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Speaker 3: A quote of the day.

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Speaker 1: Whatever you're thinking about is literally like planning a future event.

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Speaker 1: When you're worrying, you are planning. When you're appreciating, you

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Speaker 1: are planning. What are you planning? This quote comes to

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Speaker 1: We talk about planning, her space is planning takes planning.

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Speaker 1: Right here, we are middle of November of twenty twenty one.

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Speaker 3: Yes, but here we are. And can I just share

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Speaker 3: like our first big moth solf, Can I just drop that?

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Speaker 2: Do it, GoF it down, drive it, drop it lake aside.

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Speaker 3: Thank you ladies so much.

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Speaker 1: We have over one million unique downloads, one million, and

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Speaker 1: she came back around and was like, let's do this

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00:24:23,160 --> 00:24:27,040
Speaker 1: again because after so like I took it again this

437
00:24:27,240 --> 00:24:29,880
Speaker 1: year and we'll talk about what happened that time, right.

438
00:24:30,320 --> 00:24:33,919
Speaker 3: And then but then last year December twenty nineteen, when

439
00:24:33,960 --> 00:24:37,119
Speaker 3: I took it and didn't pass, that was a bigger

440
00:24:37,240 --> 00:24:39,720
Speaker 3: moment of like, yeah, fuck this, I'm.

441
00:24:39,600 --> 00:24:43,080
Speaker 1: Done, and let me not only am I done, but

442
00:24:43,359 --> 00:24:47,440
Speaker 1: let me seriously look at what are alternatives for my

443
00:24:47,560 --> 00:24:48,200
Speaker 1: career path?

444
00:24:48,440 --> 00:24:52,920
Speaker 3: Right, And had been in that space for a long time.

445
00:24:54,000 --> 00:24:54,520
Speaker 1: And then.

446
00:24:55,920 --> 00:25:00,960
Speaker 3: A pandemic and it was like okay, And we talked

447
00:25:01,000 --> 00:25:03,480
Speaker 3: about this in a previous episode about us.

448
00:25:03,480 --> 00:25:07,000
Speaker 1: Having to shelter in place allowed me the opportunity to

449
00:25:07,080 --> 00:25:11,280
Speaker 1: be still and showed me how I could take things

450
00:25:11,400 --> 00:25:15,480
Speaker 1: off of my plate. And so then what I did

451
00:25:15,640 --> 00:25:17,320
Speaker 1: was when my friend hit me up and was like,

452
00:25:17,359 --> 00:25:19,480
Speaker 1: all right, girl, we're gonna do this again. And I

453
00:25:19,680 --> 00:25:21,560
Speaker 1: was like, I don't know this, this I don't.

454
00:25:21,440 --> 00:25:24,680
Speaker 3: Know and she really was like, let's you know, she said,

455
00:25:24,720 --> 00:25:25,280
Speaker 3: let's do this.

456
00:25:26,400 --> 00:25:29,800
Speaker 1: And so I said, all right, if we're gonna If

457
00:25:29,800 --> 00:25:32,800
Speaker 1: I'm gonna do this, I really will take full advantage

458
00:25:32,920 --> 00:25:38,760
Speaker 1: of working from home and doing the things that I

459
00:25:38,960 --> 00:25:43,120
Speaker 1: say that I encourage other people to do, and that's

460
00:25:43,200 --> 00:25:46,920
Speaker 1: to set boundaries and take things off of my plate

461
00:25:47,960 --> 00:25:50,560
Speaker 1: and focus on positive.

462
00:25:50,359 --> 00:25:53,879
Speaker 3: Energy, yeah, and building up my confidence.

463
00:25:54,440 --> 00:25:58,760
Speaker 1: And so that really became the core of what helped

464
00:25:59,080 --> 00:26:04,440
Speaker 1: is the pandemic allowing me to see, yeah, no, it's

465
00:26:04,480 --> 00:26:06,239
Speaker 1: okay to say no one, it's okay to take all

466
00:26:06,280 --> 00:26:07,640
Speaker 1: this other stuff off of your plate.

467
00:26:08,119 --> 00:26:11,399
Speaker 2: It sounds like your perspective shift on seeing the silver lining,

468
00:26:11,440 --> 00:26:12,639
Speaker 2: And I think we talked about this in one of

469
00:26:12,680 --> 00:26:16,040
Speaker 2: the other episodes, seeing the silver lining in a time

470
00:26:16,160 --> 00:26:18,720
Speaker 2: that could be that was chaotic, right, and a time

471
00:26:18,800 --> 00:26:22,480
Speaker 2: that was just what the hell? So that's beautiful. Do

472
00:26:22,520 --> 00:26:24,240
Speaker 2: you have any updates for us on what happened on

473
00:26:24,320 --> 00:26:24,920
Speaker 2: the last.

474
00:26:24,720 --> 00:26:30,040
Speaker 1: Test, So, because you could probably tell by my voice

475
00:26:30,720 --> 00:26:33,720
Speaker 1: on the last go round, I passed.

476
00:26:34,200 --> 00:26:36,320
Speaker 3: I finally passed that thing.

477
00:26:37,359 --> 00:26:39,640
Speaker 2: Give it up for doamya. That's such a big deal.

478
00:26:39,680 --> 00:26:40,959
Speaker 2: I remember when you told me I think I sent

479
00:26:41,000 --> 00:26:42,600
Speaker 2: you a voice note. I was so excited for you.

480
00:26:43,080 --> 00:26:45,040
Speaker 2: I'm like, oh my gosh, DoD, we can now talk

481
00:26:45,080 --> 00:26:49,600
Speaker 2: about this other podcast. So exciting. So congratulations to you, Don.

482
00:26:49,760 --> 00:26:54,360
Speaker 3: That is just I know you were like poof, yes, yes, yes,

483
00:26:54,720 --> 00:26:55,399
Speaker 3: it's you know.

484
00:26:56,840 --> 00:27:01,920
Speaker 1: To be quite honest, it literally felt like a weight

485
00:27:02,160 --> 00:27:08,760
Speaker 1: was lifted, and my mind feels so much clearer. Yes,

486
00:27:09,359 --> 00:27:11,640
Speaker 1: I don't know if that necessarily makes like that, if

487
00:27:11,680 --> 00:27:14,840
Speaker 1: that makes sense and if people can really understand that feeling,

488
00:27:16,119 --> 00:27:19,080
Speaker 1: but my mind literally feels clearer.

489
00:27:19,160 --> 00:27:22,280
Speaker 3: It feels like I have more mental space.

490
00:27:23,720 --> 00:27:28,520
Speaker 1: For things that like that I've been doing, but I'm

491
00:27:28,720 --> 00:27:30,800
Speaker 1: doing them so much more clearly.

492
00:27:31,640 --> 00:27:37,240
Speaker 3: It's amazing. Just the light, just the ease that I

493
00:27:37,440 --> 00:27:38,040
Speaker 3: feel now.

494
00:27:38,920 --> 00:27:41,200
Speaker 2: I love it. But I'm so excited for you. And

495
00:27:41,280 --> 00:27:43,639
Speaker 2: I know that, lady, you're probably at home shouting and

496
00:27:43,760 --> 00:27:48,840
Speaker 2: clapping for dime. Thank you, yes, and that again, this

497
00:27:49,000 --> 00:27:52,119
Speaker 2: is something we talked about on day one, like okay,

498
00:27:52,440 --> 00:27:54,280
Speaker 2: we're going to talk about this one day, right, And

499
00:27:54,400 --> 00:27:56,960
Speaker 2: so as far as my journey I've actually talked about

500
00:27:57,000 --> 00:27:59,360
Speaker 2: it on the podcast, so it isn't something particularly new

501
00:28:00,080 --> 00:28:03,440
Speaker 2: our community, because we've done an episode about my fertility

502
00:28:03,600 --> 00:28:07,159
Speaker 2: journey and about motherhood and all that. And so just

503
00:28:07,240 --> 00:28:09,719
Speaker 2: to kind of give you if you're new to the podcast, like, well,

504
00:28:09,720 --> 00:28:11,560
Speaker 2: what you're talking about, girl, I'm gonna tell you a

505
00:28:11,600 --> 00:28:14,000
Speaker 2: little bit about my journey. And so for me, I

506
00:28:14,359 --> 00:28:17,160
Speaker 2: have been I was trying to get pregnant my husband

507
00:28:17,160 --> 00:28:19,159
Speaker 2: and I for about two and a half years or so.

508
00:28:20,040 --> 00:28:23,800
Speaker 2: And the crazy thing about it is for me, this journey,

509
00:28:24,520 --> 00:28:28,359
Speaker 2: it's been very interesting and it's so layered because, you know,

510
00:28:28,560 --> 00:28:30,840
Speaker 2: because of the upbringing that I had, you know, having

511
00:28:30,920 --> 00:28:33,200
Speaker 2: a mom that was in and out of jail and

512
00:28:33,760 --> 00:28:37,399
Speaker 2: losing my dad. When I was in college, I became

513
00:28:37,520 --> 00:28:39,800
Speaker 2: a mom to my siblings. I was a mother figure

514
00:28:39,880 --> 00:28:42,240
Speaker 2: for them for a long time, and so raising my

515
00:28:42,320 --> 00:28:45,800
Speaker 2: four younger siblings, you know, doing everything from like registering

516
00:28:45,840 --> 00:28:48,120
Speaker 2: them for school, you know, giving them money, getting them

517
00:28:48,160 --> 00:28:51,080
Speaker 2: ready for prom and stuff like that. And for me,

518
00:28:51,400 --> 00:28:54,400
Speaker 2: when it came to fertility and like me going, I

519
00:28:54,920 --> 00:28:56,680
Speaker 2: did it. I'm gonna use air quotes the right way.

520
00:28:56,720 --> 00:28:58,440
Speaker 2: I don't believe in the right way, but I'm just saying,

521
00:28:58,480 --> 00:29:00,560
Speaker 2: and as far as you know, society're like, go to school,

522
00:29:00,640 --> 00:29:03,120
Speaker 2: do this, get married, and then have kids, right, And

523
00:29:03,320 --> 00:29:05,280
Speaker 2: I'm just saying I did it. I kind of did

524
00:29:05,320 --> 00:29:07,920
Speaker 2: things that way because my siblings were I loved them

525
00:29:07,960 --> 00:29:10,720
Speaker 2: to pieces, but they were also the greatest birth control ever.

526
00:29:11,280 --> 00:29:13,280
Speaker 2: Growing up, I was like, Okay, we're not going to

527
00:29:13,400 --> 00:29:16,320
Speaker 2: have it in the kids doing that. I have my

528
00:29:16,400 --> 00:29:18,240
Speaker 2: own kids, right. They were like my four little kids,

529
00:29:18,280 --> 00:29:21,320
Speaker 2: and so for me, it was so mind boggling to

530
00:29:21,400 --> 00:29:24,840
Speaker 2: think that I didn't raised someone else's kids, right, was

531
00:29:24,920 --> 00:29:27,000
Speaker 2: my awe. I mean literally loved them like my own.

532
00:29:27,080 --> 00:29:28,640
Speaker 2: And now when I'm in a place where my husband

533
00:29:28,640 --> 00:29:30,600
Speaker 2: and I are trying to start a family, we have

534
00:29:30,920 --> 00:29:35,840
Speaker 2: what they call unexplained infertility. So for us, we tried

535
00:29:35,960 --> 00:29:38,640
Speaker 2: naturally for years and then finally it was at a

536
00:29:38,680 --> 00:29:42,000
Speaker 2: point where it's like, Okay, my biological clock is ticking, right,

537
00:29:42,080 --> 00:29:44,760
Speaker 2: I still feel young and all that, but I'm like,

538
00:29:44,960 --> 00:29:47,000
Speaker 2: you know, thirties knocking on the door, and so I'm like,

539
00:29:47,160 --> 00:29:50,080
Speaker 2: I the society says, you got to look into this.

540
00:29:50,160 --> 00:29:51,720
Speaker 2: So if this is important to us, I didn't want

541
00:29:51,720 --> 00:29:54,440
Speaker 2: to be, you know, a lot older when I had kids,

542
00:29:54,480 --> 00:29:56,400
Speaker 2: cause I envisioned having more than one child, and so

543
00:29:56,880 --> 00:29:59,520
Speaker 2: we began to look into fertility treatments and that was

544
00:29:59,560 --> 00:30:02,240
Speaker 2: like a whole other journey. So over the past couple

545
00:30:02,280 --> 00:30:07,719
Speaker 2: of years, going through six rounds of IUI, Lady, if

546
00:30:07,720 --> 00:30:10,200
Speaker 2: you're not familiar with IUI, definitely look that up. It's

547
00:30:10,600 --> 00:30:12,880
Speaker 2: not IVF, which is I want to say, the popular

548
00:30:12,880 --> 00:30:14,880
Speaker 2: I WANT that many people talk about, which is a

549
00:30:14,960 --> 00:30:17,320
Speaker 2: lot more expensive as well, But IUI is I want

550
00:30:17,360 --> 00:30:20,040
Speaker 2: to say, a less expensive option that basically sort of

551
00:30:20,080 --> 00:30:22,520
Speaker 2: gives you a boost in your pregnancy. And we did

552
00:30:22,560 --> 00:30:24,520
Speaker 2: an episode about this a couple of seasons ago, so

553
00:30:24,600 --> 00:30:26,360
Speaker 2: you have to look for that for more details. I

554
00:30:26,400 --> 00:30:28,640
Speaker 2: don't want to get too technical here, but I did

555
00:30:28,720 --> 00:30:32,920
Speaker 2: six rounds of AYUI and that included everything from sperm

556
00:30:33,080 --> 00:30:37,040
Speaker 2: samples and getting my fallopian tube fleshed out with all

557
00:30:37,080 --> 00:30:39,520
Speaker 2: part of the process to see there were any blockages,

558
00:30:40,160 --> 00:30:44,960
Speaker 2: administering shots in my tummy to help me ovulate, and

559
00:30:45,200 --> 00:30:47,200
Speaker 2: at this point I used to be very shy going

560
00:30:47,240 --> 00:30:48,920
Speaker 2: to the doctors, like when you know you have to

561
00:30:49,000 --> 00:30:51,200
Speaker 2: get past men and all that. At this point in

562
00:30:51,240 --> 00:30:53,600
Speaker 2: the journey, I'm like, open my leg, go ahead, do

563
00:30:53,680 --> 00:30:55,560
Speaker 2: what you gotta do because I've done it so much.

564
00:30:56,200 --> 00:30:59,520
Speaker 2: I go into this very uncomfortable process lady with like

565
00:30:59,600 --> 00:31:01,600
Speaker 2: a cat and putting stuff in me. It was just

566
00:31:01,680 --> 00:31:04,800
Speaker 2: a lot, okay, lots of hormones, all these things and

567
00:31:05,080 --> 00:31:07,920
Speaker 2: having a miscarriage in twenty nineteen and it was just

568
00:31:08,040 --> 00:31:11,000
Speaker 2: a rough ass journey out of tears.

569
00:31:12,360 --> 00:31:14,520
Speaker 1: Let's I don't mean to cut you off, but I'm

570
00:31:14,680 --> 00:31:18,520
Speaker 1: curious about so. And we've talked about the miscarriage on

571
00:31:18,600 --> 00:31:23,680
Speaker 1: your previous episode, but I'm curious about because you and

572
00:31:23,800 --> 00:31:29,120
Speaker 1: I had private conversations, yeah, about what that was like,

573
00:31:29,240 --> 00:31:31,880
Speaker 1: if you don't mind sharing with our audience of like

574
00:31:32,480 --> 00:31:36,720
Speaker 1: what that was like to what we've talked about is

575
00:31:36,760 --> 00:31:40,320
Speaker 1: like putting in the work right and then to not

576
00:31:40,600 --> 00:31:44,400
Speaker 1: see your vision come to fruition when.

577
00:31:44,320 --> 00:31:45,960
Speaker 2: You say putting in the workdown, I do want to

578
00:31:46,000 --> 00:31:47,920
Speaker 2: paint a picture on like what that also looked like

579
00:31:48,000 --> 00:31:49,479
Speaker 2: by the way of like me doing my own work.

580
00:31:49,520 --> 00:31:51,960
Speaker 2: Because I talk about the fertility stuff, but I mean

581
00:31:52,080 --> 00:31:55,560
Speaker 2: I was, I did all the things. I was doing acupuncture,

582
00:31:55,680 --> 00:31:59,200
Speaker 2: I tried reiki, I was in therapy. I was like, okay,

583
00:31:59,640 --> 00:32:01,600
Speaker 2: let me diving to this inner child stuff that I

584
00:32:01,680 --> 00:32:04,000
Speaker 2: thought I had healed from. So I started going into,

585
00:32:04,400 --> 00:32:06,480
Speaker 2: you know, deep things about my inner child and things

586
00:32:06,520 --> 00:32:10,160
Speaker 2: that I had experienced and healing that, processing additional things

587
00:32:10,200 --> 00:32:12,200
Speaker 2: with my relationship with my mom, which has been a

588
00:32:12,440 --> 00:32:17,640
Speaker 2: very tumultuous, tumultuous relationship but still isn't very clear or

589
00:32:17,680 --> 00:32:21,960
Speaker 2: resolve to date. Going through stuff with that also, I

590
00:32:22,000 --> 00:32:24,400
Speaker 2: mean just so much internal work. So what I did

591
00:32:24,480 --> 00:32:26,920
Speaker 2: down I did one thing that You've always recommended, is

592
00:32:27,000 --> 00:32:29,480
Speaker 2: like focus on what you can control. So it was

593
00:32:29,600 --> 00:32:31,840
Speaker 2: changing up my diet. I mean, I did all the things,

594
00:32:32,280 --> 00:32:34,040
Speaker 2: and even in the midst of doing all the things,

595
00:32:34,600 --> 00:32:36,840
Speaker 2: it felt like it still wasn't working. And on top

596
00:32:36,880 --> 00:32:39,120
Speaker 2: of that, my best friend was pregnant at the same

597
00:32:39,160 --> 00:32:43,440
Speaker 2: time I was pregnant when I had the miscarriage, right, yes, yeah,

598
00:32:43,600 --> 00:32:45,720
Speaker 2: I found that I was having a miscarriage. And after

599
00:32:45,800 --> 00:32:48,200
Speaker 2: I healed from that, I ended up going back home

600
00:32:48,360 --> 00:32:50,240
Speaker 2: to see her and her newborn, and I just wanted

601
00:32:50,240 --> 00:32:51,840
Speaker 2: that baby energy. I was like, I'm going to hold

602
00:32:51,880 --> 00:32:54,400
Speaker 2: your baby and love on your baby, and I'm going

603
00:32:54,480 --> 00:32:57,880
Speaker 2: to like, I'm literally manifesting my own baby by holding

604
00:32:57,920 --> 00:33:00,280
Speaker 2: your baby and visualizing. It was such a beautiful experience,

605
00:33:00,360 --> 00:33:03,160
Speaker 2: but we both had some very difficult conversations because it

606
00:33:03,280 --> 00:33:05,120
Speaker 2: was hard in the beginning when it was like, oh,

607
00:33:05,160 --> 00:33:07,640
Speaker 2: we're both pregnant together, and then it's like your pregnancy

608
00:33:07,760 --> 00:33:10,000
Speaker 2: is progressing and I'm finding out that I'm losing my baby.

609
00:33:10,480 --> 00:33:12,719
Speaker 2: That was that was hard. So I think as far

610
00:33:12,800 --> 00:33:15,720
Speaker 2: as keeping hope alive when you're trying to bring into fruition,

611
00:33:15,880 --> 00:33:18,160
Speaker 2: I had a lot of perspective shifts that I think

612
00:33:18,200 --> 00:33:20,560
Speaker 2: we're going to dive into next as far as manifestation.

613
00:33:21,320 --> 00:33:24,520
Speaker 2: So I think what kept me going down was this

614
00:33:24,680 --> 00:33:26,800
Speaker 2: vision that I have, Like I always envisioned myself. I

615
00:33:26,840 --> 00:33:29,240
Speaker 2: was one of those girly little girls. It's like, I'm

616
00:33:29,280 --> 00:33:31,320
Speaker 2: gonna have kids one day. I love children.

617
00:33:31,840 --> 00:33:32,480
Speaker 1: I have a.

618
00:33:32,600 --> 00:33:36,120
Speaker 2: Mother's instinct based on my upbringing and like I'm a mommy.

619
00:33:36,240 --> 00:33:39,160
Speaker 2: Like that's you know what I mean, Like that's that

620
00:33:39,280 --> 00:33:42,000
Speaker 2: is my identity and I love that. And so for me,

621
00:33:42,120 --> 00:33:43,720
Speaker 2: it was like, oh, I'm not letting this go. We

622
00:33:43,800 --> 00:33:45,680
Speaker 2: done went through six rounds of value I, which are

623
00:33:45,760 --> 00:33:49,160
Speaker 2: very expensive, and I didn't done all this research on

624
00:33:49,440 --> 00:33:52,080
Speaker 2: you know, just different ways that I can heal myself

625
00:33:52,120 --> 00:33:54,120
Speaker 2: and my body and all that. And so for me,

626
00:33:54,200 --> 00:33:55,640
Speaker 2: it was like Okay, we're going to keep on going.

627
00:33:55,760 --> 00:33:58,560
Speaker 2: And then our plan was to if we try to,

628
00:33:58,800 --> 00:34:00,400
Speaker 2: I was like, I got a couple more around value.

629
00:34:00,440 --> 00:34:02,400
Speaker 2: I am if that doesn't work out, we were going

630
00:34:02,480 --> 00:34:04,080
Speaker 2: to move to IVF, which is the one that's like

631
00:34:04,120 --> 00:34:06,040
Speaker 2: twenty thousand dollars, and we was going to figure out

632
00:34:06,080 --> 00:34:08,360
Speaker 2: how to get the money because insurance don't cover that

633
00:34:08,520 --> 00:34:10,680
Speaker 2: out here in CA. And we were going to move

634
00:34:10,680 --> 00:34:13,520
Speaker 2: forward because we really we envisioned, like we're parents, we

635
00:34:13,680 --> 00:34:15,840
Speaker 2: envisioned this and we're at the stage in life and

636
00:34:15,960 --> 00:34:20,120
Speaker 2: so for me, don this this last round that was

637
00:34:20,280 --> 00:34:23,359
Speaker 2: back and I want to say it was a few

638
00:34:23,400 --> 00:34:25,960
Speaker 2: months ago. I can't remember when at this point, but

639
00:34:26,040 --> 00:34:30,400
Speaker 2: this last round it's funny because it was around Vui

640
00:34:30,560 --> 00:34:33,239
Speaker 2: where they were saying that like things were kind of

641
00:34:33,280 --> 00:34:35,600
Speaker 2: looking a little low as far as like certain you

642
00:34:35,719 --> 00:34:37,839
Speaker 2: see certain things they needed to be at a certain level,

643
00:34:38,360 --> 00:34:39,920
Speaker 2: and it was a it was actually one of the

644
00:34:40,000 --> 00:34:44,200
Speaker 2: more painful experiences. And so after that I was like, okay,

645
00:34:44,880 --> 00:34:46,960
Speaker 2: I didn't tell anyone the news they shared with me.

646
00:34:47,000 --> 00:34:48,800
Speaker 2: I was like, you know what, I'm just going to

647
00:34:48,880 --> 00:34:52,360
Speaker 2: hold for the vision that I have and see what happens.

648
00:34:52,880 --> 00:34:58,200
Speaker 2: And I end up finding out that I am pregnant. Yay, yay, yay,

649
00:34:58,840 --> 00:35:02,879
Speaker 2: congratulations time and I'm passing the first time.

650
00:35:02,960 --> 00:35:04,480
Speaker 3: That's yeah, period.

651
00:35:04,840 --> 00:35:07,560
Speaker 2: Baby is growing, the heartbeat is there, baby is just

652
00:35:07,760 --> 00:35:11,920
Speaker 2: moving all around. And so yes, twenty one our Hearst

653
00:35:11,920 --> 00:35:13,359
Speaker 2: Space podcast, baby is coming.

654
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Speaker 1: Yes, I am so excited for you. And I think,

655
00:35:18,520 --> 00:35:22,160
Speaker 1: you know, one of the things that is like is important.

656
00:35:22,200 --> 00:35:25,960
Speaker 1: It's like that we mentioned earlier is that we have

657
00:35:26,120 --> 00:35:28,239
Speaker 1: been in such a big support for one another through

658
00:35:28,320 --> 00:35:31,120
Speaker 1: all of them, through our personal things that we were

659
00:35:31,160 --> 00:35:38,720
Speaker 1: going through. And to see that it came to truition

660
00:35:39,000 --> 00:35:42,600
Speaker 1: for both of us around the same time, to me,

661
00:35:42,719 --> 00:35:44,319
Speaker 1: that's bigger than just a coincidence.

662
00:35:44,800 --> 00:35:44,960
Speaker 2: Right.

663
00:35:45,880 --> 00:35:48,360
Speaker 1: And you know, one of my other phrases outside of

664
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Speaker 1: focus on what you can control, is trust the process, right.

665
00:35:53,000 --> 00:35:56,360
Speaker 1: And I think about the importance of the people you

666
00:35:56,520 --> 00:36:01,279
Speaker 1: have in your life and people being in your life

667
00:36:01,320 --> 00:36:03,879
Speaker 1: for certain parts of your journey, but maybe not all

668
00:36:03,960 --> 00:36:08,680
Speaker 1: of your journey. Yes, And you know, as we think

669
00:36:08,760 --> 00:36:14,160
Speaker 1: about like planning and manifesting, like we still truly have

670
00:36:14,280 --> 00:36:20,160
Speaker 1: no idea where this podcast is going, but I wholeheartedly

671
00:36:20,360 --> 00:36:23,800
Speaker 1: believe that we were meant to be on this journey together.

672
00:36:24,000 --> 00:36:27,960
Speaker 1: Not just for the podcast, but for our individual growth.

673
00:36:28,800 --> 00:36:31,800
Speaker 2: Absolutely, and Dom, like you said when you were sharing,

674
00:36:31,920 --> 00:36:34,239
Speaker 2: like you have been such an instrumental part and my

675
00:36:34,400 --> 00:36:36,640
Speaker 2: journey as well with all the stuff behind the scenes

676
00:36:36,680 --> 00:36:38,799
Speaker 2: that be happening. And I'm like, girl, let me tell

677
00:36:39,000 --> 00:36:42,440
Speaker 2: you what had happened. Okay, So as far as you

678
00:36:42,600 --> 00:36:45,839
Speaker 2: sending the baby gifts, like right away, y'all? I done

679
00:36:45,920 --> 00:36:48,879
Speaker 2: told Dom one day, I was like, yeah, you know, yeah,

680
00:36:48,960 --> 00:36:51,040
Speaker 2: got the news sending her by baby bump pictures and

681
00:36:51,160 --> 00:36:52,880
Speaker 2: if you have not went to our instagram, go to

682
00:36:52,920 --> 00:36:56,120
Speaker 2: our instagram so you can see my baby bump. For yes,

683
00:36:56,520 --> 00:36:58,719
Speaker 2: it was a little while ago, but the Halloween costumes.

684
00:36:58,800 --> 00:37:01,480
Speaker 2: I dressed up a Nickumuen and you got to go

685
00:37:01,560 --> 00:37:03,239
Speaker 2: look at that stuff. So thank you for those that

686
00:37:03,320 --> 00:37:06,960
Speaker 2: have commented. But Dom literally the next day mailed the

687
00:37:07,040 --> 00:37:09,680
Speaker 2: baby some stuff and I was like, Domb, thank you,

688
00:37:09,800 --> 00:37:11,520
Speaker 2: this is so sweet. She's literally she was on it.

689
00:37:11,640 --> 00:37:13,440
Speaker 2: So yes, Dom, you in addition to that, you've just

690
00:37:13,480 --> 00:37:16,360
Speaker 2: been a great support. And when it comes to this

691
00:37:16,480 --> 00:37:20,799
Speaker 2: conversation around manifestation, I know for me personally, this has

692
00:37:20,880 --> 00:37:23,680
Speaker 2: been something that has been in my psyching on my

693
00:37:23,800 --> 00:37:27,239
Speaker 2: mind since I was like either in high school or college,

694
00:37:27,280 --> 00:37:29,040
Speaker 2: when I was introduced to the secret, right, many of

695
00:37:29,120 --> 00:37:31,080
Speaker 2: us have heard of the secret and the law of attraction.

696
00:37:31,520 --> 00:37:33,040
Speaker 2: That's when it was first of my radar, and I

697
00:37:33,160 --> 00:37:36,000
Speaker 2: was making vision boards and doing all these things, and like, oh,

698
00:37:36,040 --> 00:37:37,759
Speaker 2: I got to work really hard to make my vision

699
00:37:37,800 --> 00:37:40,319
Speaker 2: come to truition and a lot of the visions did come.

700
00:37:40,440 --> 00:37:43,000
Speaker 2: It took a lot of time. But I think my

701
00:37:43,160 --> 00:37:48,640
Speaker 2: perspective on manifestation is shifting drastically, especially when I think

702
00:37:48,680 --> 00:37:51,719
Speaker 2: about one, what we've done with the podcast, because we

703
00:37:51,840 --> 00:37:54,680
Speaker 2: were manifesting, we were manifesting stuff here, right. And then

704
00:37:54,680 --> 00:37:58,200
Speaker 2: I also think about this journey with motherhood and manifesting

705
00:37:58,239 --> 00:38:02,520
Speaker 2: my baby, and that has been it's so crazy because

706
00:38:02,560 --> 00:38:04,440
Speaker 2: it's been a whole process of like letting go. And

707
00:38:04,480 --> 00:38:05,880
Speaker 2: I guess the question would be, well, how do you

708
00:38:06,000 --> 00:38:10,040
Speaker 2: let go of something that you really want? That sounds counterintuitive, right,

709
00:38:10,480 --> 00:38:14,200
Speaker 2: but it's so, But it's not so when you hear manifestation,

710
00:38:14,360 --> 00:38:16,840
Speaker 2: dom what is your experience with that? What does it

711
00:38:16,920 --> 00:38:18,480
Speaker 2: mean to you? And let's just let's just.

712
00:38:18,560 --> 00:38:19,120
Speaker 3: Dive on in.

713
00:38:20,200 --> 00:38:24,040
Speaker 1: So for me, I am not as well versed in

714
00:38:24,400 --> 00:38:28,320
Speaker 1: manifestation right as a psychologist like what I'm versed in

715
00:38:28,800 --> 00:38:33,200
Speaker 1: is how to adjust your thinking, which I'm learning is

716
00:38:33,239 --> 00:38:37,400
Speaker 1: a part of manifesting, right, but not necessarily calling it

717
00:38:37,520 --> 00:38:40,879
Speaker 1: that from my perspective. And there may be some psychologists

718
00:38:40,880 --> 00:38:43,920
Speaker 1: out there that do focus a lot on manifestation and

719
00:38:43,960 --> 00:38:47,120
Speaker 1: maybe use that language, But for me, it was more

720
00:38:47,239 --> 00:38:55,360
Speaker 1: about engaging in mindfulness, so being intentional about the things

721
00:38:55,440 --> 00:38:59,000
Speaker 1: that you are focusing on, the things, the.

722
00:38:59,080 --> 00:39:03,160
Speaker 3: Behaviors that you are engaging in. Right.

723
00:39:04,200 --> 00:39:07,120
Speaker 1: But I will say that this time around with this exam,

724
00:39:08,000 --> 00:39:10,279
Speaker 1: one of the things that had to shift for me

725
00:39:11,360 --> 00:39:17,200
Speaker 1: was my overall thinking. So and so for me, ad

726
00:39:17,280 --> 00:39:23,440
Speaker 1: meant I had to truly focus on being confident because

727
00:39:23,480 --> 00:39:25,880
Speaker 1: a lot of when it comes to taking this this

728
00:39:26,080 --> 00:39:31,279
Speaker 1: particular exam, it requires a level of confidence because the

729
00:39:31,480 --> 00:39:36,440
Speaker 1: questions will If you are not confident, those questions will

730
00:39:36,480 --> 00:39:40,440
Speaker 1: trick you up. Like there are multiple times that I,

731
00:39:40,960 --> 00:39:46,080
Speaker 1: like in previous attempts on taking the exam, walking in there.

732
00:39:46,719 --> 00:39:50,920
Speaker 3: And after the first couple of questions, looking.

733
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Speaker 1: At it and like what the fuck, Like I'm not

734
00:39:53,760 --> 00:39:56,040
Speaker 1: going to pass this, Like this is too damn hard,

735
00:39:56,840 --> 00:40:01,239
Speaker 1: and that thought seeping into my my psyche, seeping into

736
00:40:01,360 --> 00:40:06,200
Speaker 1: my a level of consciousness causing me to second guess

737
00:40:07,600 --> 00:40:11,360
Speaker 1: things that I know that I knew right, and so

738
00:40:11,480 --> 00:40:14,160
Speaker 1: I think so for this time around, it truly was

739
00:40:14,239 --> 00:40:19,960
Speaker 1: about me focusing on being confident and being positive and

740
00:40:20,239 --> 00:40:24,600
Speaker 1: having to like set boundaries and say, right now, for

741
00:40:24,800 --> 00:40:29,680
Speaker 1: this time period, I can't hear anything negative because I

742
00:40:29,880 --> 00:40:34,399
Speaker 1: know how sensitive I am to it, and so paying

743
00:40:34,480 --> 00:40:38,960
Speaker 1: attention to really like cultivating in the space around me

744
00:40:39,120 --> 00:40:44,160
Speaker 1: what I needed now. I will also add that in

745
00:40:44,239 --> 00:40:48,080
Speaker 1: addition to having like a study partner, I had an

746
00:40:48,160 --> 00:40:51,120
Speaker 1: exam coach who I was meeting with on a weekly basis.

747
00:40:51,600 --> 00:40:54,800
Speaker 1: I had my therapist who I was meeting with to

748
00:40:55,160 --> 00:40:59,080
Speaker 1: address not necessarily exam related things, but things in my

749
00:40:59,239 --> 00:41:02,360
Speaker 1: personal life that may have been affecting my ability.

750
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Speaker 3: To focus on the exam.

751
00:41:03,840 --> 00:41:10,680
Speaker 1: Yes, I also met with an executive coach, right so Pharah,

752
00:41:10,760 --> 00:41:14,640
Speaker 1: who we've had on the show in a previous episode,

753
00:41:14,800 --> 00:41:16,839
Speaker 1: like she and I were working together at the time

754
00:41:16,960 --> 00:41:20,920
Speaker 1: that she appeared on my show. And then again also

755
00:41:21,239 --> 00:41:25,040
Speaker 1: having a support system that was pouring into me, and

756
00:41:25,200 --> 00:41:27,120
Speaker 1: so I had and so one of the things that

757
00:41:27,239 --> 00:41:32,080
Speaker 1: I did was I created this poster and I have

758
00:41:32,320 --> 00:41:35,120
Speaker 1: my and it's still actually it's still hanging up. My

759
00:41:35,760 --> 00:41:40,000
Speaker 1: living space was covered in study chart paper, like covered

760
00:41:40,200 --> 00:41:41,040
Speaker 1: like you would have sworn.

761
00:41:41,120 --> 00:41:45,040
Speaker 3: That's how I chose to decorate. Like it was intense rightwhere.

762
00:41:45,440 --> 00:41:48,560
Speaker 1: But having to see those study charts was helpful. But

763
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Speaker 1: I also created a chart paper with my name at

764
00:41:52,080 --> 00:41:55,040
Speaker 1: the top. I have a positive phrase up there, and

765
00:41:55,160 --> 00:41:58,680
Speaker 1: then I have like three descriptors of like who I

766
00:41:58,760 --> 00:42:03,400
Speaker 1: am professionally, and then I also have licensed psychologists up

767
00:42:03,440 --> 00:42:06,360
Speaker 1: there and so for me and I have it in

768
00:42:06,480 --> 00:42:08,600
Speaker 1: my bedroom because that so then that's something that I

769
00:42:08,880 --> 00:42:14,360
Speaker 1: literally see every night before I close my eyes and

770
00:42:14,560 --> 00:42:16,640
Speaker 1: every morning when I first wake up.

771
00:42:17,480 --> 00:42:19,480
Speaker 2: Girl, you're talking about something you're not well versed in.

772
00:42:19,560 --> 00:42:19,600
Speaker 5: This.

773
00:42:19,719 --> 00:42:23,439
Speaker 2: This is manifestation. You're bringing something that's not tangible into

774
00:42:23,480 --> 00:42:27,840
Speaker 2: your life through your belief system and your thinking and mindfulness.

775
00:42:27,880 --> 00:42:30,200
Speaker 2: So I think it's sometimes the wording might be different,

776
00:42:30,239 --> 00:42:32,440
Speaker 2: but that is literally it and that is so powerful.

777
00:42:32,520 --> 00:42:36,160
Speaker 2: Don Like you talked about focusing on what you can control,

778
00:42:36,280 --> 00:42:39,520
Speaker 2: so you've got your army of advocates or your you know,

779
00:42:39,640 --> 00:42:41,560
Speaker 2: system of support around you. And then it goes back

780
00:42:41,560 --> 00:42:43,960
Speaker 2: to our quote, what were you planning? And you said

781
00:42:44,000 --> 00:42:45,640
Speaker 2: that you were planning in your mind when you went

782
00:42:45,680 --> 00:42:48,239
Speaker 2: to those other tests like oh, Dan, this question and

783
00:42:48,320 --> 00:42:50,480
Speaker 2: then you start focusing on something else, and what we

784
00:42:50,560 --> 00:42:53,440
Speaker 2: focus on grows right. And so I feel like, for me,

785
00:42:53,920 --> 00:42:57,040
Speaker 2: when it comes to the manifestation aspect, I was one

786
00:42:57,520 --> 00:42:59,200
Speaker 2: being of a couple. Let's just dive right into it,

787
00:42:59,320 --> 00:43:01,239
Speaker 2: being of a cover in control free right.

788
00:43:02,000 --> 00:43:03,880
Speaker 3: I love how you say that recovery.

789
00:43:03,920 --> 00:43:07,200
Speaker 2: We're always recover recovering perfectionists, recovering control free because we're

790
00:43:07,840 --> 00:43:10,880
Speaker 2: we're in recovery right now, letting go of control and

791
00:43:10,960 --> 00:43:13,239
Speaker 2: stop forcing. And one thing my therapist said to me,

792
00:43:14,120 --> 00:43:16,360
Speaker 2: oh that I wasn't a fan of, but I was like, okay,

793
00:43:16,640 --> 00:43:19,000
Speaker 2: I guess this is true. She was saying, you know,

794
00:43:19,560 --> 00:43:21,160
Speaker 2: what is the end goal in this journey?

795
00:43:21,200 --> 00:43:22,320
Speaker 3: I was like, my healthy baby.

796
00:43:22,920 --> 00:43:24,960
Speaker 2: And then she said, okay, so it may you may

797
00:43:25,040 --> 00:43:28,000
Speaker 2: not get there the way that you envisioned, but the

798
00:43:28,160 --> 00:43:30,640
Speaker 2: goal is the goal. And for me, I was like,

799
00:43:30,719 --> 00:43:32,120
Speaker 2: I don't want to hear that shit because I wanted

800
00:43:32,160 --> 00:43:34,640
Speaker 2: my baby to be natural and this and that, and

801
00:43:34,719 --> 00:43:37,440
Speaker 2: so I had to really let go of what does

802
00:43:37,480 --> 00:43:40,400
Speaker 2: it look like, trust the process, let go of what

803
00:43:40,560 --> 00:43:45,240
Speaker 2: it looks like, and be open to how the universe

804
00:43:45,600 --> 00:43:47,440
Speaker 2: is trying to give it to me, because if you're

805
00:43:47,480 --> 00:43:50,360
Speaker 2: closed off, then we're closing off on the blessing. Because

806
00:43:50,600 --> 00:43:52,200
Speaker 2: now that I look at it, Dom and they say,

807
00:43:52,280 --> 00:43:54,400
Speaker 2: hindsight is twenty twenty, right, I look at it, and

808
00:43:54,440 --> 00:43:56,080
Speaker 2: I look at this past year and all the people

809
00:43:56,120 --> 00:43:58,200
Speaker 2: that I've been able to I want to say, minister

810
00:43:58,320 --> 00:44:00,640
Speaker 2: to and help as it relates to. And that was

811
00:44:00,719 --> 00:44:02,480
Speaker 2: never something I thought I'd have to struggle with in

812
00:44:02,560 --> 00:44:04,440
Speaker 2: my journey, but I've been able to talk about it

813
00:44:04,520 --> 00:44:07,800
Speaker 2: on the podcast, be very open and transparent about this journey.

814
00:44:08,000 --> 00:44:09,759
Speaker 2: And I remember at parts of the journey, I was

815
00:44:09,840 --> 00:44:11,480
Speaker 2: just like, I don't want to be God, Damn, I'm

816
00:44:11,520 --> 00:44:14,360
Speaker 2: the spokesperson for all kinds of other trauma and abuse,

817
00:44:14,440 --> 00:44:16,200
Speaker 2: and goddamn do I got to be a spokesperson for

818
00:44:16,280 --> 00:44:16,600
Speaker 2: this too.

819
00:44:17,280 --> 00:44:21,440
Speaker 3: But you know that may be mm hm who you

820
00:44:21,680 --> 00:44:23,000
Speaker 3: are in life, right.

821
00:44:23,080 --> 00:44:25,560
Speaker 2: That may be yeah, And that's what I embraced. I

822
00:44:25,680 --> 00:44:26,960
Speaker 2: was like, you know what, well, if this is where

823
00:44:26,960 --> 00:44:29,200
Speaker 2: we are, let's go ahead and do it. So we

824
00:44:29,280 --> 00:44:30,920
Speaker 2: talked about it on the podcast, I did a few

825
00:44:30,960 --> 00:44:33,920
Speaker 2: other interviews, and then for me, the biggest shift that

826
00:44:33,960 --> 00:44:36,200
Speaker 2: I had this year, and this is like our tip

827
00:44:36,280 --> 00:44:39,840
Speaker 2: Number one, I guess you could say is begin to

828
00:44:40,440 --> 00:44:46,440
Speaker 2: feel how you feel when you manifest what you want,

829
00:44:46,640 --> 00:44:50,520
Speaker 2: so kind of moving into the future and feeling the

830
00:44:50,640 --> 00:44:54,120
Speaker 2: feelings in advance. And so I have a mantra that

831
00:44:54,200 --> 00:44:55,839
Speaker 2: I'm working on because I have something else I'm trying

832
00:44:55,880 --> 00:44:58,839
Speaker 2: to manifest. And this has been Even though you can

833
00:44:58,920 --> 00:45:01,720
Speaker 2: know the principles, sometimes in our mind we check ourselves

834
00:45:01,800 --> 00:45:03,480
Speaker 2: up and tell ourselves, oh, this is such a big

835
00:45:03,600 --> 00:45:05,920
Speaker 2: thing and the biggest relative, right. And so when we

836
00:45:06,000 --> 00:45:07,719
Speaker 2: tell ourselves, oh, this is a big thing, that's some

837
00:45:07,840 --> 00:45:10,520
Speaker 2: resistance right there. We're telling ourselves that it's big, it's

838
00:45:10,560 --> 00:45:12,319
Speaker 2: going to be hard when it's not the case, right,

839
00:45:12,360 --> 00:45:14,960
Speaker 2: because everything is available to us, and we live in

840
00:45:14,960 --> 00:45:17,719
Speaker 2: an abundant universe, so all the options are here. It's

841
00:45:17,800 --> 00:45:20,279
Speaker 2: just a matter of it has to start in the

842
00:45:20,360 --> 00:45:24,440
Speaker 2: spiritual realm, right, because what's above is below. And so

843
00:45:24,600 --> 00:45:26,719
Speaker 2: I think that for us. When you think about inventions,

844
00:45:26,920 --> 00:45:28,759
Speaker 2: who may the iPhone steed jobs?

845
00:45:28,840 --> 00:45:28,960
Speaker 5: Right?

846
00:45:29,239 --> 00:45:30,759
Speaker 2: I get him in Okay, I get me.

847
00:45:32,120 --> 00:45:35,840
Speaker 3: Yeah, seed jobs. I mean, okay, technically technically there's a

848
00:45:35,840 --> 00:45:38,640
Speaker 3: little okay, but you that did it?

849
00:45:38,880 --> 00:45:42,680
Speaker 2: But right, But when someone comes up with an invention,

850
00:45:43,120 --> 00:45:44,800
Speaker 2: it starts seeing your mind first and then you have

851
00:45:44,880 --> 00:45:47,239
Speaker 2: to bring it to fruition. And so the mantra that

852
00:45:47,360 --> 00:45:49,480
Speaker 2: I am literally I read this every day. I started

853
00:45:49,520 --> 00:45:52,759
Speaker 2: this week. Dom My mantra is I am aligned with

854
00:45:52,960 --> 00:45:59,320
Speaker 2: my inevitable outcome. Because I'm aligned with my inevitable outcome,

855
00:45:59,760 --> 00:46:05,720
Speaker 2: letting me know that this outcome that I am manifesting,

856
00:46:06,040 --> 00:46:08,520
Speaker 2: it's here, it's available to me, and it's inevitable, and

857
00:46:08,600 --> 00:46:10,719
Speaker 2: I'm aligned with that. So one of the things that

858
00:46:10,800 --> 00:46:12,320
Speaker 2: I do when I read my full manchur in the

859
00:46:12,400 --> 00:46:15,640
Speaker 2: morning after I read it, I close my eyes and

860
00:46:15,760 --> 00:46:18,239
Speaker 2: I sit and I feel all of the feelings of

861
00:46:18,400 --> 00:46:20,959
Speaker 2: having achieved it, and I sit with that feeling because

862
00:46:21,000 --> 00:46:23,120
Speaker 2: what we focus on growth. If I keep focusing on

863
00:46:23,560 --> 00:46:25,320
Speaker 2: I gotta work hard. I gotta go achieve it. I

864
00:46:25,360 --> 00:46:27,360
Speaker 2: gotta I gotta get pregnant, I gotta do this, I

865
00:46:27,400 --> 00:46:30,320
Speaker 2: gotta do that. What the universe is picking up on

866
00:46:30,560 --> 00:46:32,279
Speaker 2: is my resistance and the fact that I do not

867
00:46:32,440 --> 00:46:34,840
Speaker 2: have it. So what I started doing, in addition to

868
00:46:34,880 --> 00:46:38,240
Speaker 2: all the other personal work, I started taking spiritual bags.

869
00:46:38,640 --> 00:46:40,680
Speaker 2: And before I was even pregnant, I started talking to

870
00:46:40,760 --> 00:46:43,560
Speaker 2: my baby. I started baby wasn't even in my tummy.

871
00:46:43,560 --> 00:46:45,000
Speaker 2: I was talking to my baby. I was just like

872
00:46:45,400 --> 00:46:49,360
Speaker 2: thinking about man motherhod feels so great. I also a

873
00:46:49,440 --> 00:46:52,719
Speaker 2: couple of years ago, we got an automan, and I

874
00:46:53,040 --> 00:46:56,520
Speaker 2: decided to get a soft automan that opens up. It's

875
00:46:56,600 --> 00:46:58,920
Speaker 2: not like a hard like coffee table for the living room.

876
00:46:58,960 --> 00:46:59,880
Speaker 3: Myself, like a long.

877
00:46:59,719 --> 00:47:02,320
Speaker 2: Baby is, you know, little, and the babies that climbing

878
00:47:02,320 --> 00:47:03,600
Speaker 2: around the living room, I don't want them to like

879
00:47:03,719 --> 00:47:07,200
Speaker 2: hurt themselves on the sharp edges. So sometimes when you're manifesting,

880
00:47:07,239 --> 00:47:09,000
Speaker 2: you look crazy. People will be like, girl with that

881
00:47:09,040 --> 00:47:11,160
Speaker 2: baby not here, but guess what, my baby is here

882
00:47:11,280 --> 00:47:13,719
Speaker 2: and it's on the way. Okay, a baby's on the

883
00:47:13,760 --> 00:47:14,239
Speaker 2: way right.

884
00:47:14,400 --> 00:47:15,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, So that I.

885
00:47:15,440 --> 00:47:18,279
Speaker 2: Started buying little baby things here and there, like this

886
00:47:18,440 --> 00:47:20,960
Speaker 2: little thing that says take your shoes off when you

887
00:47:21,040 --> 00:47:22,759
Speaker 2: come in the house because we got a little won

888
00:47:22,840 --> 00:47:25,759
Speaker 2: or some stuff like that. But feeling the feeling of

889
00:47:25,920 --> 00:47:27,240
Speaker 2: having achieved it already.

890
00:47:28,000 --> 00:47:31,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, what do you think, domb, I'm with it, Like

891
00:47:31,080 --> 00:47:34,359
Speaker 1: I think about ways in which yeah, like, lady, as

892
00:47:34,360 --> 00:47:41,000
Speaker 1: you're listening, like, even if you haven't identified it as manifestation,

893
00:47:41,480 --> 00:47:45,319
Speaker 1: I'm sure there are ways in which you have been

894
00:47:46,360 --> 00:47:51,920
Speaker 1: manifesting by engaging in the feelings and the behaviors, like

895
00:47:52,040 --> 00:47:55,759
Speaker 1: the acting as if that's what it's called acting as this,

896
00:47:57,320 --> 00:48:02,719
Speaker 1: So you are behaving as if this thing is already here,

897
00:48:03,960 --> 00:48:09,839
Speaker 1: this goal has already manifested. Yeah, And like you said,

898
00:48:09,920 --> 00:48:12,960
Speaker 1: when you by engaging in that behavior, what that does

899
00:48:13,120 --> 00:48:17,160
Speaker 1: is that seeps into your subconscious which will then as

900
00:48:17,360 --> 00:48:23,280
Speaker 1: influencing your thought process, but then it's also influencing your behavior.

901
00:48:24,719 --> 00:48:24,919
Speaker 3: Yes.

902
00:48:26,040 --> 00:48:28,400
Speaker 2: So honestly, I feel like tip number one would be

903
00:48:28,480 --> 00:48:30,440
Speaker 2: let go of control, and I feel like number two

904
00:48:30,640 --> 00:48:33,719
Speaker 2: would be act as if right. I feel number three

905
00:48:34,280 --> 00:48:37,040
Speaker 2: would be be patient, And like, what does it mean

906
00:48:37,080 --> 00:48:39,080
Speaker 2: to be patient? Well, I mean we've been very patient

907
00:48:39,120 --> 00:48:40,800
Speaker 2: on the ole. I mean I haven't been patient the

908
00:48:40,840 --> 00:48:46,160
Speaker 2: whole journey, but being patient, being patient, just realizing that

909
00:48:47,040 --> 00:48:49,040
Speaker 2: it's coming exactly when you need it. And dom I

910
00:48:49,120 --> 00:48:51,240
Speaker 2: think about you know something you said about the pandemic

911
00:48:51,680 --> 00:48:53,839
Speaker 2: and how to stay at home mandate. Yes, it has

912
00:48:53,880 --> 00:48:56,640
Speaker 2: been a tough year for many of us, and the

913
00:48:56,760 --> 00:48:58,840
Speaker 2: pandemic and the stay at home mandate. It slowed me

914
00:48:58,880 --> 00:49:01,320
Speaker 2: down a lot too, because I was going, I was hustling,

915
00:49:01,320 --> 00:49:04,200
Speaker 2: I was moving, I was on flights a couple times

916
00:49:04,239 --> 00:49:05,880
Speaker 2: every month. I mean, I was so busy and I

917
00:49:06,000 --> 00:49:07,759
Speaker 2: was moving, and I was doing that in the myths

918
00:49:07,840 --> 00:49:10,719
Speaker 2: of fertility treatments, like I remember having to change like

919
00:49:10,840 --> 00:49:13,279
Speaker 2: a flight, get a fertility treatment, and then fly to

920
00:49:13,360 --> 00:49:15,640
Speaker 2: New York for work, and it was just so busy.

921
00:49:15,719 --> 00:49:19,360
Speaker 2: And so I feel like being at home gave me

922
00:49:19,480 --> 00:49:22,960
Speaker 2: time to rest, to be still, like you said, and

923
00:49:23,080 --> 00:49:26,399
Speaker 2: it presented me with the best time I could ever

924
00:49:26,840 --> 00:49:29,759
Speaker 2: thought of, really to be pregnant, because morning sickness and

925
00:49:29,800 --> 00:49:32,680
Speaker 2: that first timester was so rough and I couldn't imagine

926
00:49:32,680 --> 00:49:35,080
Speaker 2: actually being in the office having to be there and

927
00:49:35,160 --> 00:49:37,880
Speaker 2: not being able to, you know, throw up in the

928
00:49:37,920 --> 00:49:40,360
Speaker 2: comfort of my own home or type naps throughout the

929
00:49:40,400 --> 00:49:41,840
Speaker 2: day when I need to and just kind of like

930
00:49:42,160 --> 00:49:44,160
Speaker 2: have this flexible schedule. And I look back and I

931
00:49:44,280 --> 00:49:46,800
Speaker 2: remember thinking, sometimes we got to like put ourselves on

932
00:49:46,920 --> 00:49:48,960
Speaker 2: pause when I say be patient, because in my mind,

933
00:49:49,000 --> 00:49:51,000
Speaker 2: I kept thinking, oh, I want to have a twenty

934
00:49:51,040 --> 00:49:53,120
Speaker 2: twenty baby. Let me just tell your house house. Sometimes

935
00:49:53,200 --> 00:49:54,799
Speaker 2: we just don't make no sense. A sorry, I want

936
00:49:54,840 --> 00:49:57,279
Speaker 2: to have my baby in twenty twenty, because twenty twenty

937
00:49:57,360 --> 00:49:59,080
Speaker 2: is like a cool year. It's like twenty twenty twenty,

938
00:49:59,120 --> 00:50:00,920
Speaker 2: the year of vision. How dope would it be for

939
00:50:00,960 --> 00:50:02,640
Speaker 2: my baby's birthday to be in twenty twenty and to

940
00:50:02,680 --> 00:50:04,120
Speaker 2: be able to say that, why does that matter?

941
00:50:04,360 --> 00:50:06,840
Speaker 3: Why don't know?

942
00:50:07,080 --> 00:50:07,680
Speaker 2: That's not what it?

943
00:50:07,880 --> 00:50:11,800
Speaker 1: No, it don't matter, no, like what exactly? And I

944
00:50:11,840 --> 00:50:17,440
Speaker 1: think that goes back to here's another tip. Be realistic, right,

945
00:50:18,040 --> 00:50:23,719
Speaker 1: be optimistically realistic. Ooh and so to me, what that

946
00:50:24,080 --> 00:50:29,359
Speaker 1: means is, Okay, you have this vision in mind. Part

947
00:50:29,400 --> 00:50:34,919
Speaker 1: of trusting that process is not putting specific time constraints

948
00:50:35,000 --> 00:50:39,719
Speaker 1: on things, right, or not putting specific details in there.

949
00:50:40,360 --> 00:50:47,120
Speaker 1: So us saying we want the podcast to have an

950
00:50:47,200 --> 00:50:53,759
Speaker 1: impact and grow, right, that doesn't necessarily mean that we

951
00:50:54,040 --> 00:50:57,799
Speaker 1: wanted to hit or we had in mind we had

952
00:50:58,000 --> 00:51:02,800
Speaker 1: to hit one million downs, right, but we knew we

953
00:51:02,960 --> 00:51:05,600
Speaker 1: wanted to have an impact. So then no matter what

954
00:51:05,920 --> 00:51:09,600
Speaker 1: number we hit, and we're still achieving the goal we

955
00:51:09,760 --> 00:51:12,080
Speaker 1: set out to accomplish, right.

956
00:51:12,760 --> 00:51:14,600
Speaker 2: Yes. The one thing I want to say, dom is

957
00:51:14,760 --> 00:51:17,840
Speaker 2: I've been following this group and if you're not familiar

958
00:51:17,880 --> 00:51:20,680
Speaker 2: with them, lady, go check them out. Abraham Hicks on

959
00:51:20,840 --> 00:51:24,560
Speaker 2: Instagram and YouTube, actually Instagram and YouTube Abraham Hicks. And

960
00:51:24,680 --> 00:51:26,960
Speaker 2: it's this I want to say, Energy Collective that really

961
00:51:27,000 --> 00:51:29,560
Speaker 2: talks for a lot about manifestation and mindset, and I

962
00:51:29,680 --> 00:51:31,480
Speaker 2: really resonate with a lot of their content. Check it

963
00:51:31,520 --> 00:51:33,680
Speaker 2: out and see this for you. One of the things

964
00:51:33,719 --> 00:51:38,920
Speaker 2: that they say is be general in your thought, focus

965
00:51:39,120 --> 00:51:43,600
Speaker 2: on the emotion and not the detailed way. And so

966
00:51:43,680 --> 00:51:46,480
Speaker 2: when I think about be optimistically realistic, part of me

967
00:51:46,640 --> 00:51:50,120
Speaker 2: is wondering should we say be optimistically general? Because I

968
00:51:50,120 --> 00:51:52,279
Speaker 2: don't know about you, but when I hear realistic, it

969
00:51:52,320 --> 00:51:55,080
Speaker 2: depends on the person. Sometimes if you share a dream

970
00:51:55,120 --> 00:51:57,319
Speaker 2: with someone, or let's say we were sharing with someone like, yeah,

971
00:51:57,360 --> 00:51:59,919
Speaker 2: we want to hit a million, some people wouldn't see

972
00:51:59,920 --> 00:52:02,759
Speaker 2: that as being realistic. Sometimes our dreams seem so big

973
00:52:03,080 --> 00:52:05,279
Speaker 2: that it doesn't seem realistic to us in the moment.

974
00:52:05,640 --> 00:52:08,080
Speaker 2: So if we do go with that tip, don't let

975
00:52:08,160 --> 00:52:11,320
Speaker 2: the realistic part phase you, if that makes sense, because

976
00:52:11,320 --> 00:52:16,839
Speaker 2: sometimes what we're manifesting is so extraordinary, right that it doesn't.

977
00:52:16,600 --> 00:52:17,200
Speaker 3: Mean is this?

978
00:52:17,560 --> 00:52:18,759
Speaker 2: Can this really happen? Right?

979
00:52:19,480 --> 00:52:19,640
Speaker 3: Right?

980
00:52:19,800 --> 00:52:26,080
Speaker 1: So like having a baby is realistic, right, but saying

981
00:52:27,320 --> 00:52:31,560
Speaker 1: I want my twenty twenty baby that may not have

982
00:52:31,760 --> 00:52:34,560
Speaker 1: been has to look okay exactly you see what?

983
00:52:34,920 --> 00:52:35,640
Speaker 3: Yeah? I gotcha?

984
00:52:35,800 --> 00:52:37,560
Speaker 2: Yes, Okay, that makes perfect sense.

985
00:52:37,680 --> 00:52:42,000
Speaker 1: Like saying I'm going to pass the exam is realistic,

986
00:52:42,560 --> 00:52:45,560
Speaker 1: but saying Okay, I'm going to pass the exam on

987
00:52:45,800 --> 00:52:52,879
Speaker 1: this specific date and with this exact score that might

988
00:52:53,120 --> 00:52:59,040
Speaker 1: not be realistic, but the general concept of passing the

989
00:52:59,200 --> 00:53:00,839
Speaker 1: exam is realistic.

990
00:53:01,400 --> 00:53:04,120
Speaker 2: I love it. That makes perfect sense. Time I would

991
00:53:04,160 --> 00:53:06,960
Speaker 2: say you kind of touched on this, I would say,

992
00:53:07,200 --> 00:53:09,960
Speaker 2: educate yourself and surround yourself with folks who get it,

993
00:53:10,560 --> 00:53:13,239
Speaker 2: because I think that sometimes when you share it, like

994
00:53:13,320 --> 00:53:15,680
Speaker 2: I have a family member who I love dearly, and

995
00:53:16,560 --> 00:53:18,960
Speaker 2: I tend to live in the clouds, like I am

996
00:53:19,040 --> 00:53:22,840
Speaker 2: the person who will, because I sometimes just live in

997
00:53:22,880 --> 00:53:25,000
Speaker 2: the future so much like I'll go spend the money

998
00:53:25,040 --> 00:53:27,560
Speaker 2: on something that I that is an investment, and I'm like, damn,

999
00:53:27,560 --> 00:53:29,239
Speaker 2: I'm down to take the risks because I'm like, oh,

1000
00:53:29,320 --> 00:53:31,359
Speaker 2: but I know that this is coming, even though it's

1001
00:53:31,360 --> 00:53:32,960
Speaker 2: going to stick around for to come, or even when

1002
00:53:33,040 --> 00:53:34,480
Speaker 2: it's going to come, when I don't even know when

1003
00:53:34,480 --> 00:53:36,399
Speaker 2: it's going to come, right, Like I am the person

1004
00:53:36,480 --> 00:53:38,440
Speaker 2: that will. I'm like, let's do it, let's go all in.

1005
00:53:38,960 --> 00:53:41,759
Speaker 2: Whereas other people, some people that I share these goals with,

1006
00:53:42,280 --> 00:53:44,480
Speaker 2: they're more like I'm very grounded. They're like, I'm on

1007
00:53:44,560 --> 00:53:46,840
Speaker 2: the ground, you up in the clouds. I'm on the ground.

1008
00:53:47,239 --> 00:53:49,840
Speaker 2: And so sometimes you have to be mindful of like

1009
00:53:50,000 --> 00:53:53,680
Speaker 2: who are you sharing these goals and dreams with And

1010
00:53:54,120 --> 00:53:56,239
Speaker 2: if they are super grounded, are they willing to come

1011
00:53:56,320 --> 00:53:57,680
Speaker 2: up in the clouds with you for a little bit

1012
00:53:57,719 --> 00:53:59,320
Speaker 2: and just see the vision with you and fill it

1013
00:53:59,400 --> 00:54:01,520
Speaker 2: with you and that vision with you and then they

1014
00:54:01,560 --> 00:54:03,719
Speaker 2: can go back down to their their comfort zone, but

1015
00:54:03,880 --> 00:54:05,879
Speaker 2: just seeing it with you, because I think sometimes being

1016
00:54:06,040 --> 00:54:08,440
Speaker 2: with someone who can see it for you and with

1017
00:54:08,680 --> 00:54:11,200
Speaker 2: you is so important too, so you're not alone. So

1018
00:54:11,280 --> 00:54:15,520
Speaker 2: I've had, like you said, Dom you coaches, mentors, a shaman,

1019
00:54:15,680 --> 00:54:18,000
Speaker 2: my acupuncture is, my nutrition is I mean, I've had

1020
00:54:18,040 --> 00:54:20,640
Speaker 2: a whole team of people that I've been working with

1021
00:54:20,800 --> 00:54:24,160
Speaker 2: on this fertility journey Who've been holding this baby for

1022
00:54:24,360 --> 00:54:28,080
Speaker 2: me energetically, and so yes, having people around you who

1023
00:54:28,080 --> 00:54:29,960
Speaker 2: get it, if you know, you have the naysayers and

1024
00:54:30,000 --> 00:54:31,799
Speaker 2: folks that are like, oh, you can't do that shit.

1025
00:54:31,880 --> 00:54:33,920
Speaker 2: I know sometimes for us you're like, oh, well that

1026
00:54:34,040 --> 00:54:36,000
Speaker 2: and that inspires me. It turns me on for people

1027
00:54:36,040 --> 00:54:38,600
Speaker 2: to say you can't do it. Okay, some people are

1028
00:54:38,719 --> 00:54:40,120
Speaker 2: like that right, And every once in a while, I

1029
00:54:40,160 --> 00:54:41,920
Speaker 2: may have a situation where like someone doubts me and

1030
00:54:41,920 --> 00:54:44,400
Speaker 2: I'm like, oh, it feels me, But I prefer to

1031
00:54:44,560 --> 00:54:46,000
Speaker 2: just be in a space where people who are like

1032
00:54:46,080 --> 00:54:48,160
Speaker 2: gonna push me forward, right, And I have that sort

1033
00:54:48,200 --> 00:54:51,400
Speaker 2: of that contrast, if that makes sense exactly.

1034
00:54:51,480 --> 00:54:54,600
Speaker 3: And so like the way I hear that is the

1035
00:54:54,800 --> 00:54:57,200
Speaker 3: intentional about your team.

1036
00:54:57,480 --> 00:55:00,279
Speaker 2: Yes, the intentional about your team yep.

1037
00:55:01,160 --> 00:55:07,480
Speaker 1: And so to recap, we have let go of control,

1038
00:55:09,000 --> 00:55:17,239
Speaker 1: act as if practice patience, be optimistically realistic, and be

1039
00:55:17,480 --> 00:55:19,479
Speaker 1: intentional about your team.

1040
00:55:20,320 --> 00:55:23,279
Speaker 2: That's right, and just remember lating the answers are in

1041
00:55:23,400 --> 00:55:26,600
Speaker 2: the journey. Even though we're going through a tough time,

1042
00:55:26,640 --> 00:55:29,040
Speaker 2: there's always something that we can learn from the experience.

1043
00:55:29,080 --> 00:55:30,480
Speaker 2: And I can honestly say I don't know about you,

1044
00:55:30,560 --> 00:55:32,839
Speaker 2: don but I can honestly say that I wouldn't take

1045
00:55:32,840 --> 00:55:34,800
Speaker 2: anything away. Yes, it was so hard, but I wouldn't

1046
00:55:34,800 --> 00:55:37,560
Speaker 2: take anything away from what I experienced because I am

1047
00:55:37,680 --> 00:55:40,600
Speaker 2: now a much better vessel. Not that we're going to

1048
00:55:40,640 --> 00:55:42,480
Speaker 2: be perfect when you get what you want, and I'm

1049
00:55:42,480 --> 00:55:43,759
Speaker 2: not going to be like the perfect mom. I'm going

1050
00:55:43,800 --> 00:55:45,880
Speaker 2: to make mistakes, but I am such a great vessel

1051
00:55:46,040 --> 00:55:48,440
Speaker 2: now compared to where I was before, because of what

1052
00:55:48,520 --> 00:55:50,640
Speaker 2: I've been able to heal, what I've been able to

1053
00:55:50,680 --> 00:55:53,000
Speaker 2: heal through right, what I've been able to learn about,

1054
00:55:53,320 --> 00:55:55,560
Speaker 2: you know, unmedicated births and things that I want to do.

1055
00:55:56,239 --> 00:55:58,560
Speaker 2: I'm just so much more prepared in this state. And

1056
00:55:58,680 --> 00:56:01,520
Speaker 2: so God really came through and gave me when I needed,

1057
00:56:01,600 --> 00:56:02,520
Speaker 2: exactly when I needed.

1058
00:56:03,120 --> 00:56:06,520
Speaker 1: I couldn't have set it better exactly what you needed,

1059
00:56:06,960 --> 00:56:08,560
Speaker 1: exactly when you needed it.

1060
00:56:09,840 --> 00:56:13,279
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Speaker 2: at herspacepodcast dot com. And before we meet again, repeat

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Speaker 2: after me. Although my plans may change, I will stay

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Speaker 2: committed to my purpose.

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Speaker 3: We'll see you next week, Lady