Speaker 1: I am a Yamlah, your host, your guide, a teacher
Speaker 1: for Sam in a soft place to fall for others,
Speaker 1: and I was a miserable failure in my relationships until
Speaker 1: I love myself enough to be able to share my
Speaker 1: love with other people. Welcome to the our spot, a
Speaker 1: production of shondaland audio in partnership with I heart radio.
Speaker 1: I always find it very curious when people call me
Speaker 1: about their relationship and they're concerned about something that's going
Speaker 1: on in the relationship now that was going on when
Speaker 1: the relationship started. My theory, my principle, my experience has
Speaker 1: always been that if it's there at the beginning, it
Speaker 1: will as the end. So if you go into a
Speaker 1: relationship with somebody that's already in a relationship, let me
Speaker 1: tell you something. That relationship is going in when they
Speaker 1: go into a relationship, while they're in relationship with you.
Speaker 1: I don't care what you want to tell yourself. If
Speaker 1: you want to know the end, look at the beginning.
Speaker 1: If it's out of order in the beginning, it will
Speaker 1: be out of order in the end. And I had
Speaker 1: someone call me about that exact issue. Here's that call.
Speaker 1: Get things beloved. Thank you for calling. The art spot. Now,
Speaker 1: I understand that you are a single mother of two
Speaker 1: and you are involved with a man who has a partner.
Speaker 1: Is that accurate? Ah, so what is your question? Concern? Inquiry? Problem.
Speaker 1: You've got problems. Know, you know you got problems. Right, yes,
Speaker 1: but I want to hear I want to hear it
Speaker 1: out of your mouth. What's the problem? The problem is
Speaker 1: me and this person. We connect really well. We share
Speaker 1: a lot of the things, goals, desires. He pulls a
Speaker 1: lot out of me that if we didn't have the
Speaker 1: relationship that we had, I don't think I'll be discovering
Speaker 1: certain things that I'm discovering about myself. I don't know
Speaker 1: whether to let it go or not because I feel
Speaker 1: like our connection is strong. Can I ask you a questions? Yeah,
Speaker 1: you said you don't know whether to let it go
Speaker 1: or not. Yeah, is that true, that you don't know
Speaker 1: whether to let it go or not? I feel like
Speaker 1: I play around with the decisions at what would the
Speaker 1: play be if I let him go? Am I going
Speaker 1: to be losing a friend and someone who is exposing
Speaker 1: me the things that bring it back to my roots
Speaker 1: and help me feel like myself? Or let the relationship
Speaker 1: go and just be alone. I don't want to be
Speaker 1: alone and I don't want to feel lonely. And it's
Speaker 1: not even that this person is feeling a void it.
Speaker 1: There are substantial things that are happening and when they
Speaker 1: have and I'm like wow, well, if this person is
Speaker 1: not supposed me in my life, then why did they
Speaker 1: just expose me to something that I felt, you know,
Speaker 1: I had put in my past, the good things that
Speaker 1: I'm remembering, that I put in my past things that
Speaker 1: I didn't think that, you know, I wanted anymore. As
Speaker 1: far as just my growth and my personal development. It's
Speaker 1: just like, I don't know, I really don't know. Oh,
Speaker 1: you absolutely do know. I am not going to participate
Speaker 1: in that level of dishonesty with you. So let's do this.
Speaker 1: Let's say your husband mad woman and together he introduced
Speaker 1: her to things that she didn't know about herself and
Speaker 1: he opened her up to things from the parents that
Speaker 1: she thought weren't impossible, and he lied to you and
Speaker 1: he snuck around and he was spending time with this woman.
Speaker 1: What would you say to that woman? Not to him. Well,
Speaker 1: what would you say to that woman, this is your husband,
Speaker 1: m that he's lying to her? Uh, you see, beloved,
Speaker 1: the first responsibility you have is to yourself, to yourself
Speaker 1: as a woman. That's your first responsibility and if you
Speaker 1: honor your first responsibility to yourself as a woman. But
Speaker 1: you have to consider is I am not my sister's keeper,
Speaker 1: I am my sister. So you are sleeping with your
Speaker 1: sister's husband. I don't care if he's making new head
Speaker 1: grow under your arms. That is your sister's husband, which
Speaker 1: takes you totally out of integrity period. Now you can
Speaker 1: tell you yourself anything you want to tell yourself, that
Speaker 1: he's gonna leave his wife, because I'm sure he's telling
Speaker 1: you now he's your soul mate, that you'll never find
Speaker 1: another love. Bah, Bah, Bah. But you're giving him credit. Well,
Speaker 1: your power, just because he's in your life and he's
Speaker 1: opening me, you up to these things. Don't give him
Speaker 1: the credit for that. Take the credit for your willingness
Speaker 1: and readiness to be open. He's just the tool being used,
Speaker 1: and that's your sister's husband. I understand. Tell me what
Speaker 1: you hear me say, that I entertaining it. Nope, that's
Speaker 1: not what I said. That's not what I said. I
Speaker 1: never mentioned the word wrong. said that there's no integrity
Speaker 1: in it. Yeah, you're out of integrity because you are
Speaker 1: sleeping with your sister's husband, and if you don't want
Speaker 1: it done to you, don't do it to your sister. Now,
Speaker 1: if that's not enough to convince you, let me give
Speaker 1: you this one. If you want to know the end,
Speaker 1: look at the beginning. I don't care how wonderful it feels.
Speaker 1: And if it's a year from now, five years from now,
Speaker 1: ten years from now, should you choose to stay in it,
Speaker 1: he's gonna do to you exactly what he did to her,
Speaker 1: because if it begins out of integrity, it's gonna end
Speaker 1: out of integrity, and what you do to someone else's
Speaker 1: coming back on you. Ah, there's no two ways about it. Now,
Speaker 1: chances are you're gonna hear what I'm saying and you're
Speaker 1: not gonna give it up. So let me give you
Speaker 1: this one. He's out of integrity. He's dishonoring him stop
Speaker 1: because he's to be lying to his wife to be
Speaker 1: in relationship with you. Where is he telling her that
Speaker 1: he is when you all are together? Has He had
Speaker 1: the conversation with her about maybe something he's missing or
Speaker 1: something he's needing? Has He done the work to build
Speaker 1: his marriage before he steps out of the marriage to
Speaker 1: build something with you. He's out of integrity. So you
Speaker 1: do you as a woman who's ready to grow, ready
Speaker 1: to stretch, ready to step into her power, because that's
Speaker 1: what you're saying. He's doing for you, as a woman
Speaker 1: who's ready to do that. Do you want to be
Speaker 1: with a man who don't have no integrity? Now, a
Speaker 1: man who breaks his commitments, a man who betrays another
Speaker 1: woman's trust? Is that the kind of man you want
Speaker 1: to be with? Oh, but that's what you're doing, and
Speaker 1: you're not wrong. Here's the question to ask yourself. What
Speaker 1: am I learning? What has this experience come to teach me?
Speaker 1: You said three things that I heard. Number one, fear
Speaker 1: of being alone. You don't want to be alone. Right,
Speaker 1: so this experience is coming to teach you how you
Speaker 1: will compromise your integrity rather than be with yourself. M
Speaker 1: Hm HM. Number two, giving away your power. He's bringing
Speaker 1: things out of me, but beloved that things are in you.
Speaker 1: So if they're in there, you can get them out.
Speaker 1: You gave him somebody else credit. And here's the big one.
Speaker 1: You're ready watch your pearls. Okay, you got your pearls clutched,
Speaker 1: expecting somebody to do for you what you need to
Speaker 1: do for yourself. You need to make yourself feel good,
Speaker 1: you need to be able to be your own company,
Speaker 1: you need to be able to tap into and bring
Speaker 1: forth your own power. You need to be able to
Speaker 1: honor your own values, and you're expecting him to do
Speaker 1: that for you, or somebody. Your responsibility, not his. Hey,
Speaker 1: it's just it's hard for me to do that. I
Speaker 1: get overwhelmed. Yeah, well, we all do. We all do.
Speaker 1: So chances are you gonna hear all of this and
Speaker 1: you're gonna stay with him mentally breaks your heart. So
Speaker 1: I'm just setting you up and letting you know what
Speaker 1: you can expect, because this man doesn't have any integrity,
Speaker 1: and that doesn't make him a bad person, because he's
Speaker 1: not calling me, you are. So this is your lesson,
Speaker 1: not his. Oh Man, so here's another possibility. Okay, maybe
Speaker 1: he was just to play date. If you don't have
Speaker 1: to be forever. Right, he was a play day, but
Speaker 1: now that you realize you're sleeping with your sister's husband,
Speaker 1: violating your own integrity, compromising your own heart and putting
Speaker 1: yourself at risk, maybe you want to consider getting up
Speaker 1: out of that? Yeah, maybe not, could be, who knows? But,
Speaker 1: like you said, I have to make myself feel good. Oh,
Speaker 1: I'm just afraid of it. Yeah, is it that you're
Speaker 1: afraid of it, or is it that you think you
Speaker 1: don't know how to do it? I think that he's
Speaker 1: accomplished and he's in the arts and because of that
Speaker 1: I'm drawn to him and he's out of integrity and
Speaker 1: he's portraying another woman's trust and we don't know what
Speaker 1: he's used in you for. And if he did it
Speaker 1: to her baby, he's going to do it to you.
Speaker 1: I'm telling you. Ask me how I now ask me
Speaker 1: how I know. Go ahead, ask me how I know.
Speaker 1: How do you know? It's none of your business. None
Speaker 1: of Your Business. That's okay, but I know it's a test.
Speaker 1: It is, it is. I know that you can have
Speaker 1: what you want. You don't have to accept part of it.
Speaker 1: You can have it all, you can have it at all. Oh,
Speaker 1: that's that's the part where I'm like, I get scared
Speaker 1: that the old is not going to come and I
Speaker 1: see it in that person. And No, you don't. What
Speaker 1: you see in that person is what's possible for you.
Speaker 1: What you see in that person. It's what's possible for
Speaker 1: you and it can be clean and it can be
Speaker 1: an integrity and it can be responsible. You can have
Speaker 1: it all, but if you believe that you can't, then
Speaker 1: you'll settle for chromes when you could have the whole cake.
Speaker 1: So just sit with that. What I want somebody to
Speaker 1: do this to me. I am not my sister's keeper,
Speaker 1: I am my sister and I don't know what kind
Speaker 1: of Man will do this to my sister. So let
Speaker 1: me get out of this before he does it to me.
Speaker 1: And it's gonna take you a minute to get out,
Speaker 1: unless you hit him with the integrity and you say
Speaker 1: to him, you know what, I realized, my love, you
Speaker 1: are out of integrity and you are violating another woman
Speaker 1: and I don't choose to participate. Mm Hmm, I think
Speaker 1: I can see that. Yeah, but then he's gonna call
Speaker 1: and he's gonna Chase and he's gonna pray and he's
Speaker 1: gonna do that. And tell him when he calls your
Speaker 1: wife and he has the legal separation papers that's been
Speaker 1: certified by the court, he can give you a call exactly.
Speaker 1: Thank you. So here's your assignment. Make a list of
Speaker 1: all of the things that you think you've gotten from him,
Speaker 1: all of the things that he's opened you up to,
Speaker 1: all of the things that you think are there as
Speaker 1: a result of him. Make a list of those things
Speaker 1: and then get busy looking at how can I do
Speaker 1: this for myself within myself? It's just that simple. Okay, okay,
Speaker 1: give me a calling about six weeks and let me
Speaker 1: know how you're doing. All Right, I'll call you a
Speaker 1: sick thank you alright, by love, bye, bye, bye. We'll
Speaker 1: be right back with another caller who says she is
Speaker 1: constantly meeting the wrong man. Welcome back to be our spot.
Speaker 1: Let me ask you. Have you ever have been put
Speaker 1: in the friend zone by someone you really like, someone
Speaker 1: that you really got the hots for, somebody that you're
Speaker 1: really really hoping is the one, and just when you
Speaker 1: think things are going along great, they tell you they
Speaker 1: just want to be your friend? Has that ever happened
Speaker 1: to you? And when that happens to you, what do
Speaker 1: you tell yourself? Do you feel rejected, do you feel abandoned?
Speaker 1: Do you feel hopeless, helpless that you now got to
Speaker 1: be in the friend zone? But there are those times
Speaker 1: when you were always in the friend zone. You just
Speaker 1: didn't know it because you wanted more. And actually it's
Speaker 1: a blessing when the person is honest enough to tell you,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna put you in the friend zone. I just
Speaker 1: want to be friends. It's easier for them to do
Speaker 1: that than to just walk away and not say anything
Speaker 1: to you. But I've got a woman who consistently finds
Speaker 1: herself in the friend zone and she feels that she's
Speaker 1: been rejected. I have a totally different perspective. Greetings, beloved,
Speaker 1: welcome to the our spot where we talk about all
Speaker 1: things relationships. So how can I support you today? What's
Speaker 1: your problem? Is Your question? Breakdown so we can have
Speaker 1: a breakthrough. Amazing. Well, first I want to say how
Speaker 1: much of an honor it is to eat and speak
Speaker 1: to you. I feel like I'm speaking to some amazing
Speaker 1: presence and I'm just very grateful. Oh well, I'm thankful
Speaker 1: and grateful you call. Thank you so much. My question
Speaker 1: or dilemma is me going through the process of rejection
Speaker 1: and how to overcome it. In regards to love, it
Speaker 1: very much seems like love isn't in the cards for me.
Speaker 1: I keep finding myself being put into the front zone
Speaker 1: and it is quite disheartening when you look at everyone
Speaker 1: around you and love or love seems easy for everyone else,
Speaker 1: but for you it's quite a feat. So just trying
Speaker 1: to figure out how to handle that, and any advice
Speaker 1: you could give me would be amazing. So you said
Speaker 1: when you look around and love seems quite easy for
Speaker 1: everyone else. Are you saying when I look around? Yes,
Speaker 1: when I look around? Yes, okay, because I want you
Speaker 1: to own your experience. When you externalize it, then you're
Speaker 1: not really owning it and then all the feelings attached
Speaker 1: to it don't necessarily come up. Does that make sense? Yes, ma'am,
Speaker 1: it does. Okay, so I love that you said my dilemma.
Speaker 1: I love that word dilemma, but I don't hear what
Speaker 1: your dilemma is. What is your dilemma that love looks
Speaker 1: easy for everybody else and it ain't easy for you? Yes, ma'am,
Speaker 1: very much so. I very much feel like I put
Speaker 1: myself out there and I only get the rejection of
Speaker 1: you know you're an amazing person and you're great, but
Speaker 1: you're just not for me. Or I get the run
Speaker 1: around of you know, they'll dip their toe in and
Speaker 1: check the temperature, but not really wanting to commit, and
Speaker 1: I've been thinking now for a little over seven years and,
Speaker 1: you know, dating through it, but not having found my person.
Speaker 1: You get to a point where you begin to question,
Speaker 1: is it me? There's something wrong with me, and that's
Speaker 1: where I am. I'm questioning the validity of me. Well,
Speaker 1: why does it have to be something wrong with you,
Speaker 1: as opposed to maybe your frequency is low, so you
Speaker 1: are attracting what you expect. Could you always yet what
Speaker 1: you expect? You don't get what you ask for. So
Speaker 1: when they stick their toe in, I wonder if your
Speaker 1: first question to yourself, or someplace deep within the pity
Speaker 1: of your soul, is okay, are they're gonna reject me too? Yeah,
Speaker 1: H Yeah, and how many times do you say what's
Speaker 1: wrong with me, that I can't do what other people
Speaker 1: are doing or get what other people have? What's wrong
Speaker 1: with me? How many times you think that thought? Pretty often. Oh,
Speaker 1: so you are getting exactly what you expect. Look how
Speaker 1: powerful you are. Yeah, M Hmmm. So let me ask you.
Speaker 1: Let's just go there. Okay, you want to go there.
Speaker 1: You know in the Matrix they say you want the
Speaker 1: red pillar or the blue pill. Which one you want?
Speaker 1: I want the pillar that's going to reveal the truth
Speaker 1: of what it is I need to know so I
Speaker 1: can change these habits. That's the pill I want. All Right,
Speaker 1: so let me ask you this. What's wrong with you?
Speaker 1: I believe that I have become jaded because I have
Speaker 1: been rejected so many times and been hurt and heartbroken
Speaker 1: so many times that I've become jaded each rejection. You know,
Speaker 1: I build a wall and it seems as if when
Speaker 1: I let that wall down just a little bit, boom,
Speaker 1: here goes another rejection, and so it's very much like
Speaker 1: fort knock around my heart because the rejection and because
Speaker 1: of the me being jaded. But I don't know how
Speaker 1: else to be because I guess in a way I
Speaker 1: am protecting myself but still wanting live. M M, contradiction. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so how do you reject you? How do you reject you?
Speaker 1: I think I reject me when I'm not fully honest
Speaker 1: with what I want. Ah, yeah, good for you. So
Speaker 1: the dilemma is, how come I can't be honest with
Speaker 1: myself about what I really want? Yeah, and how do
Speaker 1: you hurt you? I think I hurt me when I
Speaker 1: shut down. The only way I know to get back
Speaker 1: to myself is to kind of shut down where I
Speaker 1: kind of close everything off to try to figure out
Speaker 1: what's happening, and I feel like sometimes when others are
Speaker 1: happy and things are great for them and I'm not
Speaker 1: in that place, I don't want to give off that energy.
Speaker 1: So I think that when I become reclusive like I
Speaker 1: have been, I dishonor myself and those around me, but
Speaker 1: I don't know another way to be or what else
Speaker 1: to do. M Hmm, it sounds to me like you
Speaker 1: have a heart condition, that you're trying to attract a open, honest,
Speaker 1: loving connection to someone, but you've got armor on your
Speaker 1: heart so they can't really feel your heart. So they
Speaker 1: wonder if this is real or if this is safe,
Speaker 1: because you can't love with your head. Yeah, you have
Speaker 1: to love with your heart. And if you're afraid to
Speaker 1: open it, if you're afraid to be vulnerable and if
Speaker 1: you have expectations, you because you don't get what you
Speaker 1: ask for, you get what you expect and you're expecting
Speaker 1: to be heard, expecting to be rejected, expecting to be abandoned.
Speaker 1: I know you're not doing it consciously, but holding the thoughts,
Speaker 1: if you're a powerful person, and it sounds like you are,
Speaker 1: because you're creating so much of what you don't want
Speaker 1: and then you're trying to figure it out. That's a
Speaker 1: head activity. You've got a heart condition and you know
Speaker 1: what your heart condition is. Okay, you got a pencil. Okay,
Speaker 1: write this down. T are you as T. that's your
Speaker 1: hard condition. You are not trusting that, no matter what
Speaker 1: shows up or who shows up, you're gonna be okay,
Speaker 1: m you're not trusting that you can open your heart
Speaker 1: and that, no matter who shows up or what shows up,
Speaker 1: you're gonna be okay. You're not trusting yourself to make
Speaker 1: the right decisions because you've made what you consider wrong
Speaker 1: decisions before. You're not trusting yourself because you've given more
Speaker 1: than you received and you've offered more than you've got
Speaker 1: in return. Yeah, does that sound accurate for you? It
Speaker 1: sounds very accurate. Yeah, you can't love without trust. Baby,
Speaker 1: after this break, trust is on the menu. Welcome back
Speaker 1: to the our spot. Let's continue our conversation on finding
Speaker 1: the right type of love, and let's begin with trust. So,
Speaker 1: have you ever read my book on Trust? I actually have. Yes, well,
Speaker 1: you need to go back through it. Because it sounds
Speaker 1: to me like you're in the meantime. Sounds like me
Speaker 1: like you've got a problem but you don't know what
Speaker 1: the problem is. So you're in the basement. You try
Speaker 1: to get to the second floor, but you're in the basement. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I am in the problem with this hard condition, this trust,
Speaker 1: and you know in the phone call, I can't tell
Speaker 1: you what the origins of that is. I have a
Speaker 1: sneaky suspicion and I'm willing to be wrong about it.
Speaker 1: Two things that come up for me. One is that
Speaker 1: you stayed too long in a situation, hoping that it
Speaker 1: would change and it didn't. You gave, you gave, you
Speaker 1: waited to a patient, you gave, you gave, you gave,
Speaker 1: hoping the situation would change and it didn't. Does that
Speaker 1: sound familiar? Sounds pretty spot on. Oh, so you're gonna
Speaker 1: punish yourself for being stupid and making that mistake? I
Speaker 1: will definitely say I questioned my own decisions, you know,
Speaker 1: to your point, I do do that and I feel
Speaker 1: like I punished myself. I question, did I do this,
Speaker 1: or why didn't I say that, hoping that the outcome
Speaker 1: would have been different. Well, if you're emotionally dishonest with yourself,
Speaker 1: you're gonna attract emotionally dishonest people. And the other thing
Speaker 1: is this. And please forgive me, let me ask for
Speaker 1: your forgiveness up front, because I don't know any of
Speaker 1: this to be true. I don't know you from a
Speaker 1: can of paint. I'm just sharing with you what comes across. Okay,
Speaker 1: and it's almost like a desperation. This's gotta be it,
Speaker 1: this gotta be the one. That's gotta be it's gotta
Speaker 1: be you. It's gotta be you. It's gotta be you.
Speaker 1: You know when you'll make you clinging and needy. Consider this.
Speaker 1: Everyone don't have to be the one. Some of them
Speaker 1: are just passing by for a breather, but you want
Speaker 1: everyone to be the one. It's like you're playing Bingo.
Speaker 1: You want that I can get bigger. What's interesting is
Speaker 1: you're not the first person to say that. I don't
Speaker 1: feel desperate and I don't feel like I'm giving off desperation,
Speaker 1: and maybe I am, maybe I am I don't know you.
Speaker 1: I can't even see you, and I'm picking it up
Speaker 1: because it's like you want it so bad. Now you
Speaker 1: can call in the one, but you can't call it
Speaker 1: in with a sense of desperation that it's gonna give
Speaker 1: you something that you don't have. See, long time ago
Speaker 1: I created this. Maybe it's a defense mechanism, or maybe
Speaker 1: it's uh, I don't know what to call it, but
Speaker 1: my thing has always been what you don't want to
Speaker 1: be with me, something must be wrong with you. By
Speaker 1: if you don't want to be with me, something must
Speaker 1: be wrong with you, and I'm not gonna let myself
Speaker 1: want you by next yeah, because I trust that what
Speaker 1: God has for me, it is for me and I'm
Speaker 1: willing to let God bring it, not that I've got
Speaker 1: to go desperately searching for it, because it's mine and
Speaker 1: it already exists, and if I gotta kiss a few
Speaker 1: frogs before I meet the Prince, then damn it, I'm
Speaker 1: willing to kiss a frog. Yeah, I feel like I've
Speaker 1: I've kissed more than I like. But now you you
Speaker 1: were licking the frog and holding on to its feet,
Speaker 1: just kissing and let it go. Oh, it's my frog.
Speaker 1: Come on, frog, turn into a prince. Turn into a prince, FROG,
Speaker 1: turn into a prince. Oh, but aren't you glad you
Speaker 1: can laugh at yourself? Trust, baby, trust. I'm on it.
Speaker 1: Go back and retrust again and particularly pay attention to
Speaker 1: trust in yourself and trust God. If you get those
Speaker 1: two things right, then you'll be able to trust other
Speaker 1: people and trust the process. But don't think that you're
Speaker 1: going into love for somebody to bring you something you
Speaker 1: don't already have. You're going into loving relationship to share
Speaker 1: the truth of who you are. M They're just bringing
Speaker 1: the dessert to the table. You are the full course meal.
Speaker 1: Stop Cheating yourself like a snack couple. Yeah, what, you
Speaker 1: don't want to be with me, something must be desperately
Speaker 1: wrong with you by take yourself on up out of here.
Speaker 1: I like that. I've never thought about it in that
Speaker 1: in that way before. Well, I'm from Brooklyn's were a
Speaker 1: little Sassy. I'm where are you from? I'm in Ohio.
Speaker 1: There is no SASS in Ohio. Don't tell me that.
Speaker 1: There ain't no SASS in Ohio, even if midwesterns are
Speaker 1: very sassy. I think that's what's frustrating to because I
Speaker 1: know who I am. They know what I have to
Speaker 1: offer and what they don't want that. They don't want that, baby.
Speaker 1: They want your heart. They don't want who you are.
Speaker 1: And what you have to offer and what you're willing
Speaker 1: to do. They want your heart, and the heartest simple,
Speaker 1: the heartest open, the hardest soft, the hardest gentle stop
Speaker 1: trying to prove your value and worth. They don't want
Speaker 1: all of that. Somebody coming in for love. They want
Speaker 1: you to rub their feet and eat popcorn with them,
Speaker 1: tell them when they got letters stuck between their teeth.
Speaker 1: They don't want all of that. Keep it simple, stop
Speaker 1: trying to prove your value and your worth. Get back
Speaker 1: in the trust and see what you discover. I will okay,
Speaker 1: it's gonna be all right. It will okay, let me
Speaker 1: know how you make out, but there ain't no SASS
Speaker 1: in the high not unless you're coming from Cleveland by
Speaker 1: thank you, okay, keep bye. Bye. Both of my callers
Speaker 1: today are struggling with two very different aspects of finding
Speaker 1: the right one, and it all comes down to the
Speaker 1: same core issue. Trust yourself, trust in yourself and, above
Speaker 1: all else, trust your heart. It's not uncommon for people
Speaker 1: to look up one day and finally realize a problem
Speaker 1: that has always existed. Whether you're unsure if you should
Speaker 1: be with a married man or if you're feeling like
Speaker 1: you're constantly searching for the one trust that you know
Speaker 1: and will know what's right for you. And if you've
Speaker 1: got a relationship problem, issue, dilemma, challenge or relationship victory,
Speaker 1: be sure to look out for the arts spot calling
Speaker 1: times on social media and you can join me live
Speaker 1: right here. In the meantime, remember to stay in peace
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