WEBVTT - The Matchmaker’s Guide to Finding Real Love 0:00:13.000 --> 0:00:17.440 Thank you personally, Morgan Felsman. 0:00:18.120 --> 0:00:20.640 I cannot close up the Love Month series without bringing 0:00:20.680 --> 0:00:23.480 on a true expert in the field of love. I 0:00:23.520 --> 0:00:26.159 watched Materialists, and now I'm fascinated by the world of 0:00:26.239 --> 0:00:27.400 matchmaking and how. 0:00:27.280 --> 0:00:27.880 It all works. 0:00:27.920 --> 0:00:30.400 So if you're curious too, or one of my single 0:00:30.400 --> 0:00:40.000 friends out there, this one is for you. It is 0:00:40.040 --> 0:00:42.120 the Love Month. So of course I had to be 0:00:42.200 --> 0:00:43.720 joined by a matchmaker. 0:00:44.200 --> 0:00:44.640 Naturally. 0:00:44.800 --> 0:00:47.120 I feel like I would do a disservice on this 0:00:47.159 --> 0:00:50.800 podcast if I didn't, so please welcome Alessandra Conti. 0:00:51.159 --> 0:00:54.520 Thanks for coming on. Thank you, Morgan. It's so nice 0:00:54.560 --> 0:00:55.240 to be here. 0:00:56.560 --> 0:01:00.000 I'm excited to talk to you about all things relationships 0:01:00.200 --> 0:01:02.760 and love. But first of all, how did you get 0:01:02.760 --> 0:01:04.960 into the matchmaking business? 0:01:05.760 --> 0:01:08.280 Oh my goodness, how did I get into It's now 0:01:08.319 --> 0:01:12.600 been almost fourteen years, which is so wild. It's just 0:01:12.640 --> 0:01:16.000 so wild to me professionally anyway. But my sister and 0:01:16.040 --> 0:01:19.399 I we always set up our friends when we were young. 0:01:19.640 --> 0:01:22.880 It was just what we did. We liked to refer 0:01:23.080 --> 0:01:27.520 to ourselves as like sandbox matchmakers, so we were like 0:01:27.720 --> 0:01:31.640 in the sandbox saying, oh, Johnny, I think you would 0:01:31.640 --> 0:01:34.800 be great with Jessica. We just always would set up 0:01:34.840 --> 0:01:38.679 our friends before it was socially acceptable. But yeah, then 0:01:39.000 --> 0:01:42.959 I graduated with my undergrad and my sister was graduated 0:01:42.959 --> 0:01:47.800 from Oxford with her masters, and we just always had 0:01:47.840 --> 0:01:51.960 this dream of moving to LA and starting a matchmaking company, 0:01:52.280 --> 0:01:56.040 Like it was just always what we did through all 0:01:56.120 --> 0:02:00.200 the stages of life. And so when we graduated, we 0:02:00.240 --> 0:02:03.400 moved to LA and then we really just hit the 0:02:03.440 --> 0:02:07.960 ground running. And I'm skipping a whole lot in between 0:02:08.120 --> 0:02:11.920 from our prom setups and even through college just always 0:02:11.960 --> 0:02:16.400 matchmaking our friends. But yeah, so we moved to LA now, 0:02:16.440 --> 0:02:18.840 like I said, almost thirteen years ago, which is just 0:02:18.919 --> 0:02:23.840 so wild, and we started our company and it started 0:02:23.960 --> 0:02:31.320 so organically just going out and meeting these incredible people 0:02:31.600 --> 0:02:34.080 and then starting our business. And we started with one 0:02:34.080 --> 0:02:37.239 client and then it just snowballed. And now it's been 0:02:37.840 --> 0:02:40.880 almost fourteen years now and we have a team of 0:02:41.000 --> 0:02:45.280 matchmakers and they're just so incredible, and so yeah, it 0:02:45.600 --> 0:02:47.119 grew very organically. 0:02:47.360 --> 0:02:48.520 It grew very organically. 0:02:48.680 --> 0:02:51.519 I'm skipping a lot of it, but that's I think 0:02:51.600 --> 0:02:54.200 the general gist of how it all came naturally. 0:02:54.240 --> 0:02:57.160 I have to also ask, then, have you and your 0:02:57.200 --> 0:03:01.200 sister set each other up on any dates or any relationships. 0:03:01.600 --> 0:03:05.080 I actually set my sister up with her husband, so 0:03:05.840 --> 0:03:11.720 she's now married with three kids. I introduced them Dan. Yeah, 0:03:11.800 --> 0:03:14.840 I introduced my sister and her husband, I want to 0:03:14.880 --> 0:03:18.400 say now like almost seven or eight years ago. And 0:03:19.240 --> 0:03:22.639 it's just it was so beautiful. I met him volunteering 0:03:22.680 --> 0:03:25.920 at church and then we went to a party and 0:03:25.960 --> 0:03:28.200 I was like, Christina, you need to meet like the 0:03:28.240 --> 0:03:29.679 most incredible man. 0:03:30.160 --> 0:03:30.840 This is Dan. 0:03:31.480 --> 0:03:34.440 And yeah, now they're married, they've had they have three kids. 0:03:34.600 --> 0:03:39.839 Sadly they moved to Nashville, right, yes, yep, there where 0:03:39.880 --> 0:03:43.680 I am. Oh, my gosh, that is so beautiful. It's 0:03:43.720 --> 0:03:47.440 such a great place to raise a family. Like it's 0:03:48.040 --> 0:03:50.000 it's so beautiful. It's so beautiful. 0:03:50.000 --> 0:03:51.080 Oh, it definitely is. 0:03:51.160 --> 0:03:53.840 So does that mean she left the matchmaking and does 0:03:53.840 --> 0:03:56.720 that mean she is not still actively trying to set 0:03:56.760 --> 0:03:57.080 you up? 0:03:57.320 --> 0:03:57.440 No? 0:03:57.320 --> 0:03:57.760 No, no, no. 0:03:58.200 --> 0:04:02.560 I have the most incredible partner. Whenever I'm Obsasti's amazing. 0:04:02.880 --> 0:04:06.080 I have been through it in my own dating life 0:04:06.120 --> 0:04:09.440 as well, because I was a single girl just dating 0:04:09.440 --> 0:04:15.360 in LA and there's nothing like more traumatizing than dating 0:04:15.480 --> 0:04:18.599 in Los Angeles. It is a really it's a difficult city. 0:04:18.640 --> 0:04:21.159 But I feel like a lot of women feel like 0:04:21.200 --> 0:04:23.919 that about their cities. I know for me, it's so 0:04:24.080 --> 0:04:27.239 incredible because I can really come from a place of 0:04:27.880 --> 0:04:33.359 viscerally understanding how difficult it is for women and just 0:04:33.680 --> 0:04:36.800 all of the emotions that you go through as a 0:04:36.839 --> 0:04:39.720 woman that genuinely wants to meet her person and wants 0:04:39.760 --> 0:04:44.479 to meet her partner. I failed so many times, like 0:04:45.080 --> 0:04:49.320 brutally failed, like all I was like, wow, I really 0:04:49.360 --> 0:04:52.920 botched that, Like I really didn't see the signs that, 0:04:53.360 --> 0:04:57.200 And so I understand that if this is my profession, 0:04:57.360 --> 0:05:01.240 if I can be if I I went through what 0:05:01.320 --> 0:05:03.960 I went through, I know how the girls. I just 0:05:04.000 --> 0:05:07.200 have such a heart for the single women, and you too, Morgan. 0:05:07.279 --> 0:05:09.800 That's how I found you, and that's I just saw 0:05:09.839 --> 0:05:10.520 your video. 0:05:10.320 --> 0:05:12.839 And I was like, oh, she gets it. It's tough 0:05:13.640 --> 0:05:14.479 and very much so. 0:05:14.680 --> 0:05:17.720 And I'm right there with you now being engaged and 0:05:17.800 --> 0:05:20.320 finally having found my person. I still have it for 0:05:20.400 --> 0:05:23.000 the single girls and the single guys out there, because 0:05:23.120 --> 0:05:25.159 I know how rough it is in those streets to 0:05:26.279 --> 0:05:29.800 find your person to date, to just put yourself out 0:05:29.839 --> 0:05:33.320 there constantly all of those battles I know that are 0:05:33.360 --> 0:05:34.200 so difficult. 0:05:34.400 --> 0:05:36.480 So I do want to get into it with you. 0:05:36.600 --> 0:05:39.920 Talk to me about why it is so many people 0:05:39.960 --> 0:05:42.760 think their city is the one it's so hard to 0:05:42.839 --> 0:05:45.680 date in. Why is this a common theme that we're 0:05:45.680 --> 0:05:49.600 seeing across social media and everybody has these relatable stories 0:05:49.600 --> 0:05:51.560 of I live in this city and it's so hard 0:05:51.600 --> 0:05:52.200 to date here. 0:05:52.920 --> 0:05:53.600 Yeah. 0:05:53.800 --> 0:05:55.960 I think it's this thing that I like to call 0:05:56.040 --> 0:05:59.440 city fatigue syndrome. When you've been in your city for 0:05:59.520 --> 0:06:04.720 two long you almost you feel this fatigue. You're like, 0:06:04.800 --> 0:06:08.760 I've dated, I've done enough, and that I think also 0:06:10.000 --> 0:06:14.200 is exhausting. I think the women are just like exhausted 0:06:14.800 --> 0:06:18.599 in their cities. Every city has different types of men. 0:06:18.880 --> 0:06:22.560 Like I know in La the guys that live on 0:06:22.640 --> 0:06:26.240 the West Side are very different than the guys that 0:06:26.279 --> 0:06:29.160 live on the East Side, or the guys that are 0:06:29.200 --> 0:06:33.560 in Beverly Hills bel Air are a lot different than 0:06:33.600 --> 0:06:36.719 the guys that live in like Redondo Beach and like 0:06:36.760 --> 0:06:40.640 the South Bay, and then even like different communities. I'm 0:06:40.720 --> 0:06:44.040 a proud Christian girlie. I love the Christian men and women. 0:06:44.040 --> 0:06:45.920 I love match making them, but we don't only match 0:06:45.960 --> 0:06:49.440 make Christian men and women. We're working with Jewish men 0:06:49.480 --> 0:06:53.040 and women, Muslim men and women, agnostic, like all of 0:06:53.160 --> 0:06:57.640 the types, and in each of the communities. Even in 0:06:57.800 --> 0:07:01.880 the Jewish community, there's like the Persian Jewish community, and 0:07:02.480 --> 0:07:05.920 there's a struggle where I know with one of our clients, 0:07:06.360 --> 0:07:09.120 it's this a little bit of a struggle because it's 0:07:09.160 --> 0:07:12.360 like we find these amazing men that are Persian Jewish 0:07:12.440 --> 0:07:15.080 and then we're like, oh, this is the guy, and 0:07:15.120 --> 0:07:18.240 then she's we literally grew up together, like we grew 0:07:18.320 --> 0:07:21.840 up together. Because these communities are really small, so I 0:07:21.840 --> 0:07:24.400 think even if you live in a big city like LA, 0:07:24.480 --> 0:07:29.920 it's really challenging. And even in Nashville, our matchmakers primarily 0:07:30.000 --> 0:07:34.000 and our clients primarily are LA based, but we definitely 0:07:34.080 --> 0:07:37.960 get some outside some like Nashville when they're doing like 0:07:38.000 --> 0:07:40.600 a national membership, which means that they could meet a 0:07:40.600 --> 0:07:43.400 member from anywhere in the US. So we have everywhere 0:07:43.400 --> 0:07:47.240 from all the way from New York, we have Colorado, 0:07:47.520 --> 0:07:50.280 we have DC. So we have clients that are all 0:07:50.280 --> 0:07:53.720 over but they're doing a national membership. And because a 0:07:53.760 --> 0:07:56.640 lot of them are like I'm just feeling like I 0:07:57.120 --> 0:07:59.600 know the types of men in my city and I'm done. 0:07:59.720 --> 0:08:03.600 But I also I don't know. I just don't. I 0:08:03.680 --> 0:08:04.600 don't agree with it. 0:08:04.720 --> 0:08:08.320 I think that if a woman is feeling fatigue, or 0:08:08.360 --> 0:08:11.119 if a man is feeling fatigue in dating in his city, 0:08:12.040 --> 0:08:15.800 it's just take a break from using the dating apps. 0:08:16.280 --> 0:08:20.920 Do a date cleanse. Take minimum one month to just 0:08:21.280 --> 0:08:25.880 get off the apps and just cleanse and then revisit. 0:08:26.120 --> 0:08:28.560 What do you think, Morgan, what do you think about this? 0:08:29.880 --> 0:08:31.720 I get it to a certain degree. 0:08:31.880 --> 0:08:36.040 I understand in general that cities are hard to date 0:08:36.080 --> 0:08:40.640 in you like, I always realized in Nashville specifically, that 0:08:40.760 --> 0:08:42.520 we had a lot of dreamers in the city. A 0:08:42.520 --> 0:08:44.480 lot of people would come here and then they'd leave. 0:08:44.640 --> 0:08:46.320 And I think you have that in a lot of 0:08:46.320 --> 0:08:46.920 big cities. 0:08:46.920 --> 0:08:47.880 You have a lot of dreamers. 0:08:48.160 --> 0:08:50.800 I think you have people in smaller towns who don't 0:08:50.800 --> 0:08:52.920 ever want to leave, and then you also have dreamers 0:08:52.920 --> 0:08:56.400 in there. So the problems remain the same, right, They're 0:08:56.440 --> 0:08:59.720 the same, They're just in different communities. What I think 0:08:59.760 --> 0:09:04.160 is a exactly what you said is that dating is exhausting, 0:09:04.600 --> 0:09:08.079 and that's actually what's happening is we get tired of dating. 0:09:08.200 --> 0:09:11.280 If you look at the population of a city. It's massive. 0:09:11.320 --> 0:09:13.319 You don't know everybody in it. You might know everybody 0:09:13.320 --> 0:09:15.400 in your community, but you don't know everybody in the city. 0:09:15.640 --> 0:09:17.880 So you definitely haven't gone to the ends of the 0:09:17.920 --> 0:09:20.960 earth to try and meet every single person. It's physically 0:09:21.000 --> 0:09:25.320 impossible unless you spend fifty years doing it. But more 0:09:25.400 --> 0:09:27.319 than that, if you do so much of it, you're 0:09:27.360 --> 0:09:29.600 going to be exhausted. And that's what we're seeing. We 0:09:29.600 --> 0:09:31.680 see people get so exhausted and they're like, it has 0:09:31.720 --> 0:09:33.640 to be my city because this is where I live. 0:09:33.760 --> 0:09:35.960 You get used to an environment that you're in, so 0:09:36.120 --> 0:09:38.160 naturally you're going to take it out on that environment. 0:09:38.559 --> 0:09:40.600 And I was the same way, So I can't preach 0:09:40.760 --> 0:09:42.880 that it's wrong because I did the same thing. 0:09:43.760 --> 0:09:44.760 Yeah, exactly. 0:09:44.800 --> 0:09:47.600 And then it's I think people then bring that energy 0:09:47.800 --> 0:09:51.800 when if you're exhausted dating and you bring that energy 0:09:51.840 --> 0:09:56.160 on dates, oh my gosh, like this is not the 0:09:56.200 --> 0:09:58.319 way to go because then the person is going to 0:09:58.400 --> 0:10:01.960 pick up on They're gonna pick up on that energy 0:10:02.040 --> 0:10:04.400 and they're gonna be like, Okay, what is going on here? 0:10:04.640 --> 0:10:09.080 She's bitter, she's exhausted, like she's and there's nothing worse 0:10:09.200 --> 0:10:12.920 than a person complaining about dating on a date. There's 0:10:12.960 --> 0:10:16.600 nothing worse. And I feel like people think that, Like 0:10:16.880 --> 0:10:20.160 people forget that, Oh I'm meeting a brand new person, 0:10:20.720 --> 0:10:24.160 and all it takes is one person. That's all it takes, 0:10:24.559 --> 0:10:28.240 you know that, Morgan. All it takes is one and 0:10:28.600 --> 0:10:31.080 then everything can change. But you have to kiss a 0:10:31.120 --> 0:10:34.880 lot of frogs, a lot of frogs, and you know what, though, 0:10:34.920 --> 0:10:37.199 sometimes you don't actually have to kiss the frogs. I 0:10:37.240 --> 0:10:39.280 think it's like a lot of women are like, oh, 0:10:39.320 --> 0:10:40.559 I have to kiss all the frogs. 0:10:40.559 --> 0:10:42.760 I'm like, well, maybe you don't actually have to kiss them. 0:10:42.880 --> 0:10:44.760 Maybe just it can just go. 0:10:44.720 --> 0:10:49.080 To the pond and hang out exactly all the frogs exactly, 0:10:49.160 --> 0:10:51.720 no need to kiss them, just allow them to hop 0:10:51.760 --> 0:10:55.920 away if they're not your prince, and that's okay. 0:10:56.559 --> 0:11:00.080 But yeah, I think, gosh, it's yeah, it's definitely super challenging. 0:11:00.120 --> 0:11:02.480 But all it takes is one. All it takes is. 0:11:02.440 --> 0:11:06.000 One, yes, very much, and it's always the wrong one 0:11:06.080 --> 0:11:08.880 until it's the right one. And that's what we go 0:11:09.000 --> 0:11:11.640 into and that's what you hope with dating. I do 0:11:11.720 --> 0:11:14.880 want to know, from a match banking perspective, how do 0:11:14.920 --> 0:11:19.360 you prepare people to be matched up. What are the 0:11:19.480 --> 0:11:21.840 questions that you're asking them, What are you trying to 0:11:21.880 --> 0:11:24.520 get them to think about themselves, or what is the 0:11:24.559 --> 0:11:28.120 preparation for them to be matched with somebody? 0:11:29.120 --> 0:11:31.720 Yes, so what we do at our company we do 0:11:32.200 --> 0:11:35.079 what we call a best match interview and personality assessment. 0:11:35.280 --> 0:11:40.679 So essentially we are ideally with clients. We're meeting with 0:11:40.720 --> 0:11:43.160 them in person. Our office as Beverly Hills, so we 0:11:43.200 --> 0:11:43.520 meet them. 0:11:43.520 --> 0:11:44.120 It's so cute. 0:11:44.120 --> 0:11:46.480 Oh my gosh, Morgan, next time you're in next time 0:11:46.480 --> 0:11:48.040 you're in La, you have to let me know. 0:11:48.200 --> 0:11:49.400 You'll come to the office. 0:11:49.640 --> 0:11:53.400 We'll go to Dante, we'll get Martini's for Martini Hour. 0:11:54.200 --> 0:11:55.640 Oh my gosh, it's so lovely. 0:11:55.840 --> 0:11:58.120 But so yeah, our office is right off road day, 0:11:58.200 --> 0:11:59.439 which is it's such a blessing. 0:11:59.480 --> 0:12:01.560 Oh my gosh, how fabulous and fun. 0:12:01.960 --> 0:12:04.319 So we have the clients come to the office and 0:12:04.400 --> 0:12:06.920 we meet with them in person. And it's so good 0:12:06.960 --> 0:12:09.120 also to meet them in person. I think like real 0:12:09.240 --> 0:12:13.120 matchmaking happens when you're in person because you can again 0:12:13.240 --> 0:12:16.760 get the sense of the person's energy. And yes, Zoom 0:12:16.840 --> 0:12:19.920 is fine and a lot of our data interviews have 0:12:20.000 --> 0:12:23.360 to be conducted via zoom because it's usually like we 0:12:23.480 --> 0:12:26.880 have to do a lot of interviews of potential matches 0:12:26.920 --> 0:12:28.840 for the client verse. 0:12:28.640 --> 0:12:30.960 With the client. We're meeting them one on one. It's 0:12:31.000 --> 0:12:31.640 just a lot. 0:12:31.480 --> 0:12:36.520 Fewer clients verse potential matches for them, so a lot 0:12:36.559 --> 0:12:40.280 of matchmakers. That's usually what happens, actually not usually, because 0:12:40.320 --> 0:12:42.440 some it depends on the match making company, the size 0:12:42.440 --> 0:12:44.439 of the match making company, all of that. But with us, 0:12:44.679 --> 0:12:46.400 we try to meet all of our clients as in 0:12:46.440 --> 0:12:49.440 person as humanly possible, and yeah, we do the best 0:12:49.440 --> 0:12:50.240 match interview and. 0:12:50.200 --> 0:12:52.160 Personality assessment with everybody. 0:12:52.280 --> 0:12:55.680 So what that means is they meet with one of 0:12:55.720 --> 0:12:59.560 the matchmakers. So I'm I work alongside the team of 0:12:59.600 --> 0:13:02.520 matchmak even though my sister and I started the company 0:13:02.559 --> 0:13:07.520 all those years ago. I luckily, and to be completely honest, 0:13:07.760 --> 0:13:12.160 working as a matchmaker is emotionally exhausting. So I have 0:13:12.320 --> 0:13:15.960 learned that I can manage a small number of clients 0:13:16.240 --> 0:13:19.000 that are my clients and I will go to the 0:13:19.080 --> 0:13:21.040 end of the earth. And I know how sensitive I 0:13:21.080 --> 0:13:24.360 am and like I really want their success, and I've 0:13:24.400 --> 0:13:28.360 become obsessed with I'm like I need to find I 0:13:28.440 --> 0:13:32.160 need to help this person. I really really love my clients. 0:13:32.679 --> 0:13:36.559 But with the team of matchmakers, it's so wonderful because 0:13:37.080 --> 0:13:41.240 I'm able to help the other matchmakers. So I'm able 0:13:41.320 --> 0:13:45.480 to go to different events and scout and meet different 0:13:45.480 --> 0:13:49.640 potential matches. Like back to some of our Jewish clients. 0:13:49.720 --> 0:13:51.720 I love the Jewish men and women because I also 0:13:51.760 --> 0:13:54.280 am very entrenched in the Christian community. So I think 0:13:54.280 --> 0:13:57.920 it's so fascinating, Like the Jewish community is so strong, 0:13:58.040 --> 0:14:00.440 and they're just a lot of the guys are oh 0:14:01.160 --> 0:14:04.600 amazing to matchmake. They're just like I love these I 0:14:04.640 --> 0:14:05.760 love the Jewish guys. 0:14:05.760 --> 0:14:06.720 They're so great. 0:14:07.320 --> 0:14:11.240 So I the other day had gone to this event 0:14:11.440 --> 0:14:13.280 and it was, oh my gosh, it was such an 0:14:13.320 --> 0:14:17.720 incredible event. It was one of the hostages was speaking 0:14:18.040 --> 0:14:23.240 at the Beverly Hills CINAI Temple. Oh my gosh, talk 0:14:23.240 --> 0:14:26.400 about I have been changed for good. But I went 0:14:26.680 --> 0:14:28.520 and I'm at this event and one of my girlfriends 0:14:28.520 --> 0:14:31.280 who's also a matchmaker, she works for our company as 0:14:31.320 --> 0:14:34.120 a consultant. She's amazing, she's a Jewish matchmaker. I also 0:14:34.160 --> 0:14:38.080 introduced her to her husband. I was maid of honor 0:14:38.200 --> 0:14:38.840 at her wedding. 0:14:39.040 --> 0:14:40.240 The less us. 0:14:41.160 --> 0:14:44.920 But anyway, I am so tangenting right now. But it's 0:14:45.200 --> 0:14:49.120 when I'm going to an event and I'm meeting these 0:14:49.200 --> 0:14:52.440 I'm meeting these like great single they could be older, 0:14:52.520 --> 0:14:54.280 like I met like a sixty year old seventy year 0:14:54.280 --> 0:14:57.760 old man, and it's great because I can be like, oh, 0:14:57.800 --> 0:15:00.800 my goodness, I'm a matchmaker. I know the client you 0:15:00.920 --> 0:15:04.720 could possibly be a great match for. Let me get 0:15:04.760 --> 0:15:07.440 you booked in with one of the other matchmakers to 0:15:07.520 --> 0:15:11.560 do your proper interview, so then I push them to 0:15:11.600 --> 0:15:15.720 the other matchmaker or if it's yeah, So it's just 0:15:15.880 --> 0:15:18.520 it's a really fun job. I feel like at this 0:15:18.680 --> 0:15:22.680 stage I'm so blessed because that's a big part of 0:15:22.720 --> 0:15:25.880 my job or just is just going to these different 0:15:25.920 --> 0:15:30.200 events and meeting really interesting people that could potentially be 0:15:30.360 --> 0:15:33.480 great matches for the court, like for the matchmakers and 0:15:33.480 --> 0:15:36.440 the city clients who are working with the team of matchmakers. 0:15:36.800 --> 0:15:39.120 So I then don't have to deal with all of 0:15:39.160 --> 0:15:41.440 the actual matchmaking. 0:15:41.520 --> 0:15:43.400 I can just be like, oh, I think this is 0:15:43.480 --> 0:15:46.160 a great puzzle match, and then book But. 0:15:46.200 --> 0:15:51.000 Yeah, we learn all about them, all about everybody. We 0:15:51.040 --> 0:15:55.120 ask the tough questions and we ask pevver cheat in 0:15:55.160 --> 0:15:59.520 a relationship before ideally, what are your plans? What's your 0:15:59.600 --> 0:16:03.440 ideal relationship goals? What is your intention? Are you dating 0:16:03.920 --> 0:16:06.920 with the intention of marriage? We literally ask, and especially 0:16:06.920 --> 0:16:09.400 in twenty twenty five or twenty twenty six, we have 0:16:09.440 --> 0:16:12.800 to make sure are you looking for a monogamous relationship 0:16:12.840 --> 0:16:15.680 with one person? There are different questions now that we 0:16:15.800 --> 0:16:20.160 ask that are It's really interesting the times. 0:16:21.800 --> 0:16:24.840 Obviously get clients, people come to you because they want 0:16:24.840 --> 0:16:28.320 to be matched up with somebody. And then once that 0:16:28.440 --> 0:16:30.240 happens and you go out to these events and you 0:16:30.280 --> 0:16:33.280 do these things. I'm assuming you're seeing people and just 0:16:33.360 --> 0:16:37.400 introducing yourself like in these situations to see if they're single, 0:16:37.440 --> 0:16:39.880 if they might be interested, because they could be a 0:16:39.920 --> 0:16:42.960 potential at least physical match, and then you start to 0:16:43.480 --> 0:16:46.240 do a full interview to then take that next step 0:16:46.240 --> 0:16:48.960 and see, okay, is this also a personality matchup? 0:16:49.040 --> 0:16:50.360 Is that kind of what's happening? 0:16:50.440 --> 0:16:53.680 And mind you, my limited experience of this is from 0:16:53.680 --> 0:16:56.880 watching Materialists the movie and that's all I got us. 0:16:56.960 --> 0:17:01.520 The one movie that is out about matchmakers is They're 0:17:01.640 --> 0:17:06.560 Oh with Materialists. At the first few minutes, I had 0:17:06.600 --> 0:17:09.240 never felt More Seen. I was like, oh my gosh, 0:17:09.240 --> 0:17:11.520 because they were doing the interviews with these people and 0:17:11.560 --> 0:17:15.040 the guy was like, he's in his mid forties I think, 0:17:15.119 --> 0:17:16.720 and he was like, yeah, just I'm ready for a 0:17:16.720 --> 0:17:17.560 more mature girl. 0:17:17.600 --> 0:17:19.639 And she was like, oh great, okay, like thirties. 0:17:19.720 --> 0:17:23.120 He's like, no, no, no, twenty like late twenties, I'm 0:17:23.160 --> 0:17:26.399 ready to go above twenty five. I watched that and 0:17:26.440 --> 0:17:29.560 I was like, huh, I've never felt more Seen. But 0:17:30.119 --> 0:17:32.840 the rest of the movie, I was like, what, how 0:17:32.880 --> 0:17:36.920 did it go so off the rails? In my whole career, 0:17:37.000 --> 0:17:39.760 I've never heard of a man getting that leg surgery. 0:17:39.880 --> 0:17:43.040 Like spoiler alert if you guys haven't seen the movie, 0:17:43.640 --> 0:17:45.200 they do this. 0:17:45.240 --> 0:17:47.760 Leg surgery, Like what is going on? 0:17:48.240 --> 0:17:52.720 Never have I ever had a client nor database member, 0:17:52.760 --> 0:17:54.640 and we've worked with thousands of. 0:17:54.600 --> 0:17:55.560 People at this point. 0:17:56.240 --> 0:17:59.840 Never have I ever and some of the wealthiest guys 0:18:00.440 --> 0:18:03.680 we're in Beverly Hills, we attract a certain type of guy. 0:18:04.400 --> 0:18:08.520 Never have I had a guy that got that lex 0:18:08.680 --> 0:18:11.440 And I mean, unless they just didn't say anything. 0:18:11.520 --> 0:18:13.040 But it's pretty awesome. 0:18:13.680 --> 0:18:16.840 But do guys struggle with the fact that he the 0:18:16.960 --> 0:18:20.160 height is a thing, and you girls really request that 0:18:20.320 --> 0:18:21.919 because that's a hot button. 0:18:22.480 --> 0:18:26.800 Yeah, yeah, definitely. It's a tough it's a tough element 0:18:27.359 --> 0:18:29.800 for the guys. It's a tough element. And I would 0:18:29.840 --> 0:18:32.520 also say for women, if you're struggling meeting a really 0:18:32.520 --> 0:18:35.840 great guy, lower your height a little bit, lower your 0:18:35.880 --> 0:18:38.840 height bracket, because these women will come in and they'll 0:18:38.880 --> 0:18:42.040 just be like, the apps are terrible, I'm not meeting anybody. 0:18:42.119 --> 0:18:44.639 And then we'll process it a little bit more and 0:18:44.680 --> 0:18:46.840 then they'll say, yeah, I only want a data man 0:18:46.960 --> 0:18:50.119 six foot two and above. And I'm like, you just 0:18:50.240 --> 0:18:54.479 cut out ninety five ninety eight percent of the popular 0:18:54.560 --> 0:18:58.640 of the straight population. Okay, oh, yes, height is a thing, 0:18:58.840 --> 0:19:01.160 but there are so many great short kings out there, 0:19:01.400 --> 0:19:04.200 and so I think if women could open their minds 0:19:04.240 --> 0:19:06.439 a little bit to that, it would just make things 0:19:06.520 --> 0:19:11.399 so much easier. And just like, it's such a superficial quality. 0:19:11.600 --> 0:19:14.040 What did you see that in Nashville, Morgan that do 0:19:14.040 --> 0:19:19.480 you have girlfriends that are very height conscious? 0:19:20.640 --> 0:19:22.719 Very much? So, there's a lot of people who have 0:19:22.840 --> 0:19:26.000 preferences when it comes to height. And I'm so funny 0:19:26.000 --> 0:19:28.399 because this is the one topic on dating that I 0:19:28.440 --> 0:19:31.840 am horrible at because I'm barely five foot one, so 0:19:32.040 --> 0:19:36.320 everyone was taller than me. I never, literally, I never 0:19:36.440 --> 0:19:39.120 had to worry about wearing heels or anything. So I 0:19:39.160 --> 0:19:42.040 can't relate in the aspect of knowing what that's like 0:19:42.119 --> 0:19:43.800 because everyone has always been. 0:19:43.840 --> 0:19:47.600 Taller than me, even women bloss Morgan. 0:19:48.400 --> 0:19:50.359 But I do know that it's a thing. It's a 0:19:50.400 --> 0:19:53.080 conversation that happens a bunch a lot of women, and 0:19:53.200 --> 0:19:56.840 he is a very uncomfortable topic for everybody involved. 0:19:57.000 --> 0:20:00.000 Yeah, and what I've seen and no, I completely hear. 0:20:00.280 --> 0:20:02.639 And to be clear, I'm a hypocrite. It's not that 0:20:02.800 --> 0:20:06.919 I didn't allow men under a certain height, but my 0:20:07.000 --> 0:20:09.639 beloved is six two and my sister's husband is like 0:20:09.680 --> 0:20:14.000 six eight sixty five. Actually, But that being said, I 0:20:14.119 --> 0:20:16.280 will say something that yeah. 0:20:16.119 --> 0:20:18.400 So sorry, sorry ladies. 0:20:20.040 --> 0:20:24.280 But all this to say, I think that what I've 0:20:24.400 --> 0:20:28.359 found just having done this job, when we really break 0:20:28.400 --> 0:20:34.000 it down, it's not even about the actual height. It's 0:20:34.040 --> 0:20:37.160 about a woman wanting to feel feminine, right, That's at 0:20:37.200 --> 0:20:41.159 the core of any of these asks, Even the ask 0:20:41.480 --> 0:20:43.800 of a woman that says I want to date a 0:20:43.800 --> 0:20:46.600 man that makes a certain amount of money. It's not 0:20:46.680 --> 0:20:49.159 even about that certain amount of money. It's that she 0:20:49.440 --> 0:20:53.920 wants to relax in her feminine she wants to feel 0:20:54.280 --> 0:20:58.080 protected provided for. She wants to just sit back. And 0:20:58.200 --> 0:21:00.840 a lot of the women also that tend to hire 0:21:00.960 --> 0:21:06.560 matchmakers tend to be high achievers, like they are very 0:21:06.600 --> 0:21:10.040 successful in their careers. Because it's not inexpensive. It's quite 0:21:10.080 --> 0:21:13.359 expensive to work with a matchmaker. Our memberships begin at 0:21:13.359 --> 0:21:17.359 twenty twenty five, sometimes plus de pending on waitlist and 0:21:17.440 --> 0:21:20.080 it goes up to one twenty five. It's an investment 0:21:20.160 --> 0:21:23.159 and it's not for everybody. Working with a matchmaker is 0:21:23.200 --> 0:21:27.879 not for everybody. So therefore, we tend to attract these 0:21:28.720 --> 0:21:34.680 super high achieving, beautiful intellectual women that have a lot 0:21:34.760 --> 0:21:42.720