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Speaker 1: This is How Men Think with growths Like and Gavin

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Speaker 1: de grab and I Hear Radio podcast. Welcome to another

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Speaker 1: episode of How Men Think. My name is Brooks Like

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Speaker 1: and this is a show where we dive into the

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Speaker 1: mind of a man and we're an open book to

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Speaker 1: share the thoughts, emotions, feelings, aspirations of a male of

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Speaker 1: the male mindset. And we do that to serve the community.

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Speaker 1: So we always love getting questions from our community and

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Speaker 1: then we try and bring on high level people to

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Speaker 1: answer those questions. Questions about life, questions about confidence, fatherhood, marriage, relationship, career,

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Speaker 1: all that kind of stuff. And so we have many

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Speaker 1: of those questions today and we have a special guest

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Speaker 1: with us today. Um He was exposed to the TV

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Speaker 1: and film industry at a very young age. In the

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Speaker 1: mid nineties. He film debut in My Family and he

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Speaker 1: also had TV roles on Hyperion, Bathe, Lifetimes, The Client List,

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Speaker 1: Hawaii five Oh. But everybody probably knows him. He's most

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Speaker 1: well known for his role in high school musical as

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Speaker 1: Coach Bolton. He is a husband, he is a father

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Speaker 1: of three, and he's our very special co host today,

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Speaker 1: Mr Bart Johnson. Welcome to the show. Ah that's that

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Speaker 1: was a great introm And I feel kind of smart now,

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Speaker 1: and uh, I feel high level. So thanks man, And

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Speaker 1: yeah it's uh, it's been a it's been a good run.

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Speaker 1: But man, I'll tell you that one stuck. Yeah, that one.

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Speaker 1: And I love that. I love that you're coming to us.

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Speaker 1: I wish our our listeners could see that Coach Bolton

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Speaker 1: is coming to us live from his home gym right now. Actually,

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Speaker 1: I got funny enough. I do have a rack basketball's

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Speaker 1: that looks exactly like the one in the movies. Yeah. Uh,

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Speaker 1: there's a couple of like props you could say that

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Speaker 1: are you know, hangovers from Actually you know what now

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Speaker 1: I think about it? What you got? What you got?

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Speaker 1: He's coach, you know. It's just I mean I got

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Speaker 1: you know, I got my I got my East High hoodies.

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Speaker 1: Yes here, that's so that's my life. I just can't

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Speaker 1: escape it. But I don't. I don't try that hard either.

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Speaker 1: So so answer this as honestly as you possibly can

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Speaker 1: on set? Things of just you know, you know, it's

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Speaker 1: don't know I'm I'm a little more nostalgic, I guess

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Speaker 1: or something. I'm I'm a softie, So I lets to

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Speaker 1: start look around. I'm like, I know this stuff, this

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Speaker 1: is gonna be epic. So I was taking pictures. Actually,

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Speaker 1: when we did the first one, we didn't really have

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Speaker 1: like cell phones. Um, you know, like now there's cell

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Speaker 1: phones on sets and everybody's reporting to everything. Back then,

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Speaker 1: like when we did the first one, that wasn't really

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Speaker 1: you know, I was fourteen years ago, man, it wasn't

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Speaker 1: very very popular. So I was using my laptop and

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Speaker 1: I've got like all this video behind the scenes of

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Speaker 1: my laptop, which it's probably it's probably valuable at this point.

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Speaker 1: It's probably gold, right, it's probably gold. I'm sure it

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Speaker 1: is to something to through a certain generation. So during COVID,

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Speaker 1: we do all of these podcasts, the how Man Thing

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Speaker 1: can't go to the studio. Everything shuts down obviously, so

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Speaker 1: I'm always like curious and entertained when I see what

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Speaker 1: background people have where they're where they're comfortable, where they're sitting,

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Speaker 1: where they're at. Are they traveling somewhere that they do

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Speaker 1: an airbnb somewhere? Are they home? But you are coming

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Speaker 1: from your your home gym there, which I'm just a

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Speaker 1: fan of. I love that You've got the heavy bag,

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Speaker 1: heavy bag, get a surfboard in there. Uh, tell me,

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Speaker 1: because I love home gyms, tell me a little bit

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Speaker 1: about your home gym. Why you built it? Well, Um,

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Speaker 1: like seven years later. It's amazing. Um, I do it

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Speaker 1: let's do it. You know, honestly, Brooks, I don't think

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Speaker 1: And I don't know why, you know, a lot more

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Speaker 1: It's unfortunately health gets pushed down the totem pole. And

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Speaker 1: But you need to be around. You want to be

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Speaker 1: what about just in your overall general life? How have

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Speaker 1: even paying attention to them. Right, No, it does. It

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Speaker 1: that position, though. Some people are just trying to survive. Man,

425
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Speaker 1: So it's like you gotta reckons. There's a whole variety

426
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Speaker 1: of people in a variety of different positions. But some

427
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Speaker 1: people that is what I tell my tell my people.

428
00:21:06,400 --> 00:21:09,280
Speaker 1: I say, guys, listen, we're wildcats. Now we've got that

429
00:21:09,320 --> 00:21:12,160
Speaker 1: strong mental game. We gotta look for opportunities, Like let's

430
00:21:12,320 --> 00:21:15,119
Speaker 1: let's look for opportunities if it's just an opportunity to

431
00:21:15,720 --> 00:21:18,080
Speaker 1: like dig out our our sense of gratitude. Like let's

432
00:21:18,080 --> 00:21:20,520
Speaker 1: think about, man, we used to go to our friend's

433
00:21:20,520 --> 00:21:24,520
Speaker 1: house anytime we want it without any sort of cost

434
00:21:24,600 --> 00:21:26,760
Speaker 1: involved or risk. We used to go to the store

435
00:21:26,920 --> 00:21:28,840
Speaker 1: and go to several of and a by slurpee and

436
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Speaker 1: like not think anything of it, like the small, tiny

437
00:21:31,200 --> 00:21:34,600
Speaker 1: little things like can we reevaluate can we like re

438
00:21:35,040 --> 00:21:38,240
Speaker 1: envision those things as like gifts instead of just like nonsense,

439
00:21:38,280 --> 00:21:40,359
Speaker 1: just no wise or whatever, Like can we look at

440
00:21:40,400 --> 00:21:44,440
Speaker 1: those and say, man, those are those are gifts? Man,

441
00:21:44,520 --> 00:21:46,600
Speaker 1: those are like we have the ability to through all

442
00:21:46,640 --> 00:21:51,400
Speaker 1: these little things with no thought involved. And there, let's

443
00:21:51,440 --> 00:21:53,360
Speaker 1: maybe we can fill up our sense of gratitude. Man,

444
00:21:53,359 --> 00:21:55,639
Speaker 1: maybe we could dig deep and say, look, we're not

445
00:21:55,720 --> 00:21:58,560
Speaker 1: only way alive and above ground and surviving, but like

446
00:21:58,600 --> 00:21:59,760
Speaker 1: we get to do we get to go to the

447
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Speaker 1: bar anytime we want, you know, like that's amazing, that's amazing.

448
00:22:03,880 --> 00:22:06,040
Speaker 1: And then for some of us, like, hey, let's let's

449
00:22:06,040 --> 00:22:08,040
Speaker 1: work on that mental game. Man, let's work. We got

450
00:22:08,040 --> 00:22:11,280
Speaker 1: that strong mental game, let's let's exercise it. Let's get stronger.

451
00:22:11,480 --> 00:22:13,399
Speaker 1: And and uh and this so I tell people, is

452
00:22:13,800 --> 00:22:16,520
Speaker 1: uh uh this great quote, this great quote that I

453
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Speaker 1: heard from my dad, and it was stand guard the

454
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Speaker 1: portal full of your mind. You didn't coin the phrase,

455
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Speaker 1: he just told me the phrase standard the portal of

456
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Speaker 1: your mind. And I love that. And it's like, okay,

457
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Speaker 1: what does that? What does that mean? Stay and guard

458
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Speaker 1: the portal of your mind? Okay, well you you stand guard.

459
00:22:31,240 --> 00:22:34,479
Speaker 1: It's it's your job. You decide what goes in your

460
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Speaker 1: mind and what stays in them. You let fear go in.

461
00:22:36,760 --> 00:22:40,080
Speaker 1: You're gonna let doubt, you know, let insecurities, you let negativity.

462
00:22:40,200 --> 00:22:42,280
Speaker 1: Hey man, that's up to you. You stay and guard

463
00:22:42,520 --> 00:22:44,440
Speaker 1: and if it sneaks in, it's your job to get

464
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Speaker 1: it out. So like, let's stay positive, Let's stay like,

465
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Speaker 1: let's stay you only let things in your mind that

466
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Speaker 1: are proactive, so uh or empowering you know, that are

467
00:22:54,640 --> 00:22:57,240
Speaker 1: gonna empower you. And that's like to me, that's that's

468
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Speaker 1: the goal. And now I don't even remember the original questions.

469
00:23:00,600 --> 00:23:03,879
Speaker 1: I love what you're saying. So dude, you got me

470
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Speaker 1: fired up, Like you have me so fired up. I'm like,

471
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Speaker 1: what did this guy do this morning that he's just

472
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Speaker 1: peak energy right now at the time of this phone call.

473
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Speaker 1: But you've got me You could be an inspiration so speaker,

474
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Speaker 1: you already aren't in so many ways, but like you

475
00:23:16,800 --> 00:23:18,320
Speaker 1: could do a tour on it, because you've got me

476
00:23:18,400 --> 00:23:20,000
Speaker 1: fired up in ten minutes that I've talked to you.

477
00:23:20,880 --> 00:23:23,439
Speaker 1: But so for you and I, because I believe I'm

478
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Speaker 1: very good at standing guard the portal of my mind

479
00:23:26,280 --> 00:23:28,359
Speaker 1: as well, and you are as well. For you and I,

480
00:23:28,440 --> 00:23:31,080
Speaker 1: maybe it comes natural, Maybe we've developed it over time.

481
00:23:31,160 --> 00:23:34,399
Speaker 1: Your father taught you about it. What about for somebody

482
00:23:34,400 --> 00:23:36,480
Speaker 1: that's just hearing this, What about for somebody's in our

483
00:23:36,480 --> 00:23:40,320
Speaker 1: community that's listening to saying I'm overwhelmed with with like

484
00:23:40,520 --> 00:23:45,080
Speaker 1: struggle and insecurity and fear on COVID and like uncertainty

485
00:23:45,080 --> 00:23:47,840
Speaker 1: in my life, Like all of this is consuming my mind.

486
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Speaker 1: Because that's really that's happening to a lot of people.

487
00:23:50,160 --> 00:23:52,520
Speaker 1: A lot of people are very anxious right now. How

488
00:23:52,560 --> 00:23:55,560
Speaker 1: can we kind of, step by step in a little

489
00:23:55,600 --> 00:23:58,960
Speaker 1: way give them something like stand guard the portal of

490
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Speaker 1: your mind. But what else can we teach them or

491
00:24:01,000 --> 00:24:05,200
Speaker 1: tell them to do right now to get some control back. Yeah,

492
00:24:05,240 --> 00:24:09,679
Speaker 1: that's a it's a great question, because you're right, everybody's

493
00:24:09,680 --> 00:24:11,879
Speaker 1: in a different place on different levels and has different

494
00:24:11,960 --> 00:24:15,560
Speaker 1: variety of challenges and things like that. I think gratitude

495
00:24:15,600 --> 00:24:19,439
Speaker 1: is the key man. Gratitude is the key. Um. We

496
00:24:19,520 --> 00:24:21,840
Speaker 1: are in control of what we focus on, we're on,

497
00:24:22,160 --> 00:24:23,760
Speaker 1: We're in control of what we look at where we

498
00:24:23,800 --> 00:24:25,680
Speaker 1: where we put our eyes, where we put our focus

499
00:24:25,800 --> 00:24:28,280
Speaker 1: or focus goes energy flows. You know what are we

500
00:24:28,320 --> 00:24:30,080
Speaker 1: gonna stare at what? Well? You are gonna look at

501
00:24:30,080 --> 00:24:31,800
Speaker 1: our family? Are we gonna look at what's missing? A

502
00:24:31,800 --> 00:24:33,720
Speaker 1: We're gonna look at our you know, our ore dwindling

503
00:24:33,760 --> 00:24:36,440
Speaker 1: bank account. We're gonna look at like hey, I'm above ground,

504
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Speaker 1: I'm standing you know, I'm standing there. I'm in control.

505
00:24:38,480 --> 00:24:40,520
Speaker 1: I can I make the choices in my life. Were

506
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Speaker 1: in a free country where we can go do whatever

507
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Speaker 1: we want to do. Like, there's so many things to

508
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Speaker 1: be grateful for, and honestly, I think it's a wonderful

509
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Speaker 1: time to reevaluate family and friends. Those things are those

510
00:24:54,960 --> 00:24:56,760
Speaker 1: are the things that won't fail you, you know. I mean,

511
00:24:57,040 --> 00:24:59,320
Speaker 1: sure you'll have challenges and and and uh it might

512
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Speaker 1: feel like fail sious at times, but man, if you

513
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Speaker 1: can reevaluate like the fact that you have a family,

514
00:25:04,480 --> 00:25:07,360
Speaker 1: or like if you have damage relationships, go fix those relationships,

515
00:25:07,359 --> 00:25:10,680
Speaker 1: like you know, nurture them, you know, um grow them,

516
00:25:10,760 --> 00:25:13,760
Speaker 1: and you know if they're there and they're weak, you know, Brooks,

517
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Speaker 1: I know talking to an athlete, like I know you

518
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Speaker 1: get this, but I love the analogy of the gym

519
00:25:19,160 --> 00:25:22,000
Speaker 1: because it's so visual and it's like, okay, you walk

520
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Speaker 1: in the gym and your biceps week, what are you

521
00:25:23,720 --> 00:25:26,120
Speaker 1: gonna do a bunch of these well, okay, yeah, you're

522
00:25:26,119 --> 00:25:27,960
Speaker 1: a bunch of those is gonna grow. You put some

523
00:25:28,080 --> 00:25:30,359
Speaker 1: pressure on there, you make it hard, you make it

524
00:25:30,359 --> 00:25:32,560
Speaker 1: difficult to pull that on. Okay, now you're gonna have

525
00:25:32,760 --> 00:25:35,720
Speaker 1: a lot more growth. So how off to do that

526
00:25:35,880 --> 00:25:38,600
Speaker 1: every stinking day? Man? You can't. You don't work out

527
00:25:38,600 --> 00:25:41,600
Speaker 1: once a month or once a year. Every day work

528
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Speaker 1: on that little muscle. So if you have a little

529
00:25:43,240 --> 00:25:45,440
Speaker 1: if you have a tiny little bit of gratitude, that's okay.

530
00:25:45,800 --> 00:25:47,280
Speaker 1: Just recognize what you're at. If you have a tiny

531
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Speaker 1: little bit of effort of like controlling my my always

532
00:25:49,960 --> 00:25:52,159
Speaker 1: go to negative, always go to insecurities, always go to

533
00:25:52,240 --> 00:25:55,160
Speaker 1: things that make me feel like junk. Okay, that's okay.

534
00:25:55,359 --> 00:25:57,320
Speaker 1: Just work that muscle. Man, Let's start working in that muscle.

535
00:25:57,480 --> 00:25:59,200
Speaker 1: What can you do a little more focus? Hey, here's

536
00:25:59,200 --> 00:26:00,840
Speaker 1: an idea, here's an do you can do right now.

537
00:26:01,240 --> 00:26:03,920
Speaker 1: Pull out a book, a little little writing tablet, get

538
00:26:03,920 --> 00:26:07,159
Speaker 1: a pen, start a timer, and no joke, just like

539
00:26:07,200 --> 00:26:10,000
Speaker 1: as an exercise, hit ten minutes and don't stop writing

540
00:26:10,040 --> 00:26:12,440
Speaker 1: right ten minutes of everything you're grateful for, and try

541
00:26:12,480 --> 00:26:14,080
Speaker 1: to come up with stuff you haven't thought out of

542
00:26:14,359 --> 00:26:16,679
Speaker 1: and challenge yourself and say like, okay, then here's something

543
00:26:16,720 --> 00:26:18,280
Speaker 1: I haven't thought of it it in a few years. You

544
00:26:18,320 --> 00:26:20,440
Speaker 1: know what, here's another idea, and you write this whole

545
00:26:20,440 --> 00:26:22,840
Speaker 1: thing and just like you know, stream of conscious you

546
00:26:22,920 --> 00:26:25,000
Speaker 1: let your let your mind like flow. Maybe do it

547
00:26:25,000 --> 00:26:26,840
Speaker 1: with a friend that you trust, and then you can

548
00:26:26,880 --> 00:26:28,520
Speaker 1: compare notes like oh, that's a good idea. You know

549
00:26:28,520 --> 00:26:31,200
Speaker 1: what I'm gonna do. And that's like okay, now you're

550
00:26:31,200 --> 00:26:34,320
Speaker 1: controlling your mind. Now, maybe this visceral sort of you

551
00:26:34,359 --> 00:26:37,280
Speaker 1: know idea of directing your focus is maybe a little

552
00:26:37,280 --> 00:26:39,720
Speaker 1: hard to comprehend. So how do we how do a

553
00:26:39,720 --> 00:26:42,520
Speaker 1: real practical purpose? There's an idea. Just write it down, man,

554
00:26:42,600 --> 00:26:44,040
Speaker 1: let your mind go there. Now, all of a sudden,

555
00:26:44,080 --> 00:26:46,840
Speaker 1: you're writing, you're writing, your your mind's going there, your focus,

556
00:26:46,960 --> 00:26:49,080
Speaker 1: you're reading. So there's all these different senses that are

557
00:26:49,080 --> 00:26:52,440
Speaker 1: being engaged and it's like boom, now you're controlling your focus.

558
00:26:53,119 --> 00:26:54,879
Speaker 1: I love it. I love gratitude. I love that you

559
00:26:54,920 --> 00:26:59,120
Speaker 1: went to gratitude. Um because it's it's a big part

560
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Speaker 1: of my life. And when I I kind of have

561
00:27:01,480 --> 00:27:03,000
Speaker 1: a couple of pillars in my life. And one of

562
00:27:03,040 --> 00:27:05,119
Speaker 1: the pillars in my life that when I noticed that

563
00:27:05,240 --> 00:27:08,399
Speaker 1: my when I start feeling overwhelmed or angry or like

564
00:27:08,480 --> 00:27:11,960
Speaker 1: anxious or something, the first thing that dissipates in my

565
00:27:12,040 --> 00:27:15,840
Speaker 1: life is my gratitude. Right, That's the first thing that

566
00:27:15,920 --> 00:27:19,240
Speaker 1: dissipates where I'm like, wow, I I still have love

567
00:27:19,359 --> 00:27:21,640
Speaker 1: present in my life. I still have like these other

568
00:27:21,760 --> 00:27:25,119
Speaker 1: characteristics present my life, but like gratitude is not president

569
00:27:25,160 --> 00:27:26,879
Speaker 1: of my life. And you know what, when I'm actually

570
00:27:26,920 --> 00:27:31,439
Speaker 1: most grateful, I'm actually my most grateful self during and

571
00:27:31,640 --> 00:27:35,879
Speaker 1: after workouts. I used I used to have this thing

572
00:27:35,960 --> 00:27:37,760
Speaker 1: where when I work out at Have you ever been

573
00:27:37,800 --> 00:27:41,399
Speaker 1: to Brick CrossFit in West Hollywood. Yeah, So outside of

574
00:27:41,440 --> 00:27:43,800
Speaker 1: Brick there was this big dumpster and I had this

575
00:27:43,840 --> 00:27:46,080
Speaker 1: thing where this one summer I was training there for

576
00:27:46,520 --> 00:27:48,880
Speaker 1: to play hockey, and every day that I came out

577
00:27:48,880 --> 00:27:52,800
Speaker 1: of there, if I ever saw a homeless person like

578
00:27:52,840 --> 00:27:55,440
Speaker 1: culling through the dumpster, I would give them the top

579
00:27:55,480 --> 00:27:57,560
Speaker 1: bill in my wallet, whatever it was where there was

580
00:27:57,560 --> 00:27:59,040
Speaker 1: a twenty, whether it was a hundred, whether it was

581
00:27:59,080 --> 00:28:01,920
Speaker 1: a one five, whatever it was, that was my thing

582
00:28:02,240 --> 00:28:04,879
Speaker 1: because I walked out of the gym just feeling immense gratitude,

583
00:28:04,880 --> 00:28:06,600
Speaker 1: and I'd see this person like, I want to give

584
00:28:06,640 --> 00:28:08,399
Speaker 1: them the top bill, and I wouldn't even look at it.

585
00:28:08,440 --> 00:28:10,600
Speaker 1: I just give it to them. I love that. I

586
00:28:10,640 --> 00:28:14,199
Speaker 1: feel so alive and so gratitude is so important in

587
00:28:14,240 --> 00:28:16,520
Speaker 1: my life and keeping it a focus and you, like

588
00:28:16,800 --> 00:28:19,600
Speaker 1: you said, actively working on it, getting touches on it

589
00:28:19,800 --> 00:28:22,640
Speaker 1: daily to strengthen that muscle, and then it will become

590
00:28:22,640 --> 00:28:27,399
Speaker 1: more and more prominent. And likewise, it's extremely hard to

591
00:28:27,440 --> 00:28:30,400
Speaker 1: hang out and be friends with somebody who is not grateful,

592
00:28:31,720 --> 00:28:37,600
Speaker 1: right because everything album it is. I honestly I struggle

593
00:28:37,600 --> 00:28:39,680
Speaker 1: with that because I've got some friends, I've got a

594
00:28:39,680 --> 00:28:42,760
Speaker 1: friend circle that I honor and cherish and so grateful

595
00:28:42,800 --> 00:28:45,920
Speaker 1: for these guys. But not all of them are really positive,

596
00:28:45,960 --> 00:28:47,760
Speaker 1: you know, some of them are really kind of bad

597
00:28:47,760 --> 00:28:50,160
Speaker 1: at it, And I'm like, oh man, not not not that.

598
00:28:50,280 --> 00:28:54,000
Speaker 1: I mean collectively, really solid characters and really good people.

599
00:28:54,000 --> 00:28:56,520
Speaker 1: So I feel really good about that aspect, you know,

600
00:28:56,560 --> 00:28:58,840
Speaker 1: But I think you have to to your point, you

601
00:28:58,920 --> 00:29:01,080
Speaker 1: have to be cognisation of that you have to be

602
00:29:01,080 --> 00:29:04,360
Speaker 1: aware of that. Yeah, okay, here's another question for you, buddy.

603
00:29:04,400 --> 00:29:07,160
Speaker 1: I really like this one. So um, I don't know

604
00:29:07,240 --> 00:29:10,800
Speaker 1: if you can get your brain there. Actually you probably would.

605
00:29:10,800 --> 00:29:13,200
Speaker 1: This is a little vacation for your brain right here. Okay,

606
00:29:13,280 --> 00:29:18,760
Speaker 1: all right, So, um, you have one day completely to yourself.

607
00:29:19,120 --> 00:29:24,160
Speaker 1: So no obligations to your wife, no obligations your kids, dogs, responsibility, work,

608
00:29:24,240 --> 00:29:27,160
Speaker 1: anything like that. You have no obligations today. You have

609
00:29:27,200 --> 00:29:29,680
Speaker 1: one day. What do you do? How do you spend

610
00:29:29,720 --> 00:29:37,040
Speaker 1: your day? Whosh? Man? Well is it? I mean, is

611
00:29:37,080 --> 00:29:38,760
Speaker 1: it cheating to say I would go with my kids?

612
00:29:38,760 --> 00:29:42,560
Speaker 1: Like I? Uh? This last summer we spent a month

613
00:29:42,560 --> 00:29:46,280
Speaker 1: in coast Rica surfing and where was my invite bar

614
00:29:46,840 --> 00:29:49,400
Speaker 1: to come on down? I'm trying to do this. It

615
00:29:49,520 --> 00:29:51,760
Speaker 1: was my goal in life to figure out how to

616
00:29:51,800 --> 00:29:54,640
Speaker 1: go for one month with my kids to somewhere every

617
00:29:54,680 --> 00:29:57,040
Speaker 1: summer and just spend a month in a different country

618
00:29:57,200 --> 00:29:59,000
Speaker 1: so you kind of get a little you know, experience

619
00:29:59,000 --> 00:30:01,760
Speaker 1: of the world, and you know what, way more affordable

620
00:30:01,760 --> 00:30:04,160
Speaker 1: than people think it is. I mean, it sounds crazy,

621
00:30:04,200 --> 00:30:07,760
Speaker 1: but you start doing the math, it's totally doable. Um.

622
00:30:08,080 --> 00:30:10,200
Speaker 1: Luckily I have a job that's that allows me to

623
00:30:10,360 --> 00:30:12,960
Speaker 1: you know, the flexibility on that too. So uh. But man,

624
00:30:13,000 --> 00:30:15,520
Speaker 1: I'll tell you, waking up in the morning on a

625
00:30:15,720 --> 00:30:18,680
Speaker 1: on I was like a tropical beach somewhere where people

626
00:30:18,680 --> 00:30:22,400
Speaker 1: are speaking of foreign language. It's foreign food. Uh, it's beautiful,

627
00:30:22,400 --> 00:30:24,840
Speaker 1: it's warm water, there's an amazing surf, and you're there

628
00:30:24,880 --> 00:30:26,760
Speaker 1: with your kids, and I see, Man, I'll tell you,

629
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Speaker 1: there's this one image I still have burned in my

630
00:30:29,480 --> 00:30:32,640
Speaker 1: mind of sitting on a big thing that we love

631
00:30:32,680 --> 00:30:36,640
Speaker 1: is watching the sunset in the water. So I just

632
00:30:36,720 --> 00:30:39,360
Speaker 1: love it. And I remember watching one of my kids

633
00:30:39,600 --> 00:30:41,440
Speaker 1: catch this wave right next to me, and he took

634
00:30:41,480 --> 00:30:44,000
Speaker 1: off on the wave and he just like ripped underneath

635
00:30:44,000 --> 00:30:46,480
Speaker 1: this this lip and it was like the first time

636
00:30:46,520 --> 00:30:48,520
Speaker 1: I saw him really carve away. And I was like,

637
00:30:49,400 --> 00:30:52,719
Speaker 1: that's it, that's it, this moment right here, my gosh.

638
00:30:52,880 --> 00:30:54,800
Speaker 1: And and I do this thing with my kids and

639
00:30:54,960 --> 00:30:57,320
Speaker 1: I can't believe they let me do this. But when

640
00:30:57,560 --> 00:31:00,360
Speaker 1: like the sunsetting got you know, everyone wants to maybe

641
00:31:00,360 --> 00:31:03,520
Speaker 1: once or twice in summer else, guy's, guys, gather, look

642
00:31:03,520 --> 00:31:06,160
Speaker 1: at this moment, look at this. Let's just stop. Let's

643
00:31:06,160 --> 00:31:08,360
Speaker 1: just stop right now, just like do me. Favorite I

644
00:31:08,360 --> 00:31:10,160
Speaker 1: want you to remember this all summer, and then they

645
00:31:10,280 --> 00:31:12,320
Speaker 1: end up we we can recount the once in the

646
00:31:12,360 --> 00:31:14,360
Speaker 1: last several years. I'm like, look at this moment where

647
00:31:14,600 --> 00:31:17,120
Speaker 1: we're having around, like how special this Like we're together,

648
00:31:17,480 --> 00:31:20,080
Speaker 1: we're in this really cool place we're having like isn't

649
00:31:20,120 --> 00:31:22,760
Speaker 1: this an amazing moment? And then all well and they

650
00:31:22,800 --> 00:31:25,160
Speaker 1: do and they stop and they look around like yeah,

651
00:31:25,200 --> 00:31:28,120
Speaker 1: this this pretty epic and they're just like just like, oh,

652
00:31:28,280 --> 00:31:31,000
Speaker 1: fills me up, it feels me. It's amazing. It's amazing, dude.

653
00:31:31,000 --> 00:31:32,760
Speaker 1: I love I love that. The question was what would

654
00:31:32,760 --> 00:31:35,400
Speaker 1: you do with your day if you had no obligations?

655
00:31:35,400 --> 00:31:37,920
Speaker 1: You said, and then you told the family story of

656
00:31:37,920 --> 00:31:40,479
Speaker 1: going to Costa Rica, Like it just it just resent

657
00:31:40,800 --> 00:31:42,880
Speaker 1: how much you I love you, man, I love you.

658
00:31:42,960 --> 00:31:44,960
Speaker 1: I love how much you love your family and how

659
00:31:45,280 --> 00:31:47,640
Speaker 1: how it's You're not just saying family is important, but

660
00:31:47,680 --> 00:31:50,200
Speaker 1: like you can see it. Our listeners can't see it,

661
00:31:50,200 --> 00:31:51,200
Speaker 1: but I can see it in your eyes. I can

662
00:31:51,200 --> 00:31:52,880
Speaker 1: see it in your body. You're not sitting in a chair,

663
00:31:52,920 --> 00:31:55,080
Speaker 1: You're moving all around the room. Your arms are going

664
00:31:55,200 --> 00:31:57,920
Speaker 1: like I just love I love that you love the

665
00:31:58,000 --> 00:32:00,720
Speaker 1: family and that you build your life like that, UM,

666
00:32:00,760 --> 00:32:02,840
Speaker 1: and I have too. I have two friends, Garrett and

667
00:32:02,920 --> 00:32:05,520
Speaker 1: Jessica g that are very much like you, very much

668
00:32:05,520 --> 00:32:09,040
Speaker 1: involved in their kids lives, and they do something really

669
00:32:09,040 --> 00:32:10,840
Speaker 1: cool with their kids. At the end of every day

670
00:32:11,080 --> 00:32:13,680
Speaker 1: when they have us sit around and have a supper together, UM,

671
00:32:13,720 --> 00:32:16,800
Speaker 1: they'll ask their kids what was your favorite part of today?

672
00:32:16,920 --> 00:32:19,040
Speaker 1: You know, and then then the kid has a chance

673
00:32:19,080 --> 00:32:20,840
Speaker 1: to say, oh, dad, do you remember that time when

674
00:32:20,880 --> 00:32:23,280
Speaker 1: we we caught that wave together and we did that

675
00:32:23,360 --> 00:32:25,239
Speaker 1: was my favorite part of the day. And it's just

676
00:32:25,320 --> 00:32:29,040
Speaker 1: a daily little touch on gratitude and you do it

677
00:32:29,080 --> 00:32:31,120
Speaker 1: with the sunsets with your kids stuff like like I

678
00:32:31,200 --> 00:32:35,880
Speaker 1: just I love I love hearing how families spend time

679
00:32:35,920 --> 00:32:40,080
Speaker 1: together and how you create that family bond between father

680
00:32:41,040 --> 00:32:43,560
Speaker 1: uh and kids, his son or daughter, whatever it is.

681
00:32:43,600 --> 00:32:46,080
Speaker 1: So I commend you man. I Also I also have

682
00:32:46,120 --> 00:32:48,280
Speaker 1: been thinking about this. Give me your thoughts on this

683
00:32:48,320 --> 00:32:51,400
Speaker 1: because you touched on it. I've been thinking about one

684
00:32:51,440 --> 00:32:55,000
Speaker 1: month a year, spending it in a new country every year,

685
00:32:55,320 --> 00:32:57,400
Speaker 1: so that for one month a year, like say I

686
00:32:57,440 --> 00:32:59,680
Speaker 1: was in Hawaii, I could scuba dive every day, so

687
00:32:59,800 --> 00:33:02,120
Speaker 1: it was in Costa Rica, I could surf every day.

688
00:33:02,400 --> 00:33:05,719
Speaker 1: Say I was in Switzerland like a downhill ski every day.

689
00:33:05,760 --> 00:33:07,880
Speaker 1: So if I did this, even if you did this

690
00:33:07,920 --> 00:33:10,440
Speaker 1: for a decade, you would get so proficient at so

691
00:33:10,480 --> 00:33:17,400
Speaker 1: many different skills. Yes, you know what I mean immersion, man, Yes,

692
00:33:17,600 --> 00:33:19,240
Speaker 1: I think it's a great idea and you can work

693
00:33:19,240 --> 00:33:23,320
Speaker 1: on the language of whatever country you're in. It's it's unbelievable.

694
00:33:23,560 --> 00:33:25,479
Speaker 1: I think it's a I think it's I mean, hey, man,

695
00:33:25,520 --> 00:33:27,000
Speaker 1: if you have the ability to do it, I'd say

696
00:33:27,240 --> 00:33:30,000
Speaker 1: jump on it. Have you done anything else like that

697
00:33:30,320 --> 00:33:32,000
Speaker 1: other than Costa Rica for a month? If you done

698
00:33:32,000 --> 00:33:34,040
Speaker 1: anything else for a month of real immersion with your

699
00:33:34,080 --> 00:33:37,280
Speaker 1: kids and families? We did well. Probably my favorite was

700
00:33:37,360 --> 00:33:39,320
Speaker 1: we did a road trip through Italy for a month

701
00:33:40,200 --> 00:33:46,720
Speaker 1: and that where that was incredible. That was incredible. We started, uh,

702
00:33:47,320 --> 00:33:49,800
Speaker 1: we started up north and like Dolomite Mountains and we

703
00:33:49,840 --> 00:33:52,040
Speaker 1: went all the way down to the Mfi coast and like,

704
00:33:52,360 --> 00:33:55,080
Speaker 1: oh man, it was yeah. We saw you know, Venice

705
00:33:55,080 --> 00:33:57,280
Speaker 1: and Rome and Tuittera and like you know, like so

706
00:33:57,320 --> 00:34:01,560
Speaker 1: many different makes places and like the kids got to see.

707
00:34:01,760 --> 00:34:03,720
Speaker 1: You know. The thing is, if you're there long enough,

708
00:34:03,840 --> 00:34:06,640
Speaker 1: like we went to this little town Nazza and Chiquitarts

709
00:34:07,040 --> 00:34:08,880
Speaker 1: probably my favorite town, one of my favorites and all

710
00:34:08,880 --> 00:34:11,920
Speaker 1: of it. Small town and the kids play soccer on

711
00:34:11,920 --> 00:34:14,560
Speaker 1: the beach there. So my wife and I were, you know,

712
00:34:14,640 --> 00:34:16,200
Speaker 1: like trying to get our kids to get involved and

713
00:34:16,239 --> 00:34:19,719
Speaker 1: start speaking Italian with the locals. And so sure enough,

714
00:34:19,840 --> 00:34:22,840
Speaker 1: over time we were there long enough. Like the local

715
00:34:23,000 --> 00:34:25,280
Speaker 1: little I'm talking of young kids, you know, Tan Lemon twelve,

716
00:34:25,520 --> 00:34:28,759
Speaker 1: they don't play soccer with the tourists. You know, they're got,

717
00:34:28,760 --> 00:34:31,120
Speaker 1: they're they're they're not a you know, they're not a

718
00:34:31,160 --> 00:34:33,279
Speaker 1: side show. They're like, this is their life. And so

719
00:34:33,400 --> 00:34:35,080
Speaker 1: but we were there long enough, they're like, okay, you

720
00:34:35,080 --> 00:34:37,120
Speaker 1: guys can come play. And so my kids would go play,

721
00:34:37,200 --> 00:34:39,080
Speaker 1: and my wife and I would eat dinner, the sun

722
00:34:39,160 --> 00:34:41,640
Speaker 1: setting over the ocean, the waves to come at the

723
00:34:41,680 --> 00:34:43,879
Speaker 1: boats and everything, and I'm like I'm watching them. I'm

724
00:34:43,880 --> 00:34:46,200
Speaker 1: watching my kids start to yell at words in Italian.

725
00:34:46,239 --> 00:34:49,640
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my gosh, great moment. I was amazing

726
00:34:49,760 --> 00:34:52,439
Speaker 1: this kid, Brando. I still remember, like everybody, Sean Duca,

727
00:34:52,560 --> 00:34:55,120
Speaker 1: remember all these kids that are from this little town.

728
00:34:55,360 --> 00:34:57,960
Speaker 1: Is as you were able to pull like some some

729
00:34:58,040 --> 00:35:01,759
Speaker 1: coaching a couple of minut it's a coaching over there kids.

730
00:35:01,800 --> 00:35:05,640
Speaker 1: You know. Unfortunately my Italian stinks. As much as I

731
00:35:05,680 --> 00:35:09,799
Speaker 1: would like to be able to do that, man, I'm

732
00:35:09,800 --> 00:35:12,960
Speaker 1: working on it though, Dude, I love it. I'm immerged

733
00:35:13,120 --> 00:35:16,320
Speaker 1: I I'd love to Like I'm gonna I'm gonna steal

734
00:35:16,360 --> 00:35:19,160
Speaker 1: your idea there taking like when I have kids, taking

735
00:35:19,200 --> 00:35:22,440
Speaker 1: them for a month somewhere somewhere, like I love different languages,

736
00:35:22,480 --> 00:35:24,759
Speaker 1: different cultures, somewhere where you're just completely out of your

737
00:35:24,760 --> 00:35:27,000
Speaker 1: comfort zone, out of your element. I love that you

738
00:35:27,040 --> 00:35:30,839
Speaker 1: do that, and then you please do and let's let's

739
00:35:30,840 --> 00:35:33,799
Speaker 1: stay in touch and talk about that. For me, I

740
00:35:33,840 --> 00:35:35,640
Speaker 1: found that if you could do it on a coastal

741
00:35:35,719 --> 00:35:38,600
Speaker 1: city is the best because they if you're trying to

742
00:35:38,600 --> 00:35:40,200
Speaker 1: do your work and trying to do some other stuff,

743
00:35:40,239 --> 00:35:42,279
Speaker 1: it's like those kids are like being on the then

744
00:35:42,320 --> 00:35:43,719
Speaker 1: you don't, you know, as opposed to like being in

745
00:35:43,800 --> 00:35:46,200
Speaker 1: tuscany where. It's like, okay, I gotta kind of entertain

746
00:35:46,239 --> 00:35:50,879
Speaker 1: these kids. Yeah, um, I love it, brother, We're gonna

747
00:35:50,880 --> 00:35:53,480
Speaker 1: find friends. I'm gonna apply myself for adoption into the

748
00:35:53,520 --> 00:35:56,440
Speaker 1: Johnson family. So come on over, man, would love to

749
00:35:56,480 --> 00:36:01,120
Speaker 1: have you. We got Canadians in my family. You do, Yeah,

750
00:36:01,160 --> 00:36:06,560
Speaker 1: you do. Yeah, all right, that's right, that's right. Croud

751
00:36:06,600 --> 00:36:10,160
Speaker 1: Canadian from Vancouver. Yeah, I'm I'm from Saskatchewan. I'm I'm

752
00:36:10,200 --> 00:36:12,640
Speaker 1: right above North Dakota. The people out on the you know,

753
00:36:12,680 --> 00:36:14,319
Speaker 1: we kind of look at the people in Toronto and

754
00:36:14,360 --> 00:36:16,919
Speaker 1: the people in Vancouver. They're kind of like they feel

755
00:36:16,920 --> 00:36:18,960
Speaker 1: like they're above us because we live in the plans.

756
00:36:19,560 --> 00:36:21,160
Speaker 1: Oh really, Oh, I don't know about that stuff. I

757
00:36:21,160 --> 00:36:23,359
Speaker 1: don't know about the dynamics. I know we go out

758
00:36:23,400 --> 00:36:27,399
Speaker 1: and visit Ryan when he's doing Deadpool and stay in

759
00:36:27,560 --> 00:36:29,880
Speaker 1: Vancouver kind of check it out and have gotten to

760
00:36:29,880 --> 00:36:32,120
Speaker 1: know it a little bit. But it's it's been great, man,

761
00:36:32,160 --> 00:36:34,719
Speaker 1: it's been awesome. He's an awesome tour guy. I've never

762
00:36:34,719 --> 00:36:36,680
Speaker 1: met him, but telling I said, hi, my fellow Canadian.

763
00:36:36,760 --> 00:36:39,799
Speaker 1: Much love. Yeah. Absolutely. Here's another question for you. This

764
00:36:39,880 --> 00:36:43,520
Speaker 1: is a really interesting question. Did I've never been asked this,

765
00:36:43,560 --> 00:36:47,320
Speaker 1: but I'm gonna ask it to you. Um, what three

766
00:36:47,440 --> 00:36:52,120
Speaker 1: words would you tell your eighteen year old self? Um, like,

767
00:36:52,320 --> 00:36:55,560
Speaker 1: let it go, you got this, I'm the man. If

768
00:36:55,600 --> 00:36:58,560
Speaker 1: you could, what three words would you tell your eighteen

769
00:36:58,640 --> 00:37:03,480
Speaker 1: year old self? Mm hmm. Eighteen year old says, I'd

770
00:37:03,520 --> 00:37:10,319
Speaker 1: probably say take risks. I think that's that's good. Make mistakes,

771
00:37:10,640 --> 00:37:17,160
Speaker 1: another one makes some mistakes. UM, and uh okay, I'm

772
00:37:17,160 --> 00:37:18,759
Speaker 1: gonna I'm gonna cheat on this one. And to say, uh,

773
00:37:19,719 --> 00:37:22,040
Speaker 1: we regret what we don't do more than what we

774
00:37:23,120 --> 00:37:26,960
Speaker 1: regret what we do. Uh. So you know that I

775
00:37:27,440 --> 00:37:29,479
Speaker 1: know that I had. I remember a couple of things

776
00:37:29,480 --> 00:37:30,799
Speaker 1: that's still in the back of my mind of some

777
00:37:30,920 --> 00:37:33,200
Speaker 1: kind of some big ideas I had that I didn't execute.

778
00:37:33,400 --> 00:37:35,279
Speaker 1: And they're the only things that I regret about being

779
00:37:35,800 --> 00:37:38,840
Speaker 1: that age. The other mistakes like oh whatever, you know,

780
00:37:38,920 --> 00:37:41,120
Speaker 1: I've you know what, I've made up for other mistakes,

781
00:37:41,200 --> 00:37:43,040
Speaker 1: But it's the mistakes to haunt me of the ones

782
00:37:43,080 --> 00:37:46,239
Speaker 1: that I didn't just go for it. Yeah. Mine, when

783
00:37:46,239 --> 00:37:48,640
Speaker 1: I'm thinking about that question, I think I would go

784
00:37:48,680 --> 00:37:50,960
Speaker 1: with I think about myself at a teen, very driven,

785
00:37:51,320 --> 00:37:54,719
Speaker 1: extremely driven, UM, wanting to make the NHL, and I

786
00:37:54,800 --> 00:37:57,160
Speaker 1: ended up doing it the next year turn pro I've

787
00:37:57,480 --> 00:38:02,280
Speaker 1: seen UM at nineteen. Yeah, I would say get it all.

788
00:38:03,360 --> 00:38:06,839
Speaker 1: That would be my three words, like like don't ever

789
00:38:06,920 --> 00:38:10,520
Speaker 1: stop get it oh? Oh three word? Oh I see, Yes,

790
00:38:10,680 --> 00:38:14,920
Speaker 1: that's great all because that's what I wanted in my

791
00:38:14,960 --> 00:38:18,680
Speaker 1: athletic career, I went after everything I wanted. I blew

792
00:38:18,719 --> 00:38:23,279
Speaker 1: through fear, blew through insecurity, developed resilience, confidence, improved my

793
00:38:23,440 --> 00:38:27,320
Speaker 1: role each year, you know, elevated myself, develop my skills,

794
00:38:27,360 --> 00:38:30,120
Speaker 1: honed by skills, my craft, like all of it. And

795
00:38:30,160 --> 00:38:32,319
Speaker 1: I would encourage people. I don't want people to think

796
00:38:32,320 --> 00:38:35,640
Speaker 1: that they can't have everything in life that they want.

797
00:38:36,080 --> 00:38:38,680
Speaker 1: You know, you bust your tail for it. But I

798
00:38:38,719 --> 00:38:41,359
Speaker 1: want people to be inspired to not have to say, well,

799
00:38:41,640 --> 00:38:44,160
Speaker 1: I can't have a family and have the career, or

800
00:38:44,200 --> 00:38:47,319
Speaker 1: I can't have the career and also have balance in

801
00:38:47,360 --> 00:38:51,359
Speaker 1: my life full you get it all or work for it.

802
00:38:51,880 --> 00:38:54,239
Speaker 1: The other thing that I would really stress to myself this,

803
00:38:54,400 --> 00:38:59,640
Speaker 1: oh this is another thing, um, find a balance of happiness.

804
00:39:00,760 --> 00:39:04,080
Speaker 1: Uh huhn't have that so much so with get it all,

805
00:39:04,560 --> 00:39:06,400
Speaker 1: with get it all, and then I'd also have like

806
00:39:06,480 --> 00:39:11,480
Speaker 1: find the balance of happiness, um, because going for it

807
00:39:11,520 --> 00:39:14,520
Speaker 1: all can consume you and can be toxic. So having

808
00:39:14,560 --> 00:39:17,319
Speaker 1: a balance that you know, you know what Brooks you say,

809
00:39:17,440 --> 00:39:19,640
Speaker 1: you bring up an interesting point that's maybe not as

810
00:39:19,680 --> 00:39:22,640
Speaker 1: popular as trendy. And you know the master classes, you know,

811
00:39:22,640 --> 00:39:25,319
Speaker 1: those things that pop up on your Yeah, they're great.

812
00:39:25,360 --> 00:39:27,520
Speaker 1: They're great. I was listening to the one from Seawan

813
00:39:27,560 --> 00:39:30,080
Speaker 1: to Rhymes, who's amazing, Like she has like what five

814
00:39:30,120 --> 00:39:32,080
Speaker 1: TV shows on on the air right now, and I

815
00:39:32,600 --> 00:39:36,040
Speaker 1: think she's like an incredibly talented and driven woman. Amazing.

816
00:39:36,520 --> 00:39:39,400
Speaker 1: But she says she has a real moment in that thing.

817
00:39:39,480 --> 00:39:41,640
Speaker 1: And she said, look, you know, people say you could

818
00:39:41,640 --> 00:39:43,120
Speaker 1: do it all. You can do it all. You can.

819
00:39:43,280 --> 00:39:44,960
Speaker 1: I can have five TV shows on the air and

820
00:39:45,000 --> 00:39:46,799
Speaker 1: I can raise all my kids. And she's like, and

821
00:39:46,840 --> 00:39:49,879
Speaker 1: that's that's not true. I don't know I'm paraphrasing. She's like,

822
00:39:50,080 --> 00:39:52,800
Speaker 1: it's not true. If I'm servicing all of my TV shows,

823
00:39:52,840 --> 00:39:55,520
Speaker 1: I'm failing at home. If I'm serving my family what

824
00:39:55,560 --> 00:39:58,080
Speaker 1: they need, I'm failing my TV shows. And I said,

825
00:39:58,480 --> 00:40:02,760
Speaker 1: mad respect for her to admit that, like you can't

826
00:40:02,920 --> 00:40:06,680
Speaker 1: have a countless amounts of businesses or whatever else and

827
00:40:06,719 --> 00:40:09,480
Speaker 1: also spend all the time in really nurturing your your

828
00:40:09,520 --> 00:40:12,200
Speaker 1: young family. You gotta you gotta sort that out, man,

829
00:40:12,200 --> 00:40:15,080
Speaker 1: you gotta figure that out. So to your last phrase,

830
00:40:15,160 --> 00:40:17,480
Speaker 1: like finding that balance is a is a science and

831
00:40:17,560 --> 00:40:19,879
Speaker 1: an art form. I think I agree with that. So

832
00:40:20,320 --> 00:40:22,160
Speaker 1: people always say, like we get asked, and I'd like

833
00:40:22,160 --> 00:40:24,720
Speaker 1: to ask you about this. Get asked about work life balance.

834
00:40:24,800 --> 00:40:27,440
Speaker 1: People always say, what is that's the golden ticket, right,

835
00:40:27,480 --> 00:40:30,160
Speaker 1: work life balance? And I always say, it's not a balance,

836
00:40:30,200 --> 00:40:32,880
Speaker 1: it's like an integration. And it's the way I describe

837
00:40:32,880 --> 00:40:34,759
Speaker 1: it as like a teeter totterer. You know what a a

838
00:40:34,840 --> 00:40:37,279
Speaker 1: teeter totter is? Your kids probably the yea yeah. And

839
00:40:37,320 --> 00:40:40,480
Speaker 1: it's like sometimes you're you're gonna be like way up,

840
00:40:40,600 --> 00:40:43,000
Speaker 1: You're gonna be filled with a lot of like family time,

841
00:40:43,200 --> 00:40:45,400
Speaker 1: and then it's gonna be like, Okay, it's going back down.

842
00:40:45,440 --> 00:40:48,200
Speaker 1: I gotta do more work, and then it's gonna I've

843
00:40:48,280 --> 00:40:50,040
Speaker 1: I've invested a lot in work and I want to

844
00:40:50,040 --> 00:40:52,960
Speaker 1: go back to family time. So people are looking for

845
00:40:53,000 --> 00:40:55,560
Speaker 1: this like perfect balance where the teeter totter just sits

846
00:40:55,680 --> 00:40:58,200
Speaker 1: right there, and I've never been able to do that.

847
00:40:58,320 --> 00:41:00,400
Speaker 1: I've been like, I'm all in on family, and then

848
00:41:00,400 --> 00:41:02,200
Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, I've been really inspired right now a

849
00:41:02,239 --> 00:41:03,840
Speaker 1: couple of days, and I'm gonna go all in on

850
00:41:03,920 --> 00:41:06,560
Speaker 1: work and then back all in on family meanwhile not

851
00:41:06,640 --> 00:41:09,080
Speaker 1: neglecting one or the other. I've been able to find

852
00:41:09,120 --> 00:41:11,879
Speaker 1: that balance, but it's okay to have a little rock

853
00:41:12,080 --> 00:41:15,320
Speaker 1: like that versus just have to have it be flat

854
00:41:15,320 --> 00:41:18,400
Speaker 1: and balanced. That's how it works. I like that. I

855
00:41:18,480 --> 00:41:20,759
Speaker 1: like that analogy. I think that's really really smart. I

856
00:41:21,080 --> 00:41:23,360
Speaker 1: think the key is understanding that this is the goal,

857
00:41:23,440 --> 00:41:26,239
Speaker 1: like flat is the goal and a little ride is fun,

858
00:41:26,600 --> 00:41:30,319
Speaker 1: and most people in life are not cognizant of that,

859
00:41:30,400 --> 00:41:32,600
Speaker 1: and they're just you know, like, how many people are

860
00:41:32,640 --> 00:41:34,960
Speaker 1: you know, unfortunately in society today, you know, are really

861
00:41:35,760 --> 00:41:37,920
Speaker 1: sort of taught and encourage that it's like money, career,

862
00:41:38,040 --> 00:41:40,600
Speaker 1: business and that's the ultimate and like kids are like,

863
00:41:40,680 --> 00:41:43,239
Speaker 1: you know, not that secondary. And I and I of

864
00:41:43,280 --> 00:41:46,120
Speaker 1: course mean probably personally totally disagree. You're gonna find all

865
00:41:46,160 --> 00:41:48,600
Speaker 1: your love, film and habits, joy in the family. But

866
00:41:48,640 --> 00:41:50,360
Speaker 1: you really want, you know, it's it's good to have

867
00:41:50,400 --> 00:41:52,520
Speaker 1: all this other stuff and and to support your family

868
00:41:52,520 --> 00:41:55,000
Speaker 1: into you know, thriving the community and that kind of stuff.

869
00:41:55,040 --> 00:41:57,560
Speaker 1: So I'm with you, man, get that little that fun,

870
00:41:57,719 --> 00:42:01,200
Speaker 1: the fun ride and the team. Yeah you need some

871
00:42:01,280 --> 00:42:05,760
Speaker 1: sway in there. That's fun. But yeah, the violence rocking

872
00:42:05,800 --> 00:42:07,600
Speaker 1: back and forth is no good. That's gonna throw all

873
00:42:07,600 --> 00:42:21,680
Speaker 1: the kids off part. I want to Here's another question

874
00:42:21,760 --> 00:42:27,200
Speaker 1: from a listener. Um, you've you've spoke so much already

875
00:42:27,200 --> 00:42:30,840
Speaker 1: to show up about your family. Uh, and briefly you

876
00:42:30,880 --> 00:42:34,360
Speaker 1: mentioned your wife, Robin. Um, she's also a very talented actress.

877
00:42:34,440 --> 00:42:37,719
Speaker 1: But here's the question, how did you know Robin was

878
00:42:37,800 --> 00:42:40,160
Speaker 1: the one for you? We get asked that a lot.

879
00:42:40,239 --> 00:42:44,200
Speaker 1: How do you know that your significant other is the one? Well,

880
00:42:44,200 --> 00:42:48,359
Speaker 1: this is a funny story. Sorry, it's a long story,

881
00:42:48,360 --> 00:42:49,560
Speaker 1: so I'm just gonna tell you a real, really short

882
00:42:49,600 --> 00:42:53,160
Speaker 1: version of it. But um, she walked in to a

883
00:42:53,320 --> 00:42:56,560
Speaker 1: room and I saw her from afar and said, I'm

884
00:42:56,560 --> 00:42:58,799
Speaker 1: gonna marry that woman. And I've never done it before

885
00:42:58,800 --> 00:43:00,600
Speaker 1: in my life. I know it's kind of warning cliche

886
00:43:00,600 --> 00:43:03,840
Speaker 1: and everything, but it's totally true. Man. I did a

887
00:43:03,880 --> 00:43:07,680
Speaker 1: movie called Me Familiar with her dad. He ended up

888
00:43:07,680 --> 00:43:10,120
Speaker 1: giving me a job. Ernie Lively as at his acting studio.

889
00:43:10,160 --> 00:43:12,560
Speaker 1: I was teaching acting classes from Blake. Lively was in

890
00:43:12,600 --> 00:43:18,279
Speaker 1: the class and one day incomes Robin Lively and I

891
00:43:18,320 --> 00:43:21,200
Speaker 1: saw her and I just saw that the energy about

892
00:43:21,200 --> 00:43:24,239
Speaker 1: her and just the way she spoke to people, and

893
00:43:24,239 --> 00:43:27,000
Speaker 1: I said, that's her. I'm gonna marry her. And I

894
00:43:27,000 --> 00:43:29,440
Speaker 1: told my parents, I told all my friends. He became

895
00:43:29,480 --> 00:43:31,440
Speaker 1: like a big joke because she had a boyfriend at

896
00:43:31,440 --> 00:43:33,520
Speaker 1: the time and I had to watch it. It was

897
00:43:33,640 --> 00:43:40,240
Speaker 1: very painful. And uh, years later, years later, we've started

898
00:43:40,280 --> 00:43:45,520
Speaker 1: taking Yeah it's a great story, and uh I've been

899
00:43:45,520 --> 00:43:47,399
Speaker 1: a curse to right a movie about it because it's

900
00:43:48,239 --> 00:43:51,520
Speaker 1: so painful. Man, I went through it, but I knew it.

901
00:43:51,600 --> 00:43:53,799
Speaker 1: I just felt it. I knew it. I hung in

902
00:43:53,840 --> 00:43:59,279
Speaker 1: their persistence a lot of humility and U yeah, I

903
00:43:59,320 --> 00:44:02,359
Speaker 1: know that's not really great practical advice for anybody, but man,

904
00:44:02,400 --> 00:44:04,919
Speaker 1: when you know, you know, and she was just such

905
00:44:04,960 --> 00:44:07,759
Speaker 1: a good person. She had such great fun energy and

906
00:44:07,760 --> 00:44:10,919
Speaker 1: it just so that's what lets her get married. Say

907
00:44:11,080 --> 00:44:13,040
Speaker 1: they're like, when you know you know, and people that

908
00:44:13,080 --> 00:44:14,839
Speaker 1: are single, they're like, yeah, that sounds like a bunch

909
00:44:14,840 --> 00:44:18,480
Speaker 1: of made up stuff, Um, but it is true, Like

910
00:44:18,560 --> 00:44:22,440
Speaker 1: it's it is the truest thing you could say. Um,

911
00:44:22,480 --> 00:44:25,080
Speaker 1: So you knew then, and then it was until a

912
00:44:25,120 --> 00:44:27,920
Speaker 1: couple of years later that you actually started dating. And

913
00:44:27,960 --> 00:44:32,040
Speaker 1: that whole time you still believe that and still knew that. Well.

914
00:44:32,120 --> 00:44:35,880
Speaker 1: I definitely had moments of doubt and fear and heartbreak

915
00:44:36,200 --> 00:44:38,360
Speaker 1: and a lot of a lot of humility because she

916
00:44:38,440 --> 00:44:41,200
Speaker 1: broke up with one boyfriend and got another boyfriend. I

917
00:44:41,239 --> 00:44:44,640
Speaker 1: was like, oh I thought I was in line, but

918
00:44:44,880 --> 00:44:48,759
Speaker 1: I wasn't apparently, so uh, you know, I was going

919
00:44:48,800 --> 00:44:50,480
Speaker 1: through that approach of like, okay, all right, all right,

920
00:44:51,080 --> 00:44:54,040
Speaker 1: these type of girls, they they're never single, they're never

921
00:44:54,080 --> 00:44:57,000
Speaker 1: just hang out single. So I'll develop the friendship, get

922
00:44:57,000 --> 00:44:59,520
Speaker 1: that nice foundation of you know. That's what they say, right,

923
00:44:59,520 --> 00:45:01,239
Speaker 1: That's what they say is like all great relationship starts

924
00:45:01,280 --> 00:45:03,680
Speaker 1: with good solid friendship. Okay, all right, I'm taking that

925
00:45:03,800 --> 00:45:06,640
Speaker 1: route and and hanging in there and and uh yeah

926
00:45:06,719 --> 00:45:10,360
Speaker 1: it's it's ah. It was full of ups and downs

927
00:45:10,400 --> 00:45:13,160
Speaker 1: for sure. Yeah. You know what a friend once told me,

928
00:45:13,239 --> 00:45:15,799
Speaker 1: You can tell if a relationship is alive and going

929
00:45:15,840 --> 00:45:19,120
Speaker 1: to make it by how a person tells a story

930
00:45:19,160 --> 00:45:23,000
Speaker 1: about how they met. And so that's interesting being the

931
00:45:23,120 --> 00:45:25,160
Speaker 1: life in your eyes. Seeing like when I asked you

932
00:45:25,160 --> 00:45:26,879
Speaker 1: that question, you get excited, like, oh it's a lot,

933
00:45:26,920 --> 00:45:28,560
Speaker 1: it's a long story. I try to make sure, but

934
00:45:28,640 --> 00:45:33,279
Speaker 1: like like instant energy, which still means you're invested and

935
00:45:33,320 --> 00:45:36,440
Speaker 1: just completely madly in love. So um. I always remembered

936
00:45:36,480 --> 00:45:38,239
Speaker 1: that when somebody told me that, I was like, that's

937
00:45:38,280 --> 00:45:41,279
Speaker 1: a really because it is It's a really good barometer

938
00:45:41,400 --> 00:45:44,000
Speaker 1: when you ask somebody when they met the love of

939
00:45:44,040 --> 00:45:46,640
Speaker 1: their life, if they tell it with enthusiasm or if

940
00:45:46,640 --> 00:45:48,480
Speaker 1: they just like kind of wow, you know, well, I

941
00:45:48,480 --> 00:45:51,160
Speaker 1: gotta say, man, I'm kind of blown away with that perspective.

942
00:45:51,200 --> 00:45:56,439
Speaker 1: I think that's very interesting and and dead on. I'm sure. Yeah,

943
00:45:56,560 --> 00:45:58,640
Speaker 1: try it with somebody, Try it with somebody in your life, like,

944
00:45:58,719 --> 00:46:01,479
Speaker 1: just ask that question. Or could be new, could be old,

945
00:46:01,640 --> 00:46:04,160
Speaker 1: you know, like sometimes like if you have sometimes you

946
00:46:04,200 --> 00:46:07,440
Speaker 1: ask grandparents like how did you meet Grandma? And then

947
00:46:07,480 --> 00:46:09,960
Speaker 1: they light up there like oh, and they'd like want

948
00:46:10,000 --> 00:46:12,640
Speaker 1: you to sit there, glory. It means that the married

949
00:46:12,680 --> 00:46:15,400
Speaker 1: fifty years, they're still in love, you know. Answer so

950
00:46:15,960 --> 00:46:20,320
Speaker 1: super like that. Um, Okay, here's another one. Here's another question.

951
00:46:20,800 --> 00:46:25,319
Speaker 1: So um, it's kind of it's I'm trying to relate

952
00:46:25,360 --> 00:46:28,640
Speaker 1: it to what you went through but also current. So um. Anyway,

953
00:46:28,680 --> 00:46:31,480
Speaker 1: here's the question from the listener. Do guys like chatting

954
00:46:31,480 --> 00:46:35,120
Speaker 1: on the phone with their friend or significant other? And

955
00:46:35,200 --> 00:46:38,240
Speaker 1: what amount of time can a guy tolerate on the phone.

956
00:46:38,239 --> 00:46:40,920
Speaker 1: So I'm guessing this comes from a female, you know,

957
00:46:41,000 --> 00:46:44,360
Speaker 1: So do you like as a guy, do you like,

958
00:46:44,360 --> 00:46:46,840
Speaker 1: like say, when you met Robin, did you like chatting

959
00:46:46,880 --> 00:46:49,359
Speaker 1: on the phone? How long was long enough? How long

960
00:46:49,480 --> 00:46:53,480
Speaker 1: was interesting? How can we help this lady out with

961
00:46:53,480 --> 00:46:56,360
Speaker 1: it's asking this question? Well, I guess, yeah, I guess

962
00:46:56,360 --> 00:46:59,600
Speaker 1: like during those early stages of relationship, you could just

963
00:46:59,640 --> 00:47:01,400
Speaker 1: sit on the phone for a long time. You know.

964
00:47:01,440 --> 00:47:03,600
Speaker 1: What's funny. I was just thinking about, like, what are

965
00:47:03,600 --> 00:47:05,840
Speaker 1: my habits because I have a lot of friends that

966
00:47:05,880 --> 00:47:08,040
Speaker 1: are that live out of state around the country, and

967
00:47:08,040 --> 00:47:11,520
Speaker 1: I'll put on a headset and do stuff while I

968
00:47:11,520 --> 00:47:14,719
Speaker 1: talked to him. You know, I put on my my

969
00:47:14,719 --> 00:47:17,040
Speaker 1: my headsets and and go work out or go you know,

970
00:47:17,480 --> 00:47:18,960
Speaker 1: do stuff in the yard or whatever. And like I

971
00:47:19,000 --> 00:47:21,520
Speaker 1: could talk for you know, an hour to a buddy,

972
00:47:21,560 --> 00:47:27,799
Speaker 1: but not not holding still so much. You know, I

973
00:47:27,800 --> 00:47:29,280
Speaker 1: don't know what that is. I'm gonna have to explore

974
00:47:29,320 --> 00:47:31,360
Speaker 1: that a little bit, but it does seem like in

975
00:47:31,400 --> 00:47:34,640
Speaker 1: a relationship, like early phases, early stages of the relationship,

976
00:47:34,800 --> 00:47:38,239
Speaker 1: that yeah, I think I did. I think I really

977
00:47:38,239 --> 00:47:41,520
Speaker 1: like talking to people though in general, so uh, I know,

978
00:47:41,600 --> 00:47:43,360
Speaker 1: for me, I think I think Robin and I. She

979
00:47:43,560 --> 00:47:46,600
Speaker 1: was shooting a show called Savannah for Aaron Spelling down

980
00:47:46,600 --> 00:47:49,279
Speaker 1: in Georgia, at the time when we first started dating,

981
00:47:49,280 --> 00:47:51,959
Speaker 1: we used to talk. You just talked for a long time.

982
00:47:52,840 --> 00:47:56,760
Speaker 1: So I I personally like, when you meet that person,

983
00:47:57,560 --> 00:48:02,360
Speaker 1: I love talking to them. Yeah, like I traditionally and

984
00:48:02,600 --> 00:48:04,239
Speaker 1: I don't talk on the phone that much, but when

985
00:48:04,280 --> 00:48:07,040
Speaker 1: you meet the person that you're invested in in love with, like, yeah,

986
00:48:07,520 --> 00:48:09,680
Speaker 1: I actually I would. I would not even phone. I

987
00:48:09,680 --> 00:48:14,959
Speaker 1: would face time every single time face and every times

988
00:48:14,960 --> 00:48:16,920
Speaker 1: I could talk on the phone. Times we'd fall asleep

989
00:48:17,000 --> 00:48:19,600
Speaker 1: basically talking on the phone because uh, just and then

990
00:48:19,880 --> 00:48:21,760
Speaker 1: be other times you can talk for like three hours

991
00:48:22,360 --> 00:48:25,480
Speaker 1: and just be still so excited and want to talk more,

992
00:48:25,480 --> 00:48:28,520
Speaker 1: and you're like, I actually gotta go where I need

993
00:48:28,520 --> 00:48:31,560
Speaker 1: to be a lost track of time. But um, I

994
00:48:31,600 --> 00:48:33,879
Speaker 1: loved it personally, I loved it because when you meet

995
00:48:33,920 --> 00:48:36,800
Speaker 1: that that special somebody and you're so invested in them,

996
00:48:36,840 --> 00:48:39,120
Speaker 1: it's so exciting and you just can't wait to hear

997
00:48:39,160 --> 00:48:41,480
Speaker 1: what's coming out of their mouth and discover that person

998
00:48:41,520 --> 00:48:43,960
Speaker 1: as well. Asking question, you're you're you're right, and you're

999
00:48:43,960 --> 00:48:45,600
Speaker 1: you're kind of taking me down memory lane. It's been

1000
00:48:45,640 --> 00:48:48,000
Speaker 1: a couple of years since then, but I do recall

1001
00:48:48,440 --> 00:48:50,960
Speaker 1: being on the phone for hours and sometimes it's like,

1002
00:48:51,280 --> 00:48:52,440
Speaker 1: you know, what do you think about this? Or what's

1003
00:48:52,440 --> 00:48:54,200
Speaker 1: your person? What are your favorite movie? And then sometimes

1004
00:48:54,280 --> 00:48:57,040
Speaker 1: it's like nothing at all, like where did you eat today?

1005
00:48:57,080 --> 00:48:59,719
Speaker 1: You know? Yeah, like these things that don't matter at all.

1006
00:49:00,000 --> 00:49:02,680
Speaker 1: It's just interesting and fascinating. But now I'm not But

1007
00:49:02,760 --> 00:49:04,560
Speaker 1: I got you got me thinking brooks of like do

1008
00:49:05,080 --> 00:49:07,560
Speaker 1: I have a different habit? What was it? Talk to

1009
00:49:07,600 --> 00:49:10,319
Speaker 1: my significant other, you know, Mike, because like I need

1010
00:49:10,360 --> 00:49:12,520
Speaker 1: a multitask, and I'm talking to my homies even though

1011
00:49:12,560 --> 00:49:14,719
Speaker 1: I love them and I love talking to him, but

1012
00:49:14,840 --> 00:49:17,720
Speaker 1: I feel like I gotta be you're moving my body

1013
00:49:17,760 --> 00:49:20,680
Speaker 1: in some sort of mindless task or something. But when

1014
00:49:20,680 --> 00:49:22,279
Speaker 1: I talk to my wife, I don't really do that.

1015
00:49:22,440 --> 00:49:25,560
Speaker 1: You know, I don't think I'm gonna I'm gonna analyze this. Yeah,

1016
00:49:25,840 --> 00:49:28,680
Speaker 1: it's interesting, Yeah, it's interesting. Um. I'm usually I usually

1017
00:49:28,719 --> 00:49:33,560
Speaker 1: have if I'm talking to buddy, You're right, I'll usually

1018
00:49:33,600 --> 00:49:37,200
Speaker 1: have like speaker phone or whatever, something going on and

1019
00:49:37,320 --> 00:49:40,600
Speaker 1: just kind of fiddling with something whatever I'm talking to, Uh,

1020
00:49:40,840 --> 00:49:43,840
Speaker 1: somebody I'm really invested in. You're probably like more present,

1021
00:49:43,880 --> 00:49:46,400
Speaker 1: but I should, as a better friend, be more present

1022
00:49:46,400 --> 00:49:50,440
Speaker 1: when talking about right, right, Yeah, same Okay, but I

1023
00:49:50,520 --> 00:49:53,200
Speaker 1: gotta rapid fire a couple of questions that because we

1024
00:49:53,200 --> 00:49:56,239
Speaker 1: still have like a ton of questions for a coach. Um,

1025
00:49:56,480 --> 00:49:59,520
Speaker 1: but I'm gonna rapid fire a couple of questions at you.

1026
00:49:59,600 --> 00:50:06,359
Speaker 1: So keep your answers to maybe two to three sentences. Okay, okay.

1027
00:50:06,600 --> 00:50:11,600
Speaker 1: Best meals someone can prepare for you anything on a barbecue,

1028
00:50:12,000 --> 00:50:18,680
Speaker 1: open fire, steak, ribs, sausage, yes, yes, yes, burgers like

1029
00:50:19,000 --> 00:50:21,400
Speaker 1: literally Francis moment if you know him, like he cooks

1030
00:50:21,400 --> 00:50:23,960
Speaker 1: everything over big open fire Argentine chef. Any like I

1031
00:50:24,040 --> 00:50:27,759
Speaker 1: just love that char the smoke, barbecue. I need that

1032
00:50:27,840 --> 00:50:30,719
Speaker 1: kind of stuff. Oh yeah, even if it's fruit vegetables

1033
00:50:30,760 --> 00:50:33,719
Speaker 1: on a grill, just grill yep. Got you? Okay, when

1034
00:50:33,760 --> 00:50:36,360
Speaker 1: did I agree with you on everything you just said? Um?

1035
00:50:36,560 --> 00:50:39,879
Speaker 1: Next question? When in a grouchy mood, what's the best

1036
00:50:39,880 --> 00:50:44,839
Speaker 1: advice you would give your significant other? Would you say,

1037
00:50:44,880 --> 00:50:47,560
Speaker 1: leave me alone, go cook me something? What would you

1038
00:50:47,960 --> 00:50:51,319
Speaker 1: These are examples that when you're in a what's the

1039
00:50:51,360 --> 00:50:56,200
Speaker 1: best advice you could give? Robin? Probably leave me alone.

1040
00:50:56,280 --> 00:50:59,400
Speaker 1: Probably let me go sort out my feeling in my emotions,

1041
00:50:59,440 --> 00:51:01,239
Speaker 1: and then I got to be responsible enough to change

1042
00:51:01,280 --> 00:51:03,040
Speaker 1: my biochemistry, you know, And I always telling my kids,

1043
00:51:03,080 --> 00:51:05,840
Speaker 1: like my kids really cranky. I'm like, go eat a

1044
00:51:05,840 --> 00:51:08,239
Speaker 1: piece of chocolate. Let's have some ice cream and then

1045
00:51:08,280 --> 00:51:10,640
Speaker 1: focus your attention somewhere and like, you know, it's like,

1046
00:51:10,760 --> 00:51:12,359
Speaker 1: I know that sounds silly. Oh you're in a bad mood.

1047
00:51:12,400 --> 00:51:16,399
Speaker 1: Let me give you ice cream. Science. There's some science here,

1048
00:51:16,480 --> 00:51:19,280
Speaker 1: you know, change the blood sugar, change their focus. Reset,

1049
00:51:19,400 --> 00:51:22,239
Speaker 1: let's start over. You know, I have, um, I have

1050
00:51:22,320 --> 00:51:23,920
Speaker 1: friends that do this and I respect them for it.

1051
00:51:23,920 --> 00:51:25,400
Speaker 1: They're like, I just need a minute or two. They

1052
00:51:25,440 --> 00:51:27,640
Speaker 1: just step outside just to like and they go outside

1053
00:51:27,640 --> 00:51:30,239
Speaker 1: that just like kind of like shake this energy off

1054
00:51:30,280 --> 00:51:33,720
Speaker 1: of them because they know that they've been triggered by something,

1055
00:51:34,120 --> 00:51:37,719
Speaker 1: that somebody is doing something to themselves. They've made something personal,

1056
00:51:38,160 --> 00:51:41,359
Speaker 1: they've done something like they actually instead of saying just

1057
00:51:41,800 --> 00:51:44,960
Speaker 1: leave me alone, go away, that's a very like go away,

1058
00:51:45,000 --> 00:51:48,200
Speaker 1: go away. There like a minutes by myself, you know,

1059
00:51:48,239 --> 00:51:50,239
Speaker 1: give me a minute. Yeah, that's probably a better way

1060
00:51:50,239 --> 00:51:52,319
Speaker 1: to say it instead of saying, leave me alone, give

1061
00:51:52,360 --> 00:51:53,759
Speaker 1: me a minute, because you're you're the one that needs

1062
00:51:53,800 --> 00:51:55,239
Speaker 1: to do the work right and there it is a

1063
00:51:55,239 --> 00:51:59,080
Speaker 1: biochemistry again, you're walking from one environment to another. Going outside,

1064
00:51:59,120 --> 00:52:01,520
Speaker 1: You got some vitamint, you hit, you fill up those

1065
00:52:01,560 --> 00:52:04,200
Speaker 1: longs oxygen, you know, like to let's take care of ourselves, man, Like,

1066
00:52:04,239 --> 00:52:06,480
Speaker 1: that's the greatest skill we can possibly learn, is to

1067
00:52:06,560 --> 00:52:09,840
Speaker 1: switch from that negative place to a more proactive, positive place.

1068
00:52:10,080 --> 00:52:12,080
Speaker 1: And then they usually come in and apologize that like,

1069
00:52:12,080 --> 00:52:13,840
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I just got triggered and I made it

1070
00:52:13,880 --> 00:52:16,239
Speaker 1: about me for a second, and I apologize, thank you

1071
00:52:16,280 --> 00:52:18,000
Speaker 1: for allowing me to have that, madete. But I'm back

1072
00:52:18,040 --> 00:52:20,040
Speaker 1: and I'm present now, and I'm like, you are an

1073
00:52:20,080 --> 00:52:23,040
Speaker 1: amazing human beings. That's an awesome person. I want that.

1074
00:52:23,120 --> 00:52:25,520
Speaker 1: I want to be great at that skill, right, Yeah,

1075
00:52:25,520 --> 00:52:28,080
Speaker 1: it's a new one. Um, I'm not so good at it.

1076
00:52:30,960 --> 00:52:34,560
Speaker 1: You blaming a little bit more. I get out I

1077
00:52:34,680 --> 00:52:36,680
Speaker 1: needed to better at it. I have friends that definitely

1078
00:52:36,760 --> 00:52:39,440
Speaker 1: lead in that in my life. Yeah, yeah, give me

1079
00:52:39,480 --> 00:52:42,319
Speaker 1: a minute or like a day, made a couple of days,

1080
00:52:42,360 --> 00:52:45,640
Speaker 1: I'll be back. Um, okay, next question, what is your

1081
00:52:45,640 --> 00:52:51,640
Speaker 1: biggest pet, Peeve? What completely just irritates you? Arrogance? I

1082
00:52:51,760 --> 00:52:55,560
Speaker 1: just there's something about when people are arrogant. It just

1083
00:52:55,680 --> 00:52:59,479
Speaker 1: drives me crazy. Um, they treat people poorly. I don't

1084
00:52:59,480 --> 00:53:01,920
Speaker 1: like when people get treated poor leak. I try to

1085
00:53:01,960 --> 00:53:03,920
Speaker 1: treat strangers, you know, with a lot of love and

1086
00:53:03,960 --> 00:53:06,200
Speaker 1: compassion because it just it feels good, It feels right

1087
00:53:06,520 --> 00:53:10,200
Speaker 1: when people I just feel like it's all comes from insecurity,

1088
00:53:10,360 --> 00:53:12,600
Speaker 1: you know. And I see someone that's really arrogant, I'm like, dude,

1089
00:53:12,640 --> 00:53:15,439
Speaker 1: I got your number, man, you got you got something

1090
00:53:15,440 --> 00:53:18,319
Speaker 1: you're hiding or not feeling good about you whatever, But

1091
00:53:18,360 --> 00:53:20,880
Speaker 1: it's like so much mean stuff comes from it. Yeah,

1092
00:53:21,320 --> 00:53:23,120
Speaker 1: I love exactly what you said. I think I'm saying

1093
00:53:23,160 --> 00:53:25,319
Speaker 1: the same thing and maybe just saying in a different way.

1094
00:53:25,360 --> 00:53:27,719
Speaker 1: But people that feel like they need to be served

1095
00:53:28,120 --> 00:53:30,799
Speaker 1: where it's like you need to me or I don't

1096
00:53:30,800 --> 00:53:33,160
Speaker 1: do that like somebody else would do. Like people where

1097
00:53:33,160 --> 00:53:36,359
Speaker 1: they're like they feel like they're service needs to be

1098
00:53:36,440 --> 00:53:40,200
Speaker 1: done to them, you know right right interest Yeah, you

1099
00:53:40,239 --> 00:53:43,120
Speaker 1: know they won't. They won't clean up after their dishes.

1100
00:53:43,160 --> 00:53:45,880
Speaker 1: Somebody else should clean that up, right, you know. They

1101
00:53:45,880 --> 00:53:48,200
Speaker 1: won't make any food, no where's this chef. The chef

1102
00:53:48,280 --> 00:53:50,000
Speaker 1: should make this, or somebody makes that for me. And

1103
00:53:50,080 --> 00:53:52,080
Speaker 1: I saw a lot of this in professional sports. I

1104
00:53:52,160 --> 00:53:55,960
Speaker 1: saw a lot of athletes just on like expecting to

1105
00:53:56,000 --> 00:53:59,719
Speaker 1: be served served is an entitlement? Is that what it is?

1106
00:54:00,200 --> 00:54:02,640
Speaker 1: Maybe it might be you're just you're catered to, right,

1107
00:54:02,760 --> 00:54:05,319
Speaker 1: the team came to you, like, they'll even carry your

1108
00:54:05,360 --> 00:54:08,400
Speaker 1: luggage up to your room, right right. You don't have

1109
00:54:08,440 --> 00:54:10,799
Speaker 1: like are you kidding me? Like and so this kind

1110
00:54:10,840 --> 00:54:13,719
Speaker 1: of mindset just to some people, it just kind of

1111
00:54:13,719 --> 00:54:16,040
Speaker 1: takes over and then they just think that they're they're

1112
00:54:16,080 --> 00:54:22,200
Speaker 1: in this world to be served, right service. Yeah, Okay,

1113
00:54:22,480 --> 00:54:26,600
Speaker 1: moving on. Tell us one thing that people can't google about,

1114
00:54:27,040 --> 00:54:29,400
Speaker 1: something that we don't know about, Mr Bart Johnson that

1115
00:54:29,480 --> 00:54:33,920
Speaker 1: we will not find on Google. Oh jeez, oh my gosh,

1116
00:54:33,920 --> 00:54:39,799
Speaker 1: you stump me. Uh, I could find everything, right, I'm

1117
00:54:39,920 --> 00:54:44,839
Speaker 1: special talents hidden, hidden talents special like um, things you

1118
00:54:44,880 --> 00:54:48,040
Speaker 1: really like or enjoy, maybe like classical piano music I

1119
00:54:48,040 --> 00:54:52,359
Speaker 1: don't know, like something I'm a singer. What no one

1120
00:54:52,440 --> 00:54:56,239
Speaker 1: knows that. Nobody knows that. And it's funny because I

1121
00:54:56,600 --> 00:55:00,480
Speaker 1: got this music and and I'm a dancer, said so

1122
00:55:00,520 --> 00:55:03,520
Speaker 1: I started a musical dance theater. Nobody knows that. And

1123
00:55:03,600 --> 00:55:06,560
Speaker 1: so when I got this musical franchise, right, I'm like, oh,

1124
00:55:06,600 --> 00:55:08,279
Speaker 1: finally in a musical. And I had a number. I

1125
00:55:08,320 --> 00:55:10,799
Speaker 1: had a song, and a dance in this I was

1126
00:55:10,800 --> 00:55:14,279
Speaker 1: gonna do it a duet with my nemesis, Ms Darbys,

1127
00:55:14,719 --> 00:55:17,960
Speaker 1: you evil Miss Darbys, and Disney cut it because they

1128
00:55:18,000 --> 00:55:22,839
Speaker 1: said they didn't want to see old people dancing, so

1129
00:55:22,840 --> 00:55:26,200
Speaker 1: so they left the teenagers dance and I sat there

1130
00:55:26,440 --> 00:55:29,520
Speaker 1: man the whole movie, all these movies, I'm like, man,

1131
00:55:30,280 --> 00:55:32,920
Speaker 1: half these guys don't sing or dance, and like I

1132
00:55:33,000 --> 00:55:36,120
Speaker 1: actually sing and dance, and I gotta stand here. I

1133
00:55:36,280 --> 00:55:38,799
Speaker 1: watched them do this, so it kind of it kind

1134
00:55:38,800 --> 00:55:40,480
Speaker 1: of killed me. It's kind of like goes back to

1135
00:55:40,560 --> 00:55:43,040
Speaker 1: my what I'm saying earlier about about high school, like

1136
00:55:43,080 --> 00:55:45,080
Speaker 1: I have this, you know, like people have this perception

1137
00:55:45,120 --> 00:55:46,920
Speaker 1: of me being this big old bully or like big

1138
00:55:47,000 --> 00:55:49,239
Speaker 1: old like sports guy. Now that you know I'm the coach,

1139
00:55:49,480 --> 00:55:53,600
Speaker 1: Like that's not I did musical dance theater my entire

1140
00:55:53,640 --> 00:55:56,000
Speaker 1: time in high school and got beat up for it,

1141
00:55:56,120 --> 00:55:58,520
Speaker 1: you know, and it's like, now I'm that really thinks

1142
00:55:58,520 --> 00:56:02,840
Speaker 1: I'm just a bully. What a gift to have. I

1143
00:56:02,880 --> 00:56:05,480
Speaker 1: think singing is beautiful. I think dancing is just like

1144
00:56:05,680 --> 00:56:09,319
Speaker 1: insanely beautiful. Both are just like I'm not proficient at either.

1145
00:56:09,360 --> 00:56:11,920
Speaker 1: I've never dedicated time to develop either one, but I

1146
00:56:11,960 --> 00:56:17,040
Speaker 1: have such an admiration from both. H Yeah, yeah, yeah,

1147
00:56:17,080 --> 00:56:19,799
Speaker 1: it's it's great. I do love it. I've been thinking

1148
00:56:19,840 --> 00:56:23,720
Speaker 1: about doing a little uh on TikTok for quarantine. I'm like, Okay,

1149
00:56:24,160 --> 00:56:26,239
Speaker 1: everybody's saying I'll do this for you know again, it

1150
00:56:26,320 --> 00:56:28,080
Speaker 1: was like, I'm doing this for my wildcats. I'm doing

1151
00:56:28,120 --> 00:56:30,240
Speaker 1: it for my my people out there. And then what crazy?

1152
00:56:30,239 --> 00:56:32,640
Speaker 1: They got fifty million of views on this on my

1153
00:56:32,680 --> 00:56:34,759
Speaker 1: first video. It was like, okay, So I've been thinking

1154
00:56:34,760 --> 00:56:38,000
Speaker 1: about doing like busting out a little song because I

1155
00:56:38,000 --> 00:56:40,480
Speaker 1: think people would get a kick out of coaching. Do it, man,

1156
00:56:40,520 --> 00:56:44,000
Speaker 1: I get your kids involved, Like, um, I think it'd

1157
00:56:44,000 --> 00:56:46,400
Speaker 1: be so cool. I've never done a TikTok. Actually I

1158
00:56:46,440 --> 00:56:50,279
Speaker 1: did one TikTok, but um, if I had kids, for sure,

1159
00:56:50,280 --> 00:56:53,680
Speaker 1: i'd be. I love seeing dad's see Mario Lopez do it.

1160
00:56:53,800 --> 00:56:56,880
Speaker 1: He's done some um Jessica, but does a bunch of

1161
00:56:56,880 --> 00:56:58,600
Speaker 1: their kids stuff like that? Like you see a bunch

1162
00:56:58,640 --> 00:57:00,600
Speaker 1: of people doing TikTok's with their kids, I think it's

1163
00:57:00,600 --> 00:57:07,080
Speaker 1: just um okay. Next question, Um, this is a relationship one.

1164
00:57:07,120 --> 00:57:10,560
Speaker 1: Should you never go to bed angry or sleep on it?

1165
00:57:10,600 --> 00:57:15,600
Speaker 1: And talk it out in the morning. Oh, I gotta

1166
00:57:15,680 --> 00:57:18,160
Speaker 1: I gotta mixed feelings about that one. I think I

1167
00:57:18,200 --> 00:57:22,160
Speaker 1: think maybe a hybrid maybe, you know, like you don't

1168
00:57:22,160 --> 00:57:24,960
Speaker 1: want to go if you could somehow work again, work

1169
00:57:24,960 --> 00:57:26,720
Speaker 1: on that muscle, man, work on that muscle of like

1170
00:57:28,080 --> 00:57:30,240
Speaker 1: you never uh, you never want to get to a

1171
00:57:30,240 --> 00:57:32,960
Speaker 1: certain level. Like I here's a here's a piece of

1172
00:57:33,040 --> 00:57:36,959
Speaker 1: relationship advice I have for everybody. Don't ever talk about divorce. Don't.

1173
00:57:37,160 --> 00:57:39,880
Speaker 1: That's that's irresponsible. But people do that because it's a

1174
00:57:40,000 --> 00:57:43,120
Speaker 1: it's a weapon or it's an ammunition. Right, It's like, oh, yeah,

1175
00:57:43,120 --> 00:57:47,320
Speaker 1: well we wo's just get divorced. No that you can't.

1176
00:57:47,400 --> 00:57:50,560
Speaker 1: But that's too disrespect less, disrespects your relationship. Don't just

1177
00:57:50,600 --> 00:57:52,160
Speaker 1: don't go there. Just don't go there. Like there's a

1178
00:57:52,160 --> 00:57:55,800
Speaker 1: certain amount of respect, um you need to have for

1179
00:57:55,840 --> 00:57:59,040
Speaker 1: your relationship and that you don't say permanent hurtful things

1180
00:57:59,040 --> 00:58:00,480
Speaker 1: like that that are hard to be fact, that are

1181
00:58:00,480 --> 00:58:04,240
Speaker 1: going to haunt you later whatever else. So like you know, um,

1182
00:58:04,280 --> 00:58:08,080
Speaker 1: trying to go to bed by saying I disagree, let's

1183
00:58:08,240 --> 00:58:10,320
Speaker 1: let's sort it out tomorrow. But I do think like

1184
00:58:10,760 --> 00:58:13,120
Speaker 1: trying to you know, look, you're tired. You've gotta get

1185
00:58:13,160 --> 00:58:14,960
Speaker 1: up early. There's a there's a clock, and it's like,

1186
00:58:15,000 --> 00:58:17,280
Speaker 1: now you've got to resolve this thing. It's sometimes it's

1187
00:58:17,280 --> 00:58:18,880
Speaker 1: not I don't I think it's not a good idea.

1188
00:58:18,920 --> 00:58:21,040
Speaker 1: So sometimes it's good to sleep it off. But maybe

1189
00:58:21,400 --> 00:58:24,480
Speaker 1: like a certain level of perspective, like I respect you,

1190
00:58:24,560 --> 00:58:27,240
Speaker 1: respect your opinion, I love you, I'm mad at you.

1191
00:58:27,600 --> 00:58:29,560
Speaker 1: Let's go to bed and then then deal with it

1192
00:58:29,560 --> 00:58:31,880
Speaker 1: in the morning. It's always interesting to ask people how

1193
00:58:31,880 --> 00:58:33,919
Speaker 1: they deal with that, because every couples are different. There's

1194
00:58:33,920 --> 00:58:37,640
Speaker 1: no right or wrong way. People deal with it differently. Um. Yeah,

1195
00:58:38,040 --> 00:58:42,720
Speaker 1: but I appreciate that, dude. Okay, lastly, Um, the best

1196
00:58:42,920 --> 00:58:48,040
Speaker 1: pickup line you've gotten on a d M um? Have

1197
00:58:48,160 --> 00:58:50,800
Speaker 1: you do you get? I mean, people know you're married,

1198
00:58:50,800 --> 00:58:52,680
Speaker 1: but do you get pickup lines in your d m s.

1199
00:58:52,800 --> 00:58:55,440
Speaker 1: We're gonna do a show next week. We're gonna do

1200
00:58:55,480 --> 00:58:59,280
Speaker 1: a show about dating during COVID and specifically like d ms.

1201
00:58:59,600 --> 00:59:02,200
Speaker 1: So I know people know that you're faithfully married and stuff,

1202
00:59:02,200 --> 00:59:04,240
Speaker 1: but you still do people still just drop lines in

1203
00:59:04,280 --> 00:59:08,560
Speaker 1: your d m s. Yeah, let's see. Uh, well, I

1204
00:59:08,560 --> 00:59:11,600
Speaker 1: get a lot of questions about my son, as you know,

1205
00:59:11,720 --> 00:59:16,800
Speaker 1: as you would. UM, a lot of people saying asking

1206
00:59:16,800 --> 00:59:19,800
Speaker 1: me if I'll be their sugar daddy. That's nice, that's fine.

1207
00:59:21,960 --> 00:59:24,200
Speaker 1: I'm not really you know, I'm not really putting it

1208
00:59:24,240 --> 00:59:26,960
Speaker 1: out there. You know, I don't think so. I don't

1209
00:59:27,000 --> 00:59:30,160
Speaker 1: get it. I don't get as much, honestly, Like it's

1210
00:59:30,160 --> 00:59:32,840
Speaker 1: all in my comments, Like people are more forthcoming in

1211
00:59:32,880 --> 00:59:37,240
Speaker 1: my comments than Yeah, I swear man, it's it's wild.

1212
00:59:37,600 --> 00:59:42,360
Speaker 1: It's wild. Here's here's a couple that our producer Danielle

1213
00:59:42,360 --> 00:59:45,240
Speaker 1: has seen. If you're a menu and McDonald's, you'd be

1214
00:59:45,360 --> 00:59:49,480
Speaker 1: mc gorgeous. If I wish I could take you to

1215
00:59:49,520 --> 00:59:55,720
Speaker 1: the movies, but they don't let snacks in. Um. Oh man.

1216
00:59:55,880 --> 00:59:57,720
Speaker 1: So we're gonna do it next week. We're gonna do

1217
00:59:57,720 --> 01:00:00,480
Speaker 1: a show dating during COVID. We're gonna do a show

1218
01:00:00,520 --> 01:00:02,840
Speaker 1: about like, how are people how are people who were

1219
01:00:02,840 --> 01:00:06,480
Speaker 1: single dating during this time? Are they sliding into d

1220
01:00:06,680 --> 01:00:08,320
Speaker 1: m s? Are they using that? How do you go

1221
01:00:08,400 --> 01:00:10,120
Speaker 1: about doing it? All that kind of stuff? But what

1222
01:00:10,160 --> 01:00:13,960
Speaker 1: would be your best advice for somebody that's single dating

1223
01:00:14,040 --> 01:00:21,160
Speaker 1: during this time? Oh? Gosh, come on, I mean, you know,

1224
01:00:21,360 --> 01:00:23,400
Speaker 1: I mean, it's pretty fun that you can look at

1225
01:00:23,400 --> 01:00:25,680
Speaker 1: someone social media and see what they're putting out there.

1226
01:00:25,760 --> 01:00:27,320
Speaker 1: You know, you could you could kind of see like,

1227
01:00:27,360 --> 01:00:29,920
Speaker 1: oh they are fun, or they guarded, or they try

1228
01:00:29,960 --> 01:00:32,400
Speaker 1: to put out too much, you know, too much of

1229
01:00:32,400 --> 01:00:34,480
Speaker 1: a certain thing, or they you know. I mean I

1230
01:00:34,800 --> 01:00:37,080
Speaker 1: always tell people like, look, man, you've got to look

1231
01:00:37,080 --> 01:00:39,480
Speaker 1: at personality first. You have to, because that will never

1232
01:00:39,480 --> 01:00:41,560
Speaker 1: fail you. It'll be so entertaining and so fulfilling, and

1233
01:00:41,600 --> 01:00:44,680
Speaker 1: you have so much fun. Looks come way down the line,

1234
01:00:45,120 --> 01:00:47,600
Speaker 1: they really do. And I know, like when I was

1235
01:00:47,640 --> 01:00:51,200
Speaker 1: in my twenties, I probably didn't think that, but I

1236
01:00:51,240 --> 01:00:55,280
Speaker 1: mean I was dating people that maybe I was putting

1237
01:00:55,320 --> 01:00:57,520
Speaker 1: looks first at some point in my life. But man,

1238
01:00:57,560 --> 01:01:00,200
Speaker 1: what a what a mistake, What a mistake that this.

1239
01:01:00,520 --> 01:01:02,440
Speaker 1: So look at your social mediacity. Who's like fun, who

1240
01:01:02,440 --> 01:01:04,680
Speaker 1: cracks you up, who's entertaining? And if you can make

1241
01:01:04,720 --> 01:01:06,600
Speaker 1: your decisions based on that, I think you're gonna be

1242
01:01:06,600 --> 01:01:09,120
Speaker 1: served in the long run. I actually think the world

1243
01:01:09,240 --> 01:01:12,240
Speaker 1: is waking up to being able to analyze and interpret

1244
01:01:12,280 --> 01:01:17,720
Speaker 1: digital energy in a yeah, I totally agree, absolutely, that's

1245
01:01:17,720 --> 01:01:20,200
Speaker 1: well said. Yeah, you can see somebody on social media

1246
01:01:20,200 --> 01:01:21,680
Speaker 1: and you're like, I just have a feeling this person

1247
01:01:21,760 --> 01:01:24,600
Speaker 1: is like really kind, really genuine person just by what

1248
01:01:24,680 --> 01:01:26,800
Speaker 1: they're putting out, and then you can see somebody you

1249
01:01:26,840 --> 01:01:29,160
Speaker 1: can be like, I'm just off. I'm just put off

1250
01:01:29,200 --> 01:01:31,640
Speaker 1: by what they're putting out. There's something I don't know

1251
01:01:31,680 --> 01:01:34,400
Speaker 1: what it is, but energetically there's something toxic there. And

1252
01:01:34,440 --> 01:01:37,680
Speaker 1: I think the world is getting a better uh compass

1253
01:01:37,720 --> 01:01:41,400
Speaker 1: and navigation point on, like you know, what is truthful,

1254
01:01:41,480 --> 01:01:44,720
Speaker 1: what is inauthentic, who's real, who's fake? That kind of stuff.

1255
01:01:44,760 --> 01:01:48,000
Speaker 1: I think digital energy people are really becoming more in

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Speaker 1: tune with digesting it interesting. Yeah, um yeah, okay, last question,

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Speaker 1: brother is I've never asked this question on this show,

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Speaker 1: but my last question it's a kind of a journey

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Speaker 1: in the study that I've been on in my own

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Speaker 1: personal life and asking people close to me. Um, what

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Speaker 1: is your personal relationship with happiness? Happiness? Mhm boy, Um,

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Speaker 1: how does happen? What is happiness to you? Well? I guess,

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Speaker 1: I you know, maybe I've spent some time differentiating between

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Speaker 1: fun and joy, I guess, and like happiness could be

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01:02:28,760 --> 01:02:32,560
Speaker 1: both those things could be You're having a lot of fun. Um,

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Speaker 1: But but but joy, I mean, I name it whatever

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Speaker 1: you want. I guess there there's one that's much more fulfilling,

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Speaker 1: and um, we'll live longer. I think in your in

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Speaker 1: your soul, and I like to have fun, Like everybody

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Speaker 1: knows me. It's like that dude likes that fun. I mean,

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Speaker 1: as you saw Brooks, like I got you know, I

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Speaker 1: got surfboards, and I got you know, wakes boat and

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Speaker 1: like you know, motorcycles. Got but I've got seven dirt

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Speaker 1: bikes on my garage, like you know, like I like

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Speaker 1: to have fun. Man, like I left to have fun

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Speaker 1: my kids and know that I like to have fun. Um,

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Speaker 1: But also, uh, it's the more fulfillings of the more

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Speaker 1: more important um is the the relationships, you know, Like

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Speaker 1: the true sense of happiness and joy and fulfillment is serving.

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Speaker 1: And I think that if there's one thing I've learned

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Speaker 1: in my life is that pursuing something fun or thrilling

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Speaker 1: is fleeting. But if you can have fun with those

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Speaker 1: that you are serving, you know, we do more for

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Speaker 1: our kids than we'd ever do for ourselves. And that

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Speaker 1: goes for my family too. I do more for my siblings,

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Speaker 1: more for my mom, my dad arrested piece, Um, you know,

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Speaker 1: I would do more for for those then I would

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Speaker 1: do for myself and and and that goes to even

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Speaker 1: serving in my community, you know, like you know, I've

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Speaker 1: I've been a leader in the boy Scouts and youth

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Speaker 1: programs and soccer and like all, you know, all this

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01:03:53,760 --> 01:03:57,400
Speaker 1: stuff and coach so much. Um, I find that so

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01:03:57,840 --> 01:04:00,640
Speaker 1: incredibly fulfilling. So when you can marry the two and

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Speaker 1: you can have your happiness and you're fun with people,

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Speaker 1: you're serving, it's uh, it's rich, it's rich and it

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Speaker 1: and it feels your fills your soul. Dude, I love it. Coach,

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Speaker 1: I love it. You could be a coach. You are

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Speaker 1: well you are a coach, but you play a coach.

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Speaker 1: You are a coach. But truthfully, man, um you really

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Speaker 1: you really I felt like I've been coached during this

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Speaker 1: past hour. So, um, where can people find you? Bart?

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Speaker 1: Where do you hang out? Social media? Where can people

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Speaker 1: find you? What are you working on? Where can people

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01:04:30,760 --> 01:04:33,440
Speaker 1: because our our community after listening to you, is definitely

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Speaker 1: gonna want to find more about you. Where can they

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Speaker 1: grab it? Awesome? Awesome? Um? I And on Instagram and man,

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Speaker 1: I think everything, I think I have the same tag

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Speaker 1: on everything and it's at Bart Underscore Johnson so um Instagram,

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Speaker 1: I'm new on TikTok and make fun of me there. Um,

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Speaker 1: I got a YouTube channel. I started a YouTube channel

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Speaker 1: with my family, which I need. It's it's a lot

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Speaker 1: of work, man, you need an editor. I love it.

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Speaker 1: I love It's so much fun. But I've got like

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Speaker 1: hard drives of material. Although like these trips like this

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Speaker 1: trip Daaly and Postreaca or you know wherever else and uh,

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Speaker 1: I just can't. I just can't get to the editing, man,

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Speaker 1: the editing. But those YouTube oh dude, it's brutal. Like,

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Speaker 1: give me the camera. I can shoot stuff all day

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Speaker 1: long and love it and enjoy it sitting by myself

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Speaker 1: behind a computer for a couple of days. Oh my gosh,

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Speaker 1: it's rough. Yeah, you gotta pay somebody to edit that. Bro. Um.

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Speaker 1: But dude, I love your mission. Man Um. I just

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Speaker 1: look up to you as a man and as a husband,

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Speaker 1: as a father, and I love just I wish our

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Speaker 1: listeners could see the amount of joy and light envibrants

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Speaker 1: in your face and your eyes speaking about your family. Um,

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Speaker 1: it was wonderful to have you on my man um.

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Speaker 1: Any last words for our community, anything, anything that's gonna

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Speaker 1: change their life, right now, Bart, I would just say Brooks,

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Speaker 1: thank you so much and thanks for um, you know,

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Speaker 1: a podcast where you talk about things that really matter

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Speaker 1: in a cool way that that I think people will

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Speaker 1: be able to next to him resumes, So this is

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Speaker 1: this is the best interview I've ever done. And I've

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Speaker 1: done this for twenty five years now, so I appreciate

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Speaker 1: this very much, And thanks for directing the conversation. That's

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Speaker 1: such a fun, like productive way. And this is also

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Speaker 1: I love what you're doing. Man, I'm I'm so glad

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01:06:16,720 --> 01:06:19,240
Speaker 1: I did this, so thanks for having me. I appreciate it.

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Speaker 1: I think it's super powerful, uh, in this day and

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Speaker 1: age to hear men specifically and masculine men. They could

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Speaker 1: be like what, but like masculine men like yourself open

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01:06:30,360 --> 01:06:32,800
Speaker 1: up and talk about how much they just love their family,

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Speaker 1: how much they pour into their kids, how much they

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Speaker 1: you know, how much it touches their soul, and how

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Speaker 1: they cried when they saw their daughter do this, And like,

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Speaker 1: I think it's so powerful for dudes, for for all

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Speaker 1: kinds of males. There's no right or wrong way to

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Speaker 1: be a man, but just for masculine energy to open

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01:06:50,680 --> 01:06:54,280
Speaker 1: up and share um emotions and things that matter to

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Speaker 1: their heart. And I think it's going to change the world.

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Speaker 1: I really do. And and you've been a you've been

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Speaker 1: a you spear your head of that here today for us,

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Speaker 1: so our listeners are better for it. I'm better for it,

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Speaker 1: my man. I applaud your mission if I can ever

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Speaker 1: return the favor. And what are you doing? What's the

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Speaker 1: Tuesdays when you do uh wild cat Tuesday? Oh yeah,

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Speaker 1: we're all in this together. Tuesdays together Tuesday? Yea, come

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Speaker 1: on by. I'm gonna do a lot. Uh well, I've

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Speaker 1: been doing it like five pm. But um, everybody, I

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Speaker 1: got a lot a lot of wild cats out there

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Speaker 1: in the UK. They want me to do it sooner.

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Speaker 1: So I think I'm gonna shoot for like noon noon

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Speaker 1: on Tuesdays on Tuesdays. Okay, we're all in this together. Also,

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Speaker 1: last thing, my high school while my school was kindergarten

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Speaker 1: to grade twelve. So I grew up in a small town,

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Speaker 1: but we were the Wildcat'll come on there, we go

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Speaker 1: full circle right there. We're brothers, man, we are brothers, brothers. Coach.

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Speaker 1: I appreciate you, Bart, I appreciate you, man. If I

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Speaker 1: can ever serve your mission. Please let me know. Thank

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Speaker 1: you to everybody that listened. Tune in this week, come

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Speaker 1: back next week for an interesting conversation of dating during

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Speaker 1: COVID Bart. You're the man. Much love, stay safe, be

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Speaker 1: well with your family, and to our listeners, take care

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Speaker 1: of one another, love one another, and we'll see you.

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Speaker 1: Back here next week for another episode at How Many

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Speaker 1: Things