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Speaker 1: Scrubbing in with Down Your Basta I heart Radio and

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Speaker 1: People's Choice Award winning podcast. Um, hello everybody, we are

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Speaker 1: scrubbing in. I just wanted to say I saw in

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Speaker 1: person where the People's Choice Award is stationed at the

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Speaker 1: moment in Tanya's house. There is a little nook and

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Speaker 1: there actually is a spotlight coming down on it. The

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Speaker 1: only thing is we need a little riser. It needs

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Speaker 1: a rising, a little stand. I put it on top

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Speaker 1: of like I flipped over like a vase, you know,

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Speaker 1: like a flower vase, and put it on top of that,

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Speaker 1: but it didn't look right like it needs the hype.

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Speaker 1: It definitely needs some hype. But this is an interesting

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Speaker 1: debate height versus height no debate, Actually there is no

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Speaker 1: There's no but there's no way except for the first

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Speaker 1: one in height. I have this argument often because I

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Speaker 1: I do focus a lot on grammar, especially when when

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Speaker 1: it's things like that, but also in writing. The only

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Speaker 1: thing that I really struggle with is effect and effect

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Speaker 1: ones are I know, I just struggle with them. But anyways, yeah,

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Speaker 1: it needs the height. It needs the height. It does

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Speaker 1: need heights, maybe like a phone book under the are

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Speaker 1: you know you still get those books, you still get

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Speaker 1: them disrespectful to the People's Choice Award. Yeah, well you

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Speaker 1: can do is for the phone book and then and

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Speaker 1: then like put like a nice little cloth weddings. This

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Speaker 1: place called home Goods that probably has a little something

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Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, a rotating like that's more when I'm

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Speaker 1: talking about mark a cloth. I was just kind of

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Speaker 1: d i ying it over here. Yeah, I use on Pinterest.

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Speaker 1: So do you like guys a Jewish wedding? Because I've

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Speaker 1: been watching Mrs me Yes, I've been watching um uh,

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Speaker 1: I don't know what a serious assassination of Johnny. I'm terrified.

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Speaker 1: I can't watch it at night. I tried to watch

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Speaker 1: it at night and then I had to turn Friends

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Speaker 1: on because I got some I know. I actually started

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Speaker 1: watching a little bit of it when Darren Chris was

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Speaker 1: at the iHeart Festival and I couldn't look him in

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Speaker 1: the eye. Yeah, and I'm like, this is not him

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Speaker 1: at all, But I was so like freaked out by

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Speaker 1: him that I like literally couldn't look him in the

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Speaker 1: and he was standing just as close as you are.

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Speaker 1: It was very unnerved. Um like what's going on in

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Speaker 1: your life since I saw you? I just saw you.

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Speaker 1: I know. Well It's what's funny is after you left

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Speaker 1: my house on Friday, I felt the presence of like

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Speaker 1: my husband, I know, tell me more. And so I

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Speaker 1: wrote in you know that journal that you gave me,

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Speaker 1: I started a dear future husband journal and I started

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Speaker 1: writing him a letter that night after you left. And

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Speaker 1: so I'm going to keep as I feel his presence,

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Speaker 1: I'm going to keep right in it. Why did his

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Speaker 1: presence feel like? It just felt like I felt comforted?

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Speaker 1: Like I felt like he was like with me? Does

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Speaker 1: that make sense? Sure? It wasn't God, could have been,

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Speaker 1: could have been? But tell me more about because I'm Gonta,

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Speaker 1: I've never experienced feeling the presence of another person that

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Speaker 1: wasn't actually there. What does that feel like? It was

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Speaker 1: almost like, because I was telling Becca last week, I've

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Speaker 1: been in this headspace of like I'm not really going out,

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Speaker 1: almost like he was like in bed with me. Have

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Speaker 1: many more entries this journal will have? The journey the

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Speaker 1: journalism one interest. But I was like, how cool is

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Speaker 1: be able to give him someday. I mean, yeah, it's

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Speaker 1: very special. And I'm going to date them all. And

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Speaker 1: were supposed to me? Or what was that? Not me,

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Speaker 1: moment in May. Very interested for that to happen. No

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Speaker 1: one knows the initials. No one knows the initials except

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Speaker 1: for you. I know, oh yes, correct. I didn't want

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Speaker 1: have been a vault, but now there's gonna You know

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Speaker 1: how people want information wherever they can get it. She

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Speaker 1: be switched. We're not I don't know. Have you identified

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Speaker 1: the men in your life currently that meet these criteria? Yes,

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Speaker 1: but I also feel like it's two tiered, like it

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Speaker 1: could be I don't know, like that person could be

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Speaker 1: like the con do it to mine? But these guys

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Speaker 1: yourself marrying any of them? Oh? Do you know what?

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Speaker 1: I just had a thought? What a conduit? The person?

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Speaker 1: to talk about it. Wait, but this is what I think.

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Speaker 1: that those two letters are in his name. Well, look,

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Speaker 1: this is how the tarot game works. It could be anything.

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Speaker 1: He could once met someone with those initials. But the

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Speaker 1: people in your life have manified. You could marry those people.

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Speaker 1: Why you keep looking at her? I don't want to

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Speaker 1: say yes or no, because I have hope not. So

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Speaker 1: could see her marrying him? Do you think you could

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Speaker 1: in a weird way. Maybe? Have I ever met this person?

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Speaker 1: With the things we now? I know? That's what I'm

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Speaker 1: it is interesting. Have I met this person? I don't know? Actually? Interesting?

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Speaker 1: Do they work in our industry? Yes? Interesting? So you're like,

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Speaker 1: this feels like that app where you can ask questions

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Speaker 1: and like somehow it always guesses exactly what it is,

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Speaker 1: just because you ask so many questions that you know, right, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: that's cute. So you just wrote a letter like, hey,

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Speaker 1: I'm thinking of you tonight. Those two pages of like

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Speaker 1: everything that I was feeling. I actually could read a

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Speaker 1: little bit like God driven. Okay, but he wasn't there

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Speaker 1: whatever he was doing, like at peace. Mhm, is anybody

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Speaker 1: every look at me like I'm crazy? Eastern? I mean,

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Speaker 1: little crazy. It's a little maybe. I mean, you said

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Speaker 1: I wouldn't have said that word, but you said at first.

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Speaker 1: I'm just saying it's a little um. It's not something

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Speaker 1: his journal I am. I don't know if he quite,

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Speaker 1: me this. Um. She gave like a speech about her

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Speaker 1: the Facebook groups so that they can hear it. Well,

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Speaker 1: We're such hermits. Were like, we want to go outside

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Speaker 1: because it's cold. Yeah, if it drops flow seventy, it's you, guys.

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Speaker 1: The rest of American in February does not want to

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Speaker 1: he's one of my favorite. This was when he was

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Speaker 1: promoting Concussion a couple of years ago. I'm trying that

425
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Speaker 1: was like before this last presidential Yeah, this would have

426
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Speaker 1: been right after Trump Trump. Who was your most like

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Speaker 1: like you were surprised by like interview, Like you were

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Speaker 1: going into a kind of like and then you ended

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Speaker 1: up being like, wow, I'll tell you I didn't I

430
00:23:47,480 --> 00:23:49,480
Speaker 1: never doubted that she would be awesome, but I was

431
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Speaker 1: surprised at how well we connected in our interview Sandra Bullock,

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Speaker 1: Um I was interviewing her and she just like with

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Speaker 1: with her son, um uh it it just was it

434
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Speaker 1: was a real connection. You know, you you have you

435
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Speaker 1: understand that you have sometimes have these micro connections with

436
00:24:06,680 --> 00:24:08,720
Speaker 1: people and in the moment it's like, oh that's cool,

437
00:24:09,119 --> 00:24:12,840
Speaker 1: but it doesn't really grow beyond anything beyond that moment.

438
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Speaker 1: This was like it was awesome through and through. Yeah,

439
00:24:16,119 --> 00:24:20,000
Speaker 1: and Lady Gaga has surprised me lately. We were doing

440
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Speaker 1: the Grammys and she was walking down the hallway and

441
00:24:22,720 --> 00:24:24,679
Speaker 1: I didn't know whether we were under the interview or not,

442
00:24:24,720 --> 00:24:27,960
Speaker 1: and all of a sudden, I hear Scott and I

443
00:24:28,040 --> 00:24:32,399
Speaker 1: was like, let me just grabbed my phone and I

444
00:24:32,440 --> 00:24:35,920
Speaker 1: was like insto story and she was like, there you are, Scott.

445
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Speaker 1: I've been waiting for you. That's right. Nothing that happened

446
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Speaker 1: with me with Cia really. She was like, Hi, Nick,

447
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Speaker 1: I'm SI and I was like, oh my god. So

448
00:24:52,000 --> 00:24:55,320
Speaker 1: she has that nnymity, but she was like so polite

449
00:24:55,320 --> 00:24:56,840
Speaker 1: and like went out of her way to like introduce

450
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Speaker 1: herself because she like watched the show, huge fan, and

451
00:25:02,080 --> 00:25:04,240
Speaker 1: and we like shot there for like an hour. It

452
00:25:04,320 --> 00:25:08,199
Speaker 1: was great that is and then Eila Fisher and Sasha

453
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Speaker 1: Baric Cola was pretty cool slash bar and like, I've

454
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Speaker 1: seen all your work. I'm like I'm saying all I

455
00:25:15,240 --> 00:25:17,520
Speaker 1: think the only moment I had that moment, and it

456
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Speaker 1: really made me look like a hero. Because my youngest

457
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Speaker 1: sister was or Is was obsessed with Laana del Rey

458
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Speaker 1: and I got her tickets for her birthday for um

459
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Speaker 1: to this festival like down in Orange County and so

460
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Speaker 1: we went and I had two v I P tickets,

461
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Speaker 1: but it was three of my sisters and so we

462
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Speaker 1: like snuck into the v I P section, all three

463
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Speaker 1: of us, and then I'm like, oh, this is cool.

464
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Speaker 1: And then this guy comes and throws wristbands on us

465
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Speaker 1: and he's like are you He's like you're from the Bachelor,

466
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Speaker 1: and I was like oh yeah, and he's like these

467
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Speaker 1: are for backstage, and I'm like okay. So we got

468
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Speaker 1: backstage and I don't I'm not. I like Laana del

469
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Speaker 1: Ray and her music, but I couldn't tell you what

470
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Speaker 1: she looked like at the time. And so my sister

471
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Speaker 1: is like there she is right there, and I'm like which,

472
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Speaker 1: and she points her out and I'm like, go say

473
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Speaker 1: like she's chatting with people, go say hey. And she's

474
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Speaker 1: like I can go say hey. So I'm like what,

475
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Speaker 1: I'll go say hey. So I go up and I'm like, hi,

476
00:26:08,000 --> 00:26:10,199
Speaker 1: excuse me, and she turns and she goes back up

477
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Speaker 1: and my sister goes you watch the Bachelo. I've never

478
00:26:16,240 --> 00:26:20,160
Speaker 1: felt cooler than it's a weird feeling. Sometimes sometimes it's

479
00:26:20,160 --> 00:26:23,080
Speaker 1: pretty flattering. Yeah, I mean totally it's like these like

480
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Speaker 1: talented people that are like like really it was always

481
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Speaker 1: she was just so like like like very demure in polite,

482
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Speaker 1: and she's like, Hi, I just I just wanted to

483
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Speaker 1: introduce myself. Okay, yeah, sure we have Gaga introducing. I mean,

484
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Speaker 1: upset about it. Nothing Gaga does impress I mean it

485
00:26:43,480 --> 00:26:46,800
Speaker 1: surprises me everything. I mean she's very talented. Yeah, Okay,

486
00:26:47,080 --> 00:26:48,879
Speaker 1: she's like one of them all, hasn't she know? No,

487
00:26:49,000 --> 00:26:52,280
Speaker 1: she doesn't have EGOT yet, not yet. I think she's

488
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Speaker 1: missing a Tony. We'll get on it. I did see

489
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Speaker 1: someone said she got it and said Tony Bennett because

490
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Speaker 1: she knows. Ah, that's a good one. She does have, Tony, don't.

491
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Speaker 1: She's about to perform in space, I hear. I mean

492
00:27:10,640 --> 00:27:14,640
Speaker 1: she's winning. What do you get a space gup interview?

493
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Speaker 1: She's what she's looking to be the first performer in space.

494
00:27:18,680 --> 00:27:22,040
Speaker 1: Why not? You know? Okay, we're gonna get to ask

495
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Speaker 1: a guy. We're gonna do robin Hood first. I'll do

496
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Speaker 1: and so I recommend it. Yeah, actually, Sisney was talking

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Speaker 1: about wanting to start a new hobby about investing in stocks. Yeah,

521
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Speaker 1: we should give her this best place to start. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: all right, here we go, ready for the questions. We

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Speaker 1: posted this under scrubbing in Facebook pages. By the way,

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Speaker 1: is very very close to members. So I think I

525
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Speaker 1: have just started your podcast that they're very invested. They

526
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Speaker 1: want a People's Choice award. All right. This is from

527
00:29:12,320 --> 00:29:14,160
Speaker 1: Lisa and this is a personal thing for her, but

528
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Speaker 1: I also think this is a a very relatable. It's very

529
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Speaker 1: typical guy. Wait, wait, wait before you are you single? No? No, okay,

530
00:29:20,800 --> 00:29:23,800
Speaker 1: this is a good in a relationship, in a relationship. Okay,

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Speaker 1: you sure you know you know it's it's in the

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Speaker 1: it's in the in the same vein of starburst, right,

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Speaker 1: red star pink starburst. Risk. No, it's not new at all,

534
00:29:34,680 --> 00:29:38,040
Speaker 1: but you know you want to protect it. Our listeners,

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Speaker 1: you are the perspective of man in a relationship. You

536
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Speaker 1: are a man single? Sure alright? Lisa would like to

537
00:29:44,920 --> 00:29:47,680
Speaker 1: know why does my boyfriend of almost four years and

538
00:29:47,800 --> 00:29:50,560
Speaker 1: friends for over twenty years say he doesn't believe in

539
00:29:50,640 --> 00:29:52,680
Speaker 1: marriage but he wants to spend his life with me? Like,

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00:29:52,720 --> 00:29:55,440
Speaker 1: what does that even mean it might mean just that.

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Speaker 1: I mean, right, can it not? I mean, it's two

542
00:29:59,640 --> 00:30:02,959
Speaker 1: thousand teen. Some people don't want to get married anymore.

543
00:30:02,960 --> 00:30:07,640
Speaker 1: We've become less traditional, he might not be religious elements

544
00:30:08,000 --> 00:30:10,480
Speaker 1: play a role, especially when it comes to marriage. UM,

545
00:30:10,680 --> 00:30:12,600
Speaker 1: and you know, less and let people are feeling that

546
00:30:12,800 --> 00:30:14,760
Speaker 1: less and less pressure. So it's to become a more

547
00:30:14,800 --> 00:30:17,080
Speaker 1: of a thing. I mean, I think that's entirely possible.

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00:30:17,240 --> 00:30:20,400
Speaker 1: It also could be an excuse. I think you have

549
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Speaker 1: to it's just as clear as she seems to be

550
00:30:22,920 --> 00:30:25,800
Speaker 1: on his stance of wanting to not be married, I

551
00:30:25,840 --> 00:30:27,760
Speaker 1: think she probably needs to get clear on her stance

552
00:30:27,800 --> 00:30:30,440
Speaker 1: of what she wants. So like it's a relationship, it's

553
00:30:30,440 --> 00:30:33,800
Speaker 1: a conversation, it's it's something you're building together. So if

554
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Speaker 1: if his take is I'm good where we are, I

555
00:30:36,720 --> 00:30:39,600
Speaker 1: don't want to be married if you aren't, don't expect

556
00:30:39,600 --> 00:30:42,040
Speaker 1: that to change, and don't expect that to be something

557
00:30:42,080 --> 00:30:45,880
Speaker 1: you can convince him to do ye, to do something else,

558
00:30:46,480 --> 00:30:48,760
Speaker 1: but perhaps maybe get clear about what it is you want,

559
00:30:49,480 --> 00:30:51,120
Speaker 1: uh and and to be able to voice it the

560
00:30:51,160 --> 00:30:53,440
Speaker 1: same with the same authority that he's able to let

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Speaker 1: her know. I always like it when I get questions

562
00:30:55,480 --> 00:30:58,760
Speaker 1: obviously because you know, it helps content and we get

563
00:30:58,800 --> 00:31:00,600
Speaker 1: to do the podcast like this, But at the same

564
00:31:00,640 --> 00:31:03,240
Speaker 1: time I'll be surprised and be like, that is a

565
00:31:03,320 --> 00:31:09,520
Speaker 1: great question for him. Yeah, um, you know marriage is

566
00:31:09,560 --> 00:31:11,920
Speaker 1: a like having kids. Do you want to get married

567
00:31:11,920 --> 00:31:14,080
Speaker 1: when you start dating someone early on? These are these

568
00:31:14,080 --> 00:31:16,480
Speaker 1: are conversations you should have with people you see a

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Speaker 1: future with, right because especially nowadays, nowadays, you know, we

570
00:31:21,000 --> 00:31:24,400
Speaker 1: are less traditional. Like you know in nineteen sixty lead

571
00:31:24,520 --> 00:31:26,480
Speaker 1: there's a playbook. This is what you did, whether you

572
00:31:26,480 --> 00:31:28,120
Speaker 1: wanted to or not. You're like, hey, I'm gonna get

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Speaker 1: I'm supposed to get married and engaged, I'm gonna have kids,

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00:31:30,360 --> 00:31:32,320
Speaker 1: and I don't know really want to, but like everyone says,

575
00:31:32,320 --> 00:31:36,640
Speaker 1: I have to you, there's there there's less expectations, and

576
00:31:36,680 --> 00:31:39,400
Speaker 1: so some people might not. So you know, you should

577
00:31:39,440 --> 00:31:41,600
Speaker 1: have that conversation. And if he says, I I love

578
00:31:41,640 --> 00:31:42,480
Speaker 1: you and what I would be with you, but I

579
00:31:42,720 --> 00:31:45,400
Speaker 1: don't believe in the foundation of marriage or whatever and

580
00:31:45,440 --> 00:31:47,840
Speaker 1: you do, that's a conversation you guys need to have

581
00:31:47,880 --> 00:31:50,160
Speaker 1: and maybe you should ask him what does that mean?

582
00:31:50,280 --> 00:31:52,080
Speaker 1: Is that an excuse? Are you trying to not commit

583
00:31:52,120 --> 00:31:54,720
Speaker 1: to me or or is it a financial thing? Um,

584
00:31:54,760 --> 00:31:56,680
Speaker 1: you know, because you know you should let him know

585
00:31:56,760 --> 00:31:59,840
Speaker 1: that even in some states you know there's the the

586
00:32:00,040 --> 00:32:02,080
Speaker 1: off you still make get half even if he doesn't

587
00:32:02,120 --> 00:32:04,040
Speaker 1: marry you, because you know, you know, so there's you

588
00:32:04,080 --> 00:32:06,080
Speaker 1: should ask those questions. And sometimes people are afraid to

589
00:32:06,120 --> 00:32:08,520
Speaker 1: ask questions of their partner, or sometimes they're afraid of

590
00:32:08,560 --> 00:32:11,000
Speaker 1: the answer. To your point, guys mean what they say

591
00:32:11,040 --> 00:32:12,640
Speaker 1: when they say that. There often isn't a lot of

592
00:32:12,640 --> 00:32:14,960
Speaker 1: subtext to it. It is what they say. Some guys

593
00:32:14,960 --> 00:32:18,400
Speaker 1: are full of sure, but oftentimes, and I will to

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Speaker 1: your point, Um, a lot of men are honest, and

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00:32:23,360 --> 00:32:25,720
Speaker 1: and and women are honest. Sometimes we don't hear people,

596
00:32:25,800 --> 00:32:27,720
Speaker 1: or we don't want to hear they'll say something You're like,

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00:32:27,800 --> 00:32:30,840
Speaker 1: oh yeah, well you don't really mean that, or um. Listen,

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Speaker 1: sometimes when when guys say I'm not looking for a girlfriend,

599
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Speaker 1: I'm not looking for a girl friend, I don't don't

600
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Speaker 1: assume you're going to change them. I like what you

601
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Speaker 1: said that, like her wanting marriage is just as important

602
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Speaker 1: as him not I'm not wanting it. And I think

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Speaker 1: she may also want to ask one more question, like

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Speaker 1: are you married to anyone else, you know what I like,

605
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Speaker 1: it's real out here in these streets. And while you

606
00:32:53,040 --> 00:32:55,280
Speaker 1: may not want to be married to me, you may

607
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Speaker 1: already be in a a committed relationship with I mean saying, like,

608
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Speaker 1: you got to be really clear, assume nothing, and you're

609
00:33:04,720 --> 00:33:07,080
Speaker 1: gonna have to back his point. You gotta you gotta

610
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Speaker 1: decide how much you value that one thing. You know. Again,

611
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Speaker 1: sometimes we all grow up in in in various ways,

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Speaker 1: and we are a product are of our environment at times,

613
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Speaker 1: and as we get older, we develop our own interest

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Speaker 1: and you know, even though like we might get raised

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Speaker 1: in a family that's a one way and we think

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Speaker 1: that's how we're supposed to do it, we may realize

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Speaker 1: it's less important to us. I don't know, but if

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Speaker 1: you do, if if marriage and that fountain is truly

619
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Speaker 1: important to you, should stick to your guns, and it

620
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Speaker 1: might be a reason to Unfortunately, that's a big deal.

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Speaker 1: Like that's not something you can get annore. Like you

622
00:33:37,880 --> 00:33:40,400
Speaker 1: can like pretend you're okay with something and then you're not,

623
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Speaker 1: and then allways come up passive aggressively in the relationship

624
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Speaker 1: for for a while. I will also say, though about

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Speaker 1: the the excuse or the reason I don't believe in marriage.

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Speaker 1: It's like, well if if the other, if your partner

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Speaker 1: does believe in marriage, and it's it's just fine with

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Speaker 1: you you to not be married, why not get married? Right? Like,

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Speaker 1: if it's if it's if if your perspective on getting married,

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Speaker 1: he's like, I'm just really not into it. I don't

631
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Speaker 1: it doesn't really matter to me. But it really matters

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00:34:06,640 --> 00:34:10,480
Speaker 1: to your partner, then why not try it? You know

633
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Speaker 1: what I mean? I mean, that's an that's an option.

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00:34:12,840 --> 00:34:15,239
Speaker 1: But some people really don't believe in it, and they

635
00:34:15,280 --> 00:34:19,560
Speaker 1: might have conviction towards that if they're like totally indifferent

636
00:34:19,560 --> 00:34:21,120
Speaker 1: about it, because you know, some people are like I

637
00:34:21,280 --> 00:34:23,399
Speaker 1: just don't want to see myself getting married, And that's

638
00:34:23,440 --> 00:34:26,360
Speaker 1: not really there's no sort of emotional baggage or anything

639
00:34:26,400 --> 00:34:27,799
Speaker 1: like that. It's just like, oh, I just never saw

640
00:34:27,960 --> 00:34:31,239
Speaker 1: my life playing out that way, but your partner absolutely does.

641
00:34:31,800 --> 00:34:35,399
Speaker 1: Perhaps that's a that's a space for you. Sometimes Dean

642
00:34:35,520 --> 00:34:37,640
Speaker 1: like not believe in marriage. Well, Dean's got a lot

643
00:34:37,640 --> 00:34:40,480
Speaker 1: going on. There's a lot of Dean doesn't believe in

644
00:34:40,520 --> 00:34:47,960
Speaker 1: Deodor either. There's a post on the Facebook page this

645
00:34:48,000 --> 00:34:51,600
Speaker 1: week where that he proposed to her, and she said, yes,

646
00:34:51,680 --> 00:34:53,279
Speaker 1: that's great, and they were gonna have a big wedding.

647
00:34:53,280 --> 00:34:54,640
Speaker 1: There was going to do like a city hall kind

648
00:34:54,640 --> 00:34:56,440
Speaker 1: of judge thing, and they were both totally fine with that.

649
00:34:56,520 --> 00:34:59,200
Speaker 1: They're gonna do it a year from now, between their birthdays.

650
00:34:59,440 --> 00:35:01,080
Speaker 1: That was the plan. Well, it turns out that he

651
00:35:01,080 --> 00:35:02,480
Speaker 1: wasn't able to get time off of that, but that

652
00:35:02,520 --> 00:35:04,480
Speaker 1: was the plan. He's getting time off then, but he

653
00:35:04,520 --> 00:35:06,359
Speaker 1: started a new jobs. You can get time off, so

654
00:35:06,360 --> 00:35:08,319
Speaker 1: that she was like, well, instead of getting married in

655
00:35:08,320 --> 00:35:10,480
Speaker 1: a year, let's just get married now, and he was

656
00:35:10,480 --> 00:35:14,600
Speaker 1: like I I. And so she's panicking, does he really

657
00:35:14,640 --> 00:35:16,040
Speaker 1: want to marry me? So I jumped in and said

658
00:35:16,360 --> 00:35:19,359
Speaker 1: he does. It's fine, but we need a little We

659
00:35:19,400 --> 00:35:22,719
Speaker 1: need that year to kind of prepare ourselves big one.

660
00:35:22,760 --> 00:35:25,239
Speaker 1: We're not ready for two weeks and there be And

661
00:35:25,239 --> 00:35:27,600
Speaker 1: it's okay, he's not And that's okay. I mean, I

662
00:35:27,640 --> 00:35:30,440
Speaker 1: have proven that engagements it's kind of like a loose commitment,

663
00:35:32,400 --> 00:35:35,680
Speaker 1: is it on the Bachelor? I'm kidding. Well, what my

664
00:35:35,719 --> 00:35:37,960
Speaker 1: point is is that there is a difference between engagement

665
00:35:38,000 --> 00:35:41,400
Speaker 1: and married, and there's marriage is far more permanent and

666
00:35:41,480 --> 00:35:43,280
Speaker 1: harder to get out of. And there is a courtship

667
00:35:43,320 --> 00:35:50,200
Speaker 1: and it's kind of you know, and that's just a

668
00:35:50,320 --> 00:35:55,120
Speaker 1: really sounds very unromantic. But for all the people who

669
00:35:55,120 --> 00:35:58,279
Speaker 1: have been married and divorce, I'm sure they would be like, yeah,

670
00:35:58,360 --> 00:36:00,279
Speaker 1: make sure you know what I'm saying. It's not You've

671
00:36:00,280 --> 00:36:02,239
Speaker 1: had a brother who went through that, and it's it's

672
00:36:02,280 --> 00:36:06,120
Speaker 1: not an easy thing. And all jokes aside, like, divorce

673
00:36:06,239 --> 00:36:10,839
Speaker 1: is a very emotional and financial, difficult, stressful thing that

674
00:36:11,239 --> 00:36:14,440
Speaker 1: sometimes people can rush into things in the in the

675
00:36:14,520 --> 00:36:17,360
Speaker 1: name of romance and like, oh, well, it's not romantic

676
00:36:17,400 --> 00:36:19,240
Speaker 1: and we have to we have to be in the moment.

677
00:36:19,320 --> 00:36:21,560
Speaker 1: Well that's great, you know, you capture that one moment

678
00:36:21,560 --> 00:36:23,920
Speaker 1: and that one Tuesday for the rest of your life

679
00:36:24,000 --> 00:36:26,040
Speaker 1: because you know, that's you know, that's something that people

680
00:36:26,040 --> 00:36:31,120
Speaker 1: should think about. All right, next question, Sorry, you know,

681
00:36:33,520 --> 00:36:39,719
Speaker 1: marriage it's hard. If you become intimate with a guy

682
00:36:39,760 --> 00:36:42,920
Speaker 1: without knowing him very long, does that hurt the possibility

683
00:36:42,960 --> 00:36:45,560
Speaker 1: of getting into a relationship. Can a hook up situation

684
00:36:45,640 --> 00:36:51,480
Speaker 1: ever lead to a relationship? Yeah? You think so? Are

685
00:36:51,480 --> 00:36:57,080
Speaker 1: we looking at um? I think you have to be

686
00:36:57,120 --> 00:36:58,960
Speaker 1: clear on what your intentions are, and I think you

687
00:36:59,000 --> 00:37:02,399
Speaker 1: should be You should be confident in saying I want

688
00:37:02,440 --> 00:37:04,879
Speaker 1: something else, I want something more, I want a relationship.

689
00:37:05,239 --> 00:37:07,160
Speaker 1: I don't think that may maybe that's the first thing

690
00:37:07,200 --> 00:37:10,360
Speaker 1: you say, but I think it's hard to make hookups

691
00:37:10,760 --> 00:37:15,719
Speaker 1: relationships personally. That last, right, because I think the part

692
00:37:15,800 --> 00:37:19,279
Speaker 1: of the hook up aspect is for a for a guy,

693
00:37:19,520 --> 00:37:22,160
Speaker 1: part of the hook up aspect is it's not emotional

694
00:37:22,480 --> 00:37:26,440
Speaker 1: per se. There are no crazy strings per se, there's

695
00:37:26,480 --> 00:37:29,640
Speaker 1: no real sense of responsibility. And so then when you

696
00:37:30,040 --> 00:37:33,640
Speaker 1: when you flip that on a dime to hey, actually

697
00:37:33,680 --> 00:37:35,720
Speaker 1: I'm enjoying this, I think maybe you and I should

698
00:37:35,719 --> 00:37:41,040
Speaker 1: do this thing. It has a shot, I suppose, you know, yeah,

699
00:37:41,040 --> 00:37:42,799
Speaker 1: I mean I would agree with Scott in the sense

700
00:37:42,800 --> 00:37:45,640
Speaker 1: that I think guys, you know, you know, the stereotype

701
00:37:45,640 --> 00:37:47,680
Speaker 1: of guys are more physical. They might be more willing

702
00:37:47,719 --> 00:37:50,960
Speaker 1: to have the up hook up relationship. But when got

703
00:37:51,160 --> 00:37:55,760
Speaker 1: you know, you know, the the for whatever mantra or whatever,

704
00:37:55,840 --> 00:37:57,319
Speaker 1: or the guy just wants to hook up. I mean,

705
00:37:57,400 --> 00:38:00,200
Speaker 1: every guy you could say, is until they're not they

706
00:38:00,239 --> 00:38:02,560
Speaker 1: meet the girl who they like drives the nuts, and

707
00:38:02,600 --> 00:38:05,960
Speaker 1: they they start wanting to do the romantic things, you know,

708
00:38:06,200 --> 00:38:09,520
Speaker 1: And I think so to that point, you know, I

709
00:38:09,520 --> 00:38:12,120
Speaker 1: think some guys and when they meet that girl, they've

710
00:38:12,160 --> 00:38:14,719
Speaker 1: become the person's like, let's talk about the future, and

711
00:38:14,719 --> 00:38:15,759
Speaker 1: I want to take you out and if you do

712
00:38:15,840 --> 00:38:18,360
Speaker 1: not have to rush your baby, that's fine, and like, um,

713
00:38:18,400 --> 00:38:22,160
Speaker 1: but I do. I do think, Um, that's not that's

714
00:38:21,960 --> 00:38:25,760
Speaker 1: that's not the case always, right. I think sometimes you can.

715
00:38:25,840 --> 00:38:28,040
Speaker 1: I think there are guys out there, especially younger men,

716
00:38:28,120 --> 00:38:30,680
Speaker 1: who think to themselves, I'm not looking for a girlfriend

717
00:38:30,760 --> 00:38:33,000
Speaker 1: right now. I'm young, I'm out there, and then now

718
00:38:33,080 --> 00:38:34,959
Speaker 1: everyone they meet they kind of said this to every

719
00:38:35,040 --> 00:38:37,160
Speaker 1: girl because they don't want to lead them on. It's like, listen, girl,

720
00:38:37,200 --> 00:38:38,719
Speaker 1: are you seem cool? Like but I don't. I'm not

721
00:38:38,760 --> 00:38:40,319
Speaker 1: looking for a girlfriend, and all of a sudden, you

722
00:38:40,400 --> 00:38:42,719
Speaker 1: start hooking up and you're just like, I think I

723
00:38:42,719 --> 00:38:44,720
Speaker 1: love you, you know, kind of that that can happen.

724
00:38:44,760 --> 00:38:46,640
Speaker 1: They can't, but I think I think also though, what

725
00:38:46,719 --> 00:38:50,480
Speaker 1: happens too is you get into a routine right of

726
00:38:50,520 --> 00:38:52,799
Speaker 1: hooking up and spending time with each other, and then

727
00:38:53,600 --> 00:38:57,760
Speaker 1: it just becomes right. Because you're spending so much time together,

728
00:38:57,840 --> 00:39:00,880
Speaker 1: it becomes this thing that mimics a relationship ship and

729
00:39:01,600 --> 00:39:03,759
Speaker 1: it's not and it's not it's not. And then and

730
00:39:03,760 --> 00:39:07,200
Speaker 1: then the at the first sign of any sort of friction,

731
00:39:07,840 --> 00:39:10,120
Speaker 1: friction is probably a bad word for hooking up. But

732
00:39:10,160 --> 00:39:13,200
Speaker 1: like at the first sign of any vacation, the first

733
00:39:13,239 --> 00:39:17,359
Speaker 1: sign of any any hardship, the guy is out and

734
00:39:17,400 --> 00:39:19,800
Speaker 1: the girl is like, but we're together? Do you know

735
00:39:19,840 --> 00:39:21,640
Speaker 1: what I mean? So this that's what happens when you

736
00:39:21,760 --> 00:39:25,279
Speaker 1: when you there's no communication. Ran, Let me ask this guy,

737
00:39:25,320 --> 00:39:27,080
Speaker 1: what do you think? There's always a debate do you

738
00:39:27,120 --> 00:39:30,160
Speaker 1: think as a guy, Um, if you enjoy having sex

739
00:39:30,160 --> 00:39:34,400
Speaker 1: with someone, does it matter whether how how quickly or

740
00:39:34,440 --> 00:39:36,640
Speaker 1: how long a woman makes you wait? Because I think

741
00:39:36,640 --> 00:39:39,439
Speaker 1: there's a stereotype out there that well, if I hook

742
00:39:39,520 --> 00:39:41,920
Speaker 1: up with him too soon, he won't respect me or

743
00:39:41,960 --> 00:39:43,839
Speaker 1: he won't want to hook up again, So I'm going

744
00:39:43,880 --> 00:39:46,319
Speaker 1: to make him way do you believe in that? I think, well,

745
00:39:46,320 --> 00:39:49,879
Speaker 1: I think it. I think it depends on who else

746
00:39:49,920 --> 00:39:54,240
Speaker 1: we're hooking up with, right, So, like you're usually aware

747
00:39:54,400 --> 00:39:56,880
Speaker 1: if you're in a in a situation where it's like

748
00:39:57,000 --> 00:39:59,319
Speaker 1: is me or you me and you exclusively hooking up?

749
00:39:59,640 --> 00:40:01,040
Speaker 1: Or if it's like, hey, where does out here? And

750
00:40:01,120 --> 00:40:03,040
Speaker 1: when I saw you, let's get it on? You know,

751
00:40:03,080 --> 00:40:05,000
Speaker 1: but I'm talking about like you you see this girl,

752
00:40:05,040 --> 00:40:07,960
Speaker 1: you have this intimate moment. But the act of hooking up.

753
00:40:08,000 --> 00:40:10,120
Speaker 1: Do you think that just immediately makes you go, yeah,

754
00:40:10,160 --> 00:40:12,680
Speaker 1: I'm good now or do you? Or is it a matter?

755
00:40:12,920 --> 00:40:15,160
Speaker 1: Sometimes there's some people you think no, I think. I

756
00:40:15,160 --> 00:40:18,560
Speaker 1: think sometimes it's definitely the conquest mentality. Right, it's like

757
00:40:18,960 --> 00:40:21,560
Speaker 1: got it and done? Do you know what I mean?

758
00:40:21,640 --> 00:40:24,520
Speaker 1: And and unfortunately you know And I'm certainly not saying

759
00:40:24,520 --> 00:40:27,799
Speaker 1: that that is typical that is every guy that is always,

760
00:40:28,239 --> 00:40:30,879
Speaker 1: But yes, there is there is something there. But there's

761
00:40:30,920 --> 00:40:34,520
Speaker 1: also something I think wrapped in what you value, and

762
00:40:34,600 --> 00:40:36,879
Speaker 1: what you value you don't just give away, and what

763
00:40:36,920 --> 00:40:40,799
Speaker 1: you value you don't misuse or mistreat. Right. And so

764
00:40:41,040 --> 00:40:45,160
Speaker 1: while there is this chase thing that men enjoy and

765
00:40:45,160 --> 00:40:48,400
Speaker 1: that women enjoy, there's also like a I value myself

766
00:40:48,520 --> 00:40:52,440
Speaker 1: enough to not just give you all of me and

767
00:40:52,480 --> 00:40:54,840
Speaker 1: I don't even know you yet. Um. And so I

768
00:40:54,840 --> 00:40:57,319
Speaker 1: think in the process of getting to know someone, you

769
00:40:57,400 --> 00:41:01,080
Speaker 1: invest and think when you invest, like it's like a marriage,

770
00:41:01,120 --> 00:41:02,839
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? When when the investment is

771
00:41:03,160 --> 00:41:07,480
Speaker 1: more sizeable, it is harder to pull all your money out. Well,

772
00:41:07,480 --> 00:41:09,439
Speaker 1: what don't you say as a guy. If if you're

773
00:41:09,520 --> 00:41:11,879
Speaker 1: like intention in your mentality is like I just want

774
00:41:11,880 --> 00:41:14,200
Speaker 1: to hook up with someone. I'm not like, I know,

775
00:41:14,280 --> 00:41:18,279
Speaker 1: I'm not looking for a relationship. And then or let's

776
00:41:18,280 --> 00:41:21,239
Speaker 1: say you see a girl, you're really into her, you're

777
00:41:21,320 --> 00:41:23,200
Speaker 1: kind of in a hook up mentality, but do you

778
00:41:23,239 --> 00:41:26,160
Speaker 1: like her? But then she's like I like him, I'm

779
00:41:26,160 --> 00:41:28,239
Speaker 1: not just going to give it up. Are you going

780
00:41:28,280 --> 00:41:30,759
Speaker 1: to keep pursuing that girl? Because as long as she's

781
00:41:30,760 --> 00:41:34,359
Speaker 1: not giving it up, you're still interested because they're getting that.

782
00:41:34,480 --> 00:41:36,759
Speaker 1: I think that can happen to Scott's point, I mean,

783
00:41:36,960 --> 00:41:40,320
Speaker 1: people are competitive and there is sometimes a conquest mentality,

784
00:41:40,360 --> 00:41:43,000
Speaker 1: and I think men can get caught up in that.

785
00:41:43,400 --> 00:41:47,160
Speaker 1: I do think, however, um that is, I don't necessary

786
00:41:47,160 --> 00:41:52,680
Speaker 1: believe that stereotype in general. I think people enjoy hooking

787
00:41:52,719 --> 00:41:55,360
Speaker 1: up or being intimate with some people more than others.

788
00:41:55,680 --> 00:41:58,719
Speaker 1: And sometimes you just might if if and again, there's

789
00:41:58,760 --> 00:42:00,040
Speaker 1: no right or wrong. If you want to wait, you

790
00:42:00,040 --> 00:42:02,560
Speaker 1: should wait. There's definitely value and like not rushing it.

791
00:42:02,600 --> 00:42:05,560
Speaker 1: I don't think people should sleep with people trying to

792
00:42:05,560 --> 00:42:08,200
Speaker 1: get them to like them. That's not a healthy tactic.

793
00:42:08,480 --> 00:42:11,880
Speaker 1: But if you are, but if you are a sex

794
00:42:11,960 --> 00:42:14,160
Speaker 1: positive person and you enjoy it by all means, go

795
00:42:14,280 --> 00:42:16,279
Speaker 1: for it. Just be smart and you know, like have

796
00:42:16,440 --> 00:42:18,840
Speaker 1: conversations about it. What I'm saying is what I don't

797
00:42:18,880 --> 00:42:22,080
Speaker 1: think is that. I think for guys, if they enjoy

798
00:42:22,280 --> 00:42:24,960
Speaker 1: someone you know, they don't know. And if you've never

799
00:42:24,960 --> 00:42:27,120
Speaker 1: hooked up with something, you don't know the chemistry you'll have,

800
00:42:27,239 --> 00:42:29,120
Speaker 1: you don't know what it's alike. And I just think,

801
00:42:29,760 --> 00:42:32,000
Speaker 1: you know, there's sometimes you'll hook up with someone and

802
00:42:32,080 --> 00:42:35,160
Speaker 1: kind of be that, well, okay, it's fine, you know,

803
00:42:35,200 --> 00:42:38,400
Speaker 1: like maybe it's it's there's there's not the emotional connection, right,

804
00:42:38,440 --> 00:42:40,560
Speaker 1: you haven't fallen in love, and they're the physical aspic

805
00:42:40,760 --> 00:42:43,480
Speaker 1: was fine, you know, And then there's some people you're

806
00:42:43,520 --> 00:42:46,160
Speaker 1: just like she she blew my mind and like, I

807
00:42:46,160 --> 00:42:47,839
Speaker 1: don't know if I want to uh, you know, then

808
00:42:47,880 --> 00:42:50,279
Speaker 1: you you you want more of that. It's anything you

809
00:42:50,280 --> 00:42:51,880
Speaker 1: try for the first time, You're like, that was great,

810
00:42:51,920 --> 00:42:54,040
Speaker 1: I would like that again. What I'm saying is sometimes

811
00:42:54,080 --> 00:42:56,840
Speaker 1: I think women, if you are going to make a

812
00:42:56,880 --> 00:42:59,920
Speaker 1: guy wait for the sake of waiting, and and at

813
00:43:00,160 --> 00:43:02,719
Speaker 1: fear of he he might not respect you, or things

814
00:43:02,719 --> 00:43:04,480
Speaker 1: like again, if you want to wait because it's important

815
00:43:04,480 --> 00:43:07,000
Speaker 1: to you. That's what you should do for yourself. But

816
00:43:07,040 --> 00:43:10,480
Speaker 1: if you're using it as a tool, almost a manipulation tactic,

817
00:43:10,520 --> 00:43:12,919
Speaker 1: to get him to like value you more, you should

818
00:43:13,000 --> 00:43:15,640
Speaker 1: value yourself. I think you can run the risk of

819
00:43:16,000 --> 00:43:19,800
Speaker 1: wasting time because he still might eventually just be sucked

820
00:43:19,840 --> 00:43:22,600
Speaker 1: into the conquest. He might be focused on, well, she's

821
00:43:22,600 --> 00:43:24,160
Speaker 1: making me do all this, and I'm gonna do it.

822
00:43:24,239 --> 00:43:27,200
Speaker 1: This is fun. And then it happens, and the result

823
00:43:27,239 --> 00:43:29,200
Speaker 1: can be the same as it was a month ago,

824
00:43:29,239 --> 00:43:31,680
Speaker 1: where he's just like, I'm good, you know, like, because

825
00:43:31,760 --> 00:43:34,560
Speaker 1: it wasn't necessarily just about the conquest. He just maybe

826
00:43:34,840 --> 00:43:37,080
Speaker 1: wasn't that into you. He just might not that that.

827
00:43:37,200 --> 00:43:39,200
Speaker 1: It might just be totally and you might also think

828
00:43:39,200 --> 00:43:42,480
Speaker 1: it's totally average too, you know. But I think that

829
00:43:42,520 --> 00:43:44,600
Speaker 1: can happen a lot. I'll say that though in the

830
00:43:44,680 --> 00:43:49,239
Speaker 1: in the same in the same vein of waiting for

831
00:43:49,280 --> 00:43:52,120
Speaker 1: the sake of of the chase or the conquest. I

832
00:43:52,160 --> 00:43:55,600
Speaker 1: think that I think that if you are someone who

833
00:43:55,680 --> 00:43:59,160
Speaker 1: is willing to wait, you are also saving yourself from

834
00:43:59,200 --> 00:44:02,160
Speaker 1: a lot of heartache. So it's funny that you say that,

835
00:44:02,239 --> 00:44:05,360
Speaker 1: because that's exactly why I flipped like I used to

836
00:44:05,400 --> 00:44:09,920
Speaker 1: just sleep with guys with no attachment whatsoever, no commitment.

837
00:44:10,239 --> 00:44:13,000
Speaker 1: I think it intention and I was always in pain,

838
00:44:13,040 --> 00:44:15,120
Speaker 1: like I was always getting really hurt by it, and

839
00:44:15,120 --> 00:44:17,640
Speaker 1: I was like, I'm doing this to myself, like it's

840
00:44:17,640 --> 00:44:20,640
Speaker 1: self inflicted pain. So now I've made the decision to

841
00:44:20,680 --> 00:44:24,400
Speaker 1: wait because I don't want to have that pain anymore.

842
00:44:24,440 --> 00:44:27,279
Speaker 1: But you're doing it for yourself, which is the important part.

843
00:44:27,360 --> 00:44:30,400
Speaker 1: You know, before before you making the mistake using sex

844
00:44:30,440 --> 00:44:32,640
Speaker 1: as a tool, thinking that's how you're gonna get guys

845
00:44:32,800 --> 00:44:35,120
Speaker 1: like you, And now you've decided that that wasn't good

846
00:44:35,120 --> 00:44:37,319
Speaker 1: for me emotionally, it wasn't positive. And I'm not going

847
00:44:37,400 --> 00:44:38,759
Speaker 1: to not sleep with the guy because I'm going to

848
00:44:38,840 --> 00:44:40,600
Speaker 1: get him to like me. It has nothing to do

849
00:44:40,640 --> 00:44:42,239
Speaker 1: whether he likes you or not. Like you're doing it

850
00:44:42,280 --> 00:44:44,160
Speaker 1: because it makes you feel better about yourself. And that's

851
00:44:44,160 --> 00:44:45,839
Speaker 1: my point is that if that's what you want to do,

852
00:44:45,920 --> 00:44:49,239
Speaker 1: you should wait for yourself. And if if sex means

853
00:44:49,239 --> 00:44:51,480
Speaker 1: a certain thing that you should value, that you shouldn't

854
00:44:51,560 --> 00:44:54,280
Speaker 1: use sex as a way whether it's to to wait

855
00:44:54,520 --> 00:44:56,640
Speaker 1: or to give it up you. You shouldn't use it

856
00:44:56,680 --> 00:44:59,040
Speaker 1: as a way to convince guy to like you. What

857
00:44:59,080 --> 00:45:00,799
Speaker 1: I think my point is he either going to like

858
00:45:00,920 --> 00:45:02,919
Speaker 1: you or not. And I guess what I'm just saying

859
00:45:02,920 --> 00:45:06,040
Speaker 1: that the that sex is an energy exchange. Whether you

860
00:45:06,080 --> 00:45:08,480
Speaker 1: whether you care to admit that or not, it is,

861
00:45:08,600 --> 00:45:12,520
Speaker 1: it is actually an exchange. And so like anything else

862
00:45:12,560 --> 00:45:16,560
Speaker 1: you value, it is smart and I think wise to

863
00:45:16,560 --> 00:45:20,000
Speaker 1: to to evaluate the partner that you're going to be

864
00:45:20,080 --> 00:45:22,439
Speaker 1: interacting in this exchange with. You know what I'm saying,

865
00:45:22,800 --> 00:45:24,799
Speaker 1: And so it's it's I don't and I don't fault

866
00:45:24,800 --> 00:45:27,399
Speaker 1: to anybody. I'm not judging anyone who If you if

867
00:45:27,440 --> 00:45:29,399
Speaker 1: it's on the first date and you're like, let's go,

868
00:45:30,360 --> 00:45:32,319
Speaker 1: let's get it on, you know what I'm saying. By

869
00:45:32,400 --> 00:45:36,719
Speaker 1: by all means, but be aware that the exchange is happening,

870
00:45:36,880 --> 00:45:39,520
Speaker 1: and that you what you've wagered in this exchange may

871
00:45:39,520 --> 00:45:42,319
Speaker 1: not be what you get back. And that you are

872
00:45:42,440 --> 00:45:47,000
Speaker 1: you are, you are male or female, You are responsible

873
00:45:47,080 --> 00:45:50,840
Speaker 1: for your own happiness. And so if you want to wait, wait,

874
00:45:51,360 --> 00:45:53,640
Speaker 1: and if you want to give it up, give it up.

875
00:45:54,200 --> 00:45:56,319
Speaker 1: Consent is key. And if you want to give it up,

876
00:45:56,320 --> 00:45:59,520
Speaker 1: you have to be okay with the strong possibility that

877
00:46:00,520 --> 00:46:02,160
Speaker 1: it may just be that that may just be that,

878
00:46:02,280 --> 00:46:04,760
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879
00:46:04,800 --> 00:46:07,360
Speaker 1: in that moment you just want to have that physical connection.

880
00:46:07,400 --> 00:46:11,000
Speaker 1: I just think that most are not that I used

881
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882
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883
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884
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Speaker 1: I can sleep with whoever I want, whatever I want,

885
00:46:23,080 --> 00:46:27,440
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886
00:46:27,480 --> 00:46:30,399
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887
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Speaker 1: when guys choose a date spot that's walking distance from

931
00:48:51,480 --> 00:48:54,040
Speaker 1: their house, is it because they're cheap they don't want

932
00:48:54,160 --> 00:48:56,359
Speaker 1: uber or drive? Is it because they're hoping they can

933
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Speaker 1: bring you home afterwards? Or do they actually like the place?

934
00:48:58,760 --> 00:49:02,160
Speaker 1: And I'm reading too much into it? Uh, possibly could

935
00:49:02,160 --> 00:49:04,320
Speaker 1: be all the above. I would, I would. It's a

936
00:49:04,480 --> 00:49:07,200
Speaker 1: it's a it's a small red flag for sure. It

937
00:49:07,239 --> 00:49:10,399
Speaker 1: definitely means he's probably not that's a bad thing. I mean,

938
00:49:10,640 --> 00:49:12,960
Speaker 1: he could be a serial dater. He definitely has a spot.

939
00:49:13,000 --> 00:49:15,520
Speaker 1: You're not the first one he's taken there. He's certainly

940
00:49:15,560 --> 00:49:18,279
Speaker 1: hoping you will want to come up. For sure, he's

941
00:49:18,320 --> 00:49:21,920
Speaker 1: definitely lazy just by definition, Like it's right there, so like,

942
00:49:22,000 --> 00:49:24,359
Speaker 1: even if it's his favorite spot, it's still lazy. I'm

943
00:49:24,360 --> 00:49:29,359
Speaker 1: gonna say, though, wait until you see the guac and chips, right,

944
00:49:29,400 --> 00:49:32,200
Speaker 1: because if the guac in the salsa and the chips

945
00:49:32,200 --> 00:49:34,440
Speaker 1: are fire, it could just be that this is like

946
00:49:34,480 --> 00:49:41,000
Speaker 1: the bomb ass spot. And most likely now also if

947
00:49:41,080 --> 00:49:44,320
Speaker 1: I you know, guys, guys aren't stupid, right, they also

948
00:49:45,120 --> 00:49:47,759
Speaker 1: um when again, like when people is like, oh is

949
00:49:47,760 --> 00:49:49,520
Speaker 1: he busy, he says he's busy, And I always say

950
00:49:49,560 --> 00:49:51,560
Speaker 1: busy people make time for the people they want to

951
00:49:51,560 --> 00:49:53,759
Speaker 1: make time for. Guys who really like a woman will

952
00:49:54,120 --> 00:49:56,680
Speaker 1: really go out of their way. They and and and

953
00:49:56,719 --> 00:49:58,920
Speaker 1: when they are like and then the first date I

954
00:49:58,920 --> 00:50:01,120
Speaker 1: get a dating is tough. So the laziness might just

955
00:50:01,160 --> 00:50:02,920
Speaker 1: be like, hey, I don't know, I'm just trying to

956
00:50:02,960 --> 00:50:06,879
Speaker 1: like coffee it out right, and there's nothing wrong with that.

957
00:50:06,920 --> 00:50:11,200
Speaker 1: But it is pointing out that he's mildly excited, you know,

958
00:50:11,320 --> 00:50:13,359
Speaker 1: he's curious to get to know you more. But like,

959
00:50:13,640 --> 00:50:17,520
Speaker 1: you know, that's that's about it. Yeah, good. Devin DeLong

960
00:50:17,800 --> 00:50:19,839
Speaker 1: asks does it bother a guy for girls making more

961
00:50:19,880 --> 00:50:22,200
Speaker 1: money in a relationship I'm a registered nurse and struggle

962
00:50:22,239 --> 00:50:25,080
Speaker 1: to find a guy who wasn't intimidated by our financial differences.

963
00:50:27,320 --> 00:50:30,400
Speaker 1: I think, I think unfortunately, in two thousand nineteen, we

964
00:50:30,480 --> 00:50:37,160
Speaker 1: still have some sexual uh stereotypes that men you know,

965
00:50:37,280 --> 00:50:40,960
Speaker 1: are you feel like they should? Um, you know, unfortunately,

966
00:50:41,000 --> 00:50:42,960
Speaker 1: but I think it can still happen. Um. I think

967
00:50:42,960 --> 00:50:45,839
Speaker 1: we've gotten better, but that's it can be a real thing.

968
00:50:46,080 --> 00:50:49,719
Speaker 1: Is what is the is the question that she's disappointed?

969
00:50:49,840 --> 00:50:51,759
Speaker 1: Is the question that she's she feels she finds herself

970
00:50:51,800 --> 00:50:53,680
Speaker 1: in a situation. What's the question the guys don't like it?

971
00:50:53,800 --> 00:50:55,920
Speaker 1: She meets guys, she's got it. She's got like going on.

972
00:50:55,960 --> 00:50:58,600
Speaker 1: So she's killing it. It comes she's killing it there,

973
00:50:58,719 --> 00:51:00,839
Speaker 1: you know, just at a Kyle D're in between things,

974
00:51:00,840 --> 00:51:03,200
Speaker 1: and they're intimidated by that. They don't like that she's

975
00:51:03,200 --> 00:51:06,600
Speaker 1: the one that's going to buy dinner. Aim higher. That

976
00:51:06,680 --> 00:51:11,000
Speaker 1: is literally higher. Yeah, because you're you're you're on the

977
00:51:11,000 --> 00:51:14,640
Speaker 1: wrong level. Higher. I think that's a great advice. I

978
00:51:14,680 --> 00:51:16,879
Speaker 1: will push back a little bit in the sense that

979
00:51:17,400 --> 00:51:20,759
Speaker 1: you know, um, maybe she's on the top, and that's fine.

980
00:51:20,840 --> 00:51:23,239
Speaker 1: Some women are just killing it and like you don't

981
00:51:23,239 --> 00:51:25,800
Speaker 1: have to you know, if you're going to be someone

982
00:51:25,920 --> 00:51:27,640
Speaker 1: guy or girl who's killing it. I don't think you

983
00:51:27,719 --> 00:51:31,320
Speaker 1: have to seek out just because some guys don't aren't

984
00:51:31,400 --> 00:51:34,200
Speaker 1: macho enough to like not be intimidated by a woman

985
00:51:34,200 --> 00:51:37,279
Speaker 1: who makes a lot of money. Uh, find find someone

986
00:51:37,360 --> 00:51:40,799
Speaker 1: who has, you know. That's That's what I mean by

987
00:51:40,800 --> 00:51:42,880
Speaker 1: aim higher. I don't I don't necessarily mean aim higher

988
00:51:42,960 --> 00:51:46,279
Speaker 1: salary range. I mean aim higher maturity level, because if

989
00:51:46,280 --> 00:51:50,160
Speaker 1: what you're experiencing is in this pool, all I'm getting

990
00:51:50,239 --> 00:51:54,360
Speaker 1: is lukewarm at best, baby, it's sounded fine on the

991
00:51:54,360 --> 00:51:59,040
Speaker 1: pool like it's it's because it's at some point at something.

992
00:51:59,080 --> 00:52:01,880
Speaker 1: It's like I said earlier, you're responsible for your happiness,

993
00:52:02,000 --> 00:52:04,480
Speaker 1: and if you're finding that on a regular basis, you're

994
00:52:04,480 --> 00:52:07,719
Speaker 1: finding guys who are unable to accept the fact that

995
00:52:07,760 --> 00:52:10,400
Speaker 1: you are out here crushing it and aren't willing to

996
00:52:10,440 --> 00:52:13,839
Speaker 1: support and be excited and and lift you up as

997
00:52:13,840 --> 00:52:16,799
Speaker 1: a result of that, regardless of what how skinny they're

998
00:52:17,040 --> 00:52:20,799
Speaker 1: there while it looks like it's time to move on

999
00:52:21,440 --> 00:52:24,839
Speaker 1: and not pretend like you're gonna make this guy. Look

1000
00:52:24,880 --> 00:52:27,920
Speaker 1: at Ruth Bader Ginsburg's husband, do you hear me? Literally?

1001
00:52:27,920 --> 00:52:31,520
Speaker 1: Look at her husband. He was like top lawyer, top dog,

1002
00:52:31,640 --> 00:52:33,760
Speaker 1: and then he saw what she was doing, doing all

1003
00:52:33,800 --> 00:52:36,920
Speaker 1: overturning all these laws and saw that she was like

1004
00:52:37,000 --> 00:52:38,640
Speaker 1: making a difference, and it was like, you know what,

1005
00:52:38,640 --> 00:52:41,040
Speaker 1: I'll take a step back and let you lead. I'll

1006
00:52:41,080 --> 00:52:42,880
Speaker 1: take care of the house and you know, the kids

1007
00:52:42,920 --> 00:52:45,160
Speaker 1: and all that stuff. And I'm like, yes, yes, I

1008
00:52:46,320 --> 00:52:48,160
Speaker 1: definitely find a guy who can do that and look

1009
00:52:48,200 --> 00:52:51,200
Speaker 1: for that. The only one note I would give is

1010
00:52:51,239 --> 00:52:55,160
Speaker 1: that I would say sometimes we do project or insecurities too.

1011
00:52:55,239 --> 00:52:57,160
Speaker 1: So in the early dating process. I don't know how

1012
00:52:57,239 --> 00:53:00,560
Speaker 1: the oldest young lady is, but if she's young early on,

1013
00:53:00,680 --> 00:53:03,200
Speaker 1: she just her options might be limited because like I

1014
00:53:03,239 --> 00:53:05,560
Speaker 1: think men is they get more mature, get more confident

1015
00:53:05,560 --> 00:53:07,880
Speaker 1: in themselves and make money and and and this person

1016
00:53:07,880 --> 00:53:09,760
Speaker 1: who was already already made at the top of the mountain,

1017
00:53:09,800 --> 00:53:11,160
Speaker 1: so it's kind of easier for him to take a

1018
00:53:11,160 --> 00:53:13,439
Speaker 1: step back. I think younger people, guy or girl are,

1019
00:53:13,480 --> 00:53:16,839
Speaker 1: they all are ambitious, So don't early on kind of

1020
00:53:16,880 --> 00:53:19,680
Speaker 1: like don't don't talk about it. It's kind of one

1021
00:53:19,680 --> 00:53:21,359
Speaker 1: of those things where on the first date, don't be like, well,

1022
00:53:21,400 --> 00:53:23,279
Speaker 1: have you ever cheated on someone? Kind of thing. Like

1023
00:53:23,320 --> 00:53:27,839
Speaker 1: if you've been cheated on. That's what I'm saying. Don't

1024
00:53:27,840 --> 00:53:29,880
Speaker 1: talk about money on the first date when you're if

1025
00:53:29,880 --> 00:53:33,120
Speaker 1: you're looking, you know, you're successful and you're confident, don't

1026
00:53:33,160 --> 00:53:35,200
Speaker 1: make it a thing, you know, just make kind of

1027
00:53:35,280 --> 00:53:38,040
Speaker 1: Have you ever been on a date, first date and

1028
00:53:38,080 --> 00:53:40,680
Speaker 1: the girl and that the girl offers to pick up

1029
00:53:40,680 --> 00:53:44,200
Speaker 1: the check? Um, I think most most of the time,

1030
00:53:44,200 --> 00:53:47,759
Speaker 1: what I appreciate is I've always said the insincere reach

1031
00:53:47,840 --> 00:53:49,399
Speaker 1: for the reach for the grab, and so I could

1032
00:53:49,400 --> 00:53:52,680
Speaker 1: be like, sorry, girl, I got this this. Have you

1033
00:53:52,680 --> 00:53:54,959
Speaker 1: ever let it? Have you ever let a date pay

1034
00:53:55,040 --> 00:54:00,560
Speaker 1: for your meal? No? No, yeah, well listen, she insisted.

1035
00:54:01,000 --> 00:54:03,640
Speaker 1: Usually it's again, mostly just to see what was going

1036
00:54:03,680 --> 00:54:07,319
Speaker 1: to happen, not because I really like on that first date. Yeah,

1037
00:54:07,320 --> 00:54:09,040
Speaker 1: oh yeah, if you much, would you make her? And

1038
00:54:09,080 --> 00:54:11,799
Speaker 1: said how much? Shuld she insist? Or was it she

1039
00:54:11,840 --> 00:54:13,840
Speaker 1: just immediately was like I got this and you immediately

1040
00:54:13,840 --> 00:54:16,719
Speaker 1: said cool? I said cool? Wow? Did you like her?

1041
00:54:16,880 --> 00:54:21,400
Speaker 1: I did a lot, and like what was that that interested? Was?

1042
00:54:21,520 --> 00:54:23,480
Speaker 1: It was really interesting because she looked at me like

1043
00:54:24,080 --> 00:54:26,240
Speaker 1: for real and I was and I didn't say anything

1044
00:54:26,280 --> 00:54:28,279
Speaker 1: after that she reached for her bag. She did not

1045
00:54:28,400 --> 00:54:30,920
Speaker 1: break eye contact with me. She put her car down

1046
00:54:30,960 --> 00:54:32,680
Speaker 1: on the table. She didn't look at the bill. She

1047
00:54:32,680 --> 00:54:34,000
Speaker 1: put her car down on the table, and we can

1048
00:54:34,160 --> 00:54:38,239
Speaker 1: we continued conversation. Now, what she didn't know was that

1049
00:54:38,360 --> 00:54:40,520
Speaker 1: the bill was already paid for, because when I go

1050
00:54:40,560 --> 00:54:43,160
Speaker 1: on a first date, I don't even want that situation.

1051
00:54:45,600 --> 00:54:49,920
Speaker 1: And so when did she appreciate the small manipulation tactic

1052
00:54:50,040 --> 00:54:53,280
Speaker 1: of you know, she she definitely, she definitely appreciated it. Interesting,

1053
00:54:53,400 --> 00:54:57,520
Speaker 1: she definitely appreciated it. Yeah, But I think the reason

1054
00:54:57,560 --> 00:54:59,360
Speaker 1: I bring it up is because, you know, as we

1055
00:54:59,360 --> 00:55:03,720
Speaker 1: we have these conversations about, um, how millennials and people

1056
00:55:03,719 --> 00:55:07,600
Speaker 1: our age are, you know, um uh seeking equality and

1057
00:55:07,640 --> 00:55:09,799
Speaker 1: wanting equality. Like a lady got mad at me the

1058
00:55:09,800 --> 00:55:12,319
Speaker 1: other day because I went to open the door for

1059
00:55:12,400 --> 00:55:14,920
Speaker 1: her going into a building, and I thought that was

1060
00:55:14,960 --> 00:55:18,359
Speaker 1: kind of odd. But as as we are all kind

1061
00:55:18,400 --> 00:55:21,919
Speaker 1: of exercising this new, this new we're all the same,

1062
00:55:21,960 --> 00:55:25,560
Speaker 1: We're all equal, but dating somehow still is a little different.

1063
00:55:25,600 --> 00:55:26,719
Speaker 1: I just wanted to see how she was going to

1064
00:55:26,800 --> 00:55:29,319
Speaker 1: navigate the situation. It's a fas same thing. I I

1065
00:55:29,600 --> 00:55:32,040
Speaker 1: on my podcast, I had my friend Katie Ward, who's

1066
00:55:32,080 --> 00:55:35,440
Speaker 1: a prominent and strong opinion feminist and um that. We

1067
00:55:35,480 --> 00:55:37,480
Speaker 1: had a lot of discussions about that, and it's interesting,

1068
00:55:37,520 --> 00:55:40,440
Speaker 1: like I'm down with equality, I'm done with all that.

1069
00:55:40,560 --> 00:55:42,600
Speaker 1: I still think we can and I'm not a traditional person,

1070
00:55:42,680 --> 00:55:44,640
Speaker 1: but I still think we can sometimes chill out and

1071
00:55:44,680 --> 00:55:47,719
Speaker 1: just tell have those traditional things. And if by all means,

1072
00:55:47,760 --> 00:55:51,080
Speaker 1: if she wants to, I'm not offended, but I just

1073
00:55:51,080 --> 00:55:53,000
Speaker 1: wanted to see if she was actually gonna get that

1074
00:55:53,040 --> 00:55:56,319
Speaker 1: car down. I cann't believe in equality and still want

1075
00:55:56,360 --> 00:56:00,120
Speaker 1: to be chivalrous, right, opening a door, I don't has

1076
00:56:00,120 --> 00:56:01,480
Speaker 1: nothing to do with the quality. I just want to

1077
00:56:01,480 --> 00:56:03,239
Speaker 1: be a nice guy, you know. Like my thing is,

1078
00:56:03,320 --> 00:56:04,880
Speaker 1: I know you can open a door. I just want

1079
00:56:04,920 --> 00:56:07,560
Speaker 1: to do it for you. Like if I'm walking, whether

1080
00:56:07,600 --> 00:56:09,640
Speaker 1: it's a girl or a guy, and I'm in front

1081
00:56:09,640 --> 00:56:12,479
Speaker 1: of him, I'm going to open the doors whoever because

1082
00:56:12,480 --> 00:56:15,040
Speaker 1: it's polite. If you walk in first, you open the

1083
00:56:15,080 --> 00:56:17,000
Speaker 1: door for me. I wouldn't be like that was weird.

1084
00:56:18,000 --> 00:56:21,719
Speaker 1: She was. She was like soft core offended. I got it.

1085
00:56:21,640 --> 00:56:23,879
Speaker 1: It is what she says. I think sometimes people can

1086
00:56:23,880 --> 00:56:28,560
Speaker 1: get a little too you know, offended. Yeah, offended? Are

1087
00:56:28,600 --> 00:56:30,600
Speaker 1: are are? You know? We can caught up in our

1088
00:56:30,880 --> 00:56:33,319
Speaker 1: values and believes and you know, sometimes we all all

1089
00:56:33,360 --> 00:56:37,000
Speaker 1: of us up. People are just like annoying, but like

1090
00:56:38,600 --> 00:56:41,480
Speaker 1: the people are like rude, and some people can be annoying.

1091
00:56:41,520 --> 00:56:43,480
Speaker 1: People can be annoying to you. I think sometimes we do.

1092
00:56:43,520 --> 00:56:45,680
Speaker 1: We will get caught up in our own like right,

1093
00:56:45,719 --> 00:56:48,279
Speaker 1: and then having a bad day and she's like, I

1094
00:56:48,320 --> 00:56:52,000
Speaker 1: got it. But again sometimes we project like that happened

1095
00:56:52,000 --> 00:56:54,880
Speaker 1: like ten minutes before. Maybe some guy was very sexist

1096
00:56:54,960 --> 00:56:56,839
Speaker 1: to her. I don't know, she just had enough with

1097
00:56:56,920 --> 00:57:02,359
Speaker 1: men and then she runs into you know, care you right.

1098
00:57:03,160 --> 00:57:05,520
Speaker 1: I was recently on a flight and like I had

1099
00:57:05,560 --> 00:57:09,040
Speaker 1: a heavy carry on and I wanted a man to

1100
00:57:09,120 --> 00:57:10,839
Speaker 1: go let me get that for you, and no one

1101
00:57:10,880 --> 00:57:15,200
Speaker 1: would do it. And the airport, I don't mind help

1102
00:57:16,080 --> 00:57:21,160
Speaker 1: obviously struggling, and I was like I it was a

1103
00:57:21,200 --> 00:57:23,480
Speaker 1: flight from Germany, so I was like out of it,

1104
00:57:23,560 --> 00:57:25,720
Speaker 1: and so I was like, I don't care about a

1105
00:57:25,760 --> 00:57:29,200
Speaker 1: manner woman. Someone just helped me. Whereas it was from Germany,

1106
00:57:29,200 --> 00:57:31,120
Speaker 1: where there are a lot of Europeans on your flight, well,

1107
00:57:31,120 --> 00:57:33,120
Speaker 1: I think it was mostly Americans because we were coming back.

1108
00:57:33,800 --> 00:57:35,800
Speaker 1: Usually there's some sort of southern gentleman who's like from

1109
00:57:35,800 --> 00:57:39,000
Speaker 1: Alabamas like, ma'am, I got you. Stewart usually helps me

1110
00:57:39,040 --> 00:57:42,280
Speaker 1: and thank you all right, rapid fire, So we got

1111
00:57:42,280 --> 00:57:43,960
Speaker 1: to wrap it up, but like one sentence each, just

1112
00:57:44,040 --> 00:57:45,400
Speaker 1: to try to get three or four more out of

1113
00:57:45,400 --> 00:57:47,280
Speaker 1: here if we can. How do you guys feel about

1114
00:57:47,360 --> 00:57:49,280
Speaker 1: d m s being How do guys in general feel

1115
00:57:49,280 --> 00:57:51,760
Speaker 1: about dms being sent to them? The women pursuing you

1116
00:57:51,760 --> 00:57:53,760
Speaker 1: with a d M? I like, a DM is totally fine.

1117
00:57:53,800 --> 00:57:56,280
Speaker 1: I mean, the d M today is the note twenty

1118
00:57:56,360 --> 00:57:59,440
Speaker 1: years ago, and then you know it's not as taboo

1119
00:57:59,440 --> 00:58:01,200
Speaker 1: as people make it. Go down in a d M,

1120
00:58:01,480 --> 00:58:05,480
Speaker 1: I'm I am game. Do guys lose interest if you

1121
00:58:05,480 --> 00:58:07,040
Speaker 1: text them right back? Or do I need to wait

1122
00:58:07,080 --> 00:58:13,840
Speaker 1: an hour that reaction from both of you? Listen, in general,

1123
00:58:13,840 --> 00:58:16,800
Speaker 1: people are into you or they're not. That's that's simple.

1124
00:58:17,120 --> 00:58:19,760
Speaker 1: I mean. And if you're dating a boy or a

1125
00:58:19,840 --> 00:58:22,600
Speaker 1: child who like somehow offended by your quick response and

1126
00:58:22,640 --> 00:58:25,280
Speaker 1: you're wasting your time anyway, but also be aware that like,

1127
00:58:25,560 --> 00:58:28,560
Speaker 1: don't seem too eager. I'm just kidding. I'm totally kidding.

1128
00:58:28,720 --> 00:58:33,800
Speaker 1: I'm totally kidding a row and be like, how are

1129
00:58:33,840 --> 00:58:36,600
Speaker 1: you question mark? Question mark? I mean question mark smiley face,

1130
00:58:36,800 --> 00:58:43,200
Speaker 1: question mark handclap. That's what you're there. You get this,

1131
00:58:43,400 --> 00:58:50,080
Speaker 1: drop them on and walk away. Monique, what's more important

1132
00:58:50,360 --> 00:58:54,919
Speaker 1: Smelling good, hair done or makeup on? Smelling good? Hygiene? Wait,

1133
00:58:54,960 --> 00:58:57,520
Speaker 1: give me the list again. Melling good, hair done or

1134
00:58:57,600 --> 00:59:01,080
Speaker 1: makeup on? Smelling good. I I do not care what

1135
00:59:01,120 --> 00:59:03,400
Speaker 1: you look like or what makeup on you have your outfit.

1136
00:59:03,440 --> 00:59:08,840
Speaker 1: If you stank, I'm done, um, because like some of

1137
00:59:08,880 --> 00:59:13,920
Speaker 1: them are, I could go with no smell over, smelling

1138
00:59:13,960 --> 00:59:16,360
Speaker 1: good if hair's done. You know what I'm saying, Like

1139
00:59:16,720 --> 00:59:18,960
Speaker 1: it's a I'm trying to think of the hottest woman

1140
00:59:19,000 --> 00:59:20,520
Speaker 1: in the world, Like I don't when I was, like

1141
00:59:20,560 --> 00:59:23,120
Speaker 1: when I was in high school, Heidi klum. You know

1142
00:59:23,160 --> 00:59:25,640
Speaker 1: she's still babe, but like, um, if she if she

1143
00:59:25,720 --> 00:59:28,680
Speaker 1: came up with me with halitosis bo and like just

1144
00:59:28,760 --> 00:59:33,600
Speaker 1: some stink sometimes though I can lean into that, Like

1145
00:59:33,680 --> 00:59:36,160
Speaker 1: if she's hot enough, I'd be like, oh, you stink

1146
00:59:36,280 --> 00:59:42,360
Speaker 1: so good. There's one thing about like a picture that's nice,

1147
00:59:42,400 --> 00:59:45,440
Speaker 1: but like if you have bad hygiene and bad bad breath,

1148
00:59:45,560 --> 00:59:48,840
Speaker 1: man's it's the worst. Still get me wrong, It is

1149
00:59:48,880 --> 00:59:51,000
Speaker 1: certainly the worst, but like I can maybe work with

1150
00:59:51,040 --> 00:59:56,800
Speaker 1: it and one more. And this is the thing A

1151
00:59:56,800 --> 01:00:00,560
Speaker 1: lot of women wonder about this, Heather, What you guys

1152
01:00:00,600 --> 01:00:03,360
Speaker 1: think about during sex? Are they focused on the woman

1153
01:00:03,360 --> 01:00:06,160
Speaker 1: they're having sex with? Or are they imagining some perfect

1154
01:00:06,240 --> 01:00:09,240
Speaker 1: human like they see in the movies? All depends, is

1155
01:00:09,240 --> 01:00:12,439
Speaker 1: the honest answer. Wait to go back to the other one.

1156
01:00:12,920 --> 01:00:15,760
Speaker 1: The breath can be fixed with a man. But I

1157
01:00:15,800 --> 01:00:17,320
Speaker 1: just want you to know, like you could just fix

1158
01:00:17,360 --> 01:00:21,560
Speaker 1: the breath with a mint, you can't fix busted or

1159
01:00:21,600 --> 01:00:23,520
Speaker 1: an outfit which just simply said, what do you prefer

1160
01:00:24,280 --> 01:00:26,960
Speaker 1: clothes or a mint for the mint? I think I

1161
01:00:27,000 --> 01:00:31,400
Speaker 1: think the I think it depends. I can't say that

1162
01:00:31,440 --> 01:00:35,760
Speaker 1: I've ever been in a in a sexy situation and

1163
01:00:35,840 --> 01:00:39,640
Speaker 1: been thinking about someone else. You can't. I think you're lying. No,

1164
01:00:39,800 --> 01:00:42,320
Speaker 1: I can't. I can't think. I think all men have

1165
01:00:42,480 --> 01:00:46,040
Speaker 1: sometimes and women have not been present during sex. Nah,

1166
01:00:46,320 --> 01:00:48,960
Speaker 1: being present is one thing. Thinking of somebody else someone

1167
01:00:49,080 --> 01:00:51,360
Speaker 1: wasn't necessarily the question they asked, what the guys thinking

1168
01:00:51,360 --> 01:00:53,800
Speaker 1: about focused on the woman you're worth? Or you imagining

1169
01:00:53,840 --> 01:00:55,680
Speaker 1: the perfect human like you see in the movies. You know,

1170
01:00:55,760 --> 01:00:58,520
Speaker 1: I think I'll never imagine the perfect human. But I

1171
01:00:58,560 --> 01:01:02,800
Speaker 1: think I mean stressed you're stressed out. What I mean,

1172
01:01:03,400 --> 01:01:07,200
Speaker 1: I like, I tend to try to uh sleep with

1173
01:01:07,280 --> 01:01:10,439
Speaker 1: people who I'm very physically attracted to, and I don't

1174
01:01:10,480 --> 01:01:13,200
Speaker 1: need to imagine someone else. And that's I guess it's

1175
01:01:13,600 --> 01:01:16,480
Speaker 1: also I have I haven't been married, unfortunately, and so

1176
01:01:16,640 --> 01:01:19,720
Speaker 1: like you know, it's certainly because marriage is hard to

1177
01:01:19,720 --> 01:01:22,080
Speaker 1: get out of this hard to get out of better

1178
01:01:22,160 --> 01:01:24,840
Speaker 1: or worse. I have the variety. I mean, what do

1179
01:01:24,880 --> 01:01:26,800
Speaker 1: you want to say? Like I you know, like I

1180
01:01:27,040 --> 01:01:29,320
Speaker 1: that hasn't been an issue, but I have been stressed out.

1181
01:01:29,360 --> 01:01:32,320
Speaker 1: I've thought about work, I've been like like that where

1182
01:01:32,320 --> 01:01:34,640
Speaker 1: I've literally sometimes have been like been into men. I'm like,

1183
01:01:34,640 --> 01:01:37,560
Speaker 1: why am I thinking about this? Like you know, that's

1184
01:01:37,600 --> 01:01:39,560
Speaker 1: been happens. But I think men and women do that.

1185
01:01:39,640 --> 01:01:41,640
Speaker 1: I don't think that's normal, but I don't think I

1186
01:01:41,680 --> 01:01:45,320
Speaker 1: think women tend to focus on their own insecurities and

1187
01:01:45,360 --> 01:01:48,480
Speaker 1: assume that they are so um distracting that you have

1188
01:01:48,520 --> 01:01:50,160
Speaker 1: to close your eyes and imagine a porn star or

1189
01:01:50,200 --> 01:01:53,280
Speaker 1: something like that, which I personally never never, never done.

1190
01:01:53,320 --> 01:01:56,280
Speaker 1: And in fact, what I what I really apprec like

1191
01:01:56,320 --> 01:01:59,600
Speaker 1: I've I am dialed in if we are having sex,

1192
01:02:00,040 --> 01:02:03,880
Speaker 1: like I am into it and well again really literal

1193
01:02:04,080 --> 01:02:08,640
Speaker 1: choice of words. But like you, but but like I,

1194
01:02:08,640 --> 01:02:11,800
Speaker 1: I there's something about there's there's there's a there's something

1195
01:02:11,840 --> 01:02:15,800
Speaker 1: about being so entwined into each other in that moment

1196
01:02:15,880 --> 01:02:19,400
Speaker 1: that like nothing else really matters, um like to the

1197
01:02:19,400 --> 01:02:21,320
Speaker 1: point where I've had to like set an alarm because

1198
01:02:21,360 --> 01:02:23,360
Speaker 1: like we can't. This has got to wrap up at

1199
01:02:23,360 --> 01:02:25,960
Speaker 1: some point. And I don't know what time any of

1200
01:02:26,000 --> 01:02:28,520
Speaker 1: you ever had the like my brain plays tricks on

1201
01:02:28,520 --> 01:02:31,960
Speaker 1: me where I'm afraid I'm going to say the wrong name.

1202
01:02:32,080 --> 01:02:36,000
Speaker 1: So I have actually heard the wrong name. I've heard

1203
01:02:36,080 --> 01:02:39,200
Speaker 1: the wrong name, like we're in We're in this situation

1204
01:02:39,440 --> 01:02:42,400
Speaker 1: and I was keenly aware that this was a nickname

1205
01:02:42,480 --> 01:02:46,920
Speaker 1: for an X. Yeah, how quickly after they broke up,

1206
01:02:46,960 --> 01:02:49,000
Speaker 1: And I'll tell you if this was like a year

1207
01:02:49,120 --> 01:02:51,320
Speaker 1: year and after they broke after they broke up, and

1208
01:02:51,400 --> 01:02:55,080
Speaker 1: so what was what was really interesting was my fight

1209
01:02:55,720 --> 01:02:59,440
Speaker 1: to stay in the moment. And at one point I

1210
01:02:59,480 --> 01:03:03,520
Speaker 1: had I made a joke like what's my name? It

1211
01:03:03,640 --> 01:03:08,760
Speaker 1: did not go over well, yeah, because she didn't catch herself.

1212
01:03:08,800 --> 01:03:10,800
Speaker 1: She didn't know that she had said it, and so

1213
01:03:10,840 --> 01:03:12,320
Speaker 1: she said, I didn't say that, and I was like, no,

1214
01:03:12,400 --> 01:03:15,160
Speaker 1: you did you definitely you did have. I wouldn't make

1215
01:03:15,200 --> 01:03:17,919
Speaker 1: it up, trust me, that's not the situation I want

1216
01:03:17,920 --> 01:03:20,120
Speaker 1: to be it. I went on a first date once

1217
01:03:20,200 --> 01:03:23,040
Speaker 1: with the guy and I was a setup. I did

1218
01:03:23,080 --> 01:03:24,680
Speaker 1: not know his name. I literally did not know his

1219
01:03:24,760 --> 01:03:27,160
Speaker 1: name until the whole day. And I was like, it's

1220
01:03:27,200 --> 01:03:28,920
Speaker 1: too far gone now, like I can't ask him. And

1221
01:03:28,920 --> 01:03:30,320
Speaker 1: I was like, how am I gonna find Like I'm

1222
01:03:30,360 --> 01:03:31,720
Speaker 1: gonna have to ask my friend that set me up.

1223
01:03:31,760 --> 01:03:33,800
Speaker 1: But the way I found out was after the day

1224
01:03:33,800 --> 01:03:36,240
Speaker 1: started following on Instagram and I was like, that's his name.

1225
01:03:36,760 --> 01:03:39,600
Speaker 1: You know what I do. I've been in that situation before,

1226
01:03:40,000 --> 01:03:42,240
Speaker 1: you know what I And I think that she totally

1227
01:03:42,320 --> 01:03:44,960
Speaker 1: knew that I didn't know or couldn't remember her name,

1228
01:03:45,040 --> 01:03:47,280
Speaker 1: and I was like, so how do you spell your name?

1229
01:03:47,600 --> 01:03:54,600
Speaker 1: Did you really like him? She's like, Sue s you like,

1230
01:03:55,200 --> 01:03:57,440
Speaker 1: you know, if the did's not going well, it's like,

1231
01:03:57,600 --> 01:04:00,560
Speaker 1: you don't want to be a dick, right. I will say,

1232
01:04:00,680 --> 01:04:03,919
Speaker 1: sometimes people need to lean into being honest a little

1233
01:04:03,920 --> 01:04:07,200
Speaker 1: bit more. You had a good date, let's say, like right,

1234
01:04:07,480 --> 01:04:09,040
Speaker 1: and you can just say I'm gonna be honest a

1235
01:04:09,160 --> 01:04:11,320
Speaker 1: little vulnerable, right, now I'm having, by the way, a

1236
01:04:11,360 --> 01:04:13,760
Speaker 1: fantastic time, and I hope to see you again. But

1237
01:04:13,840 --> 01:04:15,680
Speaker 1: I don't know your name. I think a guy would

1238
01:04:15,760 --> 01:04:20,360
Speaker 1: laugh and at the moment you would know you're honest.

1239
01:04:20,520 --> 01:04:23,240
Speaker 1: Say a guy that might work a lady is going

1240
01:04:23,280 --> 01:04:28,280
Speaker 1: for you don't know my name a first date, like

1241
01:04:28,320 --> 01:04:32,960
Speaker 1: if a guy like I mean, I don't, I don't

1242
01:04:32,960 --> 01:04:35,120
Speaker 1: know how you met. Like again, if he slides into

1243
01:04:35,160 --> 01:04:37,200
Speaker 1: your d and you should know your name, he literally

1244
01:04:37,200 --> 01:04:39,760
Speaker 1: had to look at your name, unless it's like bunny Rabbit.

1245
01:04:41,280 --> 01:04:42,800
Speaker 1: That's another way to find it out. Though you can

1246
01:04:42,920 --> 01:04:44,600
Speaker 1: pull up your Instagram. I want to follow you real

1247
01:04:44,680 --> 01:04:47,640
Speaker 1: quick if you need to know. I'm just saying, if

1248
01:04:47,640 --> 01:04:50,560
Speaker 1: you find yourself in a pall the tricks, like we

1249
01:04:50,600 --> 01:04:55,280
Speaker 1: need to really know our dates names before too much

1250
01:04:55,360 --> 01:05:02,280
Speaker 1: for mayor it's hard to get out of. I'm just saying,

1251
01:05:02,360 --> 01:05:05,240
Speaker 1: honesty is attractive, and sometimes people are afraid to do

1252
01:05:05,320 --> 01:05:07,600
Speaker 1: that early on, and when people like are brave enough

1253
01:05:07,640 --> 01:05:09,440
Speaker 1: to kind of put themselves out there, they can be

1254
01:05:09,560 --> 01:05:12,520
Speaker 1: You can be breaking down walls and people actually will

1255
01:05:12,520 --> 01:05:15,520
Speaker 1: find it attractive. On my next first day, I'm gonna

1256
01:05:15,520 --> 01:05:19,200
Speaker 1: tell my date that I have a dear future husband journal. No, no,

1257
01:05:22,200 --> 01:05:25,000
Speaker 1: wait second, maybe maybe like committed, maybe like once you

1258
01:05:25,080 --> 01:05:27,360
Speaker 1: move in with each other. I think I think I

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Speaker 1: listening to this podcast, it's a lot of it's really

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Speaker 1: like from both of you it was great advice for

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Speaker 1: anyone who's listening, because we have a lot of girls

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Speaker 1: dating world. And I felt like from either way, y'all

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Speaker 1: had good advice. So any time, yeah, anytime, every shoe

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