Speaker 1: That I think is what happens in January for a
Speaker 1: lot of people with their new yous resolutions. I'm gonna
Speaker 1: throw everything at the wall, and then you're two weeks
Speaker 1: in and you're like, oh, I'm so tired. I hate this.
Speaker 1: I'm ordering a pizza. I love pizza. I love pizza.
Speaker 2: More Better, More Better, Hi, and welcome to More Better,
Speaker 2: a podcast where we stop pretending to have it all
Speaker 2: together and embrace the journey of becoming a little more better.
Speaker 3: Every day, or at least trying to. That's most of
Speaker 3: a merrow, and that's Stephanie Beatrice. Welcome back, Yeah, welcome back.
Speaker 2: Here.
Speaker 1: We are doing the pod. Here, we are talking to you.
Speaker 1: How are you, mel I am great for the most part. No,
Speaker 1: I'm good. I'm good.
Speaker 3: I'm working. I'm in Atlanta happy. You know, it's great
Speaker 3: all being productive. I'm like on the go. I'm always
Speaker 3: feeling good when I'm like.
Speaker 1: One on the go, like a little cartoon, Melissa, just
Speaker 1: like on a little hamster wheel. Just I don't know
Speaker 1: why I always think of a working girl when I
Speaker 1: hear on the go. On the go, I think I'm
Speaker 1: so addressed.
Speaker 3: In like an eighties business a pencil shirt. I've got
Speaker 3: a clipboard. Yeah, white tennis on noise. Got my white
Speaker 3: tennis noise noise.
Speaker 1: Checking things off. Okay, I like doing. I'm okay, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: you know I'm getting my life together a little bit.
Speaker 2: Uh.
Speaker 1: Yeah. I love a new year. I love a new year,
Speaker 1: you know. I love a I love a new Year's
Speaker 1: resolutions moment, which is like what we're going to talk
Speaker 1: about today. But like I feel like when I when
Speaker 1: I start to get my life together, I feel ready
Speaker 1: to take on new things. It's usually like when I
Speaker 1: actually give myself time to breathe, whether that's like a
Speaker 1: day or two or a couple of weeks, Like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm starting to Yeah. I mean like
Speaker 1: like I'm sitting in my office, which like I never do,
Speaker 1: primarily because for a long time it was my guest room.
Speaker 1: And now it's like gonna be in office and it's like,
Speaker 1: look like look behind me right there. Yeah. One of
Speaker 1: the first illustrations they ever did of Mirabelle from in Gunhal. Oh.
Speaker 1: That's sweet. And they gave it to me at Disney
Speaker 1: and I'm gonna, like I need to reframe it, but
Speaker 1: I'm gonna hang it I'm very picky about my frames.
Speaker 1: It has to be like a white or a like
Speaker 1: a gold. I'm very picky. I'm very picky about my frames.
Speaker 1: I shop even for my frames. Oh that does not
Speaker 1: surprise me. No, but you are very good at aesthetics.
Speaker 1: So thank you.
Speaker 3: Whenever I redo my kitchen, you will be involved in
Speaker 3: the process.
Speaker 1: I can't wait. I can't wait. But I love that.
Speaker 1: I like.
Speaker 3: Having I feel like this came from something and I
Speaker 3: can't remember what because I've done it for so long,
Speaker 3: but I read something a long long time ago that
Speaker 3: it's like really good energy to have your work career
Speaker 3: successes sort of displayed in a space like usually an office,
Speaker 3: to have a space that reminds you of all the
Speaker 3: great things you've done or the high points the successes,
Speaker 3: especially when you're feeling low or you're feeling uninspired. And
Speaker 3: I always try to make sure our office has that.
Speaker 3: And we just moved the boys, so their room became
Speaker 3: our new office, and we bought a new desk, which
Speaker 3: was great. It's got all these like you know, it's
Speaker 3: one of those kind of hutch sort of big desks,
Speaker 3: shelves and stuff, and we put you know, some like
Speaker 3: Awards on the very top of it, and we hung
Speaker 3: some things on the wall, and I realized, like, uh,
Speaker 3: for David that that Power when he was on Power,
Speaker 3: they gave him this really cool framed thing of his
Speaker 3: character with the name and like something else from the show,
Speaker 3: and it's it's beautiful, and we just like, for some reason,
Speaker 3: never hung it up, and I was like, what the fuck.
Speaker 1: I was like, we have to hang this up.
Speaker 3: And he's like, oh, it's so old, and I was like,
Speaker 3: it doesn't matter.
Speaker 1: You were on a great show and you did a
Speaker 1: great job. This should be on the wall. I would
Speaker 1: have all those pictures of me walking those runways in
Speaker 1: Paris framed up and down my house. Do you know what, Seth,
Speaker 1: I want to fucking do that. I'm usual fucking frames.
Speaker 1: I'm a couple of them.
Speaker 3: Gorgeous pictures of him were gorgeous incredibles from like any
Speaker 3: of your campaigns, and like, yeah, on a.
Speaker 4: Race, on a freaking you know, fashion house campaign, like
Speaker 4: walking out walking walking for them like often in the
Speaker 4: show for them, that's something that I'm going.
Speaker 1: To do the dream about and he's done it multiple times.
Speaker 1: He's got to put those up somewhere. Yeah, I'm going
Speaker 1: to do that? Is that for me? I would like
Speaker 1: get those printed on flyers and hand them to people
Speaker 1: when they walked into my house. I'd be like, here's
Speaker 1: just so you know what you're walking into. This is
Speaker 1: me for door. Yeah, yeah, no, I agree. I think
Speaker 1: it's like a good thing to have a space where,
Speaker 1: even if it's a small space, you know, like a
Speaker 1: little space where you don't hide away those things.
Speaker 3: It could be a shout out, it could be what yeah,
Speaker 3: just like little moments you're proud of, you know.
Speaker 1: Yeah, even if it's picture.
Speaker 3: It doesn't have to be professional. It can be no too.
Speaker 3: But I just think that I feel good when I
Speaker 3: go in there, you know what I mean. Like I
Speaker 3: go in there to like read scripts or study and stuff,
Speaker 3: and sometimes when I'm feeling alone, just like oh it's
Speaker 3: all gonna be fine, Like yeah, yeah, look what we've done.
Speaker 1: We've got it ditched. Yeah yeah I did.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: The space is going to be that as soon as
Speaker 1: I get rid of all the clothes that I've called
Speaker 1: from my closet and give them a way to friends,
Speaker 1: which is happening today hopefully. Oh my god, I'm so
Speaker 1: mad that I'm not there.
Speaker 2: More better.
Speaker 1: It's funny that we're talking about this stuff because when
Speaker 1: this episode airs, it'll be the New Year, and our
Speaker 1: episode today is about New Year's resolutions, and we're kind
Speaker 1: of talking about stuff that we're gearing up for or
Speaker 1: like planning or getting rid of and like making way for.
Speaker 1: I think we're already sort of in that headspace, and
Speaker 1: that's kind of why we wanted to talk about it today.
Speaker 3: Yeah, what's your relationship with New Year's resolutions?
Speaker 1: Do you do them? You know, I think they used
Speaker 1: to be for many a woman in this world. I
Speaker 1: think they used to be all about, like I'm gonna
Speaker 1: lose ten pounds, you know, Like, yeah, I think they
Speaker 1: all just used to be related to wait and like,
Speaker 1: so for a really long time, I had a bad
Speaker 1: relationship with them. It was either that I was engaging
Speaker 1: in that and I was like trying to get my
Speaker 1: you know, I'm gonna get a gym membership and I'm
Speaker 1: gonna take this so many classes a week and I'm
Speaker 1: gonna do this and I'm gonna eat this, and it's
Speaker 1: like that I always set myself up for failure in
Speaker 1: that way. I think now that I'm I've kind of
Speaker 1: come to terms with myself and my body in a
Speaker 1: different way, in a happier and healthy way, healthier way.
Speaker 1: I think about them now as like, I don't I'm
Speaker 1: not the kind of person it's like I'm gonna do
Speaker 1: bes ten things in the new year. It's more like
Speaker 1: these are some stuff. These are the things that I
Speaker 1: kind of want to get at in the new year.
Speaker 1: I don't know that I need to do them all
Speaker 1: by a certain date or like this year, I'm not
Speaker 1: eating cheese, you know, like I'm not setting myself up
Speaker 1: for failure by doing something like dumb like that. You
Speaker 1: know what about you? Yeah, I think similarly.
Speaker 3: I think I definitely went through phases where similarly, I, yeah,
Speaker 3: I've had kind of toxic stuff on my resolution's list
Speaker 3: that puts so much pressure, and then yeah, setting myself
Speaker 3: up for failure. And then I went through a phase
Speaker 3: where I just kind of of made the list more
Speaker 3: about like markers.
Speaker 1: I would love to hit throughout the year, Like I
Speaker 1: remember when I used to.
Speaker 3: When I still lived in New York and I used
Speaker 3: to fly out to LA for pilot season, and so
Speaker 3: like during those few years, a lot of times on
Speaker 3: MI New Year's resolution, I would put I just want
Speaker 3: to test for something. It wasn't about booking, it wasn't
Speaker 3: about you know, I want to I want to get
Speaker 3: a few calls. I want to hopefully get some good
Speaker 3: callbacks this year, and I would love to test for
Speaker 3: one project.
Speaker 1: Can you explain to listeners that might.
Speaker 3: So this is a little bit more back in the
Speaker 3: day that the model has sort of changed. But back
Speaker 3: in the day, there used to be more of a
Speaker 3: pilot season in from like mid January to mid late March,
Speaker 3: and it's when they would you would audition.
Speaker 1: For all the pilots that they had that.
Speaker 3: Year, and you know, some years you'd be busy.
Speaker 1: Some years you audition for like two.
Speaker 3: Pilots, you know, and then uh, if you get a callback,
Speaker 3: and then after the callback, you would go to do
Speaker 3: a screen test for the network and studio and that
Speaker 3: would look different my screen for every project.
Speaker 1: My screen test for Brooklyn.
Speaker 3: Nine nine was just in a room with Dan and
Speaker 3: Mike and Andy and I think Phil and Chris.
Speaker 1: I can still see that room when I close my eye,
Speaker 1: I know. And it was a small.
Speaker 3: Room and they were just recording it to show the
Speaker 3: studio network later. I've also done a screen test where
Speaker 3: it was like in a small screening room on the
Speaker 3: lot and the whole audience was full of network executive.
Speaker 1: Nightmare, nightmare, night, hell, hell.
Speaker 3: And you had to stand there by yourself in front
Speaker 3: of them, and the reader was sitting in the front
Speaker 3: row and absolutely did your audition.
Speaker 1: What, yeah, that sounds so I've run the game. You
Speaker 1: tell me that show is not is not even on
Speaker 1: air anymore. And it didn't even like.
Speaker 3: No, I don't think it lasted long either, and then yeah,
Speaker 3: such a or the pilot and sometimes it gets picked up,
Speaker 3: sometimes it doesn't, but they used to do.
Speaker 1: A lot more of them. Yeah, So the thing for
Speaker 1: you was like I want to hit this thing. I'm
Speaker 1: trying to hit this marker, just.
Speaker 3: Trying to hit this marker, you know, and sometimes it
Speaker 3: wouldn't happen, but it was like having that sort of
Speaker 3: aspirational and it wasn't I never put I want to book,
Speaker 3: I want to book a pilot.
Speaker 1: I want to book a you know.
Speaker 3: It was like I want to work this year, I
Speaker 3: want to make money as an actor hopefully this year,
Speaker 3: and I want to test for a pilot. And I
Speaker 3: had a few years where like I hit that that marker.
Speaker 1: I didn't. I didn't book the pilots, but I did test.
Speaker 3: And then it just, yeah, it became more about like
Speaker 3: sort of I guess longer term things for the year,
Speaker 3: like I love putting, Like I want to go on
Speaker 3: a great trip this year, you know, like something that's
Speaker 3: in the future. Yeah, because I find with like the
Speaker 3: the things you have to like hit the ground running
Speaker 3: in January, like you're just setting yourself up for failure,
Speaker 3: you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: If it's like I.
Speaker 3: Want to meditate every day for fifteen minutes, oh my god,
Speaker 3: you know, it's like it's too much.
Speaker 1: It's too much pressure.
Speaker 3: I just try to like or I try to make
Speaker 3: it more like so anyway, what I'm saying is the
Speaker 3: long winded way of saying, like used to hate them
Speaker 3: and hate the pressure with them. And I think when
Speaker 3: I sort of shifted to just more like what are
Speaker 3: some things I would love to have happen this year,
Speaker 3: or what are some things I'm working on now that
Speaker 3: I want to keep working on or keep like remind
Speaker 3: myself to be more better at yeare and you know,
Speaker 3: to keep the train moving feels better to me and
Speaker 3: less pressure and more like little gold posts.
Speaker 1: You know that I.
Speaker 3: Don't have to like immediately attack and make happen in January, right.
Speaker 2: More better, more better.
Speaker 1: I think the thing that has changed a lot. I mean,
Speaker 1: as we're talking about this, I'm realizing when I was younger,
Speaker 1: it was like this has to happen, and now it's
Speaker 1: much more. I don't necessarily always do New Year's resolutions
Speaker 1: because the whole year I'm kind of like manifesting like
Speaker 1: not to use a wooa word, but manifesting what I
Speaker 1: want to have happen in my life and how I
Speaker 1: want to feel when those things are happening, you know,
Speaker 1: Like yeah, and so much of of stuff for me
Speaker 1: lately is how do I want to feel when I'm
Speaker 1: doing it?
Speaker 2: Right?
Speaker 1: Like, cause you can have Let's say you are like
Speaker 1: my new Year's resolution is to like make more money.
Speaker 1: It's like, okay, cool, so but what if you're like
Speaker 1: miserable while you're making that money. I mean, obviously you
Speaker 1: can be non miserable when you spend in it, but
Speaker 1: like you know what I mean, Like or like if
Speaker 1: your new Year's resolution is like I want to lose
Speaker 1: ten pounds, like okay, well you could do that in
Speaker 1: a way that's going to make you feel connected to
Speaker 1: your body and really happy inside yourself, or you could
Speaker 1: do it in a way that's really punishing and cruel
Speaker 1: and mean. And it's like so much of it for
Speaker 1: me lately is like how do I want to feel
Speaker 1: when I'm going after this thing, or when I'm holding
Speaker 1: this thing, or when I have this thing? How do
Speaker 1: I want to feel inside myself? And that isn't just
Speaker 1: for the New Year, It's more like for all the time.
Speaker 1: And it's a good reminder for myself. I mean, like
Speaker 1: I was already like, oh about today because I feel
Speaker 1: like I have so many things to do, but actually
Speaker 1: I can change that for myself right now, like how
Speaker 1: do I want to feel? You know, Like it's kind
Speaker 1: of great. I have some friends coming over later and like,
Speaker 1: you know, not for nothing. I spent the last couple
Speaker 1: of years being kind of like lonely. I think one
Speaker 1: of my not New Year's resolutions, but resolutions was like
Speaker 1: I want to make more friends, and like I'm starting
Speaker 1: to make them and that's kind of nice, you know.
Speaker 1: Or like later I have an event to go to
Speaker 1: and it's like I get to go to this thing,
Speaker 1: and like I get to dress up and have a
Speaker 1: fun time. And one of my friends reframe it. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I think it was my sister. She was like, oh, yeah, well,
Speaker 1: you know, for a lot of people, you what, like
Speaker 1: you get dressed up on prom, you get maybe really
Speaker 1: dressed up if you get married, and like if you
Speaker 1: marry someone or have a job that is kind of
Speaker 1: a fancier job, you go to like maybe a fancy
Speaker 1: gala once a year. But like we're really lucky we
Speaker 1: get to go to like stuff where we get to
Speaker 1: dress up and like, oh it's fun. You know, it's
Speaker 1: really fun. If I frame it in that way for myself,
Speaker 1: if I if I if I don't write, then I
Speaker 1: can sort of spin out and make it become this
Speaker 1: other thing. So much of it is like how am
Speaker 1: I holding the thing? Am I holding it? Is like
Speaker 1: a punishment for myself, like this new year, I have
Speaker 1: to do this, you know, or am I getting it?
Speaker 1: It's like holding it like these are some things that
Speaker 1: I want to achieve. These are the markers that I
Speaker 1: want to hit this year.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, It's so true, and it's and
Speaker 3: it's you know even with like the you know, the
Speaker 3: working out one that you brought up like I've I've
Speaker 3: done that, I've put that on the you know, resolution,
Speaker 3: and then you get to like the second or third
Speaker 3: week of January and you're completely like destroyed and you're like,
Speaker 3: I'm never working out again.
Speaker 1: Fuck this, you know.
Speaker 3: And then there's been the years where I've been like, Okay,
Speaker 3: I want to like incorporate more movement into my life,
Speaker 3: like you. The way you frame it, I think is
Speaker 3: so important, you know. And I've had years where I
Speaker 3: then am like I'm not I'm gonna go I'm gonna
Speaker 3: show up twice a week, twice a week.
Speaker 1: That's it.
Speaker 3: I'm gonna show up twice a week. And then the
Speaker 3: goal is in February or March, maybe I go to
Speaker 3: three times a week, you know, and like setting like
Speaker 3: long term markers for myself and starting out at a
Speaker 3: reasonable pace, yeah, to like incorporate.
Speaker 1: A new habit, you know.
Speaker 3: Like I feel like one year I was even that
Speaker 3: with cooking, you know, and I was like, I'm just
Speaker 3: gonna cook one extra meal a week. I'm going to
Speaker 3: try to just add one a week for a while, yeah,
Speaker 3: and then see how it goes. And then naturally you
Speaker 3: like do a little more, you know, it's like building
Speaker 3: I think habits, and like the initial intention is great,
Speaker 3: but like you really have to feel like think about
Speaker 3: how we frame.
Speaker 1: It in our minds and how we and plan out
Speaker 1: and approach. Yeah, well and that's the thing, right, Like
Speaker 1: U do you remember I don't know if you remember
Speaker 1: this or not when you when you had your children,
Speaker 1: but I remember reading in some book they were like, listen,
Speaker 1: you're the adrenaline is gonna make you feel like you
Speaker 1: can do anything, like the three days after that baby
Speaker 1: is born, you are gonna And I was like, I
Speaker 1: don't think I'll be tired. And I woke up the
Speaker 1: day after and I was like, I'm gonna make granola.
Speaker 1: And I made granola from scratch and like cleaned the
Speaker 1: house and was like, oh my god, a post baby
Speaker 1: is gonna be amazing for me. And then I crashed
Speaker 1: like two days later, but because I was like amped
Speaker 1: up on, like I can do it all, and like, yeah,
Speaker 1: that I think is what happens in January. For a
Speaker 1: lot of people with their New York's resolutions, they don't
Speaker 1: look at it, they don't break it down in an
Speaker 1: approachable way like you said. They go like I'm gonna
Speaker 1: throw everything at the wall, and then you're two weeks
Speaker 1: in and you're like, oh, I'm so tired. I hate this.
Speaker 1: I'm ordering a pizza. Pizza. Yeah. It's that that talk, right,
Speaker 1: Like I say, I can't stick to anything. I'm the worst. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: you know that's worthless talk like meaning like it doesn't.
Speaker 1: It doesn't. It's not valuable for you to talk that
Speaker 1: way to yourself. We all do it, we all do it.
Speaker 1: Maybe that should be one of my newest resolutions is
Speaker 1: to not talk to myself that way. I'm getting better
Speaker 1: at it. What was the the thing that I just
Speaker 1: told us about, It was like the two week mark.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, second week in January.
Speaker 3: The second week in January is known as quitters Day.
Speaker 3: The second Friday in January is known as Quitter's Day,
Speaker 3: when people are most likely to throw the towel in
Speaker 3: on their resolutions. Brutal, so depressing, but also I think
Speaker 3: comforting and that like if that happens to you, you're
Speaker 3: not alone.
Speaker 1: You just need to reframe your approach.
Speaker 3: Yeah, right, Like you tried to do too much, babe,
Speaker 3: tried to too much, did too much, babe, Just back up,
Speaker 3: back it up a little bit, back back it up,
Speaker 3: back it up a little bit, back it up, take
Speaker 3: a take a rest, rest.
Speaker 1: It out, honey, relax, yes, and then baby steps, little
Speaker 1: steps patience, do you like? I think that part of
Speaker 1: that is like people share their resolutions like on the internet,
Speaker 1: oh or with people, and there they feel like they
Speaker 1: have to they have to like show up or show
Speaker 1: up and show out right, like I don't tell I
Speaker 1: don't tell people what I'm working on. I also keep
Speaker 1: my manifestations private because like same evil eye, you know.
Speaker 2: What I mean.
Speaker 1: I'm like, I don't need to be telling people unless
Speaker 1: I trust all the lesson.
Speaker 3: There's time people lie because that's a very Latin thing.
Speaker 1: It's very it's it's just like it's Latin. It's like
Speaker 1: there's many men Mediterranean culture's South American, Central America like that.
Speaker 1: I think that almost all cultures, just like you don't
Speaker 1: want people listening to you and wishing bad on the
Speaker 1: thing that you want the most right because people's thoughts
Speaker 1: are powerful, good and bad. Your own thoughts growing like
Speaker 1: bad energy at you. No, I don't need that. So,
Speaker 1: like like you know, at these Hollywood parties, sometimes people
Speaker 1: be like, what are you working on? I'm like, oh,
Speaker 1: you know, just and that. You know, like I don't
Speaker 1: tell people unless I knew are them and like them.
Speaker 1: You're so good at that. I need to be better
Speaker 1: at that. I just pretend I'm not working at it
Speaker 1: all the time. I'm just like, you know, I have
Speaker 1: this thing coming out soon. I don't know when it's coming.
Speaker 1: It's like, you know, I just finished this, Like I
Speaker 1: don't need to tell me about anything else, Like I
Speaker 1: don't need I don't know you. I don't know you.
Speaker 1: I like you. I don't know who you know what
Speaker 1: I mean, I.
Speaker 3: Don't know what you're thinking of me when you got
Speaker 3: to know you very well.
Speaker 1: Most of the time, I'm I'm like wishing people well.
Speaker 1: I'm never wishing anyone ill except for that. We all
Speaker 1: know that one girl that's my arch nemesis that said
Speaker 1: that thing to me. If you don't if.
Speaker 3: You don't know, listen friend of the podcast episode.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm I just evil eyes, like I think Greek culture. Also,
Speaker 1: my mom used to give me a little pin to
Speaker 1: wear with like a little poble eye on it and
Speaker 1: like keep inside my clothes to deflect the evil eye.
Speaker 1: She gave me one for ros too, when she was
Speaker 1: born to like pin inside her clothing, so like nobody saw.
Speaker 1: I think that the vibe is like no one sees
Speaker 1: the beautiful baby and says like y wish is ill
Speaker 1: on them? Yeah yeah.
Speaker 3: And for Cubans it's a little black gem.
Speaker 1: Oh I don't.
Speaker 3: Know it, and it's a very popular baby gift when
Speaker 3: you get like and so got like three of them,
Speaker 3: see and you you either put it on your baby
Speaker 3: as jewelry or I got one that was like a
Speaker 3: little pin that I pinned to their cribs.
Speaker 1: Yes, and they were paid to their computed to their
Speaker 1: to colect the evil energy, the bad energy.
Speaker 3: Bad's usual off your that's a power baby.
Speaker 1: That's powerfulah. Yeah.
Speaker 3: Four.
Speaker 1: So there was something that was really a big for
Speaker 1: twenty twenty four that was like not a New Year's resolution,
Speaker 1: but like in and out lists. Yes, in for twenty
Speaker 1: twenty four, out for twenty twenty twenty four. I want
Speaker 1: to read the ones that were twenty twenty four because
Speaker 1: I think I want to hear what you think. Okay,
Speaker 1: So this is what was out for twenty twenty four.
Speaker 1: Assigning morality to wait, I agree, weddings, no, no rude podcasts, rude.
Speaker 1: We started this one in four so I hope not
Speaker 1: oversharing for the sake of relatability. I buy that one.
Speaker 1: I buy that, I buy that one.
Speaker 3: I think, yeah, for the sake of relatability, yes, like yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, okay, yes.
Speaker 1: Yeah, oversharing period. I don't know. It still feels in me.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Also, oversharing is subjective. I don't know like how you
Speaker 1: feel about I'm just gonna say that. Yeah, what's your
Speaker 1: version of oversharing?
Speaker 3: Like, yeah, yeah, I think it's kind of nice and
Speaker 3: refreshing when people are vulnerable or yeah, and great and
Speaker 3: oversharing something that they maybe wouldn't.
Speaker 1: Out filler injectables and words. Well, now they've figured out
Speaker 1: that like filler stays in your face basically forever. So
Speaker 1: tread carefully, you guys, tread carefully keeping up with people
Speaker 1: that you don't like. Yes, I agree with that. I
Speaker 1: don't want to come. I don't care. We don't need
Speaker 1: that exploiting and commodifying relationships. When was that in? Okay,
Speaker 1: when was that in? I don't know. Instant gratification is out.
Speaker 1: Uh no, I'm in a hard say this one hard disagree.
Speaker 1: I'm going to half agree.
Speaker 3: Because the opposite of that would be delayed gratification.
Speaker 1: Okay, and I think that that is something that we
Speaker 1: lack in this day and age, and it would be
Speaker 1: nice to bring that back.
Speaker 3: And as a harm, like you gotta wait for that gratification,
Speaker 3: you gotta wait for that hit a dopamine.
Speaker 1: Mandy Lee, a professional This is a New York Times article.
Speaker 1: By the way, Mandy Lee, a professional trend forecaster who's
Speaker 1: predicted the rise of phenomena like Indy Sleeves in Ballet Corps,
Speaker 1: also made an in and out list, which she posts
Speaker 1: on her instagt account. She said, it feels more like
Speaker 1: people's personal manifestation rather than what I think is what
Speaker 1: they actually think is going to be trending. I put
Speaker 1: doubled eggs on my in list because I made double
Speaker 1: eggs on nears. Do I think doubled eggs are going
Speaker 1: to be a resurgence? Have a resurgence? Honestly, maybe, but
Speaker 1: there's no data points. I love that, she said, the
Speaker 1: thing about manifestation. Yeah, I don't know what's on your Okay,
Speaker 1: make a quick in an outlist for the new year.
Speaker 1: If name three to five things that are in for twenty.
Speaker 3: Twenty five for me personally, Yeah, because I will say
Speaker 3: I want to figo you or the culture, but you
Speaker 3: are the mere the culture forecast it. Okay, I'm going
Speaker 3: to say delayed gratification is in because I just said that.
Speaker 3: You just say yeah, and I feel good about that.
Speaker 2: I like it. I like it.
Speaker 1: I'll go in. I think in it's going to be
Speaker 1: a continuation of what people are calling like finding your
Speaker 1: personal style, so like continuing to oh I like that
Speaker 1: sort of go like what do I like to wear?
Speaker 1: What do I feel comfortable in? What communicates me when
Speaker 1: I put on clothes, as opposed to a feeling like
Speaker 1: I think we've seen for the last couple of years
Speaker 1: a lot of like dress like this, dress like this,
Speaker 1: dress like this, and it's like, yes, yes, sure if
Speaker 1: you want to dress like that, great, But I think
Speaker 1: that there's more and more, like little subcultures of like
Speaker 1: I want to dress like a J. Cree catalog. I
Speaker 1: want to pretend like I just came off of a runway.
Speaker 1: I want to look like, you know, my favorite drag queen.
Speaker 3: Like I think that the uniform every day, like you
Speaker 3: know what I mean means like, yeah, I just.
Speaker 1: Think that there's more a continued movement towards like finding
Speaker 1: your own personal style, and not that that means like
Speaker 1: not looking like everybody else. Maybe it does mean like
Speaker 1: looking everybody like everybody else, if that's what you'd like,
Speaker 1: you know, like dressing what feels comfortable to you and
Speaker 1: how you feel best, your your most best self. Does
Speaker 1: that perhaps mean wearing your bear pap slippers all the
Speaker 1: time like I do? Yes? I think another trend is
Speaker 1: going to be these things that I freaking love, these
Speaker 1: like phone chains, especially for women. Yeah, Melissa's like, no,
Speaker 1: I would never thank you, no, thank you ever. Now
Speaker 1: let me just tell you. Let me tell you, Melissa,
Speaker 1: I'm going to get you one of these, and it's
Speaker 1: going to change your life. I'm not it's not going
Speaker 1: to be covered in jewelry like mine, but I will
Speaker 1: get you one, and you're gonna be like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: how did I ever live with without this? I can
Speaker 1: fish my phone out of my big old purse. I
Speaker 1: can find it, I can grab it in the car,
Speaker 1: I can have it around my wrist and like not
Speaker 1: feel like I'm gonna drop it. I don't have to
Speaker 1: carry a purse. I don't have to have pockets. It's great.
Speaker 3: Oh, I will say one that's out for me, or
Speaker 3: I guess in however, you want to freeze it out
Speaker 3: while let're in.
Speaker 1: I hate wallets out me too. Hey, I.
Speaker 3: Leaving your house with just your phone. Someone told me
Speaker 3: the other day that digital licenses might become a thing.
Speaker 1: That's terrifying me.
Speaker 3: It is a little terrifying to me because I'm like,
Speaker 3: how are they really going to do that? But I
Speaker 3: think they have it in Georgia already. Maybe that's where
Speaker 3: like somebody's showing me AI, Yeah, it's out. No, but
Speaker 3: in the sense that like even when you're driving, you
Speaker 3: don't necessarily have to have your physical driver's license on you.
Speaker 3: They just scan your eyeball and we're in They no, no,
Speaker 3: they can scan your phone the thing on your phone
Speaker 3: that you're that's like a state issued dang. But then
Speaker 3: also I'm like, people are going to hack that and
Speaker 3: like it's gonna be how are you going to make
Speaker 3: that secure? But I just like the idea of like
Speaker 3: not having especially as a woman. And I'm like, if
Speaker 3: if we ever get to a point where I could
Speaker 3: like leave my house with just my phone and like
Speaker 3: a lip gloss in my pocket like freedom. That feels
Speaker 3: like freedom to me. Yeah, that's real. That's so you're
Speaker 3: saying a purse in traveling light basically traveling light.
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, that's cool.
Speaker 2: I like that.
Speaker 1: What I think is out out any kind of heel
Speaker 1: on a regular basis. I can I fucking I can't.
Speaker 1: I can't do you know what I love? And in
Speaker 1: the return of the Little Kitten Heel, I love a
Speaker 1: kitten heel. I just bought another. I just bought a
Speaker 1: pair of kittens.
Speaker 3: I love a kitten heel and I feel like it's
Speaker 3: been reinvented and I'm loving it.
Speaker 1: Yes, I wish they and you know what I mean,
Speaker 1: like kit can rebrand it? Does?
Speaker 3: Can we rebrand what we call the little heel?
Speaker 1: Yes? What would it be? I don't know. We'll think
Speaker 1: about it. Okay. I like these in and out lists.
Speaker 1: This is good. Also, I want to talk about this
Speaker 1: really quickly because I think this is really saying. This
Speaker 1: is a hard time moment of the pod. Okay, am tame.
Speaker 1: So the history of New Year's resolutions. The ancient Babylonians
Speaker 1: are said to have been the first people to make
Speaker 1: New Year's resolutions some four thousand years ago. They were
Speaker 1: also the first to hold recorded celebrations in honor of
Speaker 1: the new year, though for them the year began not
Speaker 1: in January but mid March, when the crops were planted.
Speaker 1: During a massive twelve day religious festival known as Akitu,
Speaker 1: the Babylonians crowned a new king or reaffirmed their loyalty
Speaker 1: to the reigning king side note which there was a queen.
Speaker 1: They also made promises to the gods to pay their
Speaker 1: debts and return any objects they had borrowed. These promises
Speaker 1: could be considered the forerunners of our New Year's resolutions.
Speaker 1: If the Babylonians kept their words, their pagan gods would
Speaker 1: bestow favor on them for the coming year. If not,
Speaker 1: they would fall out of the gods favor, a place
Speaker 1: no one wanted to be. A similar practice occurred in
Speaker 1: ancient Rome after the reform minded emperor Julius Caesar tinkered
Speaker 1: with the calendar and established January first as the beginning
Speaker 1: of the new year Circra. Forty six PC. I didn't
Speaker 1: know that name for Janie, the two faced god whose
Speaker 1: spirit inhabited doorways and arches. January had special significance for
Speaker 1: the Romans, believing the Janis. Sorry, I have to make
Speaker 1: this joker again. We talked about this earlier, but I
Speaker 1: was like Janice the god of doorways and arches, Like
Speaker 1: what a bunk fucking that sucks. That sucks. Venus has
Speaker 1: love and like Mars has war and Janis is like
Speaker 1: doors and arches. Why I gotta sign doors and arches arches? Bitch,
Speaker 1: this sucks. Anyway, January had special significance of the Romans,
Speaker 1: believing the Janis symbolically looked backwards into the previous year
Speaker 1: and ahead into the future. The Romans offered sacrifices to
Speaker 1: the deity and made promises of good conduct for the
Speaker 1: coming year. Hmmm, that's kind of cool.
Speaker 3: So it's not like jans pivoted from like, I'm not
Speaker 3: doing architecture. Okay, we're gonna make these doors symbolic.
Speaker 1: I'm two faced. I'm two faced.
Speaker 3: Okay, we're gonna look back and we're gonna some fucking
Speaker 3: metaphor into this bit.
Speaker 1: I have something, let me have this. I have something
Speaker 1: to offer for Jennie. Sorry, Janis. Sorry, Jennis.
Speaker 2: Uh.
Speaker 1: I kind of like that. I like the idea of
Speaker 1: looking backwards and forwards. I like I like the I
Speaker 1: YouTube that a lot. I feel like I do that
Speaker 1: that we do.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and even though I didn't, I also didn't know
Speaker 3: that the New year used to start basically in the
Speaker 3: beginning of smarting, which does make sense.
Speaker 1: Yeah, however, I really like that quiet.
Speaker 3: Week between Christmas and New Year's Oh, the lost week,
Speaker 3: the lost week, it's.
Speaker 1: The bring triangle of weeks. Where is it it does?
Speaker 3: It always feels kind of long too, like time slows
Speaker 3: down a little bit. I do find that I reflect
Speaker 3: a lot during that week, like AKA drink also and
Speaker 3: you know, and it is it's kind of a nice
Speaker 3: like I don't know, yeah, And it's like that the
Speaker 3: start of the new year, I guess, happening after you know,
Speaker 3: all the major holidays of like November and December, feels
Speaker 3: like a good rhythm, even though you're still stuck in
Speaker 3: like fucking winter, which I think is a bet of
Speaker 3: a thing that makes resolutions difficult. Like think about remember
Speaker 3: when you lived in New York the first week of spring,
Speaker 3: when it would be like nice out and everyone's fucking outside,
Speaker 3: everyone's eating outside, everyone's walking. The park is full, right,
Speaker 3: Like that does make sense if that was a time
Speaker 3: when you were starting resolutions.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so you know, because planting seeds in the ground
Speaker 1: like literally thing you're doing. I actually think for in
Speaker 1: and out lists, like in starting your resolutions in spring
Speaker 1: versus starting I like that because like give yourself a break,
Speaker 1: like give your yourself doesn't rain. It's a weird maybe
Speaker 1: just usually Caesar. You know what, Caesar started that calendar.
Speaker 1: And I don't know if you guys know, but his
Speaker 1: friends fucking kill her death.
Speaker 3: Maybe not like an historical figure that we should be
Speaker 3: like following. I'll make us do this on this day
Speaker 3: in the middle of winter, it's so dark and dreary.
Speaker 1: Maybe that's what it is.
Speaker 3: Maybe we we reflect, we plan, we d venture to
Speaker 3: like to plan, to look back plane, and we don't
Speaker 3: take any action until spring. Like this nice week. I
Speaker 3: actually really like when the sunshine is on our side
Speaker 3: and we're literally physically planting seeds. If we're into gardening,
Speaker 3: if that's your thing.
Speaker 1: Although, what do we do in la because it rains
Speaker 1: all of Mars, I know, and then you have June gloom. Okay,
Speaker 1: so we sucked ourselves on this one.
Speaker 3: But I will say, my brain, if you live in
Speaker 3: a place with stunger seasons than Los Angeles.
Speaker 1: And we encourage you to wait on your news resolutions
Speaker 1: until spring, when the actual year is turning over, when
Speaker 1: the earth is like turning over that part of the wheel,
Speaker 1: the wheel is staying out a little bit on the
Speaker 1: back around.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah, My birthday is in February, and that's actually a
Speaker 1: really good time. That would be a good time for
Speaker 1: me to do my New Year's resolutions, like my new
Speaker 1: my new Year is in February. I'm like, oh yeah,
Speaker 1: I like, are you gonna be back? No? Oh lisson no,
Speaker 1: when are you done with your job? April? Okay, that's
Speaker 1: a good time. Hum so far away. It's far, it's far,
Speaker 1: but it's going to go fast and soon, like if
Speaker 1: you go back on it, and you'll be so proud
Speaker 1: of what you did. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3: It's all in the way you hold it, girl, It's
Speaker 3: all your right, It's all in the way I hold it.
Speaker 3: It's all in the way I frame it. Absolutely no,
Speaker 3: And I'm very near this moment.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yes, yes, yes, more better. Okay, I feel a
Speaker 1: little more better about my new year, don't you.
Speaker 2: I do too. I do too.
Speaker 1: I feel like I have a plan of like, don't
Speaker 1: do any be low pressure, keeping it inspirational. Yes, no
Speaker 1: need to act right away. Wait, I love it, Janice,
Speaker 1: look over your shoulder and look back and look out.
Speaker 1: He's come. Yeah. Yeah, give Jannis some love a Janis,
Speaker 1: keep from ways.
Speaker 2: I know.
Speaker 1: Your happy New Year. Okay, thanks for indulging. Are slightly
Speaker 1: stupid but always inspirational. That's more better. Slightly stupid, but
Speaker 1: oh oh god, did we just think of it?
Speaker 2: You guys?
Speaker 1: Let us know if you like that one or if
Speaker 1: it needs work. Maybe it needs to maybe we need
Speaker 1: to punch it up a little. Yeah, I think we
Speaker 1: could workshop that. It's a good start. Yeah, okay, see
Speaker 1: you next time.
Speaker 3: Happy New Year's listeners, Bye.
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