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Speaker 1: It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if

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Speaker 1: read this one right here, right now. You never know,

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Speaker 1: it could be yours.

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Speaker 2: You never know, buckle Leven, hold on tight. We got

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Speaker 2: it for you. Here it is Strawberry.

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Speaker 1: LETTA thank you nephew subject. I want to see it

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Speaker 1: every time. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm a thirty five year

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Speaker 1: old married woman and I think all bodies are beautiful,

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Speaker 1: but my husband's is exquisite. He's got the curly chest, hair,

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Speaker 1: a little gut, love handles, and a real heavy hammer

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Speaker 1: that has had me hooked on him for fourteen years.

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Speaker 1: We met fourteen years ago at david Busters, where we

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Speaker 1: both worked while we were in college. My first day

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Speaker 1: of work, he told me that I was going to

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Speaker 1: be his wife, and he showed me what my reward

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Speaker 1: would be for marrying him. It was the most beautiful

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Speaker 1: thing I had ever seen, and to this very day,

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Speaker 1: I still want to see it. Every time I'm in

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Speaker 1: his presence, whether we're being intimate or not. He thinks

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Speaker 1: I've got a problem, but I don't see how loving

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Speaker 1: him from his head to his toes could.

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Speaker 3: Be a problem.

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Speaker 1: He used to send me photos while I was at work,

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Speaker 1: but he said that got old and I should be

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Speaker 1: past that stage of our marriage. But I'm trying to

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Speaker 1: keep the magic going. I don't say anything to him

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Speaker 1: if he falls wants to fall asleep with his hand

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Speaker 1: on my breast, So why is it a big deal

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Speaker 1: if I want to share, want to stare at his anatomy.

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Speaker 1: He says, being freaky has a time and a place,

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Speaker 1: and he's afraid that our sexting could get.

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Speaker 3: Him in trouble one day.

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Speaker 1: It makes me think that he's getting tired of me

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Speaker 1: and making up excuses.

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Speaker 3: I don't understand what the big deal is. What's his

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Speaker 3: is mine and vice versa.

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Speaker 1: My boobs are his to do as he pleases, so

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Speaker 1: why putting restrictions on what I do with his body?

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Speaker 3: Now?

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Speaker 1: He comes home and he showers with the door locked,

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Speaker 1: so I can't sit in the bathroom and talk to him.

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Speaker 1: He says he's keeping the marriage fresh and trying something new,

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Speaker 1: but I think there's a little more to it than that.

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Speaker 1: Could he be showing it to someone else? Wow, this

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Speaker 1: letter is strange because at thirty five, and I'm assuming

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Speaker 1: your husband is around that age too, because you didn't

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Speaker 1: say it was older or anything. But at thirty five,

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Speaker 1: you wouldn't think this would be that much of a

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Speaker 1: problem for him. You said you're trying to keep the

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Speaker 1: magic going. But I think there's something going on with him,

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Speaker 1: and it sounds like he just wants you to stop

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Speaker 1: asking him every day. I think he's over it. I

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Speaker 1: think he's tired of it and he just wants some peace.

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Speaker 1: He's at work, you want pictures of it. He's trying

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Speaker 1: to shower, you want pictures of it. You want to

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Speaker 1: watch him. It's gotten to be too much, especially when

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Speaker 1: he's at work. He's right, he could get caught sending

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Speaker 1: you picked and then what what if he gets fired?

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Speaker 1: All of that? You know, you got to think of

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Speaker 1: all of that. Sometimes people just want to shower by themselves.

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Speaker 1: They want some me time, some alone time. Sometimes they

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Speaker 1: do that, but it's like every time he turns around

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Speaker 1: there you are want him let you see it. He

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Speaker 1: shouldn't have to lock the bathroom door from his wife.

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Speaker 1: But the constant let me see it, let me see

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Speaker 1: it from you has just simply gotten on his nerves.

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Speaker 1: I think, especially if you're not being intimate at the time,

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Speaker 1: you just want to see it whenever, wherever. The question is,

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Speaker 1: why does he want you to stop? I don't think

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Speaker 1: there's enough to go on to say he's showing it

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Speaker 1: to someone else, So get that out your mind. I

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Speaker 1: just think he needs a break from you nagging him

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Speaker 1: to let you, let you see it every single day.

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Speaker 1: Just let him be, let it be organic and natural, Steve,

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Speaker 1: this is.

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Speaker 2: A thirty five year old married woman that thinks all

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Speaker 2: bodies are beautiful, but my husbands is exquisite. Here lies

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Speaker 2: the problem. Here's a thirty five year old woman who

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Speaker 2: has stated up front she thinks all bodies is beautiful.

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Speaker 2: Right there? Oh, really, really, lady, you think all bodies

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Speaker 2: is beautiful, so you thought you'd open this letter with

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Speaker 2: this statement, and that Uncle Steve wasn't gonna pick up

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Speaker 2: on this one. Right here, let me make a real fact.

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Speaker 2: All bodies ain't beautiful, and everybody ain't got a beautiful body,

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Speaker 2: knowing ask them. Classic surgery is at an all time

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Speaker 2: high cause something wrong, and you think something is wrong,

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Speaker 2: so you want to go do something about it. So

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Speaker 2: let's stop this lie. Bodies ain't beautiful and your husbands

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Speaker 2: is exquisite. And then you went on to describe him.

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Speaker 2: He got currently chess helm, a little gut love heim.

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Speaker 3: Right there, right there?

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Speaker 2: What hard were trying to work on these guts? Honey?

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Speaker 2: You know how we want these love heaven going lady,

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Speaker 2: you just a lot. And then you got a hammer

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Speaker 2: that had had me hooked on him for fourteen years.

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Speaker 2: This ain't a letter about him being gorgeous or you

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Speaker 2: want to see it. This is a letter about you

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Speaker 2: being quipped. The stuff you doing is crazy. In this letter,

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Speaker 2: he showed it to you my first day of work.

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Speaker 2: He told me I was gonna be his wife, and

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Speaker 2: he showed me what the reward will be for marrying him.

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Speaker 2: He's the most beautiful thing I had ever seen. To

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Speaker 2: this very day, you ain't seen nothing. You was in college.

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Speaker 2: You ain't got nothing to compare to. He ain't the

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Speaker 2: most exquisite, He ain't the most beautiful. Open your eyes,

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Speaker 2: look around that little pot belly love handle. Last man

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Speaker 2: you got and you're thinking he exquisite. Girl. Stop, I

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Speaker 2: want to see it every time I'm in his presence,

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Speaker 2: whether we be an intimate or not.

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Speaker 3: Who want to do that too much?

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Speaker 2: Every damn time? Hey, hey, hey, let me see.

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Speaker 3: Coon now all right, all right, hang on, Steve.

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Speaker 1: We'll have part two of your response coming up at

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Speaker 1: twenty three minutes after the hour. The subject is I

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Speaker 1: want to see it every time. We'll get back into

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Speaker 1: it right after this.

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Speaker 3: You're listening hard morning show.

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Speaker 1: All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap the Strawberry letter

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Speaker 1: for today.

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Speaker 3: The subject is, I want to see it every time.

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Speaker 2: Well, thirty five year old woman lied to us, told

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Speaker 2: us she thinks, allbod this is beautiful. We all know

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Speaker 2: that ain't true. But her husband not squeezy girl. You

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Speaker 2: got curly chest hair, he got a little gut, he

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Speaker 2: got love handles. Who are you? Described man? Hell sounded

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Speaker 2: like Jui, Yeah, Anthony Brown, Tash, you ain't what what

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Speaker 2: what anyway? Anyway that cad ain't never game work, said

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Speaker 2: Tash was exquisite. Maouj ain't ever called in there? All

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Speaker 2: the articles me done, it says my husband is exquisite,

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Speaker 2: and yours ain't either. He told me, I was gonna

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Speaker 2: be his wife, and he showed me what my reward

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Speaker 2: gonna be from the verse, and he was the most

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Speaker 2: beautiful thing I've ever seen. You ain't seen nothing news

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Speaker 2: in college. You ain't got nothing to compare to but

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Speaker 2: old big hammer right there. Now. You want to see

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Speaker 2: it every time you in this presence, the hammer, even

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Speaker 2: if we not being intimate. He thinks I got a problem,

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Speaker 2: But I don't see how love and it from head

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Speaker 2: to toe can be a problem. It ain't the love

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Speaker 2: that he's sick of. It ain't the love. It's the

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Speaker 2: obsession with it. It's the obsession with wontness see it? Damn?

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Speaker 2: I put my pants on already? What man sitting up

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Speaker 2: in the hell? He used to send me photos while

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Speaker 2: I was work, but he said that got old and

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Speaker 2: I should be past that stage by man in fourteen years.

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Speaker 2: You just saw it last night? What is I'm sitting

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Speaker 2: a picture of it for? I don't say anything to him.

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Speaker 2: If he want to fall asleep with his hand on

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Speaker 2: my breast, fall asleep, it's called cuddling, spooning. Y'all supposed

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Speaker 2: to like that. Now you won't equate that to let

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Speaker 2: me see it? Well? Yeah, what you're doing. Yeah, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey,

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Speaker 2: we're in this car. We finish, go in Walmart. Let

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Speaker 2: me see it. Hey, hey, before we go into service here,

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Speaker 2: let me see it. He says it's being freaky and

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Speaker 2: all that's gonna get him in trouble one day, all

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Speaker 2: this sextn on the job. I don't understand what the

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Speaker 2: big deal is. What is mind? What is his? Is mind?

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Speaker 2: And vice versa. My boobs are his to do as

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Speaker 2: he pleases. Yeah, but it's got to be some type

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Speaker 2: of prioritization here. Yeah, it's got to be some type

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Speaker 2: of order. So why is he putting restrictions on what

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Speaker 2: I do with his body because it's his body, just

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Speaker 2: like you can put restrictions on what he do with

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Speaker 2: your body because it's your body. He don't want to

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Speaker 3: Damn.

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Speaker 2: I don't want to see myself all the time. Hell,

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Speaker 2: I got to go to work. I got stuff to do.

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Speaker 2: He comes home and he showered with the door lock,

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Speaker 2: so I can't sit in the bathroom talk to him.

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Speaker 2: If I won't talk to you while I'm in the bathroom, No,

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Speaker 2: were they're trying to shower. You put the lid down there.

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Speaker 2: You're just running your damn mouth. You know what, He

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Speaker 2: tied to you? You too much. You. This is an

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Speaker 2: obsession you have and the obsession has gotten to be

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Speaker 2: too obsessing. You are too much. It's nothing to it

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Speaker 2: no more. It ain't even you no more. He just

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Speaker 2: tied to you. But I think it's a little more

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Speaker 2: to it than that. Could he be showing it to

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Speaker 2: somebody else? See, lady, your problem is you think allbodies

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Speaker 2: are beautiful, and you problem you think everybody think you

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Speaker 2: think you think allbody is are beautiful, and you think

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Speaker 2: everybody think like you, And that's not the case. This

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Speaker 2: does not say he's showing it to somebody else. He

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Speaker 2: just tied his showing it to your ass. He's sick

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Speaker 2: of you, and you gonna run your man off with this.

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Speaker 2: You gotta start prioritizing this. You got you gotta make it.

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Speaker 2: Can't be that excite if damn you too much. Now

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Speaker 2: you need gonna sit your ass down so you mess

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Speaker 2: around and don't see it no more. Wow, Yeah, you're

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Speaker 2: gonna mess around. He just gonna going up the letter going, yeah,

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Speaker 2: out of balling, let up. Yeah, Hey look hey, look, hey,

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Speaker 2: look I like playing in the sandbox, but not every.

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Speaker 3: Day, all day, every day, all right.

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Speaker 2: I like being intimate.

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Speaker 1: Okay, here we go to what not every day?

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Speaker 3: All right?

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Speaker 2: I don't live with nobody where I'm going to go. Hey, Hey,

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Speaker 2: let me.

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