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Speaker 1: All right, guys, time now for today's Strawberry Letter and listen.

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Speaker 1: If you need advice and relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting,

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Speaker 1: like we're going to read this one right here, right now.

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Speaker 1: Buckle up, hold on tight, we got it for you.

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Speaker 1: Hire adis girl up every letter. Thank you, nephew. Subject

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Speaker 1: He's our type of man. Dear Stephen Shirley. I have

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Speaker 1: been dating my boyfriend for the past four months, and

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Speaker 1: I thought things were getting serious with us, so I

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Speaker 1: told my brother about him. My brother and I are

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Speaker 1: close in age and he always gives great advice on

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Speaker 1: my relationships. My brother wanted to see my new boyfriend,

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Speaker 1: so I gave him my phone and let him swipe

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Speaker 1: to see a few of my boyfriend's most recent pictures.

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Speaker 1: My brother yelled, oh my goodness, and I just laughed

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Speaker 1: because my brother and I like the same type of guys, chocolate,

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Speaker 1: muscular and bald headed. I asked him if my boyfriend

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Speaker 1: was his type, and he said not only was he

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Speaker 1: his type, they had been out on a few dates.

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Speaker 1: I asked him to explain himself. My brother told me

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Speaker 1: that he met my boyfriend a few weeks ago and

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Speaker 1: they went on three dates before he told my brother

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Speaker 1: that he was married. I was beyond mad, hurt, and

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Speaker 1: embarrassed for not knowing this guy was married. He never

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Speaker 1: told me he was married. My brother was equally mad

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Speaker 1: because the guy had tried to play me for a fool.

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Speaker 1: So my brother devised a plan to tell my boyfriend's

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Speaker 1: wife about us. He felt like she needs to know,

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Speaker 1: and I agreed. At first. My brother suggested that we

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Speaker 1: rent a billboard and put the guy's picture on it

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Speaker 1: so the whole city will know that he's a big

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Speaker 1: liar and a cheater. My brother suggested that we wait

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Speaker 1: this weekend to do it so more people would see it. Now,

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Speaker 1: as time goes by, I'm not as mad as I was,

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Speaker 1: and I've totally cut the guy out of my life,

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Speaker 1: but my brother will not let it go. I know

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Speaker 1: the billboard may not be the best plan, but we

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Speaker 1: need to expose this guy in some kind of way.

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Speaker 1: Maybe we should just tell his wife instead of telling

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Speaker 1: the whole city. Stephen Shirley, how do you think we

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Speaker 1: should handle this? What say? What? Now? WHOA just look

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Speaker 1: at each other? Oh my god? Um you know what?

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Speaker 1: Seriously though, the only thing I can think of right

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Speaker 1: now is just why would you want to hurt the

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Speaker 1: wife like this? Because she is the one that's really

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Speaker 1: going to be hurt behind this, And I mean seriously hurt.

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Speaker 1: Billboard's just coming out and telling her. However you do it,

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Speaker 1: this wife is going to be hurt. Now do I

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Speaker 1: think she needs to know what's going on? Absolutely that

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Speaker 1: she needs to know that her husband is out here

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Speaker 1: whilding in these streets. She needs to know that. I mean, yeah,

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Speaker 1: your brother is mad. He's vindictive because the man is

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Speaker 1: trying to date both of you guys. But you did

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Speaker 1: say that you've gotten over it and you've totally cut

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Speaker 1: him out of your life. So that's a good thing.

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Speaker 1: I agree with you. I think the wife should know too. Now,

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Speaker 1: whether you and your brother should do it the way

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Speaker 1: you're saying doing it putting it out on a billboard,

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Speaker 1: I think that's horrible. I don't think she should find

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Speaker 1: whole city. No, just because you know you guys are mad. No,

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Speaker 1: I don't think you should do the wife like that.

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Speaker 1: But what do I think you should do? How do

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Speaker 1: I think you should handle this? I really honestly don't know.

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Speaker 1: I mean, you've done the best thing so far, and

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Speaker 1: that's to get him completely out of your life, and uh,

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Speaker 1: you know, let it go. Your brother doesn't seem to

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Speaker 1: let it go. You're gonna have to talk him out

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Speaker 1: of doing what he wants to do, you know, because

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Speaker 1: you got to consider the wife. I mean, the husband

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Speaker 1: isn't considering the wife. But I think in this situation

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Speaker 1: someone has to. I don't know exactly how you should

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Speaker 1: handle this. I mean, I'm just being honest. I don't know. Um,

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Speaker 1: maybe Steve has a suggestion for you. I'm gonna pass

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Speaker 1: this over to Steve, because I really I don't know

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Speaker 1: Steve exactly. Tommy is dead RD No, No, that's gonna

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Speaker 1: crush that's gonna his wife. That's gonna crush her. She

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Speaker 1: can't find out that way, Steve. Um, really, I've been

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Speaker 1: dating my boyfriend for full months and you kind of

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Speaker 1: thought stuff was getting serious with you, so you wouldn't

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Speaker 1: told your brother. Now your brother now y'all close in age,

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Speaker 1: and he gotta go out of good advice for him,

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Speaker 1: and he wanted to see your new boyfriends. So well,

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Speaker 1: you you gave him your phone. He let him swipe

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Speaker 1: the seal a few of your boyfriends pictures. Then your

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Speaker 1: brother yells, oh my goodness, that right there was a

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Speaker 1: telltale sign that this letter was about to take a turn. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: oh my goodness. I just laughed because he's so crazy.

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Speaker 1: You know, we like the same type of guys. It's

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Speaker 1: just going through this letter like this, just regular, Okay,

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Speaker 1: I go along with you. Y'all like the same type

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Speaker 1: of guys. Chocolate, musculine ball hit it. Well, that ain't me,

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Speaker 1: so hell, I'm cool. I asked him if my boyfriend

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Speaker 1: was his type. He said, not only was he his type,

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Speaker 1: they've been out on a few dates. You said, explain yourself, yo.

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Speaker 1: He ain't got to explained himself. You know your brother,

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Speaker 1: y'all like the same type. He said, You've been out

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Speaker 1: on a date for a few times. You need to

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Speaker 1: explain yourself, explain what we all know. Now there's blooding

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Speaker 1: to explain, and I come back, I'll tell you what

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Speaker 1: I think happened about you. I know, I'm just clearing

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Speaker 1: myself because it said ball headed. It must we'll have out.

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Speaker 1: It's twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's subject, Wow,

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Speaker 1: he's our type of man. We'll be back right after this.

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Speaker 1: You're listening, all right, Steve, Come on, let's recap today's

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Speaker 1: Strawberry Letters subject he's our type of man. Yeah. Well,

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Speaker 1: this lady got this boyfriend she'd been with Foemos, and

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Speaker 1: I was telling her brother about it. They liked the

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Speaker 1: same types of dude, so she gave his phone and

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Speaker 1: then all of a sudden, his brother yell like, oh

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Speaker 1: my goodness, and right there it was only cracking. I

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Speaker 1: laughed because my brother and I liked the same type

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Speaker 1: of guys. Chocolate Musklin ball hited. I asked him, your

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Speaker 1: brother if your boyfriend. You asked your brother if your

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Speaker 1: boyfriend was his type. He said, not only was his type,

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Speaker 1: he had been out on a few dates. I asked

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Speaker 1: him to explain himself for what you and your brother

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Speaker 1: like the same type of men. Your brother been out

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Speaker 1: on the date with this dude three times. What explanation

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Speaker 1: do you need? My brother told me that he met

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Speaker 1: your boyfriend three weeks ago. Y'all been dating Foemos, and

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Speaker 1: they'd have been out on three dates. Three dates. Now,

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Speaker 1: your brother, I don't know how he is, but this

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Speaker 1: dude that you dating, he fast, So I'm assuming something

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Speaker 1: popped off in one of these dates because he went

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Speaker 1: on and told his brother he married. I was beyond

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Speaker 1: was mad. Boy, that's what you're mad about. That's wing

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Speaker 1: the whole up. That's you read. You wrote all this

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Speaker 1: hill and you got to I was beyond mad, hurt

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Speaker 1: He never told me he was mad. What you don't

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Speaker 1: think he left something else out a lot? You think married?

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Speaker 1: Is shocking? He with your damn brother. He never told

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Speaker 1: me he was married. My brother was equally mad. Oh

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Speaker 1: not both, y'all manbody man at the big chocolate muscle

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Speaker 1: bound ball head dude. Oh, he mad because it I

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Speaker 1: tried to play me for a food. Well that's a

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Speaker 1: good brother, you got that. So your brother devised a

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Speaker 1: playing to tell your boy friend's wife about it. He

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Speaker 1: felt like she needs to know, and I agreed at first.

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Speaker 1: Then your brother said that we rent a billboard and

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Speaker 1: put the guys picture on it so the whole city

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Speaker 1: would know. He's a big lie and a cheater. Lord Jesus,

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Speaker 1: not the billboard, Father God, not the billboard. You don't

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Speaker 1: know what's happening in this man life. His wife can't

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Speaker 1: find out on the billboard. And he might have kids.

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Speaker 1: They're driving down the street, Mama, that go daddy, Shut up, baby,

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Speaker 1: your daddy at work. He up down up that well,

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Speaker 1: he up down on that picture on that thing. What

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Speaker 1: thing boy on that wall off the freeway? What thing

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Speaker 1: run down? Mamma. They daddy on a bill board, her

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Speaker 1: husband on the billboard, and y'all going right on that.

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Speaker 1: He's a liar and a cheetah. He was dating a

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Speaker 1: girl and a man. Okay, now listen to me. He

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Speaker 1: deserves some things to happen to him. I got it.

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Speaker 1: I think two of y'all funding out is a lot

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Speaker 1: a's gonna busting. But to put it on the billboard,

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Speaker 1: you're now going to affect his money, all his friends,

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Speaker 1: his social life, which is a lot anyway. Maybe he

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Speaker 1: do slow down. He is very, very busy. I'm really

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Speaker 1: not in favor of his social life at all. Not

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Speaker 1: his preference choices. He can do what he want to do.

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Speaker 1: But if you're gonna be bisexual. At least tell people

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Speaker 1: so they're know what they deally with. Don't nobody won't

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Speaker 1: that damn surprise. You know you can have anything you won't,

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Speaker 1: but be honest and forthright with people. Look, this is

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Speaker 1: my lifestyle. I'm bisexual. You tell most people that let

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Speaker 1: him deal with it, but you at least you want to.

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Speaker 1: Mike want to mention you got a wife on top

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Speaker 1: of all this. Now there people who would deal with

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Speaker 1: all this you got because obviously it did not bother

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Speaker 1: her your lifestyle. She was just tripping because you're married.

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Speaker 1: So you probably could have told her that and let

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Speaker 1: her work through that. But her damn brother though, y'all

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Speaker 1: just where y'all going out? Now, y'all that triangle is thick?

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Speaker 1: So do you think we should handle this? I don't

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Speaker 1: think you should do the bill board. I do not

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Speaker 1: think you should do the bill board if y'all want

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Speaker 1: to tell a dude's wife just to get back at him,

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Speaker 1: He's strong with it because he tried to make a

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Speaker 1: bit more than anybody would make up for and the

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Speaker 1: part you heard about as the wife. So okay, if

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Speaker 1: and just know that, you know, justice a prevail and

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Speaker 1: take care of herself. I would leave it all go

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Speaker 1: and do his wife need to know? Probably, but y'all

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Speaker 1: ain't got to tell her. She gonna find out I

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Speaker 1: got news for you. She might know. Most women are

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Speaker 1: incredibly smart. Wow. And I know some women who've had

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Speaker 1: to struggle and find out that news, and they always

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Speaker 1: kind of new and felt something. Women are very smart

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Speaker 1: to very intuitive, So she probably already know. She could

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Speaker 1: think y'all might not be telling a nothing. She don't know.

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Speaker 1: You know, she might not know about you, and she

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Speaker 1: might not know about him. But I bet that wife

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Speaker 1: knows something. She knows he's a cheater. Yeah, she just

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Speaker 1: don't know how many they are people exactly right. College

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