WEBVTT - Get Comfortable Being Uncomfortable

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<v Speaker 1>Hoping and we talk back where we encourage you to

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<v Speaker 1>hustle hard, laugh, laughter, and always keep it cute. So

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<v Speaker 1>grab your coffee, cocktail and crown because it's about to

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<v Speaker 1>go down.

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<v Speaker 2>We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion who

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<v Speaker 2>talks back.

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<v Speaker 1>What's up, y'all? Let's your girl? A j holiday? What's up? Team? Damn?

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<v Speaker 1>But you ain't know who you was?

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<v Speaker 2>Just now, I ain't.

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<v Speaker 1>I was trying to figure out, like how we starting? Okay? Whatever,

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<v Speaker 1>what's up y'all? Hey y'all, I love y'all. What's again

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<v Speaker 1>this week?

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<v Speaker 2>I love y'all. And I appreciate y'all so much for

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<v Speaker 2>voting for my new.

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<v Speaker 1>Niggah who they voted for. So I didn't see. I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't even look.

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<v Speaker 2>I haven't done all the tally because I want to

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<v Speaker 2>give it a little bit more time because people are

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<v Speaker 2>still listening to the episode. But so far, Willie is

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<v Speaker 2>in the lead, but just by a hair, just by

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<v Speaker 2>a hair, yes, just my hair. Willy's in the league,

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<v Speaker 2>so it's between him and Jordan. We didn't have a

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<v Speaker 2>single vote.

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<v Speaker 1>Put it on the post the pole.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, yeah, I thought about it. I didn't put

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<v Speaker 2>a pole I just had them put who they wanted

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<v Speaker 2>and why, and I just went through counting.

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<v Speaker 1>No, that is too much to do.

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<v Speaker 2>Wait a minute, do you think we should go back

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<v Speaker 2>and add a pole?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm trying to see if you can add it, because

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<v Speaker 1>what that is too much to do?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I mean that's what I teople doing counting everybody's opinion,

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<v Speaker 2>because listen, a lot of people was like both, and

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, come on, you got to say you got

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<v Speaker 2>to pick one, not both, so to count you.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I guess you cannot add a pole after creation.

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<v Speaker 2>Mm hmm, I mean you don't it don't hurt the

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<v Speaker 2>go ahead, girl, I'll be kind of listen, I can

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<v Speaker 2>count money and.

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<v Speaker 1>Who y'all vote for money and niggas?

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<v Speaker 2>Yep, So thank y'all for participating in For the Love

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<v Speaker 2>of Tama.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, Willie, I like that.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like we should do around two a face

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<v Speaker 2>off between Jordans and Willie. Oh, that would be nice,

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<v Speaker 2>and just have both of them on the line at

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<v Speaker 2>the same time, just.

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<v Speaker 1>Both I'm lying at the same time. A live performative, right,

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<v Speaker 1>tap dance, nigga tap dance? How was your weekend? It

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<v Speaker 1>was a good girl. I ain't do much and nothing.

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<v Speaker 1>What the fuck did I do this weekend? I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like I did something this weekend. Well, it was Valentines, right,

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<v Speaker 1>So it was Valentines, bitch. Okay, I'm geechee, but I

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<v Speaker 1>know English. Okay, Okay, I know it's not Valentine's right

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<v Speaker 1>In case, y'all niggas didn't know it's Valentines, So we

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<v Speaker 1>ain't do much for actual Valentine's On Friday, we cooked

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<v Speaker 1>at the house and put the projector up on the

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<v Speaker 1>wall in the bedroom because I won't let that nigga

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<v Speaker 1>put a TV.

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<v Speaker 2>Up, so y'all watch, y'all watched the movie or y'all want.

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<v Speaker 1>Just watch a movie. That's all we do. Yep. And

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<v Speaker 1>I got the regular stuff, flowers, balloons, that stuff.

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<v Speaker 2>A lot of people watched their They stayed home for

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<v Speaker 2>Valentine's Day. They didn't go out. I noticed that. So

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<v Speaker 2>for my Valentine's Day, I worked until like eight pm,

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<v Speaker 2>and then I stayed because you know, I'm living in

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<v Speaker 2>New York now, so in Charlotte, I just be staying

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<v Speaker 2>with friends all the time while I'm there. So I

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<v Speaker 2>was gonna give me a hotel room that night because

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<v Speaker 2>I just didn't want to, like go to nobody's house,

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<v Speaker 2>like especially anybody who got a hood been our nigga,

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<v Speaker 2>like they doing their romance thing. But my friend Shame

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<v Speaker 2>was like, girl, come over here. I've been married eleven years,

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<v Speaker 2>Like nothing going on, ye ain't shit. So I still

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<v Speaker 2>she had they had a private chef come over, and

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<v Speaker 2>I waited, so I stayed at I just stayed at

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<v Speaker 2>the shop till like ten o'clock, and then she called

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<v Speaker 2>me like where the fuck are you. I'm like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm on my way. I just never wanted to wait.

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<v Speaker 2>So when I got to her house, I ate the leftovers.

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<v Speaker 2>It's right, the wine, and I just sitting there with

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<v Speaker 2>an attitude eating that good.

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<v Speaker 1>They was waiting on you to eat with them.

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<v Speaker 2>Crazy No, no, well, I don't know, but I didn't

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<v Speaker 2>want to. Like I listened. I would have most certainly

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<v Speaker 2>cried if I sat at their Valentine's dinner and ate

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<v Speaker 2>with them. Girl, I'm a third wheel old somebody Valentine's dinner.

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<v Speaker 1>And not like I don't want to impose on somebody,

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<v Speaker 1>but if they invite me to come, like I'm gonna come,

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<v Speaker 1>and I wouldn't cry because I'm single, there.

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<v Speaker 2>Listen. It would not make me feel good to be

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<v Speaker 2>like sitting in between the two and they're like, so,

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<v Speaker 2>how's everybody's day going. No, I don't want to do that.

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<v Speaker 2>So that was my Valentine's. I did get some stuff,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, I got some stuff in the mail because

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<v Speaker 2>everybody who likes me right now is not local. So

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<v Speaker 2>I got some flowers. Oh, and I got some money.

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<v Speaker 2>A He's always good and I just want to shout

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<v Speaker 2>out Jalisa. Jalisa is a live man and she and

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<v Speaker 2>AJ collapsed.

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<v Speaker 1>That girl messaged me a month ago almost. She was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I want just want to do something really nice for

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<v Speaker 1>town for Valentine's.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, oh, that was so sweet, y'all. She

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<v Speaker 2>sent me a bouquet of flowers, and.

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<v Speaker 1>I cried like a baby in a car.

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<v Speaker 2>I woo cried because it was just so sweet and

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<v Speaker 2>thoughtful and unexpected. So thank you for that, Julisa. I

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<v Speaker 2>really really appreciate and love you, girl. And that was

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<v Speaker 2>my weekend. And my oh, I got something else to

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<v Speaker 2>happen this weekend, y'all. So y'all know, I'm traveling back

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<v Speaker 2>and forth to New York and I'm taking class or whatever.

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<v Speaker 2>And this weekend New York had bad weather. That weather

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<v Speaker 2>sweeped up the East coast. So it was in Charlotte

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<v Speaker 2>first and it just was moving and it was high winds.

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<v Speaker 2>So I struggled to get on the flight back to

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<v Speaker 2>New York because they kept getting grounded. Sunday night, I stood.

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<v Speaker 2>I sat on the runway for three hours before the

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<v Speaker 2>plane just turned around and went back to the gate.

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<v Speaker 2>The niggas was tripping like motherfuckers, was getting upset on

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<v Speaker 2>the plane when White Dude was like, whoever's fucking farten,

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<v Speaker 2>stop fucking far God dammit, it fucking smells like shit, Yo,

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<v Speaker 2>get the fucking bathroom.

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<v Speaker 1>Then charlat Maye just post some shit about people farting

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<v Speaker 1>a plane, like you're a special type of human and

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<v Speaker 1>just be farting just right there in your seat where

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<v Speaker 1>people sitting next to you. You ain't shit, right, actually,

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<v Speaker 1>so uh that happened.

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<v Speaker 2>So then we get off the plane and they're like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>it's gonna be like two hours or something more before

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<v Speaker 2>this flight can take off. Potentially, we don't know, or

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<v Speaker 2>when I get canceled. Baby, I left the airport. I left.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, I am not I've been here since

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<v Speaker 2>eleven am. I'm about to leave. So then finally, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>a whole day wasted because it's like almost eight o'clock

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<v Speaker 2>now at this point when I leave the airport. So

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<v Speaker 2>then the next day I go back. They're still calling

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<v Speaker 2>for a bumpy flight. They're gonna be They're like, it's

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<v Speaker 2>gonna be a bumpy one. We're not gonna do any

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<v Speaker 2>service on the plane because this is a quick flight

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<v Speaker 2>of hour and fifteen minutes. Baby, When I tell you,

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<v Speaker 2>it felt like I was on a roller coaster flying

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<v Speaker 2>into New York. It was so scary. I was terrified.

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<v Speaker 2>I was clinching my ass real tight in my seat

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<v Speaker 2>and like grinding my teams farting. No, it wasn't farting.

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<v Speaker 2>I ain't gonna lie. I have farted on the plane before,

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<v Speaker 2>but it was not me.

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<v Speaker 1>That tie. You look like a bitch at a firm plane,

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<v Speaker 1>Like that's right up your shitty alley. That's crazy, man,

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<v Speaker 1>Have you ever held in a fart that shit?

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<v Speaker 2>Do not feel comfortable?

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<v Speaker 1>Just I feel like maybe I don't fart that much

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<v Speaker 1>as is, like I had to have some crazy shit.

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<v Speaker 1>I do not be full of gas, Like I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like that got something to do with your diet, Like

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not eating some ship that's gonna get me gassy.

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<v Speaker 2>But it don't be like that. When I have farted

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<v Speaker 2>on the plane, it wasn't like a stinky dookie fart.

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<v Speaker 2>It was just like like a little air, just a

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<v Speaker 2>little air, just a little anxiety air or something like that. Now,

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<v Speaker 2>So anyway, y'all, the flight was bouncing like crazy, and

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<v Speaker 2>I was scared. I was really grinding my teeth together.

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<v Speaker 2>I was praying, calling on Jesus, holding my butt cheese,

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<v Speaker 2>and someone behind me was in the back talking about

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<v Speaker 2>every time we hit a like every time the plane would.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like this for these motherfuckers is crazy.

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<v Speaker 2>And you know, I ain't gonna tell you what kind

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<v Speaker 2>of person it was, but you know the demographic of

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<v Speaker 2>the person it was on a plane, like going like

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<v Speaker 2>a bucking bronco on that bitch and talking about he hall.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I mean, in the midst of like possibly dying,

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<v Speaker 1>you might as well have fucking fun, Like what like

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<v Speaker 1>you traveling around the time that damn flight was belly

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<v Speaker 1>up in Canada, Yeah, exactly, you might as well have fucking.

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<v Speaker 2>I was literally in the air when that shit happened.

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<v Speaker 2>So no, I'm not. I'm not having fun. There's nothing

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<v Speaker 2>fun going on right now, and there's no heat. Hall

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<v Speaker 2>shut up and be quiet.

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<v Speaker 1>Like the rest of us, like it's thundering outside, like

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<v Speaker 1>your grandma.

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<v Speaker 2>Exactly that happened.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's get say. Okay, y'all listen, y'all be this fucking post.

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<v Speaker 1>And I just sometimes I don't know if shit be

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<v Speaker 1>real or not, like or if people just be putting

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<v Speaker 1>it out there just to just to I don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>get clicks, likes, and views. But it says this is

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<v Speaker 1>a post someone posting on social media. It says, my

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<v Speaker 1>husband is making us fly home from our honeymoon after

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<v Speaker 1>one day because he found out. I sent my ex

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<v Speaker 1>a simple goodbye text on the morning of our wedding.

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<v Speaker 1>It was a good bye text for goodness sake, she said.

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<v Speaker 1>It was a good bye text for goodness sake. Let

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<v Speaker 1>me read it how she writing it, and I will

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<v Speaker 1>always love you text, not a drop everything and meet

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<v Speaker 1>me at the altar. Text. I needed to say goodbye

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<v Speaker 1>to have closure on the unmarried part of my life.

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<v Speaker 1>Please tell me, my sensitive slash nostalgic girlies understand. No,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't, and I'm I'm a retired frangnizer, like I'm

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<v Speaker 1>with all the shits, bitch, but I feel like I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not playing with my husband in any capacity. You know

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<v Speaker 1>what I'm saying. That nigga didn't marry you. You trying

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<v Speaker 1>to check that other nigga's temperature before you walk down

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<v Speaker 1>the aisle the girlies is not okay with that shit

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<v Speaker 1>the morning of your wedding. Why are you checking on

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<v Speaker 1>the next nigga? So morning of your wedding.

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<v Speaker 2>I do understand, but let me tell you. Let me

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<v Speaker 2>say this, I don't understand on the day of your wedding.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like this conversation conversation should have happened a

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<v Speaker 2>long time ago.

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<v Speaker 1>Like maybe when you got engaged, like, oh my god,

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<v Speaker 1>he asked me to marry him. I said yes, yes, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>and yeah. But the morning of your wedding, and I

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<v Speaker 1>bet you he probably didn't even respond back, like he

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<v Speaker 1>probably ain't checking for you because.

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<v Speaker 2>You know why he didn't give you a ring or

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<v Speaker 2>maybe you was. That was your side, nigga, because that's

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<v Speaker 2>what it's given. It seemed like you still had an

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<v Speaker 2>emotional connection to this person because on the day of

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<v Speaker 2>your wedding, first of all you sloppy his hell, because

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<v Speaker 2>how your nigga even see that? It's just too much

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<v Speaker 2>mess right now, because and let's say you did decide

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<v Speaker 2>to send this message, whatever came over you. You had pre

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<v Speaker 2>wedding jitters, and you just this message to your ex,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, and it was innocent and quotations. Why you

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<v Speaker 2>didn't delete it and then delete it from the deleted shit?

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<v Speaker 1>You were supposed to delete that nigga from your phone

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<v Speaker 1>after you say goodbye. Yeah, you're supposed to lead you

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<v Speaker 1>a whole.

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<v Speaker 2>You're supposed to delete everything and delete the deleted shit

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<v Speaker 2>because you know you can go back and retrieve some

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<v Speaker 2>deleted shit. You're supposed to send that to the trash too. Baby.

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<v Speaker 1>I spent time this weekend deleting niggas, like just deleting

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<v Speaker 1>text threads and stuff that just needed not to be

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<v Speaker 1>in my phone anymore. Like why am I holding on

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<v Speaker 1>to these things? I just deleted a lot of people.

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<v Speaker 2>I can't wait to meet the man that's gonna make

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<v Speaker 2>me delete all the dp PEOs. I got dicks from twenty.

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<v Speaker 1>Sixteen and whirl remember when the cell phones had the

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<v Speaker 1>memory cards? Yeah, bitch, I got a few memory cards,

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<v Speaker 1>but like hell of shit on it, Like I have

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<v Speaker 1>to hide those things. Motherfucker might get like a little

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<v Speaker 1>convertic cartridge and pop that shit at a computer one day.

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<v Speaker 2>But here's the thing, also, there's some issues in your

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<v Speaker 2>relationship already to begin.

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<v Speaker 1>With, because we don't try your phone.

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<v Speaker 2>Why he and your phone on your honeymoon, like y'all

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<v Speaker 2>just trying to ruin your own honey like he was.

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<v Speaker 2>His goal was to ruin his own honeymoon. I'm not

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<v Speaker 2>looking on vacation when people be fighting on vacation about

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<v Speaker 2>going through each other phone. Why you didn't come here

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<v Speaker 2>to have a good time, exactly, You spent all this

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<v Speaker 2>money to be mad.

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<v Speaker 1>And that's the thing. The last vacation me and my

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<v Speaker 1>ex went on the nigga who I was engaged in.

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<v Speaker 1>Like the vacation was lovely, you know what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 1>Like we wasn't trying to ruin our vacation. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>the minute we touched down back on us oil that

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<v Speaker 1>nigga like a his phone turned. My phone was working

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<v Speaker 1>the whole time over there, his phone wasn't working. So

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<v Speaker 1>as soon as we touched down, I don't know if whatever,

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<v Speaker 1>bitch you done ghosted for this week, it was hitting

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<v Speaker 1>your ass up. But that nigga has such the nastiest

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<v Speaker 1>attitude after we ended vacation.

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<v Speaker 2>At least wait till after we laying Yeah, like, who

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<v Speaker 2>the fuck go on vacation and ruin the ship by

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<v Speaker 2>going through he's with you?

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<v Speaker 1>What's your problem?

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<v Speaker 2>I remember I had a girl. I woke up one

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<v Speaker 2>morning and I seen on Instagram this bitch had I

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<v Speaker 2>posted my picture on her story to about this is

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<v Speaker 2>who my nigga talking to. I didn't like, I don't

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<v Speaker 2>even know. I didn't know he had a girlfriend. And

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<v Speaker 2>they were on her birthday trip and he was like

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<v Speaker 2>messaging me during the trip and he went to go

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<v Speaker 2>like change or something, and she went in his phone.

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<v Speaker 2>It wasn't just me, it was me and a couple

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<v Speaker 2>other girls.

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<v Speaker 1>I think imber I remember, I remember that. It's like

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<v Speaker 1>a couple of bitches. She holly pick and choose which

0:14:45.480 --> 0:14:47.200
<v Speaker 1>bitches she wanted to be mad at the most. So

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<v Speaker 1>it's bitch cute.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, Because I'm like, I don't know, I didn't know

0:14:51.560 --> 0:14:53.920
<v Speaker 2>he had a girlfriend. I would not be I'm not

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<v Speaker 2>trying to ruin your vacation, but why are you going

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<v Speaker 2>through his phone.

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<v Speaker 1>Why are you vacation? Why are you running your birthday?

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<v Speaker 1>Like so, you're right that something else may be going

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<v Speaker 1>on in a relationship. And maybe he had already had

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<v Speaker 1>reservations about her. Why he even checking her phone. He

0:15:08.200 --> 0:15:10.880
<v Speaker 1>might have always been checking her phone. She just didn't know.

0:15:11.360 --> 0:15:16.280
<v Speaker 1>But now it's that X so, I mean it's probably

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<v Speaker 1>you know this. This lets me know that there are

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of people who are not married to the

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<v Speaker 1>person that they are actually that they are actually in

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<v Speaker 1>love with. And I think more so men, they lose

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<v Speaker 1>the one that got away and then they just settle

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<v Speaker 1>for the next one and they just never get over

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<v Speaker 1>this other person. A lot of times I think it's

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of people married to just say mine, well, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>they married to mine as well, and the whole time

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<v Speaker 1>your heart is someplace else.

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<v Speaker 2>I remember we were all sitting around I think I

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<v Speaker 2>told this story on here before. But this man compared

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<v Speaker 2>his wife at the time because to a reliable Honda

0:15:57.120 --> 0:16:04.320
<v Speaker 2>Accord baby, like, well, I know the single last everybody

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<v Speaker 2>was sitting at the table like looking down at their phone, like.

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<v Speaker 1>The other bench. Pride was just a lexus made by

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<v Speaker 1>the same people, ain't it. No Toyota, make less Toyota, Hyundai.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know who else Haunta, don't make nothing else.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't ever. I'm a bily motherfucker. I'm just saying like

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<v Speaker 1>his upgrade from the Honda was probably nothing serious either

0:16:29.640 --> 0:16:31.320
<v Speaker 1>you know what I'm saying, or he a.

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<v Speaker 2>Downgrade because he went all of that. He wouldn't if

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<v Speaker 2>he was a ninety eight Honda. She was a two

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<v Speaker 2>thousand and one. He was definitely a ninety eight. Non man.

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<v Speaker 1>Shame, what else were you goll going on?

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<v Speaker 2>So listen, you sent this to me. Study finds that

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<v Speaker 2>most single women would choose their dog over a man.

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<v Speaker 2>A research conducted conducted by the Kennel Club reveals that

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<v Speaker 2>a substant number of single women would choose the company

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<v Speaker 2>of their dogs over pursuing a romantic relationship, with surveys

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<v Speaker 2>indicating figures between sixty and seventy percent. Studies conducted by

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<v Speaker 2>both the Kennel Club and Burns Pet Nutrition also showed

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<v Speaker 2>that many pet owners regard their dog's approval as essential

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<v Speaker 2>when considering a potential period.

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<v Speaker 1>Better know it.

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<v Speaker 2>Millennials are exceptionally devoted to their K nine companions, with

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<v Speaker 2>over half steering clear of relationships with anyone who lacks

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<v Speaker 2>fondness for their dogs.

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<v Speaker 1>When Bella was alive, like, if I was to be

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<v Speaker 1>fucking with somebody and they like, get your dog, even

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<v Speaker 1>friends almost manless, I almost fought. We ain't friends no more.

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<v Speaker 1>But I almost fought a bit over my dog once

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<v Speaker 1>because she kicked my dog. Yes, I said, listen, make

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<v Speaker 1>sure you pick all yourself up off the floor because

0:17:45.440 --> 0:17:48.000
<v Speaker 1>she'd be getting into shit. She'll choose stuff. So she

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<v Speaker 1>left her glasses on the floor and Honey, my dog

0:17:51.760 --> 0:17:54.960
<v Speaker 1>at the time, chewed her glasses. And when she woke up,

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<v Speaker 1>she's like, your fucking dog, choose my glasses. And she

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<v Speaker 1>kicked honeyey And he said, I said, bitch, get the

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<v Speaker 1>fuck out of my house right now. This is her house.

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<v Speaker 1>This is her house.

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<v Speaker 2>And I told you not to leave your shit nowhere.

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<v Speaker 2>Does I don't leave my ship there exactly a do

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<v Speaker 2>you know what time? It is like she would just

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<v Speaker 2>get bored randomly. She would not always do stuff like that,

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<v Speaker 2>but it was a possibility, which is why I pre

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<v Speaker 2>warned you. You know what I'm saying, girl, that bitch

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<v Speaker 2>kick my fucking dog. So if I'm fucking with a

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<v Speaker 2>guy who doesn't really like dogs like that. I don't

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<v Speaker 2>know how we're supposed to be in a relationship. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know if pet's period No, because I dated

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<v Speaker 2>someone who, uh, you know, African men don't really like

0:18:41.680 --> 0:18:42.960
<v Speaker 2>animals at all like that.

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<v Speaker 1>In the house. They probably don't think they belong in

0:18:45.119 --> 0:18:46.080
<v Speaker 1>the house. That's what it is.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, And I'm I don't know if it's gonna keep

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<v Speaker 2>me from a relationship if you're not a pet person.

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<v Speaker 2>As long as you don't try to harm my animal,

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<v Speaker 2>it's okay.

0:18:56.960 --> 0:18:58.960
<v Speaker 1>But how are y'all okay? Like suppose y'all were to

0:18:58.960 --> 0:19:02.320
<v Speaker 1>get into a relationship with I would be married, y'all.

0:19:02.400 --> 0:19:05.080
<v Speaker 1>Y'all know that's what I'm saying. Y'all may not get

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<v Speaker 1>to that place because this is not an animal. Person

0:19:08.040 --> 0:19:10.159
<v Speaker 1>like that person would not want an animal living in

0:19:10.200 --> 0:19:12.800
<v Speaker 1>a house with them. It's the same like with smoking cigarettes.

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<v Speaker 1>Just because you smoke at your house, I still don't

0:19:15.320 --> 0:19:17.240
<v Speaker 1>want somebody who smokes me neither.

0:19:18.000 --> 0:19:19.879
<v Speaker 2>But I listened. I remember I had, y'all. I had

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<v Speaker 2>a chihuahua Diamonds Rest in Peace Diamonds. And she was

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<v Speaker 2>so tiny, right like she was, you know how little

0:19:25.760 --> 0:19:28.760
<v Speaker 2>chihuah She was like, we've been small, like a pre

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<v Speaker 2>MEI hua tea cut.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>And I remember this guy that I thought was like

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<v Speaker 2>pretty dope. He was in banking in Charlotte and he

0:19:38.640 --> 0:19:41.480
<v Speaker 2>had his ship together and he was very much into

0:19:41.520 --> 0:19:44.879
<v Speaker 2>me and I finally, after you know, dating for a

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<v Speaker 2>little while, I invited him in uh to do karaoke

0:19:49.119 --> 0:19:52.320
<v Speaker 2>because I wasn't trying to fuck yet, but I love listen.

0:19:52.359 --> 0:19:56.439
<v Speaker 2>I always want to do karaoke and entertain. And I

0:19:56.520 --> 0:20:00.440
<v Speaker 2>let Diamonds out the cage, you know, because when I home,

0:20:00.680 --> 0:20:02.320
<v Speaker 2>she don't have to sit in the cage, you know.

0:20:03.119 --> 0:20:06.680
<v Speaker 2>And I let her free. And I didn't tell him.

0:20:06.880 --> 0:20:08.600
<v Speaker 2>I didn't say, hey, I'm about to let her out.

0:20:08.600 --> 0:20:11.840
<v Speaker 2>I just went and opened the cage and he jumped

0:20:12.520 --> 0:20:16.960
<v Speaker 2>with his shoes on into my couch and was hollering

0:20:17.000 --> 0:20:21.760
<v Speaker 2>like a little bit, I'm not like that. And I

0:20:21.840 --> 0:20:23.640
<v Speaker 2>was like, oh, no, you've got to get the fuck out.

0:20:23.680 --> 0:20:25.520
<v Speaker 2>I don't even want to talk to you no more.

0:20:26.320 --> 0:20:28.960
<v Speaker 2>I don't even want to date you no more. Honestly,

0:20:30.080 --> 0:20:32.600
<v Speaker 2>because we know and already love our animals, that's why

0:20:32.600 --> 0:20:35.879
<v Speaker 2>we're gonna choose them over this imaginary nigga. You know,

0:20:37.600 --> 0:20:40.600
<v Speaker 2>I think if you met the right imaginary yes, he's

0:20:40.600 --> 0:20:44.200
<v Speaker 2>a pigment of your imagination at this time. So but

0:20:44.400 --> 0:20:47.000
<v Speaker 2>I feel like if you met someone good and loving

0:20:47.200 --> 0:20:50.480
<v Speaker 2>and checked all your boxes and made you feel very love,

0:20:51.200 --> 0:20:52.320
<v Speaker 2>you might compromise.

0:20:52.800 --> 0:20:55.320
<v Speaker 1>I don't think. So. I have a friend who has

0:20:55.320 --> 0:20:59.600
<v Speaker 1>a child now, but and I think she might have

0:20:59.680 --> 0:21:01.880
<v Speaker 1>all already been pregnant when her and her boyfriend were

0:21:01.880 --> 0:21:04.520
<v Speaker 1>like like thinking about moving in together. But the entire

0:21:04.560 --> 0:21:07.800
<v Speaker 1>time she was dating him, he had this dog. She

0:21:07.880 --> 0:21:10.960
<v Speaker 1>knew he had a dog, right. She even she even

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<v Speaker 1>tried to go to therapy, like cause she's like really

0:21:14.280 --> 0:21:17.760
<v Speaker 1>really afraid of dogs, right, so she did actually, you know,

0:21:17.840 --> 0:21:20.760
<v Speaker 1>go seek therapy to find out you know why is

0:21:20.800 --> 0:21:23.879
<v Speaker 1>she just so terrified of pets, and also to make

0:21:23.920 --> 0:21:27.560
<v Speaker 1>the relationship work. But ultimately they didn't work out, and

0:21:27.600 --> 0:21:29.800
<v Speaker 1>that was one of the reasons why is And now

0:21:29.840 --> 0:21:32.879
<v Speaker 1>they have a child together. And when she was pregnant,

0:21:32.920 --> 0:21:36.000
<v Speaker 1>she was like I'm not even I'm not I'm not

0:21:36.119 --> 0:21:39.239
<v Speaker 1>moving in there, like you already made a decision. Now

0:21:39.280 --> 0:21:43.600
<v Speaker 1>you have a kid, and now is like you knew

0:21:43.640 --> 0:21:46.000
<v Speaker 1>this man had this dog the whole time y'all are

0:21:46.000 --> 0:21:48.560
<v Speaker 1>in a relationship, and he had the dog the whole

0:21:48.560 --> 0:21:51.439
<v Speaker 1>time you were pregnant, right, so why wait until you

0:21:51.440 --> 0:21:55.919
<v Speaker 1>get pregnant for somebody who has dogs, who has a dog,

0:21:56.080 --> 0:21:58.959
<v Speaker 1>and you know you don't like dogs, Like that's something

0:21:59.080 --> 0:22:01.000
<v Speaker 1>that's probably another negotiable for you.

0:22:01.320 --> 0:22:06.120
<v Speaker 2>I just expect you to compromise in my in my favor, see.

0:22:06.040 --> 0:22:08.240
<v Speaker 1>And that's not how it's gonna be. So really, you

0:22:08.320 --> 0:22:12.520
<v Speaker 1>just have to get people who are comparable, yeah, to

0:22:12.600 --> 0:22:16.280
<v Speaker 1>your life, like you can't make especially at this big age.

0:22:16.320 --> 0:22:19.240
<v Speaker 1>Like if somebody doesn't like dogs, they don't like dogs,

0:22:19.240 --> 0:22:21.200
<v Speaker 1>they're not gonna date somebody who has dogs. They're not

0:22:21.200 --> 0:22:23.320
<v Speaker 1>gonna date somebody who. A lot of people be hating

0:22:23.359 --> 0:22:25.800
<v Speaker 1>on cats. People do not like cats. I didn't know.

0:22:27.119 --> 0:22:29.840
<v Speaker 2>I don't. I used to love cats as a child,

0:22:29.840 --> 0:22:33.080
<v Speaker 2>But cats is so sometimey as fucked. Like one minute

0:22:33.080 --> 0:22:34.360
<v Speaker 2>they like you, the next minute.

0:22:34.160 --> 0:22:39.240
<v Speaker 1>They they are women. They just like women and dogs

0:22:39.280 --> 0:22:41.840
<v Speaker 1>are like men. Like cats really don't when they don't

0:22:41.880 --> 0:22:44.320
<v Speaker 1>want you fucking with them, like you just leave them alone.

0:22:44.320 --> 0:22:46.960
<v Speaker 1>But the less attention you paid to them, the more

0:22:47.040 --> 0:22:48.000
<v Speaker 1>they want to love on you.

0:22:48.720 --> 0:22:51.120
<v Speaker 2>Like I would have for me to have a cat,

0:22:51.160 --> 0:22:52.560
<v Speaker 2>I would want to get them declawed.

0:22:53.280 --> 0:22:56.159
<v Speaker 1>No, that is so inhumane. What if they were to

0:22:56.200 --> 0:22:58.119
<v Speaker 1>get out and get lost, they won't be able to

0:22:58.160 --> 0:23:02.480
<v Speaker 1>defend themselves. I hate even Like for Christmas, we went

0:23:02.560 --> 0:23:05.640
<v Speaker 1>to some friend's house for she had like a gathering

0:23:05.720 --> 0:23:09.760
<v Speaker 1>for for friends for Christmas, and I actually took Dasha

0:23:09.840 --> 0:23:12.680
<v Speaker 1>to her people house like the breeder I got her from,

0:23:13.119 --> 0:23:15.720
<v Speaker 1>And I intentionally didn't cut her nails, just in case

0:23:15.760 --> 0:23:17.360
<v Speaker 1>she got to fight her mom when she get there.

0:23:18.000 --> 0:23:20.360
<v Speaker 1>Like you just never know, like what's gonna pop off?

0:23:20.400 --> 0:23:23.000
<v Speaker 1>And your cat can't defend themselves because you don't cut

0:23:23.000 --> 0:23:25.879
<v Speaker 1>their nails or declawed them. Yeah, I would never that

0:23:25.920 --> 0:23:29.320
<v Speaker 1>makes sense. Yeah, that's their like defense, you know.

0:23:29.480 --> 0:23:30.560
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it gives your ass too.

0:23:30.560 --> 0:23:33.240
<v Speaker 1>You have a big scratchbar cat I have. I got

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<v Speaker 1>a scar on my damn arm from when she was

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<v Speaker 1>a kitten. But she's man. Catch her hurts they do her,

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<v Speaker 1>but they don't, they don't, they don't mean to do it.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know nowt up very intentional.

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<v Speaker 2>I was in high school. My friend Casey kat Panda,

0:23:49.880 --> 0:23:53.199
<v Speaker 2>she would always come rub on me, take rubbing on

0:23:53.280 --> 0:23:56.120
<v Speaker 2>my leg, rubbing, so finally I was like, okay, let

0:23:56.119 --> 0:23:58.440
<v Speaker 2>me pay.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, you can rub me, but I can't rub you.

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<v Speaker 2>Bit.

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<v Speaker 1>That's how she scratched me up.

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<v Speaker 2>And I ain't fu.

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<v Speaker 1>Shame. I love the cats, man, I was fixated on

0:24:08.800 --> 0:24:11.040
<v Speaker 1>cats for at least two years before actually getting one.

0:24:11.280 --> 0:24:13.439
<v Speaker 2>Your cat is pretty, but I definitely was still like,

0:24:13.480 --> 0:24:16.760
<v Speaker 2>if I came over, I would probably like myma business.

0:24:16.800 --> 0:24:19.040
<v Speaker 2>And then she rubbing through me is cool, but I ain't.

0:24:19.880 --> 0:24:22.960
<v Speaker 2>I ain't gonna. I ain't gonna like I have PTSD.

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<v Speaker 1>She has never hissed. I've heard her hits that like

0:24:26.000 --> 0:24:28.199
<v Speaker 1>she was hissing at like trying to buck up to

0:24:28.200 --> 0:24:30.960
<v Speaker 1>fight her mom. But she's never done that to me.

0:24:32.160 --> 0:24:34.000
<v Speaker 1>And I heard her growl at a dog one time.

0:24:34.640 --> 0:24:38.760
<v Speaker 1>She growls, Yeah, I didn't know cats growled, Yes, Like hmmm,

0:24:39.440 --> 0:24:43.600
<v Speaker 1>that's insane, like a whole dog. Anyway, y'all listen. So

0:24:43.640 --> 0:24:46.160
<v Speaker 1>we got a lot of new legislation coming down the pipeline.

0:24:46.160 --> 0:24:47.440
<v Speaker 1>I don't know if y'all heard about this or not,

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<v Speaker 1>but it says Ohio and Mississippi bill aims to make

0:24:51.440 --> 0:24:56.960
<v Speaker 1>ejaculating without intent to conceive a felony costing over ten

0:24:57.240 --> 0:25:01.719
<v Speaker 1>thousand dollars. Okay, it's as a draft bill was released

0:25:01.720 --> 0:25:04.919
<v Speaker 1>in Ohio this week seeking to make ejaculation without the

0:25:04.960 --> 0:25:09.400
<v Speaker 1>intent of conceiving a baby a felony offense. Its advocates

0:25:09.560 --> 0:25:14.000
<v Speaker 1>say that say the intent is to stir up public debate.

0:25:14.280 --> 0:25:15.960
<v Speaker 1>So maybe he's not a real thing. So it says,

0:25:15.960 --> 0:25:18.560
<v Speaker 1>to stir up public debate over reproductive rights and the

0:25:18.720 --> 0:25:23.200
<v Speaker 1>interpretation and application of Biblical law, because y'all know that's

0:25:23.200 --> 0:25:25.800
<v Speaker 1>how they like to do women. If the United States

0:25:25.880 --> 0:25:30.639
<v Speaker 1>governments are willing to use interpretations of theological law to

0:25:30.720 --> 0:25:35.880
<v Speaker 1>regulate women, why not men? I agree. Ohio State Representatives

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<v Speaker 1>Anita Somani and Tristan Radar Raider, the authors of the

0:25:41.960 --> 0:25:48.280
<v Speaker 1>Conception Begins at Erection Act, say it's a tongue in

0:25:48.359 --> 0:25:52.560
<v Speaker 1>chic means of highlighting the hypocrisy behind moves to regulate

0:25:52.880 --> 0:25:58.680
<v Speaker 1>women's bodies. It says, you don't get pregnant on your own, observers.

0:25:58.800 --> 0:26:05.000
<v Speaker 1>Representative Samani, Democrat for Dublin. If you're if you're going

0:26:05.040 --> 0:26:08.920
<v Speaker 1>to penalize someone for an unwanted pregnancy, why not penalize

0:26:08.920 --> 0:26:11.840
<v Speaker 1>the person who is also responsible for the pregnancy. It

0:26:11.920 --> 0:26:14.159
<v Speaker 1>is now legal in ten states for women to have

0:26:14.200 --> 0:26:18.359
<v Speaker 1>a termination. Excuse me. It's now illegal in ten states

0:26:18.400 --> 0:26:21.840
<v Speaker 1>for women to have a termination, even in the aftermath

0:26:21.880 --> 0:26:25.160
<v Speaker 1>of a rape. At least three women have been jailed

0:26:25.240 --> 0:26:28.199
<v Speaker 1>after the US Supreme Court overturned the fifty year old

0:26:28.280 --> 0:26:32.560
<v Speaker 1>Row versus Wade precedent. So we get in politics, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like this is a is a great counter

0:26:34.520 --> 0:26:39.000
<v Speaker 1>because it doesn't like men don't have to have no

0:26:39.080 --> 0:26:43.960
<v Speaker 1>responsibility for real, once a baby is conceived. You know

0:26:44.000 --> 0:26:46.280
<v Speaker 1>what I'm saying, like, yeah, you might get I guess,

0:26:46.320 --> 0:26:49.560
<v Speaker 1>you know, child support stuff like that. I also then

0:26:49.680 --> 0:26:52.600
<v Speaker 1>understand men when they don't want the child, right, because

0:26:53.119 --> 0:26:55.000
<v Speaker 1>the women can say they don't want the child, and

0:26:55.000 --> 0:26:57.119
<v Speaker 1>then the man has no say so. A woman can

0:26:57.160 --> 0:26:58.760
<v Speaker 1>say they want the child and a man has no

0:26:58.880 --> 0:27:02.919
<v Speaker 1>say so, right, and that is your child, nigga. It

0:27:03.000 --> 0:27:04.200
<v Speaker 1>literally was in your nuts.

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<v Speaker 2>First.

0:27:05.800 --> 0:27:09.919
<v Speaker 1>I love the name of the act, but it's ridiculous.

0:27:10.119 --> 0:27:15.000
<v Speaker 1>It is if I catch your ass busting off of

0:27:15.080 --> 0:27:19.560
<v Speaker 1>a sock, nigga, ten thousand dollars reckless abandonments. I don't

0:27:19.560 --> 0:27:21.520
<v Speaker 1>think that's what they mean though. I think they mean like,

0:27:21.560 --> 0:27:25.639
<v Speaker 1>if you get somebody pregnant and you didn't intend on

0:27:25.760 --> 0:27:28.520
<v Speaker 1>getting them pregnant, but they do it's gonna be ten

0:27:28.560 --> 0:27:32.560
<v Speaker 1>thousand dollars or maybe they just saying it just I

0:27:32.560 --> 0:27:32.879
<v Speaker 1>don't know.

0:27:33.040 --> 0:27:35.440
<v Speaker 2>No, I think they just want people to have conversations

0:27:35.480 --> 0:27:35.879
<v Speaker 2>about it.

0:27:35.920 --> 0:27:38.760
<v Speaker 1>And that's what they said, is like thought provoking.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, because the ain't no way, baby.

0:27:42.520 --> 0:27:44.000
<v Speaker 1>I just think they need to go ahead with the

0:27:44.560 --> 0:27:47.640
<v Speaker 1>contraceptive for men. You know, but there are a lot

0:27:47.680 --> 0:27:51.080
<v Speaker 1>of men now who are getting vasectomies. I know a

0:27:51.080 --> 0:27:53.800
<v Speaker 1>few men who have had them. You know, do they

0:27:53.880 --> 0:27:56.399
<v Speaker 1>have kids? Yeah, they already have kids, and they're like,

0:27:56.440 --> 0:27:58.720
<v Speaker 1>I'm not having no more kids. And I guess I

0:27:58.760 --> 0:28:01.840
<v Speaker 1>want to be I want to fuck I'm not and

0:28:01.920 --> 0:28:02.440
<v Speaker 1>I mean.

0:28:03.960 --> 0:28:09.840
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I mean teach shirl, I listen. I'm like, just celibate,

0:28:10.840 --> 0:28:13.280
<v Speaker 2>still just celibate. But the next time I do it,

0:28:13.320 --> 0:28:14.080
<v Speaker 2>I want to be able.

0:28:14.160 --> 0:28:15.440
<v Speaker 1>You're gonna celibate next time?

0:28:16.640 --> 0:28:20.720
<v Speaker 2>No, I ain't gonna celebate. I would like to have

0:28:20.840 --> 0:28:21.720
<v Speaker 2>unprotected sex.

0:28:22.600 --> 0:28:31.320
<v Speaker 1>Yes, yes, yes, yes, we fucking rut twenty twenty five, baby.

0:28:33.119 --> 0:28:35.199
<v Speaker 2>But that's why, but only with the right person. So

0:28:35.240 --> 0:28:36.480
<v Speaker 2>I'm just gonna wait and wait and.

0:28:36.440 --> 0:28:38.760
<v Speaker 1>Wait and wait. Don't do it, Ohio and Mississippi.

0:28:42.640 --> 0:28:44.360
<v Speaker 2>But I just need to lie. I wanted to be

0:28:44.400 --> 0:28:45.560
<v Speaker 2>my man, my man, my man.

0:28:45.680 --> 0:28:45.880
<v Speaker 1>You know.

0:28:46.480 --> 0:28:50.240
<v Speaker 2>So I think I'm just gonna wait, wait, wait, wait, wait,

0:28:51.200 --> 0:28:53.640
<v Speaker 2>I've missed around and don't get none all twenty twenty.

0:28:53.400 --> 0:29:00.560
<v Speaker 1>Five, No, right, waiting on some nice clean well teen Yeah,

0:29:04.320 --> 0:29:10.800
<v Speaker 1>some god faring penis. Yeah, girl, Yo, Christians, be wild.

0:29:11.080 --> 0:29:13.880
<v Speaker 2>I want that. I'm gonna be like that girl. Remember

0:29:13.920 --> 0:29:16.600
<v Speaker 2>she's like, I ain't had no sex on the pool pit.

0:29:16.680 --> 0:29:21.920
<v Speaker 2>When she's saying that, Yeah, now that's where I'm at

0:29:21.960 --> 0:29:23.600
<v Speaker 2>with it. Well, God please.

0:29:23.320 --> 0:29:25.080
<v Speaker 1>Give her that, give her that.

0:29:25.840 --> 0:29:26.360
<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

0:29:26.480 --> 0:29:28.680
<v Speaker 1>I don't know, but I don't know. I'm with the

0:29:29.360 --> 0:29:34.280
<v Speaker 1>non recreational fucking nowadays. I just eat my energy.

0:29:34.360 --> 0:29:38.680
<v Speaker 2>Man. It's kind of crazy because you in that house

0:29:38.720 --> 0:29:40.320
<v Speaker 2>with a nigga, and I know he'd be like.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, y'all, let's get to Battie of the Day,

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<v Speaker 1>Baddie of the week. So this week's battie is actually

0:29:53.360 --> 0:29:59.120
<v Speaker 1>a couple. Okay, black people, okay, Marie Van Britton Brown

0:29:59.280 --> 0:30:04.160
<v Speaker 1>and Albert L. Brown. Marie Brown was a nurse and

0:30:04.240 --> 0:30:07.480
<v Speaker 1>her husband was an electrician. In nineteen sixty six, they

0:30:07.520 --> 0:30:11.880
<v Speaker 1>invented an audio visual home security system. That same year,

0:30:11.920 --> 0:30:14.960
<v Speaker 1>they applied for a patent for their security system. It

0:30:15.000 --> 0:30:19.480
<v Speaker 1>was granted three years later in nineteen sixty nine, y'all,

0:30:19.520 --> 0:30:23.040
<v Speaker 1>And that is our baddie couple of the week that

0:30:23.160 --> 0:30:23.760
<v Speaker 1>talks back.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, salute to them. Hey, listen, I know they got

0:30:27.840 --> 0:30:31.640
<v Speaker 2>paid off of that security system. Like we've we've created

0:30:31.760 --> 0:30:34.920
<v Speaker 2>so many things, like so many inventions, and a lot

0:30:34.920 --> 0:30:38.800
<v Speaker 2>of them came out of necessity the need. When you

0:30:38.840 --> 0:30:41.120
<v Speaker 2>need some shit that don't exist, you wake up some

0:30:41.160 --> 0:30:41.960
<v Speaker 2>shit real quick.

0:30:42.640 --> 0:30:45.440
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, they were living in Jamaica Queen's back then, so

0:30:45.480 --> 0:30:52.720
<v Speaker 1>they absolutely needed an alarm system. So them niggas is like,

0:30:52.760 --> 0:30:55.160
<v Speaker 1>wait a minute, let me see we could throw together

0:30:55.240 --> 0:30:57.840
<v Speaker 1>right quick. So a lot of patents are still you know,

0:30:58.000 --> 0:31:04.160
<v Speaker 1>even used today. Period thirty two subsequent patents actually still

0:31:04.200 --> 0:31:08.880
<v Speaker 1>being used. We salute you all right, y'all. So listen,

0:31:10.040 --> 0:31:13.160
<v Speaker 1>this week's episode is actually an extension I guess from

0:31:13.240 --> 0:31:18.400
<v Speaker 1>last week from uh uh for the love of tam Bam. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>So when do you ask those tough questions when you

0:31:21.080 --> 0:31:23.320
<v Speaker 1>first get into a relationship, Because now she's gonna be

0:31:23.360 --> 0:31:26.880
<v Speaker 1>going on dates. She got like two apostle one of

0:31:26.920 --> 0:31:28.240
<v Speaker 1>the possible right now.

0:31:29.400 --> 0:31:31.600
<v Speaker 2>Not a single soul voted for Nico, not one.

0:31:33.360 --> 0:31:35.240
<v Speaker 1>Nico was a damn fool. I feel like he was

0:31:35.240 --> 0:31:40.720
<v Speaker 1>trying to self sabotage because what so, when do you

0:31:40.760 --> 0:31:42.600
<v Speaker 1>have the tough questions? When do you have the tough

0:31:42.640 --> 0:31:45.240
<v Speaker 1>Excuse me? When do you have the tough conversations when

0:31:45.280 --> 0:31:48.240
<v Speaker 1>you first start dating somebody? When is the right time?

0:31:48.520 --> 0:31:51.080
<v Speaker 1>You know? I think it's before sex?

0:31:52.200 --> 0:31:55.840
<v Speaker 2>Okay, yeah, absolutely, before six.

0:31:56.200 --> 0:31:58.560
<v Speaker 1>Okay, So if you plan on having sex with him

0:31:58.560 --> 0:32:00.600
<v Speaker 1>tonight and this is the first date, you need to

0:32:00.640 --> 0:32:09.840
<v Speaker 1>ask him all the shit today. Let's get into it, sorry, y'all.

0:32:09.880 --> 0:32:13.680
<v Speaker 1>So Valentine's Day just passed and we did for the

0:32:13.800 --> 0:32:16.520
<v Speaker 1>love of damn bam period. So she'll have a date

0:32:16.560 --> 0:32:19.800
<v Speaker 1>coming up soon. So we were thinking about, like, you know,

0:32:19.920 --> 0:32:23.880
<v Speaker 1>like it's hard to actually have or ask the questions

0:32:23.920 --> 0:32:25.080
<v Speaker 1>that need to be asked.

0:32:25.200 --> 0:32:25.600
<v Speaker 2>Period.

0:32:25.800 --> 0:32:27.640
<v Speaker 1>When are you going on dates with new people? You

0:32:27.640 --> 0:32:28.880
<v Speaker 1>know what I'm saying. You don't want to scare a

0:32:28.960 --> 0:32:32.560
<v Speaker 1>nigga off, but I feel like scare them off if you.

0:32:33.920 --> 0:32:36.960
<v Speaker 2>Ask the hard questions up front, don't wait, but don't

0:32:37.520 --> 0:32:40.560
<v Speaker 2>some questions you should wait on, like don't ask for money.

0:32:40.560 --> 0:32:42.200
<v Speaker 2>I don't think you should ask for money on the

0:32:42.280 --> 0:32:42.920
<v Speaker 2>first date.

0:32:44.160 --> 0:32:46.640
<v Speaker 1>Wait, why he gonna ask her pussy on the first

0:32:46.720 --> 0:32:49.480
<v Speaker 1>date or try to insinuate.

0:32:49.800 --> 0:32:52.120
<v Speaker 2>Well, you can insinuate that you need help. But I

0:32:52.200 --> 0:32:55.040
<v Speaker 2>just feel like men are off put by anybody. Like

0:32:55.120 --> 0:32:57.680
<v Speaker 2>I promise y'all. I used to do that shit a

0:32:57.720 --> 0:33:00.680
<v Speaker 2>long time ago. Date, not all the first day, but

0:33:00.800 --> 0:33:05.920
<v Speaker 2>like after the first day. I'm so stressed. Life is

0:33:05.960 --> 0:33:06.560
<v Speaker 2>so hard.

0:33:06.680 --> 0:33:08.920
<v Speaker 1>I need help, but I really did.

0:33:09.000 --> 0:33:12.640
<v Speaker 2>I was young, I was poor, you know, college college agent,

0:33:12.720 --> 0:33:14.320
<v Speaker 2>young and poor, you do need help?

0:33:15.000 --> 0:33:18.240
<v Speaker 1>Well, My thing is this, if they ask about or

0:33:18.280 --> 0:33:22.240
<v Speaker 1>even just having a little small talk around sex, even

0:33:22.280 --> 0:33:24.280
<v Speaker 1>a little bit, then that's when you bring up the

0:33:24.280 --> 0:33:27.520
<v Speaker 1>topic of money to make everybody uncomfortable at that point.

0:33:28.400 --> 0:33:32.480
<v Speaker 2>But then it almost comes off as a little prostituty.

0:33:32.560 --> 0:33:34.600
<v Speaker 1>You don't actually have to give him the gucci on

0:33:34.600 --> 0:33:39.040
<v Speaker 1>the first date. We are just meeting you on marroring

0:33:39.320 --> 0:33:42.239
<v Speaker 1>your actions right now, is what I'm doing. Yeah, But

0:33:42.480 --> 0:33:46.000
<v Speaker 1>so men value their pocket, they value their purse, and women.

0:33:45.840 --> 0:33:49.040
<v Speaker 2>Valuate their body, right, so, but then it almost comes

0:33:49.040 --> 0:33:52.120
<v Speaker 2>off as transactional. Are we transactional with our bodies?

0:33:53.000 --> 0:33:57.000
<v Speaker 1>Yes, even married women, But nobody want to talk about that.

0:33:57.120 --> 0:34:00.480
<v Speaker 1>And sometimes I know. I am like, if I need

0:34:00.520 --> 0:34:03.640
<v Speaker 1>you to produce, I might not milk you all the time.

0:34:03.720 --> 0:34:05.480
<v Speaker 1>We might not have sex all the time. If I

0:34:05.560 --> 0:34:09.440
<v Speaker 1>need you to be attentive and actually executeing on whatever

0:34:09.440 --> 0:34:13.200
<v Speaker 1>goals we have. Because if you really fucking a nigga like,

0:34:13.239 --> 0:34:15.279
<v Speaker 1>he don't have energy to do nothing else. So I

0:34:15.360 --> 0:34:17.640
<v Speaker 1>need you to have energy but to provide.

0:34:17.680 --> 0:34:19.560
<v Speaker 2>See, I'm thinking that you should want to fuck him

0:34:19.560 --> 0:34:20.400
<v Speaker 2>all the time.

0:34:20.280 --> 0:34:22.120
<v Speaker 1>So somebody else ain't doing it.

0:34:22.200 --> 0:34:25.719
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, listen, it's empty that nigga all the time, so

0:34:25.800 --> 0:34:27.799
<v Speaker 2>he don't need nobody else.

0:34:27.920 --> 0:34:30.359
<v Speaker 1>I am at a point in my life where I

0:34:30.440 --> 0:34:33.640
<v Speaker 1>really don't care. Not that I don't, but I think

0:34:33.680 --> 0:34:38.120
<v Speaker 1>that it's real love When I never find out, I

0:34:38.160 --> 0:34:42.520
<v Speaker 1>feel like you hate me out for me to see.

0:34:42.640 --> 0:34:46.239
<v Speaker 2>But here's the thing. The niggas be sloppy. They don't

0:34:46.280 --> 0:34:48.680
<v Speaker 2>think as far ahead when it comes to turn things

0:34:48.719 --> 0:34:51.799
<v Speaker 2>like that as women do. When women step out or

0:34:51.800 --> 0:34:55.200
<v Speaker 2>do something they don't have no business, they are playing chess,

0:34:55.400 --> 0:34:59.840
<v Speaker 2>planning that ship down to what socks and shoes looking.

0:34:59.680 --> 0:35:03.040
<v Speaker 1>And that is love, that's respect. Am I wrong.

0:35:05.520 --> 0:35:10.319
<v Speaker 2>In a toxic way? You're right, is not doing it

0:35:10.360 --> 0:35:16.359
<v Speaker 2>at all? So I don't know with that, So what's

0:35:16.400 --> 0:35:16.839
<v Speaker 2>what's some.

0:35:16.760 --> 0:35:20.399
<v Speaker 1>Of the tough questions that you think should not be

0:35:20.520 --> 0:35:23.560
<v Speaker 1>asked on a first date, because again, if I were

0:35:23.680 --> 0:35:27.160
<v Speaker 1>dating at this age, I'm asking all the things upfront

0:35:27.160 --> 0:35:30.560
<v Speaker 1>so that you know, or you know, you can make

0:35:30.600 --> 0:35:33.120
<v Speaker 1>the decision whether or not you want to take any

0:35:33.160 --> 0:35:33.960
<v Speaker 1>further than tonight.

0:35:34.160 --> 0:35:36.160
<v Speaker 2>You should never ask a man on the first day

0:35:36.320 --> 0:35:40.800
<v Speaker 2>how much money he makes, how much money he makes? No,

0:35:40.960 --> 0:35:43.040
<v Speaker 2>that's you shouldn't act that on the first day.

0:35:43.880 --> 0:35:47.360
<v Speaker 1>I don't think. I don't think I ever asked people

0:35:47.360 --> 0:35:49.839
<v Speaker 1>how much money they make, and I really don't ask

0:35:49.840 --> 0:35:52.880
<v Speaker 1>people what they do. Usually that comes out in general conversation.

0:35:54.040 --> 0:35:57.320
<v Speaker 2>No, you know, being in LA that is a quick

0:35:57.640 --> 0:35:59.399
<v Speaker 2>they want so much money you make? Not how much

0:35:59.400 --> 0:36:01.640
<v Speaker 2>money you make, but what do you do? So what

0:36:01.680 --> 0:36:02.080
<v Speaker 2>do you do?

0:36:02.680 --> 0:36:06.120
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, so that's like the first to it's the problem.

0:36:06.160 --> 0:36:07.800
<v Speaker 1>He will try to size you up.

0:36:07.960 --> 0:36:10.440
<v Speaker 2>By But that is a common question out there. So

0:36:10.640 --> 0:36:12.920
<v Speaker 2>I don't think, like so some places that's normal to

0:36:13.000 --> 0:36:15.480
<v Speaker 2>ask and it's not offensive, you know, or where do

0:36:15.520 --> 0:36:15.799
<v Speaker 2>you live?

0:36:17.400 --> 0:36:18.080
<v Speaker 1>Where do you live?

0:36:18.239 --> 0:36:21.160
<v Speaker 2>Where do you live? But that's a that's intrusive to me.

0:36:21.239 --> 0:36:25.880
<v Speaker 2>It's why you want to know don't where you live.

0:36:27.200 --> 0:36:29.279
<v Speaker 1>So it's too soon to bring up money. How much

0:36:29.320 --> 0:36:29.600
<v Speaker 1>you make?

0:36:29.920 --> 0:36:34.040
<v Speaker 2>How much can I have some What's another question that

0:36:35.000 --> 0:36:35.600
<v Speaker 2>is too soon?

0:36:36.320 --> 0:36:36.720
<v Speaker 1>Uh?

0:36:36.840 --> 0:36:39.239
<v Speaker 2>Do you have like mental illness in your family? That

0:36:39.320 --> 0:36:42.200
<v Speaker 2>is not too soon for a first day. Yes, No,

0:36:42.480 --> 0:36:44.960
<v Speaker 2>don't ask because if it's mama skins are Freddy, you

0:36:44.960 --> 0:36:46.839
<v Speaker 2>think he want to have that conversation right away.

0:36:47.320 --> 0:36:49.800
<v Speaker 1>He might be taking you out right now, like it's crazy,

0:36:49.880 --> 0:36:52.880
<v Speaker 1>might fuck around and come out because you asked. You see,

0:36:53.280 --> 0:36:55.160
<v Speaker 1>so now you know rather than not you're getting that.

0:36:57.600 --> 0:37:00.520
<v Speaker 1>But listen, people might have mental Is that a breaker?

0:37:01.080 --> 0:37:03.680
<v Speaker 1>It was not a deal break exactly. Some know how

0:37:03.840 --> 0:37:07.080
<v Speaker 1>now to handle you because I know I've said this before.

0:37:07.120 --> 0:37:09.480
<v Speaker 1>I think a lot of times like men. I want

0:37:09.560 --> 0:37:12.080
<v Speaker 1>to say men, but I deal with men right. People

0:37:12.280 --> 0:37:14.239
<v Speaker 1>have issues and they want you to use them to

0:37:14.320 --> 0:37:17.040
<v Speaker 1>justify why they treating you a certain way. Like just

0:37:17.080 --> 0:37:19.279
<v Speaker 1>because I know you are all this trauma, you know

0:37:19.320 --> 0:37:21.600
<v Speaker 1>I'm not going to keep sticking around and using it

0:37:21.640 --> 0:37:27.200
<v Speaker 1>to justify being mistreated. Yeah, So know upfront, it just.

0:37:27.120 --> 0:37:29.759
<v Speaker 2>Seems a little harsh because I'm just trying to put

0:37:29.760 --> 0:37:33.680
<v Speaker 2>myself in a place of someone who does have mental illness.

0:37:33.719 --> 0:37:36.319
<v Speaker 2>In their family and what I want to be asked

0:37:36.360 --> 0:37:38.680
<v Speaker 2>that question on the first day and have to explain

0:37:40.080 --> 0:37:42.120
<v Speaker 2>why my mom is in a facility or why my

0:37:42.200 --> 0:37:45.879
<v Speaker 2>cousin like my sister is. That's heavy for a first day.

0:37:46.040 --> 0:37:50.320
<v Speaker 1>You find that out, though, when do you.

0:37:49.160 --> 0:37:52.640
<v Speaker 2>Before you have sex with them?

0:37:52.680 --> 0:37:54.799
<v Speaker 1>But what if you might you know, be planning to

0:37:54.840 --> 0:37:55.480
<v Speaker 1>have sex.

0:37:55.280 --> 0:37:58.840
<v Speaker 2>Tonight, then I guess asked pussy tonight, then go ahead

0:37:58.840 --> 0:37:59.360
<v Speaker 2>and ask.

0:37:59.200 --> 0:38:00.719
<v Speaker 1>All the questions.

0:38:00.760 --> 0:38:03.200
<v Speaker 2>But I don't think that's that's so intrusive on the

0:38:03.239 --> 0:38:05.360
<v Speaker 2>first day. You know what I also I think is

0:38:05.440 --> 0:38:09.480
<v Speaker 2>kind of intrusive. I'm thinking in terms of like being

0:38:09.520 --> 0:38:12.000
<v Speaker 2>a woman. I don't like when people say, all right,

0:38:12.520 --> 0:38:14.799
<v Speaker 2>do you have kids? It's a fine question, why not

0:38:15.880 --> 0:38:18.560
<v Speaker 2>horrible question? Yeah, I think I hate that question. It's

0:38:18.640 --> 0:38:21.960
<v Speaker 2>like bitch y'all know ask God, don't ask me exactly?

0:38:22.000 --> 0:38:26.960
<v Speaker 1>Well, But I also then make people feel uncomfortable. I'll

0:38:27.000 --> 0:38:29.279
<v Speaker 1>tell them exactly why I don't have kids. Now that's

0:38:29.280 --> 0:38:32.799
<v Speaker 1>a question I don't want people asking me or yeah,

0:38:32.920 --> 0:38:35.560
<v Speaker 1>why you got enough kids? What's wrong with you?

0:38:36.680 --> 0:38:37.040
<v Speaker 2>Bitch?

0:38:37.200 --> 0:38:39.000
<v Speaker 1>But then if you got kids and no, man, that's

0:38:39.000 --> 0:38:41.680
<v Speaker 1>a problem too, exactly, So it's a lose lose for

0:38:41.760 --> 0:38:42.840
<v Speaker 1>women man we being.

0:38:42.640 --> 0:38:44.880
<v Speaker 2>So that's a question. I don't think you should ask

0:38:44.960 --> 0:38:47.920
<v Speaker 2>a woman or even a man. You know, you can

0:38:47.960 --> 0:38:50.080
<v Speaker 2>ask if they have kids, but if they don't, don't

0:38:50.080 --> 0:38:50.680
<v Speaker 2>say why not.

0:38:51.160 --> 0:38:53.080
<v Speaker 1>I be thinking it's more weird for men not to

0:38:53.120 --> 0:38:55.200
<v Speaker 1>have kids, the way to be ostracizing women for not

0:38:55.239 --> 0:38:57.520
<v Speaker 1>having kids. I really think it's more weird for men

0:38:57.560 --> 0:38:58.279
<v Speaker 1>not to have a child.

0:38:58.880 --> 0:39:00.279
<v Speaker 2>What I do think?

0:39:00.320 --> 0:39:03.400
<v Speaker 1>So, I think it's more weirder, like why you no kids?

0:39:03.960 --> 0:39:09.320
<v Speaker 2>But you can't say that you don't want nobody to you.

0:39:09.320 --> 0:39:09.520
<v Speaker 2>You know.

0:39:09.600 --> 0:39:12.200
<v Speaker 1>I had an epiphany one day when I was gonna streams,

0:39:12.239 --> 0:39:15.920
<v Speaker 1>y'all shreams. I think the best when I'm high, So well,

0:39:15.960 --> 0:39:19.000
<v Speaker 1>that's not a real high anyway, it is. I wrote

0:39:19.000 --> 0:39:26.239
<v Speaker 1>in my notes, are women subconsciously attracted? Because you know

0:39:26.280 --> 0:39:28.840
<v Speaker 1>what men like to say women have kids for a

0:39:28.880 --> 0:39:31.880
<v Speaker 1>certain percentage of black men, like all of all the

0:39:31.920 --> 0:39:33.719
<v Speaker 1>black women who have kids got kids by the saying

0:39:33.800 --> 0:39:38.640
<v Speaker 1>niggas basically, And I was thinking, like, is that something

0:39:38.680 --> 0:39:41.040
<v Speaker 1>that is subconscious when you see a man with children,

0:39:41.120 --> 0:39:44.440
<v Speaker 1>like you subconsciously subconsciously think like he is a producer,

0:39:45.440 --> 0:39:47.080
<v Speaker 1>why you're attracted to him?

0:39:47.600 --> 0:39:48.560
<v Speaker 2>No?

0:39:48.560 --> 0:39:50.719
<v Speaker 1>No, I mean at least, you know, he I think

0:39:50.719 --> 0:39:54.840
<v Speaker 1>it's I think it is subconscious kids.

0:39:55.360 --> 0:39:57.000
<v Speaker 2>I don't man without kids.

0:39:56.920 --> 0:39:59.320
<v Speaker 1>You like them? You know? Or do you like the

0:39:59.400 --> 0:40:00.520
<v Speaker 1>niggas with it's better?

0:40:01.120 --> 0:40:03.759
<v Speaker 2>I don't think. I don't think that's not my discermining

0:40:03.840 --> 0:40:05.439
<v Speaker 2>factor or how well I like a man.

0:40:05.680 --> 0:40:08.919
<v Speaker 1>But if the men that, I like the fact.

0:40:09.040 --> 0:40:11.480
<v Speaker 2>So if like, all right, I like the fact that

0:40:12.160 --> 0:40:14.200
<v Speaker 2>if we have kids, it's the first time with me,

0:40:14.480 --> 0:40:15.880
<v Speaker 2>you know, like we get to experience this.

0:40:17.719 --> 0:40:19.960
<v Speaker 1>I'm talking about that thing that we're not realizing in

0:40:20.000 --> 0:40:22.480
<v Speaker 1>the back because just think about the men you have

0:40:22.560 --> 0:40:24.680
<v Speaker 1>been in love with, did they or did they not

0:40:24.800 --> 0:40:25.720
<v Speaker 1>already have children?

0:40:26.520 --> 0:40:29.280
<v Speaker 2>So the last nigga I loved did not have kids.

0:40:29.560 --> 0:40:31.719
<v Speaker 2>He had kids while we were together with somebody else.

0:40:32.560 --> 0:40:34.040
<v Speaker 2>So I don't know if that counts.

0:40:36.400 --> 0:40:37.800
<v Speaker 1>No, that's not what I'm talking about.

0:40:38.600 --> 0:40:40.759
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and then the man prior to that, he did

0:40:40.760 --> 0:40:45.560
<v Speaker 2>have kids. But like I'm always I was always concerned

0:40:45.600 --> 0:40:48.200
<v Speaker 2>with like, if I get into this, you know, I'll

0:40:48.200 --> 0:40:50.719
<v Speaker 2>get with this man with children, am I going to

0:40:50.760 --> 0:40:52.880
<v Speaker 2>be a good step mom to these kids? I'm always

0:40:52.880 --> 0:40:55.200
<v Speaker 2>concerned with that, like what will my relationship to these

0:40:55.239 --> 0:40:58.400
<v Speaker 2>children be and their mother. That's always my first concern.

0:40:58.800 --> 0:41:01.360
<v Speaker 2>So when a man doesn't have, I'm like, yes, I

0:41:01.360 --> 0:41:02.480
<v Speaker 2>don't have to deal with none of that.

0:41:02.719 --> 0:41:04.799
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I don't like baby mamas and none of that shit.

0:41:04.840 --> 0:41:06.960
<v Speaker 1>And then you know, especially if you with somebody who's

0:41:07.000 --> 0:41:11.160
<v Speaker 1>not really facilitating the relationship between you and the kid's mom,

0:41:11.440 --> 0:41:13.600
<v Speaker 1>it's just gonna always be awkward. I remember my ex

0:41:14.760 --> 0:41:16.520
<v Speaker 1>I had met one of his baby moments because she

0:41:16.560 --> 0:41:18.560
<v Speaker 1>was just like a random way girl, one of his

0:41:18.640 --> 0:41:22.279
<v Speaker 1>childhood friends. The fun laughing was easy for him, I

0:41:22.280 --> 0:41:26.000
<v Speaker 1>guess with this other one real strict and he just

0:41:26.080 --> 0:41:28.000
<v Speaker 1>had her pop up at the house one day to

0:41:28.040 --> 0:41:30.239
<v Speaker 1>bring the sun. Didn't tell me nothing, and didn't tell

0:41:30.280 --> 0:41:32.279
<v Speaker 1>her who was at the house.

0:41:32.560 --> 0:41:33.839
<v Speaker 2>So he wasn't there, just you.

0:41:33.880 --> 0:41:36.800
<v Speaker 1>Hell no, And I opened the door with a fucking bondy.

0:41:36.800 --> 0:41:38.479
<v Speaker 1>You think that's how I want your baby mama and me?

0:41:39.800 --> 0:41:41.960
<v Speaker 1>And I'm pretty sure. And she looked like she just

0:41:42.480 --> 0:41:44.959
<v Speaker 1>got off from work, looking tired, like I'm pretty sure

0:41:45.000 --> 0:41:46.600
<v Speaker 1>she wanted to look more.

0:41:48.920 --> 0:41:52.680
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so you have to properly. Yeah that wasn't fair.

0:41:53.120 --> 0:41:55.640
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it was like that. It was embarrassed and you

0:41:55.680 --> 0:41:58.359
<v Speaker 1>didn't know the kid was coming. No, he called me

0:41:58.400 --> 0:42:01.120
<v Speaker 1>like right when he was pulling up, like, yeah, my baby,

0:42:01.120 --> 0:42:03.400
<v Speaker 1>mama dropping my son off. Where the fuck are you?

0:42:04.000 --> 0:42:04.239
<v Speaker 2>Right?

0:42:04.440 --> 0:42:07.520
<v Speaker 1>Whirredo anyway, So why do you think it is that

0:42:07.560 --> 0:42:10.920
<v Speaker 1>we avoid like the hard conversations thought, aside from not

0:42:10.960 --> 0:42:15.279
<v Speaker 1>wanting to offend, I think for women, we don't want

0:42:15.280 --> 0:42:17.440
<v Speaker 1>to push the man away too early. A lot of

0:42:17.480 --> 0:42:20.719
<v Speaker 1>times we women have a tough time asking things.

0:42:20.880 --> 0:42:22.359
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, we don't want to. I think it's the same

0:42:22.400 --> 0:42:22.840
<v Speaker 2>for everybody.

0:42:22.840 --> 0:42:25.880
<v Speaker 1>Nobody wants to give the e like ugh, you know,

0:42:26.120 --> 0:42:28.560
<v Speaker 1>but the tough question like women that need women need

0:42:28.600 --> 0:42:30.160
<v Speaker 1>to ask that they may not on a first day

0:42:30.239 --> 0:42:32.920
<v Speaker 1>is like, you know, are you interested in being married?

0:42:32.920 --> 0:42:35.040
<v Speaker 1>Because in a man's mind, you want to marry him

0:42:35.040 --> 0:42:36.920
<v Speaker 1>tomorrow if you ask him that question. But really no,

0:42:37.080 --> 0:42:39.759
<v Speaker 1>I just want to know, like, are you even in

0:42:39.880 --> 0:42:41.120
<v Speaker 1>that mind.

0:42:41.000 --> 0:42:43.880
<v Speaker 2>Of marriage if you want that or not? Because if not,

0:42:44.080 --> 0:42:45.279
<v Speaker 2>I'm wasting my time here.

0:42:45.680 --> 0:42:48.520
<v Speaker 1>Do you have married friends? Are your parents still together? Now?

0:42:48.520 --> 0:42:49.800
<v Speaker 1>Those are things you can ask.

0:42:49.680 --> 0:42:52.399
<v Speaker 2>But I've never in all my years had a man

0:42:52.480 --> 0:42:58.439
<v Speaker 2>say no, he was completely escephal last week. Last week

0:42:58.560 --> 0:43:03.960
<v Speaker 2>the first time in my life. On the episode, it

0:43:04.040 --> 0:43:05.799
<v Speaker 2>was the first time my man had ever told me

0:43:05.880 --> 0:43:09.480
<v Speaker 2>that marriage was completely off the table, you know. So

0:43:09.560 --> 0:43:13.520
<v Speaker 2>I feel like men kind of like acquiesced to what

0:43:13.600 --> 0:43:17.520
<v Speaker 2>you what it sounds like you want off times, Yeah,

0:43:17.560 --> 0:43:20.480
<v Speaker 2>when they not even being for real Like whatever you say,

0:43:20.520 --> 0:43:22.840
<v Speaker 2>baby girl, I'm down with it until I get that pussy.

0:43:23.520 --> 0:43:26.439
<v Speaker 2>You can't even get no cheese on your burger? What

0:43:26.640 --> 0:43:27.239
<v Speaker 2>Martin says?

0:43:27.800 --> 0:43:31.240
<v Speaker 1>You want cheese? God damn? Why are you a cheese?

0:43:36.719 --> 0:43:36.919
<v Speaker 2>Yes?

0:43:37.040 --> 0:43:40.720
<v Speaker 1>But I don't be remembering these things to real life

0:43:40.840 --> 0:43:42.359
<v Speaker 1>randomly like that the hell?

0:43:43.880 --> 0:43:47.560
<v Speaker 2>So I just say that to say that sometimes you

0:43:47.600 --> 0:43:49.640
<v Speaker 2>ask the hard questions and you get the answer you

0:43:49.680 --> 0:43:50.800
<v Speaker 2>want instead of the truth.

0:43:52.760 --> 0:43:55.920
<v Speaker 1>Right, So are we saying that men don't have integrity.

0:43:56.200 --> 0:44:05.279
<v Speaker 2>Sometimes because we family? I'm about to share some shit

0:44:05.320 --> 0:44:08.080
<v Speaker 2>that happened to me last year. I got ghosted.

0:44:08.320 --> 0:44:10.640
<v Speaker 1>Okay, it's just February, so what a couple months ago?

0:44:11.040 --> 0:44:15.359
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I got ghosted by a nigga. Y'all that shit

0:44:15.480 --> 0:44:16.480
<v Speaker 2>is humbly.

0:44:18.400 --> 0:44:18.720
<v Speaker 1>Listen.

0:44:18.760 --> 0:44:23.280
<v Speaker 2>Then was like very persistent, like doing all the things,

0:44:23.440 --> 0:44:27.120
<v Speaker 2>like being very present. I even we were even discussed

0:44:27.400 --> 0:44:31.799
<v Speaker 2>matching pajamas for Christmas. He was down. I sent him

0:44:31.840 --> 0:44:34.360
<v Speaker 2>pajamas that I liked. He liked him too. It was lit.

0:44:34.680 --> 0:44:37.680
<v Speaker 2>He was supposed to come for Thanksgiving. He's supposed to

0:44:37.719 --> 0:44:41.080
<v Speaker 2>come to my mama's house for Thanksgiving. I sent him

0:44:41.120 --> 0:44:44.680
<v Speaker 2>a message about Okay, I don't want to give it

0:44:44.719 --> 0:44:46.600
<v Speaker 2>too much away, but all right, this person is an

0:44:46.680 --> 0:44:51.120
<v Speaker 2>entertainer or whatever, and I sent him a message about

0:44:51.480 --> 0:44:53.600
<v Speaker 2>what I saw on something that he had been on.

0:44:54.440 --> 0:44:56.560
<v Speaker 2>Do you know I never heard from that nigga again

0:44:56.840 --> 0:45:01.520
<v Speaker 2>to this day. He never responded, never text back. I

0:45:01.560 --> 0:45:03.919
<v Speaker 2>call him, no answer. I have not heard back from him.

0:45:05.280 --> 0:45:06.680
<v Speaker 2>Why did you do all of that with me?

0:45:06.840 --> 0:45:09.480
<v Speaker 1>So he not like this thing was hidden, right, so

0:45:09.520 --> 0:45:11.360
<v Speaker 1>he knew you would see it at some point.

0:45:11.560 --> 0:45:14.279
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, or I'm a sick I mean it's on it

0:45:14.360 --> 0:45:19.279
<v Speaker 2>was on YouTube, so hm hmm. Ain't that crazy that

0:45:21.160 --> 0:45:23.920
<v Speaker 2>I know him for a while. But we started talking

0:45:24.040 --> 0:45:27.920
<v Speaker 2>like early in the summer, and it just it progressed.

0:45:28.480 --> 0:45:30.319
<v Speaker 2>And then while my foot was broken, we kind of

0:45:31.000 --> 0:45:35.359
<v Speaker 2>was locked in, or at least I thought we had

0:45:35.400 --> 0:45:35.839
<v Speaker 2>locked in.

0:45:37.640 --> 0:45:40.919
<v Speaker 1>Maybe he found out somebody was pregnant, but I think that.

0:45:42.320 --> 0:45:42.640
<v Speaker 2>That's why.

0:45:42.640 --> 0:45:45.799
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, that's that's like an avoidance tactic, right, so

0:45:45.840 --> 0:45:47.360
<v Speaker 1>you don't have to have the hard conversation.

0:45:47.400 --> 0:45:48.080
<v Speaker 2>That's what I'm saying.

0:45:48.160 --> 0:45:50.920
<v Speaker 1>And remember when I said I don't mind ghosting, I

0:45:50.960 --> 0:45:55.120
<v Speaker 1>mean because I have ghosted sometimes I feel like girl

0:45:56.840 --> 0:45:59.399
<v Speaker 1>one hundred thousand times like that will that don't mean

0:45:59.400 --> 0:46:01.759
<v Speaker 1>you like you're trying to make me do something, and

0:46:01.800 --> 0:46:03.520
<v Speaker 1>that's gonna make me not answer the phone even more.

0:46:03.520 --> 0:46:04.040
<v Speaker 1>I might change.

0:46:04.040 --> 0:46:06.120
<v Speaker 2>I'm not gonna call a hundred times, but I will

0:46:06.160 --> 0:46:06.840
<v Speaker 2>call three.

0:46:07.120 --> 0:46:09.439
<v Speaker 1>No, I'm calling one time and I'm texting one time,

0:46:09.480 --> 0:46:09.920
<v Speaker 1>and that's it.

0:46:10.600 --> 0:46:12.400
<v Speaker 2>I will call you three motherfuck times and if you

0:46:12.400 --> 0:46:13.960
<v Speaker 2>don't answer that phone, I will pull up.

0:46:15.239 --> 0:46:21.560
<v Speaker 1>You ain't pulling up at lying that gas gasoline, no

0:46:21.600 --> 0:46:26.000
<v Speaker 1>mad So maybe he just he just avoided having a

0:46:26.040 --> 0:46:29.239
<v Speaker 1>tough conversation with you, and sometimes you just have to

0:46:29.280 --> 0:46:31.800
<v Speaker 1>respect it. Did you ever give up the kuchie?

0:46:32.719 --> 0:46:32.799
<v Speaker 2>What?

0:46:33.680 --> 0:46:36.880
<v Speaker 1>No? Okay? I mean if you didn't, then you're winning.

0:46:36.920 --> 0:46:38.719
<v Speaker 2>No I did? I did.

0:46:40.760 --> 0:46:41.800
<v Speaker 1>That's a real ghost.

0:46:42.040 --> 0:46:44.239
<v Speaker 2>Yeah. He goes to me here my feeling okay, And

0:46:44.920 --> 0:46:46.960
<v Speaker 2>I ain't been on the day or talking to nobody since.

0:46:47.080 --> 0:46:50.600
<v Speaker 1>Okay, in case somebody after sex, I'm going to get

0:46:50.600 --> 0:46:53.080
<v Speaker 1>an STD test depending on Like, why the funk you

0:46:53.120 --> 0:46:55.280
<v Speaker 1>stop talking to me? I'm scared now, but it wasn't

0:46:55.320 --> 0:46:57.799
<v Speaker 1>like direct. It wasn't like directly after sex.

0:46:57.840 --> 0:46:59.560
<v Speaker 2>He was like, puts it bad.

0:47:00.520 --> 0:47:01.479
<v Speaker 1>It wasn't like that.

0:47:02.880 --> 0:47:05.239
<v Speaker 2>It was just like it was so random, you know,

0:47:05.640 --> 0:47:08.280
<v Speaker 2>it was just very random. It was it was weird.

0:47:08.880 --> 0:47:10.720
<v Speaker 2>And this is the first time I shared with anybody

0:47:10.719 --> 0:47:12.920
<v Speaker 2>that this happened, because I was really embarrassed by it.

0:47:13.000 --> 0:47:15.440
<v Speaker 2>But I mean, we family, and it happens to the

0:47:15.480 --> 0:47:19.160
<v Speaker 2>best of us, So that's what happened. But I've been like, yeah,

0:47:19.280 --> 0:47:23.920
<v Speaker 2>I'm done ever since then, like for real done, Like.

0:47:25.360 --> 0:47:29.399
<v Speaker 1>M yeah, maybe a couchin as good as you think, girl,

0:47:29.440 --> 0:47:34.320
<v Speaker 1>fuck you Gucci is amazing. Let me call that nigga

0:47:34.320 --> 0:47:39.400
<v Speaker 1>from myself. Ho fuck you. Women always say they got

0:47:39.400 --> 0:47:41.879
<v Speaker 1>the best Guccie. I don't know how this scuoci feel.

0:47:42.200 --> 0:47:44.160
<v Speaker 1>I know I have been stalked about it, but I

0:47:44.160 --> 0:47:46.840
<v Speaker 1>won't say I got good. Have you ever been ghosted

0:47:46.920 --> 0:47:49.840
<v Speaker 1>before I've done. I've had a mutual ghost where we

0:47:50.000 --> 0:47:52.640
<v Speaker 1>just stopped talking, like I really didn't care one way

0:47:52.640 --> 0:47:55.040
<v Speaker 1>to the other. After sex.

0:47:55.120 --> 0:47:59.600
<v Speaker 2>Really, it wasn't like after sex, so it was just

0:47:59.640 --> 0:48:03.919
<v Speaker 2>like random. It was very random because we had been

0:48:04.040 --> 0:48:06.239
<v Speaker 2>you know, we were, like I said, we had been

0:48:06.280 --> 0:48:06.600
<v Speaker 2>locked in.

0:48:06.760 --> 0:48:08.719
<v Speaker 1>I just don't think men go away if you never

0:48:08.760 --> 0:48:10.839
<v Speaker 1>fuck them. You know what I'm saying, They gonna stick

0:48:10.840 --> 0:48:13.759
<v Speaker 1>around until they at least do that, and then they

0:48:13.840 --> 0:48:15.719
<v Speaker 1>kind of like decide rather it was they like you

0:48:15.880 --> 0:48:17.280
<v Speaker 1>enough to keep doing the things.

0:48:17.560 --> 0:48:19.640
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I don't know. I don't know what it was.

0:48:21.120 --> 0:48:21.480
<v Speaker 1>To him.

0:48:21.480 --> 0:48:24.440
<v Speaker 2>Okay, So look, so I lied a little bit. I

0:48:24.600 --> 0:48:29.920
<v Speaker 2>did get I did get a random dem from him

0:48:30.080 --> 0:48:31.799
<v Speaker 2>when I popped out with the red hair on my

0:48:31.840 --> 0:48:34.239
<v Speaker 2>Instagram story that he was like in my DM saying

0:48:34.239 --> 0:48:37.400
<v Speaker 2>a little something. But I ignored it at that point.

0:48:37.160 --> 0:48:44.040
<v Speaker 1>Because it's like playing with right. Yeah. So yeah, yeah,

0:48:44.120 --> 0:48:46.200
<v Speaker 1>that's definitely he definitely on some bullshit.

0:48:46.960 --> 0:48:48.800
<v Speaker 2>I just feel like he's just like, oh, I think.

0:48:48.680 --> 0:48:51.000
<v Speaker 1>That's how men put women in friendszone though. See the

0:48:51.040 --> 0:48:53.279
<v Speaker 1>difference between men and women. When we friend zone, we're

0:48:53.280 --> 0:48:56.120
<v Speaker 1>not fucking you first, like we're gonna friend zone you

0:48:56.840 --> 0:48:58.799
<v Speaker 1>because we don't really want to have sex with you.

0:48:58.880 --> 0:49:00.840
<v Speaker 1>Men will fuck you and then friends on you.

0:49:00.960 --> 0:49:03.560
<v Speaker 2>But the thing is, you're talking about mentioning pajamas and

0:49:03.600 --> 0:49:04.640
<v Speaker 2>coming for Thanksgiving.

0:49:04.719 --> 0:49:07.080
<v Speaker 1>He's saying all the things that you want to hear, though.

0:49:07.320 --> 0:49:09.160
<v Speaker 2>But I didn't ask you to cod for Thanksgiving.

0:49:09.680 --> 0:49:11.879
<v Speaker 1>You just you know, then just they just be fucking

0:49:11.960 --> 0:49:14.120
<v Speaker 1>lying for no reason. And then it doesn't matter how

0:49:14.120 --> 0:49:16.960
<v Speaker 1>many times you tell them like it's cool, like you

0:49:16.960 --> 0:49:19.240
<v Speaker 1>don't even got to do all that, they just still't

0:49:19.320 --> 0:49:22.080
<v Speaker 1>do it because it's just like a normal setting and

0:49:22.120 --> 0:49:25.200
<v Speaker 1>they fucking head. That's why you gotta thump them sometimes

0:49:25.239 --> 0:49:26.719
<v Speaker 1>on top, because that's what a reset by.

0:49:26.840 --> 0:49:29.480
<v Speaker 2>Now, no, that's violent, you go to jail.

0:49:29.600 --> 0:49:32.440
<v Speaker 1>Look, man, these hands all right?

0:49:34.560 --> 0:49:35.279
<v Speaker 2>The what are we?

0:49:36.760 --> 0:49:39.040
<v Speaker 1>Once you get into their relationship.

0:49:38.880 --> 0:49:42.040
<v Speaker 2>Listen, I don't do the what are we? I don't

0:49:42.040 --> 0:49:44.399
<v Speaker 2>do the water we card of conversation. I just feel

0:49:44.400 --> 0:49:46.640
<v Speaker 2>like I'm sitting until you ask me to be your girlfriend.

0:49:47.840 --> 0:49:50.560
<v Speaker 1>I feel like at this point men or like somebody

0:49:50.600 --> 0:49:52.279
<v Speaker 1>needs to write a letter and like do the yes

0:49:52.320 --> 0:49:55.840
<v Speaker 1>and no like school check yes and no, because a

0:49:55.880 --> 0:49:58.080
<v Speaker 1>man will be doing all the things with you you

0:49:58.200 --> 0:50:00.359
<v Speaker 1>meet his girlfriend.

0:50:00.200 --> 0:50:02.399
<v Speaker 2>And I will not consider you my boyfriend. I'll meet

0:50:02.400 --> 0:50:04.200
<v Speaker 2>your mom and all that stuff. But if you don't

0:50:04.280 --> 0:50:06.319
<v Speaker 2>ask me to be in a committed relationship with you,

0:50:06.360 --> 0:50:07.600
<v Speaker 2>I'm going to assume that we're not.

0:50:08.200 --> 0:50:10.520
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but I think that even even if right you

0:50:10.560 --> 0:50:12.560
<v Speaker 1>got that mind, because I feel the same way. Right

0:50:12.920 --> 0:50:15.399
<v Speaker 1>and then you're still dating and exploring other people. If

0:50:15.440 --> 0:50:17.520
<v Speaker 1>that guy that you might be spending the most time

0:50:17.560 --> 0:50:20.440
<v Speaker 1>with because y'all are doing the boyfriend girlfriend things, if he,

0:50:20.719 --> 0:50:25.680
<v Speaker 1>you know, realizes like you actually actively out here still dating,

0:50:26.239 --> 0:50:28.759
<v Speaker 1>he probably gonna stop talking to you that type of

0:50:28.760 --> 0:50:30.040
<v Speaker 1>way about it.

0:50:30.239 --> 0:50:32.120
<v Speaker 2>You didn't ask me to be your girlfriend, So if

0:50:32.160 --> 0:50:34.480
<v Speaker 2>you wanted that commitment, then why didn't you?

0:50:34.680 --> 0:50:35.600
<v Speaker 1>But why do we hide it?

0:50:35.600 --> 0:50:35.799
<v Speaker 2>Though?

0:50:36.040 --> 0:50:39.759
<v Speaker 1>Why do we hide that we're still dating because you

0:50:39.840 --> 0:50:42.680
<v Speaker 1>haven't committed yet? I feel like women do? Bit is

0:50:42.719 --> 0:50:44.919
<v Speaker 1>my lace showing it? Why are you looking up? I'm

0:50:44.960 --> 0:50:47.880
<v Speaker 1>just looking too. I feel like you're looking right here.

0:50:49.520 --> 0:50:49.640
<v Speaker 2>Right.

0:50:49.840 --> 0:50:53.600
<v Speaker 1>I love this ivy booth and sometime bit y'all they

0:50:53.719 --> 0:50:56.279
<v Speaker 1>just be so self conscious about that. Lacey, keep awake on.

0:50:58.239 --> 0:51:05.279
<v Speaker 1>I know something going on right here looking at it. Okay,

0:51:02.800 --> 0:51:03.280
<v Speaker 1>you did.

0:51:05.960 --> 0:51:06.000
<v Speaker 2>This?

0:51:06.200 --> 0:51:12.560
<v Speaker 1>What we talk about farmers?

0:51:14.120 --> 0:51:16.319
<v Speaker 2>We need to be the way the food is right now?

0:51:17.040 --> 0:51:18.759
<v Speaker 2>But yeah, like I.

0:51:18.719 --> 0:51:22.640
<v Speaker 1>Think a conversation should have also. Yeah, even if you

0:51:22.640 --> 0:51:25.040
<v Speaker 1>don't ask him, what are we like? Hey, you you're

0:51:25.040 --> 0:51:26.040
<v Speaker 1>still dating other people?

0:51:27.160 --> 0:51:28.080
<v Speaker 2>Are we exclusive?

0:51:28.600 --> 0:51:34.080
<v Speaker 1>Maybe that's how you ask? But then men like, because

0:51:34.120 --> 0:51:35.160
<v Speaker 1>what are we? What?

0:51:35.239 --> 0:51:38.040
<v Speaker 2>Do we sound so needy? To me, like, what are

0:51:38.080 --> 0:51:39.359
<v Speaker 2>we It.

0:51:39.320 --> 0:51:41.440
<v Speaker 1>Doesn't have to be said like that, That's what I'm saying.

0:51:41.480 --> 0:51:44.719
<v Speaker 1>So maybe you can ask are we are we still

0:51:44.719 --> 0:51:45.480
<v Speaker 1>seeing other people?

0:51:45.960 --> 0:51:47.400
<v Speaker 2>Yeah? Are we exclusive?

0:51:47.600 --> 0:51:51.320
<v Speaker 1>Putting me and you and the thing? Right?

0:51:51.560 --> 0:51:52.520
<v Speaker 2>Are we exclusive?

0:51:52.760 --> 0:51:54.759
<v Speaker 1>Because the minute because the man is doing all the things,

0:51:54.760 --> 0:51:58.680
<v Speaker 1>and the minute you ask about a relationship, the relationship

0:51:58.760 --> 0:52:02.080
<v Speaker 1>kind of ends at that point because they feel like

0:52:02.320 --> 0:52:03.520
<v Speaker 1>somebody's forcing them.

0:52:03.640 --> 0:52:06.160
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, because you could be all in, like you think

0:52:06.200 --> 0:52:09.000
<v Speaker 2>you're in a serious relationship, You've met the family. You know,

0:52:09.080 --> 0:52:12.719
<v Speaker 2>everybody's taking your mama to his mama to her doctor appointments,

0:52:12.719 --> 0:52:16.719
<v Speaker 2>you babysitting his kids, and then you catching with somebody else.

0:52:16.760 --> 0:52:18.960
<v Speaker 2>And he was like, you know what it was for?

0:52:19.080 --> 0:52:21.600
<v Speaker 2>When when it started? We ain't never we never said

0:52:21.640 --> 0:52:24.400
<v Speaker 2>we was like that. We never said we was like that?

0:52:24.520 --> 0:52:26.439
<v Speaker 2>Did we have to say it? We were doing all

0:52:26.480 --> 0:52:27.000
<v Speaker 2>the things.

0:52:27.239 --> 0:52:28.960
<v Speaker 1>When was this? I think this is when we went

0:52:29.080 --> 0:52:31.319
<v Speaker 1>to the breakfast club. I was dating this guy and

0:52:31.400 --> 0:52:33.040
<v Speaker 1>I really really liked this guy. Man, we was on

0:52:33.040 --> 0:52:36.840
<v Speaker 1>the floe for like eight hours, bitch planning goals. Like

0:52:38.040 --> 0:52:40.399
<v Speaker 1>though we had never yeah, though we had never said

0:52:40.520 --> 0:52:43.040
<v Speaker 1>be in a relationship together, we were actually planning out

0:52:43.080 --> 0:52:47.560
<v Speaker 1>like things like life. You know what I'm saying, Oh, I.

0:52:47.480 --> 0:52:48.239
<v Speaker 2>Know who you're talking about.

0:52:48.400 --> 0:52:55.800
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, girl, why the nigga just got engaged? Anyway, you know,

0:52:56.000 --> 0:52:58.680
<v Speaker 1>I still don't know how not your help him play

0:52:58.760 --> 0:53:05.480
<v Speaker 1>his goals for the next bitch. So baby, I'm just

0:53:05.640 --> 0:53:10.560
<v Speaker 1>this is just a podcast, right, So anyway, Yeah, I

0:53:10.640 --> 0:53:13.800
<v Speaker 1>was dating him and I really liked him. But before

0:53:13.800 --> 0:53:16.840
<v Speaker 1>we went to New York, you know, I kind of

0:53:16.840 --> 0:53:20.120
<v Speaker 1>had that conversation with him like what's up, you know

0:53:20.120 --> 0:53:22.080
<v Speaker 1>what I'm saying, And he was like, I want to

0:53:22.080 --> 0:53:24.719
<v Speaker 1>court you more. I'm like, what, like your kids be

0:53:24.760 --> 0:53:26.160
<v Speaker 1>waking up in the bed with me and all type

0:53:26.200 --> 0:53:28.600
<v Speaker 1>of shit, like we don't need what is courting? I

0:53:28.600 --> 0:53:30.319
<v Speaker 1>think we had a whole episode about this, trying to

0:53:30.360 --> 0:53:33.400
<v Speaker 1>understand like even the fucking steps and dating. It's so

0:53:33.520 --> 0:53:35.680
<v Speaker 1>confusing because men and women just aren't the same. And

0:53:35.719 --> 0:53:39.080
<v Speaker 1>men think they're so simple, but they are more complicated

0:53:39.280 --> 0:53:43.080
<v Speaker 1>than the word d okay because what's the definition? So

0:53:43.360 --> 0:53:45.880
<v Speaker 1>they think they are not complex, but they are. So

0:53:45.920 --> 0:53:48.480
<v Speaker 1>he said he wanted to court me more. Whatever that means,

0:53:48.520 --> 0:53:51.719
<v Speaker 1>I don't know. So from that point on, I knew

0:53:51.760 --> 0:53:53.120
<v Speaker 1>I was still a free agent.

0:53:53.440 --> 0:53:56.520
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, courtymore means like he still wants to date.

0:53:58.680 --> 0:54:01.319
<v Speaker 1>That's not what it was like he month, you know,

0:54:01.360 --> 0:54:03.640
<v Speaker 1>weeks later. Now he's trying to explain because my energy

0:54:03.760 --> 0:54:07.040
<v Speaker 1>changed because I literally asked him, you want to be

0:54:07.120 --> 0:54:10.520
<v Speaker 1>my boyfriend like that, and he was like, he want

0:54:10.520 --> 0:54:12.279
<v Speaker 1>to court more. I was like, okay, So when we

0:54:12.320 --> 0:54:15.960
<v Speaker 1>went to New York, I just wasn't as available and

0:54:16.000 --> 0:54:19.439
<v Speaker 1>the nigga, Now I start seeing something. Now, I see

0:54:19.480 --> 0:54:22.799
<v Speaker 1>like you got abandonment issues. Damn near because I know

0:54:22.880 --> 0:54:25.120
<v Speaker 1>I was available, like at your back and call up

0:54:25.200 --> 0:54:26.360
<v Speaker 1>until now. But I'm working.

0:54:26.840 --> 0:54:29.359
<v Speaker 2>So why him saying that he wanted to court you

0:54:29.360 --> 0:54:32.560
<v Speaker 2>more turned you off from it? Because that's because that's

0:54:32.560 --> 0:54:34.160
<v Speaker 2>what I mean. That's not a bad thing.

0:54:34.600 --> 0:54:36.560
<v Speaker 1>No, it's not a bad thing, but it still leaves me.

0:54:37.480 --> 0:54:40.080
<v Speaker 1>I'm still single, you know what I'm saying. So now

0:54:40.120 --> 0:54:42.480
<v Speaker 1>if I want to talk to somebody else instead of you,

0:54:43.120 --> 0:54:44.560
<v Speaker 1>if I want to go out on a date with

0:54:44.640 --> 0:54:47.160
<v Speaker 1>someone else instead of you, I should be able to

0:54:47.160 --> 0:54:49.440
<v Speaker 1>do that without you calling my phone a hundred times,

0:54:49.719 --> 0:54:53.000
<v Speaker 1>because that's what he did. And then that's the turnoff

0:54:53.040 --> 0:54:55.640
<v Speaker 1>to me because I feel like when somebody calls your

0:54:55.640 --> 0:54:58.640
<v Speaker 1>phone multiple times. They it's just a control thing. It

0:54:58.640 --> 0:55:00.640
<v Speaker 1>has nothing to do with you, actually, a because if

0:55:00.680 --> 0:55:03.080
<v Speaker 1>I were dead, I wouldn't be able to answer anyway.

0:55:03.480 --> 0:55:05.040
<v Speaker 1>So now you're just trying to get me to answer

0:55:05.080 --> 0:55:08.800
<v Speaker 1>the fucking phone. That is controlling. So now he explored

0:55:08.880 --> 0:55:11.600
<v Speaker 1>something I didn't like in him. Hold on that bad Yes,

0:55:11.880 --> 0:55:14.319
<v Speaker 1>you just want me to answer? Yeah, I am a

0:55:14.360 --> 0:55:17.040
<v Speaker 1>grown person. This is my phone. I don't have to answer,

0:55:17.320 --> 0:55:20.120
<v Speaker 1>especially if you not my man. So why are you

0:55:20.200 --> 0:55:21.760
<v Speaker 1>calling chain calling my cell phone?

0:55:21.880 --> 0:55:24.120
<v Speaker 2>Because did you see me calling you? Stop playing?

0:55:25.120 --> 0:55:27.560
<v Speaker 1>But you're not my man. You see what I'm saying.

0:55:27.960 --> 0:55:30.320
<v Speaker 1>But had you had we committed.

0:55:30.600 --> 0:55:33.000
<v Speaker 2>But I think it would be available. You know. I

0:55:33.080 --> 0:55:33.759
<v Speaker 2>like who you're with me.

0:55:33.920 --> 0:55:36.160
<v Speaker 1>I went on a fucking date with another nigga while

0:55:36.160 --> 0:55:39.319
<v Speaker 1>I was there. I remember, Yeah, he don't know that

0:55:39.400 --> 0:55:42.360
<v Speaker 1>now until he watched this episode that guy. Yeah, but whatever,

0:55:42.440 --> 0:55:44.840
<v Speaker 1>he's engaged, so it's fine.

0:55:45.160 --> 0:55:47.120
<v Speaker 2>But I don't know about that a J.

0:55:47.640 --> 0:55:51.640
<v Speaker 1>I guess maybe a little bit because of man not

0:55:51.719 --> 0:55:54.000
<v Speaker 1>bad off, Like he was doing all the things right

0:55:54.080 --> 0:55:55.680
<v Speaker 1>and he just said I wanted to court you more,

0:55:55.760 --> 0:55:58.720
<v Speaker 1>and you was like, uh boy, by well, I said,

0:55:58.960 --> 0:56:01.319
<v Speaker 1>do you want to be my boyfriend, and you told

0:56:01.320 --> 0:56:06.080
<v Speaker 1>me no essentially, but he didn't court me more. That's no,

0:56:07.200 --> 0:56:10.440
<v Speaker 1>not yet, that's not no. That's weeks later when we

0:56:10.480 --> 0:56:13.239
<v Speaker 1>talked about it again, he was like, okay, then fuck

0:56:13.239 --> 0:56:14.880
<v Speaker 1>are we together now? And don't get mad when I

0:56:14.880 --> 0:56:19.040
<v Speaker 1>started stalking your ass. That turned me off even more.

0:56:20.320 --> 0:56:22.320
<v Speaker 2>No, that's a red flag. Don't say nothing about.

0:56:22.080 --> 0:56:24.399
<v Speaker 1>Stalking, especially to a bet.

0:56:24.440 --> 0:56:28.160
<v Speaker 2>You's be stopped, right, Okay, yeah, so yeah, I don't

0:56:28.200 --> 0:56:30.600
<v Speaker 2>play that because stalking is not a good feeling.

0:56:31.520 --> 0:56:35.080
<v Speaker 1>It's scared. So I don't know. It's just so I

0:56:35.200 --> 0:56:36.280
<v Speaker 1>glad I'm not outside.

0:56:36.400 --> 0:56:41.160
<v Speaker 2>What are the takeaways? How to get comfortable being uncomfortable?

0:56:42.040 --> 0:56:46.600
<v Speaker 2>Practical tips for handling tough talks like a pro timing matters.

0:56:47.000 --> 0:56:50.120
<v Speaker 2>Don't dump everything in the first convo, but don't wait

0:56:50.160 --> 0:56:54.040
<v Speaker 2>too long. Keep it casual but direct, No pressure, just

0:56:54.120 --> 0:56:58.319
<v Speaker 2>open communication. Be honest, not harsh, Say what you mean

0:56:58.400 --> 0:57:01.440
<v Speaker 2>without being me that. I have trouble with that because

0:57:01.560 --> 0:57:05.480
<v Speaker 2>I think, I don't know. I think in my mind

0:57:05.640 --> 0:57:08.839
<v Speaker 2>it is not mean, but then somebody will be like, girl,

0:57:08.920 --> 0:57:10.560
<v Speaker 2>that was mean as hell the way he said that,

0:57:10.800 --> 0:57:14.600
<v Speaker 2>And in my head I wasn't like I didn't intend it.

0:57:14.640 --> 0:57:15.080
<v Speaker 1>To be mean.

0:57:15.120 --> 0:57:16.840
<v Speaker 2>I didn't intend it to sound mean, but.

0:57:17.640 --> 0:57:19.320
<v Speaker 1>And then I don't like that people can pick and

0:57:19.400 --> 0:57:21.600
<v Speaker 1>choose when it sounds mean because they just don't have

0:57:21.640 --> 0:57:23.760
<v Speaker 1>a response to it, because I think a lot of

0:57:23.760 --> 0:57:24.360
<v Speaker 1>times that's.

0:57:24.200 --> 0:57:24.680
<v Speaker 2>What people do.

0:57:24.720 --> 0:57:29.320
<v Speaker 1>It's it's like a scapegoat tactic. You don't like what

0:57:29.360 --> 0:57:31.520
<v Speaker 1>I say, so now you are dressing tone and how

0:57:31.560 --> 0:57:34.640
<v Speaker 1>I said it. That'd be some bullshit. And my niece

0:57:34.720 --> 0:57:36.880
<v Speaker 1>is twenty seven. She just we had a conversation this

0:57:36.920 --> 0:57:39.040
<v Speaker 1>week and she was like, I saw this post on

0:57:39.080 --> 0:57:41.520
<v Speaker 1>Instagram because God, she's dating said that she doesn't know

0:57:41.560 --> 0:57:45.600
<v Speaker 1>how to talk to him right, but he's not doing

0:57:45.720 --> 0:57:49.840
<v Speaker 1>life right right now. So she's like she's challenging him,

0:57:50.000 --> 0:57:53.160
<v Speaker 1>you know what I'm saying. She's asking him tough questions

0:57:53.200 --> 0:57:55.440
<v Speaker 1>and trying to figure out what is he doing in

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<v Speaker 1>his life? And he doesn't like that, yeah, or probably

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<v Speaker 1>just doesn't like what she's asking because it's making them

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<v Speaker 1>have to be accountable. And I think a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>times like people when they don't want to be accountable.

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<v Speaker 1>But what it is that you're asking, and you know me,

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<v Speaker 1>she's trying to get from them, Then they just address

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<v Speaker 1>tone and how you say some shit right versus yeah, okay.

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<v Speaker 2>But I do feel like I do. You know, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>consciously trying to work on how I deliver how I feel,

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<v Speaker 2>especially something I'm passionate and emotional about. It can come

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<v Speaker 2>off harsh, but sometimes I don't mean it to be me.

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<v Speaker 2>I remember one time I was doing this girl's hair,

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<v Speaker 2>and like she would always come in and talk about

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<v Speaker 2>her nigga and how sorry he was and how bad

0:58:37.520 --> 0:58:40.680
<v Speaker 2>he was and all that stuff. And she came into

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<v Speaker 2>her appointment and my sister was sitting right there and

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<v Speaker 2>I said, hey, girl, come on, sit down. I was like, gir,

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<v Speaker 2>are you still with that sorry ass nigga? And Tanya

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<v Speaker 2>was like, why did you say that to her?

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<v Speaker 1>And I was like, that was me because I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>bringing up your sorry ass nigga unless you do. When

0:58:58.120 --> 0:59:00.320
<v Speaker 1>you know somebody fucking with a sorry ass nigg like,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not gonna be there. I didn't even always ask

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<v Speaker 1>you about him, and let you got to bring the

0:59:04.000 --> 0:59:06.640
<v Speaker 1>information to me. I'm not asking you for updates on

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<v Speaker 1>the bullshit you be going through.

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<v Speaker 2>But doing hair, that's all we talk about. Is it's

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<v Speaker 2>like therapy, Like they sit down and unpack on me everything.

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<v Speaker 2>It's her fault.

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<v Speaker 1>It's her fault. It's not really your fault, because you

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<v Speaker 1>wouldn't know he was sorry as a nigga. She wasn't

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<v Speaker 1>sitting there talking shit about her man. Who's dick, She's

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<v Speaker 1>still going to suck on?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, they weren't together no more. She she was like, girl,

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<v Speaker 2>I left and we celebrated that. But my sister was like,

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<v Speaker 2>he was wrong for saying that.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. I guess you gotta know your personnel.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, because I didn't feel bad about it. She had

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<v Speaker 2>been complaining about that nigga for a while.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, I mean personally me, right, I wouldn't take

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<v Speaker 1>offense to that, especially if I know I'm talking about

0:59:49.040 --> 0:59:51.520
<v Speaker 1>this nigga to you, I wouldn't take offense. But then

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<v Speaker 1>you know, maybe.

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<v Speaker 2>And maybe that's why I think my sister probably because

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<v Speaker 2>she had been privy to the conversation prior. Okay, yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>so it's all a yeah, it's all within the context.

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<v Speaker 2>Or here's the next one. Listen and don't assume the worst.

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<v Speaker 2>Not every hard conversation has a bad ending. Yeah. I

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<v Speaker 2>think we you know, we have we have a what's

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<v Speaker 2>the word I'm looking for we we have, We're accustomed

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<v Speaker 2>to assuming that it's going to be the bad ending

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<v Speaker 2>versus a good conversation or a good outcome. Like I

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<v Speaker 2>honestly think think you took the word recording the wrong.

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<v Speaker 1>Way with that guy, but you had to be there, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>and they'll be there for all the things. Yeah, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't think so, because I don't feel like at that

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<v Speaker 1>point we're in the courding stage like we're doing. You

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<v Speaker 1>know what I'm saying, I'm still single, That's what I'm

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<v Speaker 1>hearing when you say that, and you were still singing. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>So the only like he could have left it there, right,

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<v Speaker 1>I guess the only difference is my energy changed a

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<v Speaker 1>little bit, right because I'm not giving you my all anymore? Right,

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<v Speaker 1>so now actively still trying to find a boyfriend that

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<v Speaker 1>I asked you about. Yeah, So, can you feel some

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<v Speaker 1>type of way to now to where you like busting

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<v Speaker 1>my phone down and shit, you can't do that.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, No, that's no, that's fair. Busting your phone down

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<v Speaker 2>is crazy after you told me like we just courting.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, So, I don't know. At the end of the day, I.

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<v Speaker 2>Think we're that y'all were sleeping together at this point.

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<v Speaker 1>Though, yes, sleeping sleeping together, yeah, even like yeah at

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<v Speaker 1>that point for real, you my whole boyfriend.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's how I feel like, once you start sleeping together,

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<v Speaker 2>we go together. What are you talking about?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah? But I think the the important conversations like they

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<v Speaker 1>actually separate. You know, you don't want to be wasting time,

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<v Speaker 1>So get him out the way early. That's how I

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<v Speaker 1>feel about it. So that's my last last. Really, just

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<v Speaker 1>get the conversations out the way. It's gonna separate the

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<v Speaker 1>real from the fake, real early, because if he's interested

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<v Speaker 1>in you, there's nothing you can ask him that's gonna

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<v Speaker 1>scare him away.

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<v Speaker 2>Listen, it might cause niggas laugh sometimes and they'll tell

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<v Speaker 2>you everything you want to hear, even pick out matching

1:02:00.960 --> 1:02:06.280
<v Speaker 2>pajamas with you. Seriously, like they might just tell you

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<v Speaker 2>like the answers that sound good, but at least ask

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<v Speaker 2>the questions. That's my last last. You may not get

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<v Speaker 2>the truth, you know, but hopefully you do.

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<v Speaker 1>And we want to know. Tell us your uncomfortable conversations

1:02:21.000 --> 1:02:24.480
<v Speaker 1>you've had, first date, second date, third date, and what happened?

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<v Speaker 1>What was the response? Man and woman?

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<v Speaker 2>We want to know or did you wait too long

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<v Speaker 2>to ask those questions and how when they wait too long,

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<v Speaker 2>we want to ask all the shit after we get

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<v Speaker 2>the pussy up.

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<v Speaker 1>No, the man's brain is different at that point, so

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<v Speaker 1>you got to put all your expectations on the table.

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<v Speaker 1>Day one.

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<v Speaker 2>First, well, what was the biggest trasher? You don't even

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<v Speaker 2>care about it.

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<v Speaker 1>Then you get the out of the abord mission. That's

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<v Speaker 1>a whole other episode. When do you smash? Because I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>get it out of the ways so you even know

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<v Speaker 1>if you like this nigga, I feel like that is communication.

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<v Speaker 1>Sex for me is communication.

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<v Speaker 2>We mean, like I say, wait, wait, you will learn

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<v Speaker 2>a lot about a person if you.

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<v Speaker 1>Will let them talk.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, if you wait, Yeah, But that still don't mean

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<v Speaker 2>that still don't mean it's gonna turn out. I waited

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<v Speaker 2>with but God talking about I waited and waited and

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<v Speaker 2>waited and still just feelings what you just wanted to

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<v Speaker 2>see your booty hole?

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<v Speaker 1>I think once a nigga see your booty hole is over,

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<v Speaker 1>it's over.

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<v Speaker 2>That's so weird. Say your booty hole?

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