Speaker 1: Niggas is literally the easiest thing to get. It's not
Speaker 1: hard to get. It's not hard to get a niggas
Speaker 1: if somebody and believe it ain't because it's hard for
Speaker 1: her to get one.
Speaker 2: So it's so easy. Like even if you got your
Speaker 2: own nigga, when your nigga be mad at you, it's
Speaker 2: so easy to get your men to not mad as
Speaker 2: you are, to get your man back or whatever the case.
Speaker 2: Men are just easy. They they are, so they are.
Speaker 3: It's so easy, especially when you look lip gloss head done.
Speaker 3: It looks like pop get fifteen numbers and I'm fifteen men.
Speaker 4: Yeah, the quality is probably two good ones.
Speaker 2: But it's so that is easy, That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: Like, if women are single, it is not because they
Speaker 1: can't get a mean people gotta start projecting it.
Speaker 2: Uh huh, what's up, Y'all's your girl Alex p?
Speaker 5: And is your girl?
Speaker 2: Dre and the call and you are tuned in to
Speaker 2: another episode of Poor.
Speaker 5: Mine, whereas drunk Mind speaks sober but.
Speaker 2: We gotta guess today. We gotta guess today. So if
Speaker 2: you are on social media, you know who this person?
Speaker 2: Social media influencer, a meme god I got like six
Speaker 2: means of you and my phone. I know, okay, and
Speaker 2: I don't know if you call you, but you're a
Speaker 2: comedian to me as hell. We have the one and only.
Speaker 4: I'm good, I'm good, God is good.
Speaker 3: I'm actually on the this y'all reached out to me.
Speaker 2: We love you.
Speaker 3: I'm thinking this experience, I'll be so honored now I
Speaker 3: know who I am. I'm very confident in who I am,
Speaker 3: but I be so honored in this experience like that
Speaker 3: people love me because I've been this way for so
Speaker 3: long of my life, right, So it's just now to
Speaker 3: have people gravitate to me. I can't go any well
Speaker 3: without people knowing me and loving me and recognizing me.
Speaker 3: It's just like mind blowing to me because I'm just
Speaker 3: I'm still myself. Yeah, So it's just like I'm thankful.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: It's the amazing feeling when people start gravitating to you
Speaker 1: just for you being who you are.
Speaker 3: Correct. I went to the strip club the other day,
Speaker 3: the girls went crazy. I'm like, it's so mind blowing
Speaker 3: to me because I've always lived this experience is me
Speaker 3: being myself, right, So it's.
Speaker 4: Just like, what the fuck energy.
Speaker 2: About you that's just it's very gravitating. It's like, I
Speaker 2: don't know, you know, people say that it factor and
Speaker 2: you don't know what it is. You can't explain it,
Speaker 2: but some people just have it. Yeah god it Okay,
Speaker 2: how it was so funny. But I want to start
Speaker 2: from the beginning. So you're from Savannah, so talk research.
Speaker 2: So I want to talk about like beginning because I'm
Speaker 2: from a small town too. So did you always feel like, Okay,
Speaker 2: I got to move, I gotta get out of Savannah,
Speaker 2: like talk about growing up in a small town and
Speaker 2: just having such a big personality.
Speaker 3: So initially I was born in the Bronx, New York, Okay, Okay.
Speaker 3: Then I migrated to Savannah, Georgia when I was eleven
Speaker 3: years old. So I represent Savannah a lot because I
Speaker 3: grew up there. I went to middle school, high school,
Speaker 3: I graduated from high school there. I went to a
Speaker 3: little bit of college there. So I say I'm from Savannah,
Speaker 3: but I was originally from the Bronx. So it's always
Speaker 3: and this is the thing, and I'm tying this into
Speaker 3: just kind of what I said earlier. I've been out, kay,
Speaker 3: since I was about ten or eleven.
Speaker 2: Years are you serious, No, Lie, I know that's right.
Speaker 3: I was one of my mother's fur coats and pocketbooks
Speaker 3: to school and I was just talking her the other day.
Speaker 3: She was like, I can't wait you come out with
Speaker 3: a documentary so I can actually tell people that you
Speaker 3: always had this personality. You always was a preacher, you
Speaker 3: always was passionate. You have always been the same person,
Speaker 3: so in that it has been a struggle because you
Speaker 3: got to think about it. So I went from New
Speaker 3: York being fat, black and feminine. Then I migrated to Savannah, Georgia,
Speaker 3: which was even more of a small demographics, a smaller town,
Speaker 3: different culture, different way.
Speaker 4: People operate and think and move.
Speaker 3: So I went through it in New York and I
Speaker 3: went through it in Savannah. But I've always had a
Speaker 3: big personality, so I always just knew.
Speaker 4: And you know how people say, I always thought I
Speaker 4: was going to be a star.
Speaker 3: I always thought I was going to be popular, but
Speaker 3: they never really knew that for themselves. I always know
Speaker 3: it was going to be something there. I always knew
Speaker 3: that because I always was the gay guy and middle
Speaker 3: school and high school that would come in there. Bengo
Speaker 3: earring Zone, I was a mad I was young.
Speaker 4: Literally, I've always knew who I was.
Speaker 1: Uh huh oh yeah, So like I was gonna ask
Speaker 1: you because people are always going back and forth about
Speaker 1: these online, you know, like some people will say that
Speaker 1: they feel like children aren't necessarily gay when they're kids,
Speaker 1: it's about the environment that they're in. Personally, I do
Speaker 1: feel like my mom always told me because I have
Speaker 1: a cousin similar to you who was always the same
Speaker 1: way his whole life, and she was like, we knew
Speaker 1: since he was like three or four. I feel like
Speaker 1: kids know at a very young age. So how do
Speaker 1: you feel about this.
Speaker 3: Who I always knew? As an adult, I love black
Speaker 3: handsome men. Yeah, it is like chocolate to me. And
Speaker 3: so literally I remember as being a young boy walking
Speaker 3: and this is why I love and adore my mother,
Speaker 3: and the day that God takes us, if it happens
Speaker 3: to be before me call and check on me, I
Speaker 3: would never take away because even though she is very
Speaker 3: base in her morals and religion, and she wants me
Speaker 3: to have a wife and kids badly, she still never
Speaker 3: ostracized me as a little boys.
Speaker 4: And so that's why as.
Speaker 3: An adult, people don't understand the flamboyantness and the loudness
Speaker 3: and the excellnists. And it was because I was always
Speaker 3: giving that leadway to be myself. She never, even though
Speaker 3: I knew that in her mind, she may have felt
Speaker 3: how she felt, because it's inevitable. As parents, you want
Speaker 3: certain things for your children. You want a certain lifestyle.
Speaker 3: Sometimes you lead in your selfishness of what you want
Speaker 3: for them, which is not always wrong, just how you
Speaker 3: envision your children. That you want your son with a wife,
Speaker 3: you want your daughter with a right, and that is
Speaker 3: just what you're envisit for your family.
Speaker 4: So I get it.
Speaker 3: But young, when I tell you, she will all I
Speaker 3: could play with Barbie dolls.
Speaker 2: And you will im liar and she has to attest
Speaker 2: to it.
Speaker 3: She will let me play with Bobbie dolls, she will
Speaker 3: let me wear her pocketbook, she will let me wear
Speaker 3: her hot So I have to even tell her as
Speaker 3: an adult, girl is your fault?
Speaker 2: Appreciate it?
Speaker 4: But it gets on hunderd because girl, you let me
Speaker 4: just be who I was, So I.
Speaker 1: Have no I don't know how to bat tracking.
Speaker 4: It is because it's just made me who I am.
Speaker 3: But I think everybody experience is different, and so I
Speaker 3: think as people we have to understand that two things
Speaker 3: can be right at the same time, and so everybody
Speaker 3: experience is different. As far as me, I only can
Speaker 3: speak for my experience. I've always known what I like.
Speaker 3: Now I do get on another spectrum that there are
Speaker 3: different things that trigger people, different experiences that they may
Speaker 3: have had in their life that has made them turn
Speaker 3: into that type of person. But for me and who
Speaker 3: I am, I've always been. I've never touched, licked, kissed
Speaker 3: a woman in my life.
Speaker 4: Never in my life.
Speaker 3: You couldn't. That's how when I love my girls like
Speaker 3: God love his children, I have never kissed a woman
Speaker 3: like you.
Speaker 4: Gotta really think about that.
Speaker 3: And this is how I also know every man is
Speaker 3: not gay, contrary to popular belief.
Speaker 2: I don't. I hate when people say that.
Speaker 3: It's not true, and I say it is as people,
Speaker 3: because we're living that life, we experience those things we
Speaker 3: did like to project onto other.
Speaker 2: People in their experiences.
Speaker 3: All men are not gay because you're talking to a
Speaker 3: gay man that has never even kissed a woman. I've
Speaker 3: never touched a vagina. I've never looked. I've never seen
Speaker 3: it outside of the strip club, outside of my mother.
Speaker 4: I've never seen it.
Speaker 3: In that context of me making love or touching or
Speaker 3: so I know that there are men out there who
Speaker 3: don't desire another man. Because I'm a gay man who
Speaker 3: does not desire a woman. I see the beauty in her,
Speaker 3: just like another man can see the beauty in another man,
Speaker 3: but he may not be sexually attracted to him in
Speaker 3: that way. And it's possible for a man not to
Speaker 3: be sexually attracted to another man because I'm not sexually
Speaker 3: attracted to women, so I've always.
Speaker 1: Known who I was with that That's a good point
Speaker 1: because I feel like people say that about women too,
Speaker 1: Like everybody be saying, oh, every girl like girls, But
Speaker 1: then do y'all feel about the girls? Because going back
Speaker 1: to what we were just talking about, how do y'all
Speaker 1: feel about the girls that go and date women?
Speaker 5: Because she don't be working out.
Speaker 2: With men and.
Speaker 3: I'm talking to some girls too, And then all they
Speaker 3: realize it's the same experience women who are now emulating
Speaker 3: a man how he operates, how he thinks, how he maneuvers,
Speaker 3: and he's and she's getting the same experience. But I
Speaker 3: do I think, I think why those conversations do come up, right,
Speaker 3: because they could get very sticky because I think, especially
Speaker 3: as gay people, we've experienced a lot of DL men.
Speaker 3: And so then what happens is we did to start,
Speaker 3: we start grouping people because we said to ourselves, you
Speaker 3: know what, I gave him the benefit of the doubt
Speaker 3: he was gay. I gave I've seen it all too.
Speaker 3: But I still because even when you do a pregnancy test,
Speaker 3: even when you do a DNA test, nothing is one
Speaker 3: und So I can never just say all men are
Speaker 3: by curious, all men are gay. You can't do that.
Speaker 3: But you do have a lot of men who are bisexual.
Speaker 3: But you know, in our community is tabu and the
Speaker 3: Black community is table to talk about bisexuality because we
Speaker 3: feel like it's not real.
Speaker 4: You are either gay or you are straight. It's no
Speaker 4: in between.
Speaker 3: But I think what a lot of people have to
Speaker 3: start realizing that they are bisexual men. And as some
Speaker 3: preachers say, preacher to myself too, because I'm a realist,
Speaker 3: because I have certain ds, I'm like, no, it's no
Speaker 3: such thing as a man being bisexual, either like men
Speaker 3: or you like women. But when I really have those
Speaker 3: cathartic moments to myself, I'm like, you know what, I
Speaker 3: can see how somebody could like a man and a woman.
Speaker 3: It may not necessarily make sense to me, right, but
Speaker 3: I can see how it could be possible.
Speaker 4: What you think, do you think a man could be vibe?
Speaker 2: I believe. I feel like if a woman can be
Speaker 2: I believe a man because I think it's more so
Speaker 2: of human traits. I think in my younger years I
Speaker 2: used to try to separate people, like obviously there's differences
Speaker 2: of how women think versus how men think, but there's
Speaker 2: certain things that are just human traits. If a woman
Speaker 2: can like a woman and a man, a man can too.
Speaker 2: I think that's human name to sometimes be attracted to
Speaker 2: both and as me as like. Have I been with
Speaker 2: a woman before?
Speaker 4: Yes?
Speaker 2: But do I like it? Absolutely not, and I will
Speaker 2: never do it again. There's nothing about it women that
Speaker 2: I just don't But I know I have friends women
Speaker 2: that are bisexual. Yeah. I have a friend that is
Speaker 2: bisexual and she only dates bisexual men. So I feel
Speaker 2: like it's very possible to like both. I agree.
Speaker 1: I think it's possible too, because I mean, when I
Speaker 1: was younger, I dady. I used to date women when
Speaker 1: I was younger. As I've gotten older, though, I've realized
Speaker 1: a little too much estrogen for me in one household,
Speaker 1: So it's just not for me, and I will prefer
Speaker 1: to stick with men. But I definitely think you could
Speaker 1: like both, because even still now that I don't necessarily
Speaker 1: deal with women anymore, I see women all the time
Speaker 1: and I be like, damn, she fine?
Speaker 2: Is hell? You know that cool?
Speaker 1: I don't because I never really you know, adult, And
Speaker 1: that's how I know. I wasn't really like BOUTI for real,
Speaker 1: because I was never their ends to eating coochie man when.
Speaker 4: I tell you, I don't starting.
Speaker 3: But kna are the most beautiful, precious, amazing thing that
Speaker 3: God has ever created.
Speaker 4: On this nothing.
Speaker 3: If you pay me a million dollars, I wouldn't even
Speaker 3: know where to start. Va Donna, I wouldn't want to
Speaker 3: taste it, kiss it, liquid, bigger it, be with it,
Speaker 3: with it, not that this like she's gonna tell me
Speaker 3: one that's about. Oh you're so handsome, you need some
Speaker 3: ponani in your life. I was at start Buys said
Speaker 3: WHAT'SI now? You know you's just so fine, you just
Speaker 3: so big and so all you need some I.
Speaker 4: Said, what is po nani? She said, stop playing?
Speaker 3: But Janna, I said, I don't want none of it,
Speaker 3: and I don't need none of that. Baby. I'm strictly
Speaker 3: dicky meat, sausage, ribs. I'm a barbecue. I'm a barbecue baby.
Speaker 3: I need meat some on this grind.
Speaker 4: I don't know, y'all.
Speaker 3: I love, I have to sometime I have to say God, please,
Speaker 3: and don't. Oh, I just be craving them so bad
Speaker 3: every time. I'm just Oh, I think it's an addiction.
Speaker 2: I'm not getting fine. Oh, the social media. So I
Speaker 2: want to talk about in the beginning, like when you
Speaker 2: because you and Jada used to be friends. Correct, So
Speaker 2: about friendship and how that came about? You know, my girl?
Speaker 3: He says that you know why you gag me too,
Speaker 3: because I'm not ashamed of anything because I love Jada.
Speaker 3: But a lot of people only know me now for
Speaker 3: the things that I do.
Speaker 2: Now.
Speaker 3: It's a small perciage of people that be like, I
Speaker 3: remember you were friends with Jada, and I be gagging, like,
Speaker 3: excuse me, because you know what's so crazy? Me just
Speaker 3: being a realist. That whole situation. When I think about
Speaker 3: it now as an adult, Oh, I just wish everything
Speaker 3: would have went so different because I just know, even
Speaker 3: though everything is a line how it's supposed to be,
Speaker 3: of course, but I know that things. If things would
Speaker 3: have went different, we would have been such a powerhouse
Speaker 3: friendship because I learned so much from her and what
Speaker 3: people don't understand. She has always been a boss and young.
Speaker 3: I'm talking about sitting in a car showing us on
Speaker 3: her phone a sell. She makes seventy bands period at
Speaker 3: seventeen years old. So that even when I hear people
Speaker 3: say little babies, baby mama, no, no, no, her name is Jada,
Speaker 3: because I don't care if he is on a different
Speaker 3: level of where she is now. My girl has always
Speaker 3: had her own She's not one of those girls that
Speaker 3: has only just been attached to a guy.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 4: And so now I think the only times.
Speaker 3: That I have moments of damn, I wish I was
Speaker 3: connecting to my girls when I see her son, Oh,
Speaker 3: I would have been like his yeah, goes on. Everything
Speaker 3: was aligned for a reason. I think it was meant
Speaker 3: for me to be in her life for that season,
Speaker 3: for her to be able to teach me different things,
Speaker 3: help me build my platform where I'm at now in
Speaker 3: my life, and I can see things reconnecting later on
Speaker 3: in life.
Speaker 4: God is still good.
Speaker 3: Yes.
Speaker 4: If so, God is still good yes, And so yeah.
Speaker 2: It was good. But I'm glad to hear that because
Speaker 2: you know a lot of times you talk to people
Speaker 2: and they be like, oh, I don't care, they didn't
Speaker 2: make me, And so it's good to see that you
Speaker 2: are still able to talk highly about her and y'all's friendship.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's one. I have a lot of people who
Speaker 3: I don't deal with a damn it's nothing I want
Speaker 3: to talk to them about. But Jada's one person who
Speaker 3: I will be open to having a conversation with outside
Speaker 3: of her platform, outside of who she is. Because I
Speaker 3: watched this clip the other day and Tyler Perry posted
Speaker 3: that Kerry Washington had interrupted the BC Awards thank him,
Speaker 3: and in the capture he says he has changed lives
Speaker 3: and he rarely gets to thank you.
Speaker 4: And so when I was looking at it, I'm like,
Speaker 4: what the fuck that's do.
Speaker 3: You not know how many million dollar deals Tyler Perry
Speaker 3: has giving outright? And for him to say that little
Speaker 3: clip moved him because people don't say thank you.
Speaker 4: It is mind blowing when you really dissect it.
Speaker 3: And so for me with her, I could never be
Speaker 3: that person that doesn't give her accolades because Jada was
Speaker 3: doing for her family when she was seventeen. It was
Speaker 3: times Jada, just stay here, post yourself on my Instagram
Speaker 3: and it'll run. I follow us up six thousand numbers
Speaker 3: at the time. But it just was unfortunate how things ended.
Speaker 3: And I'm this type of person because we were linked
Speaker 3: in with another person who is very special to me
Speaker 3: and he's my brother for life. I had to ride
Speaker 3: with him, and that's just what it was. I picked
Speaker 3: oh girl, okay, so without just giving look at much
Speaker 3: because I don't want to open up no old wood.
Speaker 3: But it was a situation that happened with somebody who
Speaker 3: she was dealing with. They end up getting into it
Speaker 3: and things just didn't get reconciled the right way. I
Speaker 3: end up calling her to check her about it, and
Speaker 3: she got upset with me and she blocked me.
Speaker 2: Okay, right.
Speaker 3: We went on me and my friend because I can
Speaker 3: take accountability in anything that I do. We went on
Speaker 3: Instagram and side of throwing shade. This was years ago,
Speaker 3: just being.
Speaker 2: A young yeah right right.
Speaker 3: And that's why as an adult now thirty years old,
Speaker 3: when I tell you, it's so many different ways of
Speaker 3: things that I did when I was young that I
Speaker 3: would never do now because I see that it gets
Speaker 3: you nowhere.
Speaker 4: It puts a halt in what you're doing.
Speaker 3: And so us being upset, Yeah, because that's what happens
Speaker 3: in relationships and friendships when people pay you dust. Right,
Speaker 3: us being upset. We went on Instagram throwing shade, saying
Speaker 3: different things. So that's what really put a halt in
Speaker 3: things of never being able to be reconciled again. And
Speaker 3: I get it. I'm so real to understand if she
Speaker 3: never wanted to talk to me again in life, I'm good.
Speaker 3: I get it because people who do me like that
Speaker 3: now it's nothing for us to ever talk about it.
Speaker 4: I love you from a distance.
Speaker 3: You can be sincerely apologizing to me, and I accept it,
Speaker 3: but we will never be the same. It'll never be
Speaker 3: that again. It's nothing for us to talk about. I
Speaker 3: don't wish you any hate, harm or danger, but it's
Speaker 3: nothing for us to reconcilee.
Speaker 4: So I get it.
Speaker 3: I have to be understanding and understand both sides.
Speaker 4: But I'm ever thankful.
Speaker 2: Yeah, people have to boundaries.
Speaker 1: I like you said, you understand where she coming from
Speaker 1: one hundred percent.
Speaker 4: I get it.
Speaker 2: I love the accountability always.
Speaker 3: I think one of my pet pieces of people that's
Speaker 3: victimized people me either, people like that they have to
Speaker 3: get the fuck from around me.
Speaker 1: Same because it's like what you do, what.
Speaker 6: You do.
Speaker 1: I have a person who always try to make it
Speaker 1: seem like everybody else the problem.
Speaker 3: You get my last I don't know why a little bit.
Speaker 3: Some people may agree and.
Speaker 2: They may not.
Speaker 3: I love a person that's the villain because I love
Speaker 3: a person that just can own.
Speaker 2: It everybody somebody's stories, and.
Speaker 3: I think I love people that's able to say what
Speaker 3: they did wrong in some situation. If I'm talking to
Speaker 3: you and it's a hundred stories and you're never wrong.
Speaker 2: It's something that you do. Oh yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 3: Even when you ask a person what's your toxic trait?
Speaker 3: I'm too loving? No, no, no, always say that you can change,
Speaker 3: that you can do better as a part.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: If I talk to you and it sounds like you're
Speaker 2: doing a job interview, like, oh, what's the bad thing
Speaker 2: about you? As an employee? I I like to get
Speaker 2: to work so early, yeah, and work off the cloth.
Speaker 3: Yeah nerves.
Speaker 2: Well, you be on Instagram.
Speaker 3: Sprawl and it's gonna be very much.
Speaker 4: Well this, I'm a great worker.
Speaker 3: I'm very loyal all but sometimes I like to check
Speaker 3: my phone.
Speaker 2: I can take that.
Speaker 3: Yeah, we all have about shortcoming. Everybody has their flaws.
Speaker 3: Everybody had their shortcoming to life. So what would yours be?
Speaker 3: And what would yours be? I'm gonna leave. I think
Speaker 3: mines would be. I'm very passionate, I'm very loyal. I
Speaker 3: just have to work on how things I said. Because
Speaker 3: as an adult, I'm realizing that everybody doesn't take well
Speaker 3: to aggressiveness. But that's just who I am. Sometimes I
Speaker 3: can't help it. I realized once they come out.
Speaker 4: Of my mouth.
Speaker 3: You know how you think about things that you say,
Speaker 3: and it is like you hear your it being came
Speaker 3: out in the two seconds and I'm like, damn, that
Speaker 3: came out wrong. But I'm just so used to speaking
Speaker 3: my truth. Yeah, because since I was young, if I
Speaker 3: wanted to say, ooh that shit is nasty, my mother
Speaker 3: gave me leadway to say that.
Speaker 4: I didn't get in trouble for saying things like that.
Speaker 3: Yeah, So now as an adult, I can't help it.
Speaker 3: If I don't like something, I don't like it. Yeah,
Speaker 3: if I want to address something I'm addressing it right now.
Speaker 3: If I want to speak my mind, I'm gonna do that.
Speaker 3: So what's your toxic traits?
Speaker 2: Oh?
Speaker 1: I feel like I always got to stay what's on
Speaker 1: my mind. I always got to stay with on my mind,
Speaker 1: Like if it's on my chest, I'm gonna get it
Speaker 1: off my cheese. I got to let you know what's
Speaker 1: going on. So I think that's the toxic trade. And
Speaker 1: then also just not Sometimes it's hard for me to
Speaker 1: put myself in other people's shoes because I be feeling
Speaker 1: like people Oh why, because I think people be stupid
Speaker 1: a lot of the time, and it's not right to
Speaker 1: necessarily look at people like that.
Speaker 2: I feel like God made me.
Speaker 1: Really strong and resilient, and everybody is not that way.
Speaker 1: Everybody was not blessed without traite. So sometimes you have
Speaker 1: to look at the shit that people do and be
Speaker 1: like it's okay that they might not have the same
Speaker 1: level of confidence or realize that something is not okay
Speaker 1: and stand up for theyself. That doesn't necessarily make them stupid.
Speaker 2: You just different, you know what I mean?
Speaker 5: You just stronger than the person.
Speaker 1: And I feel like I used to always kind of
Speaker 1: look at people and be like, oh, that's dumb, you know,
Speaker 1: and not really and not care to have an understanding,
Speaker 1: just looking at them like they're stupid.
Speaker 2: I wouldn't ever do that, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: So I think that's probably.
Speaker 2: I think the worst thing about me is I am
Speaker 2: extremely sensitive by but I have the nerve to be
Speaker 2: a bitch, like like I am sensitive as fuck, but
Speaker 2: I'm a bitch, like I am extremely bitchy. And I
Speaker 2: used to always like I feel like people got to
Speaker 2: be soft with me, but I don't want to be
Speaker 2: soft with people. And I think another thing is like
Speaker 2: when I shut down, I shut down, like I don't
Speaker 2: do confrontation well, like if I need to let tom
Speaker 2: go by, like if me and you get into it,
Speaker 2: I need to have like two or three days and
Speaker 2: then I want to talk, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: But I also feel like I do need to calm down.
Speaker 2: But I also don't need to procrastinate, because honestly, I'll
Speaker 2: let shit go to like two three weeks and I'm like, okay,
Speaker 2: we can talk now, I guess, but I be thinking
Speaker 2: like let's just let's just move on. And I know
Speaker 2: now like I pride myself on being a great communicator,
Speaker 2: but I'm really not as good as a communicator as
Speaker 2: I like to say I am. I be wanting to
Speaker 2: talk about the things that I want to talk about. Yeah,
Speaker 2: when somebody else want to talk about something, I'd be like,
Speaker 2: you know what I'm saying. And so those are like
Speaker 2: the main two things I need to work on. I'm
Speaker 2: very I don't like to you know what, let me
Speaker 2: not say a bitch. I'm very assertive, and I think
Speaker 2: sometimes it's taken the wrong way. So I need to expect.
Speaker 2: But I need to learn how to take that too.
Speaker 2: And I think somebody's being bitchy towards me, they could
Speaker 2: just be assertive and saying what they mean, you know,
Speaker 2: So I got to learn how to dish it in
Speaker 2: take it. So yeah, I'm working on so so sensitive.
Speaker 4: You know, I'm not really sensitive.
Speaker 2: I'm not either.
Speaker 3: If you see me crying, I gotta be devastated about something.
Speaker 2: I cry because I'm like, she very sensitive.
Speaker 1: And that's where we're like so opposite, because she's very
Speaker 1: sensitive and I'm not. And just like she said, like
Speaker 1: you know, she's not really confrontational. So a lot of
Speaker 1: the time it's been times in our relationship where like
Speaker 1: I want to talk about she right now, and she
Speaker 1: don't want to talk about it. Yeah, my phone, I'm
Speaker 1: trying to avoid me. And what's up? Let's talk about
Speaker 1: what happened last week? Because you know, I'll let you
Speaker 1: make it for a week. But let's talk about I
Speaker 1: didn't you always.
Speaker 4: Say that that's all?
Speaker 2: What's up? What's up?
Speaker 3: Could get jiggy with tourists because what I noticed with
Speaker 3: a lot of tourist peopeople, even two of my good
Speaker 3: torrst friends, Yeah, they don't mind saying this is how
Speaker 3: I feel, this is what's on my mind, or and
Speaker 3: the people like that I could take because my response,
Speaker 3: so this is this is how I feel.
Speaker 4: And so we could talk.
Speaker 1: But it's so crazy that you said that, because that's
Speaker 1: what I be telling Lex. I'd be like, if I
Speaker 1: tell you that something that's wrong, She'd be like, well,
Speaker 1: I don't be wanting to argue, but that's your opportunity
Speaker 1: to tell me how you feel.
Speaker 2: It's not an argument turn into an argument.
Speaker 3: Everythink don't have to be an argument. I do get
Speaker 3: and that's another toxic way that I have too. I
Speaker 3: wouldn't say that. I'm I think like, if you really
Speaker 3: ask my friends. I could be confrontational, like I don't
Speaker 3: mind confrontation, I mean an argument, and I don't mind
Speaker 3: going back and forth. I don't mind debating because I'm
Speaker 3: a passionate person.
Speaker 2: They don't have to say. But with that, y'all gotta
Speaker 2: watch y'all tone.
Speaker 4: Yeah, and I do. I have to work on that.
Speaker 1: That's fair because I feel like maybe I do be
Speaker 1: having to watch my tone sometimes. But the thing about me,
Speaker 1: my tone only get bad with people. I gotta be written,
Speaker 1: you gotta have me real fucked up. Though for my
Speaker 1: pne yes you do, Yes, you do. Anybody in this
Speaker 1: room will agree my tone never get crazy with none
Speaker 1: of them.
Speaker 2: With none of them.
Speaker 1: I have just said, you gotta have me world point
Speaker 1: proven because she doesn't have me real fucked up a
Speaker 1: lot of time, a lot of times everyone else in
Speaker 1: this room has not, which was the point I was
Speaker 1: getting it.
Speaker 2: But no. But what I'm saying is I just feel
Speaker 2: like it's certain situations, Like like I said, but that's
Speaker 2: something I need to work on because I be having
Speaker 2: the nerves because everybody this room career. I will walk
Speaker 2: in and be like, what the fuck yo?
Speaker 3: Right?
Speaker 2: The cameras is cracking up with everybody. My phone be
Speaker 2: fucked up with selective select.
Speaker 4: Lee y'o leo.
Speaker 2: Controlling when it comes to my business. It when it
Speaker 2: comes to my business, this is our baby. I don't
Speaker 2: play when it comes to this ship. And I know
Speaker 2: what the vision I have for it. So I think
Speaker 2: it's the business world. I am a little more probably strict,
Speaker 2: and I don't mind having confrontation when it comes to
Speaker 2: business cause it's not necessarily it's not personal. It's business.
Speaker 2: I'm right done so with business, I don't mind saying
Speaker 2: what I got to say and what's on my mind.
Speaker 2: We need to talk about this ship because it's money
Speaker 2: to make.
Speaker 3: Yeah, friendship, it's okay because literally friendships is like relationiouships, Yeah,
Speaker 3: just without the intimacy.
Speaker 2: Because if you be broken falling.
Speaker 3: Out with your friends, just like it was your man
Speaker 3: or your or.
Speaker 4: Your and home boys go through, you could be gay.
Speaker 3: You can be strapping femail when you go through with
Speaker 3: your friends, even if you ain't talking to your friend
Speaker 3: for a couple of weeks.
Speaker 2: Yeah, everythings you be wanting.
Speaker 3: To talk about with them and you can't because y'all
Speaker 3: mad at each other.
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's not talking with you right now.
Speaker 1: It's sad weasted in each other some ship.
Speaker 4: Because that's me I canhold.
Speaker 3: I see you on my front. You are ill hold
Speaker 3: a GRUDGTI then I go to the grave.
Speaker 2: I'm not really a grud childer.
Speaker 1: I'll be letting stuff go because I just feel like
Speaker 1: after a certain period of time, I don't it's too.
Speaker 2: Much energy, Like it take too much energy to care.
Speaker 1: That's why, because I just want to get it over with,
Speaker 1: Like I just want to talk about it and even
Speaker 1: be over it.
Speaker 4: And until the torrests talk about it.
Speaker 3: Then you want to hold a grudge, but I don't
Speaker 3: want you talk about it.
Speaker 4: You'll be good after that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean maybe I feel like I don't care
Speaker 1: a lot about a lot of shit. That's why it's
Speaker 1: hard for me to hold grudges because I really don't
Speaker 1: give a fu enough to the grudge.
Speaker 4: It just depends on what's done.
Speaker 2: Dreda's not a grudge holder because I've seen where like
Speaker 2: you and a friend stop being friends. Someone When I
Speaker 2: tell you when Drea is done, i mean she will
Speaker 2: act like you are dead. You never like never.
Speaker 4: That signs ship is so.
Speaker 3: Real. And the thing with tourists who kissing nobody's ass.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, but you guys will always be open to
Speaker 3: talk about it. Yeah, that's signed and ship it could
Speaker 3: be too much later. If you're ready to talk, now,
Speaker 3: we can talk, so we can hand it out. But
Speaker 3: kissing nobody's.
Speaker 1: Ass, because I feel like that's the key to any
Speaker 1: healthy relationship, Like you have to be able to talk
Speaker 1: to people about stuff. And that's coming from a place
Speaker 1: of when I was younger, Lex Can of his cities.
Speaker 5: I used to be the type of person.
Speaker 1: Who I would just cut people off and not talk
Speaker 1: to you about stuff. But that's not conducive to having
Speaker 1: a healthy, long lasting relationship with anybody. Where there is
Speaker 1: a romantic relationship, where there is a friendship, where there
Speaker 1: is a relationship with your family, you have to be
Speaker 1: open to talking to people about it.
Speaker 5: And cutting people off every time somebody.
Speaker 1: Do some fucked up she to you or have you
Speaker 1: fucked up is not always the answer because sometimes what
Speaker 1: they did doesn't necessarily warrant something so dramatic as you
Speaker 1: not even talking to them again. But I used to
Speaker 1: everything was their series, like I'm not fucking with you.
Speaker 3: I gotta work on that one, because it just depend
Speaker 3: and that's something you really preaches to me, because that's
Speaker 3: something that I and I've had people like my older sister,
Speaker 3: who I get a lot of guidance from it. Well,
Speaker 3: tell me that that's a fucked up track too, because
Speaker 3: you don't do people like that. Yeah, But for me,
Speaker 3: it just depends on what's done, because I'll be feeling
Speaker 3: like you shouldn't know better. And one of my things
Speaker 3: that I take as a pride and as a friendship
Speaker 3: is I'm not a chatter. If you sit here tell
Speaker 3: me some vulnerable ship about yourself and you tell me
Speaker 3: to not say anything, I'm taking it to the motherfucking grace.
Speaker 3: So I expect the same thing from you. If I
Speaker 3: hear you doing a lot of chat about my ship
Speaker 3: like that, you get caught off at the head. I
Speaker 3: would prefer, I promise you, people don't. People have told
Speaker 3: me I sound crazy when I give this example. I
Speaker 3: would prefer if you was using my goddamn Devik card
Speaker 3: and I didn't know and you came and told me, oh, Saxy,
Speaker 3: I was hungry, I fucked up opposed to the streets
Speaker 3: coming back and saying she said this I know this
Speaker 3: about I would take that over that I don't play
Speaker 3: when because people like that just it's like I can't
Speaker 3: stand it because I have seen people do that, say oh,
Speaker 3: this is my homegirl, and as soon as she leaves
Speaker 3: the room, why do I know that she's been evicted
Speaker 3: last week?
Speaker 4: That's not my business.
Speaker 1: You gotta side on people like that because, like you said,
Speaker 1: because if you're saying it about a hug about me
Speaker 1: when I'm not in the room, you be doing the same.
Speaker 1: You cannot convince me that a person that will go
Speaker 1: and tell other people their friends business do not tell
Speaker 1: other people your business when you're not around.
Speaker 3: This.
Speaker 4: Instantly I'd be like, oh, I don't.
Speaker 1: Like this, especially like when people fall out, because that's
Speaker 1: when people.
Speaker 2: Are the most vulnerable and sangry. And yeah, so if
Speaker 2: you get your feelings and you and a friends start
Speaker 2: being friends and you start spelling all that, that says
Speaker 2: a lot about your character because I don't care if
Speaker 2: me and you never talk again. I'm not going to
Speaker 2: go around telling your secrets.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and people get upset, and guess what, it's inevitable
Speaker 3: as humans, we're gonna talk. We're gonna be like fuck that, bitchy.
Speaker 3: But it's just a certain level of where you go.
Speaker 3: I should not know personal shit that y'all went through. Yeah,
Speaker 3: you can come and tell me she did it, that
Speaker 3: was fucked up. I'm not fucking with her. Yeah, that's
Speaker 3: because you're human. We get upset. That's just what we
Speaker 3: do as people. But it's a degree on how you
Speaker 3: go about doing things.
Speaker 1: Because, like you said, what's her car getting repold? Gotta
Speaker 1: do what any knowing? Why are you telling me that?
Speaker 2: Oh my god, I don't know that.
Speaker 4: Or she had a BV that they gave for.
Speaker 2: An abortion. Trust Yeah, yeah, I do not trust them
Speaker 2: away from Yeah. Okay, So before we get into the topics,
Speaker 2: my girls time. What we drinking down today?
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Speaker 5: Thanks the first topic.
Speaker 1: For the first topic, we really wanted to talk to
Speaker 1: you about gay men being straight women's prius because we
Speaker 1: saw where you talked about this before recently. You were saying,
Speaker 1: how you know, you feel like you have been in
Speaker 1: that position in a lot of situations or a lot
Speaker 1: of relationships and friendships that you've been in. So we
Speaker 1: definitely wanted to get into that because I agree with you.
Speaker 3: But and it's the thing it goes I think, and
Speaker 3: I'm saying black because I'm black back. It goes hand
Speaker 3: in hand though, right, because I do get how in
Speaker 3: certain areas, as black gaying, we can't be props. I
Speaker 3: understand that because we contribute a lot. I was slang,
Speaker 3: I would fashion our mindset, our loyalty. We love the girls,
Speaker 3: and the girls love us, and we're amazing we're innovators,
Speaker 3: we're thinkers, we're creative, we're.
Speaker 4: Smart as gay people, right.
Speaker 3: But I think our biggest allies, especially for me in
Speaker 3: my life as a black gay man, has been black women.
Speaker 4: So in a sense, a prop is subjective.
Speaker 3: It's what a prop is to you, because for me,
Speaker 3: my biggest allies has been black women. So sometimes even
Speaker 3: when people think that I'm baiting or I'm saying certain
Speaker 3: things to just get on the good side of a woman,
Speaker 3: a lot of things I feel for real because when
Speaker 3: I was experiencing my bullying, when I was experiencing my hardships,
Speaker 3: it was women.
Speaker 4: That was there for me.
Speaker 2: I mean, the first woman was your mom, was my mother.
Speaker 3: And that's why when people tell me I'm trying to
Speaker 3: be like this person, I'm trying to be like my mom.
Speaker 3: I emulate my mother, I think and operate like my mother.
Speaker 3: But for me, women have saved me, so I have
Speaker 3: a different connection with them. But I do get that
Speaker 3: sometimes we can be props. And what happens is I
Speaker 3: was talking about this on another podcast because I was
Speaker 3: just trying to speak lifely to this young man, right
Speaker 3: who had his perspective on being messy.
Speaker 2: I said, Oh he's spicy. I sad. I said, oh
Speaker 2: he getting spicy.
Speaker 3: Yeah, no, you ain't say. That was the fight work
Speaker 3: for me, and that was the light work there. Somebody
Speaker 3: called me up and said, hey, yeah, we gotta get
Speaker 3: somebody on here that could take you because you're a lot.
Speaker 3: Yeah I am in real life because I'm very assertive
Speaker 3: and I know what I'm talking about. I don't know
Speaker 3: what I'm talking about. I'm gonna wing that bit. And
Speaker 3: you want to think I know what I'm talking about it,
Speaker 3: I'm gonna wing it down and you're never gonna box me.
Speaker 3: I'm gonna always have a response. But I think it's
Speaker 3: it's a two way street, right, because what I wanted
Speaker 3: him to understand was you can be that stereotype of
Speaker 3: mess that they see gay men to be right, because
Speaker 3: all they're gonna do is amp You would say, yeah,
Speaker 3: spill t yeah, stand on it. Yeah say that, and
Speaker 3: guess what, as soon as they are business is on
Speaker 3: the line, then you're gonna be a sissy and then
Speaker 3: you're going to be seen as their prop that they
Speaker 3: just throw to the side because it's no fun until
Speaker 3: the cat got the gun. So you can sit there
Speaker 3: and laugh at another woman's pain and laugh at her
Speaker 3: business when another gay man is talking about it. But
Speaker 3: as soon as your business is on the line again, yes,
Speaker 3: that's when the prop is in play. And so that's
Speaker 3: why I can understand how people will say a lot
Speaker 3: of times we just props because when things go wrong,
Speaker 3: when things go left, a lot of times, a lot
Speaker 3: of gay men, when you talk to them, it's a
Speaker 3: thing in our community, it's don't trust fish, fish got
Speaker 3: bone because a lot of gay men have experienced being
Speaker 3: that loyal person to women, being that rider, and when
Speaker 3: things go left, they're thrown to the side. They have
Speaker 3: been the manager, they have been the person riding. They've
Speaker 3: been the person showing up when your man was a
Speaker 3: doing you in in the house, affusing you. You've been
Speaker 3: that person, that older brother, that friend figure, and then
Speaker 3: when things go left, you'll forgive him, but you'll throw.
Speaker 4: Your gay friends at the time.
Speaker 3: So I can get why that dynamic is very speaky
Speaker 3: and very tricky.
Speaker 4: But as for me, and my experienced women have saved me.
Speaker 1: And see, when I think of it, I'll more so
Speaker 1: be thinking from a standpoint of like, you know how
Speaker 1: you'll be talking to some women and they'll be like, well,
Speaker 1: I need to.
Speaker 2: Give me a gay meal friend. I hate that.
Speaker 1: I think that's like to me, that's more so trying
Speaker 1: to use a person as a pride, because why are
Speaker 1: you so specific in the type of friend that you
Speaker 1: need to.
Speaker 2: Buyd I don't see nothing wrong with it, But well,
Speaker 2: let me ask you this too, though, because I think
Speaker 2: it's a little weird on both sides. Yeah, because I
Speaker 2: have a gay friend that I'm really really close to,
Speaker 2: Like we've recently gotten really close and I love him
Speaker 2: down shout out to Clay. Hey, Clay, I talked to
Speaker 2: Clay so much. But we became friends organic. Yeah, Like
Speaker 2: it wasn't like, oh, I'm searching for him or for me,
Speaker 2: or it was like we really became organic friends. But
Speaker 2: what I have noticed is I feel like sometimes a
Speaker 2: lot of the gay men in the community, and I
Speaker 2: don't want to feed anybody, say y'all, please don't eat
Speaker 2: me up. This is just honest. Sometimes just like I
Speaker 2: feel like women want to be our friends because of
Speaker 2: who we are. I think a lot of gay men
Speaker 2: be trying to come into my life because they feel like, oh,
Speaker 2: I would love to be Lex's friend, or I want
Speaker 2: to be that one gay guy in her life. That
Speaker 2: that's why I'm so cool with Clay because it was genuine.
Speaker 2: But sometimes I feel like a lot of the gay
Speaker 2: boys be trying to you know, they just want to
Speaker 2: be a prog. Yes, they do.
Speaker 4: They ways. Yeah, it goes both ways.
Speaker 3: And the thing is we give a lot of confidence
Speaker 3: and tips, and we teach a lot of things because
Speaker 3: we do. We innovate us and we're very creative. But
Speaker 3: the same way women give it to us, they feed.
Speaker 3: I couldn't imagine a world of me living here without women.
Speaker 3: I probably would have been off myself. I'm just being serious.
Speaker 3: I could even when it comes to my own motherfucking community,
Speaker 3: I could not imagine this earth of me here, even
Speaker 3: if it was an LGBTQ community with just men. In
Speaker 3: a world with just men, I would then have gone.
Speaker 3: I'm talking about upstairs with God hanging out. It's women
Speaker 3: that keep me so grinded who I am. They give
Speaker 3: me so much confidence, they give me so much genuine love.
Speaker 3: I'm able to create my own table in my own
Speaker 3: lane because of women. Even with my own motherfucking community,
Speaker 3: I couldn't imagine having to kiss they motherfucking Yeah, because
Speaker 3: there'd be a lot of them too that's so rooted
Speaker 3: in hate and jealousy. So it does go both ways.
Speaker 3: You guys give us a lot and we give you
Speaker 3: a lot. But I think that it just gets sticky sometimes.
Speaker 3: But the different things that go on, and so you
Speaker 3: gotta just so you gotta just let things happen organically,
Speaker 3: like you said, But me personally, I don't mind. I
Speaker 3: don't mind a girl saying that because we.
Speaker 2: But you don't feel like it might be like some
Speaker 2: weird motives there.
Speaker 3: Or like somebody trying to use I think some girls
Speaker 3: they enjoy gay men more than girls.
Speaker 4: I think sometimes.
Speaker 2: If you don't get along with women and you feel like, oh, well,
Speaker 2: I need some gay friends, you probably a little weirdo yourself.
Speaker 2: Any woman that be like, oh, I'm not saying you
Speaker 2: got to be a girl's girl, But I hate a
Speaker 2: woman that's like, oh, I got more guy friends, or
Speaker 2: I don't want to hang out with the gay guys
Speaker 2: all the time. That'd be weird too, because, like I said,
Speaker 2: as much as I feel like it's on both sides,
Speaker 2: the women who seek out a gay friend just because
Speaker 2: he's a male and he's gay. To me, it gives
Speaker 2: like you don't want to hang around women because you
Speaker 2: feel like it's competition. So you feel like, of course
Speaker 2: that's true. Like if I don't want to be friends
Speaker 2: with Drea because Drea goes out and Drea gets all
Speaker 2: the attention, well I'm gonna go out with being sexy
Speaker 2: because obviously the men don't want me because he's a man.
Speaker 2: That's the kind of energy that gang is. They might
Speaker 2: want him.
Speaker 4: But guess what, you know what that's so true?
Speaker 3: How you just broke that down because I think about
Speaker 3: that with gay men, if you're a gay man and
Speaker 3: you have no gay homeboys. Because it's just like I
Speaker 3: spoke about on the other podcasts, it's things. Yeah, you
Speaker 3: can love me as a gay man. It is things
Speaker 3: that I can give you, but it's still certain things
Speaker 3: that you and her can relate on that I know
Speaker 3: nothing about it. So as a gay black man, I
Speaker 3: got to have at least one gay black men that
Speaker 3: lived this experience with me. Yeah, if I don't have
Speaker 3: at least one gay black man that I can relate to,
Speaker 3: we've been through the SAE. We have different backgrounds and upbringers,
Speaker 3: but it's a lot of things that's me being a
Speaker 3: black gay man that you can relate to eighty percent
Speaker 3: of the time, whether it's sometimes being ostracized, people judging us,
Speaker 3: people judging us because of what we like. So you're
Speaker 3: absolutely right, because there's certain things that women can get
Speaker 3: from each other that you can't get from a gay man.
Speaker 4: Yeah. I may be comfort for you.
Speaker 3: You may like to hang around me because I may
Speaker 3: encourage you in a different way than your homegirl. But
Speaker 3: if you're telling me you have no good homegirls, right,
Speaker 3: no good female friends, that is and.
Speaker 2: I say it hearing your motives there. Yeah, And I
Speaker 2: think we're also in a time where people see relationships
Speaker 2: like Santana and Kresha and everybody want everybody wants that dynamic.
Speaker 2: So they'd be like, oh, you see what Santana and
Speaker 2: Karsha do, I want to do that. So it's like,
Speaker 2: are y'all are you really genuine friends with him? Are
Speaker 2: you trying to have like an arrogant a ari type
Speaker 2: of situation? Yeah, you know what I'm saying. So I
Speaker 2: think a lot of times, like I said, it's not
Speaker 2: that genia in connection women be seeing they'd be like,
Speaker 2: I need a prop I need that accessory. They want
Speaker 2: somebody that's gonna come over and do their heir, boo
Speaker 2: them yeah, and hype them up. So that's why I said,
Speaker 2: it can get really get you know what.
Speaker 3: So sometimes to be fair, even though I don't live
Speaker 3: a woman's experience, sometimes though two women genuinely just have
Speaker 3: a cattiness. Yeah, So sometimes you it's a lot of
Speaker 3: girls that have tried, They've tried to be a girl's girl.
Speaker 4: They've tried to get along with other girls.
Speaker 3: But it's sometimes the gay boy will be more of
Speaker 3: a cheerleader when you walk out the room. Oh girl, honey,
Speaker 3: yes you look good. Sometimes you don't get that from
Speaker 3: other females.
Speaker 2: Wow, ladies.
Speaker 1: I feel like if that's the case, you just keep
Speaker 1: attracting the wrong type of friends, and then that's more
Speaker 1: of a you problem seas because why you keep attracting
Speaker 1: them type of women. Granted, I have been in situations
Speaker 1: where I have been friends with girls and they definitely
Speaker 1: were weird and was doing weird, shady shit or hating.
Speaker 1: But every single relationship that I've had with women has
Speaker 1: no being like this. So I feel like if those
Speaker 1: are the only type of girls you come across, you
Speaker 1: probably a little shrinking a little shelf. You probably be
Speaker 1: hating too, you know what I mean, And you can't
Speaker 1: take what you say. But you can't take because.
Speaker 2: One thing about me. I hype my friends up me.
Speaker 2: So I don't care if picture whatever, I am hyping
Speaker 2: you up. So I feel like if you are a
Speaker 2: girl and you don't have one girlfriend, at least one
Speaker 2: probably not hating on you, but they probably feel like, well,
Speaker 2: I'm always complimenting her, but she never say nothing to me.
Speaker 2: Sometimes shit will start feeling one sided.
Speaker 3: God, and like, even like I'm the type of friend,
Speaker 3: it's nothing that my friend posted, I'm not liking me personally.
Speaker 3: It could be some bullshit, it could be edited wrong me.
Speaker 3: I'm gonna steal picture.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna drag every fucking photo what likes that, I'm
Speaker 2: going to like it.
Speaker 3: That's just because I'm not until a day and I
Speaker 3: know that that might sound arrogant and pumps, but I'm
Speaker 3: so comfortable contrary to what people make food. Yeah, contraary
Speaker 3: with people think they may see. I'm so comfortable in myself,
Speaker 3: and a lot of that attests to my girls. Because
Speaker 3: I could have ten handsome, aesthetically pleasing gay friends that
Speaker 3: I'm around, and none of them are still me, And
Speaker 3: I mean that in an arrogant way because they are
Speaker 3: their own perfect and I can't be them right and
Speaker 3: they probably could get every that I probably want in
Speaker 3: my heart. But I still know when I walk into
Speaker 3: a room with my girls, they're going up for me.
Speaker 3: I'm in the land of my I'm in the land
Speaker 3: of my own. You can't do it like when you
Speaker 3: can't walk, like when you can't move. So when you
Speaker 3: comfortable in yourself.
Speaker 2: When you have your own lane. Yeah, that's why I
Speaker 2: don't mind hyping none of my friends up, because Drea
Speaker 2: has this lane that she dominates in and that ain't
Speaker 2: got shit to do with me what I got going on,
Speaker 2: because this line is what I'm dominating, So it doesn't
Speaker 2: take away, it does not take away from me to
Speaker 2: hype her up, or to hype Tigh up, or to
Speaker 2: hype my My other friend has a podcast as well,
Speaker 2: and I hype that ship up because that don't affect
Speaker 2: poor mind's baby. It don't because you not you. To
Speaker 2: get this flavor, you got to come to Drea and
Speaker 2: Nicole and Lexpi Mary for mine.
Speaker 1: So I just feel like I don't buy that but
Speaker 1: women like I ain't tried, Yeah, really try, Like you
Speaker 1: not really probably a good friend? Yosel If you don't
Speaker 1: have at least one solid homegirl that you've been down
Speaker 1: with for a long time, it's hot.
Speaker 2: It's you the.
Speaker 4: Probably think that you can teach a person how to
Speaker 4: be a friend.
Speaker 2: He'll know. Oh, I think you can teach somebody how
Speaker 2: to love properly and be it. Well, I'm saying, think
Speaker 2: about our relationship and how much we grew together and
Speaker 2: I learned. Okay, well, Drea likes this, Dre, I can't
Speaker 2: treat Drea how I treat or Lauren like that's fair.
Speaker 1: But to me, that's more specific to a person. Like
Speaker 1: being friends with a person for a long period of time,
Speaker 1: you get to really you start to realize I need
Speaker 1: to be this way with them because this is what
Speaker 1: they respond to.
Speaker 6: I don't.
Speaker 4: You don't.
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 2: You can teach somebody how to be a good friend. Though.
Speaker 1: Either you're a good person and you have that shit
Speaker 1: in you to be a good friend, or you do not. Okay,
Speaker 1: I feel like people who are just bad friends. You
Speaker 1: probably a bad person. I'm probably not really a good It's.
Speaker 4: It's so important too.
Speaker 3: I think in order to have longevity in a friendship,
Speaker 3: you have to learn a person, so sometimes you're not
Speaker 3: hurting your own feelings. And for example, like I, I
Speaker 3: already know when my friend don't want to be bothered
Speaker 3: in the tone, I could tell when he don't want company.
Speaker 3: So why even hurt my feelings of saying I'm about
Speaker 3: to come over there when I know you don't want
Speaker 3: company right now? Yeah, you have to learn a person.
Speaker 3: I be wanting people to understand I'm the type of
Speaker 3: person if I don't deal with you, don't.
Speaker 4: Invite me nowhere where you're located.
Speaker 3: So as a friend, you should already know that, because
Speaker 3: now you're going to be offended when I say.
Speaker 2: Stop asking me that shit? Are you stupid? Yeah? Yeah,
Speaker 2: learn me.
Speaker 3: No, I don't want to be in nowhere, And that's
Speaker 3: a comference of where another person is at. So you
Speaker 3: have to learn a person that you're around so that
Speaker 3: certain times you're not hurt, because that's what happens sometimes.
Speaker 4: Now you think you're a friend is something personal to
Speaker 4: you and it's not.
Speaker 3: They're just not having I'm learning that more because I'm
Speaker 3: a person that wakes up on ten. I'll say, probably
Speaker 3: five days out of the week. Yeah, I'm good and
Speaker 3: so growing up it would offend me if I call
Speaker 3: you and you're like, what's up? I don't even want
Speaker 3: to be around you. Now, I feel like it's something
Speaker 3: that I did, but I had to realize and what
Speaker 3: my sister taught me, sometimes it's people being selfish.
Speaker 4: It's not about you today, baby, has nothing.
Speaker 3: To do with you. I'm having my own problems, my
Speaker 3: own issuestes. It has nothing to do with you. So
Speaker 3: I think it's important to learn people.
Speaker 1: I agree with that because I feel like I'm kind
Speaker 1: of like that too. Like when I call people if
Speaker 1: they got like a weird energy, Oh, I'd be like,
Speaker 1: what's wrong with you?
Speaker 2: You know?
Speaker 1: But then you be having to realize it's not about you.
Speaker 1: So then I just learned to like give people they
Speaker 1: dc me. I'm not really the type of person that
Speaker 1: will just let stuff affect my day, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean. It's like, even if some shit happened, i
Speaker 1: might be in a bad move for a little bit,
Speaker 1: but I'm not gonna just be walking open around the
Speaker 1: hall day or for like days at a time.
Speaker 2: Some people they need to go through it to get Oh, yeah,
Speaker 2: I'm a moper. But I also don't bring other people
Speaker 2: in it. So if you call me i'm not in
Speaker 2: a good mood, I'll let you know, hey, I'm not
Speaker 2: feeling it today and deal with those y'all are that's
Speaker 2: my friends, father people, And that's.
Speaker 3: Fine because you're human. But I love people that's not
Speaker 3: They're not going to take it out on you. They
Speaker 3: just not having a good day. They're going to be
Speaker 3: vocal about it and they need the space. But I
Speaker 3: can't stand a person that come and on purpose want
Speaker 3: to ruin the ass. Oh, because you're human and I
Speaker 3: had to. I'm still learning that. That is one thing
Speaker 3: that I'm still learning with people. You're human and sometimes
Speaker 3: it's nothing to do with me, and I guess people
Speaker 3: we take it personally.
Speaker 4: It's not about you today.
Speaker 2: Because you know you said you wake up on ten. Oh,
Speaker 2: I wake up on one every day, So I'll be
Speaker 2: having to.
Speaker 3: And I have to understand it that I didn't do
Speaker 3: anything to you know what type of way that it's
Speaker 3: just you in your mind to it has nothing to
Speaker 3: do with me, and as people, we be ready to
Speaker 3: take it so personal. It's like it has nothing to
Speaker 3: do with you. That's like vocal people do.
Speaker 4: Yeah, just express that and then I just go about life.
Speaker 2: Yeah, just say something, you know.
Speaker 1: I feel like a lot of the time people just
Speaker 1: be having like that weird energy around them and then
Speaker 1: they don't say anything. So then as a human, your
Speaker 1: mind gets a wondering and you can't help but think.
Speaker 2: Okay, like what's the problem.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I can't stand with people who walk in the room.
Speaker 2: They just want everybody to feel their wrath. I cannot stand. Now,
Speaker 2: that's something that I hate. If you got something going to,
Speaker 2: leave that ship at the door, leave it at the door.
Speaker 2: I'm not saying that I don't care, but we all
Speaker 2: got life going on. Yes, no, I think I read
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Speaker 2: Know what I'm saying, is this one is easy? Is
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Speaker 2: so funny because me Andre, I know, we both grew
Speaker 2: up with parents like my god, so I would talk
Speaker 2: about growing up with naked parents. So anoke guy, it's
Speaker 2: somebody who is just like a nudist at home, Like
Speaker 2: you have to make sure when your friends come over, Mamma,
Speaker 2: you got some clothes on, you gotta make sure they
Speaker 2: are covered up. Because one thing about me, my mom
Speaker 2: was always walking around the house naked. And I'm not
Speaker 2: talking about like oh Winnie the Poo style with a
Speaker 2: T shirt and no panties on and no bottoms. I'm
Speaker 2: talking about but booty hole from the root of to
Speaker 2: the too a newist. I mean, it was so.
Speaker 1: Awkward too, because then my dad would be there and
Speaker 1: he would be like foaming at the mouse.
Speaker 2: And I know that's daddy around when I was growing up.
Speaker 1: He used to make even more weird because yes, because
Speaker 1: it was me and my mama and my daddy in
Speaker 1: the house and she would just be walking around naked
Speaker 1: all the time. Like I'm talking about doing everything naked
Speaker 1: looking cleaning, I'd be like, damn, you ain't scared of
Speaker 1: the grease gone pop yo titty.
Speaker 2: Growing up.
Speaker 3: So I have a mom that will walking around with
Speaker 3: a taboo like that, but just butt naked.
Speaker 4: I ain't have no butt naked mom.
Speaker 2: Yeah, because you know, even though you were, you know, gay,
Speaker 2: but you're still a boy. So I do think, like,
Speaker 2: how would y'all feel about, like a mom working walking
Speaker 2: around naked and she has a son, Like, how do
Speaker 2: y'all feel about that? Because I think it is a
Speaker 2: little different to walk around in the nude and you
Speaker 2: have a little girl having a little boy. I think
Speaker 2: it's the same thing with men if you have a
Speaker 2: son and you're walking around naked, Like but I think
Speaker 2: about a man walking around the house naked with his
Speaker 2: little girl. Oh it does. But I think it's the
Speaker 2: same thing when child is young, and I feel like
Speaker 2: it's different with.
Speaker 3: How do y'all because I feel like you can't out.
Speaker 4: Your mama vagina?
Speaker 2: Yeah I did, but I don't want to see it.
Speaker 2: I at it that day and I don't want to
Speaker 2: see it for the rest of my life.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and I get it, but it's like it's I
Speaker 3: don't know what, Joe. It's like you literally lived in
Speaker 3: her body, like you came out between her legs.
Speaker 2: It's like this. It more so got on my nerves.
Speaker 2: But it wasn't like something I was like, oh oh
Speaker 2: my god, discovery. It was just like, girl, put some
Speaker 2: damn clothes on. But now it's so crazy because as
Speaker 2: I get older. I'm thirty five now, and literally everything
Speaker 2: I do, I'm like, I am my mother's tea, being
Speaker 2: at home all the time, just wanting to be left alone,
Speaker 2: watching TV, the way I eat, the way I act,
Speaker 2: I'm literally turning it. I'm naked all the time at
Speaker 2: my house all the time. I am too, but by myself.
Speaker 1: I feel like once I have kids, I cannot see
Speaker 1: even with a little girl, like maybe as a like
Speaker 1: maybe as like a two year old or something, but
Speaker 1: like once you get to like grade school, I am
Speaker 1: not about to be walking around naked in front.
Speaker 2: Of my daughter. That's just me though, I don't see
Speaker 2: the point.
Speaker 1: Growing panty cool, like you said your mom used to
Speaker 1: walk around in her panties, cool, but like just walk
Speaker 1: around but ass naked in front of my kid where
Speaker 1: is your role?
Speaker 2: School? Where's your school?
Speaker 3: Though?
Speaker 2: That's how you have to feel about my mama, girl,
Speaker 2: Where is your role?
Speaker 4: And I get that, but I do.
Speaker 2: Feel like, like I said, it's not nothing that's nasty
Speaker 2: or weird to me, so nasty, but it's more annoying.
Speaker 2: Like if you're a woman and you have a daughter
Speaker 2: she's in grade school, you walk around naked. It probably
Speaker 2: just gets on her nerves. But now I do think
Speaker 2: it's weird if you're a woman and you have a
Speaker 2: son and he's in grade school and you're walking around naked.
Speaker 2: But like I said, if it's a man and his
Speaker 2: son and they living together, he like gets out the
Speaker 2: shower and goes and runs and grabs some shorts or whatever,
Speaker 2: that's normal because it's like a locker room. But again,
Speaker 2: if a man has a daughter in grade school he's
Speaker 2: walking around naked, that's weird to me.
Speaker 4: I know.
Speaker 2: I think it's like if it's same gender, it's okay
Speaker 2: because I look at it like a locker room, a
Speaker 2: gym when you go spa, and it's nothing weird, you
Speaker 2: know what I'm saying. But I do think it's like
Speaker 2: when you have a different gender for your child. That's
Speaker 2: when things can get a little stick a little sticky sticky. Yeah,
Speaker 2: because I've never seen my daddy naked.
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's only vain, I see it was my mom,
Speaker 4: that's the only Yeah.
Speaker 3: Any of my sisters just maybe like busting in the bathroom,
Speaker 3: they're not that context.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 3: But outside of that, do you want kids? I'm a
Speaker 3: god dad. I have two beautiful nieces and Lisa, But no,
Speaker 3: I was like, kids is a lot. They're beautiful, they're adorable.
Speaker 3: But I never have baby fever ever in my life.
Speaker 3: I've never went through a phase of being like, oh
Speaker 3: I want kids. Yeah, I love my freedom. Y. I
Speaker 3: love to be able to move and do what I want.
Speaker 3: Not to say that mothers who have kids don't have freedom,
Speaker 3: because you get to a certain point of your life
Speaker 3: where you still live in your best life. You got
Speaker 3: your kids to exactly the age they need to be
Speaker 3: with where they able to do for theirself and move
Speaker 3: and operate and feed themselfs Now, my girls be back
Speaker 3: outside because I've seen it have to over and over
Speaker 3: and over again. But as far as me, I don't
Speaker 3: desire your children ever.
Speaker 2: Yeah, Yeah, I feel like kids for me has always
Speaker 2: been a thing, like I do want children, but I
Speaker 2: want to make sure. I know people say, no matter
Speaker 2: how much money you make, you will never be prepared
Speaker 2: for a child or whatever. But I just have to
Speaker 2: get to a point in life where I can afford
Speaker 2: a nanny. I do, like I know because I love working,
Speaker 2: like I love just having a job and being busy,
Speaker 2: and I know, like I see like the single moms
Speaker 2: out there, and I'm not preparing to be a single
Speaker 2: mother at all. But when I do decide to have
Speaker 2: a child, I know whoever I'm married, he's gonna be
Speaker 2: a busy person and I'm gonna be a busy person
Speaker 2: and I'm not gonna be just staying at home and
Speaker 2: I'm not giving up my dream to stay at home
Speaker 2: with a child. So I know I am gonna need
Speaker 2: that help, whether it's a family member that I have
Speaker 2: moved in with me, but I'm gonna need to be
Speaker 2: in a position to where I have I have some help.
Speaker 3: And you saying, because I'm pretty sure you can afford
Speaker 3: a nanny now, but you're talking about like a full
Speaker 3: they're getting a six figure paycheck can afford.
Speaker 2: And I need to be in a house because I
Speaker 2: wouldn't mind having like a living nanny something like that,
Speaker 2: like cause you know, we be torn. You know, some
Speaker 2: days it's like it's just a lot. So I feel
Speaker 2: like that's what motherhood looks like to me, Like I'm
Speaker 2: gonna be an amazing mother, yes, but I'm gonna need
Speaker 2: some help because my say and daddy gonna be busy.
Speaker 1: Yes, but I be saying the same thing, like I
Speaker 1: definitely need a nanny. And then my mom he's retired,
Speaker 1: so girl, come home out come living in this house
Speaker 1: with us, and you know, ready.
Speaker 3: They're gonna give it all everything to come and do that.
Speaker 3: That's their dream, their desires.
Speaker 2: She can't wait.
Speaker 4: But you got you a good mama and a good relationship.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yes, she gonna want to come. Oh for sure.
Speaker 2: She already be putting it in my ears. Child, I
Speaker 2: already know.
Speaker 1: But I do think I'm still going to have a
Speaker 1: ninny as well, because like Leck said, we do travel
Speaker 1: and stuff, like with touring and stuff, and my mom
Speaker 1: is like older, so I just wouldn't want her having
Speaker 1: to travel all the time.
Speaker 2: By yeah, yeah, okay, so naked mom, you're not gonna
Speaker 2: be a naked mom.
Speaker 1: No, what you are not being braceded anymore. You do
Speaker 1: not need to see my tds.
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Speaker 1: so how did you make that decision?
Speaker 3: I'm just when I tell you, on this course of
Speaker 3: my life, I'm just so focused on what I'm doing now.
Speaker 2: It's just down there. Yeah.
Speaker 3: Sometimes but I just go ahead and it's it, and
Speaker 3: I just all about my business. But at this journey
Speaker 3: where I'm at in my life right now, I gotta
Speaker 3: be focused. Nobody's entering my body. That's not even up
Speaker 3: for debate, and I'm not allowing. I'm even at a
Speaker 3: place in my life because I like trade. Trade is
Speaker 3: like I wouldn'tssary say hood dudes, but they.
Speaker 2: Would be more on this, like you can't like you
Speaker 2: would think.
Speaker 4: Yes.
Speaker 3: And I'm even at a place in my life. Trey
Speaker 3: can't even come to my house because I'm so focused
Speaker 3: on this journey. I'm so close that everything that it
Speaker 3: is that I desire to want and have been desiring
Speaker 3: for for years, and so I have to be real
Speaker 3: particular about who I'm letting in my house, around me
Speaker 3: and my body. So while I've been on this journey,
Speaker 3: I've been celebrating even when I be that's my too.
Speaker 3: I like to just oh, I can't say that because
Speaker 3: I was about to say, oh, I can't say that
Speaker 3: one bless oh.
Speaker 2: Bless, that's all.
Speaker 3: I gotta work over that, because it'll be about to
Speaker 3: slip out, O me afraid. So that's why I like,
Speaker 3: oh shit, oh bless that one on a slipped out.
Speaker 3: That's why I like to meet my people in the clubs.
Speaker 3: I'll just say that because I be wanting to meet
Speaker 3: people who don't know who the hell I am, so
Speaker 3: I could get in and get out. I'm at a
Speaker 3: place in my life I couldn't see how sometimes when
Speaker 3: you reach the level of superstardom, that you may stay
Speaker 3: with a person even though a person is doing you
Speaker 3: wrong because you're comfortable and dem you already know their motives.
Speaker 3: I think what I'm learning now is a lot of
Speaker 3: dudes I've been in contact with comes with like motives.
Speaker 3: I hate now when people know who I am, it
Speaker 3: curns me off because I'm like, oh god, okay, so
Speaker 3: it's some motive.
Speaker 2: That's what it is.
Speaker 4: When you come up and say, you know me, it's
Speaker 4: some older don't want it.
Speaker 3: It's that bad now because I just feel like it's
Speaker 3: the arterior motive behind what it is that you want
Speaker 3: out of me.
Speaker 4: But y'all, I been celibate five years. But the celibate
Speaker 4: the celibate to y'all mean no sucking.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: When I think of celibacy or when I think of
Speaker 1: being abstinate, I think of like no type of sexual interest.
Speaker 3: Saying you gotta be sucking at masturbating.
Speaker 2: A masturbating is okay, I will.
Speaker 4: Stay with this shrimp.
Speaker 3: One thing about it, play with.
Speaker 2: The shrimp is crazy, he said. I don't know if
Speaker 2: I could stop all that. I feel like it needs
Speaker 2: to be like, you're not doing anything sexual with another person.
Speaker 3: I know my little thing, be like stop scratching me.
Speaker 2: I'm sorry anything done to you, but you was just
Speaker 2: doing stuff to.
Speaker 3: I'm not interested in that. Like if a god said
Speaker 3: he want to go down on me, I'm not interested.
Speaker 2: No, you don't like him no girl. I'm a light
Speaker 2: light but I like a little.
Speaker 3: Talk to a dude and he not interested.
Speaker 4: Yes, I'm the girl.
Speaker 2: I'm sorry. I don't like it if a boy.
Speaker 3: If a boy wanted to get in, I'm not interested.
Speaker 2: Okay, And that's why you like, that's why you like, depending.
Speaker 4: On who it is.
Speaker 3: But it's some trade out there who don't. And I'm
Speaker 3: the ones I like. Like I say, predominantly, I like those.
Speaker 3: Those are the ones I like predominantly. Now, I'm not
Speaker 3: saying I've never encountered one that like to do linking too,
Speaker 3: But if I could choose, I don't want my licking.
Speaker 3: I'm just not into that because then you're going to
Speaker 3: desire to lick on me.
Speaker 4: I'm not into that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, so but let me ask you what started
Speaker 2: the sell? Was it like a bad relationship or somebody
Speaker 2: hurt you that made you decide to be in.
Speaker 3: A relationship In my life okay, three years old, I
Speaker 3: have never been in a relationship in my life. I've
Speaker 3: had little friends, but nothing serious. Like me and you
Speaker 3: we together, we like now, I've never ever, Wow, I
Speaker 3: just reached a certain point of just I think I
Speaker 3: think that I've been I know this may sound crazy
Speaker 3: to some people, but I think I've been scarred through
Speaker 3: a lot of other people experiences and seeing a lot
Speaker 3: of my female friends get hurt and a lot of
Speaker 3: my gay male friends get hurt worn. That's why I'm
Speaker 3: even at a place in my life I want no relationship.
Speaker 3: Where I'm at in my life none. I don't want
Speaker 3: no relationship. I want to tap and go because I've
Speaker 3: seen so many relationships and I've seen so many men
Speaker 3: come into good girls' lives that have so much shit
Speaker 3: going on. And and when I say it happens every
Speaker 3: child I've only seen and I have to be real.
Speaker 3: And as a gay black man, I've seen my friend
Speaker 3: flex successful in his relationship. Yes they have issues and problems,
Speaker 3: but they still have a camaraderie, they still have a relationship.
Speaker 3: They're going five years strong. That's very weird. In our community.
Speaker 3: We don't see a lot of relationships that stay down.
Speaker 3: But they have a different dynamic of a relationship. They're
Speaker 3: very open and raw with each other. But for me,
Speaker 3: I've seen guys come into girls lives.
Speaker 4: And throwing them their life up.
Speaker 3: And she was right there and getting her degree. It's
Speaker 3: one of my friends. I think that will hurt me
Speaker 3: until I'm like eighty and you know eighty and movies
Speaker 3: they looking back on their life. Yeah, she was supposed
Speaker 3: to be a doctor. She stopped God and he knew
Speaker 3: what the fuck he was doing. He knew what he
Speaker 3: was doing, and she allowed him to get in her
Speaker 3: fucking mind and fuck her up from getting her doctor's degree.
Speaker 2: I always use this as an example because depending on
Speaker 2: the man you choose can really affect the trajectory of
Speaker 2: your life. Wendy Williams, I truly believe that that man
Speaker 2: that she married. Everybody said it was the downfall of her,
Speaker 2: and I'm a Wendy Williams staying love her now. But
Speaker 2: a lot of times when you look at these women
Speaker 2: and the man that they involved their selves with, like,
Speaker 2: for example, it's so it's somebody else. I feel like
Speaker 2: Mary had did an interview the other day with Drew Barrymore.
Speaker 2: I see that and she was saying, like everybody always
Speaker 2: be like, oh, what's wrong with Halle and what's wrong
Speaker 2: with her? And She's like, why something gotta be wrong
Speaker 2: with me? And it was so many men in the
Speaker 2: comments like, oh, Halle, I don't care how fine, you
Speaker 2: are you sixty and single? Something is wrong with you?
Speaker 3: Something?
Speaker 2: I mean, it was so many comments, just being so nasty.
Speaker 2: But I need to say something to the straight men
Speaker 2: who date women and watch this. I need y'all to
Speaker 2: understand that some women truly believe it is better to
Speaker 2: be single.
Speaker 4: Me.
Speaker 2: It is better to be single than struggling with me.
Speaker 2: Y'all ask me, because sometimes when I look at the
Speaker 2: women like a like a Taraji or not a sonarilate
Speaker 2: than or or Dane, what's Tracy Ellis Ross, I'm like,
Speaker 2: they look like they having a great time. They like,
Speaker 2: what's wrong with them? Nothing is wrong with something. If
Speaker 2: you're blessed enough to find a great man that loves you,
Speaker 2: who honors you, who is loyal, y'all have a partnership,
Speaker 2: and y'all are really building something that is amazing. Yeah,
Speaker 2: but when I tell you, it is very rare to
Speaker 2: find that connection. And it is a blessing literally from
Speaker 2: God hisself. That's not on everybody's card. People are not
Speaker 2: led by God.
Speaker 4: Is let by Yes, people don't be letting God lead them.
Speaker 3: They be thinking that that's a God led situation, is not.
Speaker 3: Its like a lot of people say they have words
Speaker 3: from God, and they down't. It's their own thoughts and
Speaker 3: their own bullshit that they feed they stuff.
Speaker 4: In their head.
Speaker 3: People be leaded by LUs. You sit here and you
Speaker 3: think that it's a love at first sight, that's bullshit.
Speaker 3: It's not not saying that it can't be, because it can,
Speaker 3: because I know it's gonna be stories out there people say, no,
Speaker 3: I found love at first sight, and I get that,
Speaker 3: but ninety percent of the time it's lost. And when
Speaker 3: you go through real shit, because I'm a believer in that,
Speaker 3: that's how we all know it's love or not. When
Speaker 3: real shit starts to happen. Even with friendships, yep, I
Speaker 3: seen it. My friend was hanging out with a group
Speaker 3: of friends and he went to go do time and
Speaker 3: he heard from none of them one and the one
Speaker 3: with me. So when shit get real with people, you
Speaker 3: can say all that, yeah, that's like and when shit.
Speaker 2: Get real, I feel like it's a mixture though.
Speaker 1: I feel like sometimes he's led by lust and then
Speaker 1: sometimes people be led by loneliness. Because yeah, because she
Speaker 1: said that in the interview too, she was just like,
Speaker 1: it's nothing wrong with me. I'm just not staying with
Speaker 1: a man who I know is not the right one.
Speaker 1: But then I actually left the comedy on there what
Speaker 1: you saying? I leave it coming Sometimes you gotta catch you.
Speaker 1: But I was just like, yeah, I was like, it's
Speaker 1: a lot of women. I was like, it's nothing wrong
Speaker 1: with that, but it actually is. It's a lot of
Speaker 1: women who stay in situations because they don't want to
Speaker 1: be single, Like they cool with having the wrong men
Speaker 1: because they feel like that's better than not having no men.
Speaker 1: And I'm just like, yeah, when Betty Wright say it
Speaker 1: that I skipped that part of the girl having a
Speaker 1: piece of a man is not better then having no men.
Speaker 3: That because that's what it is, Because no, absolutely not. Yeah,
Speaker 3: so many people that are literally settling because they don't
Speaker 3: want to be along. Yeah, And then you look at me,
Speaker 3: you look at me, and then when I say that,
Speaker 3: people think that I'm tripping something wrong, exagerating, or it's
Speaker 3: something wrong with me, and it's not. Yeah, it's I
Speaker 3: am just at a journey in my life where I.
Speaker 2: Know what I want and I don't believe it's struggle
Speaker 2: love either. Believe that you you gotta go through things
Speaker 2: in a relationship, but it shouldn't be to the point
Speaker 2: to where I'm depressed, I'm losing weight, I'm unhappy, I'm
Speaker 2: crying every day. It shouldn't be that much of a struggle.
Speaker 2: I don't believe in that. I feel like, if you
Speaker 2: have two people who love each other, who are, you know,
Speaker 2: sure where they're at in life, they are healed. Yeah,
Speaker 2: we can come together and make something great and they
Speaker 2: ain't gotta be no struggle all because it's a struggle.
Speaker 1: I feel like that's not necessarily struggle. That's incompatibility exactly,
Speaker 1: y'all not competitive.
Speaker 2: Exactly.
Speaker 1: If you and a person is always at each other
Speaker 1: nick ninety percent of the time, y'all just not compatible.
Speaker 2: It's not struggle.
Speaker 1: But people do be trying to convince they so we
Speaker 1: just going through a rough patch, y'all been like this
Speaker 1: for the past year.
Speaker 2: Hey, but you know what's crazy on the other end
Speaker 2: of it. I always say that, do y'all remember when
Speaker 2: Michelle Obama that interview said her and Barack were in
Speaker 2: a rough patch for eight She did, but they were married.
Speaker 1: Yeah, But I think I hear the marriage is what
Speaker 1: you deal with in a marriage and what you're willing
Speaker 1: to try to work through with your partner.
Speaker 2: In a marriage.
Speaker 5: To me, that's completely different from.
Speaker 1: Boyfriend girlfriend boyfriend boyfriend girlfriend girlfriend. It's completely different because
Speaker 1: you made a vow to this person you know and
Speaker 1: if you truly do know them and you know the
Speaker 1: potential of your relationship or you know what it was,
Speaker 1: and that y'all truly are just going through a trying time.
Speaker 1: It's okay to stay there and work through that with
Speaker 1: your partner. But if you are in a relationship with
Speaker 1: somebody and majority of the relationship has been bad and
Speaker 1: the smaller part of the relationship has been good, you
Speaker 1: just need to leave that.
Speaker 2: And also your is not Barack at all. So that's
Speaker 2: a good.
Speaker 3: Thirty one years. And they tell me, if you've ever
Speaker 3: been in a long term marriage, if you always say
Speaker 3: that you've always been in love, it's a lot not
Speaker 3: true because you go through different hurdles and different points
Speaker 3: in your relationships. Sometimes you got to create love again.
Speaker 3: Sometimes you got to create those times. And my parents
Speaker 3: been together thirty one years and I've seen a lot
Speaker 3: of amazing moments with them, but I've seen times where
Speaker 3: they wantn't getting along. I've seen times of walking by
Speaker 3: each other in the house because.
Speaker 4: That relationship be a lot.
Speaker 3: So yes, it's so beautiful, it's so amazing, it's so
Speaker 3: a gope, it's so cute, but it be real times too,
Speaker 3: and people who have been in relationships they can attest
Speaker 3: to that it's a lot of.
Speaker 1: Work because you gotta be willing to put that work in.
Speaker 1: And that's why I think sometimes some women like calle
Speaker 1: Berry be like you not what. I'm actually cool on
Speaker 1: these because I feel like I can find something else
Speaker 1: where I don't have to put up with all of
Speaker 1: these struggle of and all of these dramas to stay
Speaker 1: in a healthy relationship or be in a healthy relationship.
Speaker 3: That is so true, and that's why for me too.
Speaker 3: I love my Flo, I love my j Los, I
Speaker 3: love my Holly Bed.
Speaker 2: I said, I love that about you because so just
Speaker 2: get another one.
Speaker 4: Get another and over and over again.
Speaker 3: When I tell you I love girls, so I think
Speaker 3: it's so bad because I be so buying and I
Speaker 3: love my girls.
Speaker 4: I don't know what I would do without women. So
Speaker 4: I live to see a girl, new one.
Speaker 2: I love girls.
Speaker 3: Who yeh another one because I got her friend. Her
Speaker 3: name is Alexis. Let me say somebody, alexis good girl, amazing,
Speaker 3: got her own business. She's a boss, so pretty. She'd
Speaker 3: be hurt and devastated, but she know how to move on.
Speaker 3: She go through, but she's not staying getting just dead mistreated.
Speaker 3: You know, some girls are literally with stating I'm talking
Speaker 3: about getting mistreated to the court. They don't speak up,
Speaker 3: they don't leave baby, and she's gonna be devastated. But
Speaker 3: in another two months, my girl be good.
Speaker 4: Outside.
Speaker 1: I'd be sad, but I'd be like, you know what,
Speaker 1: maybe it's reiny, it's time to exist that.
Speaker 3: I live for girls like that, especially when you and
Speaker 3: your like y'all in y'all prime people be thinking like,
Speaker 3: twenties is your prome. No, thirties is really your prom
Speaker 3: Twenties is yeah, you outside you having fun. I think
Speaker 3: twenties you're supposed to be making your mistakes, living in
Speaker 3: holess fun. Thirties is really your prime of creating who
Speaker 3: you're going to be in your forties. Yep, thirties is
Speaker 3: your prime. And I see so many girls in the
Speaker 3: thirties waste the good fucking years. I see it over
Speaker 3: and over again, not treated right, not respect and not
Speaker 3: support it.
Speaker 4: And then you wake up and you sixty years old,
Speaker 4: and be like, what the fuck.
Speaker 2: Where did the time go? Because I'm not gonna lie me.
Speaker 2: At thirty five, I am making the most money I
Speaker 2: ever made. I'm the finest I've ever been, the most confident.
Speaker 2: I'm just so sure of myself, and I feel like
Speaker 2: where I'm at at this point in my life. Like
Speaker 2: I said, yeah, it be hurt when you get your
Speaker 2: heart broke, but it's also like, I know what I
Speaker 2: have to offer, but I'm also surrounded by like and
Speaker 2: I have an amazing community, like between my family and
Speaker 2: my friends. Like I be straight with a man or without.
Speaker 2: If a man leave me, the quality of my life
Speaker 2: does not change because I'm that girl, still gonna be
Speaker 2: in my high ride, still gonna be traveling, Still very
Speaker 2: much that girl. So I think that that just comes
Speaker 2: with time and maturity and knowing who you are, because
Speaker 2: I think a lot of times women are scared to
Speaker 2: be leave a relationship because they don't know who they
Speaker 2: are without this man. They have created their identity within
Speaker 2: that man. So it's kind of like, well, who am
Speaker 2: I without him?
Speaker 3: Baby?
Speaker 2: I'm everything?
Speaker 4: Ooh you, I gotta make a video to that.
Speaker 2: You ain't that that was a I'm that comes with like,
Speaker 2: like I said, time immaturity, because when I seen Halle
Speaker 2: Berry talking, I was like, Okay, I feel her. I
Speaker 2: feel for her. When I see her, I don't look
Speaker 2: I don't look at like, oh my god, she's sixty. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I'd be like, hey, do what makes you happy.
Speaker 4: And do what works rich successful, and it ain't no time.
Speaker 5: Let me on getting married. If she want to get married,
Speaker 5: she can get married a sixty five people.
Speaker 2: Do it all.
Speaker 3: You know how easy it is for get a man, right,
Speaker 3: she got a mean exactly what she's saying. Do you
Speaker 3: not know how easy it would be for her to
Speaker 3: get a man, and a man that probably would genuinely
Speaker 3: love her. She's just probably very calculated on how she moved.
Speaker 3: She could get a man in two point five seconds.
Speaker 3: The producers that were at the show that was filming
Speaker 3: that segment that day. She could have one to be
Speaker 3: her husband tomorrow.
Speaker 2: Tomorrow, she won't.
Speaker 4: Number you feel the essence of you is beautiful. You've
Speaker 4: rich successful, So it's just not that.
Speaker 1: And I hate when men say that stuff too, like
Speaker 1: try to make it seem like something is wrong with
Speaker 1: the woman. Because niggas is literally the easiest thing to get.
Speaker 1: It's not hard to get. It's not hard to get
Speaker 1: a nigga if somebody and believe it ain't because it's
Speaker 1: hard for her to get one.
Speaker 2: So it's so easy. Like even if you got your
Speaker 2: own nigga, when your nigga be mad at you, it's
Speaker 2: so easy to get your bed not mad if you
Speaker 2: are to get your man back or whatever the came.
Speaker 2: Men are just easy, Dan, they are, they are.
Speaker 3: It's so easy, especially when you look good lip gloss
Speaker 3: had done. It looked like gloss pop and get fifteen
Speaker 3: numbers and I'm fifteen men.
Speaker 4: Yeah, the quality is probably two good ones. But it's
Speaker 4: so that is easy.
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. Like if women are single, it
Speaker 1: is not because they can't get a mean people got
Speaker 1: to stop projecting it. Huh, y'all, we ain't even talking
Speaker 1: about the big topic.
Speaker 4: It was dirty.
Speaker 2: It was dirty talk.
Speaker 1: Oh oh oh, we did it because I was gonna say,
Speaker 1: with you being celebate, do you do like phone city
Speaker 1: dirty baby?
Speaker 4: Okay, weird because I can see that I had a
Speaker 4: man and were doing phones that.
Speaker 3: Then it's not weird.
Speaker 2: But like what a little like the face time you
Speaker 2: know you're playing with yourself. No, you don't be starting
Speaker 2: the shrimp to a lof star.
Speaker 4: You gotta come see that.
Speaker 2: In person.
Speaker 4: You gotta come see that seaple boy.
Speaker 2: Your birth.
Speaker 4: Excuse me, Juicy Crawd.
Speaker 3: You don't get to see that on the face time.
Speaker 3: You won't record me, I said, I think when I
Speaker 3: got in my car accident, I said, ooh, bitch, you famous,
Speaker 3: because I like, I'll just be operating like myself. So
Speaker 3: when I get on my phone that day I seen
Speaker 3: the shave room poster, I said it literally, y'all gaged
Speaker 3: the funk out of you. Yeah.
Speaker 2: I don't know why.
Speaker 4: I said, yeah, yeah, bitch, you gotta watch how you
Speaker 4: moving there.
Speaker 2: Yeah, because now you gotta be careful. I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 2: I really don't like send pictures and stuff like oh
Speaker 2: like I used to like, I feel like when I
Speaker 2: used to like start talking to a guy like I
Speaker 2: wouldn't care. I'm like, I'm fine. But because I always
Speaker 2: used to feel like, Okay, if my news lead, my
Speaker 2: ship lives, so matter anyway. But now I just feel like,
Speaker 2: not that I would be horrified, but i'd be like
Speaker 2: I just don't want that to be y'all don't want yeah,
Speaker 2: like I just don't want that to be out there.
Speaker 2: So I get it. I get But that's why you
Speaker 2: gotta know that's okay. Yeah, but you gotta deal with
Speaker 2: men who have something to lose too. I think ninety
Speaker 2: percent of the time when we see men doing that
Speaker 2: revenge porn, they posting a woman's because they don't got
Speaker 2: shit to lose, and they be wanting the cloud.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I want the cloud because they be so rooted
Speaker 4: in that cloud.
Speaker 2: Yes, yeah, child, do y'all be a long time ago
Speaker 2: when Black China was dating that guy and he was
Speaker 2: like taking pictures and robs rolled like.
Speaker 4: All in her house the internet. Remember that was yeah
Speaker 4: the interer.
Speaker 3: Now I remember all you've seen down your Twitter time
Speaker 3: I was Black China, remember, like it was her revenge for.
Speaker 2: I remember. It was just so crazy. But that's how
Speaker 2: it would be most of the time when you see
Speaker 2: because he was really fine. I remember him being really,
Speaker 2: really fun. But it was like most of the time
Speaker 2: when you see like a fine dude or something, they
Speaker 2: be chasing after us. Yeah, and they be wanting to
Speaker 2: big themselves off of us. Uh huh. So that's why
Speaker 2: I was like getting the man then, ain't faking or the.
Speaker 4: Dudes that chase you, chase you, chase you, chase, you,
Speaker 4: chase you chase, you chase you.
Speaker 3: Then when you get it, ass a chance your face
Speaker 3: and it's like you wanted me?
Speaker 2: Did you forget? They forgetting?
Speaker 5: They do be forgetting, they be having, they be thinking,
Speaker 5: they be good in the program.
Speaker 4: I'm seeing that happen so many times.
Speaker 3: Chased her damn bed Yeah trachnically, Then would she give
Speaker 3: you a chance?
Speaker 2: I had on the car chase me down for three
Speaker 2: years and I finally decided to and I was just
Speaker 2: like you, I will beat your ass. I will beat
Speaker 2: your motherfucking ass like you, is you serious?
Speaker 6: Is you cool?
Speaker 2: Bra? When I think about that ship, I'll be like what, Yeah,
Speaker 2: he chased you for three years. I mean when I
Speaker 2: went back to our first DM, he had been to
Speaker 2: my dms for three years, and I was always just
Speaker 2: playing and like not you know, But.
Speaker 1: I always they say when you do it, be them niggas,
Speaker 1: that be they be having a vendetta against you, like
Speaker 1: if you carved them for a long time.
Speaker 2: Don't never deal with no nigga.
Speaker 1: Yes, I truly believe that, don't ever deal with a
Speaker 1: man who've been trying to holler at you and you've
Speaker 1: been carving him for years because he is going to
Speaker 1: make it his personal mission to her trophy.
Speaker 2: That's why I went ba my like my last relationship.
Speaker 2: I mean, I won't say last because it's kind of still,
Speaker 2: but I use my old school thing. You know, you
Speaker 2: go through and like they pictures and follow them and
Speaker 2: they be like, ooh, she fine, that's my new thing
Speaker 2: I like to do. That's how I pick them. That's
Speaker 2: how I'd rather do the choosing. Now I'm not doing
Speaker 2: somebody who trying to. So that's how it was my
Speaker 2: last picture. Oh. I followed him. I liked a few pictures,
Speaker 2: and then I posted a fine ass video on my
Speaker 2: story and he fell right into my truck. Go so
Speaker 2: may be easy. I was like, it was funny because
Speaker 2: I screenshoted his page and I said this to my
Speaker 2: best friend. I said, oh, I want him.
Speaker 4: Do y'all have an exit to give a you a
Speaker 4: no aflutely.
Speaker 5: If it's over, baby, it's over for a reason.
Speaker 3: Let it go.
Speaker 1: I used to do that, but now no, Like, when
Speaker 1: I'm done done, I'm really done with you, Like if
Speaker 1: we in limbo, then that's different. I am out really
Speaker 1: being done with somebody, like we broke up. I haven't
Speaker 1: talked to you for six months. I haven't talked to
Speaker 1: you for a year.
Speaker 2: No, it's because about.
Speaker 5: Yeah, And I think you just gotta always keep.
Speaker 2: In mind why did y'all break right?
Speaker 1: A lot of the time, I think that if people
Speaker 1: sit and they reflect on why it didn't work out
Speaker 1: the first time, then you realize it's not worth revisiting.
Speaker 2: And I think a man two and an X and
Speaker 2: then y'all broken up for a long time. Now, sometimes
Speaker 2: it does work out, but most of the time they
Speaker 2: coming just to waste time. Whatever situation that they were
Speaker 2: dealing with, y'all broke up didn't work out, so they're
Speaker 2: just coming back to something that they know that's comfortable
Speaker 2: until they find something else. They finish playing your face again,
Speaker 2: always always. I've learned that every time that I used
Speaker 2: to go back with my ex, it was just so
Speaker 2: he could play in my face again. It was it
Speaker 2: was comfortable. We didn't have to start from square one. Yeah,
Speaker 2: it wasn't the getting to know each other face. It
Speaker 2: was like we could just go in and we fucking already.
Speaker 2: We get to skip all the books. Yeah, so I
Speaker 2: just maybe just trying to get a shortcut, and it's
Speaker 2: something fun to do. There's something to do until the
Speaker 2: girl that they was messing with come back around or
Speaker 2: they find somebody that they really really want.
Speaker 5: How you feel about dating?
Speaker 3: No, I don't have an axe. Yeah, I don't have
Speaker 3: an ex. I have little fleas that have little relationships,
Speaker 3: but I don't have an ax like a real ex.
Speaker 3: Like I said, that's I don't play.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so you don't spend the block.
Speaker 4: When I tell you I don't play, I have it bad. Yeah,
Speaker 4: you don't even talk to me too loud?
Speaker 2: You can leave? Yeah, yeah you can go out, baby,
Speaker 2: you can.
Speaker 4: Don't need it.
Speaker 3: I'm telling you, I really be at peace with myself
Speaker 3: and my life. Now.
Speaker 4: Do I want to be in love, Yes, of course.
Speaker 4: Do I want a relationship, yes, But right now in
Speaker 4: this season.
Speaker 3: I'm I be good.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: I I eat my own food, I chill, put my
Speaker 3: air conditioned on, cut my teet.
Speaker 4: I'll be good. When I want a nibble, I have
Speaker 4: a nibble. But I want you to leave.
Speaker 1: You be.
Speaker 2: Be peaceful, going to sleep, and you ain't got to
Speaker 2: worry about what a nigga doing. You ain't got a
Speaker 2: check in because it do.
Speaker 3: Be like that told me that. My sister just said that.
Speaker 3: She was like, that is one of the most peaceful things.
Speaker 4: You can move and do what you want. He's not all,
Speaker 4: while you got this long? Why are you going to?
Speaker 3: Where you going?
Speaker 2: While you It's like, when the relationship be good, it'd
Speaker 2: be fun, it'd be a good time. But once you
Speaker 2: get to that point to where you worried about what
Speaker 2: he doing, he worried about what you're doing, y'all at
Speaker 2: odds all the time, that's when stuff gets stressful. Like
Speaker 2: I don't mind being a relationship and you know we're
Speaker 2: doing what we have to do because it's not stressful.
Speaker 2: But once it gets to that point to where it's
Speaker 2: more stress than it is fun, I got to go, yes, God,
Speaker 2: I agree, I got to go. Okay, So I the
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Speaker 2: So now it's time to get into the box. So
Speaker 2: the box of the weeks. Like whatever song you've been
Speaker 2: listening to this week, what's on your playlist, what you've
Speaker 2: been riding to gym and so. So I'm an R
Speaker 2: and B girl, y'all know. I love to find like
Speaker 2: new artists that nobody ever heard of, y'all. This is
Speaker 2: such a good song. I love when I find good stuff.
Speaker 2: So his name is Sink Money c I N q
Speaker 2: U E M A n I and he have a song.
Speaker 2: He has a song called give You My Love. It's
Speaker 2: so soulful. I love a good love record, you know
Speaker 2: what I'm saying. Yeah, So, what's yourp of the week.
Speaker 2: What's your the week? Pull it up? What you got
Speaker 2: for us? I thought you'd be jamming it gets that
Speaker 2: you be in the mirror like twarking cut.
Speaker 3: My B of the week is my sister say, says Tannah. Okay,
Speaker 3: oh yes, that's like.
Speaker 5: On the show We Love Him.
Speaker 2: That's I love Santana. Now that video of y'all walking
Speaker 2: down the street, why you had that T shirt all
Speaker 2: like that cutting up?
Speaker 3: That's like God, And people don't even understand how much
Speaker 3: she loves.
Speaker 4: She loves and I love my girl since the day
Speaker 4: we met. You ever had a friend that she don't
Speaker 4: talk to every day?
Speaker 3: Yeah? Him every day, But every time y'all see each other.
Speaker 2: It's what's the.
Speaker 3: It could be some ship that go on and y'all
Speaker 3: can pick up the phone and be like, girl, but
Speaker 3: y'all don't talk every single day. That's my girl. But
Speaker 3: I would say the song is he got some bob
Speaker 3: So he just came up with the song. It's called
Speaker 3: I'm not gonna play it right or.
Speaker 2: You don't have to play you don't.
Speaker 4: It's called free band Titty.
Speaker 6: Yes, I love.
Speaker 2: Yes funny. He is so funny. Y'all need to do
Speaker 2: some more stuff together.
Speaker 4: We are like, yeah we are. It's so crazy because
Speaker 4: like people mistake him for me.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I can hear that.
Speaker 4: Look alike and only doing it to me.
Speaker 3: So I stayd One day, I said cause it'll be
Speaker 3: people like and then they'd be like, no, you'll be safety.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: So I asked someone, I said, do people be mistaking
Speaker 3: you for me? He said, yes, girl, this lady just
Speaker 3: did it the day air. I said really, He said yeah,
Speaker 3: that was the first time.
Speaker 2: He said.
Speaker 3: The lady said big saxy, And I said, baby, I'm
Speaker 3: not good.
Speaker 2: Especially like if y'all got the shades on or something like,
Speaker 2: I can see that.
Speaker 3: Really.
Speaker 4: I think maybe it's like the aesthetic like.
Speaker 2: In the face, but like how y'all walk and talk
Speaker 2: and the mannerisms, like I can see that. I can
Speaker 2: see why people.
Speaker 1: Okay, what's your bob dre Okay, so my bop is
Speaker 1: this song called Barkee by shift G.
Speaker 5: He like a New York repper.
Speaker 2: You know, I really used to like pop Smoke r
Speaker 2: I P.
Speaker 1: RP pop Smoke, But I was devastating when pop Smoke
Speaker 1: died because I felt like he was really like on
Speaker 1: the brink of having a huge career, like it was
Speaker 1: so so it was over so the South, but he
Speaker 1: really used to make his and like, I don't know,
Speaker 1: I just love the way New York niggas make music.
Speaker 2: I love they little I would shake the room. I
Speaker 2: love the room.
Speaker 5: I know he has so many good songs.
Speaker 2: So yeah, okay, so it's called Brokie Boy Chef. I'm
Speaker 2: gonna have to check that out.
Speaker 5: You gotta shake his music.
Speaker 2: Yes, let me ask you all question. What do y'all
Speaker 2: think about that new that new wrapper up the white
Speaker 2: girl Georgiana? What do y'all think about her? Yeah? About her?
Speaker 4: I like that song?
Speaker 2: Yeah, I gotta get it.
Speaker 3: She's new, so I gotta get into her. I gotta
Speaker 3: get more of a feel of her in her music.
Speaker 3: But I like that song called my sister Gloria.
Speaker 2: Heard the song. I wasn't liking it, but with Gorilla verse,
Speaker 2: I was like, I hear.
Speaker 4: It now, Yeah, Lorela just rap?
Speaker 5: Is that the only song that she has?
Speaker 2: And I mean she has more, but I've never listened
Speaker 2: to it. Yeah, that's like the hot song, right, Yeah? Yeah,
Speaker 2: she said something the glos said she like her. Nigga's
Speaker 2: medium ugly Duke Dennis I said, he said she wouldn't
Speaker 2: talk about he is he he's a cute little Wiian.
Speaker 2: You know that's a little Waifian. Will he'd be considered
Speaker 2: a Wiian. I'm just old. That's what's a waian a
Speaker 2: young dude, But I feel like I know no. Seven
Speaker 2: twenty eight yea, I thought he was like thirty.
Speaker 3: Yeah, why is is nineteen twenty okay, okay, give it
Speaker 3: se twenty eight, twenty nine thirty you're not whyyan okay?
Speaker 2: So yeah, I don't know exactly how old is dude,
Speaker 2: Dennis y'all his early when do you think he's Definitely
Speaker 2: he's like late twenties.
Speaker 3: No wine him a poor looking man?
Speaker 2: Yeah, well, yeah he is. That's a grown man that
Speaker 2: I know. That's right, dude.
Speaker 4: Let me stop y'all celebrity No I do.
Speaker 2: You can ask me who is my celebrity craze? Oh
Speaker 2: you know who?
Speaker 3: I like?
Speaker 2: What's that basketball player that was then? Kendrick Lamar video?
Speaker 2: The Not Like Us video? What's his name?
Speaker 4: Lamar?
Speaker 2: What's his name? Themar DeRozan? Okay, I like him? He
Speaker 2: real quiet. He talks about like mental health. I love that.
Speaker 2: I love us. Emotionally intelligent man. Oh yeah, he's thirty five.
Speaker 2: He don't be You know how you always see athletes
Speaker 2: that always be dating the I G. He is just
Speaker 2: not like that. He's very mature. He talks about mental
Speaker 2: health a lot. He wrote a book. The way he'd
Speaker 2: be out, the way he'd be out. I love a
Speaker 2: man that's the way, very mature, I said. The harball
Speaker 2: is like, I.
Speaker 1: Do love reality. Yeah, I love his personality. He is
Speaker 1: South for a me, like he seemed like he's such
Speaker 1: a good.
Speaker 2: Time around every time I see, Yeah, I do. What's
Speaker 2: who y'all? Celebrity crush? I don't know. I don't even
Speaker 2: think I have one that I'm just like, oh, he
Speaker 2: just you like his wife. Hmmm. I think it's more
Speaker 2: about a vibe though, because I'm not a girl that's
Speaker 2: like into like looks looks like that. I just like
Speaker 2: people vibe. Yeah, So it don't necessarily gotta be somebody
Speaker 2: who you think is like fine, You just probably like
Speaker 2: how they carry themselves. Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 1: I feel like I would have to sit and think
Speaker 1: about it, like for real, no, y'all, Like I'm really
Speaker 1: trying to think, and I'm nobody's coming to the forefront
Speaker 1: of my mind because the person I used.
Speaker 2: To have a celebrity crush on like this, I okay, no,
Speaker 2: just you are so annoying. I wanted to make the
Speaker 2: face to see if he.
Speaker 6: Knew tell you when the camp turn off shoot.
Speaker 1: Out a fucking I keep from making that fucking faith
Speaker 1: that he doing.
Speaker 2: Okay, no, what, okay, We're gonna tell you after. Oh
Speaker 2: my live for this, y'all. Do it's me? No, this
Speaker 2: just taking the hold on me for sure. Ever since
Speaker 2: I was a little girl, I've loved being on camera,
Speaker 2: entertaining myself and everybody around me by sharing my thoughts
Speaker 2: and opinions on anything pop culture. For the past few years,
Speaker 2: I've heard your requests. But now it's finally time to deliver. Okay, y'all,
Speaker 2: let's get into the te with love Lex PM tasty. Okay, Okay, okay.
Speaker 2: Now let's favorite segment, let's poor of your Heart out segment.
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Speaker 3: Yes?
Speaker 2: I do, I think you you can tell I think okay,
Speaker 2: So go ahead, Drea, we got a question number one.
Speaker 1: Okay, Hey Lex Andrea, I have been binge watching y'all,
Speaker 1: and now why I need my favorite unteased advice I'm
Speaker 1: a gay male if that matters, and the glue of
Speaker 1: my friend group the one who keeps everyone connected. My
Speaker 1: friends always come to me for advice and comfort. Twenty
Speaker 1: twenty three was rough. I left Atlanta, moved back to Florida,
Speaker 1: and took a break from my content creator life to
Speaker 1: focus on my mental health.
Speaker 5: Since then, two friends have been DC.
Speaker 1: One has a whole new crew, and the other ignores
Speaker 1: me but stays out with others ps. She's boy crazy
Speaker 1: and throwing shape jabs. Lately, Am I overthinking it? Or
Speaker 1: have we just outgrown each other now that I'm no
Speaker 1: longer their comfort sours? He is, Drea, don't let Lys
Speaker 1: answer everything, all.
Speaker 2: Right, bitch, I'll won't say nothing. What you think sexy?
Speaker 4: And I love your pump them is cute.
Speaker 3: I think sometimes, oh, that's a hard one friend, I know,
Speaker 3: because it'd be so unfortunate that when it's like out
Speaker 3: of side, out of mind some when you're not around
Speaker 3: a person, then you see everybody true colors and true
Speaker 3: feelings because you're not convenient to what they have going on.
Speaker 3: But I think that it's important to know that who's
Speaker 3: supposed to be in your life is going to be
Speaker 3: in your life, and I think it's important for people
Speaker 3: to show their true colors so that you can paint
Speaker 3: it out to be what it is that is in
Speaker 3: front of you and not try to see it for
Speaker 3: something else. So I think you just have to take
Speaker 3: that for what it is. I know it may be hurtful,
Speaker 3: and I know it may be unfortunate, it may bring
Speaker 3: discomfort to know that you were only used for conveniencing. However,
Speaker 3: you have to take it for what it is. I'm
Speaker 3: a person that lives in the truth of the now,
Speaker 3: and so when a person is showing you who they are,
Speaker 3: you have to believe it. And so I feel like,
Speaker 3: try and rekindle, try and reach out, but if you
Speaker 3: are extending more than they are giving back to you,
Speaker 3: I think that it's important to just close that door
Speaker 3: and take it for what it is.
Speaker 4: Take on the hurt, feel it, and move on and
Speaker 4: understand that. You know, it's a.
Speaker 3: Different position that people play in everybody life, and your
Speaker 3: journey may be up with them in that moment.
Speaker 2: I agree.
Speaker 1: I feel like you definitely probably have just outgrown them,
Speaker 1: and you do have to. You have to pay attention
Speaker 1: to like who check on you when you going through stuff.
Speaker 1: If both of those people were really decent while you
Speaker 1: was going through your roof patch, do you really want
Speaker 1: to be that cool with them like that?
Speaker 3: You know?
Speaker 1: I mean, because they have proven themselves to not be
Speaker 1: people that's there that you can depend.
Speaker 2: On when life get rough.
Speaker 1: It seems like maybe they're the type of friends where
Speaker 1: like when everything is all good and y'all having fun,
Speaker 1: they there and they down for the ride, but then
Speaker 1: as soon as you got some real shit going on,
Speaker 1: they be in dcent. So I wouldn't even want those
Speaker 1: type of friends souse. As you get older in life,
Speaker 1: you start to realize those are not people that are
Speaker 1: sustainable to be your friends for the long term anyway.
Speaker 1: So yeah, I would just keep it moving personally. But
Speaker 1: I get it sometimes you've put a lot into relationships
Speaker 1: and you want to try to see if you can rekindle.
Speaker 2: So I do think Big Sexy is right. You can't see, Yeah,
Speaker 2: but I think they kind of have showed you who
Speaker 2: they are when you was going through something. Yeah, word, okay,
Speaker 2: question them to what's the number two? Hey, Alexandrea, I'm
Speaker 2: a thirty eight year old lesbian with the child. His
Speaker 2: other parent is also in the community, and he identifies
Speaker 2: as pan sexual. I fully don't get what that means,
Speaker 2: so I just say bisexual. We were never in a
Speaker 2: real relationship, just a lavender marriage. Since turning thirty three,
Speaker 2: things have changed for me. I had a serious breakup
Speaker 2: with someone I thought i'd married, but she wasn't on
Speaker 2: the same page. Now years later, she suddenly wants everything
Speaker 2: I wanted back then, but with someone else. It used
Speaker 2: to her, But now I don't feel the same, and
Speaker 2: I don't know why. I'm in a new relationship with
Speaker 2: a woman. And while her head game is phenomenal, we
Speaker 2: go months without sex. When we do have it, she
Speaker 2: focuses mostly on giving me head not complaining. But my
Speaker 2: body is changing. Mavajina keeps jumping like it's craving.
Speaker 3: Now, my girl, we're all over the place. Go ahead
Speaker 3: and finish, Baba.
Speaker 2: Johanna keeps jumping like it's craving something inside, fingers, hands, straps,
Speaker 2: bigger toys. Nothing feels like enough. My friends straight up,
Speaker 2: tell me, girl, your pussy is throbbing because it wants
Speaker 2: a real dick. I love my girl and I don't
Speaker 2: want to leave her, but I feel unhappier than usual. Lately,
Speaker 2: when men flirt with me, I actually blush, something I
Speaker 2: never used to do. It's making me uncomfortable and I
Speaker 2: don't know what to do. Can y'all are listeners help
Speaker 2: me figure this out? We both known't neither. I don't know.
Speaker 3: You need to go and get what you desire, baby,
Speaker 3: because you're never going to be happy moving forward when
Speaker 3: you're just pretending and thinking and being with somebody just
Speaker 3: because you feel like that's the convenient thing or the
Speaker 3: comfortable thing to do.
Speaker 4: Maybe go and get with your heart's desire.
Speaker 3: Is nothing wrong with that, because you're craving somebody, tingling
Speaker 3: an echin down there, and that is never going to
Speaker 3: be fulfilled with.
Speaker 2: It's craving something inside, fingers, handstraps, bigger toys. So why
Speaker 2: don't you try that with your partner first, because it's
Speaker 2: craving something. I think it's so crazy when people are
Speaker 2: in relationships and they don't speak up about what they
Speaker 2: want sexually. If this is somebody that you love, and
Speaker 2: you love your girl, you want to be with her,
Speaker 2: have conversations. Hey, this is not working for me sexually.
Speaker 2: I'm feeling like I want to so can we try
Speaker 2: this in the bedroom. So I think it deserves your
Speaker 2: your partner deserves to have a conversation and maybe see
Speaker 2: you might not be craving Dig. You might just be
Speaker 2: craving a toy or something. So, yeah, something inside boom so.
Speaker 2: And I think that when you're flirting with men and
Speaker 2: you're actually blushing, I think it's more so because you're
Speaker 2: wanting that attention that maybe you're not getting at home.
Speaker 2: A lot of times people confuse certain feelings for other
Speaker 2: things that's not really what's there and what's happening. So
Speaker 2: I think maybe have a conversation with your partner and
Speaker 2: see what y'all can figure out in the bedroom between y'all,
Speaker 2: and then if y'all are trying different things and you're
Speaker 2: still not satisfied, that's when you can be like, Okay,
Speaker 2: something else is going on here.
Speaker 4: That's true.
Speaker 2: I feel like, yeah, maybe you just be wanting it Dig,
Speaker 2: That's what I think. I think.
Speaker 1: I think she just really won't it Dig? I really
Speaker 1: did that, And I think you should scratch it.
Speaker 3: That scratch it just scratched fingers toys and yeah, scratch it.
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 1: I just feel like she kept saying all of these
Speaker 1: nice things about the girl. But then it was a
Speaker 1: lot of butts. But but but I feel like if
Speaker 1: it's that many butts, you just ain't really happy in
Speaker 1: that situation.
Speaker 3: You're not happy.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're not happy sexually. So and she said that
Speaker 2: go months without six And that's what I'm saying. Who
Speaker 2: trying to do that in a relationship. In a relationship?
Speaker 4: Girl, you want something?
Speaker 2: Yeah, god speed and good luck. Like if you have
Speaker 2: been through a lot of your child got a part
Speaker 2: sexual daddy and a lavender mad girl. I don't know
Speaker 2: what none of them. I don't even know what paying
Speaker 2: sexual means.
Speaker 4: I think it's like I like it for people.
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, you're not attracted to a gender, They're attracted
Speaker 2: to people. Yeah okay, so.
Speaker 3: Energy trends. You could be white, yeah, Puerto Rican, Mexican.
Speaker 2: Got it? Wo man, man, I like big sexy. Let
Speaker 2: the people know what you got coming up.
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Speaker 3: I have a huge birthday fashion show that's coming up
Speaker 3: this year that I do annually every year that my
Speaker 3: supporters come from all over the world to have a
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Speaker 2: Oh, I feel like we're gonna do it. Yeah, that's
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Speaker 2: We got the week and make sure it's the week,
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Speaker 3: Yes?
Speaker 2: No? Check answer below block block Like that's literally with
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Speaker 3: says your.
Speaker 2: Name in my stomach, in my stomach that going up
Speaker 2: the way, I.
Speaker 4: Have to stettle on the speed to stand by my
Speaker 4: knees going.
Speaker 6: What's happening to me?
Speaker 4: Anybody? Can you tell me what it means?
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Speaker 1: a sign where the read.
Speaker 2: Always on my mind?
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Speaker 8: walk by right on time, when I see.
Speaker 3: You, know my nobirl checking how my hair with my nails,
Speaker 3: and I'm fee there's something that is on and I
Speaker 3: nervous when your call, so I say I'm not. I'll
Speaker 3: say I'm here.
Speaker 2: My favorite soul said.
Speaker 4: I wonder if you know I do the other clue?
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, wait, what's the reason why you always hey
Speaker 2: sexy boy.
Speaker 8: Hey baby?
Speaker 6: Oh?
Speaker 2: When I see you when sing now takeing out he can't. Yeah, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 2: I'm going around.
Speaker 4: I'm just understand here is.
Speaker 3: Whoa whoa Yeah, let me my baby.
Speaker 2: Shy who when I'm so sexy boll.
Speaker 3: Yeah bug about this is so chaotic. It was.
Speaker 2: It was my shots. That was my bad, y'all. Y'all
Speaker 2: know i'd be off me. What's me y'all? Next week?
Speaker 1: Whoa