1 00:00:13,240 --> 00:00:15,960 Speaker 1: Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices. I'm Erica and 2 00:00:16,000 --> 00:00:19,880 Speaker 1: I'm Nila, and it's Wednesday. It's a beautiful day. 3 00:00:20,160 --> 00:00:22,800 Speaker 2: It really is a beautiful day. I was outside, like, wow, 4 00:00:23,079 --> 00:00:27,000 Speaker 2: it's the perfect weather. It's the perfect about of sunshine. Anyway, 5 00:00:27,600 --> 00:00:29,120 Speaker 2: today I've pulled a card. 6 00:00:29,600 --> 00:00:33,960 Speaker 1: Oh wow, you did look at you? Yes, congratulations. Well 7 00:00:34,720 --> 00:00:37,280 Speaker 1: on the tarot coin of this of the show. You 8 00:00:37,360 --> 00:00:40,520 Speaker 1: are sex of the show, the tarror of the show. Oh, 9 00:00:40,560 --> 00:00:41,880 Speaker 1: I don't know what. I don't know where I fit in. 10 00:00:42,360 --> 00:00:43,000 Speaker 1: I'm just here. 11 00:00:43,720 --> 00:00:44,400 Speaker 3: Well, you're not going. 12 00:00:44,360 --> 00:00:48,680 Speaker 1: To figure it out. You're the expert. You're the expert 13 00:00:48,680 --> 00:00:49,479 Speaker 1: of many things. 14 00:00:49,960 --> 00:00:53,840 Speaker 2: Okay, today I pulled the Night of Pinnacles, and it 15 00:00:53,960 --> 00:00:58,880 Speaker 2: signifies hard work, productivity, routine, and conservatism. 16 00:00:58,920 --> 00:01:02,360 Speaker 1: Because we're so con conservative. I think maybe like financially 17 00:01:02,400 --> 00:01:04,440 Speaker 1: maybe like hold, I don't know, read it for me, 18 00:01:04,520 --> 00:01:05,039 Speaker 1: tarot queen. 19 00:01:05,160 --> 00:01:06,360 Speaker 3: Okay, well it is financed. 20 00:01:06,440 --> 00:01:10,920 Speaker 2: A lot of the pentacles are money related, got it? 21 00:01:11,360 --> 00:01:13,040 Speaker 1: Or material related. 22 00:01:13,080 --> 00:01:14,840 Speaker 2: I hope I'm saying this right because someone's going to 23 00:01:14,920 --> 00:01:18,480 Speaker 2: come for me, fucking bitch telling why. Okay, the Night 24 00:01:18,560 --> 00:01:21,600 Speaker 2: of Pinnacles, like the Knights of Other Suits, represents work effort, 25 00:01:21,640 --> 00:01:24,679 Speaker 2: and responsibility that follows upon the dreams and ideals of 26 00:01:24,720 --> 00:01:25,399 Speaker 2: the page. 27 00:01:25,720 --> 00:01:26,520 Speaker 3: This night is the. 28 00:01:26,480 --> 00:01:31,400 Speaker 2: Most hardworking, methodical, and detailed oriented character of the Tarot deck. 29 00:01:31,760 --> 00:01:34,360 Speaker 2: He may not be the most inspiring or creative night, 30 00:01:34,400 --> 00:01:36,560 Speaker 2: but he'll do the work to get the results he seeks, 31 00:01:36,600 --> 00:01:39,680 Speaker 2: even if that work is highly repetitive and routine. When 32 00:01:39,680 --> 00:01:42,120 Speaker 2: this card appears in a tariro reading, you are working 33 00:01:42,520 --> 00:01:46,080 Speaker 2: methodically towards your goals. You have a plan in place 34 00:01:46,120 --> 00:01:48,600 Speaker 2: and are striking in your schedule to get the job done. 35 00:01:48,800 --> 00:01:52,920 Speaker 2: You may not work particularly quickly, but you are consistent, dedicated, 36 00:01:54,040 --> 00:01:57,440 Speaker 2: and committed to your goal. But one foot in front 37 00:01:57,440 --> 00:01:59,040 Speaker 2: of the other and finish the. 38 00:01:59,160 --> 00:02:00,880 Speaker 3: Job right, baby. 39 00:02:01,120 --> 00:02:03,040 Speaker 2: This card also asks if you continue doing what you 40 00:02:03,040 --> 00:02:06,680 Speaker 2: were doing, plotting along and making gradual progress, no need 41 00:02:06,720 --> 00:02:08,679 Speaker 2: to change your approach, go with the flow, stick to 42 00:02:08,720 --> 00:02:12,359 Speaker 2: your usual routines, and over time you will reach your goals. 43 00:02:13,200 --> 00:02:17,160 Speaker 2: I agree this sounds like us, baby, It does, girl, 44 00:02:17,160 --> 00:02:19,040 Speaker 2: because we move in slow, but we be moving. 45 00:02:19,200 --> 00:02:21,120 Speaker 1: We be's doing it. You know what, we don't really 46 00:02:21,200 --> 00:02:24,000 Speaker 1: move slow. We just got too much shit. Okay, yeah, 47 00:02:24,040 --> 00:02:26,320 Speaker 1: that's true. There's just a lot of shit to be done. 48 00:02:26,440 --> 00:02:29,400 Speaker 2: But wow, you envision your goal, to determine the best 49 00:02:29,440 --> 00:02:31,440 Speaker 2: course of action, and then stick to your path with 50 00:02:31,520 --> 00:02:33,160 Speaker 2: a methodical and relentless focus. 51 00:02:33,600 --> 00:02:35,280 Speaker 1: Okay, well that speaks to us. 52 00:02:35,600 --> 00:02:38,120 Speaker 2: I feel like it kind of may speak to our 53 00:02:38,160 --> 00:02:41,200 Speaker 2: guests today too, because maybe we'll have some insight about 54 00:02:41,200 --> 00:02:44,960 Speaker 2: why the fuck We have a lot of ideas and 55 00:02:45,040 --> 00:02:47,520 Speaker 2: a lot of meetings and a lot of little notebooks 56 00:02:47,560 --> 00:02:50,160 Speaker 2: and papers everywhere, but it takes a really long time 57 00:02:50,200 --> 00:02:51,600 Speaker 2: sometimes to send three emails. 58 00:02:53,440 --> 00:02:56,120 Speaker 1: So without further ado, we love to introduce our guest, 59 00:02:56,440 --> 00:03:01,960 Speaker 1: Aaron Claire Jones. She is a huge design expert. So 60 00:03:02,000 --> 00:03:03,040 Speaker 1: welcome to the show. 61 00:03:02,960 --> 00:03:05,760 Speaker 4: Erin thank you so much, I'm so happy to be here. 62 00:03:06,280 --> 00:03:09,080 Speaker 1: Aaron, tell us why we can't get shit done? We 63 00:03:09,120 --> 00:03:10,480 Speaker 1: have so many ideas. 64 00:03:11,200 --> 00:03:13,200 Speaker 2: Wait before you tell her, I want to say that, like, 65 00:03:13,280 --> 00:03:18,160 Speaker 2: you know, we're some astrology tearo magical research and ass bitches, 66 00:03:18,600 --> 00:03:21,600 Speaker 2: and right before we just like the universe always does. 67 00:03:21,680 --> 00:03:23,920 Speaker 2: Like Erica had just come to me recently and was like, 68 00:03:23,960 --> 00:03:26,440 Speaker 2: have you heard of human design? And I was like no, 69 00:03:26,919 --> 00:03:29,360 Speaker 2: And then magically I've been someone else say it to 70 00:03:29,400 --> 00:03:29,960 Speaker 2: you too, like. 71 00:03:30,200 --> 00:03:32,720 Speaker 1: Yeah, my friend a Nishka was like, oh, human design 72 00:03:32,760 --> 00:03:35,400 Speaker 1: like change my business, Like I got my human design 73 00:03:35,440 --> 00:03:38,880 Speaker 1: reading and it literally changed the way that I navigate 74 00:03:38,920 --> 00:03:42,839 Speaker 1: with my staff and just my choices, and it makes 75 00:03:42,880 --> 00:03:46,000 Speaker 1: so much more sense in how I hire people. So 76 00:03:46,040 --> 00:03:48,600 Speaker 1: then Aaron reached out and I was like, look at this, 77 00:03:48,760 --> 00:03:51,600 Speaker 1: Look at God, God just met, look at us, just 78 00:03:51,680 --> 00:03:54,600 Speaker 1: manifesting guests right and left. A few months ago, we 79 00:03:54,600 --> 00:03:57,080 Speaker 1: couldn't find any guests this month, boom. 80 00:03:57,480 --> 00:03:58,720 Speaker 3: And you know what, I just like to. 81 00:03:58,680 --> 00:04:03,280 Speaker 2: Say that we are mediums for the messages that you 82 00:04:03,360 --> 00:04:06,840 Speaker 2: need to hear. A lot of our guests are come 83 00:04:07,080 --> 00:04:09,160 Speaker 2: at the perfect time, right in our hands, right in 84 00:04:09,200 --> 00:04:11,960 Speaker 2: the DMS, right when three other people have mentioned it, 85 00:04:12,000 --> 00:04:14,160 Speaker 2: and then we can just spread the word and learn together. 86 00:04:14,640 --> 00:04:21,000 Speaker 1: So we're podcast mediums. Okay, well that's our introduction with Aaron. 87 00:04:22,040 --> 00:04:24,599 Speaker 4: Oh good, I'm so happy to chat with you guys. 88 00:04:24,800 --> 00:04:26,120 Speaker 4: It feels like the perfect time. 89 00:04:27,160 --> 00:04:30,120 Speaker 1: So well, can you tell our listeners what human design is? 90 00:04:30,200 --> 00:04:33,440 Speaker 1: What is this, where is it derived from? And how 91 00:04:33,440 --> 00:04:34,919 Speaker 1: do you use it in your life? 92 00:04:35,200 --> 00:04:38,359 Speaker 4: Of course? So human design is a system based on 93 00:04:38,400 --> 00:04:40,880 Speaker 4: your time, date and place of birth that gives you 94 00:04:40,880 --> 00:04:43,359 Speaker 4: your energetic blueprint. And what I mean by that is 95 00:04:43,400 --> 00:04:46,880 Speaker 4: how we're each wire to make decisions, work within teams, collaborate, 96 00:04:46,960 --> 00:04:49,840 Speaker 4: parent partner, all the things. It really just gives us 97 00:04:50,120 --> 00:04:53,200 Speaker 4: each our kind of own roadmap. And the idea is 98 00:04:53,200 --> 00:04:55,760 Speaker 4: that human design pulls from lots of different systems astrology 99 00:04:55,760 --> 00:05:00,839 Speaker 4: included also the kabala, the eaching chakra system, quantum physics, genetics, biochemistry, 100 00:05:01,080 --> 00:05:02,560 Speaker 4: all that kind of give us a blueprint to how 101 00:05:02,560 --> 00:05:04,840 Speaker 4: we operate at our best and I think to how 102 00:05:04,839 --> 00:05:07,080 Speaker 4: we're designed to best use it is that, I think, 103 00:05:07,120 --> 00:05:09,200 Speaker 4: more than anything, human design gives us permission to be 104 00:05:09,240 --> 00:05:11,200 Speaker 4: who we are. I think we often have spent a 105 00:05:11,200 --> 00:05:13,320 Speaker 4: lot of our lives trying to build businesses and show 106 00:05:13,400 --> 00:05:15,160 Speaker 4: up in a way that doesn't really work for us, 107 00:05:15,160 --> 00:05:17,360 Speaker 4: but it's what we think we should do, and human 108 00:05:17,360 --> 00:05:19,520 Speaker 4: design kind of reveals this is how you're wired to 109 00:05:19,520 --> 00:05:21,760 Speaker 4: do it. And I think often when I'm sitting with people, 110 00:05:21,800 --> 00:05:24,000 Speaker 4: I'm not telling them anything new. I'm just giving them 111 00:05:24,040 --> 00:05:25,680 Speaker 4: like a language and a framework for things they have 112 00:05:25,800 --> 00:05:28,440 Speaker 4: always felt but haven't really allowed themselves to step into. 113 00:05:29,040 --> 00:05:31,080 Speaker 1: Beautiful. Wow, that's interesting. 114 00:05:31,279 --> 00:05:33,159 Speaker 2: Like the time and date of birth that is so 115 00:05:33,440 --> 00:05:36,200 Speaker 2: close to like your natal chart, your natal reading. I 116 00:05:36,279 --> 00:05:41,360 Speaker 2: never thought about like how many ways that can translate totally. Yeah, 117 00:05:41,360 --> 00:05:43,040 Speaker 2: where does this come from? Who came up with this 118 00:05:43,160 --> 00:05:44,640 Speaker 2: method of reading the stars? 119 00:05:45,120 --> 00:05:48,840 Speaker 4: It's a very mystical origin story. It's been around since 120 00:05:49,000 --> 00:05:51,640 Speaker 4: nineteen eighty seven. The founder is a man named ra 121 00:05:51,920 --> 00:05:54,960 Speaker 4: Uhuru who he's actually no longer alive, but he basically 122 00:05:54,960 --> 00:05:57,240 Speaker 4: had a very mystical experience where he was walking home 123 00:05:57,240 --> 00:05:59,120 Speaker 4: one night and heard a voice and the voice said 124 00:05:59,120 --> 00:06:01,719 Speaker 4: it's time to work. And so for basically eight days 125 00:06:01,760 --> 00:06:04,240 Speaker 4: and eight nights he kind of received all this information 126 00:06:04,400 --> 00:06:06,440 Speaker 4: and then he spent the next twenty years building it out. 127 00:06:06,680 --> 00:06:08,760 Speaker 4: So it's a channel system, meaning it's just like it 128 00:06:08,800 --> 00:06:11,520 Speaker 4: didn't come from him analyzing people. It was very much received. 129 00:06:11,920 --> 00:06:13,600 Speaker 4: And I think I work with a lot of skeptics, 130 00:06:13,600 --> 00:06:15,520 Speaker 4: so I just want to kind of preface this by saying, like, 131 00:06:15,760 --> 00:06:19,119 Speaker 4: take what feels useful, supportive resident like throw the rest away. 132 00:06:19,400 --> 00:06:22,000 Speaker 4: And I think the more important question to ask yourself 133 00:06:22,080 --> 00:06:23,800 Speaker 4: is not like is this true, but is it useful? 134 00:06:24,240 --> 00:06:24,800 Speaker 3: What do you mean? 135 00:06:24,839 --> 00:06:26,200 Speaker 1: You work with a lot of skeptics. 136 00:06:26,240 --> 00:06:28,640 Speaker 2: A lot of your clients comes skeptical, like, hey, I 137 00:06:28,680 --> 00:06:29,160 Speaker 2: don't believe it. 138 00:06:29,640 --> 00:06:33,320 Speaker 4: Tell me about it, right that a lot of my 139 00:06:33,440 --> 00:06:36,520 Speaker 4: individual clients are definitely not skeptical. I also work with 140 00:06:36,520 --> 00:06:38,800 Speaker 4: a lot of teams, so I think like one kind 141 00:06:38,839 --> 00:06:40,719 Speaker 4: of like big ambassador will bring me in, But a 142 00:06:40,720 --> 00:06:42,400 Speaker 4: lot of them are very new to it, you know. 143 00:06:42,480 --> 00:06:44,520 Speaker 4: And so you're right that it's not the skeptics that 144 00:06:44,560 --> 00:06:46,760 Speaker 4: are the ones that are coming, but they're often roped in, 145 00:06:46,880 --> 00:06:48,479 Speaker 4: and so it's important to kind of know how to 146 00:06:48,560 --> 00:06:50,440 Speaker 4: language it to them as well, because I think the 147 00:06:50,480 --> 00:06:52,800 Speaker 4: magic of human design is that even though it feels 148 00:06:52,839 --> 00:06:55,120 Speaker 4: so cosmic and even though it comes from the stars, 149 00:06:55,160 --> 00:06:58,400 Speaker 4: the information it offers us is so grounded, so practical, 150 00:06:58,839 --> 00:07:00,760 Speaker 4: and like just so accessible. So I think that it 151 00:07:00,839 --> 00:07:03,080 Speaker 4: tends to be accessible even to the most skeptical people. 152 00:07:03,800 --> 00:07:04,960 Speaker 1: Got it, Got it? 153 00:07:05,320 --> 00:07:07,920 Speaker 3: That's so interesting. How did you come into this? 154 00:07:08,080 --> 00:07:10,680 Speaker 2: Like have you always come from a like mystical family 155 00:07:10,880 --> 00:07:13,480 Speaker 2: and this was just your calling? Or like did you 156 00:07:13,520 --> 00:07:16,240 Speaker 2: have a strong affinity with astrology? 157 00:07:17,720 --> 00:07:21,920 Speaker 4: No? And no not. You know, I love astrology, but 158 00:07:22,000 --> 00:07:23,680 Speaker 4: like by no means an expert, you know, And it's 159 00:07:23,680 --> 00:07:25,480 Speaker 4: not like I've really studied it much at all. And 160 00:07:25,520 --> 00:07:27,680 Speaker 4: my family was not really mystical at all. I think 161 00:07:27,680 --> 00:07:30,800 Speaker 4: I was always into like different personal development things, even 162 00:07:30,800 --> 00:07:34,360 Speaker 4: in high school. But I discovered human design, so taranctipitously. 163 00:07:34,400 --> 00:07:36,120 Speaker 4: I had been working for a bunch of different startups 164 00:07:36,160 --> 00:07:37,960 Speaker 4: and kind of a more corporate setting in New York, 165 00:07:38,080 --> 00:07:41,080 Speaker 4: and I went to a friend's house in twenty fifteen 166 00:07:41,080 --> 00:07:43,360 Speaker 4: and was in her backyard and sat next to a stranger, 167 00:07:43,880 --> 00:07:45,720 Speaker 4: and the stranger was like, I would love to share 168 00:07:45,760 --> 00:07:47,240 Speaker 4: your human design with you. And I was like, I 169 00:07:47,280 --> 00:07:49,520 Speaker 4: don't know what human design is, but like, tell me everything. 170 00:07:50,040 --> 00:07:52,160 Speaker 4: And he gave me a little mini reading on the spot, 171 00:07:52,200 --> 00:07:54,200 Speaker 4: and it was just like the most resonant thing I 172 00:07:54,240 --> 00:07:57,240 Speaker 4: had ever heard. And he ended that conversation by saying, 173 00:07:57,280 --> 00:07:58,560 Speaker 4: I think that you're meant to do this, and I 174 00:07:58,560 --> 00:08:00,440 Speaker 4: think that we should build a business together. It was 175 00:08:00,520 --> 00:08:03,080 Speaker 4: just like such a direct and intense invitation, and I 176 00:08:03,080 --> 00:08:05,200 Speaker 4: didn't say yes immediately, but he started to kind of 177 00:08:05,240 --> 00:08:07,600 Speaker 4: reveal to me how we could use human design not 178 00:08:07,640 --> 00:08:09,760 Speaker 4: only individually, but how to kind of help teams work 179 00:08:09,760 --> 00:08:12,720 Speaker 4: better together, how you can use it in parenting and partnership. 180 00:08:12,720 --> 00:08:15,120 Speaker 4: And I had just like, never seen a system as 181 00:08:15,160 --> 00:08:18,160 Speaker 4: detailed and as practical as this one, and so I 182 00:08:18,200 --> 00:08:19,920 Speaker 4: went all in. And it's been a real journey. It 183 00:08:19,920 --> 00:08:22,520 Speaker 4: hasn't been smooth sailing for sure. I think like early 184 00:08:22,560 --> 00:08:25,360 Speaker 4: on in twenty fifteen, human design was so weird and 185 00:08:25,400 --> 00:08:27,960 Speaker 4: out there for most people, and so it's really only 186 00:08:28,040 --> 00:08:30,160 Speaker 4: kind of become more in the mainstream in the past 187 00:08:30,160 --> 00:08:32,679 Speaker 4: I would say, three years. But it was such a serendipitous, 188 00:08:32,760 --> 00:08:34,520 Speaker 4: like cosmic introduction to it, for sure. 189 00:08:35,200 --> 00:08:37,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's so amazing someone that just comes in next 190 00:08:37,559 --> 00:08:39,120 Speaker 1: to you and be like, let's start a business. 191 00:08:39,320 --> 00:08:41,760 Speaker 2: What were you doing before? Let me teach you everything about? 192 00:08:41,840 --> 00:08:43,440 Speaker 2: What kind of business were you before? 193 00:08:43,480 --> 00:08:44,240 Speaker 3: Like very weird? 194 00:08:44,320 --> 00:08:46,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, what were you doing before human design? 195 00:08:46,600 --> 00:08:48,400 Speaker 4: I was working for a bunch of different startups in 196 00:08:48,440 --> 00:08:51,080 Speaker 4: New York, kind of in the financial space, but also 197 00:08:51,120 --> 00:08:53,880 Speaker 4: in the wellness space and in kind of more community 198 00:08:53,880 --> 00:08:56,040 Speaker 4: and business development roles. But I think on this side 199 00:08:56,080 --> 00:08:58,000 Speaker 4: of that work, I was always like I had my 200 00:08:58,080 --> 00:09:00,440 Speaker 4: Taro Dex with me everywhere I did all kinds of training, 201 00:09:00,480 --> 00:09:02,400 Speaker 4: so I was like always on this path, but like 202 00:09:02,679 --> 00:09:04,960 Speaker 4: I never really envisioned doing it for work, And I 203 00:09:04,960 --> 00:09:06,840 Speaker 4: think human design for me kind of bridge the two 204 00:09:06,880 --> 00:09:09,439 Speaker 4: where it like satisfied all my desires so like understand 205 00:09:09,440 --> 00:09:11,880 Speaker 4: ourselves on the deepest level, but also allowed me to 206 00:09:11,960 --> 00:09:13,760 Speaker 4: come of work not only with people that love the 207 00:09:13,800 --> 00:09:15,800 Speaker 4: mystical in the way that I do, but also people 208 00:09:15,840 --> 00:09:18,240 Speaker 4: that were very skeptical, but it could be really supportive 209 00:09:18,280 --> 00:09:19,840 Speaker 4: to them as well, because. 210 00:09:19,640 --> 00:09:22,840 Speaker 1: I feel like human design feels like, like you said, 211 00:09:22,880 --> 00:09:25,080 Speaker 1: like it's a ligne for like the person that's kind 212 00:09:25,080 --> 00:09:27,760 Speaker 1: of a little bit more I don't want to say 213 00:09:27,920 --> 00:09:31,200 Speaker 1: a realist, because that kind of like makes everything else 214 00:09:31,240 --> 00:09:34,320 Speaker 1: feel not real, but like someone who is more like 215 00:09:35,040 --> 00:09:39,160 Speaker 1: needs the facts, like needs to understand like the facts 216 00:09:39,160 --> 00:09:42,160 Speaker 1: and not just like leave it to the stars, you know. 217 00:09:42,360 --> 00:09:44,760 Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, and also want to do something with it. 218 00:09:44,800 --> 00:09:46,760 Speaker 4: I feel like there's so many amazing systems out there 219 00:09:46,800 --> 00:09:48,679 Speaker 4: that give us like juicy information and then we have 220 00:09:48,679 --> 00:09:49,400 Speaker 4: no idea what to do. 221 00:09:49,720 --> 00:09:52,839 Speaker 1: Ye're like, okay, well great with scorpios and rising now 222 00:09:52,880 --> 00:09:55,199 Speaker 1: what ah exactly? 223 00:09:55,360 --> 00:09:58,720 Speaker 4: Yeah, it's so fun. Like I still love that, but 224 00:09:58,720 --> 00:10:00,360 Speaker 4: I think human design is so cool well that it 225 00:10:00,400 --> 00:10:02,200 Speaker 4: gives us all the self knowledge, but it also gives 226 00:10:02,240 --> 00:10:04,079 Speaker 4: us these tools that we can use in our day 227 00:10:04,080 --> 00:10:05,280 Speaker 4: to day like starting the next day. 228 00:10:05,960 --> 00:10:09,679 Speaker 1: So you know, we gave you our do we need 229 00:10:09,679 --> 00:10:12,000 Speaker 1: to give you our birth dates? Again? No? No, no, I 230 00:10:12,280 --> 00:10:17,319 Speaker 1: have our birth information and you have run run the test. 231 00:10:17,200 --> 00:10:17,880 Speaker 3: Run the system. 232 00:10:18,400 --> 00:10:21,280 Speaker 2: You've input us in the systems of the stars and 233 00:10:21,800 --> 00:10:25,880 Speaker 2: you've gotten some information back data the data systems. 234 00:10:26,760 --> 00:10:27,640 Speaker 4: Are you ready to hear? 235 00:10:28,320 --> 00:10:29,200 Speaker 1: Ready, let's do it? 236 00:10:29,240 --> 00:10:31,400 Speaker 4: Okay, who wants to start Mela? 237 00:10:32,040 --> 00:10:35,920 Speaker 3: Okay, we'll have volunteer, right, okay? 238 00:10:36,040 --> 00:10:38,679 Speaker 4: Perfect. So, and just for context for people, there are 239 00:10:38,720 --> 00:10:41,840 Speaker 4: basically five different types than human design, and then underneath 240 00:10:41,840 --> 00:10:43,880 Speaker 4: the type they are like a bajillion other configuration. So 241 00:10:43,920 --> 00:10:45,320 Speaker 4: we'll kind of start with the type that start to 242 00:10:45,320 --> 00:10:47,280 Speaker 4: explore some of the different pieces. And you can look 243 00:10:47,320 --> 00:10:50,160 Speaker 4: up your design at Aaronclaire Jones dot com slash look up. 244 00:10:50,559 --> 00:10:54,720 Speaker 4: So MELA is a manifestor and manifestors are about eight 245 00:10:54,760 --> 00:10:56,679 Speaker 4: to nine percent of the population. So it's like a 246 00:10:56,679 --> 00:10:57,520 Speaker 4: more rare type. 247 00:10:57,600 --> 00:10:59,360 Speaker 1: Oh maybe rare rarity. 248 00:11:00,240 --> 00:11:11,640 Speaker 5: So a lot of you always are fine ashtag, We're fine, sorry. 249 00:11:11,360 --> 00:11:17,440 Speaker 4: Aron, No, no, perfect okay. So manifestors they're here to 250 00:11:17,480 --> 00:11:19,560 Speaker 4: be the initiators. They're really here to kind of get 251 00:11:19,559 --> 00:11:22,200 Speaker 4: things started and get the ball rolling, not always here 252 00:11:22,240 --> 00:11:23,920 Speaker 4: to do all the doing themselves. You know, they often 253 00:11:23,960 --> 00:11:26,000 Speaker 4: bring so much powerful energy at the beginning. And so, 254 00:11:26,080 --> 00:11:27,800 Speaker 4: like I would say, an ideal thing for MILA and 255 00:11:27,800 --> 00:11:29,760 Speaker 4: this is maybe not. The way that you've operated is 256 00:11:29,760 --> 00:11:31,520 Speaker 4: like bringing in a new idea to life and then 257 00:11:31,600 --> 00:11:33,680 Speaker 4: kind of like handing it off and delegating and like 258 00:11:33,679 --> 00:11:36,160 Speaker 4: creating space for the next inspiration to come. You know, 259 00:11:36,400 --> 00:11:38,640 Speaker 4: I would guess that you really thrive when you feel 260 00:11:38,640 --> 00:11:41,079 Speaker 4: really free and in control, like you're somebody who's not 261 00:11:41,120 --> 00:11:42,720 Speaker 4: really here to be told what to do or controlled 262 00:11:42,720 --> 00:11:44,839 Speaker 4: in any way, like here to do things on your 263 00:11:44,840 --> 00:11:46,880 Speaker 4: own terms and in your own way. And so both 264 00:11:46,920 --> 00:11:49,760 Speaker 4: personally and in work, it's so important to be surrounded 265 00:11:49,800 --> 00:11:52,120 Speaker 4: by people that just like really give you freedom and 266 00:11:52,160 --> 00:11:54,079 Speaker 4: like don't mess with your flow and kind of remind 267 00:11:54,120 --> 00:11:56,679 Speaker 4: you how powerful you are. A lot of manifestors I've 268 00:11:56,679 --> 00:11:58,600 Speaker 4: worked with haven't really felt permission to be as powerful 269 00:11:58,600 --> 00:12:00,240 Speaker 4: as they are. They've been kind of sitting back and 270 00:12:00,280 --> 00:12:02,520 Speaker 4: ask me for permission. And so you know, your job 271 00:12:02,600 --> 00:12:05,000 Speaker 4: is to like step up, initiate, like trust the urges 272 00:12:05,040 --> 00:12:07,000 Speaker 4: that come within you and kind of know that you're 273 00:12:07,000 --> 00:12:09,120 Speaker 4: like not for everyone, because no one is, you know, 274 00:12:09,160 --> 00:12:11,120 Speaker 4: And the more kind of bold and courageous you are 275 00:12:11,120 --> 00:12:12,840 Speaker 4: and how you express, the more you kind of empower 276 00:12:12,960 --> 00:12:15,800 Speaker 4: others to be equally bold. I think in terms of 277 00:12:15,840 --> 00:12:17,880 Speaker 4: how you structure your day to day. You're somebody who 278 00:12:17,960 --> 00:12:20,400 Speaker 4: really is meant to work in ebbs and flows, so 279 00:12:20,480 --> 00:12:22,280 Speaker 4: you likely won't try when you're just like I'm going 280 00:12:22,320 --> 00:12:24,680 Speaker 4: to be a consistent doer all day long. It's more 281 00:12:24,800 --> 00:12:26,319 Speaker 4: like I'm going to have a creative burst where I 282 00:12:26,360 --> 00:12:28,000 Speaker 4: can make a lot happen, whether it's over the course 283 00:12:28,040 --> 00:12:29,840 Speaker 4: of a couple hours or a couple of days, and 284 00:12:29,880 --> 00:12:31,520 Speaker 4: then I need to kind of pull back and arrest 285 00:12:31,559 --> 00:12:32,920 Speaker 4: and take space and then kind of wait for the 286 00:12:32,960 --> 00:12:35,640 Speaker 4: next burst to arrive. And there's a lot more to share, 287 00:12:35,640 --> 00:12:36,800 Speaker 4: but I want to hear your thoughts on this. I 288 00:12:36,800 --> 00:12:38,520 Speaker 4: think the last piece that I share in this section 289 00:12:38,640 --> 00:12:41,000 Speaker 4: is just that like you're here to initiate when you 290 00:12:41,000 --> 00:12:43,440 Speaker 4: feel an urge to make something happen, like your job 291 00:12:43,520 --> 00:12:45,800 Speaker 4: is to trust it and not look for like confirmation 292 00:12:46,000 --> 00:12:49,760 Speaker 4: or approval from anyone around you. So how does that 293 00:12:49,840 --> 00:12:50,600 Speaker 4: all feel to you? 294 00:12:51,360 --> 00:12:52,960 Speaker 1: It feels very accurate. 295 00:12:53,600 --> 00:12:54,880 Speaker 3: Wow, that's crazy. 296 00:12:54,960 --> 00:12:56,800 Speaker 2: I do have a lot of energy in the beginning, 297 00:12:56,880 --> 00:13:01,120 Speaker 2: and then I can like must rest, and I think 298 00:13:01,160 --> 00:13:04,320 Speaker 2: I have asked permission to like take up space, and 299 00:13:04,360 --> 00:13:07,280 Speaker 2: I do, and I do flow best and freedom and 300 00:13:07,360 --> 00:13:08,880 Speaker 2: not being told what to do and even when I'm 301 00:13:08,920 --> 00:13:13,559 Speaker 2: told rules, I'm like, am I just like not willing 302 00:13:13,559 --> 00:13:16,080 Speaker 2: to compromise, or I just I don't want to listen. 303 00:13:16,360 --> 00:13:19,040 Speaker 2: I don't want to listen. I don't like I just 304 00:13:19,040 --> 00:13:21,440 Speaker 2: want to do things at my own pace. And I 305 00:13:21,520 --> 00:13:23,560 Speaker 2: used to I used to date someone I still live 306 00:13:23,600 --> 00:13:25,560 Speaker 2: with my baby daddy, and he would like have this 307 00:13:25,720 --> 00:13:26,400 Speaker 2: thing in the morning. 308 00:13:26,400 --> 00:13:28,520 Speaker 1: He would rush me. He was like, let's go let's 309 00:13:28,520 --> 00:13:31,320 Speaker 1: do this, let's go that, and I was like, I 310 00:13:31,320 --> 00:13:32,160 Speaker 1: want to lean up. 311 00:13:32,440 --> 00:13:35,559 Speaker 2: I wanted to, Like it would irritate the fuck out 312 00:13:35,600 --> 00:13:38,040 Speaker 2: of me that he was moving so fast and then 313 00:13:38,040 --> 00:13:40,000 Speaker 2: would get mad, and I was just like, this is 314 00:13:40,040 --> 00:13:44,480 Speaker 2: really interrupting how I feel the flow the flow, and 315 00:13:44,480 --> 00:13:46,280 Speaker 2: it just like really irritated me. I thought something was 316 00:13:46,320 --> 00:13:48,760 Speaker 2: wrong with me, but of course it really resonates with me. 317 00:13:48,800 --> 00:13:51,800 Speaker 2: And even especially like having energy to start things up. 318 00:13:52,040 --> 00:13:55,760 Speaker 2: Sometimes I'm like get so frustrated with myself because I'm like, 319 00:13:56,320 --> 00:13:59,240 Speaker 2: I created this deck and I'm ninety nine percent done. 320 00:13:59,520 --> 00:14:02,760 Speaker 1: Why can and I get the one percent done? Why 321 00:14:03,000 --> 00:14:05,120 Speaker 1: can't I just finish the fucking shit? Why can't I 322 00:14:05,160 --> 00:14:05,560 Speaker 1: just push some. 323 00:14:05,720 --> 00:14:07,760 Speaker 3: On the email? What the fuck is wrong with me? 324 00:14:07,800 --> 00:14:10,000 Speaker 1: The other day you were like, I'm so annoyed, Like 325 00:14:10,080 --> 00:14:12,920 Speaker 1: I cleaned my whole house, I sweeped, and I put 326 00:14:13,000 --> 00:14:16,360 Speaker 1: all these little piles of dirt in corners and I 327 00:14:16,440 --> 00:14:20,560 Speaker 1: didn't pick it up, Like why I did everything except 328 00:14:20,760 --> 00:14:24,120 Speaker 1: complete the fucking task. And she was like, I'm so 329 00:14:24,360 --> 00:14:26,880 Speaker 1: mad at myself. Why can't I just finish shit. 330 00:14:27,360 --> 00:14:30,080 Speaker 2: I am currently in therapy because I'm like, what the 331 00:14:30,200 --> 00:14:32,880 Speaker 2: fuck is wrong? I like, what is in my childhood 332 00:14:32,880 --> 00:14:34,560 Speaker 2: that I cannot complete the task? 333 00:14:36,160 --> 00:14:38,600 Speaker 1: Wow, it's crazy. 334 00:14:38,920 --> 00:14:40,720 Speaker 4: It is. I mean, that's amazing to hear. And I 335 00:14:40,720 --> 00:14:43,920 Speaker 4: think again, like it's a balance. But I would just say, 336 00:14:44,040 --> 00:14:46,080 Speaker 4: like workwise, in life, it's really good to have people 337 00:14:46,120 --> 00:14:48,760 Speaker 4: around you that can like help you finish because again, 338 00:14:48,840 --> 00:14:50,440 Speaker 4: so much of your energies at the beginning, and so 339 00:14:50,480 --> 00:14:52,280 Speaker 4: instead of making yourself wrong for that, it's like I 340 00:14:52,280 --> 00:14:54,400 Speaker 4: can get this thing off the ground, and I'm gonna 341 00:14:54,440 --> 00:14:55,680 Speaker 4: need you to help me like move it across the 342 00:14:55,720 --> 00:14:56,760 Speaker 4: finish line. 343 00:14:56,680 --> 00:14:57,720 Speaker 1: You know, land it. 344 00:14:58,240 --> 00:15:01,120 Speaker 4: Yeah, So it is just and again, human design really 345 00:15:01,160 --> 00:15:03,240 Speaker 4: helps us know kind of what support we need around us. 346 00:15:03,680 --> 00:15:05,760 Speaker 4: And it is interesting hearing you talk about kind of 347 00:15:05,760 --> 00:15:07,920 Speaker 4: like being rushed in the morning, because whenever I'm talking 348 00:15:07,960 --> 00:15:10,160 Speaker 4: to like somebody who's partnered with a manifestor I always 349 00:15:10,200 --> 00:15:11,840 Speaker 4: kind of remind them like just like don't get in 350 00:15:11,840 --> 00:15:14,000 Speaker 4: their way, like let them be in their own flow 351 00:15:14,040 --> 00:15:15,600 Speaker 4: and do their own thing, and like they'll let you 352 00:15:15,680 --> 00:15:16,720 Speaker 4: know when they want to kind of be in the 353 00:15:16,760 --> 00:15:18,280 Speaker 4: flow with you. But I think in a case like that, 354 00:15:18,320 --> 00:15:20,360 Speaker 4: I feel like your flow is disrupted from like the 355 00:15:20,440 --> 00:15:22,640 Speaker 4: first minute you woke up. Like I can imagine it'd 356 00:15:22,680 --> 00:15:27,160 Speaker 4: be a bit frustrating. Yeah, makes sense, Yeah, for sure. 357 00:15:27,520 --> 00:15:30,120 Speaker 2: For sure, I'm happy that human design is giving me 358 00:15:30,160 --> 00:15:36,200 Speaker 2: permission to like be as wild and large and have 359 00:15:36,360 --> 00:15:41,840 Speaker 2: outrageous out of the ordinary ideas and I should sit 360 00:15:41,920 --> 00:15:44,520 Speaker 2: in that and not really listen to anyone else's say so. 361 00:15:44,840 --> 00:15:47,200 Speaker 1: And I feel bad about the completion part. You know, 362 00:15:47,840 --> 00:15:49,080 Speaker 1: just put people in place. 363 00:15:48,840 --> 00:15:52,120 Speaker 3: That can complete it, complete it right right. That does help. 364 00:15:52,720 --> 00:15:54,320 Speaker 4: It's also going to give you so much more energy 365 00:15:54,360 --> 00:15:56,560 Speaker 4: for like the beginnings, because I imagine, like you have 366 00:15:56,600 --> 00:15:58,200 Speaker 4: a lot of energy getting things off the ground, but 367 00:15:58,240 --> 00:16:00,760 Speaker 4: it takes so much more to actually finish, and so 368 00:16:00,880 --> 00:16:02,480 Speaker 4: like if somebody else can support you in that, it's 369 00:16:02,520 --> 00:16:04,080 Speaker 4: going to free up so much energy for like the 370 00:16:04,120 --> 00:16:08,080 Speaker 4: next thing to come. In terms of kind of knowing 371 00:16:08,120 --> 00:16:10,760 Speaker 4: which opportunities to pursue. And this is a piece underneath 372 00:16:10,760 --> 00:16:13,440 Speaker 4: the manifest or this is how you make decisions. You're 373 00:16:13,440 --> 00:16:16,680 Speaker 4: not really meant to be super spontaneous and like for 374 00:16:16,760 --> 00:16:19,280 Speaker 4: the small decisions. Of course be spontaneous, but you're somebody 375 00:16:19,280 --> 00:16:21,120 Speaker 4: who's like deeply emotional, and so if you make a 376 00:16:21,160 --> 00:16:23,040 Speaker 4: decision on like an emotional high, you might kind of 377 00:16:23,080 --> 00:16:24,440 Speaker 4: wake up the next day and be like, I don't 378 00:16:24,440 --> 00:16:26,280 Speaker 4: actually want to do that thing, you know, And so 379 00:16:26,360 --> 00:16:28,400 Speaker 4: I would just say giving yourself like a day or 380 00:16:28,400 --> 00:16:30,720 Speaker 4: two before you say yes can also help you like 381 00:16:30,960 --> 00:16:33,280 Speaker 4: sustain your energy a little bit more so, some people 382 00:16:33,320 --> 00:16:35,320 Speaker 4: are meant to be spontaneous, I would say for you, 383 00:16:35,480 --> 00:16:38,840 Speaker 4: even like romantic relationships like courtship, taking your time to 384 00:16:38,840 --> 00:16:41,240 Speaker 4: feel into things like clarity really comes with time for you. 385 00:16:41,160 --> 00:16:46,119 Speaker 1: You hear that, girl, You hear that, my instant girlfriend. 386 00:16:47,640 --> 00:16:50,680 Speaker 1: We're in love. She's boyfriend. She woke up, she woke up, 387 00:16:50,840 --> 00:16:53,320 Speaker 1: met him last night, woke up with a boyfriend. Were love. 388 00:16:53,360 --> 00:16:55,360 Speaker 3: It was just meant to be. It was are the 389 00:16:55,440 --> 00:16:56,680 Speaker 3: Stars six months later? 390 00:16:56,960 --> 00:17:01,160 Speaker 1: Fuck, it wasn't in the fucking stars. It's at the 391 00:17:01,200 --> 00:17:01,880 Speaker 1: bars where it was. 392 00:17:04,400 --> 00:17:07,240 Speaker 2: Yeah, I do probably need to take that into more consideration. 393 00:17:07,320 --> 00:17:10,960 Speaker 2: I am spontaneous, but sometimes I do spread myself thin 394 00:17:11,160 --> 00:17:13,640 Speaker 2: and say yes too often, and then I'm like, oh, 395 00:17:13,680 --> 00:17:15,159 Speaker 2: why did I do that? Why do I want to 396 00:17:15,160 --> 00:17:16,800 Speaker 2: say no, I'm such a bitch? Why do I care 397 00:17:16,800 --> 00:17:18,879 Speaker 2: if anyone thinks I'm a bitch or you are bitch? 398 00:17:21,440 --> 00:17:21,639 Speaker 3: You know? 399 00:17:21,880 --> 00:17:25,600 Speaker 2: I like Erica, be like, be more like Erica? Care less, 400 00:17:25,920 --> 00:17:30,240 Speaker 2: I know, not doing it. I changed my mind then. 401 00:17:30,119 --> 00:17:30,879 Speaker 3: I like, harp on it. 402 00:17:31,040 --> 00:17:32,480 Speaker 1: I'm trying to be more like you. You're trying to 403 00:17:32,520 --> 00:17:33,040 Speaker 1: be more like me? 404 00:17:33,280 --> 00:17:34,120 Speaker 3: Can I change my mind? 405 00:17:34,160 --> 00:17:35,959 Speaker 2: Like five minutes before, Like sorry, I should have told 406 00:17:36,000 --> 00:17:37,359 Speaker 2: you two days ago, and I knew I didn't want 407 00:17:37,400 --> 00:17:39,000 Speaker 2: to do it, but now I can't. 408 00:17:40,080 --> 00:17:41,680 Speaker 3: I'm gonna lie so I can get onto it. 409 00:17:43,160 --> 00:17:45,359 Speaker 4: It's not easy to honor because it can be annoying 410 00:17:45,400 --> 00:17:46,919 Speaker 4: to wait, you know what I mean, especially when you 411 00:17:46,920 --> 00:17:48,840 Speaker 4: have like this powerful energy to make things happen. And 412 00:17:48,880 --> 00:17:50,320 Speaker 4: I have the same thing in my design, so I 413 00:17:50,359 --> 00:17:51,919 Speaker 4: know it well. But I think the lesson for me 414 00:17:52,000 --> 00:17:54,600 Speaker 4: has been like it's almost always worth it because like, 415 00:17:54,680 --> 00:17:56,879 Speaker 4: even though it's annoying, it's just like then I commit 416 00:17:56,920 --> 00:17:58,880 Speaker 4: to things from like such a more wholehearted place where 417 00:17:58,880 --> 00:18:01,320 Speaker 4: I'm like, yes, I'm in I can do this, Whereas 418 00:18:01,320 --> 00:18:03,520 Speaker 4: like if it's spontaneous, I'm like yes and then no, 419 00:18:03,600 --> 00:18:05,480 Speaker 4: and then it's just like there's an uncertainty that kind 420 00:18:05,480 --> 00:18:06,119 Speaker 4: of persists. 421 00:18:06,440 --> 00:18:08,560 Speaker 1: So when I think about it, I think about it forever. 422 00:18:08,880 --> 00:18:13,560 Speaker 2: I'm thinking I'm getting anxiety over this ship for three days, like, bitch, 423 00:18:13,640 --> 00:18:14,080 Speaker 2: just say no. 424 00:18:14,640 --> 00:18:17,159 Speaker 1: I feel like a manifestor probably has to work really 425 00:18:17,200 --> 00:18:19,879 Speaker 1: hard to not be spontaneous because they get that like 426 00:18:20,240 --> 00:18:23,520 Speaker 1: surge of energy, surge of idea, surge of inspiration that 427 00:18:23,600 --> 00:18:26,760 Speaker 1: like the spontaneity feels like part of it and really 428 00:18:26,840 --> 00:18:29,680 Speaker 1: natural to you when you have to really like take 429 00:18:29,680 --> 00:18:31,680 Speaker 1: a step back and be like Oda. 430 00:18:31,600 --> 00:18:33,840 Speaker 2: You know how many best friends I've met at a 431 00:18:34,119 --> 00:18:36,119 Speaker 2: bathroom party? 432 00:18:37,480 --> 00:18:37,800 Speaker 3: Hundred. 433 00:18:38,240 --> 00:18:39,240 Speaker 1: I'm gonna call you tomorrow. 434 00:18:39,359 --> 00:18:42,320 Speaker 3: Tomorrow, we're gonna talk about this. No, tomorrow, we're gonna 435 00:18:42,320 --> 00:18:44,159 Speaker 3: go out to eat. We're gonna talk about. 436 00:18:46,880 --> 00:18:49,520 Speaker 2: So many, so many random pictures in my phone. Who 437 00:18:49,560 --> 00:18:52,320 Speaker 2: the fuck is this? It's your best friend time. 438 00:18:53,359 --> 00:18:55,679 Speaker 4: Oh my god. And the thing is one thing is 439 00:18:56,000 --> 00:19:00,000 Speaker 4: not all manifestors have to wait. Some can actually be spontaneous. 440 00:19:00,080 --> 00:19:01,800 Speaker 4: Let's just got a piece of me Let's design where 441 00:19:01,840 --> 00:19:04,080 Speaker 4: actually you have to wait. And again, you can do 442 00:19:04,119 --> 00:19:05,960 Speaker 4: whatever you want, but you just might be a bit 443 00:19:05,960 --> 00:19:07,000 Speaker 4: more regretful if you don't. 444 00:19:07,480 --> 00:19:09,359 Speaker 2: You know, I'm going to take that advice I should 445 00:19:09,440 --> 00:19:12,000 Speaker 2: wait because then I want to be doing that. 446 00:19:13,359 --> 00:19:15,119 Speaker 4: Okay, I'm going to share two more pieces and then 447 00:19:15,200 --> 00:19:17,200 Speaker 4: go over to Erica. And again, there's so much more, 448 00:19:17,240 --> 00:19:18,560 Speaker 4: but just to give you guys a little bit of 449 00:19:18,600 --> 00:19:21,320 Speaker 4: a taste to start. So another piece for you, and 450 00:19:21,359 --> 00:19:23,760 Speaker 4: I love this just because of your relationship, is that, 451 00:19:23,840 --> 00:19:26,080 Speaker 4: like so many of your opportunities are meant to come 452 00:19:26,119 --> 00:19:28,160 Speaker 4: from like your friends and your community and the people 453 00:19:28,200 --> 00:19:30,240 Speaker 4: that you know, and so it's so much more natural 454 00:19:30,240 --> 00:19:31,600 Speaker 4: for you to work with your friends than it is 455 00:19:31,920 --> 00:19:34,440 Speaker 4: to work with strangers, you know. And also when it 456 00:19:34,480 --> 00:19:36,439 Speaker 4: comes to dating, it's really important like a foundation of 457 00:19:36,480 --> 00:19:38,520 Speaker 4: friendship with the people that you date, and it's probably 458 00:19:38,520 --> 00:19:40,159 Speaker 4: more natural for you to like date somebody that was 459 00:19:40,200 --> 00:19:42,399 Speaker 4: like introduced you through a friend, was a friend first, 460 00:19:42,440 --> 00:19:44,720 Speaker 4: you know. So it just like your community is such 461 00:19:44,760 --> 00:19:46,600 Speaker 4: a well of opportunity for you. So I would just 462 00:19:46,640 --> 00:19:49,560 Speaker 4: say in general, like really investing in your relationships is key, 463 00:19:50,000 --> 00:19:51,840 Speaker 4: and working with those that you really desire to be 464 00:19:51,840 --> 00:19:53,760 Speaker 4: friends with I do that anyway. 465 00:19:54,040 --> 00:19:58,520 Speaker 2: I am like a friend lover. I will work on 466 00:19:58,880 --> 00:20:01,520 Speaker 2: my friendships with my friend all the time. I receive 467 00:20:01,640 --> 00:20:04,399 Speaker 2: that I and even us in our business everything is 468 00:20:04,520 --> 00:20:07,639 Speaker 2: we find that business works best in our community, in 469 00:20:07,680 --> 00:20:10,560 Speaker 2: our tribe with our friends, Like how do we keep 470 00:20:10,600 --> 00:20:12,720 Speaker 2: it and flow together without stuffing outside? 471 00:20:12,760 --> 00:20:13,960 Speaker 3: We don't know those people. 472 00:20:15,920 --> 00:20:19,000 Speaker 4: Totally. And then one other big piece for you and 473 00:20:19,040 --> 00:20:21,359 Speaker 4: your design is that we all have areas that we're 474 00:20:21,400 --> 00:20:23,000 Speaker 4: kind of meant to work on. And these are areas 475 00:20:23,000 --> 00:20:25,400 Speaker 4: that can be both challenging but also like really amazing 476 00:20:25,400 --> 00:20:27,480 Speaker 4: places where we can be wise and teach other people. 477 00:20:27,840 --> 00:20:29,600 Speaker 4: But one of the big lessons for you is run 478 00:20:29,680 --> 00:20:32,679 Speaker 4: your identity. You or somebody who has a very fluid 479 00:20:32,680 --> 00:20:34,520 Speaker 4: sense of identity, which means like how you want to 480 00:20:34,520 --> 00:20:36,399 Speaker 4: express now might be different than how you wanted to 481 00:20:36,480 --> 00:20:38,960 Speaker 4: express six months ago or a year or ten years ago. 482 00:20:39,080 --> 00:20:41,119 Speaker 4: Like you're kind of meant to wear many different hats 483 00:20:41,119 --> 00:20:42,800 Speaker 4: over the course of your life, and you're not really 484 00:20:42,800 --> 00:20:44,720 Speaker 4: here to like figure out your one purpose and stick 485 00:20:44,760 --> 00:20:47,080 Speaker 4: with it, but rather we're kind of like honoring whatever 486 00:20:47,080 --> 00:20:49,320 Speaker 4: feels authentic to you and kind of giving yourself permission 487 00:20:49,359 --> 00:20:52,080 Speaker 4: to like shift and evolve and reinvent yourself when it's time. 488 00:20:52,480 --> 00:20:54,200 Speaker 4: And so I would say the biggest question to ask 489 00:20:54,240 --> 00:20:56,040 Speaker 4: yourself is never like who am I and what am 490 00:20:56,080 --> 00:20:57,800 Speaker 4: I here to do with my life? But rather like 491 00:20:57,920 --> 00:21:00,200 Speaker 4: what feels like the most authentic expression of me right now? 492 00:21:00,240 --> 00:21:02,479 Speaker 4: And how can I lean so fully into that? How 493 00:21:02,520 --> 00:21:04,800 Speaker 4: does that feel? Do you feel that flexibility within yourself? 494 00:21:05,040 --> 00:21:05,639 Speaker 3: Yeah? 495 00:21:05,840 --> 00:21:09,920 Speaker 2: Yeah, I probably have like eight purposes in this lifetime 496 00:21:09,960 --> 00:21:14,120 Speaker 2: that will manifest in different like ways, Like I can 497 00:21:14,119 --> 00:21:17,640 Speaker 2: feel that I like a trade here, a certification there. 498 00:21:17,880 --> 00:21:19,920 Speaker 1: Wait, what was the question that you should ask yourself? 499 00:21:20,200 --> 00:21:22,240 Speaker 4: The question is not about like who am I and 500 00:21:22,280 --> 00:21:23,800 Speaker 4: what am I here to do with my life? But 501 00:21:23,920 --> 00:21:26,240 Speaker 4: rather like what feels like the most me right now? 502 00:21:26,760 --> 00:21:28,320 Speaker 1: What feels like the most to you right now? 503 00:21:29,400 --> 00:21:31,400 Speaker 2: What feels like the most me right now is just 504 00:21:31,600 --> 00:21:37,320 Speaker 2: really tapping into just my natural god given talents, which 505 00:21:37,480 --> 00:21:43,040 Speaker 2: are like connecting people, creating community, making people feel like 506 00:21:43,240 --> 00:21:46,240 Speaker 2: powerful and warm and fuzzy inside. I've noticed like that's 507 00:21:46,280 --> 00:21:47,640 Speaker 2: what I'm good at, That's what makes. 508 00:21:47,480 --> 00:21:48,160 Speaker 1: Me feel good. 509 00:21:48,280 --> 00:21:51,359 Speaker 2: Actually, Like sometimes I notice I'm challenging people and I'm like, 510 00:21:51,359 --> 00:21:52,920 Speaker 2: why the fuck am I just doing that, and I'm like, 511 00:21:52,920 --> 00:21:54,920 Speaker 2: because I feel like they're right there and they need 512 00:21:54,960 --> 00:21:56,760 Speaker 2: to be like cracked open a little bit, and then 513 00:21:56,800 --> 00:21:59,080 Speaker 2: I have the ability to do that. Or sometimes people 514 00:21:59,119 --> 00:22:00,800 Speaker 2: need to feel I feel I find people and I 515 00:22:00,800 --> 00:22:03,640 Speaker 2: feel like they need love, they really need to feel supported, 516 00:22:03,680 --> 00:22:06,240 Speaker 2: and I feel like good with doing that. I feel 517 00:22:06,280 --> 00:22:08,439 Speaker 2: good with pouring into people, and like sometimes I can 518 00:22:08,440 --> 00:22:10,800 Speaker 2: sense where people need to hear certain shit, like you know, 519 00:22:11,000 --> 00:22:12,520 Speaker 2: like I don't know, I can just do that, and 520 00:22:12,520 --> 00:22:14,640 Speaker 2: that's what I like to do. And I just feel 521 00:22:14,680 --> 00:22:18,760 Speaker 2: like right now on this like wellness journey, I've realized 522 00:22:18,800 --> 00:22:21,239 Speaker 2: that in doing that, I have to actually do that 523 00:22:21,280 --> 00:22:24,280 Speaker 2: for myself and like go to therapy and tend to 524 00:22:24,320 --> 00:22:27,800 Speaker 2: myself and have those those thoughts about you know, and 525 00:22:27,840 --> 00:22:30,080 Speaker 2: so I'm able to pour into other people and like 526 00:22:30,200 --> 00:22:33,160 Speaker 2: even starting doing this retreat just how I can show 527 00:22:33,200 --> 00:22:35,159 Speaker 2: up as my best self so I can give to 528 00:22:35,280 --> 00:22:39,080 Speaker 2: my community and like also not questioning whether you need 529 00:22:39,119 --> 00:22:42,480 Speaker 2: like some kind of like certification and just honoring who 530 00:22:42,520 --> 00:22:46,159 Speaker 2: I am energetically and who I'm innately born to be. 531 00:22:46,280 --> 00:22:48,840 Speaker 2: And like even as we're I'm like discussing going to 532 00:22:48,880 --> 00:22:51,919 Speaker 2: like these tantric certifications because like I've felt that in 533 00:22:51,960 --> 00:22:55,760 Speaker 2: my spirit anyway, and then our astrologists like added to that. 534 00:22:56,080 --> 00:22:58,239 Speaker 2: But then I'm thinking back in my catalog of like 535 00:22:58,520 --> 00:23:02,080 Speaker 2: threesomes and like how I've been and so tentative and 536 00:23:02,160 --> 00:23:06,479 Speaker 2: like emotionally present for people and like guided them and 537 00:23:06,520 --> 00:23:08,639 Speaker 2: not even really necessarily had to participate. 538 00:23:08,640 --> 00:23:10,880 Speaker 1: But like you're little like maybe slow down a little bit. 539 00:23:11,040 --> 00:23:12,680 Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my god, bit, this is what you're 540 00:23:12,680 --> 00:23:13,119 Speaker 1: born to do. 541 00:23:13,160 --> 00:23:16,520 Speaker 2: You've been doing this, but like just taking away the 542 00:23:16,560 --> 00:23:19,879 Speaker 2: thought that I need all these like he's like, yeah, 543 00:23:19,920 --> 00:23:23,680 Speaker 2: schooling to just be in tune with what my natural 544 00:23:23,840 --> 00:23:25,879 Speaker 2: healing powers are to do. 545 00:23:25,880 --> 00:23:26,800 Speaker 3: Does that answer your question? 546 00:23:26,800 --> 00:23:27,720 Speaker 1: That's where I'm at right now. 547 00:23:27,800 --> 00:23:28,000 Speaker 6: Yep. 548 00:23:28,680 --> 00:23:31,840 Speaker 1: Basically you're meant to heal people, bring them together, and 549 00:23:32,200 --> 00:23:35,119 Speaker 1: bust them open. Yeah, I'm a love bomber. 550 00:23:35,400 --> 00:23:37,960 Speaker 4: Which is so funny because like the you know, we 551 00:23:38,040 --> 00:23:41,000 Speaker 4: all have basically like the purpose in your design, one 552 00:23:41,000 --> 00:23:43,280 Speaker 4: of the kind of big purposes is around healing and 553 00:23:43,400 --> 00:23:44,959 Speaker 4: just kind of this like innocence you bring to your 554 00:23:44,960 --> 00:23:46,800 Speaker 4: relationships and this ability to kind of just like shift 555 00:23:46,800 --> 00:23:48,280 Speaker 4: people out of like an old way of doing things 556 00:23:48,320 --> 00:23:50,600 Speaker 4: into like something entirely new and like you do have 557 00:23:50,640 --> 00:23:52,720 Speaker 4: a provocative energy. You're kind of meant to provoke people, 558 00:23:52,760 --> 00:23:54,600 Speaker 4: you know, because it's just like you're meant to like 559 00:23:54,640 --> 00:23:56,480 Speaker 4: provoke them into what's next for them. So I love 560 00:23:56,480 --> 00:23:58,960 Speaker 4: that you're like naturally doing that. And you're also somebody 561 00:23:58,960 --> 00:24:01,840 Speaker 4: who's so deeply sensitive to people, like you just feel 562 00:24:01,880 --> 00:24:04,399 Speaker 4: so much of their stuff, and like it makes you 563 00:24:04,520 --> 00:24:06,680 Speaker 4: such an amazing guide for other people because you can 564 00:24:06,720 --> 00:24:08,679 Speaker 4: like sense where they are and kind of like provoke 565 00:24:08,760 --> 00:24:11,280 Speaker 4: them accordingly. But it also means that you need so 566 00:24:11,400 --> 00:24:12,919 Speaker 4: much space and time alone to be in your own 567 00:24:13,000 --> 00:24:15,000 Speaker 4: space just as a way to kind of like disconnect 568 00:24:15,040 --> 00:24:16,600 Speaker 4: from what's not yours and reset to it and kind 569 00:24:16,600 --> 00:24:17,439 Speaker 4: of reconnect to it is. 570 00:24:17,920 --> 00:24:20,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's where I'm at right now, just learning to 571 00:24:20,880 --> 00:24:24,520 Speaker 2: reset because sometimes I'm very plugged in and I'm like, 572 00:24:24,520 --> 00:24:25,720 Speaker 2: what the fuck is wrong with me? 573 00:24:25,800 --> 00:24:26,680 Speaker 3: Sit the fuck down? 574 00:24:27,359 --> 00:24:29,679 Speaker 4: Yeah, and some and one of the biggest and then 575 00:24:29,680 --> 00:24:31,720 Speaker 4: women to Erica, one of your biggest shadows is like 576 00:24:31,760 --> 00:24:33,560 Speaker 4: not knowing when to stop and not knowing when enough 577 00:24:33,600 --> 00:24:34,960 Speaker 4: is enough so you can just like keep going and 578 00:24:35,000 --> 00:24:37,800 Speaker 4: going and going. So it's like no draw boundary for 579 00:24:37,880 --> 00:24:39,840 Speaker 4: both of you knowing when to draw a boundary and 580 00:24:39,840 --> 00:24:40,359 Speaker 4: pull back. 581 00:24:40,760 --> 00:24:47,160 Speaker 1: I know, I know, I know, thank God though, thank God, 582 00:24:47,359 --> 00:24:47,880 Speaker 1: thank God. 583 00:24:48,600 --> 00:24:50,679 Speaker 2: But I'm like that, yeah, I mean, I mean, no, 584 00:24:50,720 --> 00:24:52,200 Speaker 2: you're gonna find balance, but like. 585 00:24:52,359 --> 00:24:53,000 Speaker 3: Me over here. 586 00:24:53,080 --> 00:24:54,920 Speaker 1: I know, but I'm over here, like pushing your boundaries 587 00:24:54,920 --> 00:24:57,639 Speaker 1: when like they shouldn't be. I'm like, lock, we must 588 00:24:57,680 --> 00:25:03,400 Speaker 1: fit in good. I'm day twenty four hour days. 589 00:25:03,440 --> 00:25:04,639 Speaker 4: Neither of you are meant to do. 590 00:25:04,720 --> 00:25:07,680 Speaker 1: Nails like my flow, and I'm like, I'm flowing too, 591 00:25:07,760 --> 00:25:09,520 Speaker 1: but I'm also working and I can't stop. 592 00:25:09,600 --> 00:25:13,000 Speaker 3: I'm sleep stop texting me like. 593 00:25:13,720 --> 00:25:15,600 Speaker 1: Hey, it's twelve a m. Did you see that email? 594 00:25:16,760 --> 00:25:22,320 Speaker 1: He just fun they're asleep, but who cares? Yeah, well 595 00:25:22,359 --> 00:25:22,960 Speaker 1: I need it. 596 00:25:24,640 --> 00:25:26,560 Speaker 4: And the very last piece that I'd share for you, 597 00:25:26,640 --> 00:25:29,720 Speaker 4: Mila for now is that I don't know whether you know, 598 00:25:29,800 --> 00:25:32,160 Speaker 4: take this or leave this, But because you're so sensitive, 599 00:25:32,160 --> 00:25:33,480 Speaker 4: like if you were to live with a partner in 600 00:25:33,560 --> 00:25:35,080 Speaker 4: the future, I don't know if you are right now, 601 00:25:35,119 --> 00:25:38,160 Speaker 4: I would actually recommend having your own sleeping space, you know, 602 00:25:38,400 --> 00:25:40,480 Speaker 4: and like it's just because you're and again, take it 603 00:25:40,560 --> 00:25:41,760 Speaker 4: or leave it. I know some people are like I 604 00:25:41,760 --> 00:25:43,560 Speaker 4: want to sit with my partner, and I'm so supportive 605 00:25:43,560 --> 00:25:46,400 Speaker 4: of people doing what they want. But because you're so sensitive, 606 00:25:46,440 --> 00:25:48,399 Speaker 4: like having your own space, it kind of just like 607 00:25:48,440 --> 00:25:51,119 Speaker 4: reset and recharge could be really restorative for you. And 608 00:25:51,160 --> 00:25:53,679 Speaker 4: there's obviously, like so much stigma around it. But and 609 00:25:53,720 --> 00:25:55,400 Speaker 4: I know it's not always feasible either. 610 00:25:55,280 --> 00:25:57,679 Speaker 3: But if you're on my have my own apartment, I 611 00:25:57,720 --> 00:25:58,040 Speaker 3: love it. 612 00:25:58,520 --> 00:26:00,840 Speaker 1: I was literally who was I talking yesterday? I was 613 00:26:00,880 --> 00:26:04,000 Speaker 1: saying that I feel like, like, when I get my 614 00:26:04,119 --> 00:26:06,359 Speaker 1: next home and I have a partner, like we need 615 00:26:06,359 --> 00:26:09,400 Speaker 1: to have separate rooms, not that we're gonna sleep separately 616 00:26:09,440 --> 00:26:12,520 Speaker 1: all the time, but that we have our own rooms. 617 00:26:12,560 --> 00:26:14,960 Speaker 1: And actually my homegirl did that with her boyfriend she had. 618 00:26:15,400 --> 00:26:17,680 Speaker 1: She was so cute, like she decorated her room the 619 00:26:17,720 --> 00:26:20,240 Speaker 1: way that she wanted to to be decorated. It was 620 00:26:20,280 --> 00:26:23,280 Speaker 1: fucking girly. And then he had his own shit and 621 00:26:23,320 --> 00:26:25,359 Speaker 1: then they would come together when they felt like it. 622 00:26:25,400 --> 00:26:25,720 Speaker 3: I made it. 623 00:26:25,760 --> 00:26:27,439 Speaker 2: I met h married a couple like that once and 624 00:26:27,520 --> 00:26:29,199 Speaker 2: I went to the house and not only that, like 625 00:26:29,840 --> 00:26:31,400 Speaker 2: men weren't allowed to go in the room at all, 626 00:26:32,080 --> 00:26:34,199 Speaker 2: Like you were not allowed to enter the room in 627 00:26:34,200 --> 00:26:36,480 Speaker 2: that room or the bathroom, no men we could enter it. 628 00:26:36,520 --> 00:26:38,440 Speaker 1: I was like, Wow, this is smart and I. 629 00:26:38,400 --> 00:26:41,200 Speaker 2: Think that's another reason that's important to have like multiple properties. 630 00:26:41,240 --> 00:26:42,920 Speaker 2: I know we want to have like multiple houses that 631 00:26:42,920 --> 00:26:44,520 Speaker 2: it's like, Nigga, you need to go. 632 00:26:44,359 --> 00:26:45,000 Speaker 1: To New York. 633 00:26:46,160 --> 00:26:47,560 Speaker 3: Get the fuck out my face. 634 00:26:48,160 --> 00:26:50,000 Speaker 2: I'm going to I'm going over here. I'm going to 635 00:26:50,000 --> 00:26:51,800 Speaker 2: Costa Rica. See you in a month. Let me miss 636 00:26:51,840 --> 00:26:54,679 Speaker 2: you a little bit. Shit, it's so healthy. 637 00:26:54,760 --> 00:26:56,480 Speaker 4: And my husband and I have separate bedrooms and I 638 00:26:56,520 --> 00:26:57,720 Speaker 4: think it's the best thing in the whole world. 639 00:26:57,720 --> 00:27:00,800 Speaker 1: But do you sleep separately every night or something? 640 00:27:01,520 --> 00:27:03,720 Speaker 4: It's probably half and half, but it just like Erica said, 641 00:27:03,760 --> 00:27:05,679 Speaker 4: it's like our default is like on our own when 642 00:27:05,720 --> 00:27:07,399 Speaker 4: we kind of have our own schedules and then we 643 00:27:07,440 --> 00:27:09,080 Speaker 4: just like choose when to sleep together. And we love 644 00:27:09,119 --> 00:27:10,959 Speaker 4: sleeping together. It's just like I think that we know 645 00:27:11,040 --> 00:27:14,040 Speaker 4: the power of being in our own space too. And 646 00:27:14,040 --> 00:27:15,920 Speaker 4: we literally have like the same beds and all the things, 647 00:27:15,920 --> 00:27:17,920 Speaker 4: so it's like both of our bedrooms are equally appealing. 648 00:27:18,000 --> 00:27:19,840 Speaker 4: But I think it's just like it's nice to choose. 649 00:27:20,320 --> 00:27:23,280 Speaker 4: And just like Erica said, we are like decorated very differently. 650 00:27:23,280 --> 00:27:25,520 Speaker 4: We're super different. So just like honors that. So I 651 00:27:25,640 --> 00:27:26,919 Speaker 4: like to bring it up because I think it's so 652 00:27:27,000 --> 00:27:29,119 Speaker 4: healthy for relationships, but I think there's so much taboo 653 00:27:29,160 --> 00:27:32,639 Speaker 4: around it. Okay, Erica, are you ready? 654 00:27:33,359 --> 00:27:34,399 Speaker 1: I'm ready tell me. 655 00:27:35,000 --> 00:27:38,800 Speaker 4: Okay, so Erica is a projector, which is about twenty 656 00:27:38,840 --> 00:27:40,720 Speaker 4: percent of the population. So you two are like some 657 00:27:40,800 --> 00:27:41,640 Speaker 4: of the more rare. 658 00:27:41,560 --> 00:27:47,240 Speaker 1: Types and we're hashtag where dulo so Erica. 659 00:27:47,320 --> 00:27:50,720 Speaker 4: You are a projector in human design, and it basically 660 00:27:50,760 --> 00:27:52,920 Speaker 4: means that you are also not designed to be like 661 00:27:52,960 --> 00:27:55,119 Speaker 4: a consistent doer and builder and creator. And I know 662 00:27:55,119 --> 00:27:56,919 Speaker 4: it's probably very tempting to try to be that, but 663 00:27:57,000 --> 00:27:58,680 Speaker 4: you are much better suited to be like the leader, 664 00:27:58,800 --> 00:28:01,159 Speaker 4: a guide, a visionairey. You're so good at like asking 665 00:28:01,240 --> 00:28:03,879 Speaker 4: the questions and kind of like guiding people and teams 666 00:28:03,920 --> 00:28:06,480 Speaker 4: and communities and so so much of your work is 667 00:28:06,560 --> 00:28:08,119 Speaker 4: learning how to honor the ebbs and flows of your 668 00:28:08,200 --> 00:28:10,360 Speaker 4: energy and not trying to do do do all day long, 669 00:28:11,200 --> 00:28:13,560 Speaker 4: and also knowing that there's so much value you bring 670 00:28:13,600 --> 00:28:15,480 Speaker 4: to the world that's beyond how much you do. Like 671 00:28:15,560 --> 00:28:17,840 Speaker 4: your perspective and how you see things and how sensitive 672 00:28:17,840 --> 00:28:20,359 Speaker 4: you are to others is so valuable, you know, So 673 00:28:20,480 --> 00:28:22,320 Speaker 4: if there are spaces where you feel like that's really 674 00:28:22,359 --> 00:28:24,800 Speaker 4: recognized and valued. I would definitely invest more energy there. 675 00:28:26,000 --> 00:28:31,080 Speaker 4: Often projectors make very natural coaches, therapists, podcasts, host guides, CEOs, 676 00:28:31,160 --> 00:28:34,239 Speaker 4: managers like roles where they're like asking questions and not 677 00:28:34,280 --> 00:28:36,920 Speaker 4: required to kind of do all the doing themselves. And 678 00:28:37,240 --> 00:28:39,480 Speaker 4: this strategy for projectors, it's the kind of wait to 679 00:28:39,480 --> 00:28:42,400 Speaker 4: be recognized and invited in. It's because you have such 680 00:28:42,440 --> 00:28:44,640 Speaker 4: a kind of powerful perspective and way of seeing things. 681 00:28:44,680 --> 00:28:47,280 Speaker 4: It's really important to both collaborate and kind of be 682 00:28:47,400 --> 00:28:50,320 Speaker 4: intimate with people that like deeply see you, value you, 683 00:28:50,400 --> 00:28:52,200 Speaker 4: and recognize you. So you're like not trying to be 684 00:28:52,240 --> 00:28:54,840 Speaker 4: a doer or something other than what you are. How 685 00:28:54,880 --> 00:28:56,000 Speaker 4: does that all feel to you? 686 00:28:57,400 --> 00:28:59,280 Speaker 1: I think that's true. I think I do need to 687 00:28:59,320 --> 00:29:02,560 Speaker 1: be invited in. I think that like when I feel 688 00:29:02,560 --> 00:29:06,120 Speaker 1: like I have to show up or like like push 689 00:29:06,200 --> 00:29:09,520 Speaker 1: my way in, it like triggers like insecurity in me, 690 00:29:09,680 --> 00:29:12,680 Speaker 1: like am I supposed to be here? Like is this okay? 691 00:29:13,360 --> 00:29:16,160 Speaker 1: Like I'd much rather be invited in and my ideas 692 00:29:16,200 --> 00:29:17,960 Speaker 1: be invited in in that way it allows me to 693 00:29:17,960 --> 00:29:21,000 Speaker 1: feel a lot more confident and secure in expressing my 694 00:29:21,440 --> 00:29:28,760 Speaker 1: ideas and like leading. And I definitely I definitely feel 695 00:29:28,800 --> 00:29:32,560 Speaker 1: like especially in this business with Mila, Like I have 696 00:29:32,720 --> 00:29:39,480 Speaker 1: like honed like my leadership skills, there's still more. I 697 00:29:39,760 --> 00:29:41,880 Speaker 1: feel like I'm still I'm a very like I'm a 698 00:29:41,920 --> 00:29:45,840 Speaker 1: learning leader, learning how to lead from a positive way, 699 00:29:45,880 --> 00:29:48,280 Speaker 1: in a positive way without feeling overbearing, because I know 700 00:29:48,320 --> 00:29:52,400 Speaker 1: that I can be overbearing because I am like there 701 00:29:52,520 --> 00:29:54,600 Speaker 1: is something in me, like I know, like you said, 702 00:29:54,640 --> 00:29:57,080 Speaker 1: like I'm not meant to like work work work, but 703 00:29:57,120 --> 00:29:59,360 Speaker 1: I don't. I don't know if it's because of like 704 00:29:59,440 --> 00:30:01,479 Speaker 1: just seeing my That's how my family has always operated. 705 00:30:01,480 --> 00:30:03,640 Speaker 1: That's how all the women in my family have always operated. 706 00:30:03,760 --> 00:30:07,600 Speaker 1: Just it's they're always doing something. My grandmother worked until 707 00:30:07,680 --> 00:30:09,960 Speaker 1: like she they like had to fire her, like they 708 00:30:10,040 --> 00:30:13,280 Speaker 1: had to like they had to like tell her go home, 709 00:30:13,560 --> 00:30:18,560 Speaker 1: Like you are eighty, you can't do interior design anymore. 710 00:30:18,600 --> 00:30:23,000 Speaker 1: Woman like and and my mom too, Like they're just 711 00:30:23,120 --> 00:30:26,760 Speaker 1: workhorses essentially, and like and I'm in that way. I'm 712 00:30:26,800 --> 00:30:30,120 Speaker 1: that way, I think by just default. But I know 713 00:30:30,200 --> 00:30:32,320 Speaker 1: that it's not the healthiest for me. I know that 714 00:30:32,560 --> 00:30:36,120 Speaker 1: it's triggering for me. It causes me anxiety, it causes 715 00:30:36,200 --> 00:30:40,320 Speaker 1: me to break down, like I become kind of useless. 716 00:30:40,320 --> 00:30:45,920 Speaker 1: My ideas become shitty, I become really indecisive and I 717 00:30:45,920 --> 00:30:48,200 Speaker 1: can't make decisions and I'm just like I don't know, 718 00:30:48,240 --> 00:30:49,440 Speaker 1: I don't know. Someone do it for me. 719 00:30:49,440 --> 00:30:50,160 Speaker 6: I don't know, I don't know. 720 00:30:50,920 --> 00:30:54,160 Speaker 1: So yeah, that does speak to me. 721 00:30:55,000 --> 00:30:57,600 Speaker 4: That's yeah, Oh, do you hear something more to say? 722 00:30:58,880 --> 00:31:01,520 Speaker 4: It says to have power reflection because one, like, you know, 723 00:31:01,560 --> 00:31:02,959 Speaker 4: I'm talking about the fact that you two are more 724 00:31:03,080 --> 00:31:05,760 Speaker 4: rare types, but like most people are like doers, you know, 725 00:31:05,760 --> 00:31:08,000 Speaker 4: they really have this like creative energy like make things happen, 726 00:31:08,000 --> 00:31:10,520 Speaker 4: and like unless they use up their energy during the day, 727 00:31:10,560 --> 00:31:12,840 Speaker 4: they can like feel really frustrated. And so we're in 728 00:31:12,880 --> 00:31:14,800 Speaker 4: a world of a lot of that, and so where 729 00:31:14,880 --> 00:31:16,440 Speaker 4: all three of us can get tripped up as if 730 00:31:16,440 --> 00:31:18,080 Speaker 4: we try to keep up with that, you know, And 731 00:31:18,080 --> 00:31:20,920 Speaker 4: so Eric, it's so not it's so not abnormal hearing that, 732 00:31:21,000 --> 00:31:23,200 Speaker 4: like your biggest potential shadow, like I said, is not 733 00:31:23,240 --> 00:31:25,440 Speaker 4: knowing what enough is enough, It's not knowing when to stop. 734 00:31:25,640 --> 00:31:27,520 Speaker 4: It's just like I'm gonna just keep going and going 735 00:31:27,520 --> 00:31:29,480 Speaker 4: and push through my tiredness and just get more done. 736 00:31:29,520 --> 00:31:32,320 Speaker 4: But like why your reflection was so potent is that 737 00:31:32,360 --> 00:31:34,920 Speaker 4: like the more you do that, the less available you 738 00:31:34,960 --> 00:31:37,720 Speaker 4: make yourself for your gifts. Like when you actually honor 739 00:31:37,760 --> 00:31:39,520 Speaker 4: the ebbs and flows of your energy and take rest 740 00:31:39,520 --> 00:31:41,680 Speaker 4: when you need it, you are so much more creative, 741 00:31:41,840 --> 00:31:44,920 Speaker 4: so much more insightful, so much more successful. And so 742 00:31:45,040 --> 00:31:46,840 Speaker 4: it is this real lesson that like the more you 743 00:31:46,880 --> 00:31:48,959 Speaker 4: take rest and the more you take care of yourself, 744 00:31:49,000 --> 00:31:51,160 Speaker 4: like the better you'll be. Because like you've got actually 745 00:31:51,240 --> 00:31:53,080 Speaker 4: such powerful ideas and you're really here to like share 746 00:31:53,120 --> 00:31:55,080 Speaker 4: them with the world. But like if you're super over 747 00:31:55,200 --> 00:31:57,560 Speaker 4: zealous and exhausted, you don't have access to them. And 748 00:31:57,640 --> 00:31:59,560 Speaker 4: you also, like you said, don't have access to kind 749 00:31:59,560 --> 00:32:02,160 Speaker 4: of your clear decision making. Because the way that you're 750 00:32:02,200 --> 00:32:03,880 Speaker 4: meant to make decisions and keep a design, and this 751 00:32:03,920 --> 00:32:06,080 Speaker 4: is a layer underneath the projector this isn't true for 752 00:32:06,120 --> 00:32:09,400 Speaker 4: all projectors, is that you're meant to be very spontaneous, 753 00:32:09,440 --> 00:32:12,120 Speaker 4: like actually the opposite of Mila, Like you're meant to 754 00:32:12,160 --> 00:32:15,040 Speaker 4: be super like intuitive and fast and quick. But like 755 00:32:15,120 --> 00:32:18,320 Speaker 4: your intuition is probably very quiet, and so unless you're 756 00:32:18,320 --> 00:32:20,760 Speaker 4: actually like creating a real connection to it and like 757 00:32:20,800 --> 00:32:22,200 Speaker 4: listening to it, it's going to be really hard to 758 00:32:22,200 --> 00:32:24,080 Speaker 4: hear it. And so I think the more you take 759 00:32:24,120 --> 00:32:26,000 Speaker 4: rest and take space for yourself and are alone and 760 00:32:26,000 --> 00:32:27,840 Speaker 4: can connect to it, the kind of faster and more 761 00:32:27,840 --> 00:32:32,400 Speaker 4: effective your decisions will be. H How does that feel? 762 00:32:33,400 --> 00:32:36,920 Speaker 1: It feels accurate because I feel like when I have 763 00:32:37,080 --> 00:32:40,640 Speaker 1: not been spontaneous, I have regretted it. When I've sat 764 00:32:40,720 --> 00:32:44,200 Speaker 1: on something and overthought it and not just done the 765 00:32:44,200 --> 00:32:49,640 Speaker 1: thing and questioned my like gut reaction, that's when I'm like, fuck, 766 00:32:49,680 --> 00:32:51,280 Speaker 1: I knew it, like I knew I should have just 767 00:32:51,320 --> 00:32:52,800 Speaker 1: done that. I knew I should have just said that. 768 00:32:52,880 --> 00:32:56,600 Speaker 1: I knew that person. I knew that person. Mm hm, 769 00:32:56,640 --> 00:33:00,680 Speaker 1: you know, like and you know, letting other people like Erica, 770 00:33:00,720 --> 00:33:04,680 Speaker 1: well maybe or like give it time or that's what 771 00:33:04,680 --> 00:33:07,000 Speaker 1: my mom always spend time time. 772 00:33:07,040 --> 00:33:10,600 Speaker 2: I'm like, no, Mom, like I feel it. 773 00:33:11,560 --> 00:33:13,880 Speaker 1: I've always I think, and I think especially I think 774 00:33:13,920 --> 00:33:17,480 Speaker 1: this is really interesting as parents too, because parents project 775 00:33:17,560 --> 00:33:20,240 Speaker 1: onto their children what what they think is best or 776 00:33:20,240 --> 00:33:22,960 Speaker 1: what worked for them, and that doesn't always work for 777 00:33:23,000 --> 00:33:25,360 Speaker 1: your kids. And so I think with my mom, I'm 778 00:33:25,360 --> 00:33:28,280 Speaker 1: actually interested to know what kind of is what our 779 00:33:28,400 --> 00:33:30,920 Speaker 1: human design is, because she's always told me that I'm 780 00:33:30,960 --> 00:33:33,880 Speaker 1: too spontaneous that I'm like, I'm do this. I need 781 00:33:33,920 --> 00:33:35,920 Speaker 1: I need to like take more time and do this. 782 00:33:36,360 --> 00:33:39,720 Speaker 1: And I've always felt like want myself wanting to rebel 783 00:33:39,800 --> 00:33:43,400 Speaker 1: against that, but also like, Okay, well maybe she's right, 784 00:33:43,600 --> 00:33:46,520 Speaker 1: Like maybe I should like just wait on it. Maybe 785 00:33:46,560 --> 00:33:48,920 Speaker 1: I should just and any And I don't want to 786 00:33:48,920 --> 00:33:50,640 Speaker 1: say like every time she's been wrong, because my mom 787 00:33:50,680 --> 00:33:53,280 Speaker 1: has been right a lot. She's a super intelligent woman. 788 00:33:53,360 --> 00:33:55,760 Speaker 1: But there's been times where I'm like, no, I'm so 789 00:33:55,920 --> 00:33:58,080 Speaker 1: glad I didn't fucking listen to you, Like this is 790 00:33:58,120 --> 00:34:00,280 Speaker 1: exactly what I needed to do. Like I remember, like 791 00:34:00,400 --> 00:34:02,600 Speaker 1: I was working for an artist for a really long 792 00:34:02,600 --> 00:34:04,280 Speaker 1: time and I was her personal assistant and I was 793 00:34:04,280 --> 00:34:09,080 Speaker 1: really unhappy and I wanted to quit. Have you ever 794 00:34:09,080 --> 00:34:11,440 Speaker 1: gotten one of those subscription boxes and it's just filled 795 00:34:11,440 --> 00:34:13,600 Speaker 1: with a bunch of junk you don't need? 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I didn't want 843 00:36:28,160 --> 00:36:29,960 Speaker 1: to disappoint her because I was that's a whole other 844 00:36:30,080 --> 00:36:32,080 Speaker 1: like under the whole other shit. I had to go 845 00:36:32,120 --> 00:36:37,480 Speaker 1: to therapyfore, but and I just quit and the immediately 846 00:36:37,560 --> 00:36:40,799 Speaker 1: and then immediately when I quit, I started booking, like 847 00:36:41,280 --> 00:36:44,160 Speaker 1: I started booking commercials, I started working immediately, and like 848 00:36:44,280 --> 00:36:46,120 Speaker 1: I was, like, I'm so glad I did this. When 849 00:36:46,160 --> 00:36:48,799 Speaker 1: I followed my intuition and I just did it, the 850 00:36:48,840 --> 00:36:52,680 Speaker 1: results were so much greater. Like I don't know, like 851 00:36:53,040 --> 00:36:56,120 Speaker 1: I think we're told that we must plan ahead, and 852 00:36:56,880 --> 00:36:59,759 Speaker 1: that sounds like the right thing to do, but hearing that, 853 00:36:59,800 --> 00:37:04,560 Speaker 1: like trusting my intuition being spontaneous, like it's never really 854 00:37:04,600 --> 00:37:08,320 Speaker 1: done me wrong. In fact, the opposite. 855 00:37:07,960 --> 00:37:12,000 Speaker 4: Has Yeah, Because also I imagine if you like sleep 856 00:37:12,040 --> 00:37:13,680 Speaker 4: on it, then you start to doubt it, and it's 857 00:37:13,680 --> 00:37:15,680 Speaker 4: just like and then it just becomes the cycle. Like 858 00:37:15,760 --> 00:37:17,719 Speaker 4: for you, clarity comes in the moment and the work 859 00:37:17,800 --> 00:37:19,920 Speaker 4: is to trust it. And it's so powerful what you 860 00:37:19,920 --> 00:37:22,240 Speaker 4: shared about your mom, because like she might be wired 861 00:37:22,320 --> 00:37:24,560 Speaker 4: really differently and so like she might need to take 862 00:37:24,560 --> 00:37:26,279 Speaker 4: her time, or she might need to talk things out, 863 00:37:26,320 --> 00:37:28,360 Speaker 4: and like this is why I'm such an advocate of 864 00:37:28,440 --> 00:37:30,960 Speaker 4: using human design and like parenting and family stuff, because 865 00:37:31,000 --> 00:37:34,000 Speaker 4: like when you are expecting your kids or your team 866 00:37:34,160 --> 00:37:36,359 Speaker 4: or your partner to be like you, it's super disappointing. 867 00:37:36,680 --> 00:37:38,200 Speaker 4: But if you really like honored the fact that they're 868 00:37:38,239 --> 00:37:42,640 Speaker 4: wired really differently, it can be so much more inflow, right, Okay, 869 00:37:42,760 --> 00:37:44,800 Speaker 4: so let me share a few other pieces about you, Erica. 870 00:37:44,880 --> 00:37:46,640 Speaker 4: So one piece, you know, I know that I mentioned 871 00:37:46,680 --> 00:37:48,600 Speaker 4: that you operate in ebbs and flows, but you actually 872 00:37:48,640 --> 00:37:51,560 Speaker 4: got such efficiency in your design, and it basically means 873 00:37:51,600 --> 00:37:53,320 Speaker 4: that you're meant to do more in a couple hours 874 00:37:53,360 --> 00:37:55,279 Speaker 4: than most people can in a whole day, you know. 875 00:37:55,360 --> 00:37:56,799 Speaker 4: And so the more you kind of take rest when 876 00:37:56,840 --> 00:37:58,640 Speaker 4: you need it, the more like efficient and fast you 877 00:37:58,680 --> 00:38:00,719 Speaker 4: can be. And so I would to play with this 878 00:38:00,760 --> 00:38:03,480 Speaker 4: if you feel inspired, like really like taking breaks throughout 879 00:38:03,480 --> 00:38:05,160 Speaker 4: the day and like honoring the ebbs and flows, and 880 00:38:05,160 --> 00:38:06,880 Speaker 4: I have to imagine that you'd actually be so much 881 00:38:06,880 --> 00:38:09,640 Speaker 4: more effective. Have you noticed that efficiency within yourself? Like 882 00:38:09,640 --> 00:38:10,839 Speaker 4: do you think you really tapped into that? 883 00:38:12,160 --> 00:38:17,360 Speaker 1: Yes? And actually yesterday me and Mila are writing a book. 884 00:38:17,480 --> 00:38:20,080 Speaker 1: And so yesterday, you know, I haven't had my kid. 885 00:38:20,080 --> 00:38:21,600 Speaker 1: I haven't had my kid for the past two days. 886 00:38:22,080 --> 00:38:25,200 Speaker 1: I woke up, I wrote a little bit, I went 887 00:38:25,520 --> 00:38:30,000 Speaker 1: and drank, jumped down the trampoline, came back, wrote a lot, 888 00:38:30,520 --> 00:38:33,280 Speaker 1: came back, went and went for a walk, came back, 889 00:38:33,680 --> 00:38:36,759 Speaker 1: wrote a lot. Then my computer crashed, lost all of it. 890 00:38:39,680 --> 00:38:43,799 Speaker 1: That was fine, came back, wrote it again. But I 891 00:38:43,920 --> 00:38:47,440 Speaker 1: noticed that, like taking those breaks were so helpful for me, 892 00:38:47,760 --> 00:38:53,240 Speaker 1: Like whereas typically like I will just go straight through, 893 00:38:53,400 --> 00:38:55,320 Speaker 1: like I will just keep going, going, going, going, I 894 00:38:55,360 --> 00:38:57,879 Speaker 1: feel like I cannot take a break, and I've really 895 00:38:57,960 --> 00:38:59,680 Speaker 1: had to talk. I've done. I've been doing a lot 896 00:38:59,719 --> 00:39:02,040 Speaker 1: of like talking out loud to myself because I have 897 00:39:02,120 --> 00:39:04,880 Speaker 1: a lot of negative inner like self talk that I 898 00:39:04,920 --> 00:39:06,839 Speaker 1: do that I didn't even I don't even realize I'm 899 00:39:06,840 --> 00:39:10,600 Speaker 1: doing it because it's just so I'm just programmed to 900 00:39:10,600 --> 00:39:13,160 Speaker 1: do it. I don't even hear it, like unless I 901 00:39:13,239 --> 00:39:17,759 Speaker 1: really stop and listen that I'm literally talking shit all day. 902 00:39:18,000 --> 00:39:21,480 Speaker 1: So I will I'll have to like I'll be like, no, 903 00:39:22,560 --> 00:39:24,960 Speaker 1: stop that, and I'll talk out some talking to myself. 904 00:39:25,040 --> 00:39:27,400 Speaker 1: I'm literally been having so many conversations out loud, bitch 905 00:39:27,680 --> 00:39:30,919 Speaker 1: like talking to myself, responding to myself like it looks 906 00:39:30,960 --> 00:39:33,759 Speaker 1: it looks, it looks crazy, but it's really helpful for me. 907 00:39:34,320 --> 00:39:37,280 Speaker 1: And just like being like girl, you sent like forty 908 00:39:37,280 --> 00:39:40,200 Speaker 1: two emails today, Okay, like why the fuck are you 909 00:39:40,200 --> 00:39:43,120 Speaker 1: beating yourself up? You sent in a design, you wrote 910 00:39:43,120 --> 00:39:48,600 Speaker 1: a chapter, fucking sent out emails, you didn't recorded an episode, 911 00:39:48,840 --> 00:39:52,520 Speaker 1: had a business call. How much more do you think 912 00:39:52,600 --> 00:39:56,279 Speaker 1: that you need to do in order to feel accomplished today? Like, 913 00:39:56,440 --> 00:39:59,400 Speaker 1: I've really had to like have those conversations with myself 914 00:39:59,440 --> 00:40:02,200 Speaker 1: because I I will just keep going, going, going and 915 00:40:02,280 --> 00:40:05,799 Speaker 1: still feel like I didn't get enough done, and I 916 00:40:05,840 --> 00:40:08,880 Speaker 1: have had to like take these breaks. Yesterday was a 917 00:40:08,880 --> 00:40:10,360 Speaker 1: good example of that, and I was like, damn, Like, 918 00:40:10,400 --> 00:40:12,040 Speaker 1: this is how I have to I literally had that 919 00:40:12,360 --> 00:40:13,799 Speaker 1: talk with myself. I was like, this is how you're 920 00:40:13,840 --> 00:40:17,160 Speaker 1: meant to work. You gotta go jump on the trampoline, bitch, 921 00:40:17,680 --> 00:40:19,640 Speaker 1: go get on that trampoline. Why is it out there? 922 00:40:19,680 --> 00:40:20,920 Speaker 1: It's not just you know, you didn't just get that 923 00:40:21,000 --> 00:40:26,960 Speaker 1: for iri. Jump it. So I agree with that, and 924 00:40:27,040 --> 00:40:30,040 Speaker 1: I'm feeling more I'm feeling like I can, like I 925 00:40:30,040 --> 00:40:34,520 Speaker 1: feel more confident in that more recently. Yeah. 926 00:40:34,719 --> 00:40:38,360 Speaker 4: So yes, I love that because I think that often 927 00:40:38,360 --> 00:40:40,720 Speaker 4: when we are doing like or just aware of ourselves 928 00:40:40,760 --> 00:40:42,560 Speaker 4: and paying attention, like we tend to like start to 929 00:40:42,600 --> 00:40:45,160 Speaker 4: live our design very naturally, you know, and then human 930 00:40:45,160 --> 00:40:47,279 Speaker 4: design just validates it. But I think that we often 931 00:40:47,360 --> 00:40:49,000 Speaker 4: again we're just trained to be all these things that 932 00:40:49,040 --> 00:40:51,040 Speaker 4: were not and like not to trust our intuition, not 933 00:40:51,040 --> 00:40:54,600 Speaker 4: to honyrebs and flows. Another big one for you, Eric, 934 00:40:54,640 --> 00:40:56,759 Speaker 4: and I'm curious, but it is related to all to 935 00:40:56,760 --> 00:40:59,040 Speaker 4: the negative self talk, is that like you've got this 936 00:40:59,120 --> 00:41:01,840 Speaker 4: like insatiable energy and you're design to just like perfect 937 00:41:01,920 --> 00:41:04,120 Speaker 4: and improve and make things better. It means that you 938 00:41:04,120 --> 00:41:06,520 Speaker 4: can look at anything and know exactly what could be 939 00:41:06,520 --> 00:41:08,920 Speaker 4: fixed or improved, whether that's like your home or someone's 940 00:41:08,920 --> 00:41:12,160 Speaker 4: behavior or podcast episode or whatever, and like, so much 941 00:41:12,160 --> 00:41:14,080 Speaker 4: of your work is to not turn that kind of 942 00:41:14,360 --> 00:41:17,520 Speaker 4: critical energy inwards on yourself and finding fault with yourself 943 00:41:17,520 --> 00:41:19,719 Speaker 4: and those close to you, but rather kind of having 944 00:41:19,719 --> 00:41:21,239 Speaker 4: the right outlets in your life where you can just 945 00:41:21,280 --> 00:41:23,799 Speaker 4: like be improving and correcting and refining things because you're 946 00:41:23,840 --> 00:41:25,759 Speaker 4: so good at it. But it's not really meant to 947 00:41:25,800 --> 00:41:28,480 Speaker 4: be you, to make you wrong, but more to kind 948 00:41:28,480 --> 00:41:30,840 Speaker 4: of be of service to the world. That makes sense. 949 00:41:31,640 --> 00:41:33,759 Speaker 1: Yeah, No, I think I think I have turned that 950 00:41:33,800 --> 00:41:36,319 Speaker 1: into my negative self talk instead of using it in 951 00:41:36,320 --> 00:41:39,480 Speaker 1: a way that's positive. It's more like you didn't fix this, 952 00:41:39,800 --> 00:41:44,200 Speaker 1: you missed that, you didn't do that. So yeah, for sure. 953 00:41:44,960 --> 00:41:46,919 Speaker 4: And I think Mila, one area where you can really 954 00:41:46,920 --> 00:41:49,279 Speaker 4: support Erica and knowing that she's a projector, it's just 955 00:41:49,320 --> 00:41:51,640 Speaker 4: like making her feel really recognized and seen, being like 956 00:41:51,640 --> 00:41:53,080 Speaker 4: I love the way that you saw this. I love 957 00:41:53,120 --> 00:41:54,680 Speaker 4: the way that you did this, like just really kind 958 00:41:54,680 --> 00:41:56,920 Speaker 4: of like words of affirmation when you're inspired, you know, 959 00:41:56,960 --> 00:41:59,160 Speaker 4: I think that that often can fuel us as projectors. 960 00:42:00,440 --> 00:42:04,360 Speaker 4: One area that's really interesting in relationship is that Erica, 961 00:42:04,400 --> 00:42:07,160 Speaker 4: you're like a hyper EmPATH in your design, like so 962 00:42:07,400 --> 00:42:10,120 Speaker 4: sensitive to other people's feelings, Like if somebody's feeling something, 963 00:42:10,160 --> 00:42:12,120 Speaker 4: you might feel it really intensely within yourself. I don't 964 00:42:12,160 --> 00:42:13,520 Speaker 4: know whether this is the thing that you're aware of 965 00:42:13,640 --> 00:42:15,919 Speaker 4: or not, but so much of your work is around 966 00:42:15,960 --> 00:42:18,279 Speaker 4: having strong boundaries and like knowing that not everything you 967 00:42:18,280 --> 00:42:21,439 Speaker 4: feel is your own, whereas Mela, like, you know, you're 968 00:42:21,480 --> 00:42:23,520 Speaker 4: so sensitive in general in your design, but you actually 969 00:42:23,560 --> 00:42:25,880 Speaker 4: have these like powerful emotions that you project out into 970 00:42:25,920 --> 00:42:28,000 Speaker 4: the world. And so when you're like in a good 971 00:42:28,000 --> 00:42:30,279 Speaker 4: mood and feeling good, it's like so infectious and it 972 00:42:30,320 --> 00:42:32,600 Speaker 4: probably feels like amazing to be around. But like when 973 00:42:32,640 --> 00:42:35,320 Speaker 4: you're in like an emotional low, like that's probably also felt. 974 00:42:35,680 --> 00:42:37,400 Speaker 4: And so I would just say in the relationship, but 975 00:42:37,480 --> 00:42:38,879 Speaker 4: something to be aware of. Like I would say, Meila, 976 00:42:38,920 --> 00:42:40,319 Speaker 4: if you're like in a low probably a good time 977 00:42:40,360 --> 00:42:41,600 Speaker 4: to like be in your own space and do your 978 00:42:41,640 --> 00:42:43,879 Speaker 4: own thing, you know. And if Erica, if you ever 979 00:42:43,880 --> 00:42:46,239 Speaker 4: feel overwhelmed by emotions, whether it's Mela or just like 980 00:42:46,280 --> 00:42:48,160 Speaker 4: literally anyone around you, I would just like take some 981 00:42:48,200 --> 00:42:49,480 Speaker 4: space to kind of pull away and be in your 982 00:42:49,520 --> 00:42:52,800 Speaker 4: own energy in space. Do you guys feel that dynamic 983 00:42:52,880 --> 00:42:53,160 Speaker 4: at all? 984 00:42:54,640 --> 00:42:56,920 Speaker 1: Yeah? I feel like my is this my shoe? I 985 00:42:56,920 --> 00:43:01,200 Speaker 1: feel like my energy is really intense and I don't 986 00:43:01,280 --> 00:43:03,120 Speaker 1: mean it to be, but I can't help it. And 987 00:43:03,160 --> 00:43:05,640 Speaker 1: then it affects the whole space. And then everyone is like, 988 00:43:05,680 --> 00:43:08,719 Speaker 1: what's wrong with Erica? And I'm like, just leave me 989 00:43:08,760 --> 00:43:10,680 Speaker 1: the funk along, Like I just want to sit here. 990 00:43:10,760 --> 00:43:12,399 Speaker 1: Just let me sit here and be in my ship. 991 00:43:12,680 --> 00:43:13,759 Speaker 1: You guys carry. 992 00:43:13,440 --> 00:43:18,840 Speaker 2: On doing, everyone carry on, so see us. 993 00:43:18,840 --> 00:43:20,800 Speaker 1: I'm a bitch right now. God just let me be bitchy. 994 00:43:22,040 --> 00:43:23,920 Speaker 1: But then I had to be like, you know what, 995 00:43:24,040 --> 00:43:26,600 Speaker 1: you probably just got to go, got to just get 996 00:43:26,640 --> 00:43:29,480 Speaker 1: out of here. And then with Mela, it's true, people 997 00:43:29,640 --> 00:43:32,400 Speaker 1: love to be around Mila because she is such like 998 00:43:32,600 --> 00:43:36,320 Speaker 1: as like and she she's you're a positive person, overall, 999 00:43:36,600 --> 00:43:38,759 Speaker 1: but when you are when there is something wrong, like 1000 00:43:39,080 --> 00:43:42,000 Speaker 1: I can tell probably very fast. 1001 00:43:42,360 --> 00:43:43,600 Speaker 3: Yeah, And. 1002 00:43:45,680 --> 00:43:48,680 Speaker 1: Because the light is so bright around her and she's 1003 00:43:48,800 --> 00:43:53,200 Speaker 1: such an attractor. That and that, and that's why people 1004 00:43:53,239 --> 00:43:54,759 Speaker 1: love to be around you. That's why people call you 1005 00:43:54,760 --> 00:43:56,719 Speaker 1: a one am. We want to come over, you know, 1006 00:43:57,040 --> 00:44:00,160 Speaker 1: all different types of people, not like just dudes, like girlfriends, 1007 00:44:00,200 --> 00:44:05,400 Speaker 1: Like hey, I'm in the neighborhood, like where if people no, 1008 00:44:05,480 --> 00:44:10,879 Speaker 1: don't call me one and I'm not answering. In fact, 1009 00:44:10,920 --> 00:44:11,879 Speaker 1: I'm going to curse you out. 1010 00:44:13,520 --> 00:44:18,560 Speaker 4: Sure, come over, I would say one other piece, like 1011 00:44:18,560 --> 00:44:20,120 Speaker 4: when it just comes and we can look at your 1012 00:44:20,200 --> 00:44:21,839 Speaker 4: daughters if you want to. But I think, like when 1013 00:44:21,840 --> 00:44:24,319 Speaker 4: it comes to your team and support, Like I think 1014 00:44:24,360 --> 00:44:26,799 Speaker 4: because like Erica, you're such a natural leader and guide 1015 00:44:26,800 --> 00:44:29,080 Speaker 4: and merely you're such an amazing like initiator and innovator, 1016 00:44:29,080 --> 00:44:30,760 Speaker 4: Like it really would probably be good to have people 1017 00:44:30,760 --> 00:44:33,240 Speaker 4: around that like can really just like do and sustain 1018 00:44:33,360 --> 00:44:36,400 Speaker 4: that and like are really dependable because for both of you, 1019 00:44:36,440 --> 00:44:38,200 Speaker 4: like your energy ebbs and flows, and you guys bring 1020 00:44:38,239 --> 00:44:40,640 Speaker 4: extraordinary gifts to the teams. But it's not to a team. 1021 00:44:40,680 --> 00:44:42,359 Speaker 4: But it's not always like your ability to just like 1022 00:44:42,520 --> 00:44:45,200 Speaker 4: consistently make things happen. And so I think that if 1023 00:44:45,239 --> 00:44:47,040 Speaker 4: you were to hire bring on support, that probably would 1024 00:44:47,040 --> 00:44:48,040 Speaker 4: be really good to have around you. 1025 00:44:48,840 --> 00:44:51,160 Speaker 2: So basically we need to add what's your birthday in 1026 00:44:51,200 --> 00:44:54,040 Speaker 2: time of birth to every single person that ever applies 1027 00:44:54,040 --> 00:44:54,640 Speaker 2: to application. 1028 00:44:55,320 --> 00:44:57,359 Speaker 1: Wait, can you tell us what what are all of 1029 00:44:57,400 --> 00:45:00,640 Speaker 1: the different Yeah? Different types. 1030 00:45:01,000 --> 00:45:03,640 Speaker 4: So the types that we haven't talked about are generators, 1031 00:45:03,640 --> 00:45:07,040 Speaker 4: manifesting generators, and reflectors. And so the majority of the 1032 00:45:07,040 --> 00:45:10,359 Speaker 4: population are generators and manifesting generators. This in no way 1033 00:45:10,440 --> 00:45:12,680 Speaker 4: means that you're not unique if you're one of these types. Like, 1034 00:45:12,719 --> 00:45:15,400 Speaker 4: these types are just so necessary and again it's just 1035 00:45:15,440 --> 00:45:17,879 Speaker 4: the first piece. It just means that you have such 1036 00:45:17,920 --> 00:45:20,240 Speaker 4: creative energy to just like build, create, make things happen. 1037 00:45:20,600 --> 00:45:22,160 Speaker 4: When these people are like kind of lit up and 1038 00:45:22,200 --> 00:45:24,520 Speaker 4: satisfied by what they're doing, they have so much energy 1039 00:45:24,520 --> 00:45:26,640 Speaker 4: they kind of uplift the energy to everyone around them. 1040 00:45:26,880 --> 00:45:29,400 Speaker 4: Then they really just have such a beautiful ability to 1041 00:45:29,440 --> 00:45:30,600 Speaker 4: kind of bring ideas to life. 1042 00:45:30,800 --> 00:45:33,080 Speaker 1: That's the manifestor generators and the generators. 1043 00:45:33,280 --> 00:45:37,000 Speaker 4: Correct, Okay, and so and I believe Mela, your daughter 1044 00:45:37,040 --> 00:45:41,200 Speaker 4: is a manifesting generator. And then reflectors are the rarest 1045 00:45:41,200 --> 00:45:43,560 Speaker 4: type one person. And these people kind of are collective mirrors, 1046 00:45:43,600 --> 00:45:45,359 Speaker 4: people that are kind of taking in and mirroring back 1047 00:45:45,400 --> 00:45:46,960 Speaker 4: the space that they're in. So you really get a 1048 00:45:47,000 --> 00:45:49,120 Speaker 4: good sense of how people are doing, our families doing 1049 00:45:49,200 --> 00:45:51,000 Speaker 4: just by how that person is showing up. And so 1050 00:45:51,040 --> 00:45:53,120 Speaker 4: they've got to be just like such ruthless curators, the 1051 00:45:53,239 --> 00:45:54,680 Speaker 4: kind of the people are spending time with and the 1052 00:45:54,680 --> 00:45:58,640 Speaker 4: places they're spending time in. Should we talk a little bit, Oh, 1053 00:45:58,640 --> 00:45:59,239 Speaker 4: go ahead, Eric. 1054 00:45:59,280 --> 00:46:03,000 Speaker 1: Right, I have a question so in our in our partnership, 1055 00:46:03,040 --> 00:46:07,040 Speaker 1: as you know, business owners, what would so out of 1056 00:46:07,080 --> 00:46:09,279 Speaker 1: all those what do we need? 1057 00:46:09,680 --> 00:46:11,120 Speaker 3: What do we what do we need? What do we 1058 00:46:11,120 --> 00:46:11,600 Speaker 3: need to hire? 1059 00:46:11,640 --> 00:46:14,000 Speaker 1: Do we need a generator? Do we need a manifestor generator, 1060 00:46:14,120 --> 00:46:17,840 Speaker 1: we need reflector like totally it's going to complete the circle. 1061 00:46:18,360 --> 00:46:22,759 Speaker 4: Yes, And I'm always know it's a jar, right. I'm 1062 00:46:22,760 --> 00:46:24,920 Speaker 4: always like a little bit hesitant because obviously don't want 1063 00:46:24,920 --> 00:46:26,960 Speaker 4: to hire purely based on type, you know, and you're 1064 00:46:26,960 --> 00:46:28,800 Speaker 4: going to be attracted to somebody who's different, but I 1065 00:46:28,840 --> 00:46:30,279 Speaker 4: think that like you'll get a sense that they bring 1066 00:46:30,360 --> 00:46:33,000 Speaker 4: something that you don't have. So I'm always a little 1067 00:46:33,000 --> 00:46:35,600 Speaker 4: bit hesitant to say, like just higher based on type. Obviously, 1068 00:46:35,640 --> 00:46:38,040 Speaker 4: it's way beyond that, and there's so much beyond type 1069 00:46:38,040 --> 00:46:40,239 Speaker 4: that we'll kind of talk about that will reveal how 1070 00:46:40,280 --> 00:46:42,560 Speaker 4: you can kind of best be supported by people. But 1071 00:46:42,640 --> 00:46:45,000 Speaker 4: I think in general, it probably would be nice to 1072 00:46:45,000 --> 00:46:48,680 Speaker 4: have some generator or manifesting generator energy around you, you know, 1073 00:46:48,719 --> 00:46:50,920 Speaker 4: because again that's kind of and honestly, most teams that 1074 00:46:50,960 --> 00:46:52,880 Speaker 4: I work with are primarily those types, you know, and 1075 00:46:52,880 --> 00:46:55,440 Speaker 4: then you have like a projector a manifestor, so it 1076 00:46:55,520 --> 00:46:57,319 Speaker 4: is kind of really nice to have some of that 1077 00:46:57,400 --> 00:46:59,879 Speaker 4: kind of as a foundational energy. I'm a projector like Eric, 1078 00:47:00,120 --> 00:47:02,720 Speaker 4: my partner is a generator, and it's a nice balance, 1079 00:47:02,760 --> 00:47:05,040 Speaker 4: so I would say, and you'll probably feel that when 1080 00:47:05,040 --> 00:47:06,480 Speaker 4: you have people around you that you're like, I can 1081 00:47:06,560 --> 00:47:08,319 Speaker 4: really remind you and there's so little by what they're 1082 00:47:08,320 --> 00:47:10,480 Speaker 4: doing and it gives us energy because they're so excited 1083 00:47:10,480 --> 00:47:13,879 Speaker 4: by it. But I think that would probably be really good. 1084 00:47:14,200 --> 00:47:16,640 Speaker 1: I need to get all of everyone on our team's 1085 00:47:16,640 --> 00:47:17,640 Speaker 1: birthday end. 1086 00:47:17,640 --> 00:47:21,560 Speaker 3: Time on birthday, Yeah, like what are you doing? Who 1087 00:47:21,640 --> 00:47:21,880 Speaker 3: are you? 1088 00:47:21,960 --> 00:47:25,600 Speaker 2: David's definitely a generator or a manifestor generator. 1089 00:47:25,320 --> 00:47:28,000 Speaker 1: He's for sure for sure. Yeah, I think may might 1090 00:47:28,000 --> 00:47:31,440 Speaker 1: be a manifestor Yeah, she's really good at that beginning, 1091 00:47:31,560 --> 00:47:35,840 Speaker 1: She's like she might be a manifestor generator. Yeah, now 1092 00:47:35,880 --> 00:47:39,560 Speaker 1: we're expert. I'm an expert. Sorry, not one one episode, 1093 00:47:39,600 --> 00:47:41,040 Speaker 1: one convo. Now I know it all. 1094 00:47:41,719 --> 00:47:44,400 Speaker 4: It's so fun guessing though, Like and I'm not always 1095 00:47:44,440 --> 00:47:46,560 Speaker 4: right either, but you can really start to feel these things, 1096 00:47:46,560 --> 00:47:48,440 Speaker 4: you know, And so I always love being like you're this, 1097 00:47:48,520 --> 00:47:51,160 Speaker 4: maybe this is happening. Do you guys want to hear 1098 00:47:51,160 --> 00:47:53,880 Speaker 4: a little bit about your kids? Yeah, okay, we'll just 1099 00:47:53,880 --> 00:47:56,399 Speaker 4: do like a little bit just to give y'all a taste. So, okay, 1100 00:47:56,480 --> 00:48:01,040 Speaker 4: let's start with Luna. So Luna's a manifesting generator, and 1101 00:48:01,040 --> 00:48:03,440 Speaker 4: so I'll just orient this kind of around parenting specifically. 1102 00:48:03,560 --> 00:48:06,879 Speaker 4: I would say like manifesting generators, like in specifically Luna 1103 00:48:06,960 --> 00:48:09,840 Speaker 4: have like so much like charisma and energy and power, 1104 00:48:09,920 --> 00:48:11,239 Speaker 4: and like when they're lit up by what they're doing, 1105 00:48:11,239 --> 00:48:13,040 Speaker 4: it's so magnetic and I feel so good to be 1106 00:48:13,080 --> 00:48:15,080 Speaker 4: around them. I think a big thing for you to know, 1107 00:48:15,160 --> 00:48:17,719 Speaker 4: Mela is that, like manifesting generators aren't really meant to 1108 00:48:17,800 --> 00:48:20,040 Speaker 4: enough sick one like choose one thing and just stick 1109 00:48:20,160 --> 00:48:22,279 Speaker 4: to it, like they often thrive when they can try 1110 00:48:22,280 --> 00:48:24,359 Speaker 4: on lots of different things. And so I would never 1111 00:48:24,400 --> 00:48:27,200 Speaker 4: make her wrong for like quitting or moving on from something, 1112 00:48:27,200 --> 00:48:28,920 Speaker 4: but really giving her permission to just like try it 1113 00:48:28,960 --> 00:48:31,160 Speaker 4: all and know that like trying on and letting go things, 1114 00:48:31,280 --> 00:48:33,520 Speaker 4: letting go of things is part of her process. Do 1115 00:48:33,600 --> 00:48:34,839 Speaker 4: you see that at all yet in her? 1116 00:48:35,320 --> 00:48:38,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, she likes a lot of things, And yeah, like 1117 00:48:38,960 --> 00:48:40,480 Speaker 2: I see that I can't. 1118 00:48:40,200 --> 00:48:41,839 Speaker 1: Push her to do what she doesn't want to do. 1119 00:48:41,920 --> 00:48:44,000 Speaker 2: She's very clear about what she wants to do what 1120 00:48:44,040 --> 00:48:45,799 Speaker 2: she doesn't want to do, and like I can nunt her, 1121 00:48:45,920 --> 00:48:47,880 Speaker 2: but like the more I nutu her, the more she resists. 1122 00:48:48,400 --> 00:48:51,360 Speaker 2: So I do see that she is someone to let 1123 00:48:51,880 --> 00:48:55,480 Speaker 2: be do how she wants to, you know, dabble in 1124 00:48:55,560 --> 00:48:55,839 Speaker 2: it all. 1125 00:48:55,880 --> 00:48:58,080 Speaker 1: And she works well with like a lot of encouragement. 1126 00:48:58,320 --> 00:49:01,320 Speaker 2: If she feels good and empowered she does, she feels 1127 00:49:01,400 --> 00:49:03,759 Speaker 2: like I can feel that energy. Whereas she doesn't feel 1128 00:49:03,760 --> 00:49:05,840 Speaker 2: empowered or like she's good at it, she kind of. 1129 00:49:05,840 --> 00:49:08,600 Speaker 4: Can give up mm hmm. And she's also just like 1130 00:49:08,640 --> 00:49:10,480 Speaker 4: meant to be natural what she does. Like she's just 1131 00:49:10,520 --> 00:49:12,080 Speaker 4: meant to do the things that feel like easy and 1132 00:49:12,200 --> 00:49:14,120 Speaker 4: natural and really kind of feel and flow to her. 1133 00:49:14,160 --> 00:49:15,920 Speaker 4: So if you notice things that are really coming easily 1134 00:49:15,920 --> 00:49:18,160 Speaker 4: and naturally, I would definitely like help invest more and 1135 00:49:18,400 --> 00:49:21,759 Speaker 4: help her invest more in those things. And she's somebody 1136 00:49:21,760 --> 00:49:24,080 Speaker 4: who's a really strong gut feeling, and so if you're 1137 00:49:24,120 --> 00:49:26,040 Speaker 4: trying to communicate with her, sometimes it could be good 1138 00:49:26,040 --> 00:49:28,040 Speaker 4: to give her options. Instead of being like, hey, Luna, 1139 00:49:28,080 --> 00:49:29,680 Speaker 4: like what do you want to do today, I'd be like, Luna, like, 1140 00:49:29,680 --> 00:49:30,920 Speaker 4: do you want to go out here? Or do this? 1141 00:49:31,000 --> 00:49:32,200 Speaker 4: Like do you want to do this or this? And 1142 00:49:32,239 --> 00:49:35,000 Speaker 4: you might find that like when you pose really specific questions, 1143 00:49:35,040 --> 00:49:37,120 Speaker 4: she might be like yep, nope, yep, nope. You know, 1144 00:49:37,280 --> 00:49:39,040 Speaker 4: so kind of really just like honoring that and helping 1145 00:49:39,080 --> 00:49:42,600 Speaker 4: her kind of connect to that gut feeling. She's also 1146 00:49:42,680 --> 00:49:44,319 Speaker 4: quite a bargainer. I don't know if you notice that 1147 00:49:44,360 --> 00:49:46,359 Speaker 4: at all, but like she really like brings a lot 1148 00:49:46,360 --> 00:49:47,839 Speaker 4: of like heart to whatever it is that she does, 1149 00:49:47,880 --> 00:49:49,400 Speaker 4: but it feels like she needs to kind of receive 1150 00:49:49,480 --> 00:49:51,000 Speaker 4: in return, you know, So it's good to have like 1151 00:49:51,040 --> 00:49:53,680 Speaker 4: reciprocity to feel like she's giving so much and feeling 1152 00:49:53,760 --> 00:49:55,880 Speaker 4: so appreciated. And so I love what you said about encouragement. 1153 00:49:55,920 --> 00:49:58,160 Speaker 4: I would just kind of really encourage and honor and 1154 00:49:58,239 --> 00:50:00,520 Speaker 4: kind of make sure she feels really just like appreciate 1155 00:50:00,520 --> 00:50:03,200 Speaker 4: it and valued in whatever it is she's doing okay, 1156 00:50:05,239 --> 00:50:08,200 Speaker 4: And do you have any specific questions about her? I 1157 00:50:08,280 --> 00:50:10,279 Speaker 4: would say one of the pieces, she's super sensitive, like 1158 00:50:10,320 --> 00:50:12,760 Speaker 4: the two of you, like, super sensitive to her physical space. 1159 00:50:13,040 --> 00:50:14,680 Speaker 4: So I would also always just keep an eye on, 1160 00:50:14,719 --> 00:50:16,960 Speaker 4: like how her space feels, like do classrooms feel okay? 1161 00:50:16,960 --> 00:50:20,200 Speaker 4: Does her bedroom feel okay? Like does the home feel okay? 1162 00:50:20,239 --> 00:50:22,160 Speaker 4: Like if you go to hotel, does the hotel feel okay? 1163 00:50:22,200 --> 00:50:22,279 Speaker 1: Like? 1164 00:50:22,520 --> 00:50:24,279 Speaker 4: She takes in so much in her space and making 1165 00:50:24,320 --> 00:50:26,120 Speaker 4: sure the space itself feels really good for her. 1166 00:50:26,960 --> 00:50:28,160 Speaker 1: How do you feel about this space? 1167 00:50:28,200 --> 00:50:30,120 Speaker 3: Do you like it? It fee doesn't make you feel good? 1168 00:50:30,560 --> 00:50:30,719 Speaker 2: Yeah? 1169 00:50:30,719 --> 00:50:33,080 Speaker 1: How do you like your room? We change something or 1170 00:50:33,120 --> 00:50:36,279 Speaker 1: you like it just like this? Yeah, it's interesting. We 1171 00:50:36,360 --> 00:50:38,680 Speaker 1: had a reading done with on our kids, and that's 1172 00:50:38,800 --> 00:50:40,279 Speaker 1: one of those One of the things that you said 1173 00:50:40,360 --> 00:50:42,640 Speaker 1: right now just stood out to me about Luna because 1174 00:50:42,800 --> 00:50:46,319 Speaker 1: she said that Luna will try a lot. It's going 1175 00:50:46,400 --> 00:50:48,520 Speaker 1: to want to try a lot of things in her life, 1176 00:50:48,560 --> 00:50:50,800 Speaker 1: Like she needs to try a lot of things that 1177 00:50:50,800 --> 00:50:53,600 Speaker 1: it's going to be it might feel difficult to kind 1178 00:50:53,600 --> 00:50:55,680 Speaker 1: of pin her down to one thing. 1179 00:50:57,080 --> 00:50:59,319 Speaker 4: Yeah, and she's not meant to just do one thing. 1180 00:51:00,040 --> 00:51:02,520 Speaker 4: Is probably gonna feel really limited and combined in that case, 1181 00:51:02,560 --> 00:51:04,520 Speaker 4: because there's so many parts of her that will want 1182 00:51:04,560 --> 00:51:06,880 Speaker 4: to be expressed. And so again, like, however, you can 1183 00:51:06,920 --> 00:51:09,440 Speaker 4: support her and just like doing that and honoring that. Honestly, 1184 00:51:09,440 --> 00:51:11,720 Speaker 4: a lot of manifesting generators I worked with, like adult 1185 00:51:11,800 --> 00:51:14,440 Speaker 4: manifesting generators have been like made it feel like scattered 1186 00:51:14,520 --> 00:51:16,359 Speaker 4: or like they're doing too much, and so they've kind 1187 00:51:16,360 --> 00:51:18,640 Speaker 4: of made themselves wrong for being multi passionate when they're 1188 00:51:18,640 --> 00:51:22,280 Speaker 4: actually meant to be so multipass passionate exactly. So like, however, 1189 00:51:22,320 --> 00:51:24,400 Speaker 4: you could support her and like really giving herself that 1190 00:51:24,440 --> 00:51:27,760 Speaker 4: permission from early on the better, and she's fast go ahead. 1191 00:51:28,040 --> 00:51:30,880 Speaker 1: How to manifest your generators? Like, because they want to 1192 00:51:30,880 --> 00:51:33,360 Speaker 1: try so many things, do they ever master anything? 1193 00:51:33,960 --> 00:51:37,080 Speaker 4: Like they often master things very quickly. They can like 1194 00:51:37,160 --> 00:51:39,799 Speaker 4: go deep in and like and also they might like 1195 00:51:39,880 --> 00:51:41,960 Speaker 4: master one thing and just express it that thing in 1196 00:51:42,000 --> 00:51:44,480 Speaker 4: multiple ways throughout their life. But like it is very 1197 00:51:44,480 --> 00:51:46,440 Speaker 4: normal for them to try a thing, go deep in it, 1198 00:51:46,560 --> 00:51:52,280 Speaker 4: be amazing at it, and then move on like yeah, yeah, 1199 00:51:52,320 --> 00:51:54,279 Speaker 4: it's just all about like honoring where their energy wants 1200 00:51:54,280 --> 00:51:56,720 Speaker 4: to go and not seeing that as scattered or selfish, 1201 00:51:56,719 --> 00:51:58,200 Speaker 4: but as the thing that kind of ends up allowing 1202 00:51:58,200 --> 00:52:02,160 Speaker 4: them to have the most positive impact in the world. Okay, 1203 00:52:02,760 --> 00:52:05,880 Speaker 4: let's talk about Irie. Am I saying that right? M 1204 00:52:06,080 --> 00:52:10,840 Speaker 4: h Yeah. So Irie is a projector like you, Erica, 1205 00:52:10,960 --> 00:52:12,920 Speaker 4: So it's nice to have that in the family. So 1206 00:52:12,960 --> 00:52:14,759 Speaker 4: in the same way that I told Mela to like 1207 00:52:14,800 --> 00:52:17,080 Speaker 4: really recognize you and value you, I would do the 1208 00:52:17,080 --> 00:52:20,000 Speaker 4: same for Iri, like just really like noticing what they 1209 00:52:20,040 --> 00:52:22,319 Speaker 4: do really well, like kind of their perspective and really 1210 00:52:22,360 --> 00:52:24,400 Speaker 4: inviting it in and just like reminding her of like 1211 00:52:24,440 --> 00:52:27,280 Speaker 4: all the things that you see. Her energy, like yours, 1212 00:52:27,320 --> 00:52:29,480 Speaker 4: is meant to eb and flow, and so like you know, 1213 00:52:29,600 --> 00:52:31,920 Speaker 4: really giving both of you permission to take rest and 1214 00:52:31,960 --> 00:52:35,399 Speaker 4: space when you can. She's not meant to be quite 1215 00:52:35,440 --> 00:52:38,160 Speaker 4: as spontaneous as you, Like, she often needs to kind 1216 00:52:38,200 --> 00:52:40,120 Speaker 4: of sleep on things and feel into things, and you're 1217 00:52:40,160 --> 00:52:43,120 Speaker 4: probably so sensitive to her feelings and so like I 1218 00:52:43,160 --> 00:52:45,160 Speaker 4: would just like not pressure her to make decisions more 1219 00:52:45,239 --> 00:52:48,440 Speaker 4: quickly than feels natural to her. And she's such a dreamer, 1220 00:52:48,640 --> 00:52:50,560 Speaker 4: like in her design, I don't know whether she's conscious 1221 00:52:50,560 --> 00:52:52,640 Speaker 4: of but conscious of it. But she's really good at 1222 00:52:52,680 --> 00:52:54,719 Speaker 4: kind of like dreaming about all the things that are possible, 1223 00:52:55,000 --> 00:52:56,520 Speaker 4: and she might be like a little bit restless for 1224 00:52:56,520 --> 00:52:58,600 Speaker 4: like newness and new experiences, but again, it's good to 1225 00:52:58,640 --> 00:53:00,400 Speaker 4: kind of take her time to like sleep on things 1226 00:53:00,440 --> 00:53:02,120 Speaker 4: and feel into things to kind of really know what's 1227 00:53:02,120 --> 00:53:05,120 Speaker 4: there for her. She needs out of freedom in her 1228 00:53:05,160 --> 00:53:06,680 Speaker 4: her design, Like she might be like a little bit 1229 00:53:06,680 --> 00:53:08,719 Speaker 4: trapped or confine if she's in the same environment with 1230 00:53:08,760 --> 00:53:10,400 Speaker 4: the same person all day every day. So I think 1231 00:53:10,440 --> 00:53:12,239 Speaker 4: it's going to support her and like moving her energy 1232 00:53:12,280 --> 00:53:14,239 Speaker 4: about going for walks, going to the park, to kind 1233 00:53:14,280 --> 00:53:15,680 Speaker 4: of just be simmered in like lots of new and 1234 00:53:15,680 --> 00:53:19,360 Speaker 4: different ways. Do you notice any of this stuff in her? 1235 00:53:20,080 --> 00:53:24,200 Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean I would say that she does not 1236 00:53:24,320 --> 00:53:29,000 Speaker 1: like to make decisions quickly. She definitely needs her time, 1237 00:53:29,200 --> 00:53:31,279 Speaker 1: and like I think that's sometimes where we kind of 1238 00:53:31,360 --> 00:53:35,080 Speaker 1: like clash a little bit, where I'm like, just come on, 1239 00:53:35,239 --> 00:53:42,000 Speaker 1: it's my decision, and she's like so slow, yeah, And 1240 00:53:42,040 --> 00:53:49,279 Speaker 1: I'm like, why are you so slow, darling? But I 1241 00:53:49,440 --> 00:53:53,719 Speaker 1: definitely feel like she me and her are in it's 1242 00:53:53,840 --> 00:53:56,200 Speaker 1: very obviously to my daughter, but like I feel that 1243 00:53:56,200 --> 00:53:58,799 Speaker 1: that kind of like she likes to take control, she 1244 00:53:58,920 --> 00:54:01,760 Speaker 1: likes to lead. She's still like learning how to feel 1245 00:54:01,800 --> 00:54:04,279 Speaker 1: really empowered in that space. She definitely you know, I 1246 00:54:04,680 --> 00:54:06,640 Speaker 1: sometimes I see it's so interesting being a parent when 1247 00:54:06,680 --> 00:54:09,520 Speaker 1: you see like your kids like little insecurities or like 1248 00:54:09,880 --> 00:54:13,200 Speaker 1: how they like compare themselves to like their their their friends, 1249 00:54:13,200 --> 00:54:16,000 Speaker 1: like even like our daughters their best friends, but you know, 1250 00:54:16,040 --> 00:54:18,480 Speaker 1: and their strengths are different, you know, and they start 1251 00:54:18,520 --> 00:54:21,359 Speaker 1: comparing one another when like Luna is like a really 1252 00:54:21,360 --> 00:54:23,759 Speaker 1: great dancer, my daughter, you know, she's like more like 1253 00:54:23,880 --> 00:54:29,200 Speaker 1: interpretive dance. She's kind of like modern dance. Luna's more 1254 00:54:29,239 --> 00:54:34,359 Speaker 1: like TikTok, you know, freestyle like Missy Elliott dance. And 1255 00:54:34,440 --> 00:54:37,040 Speaker 1: so sometimes I'll see my daughter like look at Luna, 1256 00:54:37,120 --> 00:54:39,120 Speaker 1: like and she gets like a little nervous and she's 1257 00:54:39,120 --> 00:54:40,600 Speaker 1: like I don't want to do it never mind, you know, 1258 00:54:41,280 --> 00:54:46,120 Speaker 1: And so like seeing her, you know, acknowledged maybe some 1259 00:54:46,200 --> 00:54:48,759 Speaker 1: of her little weaknesses, but like she doesn't give up. 1260 00:54:48,920 --> 00:54:55,120 Speaker 1: She's very like driven, she's very competitive. She wants to 1261 00:54:55,120 --> 00:55:00,960 Speaker 1: be the best, and but she's will to work at it. 1262 00:55:01,320 --> 00:55:04,399 Speaker 1: She's willing to take her time and work at it. 1263 00:55:05,000 --> 00:55:09,520 Speaker 1: And words of affirmation are really important to her. Yeah, 1264 00:55:09,560 --> 00:55:12,239 Speaker 1: and I love to give them to her, so it's 1265 00:55:12,280 --> 00:55:16,319 Speaker 1: easy for me to do that. But yeah, I would 1266 00:55:16,320 --> 00:55:20,000 Speaker 1: say that those things do they sound like her? 1267 00:55:20,800 --> 00:55:24,120 Speaker 4: Yeah? And go ahead, no, go ahead. I was just 1268 00:55:24,120 --> 00:55:26,399 Speaker 4: going to say. One of her biggest lessons in her 1269 00:55:26,400 --> 00:55:28,080 Speaker 4: design is just like knowing that she's not here to 1270 00:55:28,080 --> 00:55:31,000 Speaker 4: prove herself, like her self esteemed convaclate, where she might 1271 00:55:31,000 --> 00:55:32,520 Speaker 4: have one day she's like, I'm the best and the 1272 00:55:32,560 --> 00:55:34,480 Speaker 4: next day she's like, but am I really? And like, 1273 00:55:34,880 --> 00:55:36,200 Speaker 4: you know, and this might not be a lesson she 1274 00:55:36,239 --> 00:55:38,400 Speaker 4: learns now at six, but I think just like in 1275 00:55:38,480 --> 00:55:40,640 Speaker 4: general that like, you know, she's really meant to like 1276 00:55:40,719 --> 00:55:42,680 Speaker 4: do what she feels recognized in and what she feels 1277 00:55:42,719 --> 00:55:44,279 Speaker 4: inspired to do, and like not do things just to 1278 00:55:44,320 --> 00:55:46,279 Speaker 4: prove her value and proof her worth. And so it's 1279 00:55:46,320 --> 00:55:47,880 Speaker 4: just like a thing to be aware of ericas like 1280 00:55:47,960 --> 00:55:50,279 Speaker 4: kind of watching when that's the motivation and kind of 1281 00:55:50,320 --> 00:55:52,960 Speaker 4: reminding her that there's nothing to prove, you know. So 1282 00:55:53,120 --> 00:55:55,200 Speaker 4: that will be a lesson over life and probably a 1283 00:55:55,239 --> 00:55:55,960 Speaker 4: lifelong one. 1284 00:55:56,160 --> 00:55:58,200 Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel like that is a lesson over life. 1285 00:55:58,239 --> 00:56:01,160 Speaker 1: I feel that now already it's like her feelings she 1286 00:56:01,160 --> 00:56:04,200 Speaker 1: has to prove this, improve that, and I'm like, girl, 1287 00:56:04,600 --> 00:56:07,960 Speaker 1: like no, and it's like I don't know. That's like 1288 00:56:08,000 --> 00:56:09,719 Speaker 1: what's so hard about being a parent. It's like you 1289 00:56:09,760 --> 00:56:12,799 Speaker 1: can tell your kids all the things, you can say, 1290 00:56:12,840 --> 00:56:15,920 Speaker 1: the things you can think, they're so amazing, but like 1291 00:56:16,440 --> 00:56:18,680 Speaker 1: that doesn't mean that that's what's gonna Like that's what's 1292 00:56:18,719 --> 00:56:21,400 Speaker 1: gonna I don't know stick with them, you know. And 1293 00:56:21,400 --> 00:56:24,160 Speaker 1: it's like I think about even my mom, like, you know, 1294 00:56:24,280 --> 00:56:26,279 Speaker 1: trying to empower me as a kid when I felt 1295 00:56:26,280 --> 00:56:28,840 Speaker 1: insecure and I didn't care, Like I was just like 1296 00:56:29,840 --> 00:56:33,040 Speaker 1: that doesn't make me change how I feel, right, And 1297 00:56:33,400 --> 00:56:36,360 Speaker 1: like as a parent, You're like why I wanted to please? 1298 00:56:36,400 --> 00:56:38,719 Speaker 1: You're so amazing, you don't have shit to prove. Like 1299 00:56:39,600 --> 00:56:42,880 Speaker 1: so I guess that is something that I definitely feel 1300 00:56:42,880 --> 00:56:46,040 Speaker 1: like it's going it's going to be like a lifelong thing. 1301 00:56:46,200 --> 00:56:48,560 Speaker 1: But I think maybe just really empowering her and the 1302 00:56:48,560 --> 00:56:50,439 Speaker 1: things that she's really good at. Like the other day, 1303 00:56:51,320 --> 00:56:54,319 Speaker 1: our daughters play soccer together, and soccer's over, so she 1304 00:56:54,360 --> 00:56:55,560 Speaker 1: was like, what are we gonna do next? Like what 1305 00:56:55,600 --> 00:56:57,680 Speaker 1: am I doing next? Like she's ready to like fill 1306 00:56:57,719 --> 00:57:00,760 Speaker 1: that spot that's like missing, and I'm like okay with chill. 1307 00:57:01,360 --> 00:57:04,319 Speaker 1: She's like, well, I want to do dance. And I 1308 00:57:04,360 --> 00:57:06,560 Speaker 1: was like, what about because my daughter, like she's kind 1309 00:57:06,560 --> 00:57:09,480 Speaker 1: of she she likes to act, but I've feel like 1310 00:57:09,520 --> 00:57:13,160 Speaker 1: a little bit hesitant about acting because I've been acting 1311 00:57:13,160 --> 00:57:16,160 Speaker 1: my whole life and it's a source for me of 1312 00:57:16,200 --> 00:57:18,720 Speaker 1: like some of my insecurity because I started doing it 1313 00:57:18,760 --> 00:57:21,080 Speaker 1: as a child. You start comparing yourself to other people. 1314 00:57:21,200 --> 00:57:22,520 Speaker 1: But I was like, you know, let me not like 1315 00:57:22,960 --> 00:57:25,800 Speaker 1: put my shit on her, you know, like, let me 1316 00:57:25,840 --> 00:57:28,520 Speaker 1: not assume that she's going to become this or that. 1317 00:57:29,040 --> 00:57:30,920 Speaker 1: So I was like, I'm going to let her do it. 1318 00:57:30,960 --> 00:57:32,520 Speaker 1: And I was like, just got to start with class 1319 00:57:32,520 --> 00:57:34,479 Speaker 1: and like, let me empower her because she really wants 1320 00:57:34,520 --> 00:57:37,760 Speaker 1: to do it. So I'm excited for her to kind 1321 00:57:37,760 --> 00:57:40,439 Speaker 1: of do that and get feel empowered and do good 1322 00:57:40,440 --> 00:57:42,240 Speaker 1: at that and feel like she doesn't really have anything 1323 00:57:42,320 --> 00:57:43,880 Speaker 1: to prove. It's just because she's working at it and 1324 00:57:43,920 --> 00:57:45,960 Speaker 1: it feels good to her and it feels natural to her. 1325 00:57:46,480 --> 00:57:50,840 Speaker 4: Totally, yes, and again she I just like noticing those 1326 00:57:50,840 --> 00:57:52,680 Speaker 4: things and supporting her in that. And one other thing 1327 00:57:52,720 --> 00:57:54,560 Speaker 4: I would just say that came up when you said that, 1328 00:57:54,600 --> 00:57:56,080 Speaker 4: like the soccer finished and you want to do the 1329 00:57:56,080 --> 00:57:58,680 Speaker 4: next thing. Like she's got the same lesson as you 1330 00:57:58,880 --> 00:58:01,160 Speaker 4: of like not knowing enough is enough where it's just 1331 00:58:01,160 --> 00:58:02,840 Speaker 4: like I've got to just feel the space and do 1332 00:58:03,000 --> 00:58:05,520 Speaker 4: more and never stop. And so like I think you 1333 00:58:05,680 --> 00:58:08,000 Speaker 4: learning that lesson and giving yourself more space and rest 1334 00:58:08,040 --> 00:58:10,000 Speaker 4: will give her permission to do that kind of as well. 1335 00:58:10,240 --> 00:58:11,760 Speaker 4: But just knowing that, you know, and just be like, 1336 00:58:11,800 --> 00:58:13,760 Speaker 4: do you really have the energy you're super excited about 1337 00:58:13,760 --> 00:58:15,760 Speaker 4: acting like, if so, let's do it. But not just 1338 00:58:15,800 --> 00:58:19,040 Speaker 4: because you need to fill the space, right, So if 1339 00:58:19,080 --> 00:58:21,320 Speaker 4: you have any questions about her, I love that you're 1340 00:58:21,360 --> 00:58:25,880 Speaker 4: both projectors and I yeah, sorry. One last weeks that 1341 00:58:25,880 --> 00:58:27,520 Speaker 4: I would share is that she's got the same need 1342 00:58:27,560 --> 00:58:29,680 Speaker 4: as Mela does in terms of just like community and 1343 00:58:29,760 --> 00:58:32,320 Speaker 4: network and people, and so I think really kind of 1344 00:58:32,320 --> 00:58:34,560 Speaker 4: paying attention to her friends, and I think ideally she 1345 00:58:34,600 --> 00:58:36,760 Speaker 4: has friends that really recognize her and value her, like 1346 00:58:36,800 --> 00:58:39,320 Speaker 4: I think that Luna seems to do so well, and 1347 00:58:39,440 --> 00:58:41,160 Speaker 4: just like as she grows older, like and maybe you 1348 00:58:41,160 --> 00:58:43,200 Speaker 4: have this already having like a really a real foundation 1349 00:58:43,280 --> 00:58:45,520 Speaker 4: of friendship with her, you know, like I think just 1350 00:58:45,560 --> 00:58:47,439 Speaker 4: like she really like is meant to have like deep 1351 00:58:47,520 --> 00:58:50,120 Speaker 4: relationships and so many of her opportunities come to the 1352 00:58:50,120 --> 00:58:51,880 Speaker 4: people that she knows, so just kind of keeping an 1353 00:58:51,920 --> 00:58:53,960 Speaker 4: eye on and really kind of supporting her and developing 1354 00:58:53,960 --> 00:58:54,960 Speaker 4: a really nice community. 1355 00:58:55,160 --> 00:58:57,000 Speaker 1: It's funny you say that because me and me, like 1356 00:58:57,160 --> 00:58:59,440 Speaker 1: I've been feeling more and more and now she's six, 1357 00:58:59,560 --> 00:59:02,360 Speaker 1: and like I'm seeing like all these moms at school, 1358 00:59:02,440 --> 00:59:05,160 Speaker 1: they're so like good about connecting the kids, and like, 1359 00:59:05,200 --> 00:59:07,120 Speaker 1: I'm like, I got to be better at this because 1360 00:59:07,360 --> 00:59:09,040 Speaker 1: we went to a little girl's birthday party and I 1361 00:59:09,080 --> 00:59:11,800 Speaker 1: just saw my daughter just thriving with all of her friends, 1362 00:59:11,880 --> 00:59:13,400 Speaker 1: and I'm like, I have to do better at like 1363 00:59:13,440 --> 00:59:17,040 Speaker 1: making sure that she like it's my job to like 1364 00:59:17,600 --> 00:59:21,160 Speaker 1: help her foster relationships outside of school, you know, not 1365 00:59:21,400 --> 00:59:24,440 Speaker 1: just like Okay, school's done. Now we're done, and like 1366 00:59:24,480 --> 00:59:26,440 Speaker 1: that's the only time that you get to see your friends. 1367 00:59:26,440 --> 00:59:30,280 Speaker 1: Like how do I bring like kind of curate her 1368 00:59:30,400 --> 00:59:32,840 Speaker 1: tribe in a way, like Okay, yeah, we let's not 1369 00:59:32,960 --> 00:59:35,760 Speaker 1: hang out with that little girl. Oh wow, I don't 1370 00:59:35,760 --> 00:59:38,280 Speaker 1: think that's your friend, girl, but I like that one. 1371 00:59:38,400 --> 00:59:40,440 Speaker 1: Let's bring her over, you know, and like kind of 1372 00:59:40,480 --> 00:59:44,600 Speaker 1: cultivating like these safe spaces with her friends and like 1373 00:59:45,120 --> 00:59:47,120 Speaker 1: that's kind of what's really cool about being a parent too, 1374 00:59:47,160 --> 00:59:50,520 Speaker 1: is that kind of like that's that's a really big responsibility, 1375 00:59:51,520 --> 00:59:54,120 Speaker 1: but it's but it's fun. And I think she also 1376 00:59:54,200 --> 00:59:56,120 Speaker 1: kind of knows what feels good, you know, like she's 1377 00:59:56,160 --> 00:59:58,000 Speaker 1: gonna know like who she wants to hang out with 1378 00:59:58,040 --> 00:59:59,400 Speaker 1: and who makes her feel good. 1379 01:00:00,080 --> 01:00:01,320 Speaker 4: Yeah, And I would even ask her like do you 1380 01:00:01,320 --> 01:00:03,200 Speaker 4: feel really recognized by them? Like do you feel really 1381 01:00:03,200 --> 01:00:03,840 Speaker 4: seen by them? 1382 01:00:03,880 --> 01:00:04,040 Speaker 2: You know? 1383 01:00:04,080 --> 01:00:06,240 Speaker 4: I think that as projectors, like that's what fuels us 1384 01:00:06,240 --> 01:00:08,200 Speaker 4: feeling recognized and seen, So it could be useful to 1385 01:00:08,320 --> 01:00:09,360 Speaker 4: have those conversations. 1386 01:00:09,680 --> 01:00:13,840 Speaker 2: This is so interesting, like we I mean, even for 1387 01:00:14,040 --> 01:00:16,400 Speaker 2: Erica and I to like have a better insight on 1388 01:00:16,440 --> 01:00:19,000 Speaker 2: how to better like be business partners, how to better 1389 01:00:19,000 --> 01:00:22,080 Speaker 2: support each other and empower each other, like what expectations 1390 01:00:22,080 --> 01:00:24,200 Speaker 2: to have with one another, which obviously over time we've 1391 01:00:24,280 --> 01:00:27,240 Speaker 2: kind of developed a little bit, but like still like 1392 01:00:27,360 --> 01:00:29,960 Speaker 2: even to extend it to our children, and like we're 1393 01:00:29,960 --> 01:00:32,440 Speaker 2: also like a family unit and we're all so very different. 1394 01:00:32,440 --> 01:00:37,680 Speaker 2: We're obviously also very fucking hyper sensitive and EmPATH you know, 1395 01:00:37,760 --> 01:00:40,959 Speaker 2: and it's just like we're always always all feeling each 1396 01:00:40,960 --> 01:00:43,680 Speaker 2: other and it's so fucking intense because we're already already 1397 01:00:43,720 --> 01:00:46,440 Speaker 2: like a bunch of women and even little women, and 1398 01:00:46,520 --> 01:00:49,120 Speaker 2: just like seeing how they thrive together and how they 1399 01:00:49,160 --> 01:00:51,800 Speaker 2: interact together, and how they argue and fight and then 1400 01:00:51,840 --> 01:00:54,160 Speaker 2: like how they make up and like, oh, it's just 1401 01:00:54,200 --> 01:00:56,520 Speaker 2: such an interesting dynamic, And like what a gift to 1402 01:00:56,560 --> 01:00:58,760 Speaker 2: be able to give have the tools to kind of 1403 01:00:58,760 --> 01:01:02,240 Speaker 2: be able to see people as they are and like 1404 01:01:02,640 --> 01:01:05,200 Speaker 2: their primal innate setting, because sometimes I. 1405 01:01:05,120 --> 01:01:06,840 Speaker 3: Think it is we are. 1406 01:01:06,840 --> 01:01:08,640 Speaker 2: There's so much comparison, there's so many things like I 1407 01:01:08,640 --> 01:01:10,640 Speaker 2: should be more driven, I should finish more things. I 1408 01:01:10,680 --> 01:01:12,560 Speaker 2: should be doing it quicker. I should be here, I 1409 01:01:12,560 --> 01:01:15,160 Speaker 2: should be there, Like look at how she dances, you know. 1410 01:01:15,240 --> 01:01:17,919 Speaker 2: Like the other day, Lynda said to me talking about 1411 01:01:17,920 --> 01:01:20,200 Speaker 2: someone at school, like so and so so smart, she 1412 01:01:20,280 --> 01:01:22,080 Speaker 2: never gets anything wrong. So I was like, you're gonna 1413 01:01:22,080 --> 01:01:23,640 Speaker 2: get things wrong, Like that's how you learn. She's like 1414 01:01:23,880 --> 01:01:26,320 Speaker 2: so and so never gets anything wrong. She's the smartest 1415 01:01:26,320 --> 01:01:28,280 Speaker 2: girl in the class. I never thought i'd hear my 1416 01:01:28,400 --> 01:01:30,320 Speaker 2: kids say the smartest girl in the class. 1417 01:01:31,080 --> 01:01:31,760 Speaker 3: What the fuck? 1418 01:01:33,040 --> 01:01:35,240 Speaker 2: And I'm like, you're smart, and like everyone has different 1419 01:01:35,240 --> 01:01:38,439 Speaker 2: things that they're good at. But just like the way 1420 01:01:38,520 --> 01:01:41,440 Speaker 2: we as parents can quiet those you know, those naturally 1421 01:01:41,480 --> 01:01:44,280 Speaker 2: competitive parts of us that come up, those naturally like 1422 01:01:44,640 --> 01:01:47,920 Speaker 2: those images that we're gonna like see or get flooded 1423 01:01:47,960 --> 01:01:51,200 Speaker 2: to our kids all the time. Like we're just it's 1424 01:01:51,240 --> 01:01:55,080 Speaker 2: so interesting to be able to to like conduct our 1425 01:01:55,200 --> 01:01:56,160 Speaker 2: little unit better. 1426 01:01:57,760 --> 01:01:58,000 Speaker 3: I know. 1427 01:01:58,000 --> 01:02:00,360 Speaker 2: We were in Costa Rica one time, I mean this 1428 01:02:00,480 --> 01:02:02,080 Speaker 2: last time, and we were at dinner and we're like 1429 01:02:02,160 --> 01:02:04,520 Speaker 2: playing truth or Dare and then it got emotional, like 1430 01:02:04,600 --> 01:02:05,560 Speaker 2: all four of us. 1431 01:02:05,640 --> 01:02:08,160 Speaker 1: They got like we got into an argument. Oh yeah, 1432 01:02:08,120 --> 01:02:08,920 Speaker 1: it's the food thing. 1433 01:02:09,160 --> 01:02:11,080 Speaker 2: It was I fool, like I really didn't want to eat, 1434 01:02:11,120 --> 01:02:13,120 Speaker 2: and then Eric she got an attitude with Erica, and 1435 01:02:13,160 --> 01:02:14,080 Speaker 2: then Erica was like. 1436 01:02:14,000 --> 01:02:15,120 Speaker 1: You've had a really good trip. 1437 01:02:15,120 --> 01:02:18,520 Speaker 7: And then Luna tried to like defend Erica and yeah, 1438 01:02:18,600 --> 01:02:20,800 Speaker 7: Luna was like like trying to support me and like 1439 01:02:21,120 --> 01:02:23,680 Speaker 7: kind of like tell Iri like, yeah, you need to eat, 1440 01:02:23,720 --> 01:02:25,760 Speaker 7: Like why don't you ever eat what your mom gives you? 1441 01:02:26,120 --> 01:02:27,560 Speaker 1: And then you don't eat ever? 1442 01:02:27,840 --> 01:02:30,320 Speaker 2: And then Iri got sensitive that she said something to Luna, 1443 01:02:30,440 --> 01:02:32,480 Speaker 2: and then Luna got sensitive and then they. 1444 01:02:32,760 --> 01:02:35,040 Speaker 1: Started crying, and then I started crying, and they were 1445 01:02:35,080 --> 01:02:38,800 Speaker 1: all crying, fucking. 1446 01:02:38,800 --> 01:02:42,640 Speaker 2: Crying, ass emotional ass women and Costa Rica in the 1447 01:02:42,720 --> 01:02:45,240 Speaker 2: rain and I at a dinner table. At a dinner table, 1448 01:02:45,560 --> 01:02:47,200 Speaker 2: people were looking at us like, what the hell is 1449 01:02:47,200 --> 01:02:47,600 Speaker 2: going on? 1450 01:02:48,520 --> 01:02:52,640 Speaker 1: Oh my god, I have a question, like so what 1451 01:02:52,720 --> 01:02:55,600 Speaker 1: and what? Like you you said, how basically Mila can 1452 01:02:55,640 --> 01:02:59,760 Speaker 1: like help support me? Yeah, how can I support like 1453 01:03:00,320 --> 01:03:05,440 Speaker 1: my manifesting friend, And then how can Luna support my 1454 01:03:05,560 --> 01:03:10,240 Speaker 1: projecting ass daughter? And then how can my projector help 1455 01:03:10,640 --> 01:03:12,320 Speaker 1: my little manifestor generator. 1456 01:03:13,360 --> 01:03:17,320 Speaker 4: So in terms of how you can support Mela is like, 1457 01:03:17,400 --> 01:03:19,760 Speaker 4: Mela is so powerful, and I think it's really good 1458 01:03:19,760 --> 01:03:21,800 Speaker 4: for Mela to be around people that feel really expanded 1459 01:03:21,800 --> 01:03:24,840 Speaker 4: by how powerful she is and not like threatened by it. 1460 01:03:25,080 --> 01:03:26,600 Speaker 4: And so I think kind of reminding me of like 1461 01:03:26,600 --> 01:03:29,840 Speaker 4: her power, her impact, like kind of how impactful she 1462 01:03:29,840 --> 01:03:31,960 Speaker 4: can be when she's like super bold and courageous a 1463 01:03:32,000 --> 01:03:35,320 Speaker 4: big I think really honoring like Mela's sensitivity. So if 1464 01:03:35,360 --> 01:03:37,360 Speaker 4: you notice that her energy waning, like really kind of 1465 01:03:37,400 --> 01:03:39,360 Speaker 4: giving her space to be in her own energy. And 1466 01:03:39,760 --> 01:03:42,120 Speaker 4: you're super independent, so I think also giving having space 1467 01:03:42,160 --> 01:03:43,480 Speaker 4: to being your own flow and you want to can 1468 01:03:43,480 --> 01:03:47,640 Speaker 4: be really useful. I think also encouraging Mela to sleep 1469 01:03:47,640 --> 01:03:50,000 Speaker 4: on things, you know, and just take a bee, like 1470 01:03:50,120 --> 01:03:52,160 Speaker 4: not necessarily like three days or a week, but it's 1471 01:03:52,160 --> 01:03:53,520 Speaker 4: just like take a couple hours, you know, let me 1472 01:03:53,520 --> 01:03:55,760 Speaker 4: know tomorrow, like and I'm not pressuring or like really 1473 01:03:55,760 --> 01:03:59,120 Speaker 4: being origin around it. Those are some pieces. Does that 1474 01:03:59,160 --> 01:04:02,880 Speaker 4: make sense? Yeah, And also having a really strong communication dynamic. 1475 01:04:02,920 --> 01:04:04,560 Speaker 4: I think, like I didn't mention it's for you, Mila, 1476 01:04:04,640 --> 01:04:07,160 Speaker 4: but like for manifestors, a part of their strategy is 1477 01:04:07,200 --> 01:04:09,360 Speaker 4: around keeping people in the loop. If you just like 1478 01:04:09,440 --> 01:04:10,960 Speaker 4: go off and do things and don't let people know, 1479 01:04:11,000 --> 01:04:13,440 Speaker 4: they can be like a little bit suspicious or just resistant. 1480 01:04:13,640 --> 01:04:15,800 Speaker 4: Whereas if you're just like, hey, I'm doing this thing, 1481 01:04:15,880 --> 01:04:17,600 Speaker 4: like you're not asking for permission, You're just like letting 1482 01:04:17,600 --> 01:04:19,400 Speaker 4: them know, you might find a lot more easy in 1483 01:04:19,400 --> 01:04:21,720 Speaker 4: your relationships. It feels like you guys have a pretty 1484 01:04:21,760 --> 01:04:23,640 Speaker 4: good communication dynamic. But I would just make sure you're 1485 01:04:23,680 --> 01:04:25,400 Speaker 4: keeping people in the loop and just be like, not 1486 01:04:25,480 --> 01:04:27,000 Speaker 4: in the mood today, not going to do this thing 1487 01:04:27,120 --> 01:04:29,000 Speaker 4: coming here, so just to kind of keep people informative 1488 01:04:29,000 --> 01:04:36,040 Speaker 4: where you are. In terms of how Luna can support Irie, 1489 01:04:36,400 --> 01:04:39,600 Speaker 4: I think that like one recognizing her in the same 1490 01:04:39,600 --> 01:04:41,000 Speaker 4: way that I think that it's so good for you 1491 01:04:41,040 --> 01:04:42,480 Speaker 4: to do that Erica like be like, I love the 1492 01:04:42,480 --> 01:04:44,080 Speaker 4: way that you do. This's what's your perspective on this? 1493 01:04:44,160 --> 01:04:46,040 Speaker 4: You know, just kind of really inviting her inside in 1494 01:04:47,000 --> 01:04:49,360 Speaker 4: I would say, not expecting Iri to keep up or 1495 01:04:49,360 --> 01:04:51,640 Speaker 4: move as fast or do as much. You know, I 1496 01:04:51,720 --> 01:04:53,640 Speaker 4: rease energy might evan Folow a little bit more. So 1497 01:04:53,640 --> 01:04:55,280 Speaker 4: I think really kind of not expecting her to like 1498 01:04:55,320 --> 01:04:58,640 Speaker 4: necessarily always move at the same pace as Luna. I 1499 01:04:58,640 --> 01:05:00,520 Speaker 4: think really kind of encourage you're going to time, and 1500 01:05:00,560 --> 01:05:03,200 Speaker 4: also honestly just building a really solid foundation of friendship. 1501 01:05:03,480 --> 01:05:04,960 Speaker 4: You know that they can like really trust and they 1502 01:05:05,000 --> 01:05:07,320 Speaker 4: feel like they can like really stand on and as 1503 01:05:07,400 --> 01:05:11,000 Speaker 4: much as you can kind of really not trying to 1504 01:05:11,000 --> 01:05:12,640 Speaker 4: make it doesn't like she does this, but I think, like, 1505 01:05:12,760 --> 01:05:14,640 Speaker 4: you know, kind of trying to make I reprove herself 1506 01:05:14,720 --> 01:05:17,760 Speaker 4: or anything like that. I think in terms about Iri 1507 01:05:17,880 --> 01:05:20,920 Speaker 4: can best support Luna is I mean, they're both going 1508 01:05:20,960 --> 01:05:23,240 Speaker 4: to actually take their time. But I think also really 1509 01:05:23,320 --> 01:05:25,439 Speaker 4: just like appreciating her and valuing her. Again, Like I said, 1510 01:05:25,480 --> 01:05:27,080 Speaker 4: Luna has like so much to give, but like what 1511 01:05:27,400 --> 01:05:29,479 Speaker 4: allows her to give is like she's like I feel 1512 01:05:29,520 --> 01:05:31,560 Speaker 4: so valued in like what I'm doing. So I think 1513 01:05:31,600 --> 01:05:34,800 Speaker 4: really honoring that I think really giving Luna space to 1514 01:05:34,800 --> 01:05:36,520 Speaker 4: be in her own creative flow when she wants to. 1515 01:05:36,600 --> 01:05:38,400 Speaker 4: Luna's also got a bit of a hermit nature, which 1516 01:05:38,400 --> 01:05:39,960 Speaker 4: she's not meant to be hermiting all the time, but 1517 01:05:40,080 --> 01:05:42,120 Speaker 4: just having space and time to pull away can be great. 1518 01:05:43,160 --> 01:05:45,720 Speaker 4: I think honoring Luna's sensitivity or space to make sure 1519 01:05:45,760 --> 01:05:49,520 Speaker 4: this space she's in is feeling good, and also like 1520 01:05:49,600 --> 01:05:52,120 Speaker 4: asking her those specific questions again, like hey, like do 1521 01:05:52,160 --> 01:05:53,520 Speaker 4: you want to do this or this? Like instead of 1522 01:05:53,520 --> 01:05:54,600 Speaker 4: like what do you want to do? Like give her 1523 01:05:54,640 --> 01:05:56,840 Speaker 4: options kind of see what her immediate impulse is because 1524 01:05:56,840 --> 01:05:59,360 Speaker 4: she's got such a powerful gut instinct when you ask 1525 01:05:59,400 --> 01:06:00,320 Speaker 4: her questions right. 1526 01:06:00,240 --> 01:06:05,800 Speaker 2: Way, letting her hone in on her own intuitive powers. 1527 01:06:06,800 --> 01:06:09,400 Speaker 2: I have been trying to like practicing at like just 1528 01:06:09,480 --> 01:06:13,240 Speaker 2: letting her be aligned with that, you know however she 1529 01:06:13,400 --> 01:06:14,840 Speaker 2: feels naturally. 1530 01:06:15,000 --> 01:06:16,360 Speaker 4: Totally no need to explain it. 1531 01:06:16,480 --> 01:06:18,760 Speaker 1: I'man not talk diary. I think it's really important that 1532 01:06:18,880 --> 01:06:21,640 Speaker 1: like we talk to our kids. I mean I'm just 1533 01:06:21,680 --> 01:06:24,560 Speaker 1: coming to this now having this conversation, but just giving 1534 01:06:24,600 --> 01:06:27,960 Speaker 1: your kids the tools to like know how they can 1535 01:06:28,160 --> 01:06:32,120 Speaker 1: support their friends and care to you know, like making 1536 01:06:32,160 --> 01:06:33,640 Speaker 1: that a priority to them. 1537 01:06:34,080 --> 01:06:35,600 Speaker 2: How do you care for other people? How do you 1538 01:06:35,640 --> 01:06:37,640 Speaker 2: show up as a friend? How does that make them feel? Well, 1539 01:06:37,640 --> 01:06:40,400 Speaker 2: maybe this person's more sensitive, yeah, like and having. 1540 01:06:40,200 --> 01:06:42,360 Speaker 1: Those conversations and I mean and not just like oh, 1541 01:06:42,440 --> 01:06:45,680 Speaker 1: they'll figure it out, you know, figure it out. Sorry, bye, 1542 01:06:45,720 --> 01:06:47,640 Speaker 1: Like no, don't do that again. Bye, We'll be in 1543 01:06:47,640 --> 01:06:50,600 Speaker 1: the other room. Like no, like really having those conversations 1544 01:06:50,600 --> 01:06:52,480 Speaker 1: with them, even at this age. I think this is 1545 01:06:52,520 --> 01:06:55,720 Speaker 1: like why wait, you know, like why wait to teach 1546 01:06:55,720 --> 01:06:59,800 Speaker 1: your kids how to have healthy relationships with their friends 1547 01:07:00,240 --> 01:07:02,360 Speaker 1: and show up for them if you have the tools, 1548 01:07:02,480 --> 01:07:04,760 Speaker 1: you know, like, hey, Iri doesn't really like when when 1549 01:07:04,760 --> 01:07:07,600 Speaker 1: you do that, Luna, or like Luna, Iri doesn't Luna 1550 01:07:07,600 --> 01:07:10,440 Speaker 1: doesn't like when you say that, Like how can how 1551 01:07:10,480 --> 01:07:12,600 Speaker 1: can you get your point across without you know, making 1552 01:07:12,600 --> 01:07:16,000 Speaker 1: her feel this way? Let's try it again. I think 1553 01:07:16,040 --> 01:07:18,920 Speaker 1: it's really important. Yeah. And also it is such a 1554 01:07:19,720 --> 01:07:21,440 Speaker 1: I was just saying that this is just also really 1555 01:07:21,480 --> 01:07:23,600 Speaker 1: just really insightful for our girls. 1556 01:07:23,600 --> 01:07:25,640 Speaker 4: Also just such a good lesson early on to like 1557 01:07:25,720 --> 01:07:27,960 Speaker 4: not expect others to do it, like you just be 1558 01:07:28,040 --> 01:07:29,840 Speaker 4: like they are going to like move really differently through 1559 01:07:29,880 --> 01:07:31,480 Speaker 4: the world. And so instead of like wanting them to 1560 01:07:31,480 --> 01:07:33,160 Speaker 4: be different than what they are more similar to me, 1561 01:07:33,240 --> 01:07:34,880 Speaker 4: Like how can I just like honor how they operate 1562 01:07:35,360 --> 01:07:37,160 Speaker 4: and so again, whether it comes to how we parent, 1563 01:07:37,320 --> 01:07:39,479 Speaker 4: or whether we work together, or how we partner with people. 1564 01:07:39,560 --> 01:07:42,320 Speaker 4: I just think it's so powerful to understand exactly how 1565 01:07:42,360 --> 01:07:44,880 Speaker 4: we're each wired, which is what human design does, because 1566 01:07:44,920 --> 01:07:46,800 Speaker 4: it's just like I think that we can like flow 1567 01:07:46,880 --> 01:07:48,640 Speaker 4: so much more easily together because we're not trying to 1568 01:07:48,680 --> 01:07:49,120 Speaker 4: be the same. 1569 01:07:49,920 --> 01:07:52,600 Speaker 1: Are there any human designs that are just like not compatible, 1570 01:07:52,760 --> 01:07:56,840 Speaker 1: like they just shouldn't really co exist. No, I just 1571 01:07:56,840 --> 01:07:58,960 Speaker 1: maybe in love or something. 1572 01:07:59,400 --> 01:08:01,240 Speaker 4: I mean, I I would say no, because I think 1573 01:08:01,240 --> 01:08:03,480 Speaker 4: that's so disempowering to kind of tell people that I 1574 01:08:03,480 --> 01:08:05,280 Speaker 4: think there are some that are going to probably require 1575 01:08:05,400 --> 01:08:07,640 Speaker 4: more work than others. And it's less about like type 1576 01:08:07,720 --> 01:08:09,840 Speaker 4: be it type, but actually like deeper layers. But I 1577 01:08:09,840 --> 01:08:11,760 Speaker 4: think in cases like that, like as long as you 1578 01:08:11,800 --> 01:08:14,680 Speaker 4: really understand each other and honor that anything possible. But 1579 01:08:14,760 --> 01:08:16,680 Speaker 4: some might require a bit more work. And honestly, when 1580 01:08:16,680 --> 01:08:18,439 Speaker 4: we date people that are really similar to us, there 1581 01:08:18,439 --> 01:08:21,280 Speaker 4: could be like a very similar residence and understanding and familiarity, 1582 01:08:21,640 --> 01:08:23,680 Speaker 4: but we're also often attracted to difference you know, so 1583 01:08:23,800 --> 01:08:26,280 Speaker 4: like I've seen it work so beautifully either way. But 1584 01:08:26,320 --> 01:08:28,479 Speaker 4: it really just comes down to, like are you really 1585 01:08:28,479 --> 01:08:30,519 Speaker 4: honoring how different they are or you trying to expect 1586 01:08:30,640 --> 01:08:32,360 Speaker 4: kind of or you expect them to be the same. 1587 01:08:32,880 --> 01:08:34,639 Speaker 1: Right, Well, this was so insighting. 1588 01:08:34,680 --> 01:08:36,840 Speaker 2: It is, it's so insightful, and it's so helpful to 1589 01:08:36,920 --> 01:08:40,400 Speaker 2: remember to like just honor yourself, you know, Like I said, 1590 01:08:40,479 --> 01:08:44,720 Speaker 2: there's so much pressure to perform and to be this 1591 01:08:45,000 --> 01:08:47,680 Speaker 2: or that, be righteous. This is the standard, what good is, 1592 01:08:47,800 --> 01:08:50,080 Speaker 2: what successful is, and this is what you have to 1593 01:08:50,080 --> 01:08:52,120 Speaker 2: do to accomplish that. But like it kind of brings 1594 01:08:52,160 --> 01:08:56,360 Speaker 2: you back down to like just the bear, like your 1595 01:08:56,479 --> 01:08:59,200 Speaker 2: nature and what your nature is, even you like taking 1596 01:08:59,240 --> 01:09:01,439 Speaker 2: the leap to me the guy at your friend's house, 1597 01:09:01,479 --> 01:09:03,040 Speaker 2: and then say fuck that other job. 1598 01:09:03,120 --> 01:09:04,479 Speaker 1: This is probably what I'm called to. 1599 01:09:04,439 --> 01:09:07,040 Speaker 4: Do, you know, like Mardi were taking me. Yeah, yeah, you. 1600 01:09:07,040 --> 01:09:08,560 Speaker 2: Would never you know, we'd never be here talking to 1601 01:09:08,600 --> 01:09:10,960 Speaker 2: you sharing this message. And like I think people miss that, 1602 01:09:11,000 --> 01:09:13,040 Speaker 2: you know, and your purpose is that it's not going 1603 01:09:13,120 --> 01:09:14,920 Speaker 2: to be perfect. It's not going to be created like 1604 01:09:15,000 --> 01:09:17,800 Speaker 2: this in this box, even you know, us, in this 1605 01:09:18,080 --> 01:09:20,840 Speaker 2: interesting space that we ended up in, like we didn't 1606 01:09:20,840 --> 01:09:23,080 Speaker 2: mean to create this community, but we have and that's 1607 01:09:23,080 --> 01:09:26,959 Speaker 2: because we took a chance on trusting our innate powers. 1608 01:09:27,040 --> 01:09:29,240 Speaker 2: And I think this is so like beneficial if people 1609 01:09:29,240 --> 01:09:31,599 Speaker 2: were able to kind of have insight on what those 1610 01:09:31,640 --> 01:09:34,040 Speaker 2: powers are and then go with it, go with their gut. 1611 01:09:34,320 --> 01:09:37,080 Speaker 2: So thank you so so so much Aarin for sharing 1612 01:09:37,120 --> 01:09:39,280 Speaker 2: with us and sharing human design. 1613 01:09:39,760 --> 01:09:41,160 Speaker 1: We forgot to ask you earlier. 1614 01:09:41,160 --> 01:09:44,720 Speaker 2: Do you have an affirmation for the people's Oh, I 1615 01:09:44,760 --> 01:09:46,200 Speaker 2: think after this conversation. 1616 01:09:46,600 --> 01:09:49,400 Speaker 4: Just honoring exactly what as you are and however it 1617 01:09:49,400 --> 01:09:51,320 Speaker 4: does you do things even if it's different than everyone 1618 01:09:51,360 --> 01:09:51,720 Speaker 4: around you. 1619 01:09:52,600 --> 01:10:01,920 Speaker 8: I honor exactly who I am, Eily, Yeah, enough, exactly 1620 01:10:02,040 --> 01:10:04,519 Speaker 8: who I am, and that's enough, and that's enough. 1621 01:10:04,960 --> 01:10:08,880 Speaker 3: I cannot be anyone else. I'm trying and doing that. 1622 01:10:09,080 --> 01:10:11,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, we would love to stretch ourselves, and of course 1623 01:10:11,840 --> 01:10:15,640 Speaker 2: stretch yourself better yourself, but like be kind to yourself 1624 01:10:15,760 --> 01:10:18,760 Speaker 2: and honor who you are in the process. Don't try 1625 01:10:18,800 --> 01:10:22,640 Speaker 2: to pull yourself into a direction that doesn't make sense. 1626 01:10:22,840 --> 01:10:25,720 Speaker 1: I hate men. So can you let the people know 1627 01:10:25,760 --> 01:10:28,719 Speaker 1: where they can find you and get their human design? 1628 01:10:29,240 --> 01:10:31,160 Speaker 1: I know I see a lot of like human designs. 1629 01:10:31,160 --> 01:10:33,400 Speaker 1: You can just like input your information in the websites, 1630 01:10:33,439 --> 01:10:35,719 Speaker 1: but this is so much deeper. I want to encourage 1631 01:10:35,720 --> 01:10:38,320 Speaker 1: you guys to contact Aaron because she can really give 1632 01:10:38,400 --> 01:10:43,320 Speaker 1: you like real insight, not just generated Google insight, like a. 1633 01:10:43,400 --> 01:10:45,240 Speaker 3: Six blueprint insight. 1634 01:10:45,439 --> 01:10:46,160 Speaker 1: Yeah. 1635 01:10:46,280 --> 01:10:50,080 Speaker 4: Yeah, So I'm Aaron Claire Jones everywhere Aaron Claire Jones 1636 01:10:50,120 --> 01:10:53,519 Speaker 4: dot com, My Instagram's Aaron Claire Jones. And yes, if 1637 01:10:53,520 --> 01:10:55,439 Speaker 4: you wanted to deeper, I would say probably the best 1638 01:10:55,479 --> 01:10:57,320 Speaker 4: place to start as getting your blueprint, which is like 1639 01:10:57,320 --> 01:10:59,800 Speaker 4: a fifty five plus page just like written guide to 1640 01:10:59,800 --> 01:11:01,720 Speaker 4: your unique design. It walks you through all the most 1641 01:11:01,720 --> 01:11:03,880 Speaker 4: important pieces that we talked about today and so much more, 1642 01:11:03,920 --> 01:11:05,600 Speaker 4: and it's meant to just be like a book to 1643 01:11:05,640 --> 01:11:07,920 Speaker 4: how you operate best. And I'm having to create a 1644 01:11:07,960 --> 01:11:10,160 Speaker 4: discount code. Is there a word that you guys like 1645 01:11:10,200 --> 01:11:13,400 Speaker 4: to use, good moms? Good moms, So the discount code 1646 01:11:13,400 --> 01:11:16,280 Speaker 4: is good moms. And then I also offer private sessions, 1647 01:11:16,320 --> 01:11:18,840 Speaker 4: partnership sessions, family sessions, team sessions if you want to 1648 01:11:18,840 --> 01:11:19,799 Speaker 4: talk through it all together. 1649 01:11:20,400 --> 01:11:23,600 Speaker 1: Awesome. Thank you so much, Aaron, and you guys know 1650 01:11:23,640 --> 01:11:26,160 Speaker 1: where to find us. 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