,920 --> 01:28:19,240
Speaker 2: every on Purpose episode with our final five, which is

1783
01:28:19,479 --> 01:28:21,439
Speaker 2: a question that has to be answered in one word

1784
01:28:21,479 --> 01:28:24,800
Speaker 2: to one sentence maximum. So Becky g these are your

1785
01:28:24,880 --> 01:28:27,840
Speaker 2: final five. The first question is what is the best

1786
01:28:28,000 --> 01:28:30,040
Speaker 2: advice you've ever heard or received?

1787
01:28:30,920 --> 01:28:33,439
Speaker 1: You miss one hundred percent of the shots you never take.

1788
01:28:34,439 --> 01:28:36,960
Speaker 1: I think that's one sentence, right, Yeah, that's good.

1789
01:28:38,520 --> 01:28:40,439
Speaker 2: Really be one word that was no, no, no, one

1790
01:28:40,479 --> 01:28:43,080
Speaker 2: word to one sentence is fine. Question number two, what

1791
01:28:43,240 --> 01:28:45,519
Speaker 2: is the worst advice you've ever heard or received?

1792
01:28:46,520 --> 01:28:49,240
Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm that positive, Patty. I'm like even

1793
01:28:49,320 --> 01:28:51,040
Speaker 1: those negative things, they're a positive thing.

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01:28:51,880 --> 01:28:52,080
Speaker 4: Ah.

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01:28:52,520 --> 01:28:56,880
Speaker 1: I would say, just make sure you really think about it.

1796
01:28:57,640 --> 01:29:00,320
Speaker 1: It's like, no, you could overthink it. Yeah, that's what

1797
01:29:00,360 --> 01:29:02,439
Speaker 1: I would say. Just make sure you really think about it,

1798
01:29:02,560 --> 01:29:05,160
Speaker 1: really think about what you're saying, or really think about

1799
01:29:05,320 --> 01:29:07,320
Speaker 1: you know what it is that you're asking for. No, no, no,

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01:29:07,800 --> 01:29:09,840
Speaker 1: I trust my gut. I'd say probably that's the words

1801
01:29:09,880 --> 01:29:10,120
Speaker 1: of guys.

1802
01:29:10,560 --> 01:29:11,560
Speaker 3: You should really think about that.

1803
01:29:11,880 --> 01:29:18,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, got it. Question on the three, what is something

1804
01:29:18,160 --> 01:29:19,639
Speaker 2: you're currently trying to unlearn?

1805
01:29:22,080 --> 01:29:23,240
Speaker 3: Definitely, people pleasing.

1806
01:29:23,640 --> 01:29:25,280
Speaker 2: What's the hardest part about giving it up?

1807
01:29:26,160 --> 01:29:29,640
Speaker 1: Ah, it's just second nature. You don't even realize like

1808
01:29:29,880 --> 01:29:32,519
Speaker 1: how you practice that on a daily basis, you know,

1809
01:29:32,800 --> 01:29:36,040
Speaker 1: Like I said, growing up in this industry, just I

1810
01:29:36,120 --> 01:29:38,160
Speaker 1: feel like there's a lot of child stars that are

1811
01:29:38,280 --> 01:29:41,880
Speaker 1: set up to not be very successful as adults who

1812
01:29:41,880 --> 01:29:44,840
Speaker 1: are trying to take agency over their own life. And

1813
01:29:45,040 --> 01:29:48,400
Speaker 1: so just knowing that, like, your feelings matter, how you

1814
01:29:48,520 --> 01:29:52,360
Speaker 1: feel matters, and also not everybody needs to participate in that.

1815
01:29:53,920 --> 01:29:57,120
Speaker 2: And that even if you spend your whole life trying

1816
01:29:57,160 --> 01:29:59,800
Speaker 2: to please everyone, chances are that will still be upset

1817
01:29:59,840 --> 01:30:01,559
Speaker 2: with you for something else.

1818
01:30:01,840 --> 01:30:03,439
Speaker 1: Yeah, and again maybe it has more to do with

1819
01:30:03,560 --> 01:30:04,320
Speaker 1: them than it does you.

1820
01:30:04,760 --> 01:30:08,120
Speaker 3: So totally yeah, great, all right.

1821
01:30:08,240 --> 01:30:12,559
Speaker 2: Question number four, what's something that you used to value

1822
01:30:13,120 --> 01:30:14,839
Speaker 2: that isn't important anymore?

1823
01:30:16,720 --> 01:30:19,560
Speaker 1: I would say, like the optics, the optics of what

1824
01:30:19,680 --> 01:30:22,920
Speaker 1: it is to like be in, like the limelight, like

1825
01:30:23,080 --> 01:30:25,479
Speaker 1: going back to like that thing that like, oh everybody

1826
01:30:25,600 --> 01:30:28,280
Speaker 1: needs to like you and like you know, you got

1827
01:30:28,400 --> 01:30:30,960
Speaker 1: to you got to feed the beast or whatever. I

1828
01:30:31,040 --> 01:30:34,360
Speaker 1: don't think I really value that anymore. I value like,

1829
01:30:34,520 --> 01:30:38,040
Speaker 1: my my personal piece more than anything else.

1830
01:30:38,880 --> 01:30:42,400
Speaker 2: I like that yeah, beautiful. Fifth and final question, if

1831
01:30:42,439 --> 01:30:44,960
Speaker 2: you could create one law that everyone in the world

1832
01:30:45,080 --> 01:30:47,759
Speaker 2: had to follow, what would it be, Oh.

1833
01:30:47,960 --> 01:30:52,879
Speaker 1: That everybody practiced and had access to some form of therapy.

1834
01:30:53,320 --> 01:30:56,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'd love to be able to help that happened.

1835
01:30:56,320 --> 01:30:59,680
Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, the access to to resource I think is

1836
01:31:00,280 --> 01:31:04,640
Speaker 1: very crucial. But I think I would make that like immediate,

1837
01:31:05,040 --> 01:31:08,640
Speaker 1: like starting today, sign on the dotted line, like I

1838
01:31:08,720 --> 01:31:10,360
Speaker 1: think we all deserve safe spaces.

1839
01:31:11,400 --> 01:31:12,640
Speaker 3: I don't think we have enough of them.

1840
01:31:13,760 --> 01:31:17,200
Speaker 2: Well said Becky. Gee everyone, Thank you so much, Becky

1841
01:31:17,360 --> 01:31:22,559
Speaker 2: for having so much presence, openness, vulnerability with us here

1842
01:31:22,600 --> 01:31:25,080
Speaker 2: today and everyone who's been listening and watching. Make sure

1843
01:31:25,080 --> 01:31:27,800
Speaker 2: you tag me and Becky with your favorite moments. I

1844
01:31:27,920 --> 01:31:31,000
Speaker 2: love seeing what stuck with you, maybe what's helped you,

1845
01:31:31,120 --> 01:31:32,840
Speaker 2: Maybe something you're going to pass on to a friend

1846
01:31:32,920 --> 01:31:35,040
Speaker 2: because you know they need to hear it. I know,

1847
01:31:35,120 --> 01:31:37,200
Speaker 2: Becky and I would love to see that. Please make

1848
01:31:37,240 --> 01:31:38,840
Speaker 2: sure you do that. And Becky, thank you so much.

1849
01:31:38,880 --> 01:31:41,280
Speaker 2: I can't wait favor to go and stream thanscuse us

1850
01:31:41,400 --> 01:31:44,400
Speaker 2: right now. It's available if you're listening right now, you

1851
01:31:44,479 --> 01:31:47,639
Speaker 2: can go stream right right now. So go to everywhere

1852
01:31:47,680 --> 01:31:50,200
Speaker 2: you listen to music. And go and listen in. But

1853
01:31:50,280 --> 01:31:51,680
Speaker 2: thank you so much, Becky, thank you.

1854
01:31:51,800 --> 01:31:53,240
Speaker 1: I really appreciate you so much.

1855
01:31:53,320 --> 01:31:56,320
Speaker 2: Thank you so much. If you love this episode, you'll

1856
01:31:56,520 --> 01:32:00,840
Speaker 2: really enjoy my episode with Selena Gomez on befriending your

1857
01:32:00,920 --> 01:32:04,840
Speaker 2: inner critique and how to speak to yourself with more compassion.

1858
01:32:05,320 --> 01:32:08,960
Speaker 1: My fears are only going to continue to show me

1859
01:32:09,080 --> 01:32:10,080
Speaker 1: what I'm capable of.

1860
01:32:10,400 --> 01:32:12,960
Speaker 4: The more that I face my fears, the more that

1861
01:32:13,080 --> 01:32:16,200
Speaker 4: I feel I'm gaining strength, I'm gaining wisdom, and I

1862
01:32:16,520 --> 01:32:17,720
Speaker 4: just want to keep doing that.