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Speaker 2: Allegra is on the phone today for a first day
Speaker 2: follow up. She's getting ghosted by a dude named Harold.
Speaker 2: So in a few minutes, we're going to call him
Speaker 2: and see if you'll tell us why he's ghosting her
Speaker 2: and maybe get her another date. But first, Allegra, how
Speaker 2: long has it been since you heard from him?
Speaker 3: Oh? Man, it has been about twelve days already.
Speaker 4: How many times have you tried to reach out to
Speaker 4: him in the twelve days?
Speaker 5: A few?
Speaker 3: Like, I'm not going crazy, but I've spent a few
Speaker 3: texts on a few different days and I haven't heard
Speaker 3: a response since our first date ended.
Speaker 1: Actually, okay, well let's go back to that. Want to
Speaker 1: tell us about your date and how it ended?
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean I have quick a typical date.
Speaker 5: You know.
Speaker 3: We decided to meet up for drinks, and we were
Speaker 3: having such a good time that we actually ended up
Speaker 3: getting dinner, had some good Italian food, then we had
Speaker 3: a large drink.
Speaker 5: So it was a good date.
Speaker 3: Like it was definite hours.
Speaker 4: Okay, that would make me feel like it was a
Speaker 4: good date.
Speaker 3: Yeah, right, okay, definitely liked me, like he was really
Speaker 3: into it.
Speaker 5: So how do you know that?
Speaker 3: Well, I mean, first of all, you don't stay several
Speaker 3: houries if you're not feeling someone, you know, and his
Speaker 3: body language was into me. The conversation was blowing, like,
Speaker 3: you know, he sent me a really nice text when
Speaker 3: he got home at the end of the day. He
Speaker 3: just hasn't been responded to since then, and that's why
Speaker 3: I'm like, something's up, Like it's just not adding up.
Speaker 4: So he texted you when he got home. What did
Speaker 4: he say?
Speaker 3: He guess said that he had a great time and
Speaker 3: to have a good night, like very typical. You know.
Speaker 1: Was there any talk about a second date while you
Speaker 1: were on that date, like oh, that'd be fun for
Speaker 1: us to try next time, or any kind of subtle
Speaker 1: hints like that.
Speaker 3: We said comments like that multiple times, like oh my gosh,
Speaker 3: you haven't seen that movie. I'll totally go with you again,
Speaker 3: Like oh my gosh, that happened, let's do that together.
Speaker 3: So we didn't specify like a second date, but we
Speaker 3: definitely had the vibe of seeing each other again.
Speaker 2: And there's nothing that you can think of on the
Speaker 2: date that happened that could have been awkward.
Speaker 3: I mean nothing was awkward. We are very different. He
Speaker 3: you know, he's kind of like a buttoned up dude
Speaker 3: that's taken life pretty seriously, and I'm kind of the opposite. Like,
Speaker 3: don't get me wrong, I have my stuff together, but
Speaker 3: you know, I'm care free. I like to have fun.
Speaker 3: But I don't know, I don't really think that was
Speaker 3: an issue. I feel like he was really into me,
Speaker 3: and I made it clear that I am very into him,
Speaker 3: Like very What.
Speaker 4: Do you mean. I made it clear.
Speaker 3: Like I'm basically attracted to him, but I let him know,
Speaker 3: like he's my ideal type of guy. Like it's really
Speaker 3: hard to find a guy that you're attracted to physically
Speaker 3: that also has their stuff together, Like he is making
Speaker 3: a life for himself. He shared that he kind of
Speaker 3: grew up in a bad situation and now he's made
Speaker 3: a life for himself. And that's why that checks all
Speaker 3: my boxes. That's what I'm looking for.
Speaker 5: Okay.
Speaker 4: Do you think maybe it was like too much for him?
Speaker 5: Uh?
Speaker 3: You know, I don't know. I mean that's why I
Speaker 3: need your help. Like to me, we balance each other perfectly.
Speaker 3: But you know, maybe he's feeling a different way, and
Speaker 3: after he thought it about things, he decided I'm not
Speaker 3: a good fit, but I really think that I am,
Speaker 3: so I need your help.
Speaker 1: Did you tell him that he checks all your boxes?
Speaker 3: I didn't say that specifically, but I mean I did
Speaker 3: let him know, like, man, this is impressive, like I'm
Speaker 3: really digging what he's doing in life. He also kissed
Speaker 3: me goodbye, and it wasn't something that I was encouraging, Like,
Speaker 3: I mean, I wanted to kiss him, but I wasn't
Speaker 3: going to force that on him. I mean, he pulled
Speaker 3: me in and did not let me go when we
Speaker 3: were hugging, and the kiss was excellent. So again the
Speaker 3: chemistry fully there.
Speaker 1: Was it an open mouth kiss or a closed mouth kiss?
Speaker 1: That's important to know, like.
Speaker 3: It ten minute open mouth kiss?
Speaker 4: Oh okay, so that was like makeout girl.
Speaker 1: I would have already showed up in his house after
Speaker 1: all of this twelve day I'll let your tongue in
Speaker 1: my mouth.
Speaker 4: All right, Well, we'll try to figure it out for you.
Speaker 2: Then play a song, come back and then call him
Speaker 2: and see if he tell us why he's ghosting you,
Speaker 2: and get you another day if you still want one.
Speaker 5: Okay, okay, Okay, thank you so much.
Speaker 2: All right, well, plas don't come back and get your
Speaker 2: first day follow up next right in the middle of
Speaker 2: your first day follow up if you're just joining us,
Speaker 2: Alegra is on the phone, and it's been twelve days
Speaker 2: since she heard from Harold, the guy she went on
Speaker 2: a date with, and now we're about to call him
Speaker 2: and see if he'll tell us why he's ghosting her
Speaker 2: and maybe get her another date. But before we do that, Allegra,
Speaker 2: why don't you catch everybody up on your situation.
Speaker 3: Yeah, So, like you said, this guy Harold and I
Speaker 3: hit it off. We had a great first date. It
Speaker 3: ended with an amazing kiss, and I really think there's
Speaker 3: potential for this to be something. However, Harold isn't responding
Speaker 3: to text messages anymore.
Speaker 2: All right, well you ready for us to call him
Speaker 2: and see if he'll tell us why he's ghosting you?
Speaker 6: Yes, all right, here we gold.
Speaker 2: Hey, Harold, how are you? I'm calling from a radio show.
Speaker 2: It's called the Jebel Show.
Speaker 4: How are you, hi?
Speaker 3: Harold?
Speaker 4: The whole show's here too. My name's Nina, Hi, and
Speaker 4: I'm Victoria. I'm pretty good. So did you hear where
Speaker 4: we're calling from. Yes, okay, this is so formal. Yeah,
Speaker 4: are you at work?
Speaker 5: If I am, but I have a moment I may
Speaker 5: help you.
Speaker 4: We're calling from.
Speaker 2: So it's a radio show called The Jebel Show, and
Speaker 2: we do a segment on our show that if somebody
Speaker 2: gets ghosted from a date that they went on, that
Speaker 2: person can email them to get them on the phone
Speaker 2: and ask why they're getting ghosted. And so we got
Speaker 2: an email about you from someone who listens to the show.
Speaker 5: And who is this?
Speaker 4: Her name is alegra.
Speaker 5: Yes, okay, yes, I understand.
Speaker 2: All right, do you would you mind telling us why
Speaker 2: you're not calling her back? She said, it's been twelve
Speaker 2: days since you guys hung out, and she really.
Speaker 5: A moment.
Speaker 7: It's to be truthful with you. She was a wonderful girl.
Speaker 7: I had a great time with her. Headed off, I
Speaker 7: was attracted to her. I hope she was attracted to me.
Speaker 7: But in the interim and in all said and done, honestly,
Speaker 7: she was too hot. She was absolutely too gorgeous of
Speaker 7: a woman. And I've learned coming.
Speaker 5: Up, I please hear me out.
Speaker 7: I've learned as a man coming up the way I
Speaker 7: have from poverty to being an environment that the good
Speaker 7: looking girls are too high, Makenance. It's almost like a dream.
Speaker 7: That's that's too good. You cannot you can't. There's no
Speaker 7: way to sustain that type of relationship with a good
Speaker 7: looking woman. You need what they call back in my days.
Speaker 7: And I'll go, I've married the one. You don't marry
Speaker 7: the ones.
Speaker 5: That you like. You marry the ones that like you.
Speaker 5: It's safer. It's safer, unstimutely safer.
Speaker 4: You Yeah, I don't know about that, sir.
Speaker 1: This sounds a little bit old fashion, not even that's
Speaker 1: not right.
Speaker 7: And honestly, I'm looking for someone who is to be truthful,
Speaker 7: to be blunt. It's not as high Matenance's she Okay,
Speaker 7: you know what?
Speaker 5: I ast you to.
Speaker 7: Give you more information, and this is what both men
Speaker 7: won't tell you. It is an insight into someone's insecurity.
Speaker 7: I will admit this, but at the same time I
Speaker 7: can also address it to the point saying, you know what,
Speaker 7: I can't sustain that I like her.
Speaker 5: She's great. She's absolutely great. If this even makes sense,
Speaker 5: she checked all the boxes on my side. It was wonderful.
Speaker 7: But the glaring reality is that she is absolutely gorgeous,
Speaker 7: possibly even too gorgeous for me.
Speaker 5: I'll even go as far as.
Speaker 1: Say that, so this isn't really about the high maintenance
Speaker 1: so much. Is that maybe it's a way to protect
Speaker 1: yourself from her being stolen away by somebody else because
Speaker 1: she's so hot, or having other people look at her.
Speaker 7: That is a great possibility, in great possibility that concerns me.
Speaker 7: I'm not gonna lie to here.
Speaker 4: Okay, Well, thanks for being honest. I appreciate it certainly.
Speaker 5: Thank you for your time.
Speaker 2: If you can hang on one second. Alegra is actually
Speaker 2: on the phone and she's been listening and wants to
Speaker 2: talk to you.
Speaker 3: I am.
Speaker 1: With you.
Speaker 5: Hello, How are you have you been?
Speaker 3: I've been sad because I've sent you a few messages
Speaker 3: and I've been over here thinking that I was not
Speaker 3: pretty enough for you. Come to find out, I'm not
Speaker 3: ugly enough.
Speaker 7: If you heard everything you it's no, it's no struck
Speaker 7: against you. It's as I was man have to say.
Speaker 7: It could be in the area of an insecurity upon
Speaker 7: on my poet, what I've seen my other friends go through.
Speaker 7: I don't want what hurts me the most it is
Speaker 7: for me to fall in over with you, and you
Speaker 7: would you betray or treat me and cheat on me
Speaker 7: because I don't do.
Speaker 5: Well with pain. I don't. I build up a wall
Speaker 5: and I try to operate behind.
Speaker 7: It, and you you shread it, you swead it.
Speaker 5: I'm gonna get emotions. I'm sorry.
Speaker 7: I know you don't know the part of me, but
Speaker 7: that's that's pretty much how I have a right and
Speaker 7: that's that's why I I.
Speaker 5: I do. I would not be able to to.
Speaker 7: To maintain myself adequately if someone I liked so much
Speaker 7: and was so beautiful it hurt.
Speaker 5: Me in that way.
Speaker 3: Yeah, here's the though. Heroes like, I'm hoping that the
Speaker 3: beauty you see on the outside is also the beauty
Speaker 3: you'll see on my inside because I'm not that girl.
Speaker 3: I'm not the type of person who thinks looks are
Speaker 3: so important that I'm going to go run to the
Speaker 3: next good looking guy that gives me attention, which, by
Speaker 3: the way, you are so hot, like yeah, I don't understand.
Speaker 3: Like woman, it's not just your look, it's the whole package,
Speaker 3: and you got it.
Speaker 5: Thank you, thank you. I appreciate that. I do.
Speaker 2: You know, Harold, Uh, you shouldn't stay closed after stuff
Speaker 2: just because you want to know, well, you think and
Speaker 2: I go would be better.
Speaker 4: It doesn't make it safer.
Speaker 1: I mean, it's always scary when you like nobody.
Speaker 5: No, I agree, I agree, it's it's it's blue hard.
Speaker 5: You know it's blueheard.
Speaker 7: Have you seen a lot of you've been hurt before,
Speaker 7: and you've seen a lot of betrayal from your friends,
Speaker 7: and that what's happened to them.
Speaker 5: Its kind of comes shut you down a little bit.
Speaker 7: And and you're right, I shouldn't be that way. I
Speaker 7: shouldn't because she's great. Shee great, Allegra, You're great.
Speaker 2: Okay, Well then Harold, would you like to go out
Speaker 2: with Allegra again on another date?
Speaker 5: We'll pay for it, Yes, I will say this, Alegra.
Speaker 5: I don't need their money but to go on the
Speaker 5: day with you, So.
Speaker 2: We don't have to pay for it, but you'll go
Speaker 2: on another day.
Speaker 5: I definitely call them a man. You know, I have
Speaker 5: to keep that image of.
Speaker 3: I'm going to go on a date.
Speaker 5: It was really nice to hear from me.
Speaker 4: It's a ride.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 3: I think that if we go on another date, your
Speaker 3: insecurities are going to go away. Like I'm I'm here
Speaker 3: for this.
Speaker 5: Good. I think I need some money to be here.
Speaker 5: For that.
Speaker 4: Oh yes you do, Harold.
Speaker 2: Yeah, don't take something away from yourself because of things
Speaker 2: that have happened outside of you, you know.
Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, yeah, you're right, you're right.
Speaker 4: But really you don't need to pay for the meal.
Speaker 7: Put it.
Speaker 5: I'll put it in writing. I'll put it in writing
Speaker 5: as well.
Speaker 4: You will the first date follow up