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Speaker 1: Lisa Lambinelli is not a licensed therapist or life coach.

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Speaker 1: She is a meddling advice giving yana and know it all,

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Speaker 1: misconstrued as therapy. I should be taking with a huge

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Speaker 2: You need help, You're the problems. Come on, come down,

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Speaker 2: go lamb take a pill. I think you're insane. Do

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Speaker 2: what I say, dumb ass, listen to me. You fuck

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Speaker 2: all you people. I'm a wounded for Barnick. Yea, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: Missess is Lisa Labinelli on my and only my show.

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Speaker 2: Else counts except Lisa, sweet and lovely Lisa. No, this

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Speaker 2: is Lisa Lappinelli. Welcome to shrink this my talented, lovely

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Speaker 2: and very titified hostess. Next scope Leddya's here? Say hi?

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Speaker 3: Where's my camera? Where am I?

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Speaker 2: Gay? Find your like? Good angle? So your boobs look

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Speaker 2: bigger than your nose. I love how you get older

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Speaker 2: as an Italian man. And the nose in the ears

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Speaker 3: Started noticing that. Yeah, it's really upsetting.

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Speaker 2: It doesn't for us women to mine exploded and about

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Speaker 2: the same age, So don't worry really well, and like me,

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Speaker 2: you'll never get laid Againnyhare. We're also here with Celia

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Speaker 2: Celia whatever she invented Copenhagen. Look in the show notes

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Speaker 2: care because that's like for a real podcast. I feel

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Speaker 2: like our podcast, Shrink This, it's kind of like not real,

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Speaker 2: it's ethereal. And that's why we're talking about something very

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Speaker 2: unreal today, which dawned on me a few months ago

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Speaker 2: out and I had a deep sadness and I said

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Speaker 2: to mine south Lintha, why is this obsession with Cobra

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Speaker 2: certain things that are by the way, way too young

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Speaker 2: or old for them. It takes over their life. When

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Speaker 2: does an obsession go from a healthy hobby, if you will,

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Speaker 2: So we are today going to take letters from people,

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Speaker 2: and by the way, if you want to get a

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Speaker 2: letter to us, absolutely send it to us at Shrink

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Speaker 2: This Show at gmail dot com. That's Shrink This Show

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Speaker 2: at gmail dot com We're going to take letters from

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Speaker 2: people who have obsessions that are bored unhealthy. Now, obviously

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Speaker 2: we're not talking about addiction, but uh, it's like a

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Speaker 2: kind of seemingly harmless things that may get out of control. Now, Nick,

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Speaker 2: when I mentioned this weird the terms weird obsession, what

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Speaker 3: Sopranos.

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Speaker 2: Yes, you literally have a Sopranos like. It's not even

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Speaker 2: like a hobby anymore. It's like you ruin my TikTok

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Speaker 2: from TikTok, it's a Sopranos one. And then my whole

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Speaker 2: algorithm thinks I'm an Italian who like the Sopranos, which

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Speaker 2: I do, but not as much as I am a

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Speaker 2: on Nick stoperating my algorithm. And also, you are the

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Speaker 2: type who I think every every literally I'm not gonna

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Speaker 2: say every time, it's an exaggeration. Every other time we

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Speaker 2: Sopranos rewatch, and I'm like, you've watched no other show

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Speaker 3: No what else? A comfort show?

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Speaker 3: I go back to shows that if I'm like where

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Speaker 2: So like, what to you would make the so you

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Speaker 2: I think that's what we need to talk about today.

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Speaker 3: If I'm having this, I can do this pretty well.

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Speaker 2: is when I have to buy the shirts. So I'm today,

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Speaker 2: but not only I true Cobra Kai fans will realize

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Speaker 2: this is a Cobra Kai shirt, but it's so inside

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Speaker 2: It's like in season three or something where Johnny Lawrence

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Speaker 2: who dies, who tells your story? So I go in

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Speaker 2: wasn't just Hamilton, it wasn't just Oh. All the thoughts

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Speaker 3: George Washington had a retirement song.

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Speaker 2: It's so good. It's such a tear jerker, it's really beautiful.

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Speaker 2: So I think those things I just got to go.

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Speaker 2: All right, Let's make sure I'm also involved with other things.

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Speaker 2: Let's make sure I'm not isolating and just being like

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Speaker 2: didn't anyway. No. So I was at the Hamilton Tony

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Speaker 2: rarefied air. It's really fun. So Lynn and Moreel Lynn, Manuel,

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Speaker 2: up to him and I go, hey, Lenn. He goes,

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Speaker 2: oh my god, Lisa, we love you. You're so funny.

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Speaker 2: Remember that time you roasted us. You really kicked our ass,

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Speaker 2: didn't she? Tommy, He says to the director. I had

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Speaker 2: never met him before, I had certainly not roasted him before.

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Speaker 2: might have got me? Mistaken by Kathy Griffin?

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Speaker 2: why do these obsessions take hold of us? So with

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Speaker 2: definitely the retirement thing. George Washington leaving his legacy and

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Speaker 2: it's definitely a nostalgia for the years that The Karate

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Speaker 2: Kid first came out. Johnny Lawrence was always just the funniest,

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Speaker 2: I identify with Johnny Lawrence. I have to do something

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Speaker 3: I think it's great. You did forget to mention your

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Speaker 2: Oh shit, Oh my god, Yeah, it's Johnny Lawrence. Whenever

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Speaker 2: I get a text it goes quiet my Netflix little emoji,

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Speaker 3: It is right now?

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Speaker 2: When do you think so? You would say, like, my

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Speaker 3: Bold? Yes, I mean you can't tell now you sure can.

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Speaker 3: Was it okay to teach me those things building? I

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Speaker 2: Hold on Celia's very rude see her ringtone. If it

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Speaker 2: It's almost like though, like you you joke out your

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Speaker 2: I don't care how good the puss it was, that

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Speaker 2: it Is there anything that you really like in your life,

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Speaker 3: She hates the Sopranos, I'd be like, well, you're wrong.

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Speaker 2: It's not for you.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Oh, go watch the Real Housewives, bitch.

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Speaker 2: Well that's the thing. Could a girl ever be seen

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Speaker 2: I would be like, no, you're not allowed, like opt

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Speaker 2: all it is is gossip, and that means you like gossip.

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Speaker 2: So you're a fucking idiot. So I'm clearly judge. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: And so I can't date someone like that. Thank god.

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Speaker 2: like a Harbon copy of me. Wouldn't that be great?

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Speaker 2: We just watched Cobra Kai. We'd listen to the Hamilton

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00:23:10,000 --> 00:23:13,160
Speaker 2: soundtrack and cry yeah, and we'd meet lin Man, Wuel

430
00:23:13,240 --> 00:23:15,800
Speaker 2: Miranda and you'd accuse us of roasting him again? Now

431
00:23:15,800 --> 00:23:20,480
Speaker 2: should I? It is this thing on should we? Celia

432
00:23:20,680 --> 00:23:25,640
Speaker 2: is fire? Right, Celia push that button? Bitches?

433
00:23:25,760 --> 00:23:27,560
Speaker 4: I am fired that I can leave.

434
00:23:28,040 --> 00:23:37,560
Speaker 2: Oh, I think someone's obsessed with being me. That's okay.

435
00:23:37,880 --> 00:23:43,280
Speaker 2: I've always said she has an undercurrent of hatred. Yeah,

436
00:23:43,480 --> 00:23:46,399
Speaker 2: what you what with aggression love?

437
00:23:47,480 --> 00:23:47,919
Speaker 3: I don't know.

438
00:23:48,000 --> 00:23:50,960
Speaker 2: The love part is perfectly skipped. I just said to

439
00:23:50,960 --> 00:23:52,119
Speaker 2: the aggression.

440
00:23:52,359 --> 00:23:55,040
Speaker 4: Aggression just like, if I really like you, then I'm

441
00:23:55,080 --> 00:23:56,280
Speaker 4: kind of sarcastic and mean?

442
00:23:57,600 --> 00:24:00,639
Speaker 2: Can you go back to not liking us? Just like?

443
00:24:00,720 --> 00:24:00,920
Speaker 4: Really?

444
00:24:01,040 --> 00:24:04,040
Speaker 2: N No, I actually agree with you on that because

445
00:24:04,119 --> 00:24:07,800
Speaker 2: I if I don't like somebody, I can't be joking

446
00:24:07,800 --> 00:24:10,000
Speaker 2: with them because I feel like I'm going to mean it,

447
00:24:10,720 --> 00:24:13,240
Speaker 2: like at roasts and things like that. I would always

448
00:24:13,359 --> 00:24:16,520
Speaker 2: if there was one person who I truly disrespected and hated,

449
00:24:16,600 --> 00:24:19,000
Speaker 2: I go no jokes about them because people sense it.

450
00:24:19,200 --> 00:24:21,120
Speaker 2: So I'm gonna take it that you actually like us

451
00:24:21,160 --> 00:24:26,280
Speaker 2: because you're a mean cunt exactly. She's obsessed why it's unhealthy?

452
00:24:27,119 --> 00:24:29,399
Speaker 2: All right? So, Nick, we have some questions from people

453
00:24:29,680 --> 00:24:34,400
Speaker 2: about their possibly weird obsession. Let's hear them girl.

454
00:24:34,400 --> 00:24:38,920
Speaker 3: All right? Our first letter says, Dear Lisa, You'll see

455
00:24:38,920 --> 00:24:41,159
Speaker 3: why I'm doing the voice at the end. Okay, my

456
00:24:41,359 --> 00:24:42,720
Speaker 3: kitchen fiestaware.

457
00:24:42,800 --> 00:24:47,080
Speaker 2: Oh god, shut the fuck up. That is not wear letter,

458
00:24:47,320 --> 00:24:50,240
Speaker 2: I swear. Okay, I'll explain to me what that is. Okay,

459
00:24:50,359 --> 00:24:50,960
Speaker 2: please please.

460
00:24:51,440 --> 00:24:55,440
Speaker 3: So I have every solid color of plates and balls

461
00:24:55,480 --> 00:24:58,320
Speaker 3: in my cabin so when they open it, it looks

462
00:24:58,400 --> 00:25:00,200
Speaker 3: like one giant.

463
00:25:00,560 --> 00:25:03,000
Speaker 2: Oh girl in high school.

464
00:25:03,400 --> 00:25:06,399
Speaker 3: My roommate hates it so much and says the kitchen

465
00:25:06,440 --> 00:25:10,280
Speaker 3: looks like a five year old's bedroom. She wants normal

466
00:25:10,320 --> 00:25:14,160
Speaker 3: dishes and is embarrassed, especially when her friends come over.

467
00:25:14,440 --> 00:25:16,600
Speaker 3: Is it really that big of a deal? Thanks, Amy

468
00:25:16,640 --> 00:25:17,920
Speaker 3: from New York, New York.

469
00:25:18,080 --> 00:25:20,400
Speaker 2: Oh my god. First of all, you're doing a gay

470
00:25:20,400 --> 00:25:23,760
Speaker 2: man's voice because I actually have a friend, Frank, and

471
00:25:23,800 --> 00:25:25,560
Speaker 2: I'm going to use his full name because he's proud

472
00:25:25,600 --> 00:25:28,760
Speaker 2: of this. Frank DeCaro in Los Angeles. He has a

473
00:25:28,800 --> 00:25:32,600
Speaker 2: fiesta wor a collection and it drives his husband, Jim Kaluotch,

474
00:25:32,840 --> 00:25:35,719
Speaker 2: famous as author of The Golden Girls the Real Biography,

475
00:25:36,080 --> 00:25:39,439
Speaker 2: Oh wow, and knows that Bee was not mean. She

476
00:25:39,680 --> 00:25:45,200
Speaker 2: just played me anyway. He Jim is like, oh my god,

477
00:25:45,200 --> 00:25:47,600
Speaker 2: we have enough fucking fiesta Ware. I know people who

478
00:25:47,600 --> 00:25:49,360
Speaker 2: collect corning wear. Do you know what that is? It's

479
00:25:49,400 --> 00:25:52,399
Speaker 2: the white with the little blue flower. There's just like

480
00:25:52,480 --> 00:25:56,640
Speaker 2: all these things that people want to collect. Collections are

481
00:25:56,680 --> 00:25:59,760
Speaker 2: weird because I'm like, if you have a big house, great,

482
00:26:00,760 --> 00:26:03,679
Speaker 2: you do whatever you want. And I'm not into this

483
00:26:03,720 --> 00:26:07,600
Speaker 2: whole thing. Oh well, you know, suppose if the Nietern

484
00:26:07,600 --> 00:26:09,240
Speaker 2: nephew is like, well, what do we do with all

485
00:26:09,240 --> 00:26:11,800
Speaker 2: this stuff when he dies, well fucking sell it and

486
00:26:11,800 --> 00:26:13,760
Speaker 2: make some money. Don't worry, bitch, and no one's leaving

487
00:26:13,760 --> 00:26:17,960
Speaker 2: anything to you. Okay, So this he it sounds like

488
00:26:18,320 --> 00:26:24,520
Speaker 2: he has a little bit of a healthy aspect of it.

489
00:26:24,600 --> 00:26:27,160
Speaker 2: Also she wait, sorry, I'm still thinking it's a gay man.

490
00:26:27,240 --> 00:26:30,680
Speaker 2: Frank wait sol.

491
00:26:29,800 --> 00:26:31,800
Speaker 3: Because when I read fiesta were I thought of my

492
00:26:31,840 --> 00:26:33,000
Speaker 3: grandmother from Queens.

493
00:26:33,359 --> 00:26:34,880
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, dude.

494
00:26:34,920 --> 00:26:37,760
Speaker 3: We are Italian and Polish, mostly Italian, and she would

495
00:26:37,760 --> 00:26:40,440
Speaker 3: decorate for like Saint Patti's Day and she had a veste.

496
00:26:40,480 --> 00:26:42,800
Speaker 2: No, you're thinking different. She doesn't mean.

497
00:26:43,160 --> 00:26:44,880
Speaker 3: That saying that word.

498
00:26:45,480 --> 00:26:48,480
Speaker 2: Yes, So, Fiestaware is an actual brand. I think it's

499
00:26:48,640 --> 00:26:52,280
Speaker 2: from the sixties or something, and it's very colorful, rainbow

500
00:26:52,359 --> 00:26:57,600
Speaker 2: colored in all these different really bright ues of it's beautiful, okay,

501
00:26:57,760 --> 00:27:01,119
Speaker 2: But the thing is like I don't get like and

502
00:27:01,160 --> 00:27:03,480
Speaker 2: I don't have to get everyone's collection, Like I don't

503
00:27:03,600 --> 00:27:07,160
Speaker 2: get people who have fun copomp collection. Although I must

504
00:27:07,200 --> 00:27:10,800
Speaker 2: admit I do have a Johnny lawnche one I also,

505
00:27:12,160 --> 00:27:16,240
Speaker 2: but I also have a Ronnie James di O one didn't,

506
00:27:18,080 --> 00:27:24,760
Speaker 2: So I mean, uh I I don't get collections because collections,

507
00:27:24,800 --> 00:27:29,560
Speaker 2: to me, is something where you think you're gonna get

508
00:27:29,800 --> 00:27:34,560
Speaker 2: quote unquote get the mall and feel fulfilled. But there's

509
00:27:34,600 --> 00:27:37,840
Speaker 2: no way, even if it was possible to get the mall,

510
00:27:37,920 --> 00:27:40,800
Speaker 2: which say there is, but there actually is in a

511
00:27:40,840 --> 00:27:43,640
Speaker 2: way to get all of it. If you had every

512
00:27:43,680 --> 00:27:47,000
Speaker 2: single bowl in every single color and all the plates

513
00:27:47,040 --> 00:27:50,440
Speaker 2: and everything was perfect, I don't think you feel whole

514
00:27:50,480 --> 00:27:54,560
Speaker 2: as a human being. So I think it's attaching. Oh

515
00:27:54,560 --> 00:27:57,040
Speaker 2: I'm gonna feel great once I have this in every color,

516
00:27:57,720 --> 00:27:59,479
Speaker 2: So that would be the unhealthy part. I think if

517
00:27:59,480 --> 00:28:00,760
Speaker 2: it's just like, oh, oh my god, I went to

518
00:28:00,840 --> 00:28:03,960
Speaker 2: like we go on the weekends to get like flea

519
00:28:04,000 --> 00:28:07,000
Speaker 2: markets fines and we bought a little plate here and

520
00:28:07,040 --> 00:28:10,080
Speaker 2: it's we have like twenty Just when it becomes like

521
00:28:10,119 --> 00:28:13,560
Speaker 2: where your house is exploding and looks terrible and looks hoarding,

522
00:28:15,200 --> 00:28:17,960
Speaker 2: or it's your roommate's really pissed off. Her argument? What

523
00:28:18,000 --> 00:28:20,000
Speaker 2: was her argument? The roommate's argument is that it looks

524
00:28:20,040 --> 00:28:23,840
Speaker 2: like something. Yeah, I don't think there's anything wrong with that.

525
00:28:23,880 --> 00:28:25,879
Speaker 2: Who hasn't Nick you wanted to be in a five

526
00:28:25,960 --> 00:28:27,280
Speaker 2: year old boys bedroom.

527
00:28:29,359 --> 00:28:31,119
Speaker 3: And make it a woman.

528
00:28:31,640 --> 00:28:37,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's true, So I think he'll know when it's unhealthy.

529
00:28:37,480 --> 00:28:41,760
Speaker 2: But people, if you're thinking about collecting anything, realize you'll

530
00:28:41,800 --> 00:28:45,840
Speaker 2: never have it all. It'll never be enough, and you'll

531
00:28:45,880 --> 00:28:50,080
Speaker 2: always hate yourself. If you hate yourself without all the shoes,

532
00:28:50,400 --> 00:28:52,520
Speaker 2: you're gonna hate your You're gonna have a bit. You're

533
00:28:52,520 --> 00:28:57,000
Speaker 2: gonna bitch with sore feet who still hates themselves. So

534
00:28:57,040 --> 00:28:59,040
Speaker 2: work on that internal stuff. That's what I'm saying.

535
00:29:04,840 --> 00:29:10,200
Speaker 3: Next letter, Next letter, Dear Lisa, I'm thirty four years

536
00:29:10,240 --> 00:29:12,360
Speaker 3: old and I spent at least an hour a day

537
00:29:12,520 --> 00:29:17,240
Speaker 3: on TikTok watching get Ready with Me video, Oh watch

538
00:29:17,320 --> 00:29:19,440
Speaker 3: one and that I can't stop. I know it's stupid,

539
00:29:19,440 --> 00:29:22,120
Speaker 3: but there's so much fun. Do you think this is okay?

540
00:29:22,240 --> 00:29:25,240
Speaker 3: Or am I wasting my life? Thanks Stephanie.

541
00:29:25,360 --> 00:29:28,880
Speaker 2: Okay, Stephanie. Wait, so thirty four? How long does she spend?

542
00:29:29,000 --> 00:29:29,600
Speaker 2: What does it say?

543
00:29:30,320 --> 00:29:31,560
Speaker 3: An hour a day?

544
00:29:32,200 --> 00:29:36,240
Speaker 2: Okay, con Celia as the young millennial ish, whatever the

545
00:29:36,280 --> 00:29:40,440
Speaker 2: fuck this brought is, explain to me concisely and not

546
00:29:40,480 --> 00:29:45,080
Speaker 2: in your overly lengthy way of sharing. Can you only heart?

547
00:29:45,120 --> 00:29:46,640
Speaker 2: We only make fun of the ones we love? No,

548
00:29:46,840 --> 00:29:50,800
Speaker 2: can you tell me really what a get ready with

549
00:29:50,960 --> 00:29:52,440
Speaker 2: me is? In a nutshell?

550
00:29:52,720 --> 00:29:56,400
Speaker 4: Basically, it's somebody setting up their phone and filming themselves

551
00:29:56,400 --> 00:29:58,760
Speaker 4: getting ready to like go out or do something.

552
00:29:59,040 --> 00:30:01,960
Speaker 2: So does it make a up and skincare.

553
00:30:02,040 --> 00:30:06,040
Speaker 4: Skincare, getting dressed, adding their accessories and then like they're

554
00:30:06,080 --> 00:30:06,720
Speaker 4: like okay bye?

555
00:30:07,080 --> 00:30:09,600
Speaker 2: Do they then? So the point isn't to show you

556
00:30:09,680 --> 00:30:12,520
Speaker 2: the outfit. It's not. It's not that the point is

557
00:30:12,600 --> 00:30:15,480
Speaker 2: listen to me while I'm getting ready. But it's not

558
00:30:15,640 --> 00:30:18,080
Speaker 2: like and I've styled my they're not all stylists.

559
00:30:18,120 --> 00:30:21,520
Speaker 4: Well, there's a couple of factors to this. There can

560
00:30:21,560 --> 00:30:24,960
Speaker 4: be a silent get ready with me, which is.

561
00:30:24,880 --> 00:30:29,240
Speaker 3: Like THEE I'm so happy.

562
00:30:29,840 --> 00:30:31,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, thank you get ready with me?

563
00:30:32,840 --> 00:30:35,640
Speaker 4: Either you're not talking and we just hear what you're doing,

564
00:30:35,680 --> 00:30:39,640
Speaker 4: which is like can be like as Mr O that's

565
00:30:39,720 --> 00:30:40,480
Speaker 4: another thing.

566
00:30:40,520 --> 00:30:42,560
Speaker 2: I hate that ASMR ahead.

567
00:30:42,560 --> 00:30:45,880
Speaker 4: There's another silent get ready with me where you can

568
00:30:45,920 --> 00:30:48,480
Speaker 4: put music over it, and so you just don't hear anything,

569
00:30:48,560 --> 00:30:49,200
Speaker 4: like they don't talk.

570
00:30:49,280 --> 00:30:52,640
Speaker 2: Well, could I just ask? No, no judge, no judgment.

571
00:30:52,680 --> 00:30:56,600
Speaker 2: But like, so these broads on the internet, I think

572
00:30:56,680 --> 00:31:00,040
Speaker 2: they're interesting enough looking that we want to watch them.

573
00:31:00,440 --> 00:31:03,520
Speaker 4: Get ready and there's an are there un get ready

574
00:31:03,520 --> 00:31:05,880
Speaker 4: with me? As well? People do that, there's an un

575
00:31:05,880 --> 00:31:06,720
Speaker 4: get ready with me?

576
00:31:06,920 --> 00:31:08,360
Speaker 2: So they take off their shit.

577
00:31:08,520 --> 00:31:09,920
Speaker 4: I'm getting ready for bed.

578
00:31:10,120 --> 00:31:14,080
Speaker 2: I remember once after a premiere of a of a

579
00:31:14,120 --> 00:31:17,240
Speaker 2: movie premiere, I was so this is when I was,

580
00:31:18,120 --> 00:31:19,960
Speaker 2: I would say, in a bigger body, as they say

581
00:31:20,000 --> 00:31:23,720
Speaker 2: these days, I in a diner did an unready with

582
00:31:23,840 --> 00:31:26,760
Speaker 2: me without knowing it. My fucking corset popped right the

583
00:31:26,760 --> 00:31:29,360
Speaker 2: fuck off. I decided to commit to it, pulled out

584
00:31:29,400 --> 00:31:32,440
Speaker 2: the extensions right at the table, took off the nails,

585
00:31:32,480 --> 00:31:34,760
Speaker 2: took off the fucking eyelashes, and I was like, here

586
00:31:34,800 --> 00:31:37,800
Speaker 2: we go. So that's my fucking nun get ready with me?

587
00:31:38,080 --> 00:31:38,320
Speaker 3: Hot?

588
00:31:38,560 --> 00:31:43,240
Speaker 2: But see, yeah, I could. I So it's not unhealthy,

589
00:31:43,240 --> 00:31:47,200
Speaker 2: it's just weird. Like why I don't understand watching someone

590
00:31:47,280 --> 00:31:49,200
Speaker 2: get ready? I watch a lot of stylists because I

591
00:31:49,200 --> 00:31:51,360
Speaker 2: want to like put outfits together and it's quick. They're

592
00:31:51,400 --> 00:31:53,760
Speaker 2: just like I do this this, this boom here, and

593
00:31:53,800 --> 00:31:55,680
Speaker 2: you take a screenshot and you know what you're gonna

594
00:31:55,680 --> 00:32:00,280
Speaker 2: put together. But watching some broad I don't know get

595
00:32:00,280 --> 00:32:04,200
Speaker 2: ready is really I don't get it. I wonder what

596
00:32:04,360 --> 00:32:06,800
Speaker 2: she is getting out of it? Like does she say

597
00:32:06,920 --> 00:32:09,520
Speaker 2: she has nowhere in that letter? She just says there self? Fun?

598
00:32:09,880 --> 00:32:12,520
Speaker 3: They're probably fun. Plus some of these influencers correct me

599
00:32:12,560 --> 00:32:15,080
Speaker 3: if I'm wrong. A little millennial to my left here, Yeah,

600
00:32:15,160 --> 00:32:17,520
Speaker 3: they probably go on live and do it and people

601
00:32:17,560 --> 00:32:19,480
Speaker 3: watch them and they make money off.

602
00:32:19,360 --> 00:32:21,880
Speaker 2: Of it, right right, that's what they get out of it.

603
00:32:22,080 --> 00:32:24,040
Speaker 2: What does the watcher get out of it?

604
00:32:24,160 --> 00:32:28,560
Speaker 4: Cell Ya, I unfortunately spend more time than little Stephanie

605
00:32:28,560 --> 00:32:32,640
Speaker 4: here watching Ready with me? Get Ready with me?

606
00:32:32,800 --> 00:32:33,560
Speaker 2: Really? Yeah?

607
00:32:33,600 --> 00:32:35,440
Speaker 4: To me, it's just like really satisfying.

608
00:32:35,520 --> 00:32:41,680
Speaker 2: I think wait, wait, say different word than satisfying. What

609
00:32:41,920 --> 00:32:43,680
Speaker 2: is the feeling.

610
00:32:44,880 --> 00:32:45,600
Speaker 4: Satisfying?

611
00:32:45,920 --> 00:32:48,160
Speaker 2: That's not a feeling like I mean.

612
00:32:48,080 --> 00:32:50,240
Speaker 4: Like I get I think maybe I'm motivated to get

613
00:32:50,280 --> 00:32:52,200
Speaker 4: up and get ready.

614
00:32:51,720 --> 00:32:54,200
Speaker 2: So you need how about I just call you on

615
00:32:54,280 --> 00:32:57,239
Speaker 2: the phone and say get up, cunt? Like see. I

616
00:32:57,240 --> 00:33:01,320
Speaker 2: think have always said, Johnny Lawrence, go just scream in

617
00:33:01,360 --> 00:33:03,840
Speaker 2: your ear that I think we could combine our sessions

618
00:33:03,840 --> 00:33:04,800
Speaker 2: and this would all work out.

619
00:33:05,040 --> 00:33:07,200
Speaker 4: My hatch doesn't even work like those videos.

620
00:33:07,280 --> 00:33:10,880
Speaker 2: That sounds dirty. My hatch doesn't watch tell us about

621
00:33:10,880 --> 00:33:17,000
Speaker 2: your snatch. Oh that hatch alarm waste a fucking time.

622
00:33:17,600 --> 00:33:20,320
Speaker 2: Let's not talk about that. The hatch, the obsession with

623
00:33:20,520 --> 00:33:24,280
Speaker 2: products that are trendy and influencers talk about this ridiculous

624
00:33:24,360 --> 00:33:26,880
Speaker 2: ship that you don't need literally will never need.

625
00:33:27,320 --> 00:33:30,240
Speaker 3: I need as when I get ready, I know, but.

626
00:33:30,320 --> 00:33:33,360
Speaker 2: I get that. But if you're staring at another girl,

627
00:33:33,480 --> 00:33:35,040
Speaker 2: how are you getting ready?

628
00:33:35,320 --> 00:33:36,840
Speaker 3: I'm not I'm getting hard.

629
00:33:36,840 --> 00:33:42,040
Speaker 2: Okay, get it up for you. Okay, I don't like it.

630
00:33:43,240 --> 00:33:45,280
Speaker 2: Just because I don't like it and understand it doesn't

631
00:33:45,360 --> 00:33:48,000
Speaker 2: mean it's not valid. If this is not getting in

632
00:33:48,120 --> 00:33:51,400
Speaker 2: the celia, you're obviously a extreme case and need mental

633
00:33:51,440 --> 00:33:54,880
Speaker 2: health case. But I don't know what that means. The

634
00:33:55,640 --> 00:33:59,400
Speaker 2: lip gloss yet you're sitting there with nothing on her

635
00:33:59,400 --> 00:34:03,400
Speaker 2: fucking lips. Yeah, you know, are we on a podcast

636
00:34:03,480 --> 00:34:06,840
Speaker 2: that has visuals? Maybe bring your a game, moon Boot

637
00:34:09,200 --> 00:34:12,719
Speaker 2: listen to the other episode. You'll understand no, but long

638
00:34:12,880 --> 00:34:14,960
Speaker 2: is the one with just an hour a day, if

639
00:34:15,000 --> 00:34:17,440
Speaker 2: it's not like making her late for work, if it's

640
00:34:17,480 --> 00:34:21,200
Speaker 2: not making her neglect herself and not put her own

641
00:34:21,560 --> 00:34:24,000
Speaker 2: face and makeup. Gun, Cause girls, I'm sick you'll leave

642
00:34:24,040 --> 00:34:25,799
Speaker 2: in the house without makeup and thinking it look cute

643
00:34:25,840 --> 00:34:29,160
Speaker 2: cause you never do get it together together, bitch as

644
00:34:29,239 --> 00:34:32,160
Speaker 2: we're not pretty naturally, And I love the whole like

645
00:34:32,280 --> 00:34:36,040
Speaker 2: trope of like, why don't men wear makeup? Oh, because

646
00:34:36,040 --> 00:34:38,399
Speaker 2: no one ever told them they look bad without it. Yeah, well,

647
00:34:38,400 --> 00:34:41,600
Speaker 2: guess what it's called reality. It's called misogyny. That's the

648
00:34:41,640 --> 00:34:43,000
Speaker 2: world we live in. Look pretty?

649
00:34:43,400 --> 00:34:45,399
Speaker 3: Fuck yeah the patriarchy dog yeah?

650
00:34:45,480 --> 00:34:48,520
Speaker 2: Oh boy? All right, next letter, so watch your damn

651
00:34:48,560 --> 00:34:50,560
Speaker 2: get ready, but also you get ready to bitch?

652
00:34:50,920 --> 00:34:55,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, get ready? All right? This next one's long. Oh no, okay,

653
00:34:56,840 --> 00:34:58,040
Speaker 3: it starts off LEAs.

654
00:34:58,880 --> 00:35:02,600
Speaker 2: Finally someone mentions me in a letter. I thought people

655
00:35:02,680 --> 00:35:03,400
Speaker 2: dropped the ball.

656
00:35:04,160 --> 00:35:06,319
Speaker 3: I am so excited to be writing to you.

657
00:35:06,520 --> 00:35:07,239
Speaker 2: Well should be.

658
00:35:07,320 --> 00:35:09,840
Speaker 3: I'm excited about writing, but not what I'm writing about.

659
00:35:10,160 --> 00:35:13,520
Speaker 3: Oh boy, my name is Craig. I'm thirty six years old.

660
00:35:13,560 --> 00:35:16,719
Speaker 3: I even Athens, Georgia with my girlfriend to make a

661
00:35:16,719 --> 00:35:19,320
Speaker 3: long story short. I focused on getting into law school

662
00:35:19,320 --> 00:35:22,080
Speaker 3: after college graduation, went to law school, but then I

663
00:35:22,160 --> 00:35:25,960
Speaker 3: lied about graduating in my process with the bar because

664
00:35:26,000 --> 00:35:28,640
Speaker 3: I was embarrassed about how behind I was. In the

665
00:35:28,680 --> 00:35:33,400
Speaker 3: past couple of years, I found myself loving gardening, flipping houses,

666
00:35:33,480 --> 00:35:40,640
Speaker 3: and sewing. Nope, I have I try to show my

667
00:35:40,680 --> 00:35:44,480
Speaker 3: girlfriend that I'm serious about this by making her thoughtful gifts. Oh,

668
00:35:44,719 --> 00:35:50,759
Speaker 3: I can't even finish this obsession is cat, You're a

669
00:35:50,880 --> 00:35:54,960
Speaker 3: secret gay. I also redid our backyard. Oh wait, holds

670
00:35:55,600 --> 00:35:58,319
Speaker 3: I like that thoughtful gifts like an embroidered pillow with

671
00:35:58,360 --> 00:35:59,200
Speaker 3: your cat on it.

672
00:35:59,280 --> 00:36:01,520
Speaker 2: I can't. Nope, nope, nope, nope nope.

673
00:36:01,680 --> 00:36:04,440
Speaker 3: Also redid our backyard the exact way she wanted. But

674
00:36:04,560 --> 00:36:06,520
Speaker 3: every single day she makes fun of me of being

675
00:36:06,560 --> 00:36:09,839
Speaker 3: obsessed with sewing. It feels shameful that I am not

676
00:36:09,880 --> 00:36:12,279
Speaker 3: sure if it's because it's sewing isn't manly, or because

677
00:36:12,280 --> 00:36:14,640
Speaker 3: I'm doing it too much. Sorry, this is long.

678
00:36:15,000 --> 00:36:16,520
Speaker 2: Oh my god.

679
00:36:16,480 --> 00:36:18,279
Speaker 3: He says the guys he meets on grind.

680
00:36:18,160 --> 00:36:21,880
Speaker 2: Yes, yeah, oh man, I think we're glossing over the

681
00:36:21,880 --> 00:36:25,200
Speaker 2: most important part of this letter, not that sewing is

682
00:36:25,239 --> 00:36:28,800
Speaker 2: a feminine thing, which it shouldn't be. I think that's fine.

683
00:36:29,160 --> 00:36:31,680
Speaker 2: I full disclosure. A lot of Italian men in the

684
00:36:31,719 --> 00:36:34,040
Speaker 2: old days would learn tailoring and then pass it on

685
00:36:34,120 --> 00:36:37,800
Speaker 2: in their family. My father could tailor anything. Oh my god,

686
00:36:37,960 --> 00:36:40,600
Speaker 2: all you've seen my house, all the curtains my father made.

687
00:36:40,640 --> 00:36:43,719
Speaker 2: My father actually though he had made those because he yeah,

688
00:36:43,760 --> 00:36:47,080
Speaker 2: because he learned from his Italian uncle. But here's the

689
00:36:47,120 --> 00:36:49,279
Speaker 2: thing with my father too, he had like shame around it,

690
00:36:49,360 --> 00:36:51,760
Speaker 2: and where I didn't think he should like. I remember

691
00:36:51,800 --> 00:36:54,040
Speaker 2: once he made me and my sister like dresses for

692
00:36:54,120 --> 00:36:56,759
Speaker 2: something fancy, and he goes, don't tell anyone I made

693
00:36:56,760 --> 00:36:59,000
Speaker 2: them because back then, I mean he's talking about the sixties,

694
00:36:59,000 --> 00:37:02,600
Speaker 2: people would have been like home o. You know. So

695
00:37:03,000 --> 00:37:06,040
Speaker 2: I don't much care about this guy liking sewing. I

696
00:37:06,040 --> 00:37:09,520
Speaker 2: think it's great. Gardening I think is great. Also, I think,

697
00:37:10,040 --> 00:37:12,360
Speaker 2: I mean, you ready did the bitch's backyard. Let her

698
00:37:12,400 --> 00:37:15,080
Speaker 2: calm down. I mean a lot of women would be thrilled.

699
00:37:15,200 --> 00:37:18,240
Speaker 2: And by redoing her backyard, he meant he shaved her ass.

700
00:37:18,840 --> 00:37:21,840
Speaker 2: That's what I'm thinking. But I think that's really like

701
00:37:22,320 --> 00:37:26,040
Speaker 2: the hobbies themselves. I don't mind. I mind two things,

702
00:37:26,120 --> 00:37:29,959
Speaker 2: and I feel bad for him that he lied about

703
00:37:30,000 --> 00:37:33,880
Speaker 2: the law school thing, and he's carrying that around because

704
00:37:34,160 --> 00:37:37,799
Speaker 2: I if I lie about something, I cannot shake it

705
00:37:37,840 --> 00:37:39,960
Speaker 2: for a minute, Like you'll try to shake it for

706
00:37:40,040 --> 00:37:43,319
Speaker 2: a day, and it sneaks back in at night, like

707
00:37:43,400 --> 00:37:45,880
Speaker 2: you have a secret shame that you have to tell someone,

708
00:37:45,880 --> 00:37:47,839
Speaker 2: And you know in AA and all those programs, it's

709
00:37:47,880 --> 00:37:50,680
Speaker 2: like you're only as sick as your secrets. He must

710
00:37:50,760 --> 00:37:52,840
Speaker 2: feel sick all the time about that, And it sounds

711
00:37:52,840 --> 00:37:57,040
Speaker 2: like he's channeling that shame and energy into this other stuff.

712
00:37:58,080 --> 00:38:01,240
Speaker 2: And while those other hobbies clearly aren't her anything, what's

713
00:38:01,280 --> 00:38:03,640
Speaker 2: probably digging at him is that lie.

714
00:38:04,520 --> 00:38:06,680
Speaker 3: That would bother me too. Did he finish law school

715
00:38:06,719 --> 00:38:07,160
Speaker 3: or none?

716
00:38:07,239 --> 00:38:10,560
Speaker 2: We lied that he didn't finish it. That's like so sad.

717
00:38:11,880 --> 00:38:12,680
Speaker 3: What's going on with.

718
00:38:12,680 --> 00:38:14,160
Speaker 2: I don't know. Let's give his full name, so we

719
00:38:14,200 --> 00:38:18,120
Speaker 2: out him, Craig. Poor thing didn't pass the bar? Like

720
00:38:18,360 --> 00:38:21,560
Speaker 2: it just like and those are things too. I didn't

721
00:38:21,560 --> 00:38:24,440
Speaker 2: finish grad school. I have no shame about that. But

722
00:38:24,480 --> 00:38:28,640
Speaker 2: if if you have shame about not finishing something because

723
00:38:29,040 --> 00:38:31,840
Speaker 2: society puts more pressure on men to finish the degree,

724
00:38:32,000 --> 00:38:34,480
Speaker 2: or your parents really wanted you to be a lawyer,

725
00:38:34,480 --> 00:38:36,200
Speaker 2: but you didn't like, I could see where that would

726
00:38:36,200 --> 00:38:39,400
Speaker 2: weigh this poor guy down. I will say, though, the

727
00:38:39,440 --> 00:38:45,520
Speaker 2: other red flag is pillow cat because I have a

728
00:38:45,520 --> 00:38:47,840
Speaker 2: friend who's a great knitter. My friend Bonnie is a

729
00:38:47,960 --> 00:38:52,080
Speaker 2: really great she's actually an artist. All these half ass

730
00:38:52,239 --> 00:38:56,600
Speaker 2: knitting bitches who try to give me a gift, it's

731
00:38:56,640 --> 00:38:58,480
Speaker 2: not good, it doesn't come out well. But with her,

732
00:38:58,600 --> 00:39:00,560
Speaker 2: I said, Bonnie, you're the only one who who has

733
00:39:00,600 --> 00:39:02,920
Speaker 2: permission to do this for me. And she made me

734
00:39:03,040 --> 00:39:06,560
Speaker 2: a pillow with flowers on it. And it's like, yeah,

735
00:39:06,560 --> 00:39:11,040
Speaker 2: because I'm a girl and she's a girl, and oh no,

736
00:39:11,120 --> 00:39:13,879
Speaker 2: oh well, this was so funny. It was supposed to okay,

737
00:39:13,920 --> 00:39:15,920
Speaker 2: it was supposed to look like all vines and stuff.

738
00:39:16,200 --> 00:39:19,080
Speaker 2: And she showed and with flowers. She showed it to

739
00:39:19,080 --> 00:39:22,200
Speaker 2: her daughter first and she's like, mom, the way you

740
00:39:22,239 --> 00:39:27,120
Speaker 2: did the vines, it looks like a swastika. And she

741
00:39:27,280 --> 00:39:29,000
Speaker 2: ripped it all out and she did it again. And

742
00:39:29,080 --> 00:39:35,680
Speaker 2: Bonnie's Asian. She knows I'm really not into Hitler. She knows, yeah,

743
00:39:35,760 --> 00:39:38,279
Speaker 2: come on, that's not one of my guys. She did

744
00:39:38,280 --> 00:39:41,839
Speaker 2: it over. It's beautiful, But so even that I let go.

745
00:39:42,000 --> 00:39:44,600
Speaker 2: It's just I don't know. He doesn't sound like he's

746
00:39:44,640 --> 00:39:49,200
Speaker 2: giving her what she wants as a gift, though. No.

747
00:39:49,520 --> 00:39:52,640
Speaker 2: I think like if she said, oh my god, I

748
00:39:52,640 --> 00:39:56,120
Speaker 2: would love a pillow with my cat on it, then

749
00:39:56,160 --> 00:39:58,960
Speaker 2: she probably wouldn't make fun of you. So maybe look

750
00:39:59,000 --> 00:40:02,080
Speaker 2: at what your not even though there's nothing to do

751
00:40:02,120 --> 00:40:05,479
Speaker 2: with the subject. Look at what she might be giving

752
00:40:05,480 --> 00:40:09,040
Speaker 2: you hints that she does want. Yeah, you know, well

753
00:40:09,719 --> 00:40:13,319
Speaker 2: not everything's about that. I was never comfortable with the oral.

754
00:40:14,040 --> 00:40:18,960
Speaker 2: It was too distracting. I don't discand too much is

755
00:40:19,040 --> 00:40:23,840
Speaker 2: going on. God forbid, we's sixty nine. There's a parents

756
00:40:23,920 --> 00:40:28,759
Speaker 2: down there. What's going on? Anyway? I say, come out

757
00:40:28,760 --> 00:40:32,759
Speaker 2: of the closet about your not finishing law school, because

758
00:40:32,800 --> 00:40:35,080
Speaker 2: it's got to be a huge burden to you. If

759
00:40:35,120 --> 00:40:37,920
Speaker 2: someone breaks up to you, breaks up with you because

760
00:40:37,920 --> 00:40:40,640
Speaker 2: of that, then they're not the right person. And I

761
00:40:40,680 --> 00:40:43,359
Speaker 2: think then your energies will be channeled a little more

762
00:40:43,480 --> 00:40:47,080
Speaker 2: evenly across the board. God, these people are exhausting, Nick.

763
00:40:47,160 --> 00:40:48,400
Speaker 2: Do you have any easy ones?

764
00:40:49,000 --> 00:40:53,839
Speaker 3: Crazy man? Listen, Craig. If it doesn't work out, I'm single.

765
00:40:54,239 --> 00:40:56,800
Speaker 2: Go to the next letter. Stop pitching dating.

766
00:40:56,960 --> 00:40:58,080
Speaker 3: I love pillows.

767
00:40:58,840 --> 00:41:02,040
Speaker 2: Yeah you have too, writ just big kittd bitch.

768
00:41:03,480 --> 00:41:07,759
Speaker 3: All right, last letter here, Dear Lisa. Two weeks ago,

769
00:41:07,920 --> 00:41:10,800
Speaker 3: my friend introduced me to FanDuel, and now I'm booked

770
00:41:11,280 --> 00:41:13,279
Speaker 3: for all you. Yeah, there's a lot of gay men

771
00:41:13,680 --> 00:41:16,240
Speaker 3: and women that listen to this. FanDuel is a sports

772
00:41:16,280 --> 00:41:17,239
Speaker 3: betting website.

773
00:41:17,400 --> 00:41:20,440
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, that makes it a lot.

774
00:41:19,719 --> 00:41:20,200
Speaker 3: Every want to know?

775
00:41:20,280 --> 00:41:20,600
Speaker 2: Thank you?

776
00:41:20,640 --> 00:41:24,160
Speaker 3: I know this shit. I bet on games every single night,

777
00:41:24,520 --> 00:41:27,120
Speaker 3: doesn't even matter what sport. I win some, I lose some,

778
00:41:27,239 --> 00:41:29,320
Speaker 3: but I'm not betting enough money to make it an issue.

779
00:41:29,880 --> 00:41:32,479
Speaker 3: My girlfriend, of course, hates it because I'm always checking

780
00:41:32,520 --> 00:41:35,440
Speaker 3: my phone for scores to be It's no different than

781
00:41:35,480 --> 00:41:37,719
Speaker 3: her checking Instagram. Do you see a problem with my

782
00:41:37,760 --> 00:41:39,600
Speaker 3: new hobby brad and Tampa.

783
00:41:39,280 --> 00:41:44,160
Speaker 2: Florida, Tampa home of Hitler. Just kidding, I just have

784
00:41:44,200 --> 00:41:48,319
Speaker 2: to have two of those references. Yeah, okay, this got

785
00:41:48,360 --> 00:41:52,440
Speaker 2: two levels, Steward. Have you ever met a guy who

786
00:41:52,480 --> 00:41:56,080
Speaker 2: bets a lot of money or bets and does not

787
00:41:56,200 --> 00:42:00,080
Speaker 2: eventually become obsessed with it? Have you ever met anyone.

788
00:42:00,440 --> 00:42:02,759
Speaker 3: Most of my friends bet. I'm the only person who's like,

789
00:42:03,440 --> 00:42:03,920
Speaker 3: no way.

790
00:42:04,000 --> 00:42:07,640
Speaker 2: So do you you can answer this? Are is one

791
00:42:07,680 --> 00:42:10,080
Speaker 2: able to bet? The way? This guy is saying without

792
00:42:10,160 --> 00:42:13,719
Speaker 2: becoming obsessed and in debt where he doesn't have the

793
00:42:13,840 --> 00:42:17,480
Speaker 2: gene that will make him be like going to gamblers anonymous,

794
00:42:17,520 --> 00:42:17,960
Speaker 2: I don't.

795
00:42:17,800 --> 00:42:19,279
Speaker 3: Know how much money he makes. I mean a lot

796
00:42:19,280 --> 00:42:21,319
Speaker 3: of the guys I know that do gamble, like they

797
00:42:21,360 --> 00:42:22,959
Speaker 3: make a lot of money, so like if they lost

798
00:42:22,960 --> 00:42:24,839
Speaker 3: two grand on a game, it's not gonna they can't

799
00:42:24,880 --> 00:42:26,440
Speaker 3: not pay the rent or the mortgage that one.

800
00:42:26,520 --> 00:42:28,399
Speaker 2: No, it sounds like this guy's just sort of like, hey,

801
00:42:28,440 --> 00:42:30,759
Speaker 2: I make a hundred here, lose a hundred. It's all

802
00:42:30,960 --> 00:42:33,080
Speaker 2: So it sounds like a hobby at this point.

803
00:42:33,160 --> 00:42:36,880
Speaker 3: Definitely could get obsessive though, Like I've seen the most

804
00:42:37,000 --> 00:42:39,600
Speaker 3: you know, straight and narrowed type guys will get into

805
00:42:39,600 --> 00:42:41,600
Speaker 3: betting one of my friends who you know well, and

806
00:42:41,680 --> 00:42:44,240
Speaker 3: he'll be like, he'll get it. Gets his juices flowing

807
00:42:44,480 --> 00:42:45,000
Speaker 3: for sure.

808
00:42:45,440 --> 00:42:48,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, Which I don't think there's wrong with a hobby

809
00:42:48,960 --> 00:42:51,160
Speaker 2: getting your juices flowing, because I think that's what a

810
00:42:51,160 --> 00:42:53,880
Speaker 2: hobby's supposed to do. Either that or it's supposed to

811
00:42:53,880 --> 00:42:56,520
Speaker 2: calm you down. Like I like the hobbies that calm

812
00:42:56,600 --> 00:43:02,000
Speaker 2: you down, like intuitive paint, which I just discovered, which

813
00:43:02,000 --> 00:43:04,680
Speaker 2: is a way of meditating, just painting badly with music.

814
00:43:07,040 --> 00:43:09,840
Speaker 2: We don't cry, we don't even have time to think.

815
00:43:10,880 --> 00:43:13,160
Speaker 2: It's like meditative. So I mean a hobby that colms

816
00:43:13,200 --> 00:43:16,040
Speaker 2: younown sounds nice to me, but other people like exciting things,

817
00:43:16,520 --> 00:43:21,160
Speaker 2: So it sounds like if it's really where he's telling

818
00:43:21,200 --> 00:43:24,400
Speaker 2: the truth and he's not losing huge amounts of money, fine,

819
00:43:24,520 --> 00:43:26,360
Speaker 2: because I don't think we all take one drink and

820
00:43:26,400 --> 00:43:29,680
Speaker 2: become an alcoholic or all bet a few times and

821
00:43:29,719 --> 00:43:34,440
Speaker 2: become a gambling addict. I think it's a certain mental makeup.

822
00:43:35,600 --> 00:43:37,879
Speaker 2: The thing is, though, what I hate about both him

823
00:43:37,920 --> 00:43:44,319
Speaker 2: and his girlfriend these phones. I forbade a friend of

824
00:43:44,360 --> 00:43:47,080
Speaker 2: mine to wear their Apple Watch ever around me because

825
00:43:47,120 --> 00:43:50,359
Speaker 2: I just go, look, man, it's just gonna spoil our friendship,

826
00:43:51,160 --> 00:43:53,680
Speaker 2: is it. I would I would prefer when we hang

827
00:43:53,680 --> 00:43:55,640
Speaker 2: out that you leave it at home. Ends up, He

828
00:43:55,719 --> 00:43:59,560
Speaker 2: returned it because I'm that fucking important. So he was like,

829
00:43:59,600 --> 00:44:01,440
Speaker 2: I don't even need it, Like I'm so obsessed with

830
00:44:01,480 --> 00:44:06,319
Speaker 2: my phone. That's bad enough. So it's just the comparing

831
00:44:06,440 --> 00:44:10,279
Speaker 2: with Instagram, Like they both suck you and your girlfriend

832
00:44:10,440 --> 00:44:15,160
Speaker 2: both suck as people, Yeah, Tampa, Yeah, so suck on

833
00:44:15,280 --> 00:44:19,960
Speaker 2: Hitler's cop so I would say, maybe both of you

834
00:44:20,040 --> 00:44:23,080
Speaker 2: look at this phone stuff, because I'm not the big

835
00:44:23,160 --> 00:44:25,640
Speaker 2: fan of the phone thing, and I don't think it's

836
00:44:25,719 --> 00:44:28,239
Speaker 2: just my age. I think it's just like, I don't know,

837
00:44:28,239 --> 00:44:30,800
Speaker 2: can anybody be present? That would be great.

838
00:44:31,120 --> 00:44:35,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's it's I know. For me, it's like, I

839
00:44:35,120 --> 00:44:39,040
Speaker 3: don't need another reason to look at my phone. There's

840
00:44:39,160 --> 00:44:42,080
Speaker 3: enough reason. So if this is adding to, like, if

841
00:44:42,120 --> 00:44:45,040
Speaker 3: the FanDuel is adding to the Instagram stuff you already

842
00:44:45,080 --> 00:44:47,439
Speaker 3: do and the TikTok stuff you already do, then maybe, yeah,

843
00:44:47,600 --> 00:44:48,399
Speaker 3: take a look at it.

844
00:44:48,400 --> 00:44:51,080
Speaker 2: It's gonna be like a cumulative whole bunch of like

845
00:44:51,200 --> 00:44:53,680
Speaker 2: is your life all on a screen? And it is

846
00:44:53,719 --> 00:44:57,680
Speaker 2: not like some like oh oh boomers they don't like phones.

847
00:44:57,880 --> 00:45:00,640
Speaker 2: I love TikTok. I just literally I never went on

848
00:45:00,680 --> 00:45:05,120
Speaker 2: TikTok until like four months ago. Ever, yeah, and I'm like,

849
00:45:05,280 --> 00:45:08,240
Speaker 2: this is cool. You get access to information you wouldn't

850
00:45:08,280 --> 00:45:11,640
Speaker 2: have and thank god, even when they wanted to delete it,

851
00:45:11,760 --> 00:45:14,759
Speaker 2: mine didn't go away. And I was like, oh, so

852
00:45:14,960 --> 00:45:18,600
Speaker 2: it's not bad. It's just like, why are you checking

853
00:45:18,920 --> 00:45:22,200
Speaker 2: these things so much? So maybe the obsession and weird

854
00:45:22,200 --> 00:45:25,480
Speaker 2: obsession isn't a weird one. It's that everybody seems to

855
00:45:25,520 --> 00:45:26,360
Speaker 2: have it lately.

856
00:45:26,280 --> 00:45:29,000
Speaker 3: Right, It's it's super entertaining, and it's also social to

857
00:45:29,040 --> 00:45:31,719
Speaker 3: a certain degree. Like I know my buddy and his

858
00:45:31,760 --> 00:45:33,840
Speaker 3: brothers I was talking about earlier. They all bet together

859
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Speaker 3: and they're like, do you put money on the game.

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Speaker 3: I went to a baseball game with them and they

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Speaker 3: were on the train and his brother was like, add

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Speaker 3: more to your bet and he's like all right, and

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Speaker 3: they're like. It's a social just like sending tiktoks to

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Speaker 3: people is a social thing.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, reaching out right.

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Speaker 3: They're friends from college and we do talk through text,

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Speaker 3: but like there's some guys E've ben talking six months

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Speaker 3: or just sending each other as sopranos things back and

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Speaker 3: forth and memes and gifts and all this shit.

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Speaker 2: It is a way of connection. Which that's no problem.

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Speaker 2: I think, you know when it comes too much. But

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Speaker 2: if him and his girlfriend are sitting at the dinner

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Speaker 2: table and she's on her phone looking at Instagram and

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Speaker 2: he's looking at FANDLE, I say, this is a shit couple. YEA,

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Speaker 2: So I stick by my advice. Suck Hitler's cock. We

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Speaker 2: usually do. Like a third segment called Lisa's weekly fuck up.

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Speaker 2: But guess what. I was searching my head going, I

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Speaker 2: didn't fuck up this week. I honestly don't think I

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Speaker 2: did anything wrong and good thing because Selia informed me, Oh,

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Speaker 2: we're already at time, so I'm like, bitch, I say,

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Speaker 2: what time it is? You? Don't you love Hitler? Fuck?

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Speaker 2: So there's no fuck up for me this week. It's

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Speaker 2: just me and Nick Scobel Eddy saying, guess what if

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Speaker 2: you have a question for us, email us at Shrink

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Speaker 2: This Show at gmail dot com. That's Shrink This Show

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Speaker 2: at gmail dot com, and we try to get to

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Speaker 2: your letter, even if it is about Fiesta ware, which is,

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Speaker 2: by the way.

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Speaker 3: Pretty good. I'm perfect. I never fucked up in thirty

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Speaker 3: six years of life.

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Speaker 2: That's that's not true. It is you have many fuck

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Speaker 2: ups this week. We'll talk when we get off the air.

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Speaker 2: Now read the disclaimer at the app. Seriously, thank you

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Speaker 2: for listening to Shrink This with Lisa Lambinelli. You can

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Speaker 2: find me on Instagram at Lisa Lampanellie and.

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Speaker 3: And thanks for listening.

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Speaker 2: No, that's your first fuck up of the century.

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Speaker 3: Make sure to listen to Shrink This on your iHeart

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Speaker 3: radio app or wherever you get your podcast.

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Speaker 2: You know what's funny. I always kind of goof on

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Speaker 2: that a little because we always kind of say it wrong.

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Speaker 2: I got the iHeartRadio app, and I said, this is good.

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Speaker 2: So I do not feel I don't stand behind this.

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Speaker 2: I fully stand behind this, right, Get your fucking iHeart

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Speaker 2: Radio app, get your head, your ass, and quiet. See

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Speaker 2: you next week or whenever. I don't know how often

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Speaker 2: do we post. I don't care about it.