WEBVTT - Let's Play a Game 0:00:01.720 --> 0:00:05.279 Swine Down with Jana Kramer and I'm Heart Radio podcast. 0:00:06.680 --> 0:00:13.720 Mike's back, yay, still alive, still man, and he has 0:00:13.760 --> 0:00:15.920 a cake happy vasecta me cake in front of him 0:00:15.960 --> 0:00:18.840 because apparently that's a thing. Now you get that vasect 0:00:18.880 --> 0:00:21.920 to me, cake, You're the best tea. How do your 0:00:21.960 --> 0:00:22.479 balls feel? 0:00:22.520 --> 0:00:29.120 Bad? Happy? You know, a little tender? Yep, but doing good. 0:00:29.200 --> 0:00:33.320 I'm physically wearing a jock strap right now, so true story. 0:00:34.159 --> 0:00:36.800 I just put down Joey for bed and I walked 0:00:36.800 --> 0:00:39.080 past our room and I see him in no joke, 0:00:39.159 --> 0:00:41.360 a jock strap which just looks like a male thong, 0:00:42.159 --> 0:00:46.520 and I was just like, what are around your butt? 0:00:46.680 --> 0:00:48.640 I know, but it's still like so now you're like 0:00:48.680 --> 0:00:50.479 butt cheeks are all. But I was like, what are 0:00:50.520 --> 0:00:54.080 you wearing? And he's like, it's a jock strap And 0:00:54.120 --> 0:00:54.560 I was like. 0:00:55.280 --> 0:00:57.120 Youtub boys, nice and tight. You gotta keep him. 0:00:57.320 --> 0:00:59.640 Are you going to continue to wear a jockstrap balls? 0:01:00.120 --> 0:01:01.760 My buddies. I was like, hey, this is kind of nice, 0:01:02.240 --> 0:01:04.720 Like everything stays out of the way up and out 0:01:04.720 --> 0:01:06.680 of the way, high and tight and just you know, 0:01:06.959 --> 0:01:08.360 then you just go about your business. 0:01:09.240 --> 0:01:10.840 I mean that must be weird to have like staggy 0:01:10.840 --> 0:01:13.360 stuff down there. Yeah, like when you're walking and stuff. 0:01:13.440 --> 0:01:16.679 Yeah, exactly. Little empathy for the guys. 0:01:16.680 --> 0:01:18.720 You don't understand what you deal with with bat wings? 0:01:18.959 --> 0:01:19.440 What's up? 0:01:20.160 --> 0:01:22.039 Mike doesn't get them? Now they're wearing a jockstrap? 0:01:22.880 --> 0:01:24.800 Oh does it? Like the ball stick to your the side. 0:01:24.680 --> 0:01:27.160 Of your to the thighs. And I hate it. That's 0:01:27.200 --> 0:01:29.600 why I wear it fairly tight brief because of that 0:01:29.720 --> 0:01:31.200 drives me nuts, and I still. 0:01:31.040 --> 0:01:31.399 Deal with it. 0:01:31.440 --> 0:01:33.520 Don't you use baby powder? Because I always see Mike 0:01:33.600 --> 0:01:36.320 like or like a dozen. 0:01:40.840 --> 0:01:42.080 A gallon of gold bond. 0:01:43.640 --> 0:01:45.680 More of Johnson and Johnson's kind of guy. 0:01:45.800 --> 0:01:47.480 Oh, I need a female in here because it's just 0:01:47.560 --> 0:01:48.520 real male right now? 0:01:48.520 --> 0:01:51.360 With all that, right after that Ladies episode last week, 0:01:51.400 --> 0:01:54.200 you talk about all those dreamy guys and potential hot 0:01:54.280 --> 0:01:58.000 nannies for women, Yeah, I was listening to podcasts. I 0:01:58.000 --> 0:01:59.200 didn't get through all of it yet, but I was 0:01:59.200 --> 0:02:01.840 listening to the part when Amy was talking about what 0:02:01.840 --> 0:02:04.640 if Ryan Reynolds was, you know, your trainer or nanny 0:02:04.720 --> 0:02:07.760 or whatever. And Jane's just like I I. I I 0:02:08.800 --> 0:02:11.160 was like, yeah, hid it a little bit more? 0:02:11.560 --> 0:02:11.680 No? 0:02:11.760 --> 0:02:14.320 I just couldn't you know, come up with the words 0:02:14.480 --> 0:02:16.600 to properly say right, it's okay. 0:02:16.639 --> 0:02:18.920 I would have said the same thing if someone said 0:02:19.080 --> 0:02:20.839 one of those two guys was my trainer and nanny, 0:02:20.880 --> 0:02:23.639 I'd be like, I I so we'd have the same reaction. 0:02:24.360 --> 0:02:27.040 Oh man, speaking of all that stuff though, I'm just 0:02:27.040 --> 0:02:29.880 going to wrap that part up. Michael was like, what 0:02:29.919 --> 0:02:31.720 are you doing. I was like, I'm in like a 0:02:31.760 --> 0:02:34.040 war right now with hot Nanny's all over the world, 0:02:34.320 --> 0:02:37.079 the Hot Nanny's Unite, even our Nanny and Nashville was like, 0:02:37.160 --> 0:02:38.440 is this something I need to be worried about? And 0:02:38.480 --> 0:02:41.079 then one of my other brit Bretts, She's like, was 0:02:41.160 --> 0:02:46.280 I ugly? I was like, oh my god, yeah, I 0:02:46.360 --> 0:02:47.040 was like Britney. 0:02:47.160 --> 0:02:47.200 No. 0:02:47.400 --> 0:02:49.200 I was like, and I've literally had to text all 0:02:49.360 --> 0:02:51.639 our past nannies and be like, you are beautiful. You 0:02:51.800 --> 0:02:54.720 are beautiful. I think you're beautiful. So I mean, really 0:02:54.760 --> 0:02:56.120 back for it. I mean a lot of times on 0:02:56.200 --> 0:02:58.519 the show, I like to I like to start conversations 0:02:58.560 --> 0:03:02.560 and that's an interesting conversation. And but also because you know, 0:03:03.040 --> 0:03:04.880 what works for me might not work for everyone else. 0:03:04.960 --> 0:03:07.959 But apparently I was a very I was offending a 0:03:08.000 --> 0:03:12.360 lot of the hot nannies saying, you know, i'm women 0:03:12.480 --> 0:03:14.760 in the workplace and they're getting It's just it was 0:03:14.840 --> 0:03:15.800 just the whole I was just. 0:03:16.080 --> 0:03:19.000 Very you know, and when you were bringing that to 0:03:19.120 --> 0:03:22.360 me and let me know when you're texting so uh, 0:03:23.440 --> 0:03:24.880 you know, intently, even like a. 0:03:24.919 --> 0:03:26.480 DM war And I'm not going to name her because 0:03:26.480 --> 0:03:28.040 I think she just wants the attention. 0:03:28.320 --> 0:03:30.560 Yeah, yeah, no, don't get that satisfaction. The thing is, 0:03:31.000 --> 0:03:32.720 when you're telling me about it, I'm like, it's just 0:03:32.840 --> 0:03:35.280 being professional, that's all it is. You wouldn't show up 0:03:35.280 --> 0:03:37.320 to any other job interview or post a picture for 0:03:37.400 --> 0:03:39.760 your resume, which you know, some resumes nowadays people might 0:03:39.800 --> 0:03:42.000 put it like a picture You don't. You wouldn't post 0:03:42.040 --> 0:03:43.400 a picture with your stuff hanging out. 0:03:43.480 --> 0:03:46.400 But here's where she says, but so because I have 0:03:46.520 --> 0:03:49.720 big boobs, Like that's just how you're discriminating women. I 0:03:49.800 --> 0:03:51.840 was like, no, I'm actually not discriminating. Like you need 0:03:51.880 --> 0:03:54.320 to dress for the part. If a guy wore a hey, 0:03:54.320 --> 0:03:55.880 if he had a shirt off and he came to 0:03:55.960 --> 0:03:59.080 an interview right professional, or if he was you know, 0:04:00.320 --> 0:04:03.160 I mean not even a shirt off, because like your 0:04:03.200 --> 0:04:05.840 boobs can show but if you're wearing a lace literally 0:04:06.080 --> 0:04:09.480 nothing else, a barely tank top, Like, I just think 0:04:09.640 --> 0:04:11.160 you need to dress for the part. It's not about 0:04:11.160 --> 0:04:14.600 saying I don't think this woman's everything else. I don't know, Mark, 0:04:14.640 --> 0:04:15.040 what do you think? 0:04:15.200 --> 0:04:15.560 I agree? 0:04:15.600 --> 0:04:17.600 Completely professional is the answer. You don't need to be 0:04:17.640 --> 0:04:20.920 in an apron and a hair Just a professional look 0:04:21.040 --> 0:04:22.960 is what we're looking for. That's all it is, because 0:04:22.960 --> 0:04:25.000 otherwise you might have ulterior motives. 0:04:25.160 --> 0:04:27.720 Right, But she was like, just because I have big 0:04:27.760 --> 0:04:29.520 boobs doesn't mean that I want to blah blah blah, 0:04:29.520 --> 0:04:31.800 and like my boobs might be flapping around because I 0:04:31.880 --> 0:04:35.080 wear I'm like, that's fine. I'm just saying, like the 0:04:35.240 --> 0:04:38.000 first interview and meeting, I just think that you should 0:04:38.080 --> 0:04:40.839 dress more appropriately, right not, But. 0:04:40.880 --> 0:04:43.240 Then big boobs are not There's still a way to 0:04:43.360 --> 0:04:45.760 dress professionally. It doesn't matter. 0:04:46.720 --> 0:04:48.680 Yeah, but what if I mean you have to talk 0:04:48.720 --> 0:04:51.440 with it. Let's say she dresses professionally and you hire her, 0:04:51.680 --> 0:04:53.000 and then she shows up for work and after a 0:04:53.040 --> 0:04:54.720 couple of weeks she gets more comfortable, and when she 0:04:54.720 --> 0:04:56.640 starts showing up in a crop top and jeane shorts, 0:04:56.680 --> 0:04:57.760 and all of a sudden, we. 0:04:57.760 --> 0:04:58.280 Have to have a talk. 0:04:58.640 --> 0:05:00.800 Yeah, but I mean one of our nannies, Like she 0:05:00.880 --> 0:05:02.880 hit her boobs out a lot, and again it's fine, 0:05:03.080 --> 0:05:04.120 Like I was fine with it. 0:05:06.000 --> 0:05:13.159 Ow I what you're talking about, I actually do. Who's 0:05:13.200 --> 0:05:14.119 the actor in this family? 0:05:14.279 --> 0:05:17.280 Thank you very much, But I don't care because she 0:05:17.360 --> 0:05:18.920 loved your kids. You know, at the end of the day, 0:05:18.920 --> 0:05:21.560 it's not about and she was beautiful, Like it's I 0:05:21.720 --> 0:05:23.680 just was more trying to have a conversation about it. 0:05:23.920 --> 0:05:25.480 And it's not that I don't trust my husband, and 0:05:25.839 --> 0:05:28.360 it's not that I'm not for women's rights and letting 0:05:28.400 --> 0:05:30.440 boobs hang out. It's fine, but whatever, I can still 0:05:30.440 --> 0:05:33.159 have my opinion. It still spark a conversation. But really, 0:05:33.279 --> 0:05:36.599 like the hot nannies USA, is real have an issue 0:05:36.680 --> 0:05:38.440 and to the point where I was fearful that we're 0:05:38.480 --> 0:05:40.159 going to lose the nanny we just hired in Nashville 0:05:40.560 --> 0:05:42.000 because I didn't want her to think that we thought 0:05:42.040 --> 0:05:45.800 she was ugly or because that's not the case. She's 0:05:46.320 --> 0:05:49.440 she's beautiful, she's right for our family, and she's gonna 0:05:49.480 --> 0:05:51.520 love our kids, and that's what matters at the end 0:05:51.520 --> 0:05:53.240 of the day. Because here's what I was saying too 0:05:53.440 --> 0:05:56.200 is at the end of the day, if my husband 0:05:56.640 --> 0:05:58.520 or if I'm going to cheat, we're gonna cheat no 0:05:58.640 --> 0:06:01.120 matter what someone looks like, end of the day, no 0:06:01.200 --> 0:06:04.120 matter what they're wearing, no matter how they dress, no 0:06:04.240 --> 0:06:06.360 matter what they look like. If you're gonna cheat, you're 0:06:06.360 --> 0:06:06.920 gonna cheat. 0:06:07.720 --> 0:06:11.200 We are joined now by Katie for Vinciana, the managing 0:06:11.240 --> 0:06:12.480 director of Westside Nanny's. 0:06:12.760 --> 0:06:13.719 Oh God, are you serious? 0:06:14.240 --> 0:06:17.560 I am serious? Really yeah, Katie is her name? 0:06:17.600 --> 0:06:19.880 Here I go, I don't know where to guess. 0:06:20.480 --> 0:06:21.919 I think this is kind of the last minute. 0:06:22.080 --> 0:06:27.400 Okay, hello, Hi, Hi, Hi Katie. 0:06:28.080 --> 0:06:29.560 How are you good? How are you? 0:06:30.279 --> 0:06:32.760 I'm great. I hear you're talking about hot nanny. 0:06:33.960 --> 0:06:37.679 Yeah, this is wrap it up, but I guess we'll start. 0:06:37.720 --> 0:06:38.560 We're diving back in. 0:06:39.560 --> 0:06:42.440 So you own a nanny agency. I do. 0:06:42.600 --> 0:06:44.880 I own west Side Nannies. We're based in Los Angeles, 0:06:45.000 --> 0:06:48.600 so we work with families primarily here in Los Angeles area, 0:06:48.680 --> 0:06:50.160 but also across the country if needed. 0:06:50.520 --> 0:06:52.840 So, I guess one of the main backlashes I had 0:06:53.000 --> 0:06:54.760 was I was talking about because we were trying to 0:06:54.800 --> 0:06:58.159 find a nanny and we used one of the website Nanny's. 0:06:58.760 --> 0:07:02.200 Uh outlets and I had made a comment about how 0:07:02.279 --> 0:07:04.480 they had like the perky boobs up and you know 0:07:04.720 --> 0:07:07.320 that the wives are hiring, And I got major backlash 0:07:07.360 --> 0:07:09.080 because people are like, well, women are like, you know, 0:07:09.160 --> 0:07:11.560 I have boobs and I should be able to show 0:07:11.600 --> 0:07:13.280 my boobs. And what my husband and I are saying 0:07:13.520 --> 0:07:15.880 is we just think that for an interview, you should 0:07:15.880 --> 0:07:18.200 be a little bit more professional. 0:07:19.920 --> 0:07:22.680 Well, I would agree with you, and we see those 0:07:22.720 --> 0:07:24.840 pictures too. You'd be amazed at what danny send in 0:07:24.880 --> 0:07:28.480 when they're applying for a job. But I think for us, 0:07:28.960 --> 0:07:32.160 it's not about whether someone has boobs or not. I mean, 0:07:32.200 --> 0:07:36.800 we all do right right. It's about good judgment and 0:07:37.360 --> 0:07:41.320 doff awareness and professionalism and how you're presenting yourself for 0:07:41.440 --> 0:07:44.080 a job. And I think those things are two very 0:07:44.160 --> 0:07:47.880 different things. So it's not that, oh, this nanny is hot, 0:07:48.240 --> 0:07:51.160 you know, that's the turnoff. It's that, well, if she 0:07:51.400 --> 0:07:54.000 chose to use the photo of herself to apply for 0:07:54.000 --> 0:07:57.200 professional jobs, any job, whether it be a nanny job 0:07:57.560 --> 0:08:00.480 or another, that shows a lack of good judgments, and 0:08:00.880 --> 0:08:02.840 the judgment is really important when you're hiring nanny. 0:08:03.520 --> 0:08:03.960 I agree. 0:08:04.840 --> 0:08:09.160 Have you ever had any wives like say, you know 0:08:09.280 --> 0:08:12.080 what's around that, like what if they are dressed in 0:08:12.120 --> 0:08:14.760 appropriately do you talk to them? Or how does that work? 0:08:15.840 --> 0:08:19.160 Well, we get requests, you know, every every single day 0:08:19.200 --> 0:08:21.880 from moms, and you'd be surprised the request still looks late. 0:08:22.040 --> 0:08:24.160 I mean, for every request that we have from a 0:08:24.240 --> 0:08:28.000 mom that tells us, you know, I don't want someone 0:08:28.160 --> 0:08:31.040 to pretty, we also get the request here the room 0:08:31.080 --> 0:08:32.760 around where a parent will say, hey, we need someone 0:08:32.800 --> 0:08:34.719 to fit in at the country club or go to 0:08:34.800 --> 0:08:37.120 the star set of events and not be an outsider, 0:08:37.480 --> 0:08:39.880 or you know, we don't want an any whos overlate, 0:08:40.040 --> 0:08:42.160 or we don't want this or that. We even had 0:08:42.160 --> 0:08:44.719 a mom recently tell us that, you know, my three 0:08:44.800 --> 0:08:46.679 year old seems to be more attracted to blonde, so 0:08:46.760 --> 0:08:49.000 we's like a blonde manny. I mean, we hear it all. 0:08:49.360 --> 0:08:49.760 Oh wow. 0:08:51.400 --> 0:08:53.199 But our response to that, of course, is, you know, 0:08:53.640 --> 0:08:57.479 those things shouldn't matter. First of all, there protect the characteristics. 0:08:57.559 --> 0:08:59.920 We actually can't discriminate faced about when someone looks like 0:09:00.320 --> 0:09:03.160 or the color of their skin or any of those things. 0:09:03.280 --> 0:09:06.079 But it really comes down to someone of great nanny 0:09:06.559 --> 0:09:11.400 and that comes down to experience, references, education of personality 0:09:11.720 --> 0:09:13.920 and why they really want to work in this field. 0:09:14.520 --> 0:09:17.800 So I have a question, Katie, and this you know 0:09:18.520 --> 0:09:21.880 again I'm trying to I feel like maybe this, this 0:09:22.000 --> 0:09:25.079 field like nanny, is a little bit more personal because 0:09:25.120 --> 0:09:28.839 of the interaction and the relationship care children. Right, So 0:09:28.920 --> 0:09:33.480 it's a little bit more personable, personal and connected. But still, 0:09:33.600 --> 0:09:36.720 like for any job out there, you know, you've got 0:09:36.800 --> 0:09:39.319 to address the part. You got to be professional. And 0:09:39.440 --> 0:09:44.040 the employer can hire whoever they want, and they might 0:09:44.200 --> 0:09:47.960 have their you know, kind of mindset on the kind 0:09:48.000 --> 0:09:50.720 of person they want, down to the fact of maybe 0:09:50.760 --> 0:09:52.800 how they look or how they present themselves and so on. 0:09:53.679 --> 0:09:56.880 So when it comes to something like nanny, I mean, 0:09:56.920 --> 0:09:58.760 I feel like people still have the right to I guess, 0:09:58.920 --> 0:10:02.640 ask those questions, make those requests right. 0:10:04.200 --> 0:10:08.120 They can ask them right, and a lot of times 0:10:08.200 --> 0:10:10.920 they're going after the wrong thing. And what we try 0:10:10.960 --> 0:10:14.280 to do is really reframe that to be something that's positive. 0:10:14.880 --> 0:10:18.080 When we're not going to disciminate based upon those factors, 0:10:18.200 --> 0:10:20.160 but we do really want to understand what the family 0:10:20.280 --> 0:10:23.439 is hoping for, what are the qualities that they're looking for, 0:10:23.760 --> 0:10:26.360 and what is leading to that request. But I think 0:10:26.400 --> 0:10:28.319 you've brought up a good point that I really want 0:10:28.360 --> 0:10:30.320 to touch on, where you said, this is a really 0:10:30.400 --> 0:10:33.400 personal job. It's you know, it's different than your everyday job, 0:10:33.480 --> 0:10:36.880 and I would agree with you to an extent. I 0:10:37.000 --> 0:10:40.040 think that's where a lot of problems happen is because 0:10:40.160 --> 0:10:42.439 parents do feel like, oh, this is my home. You know, 0:10:42.880 --> 0:10:45.880 this is so personal, it is a personal job, and 0:10:46.000 --> 0:10:48.720 so boundaries can sometimes fall to the wayside. And that's 0:10:48.760 --> 0:10:50.880 not just on the nanties, and that's also on the 0:10:50.960 --> 0:10:54.439 parents end. And all I think parents don't totally realize 0:10:54.559 --> 0:10:56.800 or comprehend, which is something we try to educate our 0:10:56.840 --> 0:11:01.480 clients about, is the moment you hire a nanny, you 0:11:01.720 --> 0:11:05.240 become a workplace. So it may be your home, but 0:11:05.360 --> 0:11:09.040 it's her workplace, and so you have to have boundaries too. 0:11:09.240 --> 0:11:11.640 So that means, you know, you guys, can't be walking 0:11:11.640 --> 0:11:13.400 around in your underwears if what were your own home 0:11:13.640 --> 0:11:16.520 like you were someone's workplace, So you kind of have 0:11:16.640 --> 0:11:20.480 to have some boundaries for your own home too, and 0:11:20.600 --> 0:11:22.760 then you can absolutely have her have boundaries as well. 0:11:22.960 --> 0:11:25.600 So for example, there is appropriate just could it work, 0:11:25.679 --> 0:11:27.280 like your nanny should not be wandering you're on a 0:11:27.320 --> 0:11:30.160 hot pans ser bikini that's not appropriate for the workplace. 0:11:30.800 --> 0:11:34.280 And so the nanny you hire, they are role models 0:11:34.280 --> 0:11:36.760 for your children. So you can have boundaries, and you 0:11:36.880 --> 0:11:39.920 should just like a nanny shouldn't really be talking about 0:11:39.920 --> 0:11:42.560 her date last night or her night clubbing on Saday. 0:11:43.240 --> 0:11:45.360 You also shouldn't be talking about the fight you just 0:11:45.480 --> 0:11:48.319 had with yourseuse or you know, any kind of those 0:11:48.360 --> 0:11:51.440 personal things. It does need to remain professional and really 0:11:51.440 --> 0:11:52.080 about the kids. 0:11:52.960 --> 0:11:54.960 I have a question at a very good point, by 0:11:54.960 --> 0:11:57.320 the way, I love all of that, when it comes 0:11:57.400 --> 0:12:00.760 to healthy eating habits. What if I'm not not saying, 0:12:01.280 --> 0:12:04.199 you know, we don't know what. We just hired a 0:12:04.240 --> 0:12:06.959 new nanny Nashville, but we've had a previous nanny where 0:12:07.400 --> 0:12:10.400 just eating habits weren't that good, and I've seen it. 0:12:10.520 --> 0:12:14.160 Maybe how does I how do I say that reflect 0:12:14.280 --> 0:12:16.719 now on our daughter what she might think a snack is, 0:12:17.080 --> 0:12:20.600 And how do we how do we say without hurting 0:12:20.840 --> 0:12:24.040 the nanny's fault and being like, hey, you know, this 0:12:24.240 --> 0:12:27.120 is what we need to feed our child in the house, 0:12:27.160 --> 0:12:29.000 and you know we're not going to go to donut 0:12:29.040 --> 0:12:29.520 shops and. 0:12:29.760 --> 0:12:33.319 That's just right. And in particular, what Jana's trying to 0:12:33.360 --> 0:12:35.840 beat around the bushes say that nanny is a little 0:12:35.840 --> 0:12:39.120 bit more of her weight, which there's no discrimination here, 0:12:39.200 --> 0:12:42.599 but maybe they're eating habits aren't very healthy. But we 0:12:42.679 --> 0:12:46.640 want to make sure that our kids are experiencing the 0:12:46.679 --> 0:12:48.920 eating habits that we want for them, and that Jana 0:12:48.960 --> 0:12:50.600 and I practice sure. 0:12:51.160 --> 0:12:53.240 I think it just comes back to your the job 0:12:53.320 --> 0:12:56.839 that you were hiring someone for. And really, whether or 0:12:56.840 --> 0:12:59.839 not a nanny's overweight or not doesn't mean she can't 0:13:00.960 --> 0:13:04.439 teaching children about nutrition and cook healthy meals for them. 0:13:05.000 --> 0:13:08.199 And so it's less about her own eating habits and 0:13:08.360 --> 0:13:10.760 more about what you need in your role. And so 0:13:10.880 --> 0:13:13.120 I think when you're interviewing Nanni's and it sounds like 0:13:13.200 --> 0:13:15.240 you hired someone, but if you were interviewing with us, 0:13:15.720 --> 0:13:17.760 we would say talk to everyone about that in the interview, 0:13:17.840 --> 0:13:19.880 talk about how nutrition has a partant to your family, 0:13:19.960 --> 0:13:22.280 and talk and talk about what that looks like. You know, 0:13:22.640 --> 0:13:24.800 if you get this job, you know, do these are 0:13:24.840 --> 0:13:26.319 the things we'd like to cook. I'd like you to 0:13:26.400 --> 0:13:28.320 be able to cook, cook me in a healthy meals 0:13:29.000 --> 0:13:31.520 that are well rounded. And I'm hoping that when you're 0:13:31.559 --> 0:13:33.640 working Harry to partake in the meals that you cook 0:13:33.679 --> 0:13:35.760 as well, and we just want to show them and 0:13:35.920 --> 0:13:38.439 demonstrate healthy eating houbies to the kids. Which I'm a 0:13:38.520 --> 0:13:43.040 mom too. That's super important and definitely a point that 0:13:43.120 --> 0:13:46.040 I talked about with my own mammy. So I think, 0:13:46.240 --> 0:13:49.040 just again reframing it, it's not about them. They're not 0:13:49.200 --> 0:13:52.200 causing anyone paying or the other. It's what are they 0:13:52.280 --> 0:13:54.000 going to do in their role and what do you 0:13:54.120 --> 0:13:56.280 expect on the job, and your nanny should be able 0:13:56.360 --> 0:13:58.600 to fulfill those or she's not the right one. 0:13:59.440 --> 0:14:02.520 Absolutely, I love that. And one more question before we 0:14:02.600 --> 0:14:05.280 wrap up. Katie Jan and I we've had a few 0:14:05.360 --> 0:14:08.040 nannies in the past, and we had a tendency where 0:14:08.040 --> 0:14:09.760 we would hire somebody we kind of had a prior 0:14:09.840 --> 0:14:12.480 relationship with that started as more of a friend. So 0:14:12.600 --> 0:14:14.800 definitely we had an issue with the kind of the 0:14:14.880 --> 0:14:17.200 boundaries and that, like you talked about, like our house 0:14:17.520 --> 0:14:21.080 a workplace, and we've tried to you know, we have 0:14:21.120 --> 0:14:23.080 a new nanny in Los Angeles. We just hired a 0:14:23.120 --> 0:14:25.440 new one for Nashville when we moved back there, and 0:14:25.520 --> 0:14:27.080 we really made a point to touch on the things 0:14:27.120 --> 0:14:29.680 that you're talking about and be you know, on the 0:14:29.760 --> 0:14:32.280 front end kind of discuss the things that we've learned 0:14:32.560 --> 0:14:35.000 that we need or want them, you know, for our 0:14:35.080 --> 0:14:37.320 kids to be exposed to and so on. What kind 0:14:37.320 --> 0:14:40.520 of advice though, because Jane and I are very personable, 0:14:40.840 --> 0:14:44.360 very affectionate people who we want people, whether they work 0:14:44.400 --> 0:14:46.160 for us or not, we want them to feel comfortable. 0:14:46.560 --> 0:14:48.160 We want them to feel kind of like part of 0:14:48.200 --> 0:14:50.880 the family, and and talk to us about life in general, 0:14:50.920 --> 0:14:52.880 because we just love talking and hearing about their life 0:14:52.920 --> 0:14:56.440 and we want them to be willing to share and 0:14:56.520 --> 0:14:59.560 everything like that. So what advice would you give, you know, 0:14:59.680 --> 0:15:02.880 people like Jane and I who have a hard time 0:15:02.960 --> 0:15:08.840 ourselves kind of sticking to those boundaries of employee employer relationship. 0:15:10.000 --> 0:15:11.800 I think it can be hard. I think it's something 0:15:11.880 --> 0:15:14.240 that like everyone struggles with, to be honest, and it 0:15:14.440 --> 0:15:16.800 is at this fine mind that you need to figure 0:15:16.840 --> 0:15:19.520 out exactly where it is for you. But I do 0:15:19.680 --> 0:15:21.600 think that you know the way to start off a 0:15:21.640 --> 0:15:24.640 new relationship, and I would encourage you to just for 0:15:24.720 --> 0:15:26.400 the nity you just hired, is to have what we 0:15:26.600 --> 0:15:29.040 call it a work agreement, but it's a contract. And 0:15:29.160 --> 0:15:30.760 that's where you really fell out kind of this is 0:15:30.800 --> 0:15:33.000 what we expected you, and this is what we're going 0:15:33.040 --> 0:15:35.520 to give you in return. And you know you need 0:15:35.560 --> 0:15:37.280 to be paying your name I legally, you need to 0:15:37.320 --> 0:15:40.840 make sure that she has you know that she's treated 0:15:40.880 --> 0:15:43.840 like a professional as well, and then I think you 0:15:43.880 --> 0:15:46.680 will get that back. But really putting out your expectations 0:15:46.920 --> 0:15:49.880 and then maintaining that, I think sometimes feel like, oh, 0:15:50.120 --> 0:15:52.240 she's just part of the family, and yes, that's true, 0:15:52.800 --> 0:15:55.040 but I think again those boundaries can go out the window. 0:15:55.080 --> 0:15:56.760 Oh she's just part of the family, Well, she wouldn't 0:15:56.760 --> 0:15:58.560 mind working on her day off, or she wouldn't mind 0:15:58.600 --> 0:16:01.920 doing this and that, and everything gets a little fuzzy. 0:16:02.640 --> 0:16:05.440 And I think that you do as much as you 0:16:05.600 --> 0:16:07.560 want someone to feel part of the family, you can't 0:16:07.560 --> 0:16:09.440 feel that way. Think back to a great job you had, 0:16:09.520 --> 0:16:12.000 will you really have an ethenity towards your employer and 0:16:12.120 --> 0:16:14.440 were it felt like a great fit, but you still 0:16:14.960 --> 0:16:17.240 knew it was a job and it's still professional. And 0:16:17.320 --> 0:16:20.480 I think that goes both ways. And so if families 0:16:20.520 --> 0:16:23.200 will set up a contact in the beginning, paint out 0:16:23.240 --> 0:16:27.360 the expectations, pay their nanny legally and professionally, you know, 0:16:27.600 --> 0:16:30.400 give her vacation, make it feel more like a job 0:16:30.480 --> 0:16:32.560 for her. I think that goes a long way in 0:16:32.680 --> 0:16:35.040 making sure that that behavior is also models back. And 0:16:35.200 --> 0:16:37.840 you just can't talk about everything that you would naturally, 0:16:38.040 --> 0:16:39.840 some things need to be reserved for, you know, the 0:16:39.920 --> 0:16:42.280 bedroom when you have an employee working in your home, 0:16:42.400 --> 0:16:45.120 because you just you just can't talk about everything as 0:16:45.120 --> 0:16:46.120 you would if no one was there. 0:16:47.360 --> 0:16:50.440 Yeah, boom, well, thank you so And what's the name 0:16:50.480 --> 0:16:53.400 of your agency again? In La Well, west Side Nanny's, 0:16:53.440 --> 0:16:54.160 West Side. 0:16:54.000 --> 0:16:57.080 Nanny's in La h you let us know you be 0:16:57.120 --> 0:16:57.640 happy to help. 0:16:58.280 --> 0:16:59.720 Thank you so much. We really appreciate it. 0:17:00.480 --> 0:17:01.200 Good luck, Thank you. 0:17:02.400 --> 0:17:03.240 That was really good advice. 0:17:03.960 --> 0:17:06.639 It was you're scared at first have to discuss more 0:17:06.680 --> 0:17:07.280 nanny stuff. 0:17:07.520 --> 0:17:09.280 I was just because I'm so terrified that our new 0:17:09.359 --> 0:17:10.800 nanny's going to listen to this, and I don't want 0:17:10.800 --> 0:17:12.879 her to quit because I really like quit before she starts, 0:17:12.920 --> 0:17:13.919 because I really like her. 0:17:14.080 --> 0:17:18.000 It's not about beauty, though, it's about it's about like 0:17:18.080 --> 0:17:20.119 you could have a lovely nanny. Yeah, but there are 0:17:20.200 --> 0:17:24.760 certain women that might be more I don't know, putting 0:17:24.800 --> 0:17:26.720 it out there, Like we said before, it's not saying 0:17:26.760 --> 0:17:28.840 that you can only hire but ugly nannies. 0:17:28.840 --> 0:17:31.600 That's nonsense, all right, someone's I mean, regardless, someone's going 0:17:31.640 --> 0:17:32.520 to take this the wrong way. 0:17:33.080 --> 0:17:36.120 I'm sure I realize that no matter what I say, 0:17:36.240 --> 0:17:38.320 someone's going to be offended by something that I say. 0:17:38.720 --> 0:17:40.520 Always you're a public figure. 0:17:41.000 --> 0:17:43.959 But it's frustrating because and then everyone's like, why are 0:17:43.960 --> 0:17:46.680 you Why do you comment on the negative? Because I 0:17:46.800 --> 0:17:49.680 really don't want to offend people, that's not no. 0:17:49.880 --> 0:17:53.879 But you don't have a problem stirring up, which I 0:17:54.000 --> 0:17:56.520 love because not a lot of people, you know, so 0:17:56.600 --> 0:18:00.399 many people are too politically correct. Yeah, and don't call 0:18:00.440 --> 0:18:01.040 it like to see it. 0:18:01.320 --> 0:18:03.320 Well, I don't know. I just I don't like to 0:18:03.400 --> 0:18:04.240