WEBVTT - Advice from Coach Bolton 0:00:00.880 --> 0:00:04.360 This is How Men Think with growths Like and Gavin 0:00:04.400 --> 0:00:08.520 de grab and I Hear Radio podcast. Welcome to another 0:00:08.560 --> 0:00:10.799 episode of How Men Think. My name is Brooks Like 0:00:11.200 --> 0:00:12.960 and this is a show where we dive into the 0:00:12.960 --> 0:00:15.000 mind of a man and we're an open book to 0:00:15.160 --> 0:00:22.079 share the thoughts, emotions, feelings, aspirations of a male of 0:00:22.120 --> 0:00:24.479 the male mindset. And we do that to serve the community. 0:00:24.520 --> 0:00:27.040 So we always love getting questions from our community and 0:00:27.040 --> 0:00:29.040 then we try and bring on high level people to 0:00:29.200 --> 0:00:36.280 answer those questions. Questions about life, questions about confidence, fatherhood, marriage, relationship, career, 0:00:36.320 --> 0:00:38.040 all that kind of stuff. And so we have many 0:00:38.080 --> 0:00:40.080 of those questions today and we have a special guest 0:00:40.120 --> 0:00:42.920 with us today. Um He was exposed to the TV 0:00:43.000 --> 0:00:46.400 and film industry at a very young age. In the 0:00:46.400 --> 0:00:50.519 mid nineties. He film debut in My Family and he 0:00:50.600 --> 0:00:54.520 also had TV roles on Hyperion, Bathe, Lifetimes, The Client List, 0:00:54.560 --> 0:00:58.400 Hawaii five Oh. But everybody probably knows him. He's most 0:00:58.480 --> 0:01:02.040 well known for his role in high school musical as 0:01:02.120 --> 0:01:05.559 Coach Bolton. He is a husband, he is a father 0:01:05.640 --> 0:01:08.280 of three, and he's our very special co host today, 0:01:08.400 --> 0:01:12.720 Mr Bart Johnson. Welcome to the show. Ah that's that 0:01:12.840 --> 0:01:15.000 was a great introm And I feel kind of smart now, 0:01:15.560 --> 0:01:18.920 and uh, I feel high level. So thanks man, And 0:01:19.040 --> 0:01:21.760 yeah it's uh, it's been a it's been a good run. 0:01:21.800 --> 0:01:24.800 But man, I'll tell you that one stuck. Yeah, that one. 0:01:25.280 --> 0:01:27.280 And I love that. I love that you're coming to us. 0:01:27.280 --> 0:01:30.080 I wish our our listeners could see that Coach Bolton 0:01:30.600 --> 0:01:35.959 is coming to us live from his home gym right now. Actually, 0:01:35.959 --> 0:01:39.680 I got funny enough. I do have a rack basketball's 0:01:39.840 --> 0:01:45.160 that looks exactly like the one in the movies. Yeah. Uh, 0:01:45.200 --> 0:01:48.120 there's a couple of like props you could say that 0:01:48.160 --> 0:01:51.880 are you know, hangovers from Actually you know what now 0:01:51.960 --> 0:01:54.160 I think about it? What you got? What you got? 0:01:56.480 --> 0:02:02.320 He's coach, you know. It's just I mean I got 0:02:02.360 --> 0:02:04.800 you know, I got my I got my East High hoodies. 0:02:05.840 --> 0:02:11.359 Yes here, that's so that's my life. I just can't 0:02:11.480 --> 0:02:14.080 escape it. But I don't. I don't try that hard either. 0:02:14.120 --> 0:02:18.320 So so answer this as honestly as you possibly can 0:02:18.360 --> 0:02:20.519 without getting arrested. How much stuff do you take from 0:02:20.520 --> 0:02:26.119 on set? Things of just you know, you know, it's 0:02:26.560 --> 0:02:29.560 it's funny. A lot of people don't care, but I 0:02:29.840 --> 0:02:32.200 don't know I'm I'm a little more nostalgic, I guess 0:02:32.280 --> 0:02:34.359 or something. I'm I'm a softie, So I lets to 0:02:34.360 --> 0:02:35.840 start look around. I'm like, I know this stuff, this 0:02:35.880 --> 0:02:38.880 is gonna be epic. So I was taking pictures. Actually, 0:02:38.880 --> 0:02:40.880 when we did the first one, we didn't really have 0:02:40.960 --> 0:02:44.359 like cell phones. Um, you know, like now there's cell 0:02:44.360 --> 0:02:47.440 phones on sets and everybody's reporting to everything. Back then, 0:02:47.480 --> 0:02:49.079 like when we did the first one, that wasn't really 0:02:49.200 --> 0:02:50.880 you know, I was fourteen years ago, man, it wasn't 0:02:50.960 --> 0:02:53.680 very very popular. So I was using my laptop and 0:02:53.720 --> 0:02:57.000 I've got like all this video behind the scenes of 0:02:57.080 --> 0:02:59.480 the cast, like interviewing people and stuff that's like on 0:02:59.680 --> 0:03:03.560 my laptop, which it's probably it's probably valuable at this point. 0:03:03.760 --> 0:03:07.240 It's probably gold, right, it's probably gold. I'm sure it 0:03:07.400 --> 0:03:11.799 is to something to through a certain generation. So during COVID, 0:03:12.080 --> 0:03:15.880 we do all of these podcasts, the how Man Thing 0:03:15.960 --> 0:03:19.240 podcast via zoom because we can't personally see everybody, we 0:03:19.240 --> 0:03:22.000 can't go to the studio. Everything shuts down obviously, so 0:03:22.040 --> 0:03:25.120 we do the how Man Think podcast via zoom. And 0:03:25.160 --> 0:03:28.000 I'm always like curious and entertained when I see what 0:03:28.120 --> 0:03:31.800 background people have where they're where they're comfortable, where they're sitting, 0:03:31.919 --> 0:03:34.160 where they're at. Are they traveling somewhere that they do 0:03:34.440 --> 0:03:37.440 an airbnb somewhere? Are they home? But you are coming 0:03:37.440 --> 0:03:40.200 from your your home gym there, which I'm just a 0:03:40.240 --> 0:03:43.160 fan of. I love that You've got the heavy bag, 0:03:43.640 --> 0:03:46.200 you got the what's the little the wrap, the punch, 0:03:46.480 --> 0:03:49.200 the feedbag, feedbag. Yeah, I got the speedbag, Get the 0:03:49.200 --> 0:03:51.720 heavy bag, get a surfboard in there. Uh, tell me, 0:03:51.800 --> 0:03:53.400 because I love home gyms, tell me a little bit 0:03:53.640 --> 0:03:58.040 about your home gym. Why you built it? Well, Um, 0:03:58.520 --> 0:04:00.800 I've done cross fit for a two years and I 0:04:00.920 --> 0:04:02.560 kind of fell in love with some of the like 0:04:02.600 --> 0:04:05.400 Olympic lifts and and that kind of stuff, and and 0:04:05.400 --> 0:04:07.400 and then that got me into mobility, which the gym 0:04:07.480 --> 0:04:08.960 never did. You know, I was like a total gym 0:04:09.040 --> 0:04:11.240 right guy, just kind of did the you know, the 0:04:11.280 --> 0:04:13.400 bro splits and all that kind of stuff. But then 0:04:13.560 --> 0:04:15.240 when I started doing cross it was like, oh man, 0:04:16.080 --> 0:04:18.960 my mind opened up to this whole uh kind of 0:04:19.279 --> 0:04:21.360 a new idea of you know, body weight fitness and 0:04:21.400 --> 0:04:24.240 Olympic lifting and compound lifts and that kind of stuff, 0:04:24.240 --> 0:04:27.440 And my body felt so much better and I felt younger, 0:04:27.480 --> 0:04:29.920 and I felt more like an athlete, and I hurt 0:04:30.000 --> 0:04:32.920 my back and my neck in the gym so many times. 0:04:33.000 --> 0:04:34.960 And then when I started, luckily, I was at a 0:04:34.960 --> 0:04:37.839 good crossbit box, which is you know, that's kind of debatable, 0:04:37.880 --> 0:04:40.200 I guess is when people are in a bad spot, 0:04:40.200 --> 0:04:42.279 it can be dangerous. But it was in a good 0:04:42.279 --> 0:04:44.919 spot that got good training. Started doing dead lifts and 0:04:44.920 --> 0:04:46.440 back squats and that kind of stuff that made your 0:04:46.480 --> 0:04:48.880 body really strong, and I haven't had an injury since 0:04:48.960 --> 0:04:52.240 like seven years later. It's amazing. Um, I do it 0:04:52.279 --> 0:04:54.400 every day. I love it. I was as a professional 0:04:54.440 --> 0:04:56.880 athlete would train, but now I still trained as much 0:04:57.080 --> 0:04:59.800 more than I ever did, And that you're right, Um, 0:04:59.839 --> 0:05:01.880 I love that you train at home, especially now. I 0:05:01.880 --> 0:05:04.200 always encourage people like have some sort of at least 0:05:04.200 --> 0:05:06.520 a minimal I get the idea of wanting to go 0:05:06.640 --> 0:05:09.839 to a gym for community and inspiration and stuff like that, 0:05:10.040 --> 0:05:12.800 but it's also super convenient. You're married, you have three kids, 0:05:13.480 --> 0:05:15.680 you know, working dad, Like, it's also super convenient just 0:05:15.680 --> 0:05:17.480 to head out to the graduate hit an hour of 0:05:17.600 --> 0:05:20.240 something if you have it right there. So um, dude, 0:05:20.240 --> 0:05:24.040 I'm gonna get together and throw down. Yeah, let's do it, man, 0:05:24.120 --> 0:05:25.960 let's do it. You know, honestly, Brooks, I don't think 0:05:26.040 --> 0:05:29.080 enough people are talking about during COVID, like to take 0:05:29.080 --> 0:05:31.480 care of your body, get enough sleep, you put better 0:05:31.520 --> 0:05:33.160 food in your body, you know, like we've got to 0:05:33.200 --> 0:05:35.200 be taking care of ourselves and build that immune system. 0:05:35.320 --> 0:05:36.880 And I don't know why, you know, a lot more 0:05:36.880 --> 0:05:39.680 people aren't talking about this. Yeah, I don't know either, man. 0:05:40.480 --> 0:05:44.159 It's unfortunately health gets pushed down the totem pole. And 0:05:44.200 --> 0:05:46.479 I assume so even more when people get married and 0:05:46.560 --> 0:05:49.840 have kids, you know, they sacrifice their own health for it. 0:05:49.880 --> 0:05:51.400 But you need to be around. You want to be 0:05:51.440 --> 0:05:53.840 able to lift grandkids and great grandkids. You need to 0:05:53.880 --> 0:05:55.120 be around. I did a post the other day on 0:05:55.120 --> 0:05:58.039 my Instagram talking how everybody, regardless of your twenty years 0:05:58.040 --> 0:06:01.680 old or eighty years old, should dead left right right. 0:06:01.960 --> 0:06:03.880 If you're an eighty year old grandpa, I want to 0:06:03.920 --> 0:06:06.000 be able to pick band over and pick my grandkid 0:06:06.160 --> 0:06:08.840 off the ground and pick them up. That's essentially and right, 0:06:09.200 --> 0:06:11.120 you know what I mean. So I think there's so 0:06:11.200 --> 0:06:12.640 much I love that you're into it. When did you 0:06:12.680 --> 0:06:15.280 find fitness? Like did you just find it recently. You 0:06:15.320 --> 0:06:17.640 said you started doing CrossFit seven years ago, but has 0:06:17.680 --> 0:06:20.239 it always been a part of your life. Uh No, 0:06:20.480 --> 0:06:23.080 not at all. When I was a little tiny guy 0:06:23.279 --> 0:06:27.599 in Uh yeah, I joke about this because in high school, Um, 0:06:27.640 --> 0:06:29.280 I was like punked around a lot. I was like 0:06:29.360 --> 0:06:33.560 a hundred pounds in high school and bullied quite a bit. 0:06:33.720 --> 0:06:35.599 Like like I mean, I got like a bunch of 0:06:35.640 --> 0:06:38.000 stories like just getting punched in the face by cowboys 0:06:38.040 --> 0:06:41.080 and rednecks and the wrestling team and the rodeo team, 0:06:41.080 --> 0:06:43.440 and oh man, I could go on like good, good times, 0:06:43.560 --> 0:06:46.560 a lot of character building. Man, I was blessed. And 0:06:46.600 --> 0:06:49.680 then uh and then I go on to college that 0:06:49.800 --> 0:06:51.920 I gained like eighty pounds and I grew four more 0:06:51.960 --> 0:06:54.599 inches and and then again into acting and then I 0:06:54.680 --> 0:06:57.800 play the bullies on TV. And now everybody says, oh, 0:06:57.839 --> 0:06:59.760 I know I knew guys like you in high school. Man, 0:07:00.680 --> 0:07:03.840 Now trust me, that was not me. That was not me. 0:07:03.920 --> 0:07:05.839 I was the guy getting a hit. So there's just 0:07:06.360 --> 0:07:09.760 there's just no justice, you know. But I got into 0:07:09.800 --> 0:07:12.960 it much later in life. I just I don't know, 0:07:13.080 --> 0:07:14.920 I don't I don't know why it wasn't I got 0:07:14.960 --> 0:07:17.040 maybe because it was small and or the sports I 0:07:17.080 --> 0:07:20.280 was doing weren't really into I was playing soccer and scheme, 0:07:20.520 --> 0:07:23.800 so it's not like a big wait gym sports necessarily. 0:07:24.760 --> 0:07:27.400 How have you found how have you found discovering this 0:07:27.520 --> 0:07:31.000 passion for like fitness and health. How have you found 0:07:31.040 --> 0:07:33.880 that that's impacted your life as a in career wise? 0:07:33.920 --> 0:07:36.120 But then also like obviously it's allowed you to play 0:07:36.160 --> 0:07:39.240 certain roles as a bully, right, It's like being a 0:07:39.280 --> 0:07:41.440 strong man allows you to pay a bully. But but 0:07:41.480 --> 0:07:44.720 what about just in your overall general life? How have 0:07:44.800 --> 0:07:47.840 you found that how have you prioritized health, especially with 0:07:47.920 --> 0:07:50.760 a wife and three kids and a job, Like, I 0:07:50.760 --> 0:07:53.400 don't know, just what's what's your dance with I'm always 0:07:53.400 --> 0:07:56.120 curious to see how people what their relationship is with 0:07:56.120 --> 0:08:00.160 with physical fitness and health. Yeah. Well, I'm really a 0:08:00.200 --> 0:08:02.040 really strong belief that it's got to be a habit 0:08:02.080 --> 0:08:06.160 and it's got to be a routine. And from nine 0:08:06.440 --> 0:08:07.840 of us that means morning. It's got to be a 0:08:07.840 --> 0:08:09.560 part of your morning routine. Otherwise it's just like if 0:08:09.560 --> 0:08:11.160 I don't do in the morning, it's like, you know, 0:08:11.560 --> 0:08:14.240 probably chance I won't do it at all during the day. 0:08:14.240 --> 0:08:16.680 It just just too complicated during the day. So I 0:08:17.480 --> 0:08:19.960 always encourage people find a routine, find system that works. 0:08:19.960 --> 0:08:21.440 Now for me, like I get up real early with 0:08:21.440 --> 0:08:23.600 my kids to do the kind of the the uh 0:08:23.800 --> 0:08:27.800 the routine of making breakfast and taking multiple shifts, drives 0:08:27.840 --> 0:08:30.280 to school to drop off kids. But my last kid, 0:08:30.960 --> 0:08:34.439 um goes to Burbank High School, and uh, when I 0:08:34.520 --> 0:08:36.400 dropped him off, I'm a block away from my gym, 0:08:36.440 --> 0:08:38.600 so I can literally go. You know, I'm dressed, I'm 0:08:38.760 --> 0:08:40.559 ready to go. I've taken on my you know, you 0:08:40.640 --> 0:08:44.000 know morning routine, you know waters and you know nutrition. 0:08:44.280 --> 0:08:45.880 So I go drop him off and go straight to 0:08:45.920 --> 0:08:47.240 the gym. And if it's not a habit, and if 0:08:47.240 --> 0:08:50.720 it's not like that, forget about it. Yeah, So that's 0:08:50.760 --> 0:08:52.200 for me, that's the only way. Like you you have 0:08:52.240 --> 0:08:54.040 a you have a you must have a routine, right, 0:08:54.080 --> 0:08:57.360 if you're consistent, you have Yeah. And and morning is 0:08:57.360 --> 0:09:00.800 the best time. Um, we would train for support for 0:09:00.840 --> 0:09:02.640 professional hockey, we would train in the morning. That was 0:09:02.679 --> 0:09:05.480 the main practice and workout time. Also, just from a 0:09:06.080 --> 0:09:09.760 from a scientific standpoint, you have the highest amount of 0:09:09.760 --> 0:09:13.000 testerone testosterone present in your body early in the morning, 0:09:13.200 --> 0:09:16.960 and as it goes on, your testosterone and your metabolism 0:09:17.000 --> 0:09:20.079 slowed down as the day progresses. So if you're to 0:09:20.160 --> 0:09:22.480 workout in the morning, you will get the maximum benefit 0:09:22.800 --> 0:09:26.360 possible from that workout because your body is rested, you 0:09:26.440 --> 0:09:29.960 slept last night, you're rested, you have the highest testosterone levels, 0:09:30.000 --> 0:09:32.040 your metabolic rate as as high as it can be 0:09:32.160 --> 0:09:34.839 right there, so you're getting the best benefits of working 0:09:34.840 --> 0:09:37.000 out in the morning. Side, I'm always prioritized in the 0:09:37.000 --> 0:09:39.120 work in the morning. Before I came on this call 0:09:39.160 --> 0:09:40.920 with you right now, took my dog for a three 0:09:40.920 --> 0:09:42.800 and a half mile trail run just out the mountains 0:09:42.840 --> 0:09:45.680 here in Utah. Do this all and then I'll go 0:09:45.720 --> 0:09:49.320 into the gym here around noon or so a little 0:09:49.360 --> 0:09:53.079 afternoon go do afternoon workout. But yeah, a big part 0:09:53.080 --> 0:09:54.600 of my life, and I find it also makes me 0:09:54.640 --> 0:09:57.240 more creative. I find when I work out in the morning, 0:09:57.440 --> 0:09:59.480 I'm I got more energy, I'm more creative, I'm more 0:09:59.480 --> 0:10:03.200 inspired mentally, I'm sharper, and I actually have my best 0:10:03.240 --> 0:10:06.520 ideas and solve my biggest problems when working out without 0:10:06.559 --> 0:10:10.400 even paying attention to them. Right, No, it does. It 0:10:10.480 --> 0:10:13.160 fires off so much good stuff, and there's so much 0:10:13.160 --> 0:10:15.679 science and chemicals and all you know, all the all 0:10:15.679 --> 0:10:17.640 the good good stuff. You're fired off now if I 0:10:17.640 --> 0:10:19.160 if I don't work out, I have a hard time 0:10:19.720 --> 0:10:22.000 kind of getting into a creative space or or performing 0:10:22.040 --> 0:10:25.320 at my best afterwards. Like I feel like like now 0:10:25.360 --> 0:10:27.640 I've I've gone so far as to say, like what 0:10:27.640 --> 0:10:29.880 what's the most important part of my life? What are 0:10:29.920 --> 0:10:32.720 the most important goals or or the hardest um things 0:10:32.720 --> 0:10:34.600 I'm trying to accomplish, And let me just schedule those 0:10:34.640 --> 0:10:37.000 to follow my gym workout. Because I come out to 0:10:37.000 --> 0:10:39.080 the gym, Man, I feel great. I'm like I'm on fire. 0:10:39.120 --> 0:10:42.439 I've got a great attitude, you know, I'm I'm more passionate, 0:10:42.520 --> 0:10:45.800 more positive, like I'm ready to go. So I'm totally 0:10:45.800 --> 0:10:48.000 addictive to that. I love what you're saying there because 0:10:48.040 --> 0:10:50.319 I'm actually on this journey myself. If I'm working on something, 0:10:50.559 --> 0:10:54.080 I'm trying to dedicate my best energy to the things 0:10:54.120 --> 0:10:56.839 that are most important in my life. Yes, and I'm 0:10:56.840 --> 0:11:00.120 paying attention to that right now. And so that's foundly, 0:11:00.280 --> 0:11:03.560 that's connection. That's people like instead of just waking up 0:11:03.720 --> 0:11:07.599 and doing emails and doing work and doing whatever, and 0:11:07.640 --> 0:11:10.320 then at like five o'clock, then trying to fit in 0:11:10.360 --> 0:11:12.880 fitness and then trying to fit in playtime with your 0:11:12.920 --> 0:11:17.600 kids or something. Right when like you're mentally drained, you're tired, 0:11:17.760 --> 0:11:21.840 Like now you're giving your you know, the what's left 0:11:22.040 --> 0:11:25.680 over in your talk that are right important in your life. 0:11:25.679 --> 0:11:28.800 So i'm i'm I'm even like playing around with lifestyle 0:11:28.840 --> 0:11:32.720 optimization with how can my morning when my best energy 0:11:32.880 --> 0:11:36.320 my morning and early afternoon, my best energy be committed 0:11:36.320 --> 0:11:38.520 to the things that are most important in my life, 0:11:38.559 --> 0:11:41.240 like health and fitness, like connection with my dog, the 0:11:41.280 --> 0:11:44.640 creative development stuff that I'm working on, and also um 0:11:44.679 --> 0:11:48.920 friends and people in that time as well. You know, well, 0:11:49.200 --> 0:11:51.600 you know, you bring up something that's the really interesting 0:11:51.640 --> 0:11:54.240 is is that you know, a lot of us are 0:11:54.280 --> 0:11:56.320 fortunate enough to be able to control our schedule, and 0:11:56.360 --> 0:11:59.400 then sometimes we're not. And most parents, I think, you know, 0:11:59.760 --> 0:12:02.319 you think about your routine, like the kids go off 0:12:02.320 --> 0:12:04.120 and they get spent during the day. You go to 0:12:04.160 --> 0:12:05.760 work and you get spent during the day, and now 0:12:05.800 --> 0:12:07.720 you're showing up to connect with the people that matter 0:12:07.760 --> 0:12:11.959 the most of your life. When you're done, you're spent, 0:12:12.520 --> 0:12:14.640 and it's like that. Now that's now you're talking about 0:12:14.679 --> 0:12:16.920 master level. You gotta you gotta come up with a 0:12:16.920 --> 0:12:19.720 new game, a new strategy. How could you be your 0:12:19.760 --> 0:12:22.480 absolute best for the people that matter the absolute most 0:12:23.480 --> 0:12:35.880 when you're when you're done. So we have a list 0:12:35.880 --> 0:12:38.240 of questions that listeners sent in and stuff that they 0:12:38.280 --> 0:12:41.040 want to ask. You want to get your expertise. All right, 0:12:41.320 --> 0:12:46.200 I love flattered people said questions and thanks guys. Here's one. 0:12:46.360 --> 0:12:50.440 What are the three to five most important things in 0:12:50.480 --> 0:12:53.559 your life right now? You know, just a piggyback of 0:12:53.559 --> 0:12:55.760 the conversation we're having, this question is what are the 0:12:55.760 --> 0:12:58.320 three to five most important things in your life at 0:12:58.360 --> 0:13:01.840 this moment? Oh jeez, well, I guess you know. The 0:13:01.880 --> 0:13:04.000 easy answer, without even having to think about is is 0:13:04.200 --> 0:13:07.640 uh it all wrap arounds. It wraps around my family. 0:13:08.080 --> 0:13:11.720 So um my family, uh my my nuclear family, the 0:13:11.720 --> 0:13:14.319 ones that live under my roof. Uh. You know, I'm 0:13:14.320 --> 0:13:17.040 blessed to have an incredible wife that I've been married 0:13:17.040 --> 0:13:20.600 too for coming up on twenty one yeyears, which in 0:13:20.679 --> 0:13:23.680 Hollywood that's like four years. I know, that's like it's crazy. 0:13:23.840 --> 0:13:27.160 And then three kids, all redheads, which is like, you know, 0:13:27.200 --> 0:13:29.400 that's a whole another challenge, A bunch of firecrackers running 0:13:29.400 --> 0:13:32.800 around here. Um, and so I got those guys, I've 0:13:32.840 --> 0:13:35.040 got a lot of uh, I got a lot of 0:13:35.040 --> 0:13:38.240 other you know, siblings, and we got the Johnson is 0:13:38.280 --> 0:13:40.320 a big FAM's a big clan. Then the Livelies are 0:13:40.480 --> 0:13:43.000 a huge clan. So I've got a lot of uh, 0:13:43.480 --> 0:13:45.200 a lot of depth and a lot of love and 0:13:45.240 --> 0:13:49.559 a lot of real important stuff. So um, that's I mean, 0:13:49.559 --> 0:13:52.199 that's first and foremost. UM, I spent you know, it's 0:13:52.200 --> 0:13:54.720 funny Brooks is. Um you know, I played. I played 0:13:54.720 --> 0:13:58.800 the coach. Everybody calls me coach. So that went on 0:13:58.880 --> 0:14:02.200 for five years. But spend fourteen years of my life. 0:14:02.240 --> 0:14:04.680 Now I walked down the street, people roll down the window, 0:14:04.840 --> 0:14:07.760 Hey coach, I'm you know what, you know, what's up? Wildcats? 0:14:07.760 --> 0:14:12.800 You know whatever. But um, also, uh, let's see, fourteen 0:14:12.880 --> 0:14:15.760 years ago I started coaching soccer. So I've coached all 0:14:15.800 --> 0:14:20.680 of my kids soccer teams every year, all three of them, uh, 0:14:21.000 --> 0:14:24.440 since they turned five. So so i'll because it's all 0:14:24.480 --> 0:14:26.120 I do with my time. So I spent a lot 0:14:26.160 --> 0:14:28.720 of time coaching. So now when I walk down the street, 0:14:28.760 --> 0:14:31.280 someone else, hey coach, I'm like, I have to go, Okay, 0:14:31.840 --> 0:14:33.960 is this one of my one of my one of 0:14:34.040 --> 0:14:35.680 my boys, one of my one of my girls, when 0:14:35.680 --> 0:14:37.200 of my you know, someone from one of my teams 0:14:37.520 --> 0:14:39.640 or is it you know, one of my wildcats or 0:14:39.840 --> 0:14:41.800 and really it's all the same, you know, I treat 0:14:41.840 --> 0:14:43.880 them all the same. And and I love my church. 0:14:43.960 --> 0:14:47.320 But it's like my life has become a coach. Like 0:14:47.360 --> 0:14:49.360 I'm a coach, man, that's just what I do. And 0:14:49.360 --> 0:14:52.080 I've I've kind of realized these last couple of years 0:14:52.080 --> 0:14:55.240 that like, I really like that. Man, I like that. Um, 0:14:55.280 --> 0:14:58.360 I like because I've always had this this uh this 0:14:58.480 --> 0:15:00.840 take on coaching Brooks is that and I know you 0:15:00.880 --> 0:15:02.840 know this as an athlete is like a team sport 0:15:03.080 --> 0:15:06.240 is just a wealth of opportunity and life lessons for 0:15:06.280 --> 0:15:10.200 these kids. Man. But here's the challenge. Most coaches are 0:15:10.200 --> 0:15:12.720 not taking advantage of that opportunity. So if if you're 0:15:12.720 --> 0:15:14.440 on a team like Okay, You're gonna learn a lot 0:15:14.480 --> 0:15:16.840 about life, You're gonna learn a lot about relationships, You're 0:15:16.840 --> 0:15:19.200 gonna learn a lot about yourself being on a team sport. 0:15:19.720 --> 0:15:23.120 But man, if you have a coach that's around that 0:15:23.160 --> 0:15:27.480 can grab and seize onto all these opportunities and say, guys, listen, listen, 0:15:28.080 --> 0:15:29.760 you know how you feel right now, Well, we're gonna 0:15:29.800 --> 0:15:32.000 overcome this field you know whatever, you know, whatever life 0:15:32.080 --> 0:15:34.640 challenging that without getting into you know, too many specifics, 0:15:34.640 --> 0:15:38.920 Like there's unbelievable countless amount of opportunities if the coach 0:15:38.960 --> 0:15:41.200 will just point them out and say, look at look 0:15:41.240 --> 0:15:44.280 at this opportunity to grow. Look, we're gonna overcome this challenge. Like, guys, 0:15:44.320 --> 0:15:46.280 this is like life. You're not gonna win all the time, 0:15:46.400 --> 0:15:48.680 but you can still enjoy the game without winning all 0:15:48.680 --> 0:15:51.200 the time, you know, like all these different opportunities. So 0:15:51.240 --> 0:15:53.680 I get I get hyped on that, Like I I 0:15:53.800 --> 0:15:57.040 find that incredibly fulfilling. And then I could now learn 0:15:57.160 --> 0:15:59.120 these skills I can apply to my own kids at 0:15:59.160 --> 0:16:01.960 home and different tuoty So now they're learning. I get 0:16:02.120 --> 0:16:04.880 to be an influence on like a whole variety of 0:16:04.960 --> 0:16:09.200 kids in the community, and it's just like, it's unbelievably fulfilling. 0:16:09.280 --> 0:16:11.160 So now when people say to me, what's the more 0:16:11.280 --> 0:16:14.040 most important to your life? Are like, you know, the 0:16:14.080 --> 0:16:16.040 best things in life are free, you know. I started 0:16:16.080 --> 0:16:17.640 thinking about that kind of stuff and I'm like, man, 0:16:19.040 --> 0:16:22.240 being having a kid has has opened the door to 0:16:22.480 --> 0:16:25.800 service to me and and what I've done now that 0:16:26.000 --> 0:16:28.600 kids probably not because how do you know, But then 0:16:28.640 --> 0:16:30.800 you start spending this time as a coach and serving 0:16:30.800 --> 0:16:33.160 the community and serving these people, and then you're you know, 0:16:33.160 --> 0:16:35.000 you're getting rewarded by the parents and they're you know, 0:16:35.040 --> 0:16:36.760 they're so kind and so sweet to you. But that's 0:16:37.080 --> 0:16:40.080 that's you know, that's just gravy. The real meat of 0:16:40.080 --> 0:16:42.640 it is like these kids, like seeing these kids being 0:16:42.640 --> 0:16:45.120 affected by the way you're you're touching your lives and 0:16:45.160 --> 0:16:48.520 like it's just I've just I've absolutely loved it. It's 0:16:48.520 --> 0:16:51.880 it's it's incredibly fulfilling and definitely the most important part 0:16:51.880 --> 0:16:54.080 of my life with with my pome family. Dude, you 0:16:54.160 --> 0:16:56.200 got me so fired up. You want me so my 0:16:56.320 --> 0:16:59.160 one of my best friends, Christie Sowan, plays on this 0:16:59.440 --> 0:17:01.760 soccert They have an adult league soccer team called the 0:17:01.800 --> 0:17:05.639 Salmon Rolls and they've won the league championship twice and 0:17:05.680 --> 0:17:07.600 she always gets me to try and play. She's like, Brooks, 0:17:07.640 --> 0:17:11.000 come play with the Samuel in a viewer just like 0:17:11.040 --> 0:17:13.760 watching you guys play, and like, um, it's fun to 0:17:13.800 --> 0:17:16.240 be a spectator because my whole life I've played. But 0:17:16.359 --> 0:17:18.720 listen to you talk here, coach, you got me fired up. 0:17:18.720 --> 0:17:21.560 I'm thinking I might get the famine roles, play some soccer. 0:17:21.600 --> 0:17:24.000 I might get you come in as a guest coach, 0:17:24.440 --> 0:17:28.000 you know, and UM, so you might have just come 0:17:28.040 --> 0:17:30.880 in there. Let's do it. Um, But I also want 0:17:30.880 --> 0:17:32.679 to give you a compliment. I think you're ahead of 0:17:32.680 --> 0:17:35.679 your time. Something that's going on right now in professional 0:17:35.720 --> 0:17:39.679 sports is the coaching and professional sports and professional hockey 0:17:39.680 --> 0:17:43.040 that I've seen anyway. Um, they're starting to coach the person, 0:17:43.160 --> 0:17:46.840 not the player. So they're spending so much more time 0:17:46.960 --> 0:17:52.560 and resources on developing characteristics of the human being. Meanwhile 0:17:52.760 --> 0:17:56.560 also developing their physical talents and abilities, because what they 0:17:56.560 --> 0:18:01.040 would see is you'd see these amazingly talented athletes, these 0:18:01.040 --> 0:18:03.600 guys with world class skills and talents that all of 0:18:03.640 --> 0:18:05.640 a sudden would forget how to use them, or they 0:18:05.720 --> 0:18:09.480 would fail at high stress, high pressure moments. And it 0:18:09.520 --> 0:18:11.880 was it was the study of why is this happening? 0:18:12.160 --> 0:18:14.920 Why is this person so equipped with these physical abilities 0:18:14.920 --> 0:18:16.760 that all of a sudden freeze and they can't use them. 0:18:17.040 --> 0:18:19.800 Is because there's some sort of character flaw, there's some 0:18:19.840 --> 0:18:22.280 sort of lack of confidence or belief in themselves or 0:18:22.359 --> 0:18:25.199 lack of resilience or whatever it is, or trust in 0:18:25.200 --> 0:18:28.199 a teammate. And so they've really started to work with 0:18:28.280 --> 0:18:33.760 athletes off the ice, away from the rink, sports psychologists, therapists, 0:18:33.760 --> 0:18:37.520 anybody to help them develop and become better young men 0:18:37.760 --> 0:18:43.280 and women, and that alone has transferred into more preferensive 0:18:43.359 --> 0:18:46.680 proficiency in their athletic performance. So I love the fact 0:18:46.760 --> 0:18:49.720 that you're saying there's opportunities everywhere for an invested coach 0:18:50.040 --> 0:18:53.040 to really shape and sculpt these young minds and these 0:18:53.480 --> 0:18:59.520 attitudes and perspectives that alone will make them better soccer players. Yes, yeah, 0:18:59.560 --> 0:19:01.960 I love that. Man. That's that's super interesting, and it's 0:19:02.560 --> 0:19:05.560 you're a hundred percent right on your perspective. Like I've 0:19:05.640 --> 0:19:08.159 seen that, I know, Like that really resonates with me 0:19:08.400 --> 0:19:11.240 because you see the mental game on even the best 0:19:11.280 --> 0:19:13.639 of athletes, like the very best you know you have, 0:19:13.840 --> 0:19:16.399 you know, sometimes you have like one to three, like 0:19:17.280 --> 0:19:21.160 real key players that really can affect the whole team. Um, 0:19:21.200 --> 0:19:23.399 and you see them sometimes they just they get in 0:19:23.440 --> 0:19:26.160 their their own head and even at a young age, 0:19:26.240 --> 0:19:28.000 these young kids. I mean over time, like ten, eleven, 0:19:28.040 --> 0:19:31.240 twelve years old, even they struggle with this mental game 0:19:31.760 --> 0:19:34.080 and they feel the pressure of the team and they 0:19:34.200 --> 0:19:36.439 you know, they they they're really hard on themselves and 0:19:36.560 --> 0:19:38.920 they make it really personally. It's like, oh, man, so 0:19:38.960 --> 0:19:43.320 many opportunities to build that strong mental game. I love it. Man, 0:19:43.440 --> 0:19:45.720