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Speaker 1: Buckle up here it is Strawberry, the subject and desperate

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Speaker 1: need of love. First, let me say that I love

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Speaker 1: the advice that you and Steve give to those with dilemmas.

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Speaker 1: I've tried to ask for advice from others but got

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Speaker 1: a little shine backed away. But I'm at the point

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Speaker 1: where I need answers. I'm not sure where to begin,

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Speaker 1: but here I go. I'm head over heels for this

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Speaker 1: guy that has straight affection problems. He says that he

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Speaker 1: loves me once in a while, but it's like pulling

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Speaker 1: teeth from his mouth. He basically says that when we're

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Speaker 1: going through crazy situations like near death experiences. When I

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Speaker 1: bring it up, he says, you should know how I feel.

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Speaker 1: I'm with you, right, garbage like that. Surely I'm the

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Speaker 1: type of woman where I'm not only where I not

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Speaker 1: only need to hear it, I need to feel it

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Speaker 1: and see it. I guess you can say I'm an

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Speaker 1: addict for love and all my relationships past and present,

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Speaker 1: it's like I need that fixed of showers and showers

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Speaker 1: of love. I try being with other guys and they've

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Speaker 1: wined and dined me, but it's like my guy haunts

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Speaker 1: my mind. I honestly do think that he loves me

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Speaker 1: because I sense it when we are together. Oh yeah,

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Speaker 1: we've been together for about three years, but he still

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Speaker 1: has in popped that big question, will you marry me?

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Speaker 1: I guess what I'm asking is what should I do?

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Speaker 1: Should I stay with him? And if so, should I

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Speaker 1: settle with what love he has to offer me because

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Speaker 1: of how much I love him and can envision myself

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Speaker 1: with anyone else. Your advice, whether it is harsh or not,

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Speaker 1: is greatly needed. Thanks a bunch desperately in need of love. Um,

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Speaker 1: dear desperately in need of love. I just feel like

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Speaker 1: you need some empowerment and and you know in this situation, First,

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Speaker 1: why sister gott to be desperate. Let's just take desperation

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Speaker 1: out of the equation. You got a man, You're crazy

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Speaker 1: about him. You're upset that he doesn't say loves you enough. Now,

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Speaker 1: I know, as a woman, we do like to hear

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Speaker 1: it when our man says he loves us. We like

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Speaker 1: it and makes us feel a certain way. Can't deny that,

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Speaker 1: But does it make you desperate? And doesn't make you

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Speaker 1: an addict for love just because you want to hear that? No,

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Speaker 1: it doesn't. It just makes you a woman who's who's

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Speaker 1: really into the act of love. You know, you like

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Speaker 1: being in love, but it just doesn't sound like your

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Speaker 1: man is into it. You don't need showers and showers

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Speaker 1: of love. You just want that because at this stage,

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Speaker 1: right here, in this relationship with him, you need that

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Speaker 1: to validate, uh you who you are. When when he

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Speaker 1: you know, when he shows you that he loves you,

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Speaker 1: like that gives you stuff, then you feel like he

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Speaker 1: really loves you. Um. You just gotta believe in yourself

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Speaker 1: and have confidence in your confidence in yourself or you're

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Speaker 1: never gonna be happy. No matter who it's with, You're

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Speaker 1: gonna always have that desperate feeling if you don't get

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Speaker 1: what's right, you know, get you right first. It's okay

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Speaker 1: to love someone, but you gotta ask yourself. Are they

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Speaker 1: worthy of your love? Can they return it? How does

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Speaker 1: he treats you? You've been with him three years. You

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Speaker 1: ought to know something by now as a subject of marriage,

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Speaker 1: even come up. It's okay to love him, gotta love yourself.

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Speaker 1: I can't say that enough. Um, what he's doing right now,

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Speaker 1: he's gonna do for the rest of the relationship. He

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Speaker 1: is not gonna change, so it's up to you if

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Speaker 1: you want to stay with him. Definitely don't settle though,

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Speaker 1: you know, definitely don't settle Steve. All right, come on, Steve,

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Speaker 1: let's get to your part to response to today's Strawberry letter,

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Speaker 1: come subject in desperate need of love. First, let me

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Speaker 1: to those with dilemmas. I've tried to ask advice from others.

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Speaker 1: We got a little shine backed away, but I'm at

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Speaker 1: when you were going through crazy situations like near death experiences.

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Speaker 1: When I bring it up, he says, you should know

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Speaker 1: how I feel. I'm with you, right, garbage like that.

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Speaker 1: you to write a nationally syndicated show something is really

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Speaker 1: the hell wrong. Come on, you tried asking your other friends,

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Speaker 1: then you get shot well basically because you know they

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Speaker 1: ain't gonna tell you what you want to heal. I

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Speaker 1: ain't gonna tell you what you want to heal. But

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Speaker 1: your letter says that at the beginning, and at the end,

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Speaker 1: and all through the middle, desperate, desperate need of love,

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Speaker 1: desperately in need of love, and greatly need it. You know, lady,

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Speaker 1: your real problem ain't your man. Your real problem is you,

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Speaker 1: because you're desperate and you have an addiction. Because you

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Speaker 1: say it in your letter, I guess you can say

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Speaker 1: I'm an addict for love. Anytime you're an attic for anything.

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Speaker 1: It's an over abuse of one thing. You know. They

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Speaker 1: say if you drink too much water, it could kill you.

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Speaker 1: They say that, I never knew that. But if too

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Speaker 1: much of anything. You drink too much liquor, you smoke

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Speaker 1: too many cigarettes, you take too many drugs, You stay

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Speaker 1: up too long, you sleep too long, You eat too

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Speaker 1: much pork, you eat too much sugar. You don't all

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Speaker 1: of this. Anything in excessive bad for you when you

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Speaker 1: excessively in need of love. I don't know what happened

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Speaker 1: in your childhood. I don't know who didn't tell it

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Speaker 1: to you enough. Now you want it all from everybody

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Speaker 1: you write me a letter, don't all through your letter,

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Speaker 1: you needy. My guy has straight affection problems. He said,

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Speaker 1: pulling teeth from his mouth. Okay, but don't he tell

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Speaker 1: in y'all three years near death experiences. Who's y'all keep

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Speaker 1: having operations? Y'all gotta go down there and see about

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Speaker 1: each other, what what happened. But at least in the

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Speaker 1: moment of crisis, the man is there for you. What

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Speaker 1: I have heard talk to in my lifetime who have

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Speaker 1: let a good man get away because their qualifications and

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Speaker 1: expectations of a man was ridiculous. Ladies, you can't keep

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Speaker 1: love him. That ain't how we love. Now. This man

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Speaker 1: coming in here near death experiences and he's steal with you.

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Speaker 1: When it all break down and go bad, he there

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Speaker 1: you say you sense it. But see then when he

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Speaker 1: when you want him to say it all the time,

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Speaker 1: he said you should know how I feel, right, and

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Speaker 1: then you say gobage like that. Well, now I guess

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Speaker 1: what when he do show you affection, you shinne that.

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Speaker 1: So now you want your man to keep shying you

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Speaker 1: to give more. Now you've had all these other guys

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Speaker 1: you with the expressive gifts and all like this, but

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Speaker 1: and you got to have that. Then you try to

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Speaker 1: throw me off and say, Shirley, I'm the type of

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Speaker 1: with you. But you're messed up, called Steve, go answer

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Speaker 1: the letter too. Now you've been dating a man for

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Speaker 1: three years and you wonder why he popped a big question.

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Speaker 1: He'd go, don't know, man, wanna sign up for a

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Speaker 1: life with a needy ass woman. Men want to be

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Speaker 1: no needy ass woman. I got to sit up under you,

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Speaker 1: I got to be with you. I got to tell

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Speaker 1: you how beautiful you. I got to shower you with

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Speaker 1: ass ain't happy. Who you know, Finn sign up with that?

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Speaker 1: The man you got ain't sign enough for that, and

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Speaker 1: the other ones you had in your past ain't signed

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Speaker 1: everybody to make you happy and make yourself happy. Can't

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Speaker 1: nobody make you happy but you? And obviously, lady, you

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Speaker 1: needy and lonely for a long ass time. Ain't nobody

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Speaker 1: been to marry your needy? As you're listening to the

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