1 00:00:20,920 --> 00:00:24,680 Speaker 1: Hey everybody, Emily Evadi here with five Minute Friday. I 2 00:00:24,760 --> 00:00:29,200 Speaker 1: am feeling like I'm doing a thousand things this morning, 3 00:00:29,240 --> 00:00:32,239 Speaker 1: including recording this, so it is in your feed at 4 00:00:32,240 --> 00:00:36,560 Speaker 1: the right time for Friday morning. I am gearing up 5 00:00:36,680 --> 00:00:40,320 Speaker 1: to host an event midday for Athleta and so they 6 00:00:40,360 --> 00:00:47,000 Speaker 1: have a new flagship location, Flagship location opening just south 7 00:00:47,080 --> 00:00:50,199 Speaker 1: of Houston Street, and then I will be hopping on 8 00:00:50,240 --> 00:00:53,560 Speaker 1: a plane and making my way to DC to spend 9 00:00:53,560 --> 00:00:58,760 Speaker 1: some time with my loved ones, one of which is 10 00:00:58,800 --> 00:01:02,720 Speaker 1: newly pregnant and another is newly engaged, so lots of 11 00:01:02,800 --> 00:01:04,400 Speaker 1: things to celebrate. 12 00:01:04,520 --> 00:01:05,280 Speaker 2: I digress. 13 00:01:05,600 --> 00:01:08,000 Speaker 1: I have been having one of those weeks where I 14 00:01:08,040 --> 00:01:11,560 Speaker 1: am reminded the beauty of surrounding yourself with good people. 15 00:01:12,120 --> 00:01:16,640 Speaker 1: So last Sunday night, I had a few girlfriends over, 16 00:01:16,840 --> 00:01:18,520 Speaker 1: knowing that I was going to be away this weekend 17 00:01:19,400 --> 00:01:23,679 Speaker 1: and Thanksgiving is coming really fast. I am hosting Thanksgiving 18 00:01:23,760 --> 00:01:25,600 Speaker 1: and I wanted to have the tree up in time. 19 00:01:26,200 --> 00:01:29,200 Speaker 1: So I decided to combine the process of getting the 20 00:01:29,240 --> 00:01:33,080 Speaker 1: apartment ready for the holidays with having some girlfriends over 21 00:01:33,240 --> 00:01:35,360 Speaker 1: and had a little marrymaking evening. 22 00:01:35,480 --> 00:01:36,959 Speaker 2: If we will, the. 23 00:01:36,840 --> 00:01:40,040 Speaker 1: Only rule for the marrymaking evening on Sunday was that 24 00:01:40,080 --> 00:01:44,720 Speaker 1: you needed to bring an ornament. And I was just 25 00:01:44,959 --> 00:01:47,880 Speaker 1: so blown away by the thoughtfulness of all of my 26 00:01:47,960 --> 00:01:52,000 Speaker 1: friends to bring something that they genuinely thought of me 27 00:01:52,200 --> 00:01:54,760 Speaker 1: when they looked at And let's laugh that a lot 28 00:01:54,800 --> 00:01:57,760 Speaker 1: of these have to do with food. A croissant, a 29 00:01:57,800 --> 00:02:00,160 Speaker 1: bagel with locks. Oh, a friend of mine and I 30 00:02:00,240 --> 00:02:04,160 Speaker 1: dressed up as astronauts for Halloween. She brought me an astronaut. 31 00:02:04,520 --> 00:02:08,000 Speaker 1: I have donuts. I have a pizza box, like truly 32 00:02:08,160 --> 00:02:11,400 Speaker 1: the cutest things. Oh, we can't forget the converse sneaker. 33 00:02:12,160 --> 00:02:16,040 Speaker 1: I digress. I just had such a lovely evening with 34 00:02:16,400 --> 00:02:19,960 Speaker 1: these women in my apartment who made me feel loved 35 00:02:20,360 --> 00:02:24,920 Speaker 1: and valued and exchanging, like really beautiful conversation. And I 36 00:02:24,919 --> 00:02:27,600 Speaker 1: woke up on Monday feeling really charged up for the week. 37 00:02:27,639 --> 00:02:30,639 Speaker 1: I noticed that I was on my coffee walk and 38 00:02:30,720 --> 00:02:37,560 Speaker 1: I was smiling, and I accidentally tipped three dollars. If 39 00:02:37,560 --> 00:02:39,639 Speaker 1: you go to the coffee shop and you use one 40 00:02:39,680 --> 00:02:42,160 Speaker 1: of those like iPads that you pay on typically when 41 00:02:42,160 --> 00:02:45,400 Speaker 1: you pay there's one, two, three dollars, three separate options, 42 00:02:45,400 --> 00:02:48,640 Speaker 1: and then there's no tip. And I went to go 43 00:02:48,680 --> 00:02:51,520 Speaker 1: press the one, but pressed the three just in like 44 00:02:51,720 --> 00:02:54,480 Speaker 1: the bagginess of my jacket and the things that I 45 00:02:54,520 --> 00:02:59,120 Speaker 1: was holding, and I thought to myself, like, obviously, no harm, 46 00:02:59,160 --> 00:03:01,920 Speaker 1: no foul. I didn't mean to tip three dollars, but 47 00:03:02,120 --> 00:03:05,480 Speaker 1: I'm happy too. But I texted my friend and I 48 00:03:05,520 --> 00:03:07,720 Speaker 1: was like, I was just so flustered at the coffee shop, 49 00:03:07,760 --> 00:03:09,680 Speaker 1: and I tipped three dollars, and I was like, karma 50 00:03:09,720 --> 00:03:12,520 Speaker 1: is about to come back to me big time, and literally, 51 00:03:12,560 --> 00:03:15,320 Speaker 1: as I walked outside, a woman by the name of 52 00:03:15,480 --> 00:03:17,240 Speaker 1: Katie I believe, walked up to me. 53 00:03:17,919 --> 00:03:20,440 Speaker 2: She was a hurdler. She is a hurdler. She introduced 54 00:03:20,480 --> 00:03:20,960 Speaker 2: herself to me. 55 00:03:21,040 --> 00:03:24,160 Speaker 1: We had like this really beautiful conversation and I left 56 00:03:24,240 --> 00:03:27,880 Speaker 1: that also smiling and just thinking about how great it 57 00:03:27,960 --> 00:03:31,079 Speaker 1: is that we can be the energy that we want 58 00:03:31,120 --> 00:03:34,520 Speaker 1: to attract, right, And I said that I was walking 59 00:03:34,520 --> 00:03:36,640 Speaker 1: around and I was smiling, and I was happy on Monday, 60 00:03:36,680 --> 00:03:39,760 Speaker 1: and I felt as though that good karma just came 61 00:03:39,880 --> 00:03:43,200 Speaker 1: with me, right. It was like one thing just flowed 62 00:03:43,240 --> 00:03:45,320 Speaker 1: into the next thing. And then I felt as though, 63 00:03:45,360 --> 00:03:48,520 Speaker 1: because I was on such a high, that I had 64 00:03:48,640 --> 00:03:51,240 Speaker 1: more to give, which brings me to the concept of 65 00:03:51,360 --> 00:03:53,200 Speaker 1: energy faucets and energy drains. 66 00:03:53,560 --> 00:03:55,080 Speaker 2: You can choose to be a faucet. 67 00:03:55,160 --> 00:03:59,120 Speaker 1: You can surround yourself with faucets individuals that give positive 68 00:03:59,280 --> 00:04:03,720 Speaker 1: energy to or you can be a drain, a person that, 69 00:04:03,920 --> 00:04:07,880 Speaker 1: because of one thing or another, just is sucking the 70 00:04:07,920 --> 00:04:10,880 Speaker 1: goodness out of a situation. I think we can all, 71 00:04:10,920 --> 00:04:12,760 Speaker 1: like nod our heads, in agreement that we have been 72 00:04:12,800 --> 00:04:15,480 Speaker 1: in situations where we have been surrounded by drains, and 73 00:04:15,560 --> 00:04:20,000 Speaker 1: sometimes it is easier to get away from that than others. 74 00:04:20,760 --> 00:04:26,200 Speaker 1: Know that you can choose to be an energy faucet. 75 00:04:26,320 --> 00:04:29,000 Speaker 1: You can choose over time. It might take a little 76 00:04:29,000 --> 00:04:32,400 Speaker 1: bit of work, but to surround yourself with faucets as well. 77 00:04:32,520 --> 00:04:35,560 Speaker 1: Be mindful of how you feel when you leave people, 78 00:04:35,960 --> 00:04:38,640 Speaker 1: and know that you are the sum of those that 79 00:04:38,680 --> 00:04:41,640 Speaker 1: you spend the most of your time with. So consciously 80 00:04:41,680 --> 00:04:45,000 Speaker 1: choose your relationships. Know that you are worthy of energy faucets, 81 00:04:45,040 --> 00:04:47,920 Speaker 1: that you are worthy of walking around with that smile 82 00:04:48,000 --> 00:04:50,000 Speaker 1: on your face on Monday morning. 83 00:04:50,680 --> 00:04:51,040 Speaker 2: Period. 84 00:04:51,839 --> 00:04:54,880 Speaker 1: My prompt for you this week, if you do an 85 00:04:54,920 --> 00:04:59,440 Speaker 1: inventory of your life, is there anyone that is ever 86 00:04:59,560 --> 00:05:04,160 Speaker 1: present that when you walk away from them you feel better? 87 00:05:04,400 --> 00:05:08,440 Speaker 1: And what does that feeling really mean to you? Describe 88 00:05:08,480 --> 00:05:11,280 Speaker 1: it again? Is there someone in your life that is 89 00:05:11,320 --> 00:05:14,960 Speaker 1: an energy faucet that makes you consciously feel better when 90 00:05:15,000 --> 00:05:19,279 Speaker 1: you leave them, and can you describe what that feeling 91 00:05:19,440 --> 00:05:24,479 Speaker 1: is like for you? An added extra challenge, whoever you 92 00:05:24,600 --> 00:05:28,120 Speaker 1: think of right now that this person is, maybe go 93 00:05:28,120 --> 00:05:31,320 Speaker 1: out on a limb and tell them, Yeah, I'm sure 94 00:05:31,320 --> 00:05:35,000 Speaker 1: they'll appreciate it. And now a listener question. 95 00:05:36,320 --> 00:05:39,240 Speaker 3: Hi, Emily, this is Ali from Philadelphia. I've been a 96 00:05:39,279 --> 00:05:42,560 Speaker 3: huge Hurdle fan for a few years now, and more 97 00:05:42,560 --> 00:05:46,760 Speaker 3: recently I've been especially loving your five minute Fridays and 98 00:05:46,800 --> 00:05:49,640 Speaker 3: the prompts that you leave all your listeners with. I'm 99 00:05:49,680 --> 00:05:51,960 Speaker 3: normally mid run when i'm listening, so it's really the 100 00:05:51,960 --> 00:05:56,680 Speaker 3: perfect time for my own personal self reflection. So with 101 00:05:56,800 --> 00:06:00,200 Speaker 3: that two part question for you, one looking back on 102 00:06:00,240 --> 00:06:02,800 Speaker 3: your adult life, what is one piece of advice that 103 00:06:03,080 --> 00:06:06,600 Speaker 3: you would give your younger self? And then looking ahead, 104 00:06:06,760 --> 00:06:09,960 Speaker 3: where do you see yourself in five years? And more specifically, 105 00:06:09,960 --> 00:06:12,640 Speaker 3: where do you see Hurdle in five years. It's been 106 00:06:12,680 --> 00:06:15,599 Speaker 3: really awesome seeing the podcast and the brand evolve. I 107 00:06:15,600 --> 00:06:17,960 Speaker 3: would love to hear more about where you see Hurdle 108 00:06:18,000 --> 00:06:18,640 Speaker 3: going next. 109 00:06:19,000 --> 00:06:22,599 Speaker 2: Thanks Emily, Ali from Philadelphia coming in with the hard 110 00:06:22,640 --> 00:06:24,560 Speaker 2: hitting questions this Friday. PS. 111 00:06:24,720 --> 00:06:26,240 Speaker 1: If you are listening right now and you have a 112 00:06:26,240 --> 00:06:29,440 Speaker 1: listener question, we need them, we want them. I want 113 00:06:29,480 --> 00:06:33,720 Speaker 1: to answer all of them asap. Please do me this favor. 114 00:06:33,800 --> 00:06:38,240 Speaker 1: Give me the gift of question for this Thanksgiving Seriously, 115 00:06:38,279 --> 00:06:39,960 Speaker 1: I would really appreciate it. Click on over to the 116 00:06:39,960 --> 00:06:43,599 Speaker 1: show notes and leave me a voice message. I do 117 00:06:43,720 --> 00:06:46,600 Speaker 1: have an upcoming listener Questions episode on deck, so in 118 00:06:46,720 --> 00:06:50,039 Speaker 1: order to give you that, I need them in return. Okay, 119 00:06:50,080 --> 00:06:54,160 Speaker 1: that is my call out. Please now let's see the 120 00:06:54,240 --> 00:06:58,640 Speaker 1: first question. Advice to my younger self, I would say 121 00:06:59,800 --> 00:07:03,279 Speaker 1: that you don't need to look into somebody else's eyes 122 00:07:03,400 --> 00:07:07,159 Speaker 1: to determine how you feel. For so long, as I 123 00:07:07,200 --> 00:07:11,120 Speaker 1: mentioned earlier, I was a people pleaser, and I determined 124 00:07:11,160 --> 00:07:13,800 Speaker 1: how I felt based on the emotions and like the 125 00:07:13,800 --> 00:07:16,560 Speaker 1: temperature and the energy of everybody else around me. And 126 00:07:16,600 --> 00:07:18,920 Speaker 1: that doesn't mean that these days I don't want to 127 00:07:19,000 --> 00:07:22,440 Speaker 1: make others happy. Of course I do. It's literally one 128 00:07:22,520 --> 00:07:25,480 Speaker 1: of my biggest joys. But I know that how I 129 00:07:25,760 --> 00:07:31,080 Speaker 1: feel that starts with me. And so my piece of 130 00:07:31,120 --> 00:07:36,120 Speaker 1: advice is to listen to yourself, to truly do a 131 00:07:36,200 --> 00:07:41,160 Speaker 1: regular audit and know that your happiness lies in your hands, 132 00:07:41,200 --> 00:07:45,800 Speaker 1: it is not determined on how those around you feel. 133 00:07:46,160 --> 00:07:48,080 Speaker 1: That's a really big piece of advice I would give myself. 134 00:07:48,280 --> 00:07:51,240 Speaker 1: And then the next question, here, where's Hurdle going to 135 00:07:51,320 --> 00:07:52,240 Speaker 1: be at in five years? 136 00:07:52,800 --> 00:07:54,240 Speaker 2: I want Hurdle to be a brand. 137 00:07:54,280 --> 00:07:57,920 Speaker 1: Brand Like, yes, Hurdle is a brand now, and yes, 138 00:07:58,600 --> 00:08:00,600 Speaker 1: many of you listening to this in a five minute 139 00:08:00,600 --> 00:08:02,880 Speaker 1: Friday every week you listen to the show regularly. It 140 00:08:02,920 --> 00:08:05,160 Speaker 1: has become a staple in your routine. And for that 141 00:08:05,240 --> 00:08:07,560 Speaker 1: I am so thankful. But there's so much more that 142 00:08:07,640 --> 00:08:11,880 Speaker 1: I want to do, and other evolutions of let's call 143 00:08:11,920 --> 00:08:14,880 Speaker 1: it my business that have yet to take flight. And 144 00:08:15,480 --> 00:08:20,120 Speaker 1: I think about being on Forbes lists, and I think 145 00:08:20,240 --> 00:08:23,440 Speaker 1: about just things that are so far from where I'm 146 00:08:23,480 --> 00:08:25,960 Speaker 1: at right now that I dream of, and I don't 147 00:08:25,960 --> 00:08:28,720 Speaker 1: have a lot of answers on how to necessarily get there. 148 00:08:28,760 --> 00:08:31,640 Speaker 1: But I know that if I ask questions and put 149 00:08:31,640 --> 00:08:35,160 Speaker 1: my ego aside and keep stepping up and like embracing 150 00:08:35,160 --> 00:08:37,960 Speaker 1: my spot in these different spaces and sitting down at 151 00:08:38,000 --> 00:08:41,520 Speaker 1: the table and making a name for myself, that eventually, 152 00:08:41,800 --> 00:08:45,000 Speaker 1: with hard work, that the things that I envision will come. 153 00:08:45,400 --> 00:08:47,959 Speaker 1: So I wanted to be a brand brand. I wanted 154 00:08:47,960 --> 00:08:50,520 Speaker 1: to be a bigger website. I want to have a 155 00:08:50,760 --> 00:08:53,720 Speaker 1: legitimate team. I want to have a business that has 156 00:08:54,040 --> 00:08:57,959 Speaker 1: a full time employee in five years at least one. 157 00:08:58,000 --> 00:08:59,800 Speaker 1: I hope that I look back on this episode and 158 00:08:59,840 --> 00:09:02,319 Speaker 1: like kind of laugh a little bit, because maybe it'll 159 00:09:02,360 --> 00:09:05,160 Speaker 1: be even bigger than I imagined, which is already where 160 00:09:05,160 --> 00:09:08,959 Speaker 1: it is right now. In terms of me, I mean, 161 00:09:09,000 --> 00:09:12,560 Speaker 1: in five years, gosh, I would love also to be married. 162 00:09:13,400 --> 00:09:15,439 Speaker 1: Maybe I'll have a child, maybe I won't. 163 00:09:15,160 --> 00:09:17,719 Speaker 2: Have a child. So I'm going to manifest that for 164 00:09:17,880 --> 00:09:19,040 Speaker 2: myself as well. 165 00:09:19,240 --> 00:09:22,600 Speaker 1: I want to continue on being happy in my life 166 00:09:22,679 --> 00:09:25,880 Speaker 1: and share that love with others as I have been doing. 167 00:09:26,840 --> 00:09:30,880 Speaker 1: And you know, maybe by this time I'll have a Brownstone. 168 00:09:32,280 --> 00:09:35,280 Speaker 2: Hey, A woman can dream, right, A woman can dream. 169 00:09:35,320 --> 00:09:36,160 Speaker 2: That's it for this week. 170 00:09:36,320 --> 00:09:38,200 Speaker 1: Make sure you're following along with Hurdle over on social 171 00:09:38,280 --> 00:09:41,880 Speaker 1: It's at Hurdle Podcast. I myself am over at Emily 172 00:09:41,920 --> 00:09:46,560 Speaker 1: Abadi another Hurdle conquered. Catch you guys next time, and 173 00:09:46,640 --> 00:09:49,000 Speaker 1: don't forget to submit a listener question.