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Speaker 1: Hey, everybody, welcome to another episode of Horrible Decisions. My

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Speaker 1: name is Wheezy, this girl Mandy, and we have a

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Speaker 1: guest in the studio whose name I'm going to get

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Speaker 1: right because it is this is so much pressure, that's

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Speaker 1: so easy. Michelle mich Shelley is in the studio today.

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Speaker 1: Because I was a little inspired to have all of us,

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Speaker 1: not just men, but women as well, have a lot

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Speaker 1: more respect for mama's I tweeted that I was on

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Speaker 1: Bleaker Street going up the subway steps and this girl

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Speaker 1: was carrying her baby up the stairs, and when I

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Speaker 1: offered to help her, she said, I got it. Cist,

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Speaker 1: these men can watch me do it by myself. She

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Speaker 1: was really piste off because it was a long way up.

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Speaker 1: And for those of you that live in New Yorker

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Speaker 1: have seen in the news there was a woman who

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Speaker 1: died recently midtown after like a stroller fell on top

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Speaker 1: of her. She was carrying her child. Child lived she didn't.

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Speaker 1: So I want us to all finished this hour up

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Speaker 1: with a lot more respect for women helping out moms

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Speaker 1: in the street with strollers. Whatever we got to do,

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Speaker 1: our sisters, our moms are girlfriends, baby mamas, all of them.

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Speaker 1: So let's get it started. How much blood comes out

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Speaker 1: a lot? Okay, I was just kidding. Actually, let's start

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Speaker 1: with Okay, we don't want to start with the book.

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Speaker 1: We're gonna start slow. You don't want the nasty stuff yet, Okay,

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Speaker 1: we take it easy. Listen, this is how we all

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Speaker 1: got here. Technically, we need this episode, you know what

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Speaker 1: I'm saying. Um, let's start with kink of the week though. Alright,

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Speaker 1: so guys, we're going to start with our kink of

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Speaker 1: the week. As you know, every week we bring you

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Speaker 1: guys a kink. Lets you know the paraphilia and the

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Speaker 1: kind of medical term of that. Um and so this

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Speaker 1: week it is Zoomi tophilia or pophilia. I don't know,

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Speaker 1: so Zoomi tophilia. It is another more modern fetish incarnation.

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Speaker 1: I really was gonna say that different what I was

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Speaker 1: gonna say, zoo my pophilia. Oh I did say that

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Speaker 1: is probably not all right? Probably is zu Mitho. You're right,

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Speaker 1: that's real elementary Zumi sophelia. Okay, it you says my thought. Okay,

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Speaker 1: Lactually it was real childish zoom me you right, Okay,

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Speaker 1: bitch zu Mitho. There we go, I like zametho. Zamitho. Okay, bitch,

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Speaker 1: it ain't zoom me. You're right. Another more modern fetish incarnation, zamitophobia,

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Speaker 1: describes the act of being turned on by the thoughts

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Speaker 1: of having sex with mythical creatures and animals. These would

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Speaker 1: be such as trolls, werewolves, dragons, and merman or mermaids

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Speaker 1: um and no mythical creature stays sacred stinks. See why

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Speaker 1: you gotta words? I don't know what that word is.

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Speaker 1: I totally get the dragon thing because after watching Game

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Speaker 1: of Thrones, you want to wait, what is it? You

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Speaker 1: want to dragons? They're like lizards. You got iguanas with

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Speaker 1: in Florida. Bitch, I mean, I don't want to think

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Speaker 1: about some alligators. I'm just saying that. Getting that's kind

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Speaker 1: of bestality, bro, I say all mythical creatures. She goes

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Speaker 1: d dragging my ship. I went straight to Twilight Ben

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Speaker 1: with the goddamn where wolf like before where we wait

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Speaker 1: down saying dogs? So now where wolds? What would I

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Speaker 1: what mythical creature? I want to suck? So you know what?

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Speaker 1: And I don't know if this is bestality too, though,

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Speaker 1: like the half man half horse, because that did go

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Speaker 1: be big? What's it called mega mega metatur? Cent centaur?

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Speaker 1: Are you listening to this right now? And you know

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Speaker 1: what it is screaming into your headphone? It's a metal,

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Speaker 1: it's a metatur. Well that's what I wanted here when

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Speaker 1: we had white people, when anyone's here that Niger had notes,

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Speaker 1: he had it right, Yeah, we're gonna look, don't be

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Speaker 1: every time. I'm not that serious. She was right, she said, Centaur.

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Speaker 1: So I feel like if but so the problem is

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Speaker 1: I've never seen a black man, so would have to

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Speaker 1: got dress on Google? He got dressed. Oh yeah, I'll

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Speaker 1: fuck him. Hold on, look, why are you looking up?

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Speaker 1: Don't look up? Black horse? Maybe African American centaur? Oh

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Speaker 1: wait wait wait, don't not that one front. That's not

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Speaker 1: a good image. Okay, so the second wait wait, wait,

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Speaker 1: what mythical creature? Let's let's get off the animals. What

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Speaker 1: other mythical creature? Would you like? A wizard? Oh, I

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Speaker 1: I'll fun will Smith. That don't count. That's like a genie. Okay,

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Speaker 1: genie is a mythical create What about you? I for money,

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Speaker 1: I'd be like, let me get. Why do you think

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Speaker 1: gott to be for money? Just say you want because

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Speaker 1: I'm saying one of my wishes gonna be money. It's

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Speaker 1: something like, if you get a wish, you ain't gotta

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Speaker 1: sucking for the money. You just wish sucking for one more?

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Speaker 1: You get three? Right, you get three wishes. Let me

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Speaker 1: see what about a troll? Nah? A ugly trolls are

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Speaker 1: like midgets? Yeah, my bad. I know you'd be coming

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Speaker 1: for me. But they called me midgets all they called

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Speaker 1: me a midget. Oh yeah, I ain't fucking I'm good.

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Speaker 1: There's a hilarious joke that I think. It's um. John

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Speaker 1: Laney tells He's like, when I was doing TV, I

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Speaker 1: had this bit or someone said about midget and they

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Speaker 1: were like, you can't say that. It's like saying the

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Speaker 1: N word. And he's like, you know how I know

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Speaker 1: it's not the N word because you just said midget. Fat.

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Speaker 1: I mean that facts. I'm trying to really trying wanted

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Speaker 1: me to see nine. That's bad. But how much money

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Speaker 1: were you looking for? Why we always gotta break up

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Speaker 1: the money so how so how much money? How much

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Speaker 1: money would I need to sucking? Midget? Basically, ugly face.

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Speaker 1: That's what a little birth to? What ugly face? So

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Speaker 1: ugly midget? How much money? How much money would you do?

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Speaker 1: Like the head? Wait, the hat regular side. I was

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Speaker 1: a little person. Just if they're attractive for cheap. No,

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Speaker 1: but they have to look like a troll. No, that's

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Speaker 1: what I'm saying. They have to look like a troll.

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Speaker 1: We're talking about mythical creatures. But I don't know. I mean,

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Speaker 1: it's not like I'm doing something crazy. How much money

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Speaker 1: you said you would get shipped on for what? Twenty bands?

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Speaker 1: Ten bands? You went down? Say that? I said that

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Speaker 1: it was a hard ship. I didn't say twenty. I

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Speaker 1: said fifty. Okay, So how much you sucking a troll for?

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Speaker 1: I want to say higher now, because I mean, if

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Speaker 1: y'all know why we get wait, I just wanted prefaces

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Speaker 1: by saying if you never heard the ship episode, I

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Speaker 1: started at like a quarter mill. But did I work

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Speaker 1: my way down? I don't know. I'm going like seventy five.

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Speaker 1: You were lying like, hell, bit that image we're looking

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Speaker 1: at right now, that i'd have to do that bron out. Okay,

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Speaker 1: I can dig it. I can dig their faces a right?

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Speaker 1: What is another method. Hold on, where was on? There

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Speaker 1: were wolves, dragons, a mermaid? Real quick, that might be

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Speaker 1: hot done. That's like Ariel. Yeah he's gonna it's like

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Speaker 1: Ariel Mermaid. Oh yeah, he's fine. We ain't got no dick.

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Speaker 1: How you gonna eat? That's exactly what y'all doing. You know,

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Speaker 1: it's real gross. It would be like if you put

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Speaker 1: a goldfish to play with your pussy your clip. Nah,

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Speaker 1: that's the black Mermaid. Wait on, y'all, if you're a patron,

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Speaker 1: we're gonna definitely ask y'all with which mythical creatures you

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Speaker 1: want to, but we're gonna put some pictures up of um,

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Speaker 1: these black mermaids. So when Jeeves and I were first dating,

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Speaker 1: sent me he had like a tumbler thing of like, um,

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Speaker 1: not anime, but it was more so like fawns and

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Speaker 1: like they had pointy ears and ship and he has

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Speaker 1: a mythical creature. Yeah. He was like, you think this

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Speaker 1: I'm not gonna I used to like, um, what was

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Speaker 1: I'd rather fun him than the troll. Oh yeah, oh yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 1: Definitely scissoring situation. I mean, honestly, it's like paraplegic, like

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Speaker 1: dudes they can't feel their dick. Remember we were talking

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Speaker 1: and like, I mean, we could have figure out a

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Speaker 1: way to it. He definitely fingering you with them Finns.

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Speaker 1: it's slapping. That's true. So I do want to say,

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Speaker 1: if you guys have not checked us out, we were again.

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Speaker 1: We mentioned this before on the cover of Salty If

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Speaker 1: you guys have not, go to at Salty dot World

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Speaker 1: on Instagram, click the link on their bio and subscribe

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Speaker 1: to read our interview with them, and then just a

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Speaker 1: ton of stories really dope yesterday or maybe this morning

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Speaker 1: and said how to talk straight June into pegging, not

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Speaker 1: saying that you have to. But what I did was

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Speaker 1: and they had a motherhood section. Um so I got.

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Speaker 1: And I want to ask, because Michelle has kids, oh

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Speaker 1: you have you do have kids now and she's pregnant away,

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Speaker 1: why you should buy a sex toy for your teen? Okay?

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Speaker 1: What if we taught our children from the beginning to

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Speaker 1: not seek out relief of these sexual desires and other people,

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Speaker 1: but teach them something that they can relieve themselves. Studies

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Speaker 1: have shown the kids that are educated about masturbation and

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Speaker 1: are funk. Man. I didn't want to mess it up.

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Speaker 1: You already did. It's the fresh it's the fucking what

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Speaker 1: It's like tens of thousands of people are going to

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Speaker 1: like when I'm just like improvin, I just said ZOOMI yeah,

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Speaker 1: some random It's just because I don't know. I don't

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Speaker 1: want to, Okay. So it's funny that you brought this

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Speaker 1: article up though, because if you guys came to our

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Speaker 1: teens and if parents should punish their children if they

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Speaker 1: C was a woman wanting to teach masturbation for ages

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Speaker 1: eight to thirteen, and then our audience to the audience

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Speaker 1: they wouldn't pun I think all of them said they

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Speaker 1: wouldn't punish. But the headline for this ship is like

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Speaker 1: normalizing sexuality in subtle ways. Picking a toy for them

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Speaker 1: can be awkward, but they're basically saying, you pick it

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Speaker 1: and keep the conversation going. And they're saying like, instead

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Speaker 1: to exploit this. I shared a story about a friend

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Speaker 1: on your doula apps is my page? No, you don't swep,

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Speaker 1: It sounds like some Africa. What is actually Greek? It

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Speaker 1: I've just read a ton of books. I ain't got

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Speaker 1: not like that. So I have to sit with them

419
00:23:14,800 --> 00:23:19,359
Speaker 1: and then I have to explain I just I was like,

420
00:23:22,920 --> 00:23:27,600
Speaker 1: you wanted to look good often like how I guess

421
00:23:27,600 --> 00:23:30,399
Speaker 1: more so more aside from what do they pay you?

422
00:23:30,800 --> 00:23:33,080
Speaker 1: How do they pay you? Because if they're texting you

423
00:23:33,119 --> 00:23:35,560
Speaker 1: all the time, like obviously you're not charged. Basically, the

424
00:23:35,600 --> 00:23:38,439
Speaker 1: way it works is like most women hire a duela

425
00:23:38,520 --> 00:23:42,000
Speaker 1: around like their third trimester, around like thirty three weeks.

426
00:23:42,000 --> 00:23:46,159
Speaker 1: Thank you. From there on, it's like okay, so we

427
00:23:46,280 --> 00:23:49,280
Speaker 1: decide you're gonna be Um, I'm gonna be your Duela.

428
00:23:49,400 --> 00:23:52,600
Speaker 1: Were a match perfect great. So from that moment that

429
00:23:52,680 --> 00:23:55,320
Speaker 1: they have the initial interview and they're like, okay, I

430
00:23:55,320 --> 00:23:57,480
Speaker 1: love you whatever, what have you? I give him about

431
00:23:57,480 --> 00:24:00,359
Speaker 1: like seven seven to ten days to just i'd if

432
00:24:00,359 --> 00:24:03,240
Speaker 1: they want to sign my contract. And then that's when

433
00:24:03,240 --> 00:24:05,879
Speaker 1: I received my first payment, which is a partial payment

434
00:24:05,920 --> 00:24:10,560
Speaker 1: I only receive and then once it comes down to

435
00:24:10,720 --> 00:24:14,520
Speaker 1: thirty eight weeks, I'm sorry, not weeks. Thirty six weeks,

436
00:24:15,040 --> 00:24:17,959
Speaker 1: I received my final payment. So can I ask you

437
00:24:18,680 --> 00:24:21,280
Speaker 1: because when you have you have a do date and

438
00:24:21,280 --> 00:24:23,280
Speaker 1: then you can come any time before that do day

439
00:24:23,320 --> 00:24:26,560
Speaker 1: anytime after. At that point, are you also on call?

440
00:24:27,200 --> 00:24:32,199
Speaker 1: Yes whenever. That's the reason why because like in our area,

441
00:24:32,600 --> 00:24:35,560
Speaker 1: like in East Coast and like you know, New York City,

442
00:24:35,560 --> 00:24:38,920
Speaker 1: New Jersey, we charged pretty high compared to like Oklahoma,

443
00:24:39,640 --> 00:24:46,840
Speaker 1: Oklahoma charged but for like in our area anywhere, it

444
00:24:46,880 --> 00:24:51,639
Speaker 1: can range from anywhere from seven fifty to like okay,

445
00:24:51,680 --> 00:24:56,280
Speaker 1: it just the more for the more money you make. Yeah,

446
00:24:56,720 --> 00:24:58,840
Speaker 1: it's just the more you know, the more money. What

447
00:24:58,920 --> 00:25:00,440
Speaker 1: do I want to do it for? Do I want

448
00:25:00,440 --> 00:25:02,280
Speaker 1: to do? Little? Coach me? Through pushing the baby out,

449
00:25:02,359 --> 00:25:03,760
Speaker 1: or do I want to do it to be there

450
00:25:03,880 --> 00:25:06,600
Speaker 1: after I have a baby? When do I I feel

451
00:25:06,600 --> 00:25:09,680
Speaker 1: like the most important time. If you're like a first

452
00:25:09,680 --> 00:25:12,920
Speaker 1: time mom, I would say the duela from the beginning,

453
00:25:13,359 --> 00:25:16,080
Speaker 1: like you know, thirty three weeks. And of course if

454
00:25:16,119 --> 00:25:18,240
Speaker 1: you want to dula, then that means that you're most

455
00:25:18,280 --> 00:25:22,000
Speaker 1: likely you're very informed already on like what you plan

456
00:25:22,080 --> 00:25:24,840
Speaker 1: on doing for your birth, so you just want somebody

457
00:25:24,840 --> 00:25:28,560
Speaker 1: for like real assurance. So there's some women that are like,

458
00:25:28,800 --> 00:25:31,119
Speaker 1: they come to this country, let's say, and they have

459
00:25:31,280 --> 00:25:35,600
Speaker 1: no family here, so they're just like That's where that's

460
00:25:35,600 --> 00:25:37,520
Speaker 1: where my question was coming from, because I wanted to

461
00:25:37,560 --> 00:25:41,800
Speaker 1: know what you offer that say a family member or

462
00:25:41,840 --> 00:25:44,120
Speaker 1: a husband or the baby daddy or a friend would

463
00:25:44,119 --> 00:25:47,080
Speaker 1: not be able to offer because like so so Wheezy

464
00:25:47,359 --> 00:25:49,280
Speaker 1: has not had kids yet. I have not had kids yet,

465
00:25:49,320 --> 00:25:51,680
Speaker 1: but both of our parents clearly don't shout out kids,

466
00:25:52,080 --> 00:25:55,240
Speaker 1: so our moms could do essentially what you would do.

467
00:25:55,480 --> 00:25:58,880
Speaker 1: So you're saying you are hired for those individuals who

468
00:25:58,920 --> 00:26:01,520
Speaker 1: may not have that supply. Not only that, but it's

469
00:26:01,560 --> 00:26:04,400
Speaker 1: like okay, for instance, from my daughter's birth, my mom

470
00:26:04,480 --> 00:26:07,960
Speaker 1: wasn't here, so my grandma was here, and just her

471
00:26:07,960 --> 00:26:11,359
Speaker 1: presence drove me crazy. And I love my grandma, you know,

472
00:26:11,440 --> 00:26:14,080
Speaker 1: like she's dope, Like she's always there for me, she's whatever,

473
00:26:14,840 --> 00:26:17,440
Speaker 1: you know, But at that moment, she was my mental block.

474
00:26:17,720 --> 00:26:19,760
Speaker 1: And that's what a lot of people don't know. You're

475
00:26:20,200 --> 00:26:24,560
Speaker 1: just like spirituals guy, right, So it's just like me

476
00:26:24,600 --> 00:26:27,320
Speaker 1: and you connect spiritually, and you don't connect like that

477
00:26:27,320 --> 00:26:29,680
Speaker 1: with your mom, even though like she's your best friend

478
00:26:29,760 --> 00:26:32,080
Speaker 1: or whatever the case is. At that moment, you're like,

479
00:26:32,119 --> 00:26:34,120
Speaker 1: I don't know if I really want to, like would

480
00:26:34,119 --> 00:26:35,399
Speaker 1: you want to shop in front of your mom? And

481
00:26:36,080 --> 00:26:40,200
Speaker 1: it just depends on who you are. Yeah, I hid

482
00:26:40,359 --> 00:26:42,119
Speaker 1: even getting my period from my mom for like the

483
00:26:42,160 --> 00:26:44,880
Speaker 1: first year. Now now we're comfortable and I do. Look

484
00:26:44,880 --> 00:26:46,240
Speaker 1: at my mom is my best friend, but even when

485
00:26:46,280 --> 00:26:48,560
Speaker 1: she was trying to talk tell me about her sex life,

486
00:26:48,560 --> 00:26:49,600
Speaker 1: I'd be like, gir, I don't want to hear that.

487
00:26:49,640 --> 00:26:51,280
Speaker 1: So I still don't think I would want her to

488
00:26:51,320 --> 00:26:54,000
Speaker 1: see my pussy white. And it's just like you know,

489
00:26:54,080 --> 00:26:57,120
Speaker 1: and it's like, know what I mean, like I could

490
00:26:57,440 --> 00:27:00,000
Speaker 1: what you're saying. I hope my mom would drive me nuts.

491
00:27:00,440 --> 00:27:08,960
Speaker 1: Your mom like literally because all making sure really sweet,

492
00:27:09,080 --> 00:27:13,640
Speaker 1: but my mom told me I just had a biopsy done,

493
00:27:13,640 --> 00:27:15,119
Speaker 1: and she's like, oh god, I flyd me on. I

494
00:27:15,119 --> 00:27:20,720
Speaker 1: wish I was there. She would make me anxious. Thing

495
00:27:20,880 --> 00:27:22,840
Speaker 1: like you want to be relaxed. This can be like

496
00:27:22,880 --> 00:27:25,280
Speaker 1: when you're pushing on your baby, because it's like you

497
00:27:25,320 --> 00:27:27,480
Speaker 1: think about it, like you're stressed and you're the first

498
00:27:27,520 --> 00:27:29,560
Speaker 1: thing you do is like tighten your stomach and like

499
00:27:29,640 --> 00:27:32,000
Speaker 1: tighten your area. So you don't want that. You wanted

500
00:27:32,080 --> 00:27:34,280
Speaker 1: to be as loose and relaxed as possible. We have

501
00:27:34,359 --> 00:27:37,120
Speaker 1: a lot of male listeners, so my question would be,

502
00:27:37,480 --> 00:27:39,960
Speaker 1: do you feel like husband because a lot of men

503
00:27:40,080 --> 00:27:42,240
Speaker 1: don't want to see that, or don't know how to

504
00:27:42,280 --> 00:27:43,879
Speaker 1: react or don't want to be in the room. Do

505
00:27:43,920 --> 00:27:46,240
Speaker 1: you feel like you do get men that also reach

506
00:27:46,280 --> 00:27:49,960
Speaker 1: out to you for their um women and there's nothing

507
00:27:49,960 --> 00:27:52,960
Speaker 1: you mentioned like men's there's actually men that it's like

508
00:27:53,200 --> 00:27:57,680
Speaker 1: a fetish for them. Like it's just like it's like spam,

509
00:27:58,240 --> 00:28:01,520
Speaker 1: like you know, like get a random text, like random

510
00:28:01,560 --> 00:28:03,520
Speaker 1: message like hey, my wife's in labor right now, can

511
00:28:03,520 --> 00:28:05,280
Speaker 1: you tell me what to do? And that turns them on.

512
00:28:05,480 --> 00:28:08,560
Speaker 1: So it's just like no, wait, what do you mean?

513
00:28:09,520 --> 00:28:12,000
Speaker 1: What do you mean? Like I'll get a random message

514
00:28:12,000 --> 00:28:15,280
Speaker 1: on Instagram. Let's say like, hey, my wife is about

515
00:28:15,320 --> 00:28:17,199
Speaker 1: to um push our baby out. Can you give me

516
00:28:17,240 --> 00:28:19,159
Speaker 1: instructions on how to take the baby out? Like that,

517
00:28:19,240 --> 00:28:20,840
Speaker 1: you have to be a certain position and then you

518
00:28:20,880 --> 00:28:23,520
Speaker 1: just have to like kind of see like what where's

519
00:28:23,560 --> 00:28:25,520
Speaker 1: your midwife? And then you go from there and it's

520
00:28:25,560 --> 00:28:27,320
Speaker 1: like oh no, no, no, she doesn't have a midwife.

521
00:28:27,320 --> 00:28:29,720
Speaker 1: I'm here or whatever the case is, so you kind

522
00:28:29,720 --> 00:28:33,440
Speaker 1: of like catch on. So yeah, but besides that, honestly,

523
00:28:34,720 --> 00:28:38,640
Speaker 1: I honestly think that men should definitely be involved because

524
00:28:39,200 --> 00:28:41,840
Speaker 1: the same way a baby is made is the same

525
00:28:41,840 --> 00:28:44,320
Speaker 1: way a baby could come out. What do you want

526
00:28:44,360 --> 00:28:46,560
Speaker 1: your man to be there? You want him to I'm like,

527
00:28:47,360 --> 00:28:50,720
Speaker 1: but yeah, no, honestly, that's what you want. You want

528
00:28:50,720 --> 00:28:52,360
Speaker 1: your man to be there. You want him to be

529
00:28:52,400 --> 00:28:56,240
Speaker 1: hugging you, kissing you, because that oxytostin, that love is

530
00:28:56,280 --> 00:28:59,600
Speaker 1: what opens you up. What's the difference between oxytin and serotonin?

531
00:29:00,320 --> 00:29:10,000
Speaker 1: Like st serotonin serotonin levels that increased to like make

532
00:29:10,080 --> 00:29:14,440
Speaker 1: you happy. Well, oxytocin is basically like a hormone in

533
00:29:14,520 --> 00:29:18,840
Speaker 1: your body that is just like kind of like your love.

534
00:29:19,520 --> 00:29:24,640
Speaker 1: Your love, okay, so it's like that's your yeah, and

535
00:29:24,800 --> 00:29:27,640
Speaker 1: what's your hastiness and like so this one is like

536
00:29:27,720 --> 00:29:34,320
Speaker 1: yours and so you want that no. Like like for example,

537
00:29:34,360 --> 00:29:36,120
Speaker 1: when I was on lexapro, it was to boost levels

538
00:29:36,160 --> 00:29:40,720
Speaker 1: of serotonin, So that's Oxytocin is basically like your love hormone.

539
00:29:41,120 --> 00:29:44,040
Speaker 1: So it's just like when you're getting like aroused, that's

540
00:29:44,080 --> 00:29:48,360
Speaker 1: what's happening, like obviously, but like I didn't really know

541
00:29:48,480 --> 00:29:51,040
Speaker 1: the whole time what oxytocin. Yeah, So that's basically it's

542
00:29:51,040 --> 00:29:53,719
Speaker 1: so like when I have clients that have a spouse

543
00:29:53,880 --> 00:29:57,240
Speaker 1: or partner, I'm just like, listen, I love her, you know,

544
00:29:57,440 --> 00:29:59,760
Speaker 1: Like my job is just to be there. If you

545
00:29:59,840 --> 00:30:01,920
Speaker 1: just need me just to be there to hold space

546
00:30:02,040 --> 00:30:04,800
Speaker 1: for you, that's okay. Even if you need me just

547
00:30:04,880 --> 00:30:08,120
Speaker 1: to take pictures, that's fine. But the whole point is

548
00:30:08,240 --> 00:30:11,400
Speaker 1: is like if you have your partner, be there for them,

549
00:30:11,640 --> 00:30:13,960
Speaker 1: because it's just like at that moment a woman is

550
00:30:14,040 --> 00:30:19,320
Speaker 1: so open and you don't know literally literally you know,

551
00:30:20,400 --> 00:30:22,320
Speaker 1: you know, like in my mind, I'm just like, damn,

552
00:30:22,360 --> 00:30:24,480
Speaker 1: why is my husband sitting over there? But he doesn't

553
00:30:24,520 --> 00:30:27,479
Speaker 1: love me? Like so it's just like that right there

554
00:30:27,560 --> 00:30:30,200
Speaker 1: can stop you from dilating from like opening up and

555
00:30:30,280 --> 00:30:35,040
Speaker 1: delivering it. And let's give we can look at either

556
00:30:35,120 --> 00:30:37,600
Speaker 1: monthly or year late. What would you say about the

557
00:30:37,680 --> 00:30:39,680
Speaker 1: number of clients you get in any year? Let's do

558
00:30:39,760 --> 00:30:44,160
Speaker 1: a year. Um Honestly, it depends how many you do

559
00:30:44,240 --> 00:30:47,200
Speaker 1: at one time. At one time. You just have the

560
00:30:47,280 --> 00:30:50,120
Speaker 1: whole the whole point of like a successful dula is

561
00:30:50,160 --> 00:30:53,120
Speaker 1: to have a great backup doula. So you can't do

562
00:30:53,200 --> 00:30:58,480
Speaker 1: this by yourself because it's just like you that's my

563
00:30:58,800 --> 00:31:00,600
Speaker 1: she was actually one of my Yeah I was when

564
00:31:00,720 --> 00:31:11,480
Speaker 1: she was one of my clients. How you got doing so? Okay?

565
00:31:11,560 --> 00:31:15,000
Speaker 1: So basically it's like, let's say I get five women

566
00:31:15,040 --> 00:31:19,760
Speaker 1: in one month, right, Okay? If I have five in

567
00:31:19,960 --> 00:31:23,000
Speaker 1: one month and the two of them going to labor

568
00:31:23,040 --> 00:31:26,040
Speaker 1: at the same time, I can't be at the both

569
00:31:26,120 --> 00:31:33,360
Speaker 1: places and want check, so I give them um so

570
00:31:33,600 --> 00:31:37,760
Speaker 1: because I didn't have the right Now you hate you

571
00:31:37,920 --> 00:31:40,760
Speaker 1: hate percentage because you would do you just want any

572
00:31:42,440 --> 00:31:44,680
Speaker 1: lots of money? If I was like funk, I connected

573
00:31:44,720 --> 00:31:47,840
Speaker 1: with this person and they already and that's not all

574
00:31:47,960 --> 00:31:52,880
Speaker 1: duelers do this, but I always recommend my inert for like,

575
00:31:53,160 --> 00:31:56,600
Speaker 1: whoever I'm interviewing with, just be like, hey, my homie

576
00:31:56,680 --> 00:31:58,760
Speaker 1: over here. She's my backup duel and she's great. I

577
00:31:58,800 --> 00:32:00,920
Speaker 1: can have her face time you you want her to come,

578
00:32:01,400 --> 00:32:03,120
Speaker 1: because at the end of the day, you never know,

579
00:32:03,400 --> 00:32:05,720
Speaker 1: and like you said, if we have a connection and

580
00:32:05,840 --> 00:32:10,080
Speaker 1: then here comes my friend, it's just like I don't

581
00:32:10,120 --> 00:32:13,840
Speaker 1: like her, get her out. So then it sucks, and

582
00:32:13,960 --> 00:32:15,920
Speaker 1: then it just messes up the business, and then it

583
00:32:15,960 --> 00:32:18,000
Speaker 1: gives me a bad rep because so when do you

584
00:32:18,160 --> 00:32:20,280
Speaker 1: let go? When do you stop talking to them? Um?

585
00:32:20,440 --> 00:32:27,440
Speaker 1: I stopped around. Well yeah, okay, so um So the

586
00:32:27,520 --> 00:32:29,960
Speaker 1: way it works is basically like I have a package.

587
00:32:30,560 --> 00:32:34,440
Speaker 1: Um my package is okay. So I offered two prenato visits,

588
00:32:34,720 --> 00:32:36,720
Speaker 1: which means that I visit them from the moment that

589
00:32:36,800 --> 00:32:38,560
Speaker 1: they hire me until the moment that they give birth

590
00:32:38,640 --> 00:32:42,120
Speaker 1: two times, and throughout those visits, I just give them

591
00:32:42,720 --> 00:32:47,400
Speaker 1: answer whatever questions they may have. No, okay, there's some

592
00:32:47,880 --> 00:32:49,800
Speaker 1: some duels that aren't even they don't even want kids.

593
00:32:51,920 --> 00:32:54,600
Speaker 1: It's just whatever. You want to have a little bit

594
00:32:54,600 --> 00:32:56,640
Speaker 1: of a testimony when someone's like, yeah, your nipples are

595
00:32:56,680 --> 00:33:00,480
Speaker 1: going to feel like this. Google Yeah, because I read

596
00:33:00,520 --> 00:33:03,720
Speaker 1: a lot, and I learned that you've experienced it. Yeah

597
00:33:03,800 --> 00:33:06,520
Speaker 1: for being but I'm saying like, okay, okay, that makes sense.

598
00:33:06,560 --> 00:33:08,160
Speaker 1: And there's women that will be like, oh, you never

599
00:33:08,240 --> 00:33:15,040
Speaker 1: had a kid. I want Mama had me. But yeah, yeah,

600
00:33:15,680 --> 00:33:19,600
Speaker 1: So there's some women because Duel is actually that don't

601
00:33:19,640 --> 00:33:21,360
Speaker 1: even have kids and they're just like I don't plan

602
00:33:21,400 --> 00:33:23,840
Speaker 1: on having kids, or either they're like eighteen and they're

603
00:33:23,880 --> 00:33:26,240
Speaker 1: just starting off, or it's more just like an emotional

604
00:33:26,320 --> 00:33:29,680
Speaker 1: connect connection with a person, like I make really good

605
00:33:29,720 --> 00:33:32,560
Speaker 1: connections with people, So then you're also building kind of

606
00:33:32,640 --> 00:33:36,480
Speaker 1: a friendship even though you're paying forward. Yeah, so like

607
00:33:37,080 --> 00:33:39,680
Speaker 1: those two visits, you give them the two prenatos if

608
00:33:39,720 --> 00:33:41,800
Speaker 1: they want. Some people only want one. Some people are

609
00:33:41,840 --> 00:33:43,640
Speaker 1: just like I already know I don't really need that much.

610
00:33:44,080 --> 00:33:46,240
Speaker 1: So during that time you answer like the way I

611
00:33:46,360 --> 00:33:48,720
Speaker 1: do it is like I'm like, okay, so we only

612
00:33:48,800 --> 00:33:51,880
Speaker 1: have like the visitors really an hour to two hours.

613
00:33:52,400 --> 00:33:54,400
Speaker 1: So I'm like, pick some topics that you feel are

614
00:33:54,480 --> 00:33:56,440
Speaker 1: important that you really want to know about before you

615
00:33:56,480 --> 00:34:00,080
Speaker 1: push your baby out. So we discussed that and and

616
00:34:00,800 --> 00:34:03,840
Speaker 1: I attend their birth. So I'm on call from thirty

617
00:34:03,880 --> 00:34:05,960
Speaker 1: six weeks until the moment that they go into labor.

618
00:34:06,640 --> 00:34:10,120
Speaker 1: And some women they go into labor thirty eight weeks,

619
00:34:10,160 --> 00:34:13,719
Speaker 1: some women go up to forty two weeks. So it's

620
00:34:14,080 --> 00:34:21,440
Speaker 1: very tough. Yeah, no, because that's already included. So then

621
00:34:21,560 --> 00:34:24,680
Speaker 1: once they have their baby, do you involve yourself in

622
00:34:24,960 --> 00:34:27,200
Speaker 1: checking in with them as well? Again, so I do

623
00:34:27,320 --> 00:34:30,279
Speaker 1: the two pre nato. I attend to birth and then

624
00:34:30,320 --> 00:34:34,920
Speaker 1: to postpartum. So for those postpartums I usually offer them

625
00:34:35,040 --> 00:34:38,240
Speaker 1: like three to four hours and then for those visits,

626
00:34:39,440 --> 00:34:42,000
Speaker 1: give them encouragement with the baby or what. Well, some

627
00:34:42,160 --> 00:34:45,080
Speaker 1: moms are so exhausted that they're just like take a

628
00:34:46,200 --> 00:34:48,520
Speaker 1: pretty much as bad as it sounds, because a lot

629
00:34:48,520 --> 00:34:50,640
Speaker 1: of duels are just like, no, I'm not a babysitter.

630
00:34:50,680 --> 00:34:53,400
Speaker 1: I'm not an antie. You know, like some get offended

631
00:34:53,520 --> 00:34:56,640
Speaker 1: by that, but listen, I'm there to support them. And

632
00:34:56,920 --> 00:34:59,120
Speaker 1: I did a lot of work last summer as a

633
00:34:59,160 --> 00:35:03,239
Speaker 1: postpartum du and that was it. Like some women are

634
00:35:03,320 --> 00:35:06,440
Speaker 1: just like, you really like kids, And that's the crazy thing.

635
00:35:06,480 --> 00:35:16,080
Speaker 1: I don't like kids exactly even because they're mind, but

636
00:35:16,560 --> 00:35:21,000
Speaker 1: it's like you want to do it. I have nine siblings, right,

637
00:35:21,440 --> 00:35:25,200
Speaker 1: I'm the only girl I'm the oldest. I have a

638
00:35:25,239 --> 00:35:27,279
Speaker 1: little sister. Actually, I'm sorry, I'm not the only girl.

639
00:35:27,320 --> 00:35:32,279
Speaker 1: I used to be the um nine nine so um.

640
00:35:32,840 --> 00:35:35,080
Speaker 1: So I've always been around kids, and I used to

641
00:35:35,080 --> 00:35:37,760
Speaker 1: tell my mom I'm not having no kids because pretty

642
00:35:37,840 --> 00:35:41,080
Speaker 1: much like help you raise these little freaking boys. And

643
00:35:41,120 --> 00:35:46,120
Speaker 1: I'm still raised helping her. And then I got and

644
00:35:46,160 --> 00:35:49,800
Speaker 1: I had eight brothers under you. I have, I have,

645
00:35:50,080 --> 00:35:53,719
Speaker 1: My mom has six kids under me, and then my dad.

646
00:35:54,719 --> 00:35:59,120
Speaker 1: I'm Puerto Rican. Yeah, shooting them out. Listen every time

647
00:35:59,120 --> 00:36:02,439
Speaker 1: I go to the Bronx, just my every Puerto Rican.

648
00:36:02,560 --> 00:36:05,279
Speaker 1: My sister is six and my daughter's eight. Are y'all like,

649
00:36:05,560 --> 00:36:08,120
Speaker 1: so this might be something and I mean this culturally

650
00:36:08,200 --> 00:36:10,239
Speaker 1: like big family, Well it could just be a myth.

651
00:36:10,880 --> 00:36:15,640
Speaker 1: Is like Latina's more like, I don't know, are y'all

652
00:36:15,680 --> 00:36:19,279
Speaker 1: more fertile? What I don't know saying I say, I

653
00:36:19,400 --> 00:36:22,000
Speaker 1: don't that Puerto Rican bitches get pregnant way quicker than

654
00:36:22,040 --> 00:36:24,040
Speaker 1: any other race. I have no what I got to

655
00:36:24,080 --> 00:36:26,160
Speaker 1: hurt if they just want like they just fertile, like

656
00:36:26,520 --> 00:36:29,719
Speaker 1: my mom, maybe all the right to be what it is.

657
00:36:30,360 --> 00:36:33,960
Speaker 1: I mean, y'all eating it's like, yeah, we do. But

658
00:36:34,080 --> 00:36:37,520
Speaker 1: I don't know, it's said me. That's how you say it, Ben,

659
00:36:38,480 --> 00:36:40,400
Speaker 1: which I'm in my bronx. I said it right right

660
00:36:40,760 --> 00:36:46,839
Speaker 1: Ben Me? Okay, wait, I want to let's go back

661
00:36:46,920 --> 00:36:50,000
Speaker 1: to the basis, all right, my man, I was really

662
00:36:50,040 --> 00:36:52,640
Speaker 1: focused on if y'all fartil if you don't know ferti,

663
00:36:52,800 --> 00:36:56,520
Speaker 1: but I know my mom wanted that many babies are

664
00:36:56,680 --> 00:37:01,400
Speaker 1: made to it, you know, so baby made pussy are like,

665
00:37:02,400 --> 00:37:06,040
Speaker 1: so she thinks the sperm have eggs? No, what did

666
00:37:06,160 --> 00:37:09,680
Speaker 1: you say something about sperm pared eggs? So basically like

667
00:37:09,800 --> 00:37:13,279
Speaker 1: the way conception works. Talking about conception, all right, you

668
00:37:13,360 --> 00:37:17,000
Speaker 1: have sex, two people have sex whatever, and then whatever

669
00:37:18,000 --> 00:37:21,960
Speaker 1: whatever you want to call it, um and then the

670
00:37:22,040 --> 00:37:24,960
Speaker 1: sperm travels and then hits the egg and then that's

671
00:37:25,000 --> 00:37:29,200
Speaker 1: how basically it's done. Let's talk about ovulation, right, So,

672
00:37:29,360 --> 00:37:31,880
Speaker 1: like you can only get pregnant when you're ovulating, correct,

673
00:37:33,320 --> 00:37:35,839
Speaker 1: This is that science. I don't believe. What a god?

674
00:37:36,239 --> 00:37:38,680
Speaker 1: You can only get pregnant like two times out of

675
00:37:39,200 --> 00:37:43,040
Speaker 1: the month, but yet lives in you for like four

676
00:37:43,120 --> 00:37:45,400
Speaker 1: to five days. Yes, because they just had to say that.

677
00:37:45,640 --> 00:37:48,840
Speaker 1: So you're what you're going to deep You're going to

678
00:37:50,200 --> 00:37:52,560
Speaker 1: know I won't go deep, but I don't believe too

679
00:37:52,600 --> 00:37:54,640
Speaker 1: many people pop up pregnant for me to only have

680
00:37:54,800 --> 00:37:58,440
Speaker 1: two days. The population of the month r one of

681
00:37:58,520 --> 00:38:01,759
Speaker 1: the weeks you're on your period three weeks you have

682
00:38:02,040 --> 00:38:04,480
Speaker 1: to fuck one of those weeks your fertile the whole

683
00:38:04,520 --> 00:38:06,400
Speaker 1: Look at the month, and out of one of those weeks,

684
00:38:06,480 --> 00:38:10,919
Speaker 1: like have a thirty chance of getting pregnant every time.

685
00:38:11,040 --> 00:38:13,040
Speaker 1: So that's why I think everyb that they say only

686
00:38:13,120 --> 00:38:16,560
Speaker 1: two days, Well, no, it's not. That's peak. It's like

687
00:38:16,680 --> 00:38:19,520
Speaker 1: peak you usually have like about like anywhere from like seven.

688
00:38:19,560 --> 00:38:23,399
Speaker 1: So here I just want to show you. So let's

689
00:38:23,400 --> 00:38:26,160
Speaker 1: look at April. So I'm fertile. You see all of

690
00:38:26,239 --> 00:38:28,600
Speaker 1: these days actually up until March, so seven days in

691
00:38:28,640 --> 00:38:30,759
Speaker 1: fertil March thirty one to the end of this week.

692
00:38:30,880 --> 00:38:36,520
Speaker 1: But are not fucking Chicago. But anyway, so here's that

693
00:38:36,680 --> 00:38:39,839
Speaker 1: flower day. That's when it's like the real highest chance

694
00:38:39,880 --> 00:38:42,080
Speaker 1: that you can get pregnant. But you can get pregnant anytime.

695
00:38:42,200 --> 00:38:46,160
Speaker 1: Those living If someone comes to me and I'm populating here,

696
00:38:46,200 --> 00:38:47,919
Speaker 1: this firm can live in my pussy port. So here's

697
00:38:47,960 --> 00:38:49,880
Speaker 1: my question. If you funk on the seventh, you tell

698
00:38:50,000 --> 00:38:52,359
Speaker 1: me there's absolutely no way you can get pregnant. If

699
00:38:52,400 --> 00:38:54,120
Speaker 1: he come in, you'll pussy on the seventh. What if

700
00:38:54,360 --> 00:38:57,200
Speaker 1: the egg doesn't drop and it's still there? Here was

701
00:38:57,280 --> 00:39:01,160
Speaker 1: your ovulation peak. I mean the egg drops on the fifth,

702
00:39:01,320 --> 00:39:03,600
Speaker 1: So after that, yeah, so after that you're done. Why

703
00:39:03,800 --> 00:39:05,680
Speaker 1: why why is there still a dot on the sixth

704
00:39:06,040 --> 00:39:09,360
Speaker 1: because she's still ovulating. Her last day is the sixth,

705
00:39:09,520 --> 00:39:15,560
Speaker 1: but low chance. So then you bring statistics now this ship.

706
00:39:15,920 --> 00:39:17,880
Speaker 1: This is why I was freaking out about that Plan B,

707
00:39:18,080 --> 00:39:20,360
Speaker 1: my nigga, because here's when I went to New Orleans.

708
00:39:23,520 --> 00:39:25,440
Speaker 1: It's thrown off now because that's what the Plan B,

709
00:39:25,960 --> 00:39:31,480
Speaker 1: bitch the flower was like. Two days after I was terrified.

710
00:39:31,920 --> 00:39:33,160
Speaker 1: I was saying, He's like, I don't know why, you

711
00:39:33,400 --> 00:39:37,120
Speaker 1: don't know why you it's crazy because when you posted that,

712
00:39:37,400 --> 00:39:39,640
Speaker 1: I actually got a message sense in and I'm not

713
00:39:39,719 --> 00:39:43,759
Speaker 1: sure if you've taken um Plan B or even your weight,

714
00:39:43,880 --> 00:39:47,280
Speaker 1: but more so my weight before my weight loss. There's

715
00:39:47,360 --> 00:39:50,160
Speaker 1: actually something that says that Plan B does not actually

716
00:39:50,239 --> 00:39:52,640
Speaker 1: work for women, or is very unlikely to work in

717
00:39:52,680 --> 00:39:57,120
Speaker 1: women over a hundred and seventy pounds. Shut up, yes, ma'am,

718
00:39:57,400 --> 00:40:00,719
Speaker 1: And if you last ship y no, and so we

719
00:40:00,840 --> 00:40:04,120
Speaker 1: looked this up and the odds of it actually working

720
00:40:04,160 --> 00:40:06,440
Speaker 1: for yeah, looking up, girl, I'm telling you, so the

721
00:40:06,560 --> 00:40:10,720
Speaker 1: odds for for maybe um more, you know, curvy women

722
00:40:10,800 --> 00:40:13,520
Speaker 1: and and overweight women. Maybe you do want to use

723
00:40:13,960 --> 00:40:17,719
Speaker 1: something other than Plan B. What h b M I

724
00:40:17,760 --> 00:40:21,200
Speaker 1: women's supposed to do about emergency? Yeah, high B and

725
00:40:21,280 --> 00:40:24,000
Speaker 1: my women have a lower chance than were The average

726
00:40:24,040 --> 00:40:28,319
Speaker 1: woman weighs a hundred and sixty eight pounds. That look,

727
00:40:28,400 --> 00:40:30,799
Speaker 1: she's looking it up right now. Yeah, so okay, it's

728
00:40:30,920 --> 00:40:33,120
Speaker 1: it's the b M I they're talking about. Yeah, yeah,

729
00:40:33,160 --> 00:40:35,160
Speaker 1: so for someone like me who's five ft one and

730
00:40:35,239 --> 00:40:37,560
Speaker 1: way to thirty. At one point, yeah, there's that ship.

731
00:40:38,000 --> 00:40:40,560
Speaker 1: I was popping skittles at that point. I was just

732
00:40:40,719 --> 00:40:47,239
Speaker 1: praying my ovulationship because I okay. So the World Health

733
00:40:47,400 --> 00:40:51,000
Speaker 1: Organization UM suggest that it's not that much of an

734
00:40:51,040 --> 00:40:54,879
Speaker 1: issue like people say. Um, there's four studies published that says,

735
00:40:54,960 --> 00:40:57,360
Speaker 1: while data is limited, the finding suggests that women with

736
00:40:57,440 --> 00:41:02,480
Speaker 1: obesity haven't increased risks, but it's not increase Still sound

737
00:41:02,560 --> 00:41:04,720
Speaker 1: like me if you're sitting here telling me he's oddestly

738
00:41:05,719 --> 00:41:08,600
Speaker 1: the data to review is still extremely limited. Yeah, I

739
00:41:08,640 --> 00:41:10,759
Speaker 1: don't know. How because I'm not sure how you even

740
00:41:12,840 --> 00:41:16,160
Speaker 1: if you just haven't gotten enough women in certain bmns

741
00:41:16,239 --> 00:41:18,000
Speaker 1: to try it, like the studies of you have to

742
00:41:18,080 --> 00:41:21,759
Speaker 1: try that on human people. He was interesting and over

743
00:41:21,880 --> 00:41:24,200
Speaker 1: or whatever. Y'all know the L word that makes you

744
00:41:24,280 --> 00:41:26,320
Speaker 1: know had a baby. It's not the only more toto,

745
00:41:29,800 --> 00:41:32,680
Speaker 1: what's the L word? Live on gestural the like the

746
00:41:32,960 --> 00:41:35,640
Speaker 1: ingreded thing again love on gesture or whatever it is

747
00:41:35,840 --> 00:41:44,720
Speaker 1: that you fringe. No, but the Plan B wasn't available.

748
00:41:44,960 --> 00:41:46,719
Speaker 1: Right when I walked into the wallgreens. Did I tell

749
00:41:46,719 --> 00:41:49,279
Speaker 1: you all the story about how went out to So

750
00:41:49,440 --> 00:41:50,640
Speaker 1: I went to a bunch of them because right it

751
00:41:50,680 --> 00:41:52,319
Speaker 1: was busy where we were at. So when I went

752
00:41:52,360 --> 00:41:54,000
Speaker 1: to the last one, I came in the car and

753
00:41:54,080 --> 00:41:55,960
Speaker 1: I didn't have Plan B. I had this ship called Alegra.

754
00:41:56,040 --> 00:41:59,880
Speaker 1: He said, Nigga, what the hell is agra? Wasn't that

755
00:42:00,000 --> 00:42:01,560
Speaker 1: that's not for alig I was not to say so

756
00:42:01,680 --> 00:42:05,160
Speaker 1: that Algie. Let me look on the name. But you've

757
00:42:05,200 --> 00:42:08,040
Speaker 1: just got lucky damage because no, no, no, no, it

758
00:42:08,120 --> 00:42:12,080
Speaker 1: has the same active ingredient that love agenna one point five.

759
00:42:13,280 --> 00:42:18,880
Speaker 1: After feeling like no, that's when definitely, yo. All I

760
00:42:19,000 --> 00:42:21,120
Speaker 1: know is when I'm walked in. He was like, he

761
00:42:21,239 --> 00:42:29,719
Speaker 1: looked at me, like, so, I guess for for again, ella, bro,

762
00:42:30,640 --> 00:42:34,840
Speaker 1: you're not gotta ask. So what other question you got

763
00:42:34,880 --> 00:42:37,760
Speaker 1: about shooting babies? Okay? So okay, so the baby's weren't

764
00:42:37,800 --> 00:42:41,399
Speaker 1: in there right, So basically I'm interested in knowing kind

765
00:42:41,440 --> 00:42:43,319
Speaker 1: of like what it feels like to be pregnant, right.

766
00:42:44,120 --> 00:42:45,920
Speaker 1: What I want to know and what I'm trying to

767
00:42:46,440 --> 00:42:50,040
Speaker 1: basically push out there is us respecting pregnant people and

768
00:42:50,160 --> 00:42:51,880
Speaker 1: mothers more so, like let's kind of just walk us

769
00:42:51,880 --> 00:42:53,839
Speaker 1: through the first trimester. I've heard a lot about women.

770
00:42:53,920 --> 00:42:56,279
Speaker 1: Amy Schumer is a popular one that is throwing up

771
00:42:56,320 --> 00:42:59,120
Speaker 1: like crazy the entire pregnancy. Yeah, like what is it

772
00:42:59,239 --> 00:43:04,440
Speaker 1: like the second So for me, my pregnancies have been amazing,

773
00:43:07,040 --> 00:43:11,040
Speaker 1: pregnancy amazing. Listen. There's women, like you said, like she

774
00:43:11,200 --> 00:43:15,600
Speaker 1: throws up like crazy. Um, yeah, she's one of them.

775
00:43:15,719 --> 00:43:18,960
Speaker 1: Like she was just always sick everything, she couldn't eat.

776
00:43:19,360 --> 00:43:21,279
Speaker 1: There's women that just can't eat, can't get out of bed,

777
00:43:21,360 --> 00:43:24,319
Speaker 1: they can't go to work, they can't do like everyday activities.

778
00:43:25,080 --> 00:43:27,840
Speaker 1: And for me, I didn't have that problem. That's probably

779
00:43:27,840 --> 00:43:30,319
Speaker 1: why I got the third to Like there's certain women

780
00:43:30,360 --> 00:43:34,000
Speaker 1: when they're like they'd be ready, didn't they? Like I'm

781
00:43:34,000 --> 00:43:36,680
Speaker 1: remember being in school, girls wouldn't come to school because

782
00:43:36,680 --> 00:43:42,600
Speaker 1: they was on a period. And that's not google. I

783
00:43:42,640 --> 00:43:46,040
Speaker 1: would say, like every other period, I violently throw up

784
00:43:46,120 --> 00:43:50,200
Speaker 1: from the pain. Really, then you know that. I wonder

785
00:43:50,680 --> 00:43:53,200
Speaker 1: like if they have a connection, like if women have

786
00:43:53,400 --> 00:44:01,000
Speaker 1: crazy period period? I never had crazy period, Like you've

787
00:44:01,000 --> 00:44:06,840
Speaker 1: got to throw up your whole pregnancy, bit scissors having that,

788
00:44:07,800 --> 00:44:09,360
Speaker 1: Like we're gonna still be doing the show if you

789
00:44:09,400 --> 00:44:12,279
Speaker 1: get pregnant. I gotta talk to someone pregnant having sex

790
00:44:12,320 --> 00:44:14,480
Speaker 1: all the time. You know, I ain't gonna want to

791
00:44:14,480 --> 00:44:18,080
Speaker 1: imagine that you'll be having sex with with your belly? Eat?

792
00:44:18,120 --> 00:44:20,320
Speaker 1: Why not? Why wouldn't she? Like you don't feel the

793
00:44:20,360 --> 00:44:22,319
Speaker 1: baby going up and down when he's behind you? Now

794
00:44:22,680 --> 00:44:25,360
Speaker 1: the baby like just you don't feel like you have

795
00:44:25,480 --> 00:44:29,200
Speaker 1: a baby watching you? A baby watching me? Like that's

796
00:44:29,200 --> 00:44:31,759
Speaker 1: where dimples come from. Oh my kids always ask me

797
00:44:31,800 --> 00:44:35,279
Speaker 1: where dimples come from. It's from the dick kids. I'm like, oh,

798
00:44:37,480 --> 00:44:41,200
Speaker 1: by a fairy. There you go. So okay, you have

799
00:44:41,239 --> 00:44:44,000
Speaker 1: a good pregnancy. In that week, let's talk about were vagina.

800
00:44:44,360 --> 00:44:48,160
Speaker 1: So basically everybody, it's good to well for some women.

801
00:44:48,360 --> 00:44:51,160
Speaker 1: Some women have like super dry vagina's when they're pregnant.

802
00:44:52,239 --> 00:44:54,440
Speaker 1: Do you know, it's just like hormone levels, Like your

803
00:44:54,560 --> 00:44:59,480
Speaker 1: pH balance is like a little bit everywhere, right, So

804
00:44:59,600 --> 00:45:02,080
Speaker 1: you're eating like crazy, ships so your body is going crazy,

805
00:45:02,200 --> 00:45:04,200
Speaker 1: and then everything that you have inside of you is

806
00:45:04,200 --> 00:45:07,440
Speaker 1: going to your baby. So you know, if you're normally

807
00:45:07,600 --> 00:45:09,879
Speaker 1: like always like why and you don't have to worry

808
00:45:09,880 --> 00:45:12,160
Speaker 1: about using the lube And then you come around your

809
00:45:12,200 --> 00:45:13,840
Speaker 1: man's like what is wrong with you? You know, like

810
00:45:14,320 --> 00:45:17,120
Speaker 1: what's wrong and not turning you on? And it's just like,

811
00:45:17,640 --> 00:45:19,840
Speaker 1: do you feel like your sex is better Chase pregnant?

812
00:45:19,880 --> 00:45:23,839
Speaker 1: I do? I feel like because it's just like, first

813
00:45:23,880 --> 00:45:25,920
Speaker 1: of all, you're already pregnant, So what's the worst that

814
00:45:25,960 --> 00:45:28,040
Speaker 1: can happen? You just let him shoot the club up.

815
00:45:28,080 --> 00:45:30,480
Speaker 1: But there's what's the worst that can happen. You're already pregnant.

816
00:45:31,080 --> 00:45:39,080
Speaker 1: There's still oh I guess back, you know, besides and

817
00:45:39,640 --> 00:45:42,919
Speaker 1: of course okay, okay, but I mean so I feel

818
00:45:42,960 --> 00:45:45,080
Speaker 1: like that right there is just like your comfort level

819
00:45:45,880 --> 00:45:49,200
Speaker 1: and then from there it's like now you have like

820
00:45:49,560 --> 00:45:53,960
Speaker 1: your body is just like so sensitive, so like just

821
00:45:54,160 --> 00:45:58,279
Speaker 1: by like yeah, So it's just it's just like sometimes

822
00:45:58,480 --> 00:46:02,520
Speaker 1: it's something I have days like sometimes it's like it

823
00:46:02,640 --> 00:46:05,680
Speaker 1: takes me forever to orgasm, and then there's days that

824
00:46:05,719 --> 00:46:08,560
Speaker 1: I like come in like two minutes, and it's just

825
00:46:09,120 --> 00:46:12,759
Speaker 1: like you feel like, do you feel sexier because of

826
00:46:12,880 --> 00:46:15,920
Speaker 1: your your breast are getting bigger in your this pregnancy? Yes,

827
00:46:16,640 --> 00:46:19,920
Speaker 1: my last two pregnant. I've always been I'm not like

828
00:46:20,000 --> 00:46:22,279
Speaker 1: self conscious or anything, but I mean, of course you think,

829
00:46:22,400 --> 00:46:24,680
Speaker 1: like what if he doesn't like me or you know,

830
00:46:24,800 --> 00:46:27,400
Speaker 1: like just like different changes of your body. Does your

831
00:46:27,480 --> 00:46:29,279
Speaker 1: husband make you feel good about your body? What he does?

832
00:46:29,840 --> 00:46:33,520
Speaker 1: What could some men that have pregnant women look be honest, like,

833
00:46:33,680 --> 00:46:37,560
Speaker 1: you know, like don't well, I'm not in a bad way,

834
00:46:37,640 --> 00:46:41,120
Speaker 1: not in a good way, like you know, just express

835
00:46:41,160 --> 00:46:43,000
Speaker 1: yourself to her, you know, like just let her know

836
00:46:43,200 --> 00:46:45,719
Speaker 1: because even though if if you guys have a great

837
00:46:45,760 --> 00:46:48,319
Speaker 1: relationship and you tell her all the time like oh

838
00:46:48,400 --> 00:46:51,279
Speaker 1: you look good, you know, you're sexy, whatever, tell her more.

839
00:46:51,600 --> 00:46:54,080
Speaker 1: And we actually pregnant couple at the New York Show

840
00:46:54,160 --> 00:46:59,600
Speaker 1: and it was beautiful, so beautiful, and they came and

841
00:46:59,680 --> 00:47:02,120
Speaker 1: I was just like standing up, so like we we

842
00:47:02,239 --> 00:47:04,480
Speaker 1: don't do um. We had one our first show, we

843
00:47:04,600 --> 00:47:08,560
Speaker 1: would sell. We sold standing room never again, right, We're like,

844
00:47:08,800 --> 00:47:12,120
Speaker 1: we literally sell exactly. So we saw people standing up

845
00:47:12,120 --> 00:47:13,359
Speaker 1: in the back and I'm like, yo, like, y'all didn't

846
00:47:13,360 --> 00:47:15,480
Speaker 1: buy tickets to sit. Come sit. The first person to

847
00:47:15,520 --> 00:47:17,359
Speaker 1: come say it was pregnant, and I was like, yeah,

848
00:47:17,560 --> 00:47:20,399
Speaker 1: what fuck, because imagine how it was when they went home,

849
00:47:20,840 --> 00:47:23,279
Speaker 1: because it's just like you're ready, Like your body is

850
00:47:23,400 --> 00:47:26,200
Speaker 1: just like like for a woman, it's just like your

851
00:47:26,239 --> 00:47:29,400
Speaker 1: body is so sensitive. So even just like him brushing

852
00:47:29,480 --> 00:47:31,600
Speaker 1: by me is just like if he brushes by my boob,

853
00:47:31,719 --> 00:47:33,480
Speaker 1: it's just like oh, you know, Like it's just like

854
00:47:34,480 --> 00:47:37,640
Speaker 1: you know, And it's like, alright, how much time we know?

855
00:47:37,680 --> 00:47:40,359
Speaker 1: Because I actually have a lot of questions about I'm

856
00:47:40,360 --> 00:47:44,600
Speaker 1: gonna I'm gonna knock all these questions out. Okay, so

857
00:47:44,760 --> 00:47:48,719
Speaker 1: let's get this in all right. One of my girlfriends

858
00:47:48,880 --> 00:47:51,040
Speaker 1: told me that she had to get stitched up, as

859
00:47:51,080 --> 00:47:55,040
Speaker 1: many women do. Now I said the same thing basically, yeah, basically,

860
00:47:55,120 --> 00:48:00,080
Speaker 1: your pussy rips stuff. Okay, so everybody, the problem with

861
00:48:00,280 --> 00:48:03,360
Speaker 1: your fucking pussy ripping, It's just that a lot of

862
00:48:03,480 --> 00:48:08,399
Speaker 1: women are coached when they push so the whole point

863
00:48:08,440 --> 00:48:11,879
Speaker 1: of it all. It goes back to like hippie ship,

864
00:48:12,320 --> 00:48:16,680
Speaker 1: you know, like honestly the O B G LANs. You know,

865
00:48:17,920 --> 00:48:21,000
Speaker 1: everything for them is a business, so everything is on

866
00:48:21,080 --> 00:48:24,279
Speaker 1: a timeframe, so they want to rush everything. So by

867
00:48:24,360 --> 00:48:27,520
Speaker 1: them telling you lay back, put your legs up, and

868
00:48:27,719 --> 00:48:31,000
Speaker 1: push when I tell you too, that's automatically you're trying

869
00:48:31,040 --> 00:48:35,840
Speaker 1: to push it out watermelon when your body is not

870
00:48:35,960 --> 00:48:40,200
Speaker 1: ready for it to come out. So not everything is

871
00:48:40,280 --> 00:48:42,400
Speaker 1: ready to So what is the best position to have

872
00:48:42,440 --> 00:48:45,640
Speaker 1: a baby in? I would say the best position will

873
00:48:45,680 --> 00:48:49,360
Speaker 1: be standing. Um, it can be like while you're on

874
00:48:49,480 --> 00:48:53,280
Speaker 1: all fours, like on the bed. It can be sitting

875
00:48:53,320 --> 00:48:55,879
Speaker 1: on the toilet, you know, like it's just the whole

876
00:48:55,920 --> 00:49:01,240
Speaker 1: point of like no like leah, but all the toilet.

877
00:49:01,600 --> 00:49:03,719
Speaker 1: But like so there's like this, the whole thing is

878
00:49:03,800 --> 00:49:08,000
Speaker 1: gravity with your legs up like the squatty right, So

879
00:49:08,360 --> 00:49:10,640
Speaker 1: I thought you were I thought even like, okay, you

880
00:49:10,719 --> 00:49:12,600
Speaker 1: can actually like women that do it at home, some

881
00:49:12,760 --> 00:49:14,840
Speaker 1: of them deliver on their toilet because it's just like

882
00:49:15,480 --> 00:49:19,399
Speaker 1: first of all for them, it's just like the first

883
00:49:19,480 --> 00:49:21,239
Speaker 1: of them. First of all for them is just like

884
00:49:21,640 --> 00:49:26,640
Speaker 1: you're sitting straight up automatically. We can't what if it's

885
00:49:26,640 --> 00:49:31,200
Speaker 1: like nasty automatically. I just want to see it looking

886
00:49:31,239 --> 00:49:37,200
Speaker 1: I don't want to see automatically. Yeah, it's gonnafof Why

887
00:49:37,200 --> 00:49:41,960
Speaker 1: are we gonna get off right now? Man dialed up?

888
00:49:43,800 --> 00:49:47,800
Speaker 1: We can talk about some ship every week. Yeah. I

889
00:49:47,880 --> 00:49:49,719
Speaker 1: don't want to see a baby coming out of a

890
00:49:49,800 --> 00:49:52,120
Speaker 1: vagina into a toilet. I don't want to see the

891
00:49:52,200 --> 00:49:54,239
Speaker 1: whole toilet. I just want to say, Hey, guys, if

892
00:49:54,280 --> 00:49:57,040
Speaker 1: you're tuning in right now, go to Google on your

893
00:49:57,400 --> 00:50:08,000
Speaker 1: mobile device and look and look up what the hold?

894
00:50:08,360 --> 00:50:10,719
Speaker 1: I don't know what I was trying to happen. I

895
00:50:10,800 --> 00:50:20,200
Speaker 1: wanted to sound okay. So yeah, So basically the whole point,

896
00:50:20,440 --> 00:50:23,560
Speaker 1: like you asked me before, Um, why shouldn't we lay

897
00:50:23,560 --> 00:50:26,399
Speaker 1: on our backs? So we shouldn't lay on our backs

898
00:50:26,480 --> 00:50:29,560
Speaker 1: because if you think about it, we're like this right.

899
00:50:30,239 --> 00:50:32,279
Speaker 1: So the baby is like playing a game. So if

900
00:50:32,320 --> 00:50:34,520
Speaker 1: he's trying, the baby's trying to come out, So why

901
00:50:34,520 --> 00:50:36,920
Speaker 1: don't have supp keep doing it? Because it's easier for

902
00:50:37,000 --> 00:50:40,360
Speaker 1: them to have access. So everything is to make it

903
00:50:40,440 --> 00:50:42,480
Speaker 1: easier for them. They don't want to make it easier

904
00:50:42,600 --> 00:50:44,560
Speaker 1: for the birthday house. How is it easier to them

905
00:50:44,600 --> 00:50:46,319
Speaker 1: to have access because if they have you where your

906
00:50:46,400 --> 00:50:48,480
Speaker 1: legs open, they can go and be like, you know what,

907
00:50:49,000 --> 00:50:50,680
Speaker 1: the baby's not coming fast enough. Let me get that

908
00:50:50,760 --> 00:50:54,120
Speaker 1: vacuum and it's like right there, or let me let

909
00:50:54,160 --> 00:50:59,359
Speaker 1: me get you open, let me like slice you open. Whatever. Yeah, wait,

910
00:51:00,000 --> 00:51:02,759
Speaker 1: it's a vacuum. It's like literally a vacuum that they

911
00:51:02,800 --> 00:51:08,239
Speaker 1: put on the baby's head and the out shut up. No, no,

912
00:51:08,360 --> 00:51:10,360
Speaker 1: we're not going to watch that. That's what we're not

913
00:51:10,480 --> 00:51:14,120
Speaker 1: going to watch. She turned it out. No oh, And

914
00:51:14,320 --> 00:51:16,400
Speaker 1: that's the thing. It's just like a lot of women

915
00:51:17,000 --> 00:51:22,160
Speaker 1: are trying to stay away from doing that because that's

916
00:51:22,160 --> 00:51:24,319
Speaker 1: where the doctors come in. And it comes back to men,

917
00:51:24,600 --> 00:51:26,880
Speaker 1: like men became O. B. G. Y n's and then

918
00:51:26,920 --> 00:51:30,520
Speaker 1: they took over the field and how women give birth.

919
00:51:31,120 --> 00:51:32,839
Speaker 1: So if you think about it, back in the day,

920
00:51:33,320 --> 00:51:36,200
Speaker 1: it was women helping women and women didn't have c

921
00:51:36,360 --> 00:51:37,880
Speaker 1: sections because how the hell you're going to have a

922
00:51:37,920 --> 00:51:40,360
Speaker 1: c section in the middle of your country or like

923
00:51:40,480 --> 00:51:43,640
Speaker 1: whatever the crisis you figured it out by doing what

924
00:51:44,200 --> 00:51:47,960
Speaker 1: switching positions. So, like I said, the same way you

925
00:51:48,040 --> 00:51:49,520
Speaker 1: make a baby is the same way you get that

926
00:51:49,600 --> 00:51:52,680
Speaker 1: baby out. So if you're standing up right, like hospitals

927
00:51:52,840 --> 00:51:54,800
Speaker 1: let you do that. Well, the thing is is that

928
00:51:54,960 --> 00:51:57,680
Speaker 1: you're allowed to do whatever you want at the as

929
00:51:57,719 --> 00:52:01,719
Speaker 1: crazy as the sound, because it's just like it's your birth,

930
00:52:01,800 --> 00:52:03,640
Speaker 1: it's your body, and you have the consent to say

931
00:52:03,800 --> 00:52:06,600
Speaker 1: no to anything that they say. But the thing is

932
00:52:06,760 --> 00:52:11,080
Speaker 1: is like people are scared of the modern medicine and

933
00:52:11,160 --> 00:52:13,360
Speaker 1: they're just like, oh, well, he went to school, so

934
00:52:13,480 --> 00:52:15,520
Speaker 1: he knows how I should give birth to a baby?

935
00:52:16,120 --> 00:52:21,520
Speaker 1: How believe in what may tell y'all right, see what

936
00:52:21,600 --> 00:52:24,879
Speaker 1: I'm talking about. It's all coming ya want to try

937
00:52:25,000 --> 00:52:27,440
Speaker 1: me trying to share you and it's just like you,

938
00:52:27,840 --> 00:52:34,200
Speaker 1: I love you because the baby blueprints. Because it's like

939
00:52:34,880 --> 00:52:36,600
Speaker 1: it's like, how can a man tell a woman how

940
00:52:36,640 --> 00:52:39,520
Speaker 1: to give birth? I know that's right? How say he

941
00:52:39,640 --> 00:52:41,600
Speaker 1: can't feel he never felt to that you never felt it,

942
00:52:42,160 --> 00:52:43,800
Speaker 1: and he probably won't even be able to survive it,

943
00:52:43,880 --> 00:52:46,000
Speaker 1: honestly because of the pain. Tolerance is like breaking like

944
00:52:46,080 --> 00:52:50,440
Speaker 1: fifty two bones at one time. So did you go natural?

945
00:52:50,560 --> 00:52:54,960
Speaker 1: Or yes, I've done all three naturals? Um no tears?

946
00:52:56,360 --> 00:52:59,200
Speaker 1: Why do you think not on your back? Because I

947
00:52:59,280 --> 00:53:01,560
Speaker 1: actually wasn't back from my both of them that's where

948
00:53:01,560 --> 00:53:04,080
Speaker 1: I felt the most comfortable. So that's the thing, Like

949
00:53:04,160 --> 00:53:07,120
Speaker 1: I tried different positions. I tried the standing and standing

950
00:53:07,160 --> 00:53:09,719
Speaker 1: I just couldn't tolerate it. And then from my daughter,

951
00:53:09,760 --> 00:53:11,360
Speaker 1: I didn't know any better, Like I had a O. B.

952
00:53:11,480 --> 00:53:13,759
Speaker 1: D Y n He was like chilling in the back

953
00:53:13,840 --> 00:53:15,680
Speaker 1: of the room, like eating my food while I was

954
00:53:15,760 --> 00:53:19,280
Speaker 1: there with my fucking legs open and some student nurses

955
00:53:19,440 --> 00:53:23,680
Speaker 1: delivering me. So some student nurse was delivering me, and

956
00:53:23,800 --> 00:53:25,960
Speaker 1: it just happened to work out that she came out

957
00:53:26,040 --> 00:53:29,200
Speaker 1: with me on my back. Final nurse. What do they

958
00:53:29,239 --> 00:53:30,759
Speaker 1: call it? Because I know it's a bride zilla, I'm

959
00:53:30,760 --> 00:53:34,000
Speaker 1: gonna be the other what is it? What? A mom zilla?

960
00:53:35,520 --> 00:53:37,880
Speaker 1: So I didn't like I was kind of like I

961
00:53:38,040 --> 00:53:41,279
Speaker 1: was kind of aware of like what you should do

962
00:53:41,360 --> 00:53:43,120
Speaker 1: and what you shouldn't do. But I was nineteen, so

963
00:53:43,280 --> 00:53:45,200
Speaker 1: that then that was I really don't have much to say.

964
00:53:45,640 --> 00:53:47,920
Speaker 1: But I always recall like the nurses coming in like

965
00:53:48,040 --> 00:53:50,239
Speaker 1: are you sure this is your first baby? Are you sure?

966
00:53:50,280 --> 00:53:51,920
Speaker 1: And I'm just like, yo, what the funk is my

967
00:53:52,000 --> 00:53:55,120
Speaker 1: friend baby? Like yeah, They're just like you're so calm,

968
00:53:55,200 --> 00:53:57,360
Speaker 1: and I'm like because I'm calm, Like what do you

969
00:53:57,400 --> 00:54:01,680
Speaker 1: want gonna do? Be screaming? My your mom not um.

970
00:54:02,000 --> 00:54:05,920
Speaker 1: My mom never had an epidooral. So she shot out

971
00:54:07,040 --> 00:54:09,719
Speaker 1: and she had me when she was fifteen, so and

972
00:54:09,840 --> 00:54:12,160
Speaker 1: no epidoral. It was kind of like a punishment for her.

973
00:54:12,200 --> 00:54:13,840
Speaker 1: Like my grandma was like, nope, you wanted to have

974
00:54:13,920 --> 00:54:15,920
Speaker 1: a baby at a young age, no epidooral. Push that

975
00:54:16,000 --> 00:54:19,640
Speaker 1: baby out. Where are you boring? Where you born in

976
00:54:19,680 --> 00:54:21,359
Speaker 1: Puerto Rico? No? I was born here. I was born

977
00:54:21,400 --> 00:54:25,200
Speaker 1: in Elizabeth where I'm from. Bro dub shout out to

978
00:54:25,280 --> 00:54:28,200
Speaker 1: the lady w She came on a show. She always

979
00:54:28,239 --> 00:54:31,239
Speaker 1: says she didn't have epido. When I asked her, I

980
00:54:31,320 --> 00:54:33,120
Speaker 1: just remember her sponse. She was like, slaves did it?

981
00:54:33,239 --> 00:54:36,000
Speaker 1: Like right? And that's the way. That's my mentality all

982
00:54:36,040 --> 00:54:39,720
Speaker 1: the time with a lot of things. It's just like, okay,

983
00:54:39,800 --> 00:54:42,480
Speaker 1: so my ancestors did it. How selfish of me is

984
00:54:42,560 --> 00:54:45,720
Speaker 1: it to do that? When something so simple that our body,

985
00:54:47,040 --> 00:54:50,920
Speaker 1: our body is made to do it. But when you

986
00:54:51,040 --> 00:54:54,200
Speaker 1: think about it and you like educate yourself on having

987
00:54:54,239 --> 00:54:56,560
Speaker 1: an epidooral, things could go worse for you than what

988
00:54:56,680 --> 00:55:01,719
Speaker 1: it can go good for you. So like you outweigh

989
00:55:01,760 --> 00:55:05,239
Speaker 1: you're you're pros and your concerts. For some women, they

990
00:55:05,320 --> 00:55:07,799
Speaker 1: need an epidural and that helps them because like they're

991
00:55:07,840 --> 00:55:10,680
Speaker 1: so exhausted, their body is not opening up because they're

992
00:55:10,920 --> 00:55:14,200
Speaker 1: so done, like they need a rest. And then for others,

993
00:55:14,280 --> 00:55:16,840
Speaker 1: it's just like some women could just do it, and

994
00:55:16,960 --> 00:55:19,319
Speaker 1: I feel like being to the point where you can't

995
00:55:19,360 --> 00:55:20,879
Speaker 1: have it. There is a point where you can't write.

996
00:55:21,760 --> 00:55:24,040
Speaker 1: I don't feel like there's a point that you can't doctors.

997
00:55:25,120 --> 00:55:27,759
Speaker 1: And that's that's where it comes again. It's just like,

998
00:55:27,840 --> 00:55:30,440
Speaker 1: who are you to tell me that I can't deliver

999
00:55:30,520 --> 00:55:37,200
Speaker 1: my baby with right And it's just like, no, it's

1000
00:55:37,200 --> 00:55:40,399
Speaker 1: the honest truth, because it's like our bodies are made

1001
00:55:40,440 --> 00:55:43,719
Speaker 1: to do this, are we don't When we were made

1002
00:55:43,800 --> 00:55:46,319
Speaker 1: to make babies, like to deliver babies, we weren't given

1003
00:55:46,360 --> 00:55:48,480
Speaker 1: the time frame. It was never like, oh, you have

1004
00:55:48,560 --> 00:55:50,400
Speaker 1: to have a baby within twenty four hours. If not,

1005
00:55:50,880 --> 00:55:54,400
Speaker 1: cut that baby out. Who made that rule? But the

1006
00:55:54,520 --> 00:55:57,759
Speaker 1: problem is like it's so instilled in us that as

1007
00:55:57,800 --> 00:55:59,480
Speaker 1: soon as our water breaks, we have to go to

1008
00:55:59,560 --> 00:56:03,320
Speaker 1: the hospital. As soon as um you have a contraction,

1009
00:56:03,400 --> 00:56:05,439
Speaker 1: you have to go to the hospital. If you don't

1010
00:56:06,760 --> 00:56:09,560
Speaker 1: mean you're like you don't have to you have actually

1011
00:56:09,640 --> 00:56:13,320
Speaker 1: twenty four hours before there's like a serious risk of

1012
00:56:13,400 --> 00:56:16,320
Speaker 1: you having like an infection or whatever. Actually water breaks

1013
00:56:17,239 --> 00:56:20,840
Speaker 1: there like honey, right, it's every that's the first fucking

1014
00:56:20,880 --> 00:56:22,600
Speaker 1: reaction that everybody's just like, oh ship, I have to

1015
00:56:22,640 --> 00:56:33,279
Speaker 1: go yeah, and she waddled to the cab. So that's

1016
00:56:33,320 --> 00:56:36,480
Speaker 1: the thing. But it's instilled in us. It's like what

1017
00:56:36,719 --> 00:56:38,600
Speaker 1: it's like what we're tall like from the moment where

1018
00:56:38,600 --> 00:56:40,280
Speaker 1: little because like you said, we see it in movies,

1019
00:56:40,880 --> 00:56:43,960
Speaker 1: like our parents went through that. Because it's like everything

1020
00:56:44,080 --> 00:56:46,960
Speaker 1: is going backwards now and like the medical field, you're

1021
00:56:46,960 --> 00:56:49,719
Speaker 1: gonna notice like fifteen years from now, everything's going to

1022
00:56:49,800 --> 00:56:53,160
Speaker 1: be like more holistic and it's already getting there. Everything

1023
00:56:53,440 --> 00:56:59,480
Speaker 1: everyone wants to just like medicine and right. So like

1024
00:56:59,760 --> 00:57:03,439
Speaker 1: but when my mom when we were born, it wasn't

1025
00:57:03,520 --> 00:57:04,759
Speaker 1: like that. It was just like you have to go

1026
00:57:04,840 --> 00:57:06,000
Speaker 1: to the doctor, you have to do this, you have

1027
00:57:06,080 --> 00:57:09,120
Speaker 1: to do that because the doctor said so. So now

1028
00:57:09,239 --> 00:57:13,000
Speaker 1: it's like now as women as dulas as midwives were

1029
00:57:13,040 --> 00:57:15,320
Speaker 1: fighting for the rights of women to be able to

1030
00:57:15,480 --> 00:57:18,840
Speaker 1: have liberty again and have to say because it's like,

1031
00:57:19,240 --> 00:57:20,960
Speaker 1: like I said, who are you to tell me when

1032
00:57:20,960 --> 00:57:23,160
Speaker 1: I could have my baby, you know, like it's like

1033
00:57:23,480 --> 00:57:26,480
Speaker 1: I made this baby one thing I was curious to know.

1034
00:57:26,640 --> 00:57:29,040
Speaker 1: So like a lot of men or women say, I

1035
00:57:29,080 --> 00:57:31,000
Speaker 1: don't want him to see it, and you know, because

1036
00:57:31,000 --> 00:57:32,240
Speaker 1: I don't want I want him be able to suck

1037
00:57:32,280 --> 00:57:35,200
Speaker 1: me again like that. I'm not really worried about that.

1038
00:57:35,480 --> 00:57:37,560
Speaker 1: I'm more so worried about shitting. Can you talk about

1039
00:57:37,600 --> 00:57:46,120
Speaker 1: that tables? But like, you know, shipping is so normal actually,

1040
00:57:46,280 --> 00:57:48,760
Speaker 1: like actually they clean it so fast that you can't

1041
00:57:48,800 --> 00:57:51,560
Speaker 1: even tell. Like really, if you're like having a baby

1042
00:57:51,600 --> 00:57:53,760
Speaker 1: at a hospital, those nurses look you out so like

1043
00:57:53,880 --> 00:57:56,560
Speaker 1: so much. They're just like like taking out the like

1044
00:57:56,680 --> 00:57:58,880
Speaker 1: the bed pads and they're like wiping you real quick

1045
00:57:58,920 --> 00:58:01,480
Speaker 1: before anybody can tell. So if I've never shipped, I

1046
00:58:01,560 --> 00:58:04,640
Speaker 1: have no idea. I don't know, you know, and it's

1047
00:58:04,680 --> 00:58:09,840
Speaker 1: like I don't know, like who knows. So it's just

1048
00:58:10,000 --> 00:58:16,120
Speaker 1: like I'm pretty once you because your body starts like yeah,

1049
00:58:16,440 --> 00:58:18,960
Speaker 1: like once you start like clean um, getting closer to

1050
00:58:19,000 --> 00:58:21,720
Speaker 1: your due day, your body automatically starts cleansing itself out,

1051
00:58:22,160 --> 00:58:24,160
Speaker 1: so you no longer have like hard ship, you have

1052
00:58:24,320 --> 00:58:29,040
Speaker 1: like soft poop. So yeah, pretty much. So when you

1053
00:58:29,120 --> 00:58:33,000
Speaker 1: give birth, if you are pushing, most most likely you're

1054
00:58:33,000 --> 00:58:35,120
Speaker 1: going to take a ship because you're pushing as if

1055
00:58:35,200 --> 00:58:39,080
Speaker 1: you're taking the harder ship your right. So they tell

1056
00:58:39,120 --> 00:58:42,440
Speaker 1: you like push as if you have to, and so

1057
00:58:42,680 --> 00:58:44,200
Speaker 1: of course you have to push, like you gotta poop.

1058
00:58:44,240 --> 00:58:46,320
Speaker 1: To something you want to talk about before we close

1059
00:58:46,360 --> 00:58:51,600
Speaker 1: out placenta and you eat it? I hurt people in postpartum.

1060
00:58:51,640 --> 00:58:54,720
Speaker 1: I want to discuss people do eat their placenta. Um well,

1061
00:58:54,760 --> 00:58:57,120
Speaker 1: actually for what I was listening to Jesus and he's like,

1062
00:58:57,160 --> 00:58:59,120
Speaker 1: I want to see how white adjacent your family is.

1063
00:58:59,200 --> 00:59:03,560
Speaker 1: What did you guys do with a placenta and it pills?

1064
00:59:03,880 --> 00:59:06,880
Speaker 1: They make it, They make it, people eat it people.

1065
00:59:07,520 --> 00:59:09,720
Speaker 1: I can't remember the hair product, but there was a

1066
00:59:09,800 --> 00:59:12,200
Speaker 1: hair product that got discontinued because people found out they

1067
00:59:12,240 --> 00:59:15,440
Speaker 1: were putting put sensios inside of it inside. Just think

1068
00:59:15,480 --> 00:59:18,320
Speaker 1: about it. It's like we're the only mammals that don't

1069
00:59:18,320 --> 00:59:24,240
Speaker 1: eat are placensos. Like listen, I haven't with my last

1070
00:59:24,280 --> 00:59:27,000
Speaker 1: two because I wasn't as educated, but I'm definitely gonna

1071
00:59:27,040 --> 00:59:29,680
Speaker 1: do at this time the nutrients because I mean, it's

1072
00:59:29,760 --> 00:59:31,640
Speaker 1: kind of like for me it's like kind of hypocritic,

1073
00:59:31,720 --> 00:59:35,520
Speaker 1: hypocritical because I'm actually training to become a placenso and capsulator.

1074
00:59:35,640 --> 00:59:41,480
Speaker 1: So it's just like a placentis basically hold on, I

1075
00:59:41,520 --> 00:59:45,520
Speaker 1: haven't Yes, I got it. It's not like it. Um.

1076
00:59:45,880 --> 00:59:47,160
Speaker 1: I knew she would knew what it was, but I

1077
00:59:47,200 --> 00:59:49,040
Speaker 1: wanted to make sure we were just articulate. I feel like,

1078
00:59:49,120 --> 00:59:51,680
Speaker 1: explain it the whole way, right. Yeah, So, basically, like

1079
00:59:51,760 --> 00:59:54,120
Speaker 1: your placentis like the organ that develops on the wall

1080
00:59:54,200 --> 00:59:57,120
Speaker 1: of your uterus during pregnancy and provides nutrients, blood and

1081
00:59:57,200 --> 00:59:59,960
Speaker 1: oxygen to the baby while also removing the waste from

1082
01:00:00,040 --> 01:00:02,640
Speaker 1: the mother. So it's kind of like the filter, so

1083
01:00:02,720 --> 01:00:04,640
Speaker 1: it like filters all the nasty ship from like getting

1084
01:00:04,680 --> 01:00:08,520
Speaker 1: to the baby. So it's like an intestine almost everything

1085
01:00:08,560 --> 01:00:11,000
Speaker 1: actually like an organ. Like when you deliver your you

1086
01:00:11,120 --> 01:00:14,760
Speaker 1: deliver your baby. That like is the third step of labor.

1087
01:00:15,200 --> 01:00:18,000
Speaker 1: You have to deliver your placenza and it's literally like

1088
01:00:18,120 --> 01:00:20,680
Speaker 1: the size of like a paper plate and you just

1089
01:00:21,000 --> 01:00:23,200
Speaker 1: eat it that and that big. Please go back to this.

1090
01:00:23,200 --> 01:00:24,960
Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you guys about when I saw a placenta.

1091
01:00:25,800 --> 01:00:28,160
Speaker 1: I went to see one of my friends. I'm let

1092
01:00:28,200 --> 01:00:30,280
Speaker 1: me tell you what you look at me. I know

1093
01:00:30,360 --> 01:00:33,800
Speaker 1: who I told you a story. She has a baby.

1094
01:00:34,240 --> 01:00:36,200
Speaker 1: I go see her. I'm wearing shorts, were in Florida.

1095
01:00:36,960 --> 01:00:40,520
Speaker 1: She keeps talking about this pain and stomach and I'm like,

1096
01:00:40,640 --> 01:00:42,400
Speaker 1: are you okay? And I'm like touching her and I'm like,

1097
01:00:42,480 --> 01:00:44,360
Speaker 1: I take her my hand and I rub her stomach.

1098
01:00:44,720 --> 01:00:47,160
Speaker 1: I'm close to the edge of the bed. It sounds

1099
01:00:47,240 --> 01:00:52,040
Speaker 1: like a water bucket fell out the floor and it

1100
01:00:52,160 --> 01:00:58,760
Speaker 1: happen to you. Yeah, on my legs. Yeah. So wait,

1101
01:00:58,840 --> 01:01:00,880
Speaker 1: so it didn't come out in the hospital. No, no, no,

1102
01:01:00,960 --> 01:01:03,000
Speaker 1: it comes out in the hospital like if you're at

1103
01:01:03,000 --> 01:01:05,120
Speaker 1: the hospital, but if you're at home that delivers it.

1104
01:01:06,280 --> 01:01:10,880
Speaker 1: It slipped right out onto my god. I remember exactly

1105
01:01:10,960 --> 01:01:14,320
Speaker 1: the shoes off where they were converse little tops. But

1106
01:01:14,440 --> 01:01:21,240
Speaker 1: they know when it happened. She but it was how high?

1107
01:01:22,040 --> 01:01:24,280
Speaker 1: How long after delivery did she have that? Man? Maybe

1108
01:01:24,320 --> 01:01:26,480
Speaker 1: this is maybe an hour? Oh wow. They were nice

1109
01:01:26,520 --> 01:01:29,240
Speaker 1: because a lot of a lot of like, um doctors,

1110
01:01:29,320 --> 01:01:31,840
Speaker 1: they like pushed down on your stomach until it comes out. Well,

1111
01:01:32,040 --> 01:01:35,600
Speaker 1: I fucking didn't realize that. It's no. The nurse comes

1112
01:01:35,640 --> 01:01:40,560
Speaker 1: in because I started screaming. You were like, right, so

1113
01:01:40,760 --> 01:01:43,080
Speaker 1: scream and the nurse comes in and remember her face

1114
01:01:43,240 --> 01:01:47,160
Speaker 1: and she's like, oh, oh my god. And then she

1115
01:01:47,440 --> 01:01:49,480
Speaker 1: goes and tells me to put the gown on, and

1116
01:01:49,560 --> 01:01:52,080
Speaker 1: I'm like to get on my clothes and I'm like,

1117
01:01:52,280 --> 01:01:54,280
Speaker 1: what am I gonna drive in? That's the first thing

1118
01:01:54,360 --> 01:01:58,320
Speaker 1: I said. We're not gonna drive drive That's so it

1119
01:01:58,440 --> 01:02:00,640
Speaker 1: was so gross, but like it sounded like a splash,

1120
01:02:00,760 --> 01:02:03,680
Speaker 1: So okay, so you know you said that, it's like

1121
01:02:03,720 --> 01:02:07,280
Speaker 1: where we're dispensing all the bad stuff and it's basically

1122
01:02:07,400 --> 01:02:09,560
Speaker 1: like the reason why you eat it, all right, So

1123
01:02:10,440 --> 01:02:14,760
Speaker 1: it contains a massive amount of crucial hormones. So think

1124
01:02:14,800 --> 01:02:20,600
Speaker 1: about it, so right, exactly, So when you when you're pregnant,

1125
01:02:20,640 --> 01:02:24,000
Speaker 1: your hormones are everywhere. You cry over anything, you excited

1126
01:02:24,040 --> 01:02:28,960
Speaker 1: over anything, you're you're super like your body supersensitive to anything.

1127
01:02:29,440 --> 01:02:32,880
Speaker 1: So when you give birth, all of that is gone, right,

1128
01:02:33,400 --> 01:02:36,040
Speaker 1: So you still have like your emotions of course, because

1129
01:02:36,040 --> 01:02:38,520
Speaker 1: you're still like emotional and your hormones are out of whack,

1130
01:02:38,960 --> 01:02:42,360
Speaker 1: but you have all those good nutrients that were throughout

1131
01:02:42,400 --> 01:02:46,120
Speaker 1: your pregnancy was the lifeline to your baby. So when

1132
01:02:46,160 --> 01:02:48,960
Speaker 1: you deliver that that's gone. Now you can't just take

1133
01:02:49,000 --> 01:02:53,000
Speaker 1: more pat you can, but it's just like you said,

1134
01:02:53,000 --> 01:02:54,880
Speaker 1: it's the size of the plate. Can I just swallow

1135
01:02:54,920 --> 01:02:57,880
Speaker 1: a hole or you gotta cut them half? Choate you

1136
01:02:57,960 --> 01:03:00,440
Speaker 1: have to. It's just kind of like it's like as

1137
01:03:00,480 --> 01:03:03,960
Speaker 1: if you're cutting like beef, I don't tastes like and

1138
01:03:04,040 --> 01:03:06,200
Speaker 1: it says it's sort of tastes like blood or pennies,

1139
01:03:06,440 --> 01:03:09,640
Speaker 1: really ironish, but you get used to write it tastes

1140
01:03:09,680 --> 01:03:16,400
Speaker 1: like and multiple smoothies. So the way the way it is,

1141
01:03:16,400 --> 01:03:18,320
Speaker 1: a lot of people do it just so we can

1142
01:03:18,400 --> 01:03:21,200
Speaker 1: cover it. So the way it's basically done. A lot

1143
01:03:21,280 --> 01:03:24,560
Speaker 1: of people do it for religious beliefs, like it's like

1144
01:03:24,640 --> 01:03:26,760
Speaker 1: their tradition, it's like part of their religion. They do

1145
01:03:26,840 --> 01:03:30,960
Speaker 1: it for religious reasons. Some women health. Some women do

1146
01:03:31,080 --> 01:03:33,160
Speaker 1: it for health. And it's just like a lot of

1147
01:03:33,240 --> 01:03:36,080
Speaker 1: women say that it helped them, like they had postpartum

1148
01:03:36,120 --> 01:03:39,720
Speaker 1: depression and previous pregnancies and this time around they didn't

1149
01:03:39,760 --> 01:03:42,560
Speaker 1: have postpartum depression. They would they put it in a

1150
01:03:42,680 --> 01:03:46,480
Speaker 1: freezer bag for you if you want it. If you

1151
01:03:46,480 --> 01:03:48,160
Speaker 1: want to leave with the hospital, you sign a consent

1152
01:03:48,280 --> 01:03:51,120
Speaker 1: form like saying like hey, I'm taking my organ consent

1153
01:03:51,240 --> 01:03:56,040
Speaker 1: form for your own organ that's and then you just

1154
01:03:56,120 --> 01:03:57,720
Speaker 1: have to be prepared, like you have to come in

1155
01:03:57,840 --> 01:03:59,280
Speaker 1: with like um, they ask you to come in with

1156
01:03:59,360 --> 01:04:01,120
Speaker 1: a cooler so you can put ice and then put

1157
01:04:01,160 --> 01:04:03,280
Speaker 1: it in a zip block bag and then you leave

1158
01:04:03,320 --> 01:04:05,720
Speaker 1: the hospital and you do whatever you want with put

1159
01:04:06,040 --> 01:04:09,160
Speaker 1: sentence smoothies with a lot of frozen strawberries, organic o J.

1160
01:04:09,360 --> 01:04:15,720
Speaker 1: You don't even notice it. Yeah, it's just like so

1161
01:04:15,920 --> 01:04:19,000
Speaker 1: basically what you do is you have to cook it,

1162
01:04:19,400 --> 01:04:21,480
Speaker 1: so you boil it and you like steam it to

1163
01:04:21,640 --> 01:04:24,800
Speaker 1: like as much like get rid of all that blood,

1164
01:04:25,640 --> 01:04:27,880
Speaker 1: and then you can dehydrate it and that's how they

1165
01:04:27,920 --> 01:04:32,280
Speaker 1: turn into the capsules carnivores. Now if you don't do

1166
01:04:32,440 --> 01:04:35,360
Speaker 1: the capsules, all you have to do is just dehydrated,

1167
01:04:35,520 --> 01:04:37,520
Speaker 1: chop it up, put it in a freezer, and then

1168
01:04:37,560 --> 01:04:39,280
Speaker 1: every day you just throw it in your smoothie. So

1169
01:04:39,760 --> 01:04:42,240
Speaker 1: most women are what's what's um the guy who was

1170
01:04:42,320 --> 01:04:47,480
Speaker 1: eating people? Oh, hannibal elector don't know, wait, where's the

1171
01:04:47,520 --> 01:04:50,640
Speaker 1: word it is? Hannibal, right, candible candle, Yeah, yeah, yeah,

1172
01:04:51,320 --> 01:04:56,920
Speaker 1: handible cannible his name. But before we end, I want

1173
01:04:56,920 --> 01:04:59,600
Speaker 1: to talk about postpartum depression because it's very important. That

1174
01:04:59,680 --> 01:05:03,240
Speaker 1: ship is fucking rough mine. Yes, it really is. You

1175
01:05:03,360 --> 01:05:06,880
Speaker 1: had it, yes, I definitely yes. Did you ever have it?

1176
01:05:07,040 --> 01:05:10,040
Speaker 1: I never had it because our periods is lit. Can

1177
01:05:10,080 --> 01:05:13,560
Speaker 1: you come in the first second? Sorry? Yeah, I was

1178
01:05:17,080 --> 01:05:20,840
Speaker 1: really great because and Alex just have a seat where

1179
01:05:20,840 --> 01:05:24,280
Speaker 1: I'm sitting, because she's kind of like, tell them, tell

1180
01:05:24,360 --> 01:05:27,600
Speaker 1: us about your postpartum. She was never diagnosed though, y'all

1181
01:05:27,640 --> 01:05:32,800
Speaker 1: welcome to Alexa onto the horrible, So explain to us

1182
01:05:33,200 --> 01:05:36,720
Speaker 1: your postpartum. I guess depression of what it felt like,

1183
01:05:36,840 --> 01:05:40,280
Speaker 1: what you went through and kind of you know, I

1184
01:05:40,400 --> 01:05:44,040
Speaker 1: felt like really like dark and like alone. Everything was

1185
01:05:44,120 --> 01:05:46,840
Speaker 1: like an attitude angry. I was always like I wanted

1186
01:05:46,880 --> 01:05:50,040
Speaker 1: to be by myself. I want I actually lived with her.

1187
01:05:51,880 --> 01:05:54,520
Speaker 1: I hated her. Yeah, like I locked myself and the

1188
01:05:54,600 --> 01:05:56,600
Speaker 1: baby in the room, like I didn't want anyone to

1189
01:05:56,680 --> 01:05:58,600
Speaker 1: knock on the door. Like it was just like I

1190
01:05:58,720 --> 01:06:00,400
Speaker 1: say this all the time, like she in there when

1191
01:06:00,440 --> 01:06:02,360
Speaker 1: my niece and my niece came out like three months old.

1192
01:06:03,040 --> 01:06:05,480
Speaker 1: Because and I knew it, and I knew that she

1193
01:06:05,640 --> 01:06:07,680
Speaker 1: had the signs and I knew it was going to

1194
01:06:07,760 --> 01:06:09,760
Speaker 1: happen because I know her as a person you know,

1195
01:06:11,640 --> 01:06:15,120
Speaker 1: if you take time and it's just like a the time.

1196
01:06:15,200 --> 01:06:16,760
Speaker 1: I mean, you can go to the doctor and they'll

1197
01:06:16,760 --> 01:06:20,160
Speaker 1: prescribe you like you know, medication and like right right,

1198
01:06:20,520 --> 01:06:24,800
Speaker 1: I mean what helped you, um me getting a job,

1199
01:06:24,960 --> 01:06:32,760
Speaker 1: like getting out there working and and her No, definitely

1200
01:06:32,840 --> 01:06:36,560
Speaker 1: not someone know for some women, Like I've had clients

1201
01:06:36,600 --> 01:06:38,920
Speaker 1: that are just like get that baby away for me,

1202
01:06:39,360 --> 01:06:41,240
Speaker 1: you know, and it's and it's sad because it's like

1203
01:06:41,440 --> 01:06:43,920
Speaker 1: I know they don't mean it intentionally, you know, it's

1204
01:06:44,000 --> 01:06:46,960
Speaker 1: just like it's just your mind. Your mind plays tricks

1205
01:06:47,040 --> 01:06:49,440
Speaker 1: on you. And like when you go into a pregnancy,

1206
01:06:49,520 --> 01:06:52,800
Speaker 1: like I tell everyone, it's always mind over matter, Like

1207
01:06:52,960 --> 01:06:54,640
Speaker 1: you have to make sure that you're in control of

1208
01:06:54,720 --> 01:06:57,120
Speaker 1: your mind because your mind will play tricks on you. Now,

1209
01:06:57,360 --> 01:07:00,040
Speaker 1: when you're pregnant, do you not see a psychol It

1210
01:07:00,160 --> 01:07:02,840
Speaker 1: just is that not a part of going to Yeah,

1211
01:07:02,880 --> 01:07:07,560
Speaker 1: you can't know, it's not it's not something that No,

1212
01:07:07,680 --> 01:07:11,320
Speaker 1: it's definitely not a require even because to me, a

1213
01:07:11,440 --> 01:07:14,200
Speaker 1: pregnancy is a surgery in the sense, and so before

1214
01:07:14,280 --> 01:07:16,000
Speaker 1: I had my surgery, I did have to do a

1215
01:07:16,040 --> 01:07:18,320
Speaker 1: psyche vow to make sure that it was something that

1216
01:07:18,400 --> 01:07:20,240
Speaker 1: I wanted to say it's a surgery, I would say

1217
01:07:20,320 --> 01:07:23,440
Speaker 1: it's like a life changing moment. So because if you

1218
01:07:23,480 --> 01:07:25,480
Speaker 1: say surgery, all automatically, people are going to be like,

1219
01:07:25,520 --> 01:07:27,960
Speaker 1: all a C section, But no, that's not the case.

1220
01:07:28,080 --> 01:07:31,760
Speaker 1: It's something that's going to change your life drastically, because okay, fine,

1221
01:07:31,800 --> 01:07:34,480
Speaker 1: I've had two babies, but there's no way that I

1222
01:07:34,560 --> 01:07:36,520
Speaker 1: can tell if this baby's going to change my life

1223
01:07:36,600 --> 01:07:39,680
Speaker 1: in a whole different, drastic way, you know. So it's

1224
01:07:39,720 --> 01:07:42,680
Speaker 1: like each time a woman goes to have a baby,

1225
01:07:42,920 --> 01:07:45,880
Speaker 1: it's a sacred moment. So back to what she was

1226
01:07:45,920 --> 01:07:48,840
Speaker 1: saying about men, how men should be there and why

1227
01:07:48,960 --> 01:07:52,400
Speaker 1: they should be there, it's definitely because okay, oh well

1228
01:07:52,480 --> 01:07:54,440
Speaker 1: she's been pregnant before. She's my baby mama, you know,

1229
01:07:54,520 --> 01:07:56,840
Speaker 1: like where we have kids together. But it's a mental

1230
01:07:56,920 --> 01:07:59,160
Speaker 1: thing and it's just like our bodies go through so

1231
01:07:59,320 --> 01:08:02,560
Speaker 1: many changes. Is that It's like even I have a

1232
01:08:02,600 --> 01:08:06,040
Speaker 1: great marriage, but sometimes I'm just like who are you texting? Huh?

1233
01:08:06,320 --> 01:08:08,120
Speaker 1: Why are you texting her? And he's just like, yo,

1234
01:08:08,320 --> 01:08:11,000
Speaker 1: calm down, what's wrong with you? Who? Who am I texting? Like?

1235
01:08:11,160 --> 01:08:13,760
Speaker 1: Who are you talking about? And it's just because your

1236
01:08:13,800 --> 01:08:16,439
Speaker 1: mind placed tricks on you, and it's like, if you

1237
01:08:16,479 --> 01:08:20,400
Speaker 1: don't have full control of that mind, it can end bad.

1238
01:08:21,520 --> 01:08:26,920
Speaker 1: And that is that she's bring you guys back, that

1239
01:08:27,040 --> 01:08:32,320
Speaker 1: it's hard and for her, she wanted to fight you. Girl,

1240
01:08:33,120 --> 01:08:37,439
Speaker 1: I did No, it's not a joke. So for the men, baby,

1241
01:08:38,160 --> 01:08:42,120
Speaker 1: I guess for the men listening, for the sisters of

1242
01:08:42,240 --> 01:08:44,719
Speaker 1: pregnant women, for the friends of pregnant women, or women

1243
01:08:44,760 --> 01:08:48,000
Speaker 1: who just gave birth, to know that after giving birth,

1244
01:08:48,080 --> 01:08:51,280
Speaker 1: there is a high chance and even when so much

1245
01:08:51,320 --> 01:08:53,800
Speaker 1: help out there, so much for three days, she thought

1246
01:08:53,840 --> 01:08:56,240
Speaker 1: she was gonna kill me. For my son, I didn't

1247
01:08:56,280 --> 01:08:58,880
Speaker 1: have postpartum depression, but I did have baby blues. Like

1248
01:08:59,000 --> 01:09:01,280
Speaker 1: it was just like out like I wasn't enough for him,

1249
01:09:01,600 --> 01:09:04,400
Speaker 1: like everything, Like it was just like you know, like

1250
01:09:04,560 --> 01:09:06,840
Speaker 1: my breastfeeding. I'm just like I'm not feeding him enough.

1251
01:09:06,880 --> 01:09:08,760
Speaker 1: If he wasn't like pooping enough, I'm like funk man,

1252
01:09:08,840 --> 01:09:13,920
Speaker 1: I stuck as a mother, right. It's hot. It's like

1253
01:09:14,000 --> 01:09:18,040
Speaker 1: a lot of pressure, and that's why you have That's

1254
01:09:18,080 --> 01:09:22,040
Speaker 1: why it comes back to even if you feel like

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Speaker 1: you can't afford a doula, there's free dulas. There's so

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Speaker 1: many different programs in our area that even if there's

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Speaker 1: like there's if you like qualify for like um wik

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Speaker 1: medicaid government, but it's but it's free for you. So

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Speaker 1: it's just like, don't feel as if you can't afford it,

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Speaker 1: because I'm broke just as much as everybody else is broken.

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Speaker 1: Maybe it's just like and I received wick and if

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Speaker 1: I can afford, if I can go and like get

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Speaker 1: a free dula, I would, you know, because it's just

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Speaker 1: so important. And it's just like not only white people

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Speaker 1: deserve a dula, and that's where a lot of people America.

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Speaker 1: She's like, no, it's truth because it's like it makes

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Speaker 1: me sad because mostly all my clients are white. And

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Speaker 1: it's because you don't know, for us, is a luxury.

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Speaker 1: You know, it's just like pop that baby out, you'll

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Speaker 1: be fine. But then you have postpartum depression and we

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Speaker 1: scoop it under the rug, like oh, no, get over,

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Speaker 1: you gotta figure it out, you gotta go to work,

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Speaker 1: you gotta find the babysitter and then what so then

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Speaker 1: we're fun because it's just like, oh, you're just another

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Speaker 1: crazy bitch like you guys. But like I feel like

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Speaker 1: this was such a be very honest with you, um

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Speaker 1: like chalk to you on the phone. You were so quiet.

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01:10:40,880 --> 01:10:45,840
Speaker 1: I thought this is gonna be trashed. No, not for me,

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01:10:45,840 --> 01:10:47,760
Speaker 1: because I'd be like, do we we don't don't bring out.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, you know, I called her and she she

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01:10:52,520 --> 01:10:55,040
Speaker 1: had energy on the phone. You know. When you called me,

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01:10:55,160 --> 01:10:56,640
Speaker 1: I was like, I was in my mom's house and

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Speaker 1: we have this fucking game like we have to take

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Speaker 1: one car out put another car in the driveway, and

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Speaker 1: like when you're calling me, I was just like, fuck, okay, hello,

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Speaker 1: hold on, hold on, And I'm like, well, I wanted

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01:11:07,120 --> 01:11:10,760
Speaker 1: to make day talk someone. This is gonna sound really

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Speaker 1: fucked up. After Sugar Daddy and after that's the last

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Speaker 1: um HIV, the first HIV episode, we had just kind

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Speaker 1: of getting him to open up, and I don't think

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Speaker 1: he was willing to happen. I don't know how to

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Speaker 1: be like just be like no, I know he wrote

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Speaker 1: us and so he said he was willing to open up. Yeah. Yeah, right.

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01:11:32,280 --> 01:11:34,800
Speaker 1: So like whenever I can't find videos, I can't click

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Speaker 1: on someone and hear their voice, which, by the way,

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Speaker 1: with Sugar Daddy, that was a trap because I was

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Speaker 1: he I saw his energy and Okay, so if I

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01:11:44,479 --> 01:11:46,519
Speaker 1: can't see that, I'm like, let me just call in here.

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Speaker 1: And then once you said you had two kids and

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Speaker 1: you're pregnant, I was like, well if she sucks, we'll

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01:11:50,240 --> 01:11:52,880
Speaker 1: at least ask her about that. Shoot, I was like,

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Speaker 1: oh my god, what am I going to say? And

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01:11:54,600 --> 01:11:57,000
Speaker 1: I was working on it, sat down, nervous, and it's

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01:11:57,040 --> 01:12:04,720
Speaker 1: just what I'll I very nicely. But if we if

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01:12:04,760 --> 01:12:07,920
Speaker 1: we have a minute, I actually want to talk about something, because, UM,

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01:12:08,520 --> 01:12:11,320
Speaker 1: we don't know, like I we what I want, what

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01:12:11,439 --> 01:12:15,000
Speaker 1: I want every woman to know. Basically, every woman like myself,

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01:12:15,360 --> 01:12:21,479
Speaker 1: African American, Hispanic, we got options. We're not alone. UM,

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01:12:22,000 --> 01:12:25,400
Speaker 1: don't feel like just because you can't afford something that

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01:12:25,520 --> 01:12:28,760
Speaker 1: you don't deserve it you know, resources or anything that

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01:12:28,920 --> 01:12:32,680
Speaker 1: maybe I do. Um, there's so many resources. Like I'm

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01:12:32,680 --> 01:12:35,200
Speaker 1: from New Jersey, so in New Jersey we have UM

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01:12:35,360 --> 01:12:43,160
Speaker 1: it's a program called am I allowed to like absolutely should?

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01:12:43,200 --> 01:12:45,439
Speaker 1: I mean, honestly, you know you being here is gonna

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01:12:45,520 --> 01:12:47,479
Speaker 1: I'm sure we're gonna have all the girls. Right. It's

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01:12:47,479 --> 01:12:49,360
Speaker 1: like I wish I heard this before. I wish. And

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01:12:50,400 --> 01:12:52,080
Speaker 1: that's the thing that it's just why you're looking for

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01:12:52,120 --> 01:12:54,960
Speaker 1: that tell them where Oh yes, you guys can find

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01:12:55,040 --> 01:12:59,479
Speaker 1: me on Instagram. I am Michelle Underscore the Lovely Doulah

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01:13:00,200 --> 01:13:02,160
Speaker 1: or that's my personal or you can go to my

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Speaker 1: business page. It's uh the Lovely Doulah. Hold on, let

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01:13:06,280 --> 01:13:10,840
Speaker 1: me double check. Sorry about that. D o U l A. Okay,

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Speaker 1: We're gonna put her information in the description. So it's

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Speaker 1: Lovely Lives Doula on my I G and it's just

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Speaker 1: how it's pronounced. Yes, I do. It's Lovely Lives d

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Speaker 1: s dog Sam at gmail dot com. UM. And if

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01:13:29,880 --> 01:13:36,120
Speaker 1: you have any questions, feel free. No, honestly that's fine.

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01:13:36,840 --> 01:13:41,240
Speaker 1: That's fine because honestly I'd rather just help as many

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Speaker 1: women as I can. Love you are come over to well. UM.

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Speaker 1: So basically the resources, so basically the resources that I

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Speaker 1: would say for New Jersey is just UM. It's called

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Speaker 1: I can't find it right now. We can include it too, yeah,

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01:13:58,360 --> 01:14:01,680
Speaker 1: definitely the description it see will definitely post any of

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Speaker 1: the others. So it's UM. It's called n n J

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Speaker 1: DULA net. So basically what they offer is like you

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01:14:11,479 --> 01:14:16,240
Speaker 1: know a program that UM offer services to women that

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01:14:16,320 --> 01:14:21,080
Speaker 1: are low income. So with that program UM, they just

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01:14:21,160 --> 01:14:23,640
Speaker 1: reach out to different dulas like, hey, um, are you

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01:14:23,760 --> 01:14:27,120
Speaker 1: willing to help? You know, different women that cannot really

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01:14:27,160 --> 01:14:29,599
Speaker 1: afford to pay for a dula and you just decide

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01:14:29,640 --> 01:14:32,880
Speaker 1: it's usually mostly like women that are just starting up. Um,

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01:14:33,080 --> 01:14:35,479
Speaker 1: so if you it's like different payments, like if you

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01:14:36,640 --> 01:14:40,320
Speaker 1: receive like Medicaid, you might only have to pay a

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01:14:40,479 --> 01:14:44,839
Speaker 1: hundred dollars, let's right, and then um, if you receive Medicaid,

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01:14:44,920 --> 01:14:47,200
Speaker 1: Wick and whatever other program that you can think of,

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01:14:47,320 --> 01:14:49,479
Speaker 1: it might be free. So like it's kind of up

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01:14:49,520 --> 01:14:51,960
Speaker 1: to the dulah if you want to, you know, do

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01:14:52,120 --> 01:14:54,599
Speaker 1: it or not. I don't charge no more than three

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01:14:54,640 --> 01:14:57,960
Speaker 1: seventy five. But that's my personal preference only because it's

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01:14:58,000 --> 01:15:00,720
Speaker 1: just like my mom's been there and imagine if my

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01:15:00,800 --> 01:15:06,200
Speaker 1: mom would have known about Oh of course I think

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01:15:06,240 --> 01:15:09,080
Speaker 1: that's awesome. So I'm really glad that you were able

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01:15:09,080 --> 01:15:11,040
Speaker 1: to come on and feel like I said, like, don't

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01:15:11,080 --> 01:15:15,520
Speaker 1: feel like you don't have options, because there's options for everything,

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01:15:15,960 --> 01:15:20,479
Speaker 1: especially especially with today's technology. You can find even if

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01:15:20,520 --> 01:15:23,720
Speaker 1: it's like there's some duels that offer pro bono and

1357
01:15:23,840 --> 01:15:25,880
Speaker 1: even if you're just that one lucky person that they

1358
01:15:25,960 --> 01:15:27,479
Speaker 1: hear your story and you're just like, you know what

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01:15:28,240 --> 01:15:30,840
Speaker 1: I'm not charging you because that's some deep ship and

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01:15:30,920 --> 01:15:32,960
Speaker 1: you deserve to have somebody there for you. You know,

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01:15:33,800 --> 01:15:39,280
Speaker 1: you don't know other people horror decisions and we don't

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01:15:39,280 --> 01:15:42,960
Speaker 1: support you an end right, And it's just like another thing,

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01:15:43,320 --> 01:15:48,719
Speaker 1: another thing. Support your fellow business owners, like especially us women,

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01:15:49,320 --> 01:15:51,080
Speaker 1: you know, like we have to stick together if we

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01:15:51,160 --> 01:15:55,280
Speaker 1: want to build higher, and you know, businesses anything, the

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01:15:55,320 --> 01:15:57,599
Speaker 1: simplest thing. If your friend is just selling a bracelet,

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01:15:57,880 --> 01:16:01,360
Speaker 1: support her because it's like she worked hard on that bracelet.

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01:16:01,439 --> 01:16:03,920
Speaker 1: And if you don't support her, who will. So it's

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01:16:04,000 --> 01:16:06,040
Speaker 1: just like the whole point of it all and the

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01:16:06,160 --> 01:16:07,880
Speaker 1: way it's going to go in this life is like

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01:16:08,000 --> 01:16:10,680
Speaker 1: we have to stick together. And even if it's just

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01:16:10,840 --> 01:16:12,720
Speaker 1: like five of you that sticks together, but at least

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01:16:12,720 --> 01:16:14,519
Speaker 1: you know that those five people have your back and

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01:16:14,600 --> 01:16:17,280
Speaker 1: you're gonna make it up somewhere with the Business Owners

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01:16:17,320 --> 01:16:20,439
Speaker 1: show before we close. I go to a very elaborate

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Speaker 1: gym in New York and a lot of you probably

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01:16:22,880 --> 01:16:25,240
Speaker 1: know the name. Recently found out the person who wanted

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01:16:25,360 --> 01:16:27,720
Speaker 1: was black, and I said, Yo, why are they not

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01:16:27,960 --> 01:16:30,360
Speaker 1: like out there? And blah blah blah blah blah. And

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01:16:30,600 --> 01:16:33,439
Speaker 1: one of the trainers told me because he feels like

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01:16:33,479 --> 01:16:35,120
Speaker 1: if people find out his black owned, they think it's

1382
01:16:37,080 --> 01:16:42,720
Speaker 1: the gym is like up there popular French, trust me.

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01:16:43,080 --> 01:16:44,600
Speaker 1: And when I heard that, I was like, yo, I

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01:16:44,720 --> 01:16:48,120
Speaker 1: get it. And that's sad because because then it's just like, oh,

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01:16:49,520 --> 01:16:53,080
Speaker 1: all are up and coming. No, that's that's sad. It's

1386
01:16:53,120 --> 01:16:59,920
Speaker 1: like you and fellas support those women and you're like

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01:17:00,439 --> 01:17:02,880
Speaker 1: our coworkers open the door, don't be afraid to have

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01:17:02,960 --> 01:17:07,160
Speaker 1: sex with them. Don't be afraid because there's some men

1389
01:17:07,280 --> 01:17:09,920
Speaker 1: that are scared to touch that women. But my philosophy

1390
01:17:10,040 --> 01:17:12,200
Speaker 1: is one orgasm a day keeps that put Tolson away

1391
01:17:12,200 --> 01:17:15,800
Speaker 1: and it's just like a crazy medication that causes you

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01:17:15,880 --> 01:17:20,160
Speaker 1: to have crazy contractions and that it hurts. So okay, right,

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01:17:21,840 --> 01:17:24,920
Speaker 1: thank you. You definitely want to have We're gonna guys

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01:17:25,920 --> 01:17:29,000
Speaker 1: your baby gross questions. I'm gonna look up baby coming

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01:17:29,000 --> 01:17:31,800
Speaker 1: out of a toilet. Um. Please enjoy the step from

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Speaker 1: our patreon. By the way, do you want to say

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01:17:34,160 --> 01:17:37,560
Speaker 1: something about our patreon? Um? I started a post like

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01:17:37,680 --> 01:17:40,320
Speaker 1: a month ago maybe of like people to meet up.

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01:17:40,520 --> 01:17:42,000
Speaker 1: A lot of you are going to the shows alone.

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01:17:42,040 --> 01:17:43,160
Speaker 1: You're like, oh, I don't know if I want to

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01:17:43,160 --> 01:17:45,960
Speaker 1: go to alone, jump in there, meet people together. Our

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01:17:45,960 --> 01:17:49,360
Speaker 1: patreon is our community for puppsed to be host men

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01:17:50,120 --> 01:17:53,560
Speaker 1: already on there also like writing posts themselves so you

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01:17:53,600 --> 01:17:55,920
Speaker 1: can actually start your own posts, and people are like, hey,

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Speaker 1: who wants to grab drinks after the Chicago show? Who

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01:17:58,200 --> 01:18:00,519
Speaker 1: wants to grab drinks after this show? So people are

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01:18:00,600 --> 01:18:03,160
Speaker 1: meeting up and and finding friendships from it, so it's

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01:18:03,200 --> 01:18:06,479
Speaker 1: really dope. That's been really dope, especially like when there

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Speaker 1: was a girl who got a job on our ship.

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01:18:08,560 --> 01:18:10,320
Speaker 1: She's like, I'm looking for a job and blah blah blah,

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Speaker 1: and somebody was like hitting cannabis. It was like hit

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Speaker 1: me up. Yeah, yeah, yeah, So super dope. So if

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Speaker 1: you haven't yet, you can join our patreon for as

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Speaker 1: little as two dollars and if you want to be

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Speaker 1: fancy home and really want to support us, we do

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01:18:24,160 --> 01:18:26,760
Speaker 1: have a fifteen dollar tier and at that tier, after

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01:18:26,880 --> 01:18:29,040
Speaker 1: four months, you can get merch. And this is the

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Speaker 1: only way for you pussy us wholes to get merch,

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01:18:31,760 --> 01:18:34,840
Speaker 1: so support us. We appreciate you guys, and once again

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Speaker 1: because of you guys, we are rocking out on this tour,

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Speaker 1: So thank you guys and looking forward to me, everyone

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01:18:40,600 --> 01:18:43,360
Speaker 1: coming to our live shows. This has been yet another

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01:18:43,439 --> 01:18:54,320
Speaker 1: episode of horrible decisions by I said, so let me

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01:18:54,400 --> 01:18:58,439
Speaker 1: tell you, bitch, So I land from Chicago. Next thing,

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01:18:58,520 --> 01:18:59,920
Speaker 1: you know, I'm not even gonna say the team because

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01:18:59,920 --> 01:19:02,800
Speaker 1: I need y'all limiting ship. Next thing, you know, I

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01:19:02,920 --> 01:19:06,400
Speaker 1: see all these niggas in like basketball gear, I'll say

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01:19:06,520 --> 01:19:10,439
Speaker 1: basketball gear and mad tall niggas. So I'm like, oh, okay,

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01:19:10,680 --> 01:19:13,840
Speaker 1: so I'm waiting on my lugging tall man tall niggas.

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01:19:13,880 --> 01:19:17,320
Speaker 1: So bitch, I'm looking. So I see all these niggas

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01:19:17,400 --> 01:19:20,719
Speaker 1: or whatever, and I'm like, oh, finally I see this one. Bitch,

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01:19:21,640 --> 01:19:24,920
Speaker 1: fine about six. I ain't gonna say the number because

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01:19:24,920 --> 01:19:27,880
Speaker 1: you're gonna limit it. But he taught as fun and bitch,

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01:19:28,000 --> 01:19:30,920
Speaker 1: his ass was sitting over six seven, over six seven.

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01:19:31,400 --> 01:19:34,320
Speaker 1: His ass was sitting up in his great sweatpants like

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01:19:34,840 --> 01:19:38,040
Speaker 1: something serious. Bitch, it ain't made no goddamn sense. I

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01:19:38,240 --> 01:19:40,640
Speaker 1: was like, goddamn, And here I go, just sucking my

1438
01:19:40,720 --> 01:19:44,280
Speaker 1: teeth thinking about bend in that booty over. But I'm

1439
01:19:44,320 --> 01:19:47,200
Speaker 1: looking at team final tell I realized the team it is.

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01:19:47,280 --> 01:19:49,320
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, shoot, I one of these niggas in

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01:19:49,400 --> 01:19:52,559
Speaker 1: Vegas so I hit the niggat that I fucking Vegas

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01:19:52,640 --> 01:19:56,320
Speaker 1: like you at LaGuardia. He's like, yeah, terminal, see I

1443
01:19:56,439 --> 01:19:59,680
Speaker 1: said me too. So he's like where So I call

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01:19:59,800 --> 01:20:03,320
Speaker 1: him we hug and I'm like, mind you followed this

1445
01:20:03,400 --> 01:20:05,840
Speaker 1: nigg because nigga don the nigga, no bitch. I ended

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01:20:05,920 --> 01:20:07,439
Speaker 1: up his teammate that I saw it with the Great

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01:20:07,680 --> 01:20:09,599
Speaker 1: with the Great Sweatpants because I was like, oh, he's fine,

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01:20:09,960 --> 01:20:11,840
Speaker 1: So here I go. I'm like, all right, I ain't

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Speaker 1: gonnau the nigga that I sucked in Vegas because but

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01:20:13,840 --> 01:20:15,519
Speaker 1: he doesn't came to New York about two three times

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Speaker 1: this season, and they hit me that nigga I don't

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01:20:17,360 --> 01:20:19,680
Speaker 1: followed him and everything. So the nigga I wanted in

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01:20:19,760 --> 01:20:23,040
Speaker 1: the Great Sweatpants, I don't know his name, ain't no ship. Here.

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01:20:23,080 --> 01:20:27,599
Speaker 1: I go Google Google the roster, and of course, because

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01:20:27,600 --> 01:20:29,519
Speaker 1: it's G League deal lea bitch, none of their pictures

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01:20:29,560 --> 01:20:31,439
Speaker 1: are there. So I had to click every name, but

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Speaker 1: I started with the height. Didn't click on the white

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Speaker 1: boy names because I was like, I know he's not

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Speaker 1: a white boy, so his name isn't gonna be European.

1460
01:20:37,400 --> 01:20:39,720
Speaker 1: So I go to all the nigger names over six six.

1461
01:20:39,840 --> 01:20:42,960
Speaker 1: I go to all the nigga names, b making no,

1462
01:20:43,080 --> 01:20:45,240
Speaker 1: because you know my phone charging over there. I want

1463
01:20:45,280 --> 01:20:47,200
Speaker 1: to name this episode. I went to all the nigger names.

1464
01:20:48,520 --> 01:20:52,800
Speaker 1: I'm just saying no, the ones like you know. So

1465
01:20:52,880 --> 01:20:54,680
Speaker 1: I was like, okay, over six six, he gotta be

1466
01:20:54,720 --> 01:20:56,920
Speaker 1: a forward. So I'm I started to click on the

1467
01:20:57,040 --> 01:21:00,400
Speaker 1: name Forward because he's not a guard and he's over

1468
01:21:00,479 --> 01:21:03,479
Speaker 1: six six, so I'm clicking on all the names. Finally,

1469
01:21:03,560 --> 01:21:06,280
Speaker 1: I put the name back in the Google search because

1470
01:21:06,520 --> 01:21:10,760
Speaker 1: they didn't have no pictures because I did girl and

1471
01:21:10,840 --> 01:21:14,120
Speaker 1: his booty was big. So anyway, I find him right,

1472
01:21:14,400 --> 01:21:19,080
Speaker 1: find him on Instagram. I like three pictures. I was,

1473
01:21:19,320 --> 01:21:21,720
Speaker 1: but I left that ship at three likes. Bitch that

1474
01:21:21,800 --> 01:21:23,880
Speaker 1: nigga sent me to I emojis like ten minutes later.

1475
01:21:24,720 --> 01:21:27,840
Speaker 1: Why the fuck did I scroll up in our damns?

1476
01:21:27,880 --> 01:21:30,559
Speaker 1: Which Why were we talking in two thousand fifteen when

1477
01:21:30,600 --> 01:21:33,559
Speaker 1: he was in college? Of course, because I'm a home bitch,

1478
01:21:34,439 --> 01:21:37,479
Speaker 1: I said, Oh, we were talking four years ago. So

1479
01:21:38,120 --> 01:21:40,760
Speaker 1: he spent both days that he was here with me

1480
01:21:42,400 --> 01:21:46,280
Speaker 1: like already, onesome, you gotta cut your holes off. We

1481
01:21:46,439 --> 01:21:47,960
Speaker 1: was in the middle of us, he said, he's gonna

1482
01:21:47,960 --> 01:21:49,240
Speaker 1: take care of me now. He can't take care of

1483
01:21:49,280 --> 01:21:50,760
Speaker 1: me with you, Lee Bunny. But I wasn't gonna let

1484
01:21:50,800 --> 01:21:54,760
Speaker 1: him know that you're not even rich. I'll make more

1485
01:21:54,800 --> 01:21:58,360
Speaker 1: than you, I'm sure. Um, and then tell me why

1486
01:22:00,040 --> 01:22:02,160
Speaker 1: I did the math. So while we were talking when

1487
01:22:02,200 --> 01:22:03,880
Speaker 1: he was in college, I asked him his age, No,

1488
01:22:04,439 --> 01:22:06,000
Speaker 1: asked him his age now. I said, oh, so you

1489
01:22:06,120 --> 01:22:11,519
Speaker 1: lied about your age four years ago. He lied to

1490
01:22:11,560 --> 01:22:15,519
Speaker 1: me about his age seventeen. He wasn't seventeen but close,

1491
01:22:17,760 --> 01:22:20,680
Speaker 1: and he was legal. But when he told me his

1492
01:22:20,840 --> 01:22:23,080
Speaker 1: age now, I said, sir, that's not adding up to

1493
01:22:23,160 --> 01:22:27,040
Speaker 1: what you told me you were four years ago. He's like,

1494
01:22:27,840 --> 01:22:33,200
Speaker 1: I said, you can yeah this morning, girl what he did?

1495
01:22:33,240 --> 01:22:36,240
Speaker 1: And I, I mean, I chuckled because I knew maybe

1496
01:22:36,280 --> 01:22:41,000
Speaker 1: if we go overseas maybe not now hold on, but

1497
01:22:41,120 --> 01:22:45,040
Speaker 1: he's kill he talked, let me get off the horny mate. Um,

1498
01:22:45,200 --> 01:22:47,760
Speaker 1: I think now they pay seventy K like that's like

1499
01:22:47,880 --> 01:22:49,599
Speaker 1: the start. And then if you get a two way contract,

1500
01:22:49,640 --> 01:22:52,640
Speaker 1: which means you're signed to the NBA team and the

1501
01:22:52,720 --> 01:22:56,960
Speaker 1: G League team, it's like mathematics shut the funk up.

1502
01:22:57,000 --> 01:22:57,559
Speaker 1: Plus the whole