Speaker 1: This is How Men Think with growths Like and Gavin
Speaker 1: de grab and I Hear Radio podcast. Welcome to another
Speaker 1: episode of How Men Think. My name is Brooks Like
Speaker 1: and this is a show where we dive into the
Speaker 1: mind of a man and we're an open book to
Speaker 1: share the thoughts, emotions, feelings, aspirations of a male of
Speaker 1: the male mindset. And we do that to serve the community.
Speaker 1: So we always love getting questions from our community and
Speaker 1: then we try and bring on high level people to
Speaker 1: answer those questions. Questions about life, questions about confidence, fatherhood, marriage, relationship, career,
Speaker 1: all that kind of stuff. And so we have many
Speaker 1: of those questions today and we have a special guest
Speaker 1: with us today. Um He was exposed to the TV
Speaker 1: and film industry at a very young age. In the
Speaker 1: mid nineties. He film debut in My Family and he
Speaker 1: also had TV roles on Hyperion, Bathe, Lifetimes, The Client List,
Speaker 1: Hawaii five Oh. But everybody probably knows him. He's most
Speaker 1: well known for his role in high school musical as
Speaker 1: Coach Bolton. He is a husband, he is a father
Speaker 1: of three, and he's our very special co host today,
Speaker 1: Mr Bart Johnson. Welcome to the show. Ah that's that
Speaker 1: was a great introm And I feel kind of smart now,
Speaker 1: and uh, I feel high level. So thanks man, And
Speaker 1: yeah it's uh, it's been a it's been a good run.
Speaker 1: But man, I'll tell you that one stuck. Yeah, that one.
Speaker 1: And I love that. I love that you're coming to us.
Speaker 1: I wish our our listeners could see that Coach Bolton
Speaker 1: is coming to us live from his home gym right now. Actually,
Speaker 1: I got funny enough. I do have a rack basketball's
Speaker 1: that looks exactly like the one in the movies. Yeah. Uh,
Speaker 1: there's a couple of like props you could say that
Speaker 1: are you know, hangovers from Actually you know what now
Speaker 1: I think about it? What you got? What you got?
Speaker 1: He's coach, you know. It's just I mean I got
Speaker 1: you know, I got my I got my East High hoodies.
Speaker 1: Yes here, that's so that's my life. I just can't
Speaker 1: escape it. But I don't. I don't try that hard either.
Speaker 1: So so answer this as honestly as you possibly can
Speaker 1: without getting arrested. How much stuff do you take from
Speaker 1: on set? Things of just you know, you know, it's
Speaker 1: it's funny. A lot of people don't care, but I
Speaker 1: don't know I'm I'm a little more nostalgic, I guess
Speaker 1: or something. I'm I'm a softie, So I lets to
Speaker 1: start look around. I'm like, I know this stuff, this
Speaker 1: is gonna be epic. So I was taking pictures. Actually,
Speaker 1: when we did the first one, we didn't really have
Speaker 1: like cell phones. Um, you know, like now there's cell
Speaker 1: phones on sets and everybody's reporting to everything. Back then,
Speaker 1: like when we did the first one, that wasn't really
Speaker 1: you know, I was fourteen years ago, man, it wasn't
Speaker 1: very very popular. So I was using my laptop and
Speaker 1: I've got like all this video behind the scenes of
Speaker 1: the cast, like interviewing people and stuff that's like on
Speaker 1: my laptop, which it's probably it's probably valuable at this point.
Speaker 1: It's probably gold, right, it's probably gold. I'm sure it
Speaker 1: is to something to through a certain generation. So during COVID,
Speaker 1: we do all of these podcasts, the how Man Thing
Speaker 1: podcast via zoom because we can't personally see everybody, we
Speaker 1: can't go to the studio. Everything shuts down obviously, so
Speaker 1: we do the how Man Think podcast via zoom. And
Speaker 1: I'm always like curious and entertained when I see what
Speaker 1: background people have where they're where they're comfortable, where they're sitting,
Speaker 1: where they're at. Are they traveling somewhere that they do
Speaker 1: an airbnb somewhere? Are they home? But you are coming
Speaker 1: from your your home gym there, which I'm just a
Speaker 1: fan of. I love that You've got the heavy bag,
Speaker 1: you got the what's the little the wrap, the punch,
Speaker 1: the feedbag, feedbag. Yeah, I got the speedbag, Get the
Speaker 1: heavy bag, get a surfboard in there. Uh, tell me,
Speaker 1: because I love home gyms, tell me a little bit
Speaker 1: about your home gym. Why you built it? Well, Um,
Speaker 1: I've done cross fit for a two years and I
Speaker 1: kind of fell in love with some of the like
Speaker 1: Olympic lifts and and that kind of stuff, and and
Speaker 1: and then that got me into mobility, which the gym
Speaker 1: never did. You know, I was like a total gym
Speaker 1: right guy, just kind of did the you know, the
Speaker 1: bro splits and all that kind of stuff. But then
Speaker 1: when I started doing cross it was like, oh man,
Speaker 1: my mind opened up to this whole uh kind of
Speaker 1: a new idea of you know, body weight fitness and
Speaker 1: Olympic lifting and compound lifts and that kind of stuff,
Speaker 1: And my body felt so much better and I felt younger,
Speaker 1: and I felt more like an athlete, and I hurt
Speaker 1: my back and my neck in the gym so many times.
Speaker 1: And then when I started, luckily, I was at a
Speaker 1: good crossbit box, which is you know, that's kind of debatable,
Speaker 1: I guess is when people are in a bad spot,
Speaker 1: it can be dangerous. But it was in a good
Speaker 1: spot that got good training. Started doing dead lifts and
Speaker 1: back squats and that kind of stuff that made your
Speaker 1: body really strong, and I haven't had an injury since
Speaker 1: like seven years later. It's amazing. Um, I do it
Speaker 1: every day. I love it. I was as a professional
Speaker 1: athlete would train, but now I still trained as much
Speaker 1: more than I ever did, And that you're right, Um,
Speaker 1: I love that you train at home, especially now. I
Speaker 1: always encourage people like have some sort of at least
Speaker 1: a minimal I get the idea of wanting to go
Speaker 1: to a gym for community and inspiration and stuff like that,
Speaker 1: but it's also super convenient. You're married, you have three kids,
Speaker 1: you know, working dad, Like, it's also super convenient just
Speaker 1: to head out to the graduate hit an hour of
Speaker 1: something if you have it right there. So um, dude,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get together and throw down. Yeah, let's do it, man,
Speaker 1: let's do it. You know, honestly, Brooks, I don't think
Speaker 1: enough people are talking about during COVID, like to take
Speaker 1: care of your body, get enough sleep, you put better
Speaker 1: food in your body, you know, like we've got to
Speaker 1: be taking care of ourselves and build that immune system.
Speaker 1: And I don't know why, you know, a lot more
Speaker 1: people aren't talking about this. Yeah, I don't know either, man.
Speaker 1: It's unfortunately health gets pushed down the totem pole. And
Speaker 1: I assume so even more when people get married and
Speaker 1: have kids, you know, they sacrifice their own health for it.
Speaker 1: But you need to be around. You want to be
Speaker 1: able to lift grandkids and great grandkids. You need to
Speaker 1: be around. I did a post the other day on
Speaker 1: my Instagram talking how everybody, regardless of your twenty years
Speaker 1: old or eighty years old, should dead left right right.
Speaker 1: If you're an eighty year old grandpa, I want to
Speaker 1: be able to pick band over and pick my grandkid
Speaker 1: off the ground and pick them up. That's essentially and right,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. So I think there's so
Speaker 1: much I love that you're into it. When did you
Speaker 1: find fitness? Like did you just find it recently. You
Speaker 1: said you started doing CrossFit seven years ago, but has
Speaker 1: it always been a part of your life. Uh No,
Speaker 1: not at all. When I was a little tiny guy
Speaker 1: in Uh yeah, I joke about this because in high school, Um,
Speaker 1: I was like punked around a lot. I was like
Speaker 1: a hundred pounds in high school and bullied quite a bit.
Speaker 1: Like like I mean, I got like a bunch of
Speaker 1: stories like just getting punched in the face by cowboys
Speaker 1: and rednecks and the wrestling team and the rodeo team,
Speaker 1: and oh man, I could go on like good, good times,
Speaker 1: a lot of character building. Man, I was blessed. And
Speaker 1: then uh and then I go on to college that
Speaker 1: I gained like eighty pounds and I grew four more
Speaker 1: inches and and then again into acting and then I
Speaker 1: play the bullies on TV. And now everybody says, oh,
Speaker 1: I know I knew guys like you in high school. Man,
Speaker 1: Now trust me, that was not me. That was not me.
Speaker 1: I was the guy getting a hit. So there's just
Speaker 1: there's just no justice, you know. But I got into
Speaker 1: it much later in life. I just I don't know,
Speaker 1: I don't I don't know why it wasn't I got
Speaker 1: maybe because it was small and or the sports I
Speaker 1: was doing weren't really into I was playing soccer and scheme,
Speaker 1: so it's not like a big wait gym sports necessarily.
Speaker 1: How have you found how have you found discovering this
Speaker 1: passion for like fitness and health. How have you found
Speaker 1: that that's impacted your life as a in career wise?
Speaker 1: But then also like obviously it's allowed you to play
Speaker 1: certain roles as a bully, right, It's like being a
Speaker 1: strong man allows you to pay a bully. But but
Speaker 1: what about just in your overall general life? How have
Speaker 1: you found that how have you prioritized health, especially with
Speaker 1: a wife and three kids and a job, Like, I
Speaker 1: don't know, just what's what's your dance with I'm always
Speaker 1: curious to see how people what their relationship is with
Speaker 1: with physical fitness and health. Yeah. Well, I'm really a
Speaker 1: really strong belief that it's got to be a habit
Speaker 1: and it's got to be a routine. And from nine
Speaker 1: of us that means morning. It's got to be a
Speaker 1: part of your morning routine. Otherwise it's just like if
Speaker 1: I don't do in the morning, it's like, you know,
Speaker 1: probably chance I won't do it at all during the day.
Speaker 1: It just just too complicated during the day. So I
Speaker 1: always encourage people find a routine, find system that works.
Speaker 1: Now for me, like I get up real early with
Speaker 1: my kids to do the kind of the the uh
Speaker 1: the routine of making breakfast and taking multiple shifts, drives
Speaker 1: to school to drop off kids. But my last kid,
Speaker 1: um goes to Burbank High School, and uh, when I
Speaker 1: dropped him off, I'm a block away from my gym,
Speaker 1: so I can literally go. You know, I'm dressed, I'm
Speaker 1: ready to go. I've taken on my you know, you
Speaker 1: know morning routine, you know waters and you know nutrition.
Speaker 1: So I go drop him off and go straight to
Speaker 1: the gym. And if it's not a habit, and if
Speaker 1: it's not like that, forget about it. Yeah, So that's
Speaker 1: for me, that's the only way. Like you you have
Speaker 1: a you have a you must have a routine, right,
Speaker 1: if you're consistent, you have Yeah. And and morning is
Speaker 1: the best time. Um, we would train for support for
Speaker 1: professional hockey, we would train in the morning. That was
Speaker 1: the main practice and workout time. Also, just from a
Speaker 1: from a scientific standpoint, you have the highest amount of
Speaker 1: testerone testosterone present in your body early in the morning,
Speaker 1: and as it goes on, your testosterone and your metabolism
Speaker 1: slowed down as the day progresses. So if you're to
Speaker 1: workout in the morning, you will get the maximum benefit
Speaker 1: possible from that workout because your body is rested, you
Speaker 1: slept last night, you're rested, you have the highest testosterone levels,
Speaker 1: your metabolic rate as as high as it can be
Speaker 1: right there, so you're getting the best benefits of working
Speaker 1: out in the morning. Side, I'm always prioritized in the
Speaker 1: work in the morning. Before I came on this call
Speaker 1: with you right now, took my dog for a three
Speaker 1: and a half mile trail run just out the mountains
Speaker 1: here in Utah. Do this all and then I'll go
Speaker 1: into the gym here around noon or so a little
Speaker 1: afternoon go do afternoon workout. But yeah, a big part
Speaker 1: of my life, and I find it also makes me
Speaker 1: more creative. I find when I work out in the morning,
Speaker 1: I'm I got more energy, I'm more creative, I'm more
Speaker 1: inspired mentally, I'm sharper, and I actually have my best
Speaker 1: ideas and solve my biggest problems when working out without
Speaker 1: even paying attention to them. Right, No, it does. It
Speaker 1: fires off so much good stuff, and there's so much
Speaker 1: science and chemicals and all you know, all the all
Speaker 1: the good good stuff. You're fired off now if I
Speaker 1: if I don't work out, I have a hard time
Speaker 1: kind of getting into a creative space or or performing
Speaker 1: at my best afterwards. Like I feel like like now
Speaker 1: I've I've gone so far as to say, like what
Speaker 1: what's the most important part of my life? What are
Speaker 1: the most important goals or or the hardest um things
Speaker 1: I'm trying to accomplish, And let me just schedule those
Speaker 1: to follow my gym workout. Because I come out to
Speaker 1: the gym, Man, I feel great. I'm like I'm on fire.
Speaker 1: I've got a great attitude, you know, I'm I'm more passionate,
Speaker 1: more positive, like I'm ready to go. So I'm totally
Speaker 1: addictive to that. I love what you're saying there because
Speaker 1: I'm actually on this journey myself. If I'm working on something,
Speaker 1: I'm trying to dedicate my best energy to the things
Speaker 1: that are most important in my life. Yes, and I'm
Speaker 1: paying attention to that right now. And so that's foundly,
Speaker 1: that's connection. That's people like instead of just waking up
Speaker 1: and doing emails and doing work and doing whatever, and
Speaker 1: then at like five o'clock, then trying to fit in
Speaker 1: fitness and then trying to fit in playtime with your
Speaker 1: kids or something. Right when like you're mentally drained, you're tired,
Speaker 1: Like now you're giving your you know, the what's left
Speaker 1: over in your talk that are right important in your life.
Speaker 1: So i'm i'm I'm even like playing around with lifestyle
Speaker 1: optimization with how can my morning when my best energy
Speaker 1: my morning and early afternoon, my best energy be committed
Speaker 1: to the things that are most important in my life,
Speaker 1: like health and fitness, like connection with my dog, the
Speaker 1: creative development stuff that I'm working on, and also um
Speaker 1: friends and people in that time as well. You know, well,
Speaker 1: you know, you bring up something that's the really interesting
Speaker 1: is is that you know, a lot of us are
Speaker 1: fortunate enough to be able to control our schedule, and
Speaker 1: then sometimes we're not. And most parents, I think, you know,
Speaker 1: you think about your routine, like the kids go off
Speaker 1: and they get spent during the day. You go to
Speaker 1: work and you get spent during the day, and now
Speaker 1: you're showing up to connect with the people that matter
Speaker 1: the most of your life. When you're done, you're spent,
Speaker 1: and it's like that. Now that's now you're talking about
Speaker 1: master level. You gotta you gotta come up with a
Speaker 1: new game, a new strategy. How could you be your
Speaker 1: absolute best for the people that matter the absolute most
Speaker 1: when you're when you're done. So we have a list
Speaker 1: of questions that listeners sent in and stuff that they
Speaker 1: want to ask. You want to get your expertise. All right,
Speaker 1: I love flattered people said questions and thanks guys. Here's one.
Speaker 1: What are the three to five most important things in
Speaker 1: your life right now? You know, just a piggyback of
Speaker 1: the conversation we're having, this question is what are the
Speaker 1: three to five most important things in your life at
Speaker 1: this moment? Oh jeez, well, I guess you know. The
Speaker 1: easy answer, without even having to think about is is
Speaker 1: uh it all wrap arounds. It wraps around my family.
Speaker 1: So um my family, uh my my nuclear family, the
Speaker 1: ones that live under my roof. Uh. You know, I'm
Speaker 1: blessed to have an incredible wife that I've been married
Speaker 1: too for coming up on twenty one yeyears, which in
Speaker 1: Hollywood that's like four years. I know, that's like it's crazy.
Speaker 1: And then three kids, all redheads, which is like, you know,
Speaker 1: that's a whole another challenge, A bunch of firecrackers running
Speaker 1: around here. Um, and so I got those guys, I've
Speaker 1: got a lot of uh, I got a lot of
Speaker 1: other you know, siblings, and we got the Johnson is
Speaker 1: a big FAM's a big clan. Then the Livelies are
Speaker 1: a huge clan. So I've got a lot of uh,
Speaker 1: a lot of depth and a lot of love and
Speaker 1: a lot of real important stuff. So um, that's I mean,
Speaker 1: that's first and foremost. UM, I spent you know, it's
Speaker 1: funny Brooks is. Um you know, I played. I played
Speaker 1: the coach. Everybody calls me coach. So that went on
Speaker 1: for five years. But spend fourteen years of my life.
Speaker 1: Now I walked down the street, people roll down the window,
Speaker 1: Hey coach, I'm you know what, you know, what's up? Wildcats?
Speaker 1: You know whatever. But um, also, uh, let's see, fourteen
Speaker 1: years ago I started coaching soccer. So I've coached all
Speaker 1: of my kids soccer teams every year, all three of them, uh,
Speaker 1: since they turned five. So so i'll because it's all
Speaker 1: I do with my time. So I spent a lot
Speaker 1: of time coaching. So now when I walk down the street,
Speaker 1: someone else, hey coach, I'm like, I have to go, Okay,
Speaker 1: is this one of my one of my one of
Speaker 1: my boys, one of my one of my girls, when
Speaker 1: of my you know, someone from one of my teams
Speaker 1: or is it you know, one of my wildcats or
Speaker 1: and really it's all the same, you know, I treat
Speaker 1: them all the same. And and I love my church.
Speaker 1: But it's like my life has become a coach. Like
Speaker 1: I'm a coach, man, that's just what I do. And
Speaker 1: I've I've kind of realized these last couple of years
Speaker 1: that like, I really like that. Man, I like that. Um,
Speaker 1: I like because I've always had this this uh this
Speaker 1: take on coaching Brooks is that and I know you
Speaker 1: know this as an athlete is like a team sport
Speaker 1: is just a wealth of opportunity and life lessons for
Speaker 1: these kids. Man. But here's the challenge. Most coaches are
Speaker 1: not taking advantage of that opportunity. So if if you're
Speaker 1: on a team like Okay, You're gonna learn a lot
Speaker 1: about life, You're gonna learn a lot about relationships, You're
Speaker 1: gonna learn a lot about yourself being on a team sport.
Speaker 1: But man, if you have a coach that's around that
Speaker 1: can grab and seize onto all these opportunities and say, guys, listen, listen,
Speaker 1: you know how you feel right now, Well, we're gonna
Speaker 1: overcome this field you know whatever, you know, whatever life
Speaker 1: challenging that without getting into you know, too many specifics,
Speaker 1: Like there's unbelievable countless amount of opportunities if the coach
Speaker 1: will just point them out and say, look at look
Speaker 1: at this opportunity to grow. Look, we're gonna overcome this challenge. Like, guys,
Speaker 1: this is like life. You're not gonna win all the time,
Speaker 1: but you can still enjoy the game without winning all
Speaker 1: the time, you know, like all these different opportunities. So
Speaker 1: I get I get hyped on that, Like I I
Speaker 1: find that incredibly fulfilling. And then I could now learn
Speaker 1: these skills I can apply to my own kids at
Speaker 1: home and different tuoty So now they're learning. I get
Speaker 1: to be an influence on like a whole variety of
Speaker 1: kids in the community, and it's just like, it's unbelievably fulfilling.
Speaker 1: So now when people say to me, what's the more
Speaker 1: most important to your life? Are like, you know, the
Speaker 1: best things in life are free, you know. I started
Speaker 1: thinking about that kind of stuff and I'm like, man,
Speaker 1: being having a kid has has opened the door to
Speaker 1: service to me and and what I've done now that
Speaker 1: kids probably not because how do you know, But then
Speaker 1: you start spending this time as a coach and serving
Speaker 1: the community and serving these people, and then you're you know,
Speaker 1: you're getting rewarded by the parents and they're you know,
Speaker 1: they're so kind and so sweet to you. But that's
Speaker 1: that's you know, that's just gravy. The real meat of
Speaker 1: it is like these kids, like seeing these kids being
Speaker 1: affected by the way you're you're touching your lives and
Speaker 1: like it's just I've just I've absolutely loved it. It's
Speaker 1: it's it's incredibly fulfilling and definitely the most important part
Speaker 1: of my life with with my pome family. Dude, you
Speaker 1: got me so fired up. You want me so my
Speaker 1: one of my best friends, Christie Sowan, plays on this
Speaker 1: soccert They have an adult league soccer team called the
Speaker 1: Salmon Rolls and they've won the league championship twice and
Speaker 1: she always gets me to try and play. She's like, Brooks,
Speaker 1: come play with the Samuel in a viewer just like
Speaker 1: watching you guys play, and like, um, it's fun to
Speaker 1: be a spectator because my whole life I've played. But
Speaker 1: listen to you talk here, coach, you got me fired up.
Speaker 1: I'm thinking I might get the famine roles, play some soccer.
Speaker 1: I might get you come in as a guest coach,
Speaker 1: you know, and UM, so you might have just come
Speaker 1: in there. Let's do it. Um, But I also want
Speaker 1: to give you a compliment. I think you're ahead of
Speaker 1: your time. Something that's going on right now in professional
Speaker 1: sports is the coaching and professional sports and professional hockey
Speaker 1: that I've seen anyway. Um, they're starting to coach the person,
Speaker 1: not the player. So they're spending so much more time
Speaker 1: and resources on developing characteristics of the human being. Meanwhile
Speaker 1: also developing their physical talents and abilities, because what they
Speaker 1: would see is you'd see these amazingly talented athletes, these
Speaker 1: guys with world class skills and talents that all of
Speaker 1: a sudden would forget how to use them, or they
Speaker 1: would fail at high stress, high pressure moments. And it
Speaker 1: was it was the study of why is this happening?
Speaker 1: Why is this person so equipped with these physical abilities
Speaker 1: that all of a sudden freeze and they can't use them.
Speaker 1: Is because there's some sort of character flaw, there's some
Speaker 1: sort of lack of confidence or belief in themselves or
Speaker 1: lack of resilience or whatever it is, or trust in
Speaker 1: a teammate. And so they've really started to work with
Speaker 1: athletes off the ice, away from the rink, sports psychologists, therapists,
Speaker 1: anybody to help them develop and become better young men
Speaker 1: and women, and that alone has transferred into more preferensive
Speaker 1: proficiency in their athletic performance. So I love the fact
Speaker 1: that you're saying there's opportunities everywhere for an invested coach
Speaker 1: to really shape and sculpt these young minds and these
Speaker 1: attitudes and perspectives that alone will make them better soccer players. Yes, yeah,
Speaker 1: I love that. Man. That's that's super interesting, and it's
Speaker 1: you're a hundred percent right on your perspective. Like I've
Speaker 1: seen that, I know, Like that really resonates with me
Speaker 1: because you see the mental game on even the best
Speaker 1: of athletes, like the very best you know you have,
Speaker 1: you know, sometimes you have like one to three, like
Speaker 1: real key players that really can affect the whole team. Um,
Speaker 1: and you see them sometimes they just they get in
Speaker 1: their their own head and even at a young age,
Speaker 1: these young kids. I mean over time, like ten, eleven,
Speaker 1: twelve years old, even they struggle with this mental game
Speaker 1: and they feel the pressure of the team and they
Speaker 1: you know, they they they're really hard on themselves and
Speaker 1: they make it really personally. It's like, oh, man, so
Speaker 1: many opportunities to build that strong mental game. I love it. Man,
Speaker 1: you're a modern day coach. That's why you're the coach.
Speaker 1: I love it. I love it. Here. Okay, here's one.
Speaker 1: Here's one from a listener. Um Bart, what is the
Speaker 1: best parenting advice you could give to parents during COVID.
Speaker 1: Oh that's a good one. Um. You know, I really
Speaker 1: feel like, uh, you know, I get a lot of people,
Speaker 1: um on my I've been doing Instagram lives and I've
Speaker 1: been doing this We're all in this together Tuesday where
Speaker 1: it's like I'm dedicated to reaching out to my wildcats, Like, hey, look,
Speaker 1: I know I got I allow wildcats out there. You
Speaker 1: need something for me here I am. I'm here to serve.
Speaker 1: I mean, you know, you want to ask me questions? Okay,
Speaker 1: you probably don't, you probably you know, Usually they're like I
Speaker 1: I gotta tell us some you know, insights on the movies. Whatever. Okay, sure,
Speaker 1: whatever you want. I'm I'm just here to entertain to
Speaker 1: like show you that I care about you, I love you,
Speaker 1: like let's get through this time and everything else. At
Speaker 1: the same time, there's people out there that are hungry
Speaker 1: or maybe they're gonna look at this opportunity to grow,
Speaker 1: and I think the um you know, a lot of
Speaker 1: people are send this message of like if you're not
Speaker 1: growing during this pandemic, if you're not stepping up your
Speaker 1: game problem, And it's like, okay, yeah, not everybody's in
Speaker 1: that position, though. Some people are just trying to survive. Man,
Speaker 1: So it's like you gotta reckons. There's a whole variety
Speaker 1: of people in a variety of different positions. But some
Speaker 1: people that is what I tell my tell my people.
Speaker 1: I say, guys, listen, we're wildcats. Now we've got that
Speaker 1: strong mental game. We gotta look for opportunities, Like let's
Speaker 1: let's look for opportunities if it's just an opportunity to
Speaker 1: like dig out our our sense of gratitude. Like let's
Speaker 1: think about, man, we used to go to our friend's
Speaker 1: house anytime we want it without any sort of cost
Speaker 1: involved or risk. We used to go to the store
Speaker 1: and go to several of and a by slurpee and
Speaker 1: like not think anything of it, like the small, tiny
Speaker 1: little things like can we reevaluate can we like re
Speaker 1: envision those things as like gifts instead of just like nonsense,
Speaker 1: just no wise or whatever, Like can we look at
Speaker 1: those and say, man, those are those are gifts? Man,
Speaker 1: those are like we have the ability to through all
Speaker 1: these little things with no thought involved. And there, let's
Speaker 1: maybe we can fill up our sense of gratitude. Man,
Speaker 1: maybe we could dig deep and say, look, we're not
Speaker 1: only way alive and above ground and surviving, but like
Speaker 1: we get to do we get to go to the
Speaker 1: bar anytime we want, you know, like that's amazing, that's amazing.
Speaker 1: And then for some of us, like, hey, let's let's
Speaker 1: work on that mental game. Man, let's work. We got
Speaker 1: that strong mental game, let's let's exercise it. Let's get stronger.
Speaker 1: And and uh and this so I tell people, is
Speaker 1: uh uh this great quote, this great quote that I
Speaker 1: heard from my dad, and it was stand guard the
Speaker 1: portal full of your mind. You didn't coin the phrase,
Speaker 1: he just told me the phrase standard the portal of
Speaker 1: your mind. And I love that. And it's like, okay,
Speaker 1: what does that? What does that mean? Stay and guard
Speaker 1: the portal of your mind? Okay, well you you stand guard.
Speaker 1: It's it's your job. You decide what goes in your
Speaker 1: mind and what stays in them. You let fear go in.
Speaker 1: You're gonna let doubt, you know, let insecurities, you let negativity.
Speaker 1: Hey man, that's up to you. You stay and guard
Speaker 1: and if it sneaks in, it's your job to get
Speaker 1: it out. So like, let's stay positive, Let's stay like,
Speaker 1: let's stay you only let things in your mind that
Speaker 1: are proactive, so uh or empowering you know, that are
Speaker 1: gonna empower you. And that's like to me, that's that's
Speaker 1: the goal. And now I don't even remember the original questions.
Speaker 1: I love what you're saying. So dude, you got me
Speaker 1: fired up, Like you have me so fired up. I'm like,
Speaker 1: what did this guy do this morning that he's just
Speaker 1: peak energy right now at the time of this phone call.
Speaker 1: But you've got me You could be an inspiration so speaker,
Speaker 1: you already aren't in so many ways, but like you
Speaker 1: could do a tour on it, because you've got me
Speaker 1: fired up in ten minutes that I've talked to you.
Speaker 1: But so for you and I, because I believe I'm
Speaker 1: very good at standing guard the portal of my mind
Speaker 1: as well, and you are as well. For you and I,
Speaker 1: maybe it comes natural, Maybe we've developed it over time.
Speaker 1: Your father taught you about it. What about for somebody
Speaker 1: that's just hearing this, What about for somebody's in our
Speaker 1: community that's listening to saying I'm overwhelmed with with like
Speaker 1: struggle and insecurity and fear on COVID and like uncertainty
Speaker 1: in my life, Like all of this is consuming my mind.
Speaker 1: Because that's really that's happening to a lot of people.
Speaker 1: A lot of people are very anxious right now. How
Speaker 1: can we kind of, step by step in a little
Speaker 1: way give them something like stand guard the portal of
Speaker 1: your mind. But what else can we teach them or
Speaker 1: tell them to do right now to get some control back. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's a it's a great question, because you're right, everybody's
Speaker 1: in a different place on different levels and has different
Speaker 1: variety of challenges and things like that. I think gratitude
Speaker 1: is the key man. Gratitude is the key. Um. We
Speaker 1: are in control of what we focus on, we're on,
Speaker 1: We're in control of what we look at where we
Speaker 1: where we put our eyes, where we put our focus
Speaker 1: or focus goes energy flows. You know what are we
Speaker 1: gonna stare at what? Well? You are gonna look at
Speaker 1: our family? Are we gonna look at what's missing? A
Speaker 1: We're gonna look at our you know, our ore dwindling
Speaker 1: bank account. We're gonna look at like hey, I'm above ground,
Speaker 1: I'm standing you know, I'm standing there. I'm in control.
Speaker 1: I can I make the choices in my life. Were
Speaker 1: in a free country where we can go do whatever
Speaker 1: we want to do. Like, there's so many things to
Speaker 1: be grateful for, and honestly, I think it's a wonderful
Speaker 1: time to reevaluate family and friends. Those things are those
Speaker 1: are the things that won't fail you, you know. I mean,
Speaker 1: sure you'll have challenges and and and uh it might
Speaker 1: feel like fail sious at times, but man, if you
Speaker 1: can reevaluate like the fact that you have a family,
Speaker 1: or like if you have damage relationships, go fix those relationships,
Speaker 1: like you know, nurture them, you know, um grow them,
Speaker 1: and you know if they're there and they're weak, you know, Brooks,
Speaker 1: I know talking to an athlete, like I know you
Speaker 1: get this, but I love the analogy of the gym
Speaker 1: because it's so visual and it's like, okay, you walk
Speaker 1: in the gym and your biceps week, what are you
Speaker 1: gonna do a bunch of these well, okay, yeah, you're
Speaker 1: a bunch of those is gonna grow. You put some
Speaker 1: pressure on there, you make it hard, you make it
Speaker 1: difficult to pull that on. Okay, now you're gonna have
Speaker 1: a lot more growth. So how off to do that
Speaker 1: every stinking day? Man? You can't. You don't work out
Speaker 1: once a month or once a year. Every day work
Speaker 1: on that little muscle. So if you have a little
Speaker 1: if you have a tiny little bit of gratitude, that's okay.
Speaker 1: Just recognize what you're at. If you have a tiny
Speaker 1: little bit of effort of like controlling my my always
Speaker 1: go to negative, always go to insecurities, always go to
Speaker 1: things that make me feel like junk. Okay, that's okay.
Speaker 1: Just work that muscle. Man, Let's start working in that muscle.
Speaker 1: What can you do a little more focus? Hey, here's
Speaker 1: an idea, here's an do you can do right now.
Speaker 1: Pull out a book, a little little writing tablet, get
Speaker 1: a pen, start a timer, and no joke, just like
Speaker 1: as an exercise, hit ten minutes and don't stop writing
Speaker 1: right ten minutes of everything you're grateful for, and try
Speaker 1: to come up with stuff you haven't thought out of
Speaker 1: and challenge yourself and say like, okay, then here's something
Speaker 1: I haven't thought of it it in a few years. You
Speaker 1: know what, here's another idea, and you write this whole
Speaker 1: thing and just like you know, stream of conscious you
Speaker 1: let your let your mind like flow. Maybe do it
Speaker 1: with a friend that you trust, and then you can
Speaker 1: compare notes like oh, that's a good idea. You know
Speaker 1: what I'm gonna do. And that's like okay, now you're
Speaker 1: controlling your mind. Now, maybe this visceral sort of you
Speaker 1: know idea of directing your focus is maybe a little
Speaker 1: hard to comprehend. So how do we how do a
Speaker 1: real practical purpose? There's an idea. Just write it down, man,
Speaker 1: let your mind go there. Now, all of a sudden,
Speaker 1: you're writing, you're writing, your your mind's going there, your focus,
Speaker 1: you're reading. So there's all these different senses that are
Speaker 1: being engaged and it's like boom, now you're controlling your focus.
Speaker 1: I love it. I love gratitude. I love that you
Speaker 1: went to gratitude. Um because it's it's a big part
Speaker 1: of my life. And when I I kind of have
Speaker 1: a couple of pillars in my life. And one of
Speaker 1: the pillars in my life that when I noticed that
Speaker 1: my when I start feeling overwhelmed or angry or like
Speaker 1: anxious or something, the first thing that dissipates in my
Speaker 1: life is my gratitude. Right, That's the first thing that
Speaker 1: dissipates where I'm like, wow, I I still have love
Speaker 1: present in my life. I still have like these other
Speaker 1: characteristics present my life, but like gratitude is not president
Speaker 1: of my life. And you know what, when I'm actually
Speaker 1: most grateful, I'm actually my most grateful self during and
Speaker 1: after workouts. I used I used to have this thing
Speaker 1: where when I work out at Have you ever been
Speaker 1: to Brick CrossFit in West Hollywood. Yeah, So outside of
Speaker 1: Brick there was this big dumpster and I had this
Speaker 1: thing where this one summer I was training there for
Speaker 1: to play hockey, and every day that I came out
Speaker 1: of there, if I ever saw a homeless person like
Speaker 1: culling through the dumpster, I would give them the top
Speaker 1: bill in my wallet, whatever it was where there was
Speaker 1: a twenty, whether it was a hundred, whether it was
Speaker 1: a one five, whatever it was, that was my thing
Speaker 1: because I walked out of the gym just feeling immense gratitude,
Speaker 1: and I'd see this person like, I want to give
Speaker 1: them the top bill, and I wouldn't even look at it.
Speaker 1: I just give it to them. I love that. I
Speaker 1: feel so alive and so gratitude is so important in
Speaker 1: my life and keeping it a focus and you, like
Speaker 1: you said, actively working on it, getting touches on it
Speaker 1: daily to strengthen that muscle, and then it will become
Speaker 1: more and more prominent. And likewise, it's extremely hard to
Speaker 1: hang out and be friends with somebody who is not grateful,
Speaker 1: right because everything album it is. I honestly I struggle
Speaker 1: with that because I've got some friends, I've got a
Speaker 1: friend circle that I honor and cherish and so grateful
Speaker 1: for these guys. But not all of them are really positive,
Speaker 1: you know, some of them are really kind of bad
Speaker 1: at it, And I'm like, oh man, not not not that.
Speaker 1: I mean collectively, really solid characters and really good people.
Speaker 1: So I feel really good about that aspect, you know,
Speaker 1: But I think you have to to your point, you
Speaker 1: have to be cognisation of that you have to be
Speaker 1: aware of that. Yeah, okay, here's another question for you, buddy.
Speaker 1: I really like this one. So um, I don't know
Speaker 1: if you can get your brain there. Actually you probably would.
Speaker 1: This is a little vacation for your brain right here. Okay,
Speaker 1: all right, So, um, you have one day completely to yourself.
Speaker 1: So no obligations to your wife, no obligations your kids, dogs, responsibility, work,
Speaker 1: anything like that. You have no obligations today. You have
Speaker 1: one day. What do you do? How do you spend
Speaker 1: your day? Whosh? Man? Well is it? I mean, is
Speaker 1: it cheating to say I would go with my kids?
Speaker 1: Like I? Uh? This last summer we spent a month
Speaker 1: in coast Rica surfing and where was my invite bar
Speaker 1: to come on down? I'm trying to do this. It
Speaker 1: was my goal in life to figure out how to
Speaker 1: go for one month with my kids to somewhere every
Speaker 1: summer and just spend a month in a different country
Speaker 1: so you kind of get a little you know, experience
Speaker 1: of the world, and you know what, way more affordable
Speaker 1: than people think it is. I mean, it sounds crazy,
Speaker 1: but you start doing the math, it's totally doable. Um.
Speaker 1: Luckily I have a job that's that allows me to
Speaker 1: you know, the flexibility on that too. So uh. But man,
Speaker 1: I'll tell you, waking up in the morning on a
Speaker 1: on I was like a tropical beach somewhere where people
Speaker 1: are speaking of foreign language. It's foreign food. Uh, it's beautiful,
Speaker 1: it's warm water, there's an amazing surf, and you're there
Speaker 1: with your kids, and I see, Man, I'll tell you,
Speaker 1: there's this one image I still have burned in my
Speaker 1: mind of sitting on a big thing that we love
Speaker 1: is watching the sunset in the water. So I just
Speaker 1: love it. And I remember watching one of my kids
Speaker 1: catch this wave right next to me, and he took
Speaker 1: off on the wave and he just like ripped underneath
Speaker 1: this this lip and it was like the first time
Speaker 1: I saw him really carve away. And I was like,
Speaker 1: that's it, that's it, this moment right here, my gosh.
Speaker 1: And and I do this thing with my kids and
Speaker 1: I can't believe they let me do this. But when
Speaker 1: like the sunsetting got you know, everyone wants to maybe
Speaker 1: once or twice in summer else, guy's, guys, gather, look
Speaker 1: at this moment, look at this. Let's just stop. Let's
Speaker 1: just stop right now, just like do me. Favorite I
Speaker 1: want you to remember this all summer, and then they
Speaker 1: end up we we can recount the once in the
Speaker 1: last several years. I'm like, look at this moment where
Speaker 1: we're having around, like how special this Like we're together,
Speaker 1: we're in this really cool place we're having like isn't
Speaker 1: this an amazing moment? And then all well and they
Speaker 1: do and they stop and they look around like yeah,
Speaker 1: this this pretty epic and they're just like just like, oh,
Speaker 1: fills me up, it feels me. It's amazing. It's amazing, dude.
Speaker 1: I love I love that. The question was what would
Speaker 1: you do with your day if you had no obligations?
Speaker 1: You said, and then you told the family story of
Speaker 1: going to Costa Rica, Like it just it just resent
Speaker 1: how much you I love you, man, I love you.
Speaker 1: I love how much you love your family and how
Speaker 1: how it's You're not just saying family is important, but
Speaker 1: like you can see it. Our listeners can't see it,
Speaker 1: but I can see it in your eyes. I can
Speaker 1: see it in your body. You're not sitting in a chair,
Speaker 1: You're moving all around the room. Your arms are going
Speaker 1: like I just love I love that you love the
Speaker 1: family and that you build your life like that, UM,
Speaker 1: and I have too. I have two friends, Garrett and
Speaker 1: Jessica g that are very much like you, very much
Speaker 1: involved in their kids lives, and they do something really
Speaker 1: cool with their kids. At the end of every day
Speaker 1: when they have us sit around and have a supper together, UM,
Speaker 1: they'll ask their kids what was your favorite part of today?
Speaker 1: You know, and then then the kid has a chance
Speaker 1: to say, oh, dad, do you remember that time when
Speaker 1: we we caught that wave together and we did that
Speaker 1: was my favorite part of the day. And it's just
Speaker 1: a daily little touch on gratitude and you do it
Speaker 1: with the sunsets with your kids stuff like like I
Speaker 1: just I love I love hearing how families spend time
Speaker 1: together and how you create that family bond between father
Speaker 1: uh and kids, his son or daughter, whatever it is.
Speaker 1: So I commend you man. I Also I also have
Speaker 1: been thinking about this. Give me your thoughts on this
Speaker 1: because you touched on it. I've been thinking about one
Speaker 1: month a year, spending it in a new country every year,
Speaker 1: so that for one month a year, like say I
Speaker 1: was in Hawaii, I could scuba dive every day, so
Speaker 1: it was in Costa Rica, I could surf every day.
Speaker 1: Say I was in Switzerland like a downhill ski every day.
Speaker 1: So if I did this, even if you did this
Speaker 1: for a decade, you would get so proficient at so
Speaker 1: many different skills. Yes, you know what I mean immersion, man, Yes,
Speaker 1: I think it's a great idea and you can work
Speaker 1: on the language of whatever country you're in. It's it's unbelievable.
Speaker 1: I think it's a I think it's I mean, hey, man,
Speaker 1: if you have the ability to do it, I'd say
Speaker 1: jump on it. Have you done anything else like that
Speaker 1: other than Costa Rica for a month? If you done
Speaker 1: anything else for a month of real immersion with your
Speaker 1: kids and families? We did well. Probably my favorite was
Speaker 1: we did a road trip through Italy for a month
Speaker 1: and that where that was incredible. That was incredible. We started, uh,
Speaker 1: we started up north and like Dolomite Mountains and we
Speaker 1: went all the way down to the Mfi coast and like,
Speaker 1: oh man, it was yeah. We saw you know, Venice
Speaker 1: and Rome and Tuittera and like you know, like so
Speaker 1: many different makes places and like the kids got to see.
Speaker 1: You know. The thing is, if you're there long enough,
Speaker 1: like we went to this little town Nazza and Chiquitarts
Speaker 1: probably my favorite town, one of my favorites and all
Speaker 1: of it. Small town and the kids play soccer on
Speaker 1: the beach there. So my wife and I were, you know,
Speaker 1: like trying to get our kids to get involved and
Speaker 1: start speaking Italian with the locals. And so sure enough,
Speaker 1: over time we were there long enough. Like the local
Speaker 1: little I'm talking of young kids, you know, Tan Lemon twelve,
Speaker 1: they don't play soccer with the tourists. You know, they're got,
Speaker 1: they're they're they're not a you know, they're not a
Speaker 1: side show. They're like, this is their life. And so
Speaker 1: but we were there long enough, they're like, okay, you
Speaker 1: guys can come play. And so my kids would go play,
Speaker 1: and my wife and I would eat dinner, the sun
Speaker 1: setting over the ocean, the waves to come at the
Speaker 1: boats and everything, and I'm like I'm watching them. I'm
Speaker 1: watching my kids start to yell at words in Italian.
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my gosh, great moment. I was amazing
Speaker 1: this kid, Brando. I still remember, like everybody, Sean Duca,
Speaker 1: remember all these kids that are from this little town.
Speaker 1: Is as you were able to pull like some some
Speaker 1: coaching a couple of minut it's a coaching over there kids.
Speaker 1: You know. Unfortunately my Italian stinks. As much as I
Speaker 1: would like to be able to do that, man, I'm
Speaker 1: working on it though, Dude, I love it. I'm immerged
Speaker 1: I I'd love to Like I'm gonna I'm gonna steal
Speaker 1: your idea there taking like when I have kids, taking
Speaker 1: them for a month somewhere somewhere, like I love different languages,
Speaker 1: different cultures, somewhere where you're just completely out of your
Speaker 1: comfort zone, out of your element. I love that you
Speaker 1: do that, and then you please do and let's let's
Speaker 1: stay in touch and talk about that. For me, I
Speaker 1: found that if you could do it on a coastal
Speaker 1: city is the best because they if you're trying to
Speaker 1: do your work and trying to do some other stuff,
Speaker 1: it's like those kids are like being on the then
Speaker 1: you don't, you know, as opposed to like being in
Speaker 1: tuscany where. It's like, okay, I gotta kind of entertain
Speaker 1: these kids. Yeah, um, I love it, brother, We're gonna
Speaker 1: find friends. I'm gonna apply myself for adoption into the
Speaker 1: Johnson family. So come on over, man, would love to
Speaker 1: have you. We got Canadians in my family. You do, Yeah,
Speaker 1: you do. Yeah, all right, that's right, that's right. Croud
Speaker 1: Canadian from Vancouver. Yeah, I'm I'm from Saskatchewan. I'm I'm
Speaker 1: right above North Dakota. The people out on the you know,
Speaker 1: we kind of look at the people in Toronto and
Speaker 1: the people in Vancouver. They're kind of like they feel
Speaker 1: like they're above us because we live in the plans.
Speaker 1: Oh really, Oh, I don't know about that stuff. I
Speaker 1: don't know about the dynamics. I know we go out
Speaker 1: and visit Ryan when he's doing Deadpool and stay in
Speaker 1: Vancouver kind of check it out and have gotten to
Speaker 1: know it a little bit. But it's it's been great, man,
Speaker 1: it's been awesome. He's an awesome tour guy. I've never
Speaker 1: met him, but telling I said, hi, my fellow Canadian.
Speaker 1: Much love. Yeah. Absolutely. Here's another question for you. This
Speaker 1: is a really interesting question. Did I've never been asked this,
Speaker 1: but I'm gonna ask it to you. Um, what three
Speaker 1: words would you tell your eighteen year old self? Um, like,
Speaker 1: let it go, you got this, I'm the man. If
Speaker 1: you could, what three words would you tell your eighteen
Speaker 1: year old self? Mm hmm. Eighteen year old says, I'd
Speaker 1: probably say take risks. I think that's that's good. Make mistakes,
Speaker 1: another one makes some mistakes. UM, and uh okay, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna I'm gonna cheat on this one. And to say, uh,
Speaker 1: we regret what we don't do more than what we
Speaker 1: regret what we do. Uh. So you know that I
Speaker 1: know that I had. I remember a couple of things
Speaker 1: that's still in the back of my mind of some
Speaker 1: kind of some big ideas I had that I didn't execute.
Speaker 1: And they're the only things that I regret about being
Speaker 1: that age. The other mistakes like oh whatever, you know,
Speaker 1: I've you know what, I've made up for other mistakes,
Speaker 1: But it's the mistakes to haunt me of the ones
Speaker 1: that I didn't just go for it. Yeah. Mine, when
Speaker 1: I'm thinking about that question, I think I would go
Speaker 1: with I think about myself at a teen, very driven,
Speaker 1: extremely driven, UM, wanting to make the NHL, and I
Speaker 1: ended up doing it the next year turn pro I've
Speaker 1: seen UM at nineteen. Yeah, I would say get it all.
Speaker 1: That would be my three words, like like don't ever
Speaker 1: stop get it oh? Oh three word? Oh I see, Yes,
Speaker 1: that's great all because that's what I wanted in my
Speaker 1: athletic career, I went after everything I wanted. I blew
Speaker 1: through fear, blew through insecurity, developed resilience, confidence, improved my
Speaker 1: role each year, you know, elevated myself, develop my skills,
Speaker 1: honed by skills, my craft, like all of it. And
Speaker 1: I would encourage people. I don't want people to think
Speaker 1: that they can't have everything in life that they want.
Speaker 1: You know, you bust your tail for it. But I
Speaker 1: want people to be inspired to not have to say, well,
Speaker 1: I can't have a family and have the career, or
Speaker 1: I can't have the career and also have balance in
Speaker 1: my life full you get it all or work for it.
Speaker 1: The other thing that I would really stress to myself this,
Speaker 1: oh this is another thing, um, find a balance of happiness.
Speaker 1: Uh huhn't have that so much so with get it all,
Speaker 1: with get it all, and then I'd also have like
Speaker 1: find the balance of happiness, um, because going for it
Speaker 1: all can consume you and can be toxic. So having
Speaker 1: a balance that you know, you know what Brooks you say,
Speaker 1: you bring up an interesting point that's maybe not as
Speaker 1: popular as trendy. And you know the master classes, you know,
Speaker 1: those things that pop up on your Yeah, they're great.
Speaker 1: They're great. I was listening to the one from Seawan
Speaker 1: to Rhymes, who's amazing, Like she has like what five
Speaker 1: TV shows on on the air right now, and I
Speaker 1: think she's like an incredibly talented and driven woman. Amazing.
Speaker 1: But she says she has a real moment in that thing.
Speaker 1: And she said, look, you know, people say you could
Speaker 1: do it all. You can do it all. You can.
Speaker 1: I can have five TV shows on the air and
Speaker 1: I can raise all my kids. And she's like, and
Speaker 1: that's that's not true. I don't know I'm paraphrasing. She's like,
Speaker 1: it's not true. If I'm servicing all of my TV shows,
Speaker 1: I'm failing at home. If I'm serving my family what
Speaker 1: they need, I'm failing my TV shows. And I said,
Speaker 1: mad respect for her to admit that, like you can't
Speaker 1: have a countless amounts of businesses or whatever else and
Speaker 1: also spend all the time in really nurturing your your
Speaker 1: young family. You gotta you gotta sort that out, man,
Speaker 1: you gotta figure that out. So to your last phrase,
Speaker 1: like finding that balance is a is a science and
Speaker 1: an art form. I think I agree with that. So
Speaker 1: people always say, like we get asked, and I'd like
Speaker 1: to ask you about this. Get asked about work life balance.
Speaker 1: People always say, what is that's the golden ticket, right,
Speaker 1: work life balance? And I always say, it's not a balance,
Speaker 1: it's like an integration. And it's the way I describe
Speaker 1: it as like a teeter totterer. You know what a a
Speaker 1: teeter totter is? Your kids probably the yea yeah. And
Speaker 1: it's like sometimes you're you're gonna be like way up,
Speaker 1: You're gonna be filled with a lot of like family time,
Speaker 1: and then it's gonna be like, Okay, it's going back down.
Speaker 1: I gotta do more work, and then it's gonna I've
Speaker 1: I've invested a lot in work and I want to
Speaker 1: go back to family time. So people are looking for
Speaker 1: this like perfect balance where the teeter totter just sits
Speaker 1: right there, and I've never been able to do that.
Speaker 1: I've been like, I'm all in on family, and then
Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, I've been really inspired right now a
Speaker 1: couple of days, and I'm gonna go all in on
Speaker 1: work and then back all in on family meanwhile not
Speaker 1: neglecting one or the other. I've been able to find
Speaker 1: that balance, but it's okay to have a little rock
Speaker 1: like that versus just have to have it be flat
Speaker 1: and balanced. That's how it works. I like that. I
Speaker 1: like that analogy. I think that's really really smart. I
Speaker 1: think the key is understanding that this is the goal,
Speaker 1: like flat is the goal and a little ride is fun,
Speaker 1: and most people in life are not cognizant of that,
Speaker 1: and they're just you know, like, how many people are
Speaker 1: you know, unfortunately in society today, you know, are really
Speaker 1: sort of taught and encourage that it's like money, career,
Speaker 1: business and that's the ultimate and like kids are like,
Speaker 1: you know, not that secondary. And I and I of
Speaker 1: course mean probably personally totally disagree. You're gonna find all
Speaker 1: your love, film and habits, joy in the family. But
Speaker 1: you really want, you know, it's it's good to have
Speaker 1: all this other stuff and and to support your family
Speaker 1: into you know, thriving the community and that kind of stuff.
Speaker 1: So I'm with you, man, get that little that fun,
Speaker 1: the fun ride and the team. Yeah you need some
Speaker 1: sway in there. That's fun. But yeah, the violence rocking
Speaker 1: back and forth is no good. That's gonna throw all
Speaker 1: the kids off part. I want to Here's another question
Speaker 1: from a listener. Um, you've you've spoke so much already
Speaker 1: to show up about your family. Uh, and briefly you
Speaker 1: mentioned your wife, Robin. Um, she's also a very talented actress.
Speaker 1: But here's the question, how did you know Robin was
Speaker 1: the one for you? We get asked that a lot.
Speaker 1: How do you know that your significant other is the one? Well,
Speaker 1: this is a funny story. Sorry, it's a long story,
Speaker 1: so I'm just gonna tell you a real, really short
Speaker 1: version of it. But um, she walked in to a
Speaker 1: room and I saw her from afar and said, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna marry that woman. And I've never done it before
Speaker 1: in my life. I know it's kind of warning cliche
Speaker 1: and everything, but it's totally true. Man. I did a
Speaker 1: movie called Me Familiar with her dad. He ended up
Speaker 1: giving me a job. Ernie Lively as at his acting studio.
Speaker 1: I was teaching acting classes from Blake. Lively was in
Speaker 1: the class and one day incomes Robin Lively and I
Speaker 1: saw her and I just saw that the energy about
Speaker 1: her and just the way she spoke to people, and
Speaker 1: I said, that's her. I'm gonna marry her. And I
Speaker 1: told my parents, I told all my friends. He became
Speaker 1: like a big joke because she had a boyfriend at
Speaker 1: the time and I had to watch it. It was
Speaker 1: very painful. And uh, years later, years later, we've started
Speaker 1: taking Yeah it's a great story, and uh I've been
Speaker 1: a curse to right a movie about it because it's
Speaker 1: so painful. Man, I went through it, but I knew it.
Speaker 1: I just felt it. I knew it. I hung in
Speaker 1: their persistence a lot of humility and U yeah, I
Speaker 1: know that's not really great practical advice for anybody, but man,
Speaker 1: when you know, you know, and she was just such
Speaker 1: a good person. She had such great fun energy and
Speaker 1: it just so that's what lets her get married. Say
Speaker 1: they're like, when you know you know, and people that
Speaker 1: are single, they're like, yeah, that sounds like a bunch
Speaker 1: of made up stuff, Um, but it is true, Like
Speaker 1: it's it is the truest thing you could say. Um,
Speaker 1: So you knew then, and then it was until a
Speaker 1: couple of years later that you actually started dating. And
Speaker 1: that whole time you still believe that and still knew that. Well.
Speaker 1: I definitely had moments of doubt and fear and heartbreak
Speaker 1: and a lot of a lot of humility because she
Speaker 1: broke up with one boyfriend and got another boyfriend. I
Speaker 1: was like, oh I thought I was in line, but
Speaker 1: I wasn't apparently, so uh, you know, I was going
Speaker 1: through that approach of like, okay, all right, all right,
Speaker 1: these type of girls, they they're never single, they're never
Speaker 1: just hang out single. So I'll develop the friendship, get
Speaker 1: that nice foundation of you know. That's what they say, right,
Speaker 1: That's what they say is like all great relationship starts
Speaker 1: with good solid friendship. Okay, all right, I'm taking that
Speaker 1: route and and hanging in there and and uh yeah
Speaker 1: it's it's ah. It was full of ups and downs
Speaker 1: for sure. Yeah. You know what a friend once told me,
Speaker 1: You can tell if a relationship is alive and going
Speaker 1: to make it by how a person tells a story
Speaker 1: about how they met. And so that's interesting being the
Speaker 1: life in your eyes. Seeing like when I asked you
Speaker 1: that question, you get excited, like, oh it's a lot,
Speaker 1: it's a long story. I try to make sure, but
Speaker 1: like like instant energy, which still means you're invested and
Speaker 1: just completely madly in love. So um. I always remembered
Speaker 1: that when somebody told me that, I was like, that's
Speaker 1: a really because it is It's a really good barometer
Speaker 1: when you ask somebody when they met the love of
Speaker 1: their life, if they tell it with enthusiasm or if
Speaker 1: they just like kind of wow, you know, well, I
Speaker 1: gotta say, man, I'm kind of blown away with that perspective.
Speaker 1: I think that's very interesting and and dead on. I'm sure. Yeah,
Speaker 1: try it with somebody, Try it with somebody in your life, like,
Speaker 1: just ask that question. Or could be new, could be old,
Speaker 1: you know, like sometimes like if you have sometimes you
Speaker 1: ask grandparents like how did you meet Grandma? And then
Speaker 1: they light up there like oh, and they'd like want
Speaker 1: you to sit there, glory. It means that the married
Speaker 1: fifty years, they're still in love, you know. Answer so
Speaker 1: super like that. Um, Okay, here's another one. Here's another question.
Speaker 1: So um, it's kind of it's I'm trying to relate
Speaker 1: it to what you went through but also current. So um. Anyway,
Speaker 1: here's the question from the listener. Do guys like chatting
Speaker 1: on the phone with their friend or significant other? And
Speaker 1: what amount of time can a guy tolerate on the phone.
Speaker 1: So I'm guessing this comes from a female, you know,
Speaker 1: So do you like as a guy, do you like,
Speaker 1: like say, when you met Robin, did you like chatting
Speaker 1: on the phone? How long was long enough? How long
Speaker 1: was interesting? How can we help this lady out with
Speaker 1: it's asking this question? Well, I guess, yeah, I guess
Speaker 1: like during those early stages of relationship, you could just
Speaker 1: sit on the phone for a long time. You know.
Speaker 1: What's funny. I was just thinking about, like, what are
Speaker 1: my habits because I have a lot of friends that
Speaker 1: are that live out of state around the country, and
Speaker 1: I'll put on a headset and do stuff while I
Speaker 1: talked to him. You know, I put on my my
Speaker 1: my headsets and and go work out or go you know,
Speaker 1: do stuff in the yard or whatever. And like I
Speaker 1: could talk for you know, an hour to a buddy,
Speaker 1: but not not holding still so much. You know, I
Speaker 1: don't know what that is. I'm gonna have to explore
Speaker 1: that a little bit, but it does seem like in
Speaker 1: a relationship, like early phases, early stages of the relationship,
Speaker 1: that yeah, I think I did. I think I really
Speaker 1: like talking to people though in general, so uh, I know,
Speaker 1: for me, I think I think Robin and I. She
Speaker 1: was shooting a show called Savannah for Aaron Spelling down
Speaker 1: in Georgia, at the time when we first started dating,
Speaker 1: we used to talk. You just talked for a long time.
Speaker 1: So I I personally like, when you meet that person,
Speaker 1: I love talking to them. Yeah, like I traditionally and
Speaker 1: I don't talk on the phone that much, but when
Speaker 1: you meet the person that you're invested in in love with, like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I actually I would. I would not even phone. I
Speaker 1: would face time every single time face and every times
Speaker 1: I could talk on the phone. Times we'd fall asleep
Speaker 1: basically talking on the phone because uh, just and then
Speaker 1: be other times you can talk for like three hours
Speaker 1: and just be still so excited and want to talk more,
Speaker 1: and you're like, I actually gotta go where I need
Speaker 1: to be a lost track of time. But um, I
Speaker 1: loved it personally, I loved it because when you meet
Speaker 1: that that special somebody and you're so invested in them,
Speaker 1: it's so exciting and you just can't wait to hear
Speaker 1: what's coming out of their mouth and discover that person
Speaker 1: as well. Asking question, you're you're you're right, and you're
Speaker 1: you're kind of taking me down memory lane. It's been
Speaker 1: a couple of years since then, but I do recall
Speaker 1: being on the phone for hours and sometimes it's like,
Speaker 1: you know, what do you think about this? Or what's
Speaker 1: your person? What are your favorite movie? And then sometimes
Speaker 1: it's like nothing at all, like where did you eat today?
Speaker 1: You know? Yeah, like these things that don't matter at all.
Speaker 1: It's just interesting and fascinating. But now I'm not But
Speaker 1: I got you got me thinking brooks of like do
Speaker 1: I have a different habit? What was it? Talk to
Speaker 1: my significant other, you know, Mike, because like I need
Speaker 1: a multitask, and I'm talking to my homies even though
Speaker 1: I love them and I love talking to him, but
Speaker 1: I feel like I gotta be you're moving my body
Speaker 1: in some sort of mindless task or something. But when
Speaker 1: I talk to my wife, I don't really do that.
Speaker 1: You know, I don't think I'm gonna I'm gonna analyze this. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's interesting, Yeah, it's interesting. Um. I'm usually I usually
Speaker 1: have if I'm talking to buddy, You're right, I'll usually
Speaker 1: have like speaker phone or whatever, something going on and
Speaker 1: just kind of fiddling with something whatever I'm talking to, Uh,
Speaker 1: somebody I'm really invested in. You're probably like more present,
Speaker 1: but I should, as a better friend, be more present
Speaker 1: when talking about right, right, Yeah, same Okay, but I
Speaker 1: gotta rapid fire a couple of questions that because we
Speaker 1: still have like a ton of questions for a coach. Um,
Speaker 1: but I'm gonna rapid fire a couple of questions at you.
Speaker 1: So keep your answers to maybe two to three sentences. Okay, okay.
Speaker 1: Best meals someone can prepare for you anything on a barbecue,
Speaker 1: open fire, steak, ribs, sausage, yes, yes, yes, burgers like
Speaker 1: literally Francis moment if you know him, like he cooks
Speaker 1: everything over big open fire Argentine chef. Any like I
Speaker 1: just love that char the smoke, barbecue. I need that
Speaker 1: kind of stuff. Oh yeah, even if it's fruit vegetables
Speaker 1: on a grill, just grill yep. Got you? Okay, when
Speaker 1: did I agree with you on everything you just said? Um?
Speaker 1: Next question? When in a grouchy mood, what's the best
Speaker 1: advice you would give your significant other? Would you say,
Speaker 1: leave me alone, go cook me something? What would you
Speaker 1: These are examples that when you're in a what's the
Speaker 1: best advice you could give? Robin? Probably leave me alone.
Speaker 1: Probably let me go sort out my feeling in my emotions,
Speaker 1: and then I got to be responsible enough to change
Speaker 1: my biochemistry, you know, And I always telling my kids,
Speaker 1: like my kids really cranky. I'm like, go eat a
Speaker 1: piece of chocolate. Let's have some ice cream and then
Speaker 1: focus your attention somewhere and like, you know, it's like,
Speaker 1: I know that sounds silly. Oh you're in a bad mood.
Speaker 1: Let me give you ice cream. Science. There's some science here,
Speaker 1: you know, change the blood sugar, change their focus. Reset,
Speaker 1: let's start over. You know, I have, um, I have
Speaker 1: friends that do this and I respect them for it.
Speaker 1: They're like, I just need a minute or two. They
Speaker 1: just step outside just to like and they go outside
Speaker 1: that just like kind of like shake this energy off
Speaker 1: of them because they know that they've been triggered by something,
Speaker 1: that somebody is doing something to themselves. They've made something personal,
Speaker 1: they've done something like they actually instead of saying just
Speaker 1: leave me alone, go away, that's a very like go away,
Speaker 1: go away. There like a minutes by myself, you know,
Speaker 1: give me a minute. Yeah, that's probably a better way
Speaker 1: to say it instead of saying, leave me alone, give
Speaker 1: me a minute, because you're you're the one that needs
Speaker 1: to do the work right and there it is a
Speaker 1: biochemistry again, you're walking from one environment to another. Going outside,
Speaker 1: You got some vitamint, you hit, you fill up those
Speaker 1: longs oxygen, you know, like to let's take care of ourselves, man, Like,
Speaker 1: that's the greatest skill we can possibly learn, is to
Speaker 1: switch from that negative place to a more proactive, positive place.
Speaker 1: And then they usually come in and apologize that like,
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I just got triggered and I made it
Speaker 1: about me for a second, and I apologize, thank you
Speaker 1: for allowing me to have that, madete. But I'm back
Speaker 1: and I'm present now, and I'm like, you are an
Speaker 1: amazing human beings. That's an awesome person. I want that.
Speaker 1: I want to be great at that skill, right, Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's a new one. Um, I'm not so good at it.
Speaker 1: You blaming a little bit more. I get out I
Speaker 1: needed to better at it. I have friends that definitely
Speaker 1: lead in that in my life. Yeah, yeah, give me
Speaker 1: a minute or like a day, made a couple of days,
Speaker 1: I'll be back. Um, okay, next question, what is your
Speaker 1: biggest pet, Peeve? What completely just irritates you? Arrogance? I
Speaker 1: just there's something about when people are arrogant. It just
Speaker 1: drives me crazy. Um, they treat people poorly. I don't
Speaker 1: like when people get treated poor leak. I try to
Speaker 1: treat strangers, you know, with a lot of love and
Speaker 1: compassion because it just it feels good, It feels right
Speaker 1: when people I just feel like it's all comes from insecurity,
Speaker 1: you know. And I see someone that's really arrogant, I'm like, dude,
Speaker 1: I got your number, man, you got you got something
Speaker 1: you're hiding or not feeling good about you whatever, But
Speaker 1: it's like so much mean stuff comes from it. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I love exactly what you said. I think I'm saying
Speaker 1: the same thing and maybe just saying in a different way.
Speaker 1: But people that feel like they need to be served
Speaker 1: where it's like you need to me or I don't
Speaker 1: do that like somebody else would do. Like people where
Speaker 1: they're like they feel like they're service needs to be
Speaker 1: done to them, you know right right interest Yeah, you
Speaker 1: know they won't. They won't clean up after their dishes.
Speaker 1: Somebody else should clean that up, right, you know. They
Speaker 1: won't make any food, no where's this chef. The chef
Speaker 1: should make this, or somebody makes that for me. And
Speaker 1: I saw a lot of this in professional sports. I
Speaker 1: saw a lot of athletes just on like expecting to
Speaker 1: be served served is an entitlement? Is that what it is?
Speaker 1: Maybe it might be you're just you're catered to, right,
Speaker 1: the team came to you, like, they'll even carry your
Speaker 1: luggage up to your room, right right. You don't have
Speaker 1: like are you kidding me? Like and so this kind
Speaker 1: of mindset just to some people, it just kind of
Speaker 1: takes over and then they just think that they're they're
Speaker 1: in this world to be served, right service. Yeah, Okay,
Speaker 1: moving on. Tell us one thing that people can't google about,
Speaker 1: something that we don't know about, Mr Bart Johnson that
Speaker 1: we will not find on Google. Oh jeez, oh my gosh,
Speaker 1: you stump me. Uh, I could find everything, right, I'm
Speaker 1: special talents hidden, hidden talents special like um, things you
Speaker 1: really like or enjoy, maybe like classical piano music I
Speaker 1: don't know, like something I'm a singer. What no one
Speaker 1: knows that. Nobody knows that. And it's funny because I
Speaker 1: got this music and and I'm a dancer, said so
Speaker 1: I started a musical dance theater. Nobody knows that. And
Speaker 1: so when I got this musical franchise, right, I'm like, oh,
Speaker 1: finally in a musical. And I had a number. I
Speaker 1: had a song, and a dance in this I was
Speaker 1: gonna do it a duet with my nemesis, Ms Darbys,
Speaker 1: you evil Miss Darbys, and Disney cut it because they
Speaker 1: said they didn't want to see old people dancing, so
Speaker 1: so they left the teenagers dance and I sat there
Speaker 1: man the whole movie, all these movies, I'm like, man,
Speaker 1: half these guys don't sing or dance, and like I
Speaker 1: actually sing and dance, and I gotta stand here. I
Speaker 1: watched them do this, so it kind of it kind
Speaker 1: of killed me. It's kind of like goes back to
Speaker 1: my what I'm saying earlier about about high school, like
Speaker 1: I have this, you know, like people have this perception
Speaker 1: of me being this big old bully or like big
Speaker 1: old like sports guy. Now that you know I'm the coach,
Speaker 1: Like that's not I did musical dance theater my entire
Speaker 1: time in high school and got beat up for it,
Speaker 1: you know, and it's like, now I'm that really thinks
Speaker 1: I'm just a bully. What a gift to have. I
Speaker 1: think singing is beautiful. I think dancing is just like
Speaker 1: insanely beautiful. Both are just like I'm not proficient at either.
Speaker 1: I've never dedicated time to develop either one, but I
Speaker 1: have such an admiration from both. H Yeah, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: it's it's great. I do love it. I've been thinking
Speaker 1: about doing a little uh on TikTok for quarantine. I'm like, Okay,
Speaker 1: everybody's saying I'll do this for you know again, it
Speaker 1: was like, I'm doing this for my wildcats. I'm doing
Speaker 1: it for my my people out there. And then what crazy?
Speaker 1: They got fifty million of views on this on my
Speaker 1: first video. It was like, okay, So I've been thinking
Speaker 1: about doing like busting out a little song because I
Speaker 1: think people would get a kick out of coaching. Do it, man,
Speaker 1: I get your kids involved, Like, um, I think it'd
Speaker 1: be so cool. I've never done a TikTok. Actually I
Speaker 1: did one TikTok, but um, if I had kids, for sure,
Speaker 1: i'd be. I love seeing dad's see Mario Lopez do it.
Speaker 1: He's done some um Jessica, but does a bunch of
Speaker 1: their kids stuff like that? Like you see a bunch
Speaker 1: of people doing TikTok's with their kids, I think it's
Speaker 1: just um okay. Next question, Um, this is a relationship one.
Speaker 1: Should you never go to bed angry or sleep on it?
Speaker 1: And talk it out in the morning. Oh, I gotta
Speaker 1: I gotta mixed feelings about that one. I think I
Speaker 1: think maybe a hybrid maybe, you know, like you don't
Speaker 1: want to go if you could somehow work again, work
Speaker 1: on that muscle, man, work on that muscle of like
Speaker 1: you never uh, you never want to get to a
Speaker 1: certain level. Like I here's a here's a piece of
Speaker 1: relationship advice I have for everybody. Don't ever talk about divorce. Don't.
Speaker 1: That's that's irresponsible. But people do that because it's a
Speaker 1: it's a weapon or it's an ammunition. Right, It's like, oh, yeah,
Speaker 1: well we wo's just get divorced. No that you can't.
Speaker 1: But that's too disrespect less, disrespects your relationship. Don't just
Speaker 1: don't go there. Just don't go there. Like there's a
Speaker 1: certain amount of respect, um you need to have for
Speaker 1: your relationship and that you don't say permanent hurtful things
Speaker 1: like that that are hard to be fact, that are
Speaker 1: going to haunt you later whatever else. So like you know, um,
Speaker 1: trying to go to bed by saying I disagree, let's
Speaker 1: let's sort it out tomorrow. But I do think like
Speaker 1: trying to you know, look, you're tired. You've gotta get
Speaker 1: up early. There's a there's a clock, and it's like,
Speaker 1: now you've got to resolve this thing. It's sometimes it's
Speaker 1: not I don't I think it's not a good idea.
Speaker 1: So sometimes it's good to sleep it off. But maybe
Speaker 1: like a certain level of perspective, like I respect you,
Speaker 1: respect your opinion, I love you, I'm mad at you.
Speaker 1: Let's go to bed and then then deal with it
Speaker 1: in the morning. It's always interesting to ask people how
Speaker 1: they deal with that, because every couples are different. There's
Speaker 1: no right or wrong way. People deal with it differently. Um. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but I appreciate that, dude. Okay, lastly, Um, the best
Speaker 1: pickup line you've gotten on a d M um? Have
Speaker 1: you do you get? I mean, people know you're married,
Speaker 1: but do you get pickup lines in your d m s.
Speaker 1: We're gonna do a show next week. We're gonna do
Speaker 1: a show about dating during COVID and specifically like d ms.
Speaker 1: So I know people know that you're faithfully married and stuff,
Speaker 1: but you still do people still just drop lines in
Speaker 1: your d m s. Yeah, let's see. Uh, well, I
Speaker 1: get a lot of questions about my son, as you know,
Speaker 1: as you would. UM, a lot of people saying asking
Speaker 1: me if I'll be their sugar daddy. That's nice, that's fine.
Speaker 1: I'm not really you know, I'm not really putting it
Speaker 1: out there. You know, I don't think so. I don't
Speaker 1: get it. I don't get as much, honestly, Like it's
Speaker 1: all in my comments, Like people are more forthcoming in
Speaker 1: my comments than Yeah, I swear man, it's it's wild.
Speaker 1: It's wild. Here's here's a couple that our producer Danielle
Speaker 1: has seen. If you're a menu and McDonald's, you'd be
Speaker 1: mc gorgeous. If I wish I could take you to
Speaker 1: the movies, but they don't let snacks in. Um. Oh man.
Speaker 1: So we're gonna do it next week. We're gonna do
Speaker 1: a show dating during COVID. We're gonna do a show
Speaker 1: about like, how are people how are people who were
Speaker 1: single dating during this time? Are they sliding into d
Speaker 1: m s? Are they using that? How do you go
Speaker 1: about doing it? All that kind of stuff? But what
Speaker 1: would be your best advice for somebody that's single dating
Speaker 1: during this time? Oh? Gosh, come on, I mean, you know,
Speaker 1: I mean, it's pretty fun that you can look at
Speaker 1: someone social media and see what they're putting out there.
Speaker 1: You know, you could you could kind of see like,
Speaker 1: oh they are fun, or they guarded, or they try
Speaker 1: to put out too much, you know, too much of
Speaker 1: a certain thing, or they you know. I mean I
Speaker 1: always tell people like, look, man, you've got to look
Speaker 1: at personality first. You have to, because that will never
Speaker 1: fail you. It'll be so entertaining and so fulfilling, and
Speaker 1: you have so much fun. Looks come way down the line,
Speaker 1: they really do. And I know, like when I was
Speaker 1: in my twenties, I probably didn't think that, but I
Speaker 1: mean I was dating people that maybe I was putting
Speaker 1: looks first at some point in my life. But man,
Speaker 1: what a what a mistake, What a mistake that this.
Speaker 1: So look at your social mediacity. Who's like fun, who
Speaker 1: cracks you up, who's entertaining? And if you can make
Speaker 1: your decisions based on that, I think you're gonna be
Speaker 1: served in the long run. I actually think the world
Speaker 1: is waking up to being able to analyze and interpret
Speaker 1: digital energy in a yeah, I totally agree, absolutely, that's
Speaker 1: well said. Yeah, you can see somebody on social media
Speaker 1: and you're like, I just have a feeling this person
Speaker 1: is like really kind, really genuine person just by what
Speaker 1: they're putting out, and then you can see somebody you
Speaker 1: can be like, I'm just off. I'm just put off
Speaker 1: by what they're putting out. There's something I don't know
Speaker 1: what it is, but energetically there's something toxic there. And
Speaker 1: I think the world is getting a better uh compass
Speaker 1: and navigation point on, like you know, what is truthful,
Speaker 1: what is inauthentic, who's real, who's fake? That kind of stuff.
Speaker 1: I think digital energy people are really becoming more in
Speaker 1: tune with digesting it interesting. Yeah, um yeah, okay, last question,
Speaker 1: brother is I've never asked this question on this show,
Speaker 1: but my last question it's a kind of a journey
Speaker 1: in the study that I've been on in my own
Speaker 1: personal life and asking people close to me. Um, what
Speaker 1: is your personal relationship with happiness? Happiness? Mhm boy, Um,
Speaker 1: how does happen? What is happiness to you? Well? I guess,
Speaker 1: I you know, maybe I've spent some time differentiating between
Speaker 1: fun and joy, I guess, and like happiness could be
Speaker 1: both those things could be You're having a lot of fun. Um,
Speaker 1: But but but joy, I mean, I name it whatever
Speaker 1: you want. I guess there there's one that's much more fulfilling,
Speaker 1: and um, we'll live longer. I think in your in
Speaker 1: your soul, and I like to have fun, Like everybody
Speaker 1: knows me. It's like that dude likes that fun. I mean,
Speaker 1: as you saw Brooks, like I got you know, I
Speaker 1: got surfboards, and I got you know, wakes boat and
Speaker 1: like you know, motorcycles. Got but I've got seven dirt
Speaker 1: bikes on my garage, like you know, like I like
Speaker 1: to have fun. Man, like I left to have fun
Speaker 1: my kids and know that I like to have fun. Um,
Speaker 1: But also, uh, it's the more fulfillings of the more
Speaker 1: more important um is the the relationships, you know, Like
Speaker 1: the true sense of happiness and joy and fulfillment is serving.
Speaker 1: And I think that if there's one thing I've learned
Speaker 1: in my life is that pursuing something fun or thrilling
Speaker 1: is fleeting. But if you can have fun with those
Speaker 1: that you are serving, you know, we do more for
Speaker 1: our kids than we'd ever do for ourselves. And that
Speaker 1: goes for my family too. I do more for my siblings,
Speaker 1: more for my mom, my dad arrested piece, Um, you know,
Speaker 1: I would do more for for those then I would
Speaker 1: do for myself and and and that goes to even
Speaker 1: serving in my community, you know, like you know, I've
Speaker 1: I've been a leader in the boy Scouts and youth
Speaker 1: programs and soccer and like all, you know, all this
Speaker 1: stuff and coach so much. Um, I find that so
Speaker 1: incredibly fulfilling. So when you can marry the two and
Speaker 1: you can have your happiness and you're fun with people,
Speaker 1: you're serving, it's uh, it's rich, it's rich and it
Speaker 1: and it feels your fills your soul. Dude, I love it. Coach,
Speaker 1: I love it. You could be a coach. You are
Speaker 1: well you are a coach, but you play a coach.
Speaker 1: You are a coach. But truthfully, man, um you really
Speaker 1: you really I felt like I've been coached during this
Speaker 1: past hour. So, um, where can people find you? Bart?
Speaker 1: Where do you hang out? Social media? Where can people
Speaker 1: find you? What are you working on? Where can people
Speaker 1: because our our community after listening to you, is definitely
Speaker 1: gonna want to find more about you. Where can they
Speaker 1: grab it? Awesome? Awesome? Um? I And on Instagram and man,
Speaker 1: I think everything, I think I have the same tag
Speaker 1: on everything and it's at Bart Underscore Johnson so um Instagram,
Speaker 1: I'm new on TikTok and make fun of me there. Um,
Speaker 1: I got a YouTube channel. I started a YouTube channel
Speaker 1: with my family, which I need. It's it's a lot
Speaker 1: of work, man, you need an editor. I love it.
Speaker 1: I love It's so much fun. But I've got like
Speaker 1: hard drives of material. Although like these trips like this
Speaker 1: trip Daaly and Postreaca or you know wherever else and uh,
Speaker 1: I just can't. I just can't get to the editing, man,
Speaker 1: the editing. But those YouTube oh dude, it's brutal. Like,
Speaker 1: give me the camera. I can shoot stuff all day
Speaker 1: long and love it and enjoy it sitting by myself
Speaker 1: behind a computer for a couple of days. Oh my gosh,
Speaker 1: it's rough. Yeah, you gotta pay somebody to edit that. Bro. Um.
Speaker 1: But dude, I love your mission. Man Um. I just
Speaker 1: look up to you as a man and as a husband,
Speaker 1: as a father, and I love just I wish our
Speaker 1: listeners could see the amount of joy and light envibrants
Speaker 1: in your face and your eyes speaking about your family. Um,
Speaker 1: it was wonderful to have you on my man um.
Speaker 1: Any last words for our community, anything, anything that's gonna
Speaker 1: change their life, right now, Bart, I would just say Brooks,
Speaker 1: thank you so much and thanks for um, you know,
Speaker 1: a podcast where you talk about things that really matter
Speaker 1: in a cool way that that I think people will
Speaker 1: be able to next to him resumes, So this is
Speaker 1: this is the best interview I've ever done. And I've
Speaker 1: done this for twenty five years now, so I appreciate
Speaker 1: this very much, And thanks for directing the conversation. That's
Speaker 1: such a fun, like productive way. And this is also
Speaker 1: I love what you're doing. Man, I'm I'm so glad
Speaker 1: I did this, so thanks for having me. I appreciate it.
Speaker 1: I think it's super powerful, uh, in this day and
Speaker 1: age to hear men specifically and masculine men. They could
Speaker 1: be like what, but like masculine men like yourself open
Speaker 1: up and talk about how much they just love their family,
Speaker 1: how much they pour into their kids, how much they
Speaker 1: you know, how much it touches their soul, and how
Speaker 1: they cried when they saw their daughter do this, And like,
Speaker 1: I think it's so powerful for dudes, for for all
Speaker 1: kinds of males. There's no right or wrong way to
Speaker 1: be a man, but just for masculine energy to open
Speaker 1: up and share um emotions and things that matter to
Speaker 1: their heart. And I think it's going to change the world.
Speaker 1: I really do. And and you've been a you've been
Speaker 1: a you spear your head of that here today for us,
Speaker 1: so our listeners are better for it. I'm better for it,
Speaker 1: my man. I applaud your mission if I can ever
Speaker 1: return the favor. And what are you doing? What's the
Speaker 1: Tuesdays when you do uh wild cat Tuesday? Oh yeah,
Speaker 1: we're all in this together. Tuesdays together Tuesday? Yea, come
Speaker 1: on by. I'm gonna do a lot. Uh well, I've
Speaker 1: been doing it like five pm. But um, everybody, I
Speaker 1: got a lot a lot of wild cats out there
Speaker 1: in the UK. They want me to do it sooner.
Speaker 1: So I think I'm gonna shoot for like noon noon
Speaker 1: on Tuesdays on Tuesdays. Okay, we're all in this together. Also,
Speaker 1: last thing, my high school while my school was kindergarten
Speaker 1: to grade twelve. So I grew up in a small town,
Speaker 1: but we were the Wildcat'll come on there, we go
Speaker 1: full circle right there. We're brothers, man, we are brothers, brothers. Coach.
Speaker 1: I appreciate you, Bart, I appreciate you, man. If I
Speaker 1: can ever serve your mission. Please let me know. Thank
Speaker 1: you to everybody that listened. Tune in this week, come
Speaker 1: back next week for an interesting conversation of dating during
Speaker 1: COVID Bart. You're the man. Much love, stay safe, be
Speaker 1: well with your family, and to our listeners, take care
Speaker 1: of one another, love one another, and we'll see you.
Speaker 1: Back here next week for another episode at How Many
Speaker 1: Things