1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:04,280 Speaker 1: My stepdad is threatening eviction the day I turn eighteen. 2 00:00:04,640 --> 00:00:08,400 Speaker 2: But there's something he doesn't know. You know why, he's 3 00:00:08,440 --> 00:00:09,240 Speaker 2: building character. 4 00:00:09,440 --> 00:00:12,440 Speaker 3: You know, Tom, to spread your wings and fly, doesn't matter, 5 00:00:13,240 --> 00:00:14,760 Speaker 3: my son, get up. 6 00:00:15,360 --> 00:00:16,880 Speaker 2: To leave the nest someday. 7 00:00:17,000 --> 00:00:19,919 Speaker 4: Hey, a baby bird leaves the nest when it's a 8 00:00:19,920 --> 00:00:23,239 Speaker 4: couple weeks old. You've got eighteen years the lead the 9 00:00:23,280 --> 00:00:25,680 Speaker 4: next year. Sorry, ass is still on the couch. 10 00:00:27,080 --> 00:00:29,480 Speaker 2: Push you off the cliff and let you spread your wings. 11 00:00:29,520 --> 00:00:33,000 Speaker 4: Yes, maybe those wings backing out into the real world. 12 00:00:33,400 --> 00:00:36,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, all right, let's see what happens. Let's do it. 13 00:00:36,479 --> 00:00:39,400 Speaker 4: I'll be eighteen in a couple of months. My stepfather 14 00:00:39,520 --> 00:00:41,800 Speaker 4: of five years gave me the heads up that I 15 00:00:41,840 --> 00:00:45,400 Speaker 4: need to start paying a fair rent to continue living 16 00:00:45,400 --> 00:00:49,680 Speaker 4: in the house after I turn eighteen. The house we 17 00:00:49,800 --> 00:00:53,159 Speaker 4: currently live in belonged to my dad, who died when 18 00:00:53,200 --> 00:00:55,920 Speaker 4: I was six. My mom and dad were never married, 19 00:00:55,960 --> 00:00:59,000 Speaker 4: and I inherited the house and my mom and I 20 00:00:59,040 --> 00:01:02,720 Speaker 4: lived here, and then my stepfather moved in after they 21 00:01:02,720 --> 00:01:09,399 Speaker 4: got married. Hold up, hold up, stepdad wants OP to 22 00:01:09,560 --> 00:01:12,559 Speaker 4: pay rent and the house that OP owns. 23 00:01:14,000 --> 00:01:20,880 Speaker 2: Yep, all right, let going, it's your house. Pay me 24 00:01:21,120 --> 00:01:24,920 Speaker 2: my money. It's ridiculous. Love. 25 00:01:24,959 --> 00:01:28,959 Speaker 4: It looks like my stepfather was under the impression that 26 00:01:29,000 --> 00:01:30,679 Speaker 4: my mom owns the house. 27 00:01:32,000 --> 00:01:32,679 Speaker 2: That it's not. 28 00:01:32,640 --> 00:01:40,759 Speaker 4: Happening as I own the house. Remember, it's like undercover boss. 29 00:01:41,520 --> 00:01:43,520 Speaker 4: I am the boss. 30 00:01:43,880 --> 00:01:46,360 Speaker 3: He's wearing a mask that's like a mask of his 31 00:01:46,400 --> 00:01:49,280 Speaker 3: actual face. He's like, it's me, I have the house. 32 00:01:49,880 --> 00:01:53,800 Speaker 3: It's me Mario. Okay. He laughed at me and didn't 33 00:01:53,800 --> 00:01:58,600 Speaker 3: believe it. I talked to my mom and she confirmed 34 00:01:58,840 --> 00:02:01,840 Speaker 3: that she never told him him that I own the house, 35 00:02:02,400 --> 00:02:04,760 Speaker 3: and now he knows the truth. 36 00:02:05,800 --> 00:02:08,640 Speaker 2: I'll falling, ass, bitch. Let's go. 37 00:02:09,400 --> 00:02:13,840 Speaker 4: Yeah, it's actually like a pretty pretty it's pretty hype 38 00:02:13,840 --> 00:02:18,799 Speaker 4: that Op owns a house at eighteen, not hype that 39 00:02:19,440 --> 00:02:20,519 Speaker 4: Op's dad is dead. 40 00:02:20,639 --> 00:02:27,560 Speaker 2: Circumstances are not you know, when somebody lose some free 41 00:02:27,639 --> 00:02:30,560 Speaker 2: house tomato. 42 00:02:31,720 --> 00:02:34,720 Speaker 4: So the reality is he believed it was completely fair 43 00:02:34,760 --> 00:02:36,920 Speaker 4: to ask me to pay rent when he didn't know 44 00:02:37,040 --> 00:02:40,520 Speaker 4: I owned the house. So it's only fair that I 45 00:02:40,560 --> 00:02:42,040 Speaker 4: asked him to pay rent. 46 00:02:42,080 --> 00:02:48,520 Speaker 2: Now, how do you like that, daddy? Yo? It's actually 47 00:02:48,720 --> 00:02:51,160 Speaker 2: so funny, dude, it's so good. 48 00:02:53,320 --> 00:02:55,760 Speaker 4: Last night I gave them the heads up, and if 49 00:02:55,800 --> 00:02:58,560 Speaker 4: they continue planning to live here after I turn eighteen. 50 00:02:59,440 --> 00:03:02,880 Speaker 4: That's fine with me, but they need to start paying rent. 51 00:03:04,360 --> 00:03:05,480 Speaker 2: Let's go, baby. 52 00:03:06,680 --> 00:03:10,440 Speaker 4: That is the funniest like reverse udo card I've ever 53 00:03:10,480 --> 00:03:11,160 Speaker 4: seen played. 54 00:03:11,720 --> 00:03:13,040 Speaker 2: Well, I love those reverse. 55 00:03:16,320 --> 00:03:20,120 Speaker 4: My stepfather believes this is unfair, as it's a sudden 56 00:03:20,240 --> 00:03:23,000 Speaker 4: change and he needs more time, and that I'm being 57 00:03:23,080 --> 00:03:25,320 Speaker 4: heartless because you don't do this to family. 58 00:03:26,200 --> 00:03:27,760 Speaker 2: There's all this family when you. 59 00:03:27,639 --> 00:03:34,639 Speaker 1: Were talking to me, huh, sadly, well, he was prepared 60 00:03:34,680 --> 00:03:36,560 Speaker 1: to do this to me, so what's the difference. 61 00:03:37,000 --> 00:03:38,080 Speaker 2: I don't see no difference. 62 00:03:38,320 --> 00:03:41,040 Speaker 4: Come on, he said he did it to help me 63 00:03:41,120 --> 00:03:44,440 Speaker 4: gain independence and prepare me for an adult life and 64 00:03:44,480 --> 00:03:47,400 Speaker 4: that's part of growing up, whereas I'm doing it out 65 00:03:47,400 --> 00:03:50,800 Speaker 4: of spite. I told him that if I need to 66 00:03:50,840 --> 00:03:53,280 Speaker 4: pay rent to learn to be an adult, then what 67 00:03:53,320 --> 00:03:55,800 Speaker 4: does that make him live in here? 68 00:03:56,360 --> 00:03:58,160 Speaker 2: Rent orree. 69 00:03:59,360 --> 00:04:04,400 Speaker 3: Bro, He's just got all the comebacks, just wiloaded, waiting 70 00:04:04,520 --> 00:04:05,720 Speaker 3: like like wait. 71 00:04:06,160 --> 00:04:08,840 Speaker 4: Stepdad was like, oh, I guess I see his point, 72 00:04:08,840 --> 00:04:10,840 Speaker 4: and then OPI was like nope, that's a better point. 73 00:04:10,880 --> 00:04:18,000 Speaker 4: OPI a lot, bro lot. He told me I'm out 74 00:04:18,000 --> 00:04:21,080 Speaker 4: of line, and the conversation ended. My mom believes that 75 00:04:21,120 --> 00:04:23,640 Speaker 4: I made a mistake asking him to pay rent, and 76 00:04:23,680 --> 00:04:26,000 Speaker 4: that I'm being spiteful and it's wrong with me to 77 00:04:26,080 --> 00:04:28,760 Speaker 4: push for this as it will result in our family 78 00:04:28,800 --> 00:04:29,560 Speaker 4: being torn apart. 79 00:04:30,120 --> 00:04:31,240 Speaker 2: Am I the a hole here? 80 00:04:33,680 --> 00:04:37,320 Speaker 4: I mean, okay, okay, okay, so give it to me, John, 81 00:04:37,400 --> 00:04:37,760 Speaker 4: go to me. 82 00:04:37,920 --> 00:04:42,400 Speaker 3: I will say that, like I love the fact that 83 00:04:42,480 --> 00:04:45,359 Speaker 3: OPI served the just desserts, right. 84 00:04:45,720 --> 00:04:48,440 Speaker 2: Oh yeah, those desserts just sweet. 85 00:04:49,240 --> 00:04:53,200 Speaker 3: I also do get where it's like there's probably a 86 00:04:53,200 --> 00:04:55,320 Speaker 3: point where it's like, Okay, like I just wanted I 87 00:04:55,360 --> 00:04:58,039 Speaker 3: wanted to teach you a lesson not to like do 88 00:04:58,240 --> 00:05:02,000 Speaker 3: that to to you know, like kid me or whatever, 89 00:05:02,200 --> 00:05:06,000 Speaker 3: and then okay, like well it's that's not actually the scenario. 90 00:05:07,320 --> 00:05:09,160 Speaker 2: I mean, yeah, I don't know. What do you think? 91 00:05:09,160 --> 00:05:10,919 Speaker 2: What do you think? Well? 92 00:05:11,160 --> 00:05:17,640 Speaker 4: I actually think like the stepdad was probably trying to be. 93 00:05:19,640 --> 00:05:24,080 Speaker 4: I think it's a very like old kind of like 94 00:05:24,120 --> 00:05:28,480 Speaker 4: an old school tough love kind of idea to be like, yo, 95 00:05:28,560 --> 00:05:31,080 Speaker 4: once you turn eighteen, you're an adult now, and you 96 00:05:31,080 --> 00:05:34,039 Speaker 4: got to kind of do things to yourself. And so 97 00:05:34,120 --> 00:05:37,440 Speaker 4: I do actually think he's telling the truth where he's like, hey, 98 00:05:37,440 --> 00:05:40,359 Speaker 4: I was just trying to, you know, help you spread 99 00:05:40,360 --> 00:05:44,359 Speaker 4: your wings, get out of the nest by saying, you know, 100 00:05:44,400 --> 00:05:46,400 Speaker 4: you got to start paying rent, like this is a 101 00:05:46,440 --> 00:05:49,560 Speaker 4: way for you to start proving you're an adult, not 102 00:05:49,800 --> 00:05:51,440 Speaker 4: you know, and the step dad didn't know the actual 103 00:05:51,480 --> 00:05:55,680 Speaker 4: situation that OP owns the house, so I feel like 104 00:05:55,720 --> 00:05:58,800 Speaker 4: it actually might have been coming from an okay place. 105 00:06:00,200 --> 00:06:03,039 Speaker 4: It's a fair point, yeah, because like I mean, I 106 00:06:03,080 --> 00:06:05,839 Speaker 4: just think of like, like, you know, my parents probably 107 00:06:05,880 --> 00:06:09,960 Speaker 4: could have paid for my my college at for at 108 00:06:10,040 --> 00:06:15,320 Speaker 4: U c l I, but they made me pay like half. 109 00:06:15,480 --> 00:06:19,640 Speaker 3: Right, that's how you do it. You got to work 110 00:06:19,880 --> 00:06:22,400 Speaker 3: work it out with them where they're still. 111 00:06:22,279 --> 00:06:24,160 Speaker 4: You know, skin in the game, you know, like basically 112 00:06:24,240 --> 00:06:26,600 Speaker 4: like yeah, you just want skin in the game. You 113 00:06:26,640 --> 00:06:29,680 Speaker 4: don't want like I've had, there was kids I went 114 00:06:29,680 --> 00:06:33,120 Speaker 4: to high school with that like are completely living off 115 00:06:33,160 --> 00:06:37,760 Speaker 4: their parents still, and I think that's not healthy. So 116 00:06:37,839 --> 00:06:41,880 Speaker 4: I understand where that could be coming from. 117 00:06:42,040 --> 00:06:42,960 Speaker 2: That being said, like. 118 00:06:44,480 --> 00:06:52,240 Speaker 4: It is Op's house, Uh, that is living there rent free, 119 00:06:53,880 --> 00:06:58,760 Speaker 4: I mean, pay up. I don't think it's the craziest 120 00:06:58,800 --> 00:07:02,000 Speaker 4: thing for OP to ask for a little rent or 121 00:07:02,040 --> 00:07:05,159 Speaker 4: at least for all like the property taxes or like 122 00:07:05,680 --> 00:07:07,240 Speaker 4: the mortgage. 123 00:07:06,720 --> 00:07:10,680 Speaker 3: So truly, there's probably Yeah, there's probably at a minimum, 124 00:07:10,840 --> 00:07:16,520 Speaker 3: there's like h ooa taxes like uh uh, utilities like water, 125 00:07:16,800 --> 00:07:19,000 Speaker 3: like there's definitely things that OPI will probably have to 126 00:07:19,000 --> 00:07:21,600 Speaker 3: pay nowt and opis like I just graduated high school, 127 00:07:21,640 --> 00:07:25,440 Speaker 3: like I need some incomes, and I am, oh, you 128 00:07:25,440 --> 00:07:28,280 Speaker 3: don't be really funny is if OPI was like, you 129 00:07:28,280 --> 00:07:31,520 Speaker 3: could live here, but I'm airbnbing your rooms on the 130 00:07:31,560 --> 00:07:34,440 Speaker 3: couch or something like that, that would actually be looking 131 00:07:34,560 --> 00:07:35,480 Speaker 3: like more hilarious. 132 00:07:35,600 --> 00:07:38,040 Speaker 4: Op he could do that they like OPI could like 133 00:07:38,960 --> 00:07:42,680 Speaker 4: put it on Airbnb, you know, like like that would 134 00:07:42,680 --> 00:07:45,120 Speaker 4: be so crazy about you know, man. 135 00:07:45,440 --> 00:07:48,000 Speaker 3: Because also the other thing too, The problem here is 136 00:07:48,040 --> 00:07:50,520 Speaker 3: that like OPI kind of also has to kick out 137 00:07:50,520 --> 00:07:55,760 Speaker 3: his mom. So it's like, you know, but uh, I 138 00:07:55,760 --> 00:07:59,000 Speaker 3: don't know. I am a little more torn on this one. Yeah, 139 00:07:59,160 --> 00:08:01,120 Speaker 3: I do see stepdad. 140 00:08:01,160 --> 00:08:03,040 Speaker 4: I don't I don't think the stepdad's being like a 141 00:08:03,120 --> 00:08:09,160 Speaker 4: dick necessarily, like like he totally could be totally could be, 142 00:08:09,160 --> 00:08:12,840 Speaker 4: But I like I could see the intention like tough 143 00:08:12,920 --> 00:08:18,520 Speaker 4: love kind of deal. But I feel like the person 144 00:08:18,560 --> 00:08:21,400 Speaker 4: who's not at faulty here is the mom, or at 145 00:08:21,480 --> 00:08:24,520 Speaker 4: least that's the mom, and mom told the stepdad to 146 00:08:24,520 --> 00:08:25,120 Speaker 4: give like. 147 00:08:26,000 --> 00:08:29,239 Speaker 3: She should have told him, though she should have told 148 00:08:29,560 --> 00:08:31,640 Speaker 3: I mean I could see a scenario where it never 149 00:08:31,720 --> 00:08:33,320 Speaker 3: came up, Like I mean, that's kind of like a 150 00:08:33,400 --> 00:08:33,960 Speaker 3: random thing. 151 00:08:34,120 --> 00:08:36,120 Speaker 2: I take that back. I take that back. 152 00:08:36,440 --> 00:08:38,720 Speaker 4: The mom is totally the a hole for not saying that, 153 00:08:38,880 --> 00:08:41,440 Speaker 4: like for lying about the whole house situation. 154 00:08:41,640 --> 00:08:44,319 Speaker 3: She absolutely should have should have should have told him, 155 00:08:44,320 --> 00:08:46,880 Speaker 3: like I know, it's like a random weird thing. To 156 00:08:46,880 --> 00:08:51,000 Speaker 3: bring it back there has when he said that, that's 157 00:08:51,120 --> 00:08:53,920 Speaker 3: when she should have told him if she hadn't told 158 00:08:54,000 --> 00:08:54,520 Speaker 3: him already. 159 00:08:54,600 --> 00:08:58,280 Speaker 4: Yeah, I actually think like person who is definitely the 160 00:08:58,320 --> 00:09:01,200 Speaker 4: a hole is the mom for aly. 161 00:09:02,679 --> 00:09:04,240 Speaker 2: Like lucky. 162 00:09:04,440 --> 00:09:06,480 Speaker 4: Yeah, I just I know, I totally flip flop, but 163 00:09:06,480 --> 00:09:09,599 Speaker 4: I actually think that's the only person the whole What 164 00:09:09,720 --> 00:09:12,800 Speaker 4: do you think? But this is this is kind of 165 00:09:12,840 --> 00:09:16,520 Speaker 4: like you know, going into a different area, but like uh, 166 00:09:16,760 --> 00:09:20,040 Speaker 4: in terms of just that tough love, like once you're 167 00:09:20,440 --> 00:09:22,520 Speaker 4: I think eighteen is a little bit early, but maybe 168 00:09:22,520 --> 00:09:25,720 Speaker 4: if we're working at eighteen makes sense. But like like 169 00:09:26,600 --> 00:09:31,960 Speaker 4: after college for example, like if you're going to come home, fine, 170 00:09:32,080 --> 00:09:34,400 Speaker 4: you know you can, but you got to start getting 171 00:09:34,400 --> 00:09:37,640 Speaker 4: a job and paying rent. Or if you're not going 172 00:09:37,679 --> 00:09:41,760 Speaker 4: to college, Like, uh, you can stay home, but you 173 00:09:41,800 --> 00:09:45,040 Speaker 4: have to you know, pay rent and and get a job. 174 00:09:45,120 --> 00:09:46,960 Speaker 4: Like what do you think about those kind of familial 175 00:09:47,040 --> 00:09:50,680 Speaker 4: rules and someone to like go achieve in the world. 176 00:09:50,720 --> 00:09:53,640 Speaker 4: Because I can, I can see if you don't do that, 177 00:09:53,720 --> 00:09:56,520 Speaker 4: maybe yeah kid getting complacent, you know. 178 00:09:57,160 --> 00:09:59,320 Speaker 3: Yeah, because for me, also, I'm a little crazy because 179 00:09:59,320 --> 00:10:03,760 Speaker 3: I left at seven, So I low key fucking badass bro. 180 00:10:03,880 --> 00:10:06,240 Speaker 3: I would want my kid to kind of do the same. 181 00:10:06,240 --> 00:10:08,040 Speaker 3: But also I pulled myself back a little bit. 182 00:10:08,520 --> 00:10:13,760 Speaker 4: Uh I think here's that you with your your college setup, 183 00:10:14,080 --> 00:10:17,000 Speaker 4: like like initially to do your where your parents get 184 00:10:17,040 --> 00:10:19,240 Speaker 4: to pay for your housing and. 185 00:10:19,400 --> 00:10:23,160 Speaker 3: No, so I basically told them I didn't want them to. 186 00:10:23,640 --> 00:10:26,400 Speaker 3: They they definitely ended up bailing me out when I 187 00:10:26,440 --> 00:10:29,560 Speaker 3: ran out of money twice because I literally I was 188 00:10:29,559 --> 00:10:32,080 Speaker 3: paying my rent on credit card at one point, which 189 00:10:32,120 --> 00:10:33,600 Speaker 3: is not smart cash advance on a. 190 00:10:33,520 --> 00:10:38,880 Speaker 2: Credit card, bad I d am, But uh yeah, I 191 00:10:38,920 --> 00:10:39,920 Speaker 2: was risking the biscuit. 192 00:10:40,960 --> 00:10:45,480 Speaker 3: But which like, it's not like I had to do that, 193 00:10:45,559 --> 00:10:47,920 Speaker 3: It's I'm just I was just very stubborn and that 194 00:10:48,040 --> 00:10:51,040 Speaker 3: I did not want their help. And also because of 195 00:10:51,120 --> 00:10:54,720 Speaker 3: moving to California to be a California resident for tuition purposes, 196 00:10:54,960 --> 00:10:57,439 Speaker 3: you have to be completely self funded for two years 197 00:10:57,440 --> 00:11:01,800 Speaker 3: before they're considering you for residency for tuition, so they 198 00:11:01,840 --> 00:11:05,520 Speaker 3: would have had audited my financials and seen them paying 199 00:11:05,559 --> 00:11:12,600 Speaker 3: for stuff, so like they couldn't anyways. So yeah, I 200 00:11:12,679 --> 00:11:15,720 Speaker 3: was very like like no, I had, I had saved up, 201 00:11:15,760 --> 00:11:18,720 Speaker 3: like I had saved up like every penny, so I 202 00:11:18,760 --> 00:11:22,160 Speaker 3: had like ten grand when I left, but I ran 203 00:11:22,160 --> 00:11:24,520 Speaker 3: out of that money super fast. 204 00:11:24,840 --> 00:11:28,559 Speaker 4: Super fast, I mean living in saf So like I 205 00:11:28,720 --> 00:11:30,600 Speaker 4: was bad. Do you think it was good for you 206 00:11:30,679 --> 00:11:34,160 Speaker 4: to like kind of like a hundred percent of have 207 00:11:34,240 --> 00:11:36,760 Speaker 4: the safety net even though you know you eventually had 208 00:11:36,800 --> 00:11:38,160 Speaker 4: to fall back on the safety net. 209 00:11:38,600 --> 00:11:42,400 Speaker 3: Yeah, Like it's basically as like it's honestly, I think 210 00:11:42,480 --> 00:11:45,760 Speaker 3: the perfect situation because like all, in reality, I was 211 00:11:45,880 --> 00:11:50,560 Speaker 3: never at true risk of like anything serious, but I 212 00:11:50,760 --> 00:11:55,040 Speaker 3: learned the lessons that like doing a gritty thing like 213 00:11:55,160 --> 00:11:58,880 Speaker 3: gives you essentially some of the lessons. So like I 214 00:11:58,960 --> 00:12:01,000 Speaker 3: thought that was very good for my development. But I 215 00:12:01,040 --> 00:12:04,360 Speaker 3: also don't know that I would like necessarily want and 216 00:12:04,400 --> 00:12:06,640 Speaker 3: I didn't tell my parents any of that of course 217 00:12:06,720 --> 00:12:09,800 Speaker 3: in the moment, So I don't know if. 218 00:12:09,640 --> 00:12:11,000 Speaker 2: I want my own child going through that. 219 00:12:11,080 --> 00:12:13,120 Speaker 3: But also at the same time, I would want them 220 00:12:13,160 --> 00:12:16,360 Speaker 3: to it was I think I gained a lot of 221 00:12:16,440 --> 00:12:20,719 Speaker 3: perspective very quickly, so I would like them to. I 222 00:12:20,720 --> 00:12:22,720 Speaker 3: don't know, I think it's just a plan if they're like, hey, 223 00:12:22,800 --> 00:12:25,160 Speaker 3: I want to be I want to be like an artist, 224 00:12:25,240 --> 00:12:26,800 Speaker 3: Like I'm a painter and I want to be a painter, 225 00:12:26,840 --> 00:12:28,160 Speaker 3: and I know it doesn't make a lot of money, 226 00:12:28,960 --> 00:12:31,920 Speaker 3: Like and I want to go study under this person 227 00:12:31,960 --> 00:12:33,760 Speaker 3: and like not make a bunch of money, but like 228 00:12:33,760 --> 00:12:35,640 Speaker 3: like apprentice for like a year or two, because like 229 00:12:35,720 --> 00:12:37,480 Speaker 3: that's where I see my future. 230 00:12:37,520 --> 00:12:39,680 Speaker 2: I'd be like, all right, like go for a year. 231 00:12:39,960 --> 00:12:42,760 Speaker 3: I'll pay your basic whatever, like no frills, but like 232 00:12:43,120 --> 00:12:44,680 Speaker 3: I'll make sure you're not like on. 233 00:12:44,600 --> 00:12:46,840 Speaker 2: The streets, you know, something like that. 234 00:12:47,040 --> 00:12:50,640 Speaker 4: Yeah, I think as long as there's like a passion there, 235 00:12:50,920 --> 00:12:53,200 Speaker 4: you know, like as long as they're not just bumming 236 00:12:53,240 --> 00:13:01,240 Speaker 4: around and there's like working towards something of substance. Yeah, 237 00:13:01,360 --> 00:13:03,760 Speaker 4: But like I don't think the stepdad did it in 238 00:13:03,840 --> 00:13:05,600 Speaker 4: the right way. But I like that's kind of like 239 00:13:05,640 --> 00:13:10,160 Speaker 4: the old like you know hard maybe like maybe this 240 00:13:10,240 --> 00:13:12,560 Speaker 4: is like a more of a Southern thing or something. 241 00:13:12,640 --> 00:13:15,040 Speaker 4: Where it's like, you know, you after eighteen you're out 242 00:13:15,040 --> 00:13:21,880 Speaker 4: on your own, and I can I can see that 243 00:13:22,080 --> 00:13:24,680 Speaker 4: coming from a good place, but you say, I don't 244 00:13:25,080 --> 00:13:26,480 Speaker 4: like you said, I don't think it was I think 245 00:13:26,480 --> 00:13:28,480 Speaker 4: it should come from a place of like having a 246 00:13:28,520 --> 00:13:31,520 Speaker 4: plan and like helping your kid out defind that plan, 247 00:13:31,679 --> 00:13:36,280 Speaker 4: rather than like, you know, at eighteen, you're. 248 00:13:36,160 --> 00:13:38,040 Speaker 2: Fucked, like yeah, yeah. 249 00:13:38,280 --> 00:13:42,440 Speaker 3: Actually recently, someone on our team told me that there 250 00:13:42,520 --> 00:13:46,679 Speaker 3: was a sixteen year old that they know that wants 251 00:13:46,720 --> 00:13:49,439 Speaker 3: to drop out of high school to like work with 252 00:13:49,520 --> 00:13:53,640 Speaker 3: them on like YouTube videos. I definitely encourage people to 253 00:13:53,679 --> 00:13:56,240 Speaker 3: drop out of college not quite high school, but also 254 00:13:56,920 --> 00:13:59,439 Speaker 3: that's actually great because that person is literally going to 255 00:13:59,520 --> 00:14:01,880 Speaker 3: be so far ahead of the game by the time 256 00:14:01,920 --> 00:14:04,160 Speaker 3: they're like twenty five, Like. 257 00:14:05,600 --> 00:14:07,920 Speaker 4: You know, I mean, I think having a focus is 258 00:14:07,960 --> 00:14:11,560 Speaker 4: really good. I think if you're not going to go 259 00:14:11,559 --> 00:14:14,400 Speaker 4: to college, but yourself in social situations where you can develop, 260 00:14:15,280 --> 00:14:18,360 Speaker 4: you know too, because I think that what college gave me, 261 00:14:18,400 --> 00:14:20,960 Speaker 4: and it seems like what Silicon Valley gave you is 262 00:14:21,120 --> 00:14:21,480 Speaker 4: just like. 263 00:14:23,000 --> 00:14:24,480 Speaker 2: As super. 264 00:14:25,600 --> 00:14:28,280 Speaker 4: Social environment, or at least then maybe the ABC Family 265 00:14:28,320 --> 00:14:31,520 Speaker 4: show like give you that too, Like you know, you 266 00:14:31,880 --> 00:14:34,200 Speaker 4: had to, like you had to socialize, and I think 267 00:14:34,240 --> 00:14:35,840 Speaker 4: that's like really important for. 268 00:14:37,600 --> 00:14:38,120 Speaker 2: Development. 269 00:14:38,320 --> 00:14:41,600 Speaker 1: My husband openly brags to me and the kids about 270 00:14:41,600 --> 00:14:44,480 Speaker 1: how many women throw themselves at him. 271 00:14:44,560 --> 00:14:47,040 Speaker 2: Okayop, this is Okayop. 272 00:14:47,240 --> 00:14:50,800 Speaker 4: I'm samuel daughter and I'm John Fry and John people 273 00:14:50,800 --> 00:14:54,280 Speaker 4: have been making fun of me recently because it's not acceptable. 274 00:14:54,320 --> 00:14:56,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's kind of rude. I feel bad. 275 00:14:56,720 --> 00:15:00,360 Speaker 4: They said that my camera is so zoomed in that 276 00:15:00,400 --> 00:15:03,200 Speaker 4: they can see the back of my throat. And if 277 00:15:03,200 --> 00:15:05,000 Speaker 4: you could see the back of my throat, you would 278 00:15:05,080 --> 00:15:08,040 Speaker 4: understand that I don't have any tonsiles because I got 279 00:15:08,040 --> 00:15:09,200 Speaker 4: them taken out when I was like five. 280 00:15:09,280 --> 00:15:12,240 Speaker 3: They're honestly, I think they're just jealous of your your 281 00:15:12,320 --> 00:15:15,880 Speaker 3: good oral hygiene. Yeah, and yeah, maybe they have inflamed 282 00:15:16,440 --> 00:15:18,080 Speaker 3: or around the best. 283 00:15:20,840 --> 00:15:22,720 Speaker 2: Maybe it's just no one has better or. 284 00:15:24,200 --> 00:15:28,320 Speaker 4: Let the record show the oral hygiene. That is hygiene. 285 00:15:28,680 --> 00:15:32,520 Speaker 4: Let's keep it clean, guys, Let's keep clean. That's how 286 00:15:32,520 --> 00:15:36,600 Speaker 4: we do it. And with that, with that, all right, John, 287 00:15:36,640 --> 00:15:38,400 Speaker 4: I got his sory, I got his story. Hit me 288 00:15:38,440 --> 00:15:39,360 Speaker 4: with the baby, all right. 289 00:15:39,480 --> 00:15:42,800 Speaker 1: My husband openly brags to me and the kids about 290 00:15:42,800 --> 00:15:45,680 Speaker 1: how many women throw themselves at him. 291 00:15:45,880 --> 00:15:48,800 Speaker 3: Kind of something you don't want to uh to brag about. 292 00:15:48,880 --> 00:15:49,360 Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know. 293 00:15:49,400 --> 00:15:52,560 Speaker 4: If you're like kids, you wouldn't believe the dime that 294 00:15:52,960 --> 00:15:57,920 Speaker 4: was trying to that was just throwing themselves. I could 295 00:15:57,960 --> 00:16:01,320 Speaker 4: have twisted every nipple with it a mile radius of 296 00:16:01,360 --> 00:16:02,800 Speaker 4: this house, but I don't. 297 00:16:03,080 --> 00:16:06,640 Speaker 3: Maybe we just used all kids nineteen fifties terms described 298 00:16:06,680 --> 00:16:09,320 Speaker 3: like there was a bunch of broads bowing themselves. 299 00:16:09,800 --> 00:16:11,160 Speaker 2: God stop them. You know. 300 00:16:12,080 --> 00:16:14,040 Speaker 4: I was about to I was about to do more 301 00:16:14,120 --> 00:16:16,040 Speaker 4: nineteen fifties stuff, but then I was just like, Okay, 302 00:16:16,040 --> 00:16:18,640 Speaker 4: this is getting it will get sexist, very crop. 303 00:16:18,800 --> 00:16:20,040 Speaker 2: That's true. I got one, though. 304 00:16:20,640 --> 00:16:23,800 Speaker 3: There's uh broads throwing themselves at me like Dwight Eyes 305 00:16:23,840 --> 00:16:25,920 Speaker 3: and how I throwing roads on the interstate. 306 00:16:26,120 --> 00:16:32,840 Speaker 4: Wow that Wow see college and no one is offended. 307 00:16:33,200 --> 00:16:34,480 Speaker 2: I'm very impressed. 308 00:16:34,600 --> 00:16:38,280 Speaker 3: That's like the one thing I remember from APUs history, 309 00:16:38,280 --> 00:16:41,880 Speaker 3: which was like he invested very heavily in the road infrastructure. 310 00:16:42,360 --> 00:16:50,400 Speaker 4: Just like this, This dad's investing in these broads is salami. 311 00:16:52,640 --> 00:16:54,920 Speaker 2: I'm salami service, yummy. 312 00:16:55,000 --> 00:16:57,440 Speaker 4: I mean all right, My husband and I are expats 313 00:16:57,480 --> 00:17:00,400 Speaker 4: in a country where the average household considers some selves 314 00:17:00,480 --> 00:17:03,680 Speaker 4: lucky to make two thousand to three thousand dollars a year. 315 00:17:03,720 --> 00:17:06,840 Speaker 4: So we're talking where probably like I don't know, like 316 00:17:07,119 --> 00:17:07,880 Speaker 4: South America. 317 00:17:08,480 --> 00:17:09,800 Speaker 2: I mean, yeah, that's South Africa. 318 00:17:09,960 --> 00:17:12,240 Speaker 4: Lo low for the purpose, I know, and just just 319 00:17:12,280 --> 00:17:15,000 Speaker 4: for for reference, like that covers like two months rent 320 00:17:15,119 --> 00:17:18,080 Speaker 4: maybe maybe maybe if you're lucky, if you got a deal. 321 00:17:18,280 --> 00:17:21,440 Speaker 2: Yeah, Sam is the king of deals. I try. I try. 322 00:17:21,560 --> 00:17:23,280 Speaker 2: I'm like the joker of deals. 323 00:17:23,520 --> 00:17:26,400 Speaker 4: For the purpose of not giving too much identifying information out, 324 00:17:26,440 --> 00:17:30,640 Speaker 4: I will be referring to the country as country E Yugoslavia. Eureka, 325 00:17:31,119 --> 00:17:33,640 Speaker 4: you figured it out. No, I'm just trying to find 326 00:17:34,080 --> 00:17:38,320 Speaker 4: like E countries. But Yugoslavia is not an E country. 327 00:17:38,359 --> 00:17:40,600 Speaker 4: I was about to say, you should go on country 328 00:17:40,600 --> 00:17:41,560 Speaker 4: country that begins with the. 329 00:17:41,800 --> 00:17:44,800 Speaker 2: Country that begins Estonia. No, Estonia is pretty wealthy. 330 00:17:44,840 --> 00:17:47,040 Speaker 4: I feel like, yeah, I don't know if it's Salvador, 331 00:17:47,119 --> 00:17:50,600 Speaker 4: L Salvador. Maybe El Salvador, country e L Salvador. Two 332 00:17:50,640 --> 00:17:53,320 Speaker 4: and a half years ago, my husband, who works in finance, 333 00:17:53,440 --> 00:17:55,920 Speaker 4: was promoted to a position in which he could finally 334 00:17:55,960 --> 00:18:00,520 Speaker 4: have the compensation a thorita and projects that he always 335 00:18:00,600 --> 00:18:01,119 Speaker 4: dreamed of. 336 00:18:01,359 --> 00:18:01,760 Speaker 2: Nice. 337 00:18:01,920 --> 00:18:04,440 Speaker 4: The downside was the position would be in the company's 338 00:18:04,440 --> 00:18:07,520 Speaker 4: headquarters in another country, and basically it required us to 339 00:18:07,560 --> 00:18:09,800 Speaker 4: move away from our families and our friends. But I 340 00:18:09,880 --> 00:18:12,560 Speaker 4: was so excited for my husband and our kids fifteen 341 00:18:12,560 --> 00:18:16,320 Speaker 4: female and ten male, were so happy about experiencing another 342 00:18:16,440 --> 00:18:19,520 Speaker 4: culture as well as supporting their dad, that we urged 343 00:18:19,520 --> 00:18:21,120 Speaker 4: my husband to take the position. 344 00:18:21,280 --> 00:18:23,199 Speaker 2: So everyone's on board. Yeah, it sounds like an adventure. 345 00:18:23,200 --> 00:18:27,040 Speaker 4: Family adventure, family adventure, making more money and exotic location 346 00:18:27,240 --> 00:18:27,720 Speaker 4: sounds good. 347 00:18:27,800 --> 00:18:28,639 Speaker 2: What could go wrong? 348 00:18:28,840 --> 00:18:31,280 Speaker 4: Because they were telling my husband they wanted to see 349 00:18:31,359 --> 00:18:34,639 Speaker 4: him there as soon as possible asap, we agreed that 350 00:18:34,680 --> 00:18:36,760 Speaker 4: he would go settle in and we would fly over 351 00:18:36,920 --> 00:18:39,639 Speaker 4: around two months later. It seems that the moment his 352 00:18:39,800 --> 00:18:42,800 Speaker 4: plane took off towards country e marked the beginning of 353 00:18:42,840 --> 00:18:46,240 Speaker 4: the end of all his feelings of respect and appreciation 354 00:18:46,440 --> 00:18:48,920 Speaker 4: for me and the kids. Oh God, things are going downhill. 355 00:18:49,000 --> 00:18:52,000 Speaker 4: After just two months apart, I could sense a drastic 356 00:18:52,119 --> 00:18:54,240 Speaker 4: change in my husband. He went from calling me and 357 00:18:54,280 --> 00:18:56,800 Speaker 4: the kids every day to every other day, and then 358 00:18:56,880 --> 00:18:59,800 Speaker 4: reducing communication just to texts. At first, I thought he 359 00:18:59,920 --> 00:19:02,240 Speaker 4: was just busy settling in, but the night before we 360 00:19:02,280 --> 00:19:04,639 Speaker 4: went to fly out, he video chatted us and the 361 00:19:04,720 --> 00:19:07,840 Speaker 4: kids asked him why he seemed disappointed that they were coming, 362 00:19:07,880 --> 00:19:09,040 Speaker 4: which is not what you want. 363 00:19:09,119 --> 00:19:09,680 Speaker 2: That's awful. 364 00:19:09,760 --> 00:19:11,720 Speaker 4: He said that they were just imagining things and it 365 00:19:11,800 --> 00:19:13,840 Speaker 4: was just how his face looked on camera, which you know, 366 00:19:14,040 --> 00:19:18,160 Speaker 4: maybe maybe we'll maybe. As we settled into our new home, 367 00:19:18,280 --> 00:19:22,320 Speaker 4: he shot us pretty resentful looks and continuously snapped at 368 00:19:22,320 --> 00:19:24,639 Speaker 4: me not to touch this or that. Like most expats, 369 00:19:24,800 --> 00:19:27,520 Speaker 4: we live in a home that was miles grander and 370 00:19:27,640 --> 00:19:29,880 Speaker 4: show we were than we could ever get back home, 371 00:19:30,119 --> 00:19:31,960 Speaker 4: and with a lot of stuff like a company car 372 00:19:32,000 --> 00:19:34,800 Speaker 4: and housekeeping services paid for by the company, and my 373 00:19:34,920 --> 00:19:38,360 Speaker 4: husband had money to burn and started having ridiculously high 374 00:19:38,440 --> 00:19:40,760 Speaker 4: expectations about how we were dressed and how we look. 375 00:19:40,840 --> 00:19:42,200 Speaker 2: He bought himself loads. 376 00:19:41,920 --> 00:19:45,040 Speaker 4: Of designer watches with his fellow corporate Masters of the 377 00:19:45,160 --> 00:19:48,760 Speaker 4: Universe friends, and spent lavishly at restaurants and bars on 378 00:19:48,800 --> 00:19:51,600 Speaker 4: the company tab. He also invested quite a bit of 379 00:19:51,640 --> 00:19:54,000 Speaker 4: our money in real estate here, since the government is 380 00:19:54,040 --> 00:19:57,200 Speaker 4: pushing for foreign investors to invest, even adopting a more 381 00:19:57,400 --> 00:20:00,119 Speaker 4: liberal outward rhetoric in order to be more appealing to 382 00:20:00,160 --> 00:20:04,080 Speaker 4: the West. The country we live in has extreme wealth disparities, 383 00:20:04,160 --> 00:20:06,800 Speaker 4: most of it unfortunately not held by locals. There is 384 00:20:06,840 --> 00:20:10,119 Speaker 4: a center city where all the high end stores, hotels, 385 00:20:10,119 --> 00:20:12,399 Speaker 4: and clubs and restaurants are, and then there are some 386 00:20:12,520 --> 00:20:14,800 Speaker 4: homes in the country as well. And despite the fact 387 00:20:14,800 --> 00:20:19,240 Speaker 4: that this country is technically conservative, escorting is rampant and 388 00:20:19,400 --> 00:20:22,320 Speaker 4: is an outgrowth of the generally desperate economic straits of 389 00:20:22,359 --> 00:20:24,600 Speaker 4: families and the fact that it is obvious who has 390 00:20:24,640 --> 00:20:27,080 Speaker 4: money and therefore where to go and who to target. 391 00:20:28,000 --> 00:20:29,879 Speaker 4: So basically a bunch of escorts are going to the 392 00:20:29,920 --> 00:20:36,320 Speaker 4: city center to drum up some business. The Western folkikes 393 00:20:36,600 --> 00:20:39,879 Speaker 4: escorts are apparently and basically everywhere in the area we 394 00:20:39,920 --> 00:20:42,760 Speaker 4: live where there are restaurants or bars or entertainment, when 395 00:20:42,840 --> 00:20:46,080 Speaker 4: men see dressed up local women in pairs roaming around 396 00:20:46,160 --> 00:20:48,840 Speaker 4: in establishments, they just assume they're escorts. 397 00:20:48,760 --> 00:20:51,520 Speaker 2: And nine of the time they're right. Oh man. 398 00:20:52,280 --> 00:20:54,840 Speaker 4: An ex pat friend once asked a woman who approached 399 00:20:54,880 --> 00:20:56,320 Speaker 4: him at a bar what he did for a living, 400 00:20:56,359 --> 00:20:57,879 Speaker 4: and she said, what does it look like I do 401 00:20:57,960 --> 00:20:58,399 Speaker 4: for a living? 402 00:20:58,520 --> 00:20:59,960 Speaker 2: I see? 403 00:20:59,800 --> 00:21:03,080 Speaker 4: My husband then started criticizing my appearance a lot, and 404 00:21:03,119 --> 00:21:05,440 Speaker 4: when we'd go out, he'd asked if I ever considered 405 00:21:05,440 --> 00:21:07,919 Speaker 4: wearing my hair like women a B or C or 406 00:21:07,960 --> 00:21:09,720 Speaker 4: we'll go out to eat as a family, and he 407 00:21:09,760 --> 00:21:12,200 Speaker 4: will ignore what the kids are saying and just stare 408 00:21:12,240 --> 00:21:15,560 Speaker 4: at different women, which sounds just respectful. Man, Absolutely, like 409 00:21:15,680 --> 00:21:17,720 Speaker 4: keep your eyes on your food, or your wife, or 410 00:21:17,720 --> 00:21:20,680 Speaker 4: your kids or your kids. Yeah, when his friends come over, 411 00:21:20,840 --> 00:21:24,119 Speaker 4: my husband always brags in front of me about the 412 00:21:24,160 --> 00:21:26,359 Speaker 4: women that approached him, not just at bars, but he 413 00:21:26,400 --> 00:21:28,600 Speaker 4: also brags about how local women who work in the 414 00:21:28,640 --> 00:21:32,080 Speaker 4: office with him are also exceptionally engaging. He even got 415 00:21:32,119 --> 00:21:34,520 Speaker 4: pretty aggressive when we were hooking up and wanted to 416 00:21:34,640 --> 00:21:37,440 Speaker 4: choke me and pee on me. This is getting dark, 417 00:21:37,600 --> 00:21:40,040 Speaker 4: This is getting dark. When we tried some more intense stuff, 418 00:21:40,040 --> 00:21:42,520 Speaker 4: he pulled my hair hard enough to draw blood, and 419 00:21:42,560 --> 00:21:44,280 Speaker 4: when I said I didn't want to do it anymore, 420 00:21:44,320 --> 00:21:46,480 Speaker 4: he started screaming that a bunch of women who looked 421 00:21:46,480 --> 00:21:48,480 Speaker 4: exactly like his type would be eager to do it 422 00:21:48,520 --> 00:21:51,000 Speaker 4: all and more for less than I spend on dinner. 423 00:21:51,640 --> 00:21:56,120 Speaker 2: Geez, god, jeez, I'm not having fun. 424 00:21:56,200 --> 00:21:58,800 Speaker 4: My daughter found a bunch of contacts on his phone 425 00:21:58,840 --> 00:22:01,840 Speaker 4: that blew up his phone with flirty messages on WhatsApp, 426 00:22:02,000 --> 00:22:04,359 Speaker 4: and instead of at least pretending to be ashamed for 427 00:22:04,400 --> 00:22:06,879 Speaker 4: a daughter's sake, he went well, at least your dad's 428 00:22:06,880 --> 00:22:07,679 Speaker 4: still attractive. 429 00:22:07,880 --> 00:22:09,640 Speaker 2: How is that supposed to make a kid feel better? 430 00:22:09,840 --> 00:22:12,639 Speaker 4: Yeah, it's like you're cheating on mom, and it's like 431 00:22:12,720 --> 00:22:15,000 Speaker 4: your dad's got some pretty good looks. 432 00:22:15,040 --> 00:22:18,239 Speaker 2: Still good looking. No, no, that's not how you handle it. 433 00:22:18,280 --> 00:22:20,440 Speaker 4: And then it turned into a diet tribe about how 434 00:22:20,440 --> 00:22:22,560 Speaker 4: he had to give out the number to one woman 435 00:22:22,640 --> 00:22:24,600 Speaker 4: because you look close to tears when you tried to 436 00:22:24,600 --> 00:22:27,520 Speaker 4: pull away, which likely story Roe. Well, most women are 437 00:22:27,560 --> 00:22:30,040 Speaker 4: respectful when a man is with his wife and or 438 00:22:30,080 --> 00:22:33,240 Speaker 4: a family. Sometimes it happens where we're at restaurants and 439 00:22:33,280 --> 00:22:35,680 Speaker 4: hotels and my husband is just like a regular there 440 00:22:35,720 --> 00:22:38,040 Speaker 4: for dinner, and then women who I assume are also 441 00:22:38,119 --> 00:22:42,280 Speaker 4: regulars will disregard my presence and give me scornful once overs. 442 00:22:42,359 --> 00:22:44,159 Speaker 4: When we were out as a family and my husband 443 00:22:44,160 --> 00:22:46,800 Speaker 4: sees a woman give his attire and improving once over, 444 00:22:47,080 --> 00:22:50,439 Speaker 4: he will smile, flirtatiously back and seem to bask in 445 00:22:50,480 --> 00:22:53,000 Speaker 4: the glow and not pay any attention to me or 446 00:22:53,040 --> 00:22:53,440 Speaker 4: the kids. 447 00:22:53,520 --> 00:22:56,399 Speaker 2: And it's like, these are people who just want your money. 448 00:22:56,720 --> 00:23:00,720 Speaker 4: Yeah, bro, this has nothing nothing to do with your life, 449 00:23:01,160 --> 00:23:01,920 Speaker 4: nothing at all. 450 00:23:02,119 --> 00:23:03,879 Speaker 2: I was trying to milk you for all it's worth. 451 00:23:04,080 --> 00:23:05,120 Speaker 2: Move moo mooh. 452 00:23:05,480 --> 00:23:07,639 Speaker 4: I've been to support groups and have been told to 453 00:23:07,720 --> 00:23:10,800 Speaker 4: let it wear off because many other wives have experienced 454 00:23:10,800 --> 00:23:12,600 Speaker 4: their husbands being drunk on attention. 455 00:23:12,720 --> 00:23:15,280 Speaker 2: Also, what kind of support group is that? That's terrible? 456 00:23:15,520 --> 00:23:18,240 Speaker 2: It's for your fault. Just the boys will be boys, 457 00:23:18,359 --> 00:23:21,760 Speaker 2: husbands will be husbands. Who's giving this support? Yeah, this 458 00:23:21,840 --> 00:23:24,359 Speaker 2: is a terrible support jo support. 459 00:23:24,560 --> 00:23:27,159 Speaker 4: Yeah, and we'll give you better support than freaking whatever 460 00:23:27,160 --> 00:23:29,600 Speaker 4: you're getting. But my husband seems to be getting more 461 00:23:29,720 --> 00:23:32,560 Speaker 4: and more obsessed with the attention. My son is young, 462 00:23:32,680 --> 00:23:35,280 Speaker 4: but he has gone from happy, go lucky to glaring 463 00:23:35,359 --> 00:23:37,679 Speaker 4: at his father and whoever he is smiling at. My 464 00:23:37,760 --> 00:23:40,840 Speaker 4: husband and I have tried to communicate, but everything turns 465 00:23:40,880 --> 00:23:43,760 Speaker 4: into my fault. I do not appreciate his contributions enough, 466 00:23:43,800 --> 00:23:46,520 Speaker 4: he says. I don't appreciate his contributions enough when I 467 00:23:46,560 --> 00:23:49,000 Speaker 4: disagree with him saying the kids don't need to learn 468 00:23:49,040 --> 00:23:51,439 Speaker 4: how to do laundry because the housekeeper will do it 469 00:23:51,480 --> 00:23:54,080 Speaker 4: for them. I also don't appreciate him when he continually 470 00:23:54,119 --> 00:23:56,239 Speaker 4: asked to hook up for the third time and a night. 471 00:23:56,320 --> 00:23:58,639 Speaker 4: I do not appreciate him when I move the furniture 472 00:23:58,800 --> 00:24:01,720 Speaker 4: from how he organized or when I disagree with him 473 00:24:01,720 --> 00:24:05,280 Speaker 4: on anything. I started tracking or banking information and found 474 00:24:05,320 --> 00:24:09,280 Speaker 4: out that he made numerous large withdrawals. He denied vehemently 475 00:24:09,440 --> 00:24:12,320 Speaker 4: that he was seeing escorts and said I seem jealous 476 00:24:12,359 --> 00:24:15,040 Speaker 4: and had something against people who escorts, like I don't 477 00:24:15,200 --> 00:24:19,080 Speaker 4: use escorts, But how dare you judge people who use escorts? 478 00:24:19,200 --> 00:24:21,240 Speaker 4: I don't use them, but you should have judged them, 479 00:24:21,400 --> 00:24:24,480 Speaker 4: oh man. I told him that to the contrary, I 480 00:24:24,520 --> 00:24:26,520 Speaker 4: feel bad for people who need to put their lives 481 00:24:26,520 --> 00:24:28,720 Speaker 4: in helse at risk like this, and that these people 482 00:24:28,760 --> 00:24:30,919 Speaker 4: don't have any forms of government assistant. We had a 483 00:24:30,920 --> 00:24:33,000 Speaker 4: big fight that night, and I went to stay with 484 00:24:33,080 --> 00:24:34,919 Speaker 4: a friend for the night to cool off. When I 485 00:24:34,960 --> 00:24:37,280 Speaker 4: came back home, he glared at me and said, oh, 486 00:24:37,400 --> 00:24:39,159 Speaker 4: you're back. What if I don't want you here anymore? 487 00:24:39,200 --> 00:24:41,679 Speaker 4: Excuse me, rude, Excuse me, rude. I do not know 488 00:24:41,680 --> 00:24:43,919 Speaker 4: what to do. My support group keeps telling me that 489 00:24:44,000 --> 00:24:45,600 Speaker 4: he will get off his power trip, but if I 490 00:24:45,680 --> 00:24:48,600 Speaker 4: leave him, I will likely lose any assets I have here. 491 00:24:48,680 --> 00:24:51,080 Speaker 4: My kids obviously still have school and love their classmate. 492 00:24:51,160 --> 00:24:53,440 Speaker 4: I need any advice on how to save my marriage 493 00:24:53,520 --> 00:24:55,520 Speaker 4: or how to get my husband to stop thinking that 494 00:24:55,640 --> 00:24:57,919 Speaker 4: I am not enough for him when I haven't changed 495 00:24:57,920 --> 00:25:00,159 Speaker 4: from when we were not expats. While he respect you, 496 00:25:00,200 --> 00:25:02,960 Speaker 4: didn't appreciate me. Back at home he scorns me. Here 497 00:25:03,000 --> 00:25:03,600 Speaker 4: what should I do? 498 00:25:03,920 --> 00:25:07,320 Speaker 2: Wow? I mean god, what a bro. 499 00:25:07,440 --> 00:25:09,960 Speaker 4: The post says it all break up with him, leave 500 00:25:10,040 --> 00:25:11,720 Speaker 4: with the kids, get at divorce. 501 00:25:12,000 --> 00:25:15,119 Speaker 2: Yeah. God, he like, run far far away. He's treating 502 00:25:15,160 --> 00:25:18,720 Speaker 2: you like garbage, like he's not doing anything at all. Yeah. 503 00:25:18,840 --> 00:25:20,960 Speaker 3: And it's and also it's like it's just so clear 504 00:25:21,240 --> 00:25:24,800 Speaker 3: his behavior before and after. So it's like something there 505 00:25:25,040 --> 00:25:26,520 Speaker 3: made him change. And I think we all have a 506 00:25:26,520 --> 00:25:27,879 Speaker 3: pretty good idea of what that was. 507 00:25:28,200 --> 00:25:32,800 Speaker 4: Yeah, escorts yep, but man, run for the hills, bro, 508 00:25:33,160 --> 00:25:35,679 Speaker 4: just like Op, you deserve better. 509 00:25:35,560 --> 00:25:40,680 Speaker 2: Absolutely, And you know where our listeners should run to, Samuel. 510 00:25:40,600 --> 00:25:45,119 Speaker 4: Oh, they should run to the okop support group otherwise 511 00:25:45,200 --> 00:25:49,320 Speaker 4: known as the subscribe button on the follow button on 512 00:25:49,520 --> 00:25:52,600 Speaker 4: Spotify and the follow button on thick dock. Make sure 513 00:25:52,680 --> 00:25:55,280 Speaker 4: to support us wherever you can. And then I also 514 00:25:55,560 --> 00:25:57,920 Speaker 4: like to give a special shout out to our very 515 00:25:58,080 --> 00:26:01,479 Speaker 4: like like our growing Patreon base. 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