Speaker 1: A mindset shift is when you change your thinking or
Speaker 1: the way you think about something to get in alignment
Speaker 1: with accomplishing a goal. That's a mindset shift, or accomplishing
Speaker 1: some sort of achievement. That's a mindset shift. And it's
Speaker 1: possible to do that. That's a very possible thing to do,
Speaker 1: but in order to do that, you have to you
Speaker 1: have to change. In order to do that, you have
Speaker 1: to process new information. In order to do that, you
Speaker 1: have to commit to achieving an outcome. An easy example
Speaker 1: for me to describe this is if there's a goal
Speaker 1: I'm trying to accomplish, like weight loss, right, I'd like
Speaker 1: to lose weight, I have to change my mindset on
Speaker 1: how I view food. I have to start viewing food
Speaker 1: as a source of energy and nutrition instead of taste
Speaker 1: and flavor. If I eat just because I like the
Speaker 1: taste and flavor, I'm very likely to continue to experience
Speaker 1: weight issues. But if I change my mindset about this
Speaker 1: to like this is how I get nutrition and energy
Speaker 1: into my body, then I start making different choices. So
Speaker 1: that's a mindset shift, And in order to do that,
Speaker 1: you just have to commit to the process and you
Speaker 1: have to take on new information and allow that to
Speaker 1: impact how you think. Welcome back to family Therapy. I'm
Speaker 1: your host, Elliott Connie. What's been better since you listened
Speaker 1: to the previous episode? Once again, this is a very
Speaker 1: important aspect of solution focused brief therapy where I want
Speaker 1: you to focus on things that are getting better. So
Speaker 1: we're going to always ask ourselves that question. It's very
Speaker 1: important that you are able to gauge your progress towards
Speaker 1: a goal, because if you don't do that, then every
Speaker 1: step feels like failure. Like if you don't gauge how
Speaker 1: much you're progressing towards an outcome, then every day you're
Speaker 1: not at your outcome feels like failure. But if you
Speaker 1: are able to gauge your progress towards that outcome, then
Speaker 1: every day feels like a micro achievement on your way
Speaker 1: to the macro achievement. So that's why I always ask
Speaker 1: my questions where they are on a scale from zero
Speaker 1: to ten, because it helps them to gauge. I might
Speaker 1: not be at ten, but I'm no longer at zero,
Speaker 1: and that changes the feeling of failure to feeling of success.
Speaker 1: A comfort zone is exactly as it sounds. It's a
Speaker 1: place where you feel most comfortable. But it's actually the
Speaker 1: enemy of six And the reason it's the enemy of
Speaker 1: success is because we seek out comfort without thinking about
Speaker 1: whether or not comfort is healthy or not. Comfort is
Speaker 1: just what I'm most familiar with. So if you grew
Speaker 1: up in an environment where there's lots of drugs and alcohol,
Speaker 1: that becomes your comfort zone. That's what you're most familiar with.
Speaker 1: We don't think about whether it's good for us or not.
Speaker 1: We just think that it's comfortable for us. And when
Speaker 1: we make changes, changes are always uncomfortable. Even really positive
Speaker 1: changes are uncomfortable. And what ends up happening to people
Speaker 1: is they want to grow and change and become the
Speaker 1: better version of themselves. But change leads to uncomfort and
Speaker 1: then people recoil back to the comfort zone. That's why
Speaker 1: comfort zones are very crippling and they become a hindrance
Speaker 1: towards people changing and becoming successful. And it's why if
Speaker 1: you want to change, grow and progress, you have to
Speaker 1: get comfort. Being uncomfortable, you cannot have a proper mindset
Speaker 1: shift while being in the comfort zone. A mindset shift
Speaker 1: will always trigger uncomfort. Today is spent directly focusing with
Speaker 1: David who seems to have completely shifted his energy and
Speaker 1: is motivated towards change. So, David, what's been better since
Speaker 1: we last.
Speaker 2: Thought staying consistent with certain things? Added something else so
Speaker 2: I could get consistent with That's what's been better?
Speaker 1: You added something else?
Speaker 2: Yeah, just something else that I you know, and it's
Speaker 2: I mean, it's small, it's more for me. Just every morning.
Speaker 2: I used to wake up and do my push ups.
Speaker 2: So I started that last week. Oh so every morning,
Speaker 2: every morning I wake up up, when I get out
Speaker 2: the shower and do all my stuff, I do my
Speaker 2: setup push ups. So I was like, I got to
Speaker 2: start doing that again. I used to do it all
Speaker 2: the time, like all the time. So I just I'm
Speaker 2: just you know, I've been reading some stuff, listening to
Speaker 2: some audios, and it was like I just got to
Speaker 2: start creating, getting more discipline, getting my discipline back. I
Speaker 2: was like, I'm gonna start with this. Yeah, I'm gonna
Speaker 2: start with this. So that's been good.
Speaker 1: What made you bring that back? Like, at what point
Speaker 1: did you decide I gotta bring this back?
Speaker 2: Well, just with you know, the last couple of sessions
Speaker 2: things how I want to start moving forward And I
Speaker 2: always been health conscious, like, you know, I try to
Speaker 2: eat good, I take my supplements. I'm not really a
Speaker 2: big gym guy. If I could work out at home,
Speaker 2: like I will go to the gym, but if I
Speaker 2: could work out at home, because now don't got to
Speaker 2: pay for no membership, I do it at home. So
Speaker 2: I was like, David, know what, start doing your push
Speaker 2: ups again, start doing your push ups. Yeah. So I
Speaker 2: just I just started when I told myself that, and
Speaker 2: it was like in the middle of the day, I
Speaker 2: just got down, did my push ups. And then I say,
Speaker 2: every morning, wake up, no matter what, I'm gonna do
Speaker 2: my push ups, every morning, doing my push ups.
Speaker 1: I love that. What else have you noticed yourself being
Speaker 1: consistent with.
Speaker 2: The way I respond, the way I'm not getting upset
Speaker 2: at certain things like at word, you know, at home,
Speaker 2: just just controlling myself more, you know, thinking about my
Speaker 2: response before I even say it. Stop not worrying about
Speaker 2: the little stuff. If I if it's out of my
Speaker 2: controlers out of my control. If I only could do
Speaker 2: what I can do, then I'm gonna do what I
Speaker 2: can do. And this the rest is just you know,
Speaker 2: it is what it is. Leave it in God's hands
Speaker 2: or and that's it said, I've just been trying to
Speaker 2: shift my mind in my thinking and get back to
Speaker 2: like it used to be right when I and I
Speaker 2: and when I sit back and reflect, when I was
Speaker 2: in that free and see and I had that energy,
Speaker 2: it just felt different. And then things that just started
Speaker 2: falling into place. So that's what that's the frequency I'm
Speaker 2: trying to get back to and the energy I need
Speaker 2: to have.
Speaker 1: I love that. And what have you noticed as you've
Speaker 1: been doing these consistent things, what have you noticed about
Speaker 1: the difference it's making for.
Speaker 2: You smiling more, you know, just feeling good. It's got
Speaker 2: a different like it's like you know when you got
Speaker 2: on a new suit or new clothes, like, or you
Speaker 2: know you got some money in your pocket, you just
Speaker 2: walk different, right, I just I just yeah. So it's
Speaker 2: just like that's what I noticed the most, right, So
Speaker 2: I got to notice the change in me the most. Right.
Speaker 2: It's not a big change yet, but it's a slow
Speaker 2: it's a slow change, and it's changing because of some
Speaker 2: of the things that I'm implementing into the change. Like,
Speaker 2: like I said, I dropped my son off, I listened
Speaker 2: to one of my audios. It's either Eric Thomas or
Speaker 2: Less Brown listen to that for about twenty thirty minutes
Speaker 2: just to get some positive stuff, like you know, all
Speaker 2: positive radio, no ESPN radio, none of that, you know,
Speaker 2: not eager. Wow. Yeah. Yeah. So that's what I've been
Speaker 2: doing lately. And I noticed I'm starting to notice the
Speaker 2: difference even the performance at work, right because it been
Speaker 2: a situation, something happened. Everybody like, oh god, sorry, I said, No,
Speaker 2: I don't feel sorry. I said, I did everything I
Speaker 2: could do, right, I ain't. I ain't sorry about it.
Speaker 2: It's gonna come back. And then with having that approach
Speaker 2: because that's what I used to say all the time
Speaker 2: when I was at my other job, having that approach,
Speaker 2: and what happened. It came right back, different customer, It
Speaker 2: came right back, just like that. So I was like,
Speaker 2: see it came back. Can't be mad, you can't dwell
Speaker 2: on it. It's over with, it's done. You know, did
Speaker 2: everything in your power right, helped them try, you know,
Speaker 2: made the phone calls. It's just not working. Got to
Speaker 2: move on. And that's what I did.
Speaker 1: Man. That's how different is this from the way you
Speaker 1: were recently?
Speaker 2: You know, Oh, it's a big difference. It's a big
Speaker 2: difference a couple of months ago, even a few few
Speaker 2: weeks ago. Let's start, we could go December or November
Speaker 2: like it's a it's like night and day pretty much. Yeah,
Speaker 2: it's not the same, David. I don't care what nobody
Speaker 2: else say. I know and I feel it's not the same, David.
Speaker 2: So yeah, man, I love that.
Speaker 1: Okay. So what what are you hoping you could get
Speaker 1: from me today that would help you stay on this path?
Speaker 2: You? No, I don't know, man. You know, I'm used
Speaker 2: like the last two sessions, like everything that you was
Speaker 2: bringing to the table and you know, and what we
Speaker 2: was discussing was awesome. So I'm like, I look forward
Speaker 2: to the sessions and everything. So I whatever you have
Speaker 2: up your sleeve, I think I'm ready for it.
Speaker 1: Well, all right, let me ask you, like, okay, so
Speaker 1: let me ask you this. On a scale of zero
Speaker 1: to ten, ten is you are the absolute best version
Speaker 1: of yourself and zero is the exact opposite. Where would
Speaker 1: you say you were a few weeks and months ago?
Speaker 2: Probably like a one.
Speaker 1: Okay, And where would you say you are today?
Speaker 2: Honestly, still got a lot of work to do, probably
Speaker 2: like a three? And a half almost four.
Speaker 1: Three and a half almost four. Okay, if you woke
Speaker 1: up tomorrow and instead of a three and a half
Speaker 1: almost four, you were like a four and a half
Speaker 1: almost five, how would you notice it? What would be
Speaker 1: a clue to you that it has gone up just
Speaker 1: a bit, Like you can go all the way up
Speaker 1: to ten, but it just grat it's just a little
Speaker 1: bit ticked up the scale. How would you notice it?
Speaker 2: To be honest, I think it had to be a
Speaker 2: few days in a row, right, because, like I said,
Speaker 2: I'm trying to build consistency, Like that's one of the
Speaker 2: things that I need to get back, being consistent out
Speaker 2: certain things, you know, building that discipline. So I think
Speaker 2: I need a Today is Wednesday, so I will probably
Speaker 2: need like Thursday, Friday, Saturday, and I'll be like, okay,
Speaker 2: all right, here we at? This is what okay, David? Yeah,
Speaker 2: So I think it would take more than you know,
Speaker 2: me betting off of work, going home and waking up tomorrow.
Speaker 2: I'm like, okay, I'm at a four and a half.
Speaker 2: I got to get out of my comfort zone. And
Speaker 2: that's why I'm trying to create. And that was one
Speaker 2: of the things I listened to with Les Brown. Get
Speaker 2: out your comfort zone. You gotta get out your comfort zone.
Speaker 2: That's one of the things that Jay said this before
Speaker 2: you know said this. She said, David, the reason he's
Speaker 2: still with Nicky at Ferromre is because he's comfortable there.
Speaker 2: And it's like he's comfortable. He's aweso maddic. He says
Speaker 2: that he's comfortable. Right, it's so many other things that
Speaker 2: he could be doing. He says he's comfortable with it.
Speaker 2: He could do it with his eyes closed. To sit
Speaker 2: there and ask me anything about out furniture size. I
Speaker 2: don't have to come to your house and I can
Speaker 2: ask you certain questions and I can size up your
Speaker 2: what you need in your basement or what you need
Speaker 2: in your living room or something like that. And I
Speaker 2: never saw your home. I don't need to look at pictures.
Speaker 2: I just know what questions I ask you. That's how
Speaker 2: that's that's how detail and how long I've been doing it,
Speaker 2: and I know what I'm doing and I'm comfortable with it,
Speaker 2: like talking about stuff like that. And she said, and
Speaker 2: that's one of the biggest things. And I noticed that too, Right,
Speaker 2: If I want to spend more time, more time with
Speaker 2: my boys. If I want to increase income to do
Speaker 2: other things, I got to get out of my comfort zone.
Speaker 1: So yeah, man, I have so many questions. My first
Speaker 1: question is you brought up Jake. Has she noticed the
Speaker 1: growth from like feeling like you're at a one on
Speaker 1: that scale to being another three point five maybe before.
Speaker 1: I don't know, not that it's about her totally, but
Speaker 1: I'm just curious if she's noticed and she's around.
Speaker 2: You, I don't know. Then as I really don't know,
Speaker 2: I don't know. I think it's at the point she
Speaker 2: may think it's little. I think it's a it's a
Speaker 2: bigger step for me. I think it's gonna take a
Speaker 2: little bit more for her to respond, like verbally respond
Speaker 2: on certain things. So and I'm comfortable with that. I'm
Speaker 2: cool with that, Like it's not like I don't look
Speaker 2: at that, like, oh, she's not noticing that. She didn't
Speaker 2: give me no validation though, because it's some things that
Speaker 2: I need to do that must be done, but it's
Speaker 2: certain little steps I need to take so I can
Speaker 2: get to that. And that's what I'm trying to create
Speaker 2: and trying to build so I can get to that point.
Speaker 1: Right, And what if your boys noticed.
Speaker 2: Well, they're still young, so you know, it's Daddy all
Speaker 2: the time. If my daughter was living with me, she
Speaker 2: could probably she'll probably have a better cause he's sixteen.
Speaker 2: Even if she was twelve, she probably could relate a
Speaker 2: message a little bit more though. But I just I
Speaker 2: don't know what. I don't know what is God say.
Speaker 2: I really don't Isaiah. This thing everything Dad does, Oh
Speaker 2: Dad is cool. We get in my car, I listened
Speaker 2: to music. I got the whole backseat to myself. And
Speaker 2: you know, I'm gonna brush my teeth when he brush
Speaker 2: his teeth. You know what I'm saying. I don't like Daddy.
Speaker 2: I don't like you putting Vassilina on my face. Your
Speaker 2: hand's not soft like Mommy's, like you know, little stuff
Speaker 2: like like you know, and that just cracks me up.
Speaker 2: Like I like, listen, if you can see me around
Speaker 2: my boys, man like it's like it don't matter what's
Speaker 2: going on, right, No matter what's going on, my boys
Speaker 2: bring me joy. All my kids do. As I said,
Speaker 2: My daughter lives in Florida, Like even when my mom passed, right,
Speaker 2: it was a blessing that I had my sons there, Like,
Speaker 2: especially the guy because they kids and it is being theyself.
Speaker 2: They want hundred percent organic, and it just it just
Speaker 2: helped with the process. Yeah, it really helped with the process. Yeah.
Speaker 2: And so those my guys, you know, and Isaiah loved
Speaker 2: hanging out like like I said, man, like, you know,
Speaker 2: me and him hang out at the barbershop. Like that's
Speaker 2: his thing. He's Friday. Come oh, man, me and him
Speaker 2: at the barbershop last Friday. I forgot to make my appointment.
Speaker 2: I thought I did. Picked him up from afteric. Here
Speaker 2: we there at six o'clock barber My guy, it's a
Speaker 2: very good friend of mine, he said, Dave, I don't
Speaker 2: think he may appointment. He looked at it, he said
Speaker 2: he didn't. He was like, can you come back at nine?
Speaker 2: And that's Friday. I got a five year old. I
Speaker 2: was like, nine, I could come back at ten o'clock
Speaker 2: if I have to. So I say, you know what,
Speaker 2: I said, Isaiah, you ready to go? He was like, nah, Dad,
Speaker 2: I could say. I got my tablet the music.
Speaker 1: He said, no, I don't want to go.
Speaker 2: I said, all right, I said, you're hungry. Yeah. When
Speaker 2: next door got him some food, he ate and we
Speaker 2: just hung out in the barbershop until like eight o'clock.
Speaker 2: He got in a chair and I got in the chair.
Speaker 2: He was playing cars. He high five in everybody, high
Speaker 2: five in me and didn't get in the cart Dawn.
Speaker 2: That was the best act for so much fun. So
Speaker 2: and I always I always said, I can't wait until
Speaker 2: I have boys so I could take him to the
Speaker 2: barbershop with me. Like that's just some of the things,
Speaker 2: like I can't wait till I teach him. I'm teaching
Speaker 2: them a little bit how to tie tie and stuff
Speaker 2: like that, but I couldn't wait to take them to
Speaker 2: the barbershop with Like I think that's you got a son,
Speaker 2: you need them take them to the barbershop. Which is
Speaker 2: just a difference. Mom can't do it. And I see women,
Speaker 2: you know whatever the situation is bringing their son to
Speaker 2: the barbershop. But I'd rather it be mean, like we're
Speaker 2: not missing it. Yeah, I rather it be mean. So
Speaker 2: you know that's that's me and his time, his little brother.
Speaker 2: He really can't go. That's why I try not to
Speaker 2: go home and then bring Isaiah because Zeke know now
Speaker 2: when we leave the house and he want to he
Speaker 2: want to go with the boys. I want to go
Speaker 2: with boys, how you want to go with dad? You know,
Speaker 2: because he's starting to you know, he's starting to be
Speaker 2: more aware of things. So but yeah, it's a beautiful thing.
Speaker 2: And I told him, I was like, say, he's when
Speaker 2: he comes to the barbershop, how to hang out and
Speaker 2: how to act in the barbershop. He said, yeah, Daddy,
Speaker 2: I'm gona shown. I got I'm shown. I'm like this. God,
Speaker 2: he's only five years old though, but he's a good
Speaker 2: big brother. They good together. They good together.
Speaker 1: That's amazing. And another thing you mentioned like at work, well,
Speaker 1: you mentioned a couple of things that all kind of
Speaker 1: said the same thing, Like Jay said, like David's just
Speaker 1: comfortable less Brown talking about like you gotta be uncomfortable
Speaker 1: and you could kind of do your job in your
Speaker 1: sleep if you really embrace this, like make yourself uncomfortable mentality,
Speaker 1: Where do you hope it takes you? Even professionally, Like
Speaker 1: where do you where do you hope this journey takes.
Speaker 2: You top of the mountain, top of the mountain. If
Speaker 2: I make myself uncomfortable and I transition into higher ticket sales,
Speaker 2: it's over with, like because it's it's it's too many,
Speaker 2: too many people I meet, uh customers that come into
Speaker 2: the building. Family like David, you need I it is
Speaker 2: time to throw the talent with with with furniture. It's
Speaker 2: like you got to go to a higher ticket item
Speaker 2: and you'll do very well. Like and Jay told me
Speaker 2: this multiple times. It's like she's not gonna tell me
Speaker 2: no more. She's to the point now she needs to
Speaker 2: see it and then she's gonna be like high five,
Speaker 2: I told you see see you see like not like
Speaker 2: not like I told you, but you see right yeah,
Speaker 2: And I and I think that's what it is, right,
Speaker 2: So it's it's definitely time for that change. Especially I
Speaker 2: can't want to have more time with my boys. I
Speaker 2: can't want to make more income, right, I can't want
Speaker 2: like I'm tired of doing this. And it's like a
Speaker 2: it is what it is with that if and don't
Speaker 2: make a change. So will it be a little bit uncomfortable, yes,
Speaker 2: will it hurt for a second, absolutely right, But will
Speaker 2: I get through it? One hundred and twenty percent. And
Speaker 2: I'm confident that I'm gonna get through it. So that's
Speaker 2: back going to lighting that fire. You know, fire is burning,
Speaker 2: you know, I know I got mom and sis looking
Speaker 2: over me, and they know I could do it. You
Speaker 2: know what I'm saying, It's it's time for me to
Speaker 2: do it. It's no more talking. It's just time for
Speaker 2: me to go ahead and just do it, Like you know,
Speaker 2: I gotta it. Got to a point like I'm the asset, right,
Speaker 2: So I'm the asset. I'm the one that's thriving in store.
Speaker 2: So I need to get up out of here right
Speaker 2: because it's not what I want to do no more.
Speaker 2: Once the passion is gone and you don't want to
Speaker 2: do it no more, then it's like all right it
Speaker 2: is it's like, ah whatever. When I get to that,
Speaker 2: And when I first started in this game, like it
Speaker 2: wasn't like that, Like you couldn't pull me from the store.
Speaker 2: Jaylen could call me right now and say she locked
Speaker 2: herself out the house. I'll leave to go open up
Speaker 2: the door, and I know where the spirit key is at. Yeah,
Speaker 2: it's it's like that now, Like you know what I'm saying,
Speaker 2: you couldn't pull me from the store. Like I worked
Speaker 2: New Year's Day ten year street well nine years straight. Wow,
Speaker 2: last two weeks ago last New Year's at this passed,
Speaker 2: I called out, Wow, what what is higher ticket sales.
Speaker 1: Like what what like real estate?
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I really want to get into the real
Speaker 2: estate market, Like I really want to get dealing with relatives.
Speaker 2: And I'm like, yo, he's not even sales. This is
Speaker 2: their thing with sales, right, It's the same foundation with sales.
Speaker 2: It's just a different product. Right. So that's why when
Speaker 2: I meet other salespeople or and they selling something else,
Speaker 2: I know when they missing a step, when they're not
Speaker 2: asking the right questions. Now. I don't got to know
Speaker 2: one hundred percent about this industry though, but I know
Speaker 2: the foundation the selves. Once you master that craft, it
Speaker 2: doesn't matter, right, because you got to learn the product.
Speaker 2: So if I learned the product, if it was a vehicle,
Speaker 2: if it's a home or an apartment, whatever the case
Speaker 2: may be, then I take the skill set that I'm
Speaker 2: a master and now implement it. Right. So you gotta
Speaker 2: have personality, You gotta know what you're talking about. You
Speaker 2: gotta be confident, right, you got to be punctual and
Speaker 2: things of that nature. And you can't be afraid to
Speaker 2: ask the hard questions, right, you can't be afraid. And
Speaker 2: money not gonna impress me. I don't care if you're
Speaker 2: a millionaire or whatever. I got friends, I got a
Speaker 2: lot of money, right, and I sat down with NFL owners,
Speaker 2: So I don't care. None of that is going to
Speaker 2: distract me and going into your wallet and getting your money.
Speaker 1: So if you if you keep being uncomfortable and keep
Speaker 1: progressing and start selling things like cars, apartments or homes,
Speaker 1: that's more in line with the David you want to be.
Speaker 2: Is that right? Yep? Because it's going to create a
Speaker 2: good income. It's going to free up my time, right
Speaker 2: that I can spend with my family. Okay, the one
Speaker 2: thing about the industry I'm in now, it takes a
Speaker 2: lot of time and wait for my family, right, And
Speaker 2: that's and that's and like I'm big on family. I
Speaker 2: like spending time with my family. Do I like hanging
Speaker 2: out with my friends sometimes? Yes? Though, But I like
Speaker 2: hanging out with my family too, right, And that's that's
Speaker 2: that's what's gonna happen. My boys are going to start
Speaker 2: getting a little older playing sports. I want to be
Speaker 2: at practice or at the games, right, I know how
Speaker 2: I know that feeling when your dad is not at
Speaker 2: a game, or you know, he's not really showing up
Speaker 2: to a practice or something like that. No, I want
Speaker 2: to be there, mommy shouldn't. I'm not taking nothing away
Speaker 2: from women or nothing like that. But if if the
Speaker 2: father is involved and he's in their lives and they
Speaker 2: he's with the mother, the dad d the dad needs
Speaker 2: to be doing that too, Like most of the time
Speaker 2: is the certain things I feel like the father should
Speaker 2: be doing. And for me to do that and to
Speaker 2: want that, I got to change something up and I
Speaker 2: think I do very well at it too, to be
Speaker 2: honest with you, Yeah.
Speaker 1: You know, it's funny you said you used the phrase
Speaker 1: a couple of minutes ago top of the mountain, and
Speaker 1: it dawned on me you actually went to the top
Speaker 1: of the athletic mountain, like you have been to the
Speaker 1: absolute top of a mountain before, Like that's not unusual.
Speaker 1: How do you think you're your history of getting to
Speaker 1: the top of another mountain will help you get to
Speaker 1: the top of this.
Speaker 2: Next one, because I know what it's gonna take to
Speaker 2: do that, right. It's just like, you know, back to
Speaker 2: the furniture thing, like I done been to the top
Speaker 2: of it and sells right, it's nowhere else to go
Speaker 2: just to sell more like a champion all that stuff created,
Speaker 2: increase revenue and store and things of that nature. So
Speaker 2: there's nowhere else to go unless you want to switch
Speaker 2: your position, right, And I don't want to switch my position,
Speaker 2: So I know it takes hard work, it takes discipline. Right,
Speaker 2: It's not gonna like You're not gonna the Floodgate's not
Speaker 2: gonna open up right away. And I understand that process.
Speaker 2: That doesn't discourage you, right, because I know if you
Speaker 2: keep at it and you keep working and mastering your
Speaker 2: skill set with because I still I still listen and
Speaker 2: read stuff about seals and how to close seals and
Speaker 2: figure out people and personality and human behavior things of
Speaker 2: that nature. So once you get all of that and
Speaker 2: then you put it into your own routine like I
Speaker 2: did with football, I did with cells when I was
Speaker 2: in furniture and security systems and things of that nature,
Speaker 2: is going to get you to that level. It's the same,
Speaker 2: it's a it's the same same process, different discipline, same process,
Speaker 2: different different discipline, and that's all it is. Now that
Speaker 2: just got a switch because you're going into a different industry, right,
Speaker 2: same process though, same process, and I gotta get that process. So,
Speaker 2: like you said, let's brown get uncomfortable for a little bit.
Speaker 2: And it's crazy. When I was listening to him, I
Speaker 2: felt like he was talking to me, like I just like, damn,
Speaker 2: is he sitting in the car with me? It's like,
Speaker 2: I'm like, Dad, I looked over to the side. I
Speaker 2: was like, nah, I ain't sitting there, but why are
Speaker 2: you talking to you? This felt like he was just
Speaker 2: talking to me. Like I didn't hear nothing else around me,
Speaker 2: no cars, no fire trucks, nothing. I just heard him
Speaker 2: and that was it.
Speaker 1: I was like, yeah, yeah, I love the energy of
Speaker 1: this session. We'll continue this conversation with David to learn
Speaker 1: more about the changes he is making when we come back. Okay,
Speaker 1: so back to this the scale number, how would you
Speaker 1: notice over you said it would take a couple of
Speaker 1: days of consistency. What would be some of those signs
Speaker 1: over those couple of days that would tell you I'm
Speaker 1: kind of more like a four and a half five? Now,
Speaker 1: what would you what would you.
Speaker 2: See maintaining my month, my morning routines, Uh, my energy,
Speaker 2: not physical energy, but you know, my my my aurah.
Speaker 2: And you know, I think if that stays consistent, I
Speaker 2: know you're gonna have some off days. It's the way
Speaker 2: you handle your off day, right, I think that's gonna.
Speaker 2: That's gonna. Let me know that. Okay, it's trying to
Speaker 2: raise the number up a little bit. I think that's what.
Speaker 2: That's definitely gonna let me know, right, it's not as
Speaker 2: I can't. I can't make it. I can't put a
Speaker 2: number on it tomorrow. You know, I need I need
Speaker 2: a couple more days of Okay, all right, this is
Speaker 2: what I want because you know, let's say tonight, the
Speaker 2: baby crying or whatever, and I go to sleep late,
Speaker 2: or I wake up at four in the morning and
Speaker 2: can't go back to sleep, right, usually I do that.
Speaker 2: I'm like, I don't got time to do nothing in
Speaker 2: the morning. I'm cranky and everything. Right, No, still gotta
Speaker 2: get up, Still gotta do what I need to do,
Speaker 2: do my pushups, listen to my motivational stuff. You know,
Speaker 2: it don't gotta be twenty minutes. It could be ten minutes.
Speaker 2: And just keep it going, right, That's how you know
Speaker 2: when all right, this is now, this is just happy.
Speaker 2: He's gonna keep on doing it. He's gonna keep on
Speaker 2: doing it. And it's crazy too. I don't even drink
Speaker 2: coffee as much as no more said I have, like
Speaker 2: I have about two cups of coffee in the last
Speaker 2: two weeks and don't even need it. Going to bed early, right,
Speaker 2: I started going to bed a little earlier now instead
Speaker 2: of staying up till two three in the morning, I'm
Speaker 2: in bed probably like eleven. The other night I stayed
Speaker 2: up a little late because I was working, right, But
Speaker 2: other than that, I'm in bed about eleven, ten o'clock,
Speaker 2: ten thirty. Wake up in the morning. No coffee, like
Speaker 2: I probably had, like yeah, maybe maybe three cups in
Speaker 2: two weeks. Is that on? Oh? I was a that's
Speaker 2: definitely unusual. Used to be. I wake up, drink my
Speaker 2: bottle of water. If Jay's up before me, and I'll
Speaker 2: smell of coffee. I'm like, yo, she ain't make no
Speaker 2: coffee yet. I'm downstairs at coffee on Yeah, maybe a
Speaker 2: cup and a half. I'm taking my Tumblr with me
Speaker 2: to work with a thing full of coffee, straight black.
Speaker 2: Right to the point now, I was like, like, no, not,
Speaker 2: I haven't had I definitely I didn't have none today, Yesterday, Monday,
Speaker 2: Sunday definitely had nothing. Saturday, I think I had my
Speaker 2: last cup of coffee probably was like Friday, I think
Speaker 2: I had a cup Friday, No, I had a cup.
Speaker 1: No, But how do you explain that that is such
Speaker 1: a drastic shift? How do you explain that?
Speaker 2: I don't know, man, I think I was dependent on
Speaker 2: it because I was feeling sluggish, right, and then it
Speaker 2: just started. You know what, you want to stop feeling sluggish,
Speaker 2: Go to bed a little earlier, right, do your pushups? Right?
Speaker 2: When you work out, you create more oxygen in your blood, right,
Speaker 2: more oxygen in your body, more energy you have. Right,
Speaker 2: So I know the science on that. So I was like, well,
Speaker 2: if I stopped doing this and that, then maybe I
Speaker 2: don't need a coffee in the morning. Right. And then
Speaker 2: you know, like, I'm like, I like I read it.
Speaker 2: I do a lot of stuff on health. It's not
Speaker 2: the best choice of an energy boost, right, but it's
Speaker 2: a good It's not a super bad choice though. But
Speaker 2: I was like, nah, I don't even need it, like,
Speaker 2: for real, don't even need it. Don't even need it.
Speaker 1: That's crazy. Mmm, that is crazy. As do you continue
Speaker 1: to shift in this way? What do you hope? What
Speaker 1: do you hope this does to your relationship with Jay?
Speaker 2: I hope and I pray that it just brings us
Speaker 2: closer and help us to communicate with each other more,
Speaker 2: love on each other, more open up our hearts more
Speaker 2: to each other. Like I really, really really think I
Speaker 2: really want that to happen. And I think by this,
Speaker 2: by me doing this, because one thing she told me
Speaker 2: this before, she said, you have all the tubes, right,
Speaker 2: you have everything that you can get whatever you want.
Speaker 2: You just got to go for it and do it.
Speaker 2: And I think by me doing this, it's going to
Speaker 2: keep that consistent smile on her face and it's going
Speaker 2: to help me concentrate more on her too, Right. But
Speaker 2: I gotta get myself right. I gotta get myself right,
Speaker 2: you know. And it's going to take some sacrifice and
Speaker 2: some discipline for me to do that. And then it's gonna,
Speaker 2: I know, it has to like it got to work,
Speaker 2: like it has the work as the work as the work.
Speaker 1: You've said a few things about Jay that make me think,
Speaker 1: and I just want to make sure I caught this right.
Speaker 1: Some of this stuff she's been asking you to do
Speaker 1: for a really long time.
Speaker 2: Yeah, absolutely, I would bet you.
Speaker 1: Knowing what I know about you know, relationships and people
Speaker 1: and how we operate, she might be noticing some of
Speaker 1: these things. But she might be thinking, you know, it's
Speaker 1: about time, what took you so long? Or you know,
Speaker 1: too little, too late, or all of those things. What
Speaker 1: do you imagine she needs to notice that would help
Speaker 1: her realize like, oh, this is real, Like this is
Speaker 1: this is actually happening. He's not just doing this, He's
Speaker 1: this is real.
Speaker 2: I think the biggest change when she knows for real,
Speaker 2: for real is when I walk away from home. Wow, okay,
Speaker 2: I think when I think when I do that, she's
Speaker 2: gonna be like and got a plan, like already got
Speaker 2: something in play, because that's one thing I do. I'm
Speaker 2: not gonna quit a job and don't have nothing else
Speaker 2: for a backup. Like that's just not I don't think
Speaker 2: that's a good decision, especially when you got people that's
Speaker 2: depending on you, right, you know what I'm saying. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 2: now I'm sick. I'm sitting on a couple million dollars
Speaker 2: and I do that, then that's a whole different ball
Speaker 2: game though. But I won't do nothing like that as
Speaker 2: a man. I won't do that. Right. But if I
Speaker 2: walk in the house and I tell him, like, yo,
Speaker 2: today was my last day. Yeah, right, I'm serious, call
Speaker 2: them accent right for real? What made you? Oh? Them
Speaker 2: sessions really helping?
Speaker 1: How shocked would she be for you to say, like,
Speaker 1: I'm walking away from making and I'm selling a higher.
Speaker 1: I'm selling houses, cars, apartments, one of those higher to.
Speaker 2: Listen. When when I was with Neil Shot and I
Speaker 2: parted ways with them, well they let me go, right.
Speaker 2: I thought I was gonna come home and she was
Speaker 2: gonna rip me a new one. I came home, man,
Speaker 2: and this one I was still eating me. She was
Speaker 2: asking me, what do you want for dinner? I said,
Speaker 2: what I want for dinner? I said, baby, they just
Speaker 2: let me go. She said, I know it wasn't your fault, right,
Speaker 2: They didn't want you there, David, I don't want you
Speaker 2: there no more? Right, So what you I was like, Okay, well,
Speaker 2: I want you to make that good old meatloaf that
Speaker 2: you make with the spendings and empetic cheese and all that. She'said,
Speaker 2: that's what you want? I said, absolutely, I'm simple, that's
Speaker 2: I love that ditch. When I ate, I loved that,
Speaker 2: and like she like it wasn't she was because my
Speaker 2: friends he man, they was like yo, Jay's man. I
Speaker 2: was like ah, bro, she wasn't even mad, Like she
Speaker 2: know I like tequila. She had me some some tequila
Speaker 2: waiting for me at the house, and I was like,
Speaker 2: she ain't even mad, bro, It was like for real.
Speaker 2: I was like nope. And I told I'm gonna take
Speaker 2: the summer off because she was pregnant. I say, I'm
Speaker 2: gonna take the summer off. I'll start looking for something
Speaker 2: in September, turn down a job, offering everything because I
Speaker 2: ain't want to work that far because she was pregnant
Speaker 2: and it was a high risk pregnancy and we enjoyed
Speaker 2: our summer and everything. Yeah, I was shot. So for
Speaker 2: me to walk away from right now on my terms,
Speaker 2: walk away on my terms and and have a plan
Speaker 2: in play, oh yeah, she gonna Yeah, it's gonna be
Speaker 2: a double high five hug probably, or she might because
Speaker 2: I know I know her, she might try to hold
Speaker 2: back a little bit. She'd be like, okay, all right,
Speaker 2: all right, you no good job, fizz bump high five,
Speaker 2: you know right now, let's see now, let's let's just
Speaker 2: keep this train rolling. But I think it'll definitely bring
Speaker 2: some joy inside with her, right I think she'll probably
Speaker 2: step on the porch or whatever, and probably like yeah,
Speaker 2: you know, or when she pray at night, she'll probably
Speaker 2: say something like thank you for let opening up dated
Speaker 2: eyes or giving them the courage and you know, for
Speaker 2: him to walk away, because like things of that nature.
Speaker 2: I think that's what she'll say. And it's about that,
Speaker 2: it's not it's happening, Yeah, it's happening.
Speaker 1: I think the phrase you use was happy inside. What
Speaker 1: difference would it make for you to be making her
Speaker 1: happy inside?
Speaker 2: It would make a big difference, because you know, it
Speaker 2: was just one thing, and I said, is before one
Speaker 2: thing that you know makes like that? I feel good.
Speaker 2: It makes me happy and smile and seeing a smile
Speaker 2: on my lady's face and my kids' faces, that's the
Speaker 2: best joy. Like that joy right there. It's just like
Speaker 2: as hon as you know, it's no it's priceless. And
Speaker 2: I think and I needed them smiles. I need to
Speaker 2: put those back on her face, you know, I need.
Speaker 2: I need to put those on her face, and some
Speaker 2: of my chace and moving forward with life is gonna
Speaker 2: definitely do that, because then everything else is gonna start
Speaker 2: falling into place like it should be like it used
Speaker 2: to be.
Speaker 1: Right right, And how cool would it be for you
Speaker 1: to have like a couple million dollars in the bank
Speaker 1: and your your lady kids happy, Like if you continue
Speaker 1: on this path at some point in the future, like
Speaker 1: your bank account is full, Like what how cool would
Speaker 1: that be?
Speaker 2: That'd be real cool. It'd be awesome. It'd be real awesome, right,
Speaker 2: Probably not a couple of million dough but I have
Speaker 2: some big money in the bank, And it's a different
Speaker 2: type of feeling. But having it, having it and don't
Speaker 2: having really like your significant other to share it with
Speaker 2: it is a little is different. Having somebody you can
Speaker 2: share it with and with your kids and stuff like that.
Speaker 2: That's a ravery good thing. That's a good thing.
Speaker 1: How do you know that?
Speaker 2: Because it's like even like you know, like even now
Speaker 2: like with the little the little right, my sons and
Speaker 2: daughter com their life up to this age, even my
Speaker 2: daughter has sixteen is night and day compared to minds
Speaker 2: in Jaylub to their age, right, And it's just the
Speaker 2: sacrifices that us as parents that we made, and you know,
Speaker 2: the things that we do to provide for them to
Speaker 2: give them a little bit better life to do things
Speaker 2: like that. Now that's definitely gonna happen. I'm not one
Speaker 2: of them guys that just because I got a few
Speaker 2: dollars that I needed to have the most expensive stuff
Speaker 2: on and things are like, not, that's not me, that's
Speaker 2: not me. Right So but this changing changing my income
Speaker 2: or and my savings is just going to open up
Speaker 2: their eyes to different things that's out there in the world.
Speaker 2: Like my sons is like Zeke ain't even two yet,
Speaker 2: in Isaiah is five. They don'et been on more airplanes
Speaker 2: than I did. Like I didn't get out my first
Speaker 2: airplane until I went to a college visit and I
Speaker 2: was seventeen. My daughter and them been on shee took
Speaker 2: multiple flights and she's only sixteen, right, So just that
Speaker 2: little little stuff like that, little vacations going to different states,
Speaker 2: the furtheres I've been until I was until I went
Speaker 2: out my college visit was d C. Fursther As. I've
Speaker 2: been from Jersey to DC. Never been to Connectic kut
Speaker 2: no three hours, yeah, three hours, yeah, never been to
Speaker 2: Never been to Georgia until I became a young man,
Speaker 2: like twenty twenty one, twenty two. Never been to Florida.
Speaker 2: My family wasn't in one of the feelings that everybody's
Speaker 2: gone down south for the summer, because a lot of
Speaker 2: my family was up in Jersey. So we did a
Speaker 2: lot of stuff up here, right but yeah, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 2: like nope, mm hm. So that's big right now, little
Speaker 2: things right now, the little stuff we introduced my son
Speaker 2: to right now, you know, the neighborhood we live in
Speaker 2: right now, Like I grew up in the hood, like
Speaker 2: literally the hood. Like you can't walk down my block.
Speaker 2: You after a certain time of the night, if you
Speaker 2: ain't from the area, you're not walking down my block,
Speaker 2: right you're not gonna walk down there. And that's now.
Speaker 2: Right back then you probably could a little bit, But
Speaker 2: I grew up in the hood, like my son don't
Speaker 2: know about that. Our job is for our kids to
Speaker 2: grow up better than us, right, that's our job. I'm
Speaker 2: not mad at my mother and father. My mother raised
Speaker 2: four kids by itself. She did what she needed to do.
Speaker 2: She put food on the table, close on our back
Speaker 2: and the roof of our head, and she did what
Speaker 2: she needed to do, right. She got up and worked
Speaker 2: doubles and triples so she can provide for us. And
Speaker 2: that's all right. So that was my turn for my children,
Speaker 2: right I don't gotta work doubles and all that stuff.
Speaker 2: I still work long hours, though, but I'm not working
Speaker 2: from nine o'clock in the morning two three to seven
Speaker 2: o'clock the next morning. I'm not doing that. My mother
Speaker 2: used to do that, Like I won't see my mother.
Speaker 2: My sister's at home, but I'm not doing that.
Speaker 1: How satisfying does that feel to know that, even though
Speaker 1: when you haven't been feeling like the best version of you,
Speaker 1: you still are providing a life for your children that
Speaker 1: is very different than the life you had grown up.
Speaker 2: It feels good, it feels it's definitely feels good, and
Speaker 2: I know it's going to get better. But it's a
Speaker 2: like okay, and I'm not content with it. I think
Speaker 2: at some point in time I got like, all right,
Speaker 2: that's it. No, mm hmm. I want to do better.
Speaker 2: I gotta do better. I want them to have better, right.
Speaker 2: I want them to see certain things. I want them
Speaker 2: to go to certain places for them to get there
Speaker 2: and do that. I gotta change certain things, right, I
Speaker 2: think by that, And now that I know and I
Speaker 2: want that, I got it. Like I said, I gotta
Speaker 2: get uncomfortable for a little bit while they're still young,
Speaker 2: so that way, when they start getting older, you know,
Speaker 2: they'll know and they having these conversations with their peers, right,
Speaker 2: and they see it. You know, they're like, oh, well,
Speaker 2: my dad is home. Your dad is home. Yeah, but
Speaker 2: my dad works at home, and you know, exposing them
Speaker 2: to certain things, that's what that's the thing, exposure, right,
Speaker 2: we gotta I feel like as black men, we gotta
Speaker 2: black men, women and families, we got to expose our
Speaker 2: kids to certain things outside of the norm. And there's
Speaker 2: nothing wrong with that. I think we I think we
Speaker 2: feel like that. It's something. Oh it's uh, why just know.
Speaker 2: Do I want to live in a predominantly Caucasian white neighborhood. No,
Speaker 2: I do not. But I don't want to live in
Speaker 2: the hood. Don't either. I don't want to worry about
Speaker 2: my car getting broken into or I gotta watch them.
Speaker 2: I mean I watch them on my back no matter
Speaker 2: what and where I'm at, But I don't need to.
Speaker 2: I don't want that. Right, my son, I want to
Speaker 2: be to play in his backyard in front of the
Speaker 2: house and don't got to worry about gunshots and things
Speaker 2: of that nature. Like, yes, absolutely, I want him to
Speaker 2: go to a good school me and Jay when are
Speaker 2: big on not having them in a predominantly Courtcasian white school.
Speaker 2: That's it's just us, right when I tell that to people, right,
Speaker 2: I say, that's just the way we operate. That's what
Speaker 2: we want. We don't want that, you know, But we
Speaker 2: definitely don't want to live on Grandad in Pattison either. No, no, yeah, no,
Speaker 2: I don't want to do that. So it's gonna take
Speaker 2: some sacrifice into for him to not have to worry
Speaker 2: about that. And there's nothing wrong, it doesn't change, it
Speaker 2: doesn't make you less of a man or none of that.
Speaker 2: And I told that to I said this in college
Speaker 2: one time, said this, right. I was like, it was
Speaker 2: one of my communication classes, and we're doing we're saying something.
Speaker 2: I was like, see, dude, some of y'all that's from
Speaker 2: the suburbs and the picket fence and all that. Y'all
Speaker 2: want to be down and come down to the hood
Speaker 2: and stuff like that, like digging, that's what it is.
Speaker 2: Were trying to get up out of here. I said, Listen,
Speaker 2: I'd have loved to grow up in the picket with
Speaker 2: the fence in the backyard and the finished basement and
Speaker 2: all that. Stuff all the love, but I unfortunately it
Speaker 2: did and I'm sitting right here next to you and
Speaker 2: you did. So what now, Hey, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1: We're about out of time, but I just want to
Speaker 1: ask you to do one quick thing. What's that As
Speaker 1: you keep moving up that scale that we were talking
Speaker 1: about earlier, and you start noticing that you're more like
Speaker 1: a four and a half maybe five instead of three
Speaker 1: and a half maybe four, I want you to notice
Speaker 1: how people around you respond. That includes Jane, that includes
Speaker 1: people at work, and it even includes your kids. Like
Speaker 1: if you watch them really closely, you're gonna notice little
Speaker 1: changes in them. And here's the example. Here's an example.
Speaker 1: If I were watching you really closely, a really small
Speaker 1: change is actually evidence of a really big change. And
Speaker 1: a small change you did that I'd have to be
Speaker 1: watching you really closely to catch. Would be you are
Speaker 1: no longer drinking coffee every morning. That seems like a
Speaker 1: tiny thing, but that means you're going to bed earlier.
Speaker 1: That means you're getting rest. It means you're waking up
Speaker 1: with excitement. That means you're getting your energy from less
Speaker 1: brown as opposed to black coffee. Like that one little
Speaker 1: thing is a sign of a larger shift. And I
Speaker 1: want you to pay really close attention to the loved
Speaker 1: ones around you, because they are probably doing little things
Speaker 1: that are evident that they're noticing something's different with David,
Speaker 1: something different with Dad, and I want you to I
Speaker 1: want you to pay really close attention to them to notice.
Speaker 2: Okay, that sound cool, yep, sound like a play.
Speaker 1: Excellent, man, Well, good luck bro, it is. It is
Speaker 1: amazing to hear what you're doing. And I'm super excited
Speaker 1: I get to watch it.
Speaker 2: All right, man, Thank you man, I appreciate it.
Speaker 1: Very welcome.
Speaker 2: Bro. All right.
Speaker 1: Next, you know, for David and people like David, if
Speaker 1: you find yourself in a situation where you're stuck, you're
Speaker 1: dealing with the same problem over and over again, you're
Speaker 1: tired of being who you are and you want to
Speaker 1: become who you were meant to be, then I think
Speaker 1: it's time to seek how to psychotherapists. Like we think
Speaker 1: that psychotherapy is about like I've got a problem and
Speaker 1: they need to talk to it therapists to solve that problem.
Speaker 1: But that's actually not true. Psychotherapy is more about healing
Speaker 1: than it is problems. Psychotherapy is more about patterns than
Speaker 1: it is problems. So if you find yourself in a
Speaker 1: pattern that is leading you in a direction that you
Speaker 1: don't want to go in, and you want to develop
Speaker 1: a new pattern in your life that will help you
Speaker 1: evolve and grow in a direction that you do want
Speaker 1: to go in, then go find a psychotherapist and hold
Speaker 1: that therapist accountable to do the kind of work that
Speaker 1: leads to you healing. And if they don't, find another psychotherapist,
Speaker 1: and another psychotherapist and another psychotherapist until you find the
Speaker 1: right one that's going to help you create the life
Speaker 1: that you desire and in fact deserve. The difference between
Speaker 1: motivation and discipline is motivation is not consistent. Motivation is
Speaker 1: an emotion, Like when I go to the dentist and
Speaker 1: the dentist tells me you got cavities, and I've actually
Speaker 1: never had a cavity in my whole life. But you know,
Speaker 1: you go to the dentists and the dentist tells you
Speaker 1: you got cavities and teeth problems and you need to
Speaker 1: start flossing, and you know, doing these things for dental care,
Speaker 1: you're super motivated because you don't want the pain of
Speaker 1: a deep cleaning in the dentist again, but a week later, like,
Speaker 1: you're not really interested in flossing because that motivation, that
Speaker 1: the pain that's associated with that motivation has waned. But
Speaker 1: discipline is the act of being consistent with a behavior
Speaker 1: simply because it is good for you or in line
Speaker 1: with a goal. Many people will tell you that discipline
Speaker 1: is actually more important than motivation because discipline means I
Speaker 1: do it whether I'm motivated or not. I watched an
Speaker 1: interview with a with a swimmer named Michael Phelps who
Speaker 1: said for seven years he was in a pool every day.
Speaker 1: Now you can't believe that he wanted to be in
Speaker 1: the pool every single day, but he was dis like,
Speaker 1: this is the action I've decided to take because it's
Speaker 1: going to get me where I want to go, which
Speaker 1: in his case was to become an Olympic gold metal swimmer.
Speaker 1: Discipline is more important than motivation because discipline means I
Speaker 1: do it regardless of my mood. That's the difference. And
Speaker 1: it's important that you make sacrifices in order to create change,
Speaker 1: because all change requires sacrifice. In order to become who
Speaker 1: I'm desirous of becoming, I have to give.
Speaker 3: Up who I am. That's the sacrifice.
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