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Speaker 1: we've last showed in some amazing stories for y'all the

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Speaker 2: But before that we got a wrangle, a quick little

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Speaker 1: We bucking love so much they paid us the bucks

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Speaker 1: to help this show stay alive. My girlfriend had me

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Speaker 1: one plot twist self discovery. I am thirty three, born male,

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Speaker 1: I hated seeing myself in mirrors, pictures, you name it.

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Speaker 1: I honestly thought it was kind of normal, so I

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Speaker 1: just accepted it. By the way, this comes from Away

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Speaker 1: through Jesse on the Okay Storytime subured it now. About

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Speaker 1: three weeks ago, I was at my girlfriend's house. We

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Speaker 1: have plans to move in together soon now. Recently she's

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Speaker 1: shaved her head to support our friend with cancer. Side note,

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Speaker 1: treatments for that friend are going very well. She has

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Speaker 1: back out. We were joking around as I have male

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Speaker 1: jokingly threw a wig on and waited. She came out,

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Speaker 1: to me. She just responded with, baby, you know I'm

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Speaker 1: case scenario. I love it. Her words reassured me. Honestly,

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Speaker 1: I love her so much. Anyway, She finished the makeup,

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Speaker 1: to see myself in the mirror. Laugh this off and

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Speaker 1: move on, right, But I didn't. She did an unbelievable job.

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Speaker 1: I looked like I had been born a woman, And

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Speaker 1: I always liked the name Jesse. She whispered in my ear, well, Jesse,

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Speaker 1: you look beautiful, and that was it. I knew this

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Speaker 1: my friends will accept it, but my family are well,

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Speaker 1: let's just say, not very progressive. But this is what

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Speaker 1: always going to be scary coming out to family and friends, yeah,

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Speaker 1: obviously there's safety that has to be taken into it, sure,

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Speaker 1: and the positivity I've seen completely outweighs you. Thanks to

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Speaker 1: to see and redditors wish o pie luck. Opening up

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Speaker 1: hope OPI has fun clothes shopping that must be amazing

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Speaker 1: who has officially agreed to disclose her name, Emily, have

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Speaker 1: As much as I want my journey to be nothing

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Speaker 1: three pm PSD on YouTube, Facebook, TikTok, and Twitch, just

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Speaker 1: But I don't know if I necessarily have like thoughts

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Speaker 1: first story. Yeah, happy party.

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Speaker 3: Since I take my weekend to see him, You would

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Speaker 1: You would be the a hole if you stayed with him.

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry he cheated on you. He's watching multiple times,

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Speaker 1: multiple times he refuses to let you play games with

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Speaker 1: Why are we here? Why are we here?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, just break up, like that's that's what it is.

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Speaker 1: I'm so annoyed. He's like, oh, you're like causing all

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Speaker 3: Update sort of, Well, thank you everyone who took the

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Speaker 1: Deep down, I.

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Speaker 3: Think I knew that it was time. I just needed

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Speaker 3: been over once he cheated, I agree, but honestly stayed

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Speaker 1: I mean, ibody. He's like, yeah, I don't really want

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Speaker 3: In terms of the cheating, he was emotionally cheating on me.

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Speaker 3: Nothing physical happened, Okay, he downloaded Tinder again and talked

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Speaker 3: a little too close with a friend or something, but

437
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Speaker 3: actively downloading Tinder and thinking himself that he wasn't being

438
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Speaker 3: cared about without breaking up with you for that reason alone,

439
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Speaker 3: Nicolas talking to multiple like that's crazy. Downloading a dating

440
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Speaker 3: app while you're in a relationship is insane. Now, it's

441
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Speaker 3: not the worst degree of cheating, but he was hiding

442
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Speaker 3: it from me, and I only found out because I

443
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Speaker 3: had a feeling and looked through his phone. We did

444
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Speaker 3: take a break at that point, but got back together.

445
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Speaker 3: And the reason I said, once or twice a friend

446
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Speaker 3: caught him on another site, and I don't know for

447
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Speaker 3: sure if he had the chance to actually go through

448
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Speaker 3: with talking to someone else. He denied it when I asked,

449
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Speaker 3: I don't believe him.

450
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Speaker 1: I don't buy it. I don't buy it for one second,

451
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Speaker 1: not for one second.

452
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Speaker 3: And for those saying that I am the a hole

453
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Speaker 3: for wasting his time or that I sound insufferable, like

454
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Speaker 3: I said, this is only part of the story. I

455
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Speaker 3: think I've always been the most supportive girlfriend through the

456
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Speaker 3: past four years. An example I can give is that

457
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Speaker 3: whenever he gets calls from customers and we're on the phone,

458
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Speaker 3: I let him hang up and talk to them, or

459
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Speaker 3: if we are spending time together, I let him take

460
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Speaker 3: calls because he always gets on to himself that he

461
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Speaker 3: might lose money if he doesn't answer. By the way,

462
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Speaker 3: you can always spend time with us every week day

463
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Speaker 3: three pm PSC if you join us live on YouTube.

464
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Speaker 1: Facebook, TikTok, just tap our profile. Tap it probably live

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Speaker 1: right now, check just tap it second.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

468
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Speaker 3: I've told him my views on kids in the future

469
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Speaker 3: and explicitly asked if he wanted to continue. Giving that information,

470
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Speaker 3: he said he wants to continue. Now I'm slowly realizing

471
00:20:54,359 --> 00:20:56,600
Speaker 3: that he probably only said that to keep me around,

472
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Speaker 3: as I am the best spicy sleep he has ever had,

473
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Speaker 3: according to him.

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Speaker 1: Ah, there's still more, but that's so annoying. Loki was

475
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Speaker 1: a red flag when he said that the first time.

476
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Speaker 1: When she was like, like, you know you're coming all

477
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Speaker 1: the way out, He's like, don't worry.

478
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Speaker 3: Yeah, right, spicy sleep, right, because you don't want like

479
00:21:13,040 --> 00:21:16,240
Speaker 3: the main thing that they value to be that because

480
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Speaker 3: I love you?

481
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Speaker 1: Right.

482
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Speaker 3: It might also help to say that this is my

483
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Speaker 3: first real relationship and I'm only learning. I want to

484
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Speaker 3: see the good in everybody and give them a chance. Ah,

485
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Speaker 3: I've been there. There's just too many things in this

486
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Speaker 3: relationship that I now realize out weighs the few times

487
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Speaker 3: that he is nice and kind to me exactly. But

488
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Speaker 3: that's the end. I am so glad you got there, oh,

489
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Speaker 3: because a minute, you don't deserve all that.

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Speaker 1: No, you don't deserve a way better, and you're gonna

491
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Speaker 1: find that better yeah, like two seconds, yeah, and then

492
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Speaker 1: you're gonna be like, whoa if? How come I was

493
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Speaker 1: missing out on this whole time if you're the best

494
00:21:48,640 --> 00:21:51,960
Speaker 1: spicy sleep that he's ever had. Yeah, dude, just to wait.

495
00:21:52,080 --> 00:21:54,879
Speaker 1: But that's the end of the story. But we're gonna

496
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Speaker 1: get into the next one. Wit. My boyfriend thinks my

497
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Speaker 1: family is weird because we invited him on the family vacation.

498
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Speaker 3: That is the nicest thing that they could do, so

499
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Speaker 3: incredibly sweet.

500
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Speaker 1: I twenty female and my boyfriend twenty two male. I've

501
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Speaker 1: been in a relationship for just under two and a

502
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Speaker 1: half years. I was under the impression that his family

503
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Speaker 1: liked me a lot and that my family liked him

504
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Speaker 1: a lot as well. We got back from a family

505
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Speaker 1: vacation just two days ago, and I'm feeling conflicted about

506
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Speaker 1: it now. By the way, this comes from anonymous thirty

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Speaker 1: So to get to the story, my family invited my

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Speaker 1: boyfriend to come on vacation with us for three days

510
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Speaker 1: out of our home state. It wasn't anything extravagant, just

511
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Speaker 1: a small little trip where we went hiking and sight seeing,

512
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Speaker 1: et cetera. Me, my sister, my brother, and my boyfriend

513
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Speaker 1: drove separately from my mom, dad, and grandparents while we

514
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Speaker 1: were driving, my boyfriend asked my siblings if they would

515
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Speaker 1: be uncomfortable if theirsohs invited them on a trip like this.

516
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Speaker 1: My brother said that if he had only been with

517
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Speaker 1: them for a short time, then yeah, but given our circumstances, no.

518
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Speaker 1: Since I was the one driving, I just stayed quiet.

519
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Speaker 1: I'll be honest. It hurt my feeling a lot, but

520
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Speaker 1: I didn't feel like it was that big of a deal.

521
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Speaker 1: I'm quite an overthinker. When we got to the hotel

522
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Speaker 1: we were staying at, my boyfriend just looked like he

523
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Speaker 1: didn't want to be there, and so I asked him

524
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Speaker 1: if he was having fun, to which he said, no,

525
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Speaker 1: I really just don't want to be here. I was

526
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Speaker 1: honestly taken aback because I didn't really know what to say.

527
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Speaker 1: I started to tear up and just walked away. The

528
00:23:18,040 --> 00:23:20,480
Speaker 1: rest of the trip was just silence between us and

529
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Speaker 1: awkward conversations between him, my dad, and my mom as

530
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Speaker 1: they didn't realize anything was wrong. I didn't say anything

531
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Speaker 1: to anyone because I didn't want to ruin the mood

532
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Speaker 1: or cut the trip short. But when we got back

533
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Speaker 1: home I tried talking to him about it. He said

534
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Speaker 1: that he was just shocked he got invited to something

535
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Speaker 1: like this and that his parents also thought it was weird.

536
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Speaker 1: I just kind of stared at him for a second

537
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Speaker 1: because I literally didn't understand what was so weird about it.

538
00:23:43,920 --> 00:23:45,680
Speaker 1: I said, if he didn't want to go or felt

539
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Speaker 1: uncomfortable with going, he didn't have to, and he just

540
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Speaker 1: kind of shrugged. I just asked him to leave my

541
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Speaker 1: house and we would talk later, because I was so

542
00:23:53,080 --> 00:23:55,560
Speaker 1: shocked and hurt that he and his family would call

543
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Speaker 1: me and my family weird all for inviting him on

544
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Speaker 1: a small trip with my family. I'm super close with

545
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Speaker 1: his family and it's not like he doesn't know any

546
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Speaker 1: of mine. Is it really weird to invite my boyfriend

547
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Speaker 1: of two and a half years to a small vacation

548
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Speaker 1: and there are some comments and an update, No, it's

549
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Speaker 1: not weird. Yeah, your boyfriend and his family are weird

550
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Speaker 1: for making it's such a big deal, right, And then

551
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Speaker 1: I feel like what will happen with that is like

552
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Speaker 1: you're making it awkward by saying some rude things about

553
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Speaker 1: you not wanting to be there, and then I feel

554
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Speaker 1: like he's probably just going to complain after words, feeling like, yeah,

555
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Speaker 1: it was so awkward. Yeah, like I shouldn't have been there,

556
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Speaker 1: when it's like, dude, you were absolutely contributing to that

557
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Speaker 1: Winter Travel fifty seven forty nine says, your boyfriend and

558
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Speaker 1: his family sound weird, period, your family sound fun, inclusive

559
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Speaker 1: and thoughtful. There you go, Ticky Bird says exactly. We

560
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Speaker 1: invited our daughter's boyfriend on a family reunion trip with

561
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Speaker 1: my immediate side of the family. They were twenty three

562
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Speaker 1: and we all had a great time, all kinds of pieces.

563
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Speaker 1: Says yes. When my first husband and I were dating,

564
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Speaker 1: he passed away after eight years are being married. I

565
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Speaker 1: went on every his family took beach trips ten hours away,

566
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Speaker 1: et cetera. I went with his mom and him, I

567
00:25:05,000 --> 00:25:07,040
Speaker 1: went with his sister and brother in law, et cetera.

568
00:25:07,200 --> 00:25:10,240
Speaker 1: We were madly in love and everybody knew we'd be married.

569
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Speaker 1: There was no keeping us apart from the minute we met.

570
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Speaker 1: Where one of us was, the other was there. His

571
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Speaker 1: family was my family and mine was his. I think

572
00:25:17,359 --> 00:25:19,800
Speaker 1: the boyfriend and his family are strange here. I don't

573
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Speaker 1: see the problem. And if boyfriend thought it was weird,

574
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Speaker 1: why did he go?

575
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Speaker 2: There?

576
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Speaker 1: You go? How are you gonna go and just make

577
00:25:25,680 --> 00:25:29,040
Speaker 1: people feel bad. Yeah, and there is another update. Hi all,

578
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Speaker 1: I feel like it's kind of cliche to say that

579
00:25:30,920 --> 00:25:32,600
Speaker 1: I didn't really expect for this to get as much

580
00:25:32,600 --> 00:25:35,520
Speaker 1: attention as it did. I appreciate everyone taking the time

581
00:25:35,560 --> 00:25:37,480
Speaker 1: to respond to me and let me know that I am,

582
00:25:37,480 --> 00:25:40,400
Speaker 1: in fact, not crazy about this. For the update, I'm

583
00:25:40,400 --> 00:25:43,560
Speaker 1: going to try to answer as many questions as possible.

584
00:25:43,640 --> 00:25:45,880
Speaker 1: I have not fully gotten to sit down and talk

585
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Speaker 1: with my boyfriend yet. We spoke briefly later last night

586
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Speaker 1: after I had made my post about how he severely

587
00:25:52,080 --> 00:25:55,040
Speaker 1: hurt my feelings with what he had said. He apologized,

588
00:25:55,160 --> 00:25:58,120
Speaker 1: but it honestly just felt forced. We haven't spoken any

589
00:25:58,160 --> 00:26:00,800
Speaker 1: more about it yet. For some questions, what culture are

590
00:26:00,800 --> 00:26:03,560
Speaker 1: we from, we do not have any kind of ethnic background,

591
00:26:03,680 --> 00:26:06,400
Speaker 1: and neither of our families are religious at all. We've

592
00:26:06,400 --> 00:26:09,040
Speaker 1: spent the night at each other's houses, and to my knowledge,

593
00:26:09,080 --> 00:26:11,040
Speaker 1: he wasn't opposed to that at all. For those of

594
00:26:11,040 --> 00:26:14,080
Speaker 1: you asking if he was uncomfortable about the low cost vacation,

595
00:26:14,320 --> 00:26:17,280
Speaker 1: I have no idea. His family doesn't often take vacations,

596
00:26:17,400 --> 00:26:19,440
Speaker 1: but not because they can't afford it. I just don't

597
00:26:19,480 --> 00:26:21,680
Speaker 1: think they want to. For those of you asking about

598
00:26:21,720 --> 00:26:25,000
Speaker 1: our communication skills. This has been an outstanding problem for

599
00:26:25,040 --> 00:26:28,120
Speaker 1: the majority of our relationship. I try explaining to him

600
00:26:28,119 --> 00:26:30,840
Speaker 1: that we can solve problems sooner if he's open and honest,

601
00:26:31,000 --> 00:26:33,840
Speaker 1: but sometimes he just doesn't speak his mind before it's

602
00:26:33,840 --> 00:26:36,919
Speaker 1: too late. And last, he is very close with his family,

603
00:26:37,080 --> 00:26:39,639
Speaker 1: but he was always very worried that my family didn't

604
00:26:39,720 --> 00:26:41,480
Speaker 1: like him. It truly just felt like a slap of

605
00:26:41,480 --> 00:26:43,480
Speaker 1: the face when he didn't want to be there as

606
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Speaker 1: I feel like this is a surefireway to say we

607
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Speaker 1: like you from my family. For those wondering, I do

608
00:26:48,320 --> 00:26:51,280
Speaker 1: want to save this relationship if possible. I love my

609
00:26:51,359 --> 00:26:53,600
Speaker 1: boyfriend and we've been through a lot together and I

610
00:26:53,640 --> 00:26:55,920
Speaker 1: don't want to let go of him. And before this mess,

611
00:26:56,080 --> 00:26:58,560
Speaker 1: everything was fine. I just don't know what happened here.

612
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Speaker 1: I'll give another update whenever me and him actually sit

613
00:27:01,320 --> 00:27:04,280
Speaker 1: down and talk, but I figured i'd answer some questions

614
00:27:04,440 --> 00:27:07,840
Speaker 1: while I'm here. Once again, thank you everyone, And there

615
00:27:07,880 --> 00:27:11,200
Speaker 1: are some comments and another updates, but any thoughts.

616
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Speaker 3: I just think he's really lame. I think so, I mean,

617
00:27:14,160 --> 00:27:15,800
Speaker 3: especially like with the like shrugging.

618
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Speaker 1: I don't know, I know, it's like people did that.

619
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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's just like, like, you're rude first of all,

620
00:27:21,840 --> 00:27:24,520
Speaker 3: but like, besides that, you're just a boring dude.

621
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Speaker 1: Why would his life being boring? Like, yes, guy, you know,

622
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Speaker 1: come on comments Pj's or Comfy says, this may seem

623
00:27:31,840 --> 00:27:34,280
Speaker 1: an odd question, but does he call you his girlfriend

624
00:27:34,320 --> 00:27:36,920
Speaker 1: and introduce you that way to others? Have you discussed

625
00:27:36,920 --> 00:27:39,440
Speaker 1: what your relationship looks like down the road and next steps?

626
00:27:39,600 --> 00:27:42,159
Speaker 1: His response is so odd. I'm just wondering if it's

627
00:27:42,200 --> 00:27:44,800
Speaker 1: possible you two are viewing their relationship differently. And there

628
00:27:45,000 --> 00:27:48,119
Speaker 1: is another update a day later. Hey everyone, I just

629
00:27:48,119 --> 00:27:50,560
Speaker 1: got done talking with my boyfriend and I have a

630
00:27:50,720 --> 00:27:53,400
Speaker 1: lot to say. This will most likely be my last

631
00:27:53,520 --> 00:27:56,919
Speaker 1: update unless something huge happens, mostly because I've already come

632
00:27:56,960 --> 00:28:00,200
Speaker 1: to the conclusion that this has completely opened my eyes

633
00:28:00,240 --> 00:28:02,960
Speaker 1: to start. I've seen many comments addressing a post I

634
00:28:02,960 --> 00:28:04,840
Speaker 1: made a year ago. I'm not going to go too

635
00:28:04,880 --> 00:28:06,879
Speaker 1: far into it, as that post was a lot more

636
00:28:06,960 --> 00:28:10,000
Speaker 1: dramatic and quite frankly embarrassing to me. But yes, it

637
00:28:10,200 --> 00:28:13,159
Speaker 1: was about the same boyfriend, and it was about the

638
00:28:13,240 --> 00:28:16,439
Speaker 1: same communication error. I'll admit that I have attachment issues,

639
00:28:16,440 --> 00:28:19,479
Speaker 1: which doesn't help my situation. While I'm close with my family,

640
00:28:19,520 --> 00:28:22,200
Speaker 1: I don't really talk to them about relationship issues because

641
00:28:22,200 --> 00:28:25,119
Speaker 1: they usually don't take it very seriously. This is just

642
00:28:25,160 --> 00:28:27,479
Speaker 1: their way of lightening the mood. I guess. Other than

643
00:28:27,520 --> 00:28:29,840
Speaker 1: my family, I don't have a very good support system,

644
00:28:30,119 --> 00:28:32,720
Speaker 1: especially when it comes to my relationships. For those who

645
00:28:32,720 --> 00:28:34,880
Speaker 1: told me to have a little more self respect, thank

646
00:28:34,920 --> 00:28:38,080
Speaker 1: you for that, but also be kind. You never know

647
00:28:38,160 --> 00:28:40,400
Speaker 1: what people are going through. Quite frankly, I don't have

648
00:28:40,440 --> 00:28:42,720
Speaker 1: a lot of self respect, but for my own issues,

649
00:28:42,720 --> 00:28:45,240
Speaker 1: which I'm not going to talk about anymore. For the update,

650
00:28:45,400 --> 00:28:48,800
Speaker 1: I spoke to my boyfriend and it went anything other

651
00:28:48,960 --> 00:28:54,280
Speaker 1: than good. Oh no, that's not that's not positive. I

652
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Speaker 1: told them once again that it hurt my feelings with

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Speaker 1: what he had said during the trip and to my brother,

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Speaker 1: and he said, dudish, you know, as serious as I

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Speaker 1: think it is. He also said that I was dragging

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Speaker 1: this out when I didn't need to, which really was

657
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Speaker 1: an eye opener considering we didn't talk about it for

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Speaker 1: more than maybe thirty minutes last night and five minutes

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Speaker 1: the day we got home. I don't think I'm dragging

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Speaker 1: it out, but okay. I told him that he made

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Speaker 1: me feel small. He said he was just shocked that

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Speaker 1: he would get invited to something like that and felt

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Speaker 1: like a part of the family. That isn't that's not

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Speaker 1: what he said now he switched it up. I asked

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Speaker 1: him why he said he didn't want to be there,

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Speaker 1: and why he asked my siblings questions like that if

667
00:29:27,800 --> 00:29:29,720
Speaker 1: he was feeling happy and a part of the family,

668
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Speaker 1: and he just said he effed up and said dumb crap.

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Speaker 1: Then apologize right and say, oh my god, I'm sorry.

670
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Speaker 1: I didn't expect it. But then I realized that I

671
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Speaker 1: actually was having a lot of fun. I shouldn't have

672
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Speaker 1: said that. Don't just be like us. He also told

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Speaker 1: me that he's not worried about it and hopes I

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Speaker 1: get over it soon, which I will, but not with

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Speaker 1: him by my side. There you go, let drop him.

676
00:29:52,520 --> 00:29:54,080
Speaker 1: A lot of people told me that coming on to

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Speaker 1: Reddit was a bad idea, simply because all people would

678
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Speaker 1: tell me that I need to leave him and I

679
00:29:58,760 --> 00:30:00,960
Speaker 1: should have just communicate with him. However, I feel like

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Speaker 1: if I had just had this conversation without the hundreds

681
00:30:03,520 --> 00:30:05,920
Speaker 1: of people telling me I wasn't crazy or reading the

682
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Speaker 1: situation wrong, I wouldn't have decided to end thing. I'm

683
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Speaker 1: grateful to all of you who took the time to post,

684
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Speaker 1: and you're welcome to call me dumb for not nipping

685
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Speaker 1: this in the bud when I first knew I was unhappy.

686
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Speaker 1: It's now my time to start healing and moving on

687
00:30:19,040 --> 00:30:21,680
Speaker 1: because five hundred strangers on the internet told me I

688
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Speaker 1: deserve better, so I'm gonna listen this time. Comments New

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Speaker 1: Mom nineteen eighty nine says, a piece of advice to

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Speaker 1: everyone out there in the ether. Someone who casually disregards

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Speaker 1: your feelings and blows you off when you try to

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Speaker 1: bring up something important to you, even if they don't

693
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Speaker 1: think it's a big deal, is not a good partner.

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Speaker 1: I'm not saying you need a break up with this

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Speaker 1: person immediately, but you should understand that they are a

696
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Speaker 1: bad partner who cares minimally about you, and proceed accordingly.

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Speaker 1: The sugar Plum Fairy says, he also told me that

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Speaker 1: he's not worried about it and hopes I get it

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00:30:50,680 --> 00:30:52,560
Speaker 1: over it soon. That's how you know a little he

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Speaker 1: cares about your feelings. What a weird guy, hope, he says. Oh,

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Speaker 1: and I don't know how I forgot to add this

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Speaker 1: in the update. But one of the shining quotes after

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Speaker 1: or he told me I'm dragging this out was you're

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Speaker 1: acting like I fed your mom or something. And when

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Speaker 1: is Leeb says what a keeper sarcasm. Yeah, glad you

706
00:31:08,120 --> 00:31:10,160
Speaker 1: tried talking it out with him so that you know

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Speaker 1: it isn't your fault. It's just him being a weirdo

708
00:31:12,640 --> 00:31:14,560
Speaker 1: and you can let go of him without any guilt.

709
00:31:14,760 --> 00:31:17,040
Speaker 1: You tried to talk about it and save the relationship.

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00:31:17,200 --> 00:31:19,440
Speaker 1: It's always good to know. If it won't work out asaps,

711
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Speaker 1: who can move on with your life. And there's another update,

712
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Speaker 1: and I hope it's like boy, he left forever and

713
00:31:24,680 --> 00:31:27,360
Speaker 1: then I've found the man of my dream. Yes, and

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Speaker 1: also I became the president or the CEO of a

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Speaker 1: huge company. Yeah, now I'm rich. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I think you cracked it, and thank you. You just

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Speaker 3: guessed it. Let's find out.

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Speaker 1: Another tiny update fifteen hours later. Hi, all, I know

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Speaker 1: I said my last post would be my last update

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Speaker 1: unless something big happens, but I feel like after reading

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Speaker 1: and responding to the comments, I found myself becoming bitter

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00:31:49,240 --> 00:31:51,880
Speaker 1: and emotional over the situation. This is more just a

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Speaker 1: true off my chest sort of deal. When I look

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Speaker 1: at your comments, my heart aches with how stupid I

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Speaker 1: was for spending over two years with someone who didn't

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Speaker 1: value me, and now I'm struggling with the fact that

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Speaker 1: I actually miss him, or at least I miss who

728
00:32:03,600 --> 00:32:05,960
Speaker 1: I thought he was. I will not go back, but

729
00:32:06,040 --> 00:32:08,120
Speaker 1: I just can't help feel like I could have saved

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Speaker 1: it if I tried more. I know that's ignorant and naive,

731
00:32:11,360 --> 00:32:13,880
Speaker 1: but the breakup just happened yesterday, and now I'm feeling

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Speaker 1: the aftermath. I'm not sure why these feelings are coming

733
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Speaker 1: to me now, as I'm not sure that I'm really

734
00:32:18,520 --> 00:32:21,000
Speaker 1: much lonelier outside of the relationship than I was inside

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Speaker 1: of it. I just wish I had more things or

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Speaker 1: more people to surround myself with. I've thought about starting

737
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Speaker 1: to go to the gym to hopefully meet new people

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Speaker 1: and get myself into a schedule to fill up the time,

739
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Speaker 1: maybe go experience some shopping therapy. I feel like it's

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Speaker 1: just going to be a couple of weeks of pampering

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Speaker 1: myself before I feel okay enough to move on with

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Speaker 1: my life. It's going to take a minute. Yeah, they

743
00:32:39,480 --> 00:32:41,960
Speaker 1: always do. I feel like everybody needs at least a

744
00:32:41,960 --> 00:32:44,240
Speaker 1: week to be disappointed and upset about how their life

745
00:32:44,320 --> 00:32:46,440
Speaker 1: is going. Right now, you do take that week to

746
00:32:46,520 --> 00:32:50,080
Speaker 1: just sob and then and then wele Bad's back. Yeah exactly. Anyway,

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00:32:50,280 --> 00:32:53,000
Speaker 1: thanks for listening to my rant. This is seriously my

748
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Speaker 1: last post and I'm going to start focusing on myself

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Speaker 1: now rather than living in this disgusting situation. Thanks again.

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Speaker 1: We would love if you could start focusing on us

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Speaker 1: by joining us live every weekday at three PMPSD on Facebook, YouTube, TikTok,

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Speaker 1: and Twitch. Just top a profile, top a profile, probably

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Speaker 1: live right now, and there is a little bit more.

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Speaker 1: But any final thoughts, I.

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Speaker 3: Just think like, you know, you go girl, Oh, you

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Speaker 3: don't need no man.

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Speaker 1: You an independent woman. You're a strong independent lady, you

758
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Speaker 1: know what I mean. Yeah, And also to the point

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Speaker 1: of like, oh, maybe I could have done something to

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Speaker 1: save it. If there was a way to save the relationship,

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Speaker 1: it would have happened. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: That was the best advice I've gotten in the past,

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Speaker 3: is like, you know, if it would have worked out,

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Speaker 3: it would have worked out.

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Speaker 1: It worked out. Ps For those wondering how my boyfriend

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Speaker 1: responded to the breakup, I actually thought he would last

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Speaker 1: two days without trying to guilt trip me with pictures

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Speaker 1: and memories of us. But just five minutes ago he

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Speaker 1: called me and tried to get me to realize my mistake.

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Speaker 1: I don't know. Hopefully he gets over it soon because

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Speaker 1: he's kind of dragging it out. And to those who

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Speaker 1: are going to tell me to block him, I still

773
00:33:56,040 --> 00:33:57,560
Speaker 1: have a lot of his things and need to return

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Speaker 1: them first. After I'll block it. That is the end

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Speaker 1: of that story, all right, Lovely, I'm so happy that

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Speaker 1: Op broke up with that man.

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Speaker 3: Yes, I love all these stories of people standing up

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Speaker 3: for themselves, not for themselves.

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Speaker 1: I let people walk over you. Yeah, but that is

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Speaker 1: the end of that story and the end of this episode.

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Speaker 1: What yeah crazy? So if you love us, make sure

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Speaker 1: My sister told me her baby's name and I laughed.

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Speaker 1: Now I'm not going to the shower.

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Speaker 2: Ooh, I bet it was stupid, probably stupid name.

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Speaker 1: My sister is due after in early January, and we're

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Speaker 1: planning her baby shower for early December. She decided she

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Speaker 1: wanted to use my mother's maiden name Rafferty as her

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Speaker 1: daughter's name, not a traged day itself, and I guess

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Speaker 1: it works out as a unique name. By the way,

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Speaker 1: this comes from Cooler Beans nineteen eighty one on the

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Speaker 1: Okay Storytime Separate It. So yesterday I text my sister

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Speaker 1: that I need to get the custom items with my

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Speaker 1: niece's name ordered a SAP so they are in time

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Speaker 1: for the shower. My sister then let me know they're

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Speaker 1: going with an alternative spelling of Rafferty. I texted back

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Speaker 1: an alternative spelling of our mother's maiden name. My sister

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Speaker 1: wants to spell it ray Farty no ae no aart

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Speaker 1: y ray Farty, So I sent back a bunch of

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Speaker 1: laughing emojis, and she asked, what's so funny. I tried

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Speaker 1: to explain that no one will pronounce that as Rafferty,

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00:35:22,960 --> 00:35:26,000
Speaker 1: and she'll probably get plenty of the same mispronunciations. She

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00:35:26,080 --> 00:35:28,400
Speaker 1: told me I was being ridiculous. I texted back, my

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Speaker 1: poor niece, little miss Farty ray I was uninvited the shower,

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Speaker 1: and my mom told me today my sister doesn't want

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Speaker 1: me as the godmother anymore. But like, ray Farty is

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00:35:37,200 --> 00:35:40,040
Speaker 1: really bad, isn't it. Someone needs to tell her right.

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Speaker 1: I don't know if updates are allowed here, but here

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Speaker 1: it is. And sorry it's long, and I've been having

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Speaker 1: a hard time submitting it. Is there a character limits?

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Speaker 1: I'll try posting some and put the rest in the comments.

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Speaker 1: So we had an intervention on ray Farty. I know

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Speaker 1: everyone said to send a link to the original post

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Speaker 1: to my sister to show her that one hundred and

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Speaker 1: three percent of the global population would call her daughter

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00:35:58,520 --> 00:36:00,839
Speaker 1: ray Farty, and that would be the easiest thing to do.

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Speaker 1: But some commoners said some pretty gnarly things about my

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Speaker 1: sister that she doesn't need to read and feel worse

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00:36:06,160 --> 00:36:08,160
Speaker 1: about herself that I wanted to address a few things

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00:36:08,160 --> 00:36:10,359
Speaker 1: that came up. First, for those saying I shouldn't bother

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Speaker 1: paying for the baby shower anymore, I had no plans

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Speaker 1: to not continue to pay and help out disagreements and

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Speaker 1: fighting aside. I love my sister and want her to

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Speaker 1: go into motherhood filled with love and support, regardless of

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Speaker 1: whether she wants my support or attendance at the event. Second,

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Speaker 1: my sister's husband was made aware of the spelling change

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Speaker 1: of ray Farty about a month before my original post.

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Speaker 1: He said he didn't think much of it until he

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Speaker 1: saw it written down and immediately saw it as ray

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Speaker 1: farty too. He said her emotions had been getting worse

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Speaker 1: throughout the pregnancy and he didn't know how to approach

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Speaker 1: her about going back to the original spelling. Zekiels said

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Speaker 1: that kid will be called gay party one day one

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Speaker 1: of school.

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Speaker 2: Dang, that's so true.

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Speaker 1: Dang. He had hoped that once she gave birth, all

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Speaker 1: the hormones would somehow leave her body, she'd come to

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Speaker 1: her senses and it would be a non issue.

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Speaker 3: Dude.

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Speaker 1: Third, a lot of you were lumping my mom and

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Speaker 1: with my sister and said some pretty horrible things about

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Speaker 1: her too. All my mom, I knew was from my

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Speaker 1: sister calling her to complain that I laughed at her

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Speaker 1: for slightly changing the spelling. My mom just assumed it

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Speaker 1: was a minor change, like raffertee until I told her

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Speaker 1: to grab a pen and paper and I'd spell it

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Speaker 1: out for her. Once she saw it was ray FARTI

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Speaker 1: she was team save this child. Everyone's on board. Now

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Speaker 1: we're all goat the rest of the saga is in

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Speaker 1: the commons now. For those of you who told me

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Speaker 1: I didn't have any tact and my reaction was mean.

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00:37:21,640 --> 00:37:24,239
Speaker 1: My reaction was because one people will call the poor

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Speaker 1: girl ray FARTI her entire life for the sake of

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Speaker 1: my sister being quirky. Two pregnancy brain aside. Surely my

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Speaker 1: sister would realize her child will be called ray farty

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Speaker 1: once it's pointed out, have a laugh, change her mind,

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Speaker 1: and this will end up being a funny story to

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Speaker 1: tell out her daughter's future wedding or something. M three.

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Speaker 1: My sister is a bit of a joker, so I

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Speaker 1: also initially thought she was just pulling a prank or joking.

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Speaker 1: But if she was joking, she took the joke really,

867
00:37:47,000 --> 00:37:49,960
Speaker 1: really far. She spent four hundred dollars on a mural

868
00:37:50,080 --> 00:37:52,759
Speaker 1: painted on one wall in the nursery. She wanted to

869
00:37:52,840 --> 00:37:55,440
Speaker 1: debut the Finnish nursery to everyone at the baby shower,

870
00:37:55,520 --> 00:37:58,520
Speaker 1: including her husband who was forbidden to see it beforehand,

871
00:37:59,040 --> 00:38:02,279
Speaker 1: that had a ray Farty incorporated into it that now

872
00:38:02,320 --> 00:38:05,440
Speaker 1: needed to be repainted. She also bought herself a birthing gift.

873
00:38:05,480 --> 00:38:07,520
Speaker 1: Is this even a thing? She'd have? My brother in

874
00:38:07,600 --> 00:38:09,960
Speaker 1: law present to her in front of everyone at the hospital,

875
00:38:10,000 --> 00:38:14,160
Speaker 1: a nine hundred dollars gold bracelet with Ray Farty charms.

876
00:38:14,200 --> 00:38:17,040
Speaker 1: The baby book also had ray Farty embroidered on the cover.

877
00:38:18,040 --> 00:38:20,920
Speaker 2: Now, why is she going so hard on the paint

878
00:38:20,960 --> 00:38:21,440
Speaker 2: about bar?

879
00:38:21,880 --> 00:38:24,560
Speaker 1: I contacted my sister's best friend, Katie not a real name,

880
00:38:24,600 --> 00:38:27,320
Speaker 1: if my sister has told her anything about the spelling change.

881
00:38:27,320 --> 00:38:29,480
Speaker 1: She found out about Ray Farty about after the blow

882
00:38:29,560 --> 00:38:31,600
Speaker 1: up with my sister, As my sister wanted to get

883
00:38:31,680 --> 00:38:34,480
Speaker 1: Katie on her side. Katie, who's a teacher, was equally

884
00:38:34,480 --> 00:38:36,440
Speaker 1: horrified about the spelling and told me this is the

885
00:38:36,480 --> 00:38:39,440
Speaker 1: worst attempt at a creative name she's ever seen. The

886
00:38:39,520 --> 00:38:42,759
Speaker 1: intervention of sorts the Farty Party, if you will, included me,

887
00:38:43,120 --> 00:38:46,280
Speaker 1: my sister, her husband, his mother and father, my mother,

888
00:38:46,400 --> 00:38:49,640
Speaker 1: and Katie. My sister refused to believe anyone could possibly

889
00:38:49,719 --> 00:38:52,319
Speaker 1: see Ray Farty as Ray Farty, and that we were

890
00:38:52,360 --> 00:38:54,719
Speaker 1: just mad that she was taking creative license and that

891
00:38:54,880 --> 00:38:57,600
Speaker 1: everyone does that nowadays. My sister said children are not

892
00:38:57,719 --> 00:39:00,000
Speaker 1: that cruel to bully her daughter for her name, and Katie,

893
00:39:00,080 --> 00:39:02,160
Speaker 1: she said, plenty of kids are cruol enough, and the

894
00:39:02,160 --> 00:39:04,680
Speaker 1: others would join in so they're not singled out themselves.

895
00:39:04,760 --> 00:39:06,960
Speaker 1: My sister countered that as long as all the adults

896
00:39:06,960 --> 00:39:09,560
Speaker 1: are pronouncing it correctly, that it'll be no problem, and

897
00:39:09,640 --> 00:39:12,000
Speaker 1: Katie told her that not only would the adults not

898
00:39:12,160 --> 00:39:13,920
Speaker 1: know how to pronounce it to begin with, but that

899
00:39:13,960 --> 00:39:16,560
Speaker 1: as long as fart is in the name, kids will

900
00:39:16,600 --> 00:39:18,959
Speaker 1: latch right onto it. I was happy Katie was there

901
00:39:19,000 --> 00:39:21,799
Speaker 1: because she shared interesting names her students have had over

902
00:39:21,840 --> 00:39:24,239
Speaker 1: the past few years, so I knew her opinion on

903
00:39:24,280 --> 00:39:26,640
Speaker 1: this would probably be the only one to swear. My

904
00:39:26,719 --> 00:39:30,080
Speaker 1: sister cried for about ten minutes and finally agreed to

905
00:39:30,480 --> 00:39:34,439
Speaker 1: entirely change the name because even Rafferty was tainted because

906
00:39:34,480 --> 00:39:37,440
Speaker 1: we had all ruined it for her. Oh boy, she

907
00:39:37,680 --> 00:39:38,600
Speaker 1: is drama queen.

908
00:39:38,719 --> 00:39:43,319
Speaker 2: She's so spoiled, like the amount in gifts alone. Yeah,

909
00:39:43,400 --> 00:39:45,879
Speaker 2: that shows you what kind of person she is, and.

910
00:39:45,920 --> 00:39:47,920
Speaker 1: Allow it on those. We told her to take her

911
00:39:47,920 --> 00:39:49,719
Speaker 1: time to consider a new name. She told us she

912
00:39:49,760 --> 00:39:52,479
Speaker 1: still wanted to honor my mother, and she suggested she'd

913
00:39:52,480 --> 00:39:55,000
Speaker 1: combine my mother's first name with her mother in law's

914
00:39:55,080 --> 00:39:57,800
Speaker 1: name and create a name on the spot that included

915
00:39:57,840 --> 00:40:02,400
Speaker 1: a crass term for a lesbian. What how does she

916
00:40:02,520 --> 00:40:04,600
Speaker 1: do this two for two girl?

917
00:40:05,160 --> 00:40:07,680
Speaker 2: This is crazy. Why are we doing this?

918
00:40:07,800 --> 00:40:09,200
Speaker 1: What? Stop? Stop?

919
00:40:09,280 --> 00:40:12,360
Speaker 2: The baby's not born. We have a sign any birth certificates. Stop?

920
00:40:12,560 --> 00:40:15,000
Speaker 1: How did she do this? When my mother pointed that out,

921
00:40:15,000 --> 00:40:17,600
Speaker 1: she started crying again and accused us of not letting

922
00:40:17,640 --> 00:40:19,560
Speaker 1: her be a mom, and her husband suggested to be

923
00:40:19,640 --> 00:40:21,560
Speaker 1: leaving for now and we should all go and give

924
00:40:21,560 --> 00:40:24,480
Speaker 1: her space. It's been radio silence until my sister texted

925
00:40:24,480 --> 00:40:26,279
Speaker 1: me a couple of hours ago that she and her

926
00:40:26,320 --> 00:40:29,640
Speaker 1: husband landed on Theodora, absolutely in love with that. Sure

927
00:40:29,760 --> 00:40:32,320
Speaker 1: that jose Vima deliver QUI says, did she name her Deeseler?

928
00:40:32,640 --> 00:40:35,160
Speaker 1: That's what I was on right. She even decided my

929
00:40:35,280 --> 00:40:38,480
Speaker 1: unborn niece looks like a Theodora in the ultrasound. She

930
00:40:38,480 --> 00:40:40,840
Speaker 1: got those creepy three D ones done where every baby

931
00:40:40,880 --> 00:40:43,560
Speaker 1: looks like the same copper potato. I replied that that

932
00:40:43,760 --> 00:40:47,400
Speaker 1: was lovely, and I'm so happy she's happy. It's not

933
00:40:47,560 --> 00:40:50,600
Speaker 1: my daste. But at least it's not the Odorra or

934
00:40:50,640 --> 00:40:51,239
Speaker 1: something like that.

935
00:40:51,440 --> 00:40:52,680
Speaker 2: By the way, you know.

936
00:40:53,040 --> 00:40:56,279
Speaker 1: What we're always happy about you guys joining us live

937
00:40:56,360 --> 00:40:59,480
Speaker 1: every weekday at three PMPSD on YouTube, Facebook, and TikTok,

938
00:40:59,640 --> 00:41:01,680
Speaker 1: just hop profile and there is a little bit left

939
00:41:01,719 --> 00:41:02,360
Speaker 1: to this story.

940
00:41:02,480 --> 00:41:05,200
Speaker 2: I am so glad that you love your niece this

941
00:41:05,360 --> 00:41:08,200
Speaker 2: much that yeah, thought you were fighting left and right.

942
00:41:08,239 --> 00:41:09,640
Speaker 1: And you can tell her when she grows up, you're

943
00:41:09,680 --> 00:41:11,560
Speaker 1: gonna be like your mom trying to name you ray

944
00:41:11,600 --> 00:41:13,799
Speaker 1: Farty and then she trying to name you the Diese

945
00:41:13,840 --> 00:41:15,680
Speaker 1: lur Yeah, and I said no. So there you go.

946
00:41:15,920 --> 00:41:18,600
Speaker 1: My niece has been saved from being called ray Fardi.

947
00:41:18,680 --> 00:41:20,560
Speaker 1: I'm invited to the baby shower again. And I know

948
00:41:20,640 --> 00:41:22,600
Speaker 1: this is just a little blip with my relationship to

949
00:41:22,640 --> 00:41:24,680
Speaker 1: my sister and we'll be fine. But Katie will be

950
00:41:24,680 --> 00:41:27,560
Speaker 1: taking over as godmother wow, which is fine by me.

951
00:41:27,719 --> 00:41:30,080
Speaker 1: I can always be godmother to their next child, which

952
00:41:30,080 --> 00:41:33,480
Speaker 1: will probably be named something like Tara Massou. Thank you

953
00:41:33,520 --> 00:41:35,440
Speaker 1: all for seeing the same thing I did and letting

954
00:41:35,480 --> 00:41:38,520
Speaker 1: me know stopping ray Fardy from coming into existence was

955
00:41:38,560 --> 00:41:40,320
Speaker 1: the right thing to do. But there are some comments

956
00:41:40,440 --> 00:41:42,960
Speaker 1: Commeder says she also bought herself a birthing gift. Is

957
00:41:42,960 --> 00:41:45,920
Speaker 1: this even a thing? What the actual f silly name? Aside?

958
00:41:45,960 --> 00:41:48,200
Speaker 1: What is this some kind of social media If you

959
00:41:48,239 --> 00:41:49,880
Speaker 1: will look at me and how wonderful I am to

960
00:41:49,880 --> 00:41:51,600
Speaker 1: get a gift as a reward for giving birth. This

961
00:41:51,680 --> 00:41:55,080
Speaker 1: feels very tacking to me. The whole push present concept

962
00:41:55,120 --> 00:41:57,640
Speaker 1: gives me the Ichope says, I agree. I've never heard

963
00:41:57,680 --> 00:41:59,160
Speaker 1: of this before, and it seems crazy.

964
00:41:59,280 --> 00:42:03,120
Speaker 2: The one thing I saw a husband gift their wife

965
00:42:03,120 --> 00:42:05,800
Speaker 2: after they gave her Yes, yes, the big one. Yeah,

966
00:42:05,800 --> 00:42:06,160
Speaker 2: Oh that.

967
00:42:06,160 --> 00:42:08,279
Speaker 1: Is so loose. Would if I pushed out a baby,

968
00:42:08,280 --> 00:42:09,919
Speaker 1: I'd better be getting like a fool meal.

969
00:42:10,040 --> 00:42:10,279
Speaker 2: Yeah.

970
00:42:10,320 --> 00:42:12,560
Speaker 1: I don't want any hospital food. I want like a

971
00:42:12,600 --> 00:42:16,239
Speaker 1: pound of mashed potatoes and sushi. Also, I just want

972
00:42:16,239 --> 00:42:18,880
Speaker 1: a bunch of food. But also if I ever ruined

973
00:42:18,880 --> 00:42:20,719
Speaker 1: my body and pushed out a watermelon, I'd kind of

974
00:42:20,760 --> 00:42:23,480
Speaker 1: want to reward to though. Commoner says, pretty, please tell

975
00:42:23,560 --> 00:42:26,080
Speaker 1: us the amalgamation of her mother and mother in law's names.

976
00:42:26,120 --> 00:42:29,480
Speaker 1: Opie says, there's probably no anonymity left on this situation,

977
00:42:29,760 --> 00:42:34,200
Speaker 1: so here it goes. My mom is Leslie. Sister's mother

978
00:42:34,239 --> 00:42:38,680
Speaker 1: in law is Yvonne. The name was lesyvon pronounced Lesivon,

979
00:42:39,120 --> 00:42:42,640
Speaker 1: like my niece is the lesbian baroness of some German village.

980
00:42:42,760 --> 00:42:45,640
Speaker 1: I'll have the staff prepare the birkenstocks for lezivon the

981
00:42:45,680 --> 00:42:47,840
Speaker 1: Foughtenberg's arrival. That's the end of that story.

982
00:42:48,000 --> 00:42:50,920
Speaker 2: My sister belittled my engagement, so I don't want her

983
00:42:51,000 --> 00:42:51,600
Speaker 2: at my wedding.

984
00:42:51,840 --> 00:42:53,240
Speaker 1: Get her out of there.

985
00:42:53,680 --> 00:42:56,320
Speaker 2: She's a hater theater for sure. I twenty seven female

986
00:42:56,320 --> 00:42:58,640
Speaker 2: in my fiance thirty mal. I've been together for about

987
00:42:58,680 --> 00:43:01,239
Speaker 2: a year. We got engaged pretty quick within that year,

988
00:43:01,320 --> 00:43:06,000
Speaker 2: but we had extremely deep conversations where we see ourselves

989
00:43:06,080 --> 00:43:07,960
Speaker 2: in the next five to ten years, and everything we

990
00:43:08,040 --> 00:43:11,000
Speaker 2: discussed match perfectly to what we both wanted, and we

991
00:43:11,160 --> 00:43:13,919
Speaker 2: both were like, heck, we aren't getting any younger, let's

992
00:43:13,960 --> 00:43:17,280
Speaker 2: go for it. By the way, this comes from Objective

993
00:43:17,440 --> 00:43:20,360
Speaker 2: Soup eighty eight fifty five in the r slash Storytime

994
00:43:20,360 --> 00:43:23,560
Speaker 2: subret I have had my share of bad relationships and

995
00:43:23,640 --> 00:43:27,080
Speaker 2: my last before my fiance left me in a depressed state.

996
00:43:27,239 --> 00:43:29,880
Speaker 2: I had a miscarriage with them, as well as a

997
00:43:29,960 --> 00:43:33,359
Speaker 2: developed eating disorder because I was never good enough for them.

998
00:43:33,440 --> 00:43:36,120
Speaker 2: After me and that person went our separate ways, I

999
00:43:36,200 --> 00:43:39,719
Speaker 2: was single for four years. During those years, me and

1000
00:43:39,760 --> 00:43:43,360
Speaker 2: my sister became very close. Almost every weekend I spent

1001
00:43:43,440 --> 00:43:45,920
Speaker 2: with her and her fiance. Her fiance will become a

1002
00:43:46,040 --> 00:43:48,719
Speaker 2: very important part of the story later. But once I

1003
00:43:48,800 --> 00:43:51,719
Speaker 2: met my significant other, I became a little distant, and

1004
00:43:51,800 --> 00:43:54,359
Speaker 2: it wasn't on purpose, but it was because of how

1005
00:43:54,480 --> 00:43:57,799
Speaker 2: her fiance and how he treated my fiance at the time.

1006
00:43:57,840 --> 00:44:01,120
Speaker 2: My sister's fiance, though you will ever admit it, always

1007
00:44:01,160 --> 00:44:05,480
Speaker 2: gave me a vibe and I only ever dated black men.

1008
00:44:05,640 --> 00:44:09,080
Speaker 2: So when he first met my fiance, he said a quote,

1009
00:44:09,200 --> 00:44:10,920
Speaker 2: you know you look like a thug.

1010
00:44:11,000 --> 00:44:14,120
Speaker 1: Oh my god, just right off the bat, always like

1011
00:44:14,160 --> 00:44:16,000
Speaker 1: I think you kind of gave me vibes.

1012
00:44:16,040 --> 00:44:18,920
Speaker 2: And then he says something because of all of his tattoos.

1013
00:44:18,960 --> 00:44:21,080
Speaker 2: But the crazy thing is I have more tattoos than

1014
00:44:21,120 --> 00:44:23,359
Speaker 2: he does. The second thing to happen is in the

1015
00:44:23,400 --> 00:44:26,000
Speaker 2: area we live in, people on all kinds of coca

1016
00:44:26,000 --> 00:44:29,360
Speaker 2: colas can be common. Apparently, after one of our visits

1017
00:44:29,400 --> 00:44:32,200
Speaker 2: at their place, as we left, they went outside and

1018
00:44:32,239 --> 00:44:34,880
Speaker 2: found a pill on the sidewalk in front of their

1019
00:44:34,880 --> 00:44:38,000
Speaker 2: house and automatically assumed it was my fiance because sometimes

1020
00:44:38,000 --> 00:44:40,319
Speaker 2: he would make random sounds, so they thought he was

1021
00:44:40,320 --> 00:44:43,040
Speaker 2: on coca colas. My fiance, by the way, has tourettes.

1022
00:44:43,239 --> 00:44:46,760
Speaker 2: So the next time we visited their pace, my sister

1023
00:44:47,000 --> 00:44:52,239
Speaker 2: confronted mine and asked if he was on yeah your family, Nah, dude,

1024
00:44:52,239 --> 00:44:55,200
Speaker 2: he just has touretts. Yeah, I mean presumably you've talked

1025
00:44:55,239 --> 00:44:57,120
Speaker 2: about that before. I feel like that would have come

1026
00:44:57,200 --> 00:45:00,359
Speaker 2: up and they're like, oh, he must be on substances.

1027
00:45:00,480 --> 00:45:03,080
Speaker 1: Yikes, this is keep getting keeps any worse, This.

1028
00:45:03,160 --> 00:45:06,000
Speaker 2: Keeps getting worse. Of course he wasn't and told him this,

1029
00:45:06,120 --> 00:45:08,320
Speaker 2: and then he had to explain that he has thurats.

1030
00:45:08,400 --> 00:45:12,520
Speaker 2: And during both of these instances, neither of them apologize. Regardless,

1031
00:45:12,560 --> 00:45:15,200
Speaker 2: my fiance was feeling a certain way with them, and

1032
00:45:15,320 --> 00:45:18,120
Speaker 2: I didn't blame him at all for how he was feeling.

1033
00:45:18,200 --> 00:45:21,319
Speaker 2: But what was now on the coffin was I had

1034
00:45:21,360 --> 00:45:23,880
Speaker 2: a close friend who was going through a hard time.

1035
00:45:24,000 --> 00:45:26,319
Speaker 2: She was going through a divorce and just needed time

1036
00:45:26,360 --> 00:45:28,640
Speaker 2: out with friends. To make a long story short, when

1037
00:45:28,719 --> 00:45:31,479
Speaker 2: this friend of mine is going through a tough time,

1038
00:45:31,600 --> 00:45:35,440
Speaker 2: she often seeks spicy sleep for comfort. No judgment, but

1039
00:45:35,719 --> 00:45:38,560
Speaker 2: she tried to have a party of three with me

1040
00:45:38,640 --> 00:45:42,120
Speaker 2: and my fiance, which we politely decline and put her

1041
00:45:42,160 --> 00:45:44,320
Speaker 2: to bed. Now you may be wondering where my sister

1042
00:45:44,360 --> 00:45:47,040
Speaker 2: and her fiance come into factor here. Well, my sister

1043
00:45:47,200 --> 00:45:50,200
Speaker 2: also knew this friend of mine, and when we were

1044
00:45:50,280 --> 00:45:53,440
Speaker 2: visiting at their house, she asked me how they were doing,

1045
00:45:53,600 --> 00:45:56,320
Speaker 2: knowing everything they were going through. I told my sister

1046
00:45:56,440 --> 00:45:58,759
Speaker 2: it's been rough for them, but they were doing all right,

1047
00:45:58,800 --> 00:46:00,880
Speaker 2: and I mentioned the party of three and me and

1048
00:46:00,920 --> 00:46:03,800
Speaker 2: my sister laughed it off. But then her fiance joined

1049
00:46:03,800 --> 00:46:06,880
Speaker 2: in and looked directly at my significant other and said, quote,

1050
00:46:07,000 --> 00:46:09,399
Speaker 2: you are telling me you had a chance to have

1051
00:46:09,560 --> 00:46:12,280
Speaker 2: the spicy tango with two beautiful women and you didn't.

1052
00:46:12,400 --> 00:46:15,040
Speaker 1: I would have, yeah, in front of your wife.

1053
00:46:15,160 --> 00:46:17,279
Speaker 2: If the sister doesn't check in in one way with

1054
00:46:17,760 --> 00:46:22,520
Speaker 2: remarks are like this, she sucks. My fiance became mortified

1055
00:46:22,520 --> 00:46:25,640
Speaker 2: by this comment, replied, yeah, I wouldn't have spicy tango

1056
00:46:25,680 --> 00:46:28,080
Speaker 2: with my fiance's best friend. It take advantage of her

1057
00:46:28,160 --> 00:46:30,560
Speaker 2: in a very emotional, vulnerable state. But for the rest

1058
00:46:30,600 --> 00:46:33,200
Speaker 2: of the night, my sister's fiance kept going off on

1059
00:46:33,320 --> 00:46:35,840
Speaker 2: how hot my friend was. Now he would have jumped

1060
00:46:35,840 --> 00:46:39,000
Speaker 2: on that opportunity. My sister, not even looking at us anymore,

1061
00:46:39,040 --> 00:46:41,400
Speaker 2: had nothing to say. That was the tip of the

1062
00:46:41,440 --> 00:46:44,160
Speaker 2: iceberg for us. And if you asked my sister, she

1063
00:46:44,239 --> 00:46:45,840
Speaker 2: will say that it never happened.

1064
00:46:45,880 --> 00:46:48,840
Speaker 1: She's just ignoring the problem. She's just denying it because

1065
00:46:48,880 --> 00:46:51,279
Speaker 1: she's like, I don't know how to leave this relationship.

1066
00:46:51,560 --> 00:46:54,640
Speaker 1: But this guy is terrible, what the heck terrible, and

1067
00:46:54,680 --> 00:46:55,800
Speaker 1: she's not doing anything about.

1068
00:46:55,640 --> 00:47:01,719
Speaker 2: Us guys ough oh wow wi uh. Their fiance never

1069
00:47:01,760 --> 00:47:04,120
Speaker 2: said that. But the point of all of this is

1070
00:47:04,320 --> 00:47:06,799
Speaker 2: I noticed me and my sister were growing distant, so

1071
00:47:06,840 --> 00:47:08,920
Speaker 2: I tried to have a conversation about it with her,

1072
00:47:09,000 --> 00:47:12,319
Speaker 2: and when we talked, she would told me bluntly she

1073
00:47:12,320 --> 00:47:15,799
Speaker 2: didn't trust my fiance and she thought our whole engagement was.

1074
00:47:16,600 --> 00:47:17,799
Speaker 1: She's projecting for sure.

1075
00:47:17,960 --> 00:47:20,399
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, yeah, I don't know how much of this

1076
00:47:20,640 --> 00:47:23,240
Speaker 2: was her true opinion for the pinion and of her fiance,

1077
00:47:23,400 --> 00:47:25,800
Speaker 2: but since then she has become more and more distant

1078
00:47:25,840 --> 00:47:28,480
Speaker 2: from me and won't even talk to me at family gatherings.

1079
00:47:28,680 --> 00:47:30,920
Speaker 1: Well, the problem here is that so Opie's brother in

1080
00:47:31,040 --> 00:47:33,879
Speaker 1: law is attracted to Opi, and it's probably saying, oh,

1081
00:47:33,960 --> 00:47:37,759
Speaker 1: I hate her fiance because he's one a jealous You

1082
00:47:37,800 --> 00:47:38,359
Speaker 1: could have had.

1083
00:47:38,320 --> 00:47:41,520
Speaker 2: Spicy tango with her and a friend. Yeah, you're crazy.

1084
00:47:41,600 --> 00:47:45,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, he's jealous of this relationship. And the sister is

1085
00:47:45,520 --> 00:47:47,520
Speaker 1: putting all of this on Opee and making it all

1086
00:47:47,560 --> 00:47:52,080
Speaker 1: her faults. Yeah, because she's upset about her relationship and

1087
00:47:52,120 --> 00:47:54,040
Speaker 1: my fiance are planning to get married in the year

1088
00:47:54,080 --> 00:47:56,640
Speaker 1: twenty twenty six, and I had a conversation with my

1089
00:47:56,719 --> 00:47:59,279
Speaker 1: mom about not wanting my sister as a bridesmaid because

1090
00:47:59,280 --> 00:48:01,399
Speaker 1: of the tension that has been going on between us

1091
00:48:01,400 --> 00:48:03,600
Speaker 1: and how she generally does not support this wedding.

1092
00:48:03,680 --> 00:48:06,359
Speaker 2: Well, please support us when we go live every WEEKED

1093
00:48:06,400 --> 00:48:07,760
Speaker 2: at three pm PSC where.

1094
00:48:07,600 --> 00:48:13,000
Speaker 1: At Sophia Facebook YouTube, TikTok twitch she want us. I

1095
00:48:13,000 --> 00:48:16,920
Speaker 1: don't blame you, girl, Yeah, I'm invited. She's going to realize,

1096
00:48:17,080 --> 00:48:20,240
Speaker 1: hopefully down the line, that you know, her partner is terrible,

1097
00:48:20,440 --> 00:48:23,120
Speaker 1: and hopefully leave that relationship. Right now, she is not

1098
00:48:23,160 --> 00:48:27,120
Speaker 1: supporting your relationship, and she is actively kind of going

1099
00:48:27,160 --> 00:48:28,520
Speaker 1: along with what her husband is saying.

1100
00:48:28,560 --> 00:48:31,839
Speaker 2: So just Sophia Cologne. But OPI has only dated black Eyes,

1101
00:48:31,880 --> 00:48:33,440
Speaker 2: So why is her sister having an issue?

1102
00:48:33,680 --> 00:48:35,839
Speaker 1: Now? I think it's just the husband. I think it's

1103
00:48:35,880 --> 00:48:38,120
Speaker 1: just she just goes with whatever her husband says.

1104
00:48:38,520 --> 00:48:41,720
Speaker 2: I think a fiance, Oh fiance, Yeah, please don't marry

1105
00:48:41,719 --> 00:48:42,120
Speaker 2: this man.

1106
00:48:42,280 --> 00:48:43,080
Speaker 1: Don't marry him?

1107
00:48:43,440 --> 00:48:45,279
Speaker 2: Really weird. I haven't even asked her to be a

1108
00:48:45,280 --> 00:48:47,319
Speaker 2: bridesman yet, but my mother has told me that if

1109
00:48:47,360 --> 00:48:49,840
Speaker 2: I don't make her one, it will cause an even

1110
00:48:49,920 --> 00:48:52,839
Speaker 2: bigger divide in our relationship. Her energy that she has

1111
00:48:52,880 --> 00:48:55,200
Speaker 2: given to my whole engagement is not something I want

1112
00:48:55,280 --> 00:48:58,400
Speaker 2: my wedding. She has not once supported my happiness that

1113
00:48:58,480 --> 00:49:00,600
Speaker 2: I have with the man that I want to marry,

1114
00:49:00,680 --> 00:49:03,000
Speaker 2: and I want to be very real that this man

1115
00:49:03,160 --> 00:49:05,439
Speaker 2: has saved me from a very dark time in my life.

1116
00:49:05,480 --> 00:49:07,640
Speaker 2: There were so many things that they don't see that

1117
00:49:07,719 --> 00:49:09,560
Speaker 2: he has done for me. My sister got married this

1118
00:49:09,640 --> 00:49:12,359
Speaker 2: year back in October, and even though I didn't one

1119
00:49:13,120 --> 00:49:15,920
Speaker 2: like her fiance, I supported their relationship and was there

1120
00:49:15,960 --> 00:49:18,560
Speaker 2: for her because I knew he made her happy and

1121
00:49:18,800 --> 00:49:21,239
Speaker 2: that is all I wanted from her. But now it

1122
00:49:21,280 --> 00:49:23,560
Speaker 2: feels like she doesn't want the same for me. So

1123
00:49:23,640 --> 00:49:26,160
Speaker 2: am I the ahile for not wanting her in my wedding?

1124
00:49:26,239 --> 00:49:30,040
Speaker 2: Absolute low not to lean No, No, sir, that is

1125
00:49:30,520 --> 00:49:33,319
Speaker 2: so crazy. I'm surprised that you support that person.

1126
00:49:33,400 --> 00:49:34,839
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't think you should support him. I think

1127
00:49:34,880 --> 00:49:36,759
Speaker 1: he sucks and I think he's driving your sister down.

1128
00:49:36,880 --> 00:49:39,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, agreed, Op. He only supported her because his sister

1129
00:49:39,600 --> 00:49:41,680
Speaker 2: likes him, doesn't like him as a guy, yeah, but

1130
00:49:42,040 --> 00:49:44,759
Speaker 2: like him yeah, but still like you don't need to

1131
00:49:44,800 --> 00:49:48,400
Speaker 2: do that, No, no, sir, til dr. So Opi has

1132
00:49:48,440 --> 00:49:51,280
Speaker 2: been single for a long time, has been through relationship,

1133
00:49:51,320 --> 00:49:53,560
Speaker 2: through relationship, and through that has been really close with

1134
00:49:53,600 --> 00:49:56,959
Speaker 2: her sister and her sister's fiance. Recently, she has met

1135
00:49:57,000 --> 00:49:59,680
Speaker 2: a guy. Will say black guy. This comes into context later.

1136
00:49:59,719 --> 00:50:02,040
Speaker 2: The guy has helped her through some hard times. Opie

1137
00:50:02,160 --> 00:50:04,279
Speaker 2: is doing great, living her best life, and they found out,

1138
00:50:04,320 --> 00:50:06,080
Speaker 2: you know, I like how you want your life to be.

1139
00:50:06,160 --> 00:50:07,759
Speaker 2: I like how I like my life to be. Let's

1140
00:50:07,760 --> 00:50:10,160
Speaker 2: just get engaged. So they get engaged. They go visit

1141
00:50:10,200 --> 00:50:13,680
Speaker 2: the sister, find out sister fiance is a little bit

1142
00:50:13,920 --> 00:50:18,279
Speaker 2: racinino and does not like Opiece. Fiance says something like that.

1143
00:50:18,400 --> 00:50:20,279
Speaker 2: So this is one red flag that we have from

1144
00:50:20,280 --> 00:50:23,480
Speaker 2: the sister's fiance. Another red flag is that Opi and

1145
00:50:23,800 --> 00:50:27,840
Speaker 2: her fiance had a friend proposition them, proposition them to

1146
00:50:27,920 --> 00:50:32,160
Speaker 2: have a tango of three, and they decline, saying, you're

1147
00:50:32,200 --> 00:50:34,439
Speaker 2: in vulnerable steak. We don't want that either, and we're

1148
00:50:34,440 --> 00:50:36,800
Speaker 2: gonna say no. So they go to the sister's house

1149
00:50:36,840 --> 00:50:39,920
Speaker 2: and the sister fiance monks o piece fiance saying why

1150
00:50:39,920 --> 00:50:42,520
Speaker 2: wouldn't you sleep with two beautiful women? And the guy's like, look,

1151
00:50:42,719 --> 00:50:45,320
Speaker 2: I do not want to take advantage of people in

1152
00:50:45,400 --> 00:50:49,640
Speaker 2: vulnerable states. So the sister has thus not supported Opee

1153
00:50:49,880 --> 00:50:52,480
Speaker 2: in any way, shape or form of her wedding, and

1154
00:50:52,600 --> 00:50:54,800
Speaker 2: OPI's like, look, I don't want you to be a

1155
00:50:54,800 --> 00:50:57,080
Speaker 2: bridesmaid of mine, and is like, am I the ahle

1156
00:50:57,120 --> 00:50:58,880
Speaker 2: for that? And OPI, you were not the ale for that?

1157
00:50:59,080 --> 00:51:00,919
Speaker 2: Was your sister? And there fance suck.

1158
00:51:01,239 --> 00:51:03,319
Speaker 1: So hey's Johnny og host here. We're going to get

1159
00:51:03,320 --> 00:51:03,880
Speaker 1: back to the stories.

1160
00:51:03,880 --> 00:51:05,480
Speaker 2: But he's a quick three minute break of ass from

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Speaker 2: our sponsors.

1162
00:51:06,640 --> 00:51:09,640
Speaker 1: My sister keeps comparing her grief to mine. I think

1163
00:51:09,640 --> 00:51:10,560
Speaker 1: she just wants attention.

1164
00:51:10,800 --> 00:51:12,040
Speaker 2: Nah, it's just not as good as hers.

1165
00:51:12,040 --> 00:51:15,959
Speaker 1: Bro oh trigger warning miscarriage slash loss of child. I

1166
00:51:16,080 --> 00:51:19,160
Speaker 1: thirty two, female, lost my son at nineteen weeks. This

1167
00:51:19,360 --> 00:51:21,480
Speaker 1: was my first pregnancy and it has been the worst

1168
00:51:21,520 --> 00:51:24,279
Speaker 1: pain I've ever felt. My husband thirty one, and I

1169
00:51:24,360 --> 00:51:26,839
Speaker 1: are heart broken but doing our best to share our

1170
00:51:26,840 --> 00:51:30,080
Speaker 1: grief together and find peace as we heal. I'm so sorry. Ope.

1171
00:51:30,239 --> 00:51:32,279
Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from it's Bambi ninety two

1172
00:51:32,400 --> 00:51:34,879
Speaker 1: on the Okay Storytime Separate It. So we have been

1173
00:51:35,000 --> 00:51:37,840
Speaker 1: overwhelmed with gratitude for the amount of love and support

1174
00:51:37,880 --> 00:51:40,400
Speaker 1: we have received from our loved ones, family and friends alike.

1175
00:51:40,520 --> 00:51:42,720
Speaker 1: I have no energy to feel angry because it would

1176
00:51:42,719 --> 00:51:44,480
Speaker 1: not make me feel better. I'm not going to have

1177
00:51:44,560 --> 00:51:46,920
Speaker 1: my son back. I've worked so hard on my mental health.

1178
00:51:46,960 --> 00:51:49,880
Speaker 1: I cannot allow myself to fall back into those dark places.

1179
00:51:49,960 --> 00:51:52,160
Speaker 1: I feel that writing and talking about my story and

1180
00:51:52,280 --> 00:51:55,319
Speaker 1: grief with myself. My husband went through something similar and

1181
00:51:55,440 --> 00:51:57,719
Speaker 1: is trying to support her sister the best way that

1182
00:51:57,760 --> 00:51:59,440
Speaker 1: she can and the best way she knows how My

1183
00:51:59,520 --> 00:52:01,520
Speaker 1: sister did. Didn't visit me at the hospital. It was

1184
00:52:01,560 --> 00:52:03,799
Speaker 1: all sudden. No one saw this coming, so I gave

1185
00:52:03,840 --> 00:52:05,680
Speaker 1: her the benefit of the doubt. She had her kids

1186
00:52:05,719 --> 00:52:07,760
Speaker 1: to look after and couldn't make it to the hospital.

1187
00:52:07,800 --> 00:52:09,480
Speaker 1: My mom told me that the reason she couldn't go

1188
00:52:09,560 --> 00:52:11,839
Speaker 1: visit me was because it brought back memories of her

1189
00:52:11,880 --> 00:52:15,120
Speaker 1: miscarriage and she couldn't handle it. Seems like Ohpe's sister

1190
00:52:15,200 --> 00:52:18,359
Speaker 1: had a miscarriage twelve years ago and Ope was really

1191
00:52:18,400 --> 00:52:21,040
Speaker 1: there for her, but is not receiving that when she

1192
00:52:21,320 --> 00:52:25,360
Speaker 1: just had her miscarriage and she's in this hospital. I understand. Wow.

1193
00:52:25,520 --> 00:52:28,280
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, josephem into all brick Crisols said, No, sister

1194
00:52:28,320 --> 00:52:30,960
Speaker 1: lost hers first long before Opeed did. Yes, I understand now.

1195
00:52:31,000 --> 00:52:32,920
Speaker 1: She had her kids to look after and couldn't make

1196
00:52:32,960 --> 00:52:34,680
Speaker 1: it to the hospital. My mom told me that the

1197
00:52:34,719 --> 00:52:36,759
Speaker 1: reason she couldn't go visit me was because it brought

1198
00:52:36,800 --> 00:52:39,440
Speaker 1: back memories of her miscarriage and she couldn't handle it.

1199
00:52:39,480 --> 00:52:41,160
Speaker 1: I will admit that it hurt me a little bit

1200
00:52:41,200 --> 00:52:43,359
Speaker 1: because I would not hesitate to be there for her

1201
00:52:43,520 --> 00:52:45,640
Speaker 1: if she needed me. My mom then said, I told

1202
00:52:45,640 --> 00:52:47,120
Speaker 1: her sister that she has a lot of work to

1203
00:52:47,120 --> 00:52:49,600
Speaker 1: do to confront her fears. The last thing that I

1204
00:52:49,640 --> 00:52:51,560
Speaker 1: want is to make my sister feel like I've forgotten

1205
00:52:51,560 --> 00:52:54,400
Speaker 1: about her baby and her story. It will never be forgotten.

1206
00:52:54,440 --> 00:52:56,839
Speaker 1: I still think about her baby because my sister keeps

1207
00:52:56,840 --> 00:52:59,840
Speaker 1: her memory alive. It's been twelve years and we still remember.

1208
00:53:00,000 --> 00:53:02,560
Speaker 1: I was going through postpartum and I started to lac date.

1209
00:53:02,680 --> 00:53:05,520
Speaker 1: I felt the pressure, tenderness, and soreness on top of

1210
00:53:05,560 --> 00:53:07,600
Speaker 1: the pain of the reality that my baby is gone.

1211
00:53:07,960 --> 00:53:10,560
Speaker 1: When I told my sister, she asked, have you started pumping?

1212
00:53:10,640 --> 00:53:13,000
Speaker 1: I responded no, and she said, oh, when I lost

1213
00:53:13,040 --> 00:53:15,359
Speaker 1: my baby, I started pumping and I gave my milk

1214
00:53:15,400 --> 00:53:17,560
Speaker 1: to my mom's friend for her newborn. I then said,

1215
00:53:17,760 --> 00:53:19,799
Speaker 1: there isn't a newborn for me to give the milk to.

1216
00:53:20,000 --> 00:53:21,919
Speaker 1: My sister pointed at her six to seven the month

1217
00:53:21,960 --> 00:53:24,800
Speaker 1: old baby. I then said, I'm sorry, Sis, I can't.

1218
00:53:24,960 --> 00:53:27,200
Speaker 1: I don't want to because this milk was for my son,

1219
00:53:27,320 --> 00:53:30,360
Speaker 1: and without warning, I started crying. My sister hugged me

1220
00:53:30,400 --> 00:53:32,640
Speaker 1: and started talking to make me feel better, but some

1221
00:53:32,680 --> 00:53:34,680
Speaker 1: of the things she said left me feeling weird. She

1222
00:53:34,719 --> 00:53:36,719
Speaker 1: said things like, I know it happened to me too,

1223
00:53:36,880 --> 00:53:38,680
Speaker 1: but you have your husband and I didn't. My ex

1224
00:53:38,760 --> 00:53:40,880
Speaker 1: didn't support me. Imagine how I felt. I know I

1225
00:53:40,920 --> 00:53:42,840
Speaker 1: shouldn't have stayed with him after the way you treated me,

1226
00:53:42,880 --> 00:53:44,520
Speaker 1: but I guess I'm dumb for that. At least you

1227
00:53:44,520 --> 00:53:46,640
Speaker 1: have your husband. I was alone. No one was there

1228
00:53:46,680 --> 00:53:48,360
Speaker 1: for me, and you have so many people who love you.

1229
00:53:48,440 --> 00:53:50,279
Speaker 1: Imagine how I felt when I lost my baby. I

1230
00:53:50,280 --> 00:53:52,560
Speaker 1: don't want you to experience this because it's a terrible feeling.

1231
00:53:52,600 --> 00:53:55,239
Speaker 1: Imagine how I felt knowing that you're now going through this.

1232
00:53:55,560 --> 00:54:03,320
Speaker 2: Ooh, dude, you such a very very sensitive thing going

1233
00:54:03,360 --> 00:54:05,520
Speaker 2: through that. You need to figure out what the professional

1234
00:54:05,560 --> 00:54:08,120
Speaker 2: and not your sister who is currently dealing with this.

1235
00:54:08,440 --> 00:54:11,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, why are you like making this all about you?

1236
00:54:11,880 --> 00:54:14,359
Speaker 2: I think she's working through emotions here, but she just

1237
00:54:14,400 --> 00:54:14,680
Speaker 2: needs to go.

1238
00:54:15,400 --> 00:54:17,319
Speaker 1: Yeah, you need to go to therapy because if this

1239
00:54:17,360 --> 00:54:20,399
Speaker 1: is how you're reacting on your bolter, like obviously you're

1240
00:54:20,440 --> 00:54:22,759
Speaker 1: never going to you know fully get over the pain

1241
00:54:22,800 --> 00:54:25,480
Speaker 1: of losing a child. But it's been twelve years and

1242
00:54:25,520 --> 00:54:28,560
Speaker 1: you're still putting this on, like this guilt tripping on

1243
00:54:29,000 --> 00:54:31,640
Speaker 1: your sister who's just experiencing this. That's horrible.

1244
00:54:31,680 --> 00:54:34,680
Speaker 2: Our roommate, Christian, we were driving and someone caught him

1245
00:54:34,680 --> 00:54:37,399
Speaker 2: off and he said, if I was president, I would

1246
00:54:37,440 --> 00:54:39,399
Speaker 2: have a thing that people press a button and they

1247
00:54:39,520 --> 00:54:42,160
Speaker 2: automatically revoke their license. We should have a certain amount

1248
00:54:42,160 --> 00:54:44,200
Speaker 2: of times, after a certain amount of times, they should

1249
00:54:44,200 --> 00:54:46,680
Speaker 2: have that for therapy, Like after certainly you.

1250
00:54:46,760 --> 00:54:48,840
Speaker 1: Heard a certain amount of people, you have to go

1251
00:54:48,880 --> 00:54:51,640
Speaker 1: to therapy. You have to automatically be put it's court mandated.

1252
00:54:51,640 --> 00:54:53,640
Speaker 1: The you're like, you know what you hurt me?

1253
00:54:54,239 --> 00:54:56,560
Speaker 2: You said X y Z. You're gonna have to figure

1254
00:54:56,600 --> 00:54:56,839
Speaker 2: that out.

1255
00:54:56,920 --> 00:55:00,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, therapy, I had no energy or any idea how

1256
00:55:00,120 --> 00:55:02,719
Speaker 1: to respond. She said so much and it was overwhelming.

1257
00:55:02,800 --> 00:55:05,080
Speaker 1: All I thought about was I lost my son and

1258
00:55:05,080 --> 00:55:07,239
Speaker 1: I miss him and this hurts. I haven't been able

1259
00:55:07,280 --> 00:55:09,080
Speaker 1: to tell my sister about how it makes me feel,

1260
00:55:09,160 --> 00:55:11,080
Speaker 1: because you have to be very careful when you address

1261
00:55:11,120 --> 00:55:13,000
Speaker 1: things to her. She can be really sensitive and take

1262
00:55:13,040 --> 00:55:14,759
Speaker 1: it the wrong way. When my mother in law came

1263
00:55:14,760 --> 00:55:16,759
Speaker 1: over to help clean, my sister came over with her

1264
00:55:16,840 --> 00:55:19,400
Speaker 1: kids and she started talking about her miscarriage story with

1265
00:55:19,480 --> 00:55:21,720
Speaker 1: my mother in law. Then it was about her failed marriage.

1266
00:55:21,760 --> 00:55:24,160
Speaker 1: I stayed quiet, but could overhear my mother in law

1267
00:55:24,200 --> 00:55:26,640
Speaker 1: tell my sister that she shouldn't talk badly about her

1268
00:55:26,680 --> 00:55:28,719
Speaker 1: kid's father in front of her kids, and that she

1269
00:55:28,800 --> 00:55:31,680
Speaker 1: needs to be positive things I have told her many times,

1270
00:55:32,000 --> 00:55:34,040
Speaker 1: My parents have told her, her friends have told her.

1271
00:55:34,080 --> 00:55:36,279
Speaker 1: The thing is, I hate to think this way, but

1272
00:55:36,320 --> 00:55:38,880
Speaker 1: my sister likes the attention she's been receiving from others

1273
00:55:39,040 --> 00:55:41,400
Speaker 1: since the separation from her ex husband, and now that

1274
00:55:41,440 --> 00:55:44,840
Speaker 1: I'm experiencing such a great loss, my sister keeps bringing

1275
00:55:44,920 --> 00:55:47,439
Speaker 1: up her miscarriage as if it happened today. My sister

1276
00:55:47,520 --> 00:55:49,360
Speaker 1: told me that she's here to support me because she

1277
00:55:49,400 --> 00:55:51,440
Speaker 1: knows what it's like, but I don't feel like I

1278
00:55:51,480 --> 00:55:53,719
Speaker 1: can reach out to her. I'm scared she's going to

1279
00:55:53,840 --> 00:55:56,399
Speaker 1: just talk about her miscarriage and her problems and leave

1280
00:55:56,440 --> 00:55:58,319
Speaker 1: no room for me to breathe or feel like I

1281
00:55:58,320 --> 00:56:00,880
Speaker 1: have a safe space to talk about myself. By the way,

1282
00:56:01,120 --> 00:56:03,880
Speaker 1: you can join us live on YouTube and Facebook and

1283
00:56:03,960 --> 00:56:06,719
Speaker 1: TikTok every week to have three pmpst. Just tap her

1284
00:56:06,760 --> 00:56:08,480
Speaker 1: profile and there is a little bit more to the story.

1285
00:56:08,480 --> 00:56:10,520
Speaker 1: But you definitely your sister needs to go to therapy

1286
00:56:10,520 --> 00:56:13,400
Speaker 1: because this is ridiculous. This is ridiculous. This is not

1287
00:56:13,440 --> 00:56:16,080
Speaker 1: how you comfort people. I think there is a way

1288
00:56:16,200 --> 00:56:18,080
Speaker 1: when you're comforting people to say, like, you know what

1289
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Speaker 1: I've been through this, I know how you feel, and

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00:56:20,800 --> 00:56:22,839
Speaker 1: you know it's going to get better or it's going

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00:56:22,880 --> 00:56:24,399
Speaker 1: to take time, it's going to hurt a lot.

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Speaker 2: I like to sit with friends when they're going through

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00:56:27,040 --> 00:56:28,799
Speaker 2: a hard time and just sit there. Yeah, I think,

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00:56:29,000 --> 00:56:31,520
Speaker 2: I think, I just like I think. Sometimes you just

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00:56:31,560 --> 00:56:33,319
Speaker 2: have to also ask people like do you want me

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00:56:33,400 --> 00:56:35,120
Speaker 2: to talk? Do you want advice? Do you want just

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00:56:35,440 --> 00:56:38,360
Speaker 2: me to listen? Because people to need different things. Sometimes

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00:56:38,360 --> 00:56:40,000
Speaker 2: they just want a rant. Sometimes they just want to

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00:56:40,040 --> 00:56:41,560
Speaker 2: cry and have a shoulder to cry on, but this

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Speaker 2: is not how you do it.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Sorry, guys, this is a tough one. YEA.

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Speaker 1: If anyone needs to go like please, you do not

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00:56:47,120 --> 00:56:48,879
Speaker 1: have to be here. And I'm sorry for anyone who's

1305
00:56:48,920 --> 00:56:51,479
Speaker 1: had experiences like this where you've lost a child, because

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00:56:51,480 --> 00:56:53,759
Speaker 1: that's really, really hard. I know my sister needs to

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00:56:53,760 --> 00:56:55,920
Speaker 1: talk to her therapist about this because I told her

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00:56:55,920 --> 00:56:57,640
Speaker 1: that she can cry with me when I talk about

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00:56:57,640 --> 00:56:59,880
Speaker 1: my grief. But if she's going to talk about her miscarriage,

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00:56:59,880 --> 00:57:02,239
Speaker 1: if it were a fresh wound like mine, then she

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Speaker 1: cannot support me. I'm sorry if this makes me sound

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00:57:05,440 --> 00:57:07,480
Speaker 1: like an a hole, but I'm not going to let

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00:57:07,520 --> 00:57:10,560
Speaker 1: my son's memory be overshadowed and forgotten. He was real

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00:57:10,600 --> 00:57:12,799
Speaker 1: to me. My mind is all over the place. But

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00:57:12,920 --> 00:57:15,400
Speaker 1: am I the a hole for not wanting to listen

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00:57:15,560 --> 00:57:18,400
Speaker 1: to my sister talk about her miscarriage and failed miscarriage

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Speaker 1: while I grieve the loss of my baby.

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Speaker 2: Ikes therapy will be great.

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00:57:22,840 --> 00:57:25,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, the sister definitely needs therapy.

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Speaker 2: Hearts out to UOP. Yeah and to everyone else that's

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Speaker 2: gone this.

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00:57:30,120 --> 00:57:33,640
Speaker 1: Definitely, your sister needs therapy. Saarba says for the story

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Speaker 1: that we just read. She could say I can't handle it.

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry for your loss and i want to be

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00:57:37,600 --> 00:57:39,120
Speaker 1: there for you, but I'm not in a position to

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Speaker 1: do so yet. I think that's would be fair. Nicki

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00:57:41,440 --> 00:57:42,960
Speaker 1: Bordoza has a bit of good news for me. I

1328
00:57:43,080 --> 00:57:45,160
Speaker 1: finally had a big talk with boyfriend about us moving

1329
00:57:45,160 --> 00:57:48,480
Speaker 1: in together. He's my perfectly wonderful, hobbit boyfriend, and we

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00:57:48,520 --> 00:57:50,480
Speaker 1: had a really hard but ultimately positive talk.

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Speaker 2: Whoaad I love the chat.

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00:57:52,240 --> 00:57:52,800
Speaker 1: I love jeez.

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Speaker 2: Let's go.

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Speaker 1: Do we have any memes that we can look at

1335
00:57:55,200 --> 00:57:56,000
Speaker 1: on the discord?

1336
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Speaker 2: I don't know.

1337
00:57:56,800 --> 00:57:59,000
Speaker 1: To cheer us up before we leave on this story.

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Speaker 2: We're not going to do a teal you.

1339
00:58:00,440 --> 00:58:03,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, Lulu. They here the five bucks loving the

1340
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Speaker 1: Sophie and Riley stream amaze again. Sorry for picking on Riley,

1341
00:58:06,680 --> 00:58:08,240
Speaker 1: you do amazing awestop.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, they found the guy.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, oh and hand I think give it a fifteen bucks.

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Speaker 1: I don't know if we saw that one hard chat,

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Speaker 1: but they found the guy.

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00:58:16,320 --> 00:58:18,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think the CEO guy.

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Speaker 1: Everyone's in the comments saying like, oh he's hot.

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00:58:20,720 --> 00:58:23,600
Speaker 2: Let's see, we'll see some comments. Being the McDonald's worker

1349
00:58:23,640 --> 00:58:25,720
Speaker 2: that snitched on him. Oh yeah, like bro just put

1350
00:58:25,720 --> 00:58:28,440
Speaker 2: the one. I got the same saying no shoddy, I

1351
00:58:28,520 --> 00:58:31,600
Speaker 2: follow mugshot shoddies. So like it's just like girls like

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00:58:32,360 --> 00:58:37,920
Speaker 2: why I was single and now you're not. I still

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00:58:37,920 --> 00:58:42,800
Speaker 2: follow them anyways. I support But we found him. We

1354
00:58:43,080 --> 00:58:45,920
Speaker 2: the jury find daddy, I mean, the defendant, not guilty.

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00:58:46,400 --> 00:58:48,920
Speaker 2: He's a hero. Let's revolve. Good luck finding a jury

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00:58:48,960 --> 00:58:51,360
Speaker 2: that doesn't love this man. Oh yeah, they're not gonna

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Speaker 2: find a jury free him.

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00:58:52,200 --> 00:58:54,680
Speaker 1: Oh so it's really hard because usually for juries, it's like,

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Speaker 1: you know, do you know anything about this story? Because

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00:58:57,120 --> 00:58:59,000
Speaker 1: they want unbiased, But everyone's gonna know about this.

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Speaker 2: We're gonna talk to our story improvers and probably won't

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00:59:02,360 --> 00:59:04,400
Speaker 2: have many stories like this. Do you agree? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: I think we can.

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Speaker 2: We can do that, and

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Speaker 1: That is the end of the story.